Asexuality- My Story
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- Sorry I had to cut it short, hopefully you were able to learn something from this video and, more importantly, enjoyed the video in general. If you have any questions about my personal experience about being an asexual, do not hesitate to either comment down below or message me directly.- Alex
As an asexual, I am so so happy you made this video. Thank you for opening yourself up like this.
+Deonna Steele thank you!!
Your definition of aromatic was correct. We don't experience romantic attraction or, in my case, sexual attraction. Instead we (at least me) prefer to just be friends or hang out, which doesn't always go over well with people who think you like them.
Thanks, I do try and give everyone valid definitions of everything and speak the truth in my videos rather than giving everyone false information. How long have you known you were aromantic for??
Aromantic people can also feel sexual attraction. Obviously there are people who don't feel either, but the two attractions aren't really related.
Awkwarderthanu True. Romantic and sexual orientation are very different.
"I WISH I WAS NORMAL" -you are normal! Don't let the straights make you think otherwise.
Who decided what's normal anyway?
He is the most normal and not like those weirdos who bang like animals with no shame
Love the analogy! I generally refer to people as sculptures in a museum that are nice to admire but not to 'do the do' with.
Haha thanks!! Have to say that your analogy is a lot better though. Will have to use that from now on :)
I've never felt the need to chase sex. I am completely averse to dating. The idea of one night stands and having sex with someone who you don't care about is not appealing to me at all. In fact, it's quite disturbing to me. Most sexual situations have made me feel uncomfortable or I just lost interest very quickly. However, I have enjoyed sexual situations where I had feelings for her, so I guess that makes me demi or gray-a.
Yaaayyy
Asexual representation. I needed this 🖤💟💜
i genuinely teared up a bit at this video. im asexual, and i have never met anyone else who was - hearing your story was really refreshing. i found your experiences to be really relatable, and it its nice to know im not alone here :)
Although this video is 2 and a half years old, it's great to hear that it still helps people like yourself to this day! Thanks a lot for the comment!
I never really understood who I was until I saw this. thank you. thank you soo much
I cannot thank you enough for being courageous and posting this on RUclips and I am certain your story and explanation will help many, many others! I think you are an amazing, handsome and intelligent man and clearly able to articulate this subject and your life in such a supportive way for the help of others. Thank you dear friend and best of luck with future posts and a beautiful and successful life ahead of you. Lyndon
Wow..I totally agree with what you said! It's Not a choice! Like I wish I was normal like everyone else, but Im not and I can't change the way I was born! Thank you so much for making this video, it really comforted me! I've been feeling a bit down about being different and this helped me alot!
+Courtney Harmon Am so pleased to see that this video actually meant something to you and actually made you feel better about yourself. Thanks for taking the time to comment :)
Since I came out as asexual and I am so proud of it, I decided it is time for me to try dating again. I want to meet asexual guys. The problem is I have to scare away all the straight guys IGNORING my profile info about being asexual. It's disgusting! "sorry but you're hot, I can't imagine that you don't want sex"
Honestly, I've seen a few of your videos and I'm so grateful you've made them because you've really helped me know that I'm not the only one that feels this way. Thank you
Really brave video to make, certainly needed as I agree that this needs more awareness!
This is a new concept for me. Very interesting and educational. Thanks man.
Thank you so much for sharing. Asexuality really needs to be heard of and spread for ignorant people to actually understand before they start assuming idiotic things
Haha I loved that sunset analogy! I just sort of realized I'm asexual and watching this video made me feel more comfortable with it. I can relate so much to what you said throughout the video. I think it's difficult since I go to college in the US and college in the US (not sure if it's like this everywhere) is completely sexualized. I'm glad people like you are bringing awareness to asexuality. Hopefully, more people will begin to understand and respect asexual people.
+Quiet Keys I'm glad you enjoyed the video (and the analogy haha). I understand the problem of the education system being 'sexualised', it's the same in the UK. It's simply because liking sex is the norm and we just got to accept and understand that I supposed and hope that people who are not asexual can accept us for who we are too
@@CookeeMonsterr thank you for this. Many sexual people are in relationships with asexuals and i think its not fair for the sexual to suffer because the asexual wants to keep the relationship. I respect your story thank you I learned alot watching.
Be proud of who you are I know there's not a lot of things in the media portraying asexuals everything is over sexualized not to say sometimes I feel really really odd but knowing that there are people out there like me does it make me feel like an alien anymore 😊
I enjoyed this video! I can relate to a lot of things you said and I learned something new. I love how open you are! Thank you for uploading this video, Alex! I look forward to more videos :)
Thank you so much. I keep trying to record another video but my recording device keeps messing up :/
We so need a community, a separate society or atleast an international group on some app for asexuals. But it makes me so happy to know that guys too are asexuals..💜💜💜
Thank you for sharing. I am a proud asexual non binary person. I thought I was gay my whole life but never liked the sex part. I pretended so much to have sexual attraction so I could feel "normal," but didn't discover I was normal and asexual latter in life.
+The Eickley you have no reason to thank me, i'm pleased my video could somewhat help you!!
I think it’s great you made this video and were brave enough to share this with people. I don’t know if your opinion’s changed since you posted this video but I also wish I was straight just so that my life was easier
I’m kind of in a similar spot as you, at least were, I know you posted this kind of a while ago, but I’m 16 and ace and romantic and have heard the same thing that I’d grow into liking the idea of sex, and I’m still too afraid to talk to my parents about it because I don’t think they’ll understand, and I’ve even been broken up with partially because I’m ace which wasn’t fun, but I really appreciate this video and people like you who share their stories, thank you for this
Excellent video! I subscribed! Ace too!! We are not alone!
Soo I'll just start typing now... don't exactly know where this will lead to....I am Ace. I don't know if this will change someday, but I really don't care. I was just glad, I found a word to explain, how I feel. I am out to like a couple of close friends and they all reacted very positive. They all don't really care that much (like in a positive way...).I once had an situation where someone said something about asexuality in like a bad way. I asked, what was so bad about it. She answered that she just could not imagine being asexual. I thought about that and realized, that I could not imagine being sexual as well.... So I think I'm just fine with that.I'm very glad to see an asexual in a video, because I've chatted with loads of people on the AVEN, but actually seeing someone and thinking: 'Well that person would actually like a relationship only with cuddles and kisses without sex!' This was always something I could not really imagine.... I'm also scared that when I meet a man, he's just wanting to have sex and would only want me because of my body and nothing else. So I really hope to find someone, I can cuddle up with and have a nice couple live without sex.P.S.: Sorry that this is so messy... hope you get what I try to say :)
Hiya! I'm a Katie who's an ace too :) I feel the exact same way as you--I want a relationship with /some/ romance (cuddles and kisses) without all the bowchickabowwow ahahaha Only thing is finding a guy who's okay with not having sex and all :/
I just recently came out as asexual. I don't think it's as big a deal as coming out as gay or whatever and I think society has made me think of it that way. When everyone I knew was out and about having sex and whatever I was just sitting at home watching Breakfast At Tiffany's. I wish I liked sex. I always thought 'I'm a virgin, I don't even know what I'm talking about' so I decided to try it and my result was that I don't care for it at all. everyone I've talked to that has said 'you can't have a relationship without sex. It's not a real relationship. You can't really love someone without sex.' I didn't think anyone understood how I felt about it. I really did think I was broken. But I went online and I researched and found asexual. As I was reading I realised there are more people out there like me. And as I was watching your video I found I could relate to a lot. I still haven't actually talked to anyone about it. But only because no one has asked about it. I posted it on Facebook and found out I had a friend that was also asexual. I had never been more happy to find there was at least one other person that was like me. It makes me mad because most people think I'm lying or 'hiding my true feelings'. I honestly thought I was alone and broken and no one Understood. Thank you for posting this and showing me and every other asexual that they're not alone.
P.S. sorry its so long, I just kept typing and typing and before I knew it I had a giant paragraph lol
+ItsStephSword I am so glad that my video had such a big effect on you, thank you for taking the time out to comment. You sound really similar to me and my peers and other people around me also thought I was lying when I told them that I have never thought about having sex with anyone whatsoever. I'm sorry to hear that being asexual has made you feel as though you are 'broken'. Hopefully now knowing that there are actually millions of people out there just like you has made you feel better about who you are
+Cookee Monsterr Yeah I definitely feel much better about myself now that I know I'm not the only one out there. Other people are like me. Whenever I told my mum that I didn't care for sex she always told me that 'I would find the right person and that will change'. I'm not super open to talking about it just yet but eventually it will feel good to talk about it and I will be proud. But right now, I'm still getting through the 'this is what I am, just accept it' stage
Came here seeing ur comment on Ricky's vid.. U have explained really well and glad there is more awareness in the world..
Thank you!! Welcome to my channel!!
yay! I like you. More people I like in the ace crowd. That's always great!
There does need to be more awareness!! Every time I tell someone, they look at me like an alien lol or question me or just simply say " You just haven't found the right person yet" so annoying ughh.
My experience sounds very similar to yours (I'm biromantic asexual).
I'm intending to make a video on asexuality (partly a coming out video, partly an awareness video) this weekend, and seeing this video and the positive response to it is very encouraging!
Thanks a lot, I wish you luck with your video :) thanks for the kind words
***** Thanks :) I've actually just posted my video.
Recently came to the conclusion that I was asexual after watching Ricky Dillon's video, but I've been watching a lot of asexuality coming out videos just to make sure of it before I told anyone. I'm very happy I stumbled upon your video. I've seen a lot of asexuality videos but I've never related to every single thing and feeling that someone has said until yours. It makes so much sense now. I know people don't like labels, but I'm very happy to finally label my sexuality and fully understand it. However, it's very scary. I don't know anyone else where I live who is asexual, so like. How will I ever find another relationship? You know? It's just a scary thought. Like I'm afraid that all guys ((p.s. this is a girl and I am hetero-romantic) will just expect sex. My first and only relationship that I was ever in was with a guy that expected me to go past first base. But I never did. And he would sometimes touch me all over my body but I was like, "I literally told you that I didn't want to do that." And this guy constantly made me feel like I was broken. Like I was the only person in the world that didn't masturbate. And that I was wrong for not wanting to. He would beg me to try it. "to experience the wonder". Whatever the hell that means. Honestly, the way that sexual people talk about masturbation and sex seems so cheesy and silly to me. Needless to say I'm out of that relationship, and looking for another one. But now that I know other people feel the same way about sex, and now that I know I'm not the only person that doesn't have sex or masturbate, I feel very happy. For years I thought I was wrong, and then my ex boyfriend basically confirmed those beliefs. But I am free now. And I'm very happy to be me. The asexual-me. Thank you. :)
Also, I just watched your video that follows this one. And wow. I seriously feel the exact same way. I wish I wanted to have sex, but I just don't. It would make things easier though! I'm scared someone will leave me too, if I date someone that is not asexual. Anyway, I'll definitely will have to binge watch the rest of your videos at some point. Gained a subscribe from me! haha :)
I also would like to add that I have a Facebook group for asexuals since there are none I decided to make one. It's called Asexual For Life
+ItsStephSword good on you!!
You're adorable! :) I'm a demisexual gay but I'm not even that sexual, either. I could hug James for 6 hours and he'd have already went through a few 'hot' moments but I'd just be all fangirly and cuuute! :D
but my story is different.
I'm asexual because hate the physical iological body. Actually I don't have any attraction to any other body physically.
Are you in love ? How that possible? I still have sex feelings but I'm trying to avoid them, not to hide it from the world, but I feel that's unclean.
May be the difference is I'm 31 years old and you are just 19.
So I don't feel any safe or any happy or spiritually binded with a female partner.
I'm the same. I appreciate beauty from an aesthetic/artistic lens, rather than sexual attraction. Interestingly enough, I have a pro-sex view when it comes to politics and culture. I am all for decriminalization of sex work, pornography and absolutely hate prudish attitudes towards sexuality in the media and culture. It could be me projecting my lack of sexual attraction onto culture by being adamant in supporting other peoples' enjoyment of sexuality in pop culture.
Hey man. Thanks for sharing your story.
Happy 2 year anniversary, Alex!
Thanks Martin!
I am subscribed to you from my new Asexualise My Asexual Life channel now. This video is awesome. I live in Exeter, so not far away and am a heteroromantic, so completely understand you. I am Sandra B on Aven, if you are on that, and in the 'Are There Any Aces In The South West' Thread. I have never intentionally watched porn in my life either, I hate it. I don't like nudity either. I do like romance and kissing, no sex. It's great you are asexual, be proud of that.
+Asexualise My Asexual Life Exeter isn't far away at all. Thank you for your continued support. You sound really similar to me :)
Hi Cookie Monster - I forgot to + you put my comment down below and + you.
***** Yeah I know I sound similar to you, it's so cool. I love plymouth too - I enjoy going to the cinema there and the aquarium and to Nandos. One of my best male friends is 19 and we have so much fun when we meet up. If you want to meet up let me know - you can find me on Aven as Sandra B - or message me on Facebook at my facebook.com/SandraBellamyUK page.
I wished I was asexual. Is it possible to become one if I abstain long enough?
don't wish to be "normal" be you and embrace it! you are amazing the way you are their is nothing wrong with being asexual and anyway why would it be enter to be straight? of course people would be so much more excepting but yeah I actually don't. know what I'm saying anymore sorry...
It seems like all these 'normal' people insist on sticking a label on you. It really should be none of anyone's business except the person your sharing you life with. However, if a person is romantic then the body they're being romantic with may well assume that sex is on the cards. So how do you let them down?
You are not alone o//
Grey Ace panromantic here o//
Hey this was cool with your openness about how asexuality is can be awesome. This notion of compulsory masturbation is ridic, so glad to see other uni students seeing it like me (3rd year/ BSU), but yeah wish i had the guts to do something like in terms of wanting to find romantic attraction without sexual feeling and talking opening about this, i get you on this, but thanks for making me feel not alone(again), attraction and sexuality are definitively connected, but yeah would be interest in chatting with you more if possible? idk feeling brave asking about this tonight....
+Charlotte Taylor-Ashfield Maybe should add that didnt see your other youtube stuff which i just realised,, so idk opinions or whatever. i def spent to much time on previous message.
+Charlotte Taylor-Ashfield haha thanks for taking the time out to message me, I would be happy to talk to you more.
My snapchat is Cookeemonst3r
My Instagram is Cookeemonst3r
hi, im sorry if i cant communicate fluent english, im from the philippines and the society is new on this and i think i am an ace and partly aromantic.. I came from an uptight, strict but family oriented that upholds very much of the fundamentalist christian way of living vs the Catholicism wc is the Majority of our country on the Spiritual aspect... On family, I value so much of our nuclear family that things will always be the same even if we go old... Im scared that the 5 of us siblings share this mentality cause upto now we have no romantic relationship whatsover since highschool and are stil living with the folks.. We are already grown up ages ranges 24-32 and we.have a special sibling bond. When we where young our dad sports as and we where dubbed as the Filipino Version of The Family Von Trapp coz everyone are musically inclined and if nt everyone has agood voice but can hold a good tune. We where invited on the typically filipino functions.... Thats why i may think this must be the contributing factor and i am really bothwred that they are Aces to
As for me, i think im coituphobic, i do M i do have sexual thoughts but the act itself.. i felt that i cant please my partner that well.. To add salt in tge injury, i was diagnosed with a L5andL6 spine problem.. Theres that thought that i would have much problem to perform.
I obeserved that i have Avoidant personality, and slighty agoraphobic. I might love the idea of sex but the act itself i find it boring.
Can someone advice me about this.
Do you have any dating advice for asexuals, particularly heteroromantic aces?
+alannacrystal be open about your sexuality. It's okay to date people who are 'sexual' so long as they know how you feel about the matter and are supportive of that. Don't hide the fact you are like this as people should respect it and be interested in the way that you are. If people are not supportive then honestly that person is not worth getting into a relationship with. Hope this helped!!
Thanks, it really did. I'm considering dating as I never did it at school, college or university as not many people caught my eye (they were idiots or not attractive to me), let alone anybody who wanted a romantic relationship. I've started looking at Match and eHarmony but I prefer meeting people irl. I have this (somewhat naive) idea that Mr Right's out there somewhere. Call me a sappy romantic girl in her 20s if you like lol but that's what I hope will happen someday. xD
you seem like a sweetheart! cool video I didn't know what it means
Great video!
my homoroamtic attraction will never go away....but the desire to have sex....I reather just cuddle snuggle clothes on for ever and that is enough for me.
Continue being yourself. :)
:-)
真可怜。。。他看起来是在努力地show，脸都憋红了，生怕表达不清，生怕自己的声音再被他人忽视
1800 views woo hoo!!
Thank you for being one of them!!