Your videos are dual purpose. It's helping me with my painful breakup and also dealing with things that went wrong and how to correct. I think I just found my coach for life
i dont mean to be so off topic but does anybody know a method to log back into an Instagram account?? I stupidly forgot my login password. I would love any assistance you can offer me.
Moving on and letting go is scary and painful. So is hanging on. I was desperately hanging on to hope and living in denial. Thanks for the excellent video, Coach Craig
Thank you Craig. I feel like the best videos for me right now are ones about moving and and being excited for the future. The truth is my ex tossed me aside and hurt me. It's over. I have to accept it and live my life to the fullest. Love is endless and out there for all of us. We can accept the hurt and make the most out of what it gives us.
Here’s a story for you Craig about a girl who left her boyfriend and got back with her ex. I was that girl who devastated that boyfriend when I left 18 years ago. He thought he lost me forever when I got married and had kids. 15 years later that marriage didn’t work, and I saw my ex-boyfriend while waiting in the hall at divorce court. We got reacquainted and became friends again- I would’ve gladly dated him again if he wasn’t married. We still shar d a connection. So, there IS hope- many relationships do fail...it’s just a matter of asking ourselves if we are willing to wait around for them to fail. Is that even healthy to wait? I know I wouldn’t wait for more than a few months before exploring other options. At the end of the day, timing is everything!!!! Thanks for all the great videos, Craig- you’re helping me get through a very difficult break up. This time a guy broke my heart.
Your metaphor of the River of Life hits the nail on the head, a great visualisation. It reminds me how futile it is to fight its current, especially when trying to influence another person (an ex for example). It's like trying to change the river's current with only your bare hands: the river doesn't even notice, flowing around you and slipping past your fingers. At most you'll make some small waves that disappear quickly. It's difficult to get to that stage of thinking, but far better to "relax into life" keep yourself "afloat", try to accept things as they are and let things take shape on their own accord. You never know where the river takes you and what's around the next bend.
Thank God for YOUR passion Coach Craig. I cannot THANK YOU enough for your videos and YES your PASSION is as obvious as the sky above! Every day I spend half an hour with you and am amazed a person as yourself exists..AMAZING!!!
Craig your videos have a tendency to shiw up when i need them most,today is one of those days,1-25-24,93 days in nc,but today im so depressed i feel like guving up!! Some days are better than others,some days i feel like the loss is overwhelming,the comments in all your videos are a big help too,you realize you're not as alone as you thought,God bless you craig, you're work is a godsend
Guys trust me, just go NO CONTACT! I know it sounds very painful and hopeless but things get better. Don’t do it to gain your ex back, do it for yourself especially after a long and toxic relationship. It’s time for you guys to start a new chapter. It’s been a year and a half since I had my break up. Worst pain I have ever felt but Hey! We learn from those moments. I feel proud of myself not only because I got over the relationship but also because I found myself. Trust the process and give it time but most importantly. Grieve when you need to!
I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm so glad this video can help. As you heard a little from my own life, I lived it. There is help out there for you: friends, family and professional. There is no need to suffer or go through it alone. If you think I can be some additional support that's why I'm here. Sign up for coaching on my website AskCraig.net. Just click on Schedule Coaching and sign up for one that works best for you. I got help twice a week when I needed it. It helped me tremendously. Helping people is my passion and you'll see that when you work with me!
so ,you said we need to talk about it as it will make us ease the pain , i still feel the same way when i talk or dont talk about it and sometimes i feel like im making people crazy by repeating . This happened to me a few years ago with a different person and i suffered for 2 whole years just to get over her . and now it is happening all over again ,who i tought was my life . its too difficult man ..
If you don't talk about it you will start to adapt unhealthy coping mechanisms such as living in denial. It could get progressively worse. You need to be serious about your own mental health. Find a counselor, support group, or work with me. There is professional help available!
Great video! I had just had the biggest breakthrough tonight with the breakup I've been dealing with, and to see this video pop up after, awesome. This is exactly what I finally figured out and I feel awesome! I control how I feel! No one else, nothing else. Thank you Coach! For the last 3 months I've been watching your videos and did the 1-5 in the workbooks and just cant thank you enough sir. Dude! I'm back and better than ever! I too now realize how high my anxiety was and so many other factors that lead to the breakup, but also, how to be better, not bitter after the break up. And I'm ok with if I get her back or not. I'm gonna be awesome either way. Thank you again. I'll be in touch with a Skype at some point. Keep on keep'n people! The power is within you.
Also, today was her birthday and I was devastated at first, very hard day. Only because I made it that way, and why?!?! That wont bring her back, and if it did, she'll be completely turned off. I have messed up along the way with no contact, but our situation wasnt a normal one, but, now, I have control. It's great! Thank you! You and Coach Margaret always knock it out of the park, and have changed my life in the most positive of ways, and the most unbelievable of ways, man, I had no idea how great life can feel. Like even before I dated her, the anxiety I had, and what's happened in other relationships was not handled correctly. But now know I how to calm myself, feel about myself, and how to be a better person all around. Because now I know what is going on. The ever elusive UNDERSTANDING we all crave. Thank you! I know what you guys do helps so many, and we can never repay you for The Knowledge that we (see what I did there) gain from the videos, workbooks and reaching out. Thank you! God bless, Godspeed Be the Light!
Incredible analogy! As far as the first story goes, I’ve been in the exact same situation - 4 year relationship. My ex got pregnant & married in under a year. It hurt bad! It’s been 5 years. However, looking back it was an unhealthy relationship that should have ended sooner. Mutual cheating & inability to experience intimacy. You have to love yourself & be emotionally available. I wasn’t. Thanks Coach Craig. 🐐
Thank you for all that you do! I am working so hard to be whole once more and watching all these videos has so much love that I can feel it healing my ❤️
Going through a tough time. Your videos helped me alot. I watched them everyday. And im learning so much from you and from the people on the comments section. God bless and more power to you and margareth.
I''m just going to put this out here. I've watched SO many videos (thank you) and I'm just now in therapy for my anxiety in relstionshps. Previously, I've never had relationship anxiety--I was married for years. I have been in relationships with those who have textbook NPD. I was subjected to the classic love bomb, gaslight, triangulate, Jekyll and Hyde, devalue, discard, and Hoover. I went through cycles of escalating abuse, and the last relationship I realized (I was with a doctor, and I gave trust initially because of their occupation, NEVER again) some important things just before the last that might help others out ( I'm not looking for sympathy). Number one, before the doctor, beyond my other journal (my end of day gratitude journal), I began a dating journal to write down and document the conversations being had with the things being spoken to me so I was able to read it the next day with a clear head so I could see the red flags. The doctor who I dated, I broke things off right as the classic devalue stage began. I did not journal to overanalyze--I did it for my own safety and well being for my protection. Because we have the flood of honeymoon hormones when we first start seeing someone, I thought this an awesome way to check in with myself and step back-- it was gold. The second thing I've realized that I'm working on, is my anxiety as I'm the anxious type. But with every person I was with prior, I NEVER had the separation anxiety to know this was an issue for me. Why? Because my narc abusers kept me on an extremely short leash. They never broke contact with me ever. When we weren't in person, we were on the phone. If not on phone, we FaceTimed, if not that, we texted and sent little videos and photos. This year I fell for someone, which is why I'm here. I fell for a classic avoidant. We had miscommunication over some texts. I was ghosted not once, not twice, but thrice. Guess what happened to me? My anxiety went through the roof. First I begged, then I became angry, and I sent them a deluge of verbal diatribes. It felt like my brain was hijacked. I felt out of control, and hours later, I realized what I had done. I got a new therapist (I was seeing a different one previously for some heavy hitting life crises and my best friend's suicide). I was immediately told I have an insecure attachment, although mine is different because I was raised in a loving household, and a bad one-- I had two sets of caregivers. Now, the person I fell for, is in therapy for their attachment style, and told me early on their issues (shutting down, withdrawing, etc), and at the time, the alarm bells didn't go off in my head ( shame on me for the schooling I have to not see those as red flags right away and part ways, or at least step back). But I didn't know anything about attachment until it was too late. When I realized what just happened, I asked to work together on what we both have going on, because we are now both in therapy, and very aware. Ghost town. I have not contacted since, and continue daily work on myself and therapy. I wouldn't have known my issues if not for engaging with this person, and perhaps some of it is a function of the abuse I went through being with more than one true NPD. I wouldn't have known until I fell for an avoidant and I was triggered. And I've talked to my therapist about proceeding. I get asked out all the time. At the grocery store, wherever. I'm not arrogant, but I'm a confident person with a lot going for me. So how can I know if all of the methods I'm using daily, the meditation, the 4 square breathing, the mantras, the imagery--all the things I use to self soothe--how will I know if they're working unless I put them into practice? I feel like I'm violating Kant's number one rule to live by now. I fell in love, and I didn't expect to. And that's a phrase I've not used often in life. I've got a date this weekend. I went out to a party last weekend, and I got approached so much, people were asking my friends to introduce them to me as well as directly. Other people might not agree, they're entitled to their opinion. Do I feel ready to date? Absolutely NOT. My heart is somewhere else right now, but I can't know if what I'm doing is helping me unless I am in the situation. Thanks for all of your insight, and humor. Your videos have helped me get through not reaching out anymore. I don't stay on the market long. If I take breaks, it's by choice. But this person, I can't wait for. I'm in my early 40s, although I don't look it. I'm constantly thought to be barely 30 if that. I also volunteer, have a great job, friends, and do some hobbies as well ( like sing with bands and play instruments). I'm super kind and giving. It's sad to me that they refuse to see my struggle, they're only seeing their own pain. They're just too wrapped up in their own anxiety to have any kind of compassion for me. Le sigh.
Fantastic video!!! Great analogy. That was one of if not your best closing ever! Thanks for the shot of confidence! I appreciate everything you do Coach Craig! Thank you. 🐐
There’s a 50/50 chance things won’t work with the new guy who got her pregnant; however, her ex-boyfriend wouldn’t want to wait around indefinitely...because, yes, there are other treats!!!
OMG Coach Craig so my divorce wont be final for 50 days. I've been applying some of your advice with a couple of other women and now they are both ready to marry me. What do I do now?
This is my biggest fear, that she will fall for someone else while I'm stuck here hoping we could get back together some day.
Your videos are dual purpose. It's helping me with my painful breakup and also dealing with things that went wrong and how to correct. I think I just found my coach for life
Agreed. Hes awesome. How did things turn out for you?
i dont mean to be so off topic but does anybody know a method to log back into an Instagram account??
I stupidly forgot my login password. I would love any assistance you can offer me.
Moving on and letting go is scary and painful. So is hanging on. I was desperately hanging on to hope and living in denial. Thanks for the excellent video, Coach Craig
Stacey Swope. Go Stacey! Go! :)
"When you want reality to be different than what it is...you're going to suffer."
Thanks for this video, Craig. Great message.
Thank you Craig. I feel like the best videos for me right now are ones about moving and and being excited for the future. The truth is my ex tossed me aside and hurt me. It's over. I have to accept it and live my life to the fullest. Love is endless and out there for all of us. We can accept the hurt and make the most out of what it gives us.
Here’s a story for you Craig about a girl who left her boyfriend and got back with her ex. I was that girl who devastated that boyfriend when I left 18 years ago. He thought he lost me forever when I got married and had kids. 15 years later that marriage didn’t work, and I saw my ex-boyfriend while waiting in the hall at divorce court. We got reacquainted and became friends again- I would’ve gladly dated him again if he wasn’t married. We still shar d a connection. So, there IS hope- many relationships do fail...it’s just a matter of asking ourselves if we are willing to wait around for them to fail. Is that even healthy to wait? I know I wouldn’t wait for more than a few months before exploring other options. At the end of the day, timing is everything!!!! Thanks for all the great videos, Craig- you’re helping me get through a very difficult break up. This time a guy broke my heart.
Stacey Swope ...wow, that's crazy 15 yrs later!...im 2 months in nc....n I just wanna get back out there!..back on the horse..
Stacey Swope karma?
Your metaphor of the River of Life hits the nail on the head, a great visualisation. It reminds me how futile it is to fight its current, especially when trying to influence another person (an ex for example). It's like trying to change the river's current with only your bare hands: the river doesn't even notice, flowing around you and slipping past your fingers. At most you'll make some small waves that disappear quickly. It's difficult to get to that stage of thinking, but far better to "relax into life" keep yourself "afloat", try to accept things as they are and let things take shape on their own accord. You never know where the river takes you and what's around the next bend.
Bitterness is like drinking poison hoping the other person gets sick.
A person and always move on and get over a break up. No matter how painfully. Life really does go on. Hang in there!
Thank God for YOUR passion Coach Craig. I cannot THANK YOU enough for your videos and YES your PASSION is as obvious as the sky above! Every day I spend half an hour with you and am amazed a person as yourself exists..AMAZING!!!
Craig your videos have a tendency to shiw up when i need them most,today is one of those days,1-25-24,93 days in nc,but today im so depressed i feel like guving up!! Some days are better than others,some days i feel like the loss is overwhelming,the comments in all your videos are a big help too,you realize you're not as alone as you thought,God bless you craig, you're work is a godsend
What a great analogy, Craig!! There are definitely other doors in the neighborhood!
I can only imagine your son is like a little mini craig, i'm sure he will grow up secure!
Guys trust me, just go NO CONTACT! I know it sounds very painful and hopeless but things get better. Don’t do it to gain your ex back, do it for yourself especially after a long and toxic relationship. It’s time for you guys to start a new chapter. It’s been a year and a half since I had my break up. Worst pain I have ever felt but Hey! We learn from those moments. I feel proud of myself not only because I got over the relationship but also because I found myself. Trust the process and give it time but most importantly. Grieve when you need to!
I choose to live. I choose to be happy.
Thanks for this video .im going through the worst time of my life right now and this helped me think different about my life
I'm sorry to hear that, but I'm so glad this video can help. As you heard a little from my own life, I lived it. There is help out there for you: friends, family and professional.
There is no need to suffer or go through it alone. If you think I can be some additional support that's why I'm here. Sign up for coaching on my website AskCraig.net. Just click on Schedule Coaching and sign up for one that works best for you.
I got help twice a week when I needed it. It helped me tremendously. Helping people is my passion and you'll see that when you work with me!
so ,you said we need to talk about it as it will make us ease the pain , i still feel the same way when i talk or dont talk about it and sometimes i feel like im making people crazy by repeating . This happened to me a few years ago with a different person and i suffered for 2 whole years just to get over her . and now it is happening all over again ,who i tought was my life . its too difficult man ..
If you don't talk about it you will start to adapt unhealthy coping mechanisms such as living in denial. It could get progressively worse. You need to be serious about your own mental health. Find a counselor, support group, or work with me. There is professional help available!
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Great video! I had just had the biggest breakthrough tonight with the breakup I've been dealing with, and to see this video pop up after, awesome. This is exactly what I finally figured out and I feel awesome! I control how I feel! No one else, nothing else. Thank you Coach! For the last 3 months I've been watching your videos and did the 1-5 in the workbooks and just cant thank you enough sir. Dude! I'm back and better than ever! I too now realize how high my anxiety was and so many other factors that lead to the breakup, but also, how to be better, not bitter after the break up. And I'm ok with if I get her back or not. I'm gonna be awesome either way. Thank you again. I'll be in touch with a Skype at some point. Keep on keep'n people! The power is within you.
Also, today was her birthday and I was devastated at first, very hard day. Only because I made it that way, and why?!?! That wont bring her back, and if it did, she'll be completely turned off. I have messed up along the way with no contact, but our situation wasnt a normal one, but, now, I have control. It's great!
Thank you! You and Coach Margaret always knock it out of the park, and have changed my life in the most positive of ways, and the most unbelievable of ways, man, I had no idea how great life can feel. Like even before I dated her, the anxiety I had, and what's happened in other relationships was not handled correctly. But now know I how to calm myself, feel about myself, and how to be a better person all around. Because now I know what is going on. The ever elusive UNDERSTANDING we all crave. Thank you!
I know what you guys do helps so many, and we can never repay you for The Knowledge that we (see what I did there) gain from the videos, workbooks and reaching out.
Thank you! God bless, Godspeed
Be the Light!
Incredible analogy!
As far as the first story goes, I’ve been in the exact same situation - 4 year relationship. My ex got pregnant & married in under a year. It hurt bad! It’s been 5 years. However, looking back it was an unhealthy relationship that should have ended sooner. Mutual cheating & inability to experience intimacy. You have to love yourself & be emotionally available. I wasn’t. Thanks Coach Craig. 🐐
Thank you for all that you do! I am working so hard to be whole once more and watching all these videos has so much love that I can feel it healing my ❤️
Amazing insight! Thank you for shaping us into the best version of ourselves ❤
Going through a tough time. Your videos helped me alot. I watched them everyday. And im learning so much from you and from the people on the comments section. God bless and more power to you and margareth.
Exactly the video I needed to watch. Thanks coach Craig. Your videos and our coaching sessions helped me a lot. Keep doing the good work!
Thank you so much Craig.You have no idea how much you helped me watching all your videos.I will contact you soon and wish you the very best
I''m just going to put this out here. I've watched SO many videos (thank you) and I'm just now in therapy for my anxiety in relstionshps.
Previously, I've never had relationship anxiety--I was married for years. I have been in relationships with those who have textbook NPD. I was subjected to the classic love bomb, gaslight, triangulate, Jekyll and Hyde, devalue, discard, and Hoover. I went through cycles of escalating abuse, and the last relationship I realized (I was with a doctor, and I gave trust initially because of their occupation, NEVER again) some important things just before the last that might help others out ( I'm not looking for sympathy).
Number one, before the doctor, beyond my other journal (my end of day gratitude journal), I began a dating journal to write down and document the conversations being had with the things being spoken to me so I was able to read it the next day with a clear head so I could see the red flags. The doctor who I dated, I broke things off right as the classic devalue stage began. I did not journal to overanalyze--I did it for my own safety and well being for my protection. Because we have the flood of honeymoon hormones when we first start seeing someone, I thought this an awesome way to check in with myself and step back-- it was gold.
The second thing I've realized that I'm working on, is my anxiety as I'm the anxious type. But with every person I was with prior, I NEVER had the separation anxiety to know this was an issue for me.
Why? Because my narc abusers kept me on an extremely short leash. They never broke contact with me ever. When we weren't in person, we were on the phone. If not on phone, we FaceTimed, if not that, we texted and sent little videos and photos.
This year I fell for someone, which is why I'm here. I fell for a classic avoidant. We had miscommunication over some texts. I was ghosted not once, not twice, but thrice.
Guess what happened to me?
My anxiety went through the roof. First I begged, then I became angry, and I sent them a deluge of verbal diatribes.
It felt like my brain was hijacked.
I felt out of control, and hours later, I realized what I had done.
I got a new therapist (I was seeing a different one previously for some heavy hitting life crises and my best friend's suicide).
I was immediately told I have an insecure attachment, although mine is different because I was raised in a loving household, and a bad one-- I had two sets of caregivers.
Now, the person I fell for, is in therapy for their attachment style, and told me early on their issues (shutting down, withdrawing, etc), and at the time, the alarm bells didn't go off in my head ( shame on me for the schooling I have to not see those as red flags right away and part ways, or at least step back). But I didn't know anything about attachment until it was too late.
When I realized what just happened, I asked to work together on what we both have going on, because we are now both in therapy, and very aware.
Ghost town.
I have not contacted since, and continue daily work on myself and therapy. I wouldn't have known my issues if not for engaging with this person, and perhaps some of it is a function of the abuse I went through being with more than one true NPD.
I wouldn't have known until I fell for an avoidant and I was triggered.
And I've talked to my therapist about proceeding. I get asked out all the time. At the grocery store, wherever. I'm not arrogant, but I'm a confident person with a lot going for me.
So how can I know if all of the methods I'm using daily, the meditation, the 4 square breathing, the mantras, the imagery--all the things I use to self soothe--how will I know if they're working unless I put them into practice?
I feel like I'm violating Kant's number one rule to live by now.
I fell in love, and I didn't expect to. And that's a phrase I've not used often in life.
I've got a date this weekend. I went out to a party last weekend, and I got approached so much, people were asking my friends to introduce them to me as well as directly.
Other people might not agree, they're entitled to their opinion.
Do I feel ready to date? Absolutely NOT.
My heart is somewhere else right now, but I can't know if what I'm doing is helping me unless I am in the situation.
Thanks for all of your insight, and humor. Your videos have helped me get through not reaching out anymore.
I don't stay on the market long. If I take breaks, it's by choice.
But this person, I can't wait for. I'm in my early 40s, although I don't look it. I'm constantly thought to be barely 30 if that. I also volunteer, have a great job, friends, and do some hobbies as well ( like sing with bands and play instruments). I'm super kind and giving.
It's sad to me that they refuse to see my struggle, they're only seeing their own pain.
They're just too wrapped up in their own anxiety to have any kind of compassion for me. Le sigh.
You are so incredibly wonderful - thank you for your passion, integrity, and transparency which has helped me more than you will ever know!!!♥️♥️♥️
Wow... tubing down a river is one great analogy. I should take this to heart,.. I'm learning.
You are amazing Craig. You are a blessing. I truly mean it
Fantastic video!!! Great analogy. That was one of if not your best closing ever! Thanks for the shot of confidence! I appreciate everything you do Coach Craig! Thank you. 🐐
You are an amazing coach/mentor.
You have helped me so much through by hard times. Just want to thank you so much .🙏🏽💖
There’s a 50/50 chance things won’t work with the new guy who got her pregnant; however, her ex-boyfriend wouldn’t want to wait around indefinitely...because, yes, there are other treats!!!
This video is basically about stoicism
Craig, you need to sell Tee shirts - "No! Hell, no. No, no, no, no." Lol.
My ex was great but had a drinking problem. Addiction of any kind is a deal breaker for me.
Great work again Craig! I like all your videos but this one is very motivating.
absolutely amazing channel
good luck manny wish u the best
From one Manny to another lol
Excellent motivating message. Thank you so much for sharing your insights and experiences.
You're welcome!
Love ❤️ your channel & info
You’re rt on point Craig 👏
Helping me greatly 🤗
I also like to think of life as an arrow. When life gets difficult, imagine the arrow launching you into something great. :)
thank you so much you are wonderful and make massive effort
This video scared the fuck out of me, damned I don't want my ex to get pregnant by someone else I will die litterly
Thank you!!
But what if you don’t see any new doors in any neighborhood?
Great stuff coach!
Your so amazing
Very powerful email...Wow!!!
Loved this
Love you coach ❤
I'm not sure how I feel about being referred to as "the next treat"... LOL
Trick or treat!
OMG Coach Craig so my divorce wont be final for 50 days. I've been applying some of your advice with a couple of other women and now they are both ready to marry me. What do I do now?
You are so sweet.
I love this video
Craig can you do a video , about women who want men with status,money...and how important that is to them...
There are more treats!
Is 28 young...?🤦♀️