Well, I almost gave up on dancing, but my friends helped me get through it. Here's the story. I'm tall for my age, but like super tall, and it has always been hard to well, kind of fit in. But I love dancing and I tried to be positive and stay happy but I fall on anxiety and depression. My friends help me a lot. Now I'm better, and I keep working hard but not for image, but my skills technique, and flexibility, u also inspired my a lot. Thanks 🥺✨✨✨
I do not eat a lot, because in School all the girls are so thin, and i am muskuler. I am realy strong, but i want to look like the other girls. But i am gonna continune danceing, and try to be healty. I also have a lot of other things going on i my life, that i just came out whit. I also have two injuries so it is not going that Well. But i know that i Will come out one the brigt side one day❤️
Thank you so much for this video! It is a great reminder to love our bodies not because of what they look like but because of what they can do.. And I know it 's not always easy as I am struggling with this myself but I try to take a moment every now and then and be grateful that I have a healthy body that can accomodate all my needs.. For anyone else out there feeling like this just know that YOU ARE ENOUGH! You are so enough, it is unbelievable how enough you are! This is a quote by Sierra Boggess who really inspires me and has helped me with self acceptance and self love. I suggest you check her out, you won't regret it!
This is such an important message for everybody, not just dancers. Replace "the dance world" with pop culture/ society and you get the struggle everybody faces to live up to what society thinks "pretty" is. It is so very important to remember that your own well being, physical and mental are so much more important than looking a certain way. You are worth so much more than the way you look.
I think the thing that strikes me the most is when you mention how "closing your 5th position" is used as an excuse to project this perception that you need to be thinner to be better. I have been rather lucky that my teacher always emphasises strength and technique in ballet. She would never comment on my leg size. The only bad comment i had was that i dont point my toes enough. And I think the first encounter you have with ballet is really important in shaping your perception of this industry. In fact, ballet helped me to get out of my disordered eating behaviour. But I know this is rather rare as often, it was ballet that could spark such ED behaviour.
It’s always been super tough for me because Once I really started to work on my technique more(later in my dance career) I realized that I have the worst possible body type for dance, and not only that, but I have horrible technique. I have so much artistic passion for dance, but it’s so frustrating how my body can’t translate it. I know that you don’t have to be a twig to be a good dancer, but I’m still not a good dancer. It’s extremely difficult for me on a day to day basis and a lot of times I just want to quit altogether, but I love it so so much. I work so hard but it just feels like my technique is still awful. I love improv and choreographing, but I know I’ll never be good enough to be a dance teacher, which I would love to be. Does anyone else feel like this?
This was me a few years ago! Don't give up if it's your passion. I started going to this drop in ballet class down my street with other adults my age and we all felt how you did. I'm now a part-time jazz and contemporary coach. Not all teachers are the best dancers, but if you have a vision and passion, keep doing it!
oh my bby girl... no!! dont give up or loose hope. if you feel you do not have a good body, do something about it!! otherwise nothing will change. thats all the advice an advanced dancer {me} can give.. let me know if u need anything
As a dance instructor, coming to terms with the fact that I'm not the same size as I was 6 years ago, you definitely hit the nail on the head. I watched Kathryn's video as well and it really hit home because I've always had a booty and was told by a teacher years go that unless I get taller, I would have to go down a couple pants size (I was already a 5/6). This triggered an eating disorder that I still deal with till this day. I'm in a better place now and whenever my students become stressed about their body, I'm always there to uplift them because no one should have to go through that.
As a female figure skater growing up who hit puberty early...I wasn’t overweight, I just had curves...I looked like a woman, but was body shamed that this made me “fat.” Most female dominated sports incorporate this, such as figure skating and gymnastics...looking like an emaciated 10 year old is the ideal. Your comment about 5th position really resonated with me...I remember when I lost enough weight that I had a “thigh gap” and was so proud of that...I physically looked ill and physically felt horrible and constantly exhausted, but I was so “proud” of myself that I finally had a thigh gap, because my thighs were always my “problem area.” Now, I’m a healthy weight, but still struggle with all of those old demons from my sport and society that tells women you aren’t good enough if you don’t destroy yourself physically and mentally to be “the right weight.” Thank you, and Kathryn Morgan as well, for bringing up body shaming and eating disorders in these sports, and not just for women (also men) in every aspect in life.
Thank you for addressing this because the dance world needs to change its expectation on body image because honestly, fit looks different on people especially in the dance world. That’s just it. It’s why I tell people to work on your self acceptance NOW. Not later. Otherwise it will escalate and get bad.
I danced professionally.. Now going back 6 years later, of course my body is not where it once was in my younger years of dancing daily.. I truly appreciate this message and want you to know! I am only on my 6th class back this morning, but I am taking it slow, with a different approach, a more positive one of truly embracing the joy that ballet gives me. Felt the negative body thoughts starting to creep in, so I looked for a positive video to reverse that thought process. I want you to know how much this video has helped me this morning before class. ♡ Thank you
I only dance recreationally now (Adult ballet, though I did dance as a kid for about 7 years) and I thought that would mean I wouldn't be subjected to the body shaming I'd experienced as a kid. I mean.. why shame me? Its a hobby. I'm not auditioning for anything. Ha. Apparently I was wrong. Which severely flared up my past issues. Thankfully my ballet teacher is the sweetest human on earth. My heart really goes out to the professional dancers who struggle with these problems. You're so strong.
This is such a strong video !!!!! This is soo important to take care of our bodies and minds as dancers ! Thank you Miss Auti for the reminder, love u😘
hahahahaha but is her bussines!!, she is light and easy, not the rappinwood speak that many arrogant TED speakers try to make believe them selves that we believe they are really funny, weshould know that most of the laughs and aplouses are inmidiate responses, not positive reactions in deed, because the empathy they think they made is rather an acceptance ofwhat it ridiculizates us on our own opnion, a good humor joke-
I um only started to dance because I am overweight and I was made fun of in my studio because of it. I did ballet with a bunch of skinny people. I now realize that this is unhealthy but I was anorexic when I was younger then I got overweight. I was getting back there and this helped me to stay away
Hehe it's funny how sometimes I wish I wasn't a skinny twig. Embrace it! We need dancers to be comfortable with their body. I encourage you to wear a crop top. That might help
I’ll be honest I go to a studio where many of the dancers who have curves do better than us twigs including myself I’m very tiny and I don’t have the strength nearly as close as my classmates who are curvy they have high leaps I was always told the lighter you are the higher you go and that is a lie so never let your curves stop you
I have a lot of passion for dance but the "popular kids" at my studio probably weren't friends with me bc I didnt have a slim dancer body but I made a few friends in a year (2 years ago I started at my studio)
What's your next video can't wait for you to post another one 🌸love your channel and the video where you thought us how to do the renegade tik tok was helpful
Heiii, I’m asian, am in Europe now and i started Ballet almost a year already, i started with some people but now they are also already attending the extra class which has alot more choreography and with different teacher. I feel so strange that i don’t get that extra class and my teacher don’t talk that much to me just like to the other, so i think, is that just because I’m the only one asian, is it just because i have different look. Sometimes i just want to resign from this Balletcourse and look for the other course. Is that the right choice? Do you have any advice for this? :(
you're beautiful just the way you are!! don't let anyone tell you otherwise. don't quit what you love to do just because of your teacher. you're amazing, always remember that!! :) my suggestion would be to try your very best, but don't push yourself too far! before you know it you will be attending that extra class! have faith that everything will work out!
I’m a 12 year old dancer and I struggle with this, I hit puberty a bit early than most of my friends at dance and I’m taller and curvier and I feel like I used to be a lot skinnier
But my problem with that is I really want to become a professional dancer but I have huge b00bes and they are always shaking and hurting when I'm dancing and I can't lose weight so that's why I can't become a professional dancer ( but there are some other reasons too, like, my parents hate that I'm dancing)I am sooo sad about that 😭 Please ignore my bad English. I have only been learning it for one year.
Anna, its is always a way to become profesional, and it has to mean not only the money retribution, it is not only the responsible attitude, it has to mean with the solutions you give to the world, and if you have paid attention to Miss Auttie´s speach, you'd came to notice that Ideal Dancers is just to "trasshie trend",than really a "State of the Art", now in the present you will notice that common people are more adecuate to have important rols in Plays than "Model" people, but there/that's where the jealous of the technique appears, if techniques do not fit your body , you´ll have to painfully modifucate it, or change the technique, but if that technique is the only one that interestes you, ...You will only find results on obnoscious perseverance, obstinated concentration, and mindfulness . changes in Body conditions take: 1Time, 2 so much tears, 3 Pain,4 obsession, and Motivation, and a secret las 5th, a bullet prooff will and the Spirit of God by your side, . The teachers like Miss Auttie, are not just only money and likes oriented, they really worried about peoples soul, and heart feelings, and people like me are part of the Dance Community who want people never quit even though the dificulties, dance dance and dance, like nothing ever matters. WL. WILL
I think there's a difference between dancing for fun and dancing as a professional performer. If you are dancing for fun, it really doesn't matter what you look like. There's no audience. However, if you are a dance professional, i.e you get paid for dancing, there are expectations that you look a certain way. It's like actors working out & dieting for a specific role. What's important is to not get caught by the expectations of how you suppose to look as a professional dancer (which is a role you play) and how you suppose to look as a person. For example, if people tell you that you are not slender enough to dance ballet professionally, you shouldn't take it personally. It only means you don't have the right type of body for that particular role. I think it would be easier to choose a dance profession that's more aligned with how you are naturally built instead of dwelling in negative body image (not all dances require super slender body like ballet).
I started Ballroom in 2019 and then lost 13 kgs in 8 weeks. If you're a fat dancer than you're not a real dancer. Sorry but I've been in this community for a few weeks but even i can tell that if you took your dancing seriously then you would lose weight. Even moving throughout the world has been soo much easier. There is no such thing as a fat dancer
Why the heck would you say this. People struggle with eating disorders you know. Not everybody can have the “perfect body” or be a healthy weight. If someone overweight wants to dance, they should follow their passion and do it. People like you are the reason others have insecurities. Shame on you.
@@nourm.5316 Everyone can be a healthy weight if they took the time to educate themselves about nutrition and took steps to improve their diet. If you have a smart phone you have all the resources you need to learn about macronutrients, calories, and TDEE. I know because I did it. You're just making excuses for overweight and obese people to continue treating themselves like crap. Weight related illnesses cost the taxpayer billions with easily prevented illnesses clogging up the public healthcare system.
@@jaybae5056 You are very true and I agree with you 100 percent. I was just trying to put it out there that it’s very hard for people to lose weight/ gain weight. Everyone’s body is different and everybody is perfect in their own way.
What was your takeaway from this video? I'd love to know more about what you're going through, XO.
Well, I almost gave up on dancing, but my friends helped me get through it. Here's the story. I'm tall for my age, but like super tall, and it has always been hard to well, kind of fit in. But I love dancing and I tried to be positive and stay happy but I fall on anxiety and depression. My friends help me a lot. Now I'm better, and I keep working hard but not for image, but my skills technique, and flexibility, u also inspired my a lot. Thanks 🥺✨✨✨
I do not eat a lot, because in School all the girls are so thin, and i am muskuler. I am realy strong, but i want to look like the other girls. But i am gonna continune danceing, and try to be healty. I also have a lot of other things going on i my life, that i just came out whit. I also have two injuries so it is not going that Well. But i know that i Will come out one the brigt side one day❤️
Thank you so much for this video! It is a great reminder to love our bodies not because of what they look like but because of what they can do.. And I know it 's not always easy as I am struggling with this myself but I try to take a moment every now and then and be grateful that I have a healthy body that can accomodate all my needs.. For anyone else out there feeling like this just know that YOU ARE ENOUGH! You are so enough, it is unbelievable how enough you are! This is a quote by Sierra Boggess who really inspires me and has helped me with self acceptance and self love. I suggest you check her out, you won't regret it!
This is such an important message for everybody, not just dancers. Replace "the dance world" with pop culture/ society and you get the struggle everybody faces to live up to what society thinks "pretty" is. It is so very important to remember that your own well being, physical and mental are so much more important than looking a certain way. You are worth so much more than the way you look.
I think the thing that strikes me the most is when you mention how "closing your 5th position" is used as an excuse to project this perception that you need to be thinner to be better. I have been rather lucky that my teacher always emphasises strength and technique in ballet. She would never comment on my leg size. The only bad comment i had was that i dont point my toes enough. And I think the first encounter you have with ballet is really important in shaping your perception of this industry. In fact, ballet helped me to get out of my disordered eating behaviour. But I know this is rather rare as often, it was ballet that could spark such ED behaviour.
"If you have a body,
you have the perfect dancer's body"
That is so well said
It’s always been super tough for me because Once I really started to work on my technique more(later in my dance career) I realized that I have the worst possible body type for dance, and not only that, but I have horrible technique. I have so much artistic passion for dance, but it’s so frustrating how my body can’t translate it. I know that you don’t have to be a twig to be a good dancer, but I’m still not a good dancer. It’s extremely difficult for me on a day to day basis and a lot of times I just want to quit altogether, but I love it so so much. I work so hard but it just feels like my technique is still awful. I love improv and choreographing, but I know I’ll never be good enough to be a dance teacher, which I would love to be. Does anyone else feel like this?
I get you, I almost gave up on dancing.
I have never agreed so much with a comment
This was me a few years ago! Don't give up if it's your passion. I started going to this drop in ballet class down my street with other adults my age and we all felt how you did.
I'm now a part-time jazz and contemporary coach. Not all teachers are the best dancers, but if you have a vision and passion, keep doing it!
oh my bby girl... no!! dont give up or loose hope. if you feel you do not have a good body, do something about it!! otherwise nothing will change. thats all the advice an advanced dancer {me} can give.. let me know if u need anything
keep going & never give up. you've got this!!
I have always been insecure of my body, but when I dance I feel like no one can pull me down and you are also a HUGE help and so inspiring for me.😊❤
As a dance instructor, coming to terms with the fact that I'm not the same size as I was 6 years ago, you definitely hit the nail on the head.
I watched Kathryn's video as well and it really hit home because I've always had a booty and was told by a teacher years go that unless I get taller, I would have to go down a couple pants size (I was already a 5/6). This triggered an eating disorder that I still deal with till this day.
I'm in a better place now and whenever my students become stressed about their body, I'm always there to uplift them because no one should have to go through that.
Thank you for sharing! Sending love to you
I’m a dancer and I struggle with body image. Thank you for talking about this issue!💕💕
As a female figure skater growing up who hit puberty early...I wasn’t overweight, I just had curves...I looked like a woman, but was body shamed that this made me “fat.” Most female dominated sports incorporate this, such as figure skating and gymnastics...looking like an emaciated 10 year old is the ideal. Your comment about 5th position really resonated with me...I remember when I lost enough weight that I had a “thigh gap” and was so proud of that...I physically looked ill and physically felt horrible and constantly exhausted, but I was so “proud” of myself that I finally had a thigh gap, because my thighs were always my “problem area.” Now, I’m a healthy weight, but still struggle with all of those old demons from my sport and society that tells women you aren’t good enough if you don’t destroy yourself physically and mentally to be “the right weight.” Thank you, and Kathryn Morgan as well, for bringing up body shaming and eating disorders in these sports, and not just for women (also men) in every aspect in life.
I don’t have balance for my turns 😭
Me neither
Samesameee
omg me neither!!
Neither do I
Thank you for addressing this because the dance world needs to change its expectation on body image because honestly, fit looks different on people especially in the dance world. That’s just it.
It’s why I tell people to work on your self acceptance NOW. Not later. Otherwise it will escalate and get bad.
I danced professionally.. Now going back 6 years later, of course my body is not where it once was in my younger years of dancing daily.. I truly appreciate this message and want you to know! I am only on my 6th class back this morning, but I am taking it slow, with a different approach, a more positive one of truly embracing the joy that ballet gives me. Felt the negative body thoughts starting to creep in, so I looked for a positive video to reverse that thought process. I want you to know how much this video has helped me this morning before class. ♡ Thank you
I only dance recreationally now (Adult ballet, though I did dance as a kid for about 7 years) and I thought that would mean I wouldn't be subjected to the body shaming I'd experienced as a kid. I mean.. why shame me? Its a hobby. I'm not auditioning for anything. Ha. Apparently I was wrong. Which severely flared up my past issues. Thankfully my ballet teacher is the sweetest human on earth.
My heart really goes out to the professional dancers who struggle with these problems. You're so strong.
This is such a strong video !!!!! This is soo important to take care of our bodies and minds as dancers ! Thank you Miss Auti for the reminder, love u😘
I felt like listening to a Ted talk☺️ thank you for these words, it is such an important topic🥰
hahahahaha
but is her bussines!!, she is light and easy, not the rappinwood speak that many arrogant TED speakers try to make believe them selves that we believe they are really funny, weshould know that most of the laughs and aplouses are inmidiate responses, not positive reactions in deed, because the empathy they think they made is rather an acceptance ofwhat it ridiculizates us on our own opnion, a good humor joke-
Early squad i love you so much you are such an inspiration to me ❤️
I'm really, really grateful to you and your videos, you're the most beautiful dance teacher that anyone would love to have.
Random stranger who sees this comment:
I hope you have a GREAT day!
İts night here :/
my favorite type of videos of yours
i love your advice videos bc they are really informative and motivating thank youuu keep doing them
Thank u dear it was really helpful ☺
Hi auti thanks for this video so much really helped even learnt the splits with these exercises
I um only started to dance because I am overweight and I was made fun of in my studio because of it. I did ballet with a bunch of skinny people. I now realize that this is unhealthy but I was anorexic when I was younger then I got overweight. I was getting back there and this helped me to stay away
Hehe it's funny how sometimes I wish I wasn't a skinny twig. Embrace it! We need dancers to be comfortable with their body. I encourage you to wear a crop top. That might help
@@marsp5636 I’m still overweight and not very comfortable wearing one
I’ll be honest I go to a studio where many of the dancers who have curves do better than us twigs including myself I’m very tiny and I don’t have the strength nearly as close as my classmates who are curvy they have high leaps I was always told the lighter you are the higher you go and that is a lie so never let your curves stop you
@@dancingnerdyreadingfatmads6530 I feel too skinny to wear one
@@marsp5636 how is that possible
You have the power to reach everyones souls, I really love your videos, you make me looooveeeee the things I do
I have a lot of passion for dance but the "popular kids" at my studio probably weren't friends with me bc I didnt have a slim dancer body but I made a few friends in a year (2 years ago I started at my studio)
What's your next video can't wait for you to post another one 🌸love your channel and the video where you thought us how to do the renegade tik tok was helpful
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️This was so helpful,thank you
Love u ✨, thanks auti
Love your channel you help me so much!
i loe ur videos! they are so helpful :) i love dancing
Heiii,
I’m asian, am in Europe now and i started Ballet almost a year already, i started with some people but now they are also already attending the extra class which has alot more choreography and with different teacher.
I feel so strange that i don’t get that extra class and my teacher don’t talk that much to me just like to the other, so i think, is that just because I’m the only one asian, is it just because i have different look. Sometimes i just want to resign from this Balletcourse and look for the other course.
Is that the right choice? Do you have any advice for this? :(
you're beautiful just the way you are!! don't let anyone tell you otherwise. don't quit what you love to do just because of your teacher. you're amazing, always remember that!! :) my suggestion would be to try your very best, but don't push yourself too far! before you know it you will be attending that extra class! have faith that everything will work out!
@@theiconicjichu8032 omg! This means so much for me ❤️ thank you so much ✨✨🌟
I’m a 12 year old dancer and I struggle with this, I hit puberty a bit early than most of my friends at dance and I’m taller and curvier and I feel like I used to be a lot skinnier
But my problem with that is I really want to become a professional dancer but I have huge b00bes and they are always shaking and hurting when I'm dancing and I can't lose weight so that's why I can't become a professional dancer ( but there are some other reasons too, like, my parents hate that I'm dancing)I am sooo sad about that 😭
Please ignore my bad English. I have only been learning it for one year.
Anna, its is always a way to become profesional, and it has to mean not only the money retribution, it is not only the responsible attitude, it has to mean with the solutions you give to the world, and if you have paid attention to Miss Auttie´s speach, you'd came to notice that Ideal Dancers is just to "trasshie trend",than really a "State of the Art", now in the present you will notice that common people are more adecuate to have important rols in Plays than "Model" people, but there/that's where the jealous of the technique appears, if techniques do not fit your body , you´ll have to painfully modifucate it, or change the technique, but if that technique is the only one that interestes you, ...You will only find results on obnoscious perseverance, obstinated concentration, and mindfulness .
changes in Body conditions take: 1Time, 2 so much tears, 3 Pain,4 obsession, and Motivation, and a secret las 5th, a bullet prooff will and the Spirit of God by your side, . The teachers like Miss Auttie, are not just only money and likes oriented, they really worried about peoples soul, and heart feelings, and people like me are part of the Dance Community who want people never quit even though the dificulties,
dance dance and dance, like nothing ever matters. WL. WILL
Me watching this while I'm at the gym 🥺
"ballerinas don't have butts"...but I do, so...
continue doing what you love & don't let anyone bring you down! body image doesn't matter, everyone's beautiful :)
@@theiconicjichu8032 thanks :)
Miss auti can you do a video on how to do ballet turns without being dizzy
I'm so skinny. Is it problem for dancing. Because my dance moves are not clear and Smooth... Please some one give me some advices.... 😭 help me
Please can you do a video on muscle gain whatever I do I can’t gain weight/ muscle
👏🏼❤
First like OMG 😆
School can wait
I think there's a difference between dancing for fun and dancing as a professional performer. If you are dancing for fun, it really doesn't matter what you look like. There's no audience. However, if you are a dance professional, i.e you get paid for dancing, there are expectations that you look a certain way. It's like actors working out & dieting for a specific role. What's important is to not get caught by the expectations of how you suppose to look as a professional dancer (which is a role you play) and how you suppose to look as a person. For example, if people tell you that you are not slender enough to dance ballet professionally, you shouldn't take it personally. It only means you don't have the right type of body for that particular role. I think it would be easier to choose a dance profession that's more aligned with how you are naturally built instead of dwelling in negative body image (not all dances require super slender body like ballet).
Apparently I’m ‘too tall and twiggy for ballet’
you're beautiful & perfect just the way you are! anyone can do ballet :)
@@theiconicjichu8032 tysm
Hii first comment
Love the start of the vid I guess
I wanted a vid about this
Omg God
I'm still fat lmao
I started Ballroom in 2019 and then lost 13 kgs in 8 weeks. If you're a fat dancer than you're not a real dancer. Sorry but I've been in this community for a few weeks but even i can tell that if you took your dancing seriously then you would lose weight. Even moving throughout the world has been soo much easier. There is no such thing as a fat dancer
Why the heck would you say this. People struggle with eating disorders you know. Not everybody can have the “perfect body” or be a healthy weight. If someone overweight wants to dance, they should follow their passion and do it. People like you are the reason others have insecurities. Shame on you.
@@nourm.5316 Everyone can be a healthy weight if they took the time to educate themselves about nutrition and took steps to improve their diet. If you have a smart phone you have all the resources you need to learn about macronutrients, calories, and TDEE. I know because I did it. You're just making excuses for overweight and obese people to continue treating themselves like crap.
Weight related illnesses cost the taxpayer billions with easily prevented illnesses clogging up the public healthcare system.
@@jaybae5056 You are very true and I agree with you 100 percent. I was just trying to put it out there that it’s very hard for people to lose weight/ gain weight. Everyone’s body is different and everybody is perfect in their own way.