@@tahiti-themagicalplace7007I’m a oldest child and this is how my younger sister is treated. It’s bad parenting it’s just some people don’t accept the fact that some parents are bad. I’m sorry for you.
Yess the high expectations is sooo real tip like I could have a 94 in math and my litttlr sister could get a C and my parents don’t mind and also the blaming always happens I hate it
Same, but my parents treat me and my younger brother according to our ages. Sometimes I feel they spoil me too much, like treat me like a child younger than my age (I like it). So as an oldest child I can't relate to this. They treat my younger brother the way they treated me at his age. Btw, this (the way my parents treat us) is common in my country.
Nothing feels worse than getting As all throughout elementary, being exited to tell your parents and them being just as excited, then the reaction slowly fading into ‘well that’s just the expectation’ then the only response you get when you work your ass off in high school to have a 4.0 and they barely blink twice. Then you get another sibling, and the expectation for them is barely Cs because ‘they’re not like you, they’re like I was in high school.’
Listen to this: So my entire elementary and middle school life, I gave my parents straight As, except a couple of times in middle school where they were Bs. I'm going to eleventh grade. A couple of months ago, I got a C. My father got the audacity to start calling me a "C Student." I'm still hurt by this bullcrap. And now my youngest brother uses it on me in arguments, knowing it hurts. No one even cares anyway. I'm "just being too sensitive"
this so relatable. especially the getting blamed part. people are always like “you’re lucky you’re the oldest.” no, come on. if this is luck, i’ve been lied to lol
Ikr, my brother had a broken toy and he blamed me for when I did nothing about it, I am a teenager I don't want anything to do with the toy! Yet I got blamed, but the thing is, now I have been blaming him right back for stuff that I know he never did and now I am the " rude person", sometimes you never win being oldest 😔
This is literally my life: I'm tired of having to go home afraid that someone will tell me something because I got an A- instead of an A/A+. I'm tired of always having to have a thousand responsibilities. I'm tired of being blamed for anything. And I’m not perfect, my sisters CAN’T be like me because my life isn’t the best. Finally someone who understands me. Thanks girl, I respect you 💕
this is so accurate. being the oldest also ment you had to pick up the whole house cause your siblings "don't do it as good as you" or some stupid reasons like that.
No I swear it’s first like: “you have to be a good role model, you should be a good example for your younger sibling” Then it’s like: “you should be like your younger sibling” I just don’t understand parents sometimes
@@CopperxxIt's a fundamental fact that some parents are ... well, I don't want to insult anyone so I won't say it. But it would be nice if they stopped and thought of the adverse impact on their kids for once.
I am the oldest sibling and I can relate soo much. I also love how you make people understand what problems people around you feel, and what they have to deal with. I will definetly recomend your channel to my friends (even though I have only 1)
I non stop study to make my parents proud as they're always digging into me that I need to work harder so I don't end up like them and I can achieve my dreams. This makes me extremely ambitious and rarely get to do things that I want to do. But they don't realise this. They always call me lazy and say I spend to much time in my room but it's were I do my work and the other bit of time I have left is what I would actually spend in my room. I'm really stressed out alot of the time but they don't think I can be because I'm "just lazy" and think I'm using it as an excuse. I rarely want to eat, I struggle with sleep and sometimes don't, I lack motivation but when I have motivation, I REALLY have it, I have so many procrastinating thoughts, I pull my hair, etc. but they don't realise any of it. However, teachers who barely know me know more of it than them and have even told them but my parents just ignored it and got worse. However, they're always bragging about my intelligence to their friends but then moan because I don't/can't help out with chores as much and constantly compare me to my cousin who always does chores because she doesn't focus on school work like I do and has time but she gets paid for it.
I can relate a lot to the last one, it’s always like my mum doesn’t even care, she always blaming me for everything that my little brother does, when we get in a argument she blames it on me saying I must of done something to annoy him
I am the oldest so i can relate a ton. They always blame me for something my sister did. Like if she made a huge mess. My parents would say it’s my fault. Its not fair 😔
I’m a younger sister but an older cousin, so I can at least relate a bit when it comes to that. “You’re older so you should’ve stopped him” but when you act older “You’re not his parent, stop that”. You can’t win.
This is me fr i love ur vids they r so helpful, especially as an autistic kid with anxiety and bpd and eating disorders/body shame. i have become so much more confident since i subbed so ty
Bro can’t relate my older sister can do whatever she wants and won’t get in trouble for it, like she stole the rent money once. But I feel bad for every other older sibling they have it rough.❤
@@flimedbylia i told her and she just said hit him back and when i did i got a whole lecture about how he is older and my brother and as his sister i should respect him
As the oldest child I'm happy to see finally someone who values the oldest child but Yeah it's pretty accurate we always get blamed for things we didn't do (and the rest is also true
@@niggasgang8784 I mean he has a PS5 he doesn’t even use that he got for Christmas. I had to return a gift or 2 so I could get a laptop, shoulda returned the PS5.
The "just revise harder next time" is so real, like I did my very best and you guys said you'd be proud of me but when I do my best I just get hit with a "try harder next time" like what?😭
Story time: So I’m 11, and my older sister Megan is 19. She’s my everything, and I’m hers. We tell each other everything and have that strong sister bond. One day I was just watching RUclips in my room and I heard her crying a little bit. I went into her room and I asked if she was okay, and she just pulled me into a hug. It turns out, she found this video and she started telling me how stressful it is being the oldest despite how much she loves me and just started venting her heart out to me, and I let her because I could tell she was hurting. The things she said she can’t relate to are babysitting, high expectations (she’s a really good student), and the blaming. She said she loves being my role model.
As an oldest child, I understand it. Something u have to remember, is that u can't do it alone. In middle school, I never hugged, talked to, or spent time with my little sister; bc I was afraid. She used to say she wanted to grow up and be like me, but I was anxious and depressed, and was afraid that she'd have to go through that hell too, if it rubbed off on her. I'm going into hs now, and I spend time with her now. I cry everytime I think about the amazing little person I forgot to watch grow up. I still feel the constant pressure for perfection, but I no longer am depressed. Remember, life is so much better if u choose not to do it alone. Pls don't do what I did. 💚
as an oldest child and a middle child I can proudly say I love looking after my siblings there so funny, smart and interesting and also I love kids as long as they're not those kids that keep asking for your phone and then your parents force you to give it to them
Y’know, being the youngest, i really want to know what my sister thought and felt when we were at a young age and growing up, although she treated me like shit most the time, she cared for me and i loved those times where she did actually care for me… after i found out she wasn’t leaving for college i bawled my eyes out right in front of her, i was so happy that she wasn’t gonna leave me, we see each other almost regularly now… although she’s probably the reason for my childhood trauma, i still love her.. it’s confusing but i think people with siblings will get it.. ❤
this is so true if my younger brother or cousins ever curse or do something wrong i always get the blame. if my younger brother hit someone its because i 'taught him' my dad and mom always give their attention to him and never to me but when i confronted them about it they said that im overreacting and that i should go spend time with them instead of staying in my room all day, and why don't i go to spend time with them its because every time i do i get in trouble for some reason and who's fault is that? my brother i might be dramatic for blaming my brother for everything but once he was born eveyone started hating me for no reason and say that he's a little angel and so kind, once he's around others he acts like a cute innocent child but once he's with me he's the most annoying person in my life. im the most hated person in my family and i always get blamed because im the oldest and i taught everyone how to do this and that (curse, hit people, act inpolite) its just messed up, the other bad things about every older sibling is that they are like a second parent for their younger sibling and take care of themselves the worse part is that the parents start overstressing them and since no one will ever care about them anymore once they get a brother or sister the attention will all go to them the older sibling always do chores and are forced to do them meanwhile the younger siblings never do anything- i don't get it our parents always talk to us about things in their lives they need to fix like im not your therapist they only come to you once they need help nothing else this is fucked up i hate it- the part i most hated about this is that everyone wishes to be the oldest in their family because they will be the favorite etc.. but instead its the complete opposite the you gest will always be the favorite for some damn reason im sick of it the oldes goes through so much more trauma then the other siblings i just dont get it why cant siblings be loved equally?
As an oldest child I'd like to say that this happens alot and it feels bad tbh it lead me into deep depression! SO ALWAYS KEEP UR HEAD HIGH AND NEVER LET SOMEONE MAKE U FEEL SMALL! ❤❤❤
Very true I am the oldest and it’s hard bc u try rly hard and shit and you just want to take one break but the u feel like you didn’t do enough or u think u r disappointing ur parents and if u feel like this too just know that ur not the only one out there and it will always get better❤❤❤❤
As the oldest sibling in my family, I can say that this is true. Also my brother takes advantage of him being the youngest to blame everything on me and get in trouble. There's more down sides than positive effects to being the oldest.
This is so accurate it’s insane. 24/7 I have to cancel my plans because my parents are going out and need me to watch my siblings. I’m missing this entire half term because my parents are going out. Today I got invited out with my friends to the mall, and my parents told me I couldn’t go because I had to take my 8 year old brother on a date. I used to have straight A’s all throughout primary school up until secondary when I’ve been seriously struggling in most lessons. The amount of nights I haven’t slept because I’ve been trying to study for an exam I know I’m gonna fail anyways. In all my exams I get better scores than my friends, I get better results than my siblings get, I still got told ‘it’s not good enough’ and I can’t even say anything back because they’ll ground me. I can’t wait until I’m 18 because the second I can move out I am and I’m never looking back
This is sooo true the oldest child always gets the blame like me but it is not our little sisters falt it feels like that our parents don't even care about us only the youngest child
Yep this is all true along with getting gaslit for having “attitude” when you’ve been helping all day and you just can’t anymore and you end up not having a cheerful tone and it’s considered “snippy” and being told you’re out of control for having strong emotions about everything and not even being able to stand up to your parents.
All of her videos are telling whatever u are boy or a girl, oldest or youngest it will always be hard no matter what u are so thats why i love ur videos 😊
I can relate to this a lot… Once I was chosen to compete because I got a high score and when I told my mom I was back up because my classmate did better then me she was so confused and questioned, “Someone did better then you?” It didn’t help when my dad heard too. Another was when I was the only one is my grade to get a 100 on a test but instead of congratulating I got, “That’s sad how no one else got a hundred.” Like what about me? I got a hundred? I was the only one with a hundred. And you want to complain how I wasn’t at the top…
Honestly as the youngest i hv told my older sister so many times i wanna be like her. You really can't blame us either...the older ones seem so perfect...and the parent also just wants u to be like them u cant help but wish u were as good as them.
As the oldest child, I find this really relatable, parents just think "Oh yeah! You should have good grades and take care of your younger siblings" but sometimes we are just to over worked and tired but you still have that younger sister to take care of, especially if you have a toxic family, the younger siblings are gonna need you..
As the oldest this really is how it is, not able to go out because of siblings and babysitting, the role model, the blame, and (for me personally) the not being helped for personal issues because no one realizes
The funny thing is that I actually relate to this it’s my day to day life of the oldest child and I started to talk back but then just decided that it’s not worth my time
The high expectations one is so relatable especially because I am "smarter" than most people so my parents expect me to do really well even though I am bad at tests
Here is my bad side of being the oldest (this is siblings and close cousins cause I only have 1 sibling and I’m the oldest out of cousins too): blamed for everything, nothing is mine, would be high expectations but I actually meet them so yeah, the role model, no role model for myself to look up to (I see my aunt more than mom and aunt is not the best influence), have to break the news to siblings/cousins abt the world most of the time, setting too high expectations for them, them constantly being compared to me, setting high expectations for teachers (specifically for my cousin who’s a grade/year younger than me) that they can’t live up to, never getting what u want, parents only listening to younger family, pressure to follow in parent’s footsteps (my parents own a business and are rlly fancy etc) Good personal experiences as the oldest (still cousins and siblings): get to experience things first, not often compared to them, spoiled (that’s prob a just a thing with our family but I’m the spoiled one in the family), never having hand-me-downs, gets all the attention, gets to go to events with parents, getting privileges before them (cursing, moving out, drinking, etc)
This is so relatable all of my friends are like your grade is good then why are you being worried. Isn't this thing too much why always it's the elder one but not the younger one. This thing made me almost cry🙂.
I am the middle child who is also the oldest. So not only am I a forgotten middle child but I have the responsibility (chores) of an older child and babysitting and trying to please my parents who don’t seem to care unless my grade slips to a B or anything for that matter it is just unfair in my house. However I don’t let that stop me from working hard to make my parents happy and being a role model for my younger siblings and keeping my grades up and studying to get my dream job. It is hard in my house there has been so many problems my family has gone through in a span of three years 2013-2016 my mom got diagnosed with MS and my grandmother passed away in august of 2014 to cancer and in 2015 I lost my dad to cancer and type 2 diabetes and my mom in 2016 had an MS relapse and couldn’t move for a few months at the time from 2013 to 2016 I was 4 years old to 7 years old so I didn’t know how to process it all at my age when I became a teenager it all came rushing back and I had been diagnosed with mild depression crippling anxiety and crippling social anxiety. I didn’t let it stop me I kept going yes I fought thing and they did get really bad I got help from a therapist and he helped me with so much in just a short time I also learned so much from him. Since then I haven’t had anything bad really happen to me there are still time I struggle with it but I fight because I refuse to let it control my life like it did and my mother has gotten so much better. I do still worry for her and do everything I can to help her and keep her from overworking herself. But I can tell you don’t let anyone push you around try to control you don’t put all the pressure on yourself and don’t not help out but don’t keep it all bottled up inside either you can do this you can fight to. ❤❤
I'm the eldest sibling and I need advice. My sister isn't like how she portrayed hers at all. Mine has anger issues and gives me attitude 24/7. I clean, I cook, I take care of, even of my parents. Im burnt out and my patience is thin when im burnt out. She thinks she's older than me when she's 10! I've been trying to teach her to say please, thank you, excuse me, etc since she was little but she just refuses and gives me the stink eye. I tell her she can always come to me for anything I'll always be there for her and love her always but she's just so mean. She's always been mean, since she was born even my mom agrees. I feel like shit rn I was tryna straighten my freaking hair and she was doing that attitude shit again and I told her to watch her mouth and she opened it for soap she didn't think I'd do it. I put 2 squirts of soap at the tip of her mouth so she wouldn't get hurt or anything then I accidentally smacked her with the bottle (not hard at all) cuz she jerked her head in that direction and she started crying. I immediately got her water and told her to spit it out and out of spite she SWALLOWED IT. I don't know if it's me or her but I need to learn something idk. Any moms, older siblings, or even younger siblings with advice? Thanks for reading this far
Also as the oldest, if you had early childhood traumatic experiences they may effect you more since you were old enough to understand or went through more than siblings who weren’t born at the time
As a youngest child im tired of seeing stuff like "youngest kids don't deal with anything and eldests make all the sacrifices"eldest go through alot of pain yes but they cause even more pain to youngest children so their just passing it on growing up no one ever had time for me and my sister never wanted to even talk to me and she manipulated me multiple times but i still stayed by her side no matter what i went against my religion for her i loved her unconditionally but she never loved me back i still have bruiseson my body from her and she even tried to kill me once purposely the only hug i ever got was from my cousin❤eldest,middle or youngest we all go through something sometimes it's easy sometimes it's hard but we have to always be there for eachother❤️but ofcourse this isn't saying that at all
Can u make one for the youngest List maybe Perents being strick bc they want to "protect you" sence your their last one Getting yelled at constantly and perents letting anger out on you Getting blamed for EVERYRHING Not being able to have as much fun as the older ones with perents Not being able to understand anything as you wernt born yet in the times theyr talking abt/being left out Perents having higher expectations for you to be as sucsesfull as older siblings Perents presurring you to not be a "dissaponintment" like your older siblings Getting spoild but not being able to se perents as much as your older siblings did Getting teamed up on or being hates by older siblings Getting bossed around all the time I would rlly apriciate it if you could to this so more people relise that bwing the youngest isint the best one. ❤❤ Tysm if you acctually do it!!
The grades one especially hurts when your younger sibling(s) get a higher grade and your parents are all proud of them but say "Its ok. Just try harder next time" to u
omg. this, is, so, relatable. it's actually very hard to be the eldest most of the time that sometimes, i get very sick of being the eldest. (sometimes i wished that i had a big bro instead which would teach me cool stuff.)
Honestly I know I won’t get a response. But like honestly. I’m the middle child. I’m literally young Asf. And I’m Here taking care of my oldest brother and my lil sister, which is hard, but I still manage to do it, and continue with my own life. Like I know how it feels for the oldest because sometimes in my life they get favored over and over. But it gets me angry because I never got attention as a kid. My mother passed on, my father only cares for the youngest. I grew up as not existing to no one except my siblings who cares about me which makes me happy, even tho we fight or get mad at each other, we still love each other. No matter what, if we get into a fight or a relationship problem we are always there for each other, but my lil sister doesn’t get what a relationship is but she still tries, I love my siblings
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Honestly, this isn't a representation of an oldest child, it's a representation of bad parenting.
that’s what i said
Nah I’m oldest and this is true
@@tahiti-themagicalplace7007I’m a oldest child and this is how my younger sister is treated. It’s bad parenting it’s just some people don’t accept the fact that some parents are bad. I’m sorry for you.
Nope
@@MiuMiu_Wony yep
a quote from my parents: “since you’re the oldest, you have the most expectations…they go down with each child. simple.”
felt
Oof. That’s though.
Lucky.
Bruh I'm the youngest and I completely feel like being the oldest it sucks. Who ever is the youngest child is sooooo lucky
felt bro
As an oldest child who was also an only child for eight years I know how this shig feels
ahh im so sorry you know how this feels I completely understand
Yess the high expectations is sooo real tip like I could have a 94 in math and my litttlr sister could get a C and my parents don’t mind and also the blaming always happens I hate it
Same, but my parents treat me and my younger brother according to our ages. Sometimes I feel they spoil me too much, like treat me like a child younger than my age (I like it). So as an oldest child I can't relate to this. They treat my younger brother the way they treated me at his age. Btw, this (the way my parents treat us) is common in my country.
@@navoditachakraborty-zl7yp good for you!!
@@tajinaasgar ikr
Nothing feels worse than getting As all throughout elementary, being exited to tell your parents and them being just as excited, then the reaction slowly fading into ‘well that’s just the expectation’ then the only response you get when you work your ass off in high school to have a 4.0 and they barely blink twice. Then you get another sibling, and the expectation for them is barely Cs because ‘they’re not like you, they’re like I was in high school.’
*The never spoken truth*
Listen to this: So my entire elementary and middle school life, I gave my parents straight As, except a couple of times in middle school where they were Bs. I'm going to eleventh grade. A couple of months ago, I got a C. My father got the audacity to start calling me a "C Student." I'm still hurt by this bullcrap. And now my youngest brother uses it on me in arguments, knowing it hurts. No one even cares anyway. I'm "just being too sensitive"
This is basically describing me as the oldest
ahh im so sorry...
Same for me
Same…
Same though....
Fr
this so relatable. especially the getting blamed part. people are always like “you’re lucky you’re the oldest.” no, come on. if this is luck, i’ve been lied to lol
Ikr, my brother had a broken toy and he blamed me for when I did nothing about it, I am a teenager I don't want anything to do with the toy! Yet I got blamed, but the thing is, now I have been blaming him right back for stuff that I know he never did and now I am the " rude person", sometimes you never win being oldest 😔
This is literally my life:
I'm tired of having to go home afraid that someone will tell me something because I got an A- instead of an A/A+. I'm tired of always having to have a thousand responsibilities. I'm tired of being blamed for anything. And I’m not perfect, my sisters CAN’T be like me because my life isn’t the best. Finally someone who understands me. Thanks girl, I respect you 💕
this is so accurate. being the oldest also ment you had to pick up the whole house cause your siblings "don't do it as good as you" or some stupid reasons like that.
No I swear it’s first like: “you have to be a good role model, you should be a good example for your younger sibling”
Then it’s like: “you should be like your younger sibling” I just don’t understand parents sometimes
it feels like they are making you do it bexause your the oldest, not because your siblings are young or any other reason
@@CopperxxIt's a fundamental fact that some parents are ... well, I don't want to insult anyone so I won't say it. But it would be nice if they stopped and thought of the adverse impact on their kids for once.
@@Copperxxtrueee
I am the oldest sibling and I can relate soo much. I also love how you make people understand what problems people around you feel, and what they have to deal with. I will definetly recomend your channel to my friends (even though I have only 1)
As the oldest child with a younger brother everything on here is true. You just described me... 😭
me for high expectations: it’s literally impossible in my school to get an a+-
yeah isn't it just Im in a media school so its quite easy to get a top grade distinction
I non stop study to make my parents proud as they're always digging into me that I need to work harder so I don't end up like them and I can achieve my dreams. This makes me extremely ambitious and rarely get to do things that I want to do. But they don't realise this. They always call me lazy and say I spend to much time in my room but it's were I do my work and the other bit of time I have left is what I would actually spend in my room. I'm really stressed out alot of the time but they don't think I can be because I'm "just lazy" and think I'm using it as an excuse. I rarely want to eat, I struggle with sleep and sometimes don't, I lack motivation but when I have motivation, I REALLY have it, I have so many procrastinating thoughts, I pull my hair, etc. but they don't realise any of it. However, teachers who barely know me know more of it than them and have even told them but my parents just ignored it and got worse.
However, they're always bragging about my intelligence to their friends but then moan because I don't/can't help out with chores as much and constantly compare me to my cousin who always does chores because she doesn't focus on school work like I do and has time but she gets paid for it.
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I can relate a lot to the last one, it’s always like my mum doesn’t even care, she always blaming me for everything that my little brother does, when we get in a argument she blames it on me saying I must of done something to annoy him
I’m not even the favorite child and most of this hasn’t even happened to me.
And most likely never will.
your lucky
@@libbyglass wow thanks for replying! 💖🥹
It’s because you have good parents. Good for you not everyone is that lucky!
Lucky
I am the oldest so i can relate a ton. They always blame me for something my sister did. Like if she made a huge mess. My parents would say it’s my fault. Its not fair 😔
I’m a younger sister but an older cousin, so I can at least relate a bit when it comes to that. “You’re older so you should’ve stopped him” but when you act older “You’re not his parent, stop that”. You can’t win.
That’s called bad parenting it’s terrible how many people relate to this.
@@user-tq9vs6fc9u yup thats so true
Honestly you need an award for being so relatable. As an oldest child myself I definitely can agree.
No they don't need a reward
@@Danmei_fan.ryy06 why not. If I may ask.
@@Stormborn-Rose because it's not relatable to a lot of people
@@Danmei_fan.ryy06 I was just going of my experience. Sry if ur offended
This is me fr
i love ur vids they r so helpful, especially as an autistic kid with anxiety and bpd and eating disorders/body shame. i have become so much more confident since i subbed so ty
Bro can’t relate my older sister can do whatever she wants and won’t get in trouble for it, like she stole the rent money once. But I feel bad for every other older sibling they have it rough.❤
ahh im so sorry I can't believe she did that how can she get away with that that's crazy! I completely agree with you
honestly my brother is the same he is always hitting me and taunting me plus steals mom's money when she isnt here and im too traumatised to tell her
me 2 she get an A they compare every person in the room like you should get an a 2 like she did
@@flimedbylia i told her and she just said hit him back and when i did i got a whole lecture about how he is older and my brother and as his sister i should respect him
My sisters the same
It feels so good to have someone who understands me ❤
Can you do life of a youngest child.
This is so relatable tysm for spreading awareness abt this
As the oldest child I'm happy to see finally someone who values the oldest child but Yeah it's pretty accurate we always get blamed for things we didn't do (and the rest is also true
This is so true being the oldest is quite hard. I know how this feels and the last one about breaking is the worst one out of all of them.
as the oldest child with one other sibling, i relate to this... especially being blamed and having to do all the chores..
its so sweet sometimes with your siblings wanting to be like you tho-its so cute
As the middle child I basically take care of all my siblings while my parents are gone but my older brother says he’s “the boss”
As the oldest he's sound spoiled asf
Same
Me too
As the oldest child I have to take care of everyone well everyone screams and complains to me. It just depends on the family really.
@@niggasgang8784 I mean he has a PS5 he doesn’t even use that he got for Christmas. I had to return a gift or 2 so I could get a laptop, shoulda returned the PS5.
The "just revise harder next time" is so real, like I did my very best and you guys said you'd be proud of me but when I do my best I just get hit with a "try harder next time" like what?😭
As a youngest child, I have been blamed for everything and get compared to others
If you think so you’re lucky you’re not the oldest
@@MiuMiu_Wony ik every child isn't lucky tbh
Then see what the oldest people go through
Story time: So I’m 11, and my older sister Megan is 19. She’s my everything, and I’m hers. We tell each other everything and have that strong sister bond. One day I was just watching RUclips in my room and I heard her crying a little bit. I went into her room and I asked if she was okay, and she just pulled me into a hug. It turns out, she found this video and she started telling me how stressful it is being the oldest despite how much she loves me and just started venting her heart out to me, and I let her because I could tell she was hurting. The things she said she can’t relate to are babysitting, high expectations (she’s a really good student), and the blaming. She said she loves being my role model.
This is the opposite of my older sister life. I love being my little sisters role model.
As an oldest child, I understand it. Something u have to remember, is that u can't do it alone. In middle school, I never hugged, talked to, or spent time with my little sister; bc I was afraid. She used to say she wanted to grow up and be like me, but I was anxious and depressed, and was afraid that she'd have to go through that hell too, if it rubbed off on her. I'm going into hs now, and I spend time with her now. I cry everytime I think about the amazing little person I forgot to watch grow up. I still feel the constant pressure for perfection, but I no longer am depressed. Remember, life is so much better if u choose not to do it alone. Pls don't do what I did. 💚
as an oldest child and a middle child I can proudly say I love looking after my siblings there so funny, smart and interesting and also I love kids as long as they're not those kids that keep asking for your phone and then your parents force you to give it to them
Then you must have good parents.
Finally someone understands being a role model is a lot of pressure to be perfect and you feel like you have to hide your emotions 😢
As the oldest child in my family, I can relate to this a lot.
I very honestly and truly can relate. It’s really annoying some times
as an oldest child, I feel this 💗
This is soo true man its so hard being the oldest
I’m the oldest child and all of this stuff happens to me. I always get blamed for everything which kinda makes me mad.
Y’know, being the youngest, i really want to know what my sister thought and felt when we were at a young age and growing up, although she treated me like shit most the time, she cared for me and i loved those times where she did actually care for me… after i found out she wasn’t leaving for college i bawled my eyes out right in front of her, i was so happy that she wasn’t gonna leave me, we see each other almost regularly now… although she’s probably the reason for my childhood trauma, i still love her.. it’s confusing but i think people with siblings will get it.. ❤
Have you done youngest yet?
Yesss exactly,I wanted one too
@@sharbanibose I’m guessing your also a younger sibling
@@-Summ3r yup
im doing youngest next I promise
im doing youngest next I promise
this is so true if my younger brother or cousins ever curse or do something wrong i always get the blame. if my younger brother hit someone its because i 'taught him' my dad and mom always give their attention to him and never to me but when i confronted them about it they said that im overreacting and that i should go spend time with them instead of staying in my room all day, and why don't i go to spend time with them its because every time i do i get in trouble for some reason and who's fault is that? my brother i might be dramatic for blaming my brother for everything but once he was born eveyone started hating me for no reason and say that he's a little angel and so kind, once he's around others he acts like a cute innocent child but once he's with me he's the most annoying person in my life. im the most hated person in my family and i always get blamed because im the oldest and i taught everyone how to do this and that (curse, hit people, act inpolite) its just messed up, the other bad things about every older sibling is that they are like a second parent for their younger sibling and take care of themselves the worse part is that the parents start overstressing them and since no one will ever care about them anymore once they get a brother or sister the attention will all go to them the older sibling always do chores and are forced to do them meanwhile the younger siblings never do anything- i don't get it our parents always talk to us about things in their lives they need to fix like im not your therapist they only come to you once they need help nothing else this is fucked up i hate it- the part i most hated about this is that everyone wishes to be the oldest in their family because they will be the favorite etc.. but instead its the complete opposite the you gest will always be the favorite for some damn reason im sick of it the oldes goes through so much more trauma then the other siblings i just dont get it why cant siblings be loved equally?
I can relate to that!
Finally someone who understands
no this is called bad parents not oldest child
As an oldest child I'd like to say that this happens alot and it feels bad tbh it lead me into deep depression! SO ALWAYS KEEP UR HEAD HIGH AND NEVER LET SOMEONE MAKE U FEEL SMALL! ❤❤❤
Very true I am the oldest and it’s hard bc u try rly hard and shit and you just want to take one break but the u feel like you didn’t do enough or u think u r disappointing ur parents and if u feel like this too just know that ur not the only one out there and it will always get better❤❤❤❤
I am the oldest myself, and I feel all this...i wish we were treated a bit better
As the oldest sibling in my family, I can say that this is true. Also my brother takes advantage of him being the youngest to blame everything on me and get in trouble. There's more down sides than positive effects to being the oldest.
As an older child myself thank you for doing this now people can feel what we feel
I just started tearing up bc it’s sad how this is true- I’m a oldest child to three other kids 😔
As the oldest child I can confirm this is true
It's honestly horrible 😭 you can't get a break no matter which child you are
Could you do one on being a younger sibling? We also share some pain…
This is so accurate it’s insane. 24/7 I have to cancel my plans because my parents are going out and need me to watch my siblings. I’m missing this entire half term because my parents are going out. Today I got invited out with my friends to the mall, and my parents told me I couldn’t go because I had to take my 8 year old brother on a date. I used to have straight A’s all throughout primary school up until secondary when I’ve been seriously struggling in most lessons. The amount of nights I haven’t slept because I’ve been trying to study for an exam I know I’m gonna fail anyways. In all my exams I get better scores than my friends, I get better results than my siblings get, I still got told ‘it’s not good enough’ and I can’t even say anything back because they’ll ground me. I can’t wait until I’m 18 because the second I can move out I am and I’m never looking back
My day has felt bad cause of my younger siblings I needed this thank
Some people forgot we have feelings and heart too 🥺💔
This is sooo true the oldest child always gets the blame like me but it is not our little sisters falt it feels like that our parents don't even care about us only the youngest child
Watching this as an oldest child made me cry idk why
This is exactly how it is for me it's perfect tysm for making this
omg this just breaks my heart
Yep this is all true along with getting gaslit for having “attitude” when you’ve been helping all day and you just can’t anymore and you end up not having a cheerful tone and it’s considered “snippy” and being told you’re out of control for having strong emotions about everything and not even being able to stand up to your parents.
All of her videos are telling whatever u are boy or a girl, oldest or youngest it will always be hard no matter what u are so thats why i love ur videos 😊
I can relate to this a lot… Once I was chosen to compete because I got a high score and when I told my mom I was back up because my classmate did better then me she was so confused and questioned, “Someone did better then you?” It didn’t help when my dad heard too. Another was when I was the only one is my grade to get a 100 on a test but instead of congratulating I got, “That’s sad how no one else got a hundred.” Like what about me? I got a hundred? I was the only one with a hundred. And you want to complain how I wasn’t at the top…
I'm the middle child and get treated like this. Gotta love being the middle kid.
This is so true I’m the oldest of 2 and it gets hard sometimes it’s always so unfair 😭
As a oldest child it made me cry😢
Ok but I found the role model cute it shows the relationship between the siblings and show how much they care about each other
This is the most relatable thing ever.
Honestly as the youngest i hv told my older sister so many times i wanna be like her. You really can't blame us either...the older ones seem so perfect...and the parent also just wants u to be like them u cant help but wish u were as good as them.
This is why the oldest child always hides their pain…
As the oldest child, I find this really relatable, parents just think "Oh yeah! You should have good grades and take care of your younger siblings" but sometimes we are just to over worked and tired but you still have that younger sister to take care of, especially if you have a toxic family, the younger siblings are gonna need you..
As the oldest this really is how it is, not able to go out because of siblings and babysitting, the role model, the blame, and (for me personally) the not being helped for personal issues because no one realizes
The funny thing is that I actually relate to this it’s my day to day life of the oldest child and I started to talk back but then just decided that it’s not worth my time
The high expectations one is so relatable especially because I am "smarter" than most people so my parents expect me to do really well even though I am bad at tests
Here is my bad side of being the oldest (this is siblings and close cousins cause I only have 1 sibling and I’m the oldest out of cousins too): blamed for everything, nothing is mine, would be high expectations but I actually meet them so yeah, the role model, no role model for myself to look up to (I see my aunt more than mom and aunt is not the best influence), have to break the news to siblings/cousins abt the world most of the time, setting too high expectations for them, them constantly being compared to me, setting high expectations for teachers (specifically for my cousin who’s a grade/year younger than me) that they can’t live up to, never getting what u want, parents only listening to younger family, pressure to follow in parent’s footsteps (my parents own a business and are rlly fancy etc)
Good personal experiences as the oldest (still cousins and siblings): get to experience things first, not often compared to them, spoiled (that’s prob a just a thing with our family but I’m the spoiled one in the family), never having hand-me-downs, gets all the attention, gets to go to events with parents, getting privileges before them (cursing, moving out, drinking, etc)
This is so relatable all of my friends are like your grade is good then why are you being worried. Isn't this thing too much why always it's the elder one but not the younger one. This thing made me almost cry🙂.
I am the middle child who is also the oldest. So not only am I a forgotten middle child but I have the responsibility (chores) of an older child and babysitting and trying to please my parents who don’t seem to care unless my grade slips to a B or anything for that matter it is just unfair in my house. However I don’t let that stop me from working hard to make my parents happy and being a role model for my younger siblings and keeping my grades up and studying to get my dream job. It is hard in my house there has been so many problems my family has gone through in a span of three years 2013-2016 my mom got diagnosed with MS and my grandmother passed away in august of 2014 to cancer and in 2015 I lost my dad to cancer and type 2 diabetes and my mom in 2016 had an MS relapse and couldn’t move for a few months at the time from 2013 to 2016 I was 4 years old to 7 years old so I didn’t know how to process it all at my age when I became a teenager it all came rushing back and I had been diagnosed with mild depression crippling anxiety and crippling social anxiety. I didn’t let it stop me I kept going yes I fought thing and they did get really bad I got help from a therapist and he helped me with so much in just a short time I also learned so much from him. Since then I haven’t had anything bad really happen to me there are still time I struggle with it but I fight because I refuse to let it control my life like it did and my mother has gotten so much better. I do still worry for her and do everything I can to help her and keep her from overworking herself. But I can tell you don’t let anyone push you around try to control you don’t put all the pressure on yourself and don’t not help out but don’t keep it all bottled up inside either you can do this you can fight to. ❤❤
Legit the most relatable thing ive ever seen
Someone who finally understand how, hard it is to be the life of the oldest sibling. Km literally the oldest and some of the things happen ti me🥺😢
I'm the eldest sibling and I need advice. My sister isn't like how she portrayed hers at all. Mine has anger issues and gives me attitude 24/7. I clean, I cook, I take care of, even of my parents. Im burnt out and my patience is thin when im burnt out. She thinks she's older than me when she's 10! I've been trying to teach her to say please, thank you, excuse me, etc since she was little but she just refuses and gives me the stink eye. I tell her she can always come to me for anything I'll always be there for her and love her always but she's just so mean. She's always been mean, since she was born even my mom agrees. I feel like shit rn I was tryna straighten my freaking hair and she was doing that attitude shit again and I told her to watch her mouth and she opened it for soap she didn't think I'd do it. I put 2 squirts of soap at the tip of her mouth so she wouldn't get hurt or anything then I accidentally smacked her with the bottle (not hard at all) cuz she jerked her head in that direction and she started crying. I immediately got her water and told her to spit it out and out of spite she SWALLOWED IT. I don't know if it's me or her but I need to learn something idk. Any moms, older siblings, or even younger siblings with advice? Thanks for reading this far
As the oldest girl of 3 I know how this feels, and the worst part is this isn’t where it ends, there’s so much more stuff
I love and hate being the oldest at the same time. Like the other sibling positions it has it's ups and downs
Also as the oldest, if you had early childhood traumatic experiences they may effect you more since you were old enough to understand or went through more than siblings who weren’t born at the time
As a youngest child im tired of seeing stuff like "youngest kids don't deal with anything and eldests make all the sacrifices"eldest go through alot of pain yes but they cause even more pain to youngest children so their just passing it on growing up no one ever had time for me and my sister never wanted to even talk to me and she manipulated me multiple times but i still stayed by her side no matter what i went against my religion for her i loved her unconditionally but she never loved me back i still have bruiseson my body from her and she even tried to kill me once purposely the only hug i ever got was from my cousin❤eldest,middle or youngest we all go through something sometimes it's easy sometimes it's hard but we have to always be there for eachother❤️but ofcourse this isn't saying that at all
It’s so sad because this is so true. 😢
I also go through this but I’m the youngest and my older sisters get away with everything and than I get yelled at or told I’m lying about something…
I rarely see oldest child POVs. It is always middle children. Middle children have it bad, but it always makes my day to see the oldest child ones.
This is so true... Everything I did...i was criticised for it.
As an oldest child I know what it feels like being blamed for stuff you didn’t even do….
Can u make one for the youngest
List maybe
Perents being strick bc they want to "protect you" sence your their last one
Getting yelled at constantly and perents letting anger out on you
Getting blamed for EVERYRHING
Not being able to have as much fun as the older ones with perents
Not being able to understand anything as you wernt born yet in the times theyr talking abt/being left out
Perents having higher expectations for you to be as sucsesfull as older siblings
Perents presurring you to not be a "dissaponintment" like your older siblings
Getting spoild but not being able to se perents as much as your older siblings did
Getting teamed up on or being hates by older siblings
Getting bossed around all the time
I would rlly apriciate it if you could to this so more people relise that bwing the youngest isint the best one.
❤❤ Tysm if you acctually do it!!
The grades one especially hurts when your younger sibling(s) get a higher grade and your parents are all proud of them but say "Its ok. Just try harder next time" to u
omg. this, is, so, relatable. it's actually very hard to be the eldest most of the time that sometimes, i get very sick of being the eldest. (sometimes i wished that i had a big bro instead which would teach me cool stuff.)
The being blamed hits hard.
im an young child and this makes me cry i remember my sister:(
Honestly as the oldest one in my family this is true we never get respected and we always get blamed its always the same even if we try ☹️
This is so relatable 😢
Thx for making a pov for us oldest kids. All the povs are about middle kids
As the oldest, the last 2 were very relatable as the first 2 not so much. It’s sad to know people know how it feels :’)
'Just study harder' . . Is the WORST thing a parent can say to you. Being the role model is also a bad part abt being the 1st child.
Honestly I know I won’t get a response. But like honestly. I’m the middle child. I’m literally young Asf. And I’m
Here taking care of my oldest brother and my lil sister, which is hard, but I still manage to do it, and continue with my own life. Like I know how it feels for the oldest because sometimes in my life they get favored over and over. But it gets me angry because I never got attention as a kid. My mother passed on, my father only cares for the youngest. I grew up as not existing to no one except my siblings who cares about me which makes me happy, even tho we fight or get mad at each other, we still love each other. No matter what, if we get into a fight or a relationship problem we are always there for each other, but my lil sister doesn’t get what a relationship is but she still tries, I love my siblings
I'm the oldest of three, and I feel this every day, especially the past two days from my grandma
As the oldest child I can relate so much… an especially on the being blamed 24/7…