Psych Wards, Shock Therapy, & A Love Story - THE MOTH
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- Mark Lukach's entire life changed in an instant when he got home from work. He tells the story of he and his wife's struggle with mental illness at The Moth Main Stage Event on February 15, 2013 in New York City. The Moth is an acclaimed not-for-profit organization dedicated to the art and craft of storytelling.
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i have mental illness. i go to the dark places no matter how hard i try to stay. My husband is my rock i feel i dont deserve him . he brings me back to life.
Keep yourself strong body. You are an example of a strong man. Wish you and your wife the best!
This man is a pillar of strength. Moving.
So proud to be able to say that Mark was my history teacher in high school. It has been my privilege to know him and Julia ever since, and I wish they live long and prosper
Mark, if you are listening, I want to thank you for doing this because 4 days ago my wife had a mental break and I'm at home pacing and terrified with nothing to tell me what or how I should be dealing with this. My wife had no history also. I read your "Lovely Wife" Article and am now watching your videos and I feel that there is hope. Thank you so much.
My son. My son is so I'll, I have no idea what his future is gonna be. I am so sorry but, I am so fuckin scared I don't know what to do with myself. I don't know who's ass to kick. As a mom, we kill anything that hurts our kids. What do you do when your child's worst enemy is himself? His head. I appreciate the hell out of your story. My you and your family have, peace, more love and happiness. My husband deals with my mental problems and NEVER throws it in my face. Just listens. Doesn't tell me how to feel or make me feel bad for how I do feel. He just loves me through it. Men like you guys are unheard of. I am so blessed to have my husband. I know he puts up with some outlandish ish. I try so hard to are sure he knows, I appreciate him and he's the bestest estest friend anyone could ever be lucky enough to get to have. Thar is all, I can offer him for all he does. He is the mac.
Though having not dealt with a mental illness, my wife experienced an ‘acute onset of MS’ while carrying our second child ... we had a one year old at the time and in the blink of an eye my wife was nearly totally paralyzed and was admitted into a neuro-rehabilitation center for three months ... a healthy, vibrant personality was reduced to a person I almost didn’t recognize ... I identify with much of what Mark experienced ... 31 years of marriage have passed and we have learned to deal with the ups & downs of life ... ‘... in sickness & in health, till death due us part’ ❤️❤️
Mark you are an amazing individual. I hope for you and your wife the very best of everything in life. I don't come to tears very easily but watching this video has me crying. You are truly an inspiration. I hope that she gets better for both of you.
This is true love. Patient & kind.
So painful to hear, but worth hearing.
that was a heart wrenching rendition, Mark..so very bold of you to share it. wishing her a very speedy recovery and you, loads of good luck.
She is so lucky to have you, Mark. So glad she gave her blessing for you to share it because it's an important one to tell. You're making a difference. Wishing you both all the best.
I'm in tears. I really hope they both have enough strength to make it through every day.
I truly felt like I was walking beside his images, his story, his emotion and his expression of his experience - it is honorable to respect this truth. I felt those white walls and the numbness those pills in small cups make people, the fear of facing such an unknown, his tears without a need to wipe them away or tell him to man up but to just let him recite his heart. Thank you Mark
My mom went through this. It is a grueling experience not know what is going to happen... No one else in the house wanted to help besides her sister. It was all left to me. I did the shock treatments, doctor appointments, giving her her meds. It is an emotional roller coaster. Never feeling like you can help, always wanting to break down and you can't you have to keep it together for that person! Thank you for sharing your story, it is a very tough situation to talk about.
i feel for you man, my brother also had gone through with similar situation like yours... And the pain it caused me watching him doing things normal people don't do, really struck me hard. There were also times where i asked myself if he will get better. Every time i remember him and me when he's still sane made me cry hard. He was so young when he get so depressed and later on mentally ill. I think he's only sixteen back then. Imagine how would a mother react to that. But i am fortunate that my mother is a strong woman and she did handle my brother pretty well although there are several times where he rants and punches everyone he sees. Today, he's fine. He finished his highschool and later on took a degree in computer programming and had finished it last year.
If only that were true. Going through the same thing with my significant other right now. They've talked to multiple doctors, psychiatrists and brain specialists. Tried every drug there is in the book. Right now we're trying to focus on eating food that's been promoted as being beneficial according to blood type. Some natural remedies including blending Banana peals. If you're aware of treatment that has actually been successful for someone with Bipolar 2. please let me know.
Beautiful and brave to be so open about something so vulnerable. I hope she will get better.
Props to this guy for staying with her and doing so much for her. Most people would bail.
You and your wife aren't alone, Mark. Take care of her and take care of yourself. Best wishes.
Hugs and love to you and her hang on and keep on keeping on...
Wow that story brought me to tears. His love for his wife is so strong ! I seriously hope they get better !
Fortunately I only have chronic depression and am not bi polar. I know some who are and my heart goes out to them. To have someone talk about it is so amazing. I hope she is doing better and that you are getting respite so that you can cope with this disease. I wish there was a cure....
Thank you so much for you story Mark. You are a beautiful husband
I am glad to see that I am not the only one that started to tear up.
sobbing now.. SO brave and inspirational..
I WISH NOTHING BUT THE BEST. HAPPINESS, STABILITY, AND PLENTY OF SMILES AND LAUGHTER!!!!!!! THIS STORY HAS TOUCHED MY HEART!!!
Thanks Anna! That's great to hear :)
Your story is exactly the same as mine only it's my daughter with this bipolar1 disorder. This video brought an uncontrollable flow of tears to my eyes watching this. My heart goes out to you. But you would have to be you.
How touching and important. Thanks for sharing, Mark, and knowing you and your wife can overcome and thrive and empower many others.
....you are a wonderful, fantastic husband. This man embodies what a good husband is. I hope his wife Julia sees and understands that, and how hard that is to find in a man.
Thanks for uploading so many. That's my hour sorted.
Thanks for sharing Mark!
Thanks for sharing this incredible story.
Poor guy. He's a trooper. I hope that everything turns out ok and she can get have some consistent wellness.
Only two minutes in and he sounds fake.
@@patriciaoffer9585 lol ok
@@nuthinnicehiphop It wasn't an order...😆
'Poor guy, he's wonderful, she's sick' =
what he wants you to think.
This guy is amazing!
This is the most beautiful love story I think I have ever heard.
Thank you Mark. God bless you both. My husband is stuck in limbo which I cannot go into but he has dementia which is technically not a mental illness but in reality, classification means nothing to me. Alzheimers, mental illness-- all of it, it is all crushingly sad for the people suffering and the ones who love them
Thank you for sharing this story, I have been struggling for quite sometime with mental illness, people think you can just turn it off. Just stop it or something.
i was depressed for the age of 13 to probably today. my therapist did maybe 8% of work, medication didn't help at all. insteat, what really helped me was going through my emotions which didn't have a place in my households. what's next important? your environment, i can't emphazise this enough how important it is that you have nortouring parents how are not alcoholics, or emotional unavailable. what does reparenting, inner child work or fight flight mean? education helped me pull my ass of this trauma. almost ALONE from 13 years old. I went through abandonment and discard and split in myself which must be therr in order to cope with the situation. you know what? experience in healing yourself can't be compared to a bachelor degree. if i speak about this i'm passionate, i know what was going on and fought like tiger, that seemed to kill itself. guess what. i write THIS. And I'm proud. also, the stigma got me in my teenage years. the real real real problem is that therapists can't scan or imagine things that were NOT done to you. i repied: NOT done. abuse by ommission. You want to here my story? invite me. I want to share and help all desperate people who need guidance, BECAUSE maybe you were born in hell and just COPED life and you just don't know. welcome to the "just medicate this person world" medication has it's worth, but many many many times it is used as denial. people have to learn again what is real health and have to connect to their core (emotions) which is often supressed in our society. how dare you don't fit it. how could you not? shame on you, poor pitty boy. Obviously i'm kidding, but this is in peoples heads. compassion is needed on this planet as nothing else. if you could resonate with this post like it, so other people can see it. Thank you
While not bipolar, i have battled depression. i find meditation coupled with binaural music or sounds while I sleep. i know what happens, and know it can be managed with meds and with holistic approaches. Hang in there
It is hard bc I’m there. It’s hard bc know one understands what the person or their families go through. Its not like another disease in health care your embarrassed to say your on an anti depressant right away they profile you. I’ll stop now, and send to strength, peace and unconditional love for your wife. She needs you as her advocate, her friend and her safe place.
had me in tears, beautiful.
Omega 3. Do a search for Andrew Stoll. He is a Harvard medical psychiatrist who researched and wrote a book. We have seen it work for bipolar. The approach we used was not taking pills but a whole diet overhaul. It is now about 15 years and things are still more than stable.
MindFreedom International for you and anyone who can "relate" to this story.
I experienced my long-time girlfriend being in the mental hospital for post-partum depression. I had feared that when she got released she'd be so mentally well-off she'd realize what a piece of crap I really am and leave me.
How are things 6+ years later...?
@@patriciaoffer9585 much better, thank you. We aren't actually together, but life has never been better.
@@Jeromy1986 Right on.
My ex I recently split with has bipolar disorder we have been on and off for five years... I always stood by his side no matter what even during episodes but he always cheats and leaves when he is manic. It's the hardest thing in the world to not be by his side the whole time because he turns me away but still after I understand so well it's hard not to hurt for him.
im sitting here, bawling my eyes out. my little brother is in the ICU, after yet another suicide attempt. I am so lost. So confused. So heartbroken...for the pain he is in, and subsequently the pain my parents are in. I cant imagine living day to day, wondering when it is...your child, your baby....might actually end their own life. His first question when he woke up, was why am I here? Why didnt you let me go? He eill never understand the depth of my love for him... but I almost feel guilty for forcing him to do be when he doesnt want to. Please Jon, stay strong. Keep fighting. We will find a way, no matter what it takes.
i love u two so much and ur book had such a big impact ! i love u and u will always be in my prayers :)
I did a research project on bipolar disorder and wow ever since i did that project I have never seen a person with bp the same way.
Mark , she's so luck to have a husband like you man
You are a great great great great man
Dude you just made me tear up a little:(
Its a horrible story to have to tell. Must be difficult to be a man and cry in front of everyone. Good on him.
u r a miracle
Mark Lukash you have my prayers. Life is hard but there are people have worse times than you. I am sorry going thru this drama.
i hope you and your wife the best. i wish you talked about the cause of her mental disorder though.. it would've been more insightful
ME TOO
:) beautifully told...
The Law of Attraction never lies. We get fed what we are thinking. We humans communicate with feelings. I feel that the family wants to bring her home because they love her. Or someone is having fun using her thoughts to hurt the man. Being stuck in evolution can sometimes trigger horrible things in order to progress again. Have you ever heard of Dolores Cannon?
what happens when your spouse will not go to the doctor? There is no one to force him to go and believe me he cannot be forced... I feel all alone sometimes... I really want it to pass but it has been months and nothing is happening. I just try and enjoy the few minutes when his mind is back and then... he is gone...
+starlitdreams If you're loved one refuses to go to the doctor, the time will come where police will intervene, and, hopefully, intervene in away where no one is hurt. My dad wasn't going to go to the hospital, for he thought he was the only sane one. When it got bad, the police showed up, and, I learned that Haldol and donepezil seem to love me... well, allow my dad to not think I and my mom are trying to kill him. He supposedly came down with dementia due to old age.
not exactly a treatment but if you have the money these people can help you find one. They'll go through ALL the scientific research available to find whatever works best.
sorry, forgot the link
metamed.com
Warning: If you want to hear a Moth story, make sure you are on The Moth channel. If you inadvertently click on "Thinkr" you will get one of these stupid attempts at a story-behind-the-story.
Is the only version of his story this one, that keeps cutting away from the story in an edit, and then going back and forth like this?
:(
Everything is 'chemical.'
Electro shock works well for bipolar. Someone close to me has it, and, it works for her. By the way, Haldol and donepezil works well for those who are psychotic with Sun Downer's Dementia, I've discovered. Anyway, the things that people go through is amazing. I think we need to be rewarded in Heaven for it. After all, who remembers asking to be born a human with bad brain chemistry?
Jesus Miracles saves you guys
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Psychiatry saves lives. Find a good Dr. and teach yourself about disorders. This guy is painting a grim picture of mental illness. It is not that scary and treatment has very high success rates.
I know people who can't afford insurance and are on Medicaid. They have terrible psychiatric care in North Carolina. They might see a psychiatrist once or twice a year; other than that it's a social worker. It's appalling.
You are not him. Stick to what you know