她的孩子全上名牌大学是很好，但是希望不要引导孩子一定非要上名牌大学不可！我对二个孩永远是一个标准：尽自己最大努力就行了，他们在美国中等大学、研究生、博士毕业，却进了一些名牌大学毕业了却进不了的公司，而且工作非常开心，他们说：I love my job! 我从来没有要求他们要进什么大学，读什么专业。我可以退休了，内心无比轻松。在美国，是真的不需要孩子挤破头去上名牌，给他们压力，实际的工作能力，有礼貌、有教养，诚实诚恳这就是成功的开始，
2:25 she respects and supports their own choices. She didn't persuade her kids "一定要" go to ivy league school. Please watch the video carefully before making a statement. Doing the best is good but teaching the kids to go beyond their comfort zone is important as well.
@@janeruiz884 She herself has a PHD of education from Stanford U. There was a story behind what she said. She was a very famous pop singer in Hong Kong and Japan in the 1970s and 1980s. At the time, when she had her first child she was,a working mom/singer in Japan. She chose to continue her career was very much an antiestablishment act as a Japanese wife. She was attacked by Japanese society as a morally corrupt Mom. Stanford U invited her to attend as a PHD candidate and started research on working women. Her using my 3 sons attend stanford as a come on title is really an honorable explaination of her methods. Another child rearing methods for anyone to reference. Just take what u think that works for u.
I m shock to read some of the comments left here about their childhood... but thank them for sharing their pain growing up. Talk is easier than done. Chan might be a perfect parent ( I doubt ), But she ain't a saint. Every kid is different, most parents I believe are doing their best on raising their kids, they might not know what they have done to their kids are wrong. We children should not take them for granted... it's really okay to vent or even to complain, but do not hurt yourself. Forgive your parents for what they have done wrong to you, I m sure some of them use the name of love but solely for sake of their own egos. If the childhood was the hardest time in your life, try to think how tough you are because you went through and you are okay, what else can be worse than that, yes?!well, perhaps just follow Chan s simple methods, we all will be great parents and all the kids will have a happy childhood and a successful future. :). Seriously, don't compare！
Recuerdos, u say that u doubt Agnes is a perfect parent, but please do not judge her by saying that she'a no saint, because neither r u nor anyone else in this world. As parents, we all do our best 2 teach our chidren 2 b altruistic,n caring n selfless people when they grow up.The most important thing 2 realize is that parents have 2 b good role models 4 their children, bcos kids learn by listening 2 n then watching how their parents bhave. I was born in a middle-class family n although I didn't have everything I wanted, my parents saw 2 it that we had good food 2 eat, nice clothes 2 wear, toys 2 play with, prestigous schools 2 go 2. Being a Christian was good spiritual training, preparing me 4 life in a material,n competitive n avaricious society n world. Although I didn't have everything I wanted, I'n very grateful 2 my Mum n Dad 4 bringing me up n I had everything I needed plus some things I wanted. My faith taught me not 2 covet things bcos the're r always people who're richer, better-educated, have bigger cars n houses,n etc.He than u. I attended a school in which many of the students n even my classmates came from affluent families, their parents being doctors,n lawyers,n businessman, n even one particular boy whose Dad was a politician.There were many boys whose parents had more,n some considerably more,n money than mine.He Despite this,I never envied them n never felt inferior 2 them. It may seem incredible, but I was never materialistic (bcos ultimately I can't take it with u.I had a very happy childhood bcos my parents loved me (Mum was the disciplinarian n Dad was the doting father) n what one parent couldn't give me,the other would. And lastly I learned 2 strive 4 excellence n did well in school. If u ask me what were my most important lessons as a student, my reply would b the teachings from the Bible.
There is no perfection, it's only 'standards' created by someone. Don't be too harsh to yourself or ppl who care about you, I guess that is what I was trying to say. I m glad that you have a happy life, keep up the good job and cherish all your blessings. P.S. no one is perfect, if you think someone is perfect, it's just an illusion, the one who traps you in is guilty, and she might not be as sincere as you wanted to believe... more observation required.
以前不喜歡陳美齡，覺得她是太甜美形歌手，但自從聽了她的抗癌歷程和分享育兒心得後，現在她是我的偶像。
陈女士60多岁依然显现出超越年龄的美丽，美丽的心理和智慧才是人的终极化妆品。
告訴孩子，不管你是藍領，是白領，母親永遠愛你，是你的後盾。
因為你的支持與愛，孩子會自己找到出路。
顯見她先生完全尊重她,,其實有的家庭有經濟的問題,,有暴力的問題,,有天生缺陷的孩子.....正常的家庭,只要父母人格健全即使照書教也不難,,我最敬佩的不是一分耕耘有一分收獲的母親,,反而是在逆境中教導孩子有正確的人生觀和價值觀的母親
我們沒有如此好的媽咪
但我們可以讓孩子有這樣的母親
陳美齡博士真有愛心，教得自己的孩子非常好。亦出了很多書怎樣教育孩子，對社會貢獻好大，願主保佑一家人健康快樂！👍
我目前就是這樣在教我家孩子，看來，我的方法是正確的。
這媽媽有智慧，比起先前出書的虎媽，強迫式的學習，虎媽跟本在傷害自己小孩，害了小孩，自己將食苦果。
(提外話)很佩服陳美齡，鄧麗君和
翁倩玉3位華人女歌手憑著實力在
日本樂壇打響名堂!🎼🎵🎤📀🥰
小时候很喜欢听她的歌曲：《原野牧歌》《虞美人之花》《爱的咒语》《假如》等等。没有想到她还是这样一个成功的母亲。敬佩！
父母不要做的10件事:
1 不要跟别的小孩子比较
2 不要用物质奖励孩子
3 不要给孩子制定固定的时间表
4 不要给孩子报课外班
5 不要替孩子做选择
6 不要反对高中谈恋爱
7 不要打骂孩子
8 不要对孩子撒谎
9 不要因为工作忽略孩子
10 孩子发问的时候 不要总让孩子“等一等”
课代表您好
陳美齡教育博士 非浪得虛明 也不是省油的燈 聽她一席話 勝讀十年書 拜服👍👍👍
陳美齡,妳绝对是個很直得尊敬及學習的姐姐,各方面都很成功👍💪🌹🌹
美龄太棒了，衷心的那么说。不是因为你的孩子都读stanford，而是因为你的教育理念。
非常有智慧的母親！
shiyao cai 但是她的方法不一定适用于所有人
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我觉得最重要的是放手，让他们有自己的人生，不要judge.
大部分普通人养育孩子，很少有人能像她这般有责任感并尽心尽力，这是我们应该学习的地方。我记得她为了孩子教育问题，读了很多教育方面的书，还读了博士。养育孩子，光有一颗爱心耐心还不够，还是要讲究方法的。人格健全+真的热爱生活并有追求幸福生活的能力，是不容易的。留言中有人说的家庭背景不太幸运却能养出有教养的孩子更伟大，我认为简直是两码子事。家庭背景相对比较艰难的家庭，跟幸福家庭的孩子比，肯定想法性格会很不同。什么家庭都可以出有教养的孩子，但是性格、想法、爱好以及能够让自己幸福的能力就千差万别了。
说话好温柔，好好听！
每次看這種影片，就會覺得為自己的童年感到難過
深表同情，因为深有同感，一生的噩梦
每次接觸這種資訊，就覺得世上絕多數人沒有資格作父母。有些連作人的資格都沒有。
我萬分認同你說的話
很認同!
教育是影響一生的事情，看到這麼充滿智慧的家長，覺得很羨慕。
改變不了自己的童年，不如一起學習如何和自己的孩子一起學習。
深感同意。。。。
我们每个人都有这样的妈妈，这世界就全是精英了。
教育孩子原來有那麼多的方法, 謝謝你 陳美齡 !
你說的有些部份和我相同。我變得不相信任何人，不想交朋友，把自己隱蔽起來。但是經由照顧自己的孩子，我變好了。孩子天性善良，快樂，最主要媽媽快樂孩子一定也快樂。為了孩子，你才有動力改變自己。千萬別自殺，去做一些不同的事。旅行什麼的都好。
的確是個好母親，值得敬佩.....
I enjoy watching this video and she is a great mom. 她愛孩子的心，真令人感動。
jojo 1998
她的孩子全上名牌大学是很好，但是希望不要引导孩子一定非要上名牌大学不可！我对二个孩永远是一个标准：尽自己最大努力就行了，他们在美国中等大学、研究生、博士毕业，却进了一些名牌大学毕业了却进不了的公司，而且工作非常开心，他们说：I love my job! 我从来没有要求他们要进什么大学，读什么专业。我可以退休了，内心无比轻松。在美国，是真的不需要孩子挤破头去上名牌，给他们压力，实际的工作能力，有礼貌、有教养，诚实诚恳这就是成功的开始，
2:25 she respects and supports their own choices. She didn't persuade her kids "一定要" go to ivy league school. Please watch the video carefully before making a statement.
Doing the best is good but teaching the kids to go beyond their comfort zone is important as well.
很赞成你说的。从小就教育有礼貌，有教养，诚实有善心是多么的重要。我的小孩才2岁，我门居住在日本，在漫长的育儿过程中我一定也要坚持自始至终贯彻这几个基本。
That is the best!!! 我懐疑這個陳美齡，一開始就説我的三個孩子都從史丹佛大學畢業。使我感覺好像成功予否的教育第一要點是進入了名牌大學。
@@janeruiz884 She herself has a PHD of education from Stanford U.
There was a story behind what she said.
She was a very famous pop singer in Hong Kong and Japan in the 1970s and 1980s.
At the time, when she had her first child she was,a working mom/singer in Japan. She chose to continue her career was very much
an antiestablishment act as a Japanese wife. She was attacked by Japanese society as a morally corrupt Mom.
Stanford U invited her to attend as a PHD candidate and started research on working women. Her using my 3 sons attend stanford as a come on title is really an honorable explaination of her methods.
Another child rearing methods for anyone to
reference. Just take what u think that works for u.
握手：尽自己最大努力就行了！这也是我给自己和我儿子们的唯一要求。
天下間有這樣的好媽媽, 願你一生幸福快樂 !
以身作則~尊重他人~明理，開通有智慧的媽媽……😊👍👍👍
值得敬佩的長輩~🙏
作为一个工作自的妈妈要做到如此要有非凡的耐心及耐性, 还要跟主流社会教育抗衡...妈妈本身要非常强大的意念或身边人支持。。也是非常不容易的...
真有智慧的媽媽
這麼好的母親去哪找...出生在父母分開的小孩看到真的很妒忌,小時的經歷決定了未來的成長路線和性格, 長大了真的沒法改變了
陈美龄的家教真的是很棒！
太棒了真的。我要有这样的妈妈实在是太幸福了
我父母成功做到了她说的所有反面 结果就跟她说的差不多 我在他们的逼迫"严格教育"下 成绩很好 没有朋友 更别说男朋友 不信任任何人 从很小就想自杀 可以说没有一天是过得开心的
后来我终于承受不住了 中断了大学学习 没有说任何的话 完全的消失打算去自杀 我用余下的钱 在离他们很远的地方找了间小房子 制定好了自杀计划 决定在一年后的那天自杀 这一年时间 我除了买粮食外没有出一次门
中间发生的事情我就不说了 总之 我在那个小房间里通过自学完善了自己人格 以前他们是从不允许我浪费时间在任何除了学校学习的事情上的 甚至我最喜欢的画画都被他们强制停了 以前我甚至不知道什么是爱 不仅是对人的爱 还有对事物的爱 我觉得吃饭只是为了不饿死 穿衣只是为了不冷死 对这些东西也可以说是没有任何欲望吧 而且我虽然不花钱 不是因为节俭 是因为对钱没有概念 因为他们完全不让我花钱 我身上没有过零花钱 而且我想要吃的东西想要买的东西从来没有得到过 渐渐的可能就没有这种欲望了吧
我付出了很多代价 才找回一个正常人应该有的欲望 人性 与人格 如果我不离开他们 这些东西肯定会一辈子都被压抑 而且如果不离开他们 我的一辈子估计早就完结 早自杀了
我一点都不感谢他们把我生下来 我宁愿从没来到过世界上 他们剥夺我一切爱的东西 强加上那些只是为了他们面子的成功
但我会还的 至少我确实是欠了他们养我的钱 因为从小交学费 买东西 他们都会跟我说 这个东西多少钱 要是不给我用他们能买多少多少东西 要是不养我能多买一套房 但是放假又不让我出门 只让我去补习班 所以我从小就觉得欠他们的----钱
总之 这个视频看哭了 所以就写多了些 其实也知道写出来也不会让我好受一些 只是希望那些会做父母或者已经做父母的人 对待自己的孩子 像视频中的这个母亲一样 把他当一个【平等】的【人】 认真有爱的对待
找伟宏 拨开云雾 你会找到属于自己的一片天！每个人都没有选择父母的机会、包括我们的父母。 如果你有选择如何去生活的机会请好好把握。
找伟宏 支持你！好好過自己的人生
看到你说的我也是百感交集却不知道从何说起，尽可能的照自己喜欢的方式活下去好吗，继续画画也好当个废人也好
找伟宏 理解你，其实你不用那么有愧疚感的，我以前也觉得自己欠他们很多，后来我想明白了，虽然他们养我往我身上花钱，但是我花他们身上的每一分钱容易吗？难道我就没有付出代价吗？你想想，你从小就顺着他们满足了他们那么多过分的要求了，你已经付出代价了，你不欠他们什么了，己所不欲勿施于人，换成他们是你他们肯定不干，说是爱其实就是自私，明白就好。
他们生了你却对你那么恶劣，所以你不欠他们任何，不必还。如果你还觉得欠他们要还，说明你被他们控制和洗脑的毒素没全排除。
每个小宝宝都是天使，父母要好好爱他们引导他们，同时学会放手。
好棒！好真誠的媽媽，
向您學習！！
她說的十件事情正是一般父母全會犯的錯誤。過去的巳無可挽回、希望未來要當父母的能引以為鑑。想要做足這十件事所需要的能量便是愛、要生孩子之前請先問自己：我喜歡孩子嗎？我真想要孩子嗎？還是我是因為年紀到了？親友的壓力？社會的目光？如果你不是完全的出於自願生孩子的那麼你有可能不會夠愛他、那麼你也可能會成為下一個“一般的父母“。
她的孩子好感恩有這位媽媽～
我看了好多遍，每看一次就檢討自己一次，謝謝美玲姐的分享。
性格真好！情商智商都高的漂亮女人！
謝謝分享這麼棒的親子教養觀念!
陳美林真的很努力👍
如果有这样开明知性的母亲，也许很多人的生命轨迹都会发生改变。可悲的是，这十条没有一条我的父母可以做到。很羡慕她的孩子们，应该有着很快乐的童年。相比之下，我的童年尽没有什么可以怀念的。我记事起，从来没有被妈妈抱过亲过鼓励过赞扬过。我能想起的就是无尽的白眼和打骂。从来不敢提任何要求，从来不敢要任何东西，在他们看来我根本不重要，只是个摆设，也许是个负担，只要安安静静的活着就行。看完视频真的想哭，耳边永远回荡着父母的声音，“能把你养活就不错了，还要求这要求那的”。我恨他们为什么生我，如果孩子也有选择权，我宁愿选择不来这个世界。长大后，一直都是回家就进房间，除了吃饭在一起坐着，其他时间都是各顾各的。从没有体会到父母的温暖，更像是陌生人寄宿者。这也导致了我的婚姻失败，从没被爱过的人，怎么去爱别人呢。是的，我自卑，悲观，极端，极度缺乏安全感。我的心从没有真正开心，也从没有对任何一个人开放。现在我有了孩子，竭尽全力不想成为我的父母那样的人。
現在才看到，你真棒，加油噢！
说的太棒了🌟
绝对值得敬佩的艺人
我的偶像不只是一个洋娃娃，原来是个值得我敬佩的智慧女性。
好羡慕她的小孩喔！
有智慧的母爱！有个性的教育！
說得真是太好了！
如果父母是名校毕业的话，小孩很容易进这些学校的，找个人写个推荐信什么的。同意你说的教育孩子的方法，但你三个小孩能进名校和你有些背景是分不开的。只能说你孩子还是在背景上有优势的。
不好考证
达到这十个标准的父母 没有一百分也有九十分吧 希望童年不幸福的盆友不要难过 准备好 把最好的自己展现给下一代
好的父母做孩子的同伴，成熟的父母做孩子的榜样，幼稚的父母做孩子的家长。
非常好的事情❤
好溫柔的媽媽
美齡說的真好
EQ很高的妈妈。我每次累的时候都没办法耐心地对我女儿，骂了她后都感到内疚
You 优 一样一样，每次跟孩子生气都是自己跟自己生气。累的。
我也会
我也是
罵了就罵了
做父母的跟孩子一樣
都是做到那個角色,才開始學習當那個角色
碰到問題才能解決問題
前提先心靜
可以跟孩子討論關於人類情緒與人性的問題
J&C妞妞麻糬日記 谢谢你。我知道了
陈美龄可是70年代的玉女掌门人哦！
很有智慧的妈妈。
找伟宏 你什麼也不需要還給你父母，現今社會，有各種各樣的避孕措施，如果他們覺得養你育你系令他們無法夠錢買這，買那，買房子，他們當初可以不生育。他們决定生下你的話，養你育你系應該的。系他們欠了你，你可以為着自己的前途，夢想，生活去進發，無謂去想一些無謂的人，令自己不開心！祝福你！
跟她同年同月生，
她只比我大兩天。
啊!今天正是她的生日💐🎂
只是，今天才認識她😂😂😂
也不錯👍🏻沒有錯過🤝🤝🤝
感謝🙏🏻學到很多佷多💧💦💎
🥰很好的媽媽！
“失敗不氣餒，繼續下一個夢想；成功也謙虛，與他人分享，而非孤高自傲。”
真是好女人
脑海里回响起陈美玲的歌曲 还是她的歌曲对我影响比较大 做母亲和歌手一样成功 祝福您
I m shock to read some of the comments left here about their childhood... but thank them for sharing their pain growing up. Talk is easier than done. Chan might be a perfect parent ( I doubt ), But she ain't a saint. Every kid is different, most parents I believe are doing their best on raising their kids, they might not know what they have done to their kids are wrong. We children should not take them for granted... it's really okay to vent or even to complain, but do not hurt yourself. Forgive your parents for what they have done wrong to you, I m sure some of them use the name of love but solely for sake of their own egos. If the childhood was the hardest time in your life, try to think how tough you are because you went through and you are okay, what else can be worse than that, yes?!well, perhaps just follow Chan s simple methods, we all will be great parents and all the kids will have a happy childhood and a successful future. :). Seriously, don't compare！
Recuerdos, u say that u doubt Agnes is a perfect parent, but please do not judge her by saying that she'a no saint, because neither r u nor anyone else in this world. As parents, we all do our best 2 teach our chidren 2 b altruistic,n caring n selfless people when they grow up.The most important thing 2 realize is that parents have 2 b good role models 4 their children, bcos kids learn by listening 2 n then watching how their parents bhave. I was born in a middle-class family n although I didn't have everything I wanted, my parents saw 2 it that we had good food 2 eat, nice clothes 2 wear, toys 2 play with, prestigous schools 2 go 2. Being a Christian was good spiritual training, preparing me 4 life in a material,n competitive n avaricious society n world. Although I didn't have everything I wanted, I'n very grateful 2 my Mum n Dad 4 bringing me up n I had everything I needed plus some things I wanted. My faith taught me not 2 covet things bcos the're r always people who're richer, better-educated, have bigger cars n houses,n etc.He than u. I attended a school in which many of the students n even my classmates came from affluent families, their parents being doctors,n lawyers,n businessman, n even one particular boy whose Dad was a politician.There were many boys whose parents had more,n some considerably more,n money than mine.He Despite this,I never envied them n never felt inferior 2 them. It may seem incredible, but I was never materialistic (bcos ultimately I can't take it with u.I had a very happy childhood bcos my parents loved me (Mum was the disciplinarian n Dad was the doting father) n what one parent couldn't give me,the other would. And lastly I learned 2 strive 4 excellence n did well in school. If u ask me what were my most important lessons as a student, my reply would b the teachings from the Bible.
There is no perfection, it's only 'standards' created by someone. Don't be too harsh to yourself or ppl who care about you, I guess that is what I was trying to say. I m glad that you have a happy life, keep up the good job and cherish all your blessings.
P.S. no one is perfect, if you think someone is perfect, it's just an illusion, the one who traps you in is guilty, and she might not be as sincere as you wanted to believe... more observation required.
感谢分享💜 如果有幸成为人母 希望我全都做到
美齡姐姐謝謝您❤🙋♀️
您是工作的妈妈，我也是工作的妈妈，唯一不同的是您有help.
老師謝謝妳，感受很多
陳美齡👍💯💕
真好
很好的建议
61岁！ 外国人眼里估计才tm30出头.. 太年轻了
viki 有愛心的女人
心态好，年轻态
她的價值觀是怎麼建立的？太喜歡了
真好、这是真正的母爱！
怎么家庭照片里头有高晓松
哈哈哈哈哈哈
我也是觉得，还倒回去再看了一下。 他儿子的这个审美估计是这个优秀妈妈的唯一遗憾吧 哈哈
看縮圖 三個小孩那邊 還以為最右邊是高曉松 @O@
我就是纳闷最丑的和最纯情的站一起干嘛 才点进来的
I think she just lucky to have kids listen, all kids are different
看了真感動
智慧的妈妈！
很好的教育，对即将成为妈妈的我有启发，感谢。
61 ！ 完全看不出来
媽呀! 一睇就知6字頭啦!!!
Z木__ 感觉41的样子
感觉四十多岁的样子
我一開始也嚇到
陳美齡确實保養得好，她還5年抗癌呢。
好感人
好多全新的观念 👍👍
멋진 엄마가 있었네요 자녀들 곁에..
才女👍👍👍👍👍
真好! 多谢分享
很好的建议， 我也是努力这么做的， 努力加油
agnes chan lives with a happy life ❣️ congratulations
首先，她有一颗童心。够了
一向娃娃脸的她也有老态了但正常啊！ 没刻意打扮 不用像其他女星那样死撑 有脑的聪明女子不靠外表
說的很好
What Agnes taught is very easy 2 understand but oh, so difficult 4 many parents 2 do.
这是我在一条看过最有意义的视频。
Wonderful, this is part of the Montessori philosophy of learning, very effective and makes the children happy, as well as happy to learn!
真的非常喜歡她
說得很對。我原來是一個很高分的媽媽，雖然兩個小孩子讀書都不高分。
說不定你的孩子有其他天賦 :D
那也沒關係又不是很會唸書才是好小孩
你好
我兒子好乖都幾生性
可惜三年前他因為會考吾理想、患上思覺失調、他吾肯打針或食药、结果都浪費了幾年光陰、我亦非常傷心和照顧他都苦腦不堪、他现在入院要醫病呀！！我天天都哭、其實他好生性、但……就壓抑了他本身的情感免我吾開心引致患病了
What a terrific mother.
你真好彩生到D孩子能聼你話，如果你的孩子像吾空/吾能/吾正的性格，就算你係觀世音菩薩你都好頭痛，正所為一樣米養出百樣人每个為人父母的大多為了孩子好，旦每个孩子心態都吳同同一家人命運都好大分別，莫為一刻光輝代表著永恆祝你好運
她真是好
猛的一看照片，以为高晓松重新投胎了🤭🤭