With the example of the child who was reluctant to play with slightly older children, you should also consider the possibility that he has entirely different reasons for not wanting to play with them and is just giving you reasons that he thinks will get you to drop the subject. I did that a lot when I was very young and adults would question me. Once, a teacher tried to get me to read a classic novel, because I was an advanced reader. I read a few pages and decided I didn't like it, but when the teacher asked me about it, I was ashamed to admit I hadn't read it, so I cried. She asked if I was crying because it was a sad book, so I nodded like "Yeeeeah....let's go with that."
Oh I'm well aware of that haha. He was making an excuse for being shy, because his actual shyness toward other children conflicts with his boisterous personality at home. I wasn't going to stop and explain this when the point was to interview Dr. Ortiz.
Even as an adult, I prefer "go ahead and try it" myself. If I'm immersed in a task and trying to think through all my options and strategize, outside input helps IF it is pointing out an option I hadn't considered, but not if it's just an opinion about what to do that I might just legitimately disagree with and subsequently prove wrong. There's nothing wrong with submitting an idea to "the test of reality."
I took a Greyhound Bus from Eureka CA to San Diego CA (about 1400 miles) when I was 14 years old in 1977. I met a couple of creepy dudes but nothing dangerous actually happened. I know I used to hate it when my mother said, "Be careful" instead of, "Have fun!"
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With the example of the child who was reluctant to play with slightly older children, you should also consider the possibility that he has entirely different reasons for not wanting to play with them and is just giving you reasons that he thinks will get you to drop the subject. I did that a lot when I was very young and adults would question me. Once, a teacher tried to get me to read a classic novel, because I was an advanced reader. I read a few pages and decided I didn't like it, but when the teacher asked me about it, I was ashamed to admit I hadn't read it, so I cried. She asked if I was crying because it was a sad book, so I nodded like "Yeeeeah....let's go with that."
Oh I'm well aware of that haha. He was making an excuse for being shy, because his actual shyness toward other children conflicts with his boisterous personality at home. I wasn't going to stop and explain this when the point was to interview Dr. Ortiz.
Even as an adult, I prefer "go ahead and try it" myself. If I'm immersed in a task and trying to think through all my options and strategize, outside input helps IF it is pointing out an option I hadn't considered, but not if it's just an opinion about what to do that I might just legitimately disagree with and subsequently prove wrong. There's nothing wrong with submitting an idea to "the test of reality."
I took a Greyhound Bus from Eureka CA to San Diego CA (about 1400 miles) when I was 14 years old in 1977. I met a couple of creepy dudes but nothing dangerous actually happened. I know I used to hate it when my mother said, "Be careful" instead of, "Have fun!"