Am I the only one who enjoys and benefits from the comment section of an HLP video, almost as much as the video itself? Love this group of thoughtful, intelligent viewers💚👏👏👏
I don't even keep a wishlist anymore. I take a screen shot and think "I'll look back into my photos later when I want to seriously consider this purchase." The moral of the story is, I never do go back and look for whatever it was! Periodically I will scan through the photos on my phone and think wtf was I thinking??? Ahahahaha! The very act of screen shoting makes me feel a ping of satisfaction. like adding to cart!
You’re like an investigative reporter for shopping habits, and I love how you gather your emotional data to share with us. You are adorable and geeky in the best way. It’s a unique strategy of self care that I really connect to.
Omg yes!! It's like you can't put it into words You know how somebody tells you you don't need that put that back in a very kind of judgy and condescending way? Hannah does not do that she's like these are my detailed thoughts I took the time to go through each one of my feelings even when they're uncomfortable I want to share them with you guys I want to discuss them with you guys and I want to talk about what I did and how I feel afterwards.... And it literally reminds me to slow down a little bit and see how I feel about this thing instead of rushing
😭 I love this comment. I operate this way about other areas of my life, and it was like reading a compliment about myself in a way that's never been said... and wow. 🤩 Thanks for taking the time to even type that. 🥰
Thanks to this video I closed out on a shopping cart I have been labouring over for days - a $24 bag I do not need became a $100 order of more things I do not need (to get free shipping). You're right, the relief of freeing myself from what I now see is the burden of shopping is just amazing. Please keep updating us on the automatic "no", I'm going to start myself, if only to stop myself wasting my life adding and removing things from shopping carts :).
It feels SO NICE to hear someone talk about how they want something SO MUCH and then to have the power to say "No, you do not need that" in the face of weakness. It is empowering to others.
I’ve been in a No Buy Year since August. The strategy I have been employing is to remind myself every time I want a new product desperately that thus far, no makeup or skincare product has changed my life the way that I thought it would. No product is actually all that innovative or new and what I have gets the job done just fine.
YES!! I have come to this realization myself. I went psycho buying a bunch of expensive eyeshadow palettes (Pat McGrath, Viseart Pro palette for $200), etc - because I kept telling myself THIS is the palette that will be a game changer and make me feel good about myself. In the end, I only used the palettes a couple of time and then went back to the ones I actually liked.
@@aliciaohara8794 omg I’ve absolutely thought that about so many palettes! The last time that thinking really hooked me was when Gucci released their first palette.
@@aliciaohara8794 I bought a Pat McGrath pallete in 2018. Decided to stop wearing eye shadow for 3 years. Started playing with new eyeshadow looks lately and really love the quality of that pallete. So it’s probably a solid purchase you can hold onto 🙂
Hannah, I used to hang all my sweaters to get clarity on what I own but in the end hanging them really stretched and misshaped all my beautiful knits. It’s a painful lesson. Better to fold them. Something to keep in mind when you organize your closet.
I find I can get away with hanging knits (if they’re not loosely woven or heavy) by using slightly wider black plastic hangers that come with grey rubber pads on the shoulders. It helps keeps the sweaters from sliding or developing dents. Also good for jackets, blazers and coats. I wouldn’t normally advise buying that much plastic, but I use them year round, they extend the life of my clothes and they’ve lasted well. Folding sweaters is great, but the creases can limit wearing right off the shelf, and I don’t like ironing anything but thin knits if I can help it as it smooshes the weave, to use a technical term, lol.
You can flip the arms of the sweater up over the shoulders on a good, grippy hanger, and it takes some strain off of the sholder seams. Heavier cotton and thinner wool knits will still probably stretch out over time but if they are worn a lot it doesn't cause a lot of issues for me.
Oh my… I do that too! When I want to put myself into debt buying wonderfully beautiful clothes I reorganize my closet. I have lost 70lbs since July so my collection of lovely pieces has been edited several times recently. Whenever I see things online that I must have or I’ll perish from wanting, I reorganize. It helps me remember that I have a beautiful wardrobe. I have wonderful fancy clothes, soft comfy casuals, and very smart business attire. Not to mention a luxurious robe and slippers and a robust collection of pajamas and lounge wear. Undergarments so dainty and sexy that any woman would would feel blessed. That’s how I remind myself that I do not want to spend. Edit to say that I am also wearing a very new and comfortable body. So my clothes are so much fun. Your videos always remind me to stay on this planet. Today is payday… I needed you more! ♥️
This is actually a really brilliant video for me to have watched. Thank you Hannah. I have actual big holes in my wardrobe. I know they exist and they genuinely make it hard for me to effectively use the clothes I have sometimes. What I’ve desperately needed to do for a while was to wash everything and go drawer by drawer and aggressively purge. Not to get rid of the stuff I love, but to expose the gaps so I can make a list of the stuff that actually does need replaced and start doing research on replacements so that I am making measured, budgeted, sensible monetary decisions. I am now inspired. Thank you Hannah.
@@sarahscott2114 I’m not sure if you’ve been working from home for a while or not but I’ve had that same confusion when I’ve dealt with new situations. What helps me is to think about what I am actually looking for. What purpose it will serve (that things I already have wouldn’t) and how can I maximize itsb usefulness to me. Really take your time and consider it in the context of the wardrobe you already have and the occasions you regularly feel that gap. I like to have a small wardrobe full of carefully curated pieces that are exactly what I want them to be, sometimes that means some of them are relatively expensive so I feel you there. Right now my issue is that I went through a significant life change over the past couple years and I worry that I will need the pieces in my wardrobe that now do not serve me. So they have stuck around and cluttered everything up.
I don't know if y'all will see this or not, but a shift in approach to this process that has REALLY helped me, is that instead of going through my wardrobe looking for pieces I don't wear/am ready to part with, I go through and pull out all of my absolute FAVORITE items that I wear regularly, and put those aside as "keeps," and everything else is up for getting chopped. I found it sooo helpful because it helped me move from "well I maybe I can be the person who wears this" to "I am a person who wears these." It was also really helpful because then I could see what I gravitated to naturally, and the things I wore consistently. That made it so much easier to make choices about what pieces to add in the future, because I knew 1) if it went with a bunch of those things it would be easy to incorporate, and 2) if I own and love something that fits in a similar way/makes me feel a similar way, I will most likely wear that item a lot too.
I’m doing a low buy this year and the “wishlist” is surprisingly effective for stopping impulse buys. So far, I’ve resisted buying expensive loafers, booties, a new parka and a cold brew coffeemaker. Giving myself a cooling off period works for me. It’s not a hard no, it’s an add it to the list and see if you’re still obsessing about it later.
I’m on my second year of doing a no buy. I have come to love thinking about what I actually need for months at a time. I’m so grateful to have binned off impulse purchasing ❤
Hi Hannah, I can totally relate to your love for knits. I am a knitter and always struggle with buying wool in sweater quantities (because I can buy faster than I can knit and NEED). But I have one tip for you regarding extending the longevity of your sweaters. Especially big knits like oversized sweaters can stretch out over time, when left hanging. The weight of the wool stretches out the stitches at the shoulder and neckline. You can use it for your advantage, if a sweater is too short, otherwise it's better to store them laying with a lavender sachet (moths 🦗). Greetings from Germany, Ingrid
Yes I was looking for this comment!! Especially since she’s looking at knits as long term additions to her wardrobe, it’s very important to store them correctly I am also struggling with the desire to buy way too much yarn. I can feasibly knit 1 sweater a month so I need to stop buying so much yarn dang it
I too was looking for this comment, as I know from shopping that any sweaters (but especially chunky heavy ones) stretch on hangers. And so I was puzzled by someone who said she’s buying sweaters for the longterm but abusing them by hanging them?!
And also, wool does need more frequent cleanings. I had a beautiful wool sweater when I was younger and I didn’t wash it before I put it away for the warmer seasons. When I pulled it out in the Fall the wool had basically rotted in the armpit areas. It was ruined.
You are both right actually. Wool doesn't need to be washed with every wear, especially if it wasn't worn next to skin, as it has self cleaning properties. However you must always wash wool before it is stored. Unwashed stored wool can suffer damage and attract pests. I hope this helps.
I am currently on a Wardrobe Freeze and the relief of not having to decide over what I should buy (and if it is actually sustainable) is so FREEING! I have so much more time than I used to. And I also feel really powerful saying NO. It's like a superpower, you have the power to decide what comes into your life.
As a fellow lover and owner of babaa's knits, I found that search for them on preloved or secondhand apps helps me 1) save money 2) not buying any if the one I am looking for is not listed. Love you and your content as always, I hope for more clothing / fashion videos this year!
@@lysrobinsdaughter6599 hi! I live in Europe and usually shop only within EU, I bought my babaa pieces both from Vinted and Vestiaire, sometimes at more than half off :)
@@mariemaier5630. Good point. Perhaps the best solution is to buy second hand when it comes to wool from animals. Synthetic knits shed micro plastics when washed. Cotton and hemp are always good alternatives.
for me, making aesthetic decisions while shopping is sometimes the closest I can get to having a creative outlet. It’s like creating art but someone else already did all the hard parts and you just put it together. Of course then the solution would be to find something that actually sustainably satisfies my need to exercise my creative muscles.
I get this feeling with thrifting and second hand shopping online, without the hit to my bank account. Plus I often rework the pieces to suit my dimensions and style preferences, which is creative practical work I also enjoy fwiw.
@@emmy8526 Totally! Pretty much all my clothes shopping now happens at thrift or vintage stores…to the point where I find regular stores too organized and visually boring. The thrill of discovering something unexpected and the challenge of making pieces work for you is half the fun 😄
Hannah, I'm so obsessed with and grateful for your videos like this. While I definitely have people in my life who appreciate aesthetics and clothing, I've still always felt somewhat alone in or ashamed of my overwhelming sensory desire from my mid/late-teens to now mid/late 20s for purchasing/wearing beautiful things, even if my style choices and necessities are largely simple and casual. You describe so delightfully well those conflicting internal desires for an "essentialist" lifestyle devoid of excess things and the ravenous appreciation for beautiful/quality accoutrements that I relate to perfectly.
This is why I really love Marie Kondo's philosophy and methods. It's presented as organizing strategies but it's also helped a lot with my shopaholic and hoarding tendencies. Some times, you really do need to just gather all your belongings in a big pile on your floor to help get it in your noggin that you really don't need to buy that new shiny thing and you should appreciate (or re-appreciate) what you already have.
This!! I just used her method to declutter my entire room last week (the last time I had done this was probably back in highschool) and even though I have fewer things, I feel more content with what I own and everything shines more. I honestly haven't had the desire to buy anything clothing-wise (I did re-buy bras because I ended up decluttering all of them since none of them brought me joy or comfort). Absolutely love her method
Wow Hannah thank you for expressing the absolute glorious love of aesthetic items which jetpens inspires. More than even makeup, stationary and artistic writing supplies are so attractive, and so much harder to say no to because they have a place in the realm of work/school productivity
I love how you talked about “the situation seemed worse” when you still had the ratty stuff! Only having the stuff that is good and fits and makes you feel good helps so much! And you have inspired me to use my fountain pens! I haven’t in ages but I’m going to start appreciating them again.
I started a no-buy this year because I have a slightly different issue: I love clothing, especially jewel tones and sparkly things, but am too tall and too curvy for just about all brick and mortar stores. I've been in a constant online-shop-return cycle for years and I'm so tired. It's only halfway thru January and I feel so much better, lighter, happier, plus my time isn't being spent online shopping, packing up returns, and driving all over returning stuff. I have plenty of clothing and will be fine buying nothing for the year. Thank you for inspiring me to do this!!
Quitting spending as an activity frees up time to focus on goals you really want, I started training in martial arts last year at 42. It’s been brilliant.
Love talking about not buying. Crazy human brains we have when it comes to shopping. I just started following you and I don’t know if you have lots of pets but my dogs subconsciously stop me from buying things. They are so happy without jetpens or baba sweaters, everyday is Christmas without ever having a present. Thanks for the great video, happy non shopping day.
I'm holding myself accountable to a NO BUY month in January. My goal is to do enough months of strict no buys in 2023, that will lead to a NO BUY YEAR in 2024. I love this content It feels so validating seeing an influencer with this type of content. I feel so supported and encouraged to continue with not purchasing things I don't need or have space for. Specially when I'm constantly swimming in a sea of "OOOO LOOK! NEW! MUST TRY! BUY!" SO I just want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH.
You can do it! I never believed I could do it either. But I have and it’s been so good. You have to tell yourself you can do it. Learning about neuroplasticity helps too.
I got very very excited about books over the holidays. I was on vacation and continuously stopped at these little books stores having HUGE sales and just continuously filled my cart. I had Christmas money to burn and more time on my hands because I was off work for about 10 days, reading every single night before bed for a few hours. Which is WAY more than I used to read, embarrassingly. But then when I got home from my vacation, I wanted to buy more books. Suddenly I was reading book reviews and watching Booktube and looking for books to actively want. I was planning bookstore trips that I couldn't afford in my budget even if I got them secondhand. I was planning on asking for nothing but books for my birthday. And I had my lightbulb moment, just go to the effing library and get a library card, duh. And I have the constant abundance of reading material. Without any guilt if I don't read every little thing I have picked up and a ridiculous amount of options at my feet with access to librarians who can make helpful suggestions
Same! I had some books in my Indigo online cart, then I remembered the library - 'looked up their catalogue online and they had every one of them on the shelf - 'got a new free library card and picked up the books that afternoon! Duh me!!!
I would absolutely love to see this type of video become a series on your channel! This was so incredibly helpful. It felt like a support group! Thank you so much for sharing, Hannah. You help so many people. 💜💙💚
I would love to see a video on your monthly journaling. The idea of writing down memorable events on a calendar to look back on sounds wonderful. I would like to do the same but don't know where or how to start.
With washing knitwear, if your washing machine has a spin only (not rinse and spin) cycle, I really recommend using it after washing to significantly reduce the drying time, whether you wash the garment by hand or in the washing machine. Use the setting with highest number of spins, so it is more like a centrifuge, and will spin out lots of the water. After that lay it out flat to dry in shape as normal. I was skeptical to try it, but a lot of big knitwear designers recommend it (I'm a knitter), and it's been a game-changer for me!
I love hearing your inner struggles. You inspire me so much! I didn’t buy a palette I was lusting after that came out today and you know what - I’m fine. 🥰
this video just explained to me why i collect makeup like how i used to collect fountain pens in school where I wasn't allowed to wear makeup, and now mostly see makeup as tools rather than something I have to own to participate in the "beauty" realm! Knowing that bit of history about what makes childhood me happy will serve me well as i tried to edit down my collections of makeup, clothes i own and strop buying more. Great video as always, and appreciate ya
I did this with my eyeshadow palettes and my sweatshirts. I went and organized what I have and instinctively talk myself out of the desire of more, so now is what I do, re- organize and look what I own before i shop. Perfume is something else I keep telling myself why? No! Is not like I will wear it, doesn’t go with who I am and it is just an idea in my head of this person I could be. So is a hard one that keeps popping back.
Thank you Hannah ❤ I recently had a cart full of watercolor paper and watercolors- I utilized your “automatic no” AND I went and used the art supplies I ALREADY HAVE. Which is a robust selection. 😂 but now after having watched this video I want a sweater 🤣🤣🤣
I'm so here for this!! I've spent a lot of money recently because I've been anxious and chasing momentary bursts of serotonin. I love the way you talk about actively looking for a reason not to buy something. As good as it might feel to splurge, it's just not worth the financial guilt for me.
Very relatable! I have a few of those things: - Jeans: I had to go through my collection just last weekend to declutter and reorganise to stop myself from wanting more. I REALLY have enough - Lipstick. I love lipsticks but the range of colours that suit me is limited and I am very well stocked. No need for the 20th dark rosy nude lipstick. - Golden Goose trainers: That's the worst one because they are so expensive. I am totally not a designer brand person but those just fit my style so perfectly. I have 3 pairs and 1 on the wishlist. I always save for them and let it marinate for months until I break down again. I love all pairs I have very much and cherish them. Wearing them makes me happy, but 3 is really enough, isn't it 👀?
Excellent talk, Hannah, and congrats on overcoming those inclinations to buy. My problem is sewing patterns and, to a lesser extent, fabric. You are so correct about taking stock of current inventory of the item we want to buy! Every time I reorganize my patterns I remind myself that I don’t need anymore. Well, there was a pattern sale a few days ago and I managed to resist buying a dress pattern I was visualizing sewing and wearing (beautifully, of course). As I was driving in the neighborhood of the pattern sale, I talked to myself out loud about all the other patterns I want to sew that I already own, and also reminded myself that I have several unfinished projects at the moment, needing my attention more than this new dress pattern. I also remembered what the told myself the last time I reorganized my patterns... I have enough for two lifetimes! The urge to buy another pattern did pass after considering these things. As I write this I even feel relieved that I don’t have yet another one to file away. The marketers of beautiful items are skilled at their jobs! Thank you for helping us develop our skills of resistance! I love the default “no” ... I will use it!!
Thank you so much for making videos like these! I’m so glad you are carving out a space for this outlook on the Internet. It is such a refreshing breath of air compared to all of the influencers who are shoving products down our face every day. I feel much more empowered after watching your videos for the past few months & actually have a proper game plan for my spending habits 💛✅
I'm also having an extreme "low buy" year. This video is perfectly motivational as I always feel Jan/Feb are the hardest months when setting new lifestyle practices.
Conveniently, being allergic to wool has saved me from buying all this beautiful, structured knitwear that I would have almost no opportunity to wear and appreciate. I will just have to appreciate it from afar.
Same here 😂 but don’t you struggle on how to keep yourself warm In winters? I have the hardest time finding winter clothes being allergic to wool and cashmere .
Thank you for sharing the advice regarding your old ratty bras. I tend to keep certain favorite items of clothing until they are falling apart and quite grubby. (AKA daily wear clothing becomes lounge clothing becomes sleep clothing becomes cleaning gross things clothing.) I struggle to just bite the bullet and finally toss an item of clothing once it has gone through every stage of wearability. It clutters up my wardrobe and I’m overwhelmed by the clothing I own. Hearing your advice about getting rid of the super ratty items so you can fully appreciate the nice things you have to wear was super helpful to hear. I’m slowly going through my closet and will try my best to employ that tactic!
Hannah, thank you for sharing these tips and insights. I've been obsessing about buying an oversized sweater for weeks and after organizing my knits collection, l ABSOLUTELY do not need another one. I thank you, my wallet thanks you, my closet thanks you, and current sweaters thank you. 😊 I wouldn't have thought to use organizing this way. Brilliant!
not me clicking on this video, sitting here in a babaa no 17 that i'm slightly regretting on despite the sale haha same same but different. the blue looks gorgeous on you. thanks for this!
I feel so seen in this video. I tend to fall down the rabbit hole for each new hobby. I am sadly one of those for whom a 10 bottle ink collection is a dream of minimalism. And I have enough Tomoe River paper notebooks to last me till 2030, and I have to fight daily the urge to get more notebooks, more planners, more fountain pens. I've had my makeup collections grow completely out of hand, and when I fell down the indie nail polish well, I fell hard. Nail polish cases in the storage room hard. These videos are seriously inspiring, and I am working of laying down the rules of an extended no-buy for financial, storage and emotional reasons. Thank you for creating this content.
Hannah Louise, thank you so much for beautifully covering this type of content! I purchased a pair of boots in the sales, from a brand I'd been coveting for over a year. The thing is, although the boots were SUCH a good discount, they weren't the exact style I wanted. In fact I'd justified even dreaming of this brand of boots because they would be a long, long term practical investment piece. However, the style I bought had a suede detail which I totally knew wouldn't stand up long term to the elements but I bought 'em anyway...only the transaction was cancelled because they ran out of stock and couldn't fulfil the order (not the brand's fault but the stockist). So I was serendipitously saved from myself - but your video here has armed me for the future when the fates may be less benevolent!
I was also tempted by the Babaa winter sale! (That color blue looks stunning on you btw). My approach for this year is to not add any sweaters to my closet unless I’ve knit themself - it’s a hobby that takes me awhile because I only like to work on one project at a time, feels intentional for me from a sustainability standpoint, and is overall cheaper than buying Babaa 😅 thank you for this wonderful reminder!
My buying obsession is mostly perfume. I love having variety. I think it was your fashion content that brought me to your channel. I enjoy your thoughtful rambles and the pink sweater/pants.. such a satisfying video. It looked better on you than it did on the model. Of course, no buys and thoughtful purchases are also a big topic in the perfume community. Thank you so much.
I love Ugg boots and I also love a pale olive color. This year the company came out w/pale olive Ugg boots for $170. I wanted them so bad and I still do, even though I own 3 other pairs. What I did to talk myself out of purchasing them, was to look in my closet at all of my clothes & the outfits I put together and see if I would choose the olive color Uggs or my black, gray or brown Uggs. My conclusion was that even if I would pull out the olive color, my gray, black or brown Uggs would match just as good & maybe even better. I still want them, but I don’t want to have to spend that much money right now. I have this quirk about me, that when I like something a lot, I want all the colors. I totally understand u Hannah. You’ve helped me a lot & I hope this example will serve u in some way. ❤️
HANNAH: are we from the same soul family? Stationary and planners- lovely clothing- sparkles on the lids?! haha! PLANNER CONTENT- also jetpens omg. I just bought some inks and a glass dip pen like last week. :D
My confession 🛑I also over indulged myself on those delicious Babaa sweaters. Also wear them all and plan to for the rest of my life! I have gone a good several months without purchasing….but somehow stumbled this morning on Poshmark and purchased no13 Arce new condition for a deal. Even though I own the color in the no17 😅However… the guilt has been at my throat, so much so I listed one of my beloveds to hopefully compensate for my impulsiveness. This video comes to me at the right time as a sign to back off the Babaa train… Enjoy, wear, and cherish what I already own and stop coveting new releases like the Babaa blanket! Is it possible?😅 Also I would love to see a video on your collection and how you care for them ❤ Edit: How could I forget to mention you look stunning in the blue!
Hi Hannah ! I have not done well at all with my low buy this month 😣but your strategy of going through the items we already have and organizing is super helpful! I did that with my knits today and fell in love again with what I already have - I also tried every single one on which helped 💕 my most problematic one is handbags and sales so my plan is to stop browsing when I’m bored and redirect my attention to what I already have . Thanks for posting ❤️ All the best from Ontario Canada 🇨🇦
This is such a helpful video for me on my no buy year. I know you aren’t technically on a no buy but hearing how you feel better after saying no even when you can buy is really comforting to me. I overlap a lot in the areas of interest (looking at you, knitwear), and it’s so tempting to try and make exceptions or fit things into my rules. But instead, I did a huge purge and reorganization of my closet this past weekend and I’m absolutely loving the results. Thank you Hannah!
I'm currently struggling with balancing my internal "no, trying to save money" with "but I'll love it and use the hell out it" desires for a chartreuse sweater from aritzia and western-inspired boots from able. Sigh! On a separate note, watching your videos has reignited my passion for makeup! I have a very similar completion to you and always struggled with base products. Although we have totally different makeup colors (I go for vampy deep lips, berry tones, rosy pinks, and blue-toned reds) your journey of finding the right foundation shade has made me finally realize I'm fair neutral hinting more on the cool side. Thank you so much for your thoughtful content!
I have a serious Etsy art problem- I'll scroll through artists pages as if its social media and fill my basket. I always justified these purchases as ok because I'm supporting small local artists- but I am really trying to cut back on them this year. Last weekend when I got the urge to scroll and shop I instead looked at all the art I had that I hadn't put up yet (need to find a frame, haven't decided on where it'll go, forgotten about it etc), the frames I'd collected from charity shops, and what was already on the walls. I spent the whole day changing what was in which frame, deciding to hang some stuff with washi tape just to get it up, and basically re-curating all of the art around my home. It was so much fun and I feel so happy I'm the space now!! The prices I'd gotten used to feel fresh and new in new spaces and frames and I'm so glad I finally got up some bits I've had put away for ages
I think laundry is big especially for a minimal wardrobe. We own a huge washing machine as it is the most sustainable one regarding environment and energy costs. So we "need" a lot of dirty items to fill it and justify using it. I learned to compromise on my outfits and to rewear clothes (after I hang them in the dampy bathroom or spotclean them). I do handwash my bras as they are delicate (silks, lace ...) therefore I do not need a lot of them.
I started a wishlist page of my own this year, and it’s been really helpful in curbing that urge to spend. My biggest thing was that if I wanted something but didn’t buy it, I would forget about it and then get frustrated that I forgot it and could never find it again. Now that I have all of the links of things I want, I feel much more secure in being able to slow down and not feel like everything is slipping from my hands
Cookware and pitchers are my weaknesses. I see the most beautiful classy or sweet vintage pitchers that make my heart squeeze at the thrift store every time I go! I want to decorate the tops of bookshelves with my pitchers collection in the future! But right now I live in a tiny apartment with a wild toddler so they wouldn't fit and would certainly break. I have to remind myself of that every time I see a pitcher. With the cookware, I have already invested in GREAT cookware. I love everything I have and don't really need anything else. If I bought something, it would be a duplicate and not get used. I am extremely practical so that usually steers my heart away from buying it.
I’m doing a no buy January and I’ve wanted everything from a heart shaped purse to eyeshadow to Mickey ears to books. I haven’t broken my no buy so far! The strategies are DBT therapy strategies (you can RUclips them to learn about them) but mainly opposite action, urge surfing, radical acceptance, deep breathing through urges and a few others. I’m not kidding I’m a different person than I was 20 days ago. It’s wild!
So great to hear what I experience in your words. I noted my struggles in a journal, but could not find the right tone. Because I still have that desire for the crave-buy-repeat-circle, I tend to by hard on myself. Thanks for your reflections
I’m on a low/no buy for January. The hardest part is when something goes on sale, or clearance. My husband was my stop guard in this case. He’s like “you’re trying to do a no buy, give it a few minutes.” At first I was a little irked that he’d reminded me of my commitment to myself, but when I went back to the website I didn’t feel the same impulse. I’ve been keeping a written wishlist going, but I think I may also add pictures to remind myself.
Thanks for this video. I have been going through a stressful month and my ADHD ramped up and sort of dissolved my strategies ^^Back on it though and filling my feed with low buy/no buy content. What I generally found very useful is making a detailed budget. Where I allocate money each month to specific categories, so I know how much money I would have to buy clothes. Which usually also means I have to wait a while until I can even consider buying the quality I want. By then I'm making really really informed choices and usually focus on replacing rather than adding. Stress truly is a killer for that and I love the strategies you add and also the automatic No.
I actually have been using the no method for so long in my life that I am in the opposite side not letting myself enjoy a single spontaneous purchase, I overthink about everything and sometimes an item stays in my wishlist for 2 years even though I really want and would get so much out of it. I am super afraid of being impulsive, regretting something, overindulging and going beyond my savings (which never happened and it’s quite impossible due to this mindset I’ve just described). But I’m tired of repressing myself to this level so I’m searching healthy ways to navigate through this journey and your channel have been a blessing to me showing all these ways I can enjoy beautiful things and pleasure in balanced ways. I know your tips are for people that usually pass the limits, but it’s really helping me to make the other way. I cannot describe how much these are becoming my favorite videos ever, thank you so much!
I'm staying humble and started with a no buy January. We'll see if I decide to alternate buy and no buy periods. When I allow myself to do something, sometimes I eventually don't cave in. Just because I feel reassured that if I want I can, then I don't. However this month, only the automatic no has successfully saved me from breaking my vow multiple times 😂 Crazy how we get to feel an actual urge, with a rash of adrenaline and the whole fight or flight situation array of chemical reactions. As if we were missing a lifetime's opportunity.
Oh Hannah I bless the day I found you. 🤩 thanks for doing all the physiological analysis of the fashion shopping moments 🤓 I had you in my head in the fitting room on Saturday and I made the wisest choices, actually allll weekend! I’ve just changed my job and are only working 4 days a week so have been mindful of ways of being more sensible with my spending. You have given me THE best tools 🛠 to use and I am forever grateful 😘🥰🙏🏼
I just replaced some bras. I have not purchased bras in several years and the ones I had (and I had about 6) were all well worn and starting to not shape me/fit in a comfortable way as they were stretched out. I decided I only need 3 bras (with my weekly laundry routine) and looked online for neutral colors that would match my skintone so they could go under any color including sheer or white tops. I have since purchased and received my new bras and out of the 3 only one of them is not exactly what I hoped but I can still make it work. The old bras I got rid of and I have to say my drawer looks so pretty now when I open it up and the lovely new bras are laid out there waiting for me, and I know I can get thru the day without having to adjust and fidget with my bra! I appreciate that you took into account how many you had in total and realized you didn't need any. I love the wishlist idea for the clothing you want but don't "need" as most of the time those short term desires do go away. Perhaps ask for the items for a birthday present?
I love your automatic NO and am using this year in my life! I did slip up this week and ordered a spring sweater, and I feel horrible about it. Thanks for your videos!
I love your content but this particular video really struck a cord. I’m a fellow Babaa devotee and now own 4 in as many years, 3 cotton and 1 wool as I live in California and don’t have a need for much wool. I too always think I need another Babaa same style different color but I’m holding strong like you and trying to thoroughly enjoy what I’ve already acquired. I did the same thing as you with Babaa about 5 years back when I discovered the Tradlands brand of button down flannel and cotton shirts. They are beautifully well made pieces (think double top stitching and an extra buttonhole to prevent that dreaded gape). Once my first shirt arrived I was so completely smitten I acquired roughly 8 shirts in different fabrics and sleeve length but finally had to put the brakes on when I realized I may have overdone it. I absolutely do not regret a single purchase but enough really is enough and these well made shirts truly will last a lifetime. Here’s to adding beauty and functionality to our lives in a conscious and intentional manner in 2023 and beyond! Looking forward to more great content Hannah! Cheers!! ❤
Buying less..... I'm doing meh so far. Luckily most of the stuff I want is actually very affordable, like the new e.l.f. color corrector. I was like, why am I beating myself up about $4? I realized, it's more about knowing that the L.A.Girl color corrector I already have could last me literally another year, maybe even two! That is something frustrating about makeup. Most products last sooooo long, it's like you feel sentenced to avoid buying anything else because what you already have could last so long. And usually it's not considered a DOWNSIDE to get a long usage period out of the products you buy, but there's something about it that's oddly toxic in a way I can't quite sum up. You are just left with a nagging knowing that you don't NEED more of what you have, yet you want to try different brands and formulas, and have the FUN of buying something that is a hobby of yours.
From you I have learned that „duping the vibes“ is a way to go. Recently, whenever I see a trend in which I would love to participate - I immediately turn to what I already have. Yesterday I have seen short video from Andrea Ali, applying pink liquid blush to cheeks, brow bones and lips which worked magic to her face. I went to video description to check out that product, then I realized that with pink lipstick I can do the same. And I have Chanel rouge coco (462 romy) which also works magic. But even if I did not have lipstick, I could do all that with a powder blush in pink. Thank you for spreading this mindset
I am no buy clothes, shoes and bags this year because I’ve started my journey of minimalism and oh boy sooo hard to say no! There is this one pant that I really love and I almost give in. I had to call my husband and explain that I wanted to this this cute particular pant and he gently reminded me of my journey to minimal live and that I really have enough clothes or pants 😃I am so glad he did that , and after a week I have forgotten that pant. So far I have not been tempted to buy! Yay! Thank you for your videos and validating that I am not the only one feel that way!
I gotta say I bought a babaa sweater a year or two ago, washed according to the care instructions and its dye came out streaky. It was the no 18 cardigan in natural, an off white. I might have been able to bleach it effectively, but it wasn’t a white initially and I wasn’t going for a white look. Just word to the wise for the cotton cardigans in that color-that you will definitely have to wash at some point because the light color will get dirty. I’d have dry cleaned if I’d know better, but if I had to do it again I wouldn’t have bought it in the first place.
You inspired me to finally start my new channel Sarah Ford Vlogs and 2023 is a no buy year for me! (With a few exceptions). I right down things in a note in my notes app (no links or website, just descriptions) and to me it’s the same gratification of adding to cart. Whenever i add something new i look over the other things and I’m Ike oh i forgot about that
I'm trying to really change my spending habits this year and videos like this are so helpful! Because of my new year's goals to read and exercise more I'm very tempted to buy books and activewear at the moment... I already have almost 50 unread books on my shelf so I def do not need more! But I did allow myself to restock my shampoo and buy a tote bag (which I'd been eyeing for 2+ months and was on sale). Skincare is also an eternal temptation... sorting through and reorganising all of my skincare definitely helps curb the craving for more. I've made a big wishlist excel sheet, I find plugging things into the wishlist and waiting does help the initial flare of excitement settle down. Tbh most of the things I put on my wishlist I end up forgetting about, and if they stick around in my mind, then they tend to be worth buying
Doing a no-buy January and it's gone so well, I'll probably do a no-buy Feb also. Decided against buying a new perfume even though it was decently priced, partly because of the no-buy and also because I have about 20 perfumes already! It's good to enjoy what we have.
Love these examples of implementing the automatic no! I rely on the wishlist technique; my version is a spreadsheet of ALL the clothing & makeup I want. It lets me see how much stuff is similar/competing. Plus having the prices lets me see the total cost, which is so helpful because I can look at it and be like, do I actually want to spend $2000 on lipstick? Maybe not! (also it lets me sort what makeup has plastic in it so I can prioritize better)
I really appreciate hearing the process of becoming truly self-aware in the shopping dept. I spent too much on eyeshadow palettes last year, before really examining why. I realized I had a picture in my mind of my "perfect palette" and that I was chasing that picture. So silly! I still love window shopping them, but now use Temptalia to deeply examine each color to see if I already own it. 95% of the time I do, and I feel relieved.
Wow I feel seen in this! Also pursuing a low buy and I think we have very similar tastes as I’ve considered almost all the same purchases this month (JetPens is always SO hard to resist)! Loved your pragmatic approaches to finding satisfaction with what you have!
I adore how you described the furry elastic of a worn out item of clothing! Your bra situation is my recent brow pencil situation. I was trying to talk myself into buying new brow pencils because my favs are almost done. I took out all the pencils & other brow products I own & started using those. I found that I actually like the other non fav products. They definitely do the job & in reality I probably won't need a new brow product for at least the next 12 mos if I'm being completely honest with myself. Which I think what this exercise really is about. Being honest, truly honest & realizing that no, you do not "need" anything most of the time! 😏🙌
I'm sooo interested in seeing your modest but likely beautiful fountain pen and ink collection. I'm on a stationery no buy this year, and so far so good though I nearly stocked up on greeting cards and notebooks from a local gift shop that's closing. My rules are 1) replacement purchases are okay if I have absolutely nothing in my existing stash that cannot do the same job and 2) buying postage stamps for outgoing snail mail is acceptable. I rearranged my supplies so that I can better see all that I have, which has helped so much already in cutting my desire for more things.
Thank you for sharing your challenges and strategies ❤ This morning I realized I have all of the symptoms of online shopping addiction 😢 It just creeped up in time and now it is a real problem. To make things worst, this afternoon I received a delivery of 3 packages of clothes and running shoes I ordered earlier this week. I felt so sad, not angry at myself, just sad, thinking: Who have I become? What am I fixing in my life with this constant ordering of things? I am not even happy when I buy them. I bought 3 new things last week, obviously those things have not changed my life nor improved it. Why would these new things make any difference? It is that horrible temptation: this is the only thing like a missing puzzle that I need to buy to feel complete. But that missing puzzle is never the last one. When is it enough? 😑🥺
You sound like me and I finally had enough! I can't commit to a year, so I do it by month. Had 2 months of no buy and messed up before the New Year. No one can be harder on myself than me. I just have to keep trying. It's a he'll of a habit! Or addiction! Something that helps me is the definition of insanity. Repeating the. same mistakes over & over again & expecting different results!
I am trying to have six non-consecutive no-buy months this year. I have a real addiction to shopping for fashion, toiletries (skincare) and home wares and have never tried this before so I am starting in February as the “easiest” month (only 28 days) and now need to put in place some strategies to help me resist. The automatic no and wishlist strategies, as well as organisation, seem like useful ones, so thank you for this really helpful video. ❤
@@wavyjenny602 I will do a similar thing officially starting from February. Though I stopped all buying after my first comment. I also think it is good to be aware of trigger points: boredom, fomo, if I just… and then address them with default No. Some influencers I follow are so difficult to resist watching… inspo should be in my closet and in the pinterest board, not in reels 🫣. But we’ve got this! 💪🏻💪🏻
I love that you take us through your feelings and thoughts in your process. It's very helpful to me. I use the "Pause, Wait' strategy and it's good to have it reinforced.
I've found spending money to be very stressful this past year, even though I know I don't overspend or buy impractical things for me. I'm still spending more because I'm now fully supporting myself, so buying beautiful things feels extreme because I'm already spending so much on rent and groceries, which is a first for me freshly out of college. Your videos have added some very helpful perspectives on both sides of the coin! The love of beautiful things is wonderful and worth spending money on, but only in ways that make sense
You're not alone! Everything in price is higher. Food , gas, clothing, beauty products, etc. Yet people are not making more. It is stressful when you shop for food and each time it costs more! We had a pizz & salad delivered the other evening and with tip it was $50.00! We are blessed that we have enough to get buy (if I stick to my no buy). Many have to choose between heat & eating, or medication!
@@marilynmontgomery4579 oh for sure. I'm very lucky to be able to fully support myself with no issues, but my heart breaks for those that have student loans, car payments, and health issues that are costly. Simply existing in a comfortable manner shouldn't be this difficult
Marisa, I totally agree. Why can't we all have health coverage like Congress & the Senate. Our drugs are over the moon right now because it's the beginning of the year and we have to meet deductibles. And we're on Medicare! My husband can't retire yet because we can't afford it! Here's hoping 2023 gets easier for everybody.
I have been a subscriber to rent the runway since 2017, and there is no one I want to experiment with it more than you Hannah. I think you would love it and find it very interesting and practical. Xo
I had something similar happen this month where I was feeling like I desperately needed a pair of all-black running shoes (Nike Pegasus, to be specific) and I felt compelled to buy them new off of their website, about £90 on sale. They have excellent arch support for a flat-footie like me 😅 I ended up feeling like "I do need running shoes, but I don't want to support Nike as a company because I disagree with their labour practices" So my automatic "no" was fueled by a sense of responsibility to not support that company. I've decided to wishlist the item and keep checking Ebay over the next few months until I see them for the right price. This way it will be more cost effective to me, and Nike doesn't profit 😎
What helps me sometimes from Shopping: when I want an item, I often have a special situation in m head, just like a film scene. It’s a FEELING, an idea, a song… then I try to imagine the whole scene with clothes I already have. Often I realise that it’s not the clothes I want…
I am super grateful you make these videos. 😭 They help so so much in reducing my spending. I talked myself out of going to TJ Maxx today to go pick up the super discounted Pat McGrath Bridgerton collection that I've been wanting for a long time. After watching your video I analyzed exactly what shades I wanted, where my collection may already have dupes, and thought about how much use I would practically get out of them. That was enough to squash the urge. Thank you for the good you put out into the world!!
Why am I not surprised about the pens ? 🤣 I mean. ✨ The aesthetic ✨ I love colour and I love drawing and I droooooooool on the fountain pen community videos.
Never in my life that I think that eyeshadow palettes could become both a point of joy and a burden for me, as I have begun a hobby and then fallen into the consumeristic rabbit hole it can lead to! However, I have found that when I really want a new release but don’t immediately get it, the process of waiting several weeks or months dims the appeal of that item. Particularly as new things come on scene and I can step back, assess and compare with a clearer head. I love the wishlist idea as well as one commenter’s suggestion of taking a screen shot! Thank you for a well thought-out video, Hannah!
Please keep updating us on this, because I really overbought clothing last year. It was the first year I started fully shopping second hand and everything being so much cheaper made me buy more objects thus still spending the same amount of money. Now it doesn't fit in my closet anymore and for the first time in almost 10 years I have to switch out my winter and summer stuff. Really not happy about that
Redhead here for the bright warm blue!! As my students say SLAY!! Just wanted to say that your recent decluttering/using what you have videos have been so helpful to me. My entire makeup collection is like the size of your lipstick collection I think. But just the ability to know that I have what I need and to say no to constant small $ buying is so helpful. And just to say - as a Libra sun/Cap moon, I love beauty and I love things (and right now, can afford zip) - the struggle is real!! So helpful to hear you talk through your process...
I feel you on the fountain pens. I handwrite a lot in my work, and I enjoy it (when I was eight, a teacher came to my school and taught us a beautiful flowing italic script, which I still have). I use Kaweco sport pens (not the best but easily replaceable) and yellow legal paper. I once had a vintage ladies burgundy Parker that my boyfriend inherited from his great aunt. It wrote beautifully but sadly I lost it.
I've been struggling with this lately too. Especially after the holidays, it seems so tempting to take advantage of all the sales and fill out the holes in my wardrobe with the items I put on my holiday wish list but did not receive. Even though most of the items I've purchased in the past month were replacements of worn-out items so there was no net gain of stuff, I really have to question if those items really needed replacing right away or if I could have just gotten by without a replacement and lived with less for a while. There are two more items on my list to replace, but I am going to try my level best to hold off until the end of summer/early fall to replace those pieces for the next cold season and finish out this one with what I have.
First , I have to say that sweater looks Amaaaazing on you, that blue is Your color! And second, thank you for this video and those fantastic ideas! I will implement immediately! 🥰👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💕😍
Am I the only one who enjoys and benefits from the comment section of an HLP video, almost as much as the video itself? Love this group of thoughtful, intelligent viewers💚👏👏👏
I agree!!
Totally agree- I always read the comments here, some very insightful and interesting comments!
I came back just to read the comments
I love it!! Very thoughtful and intelligent crowd here.
I was thinking the same thing! Good crowd! Speaks volume for her content ❤
I don't even keep a wishlist anymore.
I take a screen shot and think "I'll look back into my photos later when I want to seriously consider this purchase."
The moral of the story is, I never do go back and look for whatever it was!
Periodically I will scan through the photos on my phone and think wtf was I thinking??? Ahahahaha!
The very act of screen shoting makes me feel a ping of satisfaction. like adding to cart!
I do this too! Great strategy as I too pretty much never go back and look at my screenshots 👍🏻 Brilliant!
i do this too. ❤❤❤
Ah ha ha ya got me! This too!
That’s a good idea I haven’t been online shopping for 5 years now which feels awesome
You’re like an investigative reporter for shopping habits, and I love how you gather your emotional data to share with us. You are adorable and geeky in the best way. It’s a unique strategy of self care that I really connect to.
Well put!!
Yes, very well put. This is exactly why I love watching Hannah.
Omg yes!! It's like you can't put it into words You know how somebody tells you you don't need that put that back in a very kind of judgy and condescending way? Hannah does not do that she's like these are my detailed thoughts I took the time to go through each one of my feelings even when they're uncomfortable I want to share them with you guys I want to discuss them with you guys and I want to talk about what I did and how I feel afterwards.... And it literally reminds me to slow down a little bit and see how I feel about this thing instead of rushing
😭 I love this comment. I operate this way about other areas of my life, and it was like reading a compliment about myself in a way that's never been said... and wow. 🤩 Thanks for taking the time to even type that. 🥰
Love this!!
Thanks to this video I closed out on a shopping cart I have been labouring over for days - a $24 bag I do not need became a $100 order of more things I do not need (to get free shipping). You're right, the relief of freeing myself from what I now see is the burden of shopping is just amazing. Please keep updating us on the automatic "no", I'm going to start myself, if only to stop myself wasting my life adding and removing things from shopping carts :).
Your telling my story!
The FREE SHIPPING delusion; I fall for it Every time!
It feels SO NICE to hear someone talk about how they want something SO MUCH and then to have the power to say "No, you do not need that" in the face of weakness. It is empowering to others.
I’ve been in a No Buy Year since August. The strategy I have been employing is to remind myself every time I want a new product desperately that thus far, no makeup or skincare product has changed my life the way that I thought it would. No product is actually all that innovative or new and what I have gets the job done just fine.
Yes. I need to do more of this.
YES!! I have come to this realization myself. I went psycho buying a bunch of expensive eyeshadow palettes (Pat McGrath, Viseart Pro palette for $200), etc - because I kept telling myself THIS is the palette that will be a game changer and make me feel good about myself. In the end, I only used the palettes a couple of time and then went back to the ones I actually liked.
This is such a good point!
@@aliciaohara8794 omg I’ve absolutely thought that about so many palettes! The last time that thinking really hooked me was when Gucci released their first palette.
@@aliciaohara8794 I bought a Pat McGrath pallete in 2018. Decided to stop wearing eye shadow for 3 years. Started playing with new eyeshadow looks lately and really love the quality of that pallete. So it’s probably a solid purchase you can hold onto 🙂
Hannah, I used to hang all my sweaters to get clarity on what I own but in the end hanging them really stretched and misshaped all my beautiful knits. It’s a painful lesson. Better to fold them. Something to keep in mind when you organize your closet.
I find I can get away with hanging knits (if they’re not loosely woven or heavy) by using slightly wider black plastic hangers that come with grey rubber pads on the shoulders. It helps keeps the sweaters from sliding or developing dents. Also good for jackets, blazers and coats. I wouldn’t normally advise buying that much plastic, but I use them year round, they extend the life of my clothes and they’ve lasted well.
Folding sweaters is great, but the creases can limit wearing right off the shelf, and I don’t like ironing anything but thin knits if I can help it as it smooshes the weave, to use a technical term, lol.
I thought the same thing, and then wondered if she had a special way she folded them on the hangers to prevent stretch
Yes. Always fold them! I always steam them, too. Then I'm ready to wear.
Yes. I always fold my knit wear! I also steam them before so they are ready to wear
You can flip the arms of the sweater up over the shoulders on a good, grippy hanger, and it takes some strain off of the sholder seams. Heavier cotton and thinner wool knits will still probably stretch out over time but if they are worn a lot it doesn't cause a lot of issues for me.
Oh my… I do that too! When I want to put myself into debt buying wonderfully beautiful clothes I reorganize my closet. I have lost 70lbs since July so my collection of lovely pieces has been edited several times recently. Whenever I see things online that I must have or I’ll perish from wanting, I reorganize. It helps me remember that I have a beautiful wardrobe. I have wonderful fancy clothes, soft comfy casuals, and very smart business attire. Not to mention a luxurious robe and slippers and a robust collection of pajamas and lounge wear. Undergarments so dainty and sexy that any woman would would feel blessed. That’s how I remind myself that I do not want to spend.
Edit to say that I am also wearing a very new and comfortable body. So my clothes are so much fun. Your videos always remind me to stay on this planet. Today is payday… I needed you more! ♥️
This is actually a really brilliant video for me to have watched. Thank you Hannah.
I have actual big holes in my wardrobe. I know they exist and they genuinely make it hard for me to effectively use the clothes I have sometimes. What I’ve desperately needed to do for a while was to wash everything and go drawer by drawer and aggressively purge. Not to get rid of the stuff I love, but to expose the gaps so I can make a list of the stuff that actually does need replaced and start doing research on replacements so that I am making measured, budgeted, sensible monetary decisions.
I am now inspired. Thank you Hannah.
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I’m not sure if you’ve been working from home for a while or not but I’ve had that same confusion when I’ve dealt with new situations.
What helps me is to think about what I am actually looking for. What purpose it will serve (that things I already have wouldn’t) and how can I maximize itsb usefulness to me. Really take your time and consider it in the context of the wardrobe you already have and the occasions you regularly feel that gap.
I like to have a small wardrobe full of carefully curated pieces that are exactly what I want them to be, sometimes that means some of them are relatively expensive so I feel you there.
Right now my issue is that I went through a significant life change over the past couple years and I worry that I will need the pieces in my wardrobe that now do not serve me. So they have stuck around and cluttered everything up.
I don't know if y'all will see this or not, but a shift in approach to this process that has REALLY helped me, is that instead of going through my wardrobe looking for pieces I don't wear/am ready to part with, I go through and pull out all of my absolute FAVORITE items that I wear regularly, and put those aside as "keeps," and everything else is up for getting chopped.
I found it sooo helpful because it helped me move from "well I maybe I can be the person who wears this" to "I am a person who wears these."
It was also really helpful because then I could see what I gravitated to naturally, and the things I wore consistently. That made it so much easier to make choices about what pieces to add in the future, because I knew 1) if it went with a bunch of those things it would be easy to incorporate, and 2) if I own and love something that fits in a similar way/makes me feel a similar way, I will most likely wear that item a lot too.
I’m doing a low buy this year and the “wishlist” is surprisingly effective for stopping impulse buys. So far, I’ve resisted buying expensive loafers, booties, a new parka and a cold brew coffeemaker. Giving myself a cooling off period works for me. It’s not a hard no, it’s an add it to the list and see if you’re still obsessing about it later.
I’m on my second year of doing a no buy. I have come to love thinking about what I actually need for months at a time. I’m so grateful to have binned off impulse purchasing ❤
Hi Hannah, I can totally relate to your love for knits. I am a knitter and always struggle with buying wool in sweater quantities (because I can buy faster than I can knit and NEED). But I have one tip for you regarding extending the longevity of your sweaters. Especially big knits like oversized sweaters can stretch out over time, when left hanging. The weight of the wool stretches out the stitches at the shoulder and neckline. You can use it for your advantage, if a sweater is too short, otherwise it's better to store them laying with a lavender sachet (moths 🦗). Greetings from Germany, Ingrid
Yes I was looking for this comment!! Especially since she’s looking at knits as long term additions to her wardrobe, it’s very important to store them correctly
I am also struggling with the desire to buy way too much yarn. I can feasibly knit 1 sweater a month so I need to stop buying so much yarn dang it
I too was looking for this comment, as I know from shopping that any sweaters (but especially chunky heavy ones) stretch on hangers. And so I was puzzled by someone who said she’s buying sweaters for the longterm but abusing them by hanging them?!
And also, wool does need more frequent cleanings. I had a beautiful wool sweater when I was younger and I didn’t wash it before I put it away for the warmer seasons. When I pulled it out in the Fall the wool had basically rotted in the armpit areas. It was ruined.
You are both right actually. Wool doesn't need to be washed with every wear, especially if it wasn't worn next to skin, as it has self cleaning properties. However you must always wash wool before it is stored. Unwashed stored wool can suffer damage and attract pests. I hope this helps.
Yes! I absolutely agree. I love my sweaters and never hang them!
I am currently on a Wardrobe Freeze and the relief of not having to decide over what I should buy (and if it is actually sustainable) is so FREEING! I have so much more time than I used to. And I also feel really powerful saying NO. It's like a superpower, you have the power to decide what comes into your life.
I agree. That’s the one thing I wish I could tell others that only dream of doing a no buy. It can be such a huge relief ❤
As a fellow lover and owner of babaa's knits, I found that search for them on preloved or secondhand apps helps me 1) save money 2) not buying any if the one I am looking for is not listed. Love you and your content as always, I hope for more clothing / fashion videos this year!
which apps wouuld you recommend that are international?
@@lysrobinsdaughter6599 hi! I live in Europe and usually shop only within EU, I bought my babaa pieces both from Vinted and Vestiaire, sometimes at more than half off :)
Well I have now ordered a Babaa sweater as a result of this video 😉
@@FrancescaCorno2 Thank you Francesca, I will have to check it out!
@@FrancescaCorno2 I just saw one on Vinted for 160EUR, with holes in it!!! In case anyone is wondering: that's a NO 100%
The struggles of living in a very warm climate and wanting knitwear are real... those sweaters look lovely.
Ditto, Shelby! (from the Lowcountry of South Carolina)
Come visit Ontario, Canada! We’ll go sledding, have a snowball fight and you can layer the sweaters until your heart’s content. 🤪😂
fellow Canadian here! my “struggle” is that i can’t walk around outside in a bikini everyday 🤣
Just watch the video from Erin Janus about wool here on RUclips. It is only five minutes long and will fix all your desires to purchase wool.
@@mariemaier5630. Good point. Perhaps the best solution is to buy second hand when it comes to wool from animals. Synthetic knits shed micro plastics when washed. Cotton and hemp are always good alternatives.
Hannah! Please do a Babaa collection video. I obsessed over Babaa sweaters as well and would love to see what you’re working with ❤❤❤
for me, making aesthetic decisions while shopping is sometimes the closest I can get to having a creative outlet. It’s like creating art but someone else already did all the hard parts and you just put it together.
Of course then the solution would be to find something that actually sustainably satisfies my need to exercise my creative muscles.
This resonates with me
This is how I use makeup.
I get this feeling with thrifting and second hand shopping online, without the hit to my bank account. Plus I often rework the pieces to suit my dimensions and style preferences, which is creative practical work I also enjoy fwiw.
@@emmy8526 Totally! Pretty much all my clothes shopping now happens at thrift or vintage stores…to the point where I find regular stores too organized and visually boring. The thrill of discovering something unexpected and the challenge of making pieces work for you is half the fun 😄
Hannah, I'm so obsessed with and grateful for your videos like this. While I definitely have people in my life who appreciate aesthetics and clothing, I've still always felt somewhat alone in or ashamed of my overwhelming sensory desire from my mid/late-teens to now mid/late 20s for purchasing/wearing beautiful things, even if my style choices and necessities are largely simple and casual. You describe so delightfully well those conflicting internal desires for an "essentialist" lifestyle devoid of excess things and the ravenous appreciation for beautiful/quality accoutrements that I relate to perfectly.
Well said. I totally relate
Yes. I totally agree. I have to take it one day at a time else I get too overwhelmed.
This is why I really love Marie Kondo's philosophy and methods. It's presented as organizing strategies but it's also helped a lot with my shopaholic and hoarding tendencies. Some times, you really do need to just gather all your belongings in a big pile on your floor to help get it in your noggin that you really don't need to buy that new shiny thing and you should appreciate (or re-appreciate) what you already have.
This!! I just used her method to declutter my entire room last week (the last time I had done this was probably back in highschool) and even though I have fewer things, I feel more content with what I own and everything shines more. I honestly haven't had the desire to buy anything clothing-wise (I did re-buy bras because I ended up decluttering all of them since none of them brought me joy or comfort). Absolutely love her method
Also using some of MK techniques I’ve learned to display what I have more beautifully so I get to visually enjoy what I own.
Or when your house is so rammed with stuff, you realise it just isn’t making you happy.
Wow Hannah thank you for expressing the absolute glorious love of aesthetic items which jetpens inspires. More than even makeup, stationary and artistic writing supplies are so attractive, and so much harder to say no to because they have a place in the realm of work/school productivity
My first love before skincare/makeup land is stationery and even worse (aka more expensive) fountain pens. Don't go down that rabbit hole!
I can't not think of the cerulean monologue in "Devil Wears Prada" with todays sweater! 😆
Same!!
I love how you talked about “the situation seemed worse” when you still had the ratty stuff! Only having the stuff that is good and fits and makes you feel good helps so much!
And you have inspired me to use my fountain pens! I haven’t in ages but I’m going to start appreciating them again.
I started a no-buy this year because I have a slightly different issue: I love clothing, especially jewel tones and sparkly things, but am too tall and too curvy for just about all brick and mortar stores. I've been in a constant online-shop-return cycle for years and I'm so tired. It's only halfway thru January and I feel so much better, lighter, happier, plus my time isn't being spent online shopping, packing up returns, and driving all over returning stuff. I have plenty of clothing and will be fine buying nothing for the year. Thank you for inspiring me to do this!!
Quitting spending as an activity frees up time to focus on goals you really want, I started training in martial arts last year at 42. It’s been brilliant.
Love talking about not buying. Crazy human brains we have when it comes to shopping. I just started following you and I don’t know if you have lots of pets but my dogs subconsciously stop me from buying things. They are so happy without jetpens or baba sweaters, everyday is Christmas without ever having a present. Thanks for the great video, happy non shopping day.
I'm holding myself accountable to a NO BUY month in January. My goal is to do enough months of strict no buys in 2023, that will lead to a NO BUY YEAR in 2024. I love this content It feels so validating seeing an influencer with this type of content. I feel so supported and encouraged to continue with not purchasing things I don't need or have space for. Specially when I'm constantly swimming in a sea of "OOOO LOOK! NEW! MUST TRY! BUY!"
SO I just want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH.
Ditto!!
You can do it! I never believed I could do it either. But I have and it’s been so good. You have to tell yourself you can do it. Learning about neuroplasticity helps too.
I got very very excited about books over the holidays. I was on vacation and continuously stopped at these little books stores having HUGE sales and just continuously filled my cart. I had Christmas money to burn and more time on my hands because I was off work for about 10 days, reading every single night before bed for a few hours. Which is WAY more than I used to read, embarrassingly. But then when I got home from my vacation, I wanted to buy more books. Suddenly I was reading book reviews and watching Booktube and looking for books to actively want. I was planning bookstore trips that I couldn't afford in my budget even if I got them secondhand. I was planning on asking for nothing but books for my birthday. And I had my lightbulb moment, just go to the effing library and get a library card, duh. And I have the constant abundance of reading material. Without any guilt if I don't read every little thing I have picked up and a ridiculous amount of options at my feet with access to librarians who can make helpful suggestions
Same! I had some books in my Indigo online cart, then I remembered the library - 'looked up their catalogue online and they had every one of them on the shelf - 'got a new free library card and picked up the books that afternoon! Duh me!!!
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I would absolutely love to see this type of video become a series on your channel! This was so incredibly helpful. It felt like a support group! Thank you so much for sharing, Hannah. You help so many people. 💜💙💚
I totally agree! A series on how to address shopping impulses and struggles would be great.
I would love to see a video on your monthly journaling. The idea of writing down memorable events on a calendar to look back on sounds wonderful. I would like to do the same but don't know where or how to start.
With washing knitwear, if your washing machine has a spin only (not rinse and spin) cycle, I really recommend using it after washing to significantly reduce the drying time, whether you wash the garment by hand or in the washing machine. Use the setting with highest number of spins, so it is more like a centrifuge, and will spin out lots of the water. After that lay it out flat to dry in shape as normal.
I was skeptical to try it, but a lot of big knitwear designers recommend it (I'm a knitter), and it's been a game-changer for me!
I love hearing your inner struggles. You inspire me so much! I didn’t buy a palette I was lusting after that came out today and you know what - I’m fine. 🥰
this video just explained to me why i collect makeup like how i used to collect fountain pens in school where I wasn't allowed to wear makeup, and now mostly see makeup as tools rather than something I have to own to participate in the "beauty" realm! Knowing that bit of history about what makes childhood me happy will serve me well as i tried to edit down my collections of makeup, clothes i own and strop buying more. Great video as always, and appreciate ya
Hello fellow fountain pen lover!
I did this with my eyeshadow palettes and my sweatshirts. I went and organized what I have and instinctively talk myself out of the desire of more, so now is what I do, re- organize and look what I own before i shop. Perfume is something else I keep telling myself why? No! Is not like I will wear it, doesn’t go with who I am and it is just an idea in my head of this person I could be. So is a hard one that keeps popping back.
Thank you Hannah ❤ I recently had a cart full of watercolor paper and watercolors- I utilized your “automatic no” AND I went and used the art supplies I ALREADY HAVE. Which is a robust selection. 😂 but now after having watched this video I want a sweater 🤣🤣🤣
I'm so here for this!! I've spent a lot of money recently because I've been anxious and chasing momentary bursts of serotonin. I love the way you talk about actively looking for a reason not to buy something. As good as it might feel to splurge, it's just not worth the financial guilt for me.
Very relatable! I have a few of those things:
- Jeans: I had to go through my collection just last weekend to declutter and reorganise to stop myself from wanting more. I REALLY have enough
- Lipstick. I love lipsticks but the range of colours that suit me is limited and I am very well stocked. No need for the 20th dark rosy nude lipstick.
- Golden Goose trainers: That's the worst one because they are so expensive. I am totally not a designer brand person but those just fit my style so perfectly. I have 3 pairs and 1 on the wishlist. I always save for them and let it marinate for months until I break down again. I love all pairs I have very much and cherish them. Wearing them makes me happy, but 3 is really enough, isn't it 👀?
Excellent talk, Hannah, and congrats on overcoming those inclinations to buy. My problem is sewing patterns and, to a lesser extent, fabric. You are so correct about taking stock of current inventory of the item we want to buy! Every time I reorganize my patterns I remind myself that I don’t need anymore. Well, there was a pattern sale a few days ago and I managed to resist buying a dress pattern I was visualizing sewing and wearing (beautifully, of course). As I was driving in the neighborhood of the pattern sale, I talked to myself out loud about all the other patterns I want to sew that I already own, and also reminded myself that I have several unfinished projects at the moment, needing my attention more than this new dress pattern. I also remembered what the told myself the last time I reorganized my patterns... I have enough for two lifetimes! The urge to buy another pattern did pass after considering these things. As I write this I even feel relieved that I don’t have yet another one to file away.
The marketers of beautiful items are skilled at their jobs! Thank you for helping us develop our skills of resistance! I love the default “no” ... I will use it!!
Thank you so much for making videos like these! I’m so glad you are carving out a space for this outlook on the Internet. It is such a refreshing breath of air compared to all of the influencers who are shoving products down our face every day. I feel much more empowered after watching your videos for the past few months & actually have a proper game plan for my spending habits 💛✅
I'm also having an extreme "low buy" year. This video is perfectly motivational as I always feel Jan/Feb are the hardest months when setting new lifestyle practices.
Conveniently, being allergic to wool has saved me from buying all this beautiful, structured knitwear that I would have almost no opportunity to wear and appreciate. I will just have to appreciate it from afar.
Same
Here. Here.
Same here 😂 but don’t you struggle on how to keep yourself warm
In winters? I have the hardest time finding winter clothes being allergic to wool and cashmere .
@@sarahm3240 Yes! I end up wearing like 18 layers of clothing trying to get the warmth that my husband gets in a wool flannel shirt!
@@celucero2 ditto 😂😂
Thank you for sharing the advice regarding your old ratty bras. I tend to keep certain favorite items of clothing until they are falling apart and quite grubby. (AKA daily wear clothing becomes lounge clothing becomes sleep clothing becomes cleaning gross things clothing.) I struggle to just bite the bullet and finally toss an item of clothing once it has gone through every stage of wearability. It clutters up my wardrobe and I’m overwhelmed by the clothing I own. Hearing your advice about getting rid of the super ratty items so you can fully appreciate the nice things you have to wear was super helpful to hear. I’m slowly going through my closet and will try my best to employ that tactic!
Hannah, thank you for sharing these tips and insights. I've been obsessing about buying an oversized sweater for weeks and after organizing my knits collection, l ABSOLUTELY do not need another one. I thank you, my wallet thanks you, my closet thanks you, and current sweaters thank you. 😊 I wouldn't have thought to use organizing this way. Brilliant!
not me clicking on this video, sitting here in a babaa no 17 that i'm slightly regretting on despite the sale haha same same but different. the blue looks gorgeous on you. thanks for this!
The blue 💙 she’s gorgeous!!!
I feel so seen in this video. I tend to fall down the rabbit hole for each new hobby. I am sadly one of those for whom a 10 bottle ink collection is a dream of minimalism. And I have enough Tomoe River paper notebooks to last me till 2030, and I have to fight daily the urge to get more notebooks, more planners, more fountain pens. I've had my makeup collections grow completely out of hand, and when I fell down the indie nail polish well, I fell hard. Nail polish cases in the storage room hard.
These videos are seriously inspiring, and I am working of laying down the rules of an extended no-buy for financial, storage and emotional reasons. Thank you for creating this content.
Hannah Louise, thank you so much for beautifully covering this type of content! I purchased a pair of boots in the sales, from a brand I'd been coveting for over a year. The thing is, although the boots were SUCH a good discount, they weren't the exact style I wanted. In fact I'd justified even dreaming of this brand of boots because they would be a long, long term practical investment piece. However, the style I bought had a suede detail which I totally knew wouldn't stand up long term to the elements but I bought 'em anyway...only the transaction was cancelled because they ran out of stock and couldn't fulfil the order (not the brand's fault but the stockist). So I was serendipitously saved from myself - but your video here has armed me for the future when the fates may be less benevolent!
I was also tempted by the Babaa winter sale! (That color blue looks stunning on you btw). My approach for this year is to not add any sweaters to my closet unless I’ve knit themself - it’s a hobby that takes me awhile because I only like to work on one project at a time, feels intentional for me from a sustainability standpoint, and is overall cheaper than buying Babaa 😅 thank you for this wonderful reminder!
My buying obsession is mostly perfume. I love having variety. I think it was your fashion content that brought me to your channel. I enjoy your thoughtful rambles and the pink sweater/pants.. such a satisfying video. It looked better on you than it did on the model. Of course, no buys and thoughtful purchases are also a big topic in the perfume community. Thank you so much.
I love Ugg boots and I also love a pale olive color. This year the company came out w/pale olive Ugg boots for $170. I wanted them so bad and I still do, even though I own 3 other pairs. What I did to talk myself out of purchasing them, was to look in my closet at all of my clothes & the outfits I put together and see if I would choose the olive color Uggs or my black, gray or brown Uggs. My conclusion was that even if I would pull out the olive color, my gray, black or brown Uggs would match just as good & maybe even better. I still want them, but I don’t want to have to spend that much money right now. I have this quirk about me, that when I like something a lot, I want all the colors. I totally understand u Hannah. You’ve helped me a lot & I hope this example will serve u in some way. ❤️
HANNAH: are we from the same soul family? Stationary and planners- lovely clothing- sparkles on the lids?! haha! PLANNER CONTENT- also jetpens omg. I just bought some inks and a glass dip pen like last week. :D
Your makeup looks INCREDIBLE in this video! I honestly think it may be the bright cobalt that is really complementing your complexion.
My confession 🛑I also over indulged myself on those delicious Babaa sweaters. Also wear them all and plan to for the rest of my life! I have gone a good several months without purchasing….but somehow stumbled this morning on Poshmark and purchased no13 Arce new condition for a deal. Even though I own the color in the no17 😅However… the guilt has been at my throat, so much so I listed one of my beloveds to hopefully compensate for my impulsiveness. This video comes to me at the right time as a sign to back off the Babaa train… Enjoy, wear, and cherish what I already own and stop coveting new releases like the Babaa blanket!
Is it possible?😅
Also I would love to see a video on your collection and how you care for them ❤
Edit: How could I forget to mention you look stunning in the blue!
Hi Hannah ! I have not done well at all with my low buy this month 😣but your strategy of going through the items we already have and organizing is super helpful! I did that with my knits today and fell in love again with what I already have - I also tried every single one on which helped 💕 my most problematic one is handbags and sales so my plan is to stop browsing when I’m bored and redirect my attention to what I already have . Thanks for posting ❤️ All the best from Ontario Canada 🇨🇦
This is such a helpful video for me on my no buy year. I know you aren’t technically on a no buy but hearing how you feel better after saying no even when you can buy is really comforting to me. I overlap a lot in the areas of interest (looking at you, knitwear), and it’s so tempting to try and make exceptions or fit things into my rules. But instead, I did a huge purge and reorganization of my closet this past weekend and I’m absolutely loving the results. Thank you Hannah!
I'm currently struggling with balancing my internal "no, trying to save money" with "but I'll love it and use the hell out it" desires for a chartreuse sweater from aritzia and western-inspired boots from able. Sigh! On a separate note, watching your videos has reignited my passion for makeup! I have a very similar completion to you and always struggled with base products. Although we have totally different makeup colors (I go for vampy deep lips, berry tones, rosy pinks, and blue-toned reds) your journey of finding the right foundation shade has made me finally realize I'm fair neutral hinting more on the cool side. Thank you so much for your thoughtful content!
I have a serious Etsy art problem- I'll scroll through artists pages as if its social media and fill my basket. I always justified these purchases as ok because I'm supporting small local artists- but I am really trying to cut back on them this year. Last weekend when I got the urge to scroll and shop I instead looked at all the art I had that I hadn't put up yet (need to find a frame, haven't decided on where it'll go, forgotten about it etc), the frames I'd collected from charity shops, and what was already on the walls. I spent the whole day changing what was in which frame, deciding to hang some stuff with washi tape just to get it up, and basically re-curating all of the art around my home. It was so much fun and I feel so happy I'm the space now!! The prices I'd gotten used to feel fresh and new in new spaces and frames and I'm so glad I finally got up some bits I've had put away for ages
I think laundry is big especially for a minimal wardrobe. We own a huge washing machine as it is the most sustainable one regarding environment and energy costs. So we "need" a lot of dirty items to fill it and justify using it. I learned to compromise on my outfits and to rewear clothes (after I hang them in the dampy bathroom or spotclean them). I do handwash my bras as they are delicate (silks, lace ...) therefore I do not need a lot of them.
I started a wishlist page of my own this year, and it’s been really helpful in curbing that urge to spend. My biggest thing was that if I wanted something but didn’t buy it, I would forget about it and then get frustrated that I forgot it and could never find it again. Now that I have all of the links of things I want, I feel much more secure in being able to slow down and not feel like everything is slipping from my hands
love when you said "it would be more on top of enough"
Cookware and pitchers are my weaknesses. I see the most beautiful classy or sweet vintage pitchers that make my heart squeeze at the thrift store every time I go! I want to decorate the tops of bookshelves with my pitchers collection in the future! But right now I live in a tiny apartment with a wild toddler so they wouldn't fit and would certainly break. I have to remind myself of that every time I see a pitcher. With the cookware, I have already invested in GREAT cookware. I love everything I have and don't really need anything else. If I bought something, it would be a duplicate and not get used. I am extremely practical so that usually steers my heart away from buying it.
I’m doing a no buy January and I’ve wanted everything from a heart shaped purse to eyeshadow to Mickey ears to books. I haven’t broken my no buy so far! The strategies are DBT therapy strategies (you can RUclips them to learn about them) but mainly opposite action, urge surfing, radical acceptance, deep breathing through urges and a few others. I’m not kidding I’m a different person than I was 20 days ago. It’s wild!
Just wait till you done it for years! It’s amazing! I been no buy since 2020 and I’ve saved so much money it’s insane
@@MandyGood I don’t know if I’ll get to the years mark. I’m just trying to make it month to month. 😂
@@audreymeach9826 lol I know what you mean !!!
Sooooooo appreciate knowing I’m not in this struggle alone. Stationery is definitely my pitfall. I love a good pen and have my eye on so many inks.
So great to hear what I experience in your words. I noted my struggles in a journal, but could not find the right tone. Because I still have that desire for the crave-buy-repeat-circle, I tend to by hard on myself. Thanks for your reflections
I’m on a low/no buy for January. The hardest part is when something goes on sale, or clearance. My husband was my stop guard in this case. He’s like “you’re trying to do a no buy, give it a few minutes.” At first I was a little irked that he’d reminded me of my commitment to myself, but when I went back to the website I didn’t feel the same impulse. I’ve been keeping a written wishlist going, but I think I may also add pictures to remind myself.
Thanks for this video. I have been going through a stressful month and my ADHD ramped up and sort of dissolved my strategies ^^Back on it though and filling my feed with low buy/no buy content. What I generally found very useful is making a detailed budget. Where I allocate money each month to specific categories, so I know how much money I would have to buy clothes. Which usually also means I have to wait a while until I can even consider buying the quality I want. By then I'm making really really informed choices and usually focus on replacing rather than adding. Stress truly is a killer for that and I love the strategies you add and also the automatic No.
I actually have been using the no method for so long in my life that I am in the opposite side not letting myself enjoy a single spontaneous purchase, I overthink about everything and sometimes an item stays in my wishlist for 2 years even though I really want and would get so much out of it. I am super afraid of being impulsive, regretting something, overindulging and going beyond my savings (which never happened and it’s quite impossible due to this mindset I’ve just described). But I’m tired of repressing myself to this level so I’m searching healthy ways to navigate through this journey and your channel have been a blessing to me showing all these ways I can enjoy beautiful things and pleasure in balanced ways. I know your tips are for people that usually pass the limits, but it’s really helping me to make the other way. I cannot describe how much these are becoming my favorite videos ever, thank you so much!
I'm staying humble and started with a no buy January. We'll see if I decide to alternate buy and no buy periods. When I allow myself to do something, sometimes I eventually don't cave in. Just because I feel reassured that if I want I can, then I don't. However this month, only the automatic no has successfully saved me from breaking my vow multiple times 😂 Crazy how we get to feel an actual urge, with a rash of adrenaline and the whole fight or flight situation array of chemical reactions. As if we were missing a lifetime's opportunity.
It's good to know that I'm not the only one lurking in the fountain pen corner of the internet 😅
I’m so here for the fountain pen and stationary/journaling supplies reveal, stamps and all! Please!
Oh Hannah I bless the day I found you. 🤩 thanks for doing all the physiological analysis of the fashion shopping moments 🤓 I had you in my head in the fitting room on Saturday and I made the wisest choices, actually allll weekend! I’ve just changed my job and are only working 4 days a week so have been mindful of ways of being more sensible with my spending. You have given me THE best tools 🛠 to use and I am forever grateful 😘🥰🙏🏼
I just replaced some bras. I have not purchased bras in several years and the ones I had (and I had about 6) were all well worn and starting to not shape me/fit in a comfortable way as they were stretched out. I decided I only need 3 bras (with my weekly laundry routine) and looked online for neutral colors that would match my skintone so they could go under any color including sheer or white tops. I have since purchased and received my new bras and out of the 3 only one of them is not exactly what I hoped but I can still make it work. The old bras I got rid of and I have to say my drawer looks so pretty now when I open it up and the lovely new bras are laid out there waiting for me, and I know I can get thru the day without having to adjust and fidget with my bra! I appreciate that you took into account how many you had in total and realized you didn't need any. I love the wishlist idea for the clothing you want but don't "need" as most of the time those short term desires do go away. Perhaps ask for the items for a birthday present?
I love your automatic NO and am using this year in my life! I did slip up this week and ordered a spring sweater, and I feel horrible about it. Thanks for your videos!
I love your content but this particular video really struck a cord. I’m a fellow Babaa devotee and now own 4 in as many years, 3 cotton and 1 wool as I live in California and don’t have a need for much wool. I too always think I need another Babaa same style different color but I’m holding strong like you and trying to thoroughly enjoy what I’ve already acquired. I did the same thing as you with Babaa about 5 years back when I discovered the Tradlands brand of button down flannel and cotton shirts. They are beautifully well made pieces (think double top stitching and an extra buttonhole to prevent that dreaded gape). Once my first shirt arrived I was so completely smitten I acquired roughly 8 shirts in different fabrics and sleeve length but finally had to put the brakes on when I realized I may have overdone it. I absolutely do not regret a single purchase but enough really is enough and these well made shirts truly will last a lifetime. Here’s to adding beauty and functionality to our lives in a conscious and intentional manner in 2023 and beyond! Looking forward to more great content Hannah! Cheers!! ❤
Buying less..... I'm doing meh so far. Luckily most of the stuff I want is actually very affordable, like the new e.l.f. color corrector. I was like, why am I beating myself up about $4? I realized, it's more about knowing that the L.A.Girl color corrector I already have could last me literally another year, maybe even two! That is something frustrating about makeup. Most products last sooooo long, it's like you feel sentenced to avoid buying anything else because what you already have could last so long. And usually it's not considered a DOWNSIDE to get a long usage period out of the products you buy, but there's something about it that's oddly toxic in a way I can't quite sum up. You are just left with a nagging knowing that you don't NEED more of what you have, yet you want to try different brands and formulas, and have the FUN of buying something that is a hobby of yours.
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Sounds like you're frustrated from a lack of novelty. Have you tried switching up your techniques or rotating through your products?
Yep. An Instagram ad got me this month. Spent my budget for Jan, Feb, and March. I will be using an automatic NO! for the rest of the year. 😀
From you I have learned that „duping the vibes“ is a way to go. Recently, whenever I see a trend in which I would love to participate - I immediately turn to what I already have. Yesterday I have seen short video from Andrea Ali, applying pink liquid blush to cheeks, brow bones and lips which worked magic to her face. I went to video description to check out that product, then I realized that with pink lipstick I can do the same. And I have Chanel rouge coco (462 romy) which also works magic. But even if I did not have lipstick, I could do all that with a powder blush in pink. Thank you for spreading this mindset
I am no buy clothes, shoes and bags this year because I’ve started my journey of minimalism and oh boy sooo hard to say no! There is this one pant that I really love and I almost give in. I had to call my husband and explain that I wanted to this this cute particular pant and he gently reminded me of my journey to minimal live and that I really have enough clothes or pants 😃I am so glad he did that , and after a week I have forgotten that pant. So far I have not been tempted to buy! Yay! Thank you for your videos and validating that I am not the only one feel that way!
I gotta say I bought a babaa sweater a year or two ago, washed according to the care instructions and its dye came out streaky. It was the no 18 cardigan in natural, an off white. I might have been able to bleach it effectively, but it wasn’t a white initially and I wasn’t going for a white look. Just word to the wise for the cotton cardigans in that color-that you will definitely have to wash at some point because the light color will get dirty. I’d have dry cleaned if I’d know better, but if I had to do it again I wouldn’t have bought it in the first place.
You inspired me to finally start my new channel Sarah Ford Vlogs and 2023 is a no buy year for me! (With a few exceptions). I right down things in a note in my notes app (no links or website, just descriptions) and to me it’s the same gratification of adding to cart. Whenever i add something new i look over the other things and I’m Ike oh i forgot about that
I'm trying to really change my spending habits this year and videos like this are so helpful! Because of my new year's goals to read and exercise more I'm very tempted to buy books and activewear at the moment... I already have almost 50 unread books on my shelf so I def do not need more! But I did allow myself to restock my shampoo and buy a tote bag (which I'd been eyeing for 2+ months and was on sale). Skincare is also an eternal temptation... sorting through and reorganising all of my skincare definitely helps curb the craving for more. I've made a big wishlist excel sheet, I find plugging things into the wishlist and waiting does help the initial flare of excitement settle down. Tbh most of the things I put on my wishlist I end up forgetting about, and if they stick around in my mind, then they tend to be worth buying
Doing a no-buy January and it's gone so well, I'll probably do a no-buy Feb also. Decided against buying a new perfume even though it was decently priced, partly because of the no-buy and also because I have about 20 perfumes already! It's good to enjoy what we have.
Love these examples of implementing the automatic no! I rely on the wishlist technique; my version is a spreadsheet of ALL the clothing & makeup I want. It lets me see how much stuff is similar/competing. Plus having the prices lets me see the total cost, which is so helpful because I can look at it and be like, do I actually want to spend $2000 on lipstick? Maybe not! (also it lets me sort what makeup has plastic in it so I can prioritize better)
I really appreciate hearing the process of becoming truly self-aware in the shopping dept. I spent too much on eyeshadow palettes last year, before really examining why. I realized I had a picture in my mind of my "perfect palette" and that I was chasing that picture. So silly! I still love window shopping them, but now use Temptalia to deeply examine each color to see if I already own it. 95% of the time I do, and I feel relieved.
Wow I feel seen in this! Also pursuing a low buy and I think we have very similar tastes as I’ve considered almost all the same purchases this month (JetPens is always SO hard to resist)! Loved your pragmatic approaches to finding satisfaction with what you have!
I adore how you described the furry elastic of a worn out item of clothing! Your bra situation is my recent brow pencil situation. I was trying to talk myself into buying new brow pencils because my favs are almost done. I took out all the pencils & other brow products I own & started using those. I found that I actually like the other non fav products. They definitely do the job & in reality I probably won't need a new brow product for at least the next 12 mos if I'm being completely honest with myself. Which I think what this exercise really is about. Being honest, truly honest & realizing that no, you do not "need" anything most of the time! 😏🙌
I'm sooo interested in seeing your modest but likely beautiful fountain pen and ink collection. I'm on a stationery no buy this year, and so far so good though I nearly stocked up on greeting cards and notebooks from a local gift shop that's closing. My rules are 1) replacement purchases are okay if I have absolutely nothing in my existing stash that cannot do the same job and 2) buying postage stamps for outgoing snail mail is acceptable. I rearranged my supplies so that I can better see all that I have, which has helped so much already in cutting my desire for more things.
I love looking at mundane life situations through your eyes. You bring such beauty to everything 🥰
Thank you for sharing your challenges and strategies ❤ This morning I realized I have all of the symptoms of online shopping addiction 😢 It just creeped up in time and now it is a real problem. To make things worst, this afternoon I received a delivery of 3 packages of clothes and running shoes I ordered earlier this week. I felt so sad, not angry at myself, just sad, thinking: Who have I become? What am I fixing in my life with this constant ordering of things? I am not even happy when I buy them.
I bought 3 new things last week, obviously those things have not changed my life nor improved it. Why would these new things make any difference?
It is that horrible temptation: this is the only thing like a missing puzzle that I need to buy to feel complete. But that missing puzzle is never the last one. When is it enough? 😑🥺
You sound like me and I finally had enough! I can't commit to a year, so I do it by month. Had 2 months of no buy and messed up before the New Year. No one can be harder on myself than me. I just have to keep trying. It's a he'll of a habit! Or addiction! Something that helps me is the definition of insanity. Repeating the. same mistakes over & over again & expecting different results!
I am trying to have six non-consecutive no-buy months this year. I have a real addiction to shopping for fashion, toiletries (skincare) and home wares and have never tried this before so I am starting in February as the “easiest” month (only 28 days) and now need to put in place some strategies to help me resist. The automatic no and wishlist strategies, as well as organisation, seem like useful ones, so thank you for this really helpful video. ❤
@@wavyjenny602 I will do a similar thing officially starting from February. Though I stopped all buying after my first comment. I also think it is good to be aware of trigger points: boredom, fomo, if I just… and then address them with default No. Some influencers I follow are so difficult to resist watching… inspo should be in my closet and in the pinterest board, not in reels 🫣.
But we’ve got this! 💪🏻💪🏻
I love that you take us through your feelings and thoughts in your process. It's very helpful to me. I use the "Pause, Wait' strategy and it's good to have it reinforced.
I've found spending money to be very stressful this past year, even though I know I don't overspend or buy impractical things for me. I'm still spending more because I'm now fully supporting myself, so buying beautiful things feels extreme because I'm already spending so much on rent and groceries, which is a first for me freshly out of college. Your videos have added some very helpful perspectives on both sides of the coin! The love of beautiful things is wonderful and worth spending money on, but only in ways that make sense
You're not alone! Everything in price is higher. Food , gas, clothing, beauty products, etc. Yet people are not making more. It is stressful when you shop for food and each time it costs more! We had a pizz & salad delivered the other evening and with tip it was $50.00! We are blessed that we have enough to get buy (if I stick to my no buy). Many have to choose between heat & eating, or medication!
@@marilynmontgomery4579 oh for sure. I'm very lucky to be able to fully support myself with no issues, but my heart breaks for those that have student loans, car payments, and health issues that are costly. Simply existing in a comfortable manner shouldn't be this difficult
Marisa, I totally agree. Why can't we all have health coverage like Congress & the Senate. Our drugs are over the moon right now because it's the beginning of the year and we have to meet deductibles. And we're on Medicare! My husband can't retire yet because we can't afford it! Here's hoping 2023 gets easier for everybody.
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I have been a subscriber to rent the runway since 2017, and there is no one I want to experiment with it more than you Hannah. I think you would love it and find it very interesting and practical. Xo
You had me at stationary, a plethora of pens, wildly wonderful washi tape, and a jumble of journals say no more!
I had something similar happen this month where I was feeling like I desperately needed a pair of all-black running shoes (Nike Pegasus, to be specific) and I felt compelled to buy them new off of their website, about £90 on sale. They have excellent arch support for a flat-footie like me 😅
I ended up feeling like "I do need running shoes, but I don't want to support Nike as a company because I disagree with their labour practices" So my automatic "no" was fueled by a sense of responsibility to not support that company. I've decided to wishlist the item and keep checking Ebay over the next few months until I see them for the right price. This way it will be more cost effective to me, and Nike doesn't profit 😎
What helps me sometimes from
Shopping: when I want an item, I often have a special situation in m head, just like a film scene. It’s a FEELING, an idea, a song… then I try to imagine the whole scene with clothes I already have. Often I realise that it’s not the clothes I want…
I am super grateful you make these videos. 😭 They help so so much in reducing my spending. I talked myself out of going to TJ Maxx today to go pick up the super discounted Pat McGrath Bridgerton collection that I've been wanting for a long time. After watching your video I analyzed exactly what shades I wanted, where my collection may already have dupes, and thought about how much use I would practically get out of them. That was enough to squash the urge. Thank you for the good you put out into the world!!
Why am I not surprised about the pens ? 🤣
I mean. ✨ The aesthetic ✨
I love colour and I love drawing and I droooooooool on the fountain pen community videos.
Never in my life that I think that eyeshadow palettes could become both a point of joy and a burden for me, as I have begun a hobby and then fallen into the consumeristic rabbit hole it can lead to! However, I have found that when I really want a new release but don’t immediately get it, the process of waiting several weeks or months dims the appeal of that item. Particularly as new things come on scene and I can step back, assess and compare with a clearer head.
I love the wishlist idea as well as one commenter’s suggestion of taking a screen shot! Thank you for a well thought-out video, Hannah!
Please keep updating us on this, because I really overbought clothing last year. It was the first year I started fully shopping second hand and everything being so much cheaper made me buy more objects thus still spending the same amount of money. Now it doesn't fit in my closet anymore and for the first time in almost 10 years I have to switch out my winter and summer stuff. Really not happy about that
Redhead here for the bright warm blue!! As my students say SLAY!! Just wanted to say that your recent decluttering/using what you have videos have been so helpful to me. My entire makeup collection is like the size of your lipstick collection I think. But just the ability to know that I have what I need and to say no to constant small $ buying is so helpful. And just to say - as a Libra sun/Cap moon, I love beauty and I love things (and right now, can afford zip) - the struggle is real!! So helpful to hear you talk through your process...
I feel you on the fountain pens. I handwrite a lot in my work, and I enjoy it (when I was eight, a teacher came to my school and taught us a beautiful flowing italic script, which I still have). I use Kaweco sport pens (not the best but easily replaceable) and yellow legal paper. I once had a vintage ladies burgundy Parker that my boyfriend inherited from his great aunt. It wrote beautifully but sadly I lost it.
I've been struggling with this lately too. Especially after the holidays, it seems so tempting to take advantage of all the sales and fill out the holes in my wardrobe with the items I put on my holiday wish list but did not receive. Even though most of the items I've purchased in the past month were replacements of worn-out items so there was no net gain of stuff, I really have to question if those items really needed replacing right away or if I could have just gotten by without a replacement and lived with less for a while. There are two more items on my list to replace, but I am going to try my level best to hold off until the end of summer/early fall to replace those pieces for the next cold season and finish out this one with what I have.
First , I have to say that sweater looks Amaaaazing on you, that blue is Your color! And second, thank you for this video and those fantastic ideas! I will implement immediately! 🥰👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💕😍