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Recovery is so weird. Today you walk into Walmart no problem. Tomorrow you have bad symptoms again. Next week you are just fine. After that you fell like in horror movie again. But it doesn't matter anymore. Because you go on and live your life regardless
When my symptoms are high I just lose interest in things I use to do, should continue doing them if I lose interest or I should stop till my symptoms are low ?
I used to love getting a massage. Then I panicked once during a massage. So for the longest time I wouldn’t go- starting on this journey of accepting symptoms, I went and got my first massage in over 3yrs- it was hard at first, won’t lie. But as I laid there accepting and accepting more and more- I realized by the end I was much less anxious and realized I can do this again. Have another booked next month! Thank you for your message, you are truly helping others in an indescribable way 🥰
Thank you shaan! Everything I've learned from you I have applied and it has 100 percent been the most effective and successful way to navigate the recovery journey. I am truly thankful for you!
Do have to thank you figured out why it's not straight thoughts, I was Never Alowed to have express mind!!!! I'm 58 & still not allowed by my parents to respond to a question or feelings. My first panic attack was in 1995, thought I was dieing!!! I also had a seizure because I wanted off medication, I'm now off by a Dr choice Not mine. Everything in my brain is muched, this is the best 1 thought in weeks😅. I'm terrified and totally alone, I keep trying everything & still wave after wave but I keep trying
Doesn’t really matter what you say. Just become aware that the feeling is present. Acknowledge the symptom with respect, and then choose to not think about it, dwell on it, engage with it, etc. Remain calm as the symptoms surface, let it be as uncomfortable as it may be, don’t try to change it or get rid of it, or condemn it. Just acknowledge its presence and move on.
@@NandoMusicOfficialHi! What will I do if my mind is killing me? How to stop intrusive thoughts? Last night my episode was so hard. I felt like im gonna die even though Im telling myself that im okay that what’s happening to me that time is normal. But now I feel the same. Im tired and anxious and i dont know what to do. I feel like I lost hope 😢😢😢
The fight or flight symptoms and thoughts are just questions from your brain which is concerned about your safety - am I safe? and if u answer no im not im going to die well...great video as always. and for everyone still in the process keep it up! but well this doesnt mean that sometimes u need to make lifestyle adjustments. if ur in a job or relationship which doesnt suits u and u have the option to leave, leave etc. Its both the reaction and safety and looking at ur life- what turned the first panicattack on? fear never comes without a reason.
I had drop my kids of at school in 1995, there wasn't any fear it just hit me!! Strangely I was sitting in military traffic stop sign. Started sweating wanted to puck, headache and shaking, then opened my eyes traffic was gone but I didn't know what happened not much time past, was completely weird. Got home to the 4yr old, and land on the couch scared of sound, waves over and over!
I’m able to control my anxiety Now I think I have psychosis. I just learnt that thinking or feeling nothing is real and stuffs like that is actually psychosis. Idk if I’m really psychosis Cuz I don’t worry about the thoughts. I keep living my life I just don’t understand
Good Day Sir! Yesterday was my worst panic attack. Then i woke up in the middle of the night so anxiously that I wanted to get out of this situation and I dont know what to do. Right now I feel the same thing, but my mind is bullying me si hard. I cant even do anything. Im so anxious Im so stress im so dizzy and nauseous. How to fight this? I did my very best to stay calm when my episodes are here but my mind is killing me 😢😢😢
Accept your symptoms, let it take over your body and accept that it's just my sensitive nerves that's trying to alert me because once you react in panic to these symptoms, your nerves get the signal that this is how they're supposed to react to save you. Once you start accepting the symptoms, your nerves get the signal that "Oh, you're not reacting buddy? That means it is normal for you and you're not in danger. Okay then! I won't alert you anymore". And if we try to ignore the symptoms, our conscious mind is ignoring the symptoms, but somewhere our subconscious mind knows that the symptoms are scary and that's why we are trying to ignore the symptoms, and in this way our nervous system gets even more sensitive. This is why, ACCEPT the symptoms to desensitise your nervous system.
Ignore: I don’t want to feel this so I’m going to distract myself. If I feel or think of these things it’s bad and I need to keep doing things to make it go away. Vs Acceptance: I can do whatever I want even with these symptoms. I’m just going to live my life even if symptoms are here. I no longer care if they come because they can’t hurt me.
I'm trying to overcome my anxiety attacks by this exact method. But one thing which I just cannot overcome is my frequent saliva swallowing, if I don't swallow in a few seconds, it gives chocking sensations which leaves me breathless. Please can anyone help me find the solution?
@@asthapatidar6347 When you say anxiety attacks are you referring to panic attacks? Is the saliva swallowing choking feeling sensation occuring during panic attacks or just when you are feeling generally anxious?
@@stjertplug in general. Like 24/7 I feel that way. If I don't swallow within a gap of a few seconds, I feel as if I'm choking. Every symptom of mine is almost gone except for this frequent saliva swallowing chocking sensation
@@stjertplug if I try to endure the frequent swallowing, I feel breathless and I feel as if the saliva is entering my wind pipe instead of the food pipe. I just wanna get rid of it now
@@asthapatidar6347 I’m assuming that this is something you have ruled out as non-issue with a doctor? If that is the case I can still understand why this particular symptom would be hard to face and accept in the moment, my suggestion would unfortunately be to (with another person or even at a hospital waiting room if it feels that serious) let the choking sensation happen while reassuring yourself mentally something like ”I am experiencing anxiety, I am safe” and then trying to really go deep mentally INTO the sensation, requesting it to get even WORSE, if you manage to get through the sensation without doing your safety behavior (swallowing) you will see that it cant hurt you, I believe that is very important considering anxiety is about fear.
Well, try to realise that people think just like you do. Out of defensiveness, I always said ‘hi’ in a happy way and just walked by past people. That is why most people were not interested in me. When I showed interest, aka ‘hi’ and then following with ‘how are you doing?’ ‘What keeps you busy?’ They suddenly talked a lot more and asked me loads of questions. This made me realise something. Show interest to an extravert, and they will be interested in you. They love talking about themselves. And they try to ask you questions to comfort you into talking with them. It’s almost like a trade. And eventually you will feel comfortable and the relationship grows. As deep as you want it to be! You’re allowed to be yourself. If someone acts like you’re not good the way you are, don’t doubt yourself. It could be that the other person is the one who needs work. Extraverts are really not that hard to understand. And then there are introverts. They get anxious when they see someone who is anxious. They try to avoid the situation. But the key to conversation really is staying despite the uncomfortability. ‘What is wrong with being afraid during a conversation with a new person?’ Being scary is normal. Loads of people are like that. And it is okay if it shows. It’s perfect if the other person sees it! Some people will avoid you instantly; that means they are insecure about being anxious. Others will understand and try to help you by asking questions and keeping your mind off the panic.
I have read the book dare, read the book from claire weeks. Been watching probably 100 of your videos by now. And i have been allowing and surrendering to the point where I think if i die i die type of way. And nothing even changes my main symptom is shortness of breath and it’s fcking destroying me for over 3 years now. It’s that bad that death would be an relief. Can’t believe i’m saying this. Im tired man so tired
You've had that symptom for over 3 years and still here today. Remind yourself that every day. Every time any negative thought comes up just label it as anxiety, accept the thought wbd symptom is there, and refocus what you are doing. Initial fear is fine, just don't dwell on it otherwise your body will never stop.
I had constant shortness of breath too. I still have it occasionally but my symptoms shifted. Did u do a medical check? If they didn’t find anything then there’s nothing wrong. That’s step number 1 for your brain. And then u gonna do what’s Shawn is preaching. Your symptoms change last, your mindset leads.
@@tobik2627 your”re right but i feel like i do all those things tho and no change . How long did it take you and what did it make really click for you?
Surrendering to the anxiety, and not responding by reacting out of fear, denial and resistance. Letting the symptoms be and allowing it to be there, overtime teaches your mind and body "this is safe", because over time it sees oh, we didn't need to react or fight against it, so it must be ok.
My problem is heart palpitations, and they literally scare the shit of me.What i learnt, was that its not the palpitations per se my problem, it was the thought of that being a problem,like somehow i associated the action of my heart beating faster with the FACT that i was in trouble. Once i got checked, my heart is fine, só its not a FACT its just a story my brain created to protect itself. And when i understood this i treat the palpitations like that drunk friend we all had😂 its annoying, and unconfortable but you gotta drag him along,with time he will get só drunk that wont be a problem.
Bro, just say how to respond. Stop telling us to just respond correctly. Wtf is the response, u never say this in ur videos, u always say if u know how to respond. Tell us wtf the response is. I know wat the response is, which is basically not to react in fear, but y do u always fail to mention this, just tell us the response. JESUS CHRIST, bro!
Well. I see your point. But here is my answer that really helped me, if you are anexious your nervous system is sensitive, it doesnt matter what u do, you will feel fear. If u starr at something you will feel fear and it is not real. So knowing that fact that no matter what u do you will feel fear because your nervous system is sensitive should make you not fear your fear happening because of your neevous system. Right ? If you dont fear that fear you will start desensitizing and your brain will loose interest in whatever fear cause your symptomes. Right ? Dont fear the fear caused by anexiety. That is why it is a cycle lol
I discuss the response in a video, and people say I repeat myself in every video. I mention response and go into deeper topics, and I get messages like these ^. Literally no winning here lol
@@byebyepanic people need quick fix some magic method, but responding correctly is the only way, it means just feel what has to be feel andbtry not to get bother with it! simply accept and carry on with your business !
Change your habits. Don't fear it, don't fight it, acknowledgment it and let it be. Over time these habits will make you better but it's not a quick fix. It will take time.
Do have to thank you figured out why it's not straight thoughts, I was Never Alowed to have express mind!!!! I'm 58 & still not allowed by my parents to respond to a question or feelings. My first panic attack was in 1995, thought I was dieing!!! I also had a seizure because I wanted off medication, I'm now off by a Dr choice Not mine. Everything in my brain is muched, this is the best 1 thought in weeks😅. I'm terrified and totally alone, I keep trying everything & still wave after wave but I keep trying
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What were your unproductive habits?
And how did you respond to it?- in the moment ??
Have been going through this 5 months off work now I'm stuck
Recovery is so weird. Today you walk into Walmart no problem. Tomorrow you have bad symptoms again. Next week you are just fine. After that you fell like in horror movie again. But it doesn't matter anymore. Because you go on and live your life regardless
Yup. It’s why we don’t want to monitor progress based on symptoms
When my symptoms are high I just lose interest in things I use to do, should continue doing them if I lose interest or I should stop till my symptoms are low ?
@@JoyClient definitely continue
@@JoyClient I'd say continue mate, eventually the brain will understand there is no danger.. if you avoid it, the opposite happens.
@@byebyepanicthen how to monitor progress
Mate! You are amazing. Your content has been life changing. 🙏❤️
I appreciate that!
I used to love getting a massage. Then I panicked once during a massage. So for the longest time I wouldn’t go- starting on this journey of accepting symptoms, I went and got my first massage in over 3yrs- it was hard at first, won’t lie. But as I laid there accepting and accepting more and more- I realized by the end I was much less anxious and realized I can do this again. Have another booked next month! Thank you for your message, you are truly helping others in an indescribable way 🥰
I tell myself I’m healing
Self I love myself I trust my self and I will be better etc while o get massages
Same here omg got up in left 😩
Thank you shaan! Everything I've learned from you I have applied and it has 100 percent been the most effective and successful way to navigate the recovery journey. I am truly thankful for you!
Any form of exercise is recommended for everyone--adding it to part of their recovery is a plus
Totally makes sense, thanks!
As they say with all behaviour, you get more of what you reinforce.
Thanks Shaan. Your vedios have been extremely helpful throughout my recovery journey.
Do have to thank you figured out why it's not straight thoughts, I was Never Alowed to have express mind!!!! I'm 58 & still not allowed by my parents to respond to a question or feelings. My first panic attack was in 1995, thought I was dieing!!! I also had a seizure because I wanted off medication, I'm now off by a Dr choice Not mine. Everything in my brain is muched, this is the best 1 thought in weeks😅. I'm terrified and totally alone, I keep trying everything & still wave after wave but I keep trying
Great video, as always. Thank you shaan!! you are appreciated
How exactly should we respond? What words or phrases to use?
Doesn’t really matter what you say. Just become aware that the feeling is present.
Acknowledge the symptom with respect, and then choose to not think about it, dwell on it, engage with it, etc.
Remain calm as the symptoms surface, let it be as uncomfortable as it may be, don’t try to change it or get rid of it, or condemn it. Just acknowledge its presence and move on.
@@NandoMusicOfficialHi! What will I do if my mind is killing me? How to stop intrusive thoughts? Last night my episode was so hard. I felt like im gonna die even though Im telling myself that im okay that what’s happening to me that time is normal. But now I feel the same. Im tired and anxious and i dont know what to do. I feel like I lost hope 😢😢😢
Good vid Shaan, feel like you are getting better with content you bring up :)
Btw, not responding means this: relax your body (fully), and allow the symptomes to be there. Thats it
Thank you!
Yes, that is the only thing he needed to say but never quite got round to saying.
I’m glad I wasn’t the only one. I was hoping he would say what we should do…
Thanks!@@mikejohn2307
Heavy heart sadness not interested in anything does this happen in panic anxiety ?
@JoyJoy-pj4jf anxiety causes so many symptoms, so yeah it's possible.
The fight or flight symptoms and thoughts are just questions from your brain which is concerned about your safety - am I safe? and if u answer no im not im going to die well...great video as always. and for everyone still in the process keep it up! but well this doesnt mean that sometimes u need to make lifestyle adjustments. if ur in a job or relationship which doesnt suits u and u have the option to leave, leave etc. Its both the reaction and safety and looking at ur life- what turned the first panicattack on? fear never comes without a reason.
I had drop my kids of at school in 1995, there wasn't any fear it just hit me!! Strangely I was sitting in military traffic stop sign. Started sweating wanted to puck, headache and shaking, then opened my eyes traffic was gone but I didn't know what happened not much time past, was completely weird. Got home to the 4yr old, and land on the couch scared of sound, waves over and over!
Maybe I missed it, but you didn't say HOW to respond. This was frustrating for a lot of people I'm sure.
What he means about how you respond to the symptoms? Like telling yourself something or just think about something else .?
I’m able to control my anxiety
Now I think I have psychosis. I just learnt that thinking or feeling nothing is real and stuffs like that is actually psychosis. Idk if I’m really psychosis
Cuz I don’t worry about the thoughts. I keep living my life I just don’t understand
Good Day Sir! Yesterday was my worst panic attack. Then i woke up in the middle of the night so anxiously that I wanted to get out of this situation and I dont know what to do. Right now I feel the same thing, but my mind is bullying me si hard. I cant even do anything. Im so anxious Im so stress im so dizzy and nauseous. How to fight this? I did my very best to stay calm when my episodes are here but my mind is killing me 😢😢😢
Shaan can you explain the difference between accepting and ignoring
Great question.
Accept your symptoms, let it take over your body and accept that it's just my sensitive nerves that's trying to alert me because once you react in panic to these symptoms, your nerves get the signal that this is how they're supposed to react to save you. Once you start accepting the symptoms, your nerves get the signal that "Oh, you're not reacting buddy? That means it is normal for you and you're not in danger. Okay then! I won't alert you anymore".
And if we try to ignore the symptoms, our conscious mind is ignoring the symptoms, but somewhere our subconscious mind knows that the symptoms are scary and that's why we are trying to ignore the symptoms, and in this way our nervous system gets even more sensitive.
This is why, ACCEPT the symptoms to desensitise your nervous system.
Ignore: I don’t want to feel this so I’m going to distract myself.
If I feel or think of these things it’s bad and I need to keep doing things to make it go away. Vs
Acceptance: I can do whatever I want even with these symptoms. I’m just going to live my life even if symptoms are here. I no longer care if they come because they can’t hurt me.
Can you give more real life examples when talking about these topics please?
Definitely!
@@byebyepanic Thank you!
I'm trying to overcome my anxiety attacks by this exact method. But one thing which I just cannot overcome is my frequent saliva swallowing, if I don't swallow in a few seconds, it gives chocking sensations which leaves me breathless. Please can anyone help me find the solution?
@@asthapatidar6347 When you say anxiety attacks are you referring to panic attacks? Is the saliva swallowing choking feeling sensation occuring during panic attacks or just when you are feeling generally anxious?
@@stjertplug in general. Like 24/7 I feel that way. If I don't swallow within a gap of a few seconds, I feel as if I'm choking. Every symptom of mine is almost gone except for this frequent saliva swallowing chocking sensation
@@asthapatidar6347 What happens if you were to endure the choking sensation?
@@stjertplug if I try to endure the frequent swallowing, I feel breathless and I feel as if the saliva is entering my wind pipe instead of the food pipe. I just wanna get rid of it now
@@asthapatidar6347 I’m assuming that this is something you have ruled out as non-issue with a doctor? If that is the case I can still understand why this particular symptom would be hard to face and accept in the moment, my suggestion would unfortunately be to (with another person or even at a hospital waiting room if it feels that serious) let the choking sensation happen while reassuring yourself mentally something like ”I am experiencing anxiety, I am safe” and then trying to really go deep mentally INTO the sensation, requesting it to get even WORSE, if you manage to get through the sensation without doing your safety behavior (swallowing) you will see that it cant hurt you, I believe that is very important considering anxiety is about fear.
my brain keeps generating intrusive thoughts
Exactly my case. I am afraid of breathing too
But if you are have lonlienessfeelings, triggers /trauma how to deal with that
Well, try to realise that people think just like you do. Out of defensiveness, I always said ‘hi’ in a happy way and just walked by past people. That is why most people were not interested in me.
When I showed interest, aka ‘hi’ and then following with ‘how are you doing?’ ‘What keeps you busy?’ They suddenly talked a lot more and asked me loads of questions. This made me realise something.
Show interest to an extravert, and they will be interested in you. They love talking about themselves. And they try to ask you questions to comfort you into talking with them. It’s almost like a trade. And eventually you will feel comfortable and the relationship grows. As deep as you want it to be!
You’re allowed to be yourself. If someone acts like you’re not good the way you are, don’t doubt yourself. It could be that the other person is the one who needs work.
Extraverts are really not that hard to understand.
And then there are introverts. They get anxious when they see someone who is anxious. They try to avoid the situation. But the key to conversation really is staying despite the uncomfortability. ‘What is wrong with being afraid during a conversation with a new person?’ Being scary is normal. Loads of people are like that. And it is okay if it shows. It’s perfect if the other person sees it!
Some people will avoid you instantly; that means they are insecure about being anxious.
Others will understand and try to help you by asking questions and keeping your mind off the panic.
Does it really work? When u have no money to do all those stuff u said, how?
But being anxious about it also doesn’t solve your problem right.
I have read the book dare, read the book from claire weeks. Been watching probably 100 of your videos by now. And i have been allowing and surrendering to the point where I think if i die i die type of way. And nothing even changes my main symptom is shortness of breath and it’s fcking destroying me for over 3 years now. It’s that bad that death would be an relief. Can’t believe i’m saying this. Im tired man so tired
Sending love your way I completely understand hopefully we will get there one day
@@gillianhedley5528 thank you for your support. Do you also have shortness of breath 24/7? And if so for how long? All the best🙏🏻
You've had that symptom for over 3 years and still here today. Remind yourself that every day. Every time any negative thought comes up just label it as anxiety, accept the thought wbd symptom is there, and refocus what you are doing. Initial fear is fine, just don't dwell on it otherwise your body will never stop.
I had constant shortness of breath too. I still have it occasionally but my symptoms shifted. Did u do a medical check? If they didn’t find anything then there’s nothing wrong. That’s step number 1 for your brain. And then u gonna do what’s Shawn is preaching. Your symptoms change last, your mindset leads.
@@tobik2627 your”re right but i feel like i do all those things tho and no change . How long did it take you and what did it make really click for you?
Perfect solution to a broken leg... Just don't limp. LMAO
Lol they are two different things broken leg is a physical thing anxiety is not a physical thing
Nothing helps me
What are you doing?
Rhianna and Eminem Monsters Song
I’m sorry what was the point? You never said…….? Not very helpful
Surrendering to the anxiety, and not responding by reacting out of fear, denial and resistance. Letting the symptoms be and allowing it to be there, overtime teaches your mind and body "this is safe", because over time it sees oh, we didn't need to react or fight against it, so it must be ok.
By responding correctly, the nervous system learns to calm down
How do you do this when they’re all day or affect function and eyes?
My problem is heart palpitations, and they literally scare the shit of me.What i learnt, was that its not the palpitations per se my problem, it was the thought of that being a problem,like somehow i associated the action of my heart beating faster with the FACT that i was in trouble. Once i got checked, my heart is fine, só its not a FACT its just a story my brain created to protect itself.
And when i understood this i treat the palpitations like that drunk friend we all had😂 its annoying, and unconfortable but you gotta drag him along,with time he will get só drunk that wont be a problem.
@@COLOFIDUTIlmao nice analogy
Bro, just say how to respond. Stop telling us to just respond correctly. Wtf is the response, u never say this in ur videos, u always say if u know how to respond. Tell us wtf the response is. I know wat the response is, which is basically not to react in fear, but y do u always fail to mention this, just tell us the response. JESUS CHRIST, bro!
Well. I see your point. But here is my answer that really helped me, if you are anexious your nervous system is sensitive, it doesnt matter what u do, you will feel fear. If u starr at something you will feel fear and it is not real. So knowing that fact that no matter what u do you will feel fear because your nervous system is sensitive should make you not fear your fear happening because of your neevous system. Right ? If you dont fear that fear you will start desensitizing and your brain will loose interest in whatever fear cause your symptomes. Right ? Dont fear the fear caused by anexiety. That is why it is a cycle lol
I discuss the response in a video, and people say I repeat myself in every video. I mention response and go into deeper topics, and I get messages like these ^. Literally no winning here lol
@@byebyepanic people need quick fix some magic method, but responding correctly is the only way, it means just feel what has to be feel andbtry not to get bother with it!
simply accept and carry on with your business !
Download the free anxiety book he has. It tells you how to respond it's so simple
I think some people don't know about response right?
Useless
Don’t understand????
Change your habits. Don't fear it, don't fight it, acknowledgment it and let it be. Over time these habits will make you better but it's not a quick fix. It will take time.
If you are suffering from anxiety I recommend you videos of Dennis simsek on RUclips. His channel name is the anxiety guy
Do have to thank you figured out why it's not straight thoughts, I was Never Alowed to have express mind!!!! I'm 58 & still not allowed by my parents to respond to a question or feelings. My first panic attack was in 1995, thought I was dieing!!! I also had a seizure because I wanted off medication, I'm now off by a Dr choice Not mine. Everything in my brain is muched, this is the best 1 thought in weeks😅. I'm terrified and totally alone, I keep trying everything & still wave after wave but I keep trying