Ali is genuinely a really nice guy. He once replied instantly to my email on his newsletter. It was quite a surprise but made me feel for once that people we watch online are real
Are you still there doubting and watching while others are making cool money from bitcoin investment, I will encourage you to start investing to secure a better financial freedom
I actually stop panicking about the fluctuating nature of btc price, ever since I started investing with Mrs Judith Beverly . am gaining regularly even with the market downtrend at times.
I believe year 2020 was a year that thought everyone to be smart with whatever they're doing financially if they're to achieve the success they so much crave for
This is the quality, down to earth and relatable content that makes Ali such a likeable guy. Thanks Ali - and remember to look after yourself first and foremost! In life, no-one will have your back quite like yourself.
I agree. The reason im such a fan of ali is he doesn't bullshit about procrastination and pretending to be some productivity robot that is unattainable and makes you feel bad.
I’m also a productivity-obsessed youtuber and I can relate to this on *every* level ... I could have pretty much said all of this myself. Great to know I’m not alone and appreciate your candor
There’s a ton of articles on burn out and reasons why many of us procrastinate. • Negative emotions • Attracting negative energy/emotions and negative people yourself. • Depression & anxiety • Schools messes up with students sleep schedule, and how we function throughout the day. And the list goes on. I’m glad you made this. Because no one discusses about solutions, and problems with procrastination.
Personally, I think Ali is in a sort of dilemma here. While still being an almost productivity-only RUclipsr, he's slowly feeling more disconnected with the topic itself. This certainly doesn't mean that he doesn't enjoy being productive and therefore feeling accomplished once in a while anymore. But as he's reached almost all of his goals and he can choose his future path in life very easily, he doesn't really feel the need of being productive all the time anymore. Furthermore, due to plenty of comments only reducing him to productivity (which are only meant to be entertaining) he might feel the need to keep the productivity-only theme of his channel going as his past experiences have shown him that this topic lead to the success of his youtube channel. What do you guys think?
The weight of conscious or unconscious validation is too much for anyone to carry for a long time - and so many times, we shift the societal and parent need for validation to the one in the social media.
I think you might be on to something, obviously we don't want to start coming up with theories on Ali's mind state, we're just commenters under a RUclips video but I wouldn't be surprised that reaching the level of productivity he has (mastery), hitting over a million subscribers (accomplishment) and having complete autonomy over his destiny that he might lose the motivation to carry on. On top of writing a book on his life's work while being super challenging might be tedious at this point because productivity has a lot of overlapping concepts and it could get tiresome quicker than other genres. It'll be interesting if he's still doing productivity years from now or he will move into other subject areas with his platform.
This is really profound and touches on the concept of locus of control. Thanks for sharing your perspective it really helped me to realize I am overly focused on output goals.
This was really refreshing and helpful Ali. I've been trying to make videos and been super hard on myself whenever I missed an opportunity because I'm too tired or unmotivated. I think it is true that we need to push ourselves regardless of our emotional state sometimes, especially when we know that what we are doing is worth it and that we care about it. At the same time, it is a challenge to not get burned out when we are perfectionists. Which is why I really find your point about being input-focused helpful in that regard, because it reduces the amount of energy, stress and anxiety surrounding things that we simply cannot control. All in all, thanks for this video where you let us be part of your (and our own) therapy ☘️
🍀 Thank you for this honest video, Ali! I really needed it. Often when we put a label or a name to a phenomenon/problem that has been bothering us, it helps us recognize the problem and come up with solutions to solve it. And understanding your emotional state and needs is critical to being more productive, and in general, to live a healthier & happier life.
I think that’s the problem though and I suffer from it too: when you take a break or a vacation you are still feeling bad about not doing something productive. It’s hard to switch that off and have guilt free relaxation
So I overcame my fear and hit the “publish” button on RUclips. Thank you for your advice and how to get started with RUclips. I know the growth process doesn’t happen in a day but I believe I’ll try my best and put in the work. All I just want to say is “Thank You”
Same with me... it took me many days of overthinking and half a day of having my mouse hover over the publish button... damn scary but just trying to get it into my head that no one really cares. Just publish and publish and publish... someone will eventually watch the videos.. best of luck to you! 🙂
🍀 It's nice seeing other people talk about the struggle with goals that are met like 5% of the time. D'Avella did a video on this as well and one of the best ways of dispersing some of the toxicity is to realize that even the very productive people that you 'look up to'/'admire'/'are friends with' are struggling in the same exact way. It's not a problem with self, its a problem with unrealistic goals.
🍀 From all you’ve said I believe therapy would do wonders for you. From what I’ve seen, this feeling doesn’t really change till we start addressing the issue very frequently. It helped me a lot. Hope you feel better! 🍀
I am definitely guilty of revenge bedtime procrastination 😭 it’s so so good that you’ve shifted your schedule and mindset to taking care of yourself and looking after your mental health. I actually made a video a couple weeks back about attitudes towards productivity where I talk about the importance of listening to your body when working, so it’s nice to hear you’re doing that ✨
Im just saying i love this video, one of the reason being that I learned the word for why I keep being on my phone an exagerated amount of time while having the feeling of not being in control of my time (working a LOT). Thank u ali!
🍀 That whole last vicious cycle from lack of sleep to lack of "doing enough" back to lack of sleep is my M.O. The struggle is real to just be ok with "enough".
Revenge bedtime procrastination is REAL when you are a stay at home mother. I sometimes stay awake and scroll through my phone even if the phone falls down from my hand.
🍀 that was very relatable! Was trying to figure out why I didn’t feel like doing anything productive, and I spiraled down this vicious cycle of ‘waste’ then feeling worse about myself
🍀 I think this video was very necessary. Being productive is great but you also need to give yourself ample time to breathe and rest as you’re being productive.
you are the first one who tells me that this 'i can't go to bed i need to do something' feeling actually is a thing. a few years ago before i had therapy, i often was awake till 6 in the morning and i didn't even know why. 🍀
Having started to experience the same kind of burnout since 2017 but still working on recovering from it. The key is to remember to care about the SELF, no matter the SELF is professional or not. Cheers. 🍀
I LOVE these feels talking head vids! Do more of them! It’s great to see the productivity guru is human too... and if nothing else, at least you get to talk through your emotional state and get it out (you could always get a cat and talk to it but that’s a lot more high maintenance than us). 🤗
🍀 I have a toxic relationship with productivity too. The past winterbreak moving to 2022, I was in the college dorms alone. I wanted to make sure I was happy and did fun things, and not stress about being productive. I counted the days of my break. There were 27 days, and each day I would post pictures about my day in one post on instagram. It’s like the most story worth moment of the day exercise. It could be as mundane as I ate a snowman cookie from Starbucks or reading a book. Or literally just a picture of my lunch. I wasn’t aiming for anything big. I just wanted to appreciate each day I had of the break. Normally breaks go by too quickly, and I would feel I didn’t do enough. But by counting the days, I inadvertently focused on things that really mattered. At the start of the break my goal was to study blender and CAD. By the end I was happy I tried making bread for the first time, and made an origami Yoda. ^^ I feel like I started off 2022 very happy because of this, and also connected more with friends as I remembered more interactions each day.
☘☘☘☘🍀🍀🍀🍀 Honestly your video has come at the right time , I thought I was the only one feeling this way, battling this slump and sluggishness I can relate soo much, I can't stay awake, I'm procrastinattinggg, I so don't want to read for my physio paper, but when I go to sleep I regret not reading and loop continues and ot got to a point I have screen time for 7 hrs insta and yt occupying most of my time Got rid of insta Then worse I set goals and I can't meet them and I go deeper in the loop and I hate it Hoping this week goes better To anyone else going through this, I'd say sometimes doing something counts even if it's small I saw this ( 1.0)^365 =1 (1.1)^365= 1.3 So small thing even if its only 0.1 helps
Ali the point of all this success is freedom to do what you want. And it's a pandemic, you're probably burned out by the lockdowns so if you miss a few deadlines don't worry you'll bounce back. (clover emoji)
I struggle with similar things, but this is the type of stuff that it's so unique to each one, that the specific solutions to one individual may not work with most others. The only approach are these high level concepts, so good job. :) Also: 🍀
I resonated with this so closely. I tend to overestimate my ability to do several things in one day with full motivation and energy. Goal setting can be a double edged sword is what I’ve come to find. It gets you started well with a morning boost but if by the end of the day, somethings not done, it’s a demoralizing voice that reminds you of your underachievement. It’s also hard when you’ve made productivity a part of your character and stepping away or taking a break kind of flings you into this unknown territory, not being sure who is the real you. I end up questioning whether i trully am this hyper focused and diligent person or that’s just what I tell myself to keep at my work. Definitely also working on this. I’ve started by dedicating the first hours mornings for myself to just get in a good headspace (literally with the Headspace app). Then when I do get to working, I just set 5 things I’d like to see done by the end of the day and to be content with that. If I do more, cheers, if less, it is what it is. Thank you for sharing this glimpse into your emotional state! I’ve been an admirer of your channel for ages.
Ali, I am very happy for you. Anything that becomes toxic in life should be questioned (for starters), cleansed (if possible) and whenever necessary discarded (however painful). Thank you for sharing.
Actually it resonates well with how I feel and I find such videos are more natural and relaxing since I myself have enough guilt due to burn out and slacking. It will be more stress to see an overly perfect and properly edged video that used up your hours
🍀 Great video. Losing the enjoyment in things that you normally enjoy is one of the hallmarks of depression, which sounds ominous but isn't necessarily. Simple things like gloomy weather, inadequate sleep and letting nutrition and exercise fall by the wayside can all have this effect. My psychologist told me she started feeling depressed during covid due to "behaviour activation" not due to actually being depressed as such. Basically the change of working from home and not having to get up early or leave the house were behaviours that are normally symptoms of depression. It sounds like your schedule of maybe not eating lunch properly and not sleeping as normal for e.g. could have partly lead to feeling the way you did.
Ali I have the same problem , thank you for addressing this issue. I like those chatty / cup of tea talks you make , they resonate with me even more. ☘️
🍀 It's amazing how relatable this video is. Most of us aren't even close to what you do on RUclips and your business, but what you said about that feeling regarding family, or any other aspect where we force ourselves to be excellent at is just so freaking relatable. On unproductive days I even stay up late as hell as some sort of "punishment" (i know wtf) thinking that way I'll somehow learn, ironically doing the same thing, just binge watching youtube or some reddit thread on the history of South Sudan... I once heard in a podcast a way of approaching our own life called the second golden rule and that is kinda helpful, it was sorta like "treat yourself as you would treat someone else you love/care". It makes sense, I would never put someone I love through any sort of thing to what I put myself through when I don't study enough in a day, or when I don't read enough of my course material. I'd treat them with compassion, but yeah. This was just such a refreshing thing to hear, especially from someone like you. Self compassion is something I lack and I think many of us do too, lets spread some love to that we learn to be compassionate with ourselves too. :D
🍀 Recently found you - I think you are so hard on yourself...... you are helping so many people and are so insightful, be less judgemental of yourself and set smaller goals
running after success sometimes leaves in darkness of failure. I believe in simple life, no hectic not running after anything bigger, giving the world as much as I can, and most importantly I'm happy with my life. I have seen many who have achieved a lot of success in their life but they are not happy at all rather they are hankering after something bigger than they have. And those people will never be happy and will not even know they lived a life.
I watched this video at 2x speed (learned that from you) because I have been feeling unproductive. I have been obsessing over creating mental models to achieve more n more. Thank you for this video. I might go for a run and enjoy the sunset.
Hi Ali 🍀😊 (not sure you’re reading this because you’re a mega-famous star now with a NY bestseller! :)). I’m a Dane who’s eh, just dealing with a lot of tough stuff in life and I am now binging your videos and they are helping me :) Thank you for your work and for being so honest 😊 All the best, Denmark 🇩🇰
Thanks for speaking about this Ali. I recently came across your channel like about a month back and have been binge watching your videos and Sheen's 'Woke Wednesdays' candid videos with you. Would love to see more of these kinds of videos! Good luck with your book. Can't wait for it's release!🍀
🍀Wishing you the best good man. I’m enjoying the mix up of your new ‘rambles’ vids.... they come from a good place, and that appeals. Have a great weekend Ali. ‘I like the sound of my own voice’, my fav Ali quote this month.
omg that explains why I go on social media and refuse to go to sleep even though I am really tired. I didn't know the term is called bedtime revenge procrastination. This makes sense why my brain decided not to go to sleep
Hey Ali, great video, love your honesty about this topic! So funny, because earlier this day I was thinking about my productivity system and how I see it: The first step is time management when you start to play with scheduling and then observing and analyzing how things work for you. Then you start to notice that it's not all about your time, but about your mood, too. This brings you to step 2, where you start doing mood management. You are trying to find out what & how influences your mood waves. You are working on how to successfully riding your waves of energy and trying to reduce the time when you are in curve dropping, so the drops are smaller and smaller. But then it comes to step no. 3, which I call "holistic productivity". Here it's not only about work that has to be done, but connecting all your main "life areas" in a way you feel satisfied. Because even if you're productivity ninja during your work time, and then you are too tired to play with your kids, or without the energy for doing something you like, or you just don't feel satisfied with your day before you go to bed, in the long run, you'll become less productive. In this step, we understand we don't need to (or better we're not supposed to be) productive all the time, and be okay with that. I believe the main goal is to find the balance between "working" and "being". Wish you all the best!🍀
🍀. I can totally relate to this. Similar background + a lot going on all at once + bad judge of my own emotional state yada yada. Anyway, when I feel overwhelmed and not able to do something wholeheartedly, I take a break and enjoy the break a 100% (be it playing a game/ going out for a cuppa coffee with a friend/ just watching something). That way when I actually get back to work, I feel very refreshed. For me, I get more done within 1.5 hours x 100% focus than 6 hours of guilt-ridden forced productivity. Also, one of my mentors asked me to document what I do hourly along with what I am thinking/feeling at that point in time. This helps me be more present in the sense that I kinda know what I am feeling and what I should do in the next hour to change the way I feel (you get the gist ;)). May be the above helps or may be it doesn't. Just my two cents. I'll give your solutions a shot too - thanks! Anyway, keep them videos coming! :D \m/
Lots of great advice. Also I’m kind of addicted your videos been watching them backwards from your latest. Quickly becoming one of my favorite channels. I personally like these more straightforward videos feels like your sitting down with us sharing and talking as if we were in the room.
After 3 minutes and 29 seconds, you gave me the answer why I should really pause your video till tomorrow and go sleeping. Crazy what I am learning cause of you. Even If my brain only wants to procastinate. Well, see you tomorrow.
Well done, Ali. Never think that because you have 'first world problems', these aren't actual problems. You are still human your problems are still problems. 🍀
So happy that you made this video! Very good insight about the output goals ... I'm going to go make that video I was worried wouldn't fit my channel. Thanks Ali! 🍀
🍀 this happened to me too. then I started realizing to overcome from being more productive. Yes, more productivity maybe affects or ignore the inner feelings. Rightly confessed. Thanks for filming this video.
🍀 thanks for the video, Ali! Love the honesty in this one...I love it when RUclipsrs keep it real because as a viewer it’s sometimes easy to think “well that guy is doing it all so why can’t I? So thank you!
I enjoy your videos very much. Especially videos like this one, in which you're honest and open about your own struggles. I can only speak for myself, but I find them very useful, they help me to understand my own struggles with productivity 😊☕.
Good video very helpful definitely thinking through similar issues though I am not as busy/productive I am trying to be happy with what I get done and learning to enjoy journey of completing task rather than rushing to complete and maybe do inferior job. 🍀
"Day 38: On Moderation as a Good Thing 'Monks, these two extremes ought not to be practiced by one who has gone forth from the household life. What are the two? There is addiction to indulgence of sense-pleasures, which is low, coarse, the way of ordinary people, unworthy, and unprofitable; and there is addiction to self-mortification, which is painful, unworthy, and unprofitable. Avoiding both these extremes, the Tathagata has realized the Middle Path; it gives vision, gives knowledge, and leads to calm, to insight, to enlightenment and to Nibbana.' - Gautama Buddha When you set firm resolutions to improve yourself, you might be tempted to push your limits well outside of what you’re capable of doing. Ambitiousness is a virtue, but there’s danger involved in going from one extreme to another. If you’re currently struggling to be productive, don’t force yourself to work sixteen hours a day. If you’re struggling to control your appetite, don’t impose a week-long fast. If you can’t find it in you to choose the stairs over the elevator, don’t expect that you’ll maintain a workout plan that requires you to work out every single day. Find the middle path, stick to it for at least several weeks, and then, based on the results you get, decide whether you can further stretch your limits or require more time before advancing. As much as I believe in pushing your boundaries and exploring the extremes, you don’t need to put yourself through mortification to achieve good results. Subjecting yourself to extreme hardships has some merits, but over the long term it’s unsustainable, if not downright dangerous. Remember that there should be moderation in all things, including moderation itself. Sometimes a more extreme approach is needed for a short period of time, and sometimes it’s beneficial to set your goals lower. In whatever you do, seek to not spend too much time loafing around, but also make sure that your life hasn’t turned into the life of a self-flagellating ascetic." ~ by Meadows Martin, from the book: 365 Days With Self-Discipline: 365 Life-Altering Thoughts on Self-Control, Mental Resilience, and Success I thought about you Ali, after watching this video and reading this daily entry of the book, so hope it helps, something... It felt right to share it! Have a beautiful day 🍀🌹🌼
I think you touched on something really profound: enjoying what you do is the most consistent way to be productive. Thanks for this video.
Kirby gang!
OMG IT'S ANDREW. Masterminds gather :')
Totally agree! Makes me think of the slow life concept.
So true. For whatever you do, try and find the enjoyment in it
I fucking hate Kirby this guy has nothing to back him up . His frikin ads are annoying
“...end up being a doctor again!!”
This statement alone is a testament to how hard working you are.
"and then I'm going to have to end up being a doctor again" lol Ali's fall back plan is some peoples ultimate dream
Ali is genuinely a really nice guy. He once replied instantly to my email on his newsletter. It was quite a surprise but made me feel for once that people we watch online are real
Ali doesn’t need to find a wife anymore he has a relationship with productivity
Facts bro.
Love is a threat to productivity
Haha this kind of relationship is trending too! LoL 😂
This would've been cool if this was voluntary.
Thanks bro for telling me the most lame joke of the world
Are you still there doubting and watching while others are making cool money from bitcoin investment, I will encourage you to start investing to secure a better financial freedom
I actually stop panicking about the fluctuating nature of btc price, ever since I started investing with Mrs Judith Beverly . am gaining regularly even with the market downtrend at times.
@@josephthomas4874 Is she legit, can she be trusted?
Yes she's legit also an expert and I have been earning from her platform.
I believe year 2020 was a year that thought everyone to be smart with whatever they're doing financially if they're to achieve the success they so much crave for
It's not about ignorance but unprofessional brokers in the market
Ali: I don't know what burnout is- is this burnout?
The Internet: YES
“Oh no I’m going to have to be a Doctor again” 😂😂😂 I don’t know why that line got me
Being a doctor as back up is not a bad back up to have.
@@alexlilano1931 that too from Cambridge university
RIGHT!! 😂😂
This is Ali, now, being human 😌 finallyyyy
This is the quality, down to earth and relatable content that makes Ali such a likeable guy. Thanks Ali - and remember to look after yourself first and foremost! In life, no-one will have your back quite like yourself.
Exactly
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I agree. The reason im such a fan of ali is he doesn't bullshit about procrastination and pretending to be some productivity robot that is unattainable and makes you feel bad.
I’m also a productivity-obsessed youtuber and I can relate to this on *every* level ... I could have pretty much said all of this myself. Great to know I’m not alone and appreciate your candor
I love your channel Brittany!
Love you Brittany! 💕
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How awesome to see one of my favorite productivity RUclipsrs respond to one of my favorite productivity RUclipsrs! Love you Brittany. ❤️
There’s a ton of articles on burn out and reasons why many of us procrastinate.
• Negative emotions
• Attracting negative energy/emotions and negative people yourself.
• Depression & anxiety
• Schools messes up with students sleep schedule, and how we function throughout the day. And the list goes on.
I’m glad you made this. Because no one discusses about solutions, and problems with procrastination.
Personally, I think Ali is in a sort of dilemma here. While still being an almost productivity-only RUclipsr, he's slowly feeling more disconnected with the topic itself. This certainly doesn't mean that he doesn't enjoy being productive and therefore feeling accomplished once in a while anymore. But as he's reached almost all of his goals and he can choose his future path in life very easily, he doesn't really feel the need of being productive all the time anymore. Furthermore, due to plenty of comments only reducing him to productivity (which are only meant to be entertaining) he might feel the need to keep the productivity-only theme of his channel going as his past experiences have shown him that this topic lead to the success of his youtube channel. What do you guys think?
I think that you have touched every point, I completely agree with you
Great comment! It will be interesting to see how he will feel in the future
The weight of conscious or unconscious validation is too much for anyone to carry for a long time - and so many times, we shift the societal and parent need for validation to the one in the social media.
I think you might be on to something, obviously we don't want to start coming up with theories on Ali's mind state, we're just commenters under a RUclips video but I wouldn't be surprised that reaching the level of productivity he has (mastery), hitting over a million subscribers (accomplishment) and having complete autonomy over his destiny that he might lose the motivation to carry on. On top of writing a book on his life's work while being super challenging might be tedious at this point because productivity has a lot of overlapping concepts and it could get tiresome quicker than other genres. It'll be interesting if he's still doing productivity years from now or he will move into other subject areas with his platform.
Agreed!!
Shout-out to everyone putting in some solid Bedtime Revenge Procrastination with this video.
I didn't know that pattern had a name.
Productivity is cool but prioritizing and balancing your life is more important
That is my moto, Balanced life
Exactly
This is really profound and touches on the concept of locus of control. Thanks for sharing your perspective it really helped me to realize I am overly focused on output goals.
This was really refreshing and helpful Ali. I've been trying to make videos and been super hard on myself whenever I missed an opportunity because I'm too tired or unmotivated. I think it is true that we need to push ourselves regardless of our emotional state sometimes, especially when we know that what we are doing is worth it and that we care about it. At the same time, it is a challenge to not get burned out when we are perfectionists. Which is why I really find your point about being input-focused helpful in that regard, because it reduces the amount of energy, stress and anxiety surrounding things that we simply cannot control. All in all, thanks for this video where you let us be part of your (and our own) therapy ☘️
🍀 Thank you for this honest video, Ali! I really needed it. Often when we put a label or a name to a phenomenon/problem that has been bothering us, it helps us recognize the problem and come up with solutions to solve it. And understanding your emotional state and needs is critical to being more productive, and in general, to live a healthier & happier life.
Ali is literally trying to work his way through a BURNOUT, JUST TAKE A BREAK MAN! , go on a vacation!🍀🍀
True
Definitely burnout !!! So this was me for almost 4 weeks and then I crashed! My doctors just signed me off for chronic stress !
I think that’s the problem though and I suffer from it too: when you take a break or a vacation you are still feeling bad about not doing something productive. It’s hard to switch that off and have guilt free relaxation
True.
When he first talked about his feeling, I immediately said to the screen, "That means You need to take a break." 😂
@@semoru Ikr !🤣
So I overcame my fear and hit the “publish” button on RUclips. Thank you for your advice and how to get started with RUclips. I know the growth process doesn’t happen in a day but I believe I’ll try my best and put in the work. All I just want to say is “Thank You”
Same with me... it took me many days of overthinking and half a day of having my mouse hover over the publish button... damn scary but just trying to get it into my head that no one really cares. Just publish and publish and publish... someone will eventually watch the videos.. best of luck to you! 🙂
🍀 It's nice seeing other people talk about the struggle with goals that are met like 5% of the time. D'Avella did a video on this as well and one of the best ways of dispersing some of the toxicity is to realize that even the very productive people that you 'look up to'/'admire'/'are friends with' are struggling in the same exact way. It's not a problem with self, its a problem with unrealistic goals.
🍀 From all you’ve said I believe therapy would do wonders for you. From what I’ve seen, this feeling doesn’t really change till we start addressing the issue very frequently. It helped me a lot. Hope you feel better! 🍀
I think Ali might have Zoom fatigue, the human brain is not designed to spend an entire day looking at moving faces on a screen.
I am definitely guilty of revenge bedtime procrastination 😭 it’s so so good that you’ve shifted your schedule and mindset to taking care of yourself and looking after your mental health. I actually made a video a couple weeks back about attitudes towards productivity where I talk about the importance of listening to your body when working, so it’s nice to hear you’re doing that ✨
Ali realising that too much productivity is a problem is character growth at its best.👏🏽
Im just saying i love this video, one of the reason being that I learned the word for why I keep being on my phone an exagerated amount of time while having the feeling of not being in control of my time (working a LOT). Thank u ali!
🍀 That whole last vicious cycle from lack of sleep to lack of "doing enough" back to lack of sleep is my M.O. The struggle is real to just be ok with "enough".
Revenge bedtime procrastination is REAL when you are a stay at home mother. I sometimes stay awake and scroll through my phone even if the phone falls down from my hand.
🍀 that was very relatable! Was trying to figure out why I didn’t feel like doing anything productive, and I spiraled down this vicious cycle of ‘waste’ then feeling worse about myself
Ali: I wanna talk about my toxic relationship with productivity. I recently realised it
Literally everyone and their mother:
YA THINK, SON?
🍀 I think this video was very necessary. Being productive is great but you also need to give yourself ample time to breathe and rest as you’re being productive.
I just love this guy. His voice, his personality and great mind.
you are the first one who tells me that this 'i can't go to bed i need to do something' feeling actually is a thing. a few years ago before i had therapy, i often was awake till 6 in the morning and i didn't even know why. 🍀
Having started to experience the same kind of burnout since 2017 but still working on recovering from it. The key is to remember to care about the SELF, no matter the SELF is professional or not. Cheers. 🍀
I LOVE these feels talking head vids! Do more of them! It’s great to see the productivity guru is human too... and if nothing else, at least you get to talk through your emotional state and get it out (you could always get a cat and talk to it but that’s a lot more high maintenance than us). 🤗
🍀 I have a toxic relationship with productivity too. The past winterbreak moving to 2022, I was in the college dorms alone. I wanted to make sure I was happy and did fun things, and not stress about being productive. I counted the days of my break. There were 27 days, and each day I would post pictures about my day in one post on instagram. It’s like the most story worth moment of the day exercise. It could be as mundane as I ate a snowman cookie from Starbucks or reading a book. Or literally just a picture of my lunch. I wasn’t aiming for anything big. I just wanted to appreciate each day I had of the break. Normally breaks go by too quickly, and I would feel I didn’t do enough. But by counting the days, I inadvertently focused on things that really mattered. At the start of the break my goal was to study blender and CAD. By the end I was happy I tried making bread for the first time, and made an origami Yoda. ^^ I feel like I started off 2022 very happy because of this, and also connected more with friends as I remembered more interactions each day.
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Honestly your video has come at the right time , I thought I was the only one feeling this way, battling this slump and sluggishness
I can relate soo much, I can't stay awake, I'm procrastinattinggg, I so don't want to read for my physio paper, but when I go to sleep I regret not reading and loop continues and ot got to a point I have screen time for 7 hrs insta and yt occupying most of my time
Got rid of insta
Then worse I set goals and I can't meet them and I go deeper in the loop and I hate it
Hoping this week goes better
To anyone else going through this, I'd say sometimes doing something counts even if it's small
I saw this ( 1.0)^365 =1
(1.1)^365= 1.3
So small thing even if its only 0.1 helps
To be honest, I am so happy you actually realized this. I honestly didn't like your videos sometimes coz you sounded so productivity-obsessed!!
Listening to you talk about productivity is helping me understand how opposite I am from your level productivity 🍀
Ali the point of all this success is freedom to do what you want. And it's a pandemic, you're probably burned out by the lockdowns so if you miss a few deadlines don't worry you'll bounce back. (clover emoji)
I struggle with similar things, but this is the type of stuff that it's so unique to each one, that the specific solutions to one individual may not work with most others. The only approach are these high level concepts, so good job. :)
Also: 🍀
At the age of 25, Ali realises he needs to listen to himself. That's a one minute video.
Exactly
I resonated with this so closely. I tend to overestimate my ability to do several things in one day with full motivation and energy. Goal setting can be a double edged sword is what I’ve come to find. It gets you started well with a morning boost but if by the end of the day, somethings not done, it’s a demoralizing voice that reminds you of your underachievement. It’s also hard when you’ve made productivity a part of your character and stepping away or taking a break kind of flings you into this unknown territory, not being sure who is the real you. I end up questioning whether i trully am this hyper focused and diligent person or that’s just what I tell myself to keep at my work. Definitely also working on this. I’ve started by dedicating the first hours mornings for myself to just get in a good headspace (literally with the Headspace app). Then when I do get to working, I just set 5 things I’d like to see done by the end of the day and to be content with that. If I do more, cheers, if less, it is what it is.
Thank you for sharing this glimpse into your emotional state! I’ve been an admirer of your channel for ages.
Ali, I am very happy for you. Anything that becomes toxic in life should be questioned (for starters), cleansed (if possible) and whenever necessary discarded (however painful). Thank you for sharing.
Actually it resonates well with how I feel and I find such videos are more natural and relaxing since I myself have enough guilt due to burn out and slacking. It will be more stress to see an overly perfect and properly edged video that used up your hours
🍀 Great video. Losing the enjoyment in things that you normally enjoy is one of the hallmarks of depression, which sounds ominous but isn't necessarily. Simple things like gloomy weather, inadequate sleep and letting nutrition and exercise fall by the wayside can all have this effect. My psychologist told me she started feeling depressed during covid due to "behaviour activation" not due to actually being depressed as such. Basically the change of working from home and not having to get up early or leave the house were behaviours that are normally symptoms of depression. It sounds like your schedule of maybe not eating lunch properly and not sleeping as normal for e.g. could have partly lead to feeling the way you did.
Ali I have the same problem , thank you for addressing this issue. I like those chatty / cup of tea talks you make , they resonate with me even more. ☘️
"You want find something that feels like play to you. But looks like work for others" - Naval Ravikant (Clubhouse Room 03/10/2021 - Min 25:00)
🍀 It's amazing how relatable this video is. Most of us aren't even close to what you do on RUclips and your business, but what you said about that feeling regarding family, or any other aspect where we force ourselves to be excellent at is just so freaking relatable. On unproductive days I even stay up late as hell as some sort of "punishment" (i know wtf) thinking that way I'll somehow learn, ironically doing the same thing, just binge watching youtube or some reddit thread on the history of South Sudan... I once heard in a podcast a way of approaching our own life called the second golden rule and that is kinda helpful, it was sorta like "treat yourself as you would treat someone else you love/care". It makes sense, I would never put someone I love through any sort of thing to what I put myself through when I don't study enough in a day, or when I don't read enough of my course material. I'd treat them with compassion, but yeah. This was just such a refreshing thing to hear, especially from someone like you. Self compassion is something I lack and I think many of us do too, lets spread some love to that we learn to be compassionate with ourselves too. :D
Waiting for this Ali bhai
🍀 Recently found you - I think you are so hard on yourself...... you are helping so many people and are so insightful, be less judgemental of yourself and set smaller goals
running after success sometimes leaves in darkness of failure. I believe in simple life, no hectic not running after anything bigger, giving the world as much as I can, and most importantly I'm happy with my life. I have seen many who have achieved a lot of success in their life but they are not happy at all rather they are hankering after something bigger than they have. And those people will never be happy and will not even know they lived a life.
If you think your relationship with productivity is toxic, you should see my relationship with productivity!
I needed this video today and I love the chat with the camera style. I’m glad I just discovered you! 🍀
"because I like the sound of my voice" 😂 Pricless
@Satyaki Mallick :)
I watched this video at 2x speed (learned that from you) because I have been feeling unproductive. I have been obsessing over creating mental models to achieve more n more. Thank you for this video. I might go for a run and enjoy the sunset.
This is the first time I had a chance to share my story, my recently problems without saying anything. You’re my therapist. Thank you soooooo much 🍀
Hi Ali 🍀😊 (not sure you’re reading this because you’re a mega-famous star now with a NY bestseller! :)). I’m a Dane who’s eh, just dealing with a lot of tough stuff in life and I am now binging your videos and they are helping me :) Thank you for your work and for being so honest 😊 All the best, Denmark 🇩🇰
The most productive thing Ali could do would be to take a full week off to slowly read The Power of Now
Thanks for speaking about this Ali. I recently came across your channel like about a month back and have been binge watching your videos and Sheen's 'Woke Wednesdays' candid videos with you. Would love to see more of these kinds of videos! Good luck with your book. Can't wait for it's release!🍀
🍀 I’m feeling this. You’re right. What we’ve done is what we’ve done and beating ourself about it doesn’t change it.
🍀Wishing you the best good man. I’m enjoying the mix up of your new ‘rambles’ vids.... they come from a good place, and that appeals. Have a great weekend Ali. ‘I like the sound of my own voice’, my fav Ali quote this month.
omg that explains why I go on social media and refuse to go to sleep even though I am really tired. I didn't know the term is called bedtime revenge procrastination. This makes sense why my brain decided not to go to sleep
Hey Ali, great video, love your honesty about this topic! So funny, because earlier this day I was thinking about my productivity system and how I see it:
The first step is time management when you start to play with scheduling and then observing and analyzing how things work for you. Then you start to notice that it's not all about your time, but about your mood, too.
This brings you to step 2, where you start doing mood management. You are trying to find out what & how influences your mood waves. You are working on how to successfully riding your waves of energy and trying to reduce the time when you are in curve dropping, so the drops are smaller and smaller.
But then it comes to step no. 3, which I call "holistic productivity". Here it's not only about work that has to be done, but connecting all your main "life areas" in a way you feel satisfied. Because even if you're productivity ninja during your work time, and then you are too tired to play with your kids, or without the energy for doing something you like, or you just don't feel satisfied with your day before you go to bed, in the long run, you'll become less productive. In this step, we understand we don't need to (or better we're not supposed to be) productive all the time, and be okay with that.
I believe the main goal is to find the balance between "working" and "being".
Wish you all the best!🍀
🍀. I can totally relate to this. Similar background + a lot going on all at once + bad judge of my own emotional state yada yada. Anyway, when I feel overwhelmed and not able to do something wholeheartedly, I take a break and enjoy the break a 100% (be it playing a game/ going out for a cuppa coffee with a friend/ just watching something). That way when I actually get back to work, I feel very refreshed. For me, I get more done within 1.5 hours x 100% focus than 6 hours of guilt-ridden forced productivity.
Also, one of my mentors asked me to document what I do hourly along with what I am thinking/feeling at that point in time. This helps me be more present in the sense that I kinda know what I am feeling and what I should do in the next hour to change the way I feel (you get the gist ;)).
May be the above helps or may be it doesn't. Just my two cents.
I'll give your solutions a shot too - thanks!
Anyway, keep them videos coming! :D \m/
Being toxic with productivity is counter-productive in the long run.
Convincing myself at the end of the day that I did great!! Good advice, thank u Ali 🍀
I found looking in the bathroom mirror and saying out loud 'I'm a hippopotamus and there is nothing I can do about it' grounded me.
Lots of great advice. Also I’m kind of addicted your videos been watching them backwards from your latest. Quickly becoming one of my favorite channels. I personally like these more straightforward videos feels like your sitting down with us sharing and talking as if we were in the room.
After 3 minutes and 29 seconds, you gave me the answer why I should really pause your video till tomorrow and go sleeping. Crazy what I am learning cause of you. Even If my brain only wants to procastinate. Well, see you tomorrow.
🍀love your openness and honesty. Yes you need time for yourself. It's not all about productivity!
Well done, Ali. Never think that because you have 'first world problems', these aren't actual problems. You are still human your problems are still problems. 🍀
Alli has become addicted to productivity, and 3 years later he is just now figuring that out! Love you man, Keep it up.
So happy that you made this video! Very good insight about the output goals ... I'm going to go make that video I was worried wouldn't fit my channel. Thanks Ali! 🍀
"end up being a doctor again" damn that sucks man
I still learn a lot from you through these sit down videos. So I love them!
🍀 this happened to me too. then I started realizing to overcome from being more productive. Yes, more productivity maybe affects or ignore the inner feelings. Rightly confessed. Thanks for filming this video.
Ah I love your honesty and realness here! It sounds like you were burnt out 💕
🍀 thanks for the video, Ali! Love the honesty in this one...I love it when RUclipsrs keep it real because as a viewer it’s sometimes easy to think “well that guy is doing it all so why can’t I? So thank you!
Productivity is definitely addictive! Love your cahannel
Thank you!
So I wrote down:
I can choose to feel better about what I did today.
Because it doesn’t change the reality. Or it makes me feel better.
Thanks Ali! :) 🍀
I really like this laid-back version of your videos. Enjoyed it just as much as your well-produced videos. 🍀
☘ this was one of the kindest videos I have watched in relationship to productivity. Thank you!
Great you were self aware and realised the situation and addressed it in this video
I enjoy your videos very much. Especially videos like this one, in which you're honest and open about your own struggles. I can only speak for myself, but I find them very useful, they help me to understand my own struggles with productivity 😊☕.
Good video very helpful definitely thinking through similar issues though I am not as busy/productive I am trying to be happy with what I get done and learning to enjoy journey of completing task rather than rushing to complete and maybe do inferior job. 🍀
Thanks for sharing. Its good to know your as Human as the rest of us :o)
Yes, Ali! Learn to say No!
I am drinking a homemade green tea latte while watching this video!!! Great video Ali!!!
🍀Great video, Ali. Exactly the medicine I needed to hear today.
I love these kinds of video from you! Keep up the good work 🍀.
I'm self satisfied although I didn't do enough work today 🍀 thank you so much 🍀✌
"chronic feeling of dissatisfaction at the end of the day that I didn't do enough today"
☘️ Agreed! Beating yourself up about an unproductive day can be quite uproductive. :-D Compassionate self-reflection is the way to go!
It's nice listening to you and i like to call it my productive procrastination lol 🍀
🍀 Thank you man, sharing your experience makes me feel better and rethink with my current work / master degree situation.
"Day 38: On Moderation as a Good Thing
'Monks, these two extremes ought not to be practiced by one who has gone forth from the household life. What are the two? There is addiction to indulgence of sense-pleasures, which is low, coarse, the way of ordinary people, unworthy, and unprofitable; and there is addiction to self-mortification, which is painful, unworthy, and unprofitable. Avoiding both these extremes, the Tathagata has realized the Middle Path; it gives vision, gives knowledge, and leads to calm, to insight, to enlightenment and to Nibbana.' - Gautama Buddha
When you set firm resolutions to improve yourself, you might be tempted to push your limits well outside of what you’re capable of doing. Ambitiousness is a virtue, but there’s danger involved in going from one extreme to another.
If you’re currently struggling to be productive, don’t force yourself to work sixteen hours a day. If you’re struggling to control your appetite, don’t impose a week-long fast. If you can’t find it in you to choose the stairs over the elevator, don’t expect that you’ll maintain a workout plan that requires you to work out every single day.
Find the middle path, stick to it for at least several weeks, and then, based on the results you get, decide whether you can further stretch your limits or require more time before advancing.
As much as I believe in pushing your boundaries and exploring the extremes, you don’t need to put yourself through mortification to achieve good results. Subjecting yourself to extreme hardships has some merits, but over the long term it’s unsustainable, if not downright dangerous.
Remember that there should be moderation in all things, including moderation itself. Sometimes a more extreme approach is needed for a short period of time, and sometimes it’s beneficial to set your goals lower. In whatever you do, seek to not spend too much time loafing around, but also make sure that your life hasn’t turned into the life of a self-flagellating ascetic."
~ by Meadows Martin, from the book: 365 Days With Self-Discipline: 365 Life-Altering Thoughts on Self-Control, Mental Resilience, and Success
I thought about you Ali, after watching this video and reading this daily entry of the book, so hope it helps, something... It felt right to share it!
Have a beautiful day 🍀🌹🌼
Amazing video as always Ali 🍀
🍀 Greetings from Colombia 🇨🇴
Thanks for this kind of content