I’m 54. I had school clothes, play clothes and church clothes. I was raised to take pride in how I look when I leave the house. I teach my girls the same.
I had the same school, church play clothes and my parents didn't allow you to wear scarfs or bonnets out side of the house in fact we wore stocking caps to bed but once you were up you had to take it off and your hair had to be done. My sister brothers and I were taught that when you step out of the house you should put your best foot forward because you not only represent yourself but the family also. I bought my children up the same way.
I have been waiting for someone to say those precious words, “dress the way you want to be addressed.” Hopefully those that did not take the advice to heart will take some moments to reflect. You delivered that message with the utmost respect and appreciation. Love your spirit. I’m a nurse too
School clothes, Sunday clothes, play clothes. Comb your hair, wash your behind, brush your teeth and put on appropriate attire. Look like you got some sense. Words shared with me all my life. Monique was very kind with her words and still they acted a nut. One thing I know LIFE is real good teacher.
I’m in my 30’s and I agree. I was raised to have outside clothes and inside clothes and I don’t mix the two. You can be cute and comfortable I didn’t understand the confusion about the whole matter.
I think people need to learn the difference between being “judgemental” and using “judgment”…that would help a lot of us (including myself) to stop being so easily offended when people try to give us sound advice and wisdom.
I'm ecstatic got a ❤from Auntie Angela means the world to me, not close to any kin(village) left not close to ex-husband's in-laws Good advice sadness and happiness can't live together got to let go of past hurts.
I'm an 80s baby and like you said in the beginning: we had/have clothes for different areas. I still make my children remove and hang their church/outing clothes when we come home from church or whatnot. Then again, I was raised in the Caribbean and had a strong minded grandma around. I may not care about what you think of me, BUT I do care about what I see in the mirror. When I'm put together, I feel together. Period.
I grew up watching my mother get dressed up when she traveled and it left an impression. Made going on vacation special. Rule number growing up was - do not leave the house looking unkept.
I was flabbergasted that people would argue against someone trying to tell them to be presentable! People these days go outside looking like they are about to go to bed! I remember a time where we, as a people, went outside (especially when we went downtown or shopping) looking like we were going to church. We were held to a higher standard. All of this has deteriorated in less than 50 years. Leaves me wondering what’s next. Very good video.
Excellent discussion. I am almost 50 and have a 20 year old daughter. We grew up in the generation that saved our good shoes for school and church. I feel as if we fought for women's rights and the right to be feminine is part of that. It is totally wonderful to be a woman, to dress well, to feel good about your clothing. We need to be teaching our young women and girls that dressing nicely and taking good care of what God gave us is an honor and a blessing.
This so true, our ancestors lost their lives or gave up much to have the same privileges. Let's not give otherels reasons to declare we are a cliché. We're beautiful, lets be beautiful.
Angela, I love your image, your lifestyle, and every topic you choose. I hope that this message resonates with all women of color. Remember, we are always looked at through a different lens.
At 44, I was proud of Monique for having the courage to address the topic. I understand exactly where she's coming from, I agree wholeheartedly, and when I see my younger sisters looking a type of way, it truly breaks my heart because I care. But unfortunately, we're living in very different days, any and everything goes.
Yessssss! I grew up the same way....school clothes, play clothes and church clothes!!!! I am 55 and I ALSO have weekend clothes!!!! My Mom always instilled in the girls (and boys) and always taught us to put our best foot forward. Looking nice makes me feel good, as well! When I am out shopping and see the bonnets, slippers, and pajamas and say “why”. I can only say, they weren’t taught. 🤷🏽♀️
I'm not one of your younger followers, but I agree with you 100%. Its so true we all do judge it's just embedded in us. My gma always said, even if you don't have alot, you should always try to present yourself in your best light. Thank you for addressing these topics. 💕
I have a 19 year old son and if he should ever bring a woman to me dressing that way, we have a problem. I totally agree with Monique and those who are bashing her needs to take several seats. Some of these young women just have no class. Period! No well thinking man would want to be seen with them.
100% agree. Very well said. Words of wisdom to the younger generation. A Queen does not go out in pajamas and bedroom slippers. Always present yourself at your best. BTW, I love your channel and just found you a few days ago and subscribed immediately. You are such a lovely lady. Love your sense of humor.
I totally agree. Years ago when we as a people were allowed to vote....some went to the polls dressed in their Sunday best. I know times change, but self respect never gets old.
Powerful, Angela. In this contentious society, young people often see advice as judgement and criticism. We are all judged by our appearance - just look at the $$$ made by cosmetic and plastic surgery companies!
Please do more of these!!! There are very few of you on RUclips really giving these grounded opinions. Fumi Desalu Vold is another RUclipsr that’s in her 50s, she does Sister-to-Sister. Actually I think you all would be good friends …you both eat healthy, workout and love to be fabulous! 😉
PREACH! I’m of your generation too and was raised with the house clothes/going out clothes mantra as well. Honestly, there’s a way you can dress and be confortable and cute while travelling that doesn’t need to include pyjamas, slippers and bonnets 🤦🏾♀️. I get that young folks feel they should wear whatever the heck they want, but unfortunately, esp as black women, we’re judged extra harshly for how we present ourselves. What Monique said was completely coming from a place of love. It’s so disheartening to see our young ladies drag her and those who share her pt of view on this for filth. You presented Monique’s msg that is perhaps more “palatable” than her delivery lol. I hope young folks will be more receptive to what you’ve said! 👍🏾
Absolutely Positively Agreed l ❤️ Just How Angela Phrased It Also. And lt ls So “True”. No One Likes To Be Criticized, Judged, Or Corrected. But Sometimes lt ls For OUR Best. Some Young People Just Feel & Act Like They Are So “Entitled “ But The World Will Show & Tell YOU Different “.
I was raised with you always wear your best clothes for church, and then they became clothes for dress or special occasions, and those become school clothes later, and then everyday/play clothes until you either grew out of them or couldn’t be fixed anymore, and then they were cut up for the rag bag. But new clothes were always for church first.
The best part of this was, "DRESS the way you want to be ADDRESSED"! The way you dress determines what you attract. I am from that generation that had clothes for going out and those that were for HOME only! You may not be a 10 everytime you leave home but at least register on the scale.
When I was young, I always simply listened to advice. I didn't always take people's advice or agree with it, but I listened and kept it moving. My grandmother instilled in me how to dress for certain occasions and I still find myself doing those things. I'm 40 and a couple years ago we found ourselves attending several funerals. I was taken aback by the way people showed up. I looked at my husband and was like when did people start dresses like this to funerals. I agree with everything you said and received your message.
This was so good, and a much needed video. As a formerly abused wife, I am very sensitive to young ladies that may be struggling in unhealthy relationship. I pray that we (mature ladies) can help our downline lovingly with their appearance and their emotional and spiritual development. This was very uplifting and glad to see it. Bless you.🙏🏽
Angela, this is so timely and needed. I am 69 year old woman of color who is a retired educator (teacher and administrator - elementary, high school, principal, university professor and vice president at a university). Our generation was taught to respect ourselves and one another, thus the reason to have play clothes, school clothes and church clothes. It is unfortunate that our young ladies will leave the house without much thought of their appearance. We are to look our best. Regarding no more secrets - I was in a toxic and abusive relationship in my 20s and was embarrassed. It took me a while, but I had to speak up and get out of the relationship. I KNOW there are many young ladies (and some older ones) who need this message. I pray they will be receptive. By the way, my husband and I will celebrate 45 years of marriage this Saturday. As an interracial couple from the 70s (who many didn't think would endure).....we're stronger than ever because God remains the center of our life (lives). Monique and you are telling the truth!
Hi Toni, thank you so much for sharing. Congratulations on your marriage anniversary. We've only been married 3.5 years, but God is first and foremost in ours lives as well. I look forward to your feedback and thank you for it. have a blessed day
I totally agree with you. I will be 60 tomorrow and my mom told me how to present myself when I was eight, everything from proper undergarment to going outside. I think a lot of people miss it whether male or female when it comes to receiving advice. If they don't like the messenger, they will totally disregard it whether that person is giving great advice or not. Sometimes, God uses people you don't like or care for so when you dismiss it, you also dismiss what could have been a blessing to or for you. Also, as stated, tact is necessary and I agree with I think you said, Monroe. Dress how you want to be addressed. Definitely words of wisdom.
I see a change in our beautiful black sisters. Because we as older and season sisters we can continue to love them and teach. Your words are so spot on so much good information. This is all good.
Hi Angela, The title says it all. Thanks for sharing your heart and your story. Your heart of love is very evident!! I trust God this video will help someone in need reach out for a listening ear. BTW - I am 65 and I remember the days of school clothes, church clothes, play clothes, work clothes. I was taught that when I leave the house I must always be presentable.
This was a great video and much-needed. Your delivery was perfect. Sometimes the truth hurt. I totally agreed with Monique. As a black female it hurts me to hear black men degrade us so for that alone I feel we should always try and look our best. I even try and dress decent.
Thank you for always watchin and giving me your feedback. It makes me happy to know that I'm having a positive impact on the young ladies that will be running this world one day.
Totally agree! Growing up, I had a whole tribe of family members, church mothers and neighbors making sure my sisters and I were dress appropriately at all times! Thank you for dealing with these topics!
Well said sister!! I’m 50+ and never know when opportunities are coming around the corner. An older woman told me to watch how I talk to my husband when I was younger...30 yrs later married to same man, I’m forever grateful for Sis Jones advice!! Listen my young sisters💕
The younger generation do not want to hear what older women have to say…..and the generation coming up behind them will be worse. Sad to say it. I pray for them.🙏🏾
I think some young WOC are so easily influenced especially by social media. If some famous celebrity like Cardi or Beyonce was against the bonnet and PJ's, the message may have been received differently. I'm glad someone told the truth. The bonnet is not cute....
@@speakintothemicb I don’t mean every last person in that generation…..and I wasn’t disrespectful. But considering that I have 30 years experience working with that generation, I would know something of the generation you think I don’t know about. (….And raised.)….God bless you.. I’m glad you’re open.
I still can’t wear my outside clothes when I’m inside. 😂 This generation was not raised. It’s sad that our elders are disrespected and dismissed. It should not matter what we wear outside our door, but in the world we live in it does matter. Thank you for sharing this video. 💕🙏🏽
I think this was a very compassionate video! We do need each other! Because we are our sisters keeper . Thank you so much for caring enough to have a candid conversation about the topics you’ve touched on. God Bless you and keep up the good work🙏🏽❤️😘
I’m from your generation raised inside a 2 parent household along with aunties, uncles and neighborhood elders who kept us accountable. The fact these girls want to advocate to showcase low class but demand utmost respect is lunacy. There is a such thing as external confidence that will influence people’s opinion of you before you say one word. Hopefully these girls will wise up and take heed to aunties advice.
Beautiful message. I'm glad you went forward with message, someone needed to hear this. People may not want the hear the truth but we all know , "The truth will set you free". Young people need to understand that constructive criticism, let me repeat constructive criticism is a must in life. Thank you for using your platform and being the messenger today.💗
Totally agree with what you said. Social control was standard when I was growing up even in my teen years ☝🏽nowadays you can not talk or tell young people what to do any more( except your children, my child. I will never stop correcting my child.) When yo Respect your self people will always Respect you. Thank you for sharing!
Monique's message deeply resonated with me and so does yours. Standards have become so relaxed in many areas that we many of our young people have a hard time accepting discipline. Dressing appropriate for the occasion is one of the rule I was taught as a child. This means that no matter how fancy a sleepwear is designed, it is an attire for going to bed and not suitable for the street. Your suggestion for elders to voluntarily offer themselves as mentor to young women in their circles is truly wonderful. Every young girl may not embrace the opportunity but it can be the beacon of light for the ones that do. And, guidance in regards to appropriate attire can be included. Although I am fairly new to your channel, I so enjoy your videos. Keep them coming!
Well said!!! My mama wouldn't let me go from one grandma's house to the other (about 1/2 mile) with rollers on. When you look good it even makes you feel good. You stand a little straighter. Much love Angela
Hello Angela and the women on this page, I truly Thank all of you for putting it out there for these young ladies to hear. I have a few years before I am 60 and I feel good. I have NO Problem talking to our young ladies today. I, like the rest of you do not have time to sugar coat anything. I have been down the road where abuse came in, I've heard the young men saying nasty things to the ladies (as it is base on the way they are dress). As it is painful to know that some have not been taught to reflect respect toward themselves. As Walking by Faith has said under the comments Respect, Dignity, Morals, Values, Self Worth is so important but remember have some compassion as their is someone that is watching you. Needless to say, we don't need that young girl to think that this is the way to reflect ourselves out in the world (cursing, showing to much skin all the poor things you can think of). Angela and the rest of you beautiful ladies, thank you for being able to talk about this topic on this platform and provide this to our young ladies today. As this is sooooooo needed. 😊
A lot of this generation is nasty in attitude, spirit, and energy. I cannot with any of them. I'm 42 and I can't relate to this feeling of an older person correcting you with grace as a cause for attitude. Smh
When I was a young woman I treated older women with respect and valued their wisdom and insight. I expect to be treated that way now by young women alas manners politeness and respect are not common as it once was. Amongst today's young.
My safe places were Ms Dorothy and Ms Alice. I could talk to these two friends of my Mothers about everything. From books to relationships, clothes, working and school.
On point as always! I wish I had someone to guide me when I was a young woman. I struggle with regret now in my 40s. Keep up the excellence in everything you do on your channel. 💗
Think of it this way.... you are human and have and will continue to make mistakes. The goal is to learn from those mistakes and not to make them again. DO NOT beat yourself up over doing what every other person has every done. Forgive yourself and move on. Your future deserves it!
Thank you so much for addressing this.. You made so many great points… Don’t let your feelings about the messenger cloud the message👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 The bottom line is that appearance does matter…
Awesome video girl! I'm 60 and I have 5 Granddaughters in their 20s and I always taught them how to represent themselves when going out in the streets, and not one them go anywhere looking or wearing anything that doesn't represent who they really are.
Angela, I completely agree with everything you said!!! 100%. I also feel you should look your best whenever possible and take pride in your image. Creating a Sisterhood is essential.
Point on Angela POINT ON! Raised in the south we had a lot of that taping on the shoulders from non relatives who truly had our best interest at heart! For that I will forever be greatful and THANKFUL!
Monique was right periodt. I am 62 and when I was growing up, like you said, there were school clothes, house clothes and church clothes. School clothes came off at 3:05 and house clothes were put on. When you stepped outside your front door, you were clean, pressed, hair done, and you looked presentable. We were taught to take pride in ourselves, and our appearance and that we were a representative of the family. The younger generation, needs to hear, and realize that they don't know everything, they can't, they haven't lived long enough. Monique was very nice in her delivery about inappropriate attire. Finally I love karenbritchick. Hopefully your video was taken in the spirit it was given.
I like the coaching on how to talk to younger ladies. I am approaching 45 and do not have children. I remember as a young lady not having anyone to talk to with life challenges because the women in my family were (and still are) not good confidants, bad examples, and quickly pass judgement. It would have been wonderful and appreciated if an older woman who could see me going through what I was going through in my younger years to offer genuine concern and help, but they did not. Many "aunties" are failing to realize that many young ladies are not getting the guidance that they need from their own family and are much quicker to judge than help. I am also seeing many women 45+ than are just as sloppy in their appearance (and they should know better). I do think the village concept needs to be revamped. I appreciate this video giving me insight on how I can help younger ladies because it is needed. Someone must be a good example for young ladies, and it needs to be reflected in words and actions.
Thank you for sharing your perspective, on your take of the Bonnets. I totally agree with you, and it was very well stated. I Love Love your Videos.. Have a Super Bless Day..
Thank u so much Angela this was so thought provoking I'm in my 60 n this really hit home. I had an older woman teach me when I was 14 she never knew how much she influenced me. She taught me how to be excepting of different cultures n taught me how to be a proud black young lady n to respect myself. I love this lady n I will never forget her for her act of kindness when I needed it most so elders do have wisdom if u open your mind n your heart to listen to.♥♥♥♥
I think you should start a “Angela’s thoughts Thursday’s” where you just talk about your week and your thoughts. I watch you for your fashion but I loved this video! I appreciate the intelligent conversation !
Loved!!! And you’re exactly right, we all need someone to talk to or someone to just listen. We all need someone to provide us with constructive advice as well! Loving your content and realness! So relatable ❤️
Great video! I agree with you whole heartedly. I just hope that we can soon have a society in which we can have these kinds of conversations and people can agree or disagree but respectfully without attacking.
I agree with what you've said, 100 percent. I try to teach this message to my sons, ages 20, 23, and 30. People DO judge! Young people and older folks: take pride in the way you present yourself to the world! (I'm turning the page to age 60 this year)
Couldn’t agree with you more on both subjects! Thank you for using your platform to educate us. Unfortunately a lot of great values have been going down the drain and it’s about time we get back up! So Thank you Angela!🙏🏾🙌🏾👌🏾
I love your message. It was heartfelt and not judgmental. 🥰 I am 40 and for some reason, I felt like we were being so harsh on these young ladies. Just imagine being reprimand by someone who has never shown you LOVE! Why would they listen to us? We haven’t even shown we care about these women. But I totally agree with your message! Some of the comments I am reading here, geesh! I would stay far away from these “aunties” myself and I am grown! We have to do better.
Hi Angela. I appreciate the way you handled this conversation. I am a woman in my mid 30's and maybe I was raised old school but I can relate to school clothes vs. play clothes. Honestly, I agree with Monique. I was taught the way you step out of your home is a reflection of you, your family and your mental state. To this day, I dare not go out the house with a bonnet and pajamas on. Also, I appreciate you addressing the importance of having a go-to person. So many people may feel ashamed and disconnected when going through difficult situations. Just simply saying "hey I'm here should you ever need me" is huge for someone who may feel alone or just need a ear.
I too remember school, play and church clothes. And I appreciated those helpful nuggets of wisdom I got from the more seasoned women in my life. I've always appreciated sitting at the feet of wisdom. How you spoke on this subject was with wisdom and helpfulness. You told the truth in love. It's such an important topic, because this is a part/form of "self-care."
I really enjoyed this side of you. Knowledge… sisterhood.. I would really enjoy if you could possibly make it a series every so often talking about women issues & struggles.. life advice bc this was awesome 👏🏾
Great message 🙏🙏🙏 well delivered and received. I am in my 50s and was taught our mother who gave birth to 8 beautiful daughters, she would say to us" don't leave this house looking anyhow you don't know who you will.meet." We all ensured that our hair was well combed,( natural) clothes properly ironed and clean shoes, whether all were hand-me-down or new which was seldom. We were all taught to dress properly and respect the views of our elders. So thanks alot for your kind words of wisdom and encouragement, I pray that this generation use it well.
Your message is a voice of REASON! People can be very judgmental and most people don’t want to be judged! Having conversations with people requires a lot of trust.. I love the idea of having a village. Great video Angela...
And now that I have watched, let me just say that I appreciate the way you presented this message. Look beyond the person sending the message and listen for the wisdom within the message. We don't have to agree, but glean what we can from those further along than we are. No matter how old we are (and I'm in my forties), there's someone further along who has been there and done that. I wish I had listened to some of that advice when I was in my 20s and 30s. I could've saved myself some heartache! I'm listening now lol!
This video validates what I told my 23 yr old daughter last night. Not about looking presentable outside but about taking advice. Listen because we have been through the same situations. You always need someone to talk to or it will eat you up from the inside out. Find someone to chat with. And Mrs. Angela this relates to style also. You can't cover up a dirty body with a clean shirt!
Very well stated Angela. I totally agree. Listen to the message and to not get hung up on the person presenting the message. As long as the message is delivered in a loving place, take heed to it. That message may bless you.
Angela I LOVED the way you said your message. I am 40 years old and agree with what you said 100%. We did in fact grow up in a different generation where our parents taught us to care about our appearance. Even IF as ladies we don't want to mess up our hair on the plane place a scarf on your head once you get ON the plane and are about to lay back. You can be comfortable in alot of clothes other then PJ's young ladies. Their is a time and place for everything including clothing. Yes we all wish the world wasn't judgmental, but truth to the matter is: we ALL are consciously or subconsciously.
I’m 54. I had school clothes, play clothes and church clothes. I was raised to take pride in how I look when I leave the house. I teach my girls the same.
Yes, my parents let me know at a young age that I was a representation of them when I stepped out of the house.
That was the way I was raised too and I’m 60 , I have raised my children the same . We need to go out and put our best forward.
I had the same school, church play clothes and my parents didn't allow you to wear scarfs or bonnets out side of the house in fact we wore stocking caps to bed but once you were up you had to take it off and your hair had to be done. My sister brothers and I were taught that when you step out of the house you should put your best foot forward because you not only represent yourself but the family also. I bought my children up the same way.
Very well said..."Do Not Allow your feeling about the messenger cloud the message."😎
You're right. She should add that to the description box on her channel. It's insightful. I'm glad you shared this again. Thx💕
The way you dress says everything about the state of your mind. Elevate your mind. Dress like the people you want to attract in all of life.
Yessss Amen
Drop the mic...
I agree with u Angella, we must b there for the Younger folks, yes
I totally agree.
I have been waiting for someone to say those precious words, “dress the way you want to be addressed.” Hopefully those that did not take the advice to heart will take some moments to reflect. You delivered that message with the utmost respect and appreciation. Love your spirit. I’m a nurse too
School clothes, Sunday clothes, play clothes. Comb your hair, wash your behind, brush your teeth and put on appropriate attire. Look like you got some sense. Words shared with me all my life. Monique was very kind with her words and still they acted a nut. One thing I know LIFE is real good teacher.
I’m a little older than your generation and I am in agreement with Monique and you.
I’m in my 30’s and I agree. I was raised to have outside clothes and inside clothes and I don’t mix the two. You can be cute and comfortable I didn’t understand the confusion about the whole matter.
Tbh I mix my outside and inside clothes bc I wanna sit looking cute at home. But I'm not wearing sleepwear out.
I think people need to learn the difference between being “judgemental” and using “judgment”…that would help a lot of us (including myself) to stop being so easily offended when people try to give us sound advice and wisdom.
Say that!!!
Exactly
I'm ecstatic got a ❤from Auntie Angela means the world to me, not close to any kin(village) left not close to ex-husband's in-laws Good advice sadness and happiness can't live together got to let go of past hurts.
Well stated!
Absolutely 💯
I'm an 80s baby and like you said in the beginning: we had/have clothes for different areas. I still make my children remove and hang their church/outing clothes when we come home from church or whatnot. Then again, I was raised in the Caribbean and had a strong minded grandma around.
I may not care about what you think of me, BUT I do care about what I see in the mirror. When I'm put together, I feel together. Period.
I grew up watching my mother get dressed up when she traveled and it left an impression. Made going on vacation special. Rule number growing up was - do not leave the house looking unkept.
I was flabbergasted that people would argue against someone trying to tell them to be presentable! People these days go outside looking like they are about to go to bed! I remember a time where we, as a people, went outside (especially when we went downtown or shopping) looking like we were going to church. We were held to a higher standard. All of this has deteriorated in less than 50 years. Leaves me wondering what’s next. Very good video.
Excellent discussion. I am almost 50 and have a 20 year old daughter. We grew up in the generation that saved our good shoes for school and church. I feel as if we fought for women's rights and the right to be feminine is part of that. It is totally wonderful to be a woman, to dress well, to feel good about your clothing. We need to be teaching our young women and girls that dressing nicely and taking good care of what God gave us is an honor and a blessing.
This so true, our ancestors lost their lives or gave up much to have the same privileges. Let's not give otherels reasons to declare we are a cliché. We're beautiful, lets be beautiful.
Angela, I love your image, your lifestyle, and every topic you choose. I hope that this message resonates with all women of color. Remember, we are always looked at through a different lens.
Thank you so much!
So true.
At 44, I was proud of Monique for having the courage to address the topic. I understand exactly where she's coming from, I agree wholeheartedly, and when I see my younger sisters looking a type of way, it truly breaks my heart because I care. But unfortunately, we're living in very different days, any and everything goes.
You’re my “best life” preceptor for a woman in her early 40s. Thank you!
Wow, thank you!
Yessssss! I grew up the same way....school clothes, play clothes and church clothes!!!! I am 55 and I ALSO have weekend clothes!!!! My Mom always instilled in the girls (and boys) and always taught us to put our best foot forward. Looking nice makes me feel good, as well! When I am out shopping and see the bonnets, slippers, and pajamas and say “why”. I can only say, they weren’t taught. 🤷🏽♀️
I’m 22 and I won’t leave the house if my hair isn’t neat. The wise young women are always open to listening 🤞🏾
Good for you sweetie. I’m proud of you👌🏾🙌🏾😃
Your appearance matters! I drilled that into my daughter and son. I thought Monique was very passionate and caring in her message.
I'm not one of your younger followers, but I agree with you 100%. Its so true we all do judge it's just embedded in us. My gma always said, even if you don't have alot, you should always try to present yourself in your best light. Thank you for addressing these topics. 💕
I have a 19 year old son and if he should ever bring a woman to me dressing that way, we have a problem. I totally agree with Monique and those who are bashing her needs to take several seats. Some of these young women just have no class. Period! No well thinking man would want to be seen with them.
I don't know what is happening with having class these days. It's not about money because money can't buy class. They just don't care.
100% agree. Very well said. Words of wisdom to the younger generation. A Queen does not go out in pajamas and bedroom slippers. Always present yourself at your best. BTW, I love your channel and just found you a few days ago and subscribed immediately. You are such a lovely lady. Love your sense of humor.
Thank you so much
I totally agree. Years ago when we as a people were allowed to vote....some went to the polls dressed in their Sunday best. I know times change, but self respect never gets old.
Amen!
I definitely doesn't!
Well said Madam,,, self respect is never out of fashion
Powerful, Angela. In this contentious society, young people often see advice as judgement and criticism. We are all judged by our appearance - just look at the $$$ made by cosmetic and plastic surgery companies!
So true!
Please do more of these!!! There are very few of you on RUclips really giving these grounded opinions. Fumi Desalu Vold is another RUclipsr that’s in her 50s, she does Sister-to-Sister. Actually I think you all would be good friends …you both eat healthy, workout and love to be fabulous! 😉
I love Fumi! She is gorgeous and her beautiful smile and laugh! Her channel is a blessing like Angelas. 😊
Yes, I've seen her channel. She's beautiful and I also think she and I would get along wonderfully
@@AngelaMashelle yes a collab with her would be received well I think.
PREACH! I’m of your generation too and was raised with the house clothes/going out clothes mantra as well. Honestly, there’s a way you can dress and be confortable and cute while travelling that doesn’t need to include pyjamas, slippers and bonnets 🤦🏾♀️. I get that young folks feel they should wear whatever the heck they want, but unfortunately, esp as black women, we’re judged extra harshly for how we present ourselves. What Monique said was completely coming from a place of love. It’s so disheartening to see our young ladies drag her and those who share her pt of view on this for filth. You presented Monique’s msg that is perhaps more “palatable” than her delivery lol. I hope young folks will be more receptive to what you’ve said! 👍🏾
Absolutely Positively Agreed l ❤️ Just How Angela Phrased It Also. And lt ls So “True”. No One Likes To Be Criticized, Judged, Or Corrected. But Sometimes lt ls For OUR Best. Some Young People Just Feel & Act Like They Are So “Entitled “ But The World Will Show & Tell YOU Different “.
I was raised with you always wear your best clothes for church, and then they became clothes for dress or special occasions, and those become school clothes later, and then everyday/play clothes until you either grew out of them or couldn’t be fixed anymore, and then they were cut up for the rag bag. But new clothes were always for church first.
I pray so.
The best part of this was, "DRESS the way you want to be ADDRESSED"! The way you dress determines what you attract. I am from that generation that had clothes for going out and those that were for HOME only! You may not be a 10 everytime you leave home but at least register on the scale.
When I was young, I always simply listened to advice. I didn't always take people's advice or agree with it, but I listened and kept it moving. My grandmother instilled in me how to dress for certain occasions and I still find myself doing those things. I'm 40 and a couple years ago we found ourselves attending several funerals. I was taken aback by the way people showed up. I looked at my husband and was like when did people start dresses like this to funerals. I agree with everything you said and received your message.
This was so good, and a much needed video. As a formerly abused wife, I am very sensitive to young ladies that may be struggling in unhealthy relationship. I pray that we (mature ladies) can help our downline lovingly with their appearance and their emotional and spiritual development.
This was very uplifting and glad to see it. Bless you.🙏🏽
Thank you so much for your feedback.💕
Angela, this is so timely and needed. I am 69 year old woman of color who is a retired educator (teacher and administrator - elementary, high school, principal, university professor and vice president at a university). Our generation was taught to respect ourselves and one another, thus the reason to have play clothes, school clothes and church clothes. It is unfortunate that our young ladies will leave the house without much thought of their appearance. We are to look our best. Regarding no more secrets - I was in a toxic and abusive relationship in my 20s and was embarrassed. It took me a while, but I had to speak up and get out of the relationship. I KNOW there are many young ladies (and some older ones) who need this message. I pray they will be receptive. By the way, my husband and I will celebrate 45 years of marriage this Saturday. As an interracial couple from the 70s (who many didn't think would endure).....we're stronger than ever because God remains the center of our life (lives). Monique and you are telling the truth!
Hi Toni, thank you so much for sharing. Congratulations on your marriage anniversary. We've only been married 3.5 years, but God is first and foremost in ours lives as well. I look forward to your feedback and thank you for it. have a blessed day
I totally agree with you. I will be 60 tomorrow and my mom told me how to present myself when I was eight, everything from proper undergarment to going outside. I think a lot of people miss it whether male or female when it comes to receiving advice. If they don't like the messenger, they will totally disregard it whether that person is giving great advice or not. Sometimes, God uses people you don't like or care for so when you dismiss it, you also dismiss what could have been a blessing to or for you. Also, as stated, tact is necessary and I agree with I think you said, Monroe. Dress how you want to be addressed. Definitely words of wisdom.
I see a change in our beautiful black sisters. Because we as older and season sisters we can continue to love them and teach. Your words are so spot on so much good information. This is all good.
Hi Angela, The title says it all. Thanks for sharing your heart and your story. Your heart of love is very evident!! I trust God this video will help someone in need reach out for a listening ear. BTW - I am 65 and I remember the days of school clothes, church clothes, play clothes, work clothes. I was taught that when I leave the house I must always be presentable.
This was a great video and much-needed. Your delivery was perfect. Sometimes the truth hurt. I totally agreed with Monique. As a black female it hurts me to hear black men degrade us so for that alone I feel we should always try and look our best. I even try and dress decent.
Thank you for always watchin and giving me your feedback. It makes me happy to know that I'm having a positive impact on the young ladies that will be running this world one day.
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I love your hair . You should have it like that more often !!! You look great in your shorts ! You should also wear them more often!
Great advice Ms Angella. As a younger woman, I tend to be a little stubborn but I will listen to good advice.🇯🇲🙏🏽
Proud of you sweetheart. 😃
Totally agree! Growing up, I had a whole tribe of family members, church mothers and neighbors making sure my sisters and I were dress appropriately at all times!
Thank you for dealing with these topics!
Well said sister!! I’m 50+ and never know when opportunities are coming around the corner. An older woman told me to watch how I talk to my husband when I was younger...30 yrs later married to same man, I’m forever grateful for Sis Jones advice!! Listen my young sisters💕
The younger generation do not want to hear what older women have to say…..and the generation coming up behind them will be worse. Sad to say it. I pray for them.🙏🏾
I think some young WOC are so easily influenced especially by social media. If some famous celebrity like Cardi or Beyonce was against the bonnet and PJ's, the message may have been received differently. I'm glad someone told the truth. The bonnet is not cute....
@@treetoptreetop2730 now you just said a sermon . Now I think about, you’re absolutely right.
Speak for yourself. I am open and receptive to what she's sharing. Please do not speak on the behalf of a generation you're not apart of.
@@speakintothemicb I don’t mean every last person in that generation…..and I wasn’t disrespectful. But considering that I
have 30 years experience working with that generation, I would know something of the generation you think I don’t know about. (….And raised.)….God bless you.. I’m glad you’re open.
I still can’t wear my outside clothes when I’m inside. 😂 This generation was not raised. It’s sad that our elders are disrespected and dismissed. It should not matter what we wear outside our door, but in the world we live in it does matter. Thank you for sharing this video. 💕🙏🏽
I think this was a very compassionate video! We do need each other! Because we are our sisters keeper . Thank you so much for caring enough to have a candid conversation about the topics you’ve touched on. God Bless you and keep up the good work🙏🏽❤️😘
Absolutely!!
I’m from your generation raised inside a 2 parent household along with aunties, uncles and neighborhood elders who kept us accountable.
The fact these girls want to advocate to showcase low class but demand utmost respect is lunacy.
There is a such thing as external confidence that will influence people’s opinion of you before you say one word.
Hopefully these girls will wise up and take heed to aunties advice.
Beautiful message. I'm glad you went forward with message, someone needed to hear this. People may not want the hear the truth but we all know , "The truth will set you free". Young people need to understand that constructive criticism, let me repeat constructive criticism is a must in life. Thank you for using your platform and being the messenger today.💗
Thank you for watching!
Totally agree with what you said. Social control was standard when I was growing up even in my teen years ☝🏽nowadays you can not talk or tell young people what to do any more( except your children, my child. I will never stop correcting my child.) When yo Respect your self people will always Respect you. Thank you for sharing!
Those after school clothes were called play clothes in our house. 😆
in mine too!
Monique's message deeply resonated with me and so does yours. Standards have become so relaxed in many areas that we many of our young people have a hard time accepting discipline. Dressing appropriate for the occasion is one of the rule I was taught as a child. This means that no matter how fancy a sleepwear is designed, it is an attire for going to bed and not suitable for the street. Your suggestion for elders to voluntarily offer themselves as mentor to young women in their circles is truly wonderful. Every young girl may not embrace the opportunity but it can be the beacon of light for the ones that do. And, guidance in regards to appropriate attire can be included.
Although I am fairly new to your channel, I so enjoy your videos. Keep them coming!
That was excellent. In the Bible Mary had Elizabeth, Ruth had Naomi and Titus 2:4 gives us pointers as well. Jesus had 12 and 3. I now have you ;-)
Thank you! This needs to be said and supported.
Well said!!! My mama wouldn't let me go from one grandma's house to the other (about 1/2 mile) with rollers on. When you look good it even makes you feel good. You stand a little straighter. Much love Angela
Hello Angela and the women on this page, I truly Thank all of you for putting it out there for these young ladies to hear. I have a few years before I am 60 and I feel good. I have NO Problem talking to our young ladies today. I, like the rest of you do not have time to sugar coat anything. I have been down the road where abuse came in, I've heard the young men saying nasty things to the ladies (as it is base on the way they are dress). As it is painful to know that some have not been taught to reflect respect toward themselves. As Walking by Faith has said under the comments Respect, Dignity, Morals, Values, Self Worth is so important but remember have some compassion as their is someone that is watching you. Needless to say, we don't need that young girl to think that this is the way to reflect ourselves out in the world (cursing, showing to much skin all the poor things you can think of). Angela and the rest of you beautiful ladies, thank you for being able to talk about this topic on this platform and provide this to our young ladies today. As this is sooooooo needed. 😊
A lot of this generation is nasty in attitude, spirit, and energy. I cannot with any of them. I'm 42 and I can't relate to this feeling of an older person correcting you with grace as a cause for attitude. Smh
Don't be like that. Have grace for them as they may not see the error in their ways right now. Your generation was probably hot in their 20s as well
When I was a young woman I treated older women with respect and valued their wisdom and insight. I expect to be treated that way now by young women alas manners politeness and respect are not common as it once was. Amongst today's young.
Well said. Words of wisdom for everyone, young and “mature”.
My safe places were Ms Dorothy and Ms Alice. I could talk to these two friends of my Mothers about everything. From books to relationships, clothes, working and school.
On point as always! I wish I had someone to guide me when I was a young woman. I struggle with regret now in my 40s. Keep up the excellence in everything you do on your channel. 💗
Think of it this way.... you are human and have and will continue to make mistakes. The goal is to learn from those mistakes and not to make them again. DO NOT beat yourself up over doing what every other person has every done. Forgive yourself and move on. Your future deserves it!
Thank you so much for addressing this.. You made so many great points… Don’t let your feelings about the messenger cloud the message👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The bottom line is that appearance does matter…
Well said!
Am 57 & I concur with you and Monique she was very sweet in her delivery. As you.
Awesome video girl! I'm 60 and I have 5 Granddaughters in their 20s and I always taught them how to represent themselves when going out in the streets, and not one them go anywhere looking or wearing anything that doesn't represent who they really are.
Angela, I completely agree with everything you said!!! 100%. I also feel you should look your best whenever possible and take pride in your image. Creating a Sisterhood is essential.
Point on Angela POINT ON!
Raised in the south we had a lot of that taping on the shoulders from non relatives who truly had our best interest at heart! For that I will forever be greatful and THANKFUL!
Monique was right periodt. I am 62 and when I was growing up, like you said, there were school clothes, house clothes and church clothes. School clothes came off at 3:05 and house clothes were put on. When you stepped outside your front door, you were clean, pressed, hair done, and you looked presentable. We were taught to take pride in ourselves, and our appearance and that we were a representative of the family. The younger generation, needs to hear, and realize that they don't know everything, they can't, they haven't lived long enough. Monique was very nice in her delivery about inappropriate attire. Finally I love karenbritchick. Hopefully your video was taken in the spirit it was given.
I like the coaching on how to talk to younger ladies. I am approaching 45 and do not have children. I remember as a young lady not having anyone to talk to with life challenges because the women in my family were (and still are) not good confidants, bad examples, and quickly pass judgement. It would have been wonderful and appreciated if an older woman who could see me going through what I was going through in my younger years to offer genuine concern and help, but they did not. Many "aunties" are failing to realize that many young ladies are not getting the guidance that they need from their own family and are much quicker to judge than help. I am also seeing many women 45+ than are just as sloppy in their appearance (and they should know better). I do think the village concept needs to be revamped. I appreciate this video giving me insight on how I can help younger ladies because it is needed. Someone must be a good example for young ladies, and it needs to be reflected in words and actions.
This is sound advice. I’m glad I’m a part of your RUclips family💕
I'm so glad!
Hi Angela. Yes, Yes. I enjoyed the video. It reminded me to let our young women know that there is a safe place. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your perspective, on your take of the Bonnets. I totally agree with you, and it was very well stated. I Love Love your Videos.. Have a Super Bless Day..
Angela I agree with you when it comes to the way we dress.
Thank u so much Angela this was so thought provoking I'm in my 60 n this really hit home. I had an older woman teach me when I was 14 she never knew how much she influenced me. She taught me how to be excepting of different cultures n taught me how to be a proud black young lady n to respect myself. I love this lady n I will never forget her for her act of kindness when I needed it most so elders do have wisdom if u open your mind n your heart to listen to.♥♥♥♥
love the village concept. we do need that
Excellent video! Perfectly said!💜💜💜 Love your channel!💜💜💜
Wonderful talk advice for the young ladies much needed and appreciated done with love.❤
I’m 45 and I agree with you 100% on EVERYTHING you said in this video! Please continue to share your perspective on topics like these ❤️❤️
Thank you! Will do!
The "Village" part of your talk definitely resonated with me. I have a circle of sister friends that I would not trade for anything!
Mine are amazing too!
I think you should start a “Angela’s thoughts Thursday’s” where you just talk about your week and your thoughts. I watch you for your fashion but I loved this video! I appreciate the intelligent conversation !
Thank you so much.
Loved!!! And you’re exactly right, we all need someone to talk to or someone to just listen. We all need someone to provide us with constructive advice as well! Loving your content and realness! So relatable ❤️
Yes we do
Well said…period! I totally agree with your advice. 99% of success is based on preparation to meet that 1% of opportunity.
Great video! I agree with you whole heartedly. I just hope that we can soon have a society in which we can have these kinds of conversations and people can agree or disagree but respectfully without attacking.
I hope so too!
❤❤ love your channel, so glad I found it.
Thank you so much for another BANGER!!! I appreciate you Sis always informative and classy. You look super pretty as Always! ☺
Awww thank you Vetta
Sho u right babe girl 😘 enjoy your opinion continue to educate our people our ladies thank you my sister
I agree with what you've said, 100 percent. I try to teach this message to my sons, ages 20, 23, and 30. People DO judge! Young people and older folks: take pride in the way you present yourself to the world! (I'm turning the page to age 60 this year)
As usual your videos never disappoint. Thank you for sharing your story, it reminded me of how important sisterhood is.
Couldn’t agree with you more on both subjects! Thank you for using your platform to educate us. Unfortunately a lot of great values have been going down the drain and it’s about time we get back up! So Thank you Angela!🙏🏾🙌🏾👌🏾
I love your message. It was heartfelt and not judgmental. 🥰 I am 40 and for some reason, I felt like we were being so harsh on these young ladies.
Just imagine being reprimand by someone who has never shown you LOVE! Why would they listen to us? We haven’t even shown we care about these women. But I totally agree with your message!
Some of the comments I am reading here, geesh! I would stay far away from these “aunties” myself and I am grown! We have to do better.
Hi Angela. I appreciate the way you handled this conversation. I am a woman in my mid 30's and maybe I was raised old school but I can relate to school clothes vs. play clothes. Honestly, I agree with Monique. I was taught the way you step out of your home is a reflection of you, your family and your mental state. To this day, I dare not go out the house with a bonnet and pajamas on. Also, I appreciate you addressing the importance of having a go-to person. So many people may feel ashamed and disconnected when going through difficult situations. Just simply saying "hey I'm here should you ever need me" is huge for someone who may feel alone or just need a ear.
This message is so wonderful. I unintentionally judge (especially when I’m at Walmart). Thank you!
The ability to be a good listener is a skill & gift within itself! 👍🏾
That is a fact, and not just to listen, but to listen with the goal of understanding the other person's perspective
Yesss ma'am you speak value with your style. When you walk in a room your appearance speaks yes casual is nice but Pj are for home
Exactly!!
I too remember school, play and church clothes. And I appreciated those helpful nuggets of wisdom I got from the more seasoned women in my life. I've always appreciated sitting at the feet of wisdom.
How you spoke on this subject was with wisdom and helpfulness. You told the truth in love.
It's such an important topic, because this is a part/form of "self-care."
God bless you! Thank you for being so vulnerable and using your channel to share this positive message.
You are so welcome
I really enjoyed this side of you. Knowledge… sisterhood..
I would really enjoy if you could possibly make it a series every so often talking about women issues & struggles.. life advice bc this was awesome 👏🏾
Great message 🙏🙏🙏 well delivered and received. I am in my 50s and was taught our mother who gave birth to 8 beautiful daughters, she would say to us" don't leave this house looking anyhow you don't know who you will.meet." We all ensured that our hair was well combed,( natural) clothes properly ironed and clean shoes, whether all were hand-me-down or new which was seldom. We were all taught to dress properly and respect the views of our elders. So thanks alot for your kind words of wisdom and encouragement, I pray that this generation use it well.
I'm from the younger generation and I agree with you AND Monique 100%. And I understood her the 1st time.
Your message is a voice of REASON!
People can be very judgmental and most people don’t want to be judged! Having conversations with people requires a lot of trust.. I love the idea of having a village. Great video Angela...
I don't know what I'd do without my village. I love them so much and they've held my hand through so many of my ups and downs
Clicked the like immediately just because you look so cute in that outfit! We're around the same age and I love your style!
And now that I have watched, let me just say that I appreciate the way you presented this message. Look beyond the person sending the message and listen for the wisdom within the message. We don't have to agree, but glean what we can from those further along than we are. No matter how old we are (and I'm in my forties), there's someone further along who has been there and done that. I wish I had listened to some of that advice when I was in my 20s and 30s. I could've saved myself some heartache! I'm listening now lol!
Yay! Thank you!
Me too!
May God bless you for speaking from the heart. Your words accompanied by Psalm 23 were what my heart and soul needed. Thank you you so so much!
Wonderful!
This video was needed. Thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you, this one really resonated with me. We really need conversations like this. 😇❤️🌞
That's it...You never know when an opportunity is about to present itself. This was very informative.
Thanks for sharing sis, I agree a 100%
Thanks for watching
This video validates what I told my 23 yr old daughter last night. Not about looking presentable outside but about taking advice. Listen because we have been through the same situations. You always need someone to talk to or it will eat you up from the inside out. Find someone to chat with. And Mrs. Angela this relates to style also. You can't cover up a dirty body with a clean shirt!
Well said!
Very well stated Angela. I totally agree. Listen to the message and to not get hung up on the person presenting the message. As long as the message is delivered in a loving place, take heed to it. That message may bless you.
Angela I LOVED the way you said your message. I am 40 years old and agree with what you said 100%. We did in fact grow up in a different generation where our parents taught us to care about our appearance. Even IF as ladies we don't want to mess up our hair on the plane place a scarf on your head once you get ON the plane and are about to lay back. You can be comfortable in alot of clothes other then PJ's young ladies. Their is a time and place for everything including clothing. Yes we all wish the world wasn't judgmental, but truth to the matter is: we ALL are consciously or subconsciously.