swear i needed this so much. ive gone forever feeling like shit no matter who i was around....even people who i loved being around. i never like talking to people because i dont want to bring them down. i stress myself out all the time. i swear i love watching your channel. you lift me in ways you dont understand kasey. !!
Sasha Kelly thank you that means so much! I totally understand what you mean. Please understand that regardless of what's happening around you whether it be you're doing amazing or having a mental break down, regardless of what it is make sure to give yourself credit for the little things you accomplish every day! Don't just wait till the end to reward yourself, you're truly incredible and capable of so much! And you deserve to be celebrated every step of the way! I'm glad you liked the video :) I wish you nothing but the best!
This is amazing!!! I have been in this same mind space too long! You sounded like my mind, self doubt and fear have plauged me forever! Thank you so much! ❤
Thanks for making this video, battling GAD a lot, seems like forever, good to hear variety of advice from you. The GAD / Generalized Anxiety Disorder ( I HAVE ) seems like a never ending Battle, constant fight tension built up in my back, neck constantly getting tension headaches + pain, I need to work better on adapting my skills / mindset- so I Can handle my days better. I think from now I will treat it more essential that I fight back like a priority, and to not auto-pilot through my days, kick its ass , adapt and survive but also have more Happy days. I Have one good day of feeling great every 3 months or so this is rediculous(Very bad that it's this rare..), I've got other issues, which effect it. Anyways, one thing I Noted to myself from the vid is doing more action / physical things, I Think this will help me the most, seeing it's a positive multi-effect type of thing, getting something clean or sorted and you're distracted, and you get time to Heal up- if you've been suffering from any issues. so exercise, cleaning, sorting stuff, going outside even for fresh air. I Do need to apply my thought / energy into this more. GAD feels like you're under pressure and being attacked with stress. Thanks again!!!
Kaygun D I love that you shared this with me. I myself struggle with anxiety on a day to day basis, to the point where I get waves of having trouble breathing/ feeling like my throat is swelling/ and dissociation (feeling like the world around you is surreal like a dream and feeling like everything seems fake, which causes me panic) and I wake up feeling great or I wake up feeling off/ depressed/ anxious out of the blue. It’s never consistent for me either, but another piece of advice I missed was MEDITATION. starting just two minutes a day (there’s an amazing app called Headspace) studies show building those neuropath ways in the brain when you train yourself to calm your breathing and mind, will help if an attack comes at you. It’s like training for a fight, the more consistent you practice and train the easier the main event will be. However if you don’t train, you might still win the fight but it will be A LOT harder to get through. Symbolically the same with meditating for anxiety attacks. Yes definitely get fresh air and ALLOW yourself to feel all the things we don’t want to such as impatience, jealousy, envy, anger, sadness etc. let all the gunk come out when it needs to. Allowing the “gunk” to pass through your system is so freeing and will help release the stress you carry everyday. Listen to yourself, pay attention to your needs + meet them, and understand yourself and be there for yourself. Love yourself as you would love a friend coming to you with all the same problems. You matter, you can do it, and you are NOT alone. I am right here with you🖤
Kaygun D for example, I’ll share, if I’m ever feeling haunted or regretful of my actions in the past that are negative..my thoughts would sound like this “why would you do that, you should have done this, what’s wrong with you?, why couldn’t you have done it differently, so and so wouldn’t have done that, why can’t you be different?, there’s no taking it back” etc. so when I feel those thoughts coming in I instantly make the choice to switch the process of those thoughts to prevent spiraling. Changing my inner dialogue to “yes I messed up, however, I am human and I did the best that I could. I understand why I feel this way and I understand what I could do differently next time and I have grown from this regardless. I do not deserve to live in agony to pay off the debt by feeling guilty, I deserve a chance to move forward and allow myself room for mistakes so I can learn.” Basically in short, having my own back no matter what and treating myself SUPER gently. Treating words like energy, and only supplying myself with good energy. Hope this helps🖤
@@kaseylauren1596 - Thank you! and thanks for sharing / feedback. "Love yourself as you would love a friend" - I'm a terrible self-coach and sending care at myself in ways, But I tend to care more about others and show feeling that way. Sometimes it's difficult to just express what you feel what you're going through, I Guess that could just be being overwhelmed with the Anxiety.. and your(my) Overwhelmed feeling I Just sum up to Anxiety(hard to figure things out, when you're struggling this way). I need to talk better to myself. 'should try the meditating thing some time I never got to far with it. from what I Remember or was told, you stay centered focus on 'the calm' and if a thought or negative thought/energy comes into your mind, you re-focus on the calm while doing good / deep breathing. - Another thing we've been working on as a trial, I often struggle at night to actually get to sleep b/c my mind is having anxiety about past present future, and memories pop up, thoughts / feelings also pop up - so the trial thing is to take time to Allow yourself to feel the anxiety / problem / issue and practice controlling myself, - moving forward instead of getting stuck in what ifs or getting angry, etc.. The point of this trial / thing, is to get it out of the way in a moment you can better handle it , instead of having it all happen before sleep. You know.. Writing stuff down too helps most of the time.
@@kaseylauren1596 - I Like that, words are energy. It's really difficult to form a good saying / said thing, whether out loud or in my head, I almost immediatly shut it down with, " 'yeah right..." lol it's terrible.. This just leads to more depression and suffering. Even if i say like good job, or that was good - I still don't feel like it was that good or good enough or things could be better. - I'm not looking for perfection or a perfectionist type deal, Just... What I've been through and how much set back there has been from what stuff has happened, I kind of look at myself as a damaged version of what i could of been. You know? so that's like a constant factor I've yet to get passed. I would really just like to say hey, f-k it' This is me, I'm doing my best, I'm here Alive and trying. I want to become a better 'me' each day, Tired of these downhill slopes to 'back to negative feeling... only to have a rare good day, as if i have to wait around for my feeling/mood to change, Sorry going on a rant a bit, thiis is more than just anxiety it's bipolar so Just want to through that in there. Thanks for your support :) - I'll just leave this up. I'm glad you responded, I typed up the initial comment then later though eh Maybe I shared too much on there, was going to delete. haha.
Kaygun D it’s definitely a constant uphill battle. Sometimes the nice dialogue won’t instantly fix anything but consistent effort and love to yourself can do wonders over time! For me, I used to hold on to the hope that my anxiety would disappear one day and I’d work so “hard” to try to make it disappear and basically I ended up suppressing my feelings/ ignoring them and telling myself “nope, stay positive and ignore the negative” but that did me no good it made it worse. So like you said “fuck it, that’s just me” is a great thing in a sense that you are what you are, anxiety and all, and you are still strong even tho you can feel weak. You are still doing your best no matter how hard it gets. Thank you for being so open, this is so common and it really helps me and others feel less alone, don’t be afraid of opening up “too much” I am not going to judge you and the world needs more awareness to these REAL LIFE struggles!
Thank you so much Kasey!¡ This video was amazing, I related to everything you said. Love your channel so much girly💗 the most badass metal head girl on RUclips 🖤⚡️
Watching this on Sep 2, 2019 @ 11:27pm and you just helped me kick that birches ass “ anxiety “ YOU ROCK GIRL. Wish I had a friend like you in my life ❤️ thank you so much 💕
JENNI KETO wow I’m so glad it helped you! Life has been beyond crazy even at this point in time for me so please please please do not feel alone. I feel like I’m dragged through the dirt every day but I’m still goin you know? Much love for you❤️
I'm a goth, and metalhead guy. I've been a metalhead, and goth for over 12 years. I usually always think negatively. I always feel like people intentionally try to hurt me mentally, emotionally, and verbally. I'm not suicidal, but I don't care for life.. I'm not happy, If I do anything, I do it because I have to, not because I want to. People always say the same things in this video..it never works for me. I believe everyone in the world hates me, and I feel trapped.. I hate myself, and I don't believe I'm beautiful.
I’m sorry to hear that and that you feel that way. I wish there was something different I could say to be more helpful than the same old things said over and over. Being a part of the metal loving community, I think the fact that you’re a metal head is rad and that goth is so beautiful. I’m sorry life has treated you poorly, and that you feel trapped. I think one thing I’ve learned in my life is to find beauty in the dark. I find it symbolic as it co-aligns with my “dark” style and aesthetic taste. I feel there’s not much I can say, but I will say I’m glad people like you exist. I truly hope things get better for you. And I hope you never give up
@@kaseylauren1596 I'm surrounded by norms, and old people, and they always give me dirty looks. I hit myself hard in the head and want to cry. I feel like I'm burning up😫 I've been looking for someone to talk to me but that's not how life works, people always say you have to bust you a** and meet people, work work work. I'm 26. I've been feeling this way since I was 13. I even collapsed on the floor a few times in my life from feeling weak and stressed.
@@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 Sounds like it’s really tough for you on a daily basis. I’m sure that’s a lot on your plate. If you’re feeling really low you definitely don’t need to “bust ass” to find a therapist who can really work with you on these issues and perhaps say more than anyone on RUclips can. Wish ya the best
SarahdogYT no I’m still here! Just took a big break from uploading because life. But I’ve got a makeup tutorial filmed I’ll be uploading soon :) thank you for your support!
swear i needed this so much. ive gone forever feeling like shit no matter who i was around....even people who i loved being around. i never like talking to people because i dont want to bring them down. i stress myself out all the time. i swear i love watching your channel. you lift me in ways you dont understand kasey. !!
Sasha Kelly thank you that means so much! I totally understand what you mean. Please understand that regardless of what's happening around you whether it be you're doing amazing or having a mental break down, regardless of what it is make sure to give yourself credit for the little things you accomplish every day! Don't just wait till the end to reward yourself, you're truly incredible and capable of so much! And you deserve to be celebrated every step of the way! I'm glad you liked the video :) I wish you nothing but the best!
I finally did my schoolwork despite anxiety I feel so powerful 💪💪💪
Hell yeah!!! You’re awesome!!🔥
You’re really pretty!
malachi mize thank you!
This is amazing!!! I have been in this same mind space too long! You sounded like my mind, self doubt and fear have plauged me forever! Thank you so much! ❤
MarieElena Garcia hopefully you will be free from that! Thank you!🖤🖤
Thanks for making this video, battling GAD a lot, seems like forever, good to hear variety of advice from you. The GAD / Generalized Anxiety Disorder ( I HAVE ) seems like a never ending Battle, constant fight tension built up in my back, neck constantly getting tension headaches + pain, I need to work better on adapting my skills / mindset- so I Can handle my days better. I think from now I will treat it more essential that I fight back like a priority, and to not auto-pilot through my days, kick its ass , adapt and survive but also have more Happy days. I Have one good day of feeling great every 3 months or so this is rediculous(Very bad that it's this rare..), I've got other issues, which effect it. Anyways, one thing I Noted to myself from the vid is doing more action / physical things, I Think this will help me the most, seeing it's a positive multi-effect type of thing, getting something clean or sorted and you're distracted, and you get time to Heal up- if you've been suffering from any issues. so exercise, cleaning, sorting stuff, going outside even for fresh air. I Do need to apply my thought / energy into this more. GAD feels like you're under pressure and being attacked with stress.
Thanks again!!!
Kaygun D I love that you shared this with me. I myself struggle with anxiety on a day to day basis, to the point where I get waves of having trouble breathing/ feeling like my throat is swelling/ and dissociation (feeling like the world around you is surreal like a dream and feeling like everything seems fake, which causes me panic) and I wake up feeling great or I wake up feeling off/ depressed/ anxious out of the blue. It’s never consistent for me either, but another piece of advice I missed was MEDITATION. starting just two minutes a day (there’s an amazing app called Headspace) studies show building those neuropath ways in the brain when you train yourself to calm your breathing and mind, will help if an attack comes at you. It’s like training for a fight, the more consistent you practice and train the easier the main event will be. However if you don’t train, you might still win the fight but it will be A LOT harder to get through. Symbolically the same with meditating for anxiety attacks. Yes definitely get fresh air and ALLOW yourself to feel all the things we don’t want to such as impatience, jealousy, envy, anger, sadness etc. let all the gunk come out when it needs to. Allowing the “gunk” to pass through your system is so freeing and will help release the stress you carry everyday. Listen to yourself, pay attention to your needs + meet them, and understand yourself and be there for yourself. Love yourself as you would love a friend coming to you with all the same problems. You matter, you can do it, and you are NOT alone. I am right here with you🖤
Kaygun D for example, I’ll share, if I’m ever feeling haunted or regretful of my actions in the past that are negative..my thoughts would sound like this “why would you do that, you should have done this, what’s wrong with you?, why couldn’t you have done it differently, so and so wouldn’t have done that, why can’t you be different?, there’s no taking it back” etc. so when I feel those thoughts coming in I instantly make the choice to switch the process of those thoughts to prevent spiraling. Changing my inner dialogue to “yes I messed up, however, I am human and I did the best that I could. I understand why I feel this way and I understand what I could do differently next time and I have grown from this regardless. I do not deserve to live in agony to pay off the debt by feeling guilty, I deserve a chance to move forward and allow myself room for mistakes so I can learn.” Basically in short, having my own back no matter what and treating myself SUPER gently. Treating words like energy, and only supplying myself with good energy. Hope this helps🖤
@@kaseylauren1596 - Thank you! and thanks for sharing / feedback. "Love yourself as you would love a friend" - I'm a terrible self-coach and sending care at myself in ways, But I tend to care more about others and show feeling that way. Sometimes it's difficult to just express what you feel what you're going through, I Guess that could just be being overwhelmed with the Anxiety.. and your(my) Overwhelmed feeling I Just sum up to Anxiety(hard to figure things out, when you're struggling this way). I need to talk better to myself. 'should try the meditating thing some time I never got to far with it. from what I Remember or was told, you stay centered focus on 'the calm' and if a thought or negative thought/energy comes into your mind, you re-focus on the calm while doing good / deep breathing. - Another thing we've been working on as a trial, I often struggle at night to actually get to sleep b/c my mind is having anxiety about past present future, and memories pop up, thoughts / feelings also pop up - so the trial thing is to take time to Allow yourself to feel the anxiety / problem / issue and practice controlling myself, - moving forward instead of getting stuck in what ifs or getting angry, etc.. The point of this trial / thing, is to get it out of the way in a moment you can better handle it , instead of having it all happen before sleep. You know.. Writing stuff down too helps most of the time.
@@kaseylauren1596 - I Like that, words are energy. It's really difficult to form a good saying / said thing, whether out loud or in my head, I almost immediatly shut it down with, " 'yeah right..." lol it's terrible.. This just leads to more depression and suffering. Even if i say like good job, or that was good - I still don't feel like it was that good or good enough or things could be better. - I'm not looking for perfection or a perfectionist type deal, Just... What I've been through and how much set back there has been from what stuff has happened, I kind of look at myself as a damaged version of what i could of been. You know? so that's like a constant factor I've yet to get passed. I would really just like to say hey, f-k it' This is me, I'm doing my best, I'm here Alive and trying. I want to become a better 'me' each day, Tired of these downhill slopes to 'back to negative feeling... only to have a rare good day, as if i have to wait around for my feeling/mood to change, Sorry going on a rant a bit, thiis is more than just anxiety it's bipolar so Just want to through that in there. Thanks for your support :) - I'll just leave this up. I'm glad you responded, I typed up the initial comment then later though eh Maybe I shared too much on there, was going to delete. haha.
Kaygun D it’s definitely a constant uphill battle. Sometimes the nice dialogue won’t instantly fix anything but consistent effort and love to yourself can do wonders over time! For me, I used to hold on to the hope that my anxiety would disappear one day and I’d work so “hard” to try to make it disappear and basically I ended up suppressing my feelings/ ignoring them and telling myself “nope, stay positive and ignore the negative” but that did me no good it made it worse. So like you said “fuck it, that’s just me” is a great thing in a sense that you are what you are, anxiety and all, and you are still strong even tho you can feel weak. You are still doing your best no matter how hard it gets. Thank you for being so open, this is so common and it really helps me and others feel less alone, don’t be afraid of opening up “too much” I am not going to judge you and the world needs more awareness to these REAL LIFE struggles!
YOU’RE DOING GREAT SWEETIE 🌸💓
Thank you so much Kasey!¡ This video was amazing, I related to everything you said. Love your channel so much girly💗 the most badass metal head girl on RUclips 🖤⚡️
Justine S I'm glad you liked it!! Thank you you're the best!🖤🖤
Watching this on Sep 2, 2019 @ 11:27pm and you just helped me kick that birches ass “ anxiety “ YOU ROCK GIRL. Wish I had a friend like you in my life ❤️ thank you so much 💕
JENNI KETO wow I’m so glad it helped you! Life has been beyond crazy even at this point in time for me so please please please do not feel alone. I feel like I’m dragged through the dirt every day but I’m still goin you know? Much love for you❤️
I love this video !!
Melissa Quintana thanks girl!!🖤🖤
I'm a goth, and metalhead guy. I've been a metalhead, and goth for over 12 years. I usually always think negatively. I always feel like people intentionally try to hurt me mentally, emotionally, and verbally. I'm not suicidal, but I don't care for life.. I'm not happy, If I do anything, I do it because I have to, not because I want to. People always say the same things in this video..it never works for me. I believe everyone in the world hates me, and I feel trapped.. I hate myself, and I don't believe I'm beautiful.
I’m sorry to hear that and that you feel that way. I wish there was something different I could say to be more helpful than the same old things said over and over. Being a part of the metal loving community, I think the fact that you’re a metal head is rad and that goth is so beautiful. I’m sorry life has treated you poorly, and that you feel trapped. I think one thing I’ve learned in my life is to find beauty in the dark. I find it symbolic as it co-aligns with my “dark” style and aesthetic taste. I feel there’s not much I can say, but I will say I’m glad people like you exist. I truly hope things get better for you. And I hope you never give up
@@kaseylauren1596 I'm surrounded by norms, and old people, and they always give me dirty looks. I hit myself hard in the head and want to cry. I feel like I'm burning up😫 I've been looking for someone to talk to me but that's not how life works, people always say you have to bust you a** and meet people, work work work. I'm 26. I've been feeling this way since I was 13. I even collapsed on the floor a few times in my life from feeling weak and stressed.
@@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 Sounds like it’s really tough for you on a daily basis. I’m sure that’s a lot on your plate. If you’re feeling really low you definitely don’t need to “bust ass” to find a therapist who can really work with you on these issues and perhaps say more than anyone on RUclips can. Wish ya the best
@@kaseylauren1596 I tried therapy, it didn't work, but ok..
Did she quit RUclips? If so that’s sad, her videos are really good :(
SarahdogYT no I’m still here! Just took a big break from uploading because life. But I’ve got a makeup tutorial filmed I’ll be uploading soon :) thank you for your support!
Kasey Lauren Ah, I see. Well I’m glad you’re still here! I can’t wait to see the video. Have a great day/night
Thank u💕
petra tataj 🖤🖤🖤
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