Living alone as a teenager - A week in my life
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Have you ever thought about cooking lessons with your mom? You cook together on Facetime or Zoom. Then build a recipe file. I bet your mom would love that.
THIS!! that’s so cute someone get this to Avia 😭
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that is such a wonderful idea oh my god I need to look into that with my own mother lol
the mental breakdown bit is so relatable fr.
Nothing you expressed was abnormal. What you've done (and are in the process of doing) has been very impressive! You went from the structure of family/school to having to create something entirely on your own, and you're doing a really admirable job trying to piece together a framework that's right for you. As you make your way, you'll occasionally sense things aren't in balance, and when it makes you feel a certain way, it's ok. You always come across as a very well intentioned, good person who is trying her best.
what i love about this vlog is not only did she let us know that this week was a bit of an emotional struggle for her because it’s normal to, at one point, drop all emotions and feel like it’s the end of the world, but she was comfortable with us and used this footage of a roller coaster of emotions to show us what being a human and a young woman!! in different phases can be like and she put it together and romanticized our humanity. she didn’t let the negatives take away from her theme of her content, she continued to turn it positively and be open and honest and share what her life on her own is like. she loves having us around❤
This mental breakdown is so valid and it’s like watching myself in action 😅 so many of us struggle with what you’re sharing living on your own is a up/down journey
Avia, I just want to say I appreciate you always talking to the camera like we are there with you. I appreciate that you take your time to make vids for us and I just hope you know your hard work isn’t going unnoticed. I love how relatable and realistic you are as well. Love and thanks to you Avia, keep up the great work🫶❤️
Seeing you cry broke my heart. You are doing such a phenomenal job at creating a life for yourself. Sending you nothing but love and positive light.
Maybe you need a partnership with a food delivery service so you can learn about what ingredients go together and make cooking kinda fun.
Kudos to you for being 18 and living by yourself in a completely different state from everyone you love. At 34 myself I don’t think my mental health could even handle that! It takes a lot to be always be alone physically and it can create mental breakdowns, BUT you seem to handle everything with such grace and positivity. You’re doing so much now at 18 than most people have done in their whole lives.✨
I have so much love for you after watching this video! I'm impressed by how much you've done in just a few short months away from home, and how candid and wise you have become.
Take one day at a time Avia, if you need to cry it out do that, crying is necessary so never apologize for just feeling.
Ask your mom to cook you some meals and send them to you. She just needs to get a box that she can put the food in with dry ice packs.
It’ll help you with backup meals when your cooking isn’t quite hitting it for you. Or better yet, your mom could go down there and cook a bunch of meals for you and in the process teach you.
Hope you’re doing better. Sending you love from Texas. 🫶🏻
The mental breakdown felt so relatable. I also loved this whole vlog and how it was edited together, especially toward the end with the clips of the extracurriculars.
The emotional roller coaster of this video haha it was real and I appreciate it :) as someone who’s constantly being told I’m dramatic or too sensitive, I totally understand! It’s a gift 🥰 also periods suck so that is very justifiable lol
That rose dress is STUNNING AVIA! u r so pretty!
Why did I start tearing up seeing you cry 😭
The ocean is my happy place. It soothes my soul. Thank you for sharing your beach with me. As for decorating, have you looked at Command hooks? Easy to use and they are easy to remove. Keep smiling!
You being emotionally vulnerable actually makes us connect with you more. It’s so relatable. It’s normal it happens. Sometimes we just cry because we held in stuff and then it all bubbles up and we cry for “no reason” it’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up. I’m 24 and wishing I would’ve gotten out in the world at your age! You’re doing amazing. We love you!!!❤
hi avia, i’ve been watching you for so many years and i admire you’re confidence and positivity so so so much! i love your style of filming and editing so much, your videos help me so much and i can’t wait to see what you’ve got coming up in the future. 💕
In love with your vlog style, keeps me so motivated!!💗
Ty for showing us how real you are .the breakdown makes u so relateable
avia i loveee your videos so much. they’re so aesthetic and you are so creative and talented. i adore you so much and i admire you so much. ❤❤ i want to be like youuuu
pure representation of how emerging adulthood is like. I've experienced the same type of emotions since graduating. Stressed from college and work and just plain missing the old days. It's always nice to sit back and appreciate what you have and how beautiful the world is ❤️
Just wanted to say avia, ive watched you for years and always felt like i was growing up alongside you. Ive also moved from home (england to australia) and the time spent alone is so reflective. Thank you for these videos and for motivating and supporting me through these videos and the years worth of videos before these. Thank you, youre doing incredible.
avia you should take surfing lessons! i think you’d love how present you feel while surfing. it’s tough because the waves are always changing, i think you’d enjoy that challenge!
I think that way too and I’m 28 now! I think it’s actually a strength if it’s used well but it can lead to anxiety too! Just try to balance yourself out and enjoy the moment but still let yourself plan ahead and think ahead. I was recently inspired by a RUclipsr who said everyday plan something exciting no matter what cards you’re dealt you can still ask yourself what’s the most exciting thing you can do each day and do it. This has helped me live for each day a little more.
I feel the moving anxiety sooo much too. Whenever I plan to move I get friends to help me and that makes it more fun if they are available
Where are you going after 7 months?? I love you being so real, nothing fake about you!!!! Keep being you! ❤❤❤❤
the roller coaster of emotions on the first day is so real
You are an amazing human being I love that you are able to be yourself always never stop being you
The end reminded me of your dad’s “peaks and valleys” video. Keep spreading positivity ❤️
Avia I love how positive you usually are but I also think that those moments are so relatable. Thank you for sharing ❤️
i love how real you are with us 🥲 when you were crying, i wanted to cry to like to just let it out aaaa love you and ur content so much 🫶🏼🫶🏼!!!!
Thank you for sharing your vulnerable moment, I'm sure most of us girlies can relate
It's okay to be emotional. It's a natural part of being a human being. Adulting is not easy, and I remember leaving my house when I was only 18 years old. Although I'm male, the struggle was real. You have learned so many skills rapidly like it or not you have to do things or they will fall apart. As you said, we often take for granted all that our parents do for us.
This videos editing is so good
Harry Styles, auditions, the beach, running, this is my favorite kinda vibe :) also ignore those mean comments, stay positive and optimistic it's totally okay to be sad though let it all out girlie, thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us
You should try something like Hello Fresh or Green Chef. It will not only help you pick different meals.. but they actually show you all the steps to cook it and eventually you just know how to cook much better. I have been using Hello Fresh for like 3 years plus now. LOVE IT
I felt so bad seeing avia cry always remember I love you
Embrace those emotional highs and lows, they are special tool kits of an actor. I love how real you are, so relatable, how wonderful you are. And when you next feel like crying, feel how wonderful it feels to just let go and be human and vulnerable for a while. Love you!
I completely understand how you feel avia. I am 26 yrs old almost 27 living on my own for the first time so I am finding alot of things difficult like cooking I tend to not cook for myself unless my bf is with me because im afraid of overcooking it or burning it. Being the only one your living with and cooking is a hard thing to do especially when your the one who has to decide what you would want to eat for the week. I feel learning how to cook is a mentality thing because when Im with my friends who are around me when I try to cook I realize it wasn't a big deal and I can do it. You can do this avia I believe in you.
avia i’m 25 and live in las vegas while the rest of my family is in texas. the breakdown is so real. i have one like once a week where i just randomly start crying because i miss my mom and dad and brother and so on. it’s sooooo normal. feel the feelings and then keep going 🫶🏻
as a 28 year old, I feel you when you are talking about the cooking.
It can be hard to push yourself to cook, and worrying about if it will be good or not.
I have maybe, 5 meals I make consecutively that ive mastered (not even hard ones just well ive had all my friends and partner say they are very good) so I basically just eat those meals constantly. And I want to branch out to new things and try new recipes but Im afraid of also failing and wasting food, money, time, etc so I really get that. Your 20's will be all about figuring all of this out and your worries right now are very fking normal hahaha but you'll get through them. I found I learned a lot within the age of 20-25 on adulting, but i'm still figuring things out as I go. Whenever adulting gets hard I know I can still go home to my mom with her yummy cooking when I need her and her support. You got this.
i admire how positive and greatful you are
set yourself up for sucess! On a day where you are in the mood to cook, and making something you like, double the recipe or quanitity!! Freeze single serving quantities! When you have a night where youre just not feelin' cooking or tempted to get takeout....foods in the freezer! There is some trial and error involved with finding out what reheats nicely, but for the most part, you can freeze anything!! Soups are particularly easy.
Really enjoy watching what you share. It helps me so much to see how you take such good care of yourself. Being grateful for family and others in our lives helps us feel connected and happy. I think you are amazing. Have a great week. I remember watching your family on those long road trips and just laughing at the silly things you did.
I loved this video! Something that personally helped me a lot with learning to live in the moment more (outside of journaling, meditation, etc.) was getting a flipphone and social media in general. It's definitely a tad bit extreme for most people, but the peace of mind it's given me without sacrificing communication with my friends has been amazing. Since social media is your job, I thought i'd just list a couple things that may be a bit more applicable to you!
I personally use a digicam and set a goal to take a picture everyday of something I find beautiful. It gets me to get out of my house at least once a day, and taking a picture everyday acts as a sort of catalogue for my life that isn't connection to the cons that social media has (for me personally). In a similar vein, I also like to try and write about something that was on my mind that day. It could be a review of a book I finished, a quote I really liked, or an article I read that sparked something, anything that helps to stand testament that I can find something meaningful and valuable in the day yk? That, and I also like setting a bucket list of things that I'd like to do that month, most of which are activities that I could do in a day if I don't have any plans!
But another thing I wanted to mention (sorry for the long ass comment☠) is that it's natural to feel hyperfocused on the future! As someone who's also working full-time independent of my parents at 18, I feel like there's this immense self-pressure to get everything right as newly minted adults, even though that isn't how it really works yk? Adulting isn't something you master as much as it is a labor of trial and error over the course of our lives. i.e adulting is hard as hell ☠. We're young, and with that we're granted the space to mess up and learn wisdom from whatever short comings or failures we may run into in life.
So be kind to yourself, you're doing great!! Sorry for the major yap sesh, but hope at least something here helped. :]
the way I GAAAASSSSPED AVIAAAA the white floral dress looks gorgeous on you!!!! GIRLIEEEPOPPPP STUNNNIIIINNNNNN
maybe you can make a weekly meal plan so you wouldnt feel stressed thinking about what to make
and make sure to taste test as you go (after you add spices/ sauces etc) so you know what you need more or less of. dont wait till the end to taste
i made bad dishes when i started cooking as well, but my husband's a natural at cooking and he showed me that you can salvage even very poorly cooked meals lol. just taste as you go and add/ reduce ingredients as necessary. if you've put too much salt, add other spices/ more pasta to balance it out etc.
making bulk dishes might also help so you dont have to cook everyday. you should really try to have rice and curry. rice - just chuck it in the rice cooker. curry - its literally adding the veggie or meat to a pot and adding a bunch of spices plus coconut milk. its really easy and you can keep it in the fridge for up to a week.
avia, love u so much!! never listen to any hate you may receive, you're too much of a genuine soul.
I was the exact same way when I lived in an apartment - I knew I wouldn't be there forever and it felt like it would be more work in the end if I had to take stuff off the walls, etc., but honestly I wish I had just hung stuff up because it never felt like I was living there/didn't feel like my space. So I say if you want to decorate more - do it! 6 months is a long time and it'll feel more homey and less of living and dreaming of the time when you'll be in a new space.
Also I appreciate you leaving in the meltdown! It's so relatable and reminds me I'm not alone in the days I feel off or just start crying for no reason💖
i love you avia, you have such a beautiful soul and I respect you so much for being authentic 🥹 mental breakdowns are looked down upon when shown publicly but by having people like you normalize them, it makes me feel less alone. You’re incredible!
I wanted to comment while I’m watching because you made such a relatable point. It’s hard to enjoy the present when we are very eager for the future But I think we can try to acknowledge the things we’re grateful for right now (Which you are great at) and then it helps us be more excited about our current position in life.
You give so much good energy vibes. I watched your video and it literally made my day better :)
Awe Avia ilysm. Don’t let what people have to say get to you❤❤❤ your feelings are so valid. I’m so happy and proud of you bc you’re doing such an amazing job! Keep going and keep achieving your dreams. You got this. Don’t worry.
Yesss the Divergent movies and music is so inspiring! I also listened to Run Boy Run while running on a treadmill and in a half marathon I did once.
Totally relate about not wanting to decorate a place when you know your going to be leaving it 😅 your not alone! Just keep manifesting your next place and how homey you’ll be able to make it 🙌🏼
Id know the feeling, currently on my period and im about to move out next month on myself and im so excited but i also feel like i shouldn't decorate it bc im about to move out but then i get on pinterest and see all these beautiful decorations and it makes me feel better. I get to experience this, i get to decorate my apartment. Thinking more like that helps a ton!
Girl we all have been there ❤you’re doing so well and you’re so mature!! And pro tip- I’m 30 and hate cooking so I bought a crock pot and airfryer and it makes it so much easier and less stressful. Also finding easy things to make that taste good and just keep a note on your phone of everything you’ve made that’s easy and tastes good then you’ll eventually have enough to make a rotation of easy meals!
Sending Love. Prayers. And Hugs your way! xoxo
All The Best ✨
Something I wish I knew when I was younger and just moved out is when you start to overthink too much bring yourself back to the present moment 🩵 do what your heart tells you, try to stay away from too much temptation and spend loads of time in nature while you learn to control your emotions and be aware :) also never hate yourself for ANYTHING, there’s a reason you do everything and if it’s a mistake try to learn why you did it but don’t hate it it’s part of the journey :)
gorgtastic video as always ✨
Girl, so you asked for some advice so here I am to tell you:
- In cooking, until you get comfortable enough to eye-ball it per se, follow the directions you find online/in a cookbook! This will get you comfortable with the portion size of spices and ingredients and how much of each you usually need in a recipe. Then, after doing it so much you can start making creations of your own!
-Also in cooking, it takes time! Feel free to mess up, make bad meals sometimes and figuring stuff out, because eventually, you'll become a pro cook in no time and you'll master it! But without making those mistakes and failing, you'll never know what is good and what's not. So embrace the process ;).
-It's completely normal to have mental breakdowns, but I'm so glad you're happy again and finding your true self.
All the blessings sent your way love.
And, I love your videos, never stop slaying - you rock!
Hey its completely normal to have those thoughts! Worrying before it happens, feeling like theres no point of cleaning if its gonna be messy again…. Its a cycle that we have to push through and i guess the best way to think of it is if you do it now, you will make future you happier 💓
Avia I’m so proud of you 👏 you have come so far, you are inspiring and a role model you are going so far in life.. you are amazing you got this ❤thank you for being a light in my life… you’re strong, empowering . Love you Avia i hope i meet you one day
Have a great week Avis, you deserve the best, you have such a good soul❤
Girl, drop that skincare routine, please! Your skin looks so nice!
moving out for the first time is SO hard , especially when you've moved far away from family - it's the simple things that you now have to do, that other people were doing for you before (if that makes sense!) - I've been moved out for quite a few years now and I still have these days!!
YOU ARE SO REAL.
honestly so relatable. Growing up is having to find something to eat, everyday, for the rest of your life. Multiple times a day, even more if you have a partner! 😅 I have found a few recipes and honestly? I just remake them xD Spaghetti, Lasagna, Rice w/ some kind of protein, things that have good leftovers are nice because cooking multiple days in a row is kind of exhausting too.
oh! just posted and now you are making spaghetti!! haha :)
you're my favorite person and role model although i dont know you personally. i have learned so mch from you personally and watching your videos brings me joy
Did say months ago, to get a crockpot and that takes care of cooking. Maybe a recipe book too.
When you started crying I just wanted to give you a big sister hug x
your doing amazing Avia , so proud of u keep smashing at life like you already are ily xxx
Don’t be too hard on yourself! Ups and downs are definitely normal. What is crazy though is while I was drawing with your video on and I wasn’t watching the screen, you sound just like your mom! That is so cool! I have been connecting with your family on RUclips since you were just little princess tard and now you are a beautiful young woman 🫶🏻.
You’re doing so Amazing, Avía!! Best of luck in your journey ❤
My tip for your mental struggles since you like to read is to read «No Bad Parts» by Richard Scwartz. It’s about how we all have different parts in our minds; like when you said a part of you wants to enjoy your apartment in the moment, but another part of you is thinking about the future and moving out. The book basically teaches us that all our thoughts and emotions have good intentions for us, and how to get to know all «parts» of our minds better :)
Avia, I am 39 and even I don't want to cook. I make sure I always have some freezer meals in the freezer for days like that or items to make a charcuterie board, maybe even items to make a salad. Know when things get tough and you are missing those you love it is okay to cry. The people who leave hate comments are trolls and just don't know where to put their anger. You know where you came from be the Avia you know you can be.
Love you so much aves. Been watching since 2014, You bring so much joy to me just by you and your family posting videos. You are amazing, Thank you for being you. You make me feel so happy and you burst out with positivity and I can feel it too. I would die if you reply to this comment. LOVE YOU AVIA
Girl, it sounds like you were homesick 💕
omg avia i love you so much you are literally my favorite youtuber 💗
OMG when you broke down that broke my heart I’m happy you’re okay now💖💖💖
Everything you said about cooking is so so soo true omg i moved to residence this year for my first year of college out of highschool and i would've never thought the worst part of it all is COOKING
the cover😭😭😭 “mental breakdowns… slaying” i love
Camera was still amazing and I still like it very own together 💜☺️☺️😌😌
We all have our days babe 💕 props to you for being 💯
The burnt food and well done is so real 🙌
I love how vulnerable you got in this video, it shows that everyone goes through tough times and that there is always a bright side. Your little message at the end really helped me today❤️🩹
I LOVE THE BACKSEAT LOVERS SM OH MY GOD
Ngl, most times people crying on camera it's so cringe to me....but because I feel like I lowkey know you because I've watched you for so long, I just felt like comforting you lmao. And YES, I know I don't know you for real for real 😂🤷🏽♂️. Anyways, thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. I "randomly" cry sometimes too, and it feels so damn therapeutic/cathartic. I put it in quotes because in the moment it does feel random, but there's always a reason deep down.
Don't worry about the breakdown and don't try to link it to anything. I had like 3 of them when I moved away and afterwards I was fine. It happens, it's normal, you got this. Sorry that so many people suck
you make me so happy dude!
the matcha transition at the beginning!! 🔥
You wear your heart on your sleeve all the time, it’s a good thing 🎉
Command strips! Use those for decorating
Try hello fresh or something like that avia :) it’s so helpful to get on the cooking journey!
We love you Avia ♥️
i literally love u
When I moved out at 18 cooking was the absolute worst! I felt like nothing I did was right or good. Take ur time. Follow RUclips videos, Pinterest recipes. you’ll get the hang of it and find a rotation of meals that works for you. Also in my house we go by when it doubt have a breakfast night!
I fully understand the stressing of having to move out in 6 months and not feeling like you can't enjoy it. It gets easier when you have been through more rentals. This is your first rental, enjoy it!
I've been in rentals for years. Advice would be least start packing up in 1-2 months before you move. Don't stress over it even over here in Australia with our rental crisis I tried not to stress about finding a place when moving by telling myself wait until 1-2months before lease is up then start looking. Stressing over finding a place won't help find it quicker and worse case you can put all your stuff in storage and live with your parents while finding a place 🙂.
Once you find a place again maybe try to renew the lease after 12months so you can enjoy it even longer. Saw this part at 4.44pm.
Also, ignore the nasty comments. Those people don't seem to release that words can hurt too online not just in person. Sending positive vibes from Australia 💕
Also maybe some cooking lessons with your mum may help build the confidence in your cooking. Also my bae didn't know how to cook when he moved out from his parents place, he followed RUclips Videos to cool recipes until he was confident enough to cook without the help.
Try doing those 2 options or even since your boyfriend knows how to cook maybe do some cooking with him teaching you next time you see him. It's really fun cooking with your partner 💕.
I don’t like cooking too Avia!!!! Home cooked meals made by mom are just the best