If my husband don't change a damn diaper I'd be mad. I taught my husband how to change our daughters and son. If I can't trust him I shouldn't be laying with him.
@@rocio292 yeah because men don’t cheat and break trust every day and make a excuse for why it normal… just like men make excuses for fetishizing younger women … no man should want there to be any thought of if he touched his daughter inappropriately or not… therefore he just shouldn’t be in his daughters pant… why set up the circumstances for the mother to be torn between believing her child or her father who was entitled to change his baby girls diapers like it’s a way for him to bond 😅
That's just it! You don't know until you know. My father and my mother had twin daughters, my older sisters. They came back from the babysitter with twin diaper rashes. My engineer black dad, told my math teaching mom to call the h.s. amd request a leave of absence so she could take care of her own babies and of course my father paid them bills.
Should we protect men's feelings or protect children from SA? The first principle of child safeguarding is to never assume that anyone is "safe." And most child SA is a relative, and most predators are not obviously predators, so this attitude would help prevent child SA.
You have no right to keep a child from their father, it's his child too. Women abuse kids and elderly the most are you sure we can trust you lot with our children and our parents?
@@yoachim91 That's a massive lie you coward. Males are responsible for over 99 percent of grapes and are most perpetrators of pdf. Most victims are women and children. Delete yourself
That's a lie. M*les are responsible for over 99 percent of gr*pes and are most perpetrators of pedo******. Most victims are women and children. Delete yourself
@@yoachim91women have higher rates of abuse, (typically in the form of neglect, theft, and verbal abuse) because there is a higher concentration of women in those fields. The men who are there (they're a minority) have a track record of being deeply distrusted, usually to the extent of simply not hiring males into that position without supervision if the person they're watching over can't speak up for themselves, because of the frequency of gRape or some other kind of physical abuse... one too many paraplegic, elderly, comatose, and child victims... and defiled corpses.... She's not keeping him away from the baby. She just doesn't want him changing the baby's diaper. Probably doesn't want him bathing her either. I know women who won't even let dad do this with their sons, so this kind of attitude is just.... normal for a lot of people. Better safe than sorry.
I came across a Reddit thread where the question was : “what ruined having a daughter ?” (or something along those lines), and I kid you not the first answer was corn. The thread was filled with thousands of comments of men saying that they feel uncomfortable changing their daughter’s diapers. And I’m so disgusted just by writing this but these comments were “ seeing my daughters unshaven “you know what” reminds me of corn”, I can’t change my daughter diaper without thinking about corn star’s “you know what”, having a daughter ruined watching corn for me” and so so many men agreeing. I was SHOCKED, disgusted. Should I remind you that 1 man out of 6 is a pdf. You really think your husband is exempt of it just because you chose him ? Ladies we gotta be careful… We can’t be naive anymore. I completely understand this woman concerns. This is sadly the harsh reality.
@@greywitchwanderer9608I had to quit doing that because there's sometimes that I do sound like I'm a kid. I tried to sound like an adult sometimes but my voice won't allow itself. Some days I may sound like a kid other days I may sound like a rowdy teenager. But by my voice alone people think that I'm a teen or younger. Those creeps got excited hearing my voice it is not sexy. I just sound young 😑
They learn from early on to only view women's bodies as a sexual object for them. There is not neutral concept of the female body unless they train to be a medic or make art.
I was uncomfortable, once I left my child with her dad as a baby for 2 hours, he claimed she pooped and had a dirty diaper so he changed her. There were no poopy diapers in the bin, yet she had a new diaper on. I got suspicious because that was the first time I left them alone and he felt the need to see her privates for no reason. From then I kept an extra heavy eye on him and called him out for 3 things he did after that (little weird things) Idk but once you get that feeling don’t let it go.
@@julieboops exactly like dude in the video is upset as if he’s been planning the whole pregnancy on changing his daughter s diaper… not her college fund, trust fund , a house in her name for graduation… nope he’s fighting to see his baby girl nude … that’s weirdo behavior
Better safe than sorry. My father was in charge of bathing me to an inappropriate age. My mother had many children and needed help. Things happened that I still don't know how to process...whether he was clueless, naive or whether I was SAed. There were times when he forced me to take a shower with him when I was 4 or 5 and I remember feeling very scared. I know something happened that wasn't right. I carry a lot of trauma from that and some of those memories I have are hard time accessing. My dad was always very wholesome , friendly and amiable to others but a monster with his kids.
It's not because he's a man, it's because he's an abuser. No matter what people look like on the outside. It's very important for children to feel safe to speak up and for adults to listen and take action.
Sometimes the woman/ mother may start distrusting the father _after_ having a female child. I'd like to say the opposite (younger me would), but I'm on the side of mothers protecting their baby daughters a little "too much" if it avoids some risks related to men's behaviors.
Another perspective, when you become a mom you get a different kind of spidie sense. Also, most moms become super protective. Leave her alone and let her parent how she is comfortable. Why is he pushing? Why can't he just be patient for her to get comfortable enough to let him do it? Postpartum maybe
Exactly, that was my question as well. He’s pushing for this as though he’s fighting for civil rights. It’s odd because some of these men don’t even wipe themselves properly, but this one is ready to go to war to change the baby’s diaper. And I trust the mother’s intuition. I rather be wrong and had overprotected than to be wrong because I underestimated.
This is not postpartum or spidie sense, this is a woman being a b towards her man and treating the father of the kid like a criminal, who has the same rights as the mom if i am not mistaken? No because it starts with a diaper, then he can't change her clothes, can't hold her, can't be alone with her and the older the kid get's the less he get's to do and the more distanced the kid becomes. She is not only taking the father from the kid but also the kid from the father. It's crusial for both parents to bond closely with small children.
As a woman who was seriously assaulted by a man when i was preschool age, a woman or man can never ever understand how that feels if it hasn’t happened to them. The memory of mine is very strong too. I wasn’t protected by a woman and that turn of the back caused irreparable damage to me. It also brought in more men to abuse me and women who were emotionally dependent on men. Being assaulted as an adult woman is very different than when you are a decade or more from puberty (i know the difference). If i had a daughter, there would be no sole access to a daughter of mine. Its just the way it is. I didn’t think the things men did to me as an adult would happen to me but they did.
I’m so sorry sister😢😢 That is horrible what you experienced. This world has many whicked souls. It makes me so angry to hear what they do to children. You didn’t deserve any of that and his whicked behavior had nothing to do with you. I am sending you much love and healing and happiness.❤❤❤❤🙏🏾
@ thank you. Also, women are having babies with total strangers too sometimes which can increase the dangers or they have them in relationships that have broken down.
Women who have had a bad experience may not EVER trust any man to see the baby girl intimately. Even if she trusts him to be a good father and partner - it’s a line in the sand for every single man on the planet. Touching the private parts with a wet wipe maybe too much for some women. My sister trusted her husband and he never changed the boys but he wanted to change the baby girl. When I saw him changing her, it didn’t look right. I felt nauseated and we looked into him more and then found out about wrong things with other girls. She had no reason to suspect something wrong before that.
I didn't have a problem with my ex changing the baby's' diapers, at first. I had a problem with it the 2nd time, when it still took like 20 minutes. He watched me change diapers before that and had a child from a previous marriage. I thought he should know not to take so long, but I didn't think he was sick; just too slow. I had trauma from my childhood and didn't want to make assumptions, but I wouldn't let him anymore and I stayed with my babies 24/7, just in case. Much later, I realized, he wouldn't spend 1 minute of quality time reading the baby a book, or 15 minutes playing with blocks or other toys or teaching to talk, etc.. but he wanted to argue with me about not being allowed to change or bathe the baby. Then, he started acting obviously inappropriately, right in front of me, and tried gaslighting me into thinking it was normal. We got out of there asap.
Yea.. n my dad changed my diapers and I was safe with him. He talked like a nasty guy out loud, but I remember him telling me to sit properly on his lap, instead of on his private area by yelling, "HEY! Watch out for the family jewels." And he would scoot me to the side, or off, if I wouldn't sit still. My ex just let my baby climb over his junk and sit, without saying anything. I tried to correct him, to redirect the baby. He said he didn't even notice it, but I could see it in his eyes. He complained that his reflexes weren't quick enough. Then, he yelled at me for a week, that I was accusing him of being a pdfile, when I wasn't. That got me keeping the 2 year old and 6 month old, at the time, from being in physical contact with him, at all. By the end of that week, I 100% believed he is a pdfile. Even caught him staring hard at a 12y/o neighbor girl, riding her bike out front, the whole time we were out there, when I went out there during an argument, to stop him from yelling in my face. She noticed it too, and stopped her bike to wave hi. Then, the baby proved he lied about his reflexes. I was letting the baby swim in a baby pool, on the deck in the backyard, in the middle of summer, and the deck was hot. I sprayed water on the deck to cool it down, whenever it dried, and the baby wanted to do that, so I handed the hose over. He had already come out and sat down on a chair, fully clothed. As soon as the baby turned the hose toward him, he lashed out, like a snake, to stop it from wetting him and his phone and wallet, etc. I called him out immediately, and he went back to his computer. He wasn't going to argue with me in the yard, where all the neighbors out there could see and hear. I was lucky we didn't have to go live on the streets. I was a FT SAHM and had to beg my dad to ride to come pick us and our things up from 1800 miles away. Him and my mom's bf rode 3-4 days n got us out of there by the end of the second week of arguments. My ex did almost nothing for the babies. My little money from working in his home business went mostly to the mortgage and the rest to what the babies and I needed to live. The second to last day there, he said, "YOU'RE LEAVING. THEY'RE STAYING." I said, "YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF THEM AND IF YOU TRY TO TAKE THEM OR COME AFTER US, I'LL (END) YOU". I kept in contact with him over the phone for 1.5 years, after we moved, while he was asking for us to come back. I got all the text proof I need, saved in emails, that he was controlling, lying, gaslighting and sick in the head. He was, literally, making fun of me when I talked about how my grandfather molested me, when I was 6. No.. Not all men are sick like this, but when you're paying attention, the ones who are.. you can see it in their eyes and behaviors, hear it in their words, and know it by trying to make a correction, without even making an accusation, but they act defensive, instead of trying to correct it, and treat you like you're the monster for correcting them. TBH, we're even more lucky we were in that house, in an active neighborhood, and not his planned move to a large plot of land, in the middle of nowhere, to start a farm. He is exmilitary and had extensive combative knowledge and experience with pew pews. He had bought us some and ended up selling his, while I kept mine. I noticed he tried to hide my hand pew pew from me, in his toolbox, in the second to last week, when he was yelling at me that I was calling him a pdfile. I got it back, the next day, when he was sleeping, and hid it from him. Never had one, in my life, before this, and in my mind, I was like, "NO, you don't take my protection, while acting like that!" A few days later, he asked where it was, and I told him, "It's mine, and it's put away, where it should be." I'll forever be traumatized by this mess, but forever vigilant. I feel like I'm trauma-dumping, because I've been shunned for talking about it, but I think, if it helps someone gain an ounce of clarity in their own life, good.
@JezeBellaMorte333 keep speaking out on your story and experience, more women have to hear/ read real examples like this to actually put 2 and 2 together and change their situation for their kids .
Then they say, "I trusted him. I didn't think he could ever do something like that." That's the point. Trusting someone has never stopped them from breaking that trust. They really believe women make the boundary out of belief their partners would do something. No, they probably think he never would. But your trust and belief don't let you go back in time and protect your daughter if you're wrong. Some risks are worth it. Others are not.
Men don't always act the same after the children are born and sometimes they say disgusting things after that child gets a little older that gives you reasonable concerns. Sometimes those concerns result in divorce. Unfortunately, divorce doesn't protect the children.
My dad said disgusting things about me so my mom is mad I didn't want him to meet my daughter. He never even met my son. He's never going to meet him and he's never going to meet my daughter. As soon as I hit puberty my father started acting weird towards me. I'm not putting my daughter through that type of trauma.
Holding it against her is weird too. These guys don’t get it. They’ll never get it. If they’re unfortunate enough to get it, they deserve to be released after ending their S-Abusive parents.
Rn in france something called "appel des 500 mamans" is happening. A mother got put in prison for 3 years because she didnt want to take her baby daughter to a place for the dad to see her because the judge chose a place without cameras. Before that the mother had suspicions the father was sa'ing their 6 month old daughter because hed get excited to be left alone with her so she had cameras put up and he got the s*x toys and went to a room without cameras. The mother called the police when she saw that happen and had the dna on the toys and on the baby. And it keeps happening where fathers are doing it to their own babies. Theres multiple cases and the men are just getting away with it in france. Theres basically no coverage i only found 1 post on google about it. I feel like we really need to speak about it and bring it to light. Theyre just allowing these men to sa their babies and get away with it.
It's unfortunate, but laws protect these demons. Many of those in law enforcement and the injustice system are corrupt and not safe. I pray for the safety of children daily. They go through some horrific experiences, and the law allows it.
If you can't have that conversation with him and you're going to have a whole human being and then you're going to use that as an excuse to say you can't trust him to clean her the problem is still you
My mom told me with her first child she asked him to change the baby because she was busy cooking and this was back when we used cloth diapers with safety pins to secure it. Well the baby was screaming, she ran over there to find out that he had stuck the pin through the babys skin and secured it. She told me she thinks he did it on purpose so he wouldn't be asked to change a diaper again. Knowing my dad that is likely true.
She didn't come out of him. She came out of her mother. He is gaslighting her and seems way too thirsty to change her. Excellent Mother. Her intuition doesn't want him to for a reason. The next step is to get him out. If I can't trust you to change our child, I can't trust you for anything not to even be in My presence. The second mother is TRULY AN EXCELLENT MOTHER for taking the threat seriously! Blessings to her! That man needs to be locked up and seriously needs mental help! He sounds crazy asf! May they all be protected!
It’s one thing to be concerned that your wife doesn’t trust you. It’s another to 🚩 insist you get diaper duties despite her willingness to take on every one. What man is going to fight over diapers duties? Do you see women complaining that we don’t get to take out the trash?
If her intuition doesn't want him to change her then why is she laying in a bed with him. I'm a girls girl but damn some of yall need to take accountability. Either stop having kids with men you don't trust or don't have kids at all.
@@Egh0127Ma'aM I said she needs to get rid of him. You are correct, but if she's a first time mother she may not have realized this until after she had the baby. She's obviously been traumatized in some way to feel so strongly about it. I was married and I didn't realize that past violations and learning how men really are affected how I viewed the ex husband with our children. One day I came home at night and My daughters blanket was in the bathtub because she had got up to pee and left her blanket in the tub. I'm not going to lie for the first time I had a fear that my ex had did something. He never did anything to make me think that but because of how I was vilolated as a child through My teenage years, the thought came. She needs to work through it but I definitely get it. He sounds like a bum and she needs to protect herself and take care of her inner child the way she is trying to protect her daughter. Let's remember, we are just now in the age of Aquarius and we are just now doing the work to right all the wrongs of the world. Women who grow up seeing toxic relationships and experiencing toxic men may not have the knowledge to discern what is good or not. Sometimes they arent even capable of thinking this way until they have a child they have to protect. Shes on the right track & may She fully find her way. Ase💖
If a man cannot be trusted to change his daughters diaper, then he also cannot be trusted to be alone with her at any time. If that man is giving you that feeling, then you should not be with that man at all.
@@Rosemary46840then why be with him at all. Seriously, some creeps prey on baby boys too. Are you not gonna let your husband change your son’s diapers either. Choose a good man. That’s all I’m saying
I have a faint memory from my baby time about being touched inappropriately while being changed. But the adult in my memory was a female relative. So, I don’t think it’s just a man thing (there is definitely a disproportionate amount of guilty men comparing to guilty women, but still it’s the safety of children we are talking about. You can never be too cautious). If you have those female relatives that give off weird vibes, you shouldn’t trust them either.
True. But I think, since men end up causing the most harm physically, people naturally get more defensive about the men doing it. But you're also right, people need to be vigilant about both.
Exactly like my kids father never fussed about not changing diapers. I just gave birth to a baby girl in September. I am the only one who changed her diaper. While I was in the hospital only female nurses were changing her diaper.
Surely u can see how it would hurt to have ur girl think you could be a potential predator?? I don't blame the girl for for having her feelings hut I understand his as well. I don't blame her one bit
Dude, said it about a step-father but don't think biological fathers can be creeps!! My ex-husband said he leaves the room when someone is changing a little girl's diaper and that bothered me. Plus not all pregnancies are planned so babies are conceived without knowing a man's issues completely. My father, my brothers, my ex-husband, and a few boyfriends have been physically abusive and the "nice guys" are emotionally/psychologically abusive. Personally, I don't date or have plans for children/marriage. I've never met a woman who hasn't been abused by a man.
You are right. Good man , bad man any man wakes up with an erection . 95 percent of them wake up with an erection and they are anesthetizing themselves on porn . Most of them are holding their dix and being top consumers of porn hub . Men shouldn’t be changing daughters.
The crimes of some are not the crimes of all. Choose wisely and remember everyone is different. No two are the same you’re not like me. For example; So why would someone like you put me in a group with you. Only because of emotional ignorance like I don’t even know you. Just because some non black men SA’d some turkeys 🦃🦃👀🦃. Every man is not interested in 🦃 🍆. Nor is every man interested in what’s. Inside of your baby girl’s dirty diaper that needs to be changed. Turkeys and kids are totally different. Grow up and have a very mature day
@@Shellie-bf3wx I'm sick of you not all women - until men start calling out the behaviors of all men it's every last one of them - you pick mes are going to learn that most men can't be trusted largely
I had to teach my husband how to change diapers, and I changed every poopy diaper that all 3 of our girls had, because I didn't want him doing it wrong, and causing infections. I guess men aren't taught the "front to back only" wiping. So I agree that men probably shouldn't change baby girls, both to protect our girls from any potential predators, and also to prevent any infections from even the good men just being oblivious to female differences. 1:26 - WOW! I typed all this out before she even said, "you don't even know how to wipe her right!" She's definitely NOT wrong!!!
But that’s the only way, how could men think there’s another way to wipe ? Do they wipe their own butt back to front ? No. So this whole men don’t know how to wipe point is false.
Majority lf the abusers are relatives anyways. Father, brother , uncle , grandpa,cousin. Makes sense. Should teach children that even DAD OR MOM are not allowed to touch their private parts.
I let my sperm donor do it, and he decided to wipe her from front to back, and she pooped. Then i let my brother babysit one day and he decided to let his friend a guy change my daughters diaper without my permission, I dont even know his friend. I dont blame her!!! You ladies think you know your man no!!! Do not leave kids alone with them or change their daughters diaper@!!
I don’t understand how anyone will let a man change their female child diaper. Would they let that same man give her a bath I mean it’s like motherfuckers. Don’t use their common sense.
Men have been known to violate their sons as well. We never know which man will do that or what comes over them so I also don't want men near naked babies. I'm against having babies with men at all, but that's another topic.
Toddlers are attached to mother and they shouldn't be with other male adults specially men. Small kids should only be around females whether at home, schools, after school communities. We need maternal society to raise toddlers and train, discipline them after toddler age.....little bit grown kids need to be raised by whole society. That's how mammals are raised....why male humans are intervening too much in society is such a question to females. Mammal Society belongs to females not males. And men flex their labour strength then why dont they do more labour work around house
There is plenty of things to do - dishes, laundry, feeding. Why they need to change diapers if mother wants to take care of it? I had a bad bathtime experience as a child.
Only a minute in, and I have to say that it's weird to me that he's arguing with her about it. I get he might be offended by what is implied, but most men will jump through hoops not to change diapers, so it's sus to me that he's basically demanding she let him. That would actually make me less willing to allow him.
My son's ex has two daughters. One is supposed to be his, but I honestly don't think she is. Both her, and her sister, look exactly like the second guy. The second guy has been in the mom's life a long time. He was around frequently while my son was with her. My son refuses to do a test. His choice. The mom won't allow a man to bathe, or change a diaper, for her daughters because she's concerned about csa. Understandable. Here's the part that really irks me, the second guy is a previously convicted pd file. I just found out about that a couple months ago. She knew he had that history, and she chose to have a relationship, and a baby, with him. Now her concern is more understandable, but also wtaf?!
My thoughts exactly! I said why is he even arguing with her, most men would be glad to get out of doing it, and would definitely not want to if they knew you didn't trust them.
I remember when I was a young girl maybe 5-6 years old I had a yeast infection and my mom had to give me some medicine inside and I was screaming because I hated it and I was screaming for my dad, I wanted my dad. Because I felt safe around him and he would NEVER harm me. We used to dance together to calm songs I'm a dad's girl. Your daughter should feel 100% safe around her father no matter what. (And yes sometimes rarely little girls get infections too not just grown women) my baby girl had a uti one time because sometimes their poop in the diaper causes an infection if it gets inside her so it's normal but just not as common in little girls.
@@serenesrn3827 ummm, I had a yeast infection as a virgin. It was due to using cheap soap down there. An overgrowth of yeast could be caused by many things unrelated to sex. If anything I think her mother should not have used an invasive remedy but given her something orally instead to get rid of the imbalance.
@@serenesrn3827 Yes, they do happen to virgin girls. Yeast infections are not an STD, nor do they have to do with poor hygiene. They are caused by an overgrowth of the fungal flora typical in women in times of weakness of the immune system (such as colds, or during the menstruation), and sometimes by consuming a lot of sugar. It's rare to get infected from a man, since they are not natural carriers of the candida albicans in the way we are.
it is possible to get a yeast infection for non feces related reasons, and it is possible to get a uti and or yeast infection that has nothing to do with virginity. just saying..
@@Egh0127 a man shouldn’t want to be spreading and cleaning around his baby girls area I’m sorry that’s invasive and weird because men normally have larger hands its also more likely to be painful
@happiness4303 that's not true. It's just these men are not moral and under control. They were meant to raise children too. Go look at what happens to women who raise children alone.
You can think whatever you want, but I talk to 100s of men with wives and kids every day. Trusted husbands etc. 90% of them fantasize about children. Some claim they never act on it, but A LOT think of it. They always talk about BALD young kitties and ask me to roleplay as a child.
None of the women at my job are into men anymore. I'm married but opted out of children. We just cant look at men the same. I'd already had many awful experiences with men, strangers and MULTIPLE family members. Didn't want to judge all men and wanted to challenge my prejudice. I did a social experiment. I would allow my male friends who I had made clear I had no interest in over to do a hobby, music, TV whatever. I wasnt mad if they came onto me. I'm a baddie lmao. I was testing how far they would push me past the "no". All but 1 man attempted to force me into kisses or more. One I actually physically fought. 1 lesbian was also too much. This was like 22 men some of which were close friends. Changed how I perceived them even more. I modeled as well. Several sas in that field. I wont display how bad things got out of privacy concerns. Men when alone with me have ALWAYS been off as far back as I can recall. But I'm a balance valuing person. I felt it was my fault or I had bad luck. When I started this job I EXPECTED outlandish fantasies. Even gross stuff. I didn't expect this. 6 years and various companies and ped is still the most popular fantasy in all of them. Man on man is second. Every terrible depraved thing you can think of, and even beyond it, I have heard. This completely obliterated my view of men. I talk to women too. I have NEVER had women ask for the filth men do. Not once. Women have our own darkness too but the seggs stuff is mostly a masculine fixation. They want to outdo themselves and break the rules. They like being the villain. Other gfs ask me to refer them to the job and I make it VERY clear what they may lose. Tell them they must have thick skin and preferably no children. They decide to do the job and never last. One friend couldn't get past the weekend. She just cried. I have specific reasons why I do it, but it has solidified my prejudice and my husband is just as disturbed by men. And he is Bisexual. This was all new to him and now he sees it everywhere the issues men have.
@@greywitchwanderer9608 the fact men literally have fetishized dating women who are barely legal , men marrying their step daughters , dating their daughters friends just makes the entire concept cringe
what do you think is the root reason/s for grown men to be sexually aroused and highly sexually attracted to infants/ children?? I rly would love to know/..what kind of soup of worms is happening in their brains...!
I knew a predator and his fondest memories of his siblings was wrestling and changing their diapers. Then his brother made a comment about him taking too long to change his niece. Shortly after I found the videos. He was a real predator
@@Edelwiess1066 if yall don't trust your partners then you shouldn't have had kids I mean you might aswell not leave your man anywhere with the child either
I don't believe in men changing baby's diapers - sorry it's how I was brought up! Too many women have had bad experiences with men growing up including their own father / grandfather. At a certain age we couldn't sit in mens laps.
@@AmericanDreamer Exactly my grandma never allowed my grandfather or other men to bathe us or do anything - men shouldn't be handling children end of story
@ebenaebekoe3460 Like men stay the same and always be these so called good men forever pls be for real. You women trust men too easily for me red flag 🚩
@@persephonemaeve2704 it's ok to have kids, be single, and to still not cater to nem. It's my human right to have children if I want, but I don't have to answer to or be a servant to a guy bc he spread his seed like it was fertilizer. They can use protection also, they choose not to, routinely over and over. I'm not taking that away from anyone and not every single one is like this. But the vast majority are, and a lot of wives spend a lifetime trying to make these idiots happy over their own happiness or kids happiness, and I cannot with that. I just don't like when people bring up kids. Leave anti natalism out of this please.
This just gave me a completely different perspective ive never even thought about. Thankyou, ladies in the comments. Im currently pregnant, hoping its a daughter. (Doesn't matter either way but i already have a son i wanna little girl ☺️.) Anyways i was telling the father he has to change the first diaper, what his roles would be etc. Trust him or not after reading what alot of you women had to say im definitely rethinking that. Id rather my children safe than affected for life. Did it with my son, but i guess protection is different when it comes to a little girl and thanks for opening my eyes to this extent. I didnt think anything of it and im glad i found this video. WE need to protect our babies. Theres to much of this going on and im so sad to see alot of you have experienced it. ❤ Wish me luck on a little girl. I find out in 2 weeks. 😁😂❤ xo.
Also if a guy doesn't want to change his daughter/child's diaper, he might know he shouldn't be. Never force someone to do so. If he doesn't feel comfortable, it's for a reason.
My ex-girlfriend has a bunch of ex-boyfriends who can't leave her alone. (Three keep texting for booty calls, and the other one can't keep his hands off of her even though he's seeing somebody else.) I'm the only one she trusts because I at least know when a relationship is over.
I don’t understand. For most men this wouldn’t be an argument at all, many of both men and women don’t like having to change them as it is. That’s why I find this incredibly werid that this dude is getting so upset over her saying that. Sounds like this man should be locked up, if this bothers him so badly she likely has very good and very legitimate reasons for not wanting any man to be changing her daughter’s diaper if this is how he is reacting. Something is seriously wrong with him.
If it's never talked about it's nothing to worry about but she is passively accusing him of being a pdf file with intent on harming their daughter and compares him as father to the rest of men. You realise it's his kid too right? He wants to help and be active in raising his kid, if the wife get's sick or something happens he has to know what to do with the kid i understand why he is looks for answers to this very weird statement...
@@yoachim91 ok so when the little girl doesn’t like how he wipes her or he is rough because he doesn’t have a vagina and know the sensitivity… if his finger slips while wiping her… who would leave that up to explaining? What man would fight to be in that position to defend if he touched his own daughter inappropriately or not?
@@Rosemary46840 you mean the men who don’t want to hold babies when they’re too little, men who won’t wake up in the middle of the night to make a bottle , men who don’t want women to breast feed because they’re jealous of the child… is fighting to wipe his daughters vagina as a right to fatherhood… 🤮🤡
@@Shillery-n1i As i said it's his kid, you have no right to keep her from him and whatever weird things you people imagine has nothing to do with it. If he is rough or whatever then the woman should learn him how to change a diaper... If my wife told me i could not change my kids or do whatever i see fit to make them happy and comfy there would be issue's, i am not going to be told that i am a criminal for caring for my kids. Why would a father not care for his kids? This channel yaps about inresponsible fathers all the time but when 1 is trying to do the right thing you make him a criminal...
"If you're a woman with some trauma, go seek help.." It's so easy for him to say. I've been seeking help for over 2 decades and am not fully healed. None of these men have the strength to grapple with what I've had to endure. And no, most fathers do not love their daughters. Many, at best, see them as pawns to move around for financial or social standing.
Why be with a man if you think he might SA his child? If you really feel that way about a man, don't have his baby. What's going to happen when he has to babysit while you're at the store or in the hospital???
I truly hope that the young woman in the video gets support and help. There is an underlying issue going on that's causing her to respond this way. It is so very important not to generalize men or women. Our society is heading down a very dangerous road, and there will be no turning back if people don't take a moment to breathe come back to calmness and Center themselves. We have to learn how to trust, work together in society.
Oh pa lease. We NEED to generalize men MORE for our safety since it's MOST of them!! Trying to give males the benefit of the doubt is how countless innocent people get raped in circumstances that could've been prevented with caution
I do not know many black women that have not been SAd by some uncle, cousin, brother etc. This is not generalising... It is a fact that many men are doing dirty things in the dark.
I love them feelings for her. He should respect that and move on. Pushing the issue will cause her to flee. So what it’s stimming from trauma. She will grow and learn, but until then, respect her and her feelings. ❤
If you don't feel like your baby us safe around her father, don't allow him in either of your lives. If you feel like he's not doing it right, educate him. If you are in a loving relationship, childrearing should be 50 50 like any chore. This could lead to anti-single father rhetoric.
Toddlers are attached to mother and they shouldn't be with other male adults specially men. Small kids should only be around females whether at home, schools, after school communities. Tiny kids irrespective of gender are extremely on radar as a prey by men even small male kids are abused. We need maternal society to raise toddlers and train, discipline them after toddler age.....little bit grown kids need to be raised by whole society. That's how mammals are raised....why male humans are intervening too much in society is such a question to females. Mammal Society belongs to females not males. And men flex their labour strength then why dont they do more labour work around house
Ppl are always so quick to judge what others choose to do within their household. If a parent feels a man shouldn't change the kids then so what. I personally don't trust anyone changing my child. Man or woman. Boy or girl child. I get why ppl ask why lay with someone who you don't trust but don't be stupid. We are all human and have needs. Im not going to choose to be single my whole life and withdraw from all human beings because I know for a fact that anyone could change or COULD have it in them to do wrong or have weird ass thoughts
Do y'all also not trust him to go pick up the kids since you're not gonna be here to see what he's doing? Do you also not trust him when he has to watch the kids alone because you have a nail appointment to go to? And if the baby cries at night, is it only the responsibility of the mom to get up? Because we never know what the dad might do while the mom just stays sleeping in bed. And when you break up and have to co-parent, are you going to come over to his place and change the kid since you don't want him doing it? See how it goes beyond just not trusting him with changing the diapers?
@genXer2024 I fully support that. I would much rather see women just not be with men at all. It makes no sense to me to give a guy a kid and then tell him that you don't trust him with his own baby. This simply reinforces the culture of fathers being second-class parents, and mothers having to be there to monitor him and the kids at all time.
@@VixxKong2read the comments under this video..... Some of the comments from women repeating what they have heard from men is indeed concerning....there are a lot of men who do not deserve to be fathers...
Wow as a daddies girl, this blew my mind. I vividly remember being 5,6 and my dad bathing and changing me, the same way my mother would wash and change me. Idk not having the father change the children is wild.
My dad changed and bathed me. I'm lucky he was not at all like my grandfather, who molested me at age 6. I remember my dad specifically keeping me away from his private area while roughhousing because it's not appropriate. When I climbed up to sit on his lap and bumped his private, he yelled, "Watch out for the family jewels!", and scooted me to the side or moved me off. He also told me at one point that I was too big to be sitting on his lap, and I thought he meant heavy, but later understood it just wasn't appropriate cause I was oblivious and not considerate enough to avoid the area. My ex was not like my dad. He took like 20 minutes changing the baby's diapers. I stopped him after the second time. He, also, did no such redirection, and acted like his reflexes were bad, until the baby proved him wrong nearly spraying him with a water hose in the yard. We left him.
Sorry but that story makes your dad seems sus as well, it should NOT be that difficult to keep you away from his privates to the point where he has to go out of his way to do so @@JezeBellaMorte333
Yeah if you have had a good dad and other good men in your life you should be very mindful on these kind of channels because it's kind of in sane the picture of men they draw here. I showed this to my wife and she was baffled aswell... I did and do everything for my children, and i do it with joy and pride. I could never harm them.
I trust no man with my daughter who didn't take care of me as a child. It doesn't matter how much I trust him, I won't trust him with my daughter. I trusted my daughter's father to change her diaper, but after a certain age he was no longer allowed to assist her in the bathroom or wash her. I don't care how many children he took care of. I don't care how much i trust him. It's not about thinking that specific man would do anything. I could believe in my soul that he never would. I will not trust him. These people act like women know beforehand and trust him anyway. The fear is that the man was trusted and then he did it. Nope. And if i had seen the documentary about men r*ping babies and sending content online, i wouldn't have trustes him to change her diaper either. These people saying don't have babies with them are going to be the ones saying, "I trusted him. I never thought he would do that." Yeah, that's the f'n point.
Look that mother is clearly traumatized and I am sorry for her. What I find weird is this guy is _offended_ when in reality is most men would be happy they don't have another task to do
This is interesting. I get it, but you definitely shouldn't have children then. These creatures are so dangerous that women think they are dangerous around their own daughters. It's time to go 4B for life. There is no point in having children just for you to be a single mother.
The first guy arguing isn’t mad because he desperately wants to change a diaper. He’s mad that his child’s mother is insinuating that he would harm his daughter in a sick way, even calling her disgusting for it. I don’t think that guy is a monster for getting upset at an accusation that would result in him being distanced from his child because he is not a safe person for her. I know a lot of these mothers arguments come from projection of their past experiences and fears, but it WILL harm the family dynamic longer term if it isn’t dealt with in some way. If a man is actually unsafe, the mother shouldn’t be with him, period. Work on it or leave.
I don't even understand why he would argue with her. It almost seems like he's desperate to change the diaper. which would lead me to feel the same way she does. You should just accept it for the sake of not arguing. just leave it alone. eventually she'll probably change her mind anyway, when she's overwhelmed with being a mother. Sometimes you just have to go along with your spouse, just say for the sake of peace. if it's that big of a deal to her, obviously something happened to her. It's one less thing he has to do. he should just leave it alone. why would he argue with her. that's just crazy. It's obvious why she feels this way. Hopefully one day she'll get over it.
Phew... That door scene did a number on me😱🫣 My childhood home didn't have a door that wasn't broken somehow. I have had different "The shining" moments where my brothers or my dad were so inraged, we had to close ourselves off behind a door. They try to laugh it off today, but they were threatening murder back then, breaking the door down with tools or brute force. Sadly the men of my family believe they r above therapy 🤦🏼♀️
No. I really think it's better safe than sorry. He could feed her, play with her...but you never know. "Nice" men SA little girls too. sometimes the biggest monsters seem the most altruistic.
A woman who can't trust her husband to change her baby girl's diapers has trust issues with her husband. This could be as a result of maybe sexual trauma experienced in a past relationship or an issue that is still going on in her current relationship with her spouse that is scaring her. The second reason could be that her baby girl is not biologically her husband's daughter and she knew it and didn't want him to find out in any way possible so she doesn't want him to change her diapers. In many ways this kind of behavior cannot come into someone's mind from the blues something must have triggered it before it will become a mindset.
This man I knew would NOT change his daughters diaper. I remember he asked me to do it, I did not know her and thought it was weird to ask me. So I said no. He got in the car, took his daughter to his aunts house to get changed, and returned with his daughter smh.
Yeah if the mom would have taught the father how to change his own kid he might not be such a lo ser... Letting your kid sit in it's own filt because you can't solve the problem and make her happy and comfy is nothing to be proud off in my opinion.
@yoachim91 why does a mom need to teach a dad how to change a diaper? That's weaponized incompetence. Women are not born with diaper changing skills. But anywhoo, he asked other people to do it because he didn't feel comfortable changing his own daughter. I did not know his daughter, it was my first time meeting her. I'm looking at this man like "if u dont feel comfortable changing your child, why should I be comfortable doing it"
@@AuntieThree Women are taught how to change diapers men are not, how would we learn if we are kept away from kids? We never get to babysit or something. Me as a man i learned how to change diapers from a nurse in the hospital the moment i got my first kid, if she did not explain to me how, i would have had to ask my wife , i never even seen a diaper up close before that. Little girls literally change diapers on dolls while boys probably never even come close to dolls if they don't have sisters. So if a man teaches you something you are weaponizing your incompetence? You live and you learn is what i always say. The man asking you to do it, or doing it bad on purpose to the detriment of the child, that is weaponized incompetence, not if he would ask how you do it... That's showing interest in solving the issue. Yeah he is exactly what you get if you follow this video and don't teach your man how to care for his kid because eventually he has to do it and then he is just going to bother other women and then you can make another video about men not being good fathers and on and on we go.
Maybe he knew how, some old school mindset fathers just refuse to change their daughters for their own respectful reasons TO their daughter. I'm sure auntie didn't like far. 20 minutes is okay. If he wants to go the extra mile to respect his daughter or his peace whatever it is. Let him. Or if he didn't feel comfortable doing so it's for a reason .
@yoachim91 men brag about changing radiators, light bulbs, and brakes. Dont let them act like they dont know how to use a tab with a sticker on it. Also it's not respectful to ask a stranger to change your child??? Is that the new normal? Ladies are you so serious rn??
I understand the what their saying, but why do men think its a small percentage of men that are bad, or that that "small percentage" don't know how to hide their intentions.
Women can be abusers too and its harder to find the signs. I was abused by a woman. If you don't feel comfortable dont do it because you might feel that way for a reason. Unfortunately there are so many opportunities other than that for a predator of any background to take advantage of any child. 100 percent dont get with someone with red flags whether its to yourself or your child. Abuse starts in the mind and there is a mind frame that allows it. Trust your instincts. Children need to feel safe to report and must be taken seriously. They must feel respected and confident to listen to what their instincts are. They feel uncomfortable around someone, doesn't matter the others feelings because they come first.
My mom worked late when I was diaper baby age, so my dad and big bro had to change me? I wasn't m-worded or SA'd by either of them? This just weird, but my heart goes out to women/girls that were harmed.
@@VixxKong2 We can't win in pretty much any situation with these types of women they just hate us. Nobody ever asks what the man is comfortable with... Some men don't like changing kids because they are fragile and most men don't have previous experience with kids in any way. Other men don't want to miss a thing in raising their child and want to bond every chance they get including changing diapers, bathing.... Could be 101 reasons why he want''s too do it or not.
I don’t approve of a man changing a baby girls diaper either, and it wouldn’t have to be with trust but more with female parts should be private from the eyes of men. A lot of men don’t feel comfortable doing it either because knowing it isn’t proper. The same father’s that say it’s ok to change their daughter’s diapers are the same men saying that they don’t want a step-dad changing their daughter’s diaper know that men can’t be trusted.
Exactly what it is. She shouldn't be seen that way by ANY man. You hit the nail perfectly on the head. It's about protecting more than their physical which people don't get.
I feel her because there so many men out there are seriously raping children and some there own kids it gross that it can to be like this because u have to watch these pervert men . And sad part they make it bad for the good ones
i wouldn't allow the father to do it. it's better to be safe than sorry. i'm protective even with my son. it's not just the girls we need to protect but the boys too. men are unpredictable. and this decision you gotta make when becoming a mother. this is the reason why you shouldn't have a baby because of a man. if you have a baby for pure intentions then these safety tips shouldn't be an issue....i don't understand the women who are questioning our logic. what's us being with their fathers gotta do with children's safety? this mentality is emeshment. separate being a wife/gf to your partner from being a mother to your child. don't endanger your child by being a pick me. the child should be first. men be the first to detach once the relationship is over between you, including leaving the kids.
What if the whole time they should be protected from you? Sometimes it's the women abusing, not the men. Men shouldn't change daughters, then why should women change sons? It's weird that men want are fighting to change diapers, yet you're fighting to change diapers. There's no logic in what ya'll are saying that's why everyone is not understanding.
Exactly. It's the difference between why some children unfortunately get sa'd and some don't. This weird trust these women HAVE to have for their men. Failing the kids..
Really ? You can't understand it ? We are watching fully grown men mistreat, use, abuse, take for granted and mishandled woman, but you want to say that it's unfair to keep them away from the little girls that got up into these woman ? I am very much a #notallmen kind of woman, but first you need to prove to me you aren't one of those men. Are we seriously going to let theen we wouldn't want for ourselves sisters or our best friends, changing our daughters, God daughters, cousins and nieces ? I 👏 don't 👏 think 👏 so 👏. Context. I was a toddler survivor of csa. No second chances.
I'm ok with it. I would hope that I have a good gauge of character to have a child with him. She's going to wish that she hadn't because there will be a time when she'll need him and he won't be there. If she has trauma, then she needs to get help with that. If she has a boy, does that mean she can not change a boy lately? A lot of women have been in court for fondling little boys.
Wtf?!! You cannot prove a dude not guilty or "vet". This is so ignorant and woman blaming. There is never a way to prove who is or isn't a pedophile. All men are to varying degrees, anyway.
Anyone that says "then why would you have a kid with him/why would you be with him?" Ok by this logic you should let your (male and female) friends change your kids diapers. Why would you be friends with people you wouldnt trust to change kids diapers? But something tells me yall wouldnt do let all of your friends have access to your child. And before someone says its different, its really not. A friendship is a choice just like a relationship. If you think denying the father the option to change his daughters diaper implies hes a pedo then it works the same for friends. You're implying your friends are pedos if you deny them too. 🤷♀️
I would say “of you don’t feel comfortable with him changing her diaper why marry him” if there hadn’t been so many stories of supposed loving father SAing their own daughters. So I understand loving your partner, but understanding that, with men, there’s always a chance and you can never be too careful.
She is very ridiculous, if you have to be concerned about him a) why did you have a kid with him or b) still allow him access if he changed? As a parent youre supposed to share the workload, sometimes its dads turn to take care of the kid, including changing diapers. What if you split up and its his time with the daughter? My parents split when I was 3 and my father had to do every parental duty the 50% of the time we were with him. If we want fathers to stop behaving like second class parents we need to stop treating them that way. Of course its a bit of a chicken and egg situation but still.
I have two daughters and I have never felt uncomfortable with their dad changing their diapers. I was only concerned when they did #2 because I was making sure he cleaned all areas when there was a bad blowout. If he can’t change their diapers why you even making him a father? Granted I have never had any inappropriate attention from a male but I know I picked a damn good father to my girls. What about the men that have full custody of their daughter wtf are they supposed to do?
Im a woman and i dont wana change a baby diaper. So if a man is making a big deal to change a childs diaper i would immediately think hes a pdf and likes cupcakes.
If my husband don't change a damn diaper I'd be mad. I taught my husband how to change our daughters and son. If I can't trust him I shouldn't be laying with him.
Truat have levels. Some mothers prefer to take extra measures just in case.
Exactly
"Shouldn't have laid with him" in the first place (if you don't trust him) That's right
Precisely
@@rocio292 yeah because men don’t cheat and break trust every day and make a excuse for why it normal… just like men make excuses for fetishizing younger women … no man should want there to be any thought of if he touched his daughter inappropriately or not… therefore he just shouldn’t be in his daughters pant… why set up the circumstances for the mother to be torn between believing her child or her father who was entitled to change his baby girls diapers like it’s a way for him to bond 😅
If you can't trust him to change her diaper, why the hell is he in your life at all?
More importantly why would you give that man a baby
Right? If you have even a slightly nervous feeling?
That's just it! You don't know until you know. My father and my mother had twin daughters, my older sisters. They came back from the babysitter with twin diaper rashes. My engineer black dad, told my math teaching mom to call the h.s. amd request a leave of absence so she could take care of her own babies and of course my father paid them bills.
Yeah ??? 🤢
If you don't understand pick-me's then anything about them will only confuse you.
Should we protect men's feelings or protect children from SA? The first principle of child safeguarding is to never assume that anyone is "safe." And most child SA is a relative, and most predators are not obviously predators, so this attitude would help prevent child SA.
You have no right to keep a child from their father, it's his child too. Women abuse kids and elderly the most are you sure we can trust you lot with our children and our parents?
@@yoachim91 That's a massive lie you coward. Males are responsible for over 99 percent of grapes and are most perpetrators of pdf. Most victims are women and children. Delete yourself
@@yoachim91 and statistics PROVE most predators are male. As I said delete yourself
That's a lie. M*les are responsible for over 99 percent of gr*pes and are most perpetrators of pedo******. Most victims are women and children. Delete yourself
@@yoachim91women have higher rates of abuse, (typically in the form of neglect, theft, and verbal abuse) because there is a higher concentration of women in those fields.
The men who are there (they're a minority) have a track record of being deeply distrusted, usually to the extent of simply not hiring males into that position without supervision if the person they're watching over can't speak up for themselves, because of the frequency of gRape or some other kind of physical abuse...
one too many paraplegic, elderly, comatose, and child victims...
and defiled corpses....
She's not keeping him away from the baby. She just doesn't want him changing the baby's diaper. Probably doesn't want him bathing her either.
I know women who won't even let dad do this with their sons, so this kind of attitude is just.... normal for a lot of people.
Better safe than sorry.
I came across a Reddit thread where the question was : “what ruined having a daughter ?” (or something along those lines), and I kid you not the first answer was corn. The thread was filled with thousands of comments of men saying that they feel uncomfortable changing their daughter’s diapers. And I’m so disgusted just by writing this but these comments were “ seeing my daughters unshaven “you know what” reminds me of corn”, I can’t change my daughter diaper without thinking about corn star’s “you know what”, having a daughter ruined watching corn for me” and so so many men agreeing. I was SHOCKED, disgusted. Should I remind you that 1 man out of 6 is a pdf. You really think your husband is exempt of it just because you chose him ? Ladies we gotta be careful… We can’t be naive anymore. I completely understand this woman concerns. This is sadly the harsh reality.
I work as a phone sex operator. MOST of the men who call fantasize about children. I was stunned. You never know
@@greywitchwanderer9608I had to quit doing that because there's sometimes that I do sound like I'm a kid. I tried to sound like an adult sometimes but my voice won't allow itself. Some days I may sound like a kid other days I may sound like a rowdy teenager. But by my voice alone people think that I'm a teen or younger. Those creeps got excited hearing my voice it is not sexy. I just sound young 😑
They learn from early on to only view women's bodies as a sexual object for them.
There is not neutral concept of the female body unless they train to be a medic or make art.
Right, because people just don't seem to understand how much men like the way female genitals look.
Says the females that voted to legally slaughter 65 trillion babies. Typical Delilah.
I was uncomfortable, once I left my child with her dad as a baby for 2 hours, he claimed she pooped and had a dirty diaper so he changed her. There were no poopy diapers in the bin, yet she had a new diaper on. I got suspicious because that was the first time I left them alone and he felt the need to see her privates for no reason. From then I kept an extra heavy eye on him and called him out for 3 things he did after that (little weird things) Idk but once you get that feeling don’t let it go.
@@julieboops exactly like dude in the video is upset as if he’s been planning the whole pregnancy on changing his daughter s diaper… not her college fund, trust fund , a house in her name for graduation… nope he’s fighting to see his baby girl nude … that’s weirdo behavior
Watch his arse.. protect your baby
Maybe she farted and he went to change he thinking she pooped. Happened to me once.
Idk about the other "little weird things" tho
Better safe than sorry. My father was in charge of bathing me to an inappropriate age. My mother had many children and needed help. Things happened that I still don't know how to process...whether he was clueless, naive or whether I was SAed. There were times when he forced me to take a shower with him when I was 4 or 5 and I remember feeling very scared. I know something happened that wasn't right. I carry a lot of trauma from that and some of those memories I have are hard time accessing. My dad was always very wholesome , friendly and amiable to others but a monster with his kids.
Traditionally men were not changing diapers and wiping boogers . If a mother can she should always be changing and bathing daughters .
Praying for healing, sending love & peace.
It's not because he's a man, it's because he's an abuser. No matter what people look like on the outside. It's very important for children to feel safe to speak up and for adults to listen and take action.
Sometimes the woman/ mother may start distrusting the father _after_ having a female child.
I'd like to say the opposite (younger me would), but I'm on the side of mothers protecting their baby daughters a little "too much" if it avoids some risks related to men's behaviors.
Another perspective, when you become a mom you get a different kind of spidie sense. Also, most moms become super protective. Leave her alone and let her parent how she is comfortable. Why is he pushing? Why can't he just be patient for her to get comfortable enough to let him do it? Postpartum maybe
Exactly, that was my question as well. He’s pushing for this as though he’s fighting for civil rights. It’s odd because some of these men don’t even wipe themselves properly, but this one is ready to go to war to change the baby’s diaper.
And I trust the mother’s intuition. I rather be wrong and had overprotected than to be wrong because I underestimated.
This is not postpartum or spidie sense, this is a woman being a b towards her man and treating the father of the kid like a criminal, who has the same rights as the mom if i am not mistaken? No because it starts with a diaper, then he can't change her clothes, can't hold her, can't be alone with her and the older the kid get's the less he get's to do and the more distanced the kid becomes. She is not only taking the father from the kid but also the kid from the father. It's crusial for both parents to bond closely with small children.
As a woman who was seriously assaulted by a man when i was preschool age, a woman or man can never ever understand how that feels if it hasn’t happened to them. The memory of mine is very strong too. I wasn’t protected by a woman and that turn of the back caused irreparable damage to me. It also brought in more men to abuse me and women who were emotionally dependent on men. Being assaulted as an adult woman is very different than when you are a decade or more from puberty (i know the difference). If i had a daughter, there would be no sole access to a daughter of mine. Its just the way it is. I didn’t think the things men did to me as an adult would happen to me but they did.
I’m so sorry sister😢😢 That is horrible what you experienced.
This world has many whicked souls. It makes me so angry to hear what they do to children. You didn’t deserve any of that and his whicked behavior had nothing to do with you.
I am sending you much love and healing and happiness.❤❤❤❤🙏🏾
@ thank you. Also, women are having babies with total strangers too sometimes which can increase the dangers or they have them in relationships that have broken down.
Yes!! Sometimes we don't find out until it's too late.
@sommesoul33 maybe they should stop breeding bastards too
❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Women who have had a bad experience may not EVER trust any man to see the baby girl intimately. Even if she trusts him to be a good father and partner - it’s a line in the sand for every single man on the planet. Touching the private parts with a wet wipe maybe too much for some women. My sister trusted her husband and he never changed the boys but he wanted to change the baby girl. When I saw him changing her, it didn’t look right. I felt nauseated and we looked into him more and then found out about wrong things with other girls. She had no reason to suspect something wrong before that.
I didn't have a problem with my ex changing the baby's' diapers, at first. I had a problem with it the 2nd time, when it still took like 20 minutes. He watched me change diapers before that and had a child from a previous marriage. I thought he should know not to take so long, but I didn't think he was sick; just too slow. I had trauma from my childhood and didn't want to make assumptions, but I wouldn't let him anymore and I stayed with my babies 24/7, just in case. Much later, I realized, he wouldn't spend 1 minute of quality time reading the baby a book, or 15 minutes playing with blocks or other toys or teaching to talk, etc.. but he wanted to argue with me about not being allowed to change or bathe the baby. Then, he started acting obviously inappropriately, right in front of me, and tried gaslighting me into thinking it was normal. We got out of there asap.
Good catch. You noticed that he was not spending time with a clothed child, and only wanted to spend time with a naked child!
Love this! You trusted and once you got a feeling, you acted immediately!💛
Yea.. n my dad changed my diapers and I was safe with him. He talked like a nasty guy out loud, but I remember him telling me to sit properly on his lap, instead of on his private area by yelling, "HEY! Watch out for the family jewels." And he would scoot me to the side, or off, if I wouldn't sit still. My ex just let my baby climb over his junk and sit, without saying anything. I tried to correct him, to redirect the baby. He said he didn't even notice it, but I could see it in his eyes. He complained that his reflexes weren't quick enough.
Then, he yelled at me for a week, that I was accusing him of being a pdfile, when I wasn't. That got me keeping the 2 year old and 6 month old, at the time, from being in physical contact with him, at all. By the end of that week, I 100% believed he is a pdfile. Even caught him staring hard at a 12y/o neighbor girl, riding her bike out front, the whole time we were out there, when I went out there during an argument, to stop him from yelling in my face. She noticed it too, and stopped her bike to wave hi.
Then, the baby proved he lied about his reflexes. I was letting the baby swim in a baby pool, on the deck in the backyard, in the middle of summer, and the deck was hot. I sprayed water on the deck to cool it down, whenever it dried, and the baby wanted to do that, so I handed the hose over. He had already come out and sat down on a chair, fully clothed. As soon as the baby turned the hose toward him, he lashed out, like a snake, to stop it from wetting him and his phone and wallet, etc. I called him out immediately, and he went back to his computer. He wasn't going to argue with me in the yard, where all the neighbors out there could see and hear.
I was lucky we didn't have to go live on the streets. I was a FT SAHM and had to beg my dad to ride to come pick us and our things up from 1800 miles away. Him and my mom's bf rode 3-4 days n got us out of there by the end of the second week of arguments. My ex did almost nothing for the babies. My little money from working in his home business went mostly to the mortgage and the rest to what the babies and I needed to live. The second to last day there, he said, "YOU'RE LEAVING. THEY'RE STAYING." I said, "YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF THEM AND IF YOU TRY TO TAKE THEM OR COME AFTER US, I'LL (END) YOU".
I kept in contact with him over the phone for 1.5 years, after we moved, while he was asking for us to come back. I got all the text proof I need, saved in emails, that he was controlling, lying, gaslighting and sick in the head. He was, literally, making fun of me when I talked about how my grandfather molested me, when I was 6.
No.. Not all men are sick like this, but when you're paying attention, the ones who are.. you can see it in their eyes and behaviors, hear it in their words, and know it by trying to make a correction, without even making an accusation, but they act defensive, instead of trying to correct it, and treat you like you're the monster for correcting them.
TBH, we're even more lucky we were in that house, in an active neighborhood, and not his planned move to a large plot of land, in the middle of nowhere, to start a farm. He is exmilitary and had extensive combative knowledge and experience with pew pews. He had bought us some and ended up selling his, while I kept mine. I noticed he tried to hide my hand pew pew from me, in his toolbox, in the second to last week, when he was yelling at me that I was calling him a pdfile. I got it back, the next day, when he was sleeping, and hid it from him. Never had one, in my life, before this, and in my mind, I was like, "NO, you don't take my protection, while acting like that!" A few days later, he asked where it was, and I told him, "It's mine, and it's put away, where it should be."
I'll forever be traumatized by this mess, but forever vigilant. I feel like I'm trauma-dumping, because I've been shunned for talking about it, but I think, if it helps someone gain an ounce of clarity in their own life, good.
@JezeBellaMorte333 keep speaking out on your story and experience, more women have to hear/ read real examples like this to actually put 2 and 2 together and change their situation for their kids .
@JezeBellaMorte333 you are doing the right thing by speaking out on your experience. Keep telling your story. You are saving lives.
Then they say, "I trusted him. I didn't think he could ever do something like that." That's the point. Trusting someone has never stopped them from breaking that trust. They really believe women make the boundary out of belief their partners would do something. No, they probably think he never would. But your trust and belief don't let you go back in time and protect your daughter if you're wrong. Some risks are worth it. Others are not.
Well said.
Men don't always act the same after the children are born and sometimes they say disgusting things after that child gets a little older that gives you reasonable concerns. Sometimes those concerns result in divorce. Unfortunately, divorce doesn't protect the children.
My dad said disgusting things about me so my mom is mad I didn't want him to meet my daughter. He never even met my son. He's never going to meet him and he's never going to meet my daughter. As soon as I hit puberty my father started acting weird towards me. I'm not putting my daughter through that type of trauma.
Every person always: "Why didn't you call police?"
Woman: *calls police*
Police: *does nothing*
Man: *unalives woman*
Everyone: surprised Pikachu face
Maybe some women were touched inappropriately as young girls and they still hold onto that trauma
Holding it against her is weird too. These guys don’t get it. They’ll never get it. If they’re unfortunate enough to get it, they deserve to be released after ending their S-Abusive parents.
Maybe this is how they feel to Break the curse.
These ppl shouldn't have children. If you are so traumatised, why bring a child into this world.
Some ?? Its not about holding onto trauma it's about the fact that you have to be cautious about this with ANY male period.
Or, or..men are absolutely unhinged, and so are the good ones that don't hold them accountable.
Rn in france something called "appel des 500 mamans" is happening. A mother got put in prison for 3 years because she didnt want to take her baby daughter to a place for the dad to see her because the judge chose a place without cameras. Before that the mother had suspicions the father was sa'ing their 6 month old daughter because hed get excited to be left alone with her so she had cameras put up and he got the s*x toys and went to a room without cameras. The mother called the police when she saw that happen and had the dna on the toys and on the baby. And it keeps happening where fathers are doing it to their own babies. Theres multiple cases and the men are just getting away with it in france. Theres basically no coverage i only found 1 post on google about it. I feel like we really need to speak about it and bring it to light. Theyre just allowing these men to sa their babies and get away with it.
That's disgusting. French men have always been gross. One had his wife of 50 years grapes by multiple men. Evil
It's unfortunate, but laws protect these demons. Many of those in law enforcement and the injustice system are corrupt and not safe. I pray for the safety of children daily. They go through some horrific experiences, and the law allows it.
Sadly it will jeep happening as long a men are the mayority of the law making and enforcement.
@@kiriki4558Women judges are allowing this too . Us women / mothers should protect our children. No one else will .
@@kiriki4558 Probably the most important comment on the internet!
If they can't wipe themselves properly these days... Do they even know to wipe from front to back and how that is extra important for females? 🤷🏼♀️
If you can't have that conversation with him and you're going to have a whole human being and then you're going to use that as an excuse to say you can't trust him to clean her the problem is still you
My mom told me with her first child she asked him to change the baby because she was busy cooking and this was back when we used cloth diapers with safety pins to secure it. Well the baby was screaming, she ran over there to find out that he had stuck the pin through the babys skin and secured it. She told me she thinks he did it on purpose so he wouldn't be asked to change a diaper again. Knowing my dad that is likely true.
She didn't come out of him. She came out of her mother. He is gaslighting her and seems way too thirsty to change her. Excellent Mother. Her intuition doesn't want him to for a reason. The next step is to get him out. If I can't trust you to change our child, I can't trust you for anything not to even be in My presence. The second mother is TRULY AN EXCELLENT MOTHER for taking the threat seriously! Blessings to her! That man needs to be locked up and seriously needs mental help! He sounds crazy asf! May they all be protected!
It’s one thing to be concerned that your wife doesn’t trust you. It’s another to 🚩 insist you get diaper duties despite her willingness to take on every one. What man is going to fight over diapers duties? Do you see women complaining that we don’t get to take out the trash?
If her intuition doesn't want him to change her then why is she laying in a bed with him. I'm a girls girl but damn some of yall need to take accountability. Either stop having kids with men you don't trust or don't have kids at all.
@@Egh0127Ma'aM I said she needs to get rid of him. You are correct, but if she's a first time mother she may not have realized this until after she had the baby. She's obviously been traumatized in some way to feel so strongly about it.
I was married and I didn't realize that past violations and learning how men really are affected how I viewed the ex husband with our children.
One day I came home at night and My daughters blanket was in the bathtub because she had got up to pee and left her blanket in the tub.
I'm not going to lie for the first time I had a fear that my ex had did something. He never did anything to make me think that but because of how I was vilolated as a child through My teenage years, the thought came.
She needs to work through it but I definitely get it. He sounds like a bum and she needs to protect herself and take care of her inner child the way she is trying to protect her daughter.
Let's remember, we are just now in the age of Aquarius and we are just now doing the work to right all the wrongs of the world. Women who grow up seeing toxic relationships and experiencing toxic men may not have the knowledge to discern what is good or not. Sometimes they arent even capable of thinking this way until they have a child they have to protect. Shes on the right track & may She fully find her way.
Ase💖
alwaysyouramanda- yup! I’ve never seen a man want to change a diaper so badly. It just seems off.
That is what I think too . Why is he fighting to change a daughter?
If a man cannot be trusted to change his daughters diaper, then he also cannot be trusted to be alone with her at any time. If that man is giving you that feeling, then you should not be with that man at all.
It's not about the feeling it's about safety regardless.
@@Rosemary46840then why be with him at all. Seriously, some creeps prey on baby boys too. Are you not gonna let your husband change your son’s diapers either. Choose a good man. That’s all I’m saying
I have a faint memory from my baby time about being touched inappropriately while being changed. But the adult in my memory was a female relative.
So, I don’t think it’s just a man thing (there is definitely a disproportionate amount of guilty men comparing to guilty women, but still it’s the safety of children we are talking about. You can never be too cautious). If you have those female relatives that give off weird vibes, you shouldn’t trust them either.
True. But I think, since men end up causing the most harm physically, people naturally get more defensive about the men doing it. But you're also right, people need to be vigilant about both.
Never seen a man complain about NOT-changing diapers… that’s enough for me. How is he going to fight about it? 🤮
That was weird too. And true.
Exactly like my kids father never fussed about not changing diapers. I just gave birth to a baby girl in September. I am the only one who changed her diaper. While I was in the hospital only female nurses were changing her diaper.
Surely u can see how it would hurt to have ur girl think you could be a potential predator?? I don't blame the girl for for having her feelings hut I understand his as well. I don't blame her one bit
That's a red flag on its own
Probably because you see your man as a potential sexual abuser.... if anything that's a red flag.
Dude, said it about a step-father but don't think biological fathers can be creeps!! My ex-husband said he leaves the room when someone is changing a little girl's diaper and that bothered me. Plus not all pregnancies are planned so babies are conceived without knowing a man's issues completely. My father, my brothers, my ex-husband, and a few boyfriends have been physically abusive and the "nice guys" are emotionally/psychologically abusive. Personally, I don't date or have plans for children/marriage. I've never met a woman who hasn't been abused by a man.
They're out here graping turkeys, so, I 💯 agree that men should not be changing anyone's diapers.
Exactly
You are right. Good man , bad man any man wakes up with an erection . 95 percent of them wake up with an erection and they are anesthetizing themselves on porn . Most of them are holding their dix and being top consumers of porn hub . Men shouldn’t be changing daughters.
The monitor lizard😔
The crimes of some are not the crimes of all. Choose wisely and remember everyone is different. No two are the same you’re not like me. For example;
So why would someone like you put me in a group with you.
Only because of emotional ignorance like I don’t even know you.
Just because some non black men SA’d some turkeys 🦃🦃👀🦃. Every man is not interested in 🦃 🍆. Nor is every man interested in what’s. Inside of your baby girl’s dirty diaper that needs to be changed. Turkeys and kids are totally different. Grow up and have a very mature day
@@Shellie-bf3wx I'm sick of you not all women - until men start calling out the behaviors of all men it's every last one of them - you pick mes are going to learn that most men can't be trusted largely
I had to teach my husband how to change diapers, and I changed every poopy diaper that all 3 of our girls had, because I didn't want him doing it wrong, and causing infections. I guess men aren't taught the "front to back only" wiping. So I agree that men probably shouldn't change baby girls, both to protect our girls from any potential predators, and also to prevent any infections from even the good men just being oblivious to female differences.
1:26 - WOW! I typed all this out before she even said, "you don't even know how to wipe her right!" She's definitely NOT wrong!!!
But that’s the only way, how could men think there’s another way to wipe ? Do they wipe their own butt back to front ? No. So this whole men don’t know how to wipe point is false.
Majority lf the abusers are relatives anyways. Father, brother , uncle , grandpa,cousin. Makes sense. Should teach children that even DAD OR MOM are not allowed to touch their private parts.
After what I heard about the Butterball turkeys, I'd be side eyeing him while he changed his daughter's diaper.
lol
I let my sperm donor do it, and he decided to wipe her from front to back, and she pooped. Then i let my brother babysit one day and he decided to let his friend a guy change my daughters diaper without my permission, I dont even know his friend. I dont blame her!!! You ladies think you know your man no!!! Do not leave kids alone with them or change their daughters diaper@!!
OMG. Only fathers should change diapers.
I don’t understand how anyone will let a man change their female child diaper. Would they let that same man give her a bath I mean it’s like motherfuckers. Don’t use their common sense.
That is just retarded. How is a male friend touching your baby ? U sound irresponsible
But front to back is what u want not the other way around
Men have been known to violate their sons as well. We never know which man will do that or what comes over them so I also don't want men near naked babies. I'm against having babies with men at all, but that's another topic.
Same I would never have another baby for a man, but my babies are almost grown
I don't trust men at all
Toddlers are attached to mother and they shouldn't be with other male adults specially men.
Small kids should only be around females whether at home, schools, after school communities.
We need maternal society to raise toddlers and train, discipline them after toddler age.....little bit grown kids need to be raised by whole society.
That's how mammals are raised....why male humans are intervening too much in society is such a question to females.
Mammal Society belongs to females not males.
And men flex their labour strength then why dont they do more labour work around house
Truth
I didn't like my husband changing our daughters diaper, I am glad I wasn't the only one. My ex was a Horn dog so no he was not changing her diaper.
There is plenty of things to do - dishes, laundry, feeding. Why they need to change diapers if mother wants to take care of it?
I had a bad bathtime experience as a child.
Do you agree to women not being allowed to change boy's diapers?
Only a minute in, and I have to say that it's weird to me that he's arguing with her about it. I get he might be offended by what is implied, but most men will jump through hoops not to change diapers, so it's sus to me that he's basically demanding she let him. That would actually make me less willing to allow him.
My son's ex has two daughters. One is supposed to be his, but I honestly don't think she is. Both her, and her sister, look exactly like the second guy. The second guy has been in the mom's life a long time. He was around frequently while my son was with her. My son refuses to do a test. His choice.
The mom won't allow a man to bathe, or change a diaper, for her daughters because she's concerned about csa. Understandable. Here's the part that really irks me, the second guy is a previously convicted pd file. I just found out about that a couple months ago. She knew he had that history, and she chose to have a relationship, and a baby, with him. Now her concern is more understandable, but also wtaf?!
My thoughts exactly! I said why is he even arguing with her, most men would be glad to get out of doing it, and would definitely not want to if they knew you didn't trust them.
He's probably arguing because she's implying that he's being inappropriate.
@@VixxKong2 I already said that's a possibility, but it doesn't change the fact that it's weird for a man to fight to change diapers.
@martibee8984
And I'm saying he's not fighting for that "right". He's fighting what she's implying.
I remember when I was a young girl maybe 5-6 years old I had a yeast infection and my mom had to give me some medicine inside and I was screaming because I hated it and I was screaming for my dad, I wanted my dad. Because I felt safe around him and he would NEVER harm me. We used to dance together to calm songs I'm a dad's girl. Your daughter should feel 100% safe around her father no matter what. (And yes sometimes rarely little girls get infections too not just grown women) my baby girl had a uti one time because sometimes their poop in the diaper causes an infection if it gets inside her so it's normal but just not as common in little girls.
Yeast infections of the vagina don’t happen to virgins . It happens to sexually abused children.
@@serenesrn3827 ummm, I had a yeast infection as a virgin. It was due to using cheap soap down there. An overgrowth of yeast could be caused by many things unrelated to sex. If anything I think her mother should not have used an invasive remedy but given her something orally instead to get rid of the imbalance.
@@serenesrn3827 Yes, they do happen to virgin girls. Yeast infections are not an STD, nor do they have to do with poor hygiene. They are caused by an overgrowth of the fungal flora typical in women in times of weakness of the immune system (such as colds, or during the menstruation), and sometimes by consuming a lot of sugar. It's rare to get infected from a man, since they are not natural carriers of the candida albicans in the way we are.
it is possible to get a yeast infection for non feces related reasons, and it is possible to get a uti and or yeast infection that has nothing to do with virginity. just saying..
@@Egh0127 a man shouldn’t want to be spreading and cleaning around his baby girls area I’m sorry that’s invasive and weird because men normally have larger hands its also more likely to be painful
Men were never meant to be in the home raising a child. It was always women who helped raise the children.
Exactly
MATRIARCHAL homes
@happiness4303 that's not true. It's just these men are not moral and under control. They were meant to raise children too. Go look at what happens to women who raise children alone.
@@biblethumper8088 Men don't have the capacity to be raising children - MATRIARCHAL homes were set up for women not MEN
@@biblethumper8088 I raise my children alone and they're well off better than any man who could
You can think whatever you want, but I talk to 100s of men with wives and kids every day. Trusted husbands etc. 90% of them fantasize about children. Some claim they never act on it, but A LOT think of it. They always talk about BALD young kitties and ask me to roleplay as a child.
Exactlyyyyy. Please wake up women. 😖
None of the women at my job are into men anymore. I'm married but opted out of children. We just cant look at men the same. I'd already had many awful experiences with men, strangers and MULTIPLE family members. Didn't want to judge all men and wanted to challenge my prejudice. I did a social experiment. I would allow my male friends who I had made clear I had no interest in over to do a hobby, music, TV whatever. I wasnt mad if they came onto me. I'm a baddie lmao. I was testing how far they would push me past the "no". All but 1 man attempted to force me into kisses or more. One I actually physically fought. 1 lesbian was also too much. This was like 22 men some of which were close friends. Changed how I perceived them even more. I modeled as well. Several sas in that field. I wont display how bad things got out of privacy concerns. Men when alone with me have ALWAYS been off as far back as I can recall. But I'm a balance valuing person. I felt it was my fault or I had bad luck. When I started this job I EXPECTED outlandish fantasies. Even gross stuff. I didn't expect this. 6 years and various companies and ped is still the most popular fantasy in all of them. Man on man is second. Every terrible depraved thing you can think of, and even beyond it, I have heard. This completely obliterated my view of men. I talk to women too. I have NEVER had women ask for the filth men do. Not once. Women have our own darkness too but the seggs stuff is mostly a masculine fixation. They want to outdo themselves and break the rules. They like being the villain. Other gfs ask me to refer them to the job and I make it VERY clear what they may lose. Tell them they must have thick skin and preferably no children. They decide to do the job and never last. One friend couldn't get past the weekend. She just cried. I have specific reasons why I do it, but it has solidified my prejudice and my husband is just as disturbed by men. And he is Bisexual. This was all new to him and now he sees it everywhere the issues men have.
Exactly my own father tried to come onto me at the age of 12
@@greywitchwanderer9608 the fact men literally have fetishized dating women who are barely legal , men marrying their step daughters , dating their daughters friends just makes the entire concept cringe
what do you think is the root reason/s for grown men to be sexually aroused and highly sexually attracted to infants/ children?? I rly would love to know/..what kind of soup of worms is happening in their brains...!
I knew a predator and his fondest memories of his siblings was wrestling and changing their diapers. Then his brother made a comment about him taking too long to change his niece. Shortly after I found the videos. He was a real predator
Diapers or not,do not trust men around little girls at all. you cannot let your guard down when they in their presence.
Or women. 😂 my child is not staying with anyone until she can talk
I agree. Better safe than sorry. If it bothers the father he will get over it.
Let him change the diaper in front of the wife, always.
Exactly! You have the best comment
@@Edelwiess1066 if yall don't trust your partners then you shouldn't have had kids I mean you might aswell not leave your man anywhere with the child either
Yeah that's a good one. She gets the help and kiddos are always safe and properly cleaned.
this is ignorant too. Women are predators too if not more so!
@nes96 thank you!!! If its trauma, the woman needs to seek help! It isnt fair to put all that baggage on the man when he's innocent.
Please please don’t tell me that men actually have thoughts 😮 when changing their OWN daughters diappies ? That’s just disgusting and vile.
Yes they do. Saw a Reddit thread where men talked about that. I can’t find it anymore. Women have again still a lot to learn.
Yes many of them do
Lots of men are so sick, unfortunately
MOST do. Sad reality.
Men's feelings over your daughter's safety? NO thank you! Angelic as he is., I dont CARE, her safety comes first before trust.
I wouldn’t trust any man. Period!!! She’s smart to stand on her boundaries.
How stupid do again, they're blaming women who do the right thing. I wouldn't EVER let any man near a baby girl. That's good mothering.
Women are abusers too.
No man should be changing diapers if they want to contribute they can start with doing dishes cleaning the house helping with the laundry
There are so many activities with a child that they can help out with that diaper change should not be source of arguing.
There are so many activities with a child that they can help out with that diaper change should not be source of arguing.
Its always the men that dont cook and clean and dont help there wives during pregnancy that want to change diapers and shower children. Thats weird
Right like outside work and other things
What if child is a baby and mom dies?
I dont believe in that either! I dont have children because every other woman has been SA’d young. By someone close in their family.
YES! Seems like over half experience sa yet ppl still having children with those odds?? Everyone thinks they are the exception to the rule 🤦🏾♀️
I don't believe in men changing baby's diapers - sorry it's how I was brought up! Too many women have had bad experiences with men growing up including their own father / grandfather. At a certain age we couldn't sit in mens laps.
exactly. Common sense, heavily based on overwhelming amount of experience and evidence!
@@AmericanDreamer Exactly my grandma never allowed my grandfather or other men to bathe us or do anything - men shouldn't be handling children end of story
I personally think little kids shouldn't sit in men's laps either they're the most naive
@@Rosemary46840 Yep I just said that 💯
Then you can't change boys then. You might touch the penis and that's abuse.
I wouldn’t let them change baby boys nappies either.
Mabye you should have children with a woman
I love how you guys call them nappies.. it’s such an adorable word 😊
Exactly I don't trust men at all
Why have a baby witn someone and they cant even change diapers thats hell
@ebenaebekoe3460 Like men stay the same and always be these so called good men forever pls be for real. You women trust men too easily for me red flag 🚩
Some mothers may have been seggsually assaulted as young girls. So they may be traumatized. I wouldnt blame the women.
Why is any woman associating with men at this point???
😂 idk!
The force of nature I guess
Love songs and dysfunction.
Agreed. Let alone bring innocent children into the equation.
@@persephonemaeve2704 it's ok to have kids, be single, and to still not cater to nem. It's my human right to have children if I want, but I don't have to answer to or be a servant to a guy bc he spread his seed like it was fertilizer. They can use protection also, they choose not to, routinely over and over. I'm not taking that away from anyone and not every single one is like this. But the vast majority are, and a lot of wives spend a lifetime trying to make these idiots happy over their own happiness or kids happiness, and I cannot with that. I just don't like when people bring up kids. Leave anti natalism out of this please.
This just gave me a completely different perspective ive never even thought about. Thankyou, ladies in the comments. Im currently pregnant, hoping its a daughter. (Doesn't matter either way but i already have a son i wanna little girl ☺️.) Anyways i was telling the father he has to change the first diaper, what his roles would be etc. Trust him or not after reading what alot of you women had to say im definitely rethinking that. Id rather my children safe than affected for life. Did it with my son, but i guess protection is different when it comes to a little girl and thanks for opening my eyes to this extent. I didnt think anything of it and im glad i found this video. WE need to protect our babies. Theres to much of this going on and im so sad to see alot of you have experienced it. ❤
Wish me luck on a little girl. I find out in 2 weeks. 😁😂❤ xo.
Also if a guy doesn't want to change his daughter/child's diaper, he might know he shouldn't be. Never force someone to do so. If he doesn't feel comfortable, it's for a reason.
My ex-girlfriend has a bunch of ex-boyfriends who can't leave her alone. (Three keep texting for booty calls, and the other one can't keep his hands off of her even though he's seeing somebody else.) I'm the only one she trusts because I at least know when a relationship is over.
I don’t understand. For most men this wouldn’t be an argument at all, many of both men and women don’t like having to change them as it is. That’s why I find this incredibly werid that this dude is getting so upset over her saying that. Sounds like this man should be locked up, if this bothers him so badly she likely has very good and very legitimate reasons for not wanting any man to be changing her daughter’s diaper if this is how he is reacting. Something is seriously wrong with him.
If it's never talked about it's nothing to worry about but she is passively accusing him of being a pdf file with intent on harming their daughter and compares him as father to the rest of men. You realise it's his kid too right? He wants to help and be active in raising his kid, if the wife get's sick or something happens he has to know what to do with the kid i understand why he is looks for answers to this very weird statement...
Nahh most men would argue to do it and feel the woman is wrong and leaving him out of the parenting for it
@@yoachim91 ok so when the little girl doesn’t like how he wipes her or he is rough because he doesn’t have a vagina and know the sensitivity… if his finger slips while wiping her… who would leave that up to explaining? What man would fight to be in that position to defend if he touched his own daughter inappropriately or not?
@@Rosemary46840 you mean the men who don’t want to hold babies when they’re too little, men who won’t wake up in the middle of the night to make a bottle , men who don’t want women to breast feed because they’re jealous of the child… is fighting to wipe his daughters vagina as a right to fatherhood… 🤮🤡
@@Shillery-n1i As i said it's his kid, you have no right to keep her from him and whatever weird things you people imagine has nothing to do with it.
If he is rough or whatever then the woman should learn him how to change a diaper...
If my wife told me i could not change my kids or do whatever i see fit to make them happy and comfy there would be issue's, i am not going to be told that i am a criminal for caring for my kids.
Why would a father not care for his kids? This channel yaps about inresponsible fathers all the time but when 1 is trying to do the right thing you make him a criminal...
Or elderly women’s briefs in nursing homes.😢
Yep!!!
Right
"If you're a woman with some trauma, go seek help.."
It's so easy for him to say. I've been seeking help for over 2 decades and am not fully healed. None of these men have the strength to grapple with what I've had to endure. And no, most fathers do not love their daughters. Many, at best, see them as pawns to move around for financial or social standing.
Why be with a man if you think he might SA his child? If you really feel that way about a man, don't have his baby. What's going to happen when he has to babysit while you're at the store or in the hospital???
Most women feel like this about every male unless he has proven himself other wise.
Often the feeling doesn't come up until you have the pregnancy brain instincts and new hormones that put a woman in a different alert
I truly hope that the young woman in the video gets support and help. There is an underlying issue going on that's causing her to respond this way.
It is so very important not to generalize men or women. Our society is heading down a very dangerous road, and there will be no turning back if people don't take a moment to breathe come back to calmness and Center themselves. We have to learn how to trust, work together in society.
Oh pa lease. We NEED to generalize men MORE for our safety since it's MOST of them!! Trying to give males the benefit of the doubt is how countless innocent people get raped in circumstances that could've been prevented with caution
I do not know many black women that have not been SAd by some uncle, cousin, brother etc.
This is not generalising... It is a fact that many men are doing dirty things in the dark.
Im really starting to think its an any man thing and not just a her man thing.
I love them feelings for her. He should respect that and move on. Pushing the issue will cause her to flee. So what it’s stimming from trauma. She will grow and learn, but until then, respect her and her feelings. ❤
The parts that stunned me were when the women said other women were crazy for feeling like this but in the same breath saying that they were SA'd 😒🙄
If you don't feel like your baby us safe around her father, don't allow him in either of your lives. If you feel like he's not doing it right, educate him. If you are in a loving relationship, childrearing should be 50 50 like any chore. This could lead to anti-single father rhetoric.
Toddlers are attached to mother and they shouldn't be with other male adults specially men.
Small kids should only be around females whether at home, schools, after school communities.
Tiny kids irrespective of gender are extremely on radar as a prey by men even small male kids are abused.
We need maternal society to raise toddlers and train, discipline them after toddler age.....little bit grown kids need to be raised by whole society.
That's how mammals are raised....why male humans are intervening too much in society is such a question to females.
Mammal Society belongs to females not males.
And men flex their labour strength then why dont they do more labour work around house
That comes from trauma, it’s not even about trust. I think the more he ask the more he triggers her.
Breakdown in society
Breakdown? Males have always been like this, it's actually better now that there are laws in place to protect
It’s just male nature.
Ppl are always so quick to judge what others choose to do within their household. If a parent feels a man shouldn't change the kids then so what. I personally don't trust anyone changing my child. Man or woman. Boy or girl child. I get why ppl ask why lay with someone who you don't trust but don't be stupid. We are all human and have needs. Im not going to choose to be single my whole life and withdraw from all human beings because I know for a fact that anyone could change or COULD have it in them to do wrong or have weird ass thoughts
Front to back
Toss the wipe
Do it again
If it's not clean
Sing her a song
To teach her some things
Stop changing her
If your dingaling dings
Do y'all also not trust him to go pick up the kids since you're not gonna be here to see what he's doing?
Do you also not trust him when he has to watch the kids alone because you have a nail appointment to go to?
And if the baby cries at night, is it only the responsibility of the mom to get up? Because we never know what the dad might do while the mom just stays sleeping in bed.
And when you break up and have to co-parent, are you going to come over to his place and change the kid since you don't want him doing it?
See how it goes beyond just not trusting him with changing the diapers?
Exactly. I would not bring children into this sick world knowing what goes on here
@genXer2024
I fully support that. I would much rather see women just not be with men at all. It makes no sense to me to give a guy a kid and then tell him that you don't trust him with his own baby.
This simply reinforces the culture of fathers being second-class parents, and mothers having to be there to monitor him and the kids at all time.
@@VixxKong2read the comments under this video.....
Some of the comments from women repeating what they have heard from men is indeed concerning....there are a lot of men who do not deserve to be fathers...
Ion blame her!!!
Wow as a daddies girl, this blew my mind. I vividly remember being 5,6 and my dad bathing and changing me, the same way my mother would wash and change me. Idk not having the father change the children is wild.
My dad changed and bathed me. I'm lucky he was not at all like my grandfather, who molested me at age 6. I remember my dad specifically keeping me away from his private area while roughhousing because it's not appropriate. When I climbed up to sit on his lap and bumped his private, he yelled, "Watch out for the family jewels!", and scooted me to the side or moved me off. He also told me at one point that I was too big to be sitting on his lap, and I thought he meant heavy, but later understood it just wasn't appropriate cause I was oblivious and not considerate enough to avoid the area.
My ex was not like my dad. He took like 20 minutes changing the baby's diapers. I stopped him after the second time. He, also, did no such redirection, and acted like his reflexes were bad, until the baby proved him wrong nearly spraying him with a water hose in the yard. We left him.
You're lucky most males are creeps and predators
Sorry but that story makes your dad seems sus as well, it should NOT be that difficult to keep you away from his privates to the point where he has to go out of his way to do so @@JezeBellaMorte333
@@alyssarivera2166 men are the main culprits of Grape… what’s wild about not leaving him to act on what stats heavily portray
Yeah if you have had a good dad and other good men in your life you should be very mindful on these kind of channels because it's kind of in sane the picture of men they draw here. I showed this to my wife and she was baffled aswell... I did and do everything for my children, and i do it with joy and pride. I could never harm them.
I trust no man with my daughter who didn't take care of me as a child. It doesn't matter how much I trust him, I won't trust him with my daughter. I trusted my daughter's father to change her diaper, but after a certain age he was no longer allowed to assist her in the bathroom or wash her. I don't care how many children he took care of. I don't care how much i trust him. It's not about thinking that specific man would do anything. I could believe in my soul that he never would. I will not trust him. These people act like women know beforehand and trust him anyway. The fear is that the man was trusted and then he did it. Nope.
And if i had seen the documentary about men r*ping babies and sending content online, i wouldn't have trustes him to change her diaper either.
These people saying don't have babies with them are going to be the ones saying, "I trusted him. I never thought he would do that." Yeah, that's the f'n point.
Look that mother is clearly traumatized and I am sorry for her. What I find weird is this guy is _offended_ when in reality is most men would be happy they don't have another task to do
This is interesting. I get it, but you definitely shouldn't have children then. These creatures are so dangerous that women think they are dangerous around their own daughters. It's time to go 4B for life. There is no point in having children just for you to be a single mother.
I can’t even be mad at her
The first guy arguing isn’t mad because he desperately wants to change a diaper. He’s mad that his child’s mother is insinuating that he would harm his daughter in a sick way, even calling her disgusting for it. I don’t think that guy is a monster for getting upset at an accusation that would result in him being distanced from his child because he is not a safe person for her. I know a lot of these mothers arguments come from projection of their past experiences and fears, but it WILL harm the family dynamic longer term if it isn’t dealt with in some way.
If a man is actually unsafe, the mother shouldn’t be with him, period. Work on it or leave.
I don't even understand why he would argue with her. It almost seems like he's desperate to change the diaper. which would lead me to feel the same way she does. You should just accept it for the sake of not arguing. just leave it alone. eventually she'll probably change her mind anyway, when she's overwhelmed with being a mother. Sometimes you just have to go along with your spouse, just say for the sake of peace. if it's that big of a deal to her, obviously something happened to her. It's one less thing he has to do. he should just leave it alone. why would he argue with her. that's just crazy. It's obvious why she feels this way. Hopefully one day she'll get over it.
Phew... That door scene did a number on me😱🫣 My childhood home didn't have a door that wasn't broken somehow. I have had different "The shining" moments where my brothers or my dad were so inraged, we had to close ourselves off behind a door. They try to laugh it off today, but they were threatening murder back then, breaking the door down with tools or brute force. Sadly the men of my family believe they r above therapy 🤦🏼♀️
What about bathing the daughters ?
HELL NO.
Never in a million years
No. I really think it's better safe than sorry. He could feed her, play with her...but you never know. "Nice" men SA little girls too. sometimes the biggest monsters seem the most altruistic.
@@laurawestenra which is why they all get the same treatment. Uh uh. You ain’t doin that.
Never
Father's can be predators as well.
A woman who can't trust her husband to change her baby girl's diapers has trust issues with her husband. This could be as a result of maybe sexual trauma experienced in a past relationship or an issue that is still going on in her current relationship with her spouse that is scaring her.
The second reason could be that her baby girl is not biologically her husband's daughter and she knew it and didn't want him to find out in any way possible so she doesn't want him to change her diapers.
In many ways this kind of behavior cannot come into someone's mind from the blues something must have triggered it before it will become a mindset.
This man I knew would NOT change his daughters diaper. I remember he asked me to do it, I did not know her and thought it was weird to ask me. So I said no. He got in the car, took his daughter to his aunts house to get changed, and returned with his daughter smh.
Yeah if the mom would have taught the father how to change his own kid he might not be such a lo ser... Letting your kid sit in it's own filt because you can't solve the problem and make her happy and comfy is nothing to be proud off in my opinion.
@yoachim91 why does a mom need to teach a dad how to change a diaper? That's weaponized incompetence. Women are not born with diaper changing skills. But anywhoo, he asked other people to do it because he didn't feel comfortable changing his own daughter. I did not know his daughter, it was my first time meeting her. I'm looking at this man like "if u dont feel comfortable changing your child, why should I be comfortable doing it"
@@AuntieThree Women are taught how to change diapers men are not, how would we learn if we are kept away from kids? We never get to babysit or something. Me as a man i learned how to change diapers from a nurse in the hospital the moment i got my first kid, if she did not explain to me how, i would have had to ask my wife , i never even seen a diaper up close before that.
Little girls literally change diapers on dolls while boys probably never even come close to dolls if they don't have sisters.
So if a man teaches you something you are weaponizing your incompetence? You live and you learn is what i always say.
The man asking you to do it, or doing it bad on purpose to the detriment of the child, that is weaponized incompetence, not if he would ask how you do it... That's showing interest in solving the issue. Yeah he is exactly what you get if you follow this video and don't teach your man how to care for his kid because eventually he has to do it and then he is just going to bother other women and then you can make another video about men not being good fathers and on and on we go.
Maybe he knew how, some old school mindset fathers just refuse to change their daughters for their own respectful reasons TO their daughter. I'm sure auntie didn't like far. 20 minutes is okay. If he wants to go the extra mile to respect his daughter or his peace whatever it is. Let him. Or if he didn't feel comfortable doing so it's for a reason .
@yoachim91 men brag about changing radiators, light bulbs, and brakes. Dont let them act like they dont know how to use a tab with a sticker on it. Also it's not respectful to ask a stranger to change your child??? Is that the new normal? Ladies are you so serious rn??
Men need to get they shit together if it's so dangerous for a father to change his daughters diaper
I'd never have a child with someone I don't trust 100%
Most women don’t know until is too late.
I don't think it's about the partner.
I think it's about the woman.
she's clearly had trauma in her life that makes her distrust men of any kind .
Thank you
As she should she's just being smart because NO male is trustworthy around the vulnerable.
I understand the what their saying, but why do men think its a small percentage of men that are bad, or that that "small percentage" don't know how to hide their intentions.
Women can be abusers too and its harder to find the signs. I was abused by a woman. If you don't feel comfortable dont do it because you might feel that way for a reason. Unfortunately there are so many opportunities other than that for a predator of any background to take advantage of any child.
100 percent dont get with someone with red flags whether its to yourself or your child. Abuse starts in the mind and there is a mind frame that allows it. Trust your instincts.
Children need to feel safe to report and must be taken seriously. They must feel respected and confident to listen to what their instincts are. They feel uncomfortable around someone, doesn't matter the others feelings because they come first.
My mom worked late when I was diaper baby age, so my dad and big bro had to change me? I wasn't m-worded or SA'd by either of them? This just weird, but my heart goes out to women/girls that were harmed.
You're one of the few rare lucky ones. Cherish it. Also some males won't SA but will still have thoughts and jerk off afterwards
My sister was s/a by a group of boys and her grandfather's best friend - even my sisters grandfather came onto her
It's not weird, your case is rare, most males would take advantage of that
Your dad had a good mother
@@Hey_puppets Yeah my grandma is truly the best.
My ex didnt change my daughters diapers or give her a bath. it made me side eye tf out of him, weird af
Side eye when he doesn't do it and side eye when he does it. Not to defend the XYs but they literally can't win in that parenting situation.
@@VixxKong2 We can't win in pretty much any situation with these types of women they just hate us. Nobody ever asks what the man is comfortable with... Some men don't like changing kids because they are fragile and most men don't have previous experience with kids in any way. Other men don't want to miss a thing in raising their child and want to bond every chance they get including changing diapers, bathing.... Could be 101 reasons why he want''s too do it or not.
I don’t approve of a man changing a baby girls diaper either, and it wouldn’t have to be with trust but more with female parts should be private from the eyes of men. A lot of men don’t feel comfortable doing it either because knowing it isn’t proper. The same father’s that say it’s ok to change their daughter’s diapers are the same men saying that they don’t want a step-dad changing their daughter’s diaper know that men can’t be trusted.
Exactly what it is. She shouldn't be seen that way by ANY man. You hit the nail perfectly on the head. It's about protecting more than their physical which people don't get.
I feel her because there so many men out there are seriously raping children and some there own kids it gross that it can to be like this because u have to watch these pervert men . And sad part they make it bad for the good ones
i wouldn't allow the father to do it. it's better to be safe than sorry. i'm protective even with my son. it's not just the girls we need to protect but the boys too. men are unpredictable. and this decision you gotta make when becoming a mother. this is the reason why you shouldn't have a baby because of a man. if you have a baby for pure intentions then these safety tips shouldn't be an issue....i don't understand the women who are questioning our logic. what's us being with their fathers gotta do with children's safety? this mentality is emeshment. separate being a wife/gf to your partner from being a mother to your child. don't endanger your child by being a pick me. the child should be first. men be the first to detach once the relationship is over between you, including leaving the kids.
What if the whole time they should be protected from you? Sometimes it's the women abusing, not the men. Men shouldn't change daughters, then why should women change sons? It's weird that men want are fighting to change diapers, yet you're fighting to change diapers. There's no logic in what ya'll are saying that's why everyone is not understanding.
Exactly. It's the difference between why some children unfortunately get sa'd and some don't. This weird trust these women HAVE to have for their men. Failing the kids..
Really ? You can't understand it ? We are watching fully grown men mistreat, use, abuse, take for granted and mishandled woman, but you want to say that it's unfair to keep them away from the little girls that got up into these woman ?
I am very much a #notallmen kind of woman, but first you need to prove to me you aren't one of those men.
Are we seriously going to let theen we wouldn't want for ourselves sisters or our best friends, changing our daughters, God daughters, cousins and nieces ? I 👏 don't 👏 think 👏 so 👏.
Context. I was a toddler survivor of csa. No second chances.
Women still need to learn a lot about men. They live in a delusion
Facts I don't trust men like that
I'm ok with it. I would hope that I have a good gauge of character to have a child with him. She's going to wish that she hadn't because there will be a time when she'll need him and he won't be there. If she has trauma, then she needs to get help with that. If she has a boy, does that mean she can not change a boy lately? A lot of women have been in court for fondling little boys.
Wtf?!! You cannot prove a dude not guilty or "vet". This is so ignorant and woman blaming. There is never a way to prove who is or isn't a pedophile. All men are to varying degrees, anyway.
Anyone that says "then why would you have a kid with him/why would you be with him?" Ok by this logic you should let your (male and female) friends change your kids diapers.
Why would you be friends with people you wouldnt trust to change kids diapers? But something tells me yall wouldnt do let all of your friends have access to your child.
And before someone says its different, its really not. A friendship is a choice just like a relationship. If you think denying the father the option to change his daughters diaper implies hes a pedo then it works the same for friends. You're implying your friends are pedos if you deny them too. 🤷♀️
I would say “of you don’t feel comfortable with him changing her diaper why marry him” if there hadn’t been so many stories of supposed loving father SAing their own daughters.
So I understand loving your partner, but understanding that, with men, there’s always a chance and you can never be too careful.
This is one of the main reasons women should be seen as WOMEN and not as objects- We were all little girls at one time.
To each it's own
She is very ridiculous, if you have to be concerned about him a) why did you have a kid with him or b) still allow him access if he changed? As a parent youre supposed to share the workload, sometimes its dads turn to take care of the kid, including changing diapers. What if you split up and its his time with the daughter? My parents split when I was 3 and my father had to do every parental duty the 50% of the time we were with him. If we want fathers to stop behaving like second class parents we need to stop treating them that way. Of course its a bit of a chicken and egg situation but still.
it could be they have repressed childhood trauma. often after having kids - that suddenly comes back after years of ignoring it.
I agree. We can't just blame them for not helping, but then also not trust them with doing anything.
You sound naive. Very naive.
I have two daughters and I have never felt uncomfortable with their dad changing their diapers. I was only concerned when they did #2 because I was making sure he cleaned all areas when there was a bad blowout. If he can’t change their diapers why you even making him a father? Granted I have never had any inappropriate attention from a male but I know I picked a damn good father to my girls. What about the men that have full custody of their daughter wtf are they supposed to do?
I wouldn't insist on it either. They can be heavy handed or silly. Men should not have to charge baby.
Im a woman and i dont wana change a baby diaper. So if a man is making a big deal to change a childs diaper i would immediately think hes a pdf and likes cupcakes.
Exactly. All these men advocating to change daughter’s diapers do not sit right in my spirit….