How to Calm a Highly Sensitive Nervous System
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- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
- Through Fear and belief about the dangers of living in our bodies, we can teach our nervous system to be in a high state of alert. The good news is we can teach it to calm down. In the frame of TMs / Mindbody disorders, this is my take on the topic of a hyper-vigilant nervous system.
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I've been on high alert since i was 5 years old. The pain I'm in is in the mind. I'm 52 now, that's a long time! People especially parents underestimate the damage neglect and abuse can cause. It's lifelong.
I posted this in response to your other comment. I'll post it again here to make sure you see it. I'm so sorry you had such a difficult childhood. The good news is that there IS a way to recover from this. Your trauma is not happening right now. Creating safety in your present moment is what will help you out. Nobody is too far broken to recover. Nobody. Focus on safety in the present. ruclips.net/video/Ez9Ez49M8Ig/видео.html
@PainFreeYou thank u so much. Recently I was diagnosed with Borderline to go alongside being Bipolar 1, Generalised Anxiety Disorder and ADHD!! Not the initials after my name I once hoped for. My parents are gone but recently I got angry with them both for denying me the opportunity to be the person I was born as before their ineptitude messed with my neural pathways!
What you say is very encouraging since I feel I'm more 'damaged goods' than not.
It's hard to imagine safety when it's literally about using my imagination as opposed to memory. Being a parent to 3 babies was really challenging; giving them everything I never felt.
Through trauma therapy I realise I've been reactive all my life and as a result I am at the mercy of the things around me, never in control.
Thank you though for your encouraging words. I've been working on myself since the age of 14! So easy to give up.
I'm so sorry to hear that. The pain you are feeling is your body and soul needing to heal from that so you can move on. THE BEST WAY, is through writing/drawing therapy, bringing it all to awareness and consciousness that you were going through as a child (draw you as a child and the abuser and draw you from behind as you are observing yourself going through the shit you had to go through with the dumbass abuser, and tell you inner child that that A-hole was wrong AND a piece of crap, but you are an adult and safe now and that it wasn't your fault this could have happened to anyone. Then grab a stone called an Obsidian (Powerfully takes out negative energy) and wrap that paper up on that obsidian that you just wrote you drew on (best done in pencil) with all that shit from your abuse, and take the paper and obsidian near the water (fast pace river, preferred because of the moving water) and burn the f paper and through the obsidian in the water, which will take all of that negative shit away from you. ALSO one more tip, take Magnesium threonate, crosses the blood brain barrier. Mag, is responsible for over 300 functions in the body. #1 calming affect. Also, fish oil. And if you have any mental issues from the abuse take The Magnetic Pill (it's the real silver bullet for things like OCD or nerves). Wish you the best!! Lots of Love.
@Sara-wb2bs that's so lovely, thank you 🩷. Think I might need a tonne of obsidian delivered! I have CKD so cannot take magnesium - it often reads high in my blood levels. Funny thing is, people on the outside don't have a clue about my issues - I'm very apt at hiding and putting on a front. I wasn't told about bipolar until I was pregnant with my 3rd and last child. They have been my 'life-blood' and the reason I am still here. There's so much ignorance around mental illness as if it comes out of nowhere - you only have to read the comments under videos on BPD. One person wrote 'if you meet someone with BPD - RUN!' we are humans too and are paying the price for those who should never have had children. I'm one of the most loving, caring people I know and my grown children tell me I'm the best Mum in the world! That paper you write about might just have to be a book which I've been told many times I should write. Come July next year I will have my degree and have the space in my head to get it all out on paper for others to witness and hopefully be encouraged by xx
@@Sara-wb2bs what's the 'magnetic pill'?
“When you make living your life more important than fixing your problems.” I needed this, thank you!!
Me too, I get so concerned with fixings and the control/ fear has made it worse. This is great advice to stop fixing and just live, develop trust and faith
I suggest you check out my fast start playlist to get a deeper dive into what is going on and what you can do about it all. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
I suggest you check out my fast start playlist to get a deeper dive into what is going on and what you can do about it all. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
That’s me…
Excellent saying. I have to remember this one for sure!!
I can absolutely confirm that the most effective way of getting your nervous system back to a regulated state is to shift your focus and concentrate on anything that feels good. I know how it sounds but I've been there, too. And back then it was so awful, I thought I would never feel normal again, that this would be my new reality. But there was still a little voice in my head absolutely refusing to let that happen and to let something that I knew was just reacting to my own mindf*ck dictate my life. So I started with babysteps(!). Like watching extremely soothing clips before going to bed (I can just name things that worked for me but maybe someone finds it helful) like people riding night trains and filming their experiences, while using music und subtitles instead of words. That was my first step. Another one was dedicating a lot of time to meditation, espcieally guided meditation with the theme of reducing anxiety and negative thoughts. I started making little tiny workouts, specialized ones for soothing the nervous system. So partially I focused on my nervous system but with the intention to let it know that everything is okay. The anxiety attacks that period of time were massive so babysteps it werre but little by little it got better and that was pure motivation. To some these methods might sound ridiculous but I actively decided to not let my life be dictated by fear and found my own tools te get out of that horrible cycle. So I guess the first and most crucial step for anyone is to make that choice not to let anything dictate how you feel and how you live your life. Especially not soemthing that is learned behavior and can be transfromed. I wish everyone, if you raed all this (wohoo xD), all the love and energy to heal, to transform and to make that choice for yourself! Blessings
Thank you for sharing your experience with my community. I appreciate you taking the time to help others.
@@PainFreeYou Your video resonated so much with me and the way you radiate is just absolutely soothing and warm. I wish I found your channel back then. But I did now and know where I find likeminded people whenever there is a hint of old pattern. Thank you for putting out love, understanding and commitment for people who often times are misunderstood. And thank you for reacting to my comment
@@marylein5414 You are welome.
Which guided meditation is your favorite? I can never find a good guided meditation.
@@imperfectly_megan I wish I could help you with that 🙏🏻 But I'm german, so I used german guided meditation. I understand english quite well, but I didn't want to have to translate in my head while trying to calm down. What I would look for in guided meditation for the nervous system and/or anxiety is someone who tells you that what you feel in that moment is okay, teaching you acceptance rather than forcing your focus elsewhere. Most meditations want you to bodyscan and be still and close your eyes and focus on emptying your head. But with a nervous system on a rampage that's a tough thing to do and might even have the opposite effect. So classic meditation is amazing but a better tool for when you're already more settled (at least I feel that way). Look for meditations that teach acceptance, teach you to respect and trust your body that it wants to do the right thing for you :) Where it's okay if you walk around in circcles while listening.. This kind of meditation is a great start, I believe. Maybe instead of looksing for guided meditation for anxiete/nervous system you could search for "acceptance" "self-love". Play around with other little tools as well. It's mostly the little things - but constantly done - that will make a big change over time and with some patience. I hope this helps a bit at least and I wish you all the best! You can do this!
I don’t watch news, too much us and them, the elites keep us fighting….I work in my landscape, i bought a bench slider….I sit in the morning and again at night, just sitting and listening, watching hummingbirds, bees and butterflies come feed on all the flowers i planted for them….and toss the ball for my dog, it is so good for me.
I am an overthinker and it leads to anxiety. This was helpful.
If you'd like to take things further, check out my fast start playlist. The concepts for pain also apply to anxiety. It's all the same stuff.
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I found it extremely annoying and patronizing.
Patronizing? Huh. I didn't get that at all.
Same here. I ruminate over things, and that has going to have to stop. However because of alot of trauma in 2020-2021, I became super sensitized which led to more anxiety.
I am trying to recover from this, but it takes a long time and hard work. I'm certainly open to hard work to get this anxiety under control. Chronic stress led to this.
I wish you the best.............and understand all too well overthinking and ruminating about things.
The video was helpful, as the focus has got to stop being on negative things.............when I am feeling well and concentrate on positive things, it is like looking at the world through a different lens.
@@constellations9258 If you start to pathologize your natural reactions to trauma, stress, toxic people (for example you tell yourself, explain yourself that you ruminate) - this will not help you.
In fact, now you will be convinced that there is something horrible wrong with you, and this will add to new layers of stress and self blame and toxic shame.
What I discovered with overthinking is very revealing information:
1) it is not over thinking. IT is intelligence.
2) It is not rumination, it is being highly sensitive to stimuli
3) it is a protective mechanism - it tells us how to avoid danger. It is helping us to create safety
4) it is an alarm - telling us who is toxic and that we need to act about making ourselves to feel safe - by cutting contact, by avoiding toxicity, by protest, by plaining exit strategy
5) it is neurodiversity - our brain is working differently than neurotypicals - we tend to see more dimensions and more angles, and this appears as rumination to third party, someone who is neurotypical. Then neurotypical will try to cure us by symptomizing our natural brain works and labeling it and stigmatizing - since neurotypicals do not like to think or solve anything in life - they rely on ocean waves to throw their motorless boat around and they don't care where they land.
Something to think about. To validate ourselves, instead of symptomizing ourselves into depression and fear and panic.
I have suffered with PTSD and depression all my life. At 56 years old I am agoraphobic and my fears have multiplied. After devastating loss in November 2022 , I have manifested this grief into health anxiety, which in turn, has made world smaller. I feel like I'm stuck in malicious vortex that I will never escape. Thank you for imparting your knowledge and compassion for the debilitating power our minds have over our physical well being.
You CAN escape. If fear and perceived danger is the issue, safety and calm is the way out. A great place to learn what is going on and what to do about it is my fast start playlist. Watch. Take notes. Implement. Repeat. DansPlayList.com
There there 🫂
I'm truly sorry for your pain. My husband is agoraphobic and I absolutely witness his pain daily. Some people don't realize agoraphobia is crippling. They treat it like a "get over it" scenario. We're with you. 🙏. God is too!
Thank you so much...I really didn't expect reply because no one recognizes the true impact! Thank you for validation. And know, I feel, it's true disease. Love, support your hubby...because it's hard to fight stereotypes of being inadequate or making excuses...we're human...and we're afraid.
Sounds like me😢
I'm stuck in this hyper sensitized state for several years now. This has been the toughest phase in my life and I'm trying my best to get out of it. I'm hopeful that I'll find a good solution.
Watch the video at: PainFreeYou.com
Then take the pain test: DanBuglio.com/paintest
If TMS - you CAN get better with the concepts taught in this video and many others on my channel. If you want direct help, consider my course and group coaching. PainFreeYou.com/join
@@PainFreeYou thanks I'll check. It's not tms though for me. Just extreme burnout.
@@Mark1Mach2 how are you getting along now? I have been suffering from the same for a long time as well and really want to get it figured out. Do you get bad anxiety sometimes?
How Are You Doing lately ? I Hope You Find Good Treatment And Fast Recovery . Best of Health And Regards . 🙏
Sending you blessings…be too…it’s hell.
I subscribed the moment you said it is not positive thinking its knowledge.
Welcome. Check out my Fast Start Playlist. DansFastStart.com
The combination of physical exercise and not catastrophizIng or constantly analyzing my pain, is what put me into about 80% remission from it.
Excellent.
Same
Your saying excercise helped you? Isn’t exercise very stimulating/stress on the body?
@@User98681 I use to think that but with some gentle exercise that is a little challenging can be amazing. BUT not if you have just experienced something really traumatic.
Weightlifting and fueling my body with a high-protein diet cured all my anxiety.
Physically, I’m desensitized to a lot of stimuli that would have previously been overwhelming. Constantly putting my body into a state of muscle failure makes many things feel dull in comparison.
Mentally, I know I look fit and there’s nothing that feels better than a post-workout pump, so my confidence has skyrocketed. For the most part, any social anxiety that I previously dealt with has faded away.
A lot of people tell you to go to the gym and eat right, but actually doing it can have a drastic affect on your quality of life.
Bravo - that is awesome.
Dude I am 23 years old and have been living in a lot of pain. I don’t want to share my story bc internet. But thank you this video added so much clarity to my life
Understanding how pain works and what to do about it will help. Watch my fast start playlist over and over. Watch, take notes, implement, repeat. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
Thank you for making this video! I wanted to add that I can't stress enough the importance of cutting out caffeine. I was a caffeine (diet soda/coffee/energy drink) addict for 20 years and I wrecked my nervous system. I developed chronic pain because my nerves were damaged. I was told I have fibromyalgia or pinched nerves that were causing my chronic pain, all the doctors i saw were wrong. I endured so many treatments, medications and saw so many specialists and not one ever asked how much caffeine I consumed! I have been off caffeine for about 2-3 months now my pain is finally starting to subside!
Caffeine is definitely a stimulant and can amplify things. Watch my fast start playlist for a deep dive into what's going on and what to do about it: ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
How many mg did you drink?
The worst that you can drink is energy drink
@@aphmviaskype6056 why?
Nothing but a can of chemicals.@@aphmviaskype6056
Happy Sunday to everyone😀...and remember: this too shall pass
Yes it will. Happy Sunday to you.
I've been saying that for 11 years. It's still not passing. What's passing is my once happy life.
We have been through worst
I have been dealing with anxiety on and off for 5 yrs, with health anxiety on top of that, I thought I was going crazy. Sensations everywhere! Hypervigilance is now present, but I am finally learning how to deal with it, without adding: OMG, what is happening! which has lead me to panic in the past. Thank you for this video. Well explained.
Dr Claire Weekes explained everything really well in her book Hope and Help for Your Nerves. I highly recommend it for anyone suffering with Hypervigilance, Anxiety and Panic.
Thanks for your feedback. We can all get well. :-)
Hey have you been doing better
I read self help for the nerves
You pretty much explained my last few years to a T. How are you doing with it now?
, iam suffering from severe depression And physical bodily pain symptoms for last 3 months, iam taking two psych meds present.. can i tapper of both clonazepam (0.5 mg) & vortioxetin (10mg) have been using for 3 weeks only.. I don't want to stay on these pills which cannot give me relef rather more I'll feeling.. Please advice me n ur support needed 🙏 iam eagerly waiting for ur reply, I don't want to regret in future help me.. Does his idea helps me to overcome depression and physical pain also.. Please help me out
The only stress-free life is Dead! Lol. Everything you have said has been helpful..but without a doubt self-soothing has been most beneficial for me. After 30 years of clenching myself in tension..that first day I realized..I had to remind myself every five minutes to relax and breathe..and I found a little 10 minute meditation that I would Do every time I couldn’t to it on my own. I thought I may be having to be Doing this for a month to Re-Train my brain..BUT surprisingly..it only been a little over a week and I have to Do this less and less. Your brain Can Learn a NEW Habit as rapidly as it learned the OLD habits! I am so happy..My terrible insomnia is Gone! And everything is Better. The most important thing for me..is “Radical Acceptance and Maintaining a state of Peace.” And not just about my pain but life in general. This is truly the way to live! Be accountable for everything you Can and Do not fuss over those you cannot. I think they do this in AA! Anyway..so helpful. Thank You..Dan.
Fantastic Kathleen. I'm absolutely thrilled that you are feeling better in so many ways. That makes me smile big!
Pain Free You
Me Too!
Hi Kathleen. Can you share where you found your meditation and the name? I would love to listen to it. Thanks so much!
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Yes. This is it. Part 2: Somatic Tracking Practice/Expression for Chronic Pain/Symptoms ....Healing Chronic Pain- The Pain PT. This one really helped me. I hope it will help you too.
"The only stress free existence is death." Love it! Thank you.
Right?
You had me at stress free!
Well it depends.... Eternity has 2 routes, hell or heaven. If you're saved by Jesus you'll have absolute peace forever. If you die in sin rejecting God, then the story is completely different. Torment forever.
@@kaydlc11 so true. Death is the doorway to 2 places. Choose wisely people. Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life ❤.
Yes!! My goal is not to lead a stress free life but to life a life where I can handle the stressors of daily living better… I know exactly how I got here… not to get myself out! Thanks Dan
You can do it!
Same here. My goal now is to build resilience and ability to adapt - mind and body. Like water flowing around rocks but can also cut through it. Blades of grass (bend but never break) or weeds survive what nature throws at them and grow btw concrete. Strong roots. No finish line just learning and growing plus laughing. Best of luck.✌️
Well said!
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Stress management and whole food clean diet (no sugar,soy,gluten,dairy) until I fixed my gut took me out of that state .
At the start of my diet I avoided grains,starchy foods and high fodmap for 3 months then I reintroduced most foods and if any gave me a problem I would cut it back for longer
Search dysbiosis and mental health/stress
Why tf nobody told me this before? You're such a life saviour.
Awesome. And thank you. To carry this further....
My Fast Start playlist is a great way to drill on the fundamentals of what is going on and what to do about it all. Check it out. Watch often. Take notes. And most of all, implement.
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Mine got sensitised by a panic attack during a bad trip (too much THC not enough CBD). So now the underlying anxiety over my health/ hypochondria that's always been there, is crossing that threshold and leading to panic responses. Whereas before it would have just been low level stress. So it's forcing to me to solve this problem which I previously was just ignoring. I'm getting to the core of my irrational thought cycles, and in the spaces between panic attacks I'm actually mentally more healthy than I've ever been.
So now the challenge is to desensitise my nervous system, but maintain the healthy ways of thinking with this new knowledge that I never would have gained if not for this negative event.
Great insights Myles. You are well on your way.
how are you doing with it now?
Omg!! This is exactly what happened to me!!! Please tell me how you got passed this!!! I’m going through this now!!!!! I had mine after thc but the attack was when I was driving. So now nervous to drive
How do you feel now? I couldve written this myself. It's been 18 months for me.
Wow it was like i was reading my own story, do you have any tips my dear friend? Also good luck on your journey. Its good to see that you acquired this insight.
I had Covid and two days after being diagnosed my grandfather died. I really feel like a lot of my “long haul” symptoms are stemming from suppressed emotions. These videos are invaluable to me and I will keep watching so I can find a way to move forward .
The best place for foundational knowledge and a path forward is: www.PainFreeyou.com/start
I'm right there with you.
2 hand surgerys & then my father passed.
I've been a nervous, anxious mess for 3.5 months.
It absolutely is connected. I lost my dad, was burnt out from work and then got Covid and long haul symptoms. It took me a while but calming the nervous system was key to the recovery !! You got this 🥰
@@claudiap820what did you do to calm down your NS? I was dealing with my toddler and her health diagnosis which left me devastated and so scared. Then I shortly after got Covid and now I have long Covid symptoms still going on 7 months later.
@@claudiap820did you fully recover? What were your symptoms?
What helps me most is praying. Just telling Jesus everything about my pain, my fear, my sadness, my joy, my hope, my love...and He answers me by giving me His peace, as He tells us in Matthew 11:28-29 in the Bible:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls."
(But taking a good deep breath is always a good thing to do🥳)
Prayer is a wonderful thing.
Why is the background noice so painful to hear? I came bearly watch the video, it makes me feel very uneasy
Guided relaxation & daily meditation has changed my life. Learning to take a pause, breathe & remain more in a present state.
Wonderful
Same here. There are wonderful ones on RUclips. It sets me up for the day. Clear head 😊
@@aliahspirituality yes it certainly has an overall good effect on us. Insight Timer is amazing too but some of my favourites are also here on You Tube 😊
This video got recommended to be when I was struggling with nervous system sensitivity.
It’s a very hard problem to explain but your video helped me so much, I’ve always thought I’d just have to deal with it even when I was very young, but in reality it’s just the way i’ve been choosing how to cope with sensitivity.
Thank you for making this video, I really needed it.
If it's ok to ask, may I inquire what symptoms/sensations you were experiencing?
Really thrilled that this video helped you. If I may suggest... Watch my fast start playlist to get a deeper understanding of what is going on and, more importantly, what to do about it. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
wow, breath in confidence and courage and exhale fear, That's so amazing.... I have never heard that....... I will breath like that from now on...
Really glad you like that. :-)
I'm always enthralled at the adversity of nature! Listen,watch,learn & breathe! The Rage & devastation of a forest fire for example but nature never gives up! The earth will smoulder,the smoke will rise to nothing & a few days later the most wonderful small green shoots of resilience break through to start afresh.We will have days like these but take a lesson from mother nature & embrace it.Take Strength from Calm.Just a thought to indulge 🙏⛅☀️.
Well said!
Diagnosed with cptsd/DID in 1990 at 30 yrs old with a long very challenging chronic stress from a very young age and continued stress in adulthood leading to severe chronic insomnia that eventually caused my nervous system to be shot leading to 17 weeks of hospitalization in 2021 leading to early retirement due to medical necessity.
Chronic pain developed 15 ish years ago.
With a yearly neuropsychiatric evaluation since 2017 my cognitive function was declining severely.
The test this year in 2023 showed significant improvements in my cognitive function by this exact information this man is speaking of.
I can’t believe it but it’s absolutely true!! ❤
I am still in quite a bit of therapy but with a excellent program.
I’m a true believer in these action steps.
I’m actually feeling a bit depressed even as I write this out but I know this practice is a game changer for me. My nervous system is making noticeable progress and I know I’m renewing and rewiring my brain and nervous system and I couldn’t be more fortunate and grateful.
❤
Amazing progress Debbie. You are absolutely on the right path.
My fast start playlist is a great place to understand what is happening and what to do about it: ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
@@PainFreeYou 🙏thank you 🌻
Very wise words man I’m sitting here jumping on my chair it’s like I’m tripping and my body is sore all over 😢thank u any way bless man
OMG, so glad this came up this am on my feed!! Had a TMS attack a few days ago
....practiced Dr. Sarno 12 daily reminders, 2 days, gone. YOU are my Affirmation in this! God bless you! At 70, off this am to play racquetball!!
Awesome!!! If you should ever want a reminder, my fast start playlist covers the fundamentals of what is going on and what to do about it.
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thank you for making such a calming video. i couldn’t sleep all night because of my body & brain being on high alert. i’m trying to relearn how to relax and hearing this from you helps more than you know.
Glad I could help!
I do things to hijack my nervous system. My father is not here to abuse me anymore so I do it to myself and it makes my symptoms work.
Listening to this is calming.
I’m also going to get a weighted blanket.
Thank you, Dan. I just found your channel. I have been living in chronic pain for 3 years now as a result of an extremely painful acute disease. The disease went away but the pain stayed. I'm learning to take myself out of the hypersensitive state but it is a constant effort. Thank you for your videos on this topic, they have helped me today.
Thank you so much!
I hurt my neck badly twice at five years old and have had chronic pain since then (I'm 51). Emotional abuse in home then marriage for 26 years then dating for five years (narcissistic abuse). Now I'm married to a man who's safe and healthy and loves me abundantly and I love him and I'm still stuck at 5 with the pains here and there blah blah blah. I believe this message just set me free. This is why I'm stuck in sympathetic fight or flight well I prefer freeze with flight on the side. But anyway, I needed this to pull out of the chronic pain and realize I'm not five or 15 or 25, etc. I've got a wonderful life now and I'm hopeful I can move on. You seem so kind and caring and soothing to my fractured so. Thank you
Yes, you absolutely can. My free fast start playlist maps it all out. DansFastStart.com
Thank you Dan. So true. Moving on has helped me tremendously. It's also allowed emotions to come up without me trying. They float up & I'm able to acknowledge them. I know I'm safe.👍❤
Wonderful! Amazing how when we remove resistance, everything takes on a feeling of "easy".
I'm going to take note what you said and try not to think about any symptoms, because one, we're not robots and not going to work right all the time and worrying about it won't change the outcome, apart from extra worry and stress. Easy said than done of course!
This video gave me some simple knowledge that pulled me out of a constant state of stress and put me into a defined state of self confidence. It's simple and I'm in a much better world now. Thank you so much for posting.
Great message~! I've been focusing more on accurate information rather than over-analyzing the problem or pain. Shifting focus doesn't mean denial or avoidance, rather, we can shift the resources of our attention and focus energies on a gathering mindset instead of micro-managing fight/flight responses.Even if I'm freaking out a bit, I'm. now trying to ask myself, "is this accurate?" I like Dan's focus on observing accurate info. For me, stepping back a bit and gathering helps me realize that I probably don't have data yet to freak out. That's actually one of the slogans I use for myself to ca my system: "I don't have enough data yet to freak out.".
Good stuff. Thank you for sharing this.
I like what you said “we have to do the opposite to turn it down. “ we got sensitized a certain way but we can reverse it. When I read the Sarno books I got the impression if I just believed my pain would vanish quickly. But it takes a certain kind of work for me. Soothing myself, Understanding that I’m not injured or sick. Keeping a positive attitude and really avoiding stressful situations when I can. I know I don’t live in a bubble but I don’t have to court trouble. So thanks again Dan for encouraging us out there that we can put this stressed out nervous system in chill mode. 🧘♂️😇
You are very welcome. :-)
I have been like this for over 20 years and now I getting help with it.
It's never too late. Check out my Fast Start playlist to get a deeper understanding. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
when a thought arises gently notice that it is a thought. most of us are very attached to thoughts which causes us to have belief in them. if we are honest with ourselves we can see that thoughts are exactly what they are, just thoughts. thoughts will come and go but what you really are has never began nor will it end. just watch where the thought is going as soon as you notice it and stay there in that neutral space. keep doing this, you will begin to see from the beginning of that thought all the way to the end. what does the wave fall back into? what is this that is aware before, during, and after thoughts? this is your natural state. pure being.
Thank you for sharing your insights.
Soothing, what a great word. Say it to yourself throughout the day.
To heart that I'm not alone in this is very helpful and calming, thank you for your words ❤
Thank you for your kind, calm words. I appreciate hearing this today. I deal with anxiety and depression and I need to practice your technique. I need to calm myself and accept. I love you for your knowledge. Thank you.
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Stress comes from your perspective….if work, chores, tasks are piling up, take a few minutes to calm…it will all get done, start doing everything in small bits, maybe a half hour at a time.
I have twins, the advice i received when they were a couple months old….when it gets overwhelming, sit down for a few minutes with the babies, take time in 20 minute increments. It works.
I plan conferences and events for a living, many tasks involved, but I concentrate on 1 task at time. I have my work and home life on a schedule, which can feel overwhelming…but once you create an outline, you can relax. I don’t have every moment scheduled….but 4 out of 7 days I have dinner selected, I select a day I’m going to Costco, I don’t over schedule or over commit!
And sitting on my bench is one of my daily tasks! Schedule in your calm and relaxing times!
Very nice.
This is a very directed video on true problems. I have lived it for many years .
Thank you. To dig deeper, check out my fast track playlist.
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Keep doing videos please like this... I wont get tired of listening and watching. My first time to watch but its not just helpful, but life changing. Thank you much for sharing. New supporter here from Philippines
More to come! I do daily videos and have been for over three years. My whole archive is here: ruclips.net/user/PainFreeYouvideos Welcome!
Thank you, i thinking of my symtom all the time every day for the last 5 years.
I needed to hear this.
This fast start playlist will give you a deeper insight to what is going on and what to do about it.
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I have tinnitus and I am hyper aware. I need to listen to him.
How do you handle your tinnitus regarding this approach?
Did you start a ssri or benzo?
I watching this kind of content/vlog without jump-cut but keeps you listening, so refreshing and calm.
Thank you. I have nearly 1600 videos on my channel: DansRUclips.com
I appreciate your kind words.
Love these videos - I have been away from self-care for too long. As my pain now increases my body calls me back to self-care. Choice is always mine! A inner voice of pain calls me to look within and pause - what happened was an increase of stress and the sudden diagnosis of cancer for my little granddaughter. Therefore, more pain.
Dans videos earlier this year has supported me to get out of pain and heal a knee that just stopped functioning fully.
Thank you Dan for your brilliance and passion.
You are very welcome. Prayers for your granddaughter. Tough stuff. Thank you for your kind words. You are appreciated.
Oh god I needed this today. Thanks so much. I know that I’m creating my experience by giving negative thoughts.
I have health anxiety. I always am afraid I’m going to die but I do have chronic pain. My nervous system does make it worse. Stress makes my chronic pain worse and sabotogizing myself makes my pain worse. I drank and I lapsed after 4 months of not drinking. I’ve gone 7 months. I’m trying to quit. The fears end up leading me to that path, so to quit drinking, I really do need to heal and train my nervous system. Cause I worry I’m going to get sick and die and that fuels my behavior
You have found the solution. DansFastStart.com - watch, take notes, implement, repeat. You can get well.
Love your videos. Having a flare up after years of 98% pain free. This recent flare up is due to the loss of my mother and fleeing and remembering the past. Probably resisting the feeling. On the nervous system. I literally talk to mine, I thanks it and tell , everything is ok, no need for the pain and I love you body. Seems to work for me, can take a day or two though.
Sorry about the loss of your mom. Allow yourself to feel the grief. Reassure yourself that you can handle the grief and don't need symptoms to protect you from your loss. You are doing great.
@@PainFreeYou Thanks Dan
My job used to really distress me and get my nervous system out of wack every single day. I was always in fear of failure, coming across as stupid and also the fear of living to work, not working to live and being unhappy because of that. These fears definitely stemmed from childhood. Everything started chnging for me when i found a video on youtube on the topic of gratitude. I started going to work focusing on how i can make someone elses day better, rather than focusing on myself / trying not to let myself down. I no longer worried about sounding dumb or being wrong, because i trusted myself to be able to communicate that my best interest is to be patient and do what i can to help. Life is not perfect, and does not have to be certain way for you to be happy. All you need is gratitude for what you do have, and recognize/focus on the fact that you have the ability to be a positive influence and can put someone else before yourself and make their day better. That imo is the way to happiness, and by extension, calming the nervous system.
Hello Dan. I have been through serious abuse. And have lost everything. My mind is damaged from years of narcissistic abuse.
My ability to think is shot. Some seriously bad people messed me up. Ones light attracts them like moths.
Today has been a bad day. I even hiked 5-6 miles on a trail.
Hey Michael. I'm so sorry you suffered all that abuse. I do believe anyone can get better with a focus on safety in the present moment. I suggest you check out my fast start playlist to get a deeper dive into what is going on and what you can do about it all. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
@@PainFreeYou ok will do.
Today is going ok; so it’s not all the time now.
@@michaelgarrow3239praying for you man, hope you will get better in no time, be asured that one day you're going to overcome this bullshit
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@@finehowareyou - thanks for the thoughts.
I don't know how this video did it, but I feel so fine and calm after. Might just replay it as needed.
Excellent. Also, you can check out my fast start playlist to get a deeper dive into what is going on and what you can do about it all. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
I love your energy, I need this profile more than ever right now
My pleasure.
@@PainFreeYou I appreciate u too so much .
I have trouble knowing what my purpose is. Any examples what it is for you? I mean you all. Obviously this man‘s purpose is probably helping people.
What brings you joy?
What can you do that others would like help with?
For some of us, our purpose is to find love and live in contentment.
There is not right answer.
Medition , diet and excercise works well for me. Sleep is essential. Learn to meditate. Hour or 2hours a day if you can
The “accuracy” idea is interesting. I’m always glad to hear someone reject the “positive thinking” and “have hope” mentality that suffocates honesty. He refers to TMS but I don’t know what that is.
Tension Myositis syndrome - a term coined by Dr. John Sarno in the 1980's for pain or symptoms created in the brain to protect us from a perceived danger. I call it Perceived Danger Pain or Symptoms. To learn more, check out my fast start playlist. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
Love your breathings in the beginning, such a good start of the day by breathing in the confidence and breathing out the fear.x
Glad you enjoyed it!
Breathe in the Love, breathe out the fear. Fear is the Love killer.
Breath Is Love. The primary sustaining food we are given, that we take in through the mouth is Prana, Air, Oxygen.
i got a 50/50 on your test lmao. thank you!!! blessings. i feel so emotional!!! a pain free life is possible
Yes it is. For a deeper understanding of what is going on and what to do about it, check out my Fast Start Playlist. Watch, take notes, implement. Repeat. You can get well.
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your sharing is amazing and it did actually work like a charm for me. i have suffered a lot but now with your advice of 'doing the opposite', i can finally let go of that pains used to attach to me
Wonderful!
Your voice conveys more than words can…
Wow - thank you.
In found this really helpful and can actually remember thinking ‘oh! These are like the symptoms I had before my back surgery!’ No wonder I am on high alert! I’m linking these sensations to a ten hour surgery that put me in ICU! 😱 I love the idea of soothing and gently moving past this fear.
Yes, you can do this. All of my suggestions for ending chronic pain are in this one video. Incorporate all the concepts and you can end your pain like me and many many others have. ruclips.net/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/видео.html
Having a highly sensitive nervous system sucks. Having so much pain at 24 is not cool. Especially if nobody in your life truly understands your pain. But I am working with a mental health professional, as well as a kinesiologist, and hopefully one day I become healthy and strong again! I randomly stumbled upon this video, and it's really giving me even more reassurance
I just came across your channel & thank you so much for this video! My highly sensitive nervous system has given me ibs, overactive bladder & a constant nasal drip! Also,i have contamination OCD, which takes alot of my time everyday!
Check out my fast start playlist to get a deeper dive into what is going on and what you can do about it all. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
Bullshit; it’s probably IBS causing the anxiety. Please, get a lactulose breath test to assess SIBO (Small Intestinal Bacterial Overgrowth) and IMO (Intestinal Methanogen Overgrowth). The first can cause rather IBS-D symptoms, when the latter rather causes IBS-C symptoms. Both are associated with severe bloating/abdominal distention. They can cause tons of food intolerances, including biogenic amine intolerances, which can lead to all sorts of very bizarre symptoms downstream.
What is TMS. I just came across your RUclips video. I deeply needed this. Thank you
So so true , I’ve been living with those symptoms for over 2 years now and it makes so much sense . Thank you for that .
My pleasure.
GOODNESS, thank you for this. I had back surgery a couple months ago and now I’m having a TON of neuropathy symptoms and I’m struggling bad, physically, day to day and doctors can’t figure it out and it is absolutely CONSUMING my mind/thoughts all day, I can’t seem to escape the overwhelming feelings that I’m dying very soon. As a mother it’s been driving me insane. I have to get ahold of myself. My God it’s hard.
Learn what causes pain. Check out my fast start playlist. DansFastStart.com
@@PainFreeYou thank you🙏🏻
This is so right Dan. In the past with the many things I’ve had but didn’t know then they were TMS manifestations the way out of it was always when I took the focus off the problem and believed I was ok. Usually I’d do something or take something like a supplement that I believed was helping but it was the mind relaxing and letting go that healed. Your videos are so helpful as the message sinks in bit by bit! ❤️😊
Inch by inch -- it's a cinch! Thanks for your kind words.
The supplement probably was helping and you just got conned into believing you did it on your own with your “mind”. Foolish.
Thank you❤
Ιm very hypervigilant emotionally and physically but the irony is, I have a high pain threshold. Often something's wrong and I can't tell until it gets really bad. Part of this is being stuck in a place of '''freeze'' and dissociating, but when I intentionally cause pain to myself [like during a workout, or getting a tattoo] I also don't feel pain as much as others.
your voice literally calmed me down.
Fantastic.
Bless you! Taking attention of off the seeming problems is the best solution for sure! I was trying it myself recently and it worked but then I got scared again about what if it isn't working after all :D I am however pretty sure it was all working alright sill yet it does help to hear another person saying to do that! Thanks, it means a lot!
you are welcome.
this video is very soothing
Dan is the man. We love you in our fb group. Ty for these videos !!!
What group?
@@mattmaddox8513 It’s a DNRS group
..aww, just found your channel from my home page recommendations...what a lovely, kind, empathic man you are! My anxiety says 'thank you' 🌻
You are in the right place. If you haven't seen it yet, watch my fast start playlist for a deep dive into what's going on and what to do about it: ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
I appreciate your demeanor and info very much.
I appreciate that
Man you’d be a great therapist, I like this guy!
Thank you! Check out my archive of videos. DansRUclips.com
Had a really bad anxiety attack yesterday and could not relax for a couple of hours. Sometimes I'm scared of stressing so much that it will effect my health in the long run. Mostly occur in social situations and I don't know why it triggers so frequently or how to stop it. Biggest up hill climb I've ever endured.
Overall, teaching your brain you are actually safe is the way out. My fast start playlist will help whether you have pain or symptoms or not. Actually, anxiety is just another symptom of a brain perceiving danger - just like most chronic pain or symptoms. ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
So totally true!it's like I a m always on alert! Especially when it comes to that doctors office! Deepe breathing helps
I know this video is from a while back but it is such a great video! And I love how you emphasize that it's not the same as positive thinking but has to do with accurate knowledge. Thank you thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Me too @Helen Leibee! I keep coming back to this and several of Dan’s videos. Sooo grateful for all Dan does for us. Sending good thoughts your way.♥️ I’m Lori, by the way.
@L L63 hi Lori. Yes I feel like the info and techniques on these videos have given me my life back after forty years of chronic pain! Hope you are on an upward journey as well. ❤️
I've tried and It's hard to implement if you're still living in the same place and around the same people who are the reason for your trauma.
At the start of covid and lockdown 2020, I started to make a realistic to-do list of how to create boundaries and subtle new lifestyle changes to manage myself around those who will never leave.
It has been 4 years and not much as changed at all because the places or people that cause the trauma don't want to change and you're stuck on a cycle with them because financially you're not rich enough to move.
You don't have to change your life to end your symptoms.
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@@PainFreeYou thanks for the reply. I watched this video, it was very helpful!
I’m autistic and I’m very sensitive and I have cptsd from abuse
I would suggest this: Check out my fast start playlist for more on what is going on and what to do about it. dansfaststart.com/ It can help.
I am truly appreciating all of you videos and knowledge. Thank you for you help.
Glad to help
I am an incredibly sensitive and empathic person. I became hyper vigilant after having police training. Even more so after driving a semi all over the United States. Rode a motorcycle too. You best be cognizant of your surroundings. What I have learned in maturity is that I really could give a fresh heck what others think of me. I don’t even care about what they think, period. I gave up the desperate need to be right. That freed up a lot of headspace. And, came across a quote that goes deeper and deeper as I assimilate it. ‘’Learning to ignore things is one of the greatest paths to inner peace’’. ‘Things’ can be people or situations. Start this practice while driving. It’s the best way to implement it initially. Ignore idiotic drivers and traffic. Give yourself enough time to get there so impatience doesn’t eat ya up.
No reason to get upset about other folks actions. It’s our reactiveness that hurts and defines us. It’s a mind that’s entertaining negative and judgmental thoughts towards others. Hate is a thought process that needs to be redirected to ones of positivity and tolerance.
So, while I’m super duper sensitive, it doesn’t mean that I’m at the mercy of public interactions. I and only I am responsible for my headspace. Blaming others is victimization. Thereby releasing yourself from fixing your thinking. Henry Ford said, If you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. He also pointed out that man spends more time going round and round a problem than solving it. While Einstein said that no problem can be solved from the same consciousness that created it. Indicating that man makes his own misery usually. I realize that life happens. But once again we’re back to how we react to those situations.
Beautiful share. Love everything that you said. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I need this soooo much! So hard. Thank you Dan❣️
You are welcome.
This was really soothing
Glad you liked it. For more - check out my fast start playlist. dansfaststart.com/
Thank you! This happened to me with long covid. I really appreciate this info. I have figured it out and you are just validating what I it took me years to discover. I look forward to more from your Channel and I am subscribing.
You are so welcome! Check out my two long covid success stories.
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Perceived Danger creates symptoms - and COVID and the media representation of it created a TON of danger.
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Ketamine therapy has helped a lot with my nervous system regulation. I also worked with the neuroplasticity of the medicine so I could retrain my brain and focus on being more rooted in the present and looking forward rather than getting caught up in the past.
Great advice. Thank you 🙏
Any time!
Nature, yoga and meditation have found that helped. My mother had a panic disorder my whole life I got it too and been on every medication there is (anti psychotic) breathe work, medication and yoga the best thing to help heal trauma
Wonderful. Thrilled that helped you. If you haven't seen it yet, watch my fast start playlist for a deep dive into what's going on and what to do about it: ruclips.net/p/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H
7:30 Learn to soothe because it feels good (instead of highlighting the problem which we are soothing for!)
Yep
Highly sensitive nervous systems are imagined. 💓
I feel like my nervous system and fight or flight response has been on overdrive since developing a plethora of whats called “eye floaters.” It’s put a huge damper on my ability to relax, as i’m always hyper focused on them and my body is constantly vigilant. I’ve already been to a doctor, and they say i’m fine and have to learn to live with it. I’ll watch this video in hopes of learning to enjoy my time again and not always focusing on my visual issues. Any additional advice you’d give me?
Watch this fast start playlist to learn what is going on and what to do about it. DansFastStart.com
Oh my goodness thank you for your kindness and wisdom I feel seen and connected ❤ wishing everyone a lovely weekend
You are so welcome
I had a reaction to a medication and I've been hyper for about 7 months now
It's not been fun
Safety is the way to turn that around.
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@@harmonysinger8077I reacted to medication too. How are you feeling now?
Much better
It's a very Long story
@0827tt5xc I was able to titrate the medication to a 25% dose. This did not trigger much side effect and was somewhat helpful in treating my symptoms.
The key for me?
Ignore the doctors and listen to my body.
The doctors pushed a toxic dose then insisted that I could not tolerate that med whatsoever
That all-or-nothing thinking was wrong in my case!
A mini dose or a micro dose worked better than either extreme
I’m so glad this came up ❤❤❤
❤Oh my gosh I just found this channel and I needed to hear this, so I’m so glad that my higher self attracted this that my heavenly father Holy Spirit angels spirit guides led me to this now I’m not even five minutes in and when I heard you say highly sensitive I just thought about it. My nervous system has been off-balance lately I have been in fight of flight mode Consistently pretty much for the last three weeks and as soon as I heard you say we feel every sensation and then every new sensation is a problem that’s a literally what I have is been experiencing in the recent past. I’m so glad to be hearing this I need to get grounded release with no longer serves me trust and everything and I know that my root chakrais off but I’m working on that now, so I’m looking forward to this message thank you in advance❤ NEW SUBSCRIBERS HERE JUST NOW❤️
Welcome Katrina. A great place to get grounded in these concepts is: DansFastStart.com - watch, take notes, implement, repeat. You are in the right place.
When someone calls me , I feel my chest throbbing
Then sweats and full body tremors.
This is a regular thing , it scares me sometimes
I never wanted to be this isolated
I guess nobody realises few unpleasant words to a child and as a teenager, it haunts you
Even though I have answers , but I have never stood up to say it , I just simply observe the world around me
Observe the mean , sweet , grumpy , confused , frustrated people around me
And the more I observe the more they appear weird to me . And that's probably why I don't like people anymore
Because you realise , they are deeply flawed
And you wonder is it same vibe you give , when observed by someone else
Maybe
Sounds like a difficult upbringing. I'm sorry you went through that. I do believe that as adults we can teach ourselves that we are safe. The videos in this playlist will help for sure.
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Somatic Experiencing with Cranial Sacral Therapy is one of the best ways to not only deal with the emotional body and trauma but also integrate into the central nervous system which was damaged. Also doing the Hearts Math Meditation which takes three minutes is enough to switch from sympathetic to parasympathetic. It’s also free and dead simple to learn and can be done almost everywhere throughout the day.