The main reason i'm feeling lost is because other grownups suddenly just stopped ordering me around, and to think that i actually wanted this to happen when i was a teen but now that i'm being held responsible for my own life i feel like such a useless person who can't even figure out how to handle his own self
@@youneskasdi That is why you cultivate discipline, which will take work. I'm only figuring that out, really, at age 29. Started occurring to me maybe two years ago. Being an adult (that others would respect) means that you need to learn how to crack the whip on yourself. That is being an adult and that is being disciplined. Do difficult things because you know they will make you better. Children are incapable of this. But this is ideally, what makes adults different.
the problem is you morons are spoon fed your entire life and never listened to yourself or cultivated an understanding of yourself.so now you are completely empty and shallow. That has fucking nothing to do with discipline or the structure you were born into.. more structure does not lead to understanding of ones self.. its just more insanity and polarized thinking.
@@m.zahiruddinmohhar6492 Agreed with Finnegan. The original commenter was inferring that most people in their 20s go through this. It's a lost transition period to where a person fully develops into an adult.
If you are reading this, this is directed to you: I am a 22 y/o male. In college online part-time. I work full-time. I live with parents (good home life). I'm in a relationship. None of what I just said matters. None of my hardships or accomplishments matter. You are your own person with your own unique experiences, hardships, and accomplishments. DO NOT compare yourself to me, the guy in this video, your peers, or anyone else. I personally believe that this video was simply an expression of built up emotions from a 29 y/o guy who felt he was ready for change in his life. THAT'S GREAT. We all go through this sometimes and this video brought you here, as it did me, because we are probably in our twenties and looking for some sound advice, or maybe we also feel that we have "wasted our 20's." Whatever the reason, just remember that you are freaking awesome, no matter who you are and no matter what other people say or think, and no matter what you have done or where you came from. Make the most of your life by accepting your mistakes as opportunities to grow and humbly enjoying your times of success. I love you, and I am proud of you. Keep moving forward :)
JustPeachyRL I love u G I’m trying I’m trying so hard to not let fear rule my life I’m going to a new school my senior yr have dreams of touring the world in arenas Nd have a big ass crush on this girl I really fcking like it’s just so hard but all I can do is do if I want to be tht person no matter the consequences💯man pray for me lol
I wasted my 20s, 30s and 40s. Now in my mid 50s I'm finally getting my crap together. It's never too late people. If you "are" in your 30s, be grateful and get to work on improving your life. One step at a time. 👽
I just turned 30 this year, and I am finally starting to think about my future. Thank you for this advice, because it's something I need to keep telling myself to keep motivated.
I am 32 years old and about to turn 33 I wasted... Absolutely WASTED every single day of my 20's. I'll never get it back. Until right this second I've never talked about it with anyone because I've felt so ashamed of myself and my life. I genuinely hated myself.. For about 8 straight years. Not just because I'm boring, it was "oh if I don't wake up tomorrow the world will be all the better for it." I didn't care if I lived or died because for almost 10 years I did nothing with myself because I lost everyone I thought was a friend and my Ex had cheated on me and was just going on dumb tinder dates that were meaningless until I stopped even going out because why even? After high school my friends either moved away or moved on and I stayed in place. My 20's... That whole decade where you hear people having the best times of their lives was so excruciating for me and to make it worse I had no one to talk to. I didn't tell my parents about my depression or suicide attempt because I couldn't take them thinking they did something wrong to produce a worthless son who tried to kill himself and even failed at that twice. THINGS CHANGED though. I know its going to sound cringe but it's what happened. My life got better when my dog came into my life. I never had a dog take to me like Ty did(My dog's name is Ty short for Tyrion) He has shown me so much love so unconditionally and I have experienced so much joy just because he is so attached to me. Why he became attached to me? We don't know but we are inseparable, He is a medium big dog which means he needs walks which means I had to get out of the house, which meant I probably had to interact with other humans... And I did.... And within a year our development or part of the town we live in... They all know me and they know Ty and I'm not alone. I found a part of myself I assumed was dead and I'm alive because of my dog. My relationship with my parents is the best it's ever been, people actual care about me... Our neighbors know me and even give me Christmas gifts it's insane. I thought I was too far gone, I had wasted too much of my life, I had done nothing with myself and while I'll never have my 20's back I always have right now, I will always have knowing that unconditional love is real and even though eventually Ty will pass on he will always be the reason I learned to love not just myself but love life. I've skipped a lot but this is too long as it it. I just want people to know that it is NEVER too late to change your life or find a reason to love yourself. Will it take time? Fuck yes. Will it be easy? No, but you will slowly find reasons you might have not known were there to love yourself to stick around. The world has some beautiful stories, you are one of them... I hope to hear yours. If anyone reading this wants to vent, or talk or tell me their story I'll always be here to listen feel fress to contact me. Thank you for your post and allowing me to tell my story and giving me hope for the future. It means more than you may ever know.
@@nervrenders I had a whole paragraph written down about my life and the things I regret, but it was all randomly deleted so I'll try writing it again: Reading your story made me cry; it's very inspiring, and I'm glad you're in a better position now. In my case, I spent most of my teenage years being a burden and doing nothing but playing games, I only became an excellent student on my last two years of highschool but for all the wrong reasons (seeking validation from people and expecting them to praise me), I didn't go into college right away cause I graduated in 2020 and COVID didn't allow me to study in US like I wanted to, spent every single fucking day after graduation just playing online games instead of studying, I don't even know how to fucking drive, the online friends who helped me get through depression and helped me accept myself as who I am turned on me and made up false accusations, spent half of 2021 doing nothing and the other half trying to do something but just failing to commit, trying to change in 2022 but it's the same fucking thing again. I'm turning 20 this march 2nd and I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do with my life. I'm afraid the years will pass and I'll be as useless as ever. I'm afraid I'll end up like my brother who, although graduated in civil engineering, is working at a bakery earning minimal wage. Hell, I'm afraid time is just gonna pass, I'll become older, and everyone will leave me behind while I still try to figure out my life... I don't know what the fuck to do and procrastinating is hard to get over...
I'm 46.. you still have another 17 years before you get to my old ass age... so enjoy while you're young My biggest regret was having low self esteem and confidence and worrying too much about what other people thought.
I'm 26 right now and hit "reboot" on my life at 24. I had 2 choices, complain about my bad decisions and dwindling health, or take a step back and think about what I *really* want to do. Now I've moved back home, paid all my debts, and started writing my novel. I also started learning all the subjects I wanted to take in school but was afraid because they were for "smart people", namely programming, filmmaking, graphic design, and math. I've lost 88 pounds doing simple exercises and eating low carb, and got rid of my t2 diabetes that I inherited from a decade of ramen, pizza, and video games. I have no idea where I'll end up doing all this, but I'm the happiest I've ever been. I'd rather have a low paying career doing what I want and be happy, than go back to my old life and bury myself in depression.
From one human being to another I'm proud of hearing this, when we make changes no matter what can bring a huge outcome towards a better direction in life 👏
@@khoitheboy do you not see the irony of the comment? Abraham linclon died over a century before the internet was invented, lmao he didn't even know what internet is
Doing my job for the youtube algorithm. Nah, you're twenties were not wasted, it took you 10 years to learn not to waste your life until 65, I'd say that is a good trade :)
@@JoshuaFluke1 Ik a lot how you feel. My entire family is narcissistic and not in my life for four years. I didn’t know about narcissism until my thirties either. My narcissistic ‘mother’ was very monetarily successful and I still wanted to pay her back for helping me financially until I became disabled and her true hate for me could no longer be hidden. Sorry we’re going through this and you’re never alone.
Yup is true. Know thyself. Start with MBTI, get therapy, meditate, learn more about what makes you tick and learn about light and shadow personality. This will save you time and money and heartache
I'm 34, and I don't feel like I wasted my 20s. That decade was an important time to be miserable, embrace feeling depressed, lost and shut off from the world. All of those negative feelings forced me to shine a difficult light on myself and really work out what makes me tick. Nobody could tell me how to be me, not even my parents or people who cared about me. That's why everyone gave me the vanilla go to school / get a job and family story. It takes real work to come to a self understanding. Work I had to do myself. Work I had to do alone. And now that it's with me, looking back on that misery. It was a stepping stone to give me the spiritual happiness I have now.
Heck, that's so cool man. I'm delighted for you and I love your perspective. I'm trying to look back on my life (the mistakes and devolvement, self-sabotage etc from depression/anxiety) from 14ish to now (25) the same way so that I'm not filled with regret, hopelessness & fear. What a cool journey to read about as that's true progress, coming from a very low, dark place to elevating to a much better one! Wish you every success and happiness on your journey moving forward :)
Thanks for this perspective. I'm turning 23 in a week, and I realised I was feeling terrified in the lead up of it. Terrified because the last few years have been dark, shut off from the world, lost, depressed and now I'm heading in a new direction. I'm studying to go to university again, to study law. Did I need this dark miserable, unemployed, lost and lonely few years? Yes. Because without that, I dont think I would have ever found the will inside me to make something out of myself. And when I reach those milestones, when I finally get there, there will be nothing like it. :)
@@PringlesOriginal445 Once you learn to push through difficult times, you'll have those skills for the rest of your life! There are always good years and bad years. But you have the power to decide what to think and do about it! Good luck!
I didn’t start college until I was 25, didn’t graduate until 30, didn’t buy a home until 36 and never really understood life outside of books until my early 50s (that was a rough lesson). We all would like to punch our younger versions in the mouth but, really, how do you gain wisdom if not by making hordes of mistakes? Make them and learn from them; use your time wisely.
I had dropped out of college but went back at 28 years old for a STEM degree. It changed my life for the best. Luckily, I worked for a great company that helped with tuition and books and gave me a promotion when I graduated.
How have I wasted my 20's. - Not eating healthy - Not working out - Heavy procrastination - Bad Porn Addiction - No clear logical goal - being less social - not taking risk - not doing anything. I am 27 this year and I am upset inside, I've lost my 20's. 😥
I am 34 and I felt the way you felt. For most of 30-34 I worked on most of my regrets of my 20s and I am now better off. Recently I have been feeling shitty for not being productive enough over the past 3 months. You may not get over all of your issues completely but you can act now and make yourself better off. I did that from 30 until present and I can say I am a lot happier now. Keep trying man, you're not alone with your issues. We're rootin for ya
Most of the time the so called "good old days" are overrated or never existed at all, but people need to imagine things to avoid the depression that is caused by the shitty present time.
Yes because theres security in knowing what happened and how it went. U have the full picture looking back at it. Nobody knows whats ahead and that either excites or scares people.
Video games may be a waste of time for u if they hog your time, but they're are not a waste of time themselves as they provide a source of creative input, which is vital if you want to produce great output. Personally for me, life isnt just about what I accomplish, but what I enjoy doing.
Holy shit man I randomly came across this video and was just shocked at everything you said. I was able to relate to literally everything you said in this video, it’s crazy how someone I have never ever met has these exact same thoughts and feelings as I do. I’m 22 and I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and that it’s just too late for me but in reality my life is just starting and this video gave me the validation to get off my ass and get to work. I don’t think you realize how much I resonated with you man, thank you for making this video.
Interesting your at this point with 22. I actually took 25 years to get to this point. And interesting you mention how relatable the video is. Same with me. I just realize we are all the same somehow. Very strange. But interesting as well.
Sooo, I'm about to turn 20 and I already regret playing counter strike for at least 2500h (not wanting to mention all those other games -.-). But as you mentioned already, this video is super relatable. Even tho I've just finished school I already feel like having wasted so much potential and not having committed enough. Anyhow, listening to other people feeling the same is somewhat reassuring because it makes me feel less naive / stupid. Uni is starting soon and this video is a real incentive to go "all out" ngl. Thank you honestly
Looks and sounds. I decided to grow goatee after 21 to look more mature. In 28 without it I looked like 20. But now I have a freaking beard because things happened and now I'm kind of look goofy. So yeah. Good job anyway. You sound good enough to me. Or I wouldn't even stop to look at your videos. I don't like some creators because they have nasty voices.
@@zORg_alex Lol, same here. I've been rocking a goatee and a mustache as soon as I entered University. Otherwise people in the liqueur store would ask me for an ID.
I'm 65 and this is what I think I figured out: Every experience you had in the past got to where you are today.... Go back and change what? Different doesn't mean better just different but you still have lessons to learn that only experience can give you! Taking an "L" doesn't mean necessarily mean "loss" but can mean "lesson" ... From where I'm standing from your introspection and self-awareness, you're doing just fine! :-) (Edit) One last thing: Growth is a constant process of refinement; you're not the same person you were and not the person you're going to be! The late, great Muhammad Ali said something along the lines of: "If you're the same person at 40 that you were at 20, you wasted 20 years of your life"
It’s all about perspective man. At almost 24 I haven’t done squat compared to you. You lived overseas, completed a college degree that allowed you to make 65k a year, and now own a house. That’s like, the end game for a lot of people. I know this videos about wanting more for yourself and being an ever-evolving person, but to say your 20’s were wasted is just not the truth.
Still a good title to clickbait a lot of people, for a good reason that too. I'm 21 turning 22 this November, and this video has been an Eyeopener. I am currently having sleepless night due to not having a job at my age. The panic is real ngl.😨😰
@@papyrustheroyalguardsmen3446 I feel you man. We got this. It's very important to believe in yourself, to believe that you are NOT completely screwed. Of course, there are some people who have the skills to make $100k a year at about 16. And yes, if you compare yourself to them, you will absolutely feel devastated. But keep in mind that your twenties are only starting and you are already seriously concerned about your professional path and your well being in general (which is great, a lot of people wish they would've started being serious about their lives at your age) . Work toward your goals and keep track of your own progress, you can do it.
@@euku1 Thanks man. I just got an Unpaid Internship today. It's something atleast. I'll learn and start earning someday. I wish you good luck in life too.💯 Listen to this song. Take me to the Top - Initial D.
@@euku1 Wait 16yr old and $100k a Year😳? Who are you talking about exactly? I was having a good day and you had to ruin it by saying that. My insomnia just got worse by reading that.
@@papyrustheroyalguardsmen3446 don't worry man, I just said that to point out the fact that it's not a good idea to compare yourself to others in such way. Just as there are some geniuses, there are also people in their 30's who earn just enough to buy food and are still happy about themselves.
@@muhammadgbadegesin8043 that's awesome. More power to you. 🙏. I'm 22 in 4 months and I don't want to waste the rest of my 20s. I wasted so much so far.
I'm 28 years old, and feel like I have been in a coma for a decade, war started in 2011, displaced in late 2012 and moved to a rented apartment. In 2018 my family's apartment has been destroyed and afterwards visited the ruins of my childhood memories, now in 2021 I've moved to Turkey, but life still didn't recover too much, as I suffer from depression/a bit of social anxiety particularly when I compare myself with my peers whom lived the same shitty circumstances or fled to Europe and graduated and have a job makes me feel more like a loser... while I was panicking and worrying about war, missiles, bad situation, what's going to happen next, I wasted my 20's and didn't manage to concentrate on studying which led to drop out of college... But even though I feel broken inside and behind in life I didn't surrender, currently trying my best to improve my English and learn some useful skills and looking for an online job in order to help my old parents and boost self-esteem as well.
RUclips programming community needed a guy like you for a long time. Every coder I see on this website puts up a fake facade showing off how his/hers life is amazing and they just eat tasty lunch everyday. They catch attention of obsessive people like myself and turn them into lonely workaholics. With your realism, no bullshit policy and honesty you bring balance to this ecosystem by telling people to invest in multiple areas of life, so if one fails they have something to fall onto. Thank you for influencing my life and making it better, you are doing amazing sir, keep doing what you're doing and I hope to see you become bigger and bigger channel over time. #grindreel
I can agree there are some fake people, but there are also many different personalities with different goals. I think josh is still very much in the search of his soul and what makes him happy, i can still hear in his voice that he has some questions in his head that he cannot answer.
Check BradTraversy. He is very talented developer and talks a lot about struggling with depression, lack of motivation and how to "push" yourself to achieve your goals etc.
A lot of young men in their teens and early 20's need to watch your vid's. I'm almost 40 and your wisdom is already light years ahead for where I was at your age. I've wasted a lot of my life being a late bloomer because I didn't know what I wanted early in my early 20's. I have regrets, but there is no going back to knock some sense into myself. Keep making videos and I will keep watching.
So glad you’re talking about this! I’m 26 and I’m learning the importance of just slowing down and ENJOYING the moments. I found that reducing social media and screen time really helps especially if you already work a job on computers. The more time you spend unplugged the more memories you have of real life moments.
@@lothecruel it’s definitely hard. On the bright side it’s a great opportunity to read some books, go on hikes, learn a new skill, get creative and make art, etc. There’s plenty to do in the non virtual world, but also yes I totally agree now is the wrong time to guilt ourselves for having a lot of screen time given the circumstances. All about finding the balance that makes you feel happiest
@Turquoise Cheetah Not everybody has luck in love. As a woman, the more status & studies you have, the harder is to find the right partner, unless you really want to settle for less. Girls with no studies or good jobs find boys easier.
@Turquoise Cheetah first of all I am 26, married, and my first baby is due in March. Secondly, wtf do you mean by "hit the wall then no one wants you"...? not everyone subscribes to the idea that people over 30 are worthless lol in fact I would say thats a minority opinion
I wasted my 20s: - married at 21 (I wouldn't do it, but it is a big experience for sure) - went abroad in another continent - graduated in this new continent - returned in USA - bought a house - found a remote job that was paying 65k a year - founded a company The real problem is that he has giant expectations, like he wanted to be the new Steve Jobs (which is literally 1 over a billion people). That's the only problem. He did more than fine until now to be honest.
Marriage is for fools, and i absolutely love it when people say shit like you arent a real man if you dont get married, and if you get divorced get basically held at gun point by the law, but after that you are considered a adult, fuck marriage and fuck whatever
@@Graveyard55 I mean thats a personal choice, but marriage definitely has its Ups. The problem isnt marriage, its finding the right person & besides marriage has its financial positives.
@@es_three232 40% of marriages fail. Why is that? That could be many many reasons. The risk of getting fucked over by divorce laws for men is too high and it's pretty much not worth it. Better to just live life doing things for yourself and yourself only. If marriage comes along, great! If it doesn't, then that's okay too. I've seen a good friend of mine get so desperate looking "for the one" and he gets fucked over by women all the time and is still blinded by his desire for women. Your sole purpose of living shouldn't be to get wamen. Too many people want their love life to be like a Disney movie but that's not how the world works.
I feel like I wasted my 20s. It just went by like a blink of an eye. I never finished college either because I just didn’t know what to pursue. I was a straight A student back in HS but I didn’t really find my passion. I also didn’t want to rack up major debt to go to college. But at the same time I’ve picked up a few skills along the way like marketing (FB, Google Ads), some basic web dev, I have a lot of knowledge when it comes to fixing cars, I’m really passionate about real estate, I’m bilingual also (Spanish). So I’m trying to piece things together to see what I can do with these skills. I just turned 29 and im still figuring my life out but I know my life has a greater purpose.
You're smart to have skipped college. College does not guarantee you a job. Sounds like you have some excellent skills. I encourage you to learn a trade. Web development and car mechanics are in demand. Best of luck to you.
@@rthcats2 College teaches you how to think and maneuver in a way that a trade can't though. Everyone in my family went to a University and I considered going to a trade because although initially I liked school, I grew bored of it early on when I wasn't challenged enough. Now at 22 I'm trying to go to a Uni, but I think a big majority of that is due to the influence from my family.
I am 25 and I feel exactly the same regarding my life. Like I have done and achieved nothing and the last 7 years just vanished in an instant. This is so depressing.
*"Whatever happens to you... it might not be your choice, it might not be your fault but it IS your responsibility to handle it and deal with it"* That's something I really liked because it's so true.
I watched this video before I turned 20, now in a few months I’m turning 21 and I rewatched this video. It’s easy for me to say that I think this is one of the best video in youtube. So genuine. The hard part is to understand what we miss and accept it, not trying to fill that void with something else.
I'm 19 and I battled depression for 11 years & it got worse during the pandemic I've spent months suicidal & locked in my room. I started reading books, I dropped from uni & took a break now I am looking for another uni. I tried committing suicide but what did I do in my life to end it? I want to leave a mark in the world before I leave. I am now learning Italian & Spanish Just from youtube. IT'S NEVER THE END. I am living with depression & suicidal thoughts but I will never end my life that's what I know. KEEP FIGHTING.
Joselina yeah that is true, and I know for you right now it’s tough but I can tell from your comment you are a fighter. Keep pushing through and you will make it and leave your mark. I’m battling constant anxiety issues and it does get easier their is light at the end of the tunnel. KEEP FIGHTING!!
I wasted my 15-31 being a junkie. Now im coming up on 8 years clean and studying Web Development and planning on getting out of construction and becoming a programmer. Its never too late. Dont do drugs children. Anyone have any suggestions on which online code school to apply to. Thinking about Codecademy
@@ee214verilogtutorial2 cmon man everyone says shit like that "yeah bro i do better on homework when im high ahahaha" you dont lol its a handicap. the only way you can use weed in a good way is to do it a couple times a week max
Just graduated college, turned 22 yesterday, and so lost with everything that I've resorted to searching "what to do with my life" on RUclips at 4 in the morning. This. This was needed. Thank you
@@Blitzwing989 I'm there with you. I'm 22 and I am about 1-2 classes away from finishing my associates but I have no idea what major I want or if I still even wanna continue college. And I've been at this dilemma even before I graduated high school. I feel like im at a dead end and I need to think of something, anything and just fully commit to it. It's scary but I don't wanna waste my time but I'm afraid of taking the necessary steps.
MathisDux daunting stuff. Take everything one step at a time, play your cards. Maybe do some looking into internships in areas you’re interested in? Always a super solid option
I'm about to graduate next year and I'm already feeling lost. It truly is a horrible feeling and it feels like there is nobody to help you. I wish you the best
Literally me right now at 11pm. I never realised how widespread this issue is and it’s a fucking shame not more ppl r talking about this. I wish more ppl in their 30s (successful or not) would just tell us about their journey of figuring themselves out. Would make this journey a lot less lonely and confusing for us hey
thedivinezero existential crisis at 16? ... Ur just or the very beginning of the beginning of the beginning of knowing that you have a thing called consciousness, yon dont know what existential crisis means ..
thedivinezero its normal my dear .. The best mental time for you is just about to start! Think .. Think big .. Think well and most importantly .. Always think positive
LISTEN YOU IGNORANT IMPUSLIVE SUPER DRAMITIC IRRATIONAL AND EMOTIONAL PEOPLE. MOST PEOPLE SUCKS IN THIS WORLD, WHAT IM ABOUT TO SAY WILL BE THE BIGGEST IMPORTANT THING YOULL EVER HEAR, LISTEN UP. YOU THINK IM FUKING AROUND OR FULL OF SHITT. . THAT IS EXACTLY WHY YOUR BLIND, IM THE ONE, THE ONE WHO TRULY UNDERSTANDS LIFE , IM JUST THE 1 IN GENERAL. IM THE ABSOLUTE RIGHT AND RATIONAL 1. I DONT WANT TO SAY SUPERIOR BECASUE ITS COCKY. SO HERE WE GO MOST OF THE WHOLE WORLD SUCKS AND THE PEOPLE. THIS IS WHY YOUR LIFE SUCKS, JUST BECASUE YOU HAVE "NICE THINGS ""DOESNT MEAN YOUR LIFE IS GOING TO BE GOOD, THE ONLY THING THAT MAKES SOMEONE LFIE GOOD IS IF THEY FIND SOMEONE WHO THEY TRULY ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH, NOT JUST HOPE TO ENJOY, THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO BE HAPPY. AND SINCE MOST SUK IN THIS WORLD IT IS EXTREMELY HARD TO DO BUT GOOD LUCK, I KNOW SOME WONT BELIEVE WHAT IM SAYING , THIS IS WHY YOUR STUPID AND IGNORANT YOUR LIVING IN YOUR OWN LITTLE WORLD OF FAKE BUT U DONT KNOW IT ,,,, YOU THINK IM JUST FULL OF SHITT, LIKE ACTING LIKE SOMEONE WHOS FINNALY FIGURED IT OUT WITH SOME FITIONAL DRAMACTIC BULSHIT, BUT I TELL YOU NOT, I HAVE QUOTES DIRECTLY FROM THE BIBLE SO LISTEN UP IF U WANT THE SLIGHEST CHANCE AT A GOOD LIFE INCLUDING HEAVEN, The question of whether there are more people in heaven or hell is answered by Jesus Himself in one succinct passage in the Bible: “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few” (Matthew 7:13-14).But you can make your own interpretation of the specific quotes from the Bible. MOST DO NOT GO TO HEAVEN, THE FAITH AND COURAGE AFTER MUCH SUFFERING FOR MANY YEARS WILL DESTROY THEM EVEN AFTER DEATH INTO HELL. READ AND LOOK UP QUESITONS THE BIBLE IF YOU DONT BELIEVE ME. YOU SHOULD STRIVE TO UNDERSTAND AND FOLOOW MY FOOTSTEPS TO UNDERSTAND THE TRUE MEANING OF THE BIBLE AND LIFE, AND TO UNDERSTAND THE ABSOULUTE TRUTH, AND NOT BE IN CONFUSION ANYMORE.
I am in my early 20s and I feel as though this COVID has tought me that no matter what you have, You will always want Human Connection beyond anything else
Speak for yourself because it’s the opposite for me. Sure, I kind of get what you mean, extreme isolation and loneliness are very rarely positive things. But throughout my whole life, I feel that many of my happiest moments have been spent alone. I’m very shy and an adamant introvert, that’s just who I am. Spending time with people who I don’t know that well is absolutely exhausting. The same could even apply to my family and my closest friends to an extent.
@@oceanside9508 yo but it dont need to be thousands of connections ahahah You just need someone to share the good side of life. One can be enough. Or a few. Im also like you and most of the time i feel better alone and i usually prefer things this way. But going about daily struggles and good experiences, its good to have someone to share the wins and losses. Dont have to rush it tough. Let it happen naturally, as it has to be. Youre doing fine.
@@oceanside9508 bro i had that thought about a few months ago. I thought i was a happy introvert, my comfort zone let me think that. But thats whats in your mind and what you want to hold on to since its yet the easiest way. Things changed for me. I dont want to be alone every weekend anymore. I need my friends, i need deep talks with different people and i want to socialize, learn and laugh with others. I learned to appreciate all the good and kind people i came across, you should try too. It upgraded my life, im happy again
@@oceanside9508 I feel you. I can be extremely adaptable but I’m still a introvert at heart. I feel like most people change and sometimes you change because of that. Most of me and my friends have drifted apart this year and I realized everybody is living life in their own way. We all change for the better or worse. 2021 onwards will be me focusing on me and what I want and have to do now so I don’t regret it later.
@@oceanside9508 Can you explain what you do with your time? I find myself constantly trying to find things to do that are enjoyable, but I constantly find myself thinking that without someone to share experiences with, and to teach, every experience is meaningless. I also have very little experience doing things, because I rarely have money. Chick-Fil-A part-time doesn't exactly pay much.
I’m 20 years old, 21 this next Saturday. This touched my soul, and gave me hope. I thought I was alone in these feelings, but god damn you hit the nail right on the head for me. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Lately I’ve felt a void in myself, finding my anxiety controlling every decision I make, especially coming to work and time passing as I’ve grown up. I’ve lost jobs due to the days blurring together and me breaking down and physically being unable to complete simple daily tasks. Your gaming habits, your outlook on corporate worlds, it’s so relatable to how I feel, you actually made me feel something in my heart again. I won’t waste my 20’s.
Just put this in my insta bio, always when i come from uni, while climbing the stairs i clim faster with smile cause my dogo is waiting. Truly most beautifull creatures.
I’m 22 and relate so much. I’ve had a good job for 3 years and a relevant degree but I felt so lost and knew that this isn’t the way I want to live my life. So, I’m quitting my job next month and going full-time on my own business (which I’ve been working on part-time for the past 2 years). I’m going to travel to all the places I want, challenge my fears, do things that scare me, and study philosophy part-time. And it’s scary to move away from this safe path I’m on, but at least I’ll want to live and get up in the morning.
@@BeautifulEarthJa Wow, thank you for reminding me of this 2 year old comment! Oh it's been amazing! I did all I wrote, quit my job, became a full-time freelancer and had 0 difficulties finding consistent long-term clients. I also built up my personal websitie and wrote my first book (soon to be self-published). I'm even earning double my old salary now! I moved abroad from Sweden to Berlin, Germany, and then Copenhagen, Denmark, as well as traveled to lots of other cities I wanted to visit! I've only needed to work part-time so I've had so much free time to read all the books I've wanted to and made many new friends and unforgettable experiences in different countries. It's amazing to think back to how scared but excited I was when I wrote that comment... If you are thinking about doing the same - follow your dreams - DO IT! You make sure to plan ahead and provide some safety for yourself and then gooo
to me, humans are truly connected when they are just open like this with each other. no lying, no nonsense just acknowledgement of reality and our true feelings. this gives me hope for humans and for myself, that this is key, being honest and dropping the bs for a second to just connect with people and reach out. thank you for making this
Honestly this was so comforting to watch, I've just graduated with First Class Honours in Computer Science after grinding my ass off just to feel a sense of accomplishment - To then realise there are no more "next steps" lined up for me. Everything from now on is my choice, and based off my own perception of what the next best steps are i.e. promotions, certifications, etc like you mentioned. I didn't get a graduation ceremony this year due to Covid, so I've barely had a chance to celebrate with my mates, and I went straight into a job 2 weeks after my exams finished, yikes I have a good future lined up ahead of me - Good job, solid network, conference talks, etc, but I can't help but feel like I'll continue doing all these career boosting activities, just to sit at a computer 24/7, and only be happy when I get to jet off on holiday once a year and stragetically plan 500 activities into 1 week. It's a bitter sweet privilege, majority of people in the tech industry are VERY well-off, and probably won't struggle to find work/good pay. But my god I've only just graduated, and already feel the need to fuck off to a mountain in Norway with all my mates lol - pls tell me I'm not the only one feeling this way?
I'm in my second year of a CS degree. Been taking summer classes, and am on track to graduate next year. I can relate to that entirely. Hmu if you wanna talk, man. My email is ryan.w.doak@gmail.com
Dude, similar story here, except it sounds like you have your academic stuff figured out way more. I went into CS just because i didn't really know what else to go for, and sort of coasted through it, with really good grades, but without really networking or immersing myself or doing my own projects or whatever. I juggle several hobbies like art and music and i still have no idea what i want to do with my life. I'm "only" 23 and already feel like i haven't had the slightest idea of what I'm even doing for the last several years. Education put me on rails so i did what i was supposed to, but now that I'm "free" to choose what i want to do, the usual progression of entering the workforce (whether in a job related to my degree or not) seems bland and unappealing.
@AutoCAD Monster You've hit the nail on the head here! The book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" drills into the concept that life never stops giving you problems, "True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving. It's a constant work-in-progress. The solutions to today's problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow's problems." Makes sense right? Guess the only way I can explore "problems I enjoy" is by trying a bit of everything? Like you said, passive income could lead to more free time, allowing those problems to be explored more rapidly. But if I want to climb the ladder to gain financial security ASAP, surely I should be focused on 1 field? Mind you, focusing on 1 field for the next 10 years straight (i.e. web development) sounds pretty mundane the more I think about it lol
I graduated 1.5 years ago in EE. I live with a roommate so I'm able to save about half my income and honestly, while I am still enjoying my job, I have definitely given thought to what it would be like to take my savings, quit my job for a couple months/up to a whole year, and just do whatever the hell I feel like doing. Travel/more time building hobby electronics/volunteer/other experiences. I know I'm privileged to be able to even seriously thinking about that and I'd want to beef up my resume before so that i wouldn't have a problem finding a job coming back. The bigger problem is being able to find someone who could do it with me or if I would just do it alone. Most likely I won't do that, but I think it helps prove a point that we can't wait for retirement and no work periods to live our lives. Take the vacation time you are given. Do stuff you enjoy on the weekends and weeknights. Find ways to work less if need be. Make life enjoyable right now. Unlike some youtube hustlers, our every minute awake does not need to be geared towards making more money.
AutoCAD Monster I agree the taking months off to travel is an idealist view which is why I say it’s unlikely I would do it, even if I have the savings for it (I would definitely not go into debt for it). I watch a lot of FIRE youtubers and other finance ppl like Graham Stephan who are all about the grind while you’re young and enjoy it later but truth is? For a lot of people the later is waaaay off into the future. You can grind, but I think it’s important to also enjoy the here and now. It’s why I say do things on the weekends and weeknights that you enjoy. Obviously know what you can afford. One of the things I like to do is taking hikes and other than the little bit of gas cost to drive somewhere, that’s free. And I can travel a couple times a year and still save a lot of money on my current income but I know I’m privileged to say that. I’d rather have a life of good memories than just grinding at work. “You are just carrying out takes they would’ve done better themselves.” Absolutely not true. As an engineer I can confidently say that most ppl above me could not do what I do, and that’s the privilege of working as a specialized profession, and I still have a lot to learn before I’m truly an expert. Yes I’d love Financial independence. But to me, it’s important to realize that I’ve already reached a lot of that. Yes I have to put hours into a job where I’m not my own boss but I enjoy that job, I have time for my hobbies and family, and if I were to stop enjoying my job/were fired I have plenty of fallback and could take my time looking for another job I DO enjoy.
Thank you for opening my eyes. One more year till I’m 20 and I feel more prepared than ever. Saved the video and will come back in the future to remind myself of the things you talked about. Thanks and goodluck in your lives everyone!
I’ve heard older people say that being in your 30’s is like being in your 20’s but with more money and stability. 30 is still young!! You still have opportunities to have everything that doesn’t even really HAVE to happen when you have a ‘2’ at the beginning of your age
So true. 30 is not old by any means, but it certainly feels like it is in a society that pushes youth in a really unrealistic manner. There is so much unrealized potential in each of us that takes more than a decade to develop.
I hope you're right on this one. I'm 25 and so depressed I feel like death is the only way out. Guess i'll wait a few more years to see what else life has to offer.
25 right now turning 26 in a few months. I feel like I really needed to hear this. Can't help but think about what I could've changed in the last 5 years. Fortunately, I still have another 5 to kick myself into gear. Thanks Josh
Your *_time_* is too precious to be spent at a job you hate at a corporation that will drop you the moment they find a better deal. Use your 20's building the life you want
I'm 22 and I was forced to move out of my parents house. I'm working for corporation that is not bad but treating me like i'm not needed at all. The thing is how do I move out of this situation?
Yea sucks to know that one day we'll turn to dust. I cant imagine losing my parents. I know the event will happen or maybe I'll go first but it just sucks
Yeah I recommend learning financial literacy, ganna help us a lot plus the rest of the comments basically say “slave away and work hard to buy a house and dream car” lol useless
honestly i'm 20 this year and i'm just so anxious because this year has felt so empty; when I think about the next 9 years it seems so far away but time goes by so fast it's scary.
i had shit lined up, graduated at 22 with bachelors. married at 23 and from this moment every thing went to shit, till 27 when i got divorced, another year of depressed dunking haze and only at 29, i picked up my shit and started figuring life out.
@@whateverbabe If you go back make sure you get a marketable degree. Computer science/engineering etc. Going to college just to get a degree is fine, if you can afford to outright pay for it. Going into debt for a degree is fine if you're getting a degree that will get you a fantastic job, think about the return on inventment.
Love this so much, and related to it on too many levels even though I'm just 21. I'm about to start my final semester of college, and I'm honestly only still there because 1. it's a great school and 2. my parents want me to finish like it's their life goal. In that sense, I'm doing it for them but I promised myself when I do finally finish in May I'm going to go fulltime on youtube and my other online businesses for a year to prove I can find lasting success there. I've done decent so far but I haven't been able to just focus, I let other things get in the way and people scare me into taking the safe route. Covid and living in the northeast doesn't help, it's dark by 4pm right now and there's nothing to do - my motivation and hope is at a low. Well I wanna come back to this video in a year and hopefully I've hit 1 million subs, have moved out with my girlfriend, and can say I'm honestly a happier person than I am now because I feel free and am doing things I wanna do - here's hoping and a lot of hardwork!
Avoid relationships at all costs. I’m 19 and I’m strongly considering starting an online business that can put me into other ventures like real estate and stocks. But if there’s one thing I can say it’s stay away from relationships.
On a positive note you never lose anything as long as you learn from it. I've done terrible things and have "wasted" my life (28). If you are living without regrets it means you haven't learned from them- it isn't our mistakes that make us who we are it's the lessons.
Good luck brother, I'm also trying to do it. If you're interested on talking with someone hit me up. I want to start a programming business and man it's scary
Same here brother, started my own web development business in the beginning of this year when I was 20. Good luck and just enjoy the experience my guy!
@@BlueMrDragoN how has it gone so far. I also want to get into web development but idk if I got what it takes yet. I know HTML CSS but im still missing to improve my JS and I still need to learn SQL
Our minds are taught to follow a system set by the government for the first 18 years of our life. the ones that are strong enough to rely on themselves and see past the system succeed. College is the official trap. You will waste so much time and money, you will also most likely limit yourself to what you studied because that’s what you spent most of your time and money on. If your reading this, be better everyday. Figure it out yourself and understand that the most knowledgeable people are the ones that go through experiences!! mistakes only make you smarter so don’t be afraid to fail. No matter how old you are don’t stop learning!
Unfortunately I currently live in a third world country (I'm 18), online classes for my first year in college RN just in it for two weeks...being able to finish college here is a HIGH privilege so yah gotta finish it first...
But despite that I'll still use my time wisely...I am EXTREMELY lucky to have a fast internet connection so I can learn more beyond what I learn on school...by 24 I'll leave this country and grind more
I'll be 29 in a few weeks. I've spent most of my adult life depressed and suicidal, scrambling for money and trying to find happiness in the wrong things and people. I basically flunked out of high school and had no plans for college. I lived most of my days with the fallback of "well, if things get too bad, I'll just tap out of life." I got a tattoo earlier this year that says "try anyway" and it's finally convinced me to never kill myself. I've never had a girlfriend or a very stable job. I usually got fired within the first year for being honest or getting taken advantage of by people in higher positions that didn't like me. I'm social and fun to be around, but I have self-esteem issues that prevent me from being vulnerable enough with people to allow them in my life, and I run out of energy quickly. Thankfully I've filled my free time with playing piano and reading instead of video games. I just got a supervisor position at a new job, and I'm hoping to keep it long enough to finally get me out of this hole of poverty and into real life. But you know what? I found and still find happiness in little things. I developed a great sense of humor and outlook that lets me laugh at things and keep my depression at bay. I learned to love myself sincerely, regardless of other people's false opinions of me. I'm learning to be vulnerable, especially with women. This part of my life just feels like learning the controls of a new game, and I'm confident that once I actually start playing, I'll get really good at it. I just need to leave practice mode and stop overanalyzing my part in it. I wish all of you nothing but the best happiness and love that life has to offer. If I had to offer any advice to anyone: find yourself. You're in there and you're more valuable than words can describe. I believe in you, even if you don't believe in yourself all the time.
Bro I encourage you to delve into getting to know Jesus the person. Studying him and his nature will unlock another part of you that you never thought was possible. He is the Healer of healers, and all things and thoughts bow before Him. I started with listening to worship music and reading books that describe Jesus’ personality backed with Bible verses. He is alive, and He wants to hear your voice. He knows you and is calling to you now. Peace be to you, and may hope be reignited in your spirit. God bless brother
I am 21 and from my first year of 20s, I know that I f***ed up i am without a degree without a job without money + I am very alone and still want to waste my time with cold blood :'( I am really lost
Being in my 20's, I have this weird feeling of anxiety feeling that these years can set you up for the rest of your life. Although you can say that about at any point and time in your life, I don't know why I feel so anxious about these years. Does anyone else feel this way?
You feel anxious because of the uncertainty and it's everyone not just you..but see your path and focus on it..and enjoy it...find people or get a pet...remove urself from the media and walk,walk everyday and be outside ..the world is still beautiful..
I'm halfway through 26 and I feel like I've been wasting my 20s and continue to waste em. I've become scared to take any risks but I really found your video insightful. Thank you.
25 to 30 are better years than 20-25. You usually make better choices and have more money to spend. I'm 33, played away most of my 20's, but it gets better, bought a house and have a stable relationship. Stay strong.
Here is something that isn't risky that you could do.[ Practice mindful meditation ] :o (explanation)At the end of the day all that matters is what you remember, to make use of memory you must develop awareness! You need to be able to look in detail like a detective finding that which you enjoy & that which adds meaning to your existence and expanding on it. / No one remembers a blurry picture so it's no surprise you feel like so much time has been wasted. Habits whether good or bad is always you on auto-pilot mode. Which is a mode that doesn't require much input(like your attention or effort) it happens subconsciously. (my own example) I honestly can't remember the last time I enjoyed food but I eat a lot, I JUST ATE. It wasn't bad but its like background noise, I wasn't really aware while I was watching this video and now in the future even if it was great food I won't remember nor care. But i'll be the first to complain about my weight :/ so obviously my priorities are screwed and being self aware of my overall situation just isn't enough... I have to in real time watch my actions and re-adjust my undesired behaviors. Like chewing more and not distracting myself, i'll eat less and if I track how much I should be eating a day I can change my life drastically cause we eat everyday. Having no plan means your just letting the world choose for you, cause something always happens. so we must take our lives into our own hands.. :O
@@thoughtfulluis6202 that's some great advice. My problem is that I've become more of a passive person. I'm letting things just happen without having a plan or being an active person. This caused a lot of problems like watching a lot of series because I don't have to interact. It's like I'm taking on the observer role up to the point that I even have trouble forming my own opinion during a social conversation. (Also, I can relate to the food thing so much.) I feel like it's a weird form of laziness. I don't think I'm depressed or anything since I can still have enjoyment. But there's a huge wall I can't seem to overcome when it's about becoming more of a productive person. I've seen so many videos and listened to so many podcasts about productivity and following your goals and so on, and all of them do have really great information. Yet even after consuming all that I seem to lack the applying part of that information. I've listened to the advices sometimes but it never really sticks. It usually ends up being a one time thing. It's like you said, I'm completely stuck in a bad habit autopilot mode. I've failed switching that around and my biggest fear is that I'll be stuck in this mode till I'm a grandpa. Your advice seems doable so I'll do that as a start. Sorry for my backstory tl;Dr ;p
@@gokusamir "Weird form of laziness", as far as I can tell from my own similar experience is that we are not lazy as there's probably been a few rare occasions where we have went above and beyond even when not necessary. It's more that whatever could make us move isn't currently in our lives. Motivation is the spark but we need the fuel to keep the flame alive. I believe my "flame" is intimacy as it is something I lack from an early age till this date. Yet at the end of the day that's just the parameter I need to obtain(such is my belief) to allow myself to do what I always could. Though true to some extent as in, I can't help myself get out of a self created issue while still creating it. But if someone outside of me could persuade me then its possible... Words have minimal effect, only visible results can change my mindset. Idk it's either that or develop a will strong enough to break free from any mental constraints. No need to apologize :3 Been there done that/Still there doing that... 3:
Hey man, first time ever watching your videos. I'm 24, I was literally so bored I was browsing youtube. I'm so glad I found your video - I identify alot with what you've said in this video. I will change now.
At least you have a house. I'm 27 and I still live with my parents. I wasted college on a useless degree and I had just pressed the reset button. I'm just lost.
27 is still very young. Some people have it all at 25 and crash in their 30s. Find hope with the thought that you may paid your dues now and that a bitter start may mean a sweet ending. At 27, I donated all my clothes and landed on a foreign country with very little cash. My degrees were useless in the world I hoped to conquer. (Well 27 is a beautiful number and sk is 28, so go do something daring).
I have binged a few of your videos and didn't notice anything about your voice until you brought it up. You sound normal. I don't think anyone with ambition will feel like we "made it". I find comfort in just knowing that, it's a never ending journey. Enjoy the everyday struggle/challenge. Especially from the 1%/privileged part of the world where are struggles mean something completely different than the rest of the world.
Man, you nailed it on the head about "I don't feel any different at 29 than I did at 20, just a slightly smarter version of my younger self." I'm 34... still feel like I'm just 17 year old me with an older, shittier body hahaha
RUclips algorithm brought me here. Thanks for this random RUclips guy. Love your transparency. You are helping a lot of people. Really needed to hear this.
I'm 23 and feel like I'm wasting away just trying to figure out how to get by. The only part of my life that even resembles the life of a 23-year-old male is the struggling aspect. Shit's depressing.
I've wasted half of my 20s focusing too much on selfish exs and what they wanted from me rather than on my own aspirations, finances and career goals (making money without being on a corporate ladder). I'm 25 now and within a year I've done a 180 and have attracted people who think the same way I do, it's never too late to change and improve your life!
I’ve been feeling this “time waste dread” for the past two years during covid and the housing market crashing. It’s like the past two years we’re just wasted even though I was still working on hobbies and doing a lot more than most.
I’m in my mid 30s now leaving mid 20s was a blink . The biggest time is worrying wasting time. If your enjoying a video game and complete it, then you did something. Spend time with a friend being real. Looking after a pet is awesome! What I learned in life is “no job /no girlfriend is what defines you. It’s your honest work will define you! Things are nice to have but not the end goal! Remember if you can’t make your self happy then no one will! The people in your life and relationships you have should be people who take away stress and not add stress
Great video. I'm 27 going on 28 in a few months, and all i've really done with my life is try to "level up" with every job i've held, while leveling up in whatever RPG I could get my hands on to feel productive. I myself have been feeling a strong disconnect with myself, wondering if I want to continue working for these corporations. I've recently decided to go off the grid and work for myself. I may fail miserably, but do I really want to die without at least trying? I've also seen the drones at these jobs, especially my last one. Seeing my ex coworkers boil their life down to "this is just how it is being an adult",and continuing to not only complain, but slog through the crap the job threw at them, sickened me. If that's what being an adult is, they can keep that. We can be well off and be at peace with ourselves.
Joshua sounds like a grown up version of Morty from Rick and Morty but in a way that’s like a voice of reason that’s been through it. It’s just really genuine
28, joined the navy at 22 after wasting 4 years doing nothing. Definitely feel where you are coming from. Now six years have passed and I have no clue what I want to do.
"I wish I had spent less time playing video games" Me: I mean I like games too they're a hobby I don't think they're a time wast- "I maxed out every single class in WoW in every single expansion" Me: .................Jesus Christ dude. On the flip side you have a successful youtube channel with 100k+ subscribers.
i mean a ton of people make a lot of money playing video games on youtube and twitch so I don't think you can say it's a time waste like it was 20 years ago
@@Arander92 Mostly this new generation dream of being YT or Instagram stars, which is a little bad from my point of view, yes they can have another life outside of social media, graduate w/e collage/university, become a researcher for example, tech giant entrepreneur or w/e but social media is a flawed piece in the machinery...now you're top, then you're not and there goes your money your fame, your house perhaps, because some pay bills with money from social media, your friends your everything, and they will start to behave like a 3yo crying for their stolen lolly. Do you see my point? I'm no saying they can't have a double life and do well on all planes...but....there's a difference between life experiences with people you love and cherish and being around here gathering followers/subscribers ultimately money.... with no grand vision to spend them on, no actual real people to connect with and do something together as a whole, in unity. So yeah...it won't really make the cut...if you draw the line on everything that this might cost you. A little risky but if you manage it, congrats mate, you've done it, will all planes intact :D but you know how life is :)
It's especially anxiety-relieving to see someone who feels like a mirrored reflection of yourself doing the good things in life. You're amazingly inspirational Josh, thank you for doing this!!
Hi Joshua, im from Poland. Im 20. While i was study at school i only play in video games, i do nothing, there was a lot of fun playing with friends in cs go. Now i am completly lost i cant find my self, i end the school i start working at gas station when i was 18. I earn money to survive to the next month, So i decided "this life what i have now is not a love what i want to have" So i start create website i start do something to have a better life. Every Day im angry at myself about time i waste, pherhaps i have depression there is not fun in my life anymore, im like you introvert, like you when you was 20ty i dont know how to talk with girls i want leave my country becuse in my Village is not futhure for me. But thanks your video i think there is a hope for me, i dont have support from family, they dont understand for them work all Day and beer at night is a Perfect life but not for me. Great video, you show people that life what we have is create by us, not order people. My English is still not Perfect but maybe you understand 😄 Have a nice Day!
zolw bolek Come to UK if you can. Many polish here and lots of money. If there is no future for you in your village perhaps there will be better opportunities here.
@@GeorgeOnYT- I find your comment very... nice. There is an opinion that people in UK hate Poles. Nethertheless I think this guy should first look for a work in some big polish cities eg. Warsaw (greetings!) or Katowice. There are tons of job offers here.
As a teenager this was certainly a wake-up call for me and I greatly appreciate you (and the algorithm) for this video. I've pretty much wasted my childhood and thrown away any previous opportunity given to me to become something special, and practically every day prior to this was a repititive slog and I've felt as though I've always been doing the bare minimum. I've never really excelled or been "good" at anything either, no talents, just another grey rock on the mountain. From this day on I'll start working out my regrets, improve my social life, and train a crap ton of skills to try to put some meaning and purpose into my life. At the very least, one thing I certainly ought to feel lucky for is to come to this realization this early on. We're all going to make it bros.
for all the entrepreneurs out there, dont rush it, god damn my biggest lesson, ORGANIZE AND PLAN OUT EVERYTHING, trust me it will save you a lot of time..
When you are 29 you realize that not much changes and its a bummer. When you're 59 though you will realize that you don't want much to change because the changes coming all suck.
You gave me the chills...felt like hearing myself talk...scary, recently turned 30 and I feel 100% the same. Thank you very much for speaking out about this
The best thing about being a grownup: no one tells you what to do
The worst thing about being a grownup: no one tells you what to do
The main reason i'm feeling lost is because other grownups suddenly just stopped ordering me around, and to think that i actually wanted this to happen when i was a teen but now that i'm being held responsible for my own life i feel like such a useless person who can't even figure out how to handle his own self
@@youneskasdi That is why you cultivate discipline, which will take work. I'm only figuring that out, really, at age 29. Started occurring to me maybe two years ago. Being an adult (that others would respect) means that you need to learn how to crack the whip on yourself. That is being an adult and that is being disciplined. Do difficult things because you know they will make you better. Children are incapable of this. But this is ideally, what makes adults different.
@@ams914 Great advice!
the problem is you morons are spoon fed your entire life and never listened to yourself or cultivated an understanding of yourself.so now you are completely empty and shallow. That has fucking nothing to do with discipline or the structure you were born into.. more structure does not lead to understanding of ones self.. its just more insanity and polarized thinking.
It takes a while to realize that you are a grownup. That's why you still have people out here clubbing at 65.
Your 20s would of been a waste if you never came to this realization.
No need to be so negative
They're being the opposite of negative
@@m.zahiruddinmohhar6492 Agreed with Finnegan. The original commenter was inferring that most people in their 20s go through this. It's a lost transition period to where a person fully develops into an adult.
Zahir Leddajjar he isn’t being negative lmao
Clarification to those commenting. What if the one reading his comment is over 20s? Won't he feel negative thoughts?
If you are reading this, this is directed to you:
I am a 22 y/o male. In college online part-time. I work full-time. I live with parents (good home life). I'm in a relationship. None of what I just said matters. None of my hardships or accomplishments matter. You are your own person with your own unique experiences, hardships, and accomplishments. DO NOT compare yourself to me, the guy in this video, your peers, or anyone else. I personally believe that this video was simply an expression of built up emotions from a 29 y/o guy who felt he was ready for change in his life. THAT'S GREAT. We all go through this sometimes and this video brought you here, as it did me, because we are probably in our twenties and looking for some sound advice, or maybe we also feel that we have "wasted our 20's."
Whatever the reason, just remember that you are freaking awesome, no matter who you are and no matter what other people say or think, and no matter what you have done or where you came from. Make the most of your life by accepting your mistakes as opportunities to grow and humbly enjoying your times of success.
I love you, and I am proud of you. Keep moving forward :)
Hey thanks
I love you. Thanks so much.
hey, you don't know me.
JustPeachyRL im 20 and I feel like I’ve wasted my 20s already lol
JustPeachyRL I love u G I’m trying I’m trying so hard to not let fear rule my life I’m going to a new school my senior yr have dreams of touring the world in arenas Nd have a big ass crush on this girl I really fcking like it’s just so hard but all I can do is do if I want to be tht person no matter the consequences💯man pray for me lol
I wasted my 20s, 30s and 40s. Now in my mid 50s I'm finally getting my crap together. It's never too late people. If you "are" in your 30s, be grateful and get to work on improving your life. One step at a time. 👽
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I just turned 30 this year, and I am finally starting to think about my future. Thank you for this advice, because it's something I need to keep telling myself to keep motivated.
im turning 20 this year
I am 32 years old and about to turn 33 I wasted... Absolutely WASTED every single day of my 20's. I'll never get it back. Until right this second I've never talked about it with anyone because I've felt so ashamed of myself and my life. I genuinely hated myself.. For about 8 straight years. Not just because I'm boring, it was "oh if I don't wake up tomorrow the world will be all the better for it." I didn't care if I lived or died because for almost 10 years I did nothing with myself because I lost everyone I thought was a friend and my Ex had cheated on me and was just going on dumb tinder dates that were meaningless until I stopped even going out because why even? After high school my friends either moved away or moved on and I stayed in place. My 20's... That whole decade where you hear people having the best times of their lives was so excruciating for me and to make it worse I had no one to talk to. I didn't tell my parents about my depression or suicide attempt because I couldn't take them thinking they did something wrong to produce a worthless son who tried to kill himself and even failed at that twice. THINGS CHANGED though. I know its going to sound cringe but it's what happened. My life got better when my dog came into my life. I never had a dog take to me like Ty did(My dog's name is Ty short for Tyrion) He has shown me so much love so unconditionally and I have experienced so much joy just because he is so attached to me. Why he became attached to me? We don't know but we are inseparable, He is a medium big dog which means he needs walks which means I had to get out of the house, which meant I probably had to interact with other humans... And I did.... And within a year our development or part of the town we live in... They all know me and they know Ty and I'm not alone. I found a part of myself I assumed was dead and I'm alive because of my dog. My relationship with my parents is the best it's ever been, people actual care about me... Our neighbors know me and even give me Christmas gifts it's insane. I thought I was too far gone, I had wasted too much of my life, I had done nothing with myself and while I'll never have my 20's back I always have right now, I will always have knowing that unconditional love is real and even though eventually Ty will pass on he will always be the reason I learned to love not just myself but love life. I've skipped a lot but this is too long as it it. I just want people to know that it is NEVER too late to change your life or find a reason to love yourself. Will it take time? Fuck yes. Will it be easy? No, but you will slowly find reasons you might have not known were there to love yourself to stick around. The world has some beautiful stories, you are one of them... I hope to hear yours. If anyone reading this wants to vent, or talk or tell me their story I'll always be here to listen feel fress to contact me. Thank you for your post and allowing me to tell my story and giving me hope for the future. It means more than you may ever know.
@@nervrenders I had a whole paragraph written down about my life and the things I regret, but it was all randomly deleted so I'll try writing it again: Reading your story made me cry; it's very inspiring, and I'm glad you're in a better position now. In my case, I spent most of my teenage years being a burden and doing nothing but playing games, I only became an excellent student on my last two years of highschool but for all the wrong reasons (seeking validation from people and expecting them to praise me), I didn't go into college right away cause I graduated in 2020 and COVID didn't allow me to study in US like I wanted to, spent every single fucking day after graduation just playing online games instead of studying, I don't even know how to fucking drive, the online friends who helped me get through depression and helped me accept myself as who I am turned on me and made up false accusations, spent half of 2021 doing nothing and the other half trying to do something but just failing to commit, trying to change in 2022 but it's the same fucking thing again. I'm turning 20 this march 2nd and I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do with my life. I'm afraid the years will pass and I'll be as useless as ever. I'm afraid I'll end up like my brother who, although graduated in civil engineering, is working at a bakery earning minimal wage. Hell, I'm afraid time is just gonna pass, I'll become older, and everyone will leave me behind while I still try to figure out my life... I don't know what the fuck to do and procrastinating is hard to get over...
"Every day I wake up and try to be the person my dogs think I am."
Legendary comment.
I love that comment I’m going to “the rest of my life I will make sure to give you credit for to
I love that comment I will never forget it
Yes, life is about this!
I won't eat until my animals do. Yeah I'm strange hah.
"It was much easier to level up in WoW instead of real life."
Hits home.
Better yet, as you level up, you go to new places, learn to know new people, etc., but that stops once you hit adulthood properly.
So this is the feeling I hade when I beat hollow knight and momodora 4...
you dont waste your time doing thing you enjoy whether it's playing video game or doing sky-diving...
I wasted my 5 year at wow!
@@necipakgz
So you didnt enjoy playing it ?
I'm 46.. you still have another 17 years before you get to my old ass age... so enjoy while you're young
My biggest regret was having low self esteem and confidence and worrying too much about what other people thought.
You're speaking like you're finished. You're only getting started.
Yeah, obviously its better for it to be earlier but life can start at any time!
Words of wisdom thanks
LoLo you still have years on years buddy go live life!
yea
I'm 26 right now and hit "reboot" on my life at 24. I had 2 choices, complain about my bad decisions and dwindling health, or take a step back and think about what I *really* want to do. Now I've moved back home, paid all my debts, and started writing my novel. I also started learning all the subjects I wanted to take in school but was afraid because they were for "smart people", namely programming, filmmaking, graphic design, and math. I've lost 88 pounds doing simple exercises and eating low carb, and got rid of my t2 diabetes that I inherited from a decade of ramen, pizza, and video games.
I have no idea where I'll end up doing all this, but I'm the happiest I've ever been. I'd rather have a low paying career doing what I want and be happy, than go back to my old life and bury myself in depression.
You truly are an inspiration, thanks for sharing!
Good job :)
good luck on your novel!
From one human being to another I'm proud of hearing this, when we make changes no matter what can bring a huge outcome towards a better direction in life 👏
I'm happy for you :)
"Most people die at 25....we just don't bury them until their 75" - Benjamin Franklin
K N O W L E D G E
@omnivore gains bruh 😂😂😂😂
I would let this go... But I can't :
*they're
@@khoitheboy do you not see the irony of the comment? Abraham linclon died over a century before the internet was invented, lmao he didn't even know what internet is
😧
Doing my job for the youtube algorithm. Nah, you're twenties were not wasted, it took you 10 years to learn not to waste your life until 65, I'd say that is a good trade :)
Couldn't put it better myself, on point!
Same opinion
That's a great point of view
Petrica Bota - your*
@@tylersmith1220 well, got the second your right, so there's that. Also, English is my second language so, pardon me.
2020: I wanna buy my parents a house
2021: My family disowned me; I disowned my family
Unfortunately
@@JoshuaFluke1 Ik a lot how you feel. My entire family is narcissistic and not in my life for four years. I didn’t know about narcissism until my thirties either. My narcissistic ‘mother’ was very monetarily successful and I still wanted to pay her back for helping me financially until I became disabled and her true hate for me could no longer be hidden. Sorry we’re going through this and you’re never alone.
@Sejal Nerkar thanks, Sejal, God bless you.
I'm 47 and what I have learned is that peace and happiness begins when you start creating things that come from your heart and soul.
Thats awsome advice.
That's deep. I'm trying to understand that myself
Sounds like something iroh would say
Oh thanks, I'll try that
Yup is true. Know thyself. Start with MBTI, get therapy, meditate, learn more about what makes you tick and learn about light and shadow personality. This will save you time and money and heartache
I'm 34, and I don't feel like I wasted my 20s. That decade was an important time to be miserable, embrace feeling depressed, lost and shut off from the world. All of those negative feelings forced me to shine a difficult light on myself and really work out what makes me tick. Nobody could tell me how to be me, not even my parents or people who cared about me. That's why everyone gave me the vanilla go to school / get a job and family story. It takes real work to come to a self understanding. Work I had to do myself. Work I had to do alone. And now that it's with me, looking back on that misery. It was a stepping stone to give me the spiritual happiness I have now.
Heck, that's so cool man. I'm delighted for you and I love your perspective. I'm trying to look back on my life (the mistakes and devolvement, self-sabotage etc from depression/anxiety) from 14ish to now (25) the same way so that I'm not filled with regret, hopelessness & fear. What a cool journey to read about as that's true progress, coming from a very low, dark place to elevating to a much better one! Wish you every success and happiness on your journey moving forward :)
love this, and i totally agree
Thanks for this perspective. I'm turning 23 in a week, and I realised I was feeling terrified in the lead up of it. Terrified because the last few years have been dark, shut off from the world, lost, depressed and now I'm heading in a new direction. I'm studying to go to university again, to study law. Did I need this dark miserable, unemployed, lost and lonely few years? Yes. Because without that, I dont think I would have ever found the will inside me to make something out of myself. And when I reach those milestones, when I finally get there, there will be nothing like it. :)
@@PringlesOriginal445 Once you learn to push through difficult times, you'll have those skills for the rest of your life! There are always good years and bad years. But you have the power to decide what to think and do about it! Good luck!
Thanks for posting this. It gave me some reassurance.
I didn’t start college until I was 25, didn’t graduate until 30, didn’t buy a home until 36 and never really understood life outside of books until my early 50s (that was a rough lesson).
We all would like to punch our younger versions in the mouth but, really, how do you gain wisdom if not by making hordes of mistakes? Make them and learn from them; use your time wisely.
you become wise by not using your time wisely
@@ellielikesmathThis!!
I had dropped out of college but went back at 28 years old for a STEM degree. It changed my life for the best. Luckily, I worked for a great company that helped with tuition and books and gave me a promotion when I graduated.
How have I wasted my 20's.
- Not eating healthy
- Not working out
- Heavy procrastination
- Bad Porn Addiction
- No clear logical goal
- being less social
- not taking risk
- not doing anything.
I am 27 this year and I am upset inside, I've lost my 20's. 😥
I'm 27 now but just started to take action on eating healthy, gym and social life.
life is meant to be enjoyed, once consciousness ends nothing matters. Enjoy and don't stress out we are all living for the first and last time.
I am 34 and I felt the way you felt. For most of 30-34 I worked on most of my regrets of my 20s and I am now better off. Recently I have been feeling shitty for not being productive enough over the past 3 months. You may not get over all of your issues completely but you can act now and make yourself better off. I did that from 30 until present and I can say I am a lot happier now. Keep trying man, you're not alone with your issues. We're rootin for ya
@AtR I know right idk what to do how to stop
Don't worry, you still have life ahead of you.
People reminisce about the good old days because they're too scared to look for the good new days.
wise words
Most of the time the so called "good old days" are overrated or never existed at all, but people need to imagine things to avoid the depression that is caused by the shitty present time.
IK its unrelated but I LOVE Edna mode *^* such a queen
Yes because theres security in knowing what happened and how it went. U have the full picture looking back at it. Nobody knows whats ahead and that either excites or scares people.
Nah not really. More that they enjoyed the earlier years
I'm 19 rn
Thanks for bringing this to light right before I turn 20.
Video games may be a waste of time for u if they hog your time, but they're are not a waste of time themselves as they provide a source of creative input, which is vital if you want to produce great output.
Personally for me, life isnt just about what I accomplish, but what I enjoy doing.
Holy shit man I randomly came across this video and was just shocked at everything you said. I was able to relate to literally everything you said in this video, it’s crazy how someone I have never ever met has these exact same thoughts and feelings as I do. I’m 22 and I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and that it’s just too late for me but in reality my life is just starting and this video gave me the validation to get off my ass and get to work. I don’t think you realize how much I resonated with you man, thank you for making this video.
Interesting your at this point with 22. I actually took 25 years to get to this point. And interesting you mention how relatable the video is. Same with me. I just realize we are all the same somehow. Very strange. But interesting as well.
SAme
same. did yo start college already?
Sooo, I'm about to turn 20 and I already regret playing counter strike for at least 2500h (not wanting to mention all those other games -.-). But as you mentioned already, this video is super relatable. Even tho I've just finished school I already feel like having wasted so much potential and not having committed enough. Anyhow, listening to other people feeling the same is somewhat reassuring because it makes me feel less naive / stupid. Uni is starting soon and this video is a real incentive to go "all out" ngl. Thank you honestly
Hey man. Dont worry. I felt the same being a 18 year old even though i did stuff
This is quality. You also only look 24-25. Keep it up man. Thank you for what you do
Looks and sounds. I decided to grow goatee after 21 to look more mature. In 28 without it I looked like 20. But now I have a freaking beard because things happened and now I'm kind of look goofy. So yeah. Good job anyway. You sound good enough to me. Or I wouldn't even stop to look at your videos. I don't like some creators because they have nasty voices.
Well he won’t after male patterned baldness sets in 🙄
You don't age much between 24-29, dont worry my young friend ;)
@@zORg_alex Lol, same here. I've been rocking a goatee and a mustache as soon as I entered University. Otherwise people in the liqueur store would ask me for an ID.
I'm 65 and this is what I think I figured out:
Every experience you had in the past got to where you are today....
Go back and change what? Different doesn't mean better just different
but
you still have lessons to learn that only experience can give you!
Taking an "L" doesn't mean necessarily mean "loss" but can mean "lesson" ...
From where I'm standing from your introspection and self-awareness, you're doing just fine! :-)
(Edit)
One last thing:
Growth is a constant process of refinement; you're not the same person you were and not the person you're going to be!
The late, great Muhammad Ali said something along the lines of:
"If you're the same person at 40 that you were at 20, you wasted 20 years of your life"
True
You are also an old piece of trash who completely destroyed the country, your advice is less than worthless.
It’s all about perspective man. At almost 24 I haven’t done squat compared to you. You lived overseas, completed a college degree that allowed you to make 65k a year, and now own a house. That’s like, the end game for a lot of people.
I know this videos about wanting more for yourself and being an ever-evolving person, but to say your 20’s were wasted is just not the truth.
Still a good title to clickbait a lot of people, for a good reason that too.
I'm 21 turning 22 this November, and this video has been an Eyeopener.
I am currently having sleepless night due to not having a job at my age.
The panic is real ngl.😨😰
@@papyrustheroyalguardsmen3446 I feel you man. We got this. It's very important to believe in yourself, to believe that you are NOT completely screwed. Of course, there are some people who have the skills to make $100k a year at about 16. And yes, if you compare yourself to them, you will absolutely feel devastated. But keep in mind that your twenties are only starting and you are already seriously concerned about your professional path and your well being in general (which is great, a lot of people wish they would've started being serious about their lives at your age) . Work toward your goals and keep track of your own progress, you can do it.
@@euku1 Thanks man.
I just got an Unpaid Internship today.
It's something atleast.
I'll learn and start earning someday.
I wish you good luck in life too.💯
Listen to this song.
Take me to the Top - Initial D.
@@euku1 Wait 16yr old and $100k a Year😳?
Who are you talking about exactly?
I was having a good day and you had to ruin it by saying that.
My insomnia just got worse by reading that.
@@papyrustheroyalguardsmen3446 don't worry man, I just said that to point out the fact that it's not a good idea to compare yourself to others in such way. Just as there are some geniuses, there are also people in their 30's who earn just enough to buy food and are still happy about themselves.
I'm 19 right now. I won't waste my 20's.
what will you do to make sure you don't.
@@sebastiancrawford1774 free myself from the shackles of expectations and make the most of my time.
@@muhammadgbadegesin8043 that's awesome. More power to you. 🙏. I'm 22 in 4 months and I don't want to waste the rest of my 20s. I wasted so much so far.
@@SurrealExposure12 how would you say you “wasted” it?
Same. I turn 20 in January. 2020 has been a bad year for me, but I'm starting to do better.
I'm 28 years old, and feel like I have been in a coma for a decade, war started in 2011, displaced in late 2012 and moved to a rented apartment.
In 2018 my family's apartment has been destroyed and afterwards visited the ruins of my childhood memories, now in 2021 I've moved to Turkey, but life still didn't recover too much, as I suffer from depression/a bit of social anxiety particularly when I compare myself with my peers whom lived the same shitty circumstances or fled to Europe and graduated and have a job makes me feel more like a loser... while I was panicking and worrying about war, missiles, bad situation, what's going to happen next, I wasted my 20's and didn't manage to concentrate on studying which led to drop out of college...
But even though I feel broken inside and behind in life I didn't surrender, currently trying my best to improve my English and learn some useful skills and looking for an online job in order to help my old parents and boost self-esteem as well.
Go back
"If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done."
NOW THAT'S WISDOM. You've oppend my mind man thanks.
Yes but is hard , for me is so fucking hard.
RUclips programming community needed a guy like you for a long time. Every coder I see on this website puts up a fake facade showing off how his/hers life is amazing and they just eat tasty lunch everyday. They catch attention of obsessive people like myself and turn them into lonely workaholics. With your realism, no bullshit policy and honesty you bring balance to this ecosystem by telling people to invest in multiple areas of life, so if one fails they have something to fall onto.
Thank you for influencing my life and making it better, you are doing amazing sir, keep doing what you're doing and I hope to see you become bigger and bigger channel over time. #grindreel
I can agree there are some fake people, but there are also many different personalities with different goals. I think josh is still very much in the search of his soul and what makes him happy, i can still hear in his voice that he has some questions in his head that he cannot answer.
Yeah, it’s cringe just seeing them eating food and drinking starbucks all day,
Check BradTraversy. He is very talented developer and talks a lot about struggling with depression, lack of motivation and how to "push" yourself to achieve your goals etc.
👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿
A lot of young men in their teens and early 20's need to watch your vid's. I'm almost 40 and your wisdom is already light years ahead for where I was at your age. I've wasted a lot of my life being a late bloomer because I didn't know what I wanted early in my early 20's. I have regrets, but there is no going back to knock some sense into myself. Keep making videos and I will keep watching.
So glad you’re talking about this! I’m 26 and I’m learning the importance of just slowing down and ENJOYING the moments. I found that reducing social media and screen time really helps especially if you already work a job on computers. The more time you spend unplugged the more memories you have of real life moments.
True... The problem is during covid time if you are single it sucks. Really nothing to do except work, shopping, watch tv, internet and sports.
@@lothecruel it’s definitely hard. On the bright side it’s a great opportunity to read some books, go on hikes, learn a new skill, get creative and make art, etc. There’s plenty to do in the non virtual world, but also yes I totally agree now is the wrong time to guilt ourselves for having a lot of screen time given the circumstances. All about finding the balance that makes you feel happiest
@Turquoise Cheetah Not everybody has luck in love. As a woman, the more status & studies you have, the harder is to find the right partner, unless you really want to settle for less. Girls with no studies or good jobs find boys easier.
@Turquoise Cheetah first of all I am 26, married, and my first baby is due in March. Secondly, wtf do you mean by "hit the wall then no one wants you"...? not everyone subscribes to the idea that people over 30 are worthless lol in fact I would say thats a minority opinion
Im 24 now, i was 17 yesterday wtf 😭
This makes me so sad. Especially since I relate so hard.
zeta orionis same :(
Same here yo
24 is the best. I wish I was 24. 41 sucks.
Invader Zim that’s deep can you please explain more
20 - complete mess
21 - get married and moved to another continent WTF
What a normie stuff.
I wasted my 20s:
- married at 21 (I wouldn't do it, but it is a big experience for sure)
- went abroad in another continent
- graduated in this new continent
- returned in USA
- bought a house
- found a remote job that was paying 65k a year
- founded a company
The real problem is that he has giant expectations, like he wanted to be the new Steve Jobs (which is literally 1 over a billion people). That's the only problem. He did more than fine until now to be honest.
Marriage is for fools, and i absolutely love it when people say shit like you arent a real man if you dont get married, and if you get divorced get basically held at gun point by the law, but after that you are considered a adult, fuck marriage and fuck whatever
@@Graveyard55 I mean thats a personal choice, but marriage definitely has its Ups. The problem isnt marriage, its finding the right person & besides marriage has its financial positives.
@@es_three232 40% of marriages fail. Why is that? That could be many many reasons. The risk of getting fucked over by divorce laws for men is too high and it's pretty much not worth it. Better to just live life doing things for yourself and yourself only. If marriage comes along, great! If it doesn't, then that's okay too. I've seen a good friend of mine get so desperate looking "for the one" and he gets fucked over by women all the time and is still blinded by his desire for women. Your sole purpose of living shouldn't be to get wamen. Too many people want their love life to be like a Disney movie but that's not how the world works.
@It's a Bunnay yeah I don't think kids are on my to do list either. Getting a vasectomy doesn't sound so bad 😂
‘Gonna do the same thing every day for the rest of your life..’
That’s my worst fear. That’s an awful life. I can’t imagine life being like that.
christian dawit all the best! You can do it ! ❤️
@rvidal0001 most sensible guy on here haha. Thanks for saying what most wont :)
I feel like I wasted my 20s. It just went by like a blink of an eye. I never finished college either because I just didn’t know what to pursue. I was a straight A student back in HS but I didn’t really find my passion. I also didn’t want to rack up major debt to go to college. But at the same time I’ve picked up a few skills along the way like marketing (FB, Google Ads), some basic web dev, I have a lot of knowledge when it comes to fixing cars, I’m really passionate about real estate, I’m bilingual also (Spanish). So I’m trying to piece things together to see what I can do with these skills. I just turned 29 and im still figuring my life out but I know my life has a greater purpose.
You're smart to have skipped college. College does not guarantee you a job. Sounds like you have some excellent skills. I encourage you to learn a trade. Web development and car mechanics are in demand. Best of luck to you.
@@rthcats2 College teaches you how to think and maneuver in a way that a trade can't though. Everyone in my family went to a University and I considered going to a trade because although initially I liked school, I grew bored of it early on when I wasn't challenged enough. Now at 22 I'm trying to go to a Uni, but I think a big majority of that is due to the influence from my family.
Research the tech field
I am 25 and I feel exactly the same regarding my life. Like I have done and achieved nothing and the last 7 years just vanished in an instant. This is so depressing.
Then
Start working on yourself,
and show the World, what an Alpha Male you truly are. 👍🏼💪🏼
I'm 24 and I feel the same
Same 😭
Bro, im 25 with no degree doing a job i dont like, if i could meet my younger self id strangle him.
@@bradturner7678 why can't you go back to school? What would you go for?
*"Whatever happens to you... it might not be your choice, it might not be your fault but it IS your responsibility to handle it and deal with it"*
That's something I really liked because it's so true.
How to: waste your 20s
Worrying about wasting your 20s
@@yoyonis6840 you mean drugs?
I'm not 20 yet and I'm worried
@@yoyonis6840 yes drugs great best
It's better to be worried than to live a hedonistic life full of mediocrity. I'd be worried any day.
Get out this Boomer tier advice
I watched this video before I turned 20, now in a few months I’m turning 21 and I rewatched this video.
It’s easy for me to say that I think this is one of the best video in youtube. So genuine.
The hard part is to understand what we miss and accept it, not trying to fill that void with something else.
Crazy to think that I'm only 19 and I feel like I wasted soo much time, thinking about the future gives me anxiety lol
You're 19 bro... I'm 24 and I felt like a baby until the age of 22... You have more time thank you think
I'm 19 and I battled depression for 11 years & it got worse during the pandemic I've spent months suicidal & locked in my room. I started reading books, I dropped from uni & took a break now I am looking for another uni. I tried committing suicide but what did I do in my life to end it? I want to leave a mark in the world before I leave. I am now learning Italian & Spanish Just from youtube. IT'S NEVER THE END. I am living with depression & suicidal thoughts but I will never end my life that's what I know. KEEP FIGHTING.
I’m 20 and miss being 19 ffs it’s weird
@@shoazdon7000 Don't waste your 20 missing 19. That's life we won't be young forever you still have a long time in front of you, best of luck!
Joselina yeah that is true, and I know for you right now it’s tough but I can tell from your comment you are a fighter. Keep pushing through and you will make it and leave your mark. I’m battling constant anxiety issues and it does get easier their is light at the end of the tunnel. KEEP FIGHTING!!
I am so thankful to youtube's algorithm for recommending me this!
I wasted my 15-31 being a junkie. Now im coming up on 8 years clean and studying Web Development and planning on getting out of construction and becoming a programmer. Its never too late. Dont do drugs children. Anyone have any suggestions on which online code school to apply to. Thinking about Codecademy
nothing but facts seen here. best of luck to you man
Depends which drugs, mmj is okay if it helps
@@ee214verilogtutorial2 even weed can seriously fuck you up. wasted my teens with it
@@sujal439 idk bro, I got good grades in high school for essays and I was high af. It depends
@@ee214verilogtutorial2 cmon man everyone says shit like that "yeah bro i do better on homework when im high ahahaha" you dont lol its a handicap. the only way you can use weed in a good way is to do it a couple times a week max
The original "I wasted my 20s" type video
your voice is not annoying at all, you come across a very sensitive and honest person. subscribing rn :)
Just graduated college, turned 22 yesterday, and so lost with everything that I've resorted to searching "what to do with my life" on RUclips at 4 in the morning. This. This was needed. Thank you
@@Blitzwing989 I'm there with you. I'm 22 and I am about 1-2 classes away from finishing my associates but I have no idea what major I want or if I still even wanna continue college. And I've been at this dilemma even before I graduated high school. I feel like im at a dead end and I need to think of something, anything and just fully commit to it. It's scary but I don't wanna waste my time but I'm afraid of taking the necessary steps.
MathisDux daunting stuff. Take everything one step at a time, play your cards. Maybe do some looking into internships in areas you’re interested in? Always a super solid option
I'm about to graduate next year and I'm already feeling lost. It truly is a horrible feeling and it feels like there is nobody to help you. I wish you the best
Literally me right now at 11pm. I never realised how widespread this issue is and it’s a fucking shame not more ppl r talking about this. I wish more ppl in their 30s (successful or not) would just tell us about their journey of figuring themselves out. Would make this journey a lot less lonely and confusing for us hey
@Connor Shae perfect comment! just wondering where i should search for a community? a bit lost on that :(
"Everytime I wake up I try to be the person my dogs think that I am"
holy fuck
so wakeup and be a god?
@@trees1922 haha
watching this as a sixteen-year-old to feed my constant existential crises
thedivinezero soak up game shit iz real
thedivinezero existential crisis at 16? ... Ur just or the very beginning of the beginning of the beginning of knowing that you have a thing called consciousness, yon dont know what existential crisis means ..
I'm A Warr;or i just overthink
thedivinezero its normal my dear .. The best mental time for you is just about to start! Think .. Think big .. Think well and most importantly .. Always think positive
@@imawarrior313 "the best mental time" if that time is supposed to be at 17 I don't think I can see it, I have never felt this shit in my life
"Every day I wake up and try to be the person my dogs think I am."
Wow. I don't even have a dog and this hit me hard.
funny part is, you are what you your dog think you are
My favorite part of the video ngl😂
LISTEN YOU IGNORANT IMPUSLIVE SUPER DRAMITIC IRRATIONAL AND EMOTIONAL PEOPLE. MOST PEOPLE SUCKS IN THIS WORLD, WHAT IM ABOUT TO SAY WILL BE THE BIGGEST IMPORTANT THING YOULL EVER HEAR, LISTEN UP. YOU THINK IM FUKING AROUND OR FULL OF SHITT. . THAT IS EXACTLY WHY YOUR BLIND, IM THE ONE, THE ONE WHO TRULY UNDERSTANDS LIFE , IM JUST THE 1 IN GENERAL. IM THE ABSOLUTE RIGHT AND RATIONAL 1. I DONT WANT TO SAY SUPERIOR BECASUE ITS COCKY. SO HERE WE GO MOST OF THE WHOLE WORLD SUCKS AND THE PEOPLE. THIS IS WHY YOUR LIFE SUCKS, JUST BECASUE YOU HAVE "NICE THINGS ""DOESNT MEAN YOUR LIFE IS GOING TO BE GOOD, THE ONLY THING THAT MAKES SOMEONE LFIE GOOD IS IF THEY FIND SOMEONE WHO THEY TRULY ENJOY SPENDING TIME WITH, NOT JUST HOPE TO ENJOY, THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO BE HAPPY. AND SINCE MOST SUK IN THIS WORLD IT IS EXTREMELY HARD TO DO BUT GOOD LUCK, I KNOW SOME WONT BELIEVE WHAT IM SAYING , THIS IS WHY YOUR STUPID AND IGNORANT YOUR LIVING IN YOUR OWN LITTLE WORLD OF FAKE BUT U DONT KNOW IT ,,,, YOU THINK IM JUST FULL OF SHITT, LIKE ACTING LIKE SOMEONE WHOS FINNALY FIGURED IT OUT WITH SOME FITIONAL DRAMACTIC BULSHIT, BUT I TELL YOU NOT, I HAVE QUOTES DIRECTLY FROM THE BIBLE SO LISTEN UP IF U WANT THE SLIGHEST CHANCE AT A GOOD LIFE INCLUDING HEAVEN, The question of whether there are more people in heaven or hell is answered by Jesus Himself in one succinct passage in the Bible: “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few” (Matthew 7:13-14).But you can make your own interpretation of the specific quotes from the Bible. MOST DO NOT GO TO HEAVEN, THE FAITH AND COURAGE AFTER MUCH SUFFERING FOR MANY YEARS WILL DESTROY THEM EVEN AFTER DEATH INTO HELL. READ AND LOOK UP QUESITONS THE BIBLE IF YOU DONT BELIEVE ME. YOU SHOULD STRIVE TO UNDERSTAND AND FOLOOW MY FOOTSTEPS TO UNDERSTAND THE TRUE MEANING OF THE BIBLE AND LIFE, AND TO UNDERSTAND THE ABSOULUTE TRUTH, AND NOT BE IN CONFUSION ANYMORE.
Lmfao!!!!!
@@alexred9693 Hey, I know you are going through something. Thet the hate out.
Dude this breaks my heart hearing all this. Just starting my 20s and hope to learn from your advice.
I am in my early 20s and I feel as though this COVID has tought me that no matter what you have, You will always want Human Connection beyond anything else
Speak for yourself because it’s the opposite for me. Sure, I kind of get what you mean, extreme isolation and loneliness are very rarely positive things. But throughout my whole life, I feel that many of my happiest moments have been spent alone. I’m very shy and an adamant introvert, that’s just who I am.
Spending time with people who I don’t know that well is absolutely exhausting. The same could even apply to my family and my closest friends to an extent.
@@oceanside9508 yo but it dont need to be thousands of connections ahahah
You just need someone to share the good side of life. One can be enough. Or a few.
Im also like you and most of the time i feel better alone and i usually prefer things this way. But going about daily struggles and good experiences, its good to have someone to share the wins and losses.
Dont have to rush it tough. Let it happen naturally, as it has to be. Youre doing fine.
@@oceanside9508 bro i had that thought about a few months ago. I thought i was a happy introvert, my comfort zone let me think that. But thats whats in your mind and what you want to hold on to since its yet the easiest way. Things changed for me. I dont want to be alone every weekend anymore. I need my friends, i need deep talks with different people and i want to socialize, learn and laugh with others. I learned to appreciate all the good and kind people i came across, you should try too. It upgraded my life, im happy again
@@oceanside9508 I feel you. I can be extremely adaptable but I’m still a introvert at heart. I feel like most people change and sometimes you change because of that. Most of me and my friends have drifted apart this year and I realized everybody is living life in their own way. We all change for the better or worse. 2021 onwards will be me focusing on me and what I want and have to do now so I don’t regret it later.
@@oceanside9508 Can you explain what you do with your time? I find myself constantly trying to find things to do that are enjoyable, but I constantly find myself thinking that without someone to share experiences with, and to teach, every experience is meaningless.
I also have very little experience doing things, because I rarely have money. Chick-Fil-A part-time doesn't exactly pay much.
I’m 20 years old, 21 this next Saturday. This touched my soul, and gave me hope. I thought I was alone in these feelings, but god damn you hit the nail right on the head for me. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Lately I’ve felt a void in myself, finding my anxiety controlling every decision I make, especially coming to work and time passing as I’ve grown up. I’ve lost jobs due to the days blurring together and me breaking down and physically being unable to complete simple daily tasks. Your gaming habits, your outlook on corporate worlds, it’s so relatable to how I feel, you actually made me feel something in my heart again. I won’t waste my 20’s.
"Every time I wake up in the morning- I try to be the person that my dogs think I am"
*Wow- let's not sleep on this quote...*
Shot out to the Dog owners who can relate
Just put this in my insta bio, always when i come from uni, while climbing the stairs i clim faster with smile cause my dogo is waiting. Truly most beautifull creatures.
@@trivunkonjik7413 Dogs and Babies are the only two creatures that are designed to be 100% affectionate without all that hate and jealousy.
@@lightscameras4166 well you should see my dog when i pet any other dog. There is jealousy alright😂😂😂
@@lightscameras4166 yep. The guy in this video is lacking exactly that - purpose. That comes from family, in adulthood from having kids.
I’m 22 and relate so much. I’ve had a good job for 3 years and a relevant degree but I felt so lost and knew that this isn’t the way I want to live my life. So, I’m quitting my job next month and going full-time on my own business (which I’ve been working on part-time for the past 2 years). I’m going to travel to all the places I want, challenge my fears, do things that scare me, and study philosophy part-time. And it’s scary to move away from this safe path I’m on, but at least I’ll want to live and get up in the morning.
How is it going?
@@BeautifulEarthJa Wow, thank you for reminding me of this 2 year old comment!
Oh it's been amazing! I did all I wrote, quit my job, became a full-time freelancer and had 0 difficulties finding consistent long-term clients. I also built up my personal websitie and wrote my first book (soon to be self-published). I'm even earning double my old salary now!
I moved abroad from Sweden to Berlin, Germany, and then Copenhagen, Denmark, as well as traveled to lots of other cities I wanted to visit! I've only needed to work part-time so I've had so much free time to read all the books I've wanted to and made many new friends and unforgettable experiences in different countries. It's amazing to think back to how scared but excited I was when I wrote that comment...
If you are thinking about doing the same - follow your dreams - DO IT! You make sure to plan ahead and provide some safety for yourself and then gooo
@@wendyzhoudesign beautiful story. well done to you 👏
to me, humans are truly connected when they are just open like this with each other. no lying, no nonsense just acknowledgement of reality and our true feelings. this gives me hope for humans and for myself, that this is key, being honest and dropping the bs for a second to just connect with people and reach out. thank you for making this
Honestly this was so comforting to watch, I've just graduated with First Class Honours in Computer Science after grinding my ass off just to feel a sense of accomplishment - To then realise there are no more "next steps" lined up for me. Everything from now on is my choice, and based off my own perception of what the next best steps are i.e. promotions, certifications, etc like you mentioned. I didn't get a graduation ceremony this year due to Covid, so I've barely had a chance to celebrate with my mates, and I went straight into a job 2 weeks after my exams finished, yikes
I have a good future lined up ahead of me - Good job, solid network, conference talks, etc, but I can't help but feel like I'll continue doing all these career boosting activities, just to sit at a computer 24/7, and only be happy when I get to jet off on holiday once a year and stragetically plan 500 activities into 1 week. It's a bitter sweet privilege, majority of people in the tech industry are VERY well-off, and probably won't struggle to find work/good pay. But my god I've only just graduated, and already feel the need to fuck off to a mountain in Norway with all my mates lol - pls tell me I'm not the only one feeling this way?
I'm in my second year of a CS degree. Been taking summer classes, and am on track to graduate next year. I can relate to that entirely. Hmu if you wanna talk, man. My email is ryan.w.doak@gmail.com
Dude, similar story here, except it sounds like you have your academic stuff figured out way more. I went into CS just because i didn't really know what else to go for, and sort of coasted through it, with really good grades, but without really networking or immersing myself or doing my own projects or whatever. I juggle several hobbies like art and music and i still have no idea what i want to do with my life. I'm "only" 23 and already feel like i haven't had the slightest idea of what I'm even doing for the last several years. Education put me on rails so i did what i was supposed to, but now that I'm "free" to choose what i want to do, the usual progression of entering the workforce (whether in a job related to my degree or not) seems bland and unappealing.
@AutoCAD Monster You've hit the nail on the head here!
The book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" drills into the concept that life never stops giving you problems, "True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving. It's a constant work-in-progress. The solutions to today's problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow's problems." Makes sense right?
Guess the only way I can explore "problems I enjoy" is by trying a bit of everything? Like you said, passive income could lead to more free time, allowing those problems to be explored more rapidly. But if I want to climb the ladder to gain financial security ASAP, surely I should be focused on 1 field?
Mind you, focusing on 1 field for the next 10 years straight (i.e. web development) sounds pretty mundane the more I think about it lol
I graduated 1.5 years ago in EE. I live with a roommate so I'm able to save about half my income and honestly, while I am still enjoying my job, I have definitely given thought to what it would be like to take my savings, quit my job for a couple months/up to a whole year, and just do whatever the hell I feel like doing. Travel/more time building hobby electronics/volunteer/other experiences. I know I'm privileged to be able to even seriously thinking about that and I'd want to beef up my resume before so that i wouldn't have a problem finding a job coming back. The bigger problem is being able to find someone who could do it with me or if I would just do it alone.
Most likely I won't do that, but I think it helps prove a point that we can't wait for retirement and no work periods to live our lives. Take the vacation time you are given. Do stuff you enjoy on the weekends and weeknights. Find ways to work less if need be. Make life enjoyable right now. Unlike some youtube hustlers, our every minute awake does not need to be geared towards making more money.
AutoCAD Monster I agree the taking months off to travel is an idealist view which is why I say it’s unlikely I would do it, even if I have the savings for it (I would definitely not go into debt for it).
I watch a lot of FIRE youtubers and other finance ppl like Graham Stephan who are all about the grind while you’re young and enjoy it later but truth is? For a lot of people the later is waaaay off into the future. You can grind, but I think it’s important to also enjoy the here and now. It’s why I say do things on the weekends and weeknights that you enjoy. Obviously know what you can afford. One of the things I like to do is taking hikes and other than the little bit of gas cost to drive somewhere, that’s free. And I can travel a couple times a year and still save a lot of money on my current income but I know I’m privileged to say that. I’d rather have a life of good memories than just grinding at work.
“You are just carrying out takes they would’ve done better themselves.” Absolutely not true. As an engineer I can confidently say that most ppl above me could not do what I do, and that’s the privilege of working as a specialized profession, and I still have a lot to learn before I’m truly an expert.
Yes I’d love Financial independence. But to me, it’s important to realize that I’ve already reached a lot of that. Yes I have to put hours into a job where I’m not my own boss but I enjoy that job, I have time for my hobbies and family, and if I were to stop enjoying my job/were fired I have plenty of fallback and could take my time looking for another job I DO enjoy.
Thank you for opening my eyes.
One more year till I’m 20 and I feel more prepared than ever. Saved the video and will come back in the future to remind myself of the things you talked about.
Thanks and goodluck in your lives everyone!
Best of luck buddy! You got a rough road ahead of you
Same. I'm 19.
Ouhhh same I’m turning 19 in 2 months
Keep your head straight, work hard and good luck my friend !!
don't worry youll still have plenty of regrets
I’ve heard older people say that being in your 30’s is like being in your 20’s but with more money and stability. 30 is still young!! You still have opportunities to have everything that doesn’t even really HAVE to happen when you have a ‘2’ at the beginning of your age
So true. 30 is not old by any means, but it certainly feels like it is in a society that pushes youth in a really unrealistic manner. There is so much unrealized potential in each of us that takes more than a decade to develop.
I think 30s is when you get to enjoy the hard work you put in, in your 20s
I hope you're right on this one. I'm 25 and so depressed I feel like death is the only way out. Guess i'll wait a few more years to see what else life has to offer.
Hùng Phạm please hold on, all the effort you’re putting will pay out
The Swedish Truth I’m bored of pessimism- you can write your comment and think it’s true and so can i, have a good day though!
watching this at 28.5 to make sure i dont waste the remaining 1.5 yrs of my 20s (assuming i make it to 30)
Me to haha
"You don't need to be motivated to do something."
truth
Yeah but I mean, some motivation could help...
Obligating one self everyday is quite tiring lol
I think he got this mindset from the book "atomic habits"
I think of stoicism.
Yeah, your actions are what motivate you, rather than you needing motivation to act.
25 right now turning 26 in a few months. I feel like I really needed to hear this. Can't help but think about what I could've changed in the last 5 years. Fortunately, I still have another 5 to kick myself into gear. Thanks Josh
Good attitude
As a 23 year old I needed to hear this.
Same
I need to hear this from time to time again
Facts same here.
same
Same and take care on the roads. God bless you everywhere you go (I'm not religious but that's what I want for you).
Your *_time_* is too precious to be spent at a job you hate at a corporation that will drop you the moment they find a better deal. Use your 20's building the life you want
I'm 22 and I was forced to move out of my parents house. I'm working for corporation that is not bad but treating me like i'm not needed at all. The thing is how do I move out of this situation?
@@LevtNow make your own company. Find what you're good at and do that and pay people to do the rest. If it's a good idea, you'll get payed back.
FLAGELLANT the real question is should you risk it or nah? That depends on you
Yea sucks to know that one day we'll turn to dust. I cant imagine losing my parents. I know the event will happen or maybe I'll go first but it just sucks
@@sneezygibz6403 better to just not think about it... now I'm depressed :)
One of the scariest feelings is thinking about how much of my life I've wasted doing nothing and not being happy.
*When you realize*
you're watching this and you're currently 20 years old
Yeah I recommend learning financial literacy, ganna help us a lot plus the rest of the comments basically say “slave away and work hard to buy a house and dream car” lol useless
I’m just going for the biggest project I can manage now (starting a game studio) and seeing how it goes.
@@Ricval33 I wanna join, hmu on discord
@@Ricval33 what kind of game u making? I don't mind testing
same here
honestly i'm 20 this year and i'm just so anxious because this year has felt so empty; when I think about the next 9 years it seems so far away but time goes by so fast it's scary.
sameeee:((((
I'll join you guys on the sentiment :(
here @20 as well haha was thinking the same
Same for me, it’s really scary
2 years ago I was 18 and I feel like 6 months past since then but I'm 20 now almost 21 and I'm still this 18 yr old kid tryna figure out life
dude complaining about graduating at 24 years old while me graduating next year when I will be 27. Scary shit.
And me who might go back to uni at 26 lol
To have a second degree.
i had shit lined up, graduated at 22 with bachelors. married at 23 and from this moment every thing went to shit, till 27 when i got divorced, another year of depressed dunking haze and only at 29, i picked up my shit and started figuring life out.
@@whateverbabe If you go back make sure you get a marketable degree. Computer science/engineering etc. Going to college just to get a degree is fine, if you can afford to outright pay for it. Going into debt for a degree is fine if you're getting a degree that will get you a fantastic job, think about the return on inventment.
Where is the problem? in germany its normal that the students are all much older
“How are you supposed to stand out if you’re in the crowd?” Made me rethink my life
“they were people, but they were like hollowed out shells of humans, there was nothing behind it” damn.
yeah, Im only 20 but him saying that hit way closer to home for me than I'd like to admit.
i saw a lot of those kind of people while working retail ... its always heart breaking
@@Definesleep938 Same as well.... You can JUST TELL... it's actually scary in it's own way... like it's the epitome of dread.
ye it was deep
It is probably common theme for every big fuckin company. I worked there once and nearly want to commit suicide
Love this so much, and related to it on too many levels even though I'm just 21. I'm about to start my final semester of college, and I'm honestly only still there because 1. it's a great school and 2. my parents want me to finish like it's their life goal. In that sense, I'm doing it for them but I promised myself when I do finally finish in May I'm going to go fulltime on youtube and my other online businesses for a year to prove I can find lasting success there. I've done decent so far but I haven't been able to just focus, I let other things get in the way and people scare me into taking the safe route. Covid and living in the northeast doesn't help, it's dark by 4pm right now and there's nothing to do - my motivation and hope is at a low.
Well I wanna come back to this video in a year and hopefully I've hit 1 million subs, have moved out with my girlfriend, and can say I'm honestly a happier person than I am now because I feel free and am doing things I wanna do - here's hoping and a lot of hardwork!
Avoid relationships at all costs. I’m 19 and I’m strongly considering starting an online business that can put me into other ventures like real estate and stocks. But if there’s one thing I can say it’s stay away from relationships.
@user9823598246 he's right
Hey, good luck man!
You got this brother!
Good luck bro, rooting for you!
On a positive note you never lose anything as long as you learn from it. I've done terrible things and have "wasted" my life (28). If you are living without regrets it means you haven't learned from them- it isn't our mistakes that make us who we are it's the lessons.
Thats a great take honestly
I'm 21 and i'm starting my first business. Id rather fail 100 times then be a slave for 45+ years of my life.
Good luck brother, I'm also trying to do it. If you're interested on talking with someone hit me up. I want to start a programming business and man it's scary
You say that before your first try
@@willjohn1117 it is a hard hit when you first try. I got smashed on stackoverflow for trying to help
Same here brother, started my own web development business in the beginning of this year when I was 20. Good luck and just enjoy the experience my guy!
@@BlueMrDragoN how has it gone so far. I also want to get into web development but idk if I got what it takes yet. I know HTML CSS but im still missing to improve my JS and I still need to learn SQL
Our minds are taught to follow a system set by the government for the first 18 years of our life. the ones that are strong enough to rely on themselves and see past the system succeed. College is the official trap. You will waste so much time and money, you will also most likely limit yourself to what you studied because that’s what you spent most of your time and money on. If your reading this, be better everyday. Figure it out yourself and understand that the most knowledgeable people are the ones that go through experiences!! mistakes only make you smarter so don’t be afraid to fail. No matter how old you are don’t stop learning!
Marco and Alvin thank you
Unfortunately I currently live in a third world country (I'm 18), online classes for my first year in college RN just in it for two weeks...being able to finish college here is a HIGH privilege so yah gotta finish it first...
But despite that I'll still use my time wisely...I am EXTREMELY lucky to have a fast internet connection so I can learn more beyond what I learn on school...by 24 I'll leave this country and grind more
@@nivrrtakr2891 hey mate , which field are you in.
@@aswinaugustine5308 Accountancy
"I need to stop playing games soo much"
-Spoken like a true gamer
I'll be 29 in a few weeks. I've spent most of my adult life depressed and suicidal, scrambling for money and trying to find happiness in the wrong things and people. I basically flunked out of high school and had no plans for college. I lived most of my days with the fallback of "well, if things get too bad, I'll just tap out of life." I got a tattoo earlier this year that says "try anyway" and it's finally convinced me to never kill myself. I've never had a girlfriend or a very stable job. I usually got fired within the first year for being honest or getting taken advantage of by people in higher positions that didn't like me. I'm social and fun to be around, but I have self-esteem issues that prevent me from being vulnerable enough with people to allow them in my life, and I run out of energy quickly. Thankfully I've filled my free time with playing piano and reading instead of video games. I just got a supervisor position at a new job, and I'm hoping to keep it long enough to finally get me out of this hole of poverty and into real life.
But you know what? I found and still find happiness in little things. I developed a great sense of humor and outlook that lets me laugh at things and keep my depression at bay. I learned to love myself sincerely, regardless of other people's false opinions of me. I'm learning to be vulnerable, especially with women. This part of my life just feels like learning the controls of a new game, and I'm confident that once I actually start playing, I'll get really good at it. I just need to leave practice mode and stop overanalyzing my part in it. I wish all of you nothing but the best happiness and love that life has to offer. If I had to offer any advice to anyone: find yourself. You're in there and you're more valuable than words can describe. I believe in you, even if you don't believe in yourself all the time.
Love your story. DM me on Twitter @youngthugher . Would like to talk more.
Ty for sharing!peace
Thank you for sharing!❤
Thanks for this comment. Needed to hear it. Much love brother.
Bro I encourage you to delve into getting to know Jesus the person. Studying him and his nature will unlock another part of you that you never thought was possible. He is the Healer of healers, and all things and thoughts bow before Him. I started with listening to worship music and reading books that describe Jesus’ personality backed with Bible verses. He is alive, and He wants to hear your voice. He knows you and is calling to you now. Peace be to you, and may hope be reignited in your spirit. God bless brother
I am 21
and from my first year of 20s, I know that I f***ed up
i am without a degree without a job without money + I am very alone and still want to waste my time with cold blood :'(
I am really lost
Being in my 20's, I have this weird feeling of anxiety feeling that these years can set you up for the rest of your life. Although you can say that about at any point and time in your life, I don't know why I feel so anxious about these years. Does anyone else feel this way?
yes!
@@linemols156 glad i'm not the only one :D
@@lebonbonanna1485 just gotta savour every moment. The good & the bad :)
@@jedleton thank you for that, very true
You feel anxious because of the uncertainty and it's everyone not just you..but see your path and focus on it..and enjoy it...find people or get a pet...remove urself from the media and walk,walk everyday and be outside ..the world is still beautiful..
I'm halfway through 26 and I feel like I've been wasting my 20s and continue to waste em. I've become scared to take any risks but I really found your video insightful. Thank you.
25 to 30 are better years than 20-25. You usually make better choices and have more money to spend. I'm 33, played away most of my 20's, but it gets better, bought a house and have a stable relationship. Stay strong.
Here is something that isn't risky that you could do.[ Practice mindful meditation ] :o
(explanation)At the end of the day all that matters is what you remember, to make use of memory you must develop awareness! You need to be able to look in detail like a detective finding that which you enjoy & that which adds meaning to your existence and expanding on it.
/ No one remembers a blurry picture so it's no surprise you feel like so much time has been wasted. Habits whether good or bad is always you on auto-pilot mode. Which is a mode that doesn't require much input(like your attention or effort) it happens subconsciously.
(my own example) I honestly can't remember the last time I enjoyed food but I eat a lot, I JUST ATE. It wasn't bad but its like background noise, I wasn't really aware while I was watching this video and now in the future even if it was great food I won't remember nor care. But i'll be the first to complain about my weight :/ so obviously my priorities are screwed and being self aware of my overall situation just isn't enough... I have to in real time watch my actions and re-adjust my undesired behaviors. Like chewing more and not distracting myself, i'll eat less and if I track how much I should be eating a day I can change my life drastically cause we eat everyday. Having no plan means your just letting the world choose for you, cause something always happens.
so we must take our lives into our own hands.. :O
@@thoughtfulluis6202 that's some great advice. My problem is that I've become more of a passive person. I'm letting things just happen without having a plan or being an active person. This caused a lot of problems like watching a lot of series because I don't have to interact. It's like I'm taking on the observer role up to the point that I even have trouble forming my own opinion during a social conversation. (Also, I can relate to the food thing so much.)
I feel like it's a weird form of laziness. I don't think I'm depressed or anything since I can still have enjoyment. But there's a huge wall I can't seem to overcome when it's about becoming more of a productive person. I've seen so many videos and listened to so many podcasts about productivity and following your goals and so on, and all of them do have really great information. Yet even after consuming all that I seem to lack the applying part of that information. I've listened to the advices sometimes but it never really sticks. It usually ends up being a one time thing. It's like you said, I'm completely stuck in a bad habit autopilot mode. I've failed switching that around and my biggest fear is that I'll be stuck in this mode till I'm a grandpa.
Your advice seems doable so I'll do that as a start. Sorry for my backstory tl;Dr ;p
@@gokusamir "Weird form of laziness", as far as I can tell from my own similar experience is that we are not lazy as there's probably been a few rare occasions where we have went above and beyond even when not necessary. It's more that whatever could make us move isn't currently in our lives. Motivation is the spark but we need the fuel to keep the flame alive. I believe my "flame" is intimacy as it is something I lack from an early age till this date. Yet at the end of the day that's just the parameter I need to obtain(such is my belief) to allow myself to do what I always could. Though true to some extent as in, I can't help myself get out of a self created issue while still creating it. But if someone outside of me could persuade me then its possible... Words have minimal effect, only visible results can change my mindset.
Idk it's either that or develop a will strong enough to break free from any mental constraints.
No need to apologize :3 Been there done that/Still there doing that... 3:
@@gokusamir have you tried the Jordan Peterson pill?
Hey man, first time ever watching your videos. I'm 24, I was literally so bored I was browsing youtube. I'm so glad I found your video - I identify alot with what you've said in this video. I will change now.
Same here man another 24 and same thoughts. his insights were hard hitting made an impact.
Another guy turned who turned 24 on 23rd July. This is the video everyone should see.
bro thank god, im 21 watching this and man is this shit eye opening af. I have alot of time to create a future i want and i needa start right now.
@skepticskaterr just here to say none of you will really change and you will go back to who you are in less than a couple of days. Bye
@@josephismeh For someone with that username you sound pretty defeatist.
At least you have a house. I'm 27 and I still live with my parents. I wasted college on a useless degree and I had just pressed the reset button. I'm just lost.
27 is still very young. Some people have it all at 25 and crash in their 30s. Find hope with the thought that you may paid your dues now and that a bitter start may mean a sweet ending. At 27, I donated all my clothes and landed on a foreign country with very little cash. My degrees were useless in the world I hoped to conquer. (Well 27 is a beautiful number and sk is 28, so go do something daring).
I have binged a few of your videos and didn't notice anything about your voice until you brought it up. You sound normal. I don't think anyone with ambition will feel like we "made it". I find comfort in just knowing that, it's a never ending journey. Enjoy the everyday struggle/challenge. Especially from the 1%/privileged part of the world where are struggles mean something completely different than the rest of the world.
Man, you nailed it on the head about "I don't feel any different at 29 than I did at 20, just a slightly smarter version of my younger self."
I'm 34... still feel like I'm just 17 year old me with an older, shittier body hahaha
Never too late to start lifting and eating healthy. I feel drastically better at 31 than I did at 20 and I was pretty damn healthy at 20.
Derek, I just started to go to the gym after 8 years and its deffo worth it you should try it :)
@@TrueLife.. ... Can you nutshell your definition of eating healthy?
Cheers 🙂
breakingthemasks Eat real food, not too much, and do it in under 12 hours consistently every day.
Oh my. I’m here being 20 soon but I remembered something that happened when I was 8 and I didn’t felt I grew that much in these years...
I am 25, needed to hear this. It’s not to late for me
It's not too late for anyone at any age, as long as you still draw breath you can make a difference.
same here man, im 25 and I'm just starting to struggle my way to the programming world
Raul Colunga we can do this brother
William Van Dusen mate your 23 😂 you haven’t even lived yet
William Van Dusen what have you done by 23 that is so awsome? Please enlighten my soul
Man you're not annoying at all, don't listen to that dude. Keep grinding and working on your channel.
RUclips algorithm brought me here. Thanks for this random RUclips guy. Love your transparency. You are helping a lot of people. Really needed to hear this.
I'm 23 and really needed to hear this. I also started college again at 21, what you're saying really resonates with me. Thanks for this video & advice
Comon bruv think positive and you'll change your future
I'm 23 and feel like I'm wasting away just trying to figure out how to get by. The only part of my life that even resembles the life of a 23-year-old male is the struggling aspect. Shit's depressing.
now i got a buddy here..i'ma 23 as well shane mullin:)
I've wasted half of my 20s focusing too much on selfish exs and what they wanted from me rather than on my own aspirations, finances and career goals (making money without being on a corporate ladder). I'm 25 now and within a year I've done a 180 and have attracted people who think the same way I do, it's never too late to change and improve your life!
How to motivate yourself: "You don't. You just do it."
Now I understand.... 22 years and now I get it.
Read "Discipline Equals Freedom" by Jocko Willink. Good book that expands upon this very idea.
I’ve been feeling this “time waste dread” for the past two years during covid and the housing market crashing. It’s like the past two years we’re just wasted even though I was still working on hobbies and doing a lot more than most.
"No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun
." - Pink Floyd
* most cosmically orgasmic guitar solo comes in *
@@aggelosdoulgerakis4854 that song is epic
i can hear the music
One of my favorite songs ever.
I’m in my mid 30s now leaving mid 20s was a blink . The biggest time is worrying wasting time. If your enjoying a video game and complete it, then you did something. Spend time with a friend being real. Looking after a pet is awesome! What I learned in life is “no job /no girlfriend is what defines you. It’s your honest work will define you! Things are nice to have but not the end goal! Remember if you can’t make your self happy then no one will!
The people in your life and relationships you have should be people who take away stress and not add stress
"be the person your dogs think you are" - Joshua Fluke
I’ve got no dog 😵
My dog probably thinks im a moron lol he just likes my sister
Just the little baby one likes me, i guess ill try to be the guy he thinks i am ahahah
Great video. I'm 27 going on 28 in a few months, and all i've really done with my life is try to "level up" with every job i've held, while leveling up in whatever RPG I could get my hands on to feel productive. I myself have been feeling a strong disconnect with myself, wondering if I want to continue working for these corporations. I've recently decided to go off the grid and work for myself. I may fail miserably, but do I really want to die without at least trying?
I've also seen the drones at these jobs, especially my last one. Seeing my ex coworkers boil their life down to "this is just how it is being an adult",and continuing to not only complain, but slog through the crap the job threw at them, sickened me. If that's what being an adult is, they can keep that. We can be well off and be at peace with ourselves.
Joshua sounds like a grown up version of Morty from Rick and Morty but in a way that’s like a voice of reason that’s been through it. It’s just really genuine
The accuracy lol
Wtf was thinking exactly the same and about to comment it
Aww Jeeze Rick
He sounds like mr poopeee buttholes cousin
28, joined the navy at 22 after wasting 4 years doing nothing. Definitely feel where you are coming from. Now six years have passed and I have no clue what I want to do.
At least you are self aware of it today.
I turn 28 tomorrow.
"I wish I had spent less time playing video games"
Me: I mean I like games too they're a hobby I don't think they're a time wast-
"I maxed out every single class in WoW in every single expansion"
Me: .................Jesus Christ dude.
On the flip side you have a successful youtube channel with 100k+ subscribers.
i mean a ton of people make a lot of money playing video games on youtube and twitch so I don't think you can say it's a time waste like it was 20 years ago
Yeah but a successful RUclips channel won't make the cut :/
What do you mean by that, exactly?
@@Arander92 Mostly this new generation dream of being YT or Instagram stars, which is a little bad from my point of view, yes they can have another life outside of social media, graduate w/e collage/university, become a researcher for example, tech giant entrepreneur or w/e but social media is a flawed piece in the machinery...now you're top, then you're not and there goes your money your fame, your house perhaps, because some pay bills with money from social media, your friends your everything, and they will start to behave like a 3yo crying for their stolen lolly. Do you see my point?
I'm no saying they can't have a double life and do well on all planes...but....there's a difference between life experiences with people you love and cherish and being around here gathering followers/subscribers ultimately money.... with no grand vision to spend them on, no actual real people to connect with and do something together as a whole, in unity. So yeah...it won't really make the cut...if you draw the line on everything that this might cost you. A little risky but if you manage it, congrats mate, you've done it, will all planes intact :D but you know how life is :)
@@Avell. yes it will. In a couple of years he'll be able to live solely on RUclips revenue if he so chooses.
It's especially anxiety-relieving to see someone who feels like a mirrored reflection of yourself doing the good things in life. You're amazingly inspirational Josh, thank you for doing this!!
Hi Joshua, im from Poland.
Im 20. While i was study at school i only play in video games, i do nothing, there was a lot of fun playing with friends in cs go. Now i am completly lost i cant find my self, i end the school i start working at gas station when i was 18. I earn money to survive to the next month, So i decided "this life what i have now is not a love what i want to have" So i start create website i start do something to have a better life. Every Day im angry at myself about time i waste, pherhaps i have depression there is not fun in my life anymore, im like you introvert, like you when you was 20ty i dont know how to talk with girls i want leave my country becuse in my Village is not futhure for me. But thanks your video i think there is a hope for me, i dont have support from family, they dont understand for them work all Day and beer at night is a Perfect life but not for me. Great video, you show people that life what we have is create by us, not order people.
My English is still not Perfect but maybe you understand 😄
Have a nice Day!
Thanks for the comment man
zolw bolek Come to UK if you can.
Many polish here and lots of money. If there is no future for you in your village perhaps there will be better opportunities here.
Seek wisdom
@@GeorgeOnYT- I find your comment very... nice. There is an opinion that people in UK hate Poles. Nethertheless I think this guy should first look for a work in some big polish cities eg. Warsaw (greetings!) or Katowice. There are tons of job offers here.
As a teenager this was certainly a wake-up call for me and I greatly appreciate you (and the algorithm) for this video.
I've pretty much wasted my childhood and thrown away any previous opportunity given to me to become something special, and practically every day prior to this was a repititive slog and I've felt as though I've always been doing the bare minimum. I've never really excelled or been "good" at anything either, no talents, just another grey rock on the mountain.
From this day on I'll start working out my regrets, improve my social life, and train a crap ton of skills to try to put some meaning and purpose into my life. At the very least, one thing I certainly ought to feel lucky for is to come to this realization this early on.
We're all going to make it bros.
After months of watching this channel I will finally subscribe
That’s dedication right here lol
@Peter Mortensen Found the guy with the ad blocker.
There goes Zlatan Ibrahimovic. Always ever proud.
Fuck it same.
😂😂😂😂
"You don't need to feel motivated to do something. You just do things when you have to do things because that is the standard you set yourself to."
for all the entrepreneurs out there, dont rush it, god damn my biggest lesson, ORGANIZE AND PLAN OUT EVERYTHING, trust me it will save you a lot of time..
When you are 29 you realize that not much changes and its a bummer. When you're 59 though you will realize that you don't want much to change because the changes coming all suck.
THIS STRUCK MY HEART. I am 20 and want to buy my parents a house so bad as well. One day we will. NEVER GIVE UP ON THAT DREAM.
Kj47
and pay the land tax to death
I won't
How's the progress going? Well in my case it's like I've given up, failures struck hard consecutively.
@@HassaanALal There's no such thing as failure, it's only a set back. Dust yourself back up.
You gave me the chills...felt like hearing myself talk...scary, recently turned 30 and I feel 100% the same. Thank you very much for speaking out about this