i’ve been trying to be something/someone I’m not… finally coming clean about everything
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- Isimeme Edeko opens up about mental health and suffering from imposter syndrome.
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Honestly ISI I think everybody is feeling like this wether they want to admit it or not. I feel like ever since the pandemic life just been weird af. The energy, the vibes of the whole planet is just so sad and dark & sometimes it can be hard to stay afloat. I think We’re all in a state of grieving the life we once had before. I think I’m just now starting to navigate through this “new life.”
This is EXACTLY how I feel. I feel like I have no clear purpose and I'm just going through the motions every day
Wow you really hit the nail on head. I have been experiencing the same feelings.
You are correct. Especially at grieving the life we once had. On top of that we've all spent time seeing how others live and it makes us question where we are in life. Now that we are "going back to normal" it's hard trying to get back to a regular routine. Covid showed people that the rug can get pulled from under you at anytime and it made younger people less excited about life bc we think more about financial security and self-reliance,. But hey, we had many recessions and world issues before that we power though so we'll be alright!
You worded this soooooo perfectly! like this is EXAXTLY how Ive been feeling.Sending love & good vibes to all.We are going to get through this sheeit lol
@@TenaeMichelle YES WE WILL 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Everyone has to change and evolve. Don't mind what people say. They not on camera exposing themselves, instead hiding behind comments and not evolving with you. It's just entertainment for them
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Couldn’t have said it better. Wishing her nothing but happiness and peace 💛
Exactly!!!
But then again, some people may actually be on camera, etc. Can't assume it's all just keyboard bums.
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Today, I was reflecting and realized that I have been so stressed because I’m operating from worldly things and what society deems as best, but I need to start living my life from my soul, which is connected to God. I feel like I’m going through something similar to you in this season.
THIS COMMENT IS EVERYTHING! This is toooo relatable, it’s almost as if I wanna disconnect myself from the imaginary expectations of the world 😩
Amen 👏🏾 Keep that wisdom forever
I found that when I took a social media cleanse/break, I was able to really connect with God ( I started the break a week ago and plan to go for a bit). I listen to sermons more and have been spending time developing my self. Social media was the one really draining me because I found that I procrastinated less and have more time.
@@willydumervil6308 So true. I've been wanting to take a long social media break but it's a bit difficult for me because I'm a small skin care business owner and y'all know IG is where it's at when it come on to marketing. Sigh
Beautifully said.
This video made me cry. I'm here at 2am in london feeling so miserable because I'm trying to live life to make others happy and they're never satisfied.
You will never please everyone, our main goal is to please God. God understands that we are still figuring life out , and we have to depend on Him for wisdom and acceptance!!
Put you first suga! I know it’s earlier said than done but you can’t please everyone!! CHOOSE YOU! CHOOSE PEACE CHOOSE HAPPINESS. Sending love from Chicago ❤️❤️ If you need to vent or anything I’m here with you and for you!!
Snap also on London but 1 hour later. Why am I up?
Thank you ladies. I dunno why people love to rip others appart and bring them even lower than they already are. People are wicked
Do what literally makes you feel good. Brings joy to your heart and be confident and content with not pleasing others. You’re living your life not others. Keep your head up…you got this!
Just a reflective question I’m asking as someone that has watched for a long time and loves your channel … do you think that you’re limiting yourself ? There’s more to life than social media and being a RUclipsr. It sounds like you’re true purpose/passion isn’t just being a RUclipsr. Find your why. Find your purpose. And being a RUclipsr can be part of it, but it doesn’t have to be all of it. 💕
You are right....I was feeling the same way listening to her.
Yeah I feel like RUclipsrs feel so guilty making career changes. People usually don’t stay at the same job for more than a decade
I was thinking the same thing. If I had a degree I’d try to get a job in the real world bc social media full time sounds like hell 😩
I think so too. I think RUclips is a platform for something greater. I think God may be making her uncomfortable and preparing her to step into something a bit larger and less superficial. I think that she could leverage her audience, education, and content creation skills in another way.
I was thinking that too maybe she should try something completely different it’s cool she has a degree so she shouldn’t feel stuck but she has so many possibilities
Girl, I’m 37 and still trying to figure it out. I come from an era and family that didn’t give you the tools for success. So now here I am pushing 40 just now getting it together and fixing my previous fuck ups🤦🏾♀️. But I definitely empathize with you. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel…but no one said it would be easy. Stay strong Queen.
& you stay strong queen 👑
I’m right there with you sis at 38. Stay strong and stay royal!
Okay it's still get rough in your 30s
I highly agree, I’m 29 and literally trying to figure everything out. when I say Everything, I mean everything . Keep Pushing Queens we’ve got this❤️
Girl, it is quite alright to evolve! I’m 37 with a husband and two whole kids. So I get all of what you were saying. You can not stay in the mindset of a 21 year old and those who are expecting you to can politely and quietly unsubscribe! You are entitled to grow and be human unapologetically.
And BTW, I’m here for the fitness content so whenever you’re ready to crank that out I’ll be watching!
Just be your self, I got booed off stage in 2011, I lost too family members before the week of my graduation. It still traumatizes me but when I got with my fiancé he told me to just be myself and I’m still learning who that part of me is
Girl who booed you off stage the audacity 😒
@@Grace-pv9in everybody that was graduating with me at graduation
i'm so sorry to hear that girl
@@laearth0330 that's so low I can smell their jealousy after all this time ⏲️ 😅
@@Grace-pv9in yeah they were all fake
your transparency and honesty is so inspiring
Agreed 💛
Me tooo😁💛🙏🏿
This is so true
During this last year I had to stop being so active on social media and completely stopped posting RUclips videos because it wasn’t fulfilling me, if was actually hindering me. I compare myself to others a lot and coming on social media and seeing all of the lavish life and glam made me feel less than. I had to take a step back and figure out what truly makes me happy which is being more present in life rather than on social media. 💕 always do what’s best for you.
Take a solo trip away from everything. Sometimes we get lost and we just need time to find ourselves again. Take care of Isi first. Also don't ever be afraid to cry, it's our way of asking others for care. I wish you the very best.
With respect to Josh and ISI the brand it’s not that we don’t understand or respect your decision. However, given your general audience the majority of us are probably in our early-mid 20s trying to hustle same as you but we’ve been supporting from day ONE but might not necessarily be able to transition to this paid platform at all or right away and that’s totally okay. So, I understand why some would feel hurt that we’ve followed so long on this journey with you guys and aren’t able to basically experience this big step or big DAY with you in FULL. Love same way and we appreciate your authenticity in this video, we’re all going through growing pains and that’s totally okay. Give yourself grace 🫶🏾 we all here to make mistakes and grow. Keep showing up in the ways that YOU CAN because you never know who you’re helping and the impact you’re leaving. 🙏🏾
This was well written. Both feelings should be able to co-exist. How can we grow as beings without allowing the space for others to feel, as well. It appears that a decent percentage of the audience is saying the same thing. This social media space can be weird and looks uncomfortable sometimes, so more power to them for riding with it and continuing to be impactful, especially because the audience only sees what they allow. Let’s also acknowledge that at the end of the day, it is a business. It may start off as solely inspirational or passionate but it’s also understandable that this is their livelihood and a source of income.
Life is a constant learning curve, particularly in the times we are living in today. Everyone’s trying to figure it out. We adapt and overcome as we go. We can all use more grace.
Very well said
agree
Well said!
Isi… I have to be transparent. I was definitely one of those people who felt slighted by y’all’s move to Patreon, but unlike most people on the internet, I am not a troll and I always try to remember that there’s a person on the other side. So, I chose to fall back and think and decide whether I wanted to pay or not. While I can’t afford it now, I DO plan to pay in the future. I had to realize that I wasn’t mad at y’all, I was mad that I no longer had access to yall. While I don’t fully understand the decision because I am not yall nor am I in your situation, I’m still going to support where and when I can because I love you both like family. I say all this to say, some people lack compassion and empathy and they’re saying hurtful things because they are either a) broke or b) mad that they no longer have access to yall. Much love from a beaute gang member and beaute & beau supporter from the beginning of both channels. Keep grinding and I’ll be praying for you!♥️♥️♥️
Yea I was sad more cause I couldn't afford that rn , and I really wanted to ride that journey with them . really mad at RUclips. But, when I finally get over my unemploymentness , im def paying for it.
This!!!
I agree too. I really can’t afford it right now, but I was actually thinking about getting it anyway bc I love their content so much. They are truly my favorite RUclipsrs
@@bbbryne893 same 😭 i miss them dearly I’m so glad she posts here
@@bbbryne893 Im planning on binging all their videos for a month and just paying for 1 month
I'm in South Africa and I don't think I would have known what it feels like to truly fall in love with myself had it been for you and your content. You do it for me girlfriend, much love 😘
Amen to that! Isi helped me to really embrace my type 4 natural hair and all that comes with being a black woman👏🏿
SA clock in! Isi's content gave me a sound mind and really applies that pressure on myself to remember not to settle. Maintain the grind and maintain the chase, of one's dreams and being the highest version of one's self 🌻. I love and appreciate your transparency always Isi and watching you become such a phenomenal catalyst of change in so many people's lives - sensational🙌🏾😍❤️you're doing better than you think you are, can't wait for the come back! ❤️❤️❤️
I feel you, and it is understandable. I am 21 and haven’t even get my credit card out, no license literally nothing, feel so stuck in life. But be yourself it sounds easy but is not just keep trying finding yourself
I’m in the same boat! Isi being so authentic with her struggles really spoke to me. I’m turning 21 this year and even before I turned 18 I felt/feel soo behind. Now I’m trying to learn not to compare the pace of my life to others. Growing up is tough but we got this 💜
Dude I’m 49 and don’t know how to try . But this year I’ll prove to my parents that I can be a big boy !
If it helps, I didn’t get my license until I was 25. And my first credit card until I was 26. I’m 27 now. Things are starting to make a bit more sense but I’m still figuring out what I actually want out of life. You’ll be fine ❤️
You’ll be fine. I didn’t get my first credit card until my 30s. What worked for me was making short term and long term goals, writing them down, and sticking with them as closely as possible.
Hey lol coming from
Someone whose been there I started driving at 25 got my car and license at 25. I got my first car last October. A 2020 year as well. Be patient with yourself I waited till I felt like I was ready.
I can totally relate to this video. Although I’m not an influencer, there is this constant pressure from the social media world that makes you believe you’re not doing enough or you’re not living up to a certain standard. But when you finally start to live like that, it causes you to slowly lose your way because you’re trying to be “that girl” or “material girl” just to adapt to that lifestyle… and it can make you feel inferior and make you constantly beat down on your self because it’s almost as if you will do anything just to fit in. We need to take back control of our lives and stop allowing external factors to dictate how we live it. This “that girl” life is not for everyone (and I’m not saying you don’t deserve good things in life) but make sure whatever you’re doing, the driving force behind it brings out the authenticity in you. ❤️
THISSSS!!!! ain’t nun wrong with being yourself, basic, and HAPPY than constantly in competition with the next girl about having more expensive things and drowning in meaningless vanity that i feel FORCED to care about anyways
You hear the phrase "chasing the bag". They're getting soulless chasing the bag. It will overwhelm you. I'm not chasing no money and I'll live within my means. I don't need all this material stuff. It does nothing for my soul.
The empty feeling is because focusing on social media is forgetting GOD'S purposes for U. Blessings, prayers and love
I just had a talk with my bestie last week and she said the exact same thing “forgetting God’s purposes for me “ and me not trusting God 100%.
That is so true...speaking from experience
Yes 🙌🏽
Amen 🙏 we all have to Stay focus on God and not forget are first love
Your authenticity is why we keep coming back. Just document…we’ll be down for the journey 💕
It’s okay Isi , there’s a season for everything and you shouldn’t feel bad about transitioning into a different season. It’s your life, live it authentically. You’ve done an amazing job with your RUclips platform, if it’s no longer serving you it just isn’t. Mental health comes first
This is so true and I feel like it’s all hitting me at once so fast and I wasn’t ready for it on top of trying to figure out my mental health more
I totally agree.This season of our lives we are evolving into our AUTHENTIC SELF...
I am a few minutes into your video, and I can definitely AGREE that living in your 20s is not easy 😭! There is so much social pressure and it’s so easy to get trapped in the matrix. Just remember, none of us are perfect. We have to figure things out along the way. It’s so VITAL to forgive ourselves and give ourselves grace. You got this girl 🙌🏾!
Whenever I feel down about myself and life, I binge Isi/Josh/Isi & Josh videos. This came at the perfect time 💕
Same. Hope you’re doing okay 💛
Same
Not “a lot” there’s NO ONE like Josh & Isi. Nobody’s doing it like y’all doing it. Some people (especially the haters) don’t deserve y’all. Y’all content should ABSOLUTELY NOT be free. Even the amount it is on patreon. You guys are VALUABLE. Know your worth AND ADD TAX. I don’t care how much it is , I’m gonna always support y’all . Y’all are my favs forever and y’all inspire so many people . Those who get it , get it. Those who doesn’t , don’t. 🤷🏾♀️ & if the purpose was to “fund y’all lifestyle” it certainly would be a lot more . Bye.
Say it louder sis‼️
“Facts”💯
Say it again for the people in the back! People acting like Josh and Isi owe us their lives🤦🏿♀️
Yesss sis!🔥🔥
YES!! I saw a comment in the “save the date” vid saying it feels like ISI is “milking” her audience for money and I’m like WHAT!! They don’t owe us SHIT and have given us SO much free entertainment. People are getting too entitled nowadays
The mask is symbolic to the mask you been wearing unseen. The tears showed the cracks that’s we couldn’t see.
You are right we as viewers we can dehumanizing the person behind the screen. Becoming entitled and selfish and feel as if you owe us. ( When you surround your self with social media constantly in your phone you get trapped in this space and your perception to reality change) when boundaries or step backs are created anger and disrespect is gave and I’m truly sorry for all that you had to deal with, sorry that we forget you hurt like we hurt, you bleed like we bleed, etc..… I’m happy that you and Josh as doing what y’all need to do for your mental, your sanity, and y’all’s livelyhood. You can not perform if you are not here, if your not healthy, happy etc. You are not worth the risk for the wants of others( something I tell myself often). Thank you for sharing this intimate moment with us.
Also the time we live in is crazy and just a world I don’t care to show up in or be apart of. I’m content being on the back burner I’m content being “ rare”.
You attract genuine rare people.
Your perfectionist ways are hindering you. Your not alone a lot of people watching are going through or feeling the same way you feel. Be yourself be transparent we support you! If your counting rice piece by piece I’m gonna watch lol.
I relate to feeling insecure around flashy people. I come from Walmart shoes and noodles so coming into a new life , a new place where that is very prevalent and important in todays society is a cultural shock
BRO IM LITERALLY CRYING. I’m fresh outta highschool with tons of talents and interest but it’s overwhelming and idk which direction to go in . I do art and makeup well and I’m a good writer etc but I can’t make a decision to save my life . I everyone else is going to college and I’m stuck . I hope I can figure it out soon . I love you sm and I relate alot -18:30
Try your hands at everything u do well and see which brings u the most passion and go from there best of luck🥰
Same with me just graduate high school just pray to God and just give it all to him
I feel exactly the same 😫. Sometimes I feel like a failure like I'm not doing anything with my life, because I want to do everything. Watching all my peers go to school and live their lives and have jobs and stuff just feels awful.
As a Virgo, I suggest u take sometime to focus on what the "new you" looks like and embrace her. Everytime I hear u speak on being a wedding planner, you light up! Because you're a vigo, EVERYTHING you put your hands on, you take pride in- & usually comes out fire! Planning is what fuels u, right? focus on decorating, wedding planning for clients ect and bring us along! What's for you, is for you & what's not...their loss! God got you...believe in yourself a little more 🤎
As another Virgo I needed to hear this ✨ this is a huge time for Virgos & transformation! It's time for us to show up for ourselves and do better for US. Staying focused on the long term will get us to where we need to be a lot sooner! Thank you for your message, it definitely motivated me!
She could even turn that into a RUclips venture if she wanted to. Take us with her along the planning processes. That way she’s doing both things that she loves
Isi I really think seeing a therapist can help a lot with your personal growth. And I also think, as you find yourself, you should set a goal for yourself that is just about you not about your relationship, marriage, labels, roles etc… just something you want in life for you. And document your journey and life as you live it.
I agree! I’m working on that right now. Something just for ME 💛
Omg my heart, I feel you so much on just this topic period. I’m only 19 but I’m a over-thinker and appreciate fellow over-thinkers like yourself sharing something so personal . It helps me not feel so alone about these growing pains
me too sis...
1. As a 27 year old chocolate black woman I relate to this on so many levels. With everything going on in the world right now as well as in my personal life, I'm in a state of where I feel stuck and not truly like my full productive self because I'm so overwhelmed. I have this great job and still feel like I can't fully show up like I want to. Regardless of what your career is, you definitely feel the weight of today. I appreciate you giving what you give because it helps more than you know.
2. For the people who actually fuck with y'all for who y'all are and not just wanting to take take take, they understand the move to Patreon and support you 100%. It was a very good move and Patreon definitely feels more like a family.
3. These vent sessions are definitely therapy. It's nice to be vulnerable and talk about things that most of us aren't saying out loud. This kind of content as well as Josh & Isi is like you said, rare. But it's very important.
4. Girl a low pony with 4C hair is whole arm work out in itself especially trying to smooth it out so watching you do it was HELLA relatable 😂.
I love you Isi. You truly are my beat friend in my head. You got an OG here for life sis ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I would love a “Finding myself” series from you!
Girl, let them tears out! We all going through life on our own paths it’s okay Isi. We love and appreciate you!!! 💗💗💗💗🌸
I love how open and honest you can be about something so relatable. It truly makes us appreciate you more. Just know we love you just the way you are 💛
Yasssss because you don’t get a lot of content creators that will allow us in like this
Hey Isi you’re not lazy for doing a lot of self care content. It’s something you enjoy so keep enjoying it ok without letting other peoples comments get to you. You are such an amazing human being and don’t let anyone in your comments affect you negatively. Easier said than done I know 😅
Thank you for making this video. Hopefully more people will be understanding and will appreciate the things you do all the more.
Mental health is really important so continue to nurture, protect and grow it 🤎
ISI I love the “old you” the “lost in the sauce” isi and the isi you are now 🥹 I know you’re just figuring life out and we are all doing the same thing you are brave to do it on camera ! and girl you do NOT owe anyone an explanation or apology . You’re the realest on any platform EVER !!!! just do what makes you happy boo!! That’s when you shine the most ✨💫 I love any and all the content you provide !!
I would love a getting in shape for the wedding series. I feel like it would open up another avenue for you to come back stronger and better than ever. Take your time! Everyone should allow themselves the space to grow. Life has been messy lately, so we’re all a little scattered. You’re just on camera, so people can see it. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You just have to keep going to see it. ❤️❤️❤️
Im crying because EVERYTHING you said im going though. I understand why you switched platforms, I would've. Mental health is first out of everything. If your brain is sick how are you going to function? I really appreciate this video, i appreciate you being real and raw with us. It means so fucking much to me ❤️
And plus we as human change all of the time. We will never stay the same. Growth is elevation. ❤️
I knew this what happening. I keep watching and supporting. We appreciate your explanation but in reality if your bills are paid You don’t owe us a damn thing. 👏🏾❤️
i’m 24 and am going through this right now, months and years of being a disconnected version of myself now trying to “heal my inner child” and remember that NOW you’re safe. It’s always great to hear your self reflection, and I cannot imagine the pressure that comes with this lifestyle as well as it being your JOB. Be gracious to yourself, we love you soooo much. Your journey is just as important as the destination💗💗💗💗
Most of the real RUclipsrs actually the majority of y’all have said the same thing and we appreciate how real you are! You’ve shown me so much and how to do things a different way that works for me! I’ve learned a lot from you….I don’t think you should ever compare yourself to these other RUclipsrs your unique and we love you the way you are!
But....we like your self care/hygiene haul videos! They're the reason I subscribed!
Anyway, I'll support whatever direction you go in. Lots of love xxx
The fact that you you FEEL that these things didn’t serve a purpose is ACTUALLY the purpose. Living and learning is a real thing and that’s exactly what you are doing. Continue to always recognize your feelings and sort through them but not be too hard on yourself because it’s all part of the process. I’m 30 and just learned this at age 28. Keep shining 🌟
I'm over 50 & just want to say a loving older woman thing... Life will throw you off at least once every decade, but it's really a way to curve your path for expansion. Best thing you can do is go with it & be gentle about your fumbles. You will always eventually get the hang of things. This was an awesome video, keep growing and So Many wishes of Blessings on your marriage. 🌺❤🌺
Thank you for this. Thanks for speaking to me.
I feel you, especially when you said you kept looking back at who you were and wanted to recreate that version of yourself. There is a song by Jonathan Reynolds called ‘Movin on’, I listen to this when I feel like I keep forcing on my rear view rather than what’s ahead/directly in front of me. I would recommend the song because it’s just a reminder to look ahead (although it’s so hard at times) because what’s to come is even greater!
Also thanks for your transparency, I know it’s not easy talking about your inner feelings on social media 🤎
I needed to hear this. I’m sitting here struggling trying to figure out what interests me and what to post on social media and you put it into the BEST words possible. This is exactly how I feel. The experiences, growing pains, trauma, and insecurities changed me and I can’t be that person I was when I first started on RUclips. You explained it so well that I started to cry with you. This social media stuff is no joke it takes a strong person to display your life online. Keep it up Isi! 💕
Live in your truth! Your authenticity is what makes you sooooo relatable! Comparison is the thief of joy. When 9 times out of 10 they envy your realness. If you have to take a break from viewing other people's content and live in your truth. Because as a woman of the same age group (26) I'm trying to figure adulting out too. Seeing someone of your stature figuring it out too gives me hope! Love you!
Isi Babygirl, PLEASEEEE PLEASEEEE PLEASEEEE .
TAKE ALL THESE THINGS TO GOD IN PRAYER!! PLEASE PUT GOD FIRST IN YOUR LIFE HUN! .. WHEN WE DO NOT KEEP GOD FIRST IN EVERYTHING IN OUR LIVES, WE END UP MAKING BAD DECISIONS!! ..
I love you Isi, and know that I am keeping ya'll in my prayers! ..
you know its real when Isi says the word "shit" , no matter what no one can take away how genuine and hard working you are , I am in that transition in my life and being an over thinker does not help at all but sis, WE GOT THIS!!!
Whew this is why I stay to myself things are very weird now! But social media really have these ppl really living a life and not their own. Continue being you.. imagine trying to do this without parents and just navigating the world by yourself and tryna stay authentic in a world full of copies! Please never change! If there is no growth and change what exactly are we really doing! Fellow Virgo here and I love watching and learning from you 🫶🏾
I will be 56 in a in a week or so, and been watching you and your fiance for only a short period and I enjoy all of your videos. I'm amazed at your maturity and wisdom and a beauty inside in and out. This video inparticular is raw and authentic!!!! You are an inspiration to so many young ladies and "yes"myself as well ... as of a mature age. You have done great work.
I wish you and Josh a blessed successful loving marriage. 💙❤💙❤💙
Hey, I am a 44 year old married woman with a child. You are going through growing pains of life and it is perfectly OK to feel that way. I go through them all the time. Sometimes you do have to hit the reset button and start over. You guys are a true inspiration to me!
Whoever said said your content is lazy because they’re self care videos is a fluke. Self care is expensive and time consuming. I’m glad you do those videos because I like to know what products work well for our skin. I use some of the references you put us on. This is your content and the perk of working for yourself is YOU DO WHAT YOU WANT!!! AND YES BEAUTY GANG IS STILL LIT!!! Thank you for learning how to be beautiful with us!!!
I commented before when you mentioned this in one of your previous videos saying in short don’t worry about people who don’t appreciate what you bring. They aren’t for you. You get so much love , it out weighs the bad exponentially. You can’t let little things get to you or have a place in your life. We love you and are here for any content you put out. If it work for you & you like it , we love it (your true supporters)! Ps I’m a Virgo & I totally get it all , I can relate and relay 💖💖💖💖💖
At age 58 and a black woman.. I can so relate to your story….stay true to you and protect your peace… God bless you always🙏🏾💕
I was a little disappointed the couple channel moved to Patreon, but I really understand why it was necessary for y'all. Life has definitely been a roller coaster lately and have definitely had to adjust and adapt. Would be nice to see the fitness workouts I need to get back on track and stop being lazy.
Girl we needed this cry, this is sooooo felt , being in your late twenties and in America , stretching yourself thin while trying to maintain “self care” ugh…. We needed this cry . You are my sister ❤
Yes..i feel the same way in my late 30. Outgrowing friends /family and seeing ppl for who they are is hard. Especially when you have had them in your life for year's.Agree with you about the social media it's the perception of ppl we only see for a few min that will have us doubting ourselves.Can we definitely do a fitness video...
Isimeme Edeko! you are fearfully and wonderfully made! You are such an amazing person your growth is coming just how God wants it to. Thank you for sharing your life with us, thank you for letting us see how life can be for others. Please write this verse on your heart and let it be a reminder for your life. "This is my command-Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you whereever you go" -Joshua 1:9. Your life is a light to so many remeber to breath and know that the Lord has you, your family has you! everything else is a bonus.💕
I love how honest you are with us. And there’s nothing wrong with finding evolving and trying to figure life out. It’s all about the journey. The topics you talked about especially comparing I would recommend Mike Todd’s Cuffing Season sermons on RUclips. It really helped me. But I love you Issi! 💕
People will complain if you change and they’ll complain if you stay the same. You really can’t win with everybody so just follow your heart and make content that is genuine. I love it all. I’m with you wherever you want to take us boo. 💜💜💜💜
You are NOT alone sis!! I truly understand where you’re coming from- trying to reinvent yourself and learn who you are as a late 20s woman. On the other hand, I think it’s hard to watch others practice “self care” when you aren’t practicing it for yourself honestly. Or at least, that’s how it was for me. I was lowkey getting a little jealous of watching so many people do all this relaxing looking stuff, when I couldn’t afford to- financially and literally, even though it’s exactly what I needed. As another beautegang member said in the comments, we are all in some way grieving our old lives while trying to navigate a new one. Comparison truly is the thief of joy though unfortunately, and especially with the rise of entrepreneurship and social media content creators, it’s easy to compare and lose ourselves and get swallowed by the jealousy and comparison. I really pray for our generation and just learning how to give ourselves grace in growing into who God wants us to be instead of trying to be like “everyone else”.
Hey sis, thank you for your transparency. I want to take a moment to cover you in prayer.
Dear God,
I pray you heal Isi’s mind, body, and spirit. May you relieve her of the many pressures she is feeling from different directions and sources. May she cling to you like no other during this high intensity season of her life. Give her your Peace that surpasses all understanding and wash her with your unconditional Love. May you be her firm foundation so that she may bend but not break. Keep her and guide her on the path she should take. Direct her steps and may it lead to peace, joy, and prosperity. I pray her future union with my brother-in-love will be built to last and withstand any and every storm that may come their way. I come against any and all attacks of the enemy…may No weapon against them prosper. In Jesus Name…AMEN
Always know I am here if you need me, love you! 💕~ CHRISI
My fav Chicago RUclipsr, we are here for you sis always and we love your content and love what you do you are an inspiration girl❤️☺️
People don't share enough of there 20's experiences.
There is a side of you that knows it's a good thing to change , grow and gain new experience but it's not easy.
Thank you for sharing.
My condolences on the lost of your aunt.
May her spirit rest in peace. 🕊️
I think a lot of RUclips creators are in the same space. As a viewer, it really seems like once the money starts flowing, and creators reach a certain point it does make us question whether you genuinely like to put out content for your supporters, or if they’re just doing it for the money. In my opinion, the best vloggers are the ones that do just that. Just film day to day and engage. No theatrics, no reading lines, just authentic day to day that allows us to feel like we’ve spent time with you today. It doesn’t have to be a production. Do what’s true to you.
Young lady I don't really know you but I've been watching you for a while do not pay attention to the jealous comments that these people are putting on your page and don't give Satan any any weakness because he going to try to use it against you keep doing what you doing don't worry about what people think of you. You are a beautiful young lady successful young lady I'm proud of you congratulations on your wedding it's making me feel real sad and crying inside for you don't worry about them negative comments keep doing you God bless you I love you as a sister in Christ.❤️💯
Amen!
I don't usually comment much but when you started talking about your Aunty and you family and how close you guys are that really hit home for me. Me and my family are the exact same way. Like my mom is SO close to her sisters that my cousins feel like my sisters and brother. We recently lost my Aunt who was the oldest of the 3. So trust me when I say I feel your pain. I want to thank you for sharing because I know this can't be easy for you. Trust me when I say ppl like me search for ppl like YOU. Someone who they can relate to authentically and you truly do that for me sis. NEVER would have dreamed that I'd be this in love with my natural hair until I watched your videos. Did my 1st EVER wash and go following your instructions step by step and it was a complete success amongst other natural styles and wigs and I just discovered you last year. So once again THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR JOURNEY.....Whatever that may look like at this time I'm all the way here for it sis❤️
I’m going through this right now. My whole life is different from the beginning of my 20s to right now at 27. It’s really a lot. I really don’t know how to handle everything bc the thoughts that I have now are completely new. We are adults trying to navigate adulthood .
Isi I understand how you feel. Don't let the hate get to you. You are in a transitioning period rn. We all are going thru shit and you shouldn't feel like you are disappointing us ,nothing stays the same and just do for what is healthy for you mental health. Its truly a rough time for the world and feeling overwhelmed and having anxiety or what ever emotions you are feeling are normal and very valid.
The hater are always gonna say some rude ish. We love you and are gonna support you and I thank you for being real and yourself.
Sometimes people forget that creators are in the ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY and that is separate from the actual life you go through! Being in our late 20s in a world and life that feels so far from what anyone promised and anticipated is so hard. Let alone being an entertainer that has to show up positively for your livelihood through all the bullshit. It’s tough. It’s hard. You’re doing an amazing job. ♥️ I can relate to a lot of what you’re going through
Girl I'm praying for you and me.... so many similarities I see but in different areas. Thank you for sharing, cause the 20s ain't no joke and earth is ghetto lol. But this was a word for me, Thank you!
Yasss I most definitely appreciate this video because I’m in the same place trying to figure it out
I totally understand.I think it’s safe to say that you have to go through a series of identity crisis in other to evolve. It’s all a part of growth 💯❤️.Don’t ever doubt the impact you have and inspiration you are for younger ladies like myself. Love you Isi🌹
YOU (the world, current circumstances, the past, etc.) WON’T BREAK MY SOUL! Just remember that Isi. You got this! 💕
My twenties, so far, have been the most difficult thing to navigate. You have the outside factors like you mentioned like the government, Covid, etc. Then trying to maintain being a full time student while having a full time job, living with my boyfriend in a new city where I don’t know anyone except his family. Trying to maintain the family/friend relationships I have with being so much more farther away. On top of just trying to figure out who tf I am is exhausting. I feel like every couple of months I just have weeks where I don’t do anything but exist because it’s so overwhelming. I watched this video and cried with you because it’s like there is always so much life happening but no one ever considers that when they spit out expectations at you.
I started watching your videos because I wanted to learn more about my hair. I didn’t see many women making videos with my same hair texture. And with your content, I made a bond with you, not personally but to see you excel from your early twenties as a track star just like I am today, you have been a great influence. You nor I are perfect people but I can say you have gotten me through so harsh times. I have been low and decide to watch videos of you and Josh, they lift my spirits and I am brought back to my reality. You are not at fault, you are living, exploring the moments of life in which you tend to balance so well. You are not lazy, you are balancing, and with you understanding your current state and questioning how to move forward, you are displaying your growth. And honestly, your vulnerability on camera, you are becoming a role model to so many young women who can now see that they to can grow too.
You changed your channel’s name to Isimeme Edeko. Remember that. You do you. We’re still subscribed for a reason. We know you’re human. If you gotta take a break then do that. If you gotta do vlogs instead of themed/niched videos at least until you know where you wanna go then do that. We’re here to support you
Edit… just seeing what you said about doing videos of what you’re doing in your life and that’s what i meant by vlogs. Just be you. You can film what you do in your regular life and we’ll love it. Screw the algorithm. The true people that you are meant to reach will come (and a lot are already here)
we love you still no matter who u are💕💕
I’m so sorry that you receive that negativity. You don’t deserve any of that. Life in general is hard at times. It can be a constant wave of learning things, figuring them out, and then making adjustments to expand what happiness looks like for you. I could only imagine how difficult it can be navigating social media space too. Thank you for sharing openly what experiences you’ve had and how you’re continuing to be the beautiful woman that you are and growing to be even more of the woman you want to be for yourself. That’s truly what’s most important. I think you’re doing amazing and inspiring so many people on your journey! Sending big hugs and so much love and light ✨♥️
Love you always Isi. It's a race with you and yourself. No one else🤎
I struggle a lot with overthinking and anxiety too and I love this Bible verse , “Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth”- Colossians 3:2
Yess love the Bible verse
I really appreciate how truthful and transparent she is in this video. Please keep staying true to yourself that’s what we like about you.
It’s crazy because I subscribed to u years ago because u were SO DIFFERENT. To finally see someone on this platform that looked like me, just having fun, was truly themselves, and had REAL conversations. U have a good heart, so u can only go up from here. Ur in my prayers❤️
(btw, these r the videos I love, u got me crying with u😂)
What you and Josh are doing is great! Make that money and do what’s best for y’all. You both are role models, college graduates, and a beautiful black couple that are about to get married. Your mental health is everything!💜💜
Isi, just know that the journey is beautiful and unique to you. As a 33 year old black woman, I at times still struggle with the “things” pertaining to living my life “authentically” to me. Years ago, I thought I’d be married, with the house, dog and 2.5 kids but I’m not there yet, and that’s ok. Living authentically for me right now entails having to honest conversations with myself about things I need to change and being transparent about it. I don’t care whose toes I step on either because I have to do for me, and that is so difficult because I’m such a selfless person. Being selfish is truly hard for me, so it’s a learning curve. Self- care is REAL! I’ve had to learn through neglectful family and romantic relationships that if I’m constantly and consistently pouring into others without nurturing myself, then I’m no good to anyone. No one will show up for me like I will. You may be in a better place a week, month, or year from now, but just know growth takes time, it can be painful at times, but it is soooo worth it in the end Queen!
Wow.. I don’t think you understand how I needed this video 🥺 I believed it was just me going through this. I’m a Virgo, born in the south, raised by a single mother, and also a pageant queen. The sense of PERFECTION has been the demon I’ve been dealing with for as long as I can remember. The idea of me being authentic would make me feel weak, simply because I’d been through things people around me didn’t even know about. It’s hard and it’s a lot, if you get it, you get it.
I turn 20 next month and I’m still navigating through the journey of knowing who I am, and what I am becoming.
I’ve believe I’ve watched 2 of your videos in the past, but listen I’m a new subscriber today. Thank you for this, I need this bad.
I heavily resonate with this a lot actually when you were talking about how you feel you lost yourself 2/3 years ago into ur RUclips journey due to keeping up w a certain image, RUclips black, or materialistic things and that u lost the light in ur eyes I DEEPLY can relate, not in the sense of being an influencer but in a general sense personally, I look back at myself a few years ago and mind u I’m only 22 and I remember how free spirited and so happy I looked and didn’t hyper focus on my appearance or materialistic things, and I often get so upset because I just ask myself like where did life go wrong and obviously I have my reasons as to why it happened, but when u brought up the rearview mirror analogy that put A LOT in perspective for me because I am *always* looking back and not forward, so thank you for this video because and your consistent authenticity, this talk really helped me a lot
As a Virgo I heavily relate to this. The perfectionism that we hold ourselves to is so heavy and most people don't understand so they just impose their opinions on you. I feel you girl. We're in this together ❤ just continue living in your truth and whatever phase you're in you'll attract that audience. Stay strong love
Sorry to break it to you but your zodiac sign has nothing to do with that.
@@childs420 😎
@@childs420 say it again. It happens to us all in life, being overwhelm. This isn't about a sign or signs
I just wanna say that you’re right on course with your purpose with just sharing this video. Being authentic about where you are, how you’ve lost your way & trying to figure it out. You’re being authentic right now. You’re being relatable right now. You’re genuinely connecting and helping right now. You’re doing right now just what you feel like you disconnected from. The detour lead you right back to purpose & is being used as a tool for you to keep walking in it. Forgive yourself. Give yourself grace. Your detours are valuable for walking in your purpose too. You’ve already “made it back”, even if you have a different idea of what it should look like. Just keep being authentically you as you journey-the ups and the downs. What you share will take many forms as you keep evolving, and it will ALL be purposeful🙏🏾. Sending you love.
i just watched this while taking out my braids and girl I appreciate you for being so open with us and showing us that "that lifestyle" isnt perfect. I just freaking Love you girl everything and Josh stand for. You guys are dope. you guys will be just fine enjoy the ride hun. BUMPS AND ALL.
Isi... life is full of transitions. Give yourself GRACE!!! Growth and LIFE IS A JOURNEY!!! BE ENCOURAGED. BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF...You've got this 👍🏾.
This is really crazy Isi. I’m 21 now and it really doesn’t feel like live watched you for 5-6 years. You’re like my big sister for real. I love your transparency. I aspire to be a Virgo WHOOOMMAANN just like you!!! 🤍Sending you all the love in the world 🌎 if anyone else won’t….I’ll stick by you through anything🫶🏽🫶🏽
Man been watching since she started and was going to college in my hometown man we are the same age I’m completely proud of her I wanted to start RUclips than and didn’t or did and deleted my content to much it’s crazy so proud of her and it will come out better for her and us
My Mother used to tell me all the time. "You have to cleanse your mind/spirit like you do your body. When you feel like crying..it is a purge. It is a conscience that you are moving forward. You are not alone..the best days are yet to come. Matthew 17:20. When I was 29, I was heading for a divorce after being married very young, and I had all types of plans to purchase real estate and flip them. I was driven into a different direction and I have not looked back. I am a senior now and life has been good. You are not in a valley, but a crossroad. Make sure you guys VOTE, PLEASE.
Isi I feel for you sis 😢💕 have you ever considered therapy ? I feel like therapy and prayer would def help out ❤️ currently in my 20s and have felt everything you expressed before … I feel like that probably every other week 🙃 I literally questioned my own identity the other day like who am I now ? lol I even asked my bestfriend like “what’s interesting about me ?” “am I basic ?” and she laughed and said I was far from it and she was like I always used to express how unique I am and I was confident in that, so why am I questioning myself now and I didn’t even know how to answer her 🫠
Therapy is a good idea🙏🏾
You do what most people do, you followed your peers. That's not necessarily a bad thing to do. It made you find out how you want to move in the future. Losing yourself is what you had to experience but unlike a lot of others you didn't get so lost that you could not find your way back. You are going to do this many times in your life. the next time you will recognize it sooner to handle it better. You got this.
Much love to you sister....when you have haters;; it means you're doing something right. You're so talented and awesome keep doing what you're doing.
Girl, we are not meant to stay the same as humans. We change, we mature, we grow up. Things that were once super important to us aren’t anymore. You can only move forward, not backwards. People will follow you and people will drop off and it’s okay! I’ve unsubscribed from people I used to watch back in the day and found new people (such as you). Why? Because my mindset has changed and right now what you post resonates with me. You are free to do whatever you so please whether that’s social media, a business, a 9-5. Always do you because you come first. Don’t worry about the majority because we aren’t on this earth to please others.
I just wanted to give you a virtual hug through the screen when you cried🥺 teared up along with you, and you are right! The world definitely doesn't prepare you for what your 20s entail, and it all consist of changes. From losing friendships, to family and romantic relationships, navigating career especially when social media makes you feel like you have to have it all figured out by 25 and have your retirement fully funded. Not to mention realizing that you're not the same person you were in high school when you thought you knew yourself and the world.
I lost my grandmother who basically raised me in 2018 when I was 28 and it shook my world. I had to have gone to 4 funerals that year back to back starting with her and it still hurts. Lost my footing in my career, and lost a friendship all within same year. Felt like a hamster on a wheel trying not to get flung off 🙃 😅 My 20s were a whirlwind. Lots of fun times but lots of growing pains, and those growing pains were ROUGH
Just know that I relate to you so much on a lot of what you said from the world changing and then your personal world changing all at the same time. And also in a way feeling like you have to conform because even though most of us watching you are not in social media we can still understand in a way the need to conform to the social media status quo while navigating the constant changes (mass shootings, roe v wade, etc). It's like we're expected to thrive while the world burns around us. (I know a little dramatic lol but it's the feeling that I feel a lot of people can relate to)
Bottomline is, just know that you are love and supported ❤ 💕 ♥ 💗 🤗 and I appreciate you opening up to us about how you're feeling because it does help us not feel alone. No pressure of course to do it all the time lol but I just want to say I appreciate it.
Man I want to give a hug as well as well as I can relate so much your comment is so true and real and I appreciate those that speak on in the RUclips world
Girl I truly feel you. Loosing yourself, business responsibilities and then loosing family. I'm slightly older than you, so my count of loss has been a bit much to handle as of late. So I truly feel you. Good thing is you have a good mate for support as I do, as long as you two continue to back each other up, you're going to make it. All these things will change you, but do your best to focus on what is important for your life. Take your time and do what you need to do for ISI and Josh. You're doing good, hang in there.
Isi you are a real one. What you are doing in your “lane” and the messages you share through your channel is unmatched. Thank you for your consistent transparency. You are appreciated and such a blessing. Love you girl and may God continue guiding you on this journey 🤎.
My condolences to you and your family. I read something that said “An aunt is the only one who can hug you like a your mom and hang out with you like a friend.”