کبھی کبھی جب لڑکی کمانے لگ جائے تو ان کو لگتا ہے کہ ان کو مرد کی ضرورت نہیں لیکن جب ان کی عمر نکل جائے تو ان کو سمجھ آ جاتی ہے کہ انہیں کوئی چاہئے پر تب عمر نکل چکی ہوتی ہے ۔
I am gov teacher .m.phill botany qualification r age 32 year standard dakhty dakhty high qualified well jobed KO dhondy dhondty deer ho gi yhi issue sb ka mostly finaly main ny ak achy business man FA pass Insan Sy Rishta kr lyaa،mri request ha ak kamny Waly Shareef Insan KO prefer krn degree r job waly chaker KO choor ky aaga barh 😊
Very good analysis by Sir Qasim Ali and I also appreciate Barira Bakhtawar to raise the point of 2nd marriage and for giving advise to girls that their expectations should not be at peak. All discussion was on ground realities.
Once Mufti tariq masood said if you get married on time then other girl will remain unmarried and problem remains unreaolved ( it was only shifting of problem on other girls)therefore, polygamy is the only solution .
Everything you said was 100% accurate. 40 yr old female here. Mother didnt share all the proposals that came. Only the ones she knew i would say no to. Youngest female kid. Taking care of the responsibilities. So yep. Everything you said was accurate.
@@Heheh-2ese Sure, but there are questions why r u still single. As if i have super high standards etc. and as we get older that saying of rishtai kaam hoja thai hain… well thats true esp when ppl see the parent not sharing the proposals.
@@Heheh-2ese Even approaching someone this society make an issue for girl but man is always pious. Also what is the point of taking stand for such a man who shows his true color at final stage by doing religious manipulation, bycotting brands, TV, Schooling system, and left for another girl and moreover GASLIGHT you? like reality I am questioning never existed.
I got married at 20 after one year my husband left me with a baby boy for love of his life now am 54 never get married again .now my son dont want to marry he said you can live alone so he can too
Your husband should look after your kid .if you in pakistan its gov to blame .if you been helped buy gov .life can be easy .still in this world ownest people about .noon leigh koffar they are to blame .be best for you and your son
Meri shadi p saaf susral walon ne jahez s inkar kia halanky hum le sakty thy sb unhon ne lia ur mery apny waldain ur bhai kehty hn k hum jb shadi krengy to jahez nhi lengy q k ye aik mard ki gherat k khilaf hai k hum ksi k liy howy bistar p soen ur kisi ki di howi chiz istemal kren.
Ya Allah pak hmm sb k naseeb achy kr.. Ameen sumameen... I am 23 year old girl. I have done my graduation. Now i doing preperation of CSS exame... May Allsh give me allocatiin in pAS group ameen... And Allah pak mary naseeb bhot achy kry ameen sumameen
My experience is that jaiz is not a problem the fact is that working girl's mother does not want to loose income. The girl's mother is ruining own daughter marriage just because of her career
4 reshta toot gae nhe larke wale ke demand ke waja se on KO se bat se Koch nhi mtlab ke maa no kese hmat se prhaya he. Je hm ne Apne bche KO sequr krna ho ese lee km iz km 3 tole sone plat ya ghr me hesa adhe tnkha khrcha meher ke adhe raqm ose wat dene he. 1 reshta me a ho ne kha Brat Ka khana bhi larke wale ke taraf se ho ga. 1 sal ho he gea he se prsez ho. JB ke me zheez 1 tnka bhi nhi chaee. Bto kea kroo bwa orat ho
Superb Qasim Ali shah shb apki video dekh k bnda Rilax ho jata hai Alhamdu lillah apki video sy sekhny ko bhut kuch milta hai Always my favourite mentor Hats off to you sir ❤❤Love from Multan
Asslam o alaikum sir g bht acha guide kia aap ne . Mashallah ❤. Hazrat Ali Ki Shaadi jab Hazrat Fatima se hoii Thi tu humaray pyaray Nabi Hazrat Muhammad saw ne yea nhi dekha tha k Hazrat Ali k ps Kuch Hai ya nhi jahez balke aap ne unhein tu apni talvar bech kr haqmere dene hukam dia tha. Dekhein wo personality koii aaam nhi thi balke wo tu poori kainat k liay rehmat Al almeen Thay SubhanAllah . Lekin Aaj Ka trend apnay ap muslmaan tu kehta but 😢 afsoas apnay Nabi Hazrat Muhammad saw k ehkamat Ki pervi nhi krta 😢. Allah sabko hidaet de Ameen.
بے روزگار لڑکے کو گورنمنٹ ملازمت والی لڑکی سے شادی کرنی چاہیے اور بے روزگار لڑکی کو ملازمت والے لڑکے کے ساتھ مگر اب پاکستان میں لوگ دونوں گورنمنٹ ملازمین ہوں تو تب شادی کرتے یہ روایت تبدیل ہونی چاہیے
aik reason late shadi ki or divorce ki ye hy k dhoka dia jata hy ....rishty k time py jhoot bola jata hy ....Allah py twakal kia tha apny tour py sari investigation ki thi but larky waloon ny dhoka dia....
The problem with many girls and boys are dependent on parents to find a partner like they are 12 years old. My sister herself found a guy and chose him, after marriage it turned out he was a fantastic choice for her. Dont go crying to parents, daddy, daddy, find me a wife/husband. Do it yourself.
@@irshadahmad-xz1yf you must have girls in your classroom in college, university, in the office you worked, in your neighborhood where you live or just in your relatives(not cousins) Itni places mein se bhi koi nai nikli. Bhai, phir apni game banao xD
What's ur opinion about my situation.... even approaching someone this society make an issue for girl but man is always pious. Also what is the point of taking stand for such a man who was good earlier but shows his true color at final stage by doing religious manipulation, bycotting brands, financial controlling, TV, Schooling system, and left u for another girl and moreover GASLIGHT you? like reality I am questioning never existed. And when I blocked him he came with sorry..... What about EMOTIONAL DAMAGE AND MENTAL STRESS he gave me
@@geekygirl648 well, there are some boundaries that you have to have set for yourself, and that's it. A person is only worth so much as their love and compassion for you in any relationship. I'd say world is full of good people too, move on, you will find better and it will be worth it :)
First problem is education system. Ya education puri karta karta 25 phir job milna r dondna r settle hona . Second problem is Girls's marraige Wo ik aesa larka ki talash ma jo bas films ma hi hota ameer .buht ameer. Bat sach ha.
مردوں کے لئے مشکل یہ ھو گیا ھے کہ اول ان کے پاس اچھا کاروبار اور گھر دونوں ھونے چاہیے لڑکی والوں کے نزدیک لڑکے کا گھر لازمی اپنا ھو کبھی کبھار نارمل کاروبار یا محنت کر کے کمانے والا بھی چل جاتا ھے پھر اس کے بعد اگر کسی لڑکی سے رشتہ ھو بھی جائے تو کم از کم 2.5 تولہ یا 5 تولہ سونا لازمی لڑکی کو پہنائے گا تو شادی ھو گی ورنہ انکار کر دیا جاتا ھے لڑکیوں کو لڑکوں والوں کی طرف سے جہیز کے مسائل بھی پیش آتے ھو گے مگر لڑکے کو یہ مسائل عام ھو گے ھیں گھر کاروبار اور سونا پہنانا
دوست ساری اپر والی باتیں فائن ہیں مگر میرے علاقے میں گھر اپنا كروبار یا نوکری دیکھ کر بیٹی والے رشتہ دیتے ہیں ❤ سونا اپنی hesyt کے مطابق پہنایا جاتا ہے یہاں 😊
Sari baten boht ache tara discuss kar le hen 2 eham baten jo is tara karni chahye ke jo ma bap beti ko gift k tor pa saman ya paisa dete usme to koe burae. Ni bete ko b ghr ka saman milta ha beti ko mil jae to pta ni kia ho gea sirf demand nae karni chahye dusra eham point kisi b nizam ma aik cheez hoti balance,apni betion ko wirasat ma hissa dena ta k apne Zindagi usse b behtar andaz ma guzar sake jese wo apne ghr guzarti ae ha ya cheez khud he uske life k mutabik balance kar deti ha
Solution?i am also working on this issue,and i believe that all motivational speakers,Religion scholars have the say in it,they can change the trend and convince households,common people.
لڑکی اور لڑکوں کا تعلیم اگر ہے لیکن تربیت نہیں کیونکہ وہ رشتوں کو نبھانا اور سنبھالنا آتا ہی نہیں نہ ہی ان کی تربیت ہے اور نہ اعمال ہیں جس کے لیے رشتہ حکمت سے چلانے کے لیے کوئی زمانہ میں ادارہ نہیں کہ کیسے رشتوں کو نبھانا اور سنبھالنے کا ہنر سیکھایا جا سکے
Aslam o alaikum Sir Meri shadi ko 17 Saal hogayi hy abhi tak jahaiz kam honay k tanay detay Dil pr pathar rakh kr guzara krti hy betian parents ko problem nah. ho
1 Caror se ziyada girls unmarried age 35 ye bahot tashveesh wali bat he asal masla ye he ke hamari society me aik orat apny husbend ka kisi ghair larki se affair to bardasht ker leti he but usy Islami tareeqy se dosri shadi krny ki ijazat nahi deti or jab bhi ham log Islam se door ho ge to aisi problems to create ho gi ager aaj bhi Pakistan me Islam ko sahi tareeqy se fallow kia jay or 2nd third fourth nikah asan kr diya jay to ye problem years nahi dino me solve ho sakta he but kia krain yaha to orat hi orat ki sab se bari dushman bani bethi he unko Islam se dori k waja se ye pata hi nahi ke hamary Islam me har problem ka hal mojod he....
I am 52 having wife and 3 kids. Lived in Lahore. Want 2nd marriage with widow, divorced, unmarried without children Age up-to 40 years. 1st wife have no issue with my 2nd marriage.
Islam ke maan ne walo ke liye liye shadi bahot hi aasan hai Istrah ki Pareshani Insan ki fitrat me hoti hai jo Islam sahi tarah se follow nehe kerte Islam zindagi jeene ka sahi tareeqa bata diya hai
It’s all good talking about this. However, there are situations where man cannot tolerate a woman who is more educated than him. There are instance where girls want to go outside Pakistan and get married for citizenship and then leave the man once she gets that
Salam alaikum I got Married at age 35 years old. My lovely 🌹 wife was 25 year 😁 I have two boys. Allah ka Shukur 😊 We need to Give up a little bit on our Standards 😂
عظیمُ الشّان جلسے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں کئی دستار و جبے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں کسی برمی مہاجر کے دکھوں کو سُن کے سمجھو گے مساجد بھی مُصلّے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں کسی کا معترض ہرگز نہیں لیکن میں واقف ہوں کہیں پَر تو مدرسے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں جو حُبِ ملک کی زنجیر کو نعمت سمجھتے ہیں وہ نیکو کار بندے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں یہ خوف و ڈر کو حکمت کی حسیں پوشاک پہنائیں مسلمانوں کے جذبے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں یہ دنیا کی محبت ہے یا خوفِ حکمراں ہُدہُد خطیبِ حق کے خطبے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں ہدہد الہ آبادی
اگر لڑکیاں ایک کروڑ شادی کے انتظار میں ہیں تو لڑے دو کروڑ ہونگے بلکہ اس سے بھی زیادہ ۔کیا وجہ ہے لڑکوں کے انتظار پر بات نہیں کر رہے جبکہ لڑکیوں کے انتظار پر بات ہو رہی ہے ۔یہ مسلہ دو نوں کا ہے ۔
7:00 to 9:00 shah sb you nailed it,larka agar educated ho Ameer bhi ho good looking bhi ho wo apne s km parhi liki baghair job ki larkin se shadi karlega l,lekin agar larkin parhi liki ho aur tori se khoobsorat bhu ho uske nakhre nahi khatam hote,sari larkyo mein ye masla nahi ha lekin aj kal zyada larkyo mein ye masla ha
10 lakh agr shadi ke intzaar mn hai to sub se bara mafia marriage bureau walon ki registration fees agr rishta ho jaane Wala hota ha to kam fees ki wajah se marriage bureau wale rishta kharab kar dete hain . Karachi mn to mne yehi dekha hai
Dr sb my education is minimum MBA but I am still single despite my income was 0.05 million currently. People want forcibly wedding for arman etc. In my oppenion issue is psychotic anxiety etc.
2nd point is common because remaining all points are not countable. Q.k Girls educated hti han... Apna Business khud run kar re hti han... Har cheez easily buy kar skti han... Ghr ky zimadaria b acha sa manage kar skti han... To phr wo kaisa uneducated, unexpected bnda ko as a life patner accept kar skti ha...?? At least larka educated to hna chahie... Bqi factors to minor hta ha... With time, sab settle ho jata ha...
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Dr saheba se aik baat pochni thi key kiya aap apne husband ko 2nd marriage ki permission dein gi key wo kisi divorce ya bewa ka sahara ban saken? Plz reply zaror karen.
Mard kabhi bhi ameer paise wale job wali oarat nhi mangta hai wo bus chahta hai ke oarat job kare to achi BAAT hai agr nhi kar rahi hai to koi masla nhi hai😊
Sir very nice apny or Dr Barira ny to waqai bht hi deeply discussion ki hy i wish ye topic or zyda hota. Im also faving thuese issues related marriage. Expectations high hn girls ki ya girls k ghr walon ki trf sy or isi chakkar m shadi late sy nh late hi hoti jarhi hy.
I am 42 years old and I tried my level best for 20 years to find some wife for my self but couldn't ghareeb, ameer, bewa, mutliqa, chotti bari uumar ki but couldn't cos of the demands of girl and the hero personality in their minds and im not the only one there are other of my relatives and friends who experienced the thing it is such a harsh reality of the society girls have such a high standards
Both of these doctors forgot to mention in clear words that why do people get married. The only reason one should get married is to have offsprings. It’s extremely hard for a woman to get pregnant and have children at age 35. It’s called geriatric pregnancy if the woman ever gets pregnant. One of the main reason men don’t want get married to older women. They called 35 years old a girl look at their psychology. 35 years old women is an old woman her biological clock has run out. I wish they mentioned it in clear words not society ko aagay barhana hay. Best age of a girl to get married is between 16 to 23.
Sir AJ kal larke wale mang rhe he. Nazkeek ghr bhi Hona chaee 4reshte toot gea he. 4roo me me ne kha he ke hme zheez 1 tnka bhi nhe chee. Alah pr bhroosa kr ke reshta krtee he. Wo de ga naseeb se plz bteeme kea kroo
Shah sab mein ap ki buhut izzut kurta hou jub say ap kay lecture u tube pay atay hain mein sunta hou ore wo sub k liye buhut helpful hotay hain. But ap ko yeh nai kehna chaye tha k eik crore everage lug jata hy .ap ki bat sun k everage bunday jis ki beti hoty hy wo ore underprasyer chula jata hy ap ko amount 30 to 40 lakh butani chaye thi qk yeh mumkun hy
Qasim ali shah allha ap ki lmbi omr draz kry yeh bat ap ki bahot achi lgi nikha kO asan bnay or logo ne hram kO halal or hlal kO hram bnya howa h is kO asan kr dy
Working women ko Islam ne ye Haq diya hy k wo apni marzi se apni income kharch kr skti hy... Yani ye bat zaruri nhi k wo husband ko e paisy dy Wo apni family ko b de skti...
Me ne be yehi sona hey..apne gher men bill ki madad bi kry samj lo admi bivi 50 50 share kreen khrcha ..baqi apni tankhwa say woh maan baap ko day saksti hey.waldeen ne qurbani di education wzsty
Without cheap electricity industry can not run, in Pakistan electricity price is world highest. Pakistan need to stop free electricity for hi position army officers and public officers, also need electricity theft, all these theft added as line losses. Its total rip off on poor people.
اللهم صل على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما صليت على ابراهيم وعلى ال ابراهيم انك حميد مجيد .... اللهم بارك على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما باركت على ابراهيم وعلى ال ابراهيم انك حميد مجيد ❤
Jahez money shud be investment bond, but problem in Pakistan that government is also corrupt, if army generals need to stop corruption and stop taking multiple plots farm lands and commercial properties, army generals shud only be given a ten marla house in entire service.
Ajkal to bhai jo out of Pakistan hai uski hi demand hai baki i have seen peoples jinki larki 20 to 25 age ki thi or shadi unki 35+ se hui sirf is lie kiun ke wo larka yan uncle bahir..
کبھی کبھی جب لڑکی کمانے لگ جائے تو ان کو لگتا ہے کہ ان کو مرد کی ضرورت نہیں لیکن جب ان کی عمر نکل جائے تو ان کو سمجھ آ جاتی ہے کہ انہیں کوئی چاہئے پر تب عمر نکل چکی ہوتی ہے ۔
I am gov teacher .m.phill botany qualification r age 32 year standard dakhty dakhty high qualified well jobed KO dhondy dhondty deer ho gi yhi issue sb ka mostly finaly main ny ak achy business man FA pass Insan Sy Rishta kr lyaa،mri request ha ak kamny Waly Shareef Insan KO prefer krn degree r job waly chaker KO choor ky aaga barh 😊
Ap ne b finally paise wala hi dondh lya na. Bechare jis k pas paisa kam he wo lya kare. Yehi asal wajah he
@@MuhammadHussain-cp7we بیوی بنے کے لیے ٹیچر ہونا ضروری ہے؟
@@MuhammadHussain-cp7wewe from lahore looking for propsal for sister from lahore
@@MuhammadHussain-cp7wereply
@@MuhammadHussain-cp7we age
i did marriage in 2023 without jahez and it was quite easy
and i feel more rich now
Very good analysis by Sir Qasim Ali and I also appreciate Barira Bakhtawar to raise the point of 2nd marriage and for giving advise to girls that their expectations should not be at peak. All discussion was on ground realities.
Once Mufti tariq masood said if you get married on time then other girl will remain unmarried and problem remains unreaolved ( it was only shifting of problem on other girls)therefore, polygamy is the only solution .
Everything you said was 100% accurate. 40 yr old female here. Mother didnt share all the proposals that came. Only the ones she knew i would say no to. Youngest female kid. Taking care of the responsibilities. So yep. Everything you said was accurate.
It’s never too late…you can still approach someone “sensible “life partner 🙂
@@Heheh-2ese Sure, but there are questions why r u still single. As if i have super high standards etc. and as we get older that saying of rishtai kaam hoja thai hain… well thats true esp when ppl see the parent not sharing the proposals.
Sirf wo jin k baray mai unhay malom tha k ap nahi kaho gi unh proposals mai kia issue tha.
I can relate some of ur points not all.
@@Heheh-2ese Even approaching someone this society make an issue for girl but man is always pious. Also what is the point of taking stand for such a man who shows his true color at final stage by doing religious manipulation, bycotting brands, TV, Schooling system, and left for another girl and moreover GASLIGHT you? like reality I am questioning never existed.
I got married at 20 after one year my husband left me with a baby boy for love of his life now am 54 never get married again .now my son dont want to marry he said you can live alone so he can too
😢
He can never be peaceful
@@mehdijaved-b5q sab ko aik dafa he life milti hai , khush rah lay wo i don't mind
Your husband should look after your kid .if you in pakistan its gov to blame .if you been helped buy gov .life can be easy .still in this world ownest people about .noon leigh koffar they are to blame .be best for you and your son
Sakoon main rahe ga. Marriage is not worth it anyway.
Your ex-husband however did the worst thing possible.
Meri shadi p saaf susral walon ne jahez s inkar kia halanky hum le sakty thy sb unhon ne lia ur mery apny waldain ur bhai kehty hn k hum jb shadi krengy to jahez nhi lengy q k ye aik mard ki gherat k khilaf hai k hum ksi k liy howy bistar p soen ur kisi ki di howi chiz istemal kren.
MaShaAllah 👍🏻
Marriage is a serious responsibility. It's not a Entertainment. 👍
Ye b tou naseeb ki bat ha insan k bs me hota late shadi koi na krta. Allah pak sb betiyon or beton k naseeb achy kre Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
Re@@Arsalannouman
Ameen
Ameen
Ya Allah pak hmm sb k naseeb achy kr.. Ameen sumameen... I am 23 year old girl. I have done my graduation. Now i doing preperation of CSS exame... May Allsh give me allocatiin in pAS group ameen... And Allah pak mary naseeb bhot achy kry ameen sumameen
Are you merrid? My son is teacher and he is student of m phill and he is un merrid
@@shahnawazsiyal9938 no. I m not married..
Where are you from?
Cousins marriages are very good example is hazrat ali and hazrat Fatima
they were not cousin.
جزاک اللہ خیرا بہت زبردست پروگرام
My experience is that jaiz is not a problem the fact is that working girl's mother does not want to loose income. The girl's mother is ruining own daughter marriage just because of her career
یہ ظلم ہے
ghlt.lrky walon ki demands zyada hain.
videos bnany ki bjay rishtydhond dyn.dil na dukhayn .
4 reshta toot gae nhe larke wale ke demand ke waja se on KO se bat se Koch nhi mtlab ke maa no kese hmat se prhaya he. Je hm ne Apne bche KO sequr krna ho ese lee km iz km 3 tole sone plat ya ghr me hesa adhe tnkha khrcha meher ke adhe raqm ose wat dene he. 1 reshta me a ho ne kha Brat Ka khana bhi larke wale ke taraf se ho ga. 1 sal ho he gea he se prsez ho. JB ke me zheez 1 tnka bhi nhi chaee. Bto kea kroo bwa orat ho
Allha sy dua kryn
Superb Qasim Ali shah shb apki video dekh k bnda Rilax ho jata hai
Alhamdu lillah apki video sy sekhny ko bhut kuch milta hai Always my favourite mentor
Hats off to you sir ❤❤Love from Multan
Asslam o alaikum sir g bht acha guide kia aap ne . Mashallah ❤.
Hazrat Ali Ki Shaadi jab Hazrat Fatima se hoii Thi tu humaray pyaray Nabi Hazrat Muhammad saw ne yea nhi dekha tha k Hazrat Ali k ps Kuch Hai ya nhi jahez balke aap ne unhein tu apni talvar bech kr haqmere dene hukam dia tha. Dekhein wo personality koii aaam nhi thi balke wo tu poori kainat k liay rehmat Al almeen Thay SubhanAllah . Lekin Aaj Ka trend apnay ap muslmaan tu kehta but 😢 afsoas apnay Nabi Hazrat Muhammad saw k ehkamat Ki pervi nhi krta 😢. Allah sabko hidaet de Ameen.
Aap log hi start kerwa dain... Nikah Aasaan Tehreek.....
*یارَبّْ لَکَ الْحَمْدُ کَما یَنْبَغِي لِجَلالِ وَجْهِڬَ وَ لِـعَظِـیـمِ سُلطانِڬ*
بے روزگار لڑکے کو گورنمنٹ ملازمت والی لڑکی سے شادی کرنی چاہیے
اور بے روزگار لڑکی کو ملازمت والے لڑکے کے ساتھ
مگر اب پاکستان میں لوگ دونوں گورنمنٹ ملازمین ہوں تو تب شادی کرتے
یہ روایت تبدیل ہونی چاہیے
❤buhat acha topic ha buhat sensetive topic ...regards .
aik reason late shadi ki or divorce ki ye hy k dhoka dia jata hy ....rishty k time py jhoot bola jata hy ....Allah py twakal kia tha apny tour py sari investigation ki thi but larky waloon ny dhoka dia....
ALLAH ap ko or sb musalmaano ko best compensate kray (ameen)…
The problem with many girls and boys are dependent on parents to find a partner like they are 12 years old. My sister herself found a guy and chose him, after marriage it turned out he was a fantastic choice for her. Dont go crying to parents, daddy, daddy, find me a wife/husband. Do it yourself.
khan sy dhondyn??
Our parents wouldn’t allow us to find our own life partners
@@irshadahmad-xz1yf you must have girls in your classroom in college, university, in the office you worked, in your neighborhood where you live or just in your relatives(not cousins) Itni places mein se bhi koi nai nikli. Bhai, phir apni game banao xD
What's ur opinion about my situation.... even approaching someone this society make an issue for girl but man is always pious. Also what is the point of taking stand for such a man who was good earlier but shows his true color at final stage by doing religious manipulation, bycotting brands, financial controlling, TV, Schooling system, and left u for another girl and moreover GASLIGHT you? like reality I am questioning never existed.
And when I blocked him he came with sorry.....
What about EMOTIONAL DAMAGE AND MENTAL STRESS he gave me
@@geekygirl648 well, there are some boundaries that you have to have set for yourself, and that's it. A person is only worth so much as their love and compassion for you in any relationship. I'd say world is full of good people too, move on, you will find better and it will be worth it :)
شادی کو سادی کرو سکون پاؤ گے... لالچ، مفادپرستی، خود غرضی اور تکبر سے پاک ہو کر شادی کرو، سکون پاؤ گے...
Problems dono sides se hein. Shadi key standards change kerna chaye werna ye problem bht zyada hota jaye ga.
First problem is education system.
Ya education puri karta karta 25 phir job milna r dondna r settle hona .
Second problem is Girls's marraige
Wo ik aesa larka ki talash ma jo bas films ma hi hota ameer .buht ameer.
Bat sach ha.
kash log aek dosry ka dukh bant skyn.
@@irshadahmad-xz1yf dukh shadi k bad hi banty ga
مردوں کے لئے مشکل یہ ھو گیا ھے کہ اول ان کے پاس اچھا کاروبار اور گھر دونوں ھونے چاہیے لڑکی والوں کے نزدیک لڑکے کا گھر لازمی اپنا ھو کبھی کبھار نارمل کاروبار یا محنت کر کے کمانے والا بھی چل جاتا ھے پھر اس کے بعد اگر کسی لڑکی سے رشتہ ھو بھی جائے تو کم از کم 2.5 تولہ یا 5 تولہ سونا لازمی لڑکی کو پہنائے گا تو شادی ھو گی ورنہ انکار کر دیا جاتا ھے لڑکیوں کو لڑکوں والوں کی طرف سے جہیز کے مسائل بھی پیش آتے ھو گے مگر لڑکے کو یہ مسائل عام ھو گے ھیں گھر کاروبار اور سونا پہنانا
دوست ساری اپر والی باتیں فائن ہیں مگر میرے علاقے میں گھر اپنا كروبار یا نوکری دیکھ کر بیٹی والے رشتہ دیتے ہیں ❤
سونا اپنی hesyt کے مطابق پہنایا جاتا ہے یہاں 😊
Sari baten boht ache tara discuss kar le hen 2 eham baten jo is tara karni chahye ke jo ma bap beti ko gift k tor pa saman ya paisa dete usme to koe burae. Ni bete ko b ghr ka saman milta ha beti ko mil jae to pta ni kia ho gea sirf demand nae karni chahye dusra eham point kisi b nizam ma aik cheez hoti balance,apni betion ko wirasat ma hissa dena ta k apne Zindagi usse b behtar andaz ma guzar sake jese wo apne ghr guzarti ae ha ya cheez khud he uske life k mutabik balance kar deti ha
Solution?i am also working on this issue,and i believe that all motivational speakers,Religion scholars have the say in it,they can change the trend and convince households,common people.
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ فِعْلَ الْخَيْرَاتِ، وَتَرْكَ الْمُنْكَرَاتِ، وَحُبَّ الْمَسَاكِينِ، وَأَنْ تَغْفِرَ لِي، وَتَرْحَمَنِي، وَإِذَا أَرَدْتَ فِتْنَةَ قَوْمٍ فَتَوَفَّنِي غَيْرَ مَفْتُونٍ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ حُبَّكَ، وَحُبَّ مَنْ يُحِبُّكَ، وَحُبَّ عَمَلٍ يُقَرِّبُنِي إِلَى حُبِّكَ
لڑکی اور لڑکوں کا تعلیم اگر ہے لیکن تربیت نہیں کیونکہ وہ رشتوں کو نبھانا اور سنبھالنا آتا ہی نہیں نہ ہی ان کی تربیت ہے اور نہ اعمال ہیں جس کے لیے رشتہ حکمت سے چلانے کے لیے کوئی زمانہ میں ادارہ نہیں کہ کیسے رشتوں کو نبھانا اور سنبھالنے کا ہنر سیکھایا جا سکے
@Gulmarg-y5nبلکل ہی جاہل انسان ہو تم. کیا ضرورت تھی طنز کرنے کی؟
Tujhay bari tarbiyat hai khoti ki bachay
Very right
God bless u. Shah shab your talkings are ever green.
What is your options about non stop production after marriage
Aslam o alaikum Sir Meri shadi ko 17 Saal hogayi hy abhi tak jahaiz kam honay k tanay detay Dil pr pathar rakh kr guzara krti hy betian parents ko problem nah. ho
Mujha to lanat dia jati hai sab Koch tha par us ko pasand nahi aae tha
اللہ تعالٰی آپ کی عمر میں برکت دے ❤❤آمین
Great information qasim ali shah sir
Thanks for liking
Excellent topic ❤
1 Caror se ziyada girls unmarried age 35 ye bahot tashveesh wali bat he asal masla ye he ke hamari society me aik orat apny husbend ka kisi ghair larki se affair to bardasht ker leti he but usy Islami tareeqy se dosri shadi krny ki ijazat nahi deti or jab bhi ham log Islam se door ho ge to aisi problems to create ho gi ager aaj bhi Pakistan me Islam ko sahi tareeqy se fallow kia jay or 2nd third fourth nikah asan kr diya jay to ye problem years nahi dino me solve ho sakta he but kia krain yaha to orat hi orat ki sab se bari dushman bani bethi he unko Islam se dori k waja se ye pata hi nahi ke hamary Islam me har problem ka hal mojod he....
Government shud make flats and give a two bedroom flat to newly married couples those income is less than 200000 annual
Biwi bhi😅
@@aliahmedt.v9837 already newly married, you mean second wife
Mari bhi shadi ko 9 saal hu gy hai phir bhi lanat tani dati hai ka gold set kam wazn tha washing machine chuti hai or fridge bhi bara nahi hai 😢😢😢😢
Boht badue nikalti hai susral kaliya
@@SadiaRiaz-ds7zv Aap apne pati ko talak do kyunki wo dolat se pyar karta hai aap se nhi
I am 52 having wife and 3 kids. Lived in Lahore. Want 2nd marriage with widow, divorced, unmarried without children Age up-to 40 years. 1st wife have no issue with my 2nd marriage.
Yes my mother, MA passed, 40+, 2 sons 1st is Software Engineer, 2nd is Accountant andone daughter
Dr barira and Qasim Ali Sha zaberdast.
Islam ke maan ne walo ke liye liye shadi bahot hi aasan hai
Istrah ki Pareshani Insan ki fitrat me hoti hai jo Islam sahi tarah se follow nehe kerte
Islam zindagi jeene ka sahi tareeqa bata diya hai
It’s all good talking about this. However, there are situations where man cannot tolerate a woman who is more educated than him. There are instance where girls want to go outside Pakistan and get married for citizenship and then leave the man once she gets that
Salam alaikum
I got Married at age 35 years old. My lovely 🌹 wife was 25 year 😁
I have two boys. Allah ka Shukur 😊
We need to Give up a little bit on our Standards 😂
hr koi apki trh nhi hota .
Yeh to normal baat hai is mei Naya Kya hai Tum 35 bv 25 phir Kya karay koi😂😂😂😂😂
*اللهم صل على محمد النبي الأمي وعلى آله وسلم تسليما*
عظیمُ الشّان جلسے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں
کئی دستار و جبے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں
کسی برمی مہاجر کے دکھوں کو سُن کے سمجھو گے
مساجد بھی مُصلّے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں
کسی کا معترض ہرگز نہیں لیکن میں واقف ہوں
کہیں پَر تو مدرسے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں
جو حُبِ ملک کی زنجیر کو نعمت سمجھتے ہیں
وہ نیکو کار بندے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں
یہ خوف و ڈر کو حکمت کی حسیں پوشاک پہنائیں
مسلمانوں کے جذبے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں
یہ دنیا کی محبت ہے یا خوفِ حکمراں ہُدہُد
خطیبِ حق کے خطبے بھی غمِ امت سے خالی ہیں
ہدہد الہ آبادی
Shah sahab u saying absolutely right, there should must be movement to making the merry easy and simple...
اگر لڑکیاں ایک کروڑ شادی کے انتظار میں ہیں تو لڑے دو کروڑ ہونگے بلکہ اس سے بھی زیادہ ۔کیا وجہ ہے لڑکوں کے انتظار پر بات نہیں کر رہے جبکہ لڑکیوں کے انتظار پر بات ہو رہی ہے ۔یہ مسلہ دو نوں کا ہے ۔
7:00 to 9:00 shah sb you nailed it,larka agar educated ho Ameer bhi ho good looking bhi ho wo apne s km parhi liki baghair job ki larkin se shadi karlega l,lekin agar larkin parhi liki ho aur tori se khoobsorat bhu ho uske nakhre nahi khatam hote,sari larkyo mein ye masla nahi ha lekin aj kal zyada larkyo mein ye masla ha
@@TheStoicPivot sb khny ky batyn hain.
10 lakh agr shadi ke intzaar mn hai to sub se bara mafia marriage bureau walon ki registration fees agr rishta ho jaane Wala hota ha to kam fees ki wajah se marriage bureau wale rishta kharab kar dete hain . Karachi mn to mne yehi dekha hai
For ur kind information sindh men jahez ki demand ki koi rasam nhi. Larkyon ki demands zyada hone ki wajah se shadyon men rukawat he
Dr sb my education is minimum MBA but I am still single despite my income was 0.05 million currently. People want forcibly wedding for arman etc. In my oppenion issue is psychotic anxiety etc.
from where u are.we also looking propsal from lahore
@@HuzaifaQureshi-r2wsister ky lye lahore sy.age 32 first marriage masters
@@HuzaifaQureshi-r2wany one???
Very good topic
Keep it up
2nd point is common because remaining all points are not countable. Q.k Girls educated hti han... Apna Business khud run kar re hti han... Har cheez easily buy kar skti han... Ghr ky zimadaria b acha sa manage kar skti han... To phr wo kaisa uneducated, unexpected bnda ko as a life patner accept kar skti ha...?? At least larka educated to hna chahie... Bqi factors to minor hta ha... With time, sab settle ho jata ha...
▪️ *`جواب دیے بغیر چھٹکارا نہیں`* ▪️
روایت ہے سیدنا عبداللہ بن مسعود رضی اللہ عنہ سے
*`رسول اللہ ﷺ نے فرمایا`*
آدمی کا پاؤں قیامت کے دن اس کے رب کے پاس سے نہیں ہٹے گا یہاں تک کہ اس سے پانچ چیزوں کے بارے پوچھ لیا جائے: اس کی عمر کے بارے میں کہ اسے کہاں صرف کیا، اس کی جوانی کے بارے میں کہ اسے کہاں کھپایا، اس کے مال کے بارے میں کہ اسے کہاں سے کمایا اور کس چیز میں خرچ کیا اور اس کے علم کے سلسلے میں کہ اس پر کہاں تک عمل کیا
*`سنن الترمذی : 2416 ( الشيخ الألباني : حسن )`*
Dr saheba se aik baat pochni thi key kiya aap apne husband ko 2nd marriage ki permission dein gi key wo kisi divorce ya bewa ka sahara ban saken? Plz reply zaror karen.
Usay permission ki zarorat nai 2nd marriage puri trha lrkay hi himat pr hoti hai k wo kr skay or balance kr skay
true
Mard kabhi bhi ameer paise wale job wali oarat nhi mangta hai wo bus chahta hai ke oarat job kare to achi BAAT hai agr nhi kar rahi hai to koi masla nhi hai😊
Agree 100%
Sir very nice apny or Dr Barira ny to waqai bht hi deeply discussion ki hy i wish ye topic or zyda hota. Im also faving thuese issues related marriage. Expectations high hn girls ki ya girls k ghr walon ki trf sy or isi chakkar m shadi late sy nh late hi hoti jarhi hy.
g nhi .lrky waly khob sy khob tr ki tlash main rhty hain.
Marriage is costly if you want relationship with good family. 😕
Jazak'Allah khair
I am 42 years old and I tried my level best for 20 years to find some wife for my self but couldn't ghareeb, ameer, bewa, mutliqa, chotti bari uumar ki but couldn't cos of the demands of girl and the hero personality in their minds and im not the only one there are other of my relatives and friends who experienced the thing it is such a harsh reality of the society girls have such a high standards
sir 42 age ho gyi .itni late .
@@irshadahmad-xz1yf I have told you the reason, mashallah im engineer well settled handsome alhamdulillah but no wife
in which city you are?
Islamabad
@@Mrkhalid-sm3dlapki cast??? M also unmarried girl
Is maslay ki bari waja paisay say hi juri hain .
Allah pak sub ko achy shrieq e hayat naseeb frmaey 🤲
Good topic and thank you sir qasim Ali sah
پیسہ نہی تو شادی بھی نہی ہوتی
پیسہ ضروری ہے کیونکے شادی کے بعد خرچے بڑھ جاتے ہیں
مہنگائی آسمان پہ ہے
100 % jehz ny shadi ko mushkil bna dia ha..
I am 36 years and I am unmarried 😂
Are you willing to become second wife
Sur, jhaiz is not problem, problems are high requirements from girls side
leee me jo shadi karna chahta lekin high salary k bawajud jeeb me shadi k pese nahi 💔 my age 29-30
Boys ko education gain krna pa motivational session deliver kara ta-ka Girls b shadi kara.. Or Pak ko b faida ho economically...😊
دوسری شادی کا رواج ادب اور اچھے انداز میں عام کیا جائے ❤
صحیح ۔۔۔
Okkat ak wife ka karcha danay ki nehi hai aur chaly hain doseri shadi kareny
Both of these doctors forgot to mention in clear words that why do people get married. The only reason one should get married is to have offsprings. It’s extremely hard for a woman to get pregnant and have children at age 35. It’s called geriatric pregnancy if the woman ever gets pregnant. One of the main reason men don’t want get married to older women. They called 35 years old a girl look at their psychology. 35 years old women is an old woman her biological clock has run out. I wish they mentioned it in clear words not society ko aagay barhana hay. Best age of a girl to get married is between 16 to 23.
Bk was baat hai bachay Kisi bhi age mei hosaktay hai😂
Mari 38.age Mai shadi hoe sir nikah society ki zarorat hai university Mai Jo Hal hai astaqfar wakt par shadi bohat zarori ho gaya hai warna
Sir AJ kal larke wale mang rhe he. Nazkeek ghr bhi Hona chaee 4reshte toot gea he. 4roo me me ne kha he ke hme zheez 1 tnka bhi nhe chee. Alah pr bhroosa kr ke reshta krtee he. Wo de ga naseeb se plz bteeme kea kroo
ap kis city sy.bety ky lye dekh rhi hain ya beti ky lye?
شادی کے نہیں شہزادوں کے انتظار میں
Aik riasat k kitnay shehzaday ho sktay hain sirf shehzahon se tu chand aik hi marriage kr skti thi
@@Ahad_Awan_774 g nhi shadi ky intzar main
@Gulmarg-y5n acha ha😂😂😂
Shah sab mein ap ki buhut izzut kurta hou jub say ap kay lecture u tube pay atay hain mein sunta hou ore wo sub k liye buhut helpful hotay hain. But ap ko yeh nai kehna chaye tha k eik crore everage lug jata hy .ap ki bat sun k everage bunday jis ki beti hoty hy wo ore underprasyer chula jata hy ap ko amount 30 to 40 lakh butani chaye thi qk yeh mumkun hy
Right
ڈاکٹر صاحبہ! کا جملہ حاصل محفل ھے!مرد کے پاس اتنی غیرت وشرم ھونے چاہیے کہ وہ جیز کو نا کر سکے"
Qasim ali shah allha ap ki lmbi omr draz kry yeh bat ap ki bahot achi lgi nikha kO asan bnay or logo ne hram kO halal or hlal kO hram bnya howa h is kO asan kr dy
My Great teacher 💕
Working women ko Islam ne ye Haq diya hy k wo apni marzi se apni income kharch kr skti hy...
Yani ye bat zaruri nhi k wo husband ko e paisy dy
Wo apni family ko b de skti...
Me ne be yehi sona hey..apne gher men bill ki madad bi kry samj lo admi bivi 50 50 share kreen khrcha ..baqi apni tankhwa say woh maan baap ko day saksti hey.waldeen ne qurbani di education wzsty
Never marry when u r not ready
❤
Jzakallah khyra aameen summa aameen
Best information
Marriage is a sexual and economic relationship. It's a contract. 😐
Without cheap electricity industry can not run, in Pakistan electricity price is world highest. Pakistan need to stop free electricity for hi position army officers and public officers, also need electricity theft, all these theft added as line losses. Its total rip off on poor people.
Nice podcast
اللهم صل على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما صليت على ابراهيم وعلى ال ابراهيم انك حميد مجيد ....
اللهم بارك على محمد وعلى آل محمد كما باركت على ابراهيم وعلى ال ابراهيم انك حميد مجيد ❤
Small 🏡 Apartment Lime+ Mud mixed Bricks ? Halal Legal credit unions can helpful.Simple .
Aslamoalikum Sir g boht acha Gauid kya Ap ny hm sab ko is pr amel karny Ki tofeeq dy❤
Jahez money shud be investment bond, but problem in Pakistan that government is also corrupt, if army generals need to stop corruption and stop taking multiple plots farm lands and commercial properties, army generals shud only be given a ten marla house in entire service.
Meri bhi shadi khandan Mae hoi hy or wo bhi wata SATA Mae itna tang hoon k Soo side krny ka Dil krta hy Mera Dil out of family Mae tha shadi krny ka
Allha sy mdd mangy.Allha rhm kry apky hal py
Allah aap ki madad karay
آپ مکمل اردو میں بات کیا کریں۔انگریزی کا بہت استعمال کر رہے ہیں ۔یا مکمل اردو یا مکمل انگریزی۔۔۔
ماشاءاللّٰه
Is sare masle ki wajha bas ek hain ke girls shadi ke bad Apne husbands & family ki respect nhi Karti or is ka Sara kasor unke parent ka hain
Very true
Marriage has become very hard indeed.
true but we all are responsible for it
Aap log or boht se platform hai wo asan shadi pr government level pr working karen
Great man of this century Qasim Ali Shah ❤
Ajkal to bhai jo out of Pakistan hai uski hi demand hai baki i have seen peoples jinki larki 20 to 25 age ki thi or shadi unki 35+ se hui sirf is lie kiun ke wo larka yan uncle bahir..