I'm so happy that these videos exist. They help me understand myself and the world I live in. I personally don't like to self diagnose, but there are definitely videos on this channel such as Anxiety and Social introvertism videos that help me understand myself
I always think that everyone secretly hates and if someone admits feelings or show their feelings in a romantic way towards me I always think it's fake or a prank and they're just gonna laugh when they get with their friends
Fast food Greasy Taco I Love awww, don’t feel like that...I feel very similar to how you feel. Every time, I like someone and I have even the smallest thought of them liking me back, I immediately doubt it
I'd love to give you people tips, but... I guess what helped me was that lovely people somewhat recognised my fear and tried to include me and tell me that I can be with them and that they'd be happy about it, adn there isn't anything coming to my mind that you could really do yourself. Or maybe, like, always have in mind that all that matters is that you might be happy for some moments if you trust them. And if they betray you, you can just throw them away afterwards, maybe..? Um, I hope this helps someone a tiny bit.
Wow, this one really hit home for me! My parents were always really pushy when it came to performing well, and it really forced me to constantly have to prove myself. This lead to constant perfectionism and self hatred for not performing at the very most perfect level in literally everything, even social life, and always end up questioning if I’m good enough, or if I really earned something. Often, I don’t try to brag, as much as a downplay my abilities, and always insist that “everything’s fine” when I’m unhappy or stressed out constantly, because if I tell them I’m fine, they’ll believe it, and the problem can sort itself out.
Aaron Landry Even though I don't really have the symptoms displayed in the video, at least I don't think I do, I can relate to your situation really really well for some reason.
@ everyone saying "whAt aBoUt mEn?????", A. The study used was carried out on women and may have different results on men and B. It's more common in women. Stop going crazy when they don't include a certain gender if they state the reasons why in the video.
Yeah- plus the study would be a lot different and harder to do with men. 1 because it’s more common among women 2 cuz I think we don’t really open up as much so it would be a lot harder to do the same thing?? Idk
I don't think the makers of the video would have specifically used women as an example if it was a big problem in men as well so its no big deal in my eyes
I become a imposter as a nice and happy person to hide my depression anxiety and all those bad things so people won't worry about me and won't get in front of my face. And I do not want to disturb them by making them busy so I deal those problems by myself
I'm at the first stage, tho I've been for years. I constantly feel bad about my school work, this pressure really gets me down sometimes, and all I can think of is how stupid and fake I am. I'm also really insecure about my talents, like I'm kind of good at something, but not as good as I would hope, sometimes I think I don't have any talents at all and that I'm completely useless. No one else around me knows this because I try to act fine😕
I think many times people feel like they have not earned their accomplishments because they see other people who look like they work just as hard or harder but never recieve half the achievements as they have.what people need to realize is that we are all responsible for our own life and results and we shouldn't feel guilty for our own success that we worked hard for.
Hey psych2go! Love all your videos. I was wondering I you guys have any plans to cover c-ptsd and ptsd? Many people and even doctors still think that people only developer these of they are male or soldiers. Also people think people with cptsd or ptsd are weak. I have c-ptsd myself and would love if you guys did cover this. Thanks :) keep up the vids have a great night
second that. I'm waiting to see a specialist for cptsd and i didn't grow up in a satanic cult or in a war zone, or repeatedly raped even. And gettting tired of those around me telling me it's overdiagnosed and that they've been through similar things and managed, in reality they all have uncontrolled anger and become numb to some things.
Also I think the topics about triggers and flashbacks need to be covered because it is not like media portrays it. Flashbacks aren't always flashbacks as in images and sounds etc, it can be emotional or even physiological
CocoaAndTea that is so true and often because of that people probably dont get diagnosed enough or misdiagnosed. I know a few people who display symptoms but diagnosed with depression and myself was diagnosed with anxiety, depression for nearly 10 years and even just after a year of being diagnosed with PTSD and ocd symptoms 5 months cptsd only just realising how often I get triggered by weird things and how things accumulate...so on the outside it may look extremely ridiculous if I have a bad fear reaction to someone who has done nothing to me. I think this probably happens in politics too, to the extreme or maybe I'm jumping to conclusions but when a woman starts screaming someone is sexually harassing her because he is a large man and says his name is hugh mungus she misinterpreted what he said, then tried having him arrested(even if he did mean his dick that was an over reaction for the situation taken at face value), then starts lashing out at the other security men around her trying to calm her down, for supporting sexual harassment. I can't remember the name of the video but it's very bizarre and instead being used for anti feminism things...
CocoaAndTea just out of interest..i sneaked your channel...there was some research and evidence i think into games helping with PTSD...I wondered if you found this to be true at all?
Scarlet Peoni what the fuck are you talking about? How did you manage to spin a request asking for a video on ptsd to "women make false rape accusations and this is triggering sounds to me!!"
I've heard Impostor Syndrome called "reverse" Dunning Kruger effect. The term seems to arise because it's a very similar distortion of your confidence, except from the expert's point of view. This just seems to be how our brains are wired so avoiding it will probably always take some effort.
And then there is me, who accepted that she is a fraud and rejected living up to what people expect her to be and thus, good grades don't matter anymore. I am my own Queen. I know.
Auricular acupuncture is what helped me, not just with this but so much more, but I do believe the person providing the treatment is the key to success. I've been seeing her once a week for almost a year now and it's like I've become part of the family. I also call her "My YODA" because she was able to do what 16 years of psychologists, psychiatrists, hypnotherapists, treatment centers, therapy and a crap load of medication couldn't do.
I have a lot of anxiety and the imposter effect is one of many things I feel like I go through because of it. Thank you very much for this video it helps my self esteem to know that I'm not the only one (:
Boss Tsuna it's not at all healthy to have someone suffer from low self esteem and get depressed just for the sake of their job. My fiance has this syndrome and it's awful. This syndrome makes you miserable. So getting it treated will probably make you even better at your job or at the very least, know your limits and learn how to work with them. Not getting it treated will lead to worse things like depression and even hospitalized.
This video actually helps a lot to show you what can be your problem or where you went wrong. Me Personally have that kind of a problem but in few months i learned to somehow deal with those issues. For example - many people will agree that those who hide their feelings and try to look in the people's eyes - can be called "manipulators" as well , but manipulation is the level in which people who are not mentally strong will go for. This videos simply shows that introverts and people with problems need only one thing - understanding. I really like those videos because they share something useful and helpful and at the same time it can be like a cure for those people who want to know more about themselfs.
I relate to this more than I like to admit. When I graduated I got a prize from my school for my literature skills, but now that I have it I feel like I might only have gotten it because I charmed my professor into liking me. Now I keep reading books and analyzing poems and acting all intellectual because I feel like I need to prove my worthyness.
I relate to the things u mentioned in “Phoniness”, but not all of it. I’m not afraid to say my own opinions, but when it comes to what I FEEL, I usually lie and say I’m doing good or decent, simply because I feel like my friends are sick of hearing “I’m a little scared rn”.
I'm a woman and I surely had this syndrome since forever, BUT, that said...please, don't ignore men. They have issues as well (sometimes our same issues!) and ignoring this fact can lead them to feel worse.
Dam, i've just realised what this feeling inside of me is. When i entered secondary, i was percieved as clever, and simply went along with it because i enjoyed it. then a year passsed by and i realised that i wasn't doing good enough, and i felt sad, really sad. So, i did what i had to do, i sat down for the entirety of winter to study for exams, and just kept on doing so, all in order to beat the best person in that specific exam. I never did, and along the months, i came close, but never did.
I remember someone told me they really liked me, but I guess because of the imposter effect I believed it was a joke since I literally thought I wasnt likable, then she told me it wasn't a joke, to which I replied "c'mon you can do better, much better". I spent a lot of time trying to convince her I was out of her league.
I go through this all the time with my friends supporting them and guiding them to do better and it hurts because I feel worse and stupid and my self-esteem gets worse and worse..
Damn I have a lot of problems at the age of 13 But legit I’m not even a successful woman why do I have this I’m literally the most unqualified and unworthy person for this effect Tf
Thank god, I'm not alone in this. I relate to all of this; it has actually sapped the enjoyment out of things I love. I used to enjoy drawing, even though people say I'm a good artist I still don't feel like I am. So I work really hard to get things perfect; often getting frustrated at myself that I can't do anything right. I am into gardening and want to be a horticulturist, I feel like I'm not good at that either; even though I helped a greenhouse, that hasn't been used in years to take off. I should feel proud, but i don't.
i wore a mask in front of my dad because he always wanted me to be better then my siblings and compared us to each other and i guess that mask has kind of been moulded into me. and i guess i kind of feel like this but about my mental illness, my feelings (like if i get a crush on someone i start to doubt if they even like me back and question every one of their actions, then lie to them and say i don't like them anymore and i push them away only to realize that i never stopped having romantic feelings for them but i feel its too late) and I've recently come out to my friends and i feel like an imposter.
The_Unprofessional_RUclipsr H.F.T It is a valid one too. Men and women are different. The cycle might be different for men. They might experience different symptoms.
I'm very much like this with my art work. I've been drawing seriously for about three years, but never feel like I'm as good as those who've been drawing for the same amount of time. I feel like my friends and family are just sugar coating a lot of the time because I'm 'too nice' to insult. Glad to hear that I'm not alone
Man I thought I was going crazy because of a lot of things but these video explained a lot to me even about the things I didn't know that can be disorders or something like that
I mentally chastise myself for ever showing or feeling pride. When I got the highest possible grade in English (the teacher said that her students six years older than me couldn't do much better), I went to bed crying, and dreaded talking about it, and never mentioned it to my parents. I got top of my class in Maths and hid my test paper from my parents, and never show my essays to them either. Parents' evening is hell for me because they expect me to exhibit pride and confidence... when I feel that everything I achieved was on a fluke.
I didn’t know this was an actual syndrome. I thought it was just me. I once revised for 19 hours for a science exam because my friends and teachers expected me to get grades I thought I could never get. I didn’t want to let them down and have them see me as a faker so I pushed myself past my limits. This ended up damaging me mentally, emotionally and physically. One day, I woke up and went straight into working on a physics assessment. I spent 10 hours on it that day. This led to a 4 day migraine that didn’t respond to medication. It got to a point where I would miss meals, completely shut myself off socially and not sleep. A couple months ago I went to my head of year (person in charge of all the people in my grade) and he really helped. He offered me 2 types of counselling. I’m still on the waiting list but I have gotten better. It’s a little comforting to know that I wasn’t alone in that experience and other people have gone through something similar. So if your experience is anything like mine, I suggest talking to someone about it.
I scored pretty good marks in an important exam 8 years ago. But even to this day I question myself whether or not I put in that much effort to deserve the score. I think the issue is to do with self-worth. If there's suddenly something good happening to you, there must be something wrong going on. This is how I feel sometimes.
There is too much pressure on women. You have to be a good wife, a good mother, a good daughter, etc. It's easy to see how we have so many mental issues. I wish society would just leave us alone and let us be who we really are.
Laura Gadille the same is true for both genders but it is definitely true for women in third world countries, and some horrible people who dwell in the past
Wily Wimpod I agree. Women in less civilised countries have it extremely bad while I feel that in most of Europe and NA both genders are equal and sometimes it really feels like there are way more strict expectations for men while women get at least a bit more freedom.
True, tho in first world countries I feel like men suffer from this slightly more. While women are allowed to talk about their feelings, and all have super supportive friends that are ready to give a shoulder to cry on; men can not talk about their feelings and I've never heard feelings being discussed among male friends. There's this video where a women dresses up as a man, and acts like a man for 2 years to see if it truly is better being a man. After two years, she had been on countless dates where she was denied instantly, had never talked about feelings with ''his'' new male friends, and got depressed. The second she told her male friends she wasn't actually a man, she got to know more about them in a week than she had in two years.
I have a GPA over 4.0 and a schedule jammed with all-Honors classes, way too many extracurriculars and no study hall. I sleep only 3 or 4 hours a night in order to keep up. This video is cripplingly relatable.
I came here from the high IQ’s vid, I feel like a time traveller 😂 “ have you ever experienced the imposter affect” I AM the imposter effect in living form 😂😭
Woahhhh.. scary on how I can relate to that. I also don’t trust people in general if they hang out with me or give me compliments, I’m afraid they don’t actually like me or telling me that stuff out of pity. Especially at school
I used to have this baaaddd my first year or two of college. Then, I basically used the "fake it till you make it" technique. I found that if I acted proud of or even satisfied with my work, rather than presenting it as "below" other's, that my peers were much more receptive to it. Surprisingly, it also made me feel more confident about my own work as well! The biggest thing I've learned so far is that absolutely no one has their shit together. Adults are just people who pretend that they know what they're doing, but they don't. I certainly don't know what I'm doing most of the time.
I'm not 100% sure yet I think that this is one of many symptoms of long-standing depression, where it just boils down to refusing to validate oneself - or worse, invalidating oneself, even though in reality, you've done very well and/or did nothing that's considered "criminal" or evil.
I am constantly questioning myself. I have been doing this for as long as I can remember. I never give myself any credit. I definitely suffer from this and it has been a long term phenomenon in my life. Obviously there are a few differences here and there, but I definitely relate to all of these. I am working really diligently on changing my mentality and believing in myself and my abilities. Anyone else who feels this way I would love to get in contact and support each other!
There are so few people who have confidence nowadays. It's actually sad. I wish I could go into their brain and switch that self-hatred switch off with a barrage of heartfelt compliments.
Thank you so much for this video you made! Now I know I’m suffering from this impostor effect/syndrome :”) I thought there was no cure and even a name for how I’m feeling... :”) Thank you thank you sooo much Psych2Go!!! 💖❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
You know, I used to fight this feeling by writing down everything I did at work. When I felt like I was useless and pretending someone I'm not, I just looked over those lists and was like "wow, I'm doing something! "
this realy helps allot actrally. I hve a bad habbite of trying to be a good person as i am scared of being seen negativly. sometimes i belive that i am not doing nough or that i am not good enough. this is actrally starting to rub off onto my school work in revishion for my final exams wich i am currently in. no matter what i feel like i have not done enough and when i dont do it then it is in the back of my mind making me feel anxious
I once won the Geo bee in my school, and I was told I’d be moving to the nationals that summer, I was so scared because I didn’t think I was great at geography and this had happened so out of the blue in my ability, I pleaded my parents to go to an over night camp so that the person who won second in my school, who really WORKED for the bee, would go instead of me. I felt like a fraud when my classmates congratulated me, and it pure pressured me into thinking that I was who I wasn’t. I’m glad I went to that summer camp instead of moving onto the championships. I knew I would’ve failed so hard!
Istg every point was like a straight jab at me and I feel so taken aback and also at the same time lowkey reassured that I'm not the only one who feels this way? I just thought there was something wrong with me and that thought was slowly killing me from the inside...
I am not blaming only this channel for it, but the fact that this is focused only on women is heart-shattering. Men also have problems and are pressured, so women are not the only people who should have a voice. This particular gender stereotype must die, and I can tell a few people from the comment section religiously live by this.
I'm the shy teacher's pet girl that people always think is smart and everything, but I have to disagree. I don't see myself that way at all, and when teachers hand back essays with good grades I'm constantly astonished because I thought I did absolutely horrible so I start doubting and thinking they only put that grade there because I don't disobey the rules and am not loud in class or something. The difference is I'm not very hard working and I usually find time to do homework at lunch or before school starts, or desperately done the night before so it's usually sloppy work but I still do decent on them and I feel like a hardworking person deserves the grade much more than I do.
For me, it’s not so much that I don’t deserve what I have; if I beat out everyone else I still won. However, while I may look up to or idolize the great abilities of others, when I become skilled in that same activity, I truly think it’s because what I’ve attained it not difficult and I haven’t even scratched the surface of “figuring it out”. And anything I really do know well and enjoy must be extremely easy and important to only me, making all achievements unacknowledgable.
Of course I relate to these, it's pretty predictable knowing my life story and the fact that it's stated in the video that it's very common. My only question is why would I want to get rid of it? It's the only thing that keeps me working.
I think that's me. I constantly read people's body language and try as hard as I can to be what people think or want me to be. I never tell people What I think or ever feel, thinking that they don't want to know about it and don't care about me. I'm always trying to down play my achievements so they won't think I'm full of myself. I work as hard as I can and always think that they only congratulate me out of pity.
In my case it is with friends i always worry that their just pretending to care unfortunately this is because to the amount of times i had that friend pretend to care then completely throw me out and say its my fault this recently happened but i knew they were faking it although i don’t like the way they said it was all my fault and then block me
Man I was just watching this video because it looked interesting, but now I learn that I have this 110%. I have no idea of what to do with this new found knowledge about myself.
I started laughing nervously in the beginning because it made me realize I think I deserve the rewards I've earned for my hardwork and now I feel self entitled.
Enviornment gave ne this. I used to show ny confidence all the time show my ideas, and people around me started being jealus and all the time fucking me when i said something and now i had to stop showing my confidence and im shy for my work.
I don't understand how this is a bad thing. I feel it is what pushes me to be a better person. I also feel that modesty is an important way to keep one from being overly boastful and helps to remind one to keep what is important in perspective.
This is a great way to think about it, actually. Modesty can certainly be a good thing! One way to look at it is to think about how boasting and confidence differ. If you're too boastful, it is easy to lose sight of bettering yourself because you think you're already better than others. But if you're confident, you can acknowledge you're good at something while also being open-minded and knowing you can still work harder to become even better! :)
Is it normal to feel this with relationships? For the first time ever, i met a girl that I really like and she really likes me back, but i haven't told any of my friends because i feel like they wouldn't believe me or rather I don't even really believe myself. I feel like a faker that's not actually inlove, even though I do have a crush on that girl :(
Brilliant video, perhaps a follow-up can be made on imposter syndrome in identities, such as people not being "straight enough" or "gay enough" or "trans enough", or perhaps simply no identifying as a writer, artist, mathematician, etc. because they feel like they aren't good or smart enough? I don't know if this is necessarily imposter syndrome but it sounds and feels similar.
Omf i don't even know this is a syndrome or anything I've always thought that maybe thus is just normal and it'll go away. Pshycho2 go, you're amazing!!!!! U make me understand myself better
I'm so happy that these videos exist. They help me understand myself and the world I live in. I personally don't like to self diagnose, but there are definitely videos on this channel such as Anxiety and Social introvertism videos that help me understand myself
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I always think that everyone secretly hates and if someone admits feelings or show their feelings in a romantic way towards me I always think it's fake or a prank and they're just gonna laugh when they get with their friends
Fast food Greasy Taco I Love awww, don’t feel like that...I feel very similar to how you feel. Every time, I like someone and I have even the smallest thought of them liking me back, I immediately doubt it
i feel exactly the same way. it’s really kind of crippling
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Me too
I'd love to give you people tips, but... I guess what helped me was that lovely people somewhat recognised my fear and tried to include me and tell me that I can be with them and that they'd be happy about it, adn there isn't anything coming to my mind that you could really do yourself. Or maybe, like, always have in mind that all that matters is that you might be happy for some moments if you trust them. And if they betray you, you can just throw them away afterwards, maybe..?
Um, I hope this helps someone a tiny bit.
These videos make me realize I have a lot more issues to work through than I originally thought 😂 not a bad thing tho, keep it up :D
Minty Bliss haha yea.. me too brah, lol
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Wow, this one really hit home for me! My parents were always really pushy when it came to performing well, and it really forced me to constantly have to prove myself. This lead to constant perfectionism and self hatred for not performing at the very most perfect level in literally everything, even social life, and always end up questioning if I’m good enough, or if I really earned something.
Often, I don’t try to brag, as much as a downplay my abilities, and always insist that “everything’s fine” when I’m unhappy or stressed out constantly, because if I tell them I’m fine, they’ll believe it, and the problem can sort itself out.
Aaron Landry Even though I don't really have the symptoms displayed in the video, at least I don't think I do, I can relate to your situation really really well for some reason.
This is me
I mean you gotta fake it till you make it right?
I mean if you bake it they might take it
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I tried this, it only made my situation worse
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My mom tells me this ALL the time. I got a sudden feeling when I read this . Can't describe it though?
Overworking? Yep, I'm not suffering from this then.
I mean, come on. I would be lying if I said I wasn't one of those procrastination pros.
same.
@ everyone saying "whAt aBoUt mEn?????",
A. The study used was carried out on women and may have different results on men and
B. It's more common in women.
Stop going crazy when they don't include a certain gender if they state the reasons why in the video.
Yeah- plus the study would be a lot different and harder to do with men. 1 because it’s more common among women 2 cuz I think we don’t really open up as much so it would be a lot harder to do the same thing?? Idk
I don't think the makers of the video would have specifically used women as an example if it was a big problem in men as well so its no big deal in my eyes
Chewy?
Men always hide their feelings and why ?
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@@atownicpepperoni7217 seriously, I'll never understand why people use those phrases
@@inotfunny8506 because it's real my dad told me that last week.
I become a imposter as a nice and happy person to hide my depression anxiety and all those bad things so people won't worry about me and won't get in front of my face. And I do not want to disturb them by making them busy so I deal those problems by myself
felt that
Anytime anyone compliments me, I feel like I’m undeserving of their compliment
I'm at the first stage, tho I've been for years. I constantly feel bad about my school work, this pressure really gets me down sometimes, and all I can think of is how stupid and fake I am. I'm also really insecure about my talents, like I'm kind of good at something, but not as good as I would hope, sometimes I think I don't have any talents at all and that I'm completely useless. No one else around me knows this because I try to act fine😕
I think many times people feel like they have not earned their accomplishments because they see other people who look like they work just as hard or harder but never recieve half the achievements as they have.what people need to realize is that we are all responsible for our own life and results and we shouldn't feel guilty for our own success that we worked hard for.
Hey psych2go! Love all your videos. I was wondering I you guys have any plans to cover c-ptsd and ptsd? Many people and even doctors still think that people only developer these of they are male or soldiers. Also people think people with cptsd or ptsd are weak. I have c-ptsd myself and would love if you guys did cover this. Thanks :) keep up the vids
have a great night
second that. I'm waiting to see a specialist for cptsd and i didn't grow up in a satanic cult or in a war zone, or repeatedly raped even. And gettting tired of those around me telling me it's overdiagnosed and that they've been through similar things and managed, in reality they all have uncontrolled anger and become numb to some things.
Also I think the topics about triggers and flashbacks need to be covered because it is not like media portrays it. Flashbacks aren't always flashbacks as in images and sounds etc, it can be emotional or even physiological
CocoaAndTea that is so true and often because of that people probably dont get diagnosed enough or misdiagnosed. I know a few people who display symptoms but diagnosed with depression and myself was diagnosed with anxiety, depression for nearly 10 years and even just after a year of being diagnosed with PTSD and ocd symptoms 5 months cptsd only just realising how often I get triggered by weird things and how things accumulate...so on the outside it may look extremely ridiculous if I have a bad fear reaction to someone who has done nothing to me. I think this probably happens in politics too, to the extreme or maybe I'm jumping to conclusions but when a woman starts screaming someone is sexually harassing her because he is a large man and says his name is hugh mungus she misinterpreted what he said, then tried having him arrested(even if he did mean his dick that was an over reaction for the situation taken at face value), then starts lashing out at the other security men around her trying to calm her down, for supporting sexual harassment. I can't remember the name of the video but it's very bizarre and instead being used for anti feminism things...
CocoaAndTea just out of interest..i sneaked your channel...there was some research and evidence i think into games helping with PTSD...I wondered if you found this to be true at all?
Scarlet Peoni what the fuck are you talking about? How did you manage to spin a request asking for a video on ptsd to "women make false rape accusations and this is triggering sounds to me!!"
I've heard Impostor Syndrome called "reverse" Dunning Kruger effect. The term seems to arise because it's a very similar distortion of your confidence, except from the expert's point of view.
This just seems to be how our brains are wired so avoiding it will probably always take some effort.
And then there is me, who accepted that she is a fraud and rejected living up to what people expect her to be and thus, good grades don't matter anymore.
I am my own Queen. I know.
Auricular acupuncture is what helped me, not just with this but so much more, but I do believe the person providing the treatment is the key to success. I've been seeing her once a week for almost a year now and it's like I've become part of the family. I also call her "My YODA" because she was able to do what 16 years of psychologists, psychiatrists, hypnotherapists, treatment centers, therapy and a crap load of medication couldn't do.
True heroes are the ones that insist they aren’t.
I'm a hero, I insist!
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I have a lot of anxiety and the imposter effect is one of many things I feel like I go through because of it. Thank you very much for this video it helps my self esteem to know that I'm not the only one (:
A) it's not just women and
B) what if u don't want to be helped in the since u think it will be getting u further in ur job?
Boss Tsuna it's not at all healthy to have someone suffer from low self esteem and get depressed just for the sake of their job. My fiance has this syndrome and it's awful. This syndrome makes you miserable. So getting it treated will probably make you even better at your job or at the very least, know your limits and learn how to work with them. Not getting it treated will lead to worse things like depression and even hospitalized.
A) did you Just ASSUME the gender?
This video actually helps a lot to show you what can be your problem or where you went wrong. Me Personally have that kind of a problem but in few months i learned to somehow deal with those issues. For example - many people will agree that those who hide their feelings and try to look in the people's eyes - can be called "manipulators" as well , but manipulation is the level in which people who are not mentally strong will go for. This videos simply shows that introverts and people with problems need only one thing - understanding. I really like those videos because they share something useful and helpful and at the same time it can be like a cure for those people who want to know more about themselfs.
I relate to this more than I like to admit. When I graduated I got a prize from my school for my literature skills, but now that I have it I feel like I might only have gotten it because I charmed my professor into liking me. Now I keep reading books and analyzing poems and acting all intellectual because I feel like I need to prove my worthyness.
I just basically feel ashamed for doing something good. Like really ashamed.
I relate to the things u mentioned in “Phoniness”, but not all of it. I’m not afraid to say my own opinions, but when it comes to what I FEEL, I usually lie and say I’m doing good or decent, simply because I feel like my friends are sick of hearing “I’m a little scared rn”.
someone on twitter said the trick to getting over it is seeing everyone else as an impostor syndrome
I'm a woman and I surely had this syndrome since forever, BUT, that said...please, don't ignore men. They have issues as well (sometimes our same issues!) and ignoring this fact can lead them to feel worse.
9December3 the study was on women!!! i don't think it's intentionally ignoring men!
When someone tells me they like me
Same
Idk man red seeming kinda sus rn
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*ahhhh Mascebeli, M A S C E B E L I -*
This isn't Among Us, people.
@@Hanz_M the people are among us!?😳
Dam, i've just realised what this feeling inside of me is. When i entered secondary, i was percieved as clever, and simply went along with it because i enjoyed it. then a year passsed by and i realised that i wasn't doing good enough, and i felt sad, really sad. So, i did what i had to do, i sat down for the entirety of winter to study for exams, and just kept on doing so, all in order to beat the best person in that specific exam. I never did, and along the months, i came close, but never did.
I remember someone told me they really liked me, but I guess because of the imposter effect I believed it was a joke since I literally thought I wasnt likable, then she told me it wasn't a joke, to which I replied "c'mon you can do better, much better". I spent a lot of time trying to convince her I was out of her league.
I've often felt that with people I want to be friends with or those I am into.
These never get dull.
I go through this all the time with my friends supporting them and guiding them to do better and it hurts because I feel worse and stupid and my self-esteem gets worse and worse..
Damn
I have a lot of problems at the age of 13
But legit I’m not even a successful woman why do I have this
I’m literally the most unqualified and unworthy person for this effect Tf
Thank god, I'm not alone in this. I relate to all of this; it has actually sapped the enjoyment out of things I love. I used to enjoy drawing, even though people say I'm a good artist I still don't feel like I am. So I work really hard to get things perfect; often getting frustrated at myself that I can't do anything right. I am into gardening and want to be a horticulturist, I feel like I'm not good at that either; even though I helped a greenhouse, that hasn't been used in years to take off. I should feel proud, but i don't.
i wore a mask in front of my dad because he always wanted me to be better then my siblings and compared us to each other and i guess that mask has kind of been moulded into me. and i guess i kind of feel like this but about my mental illness, my feelings
(like if i get a crush on someone i start to doubt if they even like me back and question every one of their actions, then lie to them and say i don't like them anymore and i push them away only to realize that i never stopped having romantic feelings for them but i feel its too late)
and I've recently come out to my friends and i feel like an imposter.
Wow I've never heard of the Impostor syndrome before and I didn't expect that I can relate to this.. Thank you for making these videos!
This explains my entire life's problem. Thank you for letting me know this information!
You are so good!
Antonio Bonifacio We are very happy we could help and provide some insight! Thanks for the comment! :)
I guess this is why I'm a show off yet hate it when someone compliments my work. Glad to finally understand it
This is all great but what about men?
That is also my question, since I go through similar feelings
The_Unprofessional_RUclipsr H.F.T It is a valid one too. Men and women are different. The cycle might be different for men. They might experience different symptoms.
Oh yes.. I can see no gender excluded, in reality...both can have this!!!!
That was my first thought..and i am not a man!!!
I thought it kind of applied to both, but it was just focused towards women because that's what the original study was on.
this is me everyday especially when I was depressed
I'm very much like this with my art work. I've been drawing seriously for about three years, but never feel like I'm as good as those who've been drawing for the same amount of time. I feel like my friends and family are just sugar coating a lot of the time because I'm 'too nice' to insult. Glad to hear that I'm not alone
Man I thought I was going crazy because of a lot of things but these video explained a lot to me even about the things I didn't know that can be disorders or something like that
Used to be open.
It was all too fast
And all too stressful
Now I have to make a new mask
Just give me energy to reach my bed now
I mentally chastise myself for ever showing or feeling pride. When I got the highest possible grade in English (the teacher said that her students six years older than me couldn't do much better), I went to bed crying, and dreaded talking about it, and never mentioned it to my parents. I got top of my class in Maths and hid my test paper from my parents, and never show my essays to them either. Parents' evening is hell for me because they expect me to exhibit pride and confidence... when I feel that everything I achieved was on a fluke.
I didn’t know this was an actual syndrome. I thought it was just me. I once revised for 19 hours for a science exam because my friends and teachers expected me to get grades I thought I could never get. I didn’t want to let them down and have them see me as a faker so I pushed myself past my limits. This ended up damaging me mentally, emotionally and physically. One day, I woke up and went straight into working on a physics assessment. I spent 10 hours on it that day. This led to a 4 day migraine that didn’t respond to medication. It got to a point where I would miss meals, completely shut myself off socially and not sleep. A couple months ago I went to my head of year (person in charge of all the people in my grade) and he really helped. He offered me 2 types of counselling. I’m still on the waiting list but I have gotten better. It’s a little comforting to know that I wasn’t alone in that experience and other people have gone through something similar. So if your experience is anything like mine, I suggest talking to someone about it.
I scored pretty good marks in an important exam 8 years ago. But even to this day I question myself whether or not I put in that much effort to deserve the score. I think the issue is to do with self-worth. If there's suddenly something good happening to you, there must be something wrong going on. This is how I feel sometimes.
There is too much pressure on women. You have to be a good wife, a good mother, a good daughter, etc. It's easy to see how we have so many mental issues. I wish society would just leave us alone and let us be who we really are.
There is a lot of pressure on men that is always ignored
Laura Gadille the same is true for both genders but it is definitely true for women in third world countries, and some horrible people who dwell in the past
Wily Wimpod
I agree. Women in less civilised countries have it extremely bad while I feel that in most of Europe and NA both genders are equal and sometimes it really feels like there are way more strict expectations for men while women get at least a bit more freedom.
agreed. as well as on men and non binary genders.
True, tho in first world countries I feel like men suffer from this slightly more. While women are allowed to talk about their feelings, and all have super supportive friends that are ready to give a shoulder to cry on; men can not talk about their feelings and I've never heard feelings being discussed among male friends.
There's this video where a women dresses up as a man, and acts like a man for 2 years to see if it truly is better being a man. After two years, she had been on countless dates where she was denied instantly, had never talked about feelings with ''his'' new male friends, and got depressed. The second she told her male friends she wasn't actually a man, she got to know more about them in a week than she had in two years.
THIS IS LITERALLY ME
Dante Auditore39 and metaphorically? are you a youtube video then?
SAME
MercenaryFox no, they're the impostor effect :p
Amogus
I have a GPA over 4.0 and a schedule jammed with all-Honors classes, way too many extracurriculars and no study hall. I sleep only 3 or 4 hours a night in order to keep up. This video is cripplingly relatable.
I often think that when people tell me something nice concerning my looks , i don't believe them
I came here from the high IQ’s vid, I feel like a time traveller 😂
“ have you ever experienced the imposter affect”
I AM the imposter effect in living form 😂😭
Man.. that static background really got to me
Woahhhh.. scary on how I can relate to that. I also don’t trust people in general if they hang out with me or give me compliments, I’m afraid they don’t actually like me or telling me that stuff out of pity. Especially at school
I used to have this baaaddd my first year or two of college.
Then, I basically used the "fake it till you make it" technique. I found that if I acted proud of or even satisfied with my work, rather than presenting it as "below" other's, that my peers were much more receptive to it.
Surprisingly, it also made me feel more confident about my own work as well!
The biggest thing I've learned so far is that absolutely no one has their shit together. Adults are just people who pretend that they know what they're doing, but they don't. I certainly don't know what I'm doing most of the time.
These videos are really fun to whatch when bored.
I'm not 100% sure yet I think that this is one of many symptoms of long-standing depression, where it just boils down to refusing to validate oneself - or worse, invalidating oneself, even though in reality, you've done very well and/or did nothing that's considered "criminal" or evil.
Oh my, god. I’m so relieved I’m not just fucked up. I felt like I closeted my entire life so people wouldn’t misjudge or critique me or my ability
Impostor effect 69: Kill Savotage and Vent
I am constantly questioning myself. I have been doing this for as long as I can remember. I never give myself any credit. I definitely suffer from this and it has been a long term phenomenon in my life.
Obviously there are a few differences here and there, but I definitely relate to all of these.
I am working really diligently on changing my mentality and believing in myself and my abilities. Anyone else who feels this way I would love to get in contact and support each other!
i end some of my sentences with "or something" and "i think"
There are so few people who have confidence nowadays. It's actually sad.
I wish I could go into their brain and switch that self-hatred switch off with a barrage of heartfelt compliments.
Thank you so much for this video you made! Now I know I’m suffering from this impostor effect/syndrome :”) I thought there was no cure and even a name for how I’m feeling... :”) Thank you thank you sooo much Psych2Go!!! 💖❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
When the impostor is sus!
You know, I used to fight this feeling by writing down everything I did at work. When I felt like I was useless and pretending someone I'm not, I just looked over those lists and was like "wow, I'm doing something! "
Yeah, I used to write down what I'd achieved in the day to make me feel better.
this realy helps allot actrally. I hve a bad habbite of trying to be a good person as i am scared of being seen negativly. sometimes i belive that i am not doing nough or that i am not good enough. this is actrally starting to rub off onto my school work in revishion for my final exams wich i am currently in. no matter what i feel like i have not done enough and when i dont do it then it is in the back of my mind making me feel anxious
I once won the Geo bee in my school, and I was told I’d be moving to the nationals that summer, I was so scared because I didn’t think I was great at geography and this had happened so out of the blue in my ability, I pleaded my parents to go to an over night camp so that the person who won second in my school, who really WORKED for the bee, would go instead of me. I felt like a fraud when my classmates congratulated me, and it pure pressured me into thinking that I was who I wasn’t. I’m glad I went to that summer camp instead of moving onto the championships. I knew I would’ve failed so hard!
0:05
Is it me, or does that sound sound like a knife being stabbed into someone?
just me?
okay.
You got it
Istg every point was like a straight jab at me and I feel so taken aback and also at the same time lowkey reassured that I'm not the only one who feels this way? I just thought there was something wrong with me and that thought was slowly killing me from the inside...
If you know that you suffer from imposter syndrome, doesn't that mean you know you're not an imposter? Yet that doesn't seem to help.
Could you do a video on sensory overload?
I feel like an imposter sometimes :(
That's sus
*it's just a joke I hope ur ok :)*
I'm sorry. I hope you're doing okay.
@@hansgabrielmachan2484 thank you❤
@@killer_sangwoo thank you❤
I am not blaming only this channel for it, but the fact that this is focused only on women is heart-shattering. Men also have problems and are pressured, so women are not the only people who should have a voice. This particular gender stereotype must die, and I can tell a few people from the comment section religiously live by this.
Again, she IS talking about all people. She is using the woman as an example.
I'm the shy teacher's pet girl that people always think is smart and everything, but I have to disagree. I don't see myself that way at all, and when teachers hand back essays with good grades I'm constantly astonished because I thought I did absolutely horrible so I start doubting and thinking they only put that grade there because I don't disobey the rules and am not loud in class or something. The difference is I'm not very hard working and I usually find time to do homework at lunch or before school starts, or desperately done the night before so it's usually sloppy work but I still do decent on them and I feel like a hardworking person deserves the grade much more than I do.
I have it and didn't even know that exist...
Aisha :D same...
Same
Same
I feel so bad for these types of people....feeling, like you could never do good enough
For me, it’s not so much that I don’t deserve what I have; if I beat out everyone else I still won. However, while I may look up to or idolize the great abilities of others, when I become skilled in that same activity, I truly think it’s because what I’ve attained it not difficult and I haven’t even scratched the surface of “figuring it out”. And anything I really do know well and enjoy must be extremely easy and important to only me, making all achievements unacknowledgable.
Of course I relate to these, it's pretty predictable knowing my life story and the fact that it's stated in the video that it's very common. My only question is why would I want to get rid of it? It's the only thing that keeps me working.
I feel the 2nd and 3rd way.I'm also depressed(active), so thx for the coping vid.
This effect is very real and I feel it fairly often in my grad school program. I feel like I know absolutely nothing.
I think that's me. I constantly read people's body language and try as hard as I can to be what people think or want me to be. I never tell people What I think or ever feel, thinking that they don't want to know about it and don't care about me. I'm always trying to down play my achievements so they won't think I'm full of myself. I work as hard as I can and always think that they only congratulate me out of pity.
In my case it is with friends i always worry that their just pretending to care unfortunately this is because to the amount of times i had that friend pretend to care then completely throw me out and say its my fault this recently happened but i knew they were faking it although i don’t like the way they said it was all my fault and then block me
2:21
Guy 1: Illuminathi
Guy 2: Illuminathi
Me: Illuminathi (I actually want a circle)
*impostor effect comes by*
"YO OH SHIT WADDUP BAE"
Man I was just watching this video because it looked interesting, but now I learn that I have this 110%. I have no idea of what to do with this new found knowledge about myself.
Thank you Psych2Go for teaching me what I want to learn
Her voice is so calming
I started laughing nervously in the beginning because it made me realize I think I deserve the rewards I've earned for my hardwork and now I feel self entitled.
Imposter syndrome really make one's childhood worse!
These videos are awesome research for writers looking to write these people correct!
0:32 I can’t decide if those are supposed to be closed eyes and tears or just open eyes and eyebrows.
Also i only saw one comment saying that it isnt only women-
Enviornment gave ne this. I used to show ny confidence all the time show my ideas, and people around me started being jealus and all the time fucking me when i said something and now i had to stop showing my confidence and im shy for my work.
I don't understand how this is a bad thing. I feel it is what pushes me to be a better person. I also feel that modesty is an important way to keep one from being overly boastful and helps to remind one to keep what is important in perspective.
This is a great way to think about it, actually. Modesty can certainly be a good thing! One way to look at it is to think about how boasting and confidence differ. If you're too boastful, it is easy to lose sight of bettering yourself because you think you're already better than others. But if you're confident, you can acknowledge you're good at something while also being open-minded and knowing you can still work harder to become even better! :)
Is it normal to feel this with relationships? For the first time ever, i met a girl that I really like and she really likes me back, but i haven't told any of my friends because i feel like they wouldn't believe me or rather I don't even really believe myself. I feel like a faker that's not actually inlove, even though I do have a crush on that girl :(
Brilliant video, perhaps a follow-up can be made on imposter syndrome in identities, such as people not being "straight enough" or "gay enough" or "trans enough", or perhaps simply no identifying as a writer, artist, mathematician, etc. because they feel like they aren't good or smart enough? I don't know if this is necessarily imposter syndrome but it sounds and feels similar.
The heck I relate so hard I thought it was just my personal strange problem
Omf i don't even know this is a syndrome or anything I've always thought that maybe thus is just normal and it'll go away. Pshycho2 go, you're amazing!!!!! U make me understand myself better
Neary Rath we're happy to hear this! It's good to know we are able to help you better understand yourself :)
Very important sharing.thanks
You can’t experience the imposter effect, if you never achieve anything.
4:20 (yeah I know the numbers are a drug meme) This picture makes me really happy. I don't know why, it just does.
"You don't really have impostor syndrome, you *impostor* !"
Thank you for all of these videos.
Matthew Ripley Of course! We hope you find these videos helpful! Thanks for commenting! :)