So in other words, the faithful spouse who endured The experience of the same marriage & respected the vows made, has to feel guilty & think about the years invested? When the cheating spouse Threw it all away for a few weeks of pleasure??? While the trusting spouse thought they were working on fixing the marriage & was willing to fight for it? Love, is to will the good of the other! Not to hurt, betray, lie & cheat.
Good person doing bad thing or bad person doing bad thing? That’s not who they really are? That’s where I am stuck. My husband is a good person and had been patient with my sadness and giving me transparency like you said. But I found out 18 months later that he didn’t end the relationship. Is he a good person watching me going through hell crying BUT still keep the relationship because he didn’t know what to do? Is he a good person?
Did he know where to get help, how to get help? I found out couple days ago that UH would've stopped all acting out if I had set stronger boundaries and started move out and separation/ divorce proceedings if he did not pursue full marriage counseling / individual counseling for marriage betrayal.
This is a wonderful video. Thank you so much for taking the time to create it. If you truly believe your spouse is a good person, please, don't throw your marriage away. Your marriage is a life long commitment and just because your spouse may have violated their vows in some way shape or form, please do not allow this give reason to betray your own. I pray for all those in marriage turmoil right now for a softened heart and a restored faith and desire in their spose and their marriage. If your spouse is a good person who did a bad thing, I feel you know what the right thing to do in your heart is, please don't let the fear in your mind overrule. Your marriage is worth it, again especially if they truly are a good person! God bless you, your spouse, and your marriage.
I dont mean to be so off topic but does someone know of a trick to log back into an instagram account?? I stupidly lost the password. I love any tips you can offer me.
he will say it didnt happen . How can you forgive a person . 26 years of beging toghter i left him 2 times it didnt happen ok my sister and friend and who eles
Hi. I have a question. My husband had an emotional affair in December and it’s over already. They still work together but rarely see each other. We are separated and he requested a 7 week no contact period to do a therapy series. We had agreed to start dating again when it’s over and then go to counseling together. However, a mutual friend called me yesterday because she just found out we are separated. She talked to me first and then called him. She called me after and told me he doesn’t see us working things out anytime soon and is hoping I move on. (Not gonna happen). He said he knows he made a mistake and truly regrets it because of how much it hurt me and us. That he will always love me but needs to work on himself at the moment because he’s not where he wants to be in life. He said it will likely take him a year or two to get where he wants to be (emotionally and in life) and maybe then we can try again. We have been together for almost 12 years. I don’t want to wait that long. But at the same time, I love him sooo much that I’m willing to wait forever. Literally. We always had such a strong bond. And I feel like I know what caused all this. I have changed things on my end and still working to do even better. But he’s blocking himself off now and saying he doesn’t think we can work it out right now. What can I do? What should I do? I want to save the marriage. I miss my husband. I have forgiven things and I want to move forward and grow.
In July 2015 my husband moved in with her,I filed for divorce and it was final June of 2016 we have talked but the last time we talked he wanted to be friends I prayed about it but God said after being his wife for 36 years we couldn't be friends, I have been following the lord but it still breaks my heart. Do you have any ideas.
Follow your heart. If you want to reach back and be a friend after 36 years, why not show grace? No need to be punishing now that you are divorced. You have already done that. You can limit contact but can be nice.
You shouldn't. He is not worthy of you. This channel is just a man, who left his wife, and now wants to give advice. Would he have taken her back? If a man shows you who he is, believe him.
So in other words, the faithful spouse who endured The experience of the same marriage & respected the vows made, has to feel guilty & think about the years invested? When the cheating spouse Threw it all away for a few weeks of pleasure??? While the trusting spouse thought they were working on fixing the marriage & was willing to fight for it? Love, is to will the good of the other! Not to hurt, betray, lie & cheat.
So hard to hear & I really needed this one
The only reason to stay is so you can give half your assets, cold support, and alimony to the cheater later on when she divorces you.
Good person doing bad thing or bad person doing bad thing? That’s not who they really are? That’s where I am stuck. My husband is a good person and had been patient with my sadness and giving me transparency like you said.
But I found out 18 months later that he didn’t end the relationship. Is he a good person watching me going through hell crying BUT still keep the relationship because he didn’t know what to do?
Is he a good person?
Did he know where to get help, how to get help? I found out couple days ago that UH would've stopped all acting out if I had set stronger boundaries and started move out and separation/ divorce proceedings if he did not pursue full marriage counseling / individual counseling for marriage betrayal.
How do I know if this is an affair?
This is a wonderful video. Thank you so much for taking the time to create it. If you truly believe your spouse is a good person, please, don't throw your marriage away. Your marriage is a life long commitment and just because your spouse may have violated their vows in some way shape or form, please do not allow this give reason to betray your own. I pray for all those in marriage turmoil right now for a softened heart and a restored faith and desire in their spose and their marriage. If your spouse is a good person who did a bad thing, I feel you know what the right thing to do in your heart is, please don't let the fear in your mind overrule. Your marriage is worth it, again especially if they truly are a good person! God bless you, your spouse, and your marriage.
I dont mean to be so off topic but does someone know of a trick to log back into an instagram account??
I stupidly lost the password. I love any tips you can offer me.
he will say it didnt happen . How can you forgive a person . 26 years of beging toghter i left him 2 times it didnt happen ok my sister and friend and who eles
You shouldn’t
Hi. I have a question. My husband had an emotional affair in December and it’s over already. They still work together but rarely see each other. We are separated and he requested a 7 week no contact period to do a therapy series. We had agreed to start dating again when it’s over and then go to counseling together. However, a mutual friend called me yesterday because she just found out we are separated. She talked to me first and then called him. She called me after and told me he doesn’t see us working things out anytime soon and is hoping I move on. (Not gonna happen). He said he knows he made a mistake and truly regrets it because of how much it hurt me and us. That he will always love me but needs to work on himself at the moment because he’s not where he wants to be in life. He said it will likely take him a year or two to get where he wants to be (emotionally and in life) and maybe then we can try again. We have been together for almost 12 years. I don’t want to wait that long. But at the same time, I love him sooo much that I’m willing to wait forever. Literally. We always had such a strong bond. And I feel like I know what caused all this. I have changed things on my end and still working to do even better. But he’s blocking himself off now and saying he doesn’t think we can work it out right now. What can I do? What should I do? I want to save the marriage. I miss my husband. I have forgiven things and I want to move forward and grow.
Seriously, seven weeks nc for therapy? Sweetheart, it’s more than emotional.
In July 2015 my husband moved in with her,I filed for divorce and it was final June of 2016 we have talked but the last time we talked he wanted to be friends I prayed about it but God said after being his wife for 36 years we couldn't be friends, I have been following the lord but it still breaks my heart. Do you have any ideas.
Follow your heart. If you want to reach back and be a friend after 36 years, why not show grace? No need to be punishing now that you are divorced. You have already done that. You can limit contact but can be nice.
You shouldn't.
He is not worthy of you.
This channel is just a man, who left his wife, and now wants to give advice. Would he have taken her back?
If a man shows you who he is, believe him.
I agree, but I would add that if a woman shows you who she is, believe her. Just a thought.