I appreciate this video. I am a special needs teacher in a public education setting. I am working to set up first time obedience within my classroom. I am thankful to hear that you have experiences with children who have self-regulation disabilities. Thank you!!!!
I have been struggling with this in one of my 5 year old twin boys, he was recently diagnosed with ADHD, this video is excellent. I am praying for guidance, and a treatment plan that helps our whole family.
I am so glad that you enjoyed the video. I have several posts on the Parenting to Impress blog that you may find helpful as well. parentingtoimpress/tag/adhd
What if they are not able to talk yet? My son is almost 2; he was born premature, but is able to do almost everything age appropriate except talk. He’s getting there, but it’s lagging.
I can not encourage you enough to have a speech evaluation. I am a huge supporter of early intervention. I encourage you to talk about the options with your pediatrician.
+Megann Plaza Great question. For a child under two who refuses to come to you when called, I believe that a time out is a great consequence for many children. It forces them to stop their play time or activity that they chose to do other than obey.
What's the deal with the indoor trampoline? You can get little man to jump on there for 7 minutes straight and it's a consequence? Just curious because I was wondering if you had some sources (reading materials) for me to dig into this. Our 2 year old daughter takes after me and I was VERY hyperactive. I read through the comments and didn't see anyone ask about this, if they did and I missed it sorry.
I am so sorry for the late reply as your message was hidden until now. This is a great question. I am not an Occupational Therapist so I can't explain everything that happens in the body while jumping, but the jumping provides sensory input for children. I would encourage you to talk to an occupational therapist or do some research on sensory input. Hope that helps
@@ABCJesusLovesMe No problemo we actually got a small indoor trampoline for our kiddos a few weeks ago (it's been helpful during winter when we can't get outside) 👍
For children over 2, I suggest the Dr. Kevin Leman idea of "B" doesn't happen until "A" is complete and the Love and Logic idea of "Energy Drain." I discuss these further in the ABCJesusLovesMe Biblical Discipline Series - abcjesuslovesme.com/products/other-products/BibDis1/
Thank you so very much for introducing this concept to us! However, we have come to a dilemma. During the three days, we played this game of calling and rewarding whenever he comes to me. After the training period, we stopped giving the reward (M&M). Now even when he comes to me after I called, he is asking for a reward. And he doesn't seem to obey as joyful as before. What should I do to change?
That is a good question. Obeying for a reward is fun. Obeying because it is the right thing to do, tends to lose the excitement. First, I would encourage you to slowly taper off the reward. Cold turkey can be hard. For a while, reward him on times that you know it was harder for him to obey - maybe he was very involved in a toy when you told him to come to you. On easier times, give him a hug or a high five instead of a M&M. As he grows, you want him to understand that obeying is a reward in itself because he shows love to those he obeys (John 14:15). Also, it keep him from getting in trouble. It makes him feel better about himself. Also, help him praise God for obedience; help Him understand that it is only with God's help that he can make good decisions because God is our only hope.
Thank you so very much for this inspiring video! After almost 8 years of parenthood I've come to the conclusion that we've never "trained" my son, a bright smart and funny boy. He has problems with first-time obedience and listening. He lacks in accountability and sense of what is right although my spouse and I rollmodeled this and tried to teach this from the very beginning. He has a mild ODD and we're currently in therapy. But I was wondering if I could adapt your take on this issue or if you have some advice for older children. I don't think he would like to play such a game. Do you have any experience you could share? Many thanks and kind regards, Suzanne
So glad that you have found this video helpful and I love what you said about not "training." Sometimes we think that kids should just pick it up. I think you could do the same concept but adapt it to what he likes. Maybe have a jar of marbles and for each first time obedience, he moves a marble from one jar to another. A full jar means _____ (what motivates him). At this age, I would encourage you to make him part of the discussion. Explain how the expectations are going to change and why, pray together about it, and ask for his input to help you put this into place. Hope that helps!
Toddlers understand way more than we think. A toddler can be taught to come when called. She may not be able to say, "Yes ma'am, I am coming," but look for the obedience.
Hi, thanks for the video. My son is 2.5yo now and we have noticed that lately he doesn’t come immediately when we call him multiple times. Also, I realized we tend to be more negative in our consequences than positive like yours with rewards. Is it too late to reteach him this again using ur game and positive rewards ?
+Heidi - ABCJLM Thanks for the reply and for all you are doing to help other moms with your videos and curriculum! We just started ABCJLM with our special needs 21 month old and I appreciate your posts about how you have dealt with your children's special needs. God bless you and your family :)
I appreciate this video. I am a special needs teacher in a public education setting. I am working to set up first time obedience within my classroom. I am thankful to hear that you have experiences with children who have self-regulation disabilities. Thank you!!!!
You are very welcome!
I have been struggling with this in one of my 5 year old twin boys, he was recently diagnosed with ADHD, this video is excellent. I am praying for guidance, and a treatment plan that helps our whole family.
I am so glad that you enjoyed the video. I have several posts on the Parenting to Impress blog that you may find helpful as well. parentingtoimpress/tag/adhd
Thank you for sharing!!! We could stand to brush up on this! :) it's so easy to be inconsistent!
+Creative Minds Homeschool (Dina P. - Perkilou) We can all probably brush up on this. :)
Thank you sooooooo much for this video. May God help me put this into practice & be consistent. God bless you sister!
+Go Av Thank you for watching. May God help all of us be consistent! :)
Amen!
Thank you!
We did 1st time obedience w/my twin boys when they were little but it was a battle. I love the game and I'll try this w/my new little girl. Thanks!
+Stephanie Davis Let me know how it goes!
What if they are not able to talk yet? My son is almost 2; he was born premature, but is able to do almost everything age appropriate except talk. He’s getting there, but it’s lagging.
I can not encourage you enough to have a speech evaluation. I am a huge supporter of early intervention. I encourage you to talk about the options with your pediatrician.
what is an appropriate consequence for a child younger than 2 years old?
+Megann Plaza Great question. For a child under two who refuses to come to you when called, I believe that a time out is a great consequence for many children. It forces them to stop their play time or activity that they chose to do other than obey.
What's the deal with the indoor trampoline? You can get little man to jump on there for 7 minutes straight and it's a consequence? Just curious because I was wondering if you had some sources (reading materials) for me to dig into this. Our 2 year old daughter takes after me and I was VERY hyperactive. I read through the comments and didn't see anyone ask about this, if they did and I missed it sorry.
I am so sorry for the late reply as your message was hidden until now. This is a great question. I am not an Occupational Therapist so I can't explain everything that happens in the body while jumping, but the jumping provides sensory input for children. I would encourage you to talk to an occupational therapist or do some research on sensory input. Hope that helps
@@ABCJesusLovesMe No problemo we actually got a small indoor trampoline for our kiddos a few weeks ago (it's been helpful during winter when we can't get outside) 👍
Thank you for understanding. Yes, the indoor trampoline is so helpful during the cold weather.
hi Heidi, i saw your response in the comments but what about a consequence for a child older than 2? or some other ideas for consequences. Thanks!
For children over 2, I suggest the Dr. Kevin Leman idea of "B" doesn't happen until "A" is complete and the Love and Logic idea of "Energy Drain." I discuss these further in the ABCJesusLovesMe Biblical Discipline Series - abcjesuslovesme.com/products/other-products/BibDis1/
Would you recommend implementing this at the same time with a 3 and 4 year old? Or should I focus on one child at a time?
I think implementing at the same time is a great idea!
Thank you so very much for introducing this concept to us! However, we have come to a dilemma. During the three days, we played this game of calling and rewarding whenever he comes to me. After the training period, we stopped giving the reward (M&M). Now even when he comes to me after I called, he is asking for a reward. And he doesn't seem to obey as joyful as before. What should I do to change?
That is a good question. Obeying for a reward is fun. Obeying because it is the right thing to do, tends to lose the excitement. First, I would encourage you to slowly taper off the reward. Cold turkey can be hard. For a while, reward him on times that you know it was harder for him to obey - maybe he was very involved in a toy when you told him to come to you. On easier times, give him a hug or a high five instead of a M&M.
As he grows, you want him to understand that obeying is a reward in itself because he shows love to those he obeys (John 14:15). Also, it keep him from getting in trouble. It makes him feel better about himself. Also, help him praise God for obedience; help Him understand that it is only with God's help that he can make good decisions because God is our only hope.
Thank you so much for your advice. I will try that.
Thank you so very much for this inspiring video! After almost 8 years of parenthood I've come to the conclusion that we've never "trained" my son, a bright smart and funny boy. He has problems with first-time obedience and listening. He lacks in accountability and sense of what is right although my spouse and I rollmodeled this and tried to teach this from the very beginning. He has a mild ODD and we're currently in therapy. But I was wondering if I could adapt your take on this issue or if you have some advice for older children. I don't think he would like to play such a game. Do you have any experience you could share?
Many thanks and kind regards,
Suzanne
So glad that you have found this video helpful and I love what you said about not "training." Sometimes we think that kids should just pick it up.
I think you could do the same concept but adapt it to what he likes. Maybe have a jar of marbles and for each first time obedience, he moves a marble from one jar to another. A full jar means _____ (what motivates him). At this age, I would encourage you to make him part of the discussion. Explain how the expectations are going to change and why, pray together about it, and ask for his input to help you put this into place. Hope that helps!
My daughter is 13 months old, so her language/communication is limited. Does this still work for those without communication?
Toddlers understand way more than we think. A toddler can be taught to come when called. She may not be able to say, "Yes ma'am, I am coming," but look for the obedience.
Hi, thanks for the video. My son is 2.5yo now and we have noticed that lately he doesn’t come immediately when we call him multiple times. Also, I realized we tend to be more negative in our consequences than positive like yours with rewards. Is it too late to reteach him this again using ur game and positive rewards ?
Not at all! Love and Logic says that for every 1 year of poor parenting, it only takes 1 month to turn things around. It is never too late!
How old was Little Man when you began this training?
+Stephanie We began the training a little later. I would start it with a 18 month - 2 year old.
+Heidi - ABCJLM Thanks for the reply and for all you are doing to help other moms with your videos and curriculum! We just started ABCJLM with our special needs 21 month old and I appreciate your posts about how you have dealt with your children's special needs. God bless you and your family :)
+Stephanie So glad that you are enjoying ABCJLM and have found the videos helpful. God Bless!