I want to thank of great Dr. Todd he brought my boyfriend back to me. i had seen many people to get him back but nothing, Dr. Todd gave me a consultation and told me all truth, and I trusted Dr. Todd and had him do the spells for me. it took awhile because it was very very messy between us. i had to wait for each spell to do its work. but once the last spell finally was working and the other spells had worked, that is when he called. we met. then it took many more meetings. but now we are back together and i can only thank Dr.Todd, he is the greatest, i will come to Dr. Todd for life. Todd took care of me like family. contact; manifest spell cast @ gmail. com Whats App:+1 604 901 9747
A phrase I've been holding onto is "you are around for 100% of your bad moments, but only about 10% of everyone else's." We're all figuring this out, and we shouldn't beat ourselves up so much for having to learn to learn the hard way sometimes
Wow, this was actually very reassuring. I had to write down something you said, "I feel that mistakes either stem out of carelessness or a really strong emotion." It seems kind of obvious, but it was helpful to realize that sometimes we are careless and sometimes we have strong emotions, which means that sometimes we make mistakes and that's okay.
yes I've done the same, so much of the stuff that lucy said is on the notes section of my phone as a quote reminder and hopefully my mentor will watch the video too
Whenever I mess up I can't help but stress about it, I hate being very egotistical and I'm admitting it.. I hate saying sorry or admit that I've done wrong when I have.. And I hate it so much, because I always can't admit to my problems and habits that cause something bad out of other people.. I need help admitting to my problems instead of denying them
When you were talking about anger and not being able to get out of your own head, I completely agree that speaking to someone is the best thing to do. I have intestinal failure and other serious health conditions. I get angry and upset at my life, and sometimes with myself even though I have no control over what has happened to me. Talking is the best remedy. In fact, I find I am always putting myself down and saying I'm "not normal". I've just made a video on my channel where I discuss this, and I know it's going to be amazing for when I'm in that bad place. Who can reason with you better than you, right?
Your voice paired with your accent is so, so soothing. I always watch your videos when I need to wind down (especially needed now that I'm drowning in exam revisions)! Thank you thank you!
everybody makes mistakes everybody has those days everybody knows what- what i'm talkin bout everybody gets that way nobody's perfect! i gotta work it! again and again til i get it right! nobody's perfect! you live and you learn it! and if i mess it up sometimes..... nobody's perfect!!!!!!
i just don’t feel like i deserve to forgive myself. i don’t feel like i deserve to go out and distract myself. i apologized, but it wasn’t enough. i feel like there’s nothing left i can do.
Lucy i really love your videos and even the fact that sometimes they last only two minutes, like the "you worth it" was really cool and went straight to the point. I have had issue forgiving myself for being a bad friend sometimes and always feeling guilty even when it's the other one who was not cool. So.. thanks a lot! Seeing everyone goes through the same sh** helps.
this is really good advice, but it's so hard to take it when you have depression/ anxiety because when I mess up I cannot get out of my shame spiral, even talking to people about it just makes it worse because i just keep reliving it. and yes, I will remember it in 20 years because that's how my brain works :P
"I'm only human after all, don't put the blame on me " seems appropriate here for some reason xxxx love your videos lucy so helpful you are such a good role model xx
I love you. This video has genuinely helped me so much. It is tough but your video has given me strength to start over and accept the things you have done at the same time. you have no idea how many people you must have helped in these 7 minutes. to me, you made my day and my mood. so thank you, from the bottom of my heart for being so amazing.
Life has sucked for me for like the past 6 months but i'm working towards progressing and improving it, it's just the fact i know i have to wait for things that's the hardest
I can't tell you how amazingly well timed this is. I did something and hurt two people unintentionally and I havent been able to forgive myself for it. But this helped alot. Thank you💜
Thank you, Lucy! 💕❤️ 1. Curious, have a look inside. 2. I’m not terrible. Share. 3. How can I amend things? 4. Do something for your self. Break the cycle.
I really needed this right now. I said something that could have been taken really badly and it was, the fault was entirely my own as I didn't think before I spoke but the person who was offended by my comment refused to accept my apology and has ignored me for 3 weeks straight. Your comment about how people don't have to forgive you and forgiveness is a process really brought home how I have tried to make amends but and it is out of my hands now. Thank you Lucy for being a positive beautiful person xxx
I know this video is over 3 years old so you may not see this. I feel like during this video that you've been looking into my soul because you've hit everything that I've been feeling ever since I did something to mess up a relationship with a friend. My friend has since blocked me and I've tried multiple times to apologize to her but she's not responding to any of it. For the past few weeks, I've been looking up videos on apologizing and forgiveness and this was the most recent one to be recommended. I really wish I had seen it sooner because it's been the most helpful one to me. Thank you.
I've been watching RUclips videos for years, but this is one of the few times I've felt compelled to write a comment. I recently made a huge mistake (drunk of course, alcohol seems to exacerbate every little situation) and woke up the next day with six friends telling me they never wanted to speak to me again. It was a wake-up call, and I spent a week in complete hell, in a really self-loathing, dark place. It's been nearly a month now, and I still get pangs of guilt whenever I see those friends around or see things that remind me of them. But this video, Lucy, has made me feel so much better about everything that happened. These are all the feelings I felt, I really didn't think someone else had messed up like me. Everything you said was exactly what I needed to hear, thank you so much for making this. You are right, this is insignificant one, five, twenty years down the line.
I’m new to your channel and newly sober. Days I feel guilty, confused, or just want to give in. I watch your videos and it puts me in a better mind set to kick ass and keep moving forward. Your videos help more than you will ever know!
I really needed this. Everytime I make a mistake my self-esteem dies just a little bit more. I always quickly learn from my mistakes because I never want to experience that utter feeling of guilt, shame and embarrassment ever again. But I always forget the fact that we all make mistakes and sometimes more than once. However, no one has verbally explained this to me so I've just developed this fear of failure. So I want to thank you Lucy, for explaining that it's okay to fuck up more than once and for changing my perspective about others and their mistakes. I appreciate it.
You are one of the bravest people I know. Putting yourself on the internet with your self-exploration, and your personal revelations. Stay awesome. I've watched/listened to several of your videos, and I have found you to be one of the most real vloggers I've come across.I was also impressed that you held the cup of tea the whole video without spilling any, that is pure talent.
Lucy, thank you for being open and honest. It's nice to be reminded that it's ok to be imperfect. I appreciate all your recent videos! They have been raw, vulnerable and filled with self acceptance. Thanks for sharing!
I'm really appreciating your videos a lot lately as a recent subscriber. I think you're about a year older than me, so it's nice to have these to watch st the end of the day, and t feels like a slightly older sister/friend giving me advice. I really like how honest your chats are, you recognise the nuances in situations and don't give black and white advice and it's nice that you don't seem to hold yourself to a really high standard, I don't know if I can quite convey what I mean, and I really think it's because you've lived and learnt a lot through your experiences, and you seem very honest with yourself. There's just something really refreshing about you that can't be found in a lot of other youtubers.
Lucy, your video has really helped me overcome a previous mistake I made. It takes a lot to actually get me upset unless it's me who causes the problem. When I make the mistake, it really lowers my self-esteem and I can't find a way to forgive myself. Thanks for this brutally honest perspective on overcoming our own mistakes. I am able to say sorry and move forward with my chin up as a result of your words. Amazing! :)
This is so relevant to my life right now. I started university in September last year but haven't been enjoying it, found it stressful and overwhelming and i haven't really known why, and still don't. I'm planning to start studying at a more local university where the course sounds more appealing to me, and with a different environment (in a campus setting rather than in a city centre.) I've been worried about leaving because i may feel like a 'failure' in some way, as i'm not sure why things haven't worked out for me. Hopefully things will in time, and i'll find something i'm interested in and passionate about :)
You're definitely not a failure! You haven't done anything wrong. No one knows what it's going to be like at uni until they go, and I think a campus is much more comforting than a random collection of buildings in the middle of a city. I also started in September and I'm so happy I ended up at a campus uni :)
Everyone's uni experience is different so don't stress yourself if you're not having the experience you thought you would! Uni can be super stressful for a lot of people (myself included) so don't worry you're not alone! I'm in my second year and go to a campus uni and there's definitely more of a community feel at a campus based university. Hopefully you'll feel more settled when you get there! x
So I just recently discovered your channel and I must say that it's helping me so much. I've been feeling really lonely lately even though I have friends and family that care for me and love me, I can't help but have this lonely feeling creeping up on me all the time. I don't know where it comes from but watching your videos really puts my mind at ease and gives me a peaceful feeling so thank you very much, Lucy. X
i literally searched “i fucked up” and ur video came up and im so so so happy it did because i feel like it was made for me. i recently lost my friendship w my best friend because of something really stupid i did and i still feel like shit when i think about it (its been more than a week) and idk this video just made me realize that i need to understand that we all make stupid mistakes and that’s fine and i already apologized to her straight away because i knew i had messed up and now im giving her all the time that she needs if she wants to forgive me or not. only time can heal really...
i really needed this. the mistake i made the other day was quite frankly such a simple thing to be upset over but it's been consuming my thoughts recently and wow this video really helped me out. thank you x
I mentally relive mistakes I've made from being really anxious and somehow I don't forgive myself. This video has been a good reminder that they don't matter at all and I'm ok. Thank you ❤
love this video! i majorly fucked up last christmas and have beaten myself up over it ever since. it's easy to forget that everyone makes mistakes and that you aren't a terrible person if you try to make amends. thank you x
This video could not have come at a better time Lucy. I really messed up yesterday without even realising it, and I'd like to thank you for all your advice.
honestly this video is just what I need thanks Lucy, I feel incredible emotional hangovers after social situations even if i'm sober, although it's worse when i'm drunk. At the moment my mistakes objectively aren't terrible but i can't get over the smallest thing. anyone else?
I so needed this video right now, I recently broke up with someone I'd only been with for a few weeks because of a mix of my own mental state and that they had ignored me entirely for two weeks over a break. Because of this through I think they're entire group of friends now hate me and I've realised I really miss them as a friend but don't want to reach out because I don't want to lead them on (or myself because frankly I still like him quite a lot but can't be in a relationship right now for my own sake) I've managed to internalise all this and blame myself for everything and just feel like I've messed up a lot and this video is something I'm going to bookmark to come back to because I don't think I'm a bad person but I (like everyone) sometimes do shitty things even if for (in some cases) good reasons and I really need to learn how to deal with those things without internalising blame
as an only child struggling through being thrown into college after a semi-sheltered life, I'm picking you as my mentor... thank you so much for posting this content. I need to make a change with how I act because I don't like how petty I've become in college and I think watching your videos will help. thank you!
Apologising is the most important thing. Sometimes it can be hard but I find if you hold your hands up and say 'sorry, I shouldn't have done/acted like that/taken that out on you.' Just make sure you don't give any excuses. It's ok to explain you were stressed that day, but don't use that to justify your actions. Make sure if you say 'I was a bit stressed that day' you follow it up with 'but that doesn't excuse my actions' or 'I'm learning not to take that out on others.' It's always better to apologise sooner rather than later. I'm currently faced with a situation where I'm seeing a friend from uni soon who I've not seen for 2 years, who, when my head was a complete mess, kept trying to engage with me and I repeatedly ignored/brushed off until they gave up. It was a shitty thing to do, and even though it's been 2 years, when I see them I know I need to bring it up as apologise, because they didn't deserve it. That's something I want to do in person. Thank you for this video Lucy. It's important to understand everyone makes mistakes and how we can learn from them.
I always say I don't believe in fate but then I check my subscription box and I swear Lucy just caters to what video I need to see that day. I fucked up just yesterday and it's so nice to hear an unbiased opinion
Wow, thank you so much for this video, Lucy. This is so timely for me as I am dealing with a ton of crap in my life, especially regarding a lot of mistakes I have been making. I recently decided to stop hating myself and try to assess and mend some of the issues. I also struggle with opening up about my struggles, but I finally had a long talk with my mom (after a small mental breakdown) and it really truly helped to have her support/advice. I wish I could redo stuff and fix what I messed up, but sometimes you just have to screw up to learn things and become a better human.
Thank you so much for this. I just messed up from alcohol and it's not the first time I've said too much or been too intense after alcohol. This probably happens about once a year or so and then I'm fine the rest of the year. So your advice has really helped and I'll definitely talk to my mentor about it. Your honesty is really positive and soothing right now for such a potentially shameful topic x
I'm happy that I found a RUclipsr that u really can relate too. I think that we have struggled with the same things and I just feel very comforted listening to you talking and hearing your thoughts ❤
This is so good, thanks for sharing. You narrate your life so calmly and so openly, and I identify a lot with what you say. Your videos make me feel a lot less alone. Thanks!
So, this video is exactly what I needed to hear. Me and my boyfriend were together for over three years, and last year I started to struggle with anxiety and other stuff. He also deals with anxiety, and sometimes it hits him so hard that he needs medication. But that was never a problem for me. So the thing is, last year was a bit horrible, I couldnt deal with the pressure from my family, I couldnt get a job and didnt have money to start college. I was freaking out, and I knew it was affecting our relationship. I just couldnt be present anymore. So in january I broke up with him. I could not ask for just a break. I needed some time to find myself. In march we got back, for only a week. Again, I couldnt deal with the fact that he wanted to things to be like before. And not a fresh start. So he is moving on, I still love him A LOT. And this weekend was his birthday, he didnt invited me. I just dont know if I should just give up or give him some time. I blame myself for this whole situation, I have apologized a thousand times already. Everything that you said in this video, will help me somehow, Lucy. Thank you.
found this channel a couple days ago and literally think its the best thing since sliced bread. great to binge watch, you give amazing advice. also love the fact youre always drinking tea tbh
This video hits me right in the feels. I'm in the moment where I can't forgive myself and feel so embarrassed about what I did. I needed to hear this. Thank you
I relate to this so much, especially when you talk about playing the good girl role - that is me all the time. I am a mother of two now and playing good girl/nice girl/happy girl/never drinks wine on a wednesday girl... is so very suffocating. Since starting RUclips I have hidden parts of myself in fear I will come across bad or weird but actually watching your videos has inspired me to not be so hard on myself. Lucy I adore your content you are refreshing to watch and have something about you that makes you stand out. I loved this video thank you for sharing xxx much love my dear.
This is really what I needed, I fucked up with 2 of my best friends and this made me cry but feel like I could at least try and fix things and move forward and that. This was some advice I really needed and really assured me. Thank you.
It's so bizarre that you made this video because I've made a lot of mistakes this weekend and I really do feel like I am a bad person because of it. So thankyou, Lucy, this was really helpful! 💕
I can't tell you how much I can relate to this video. Thank you so much for the advice because it's really great to see an outside perspective. Like, you don't know it's a thing until someone talks about it.
Lucy! You serve us what helps and that with a kind of intuition in VEDA, that is such a construct. Thanks, again, for sticking with it and making every day better for at least a few minutes! :)
I keep coming back to this video, I can relate so much to everything you are saying. Thank you so much for your wise advice Lucy, it has helped me more than only one time🌙
I love this. Also that you pointed out the facts that you might not want to hear but who are still facts. Such as that people might give you a hard time for your mistake for a while and they might not be able to forgive you (at once) and you have to accept that. Like, that’s the truth and you said it.
Thank you Lucy, this very much is the video that I needed today. As finals are next week at my college, I find that my mistakes over this semester are sharpened and hurt more.
A few days ago I was talking to my best friend. A told her how I’ve been feeling lately. Like how I feel like our friendship had slowly been feeling forced and fake. And no matter how much she said it wasn’t I still didn’t believe her. What I didn’t know is how those words made her feel. I was so caught up in my feelings I didn’t think about hers. I am very mad at myself for making my best friend now hate me. Whenever I text her and ask if we are good friends again she just doesn’t answer. I know I was the one who brought myself into this and if I hadn’t said my feeling none of this would happen. This is now what I think all the time before I say something to someone. “Even if you feel like your friend is hurting you, you sometimes have to take the bullet for them and stay quiet”. If you read this far, wow thank you. I hope you can leave me some advice. Have a beautiful day or night! ❤️
Great video and thanks for making it! I wonder if you could also make a video on what to do when you're on the other side of the situation- how to forgive or how to accept or deal with your feelings to *not* forgive when someone else has fucked up and it's affected you
"... adding the cherry to a really sh*t cake" is my new fave quote
Rebecca Sarah i want someone to make a cartoon of it
Rebecca Sarah I,heard the quote when I read this
Rebecca Sarah lol my latest mess up as been my cherry on my shitty cake
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Lucy is the older sister we all needed 💜
I'm horribly hungover and guilty and I really needed this 💙
Rionach Hegarty Same from the Day before actually ...yeah. ..
Me too
Rionach Hegarty me too and I didn't even drink or did something wrong
I feel exactly like this :(
Rionach Hegarty same :(
A phrase I've been holding onto is "you are around for 100% of your bad moments, but only about 10% of everyone else's."
We're all figuring this out, and we shouldn't beat ourselves up so much for having to learn to learn the hard way sometimes
mistakes are part of my branding now tbh.
zoë relate tbh
Beth Walker lmao glad i'm not the only one then
zoë me too dude
zoë same
same
It's okay if you mess up, it shows you're human 💛
wow, the timing was pretty immaculate
why would you hate to quote hannah montana?? it's the best (of both worlds)
never speak again
Destroy your keyboard.
Hannah montana was my childhood
sophia ruth TRRRUUUE
sophia ruth Ha. :D
Wow, this was actually very reassuring. I had to write down something you said, "I feel that mistakes either stem out of carelessness or a really strong emotion." It seems kind of obvious, but it was helpful to realize that sometimes we are careless and sometimes we have strong emotions, which means that sometimes we make mistakes and that's okay.
yes I've done the same, so much of the stuff that lucy said is on the notes section of my phone as a quote reminder and hopefully my mentor will watch the video too
Whenever I mess up I can't help but stress about it, I hate being very egotistical and I'm admitting it.. I hate saying sorry or admit that I've done wrong when I have.. And I hate it so much, because I always can't admit to my problems and habits that cause something bad out of other people.. I need help admitting to my problems instead of denying them
When you were talking about anger and not being able to get out of your own head, I completely agree that speaking to someone is the best thing to do. I have intestinal failure and other serious health conditions. I get angry and upset at my life, and sometimes with myself even though I have no control over what has happened to me. Talking is the best remedy. In fact, I find I am always putting myself down and saying I'm "not normal". I've just made a video on my channel where I discuss this, and I know it's going to be amazing for when I'm in that bad place. Who can reason with you better than you, right?
Your voice paired with your accent is so, so soothing. I always watch your videos when I need to wind down (especially needed now that I'm drowning in exam revisions)! Thank you thank you!
honestly, I adore seeing you every day
:( This was the last day we got to see her every day, tho. (VEDA)
:(
same she's the cutest
everybody makes mistakes everybody has those days everybody knows what- what i'm talkin bout everybody gets that way nobody's perfect! i gotta work it! again and again til i get it right! nobody's perfect! you live and you learn it! and if i mess it up sometimes..... nobody's perfect!!!!!!
i just don’t feel like i deserve to forgive myself. i don’t feel like i deserve to go out and distract myself. i apologized, but it wasn’t enough. i feel like there’s nothing left i can do.
Lucy i really love your videos and even the fact that sometimes they last only two minutes, like the "you worth it" was really cool and went straight to the point. I have had issue forgiving myself for being a bad friend sometimes and always feeling guilty even when it's the other one who was not cool. So.. thanks a lot! Seeing everyone goes through the same sh** helps.
this is really good advice, but it's so hard to take it when you have depression/ anxiety because when I mess up I cannot get out of my shame spiral, even talking to people about it just makes it worse because i just keep reliving it. and yes, I will remember it in 20 years because that's how my brain works :P
"I'm only human after all, don't put the blame on me " seems appropriate here for some reason xxxx love your videos lucy so helpful you are such a good role model xx
girl i hella needed this thank u
I love you. This video has genuinely helped me so much. It is tough but your video has given me strength to start over and accept the things you have done at the same time. you have no idea how many people you must have helped in these 7 minutes. to me, you made my day and my mood. so thank you, from the bottom of my heart for being so amazing.
Your videos make me want to break away from my depression, tidy my room and become a better person somehow
this is everything I needed to hear !!!! sometimes you just need someone separate from the situation to put it in perspective
Life has sucked for me for like the past 6 months but i'm working towards progressing and improving it, it's just the fact i know i have to wait for things that's the hardest
your videos always seem to have such good timing with the weird dynamics of my life. thank you, lucy
I can't tell you how amazingly well timed this is. I did something and hurt two people unintentionally and I havent been able to forgive myself for it. But this helped alot. Thank you💜
This is the third time I'm watching this video after I've messed up and it still helps soooooo much. Thank you❤ you're amazing
Thank you, Lucy! 💕❤️
1. Curious, have a look inside.
2. I’m not terrible. Share.
3. How can I amend things?
4. Do something for your self. Break the cycle.
I really needed this right now.
I said something that could have been taken really badly and it was, the fault was entirely my own as I didn't think before I spoke but the person who was offended by my comment refused to accept my apology and has ignored me for 3 weeks straight. Your comment about how people don't have to forgive you and forgiveness is a process really brought home how I have tried to make amends but and it is out of my hands now. Thank you Lucy for being a positive beautiful person xxx
That just saved my life
I know this video is over 3 years old so you may not see this. I feel like during this video that you've been looking into my soul because you've hit everything that I've been feeling ever since I did something to mess up a relationship with a friend. My friend has since blocked me and I've tried multiple times to apologize to her but she's not responding to any of it. For the past few weeks, I've been looking up videos on apologizing and forgiveness and this was the most recent one to be recommended. I really wish I had seen it sooner because it's been the most helpful one to me. Thank you.
I love hearing you just talk about anything, you have such a unique perspective and can always word your thoughts so well
Your hair/makeup and clothes are always on point tbh
your voice is so soothing.
I've been watching RUclips videos for years, but this is one of the few times I've felt compelled to write a comment.
I recently made a huge mistake (drunk of course, alcohol seems to exacerbate every little situation) and woke up the next day with six friends telling me they never wanted to speak to me again. It was a wake-up call, and I spent a week in complete hell, in a really self-loathing, dark place.
It's been nearly a month now, and I still get pangs of guilt whenever I see those friends around or see things that remind me of them.
But this video, Lucy, has made me feel so much better about everything that happened. These are all the feelings I felt, I really didn't think someone else had messed up like me.
Everything you said was exactly what I needed to hear, thank you so much for making this. You are right, this is insignificant one, five, twenty years down the line.
AHH! Incredible video Lucy. Everyone needs to see this.
Bout to grab a cup of tea and cry because veda is over 💙💜😢
I’m new to your channel and newly sober. Days I feel guilty, confused, or just want to give in. I watch your videos and it puts me in a better mind set to kick ass and keep moving forward. Your videos help more than you will ever know!
veda has been amazing ! thanks lucy x
I really needed this. Everytime I make a mistake my self-esteem dies just a little bit more.
I always quickly learn from my mistakes because I never want to experience that utter feeling of guilt, shame and embarrassment ever again. But I always forget the fact that we all make mistakes and sometimes more than once. However, no one has verbally explained this to me so I've just developed this fear of failure.
So I want to thank you Lucy, for explaining that it's okay to fuck up more than once and for changing my perspective about others and their mistakes. I appreciate it.
You are one of the bravest people I know. Putting yourself on the internet with your self-exploration, and your personal revelations. Stay awesome. I've watched/listened to several of your videos, and I have found you to be one of the most real vloggers I've come across.I was also impressed that you held the cup of tea the whole video without spilling any, that is pure talent.
Lucy, thank you for being open and honest. It's nice to be reminded that it's ok to be imperfect. I appreciate all your recent videos! They have been raw, vulnerable and filled with self acceptance. Thanks for sharing!
I'm really appreciating your videos a lot lately as a recent subscriber. I think you're about a year older than me, so it's nice to have these to watch st the end of the day, and t feels like a slightly older sister/friend giving me advice. I really like how honest your chats are, you recognise the nuances in situations and don't give black and white advice and it's nice that you don't seem to hold yourself to a really high standard, I don't know if I can quite convey what I mean, and I really think it's because you've lived and learnt a lot through your experiences, and you seem very honest with yourself. There's just something really refreshing about you that can't be found in a lot of other youtubers.
Yo i don't normally go for channels like this but i really needed some wisdom, i'm glad people like you exist.
Lucy, your video has really helped me overcome a previous mistake I made. It takes a lot to actually get me upset unless it's me who causes the problem. When I make the mistake, it really lowers my self-esteem and I can't find a way to forgive myself. Thanks for this brutally honest perspective on overcoming our own mistakes. I am able to say sorry and move forward with my chin up as a result of your words. Amazing! :)
This is so relevant to my life right now. I started university in September last year but haven't been enjoying it, found it stressful and overwhelming and i haven't really known why, and still don't. I'm planning to start studying at a more local university where the course sounds more appealing to me, and with a different environment (in a campus setting rather than in a city centre.) I've been worried about leaving because i may feel like a 'failure' in some way, as i'm not sure why things haven't worked out for me. Hopefully things will in time, and i'll find something i'm interested in and passionate about :)
Hey, I hope things start to get better for you xx
Thanks so much xx
You're definitely not a failure! You haven't done anything wrong. No one knows what it's going to be like at uni until they go, and I think a campus is much more comforting than a random collection of buildings in the middle of a city. I also started in September and I'm so happy I ended up at a campus uni :)
I agree. Thanks so much for replying xx
Everyone's uni experience is different so don't stress yourself if you're not having the experience you thought you would! Uni can be super stressful for a lot of people (myself included) so don't worry you're not alone! I'm in my second year and go to a campus uni and there's definitely more of a community feel at a campus based university. Hopefully you'll feel more settled when you get there! x
So I just recently discovered your channel and I must say that it's helping me so much. I've been feeling really lonely lately even though I have friends and family that care for me and love me, I can't help but have this lonely feeling creeping up on me all the time. I don't know where it comes from but watching your videos really puts my mind at ease and gives me a peaceful feeling so thank you very much, Lucy. X
I just adore the tops she wears 😍😍
It's like you're in my head this month, Lucy, all of your videos seem to come in a moment when I really needed to hear them.
3 years later and this video is still incredibly helpful. Thank you so much
i literally searched “i fucked up” and ur video came up and im so so so happy it did because i feel like it was made for me. i recently lost my friendship w my best friend because of something really stupid i did and i still feel like shit when i think about it (its been more than a week) and idk this video just made me realize that i need to understand that we all make stupid mistakes and that’s fine and i already apologized to her straight away because i knew i had messed up and now im giving her all the time that she needs if she wants to forgive me or not. only time can heal really...
i really needed this. the mistake i made the other day was quite frankly such a simple thing to be upset over but it's been consuming my thoughts recently and wow this video really helped me out. thank you x
your voice is so relaxing. idk you sound like the type of person who should voice audiobooks.
I mentally relive mistakes I've made from being really anxious and somehow I don't forgive myself. This video has been a good reminder that they don't matter at all and I'm ok. Thank you ❤
love this video! i majorly fucked up last christmas and have beaten myself up over it ever since. it's easy to forget that everyone makes mistakes and that you aren't a terrible person if you try to make amends. thank you x
so much love on this! and just as dumbledore said: "it does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live"
this is so so relatable and helpful for these past few weeks of my life, honestly thank you so much lucy, i love you
This video could not have come at a better time Lucy. I really messed up yesterday without even realising it, and I'd like to thank you for all your advice.
honestly this video is just what I need thanks Lucy, I feel incredible emotional hangovers after social situations even if i'm sober, although it's worse when i'm drunk. At the moment my mistakes objectively aren't terrible but i can't get over the smallest thing. anyone else?
I so needed this video right now, I recently broke up with someone I'd only been with for a few weeks because of a mix of my own mental state and that they had ignored me entirely for two weeks over a break. Because of this through I think they're entire group of friends now hate me and I've realised I really miss them as a friend but don't want to reach out because I don't want to lead them on (or myself because frankly I still like him quite a lot but can't be in a relationship right now for my own sake) I've managed to internalise all this and blame myself for everything and just feel like I've messed up a lot and this video is something I'm going to bookmark to come back to because I don't think I'm a bad person but I (like everyone) sometimes do shitty things even if for (in some cases) good reasons and I really need to learn how to deal with those things without internalising blame
as an only child struggling through being thrown into college after a semi-sheltered life, I'm picking you as my mentor... thank you so much for posting this content. I need to make a change with how I act because I don't like how petty I've become in college and I think watching your videos will help. thank you!
Apologising is the most important thing. Sometimes it can be hard but I find if you hold your hands up and say 'sorry, I shouldn't have done/acted like that/taken that out on you.' Just make sure you don't give any excuses. It's ok to explain you were stressed that day, but don't use that to justify your actions. Make sure if you say 'I was a bit stressed that day' you follow it up with 'but that doesn't excuse my actions' or 'I'm learning not to take that out on others.'
It's always better to apologise sooner rather than later.
I'm currently faced with a situation where I'm seeing a friend from uni soon who I've not seen for 2 years, who, when my head was a complete mess, kept trying to engage with me and I repeatedly ignored/brushed off until they gave up. It was a shitty thing to do, and even though it's been 2 years, when I see them I know I need to bring it up as apologise, because they didn't deserve it. That's something I want to do in person.
Thank you for this video Lucy. It's important to understand everyone makes mistakes and how we can learn from them.
genuinely only a minute in and I can't watch anymore; her tea is giving me so much anxiety 😂😂
I always say I don't believe in fate but then I check my subscription box and I swear Lucy just caters to what video I need to see that day. I fucked up just yesterday and it's so nice to hear an unbiased opinion
Wow, thank you so much for this video, Lucy. This is so timely for me as I am dealing with a ton of crap in my life, especially regarding a lot of mistakes I have been making. I recently decided to stop hating myself and try to assess and mend some of the issues. I also struggle with opening up about my struggles, but I finally had a long talk with my mom (after a small mental breakdown) and it really truly helped to have her support/advice. I wish I could redo stuff and fix what I messed up, but sometimes you just have to screw up to learn things and become a better human.
Thank you so much for this. I just messed up from alcohol and it's not the first time I've said too much or been too intense after alcohol. This probably happens about once a year or so and then I'm fine the rest of the year. So your advice has really helped and I'll definitely talk to my mentor about it. Your honesty is really positive and soothing right now for such a potentially shameful topic x
Thanks for existing, Lucy. These words were all I needed to hear right now. Cheers to you wherever you are!
I'm happy that I found a RUclipsr that u really can relate too. I think that we have struggled with the same things and I just feel very comforted listening to you talking and hearing your thoughts ❤
I’ve been crying for two days straight and this video has just given me the little push I needed to come to terms with it
really really adore and appreciate how you talk so openly about these personal topics, lots of love x
Your recent videos- oh man such a comfort to me ❤️❤️❤️ thank u
This is so good, thanks for sharing. You narrate your life so calmly and so openly, and I identify a lot with what you say. Your videos make me feel a lot less alone. Thanks!
So, this video is exactly what I needed to hear. Me and my boyfriend were together for over three years, and last year I started to struggle with anxiety and other stuff. He also deals with anxiety, and sometimes it hits him so hard that he needs medication. But that was never a problem for me. So the thing is, last year was a bit horrible, I couldnt deal with the pressure from my family, I couldnt get a job and didnt have money to start college. I was freaking out, and I knew it was affecting our relationship. I just couldnt be present anymore. So in january I broke up with him. I could not ask for just a break. I needed some time to find myself. In march we got back, for only a week. Again, I couldnt deal with the fact that he wanted to things to be like before. And not a fresh start. So he is moving on, I still love him A LOT. And this weekend was his birthday, he didnt invited me. I just dont know if I should just give up or give him some time. I blame myself for this whole situation, I have apologized a thousand times already. Everything that you said in this video, will help me somehow, Lucy. Thank you.
found this channel a couple days ago and literally think its the best thing since sliced bread. great to binge watch, you give amazing advice. also love the fact youre always drinking tea tbh
This video hits me right in the feels. I'm in the moment where I can't forgive myself and feel so embarrassed about what I did. I needed to hear this. Thank you
i have massive guilt issues so this video was really important for me, thank you so much
Seriously the best channel on youtube. Your points are so well articulated
I relate to this so much, especially when you talk about playing the good girl role - that is me all the time. I am a mother of two now and playing good girl/nice girl/happy girl/never drinks wine on a wednesday girl... is so very suffocating. Since starting RUclips I have hidden parts of myself in fear I will come across bad or weird but actually watching your videos has inspired me to not be so hard on myself. Lucy I adore your content you are refreshing to watch and have something about you that makes you stand out. I loved this video thank you for sharing xxx much love my dear.
This is the perfect mix of comforting and hard pill to swallow type of advice that I needed to hear
Walks out of a really messy day at work and see this title... *the relevance is strong in this one.*
I have never watched someone so genuine, you have great advice :) Thank You Lucy x
This is really what I needed, I fucked up with 2 of my best friends and this made me cry but feel like I could at least try and fix things and move forward and that. This was some advice I really needed and really assured me. Thank you.
This video helped me a lot when I was going through things, thank you for making it.
It's so bizarre that you made this video because I've made a lot of mistakes this weekend and I really do feel like I am a bad person because of it. So thankyou, Lucy, this was really helpful! 💕
I can't tell you how much I can relate to this video. Thank you so much for the advice because it's really great to see an outside perspective. Like, you don't know it's a thing until someone talks about it.
*Best way to end veda.* It felt like having a chat with a caring best friend. Thanks for being like this to us 💘
Lucy! You serve us what helps and that with a kind of intuition in VEDA, that is such a construct. Thanks, again, for sticking with it and making every day better for at least a few minutes! :)
Watching your videos calms me every time. You are such a nice person
"Its like putting the cherry on top of a really shit cake" my favourite quote to date
I keep coming back to this video, I can relate so much to everything you are saying. Thank you so much for your wise advice Lucy, it has helped me more than only one time🌙
whenever im really really sad or upset your videos are always so calming and nice thank you
Knowing that I messed up makes me cry and freak out
I love this. Also that you pointed out the facts that you might not want to hear but who are still facts. Such as that people might give you a hard time for your mistake for a while and they might not be able to forgive you (at once) and you have to accept that. Like, that’s the truth and you said it.
Thank you Lucy, this very much is the video that I needed today. As finals are next week at my college, I find that my mistakes over this semester are sharpened and hurt more.
Lucy's hair is so gourgeous!!!
"Something going on under the bonnet" what a delightfully English expression lmao
I really needed this :D Sometimes it's hard to take a step back from the cloud of guilty thoughts in your mind
I'm so British, I can smell the tea tbh 😂
I needed this. I have never seen your channel but... Thanks. Your so genuine
Lucy has so many wise words of wisdom I love it
A few days ago I was talking to my best friend. A told her how I’ve been feeling lately. Like how I feel like our friendship had slowly been feeling forced and fake. And no matter how much she said it wasn’t I still didn’t believe her. What I didn’t know is how those words made her feel. I was so caught up in my feelings I didn’t think about hers. I am very mad at myself for making my best friend now hate me. Whenever I text her and ask if we are good friends again she just doesn’t answer. I know I was the one who brought myself into this and if I hadn’t said my feeling none of this would happen. This is now what I think all the time before I say something to someone. “Even if you feel like your friend is hurting you, you sometimes have to take the bullet for them and stay quiet”. If you read this far, wow thank you. I hope you can leave me some advice. Have a beautiful day or night! ❤️
Great video and thanks for making it! I wonder if you could also make a video on what to do when you're on the other side of the situation- how to forgive or how to accept or deal with your feelings to *not* forgive when someone else has fucked up and it's affected you