Always appreciate your videos and the learning process they provide. But more than anything, the love and care you give everyone after they have passed is so special. My grandfather lost three of his fingers as a child, so all we every knew was Pappa with his two very useful fingers. He could do anything with just those two fingers on that one hand. At his funeral, the funeral home had that hand hidden under the full fingered hand and of course some of us grandkids had to get that changed. We actually moved his two fingered hand and placed it on top of his full hand. One of the funeral home workers walked by and put it back and just looked very puzzled as to how it could have gotten that way. Finally one of us told him about it and why it was important that it be front and center. We told him that those two fingers held every single one of our hands when we were all little and we were lucky enough to get to hold them one last time. I will never forget that day.
Oh memeruss, what a beautiful story 💜 you were so luck to have him. We are sorry he had to go but you obviously made beautiful memories together . Xx take care 🙂
I’m usually a quiet subscriber, too shy to comment. But I wanted to thank you both for helping me to transverse through the grief of loosing my dear Dad, he was 61 when he passed last year. It was traumatic, I was with him as his thyroid tumor on his neck literally suffocated him. The sheer panic and fear in his face prior to him being given palliative sedation (I cared for him round the clock at home, as he wanted to die at home) is something I’m struggling to shake, it was just under a year ago. Being able to understand more about how his body may have been handled via many of your videos, and understanding that he was still respected by others in death, gives me great healing. I am the type of person who needs facts …. If someone says “I’m afraid we lost him”, I will usually wonder where they have gone. Rather, I need someone to say “your father has died”, for example. Your kind yet factual videos is helping me on this journey, thank you both.
Hi Jojo, thank you so much for trusting us enough to share your story. We are so sorry that your dad (and you and your family) had to go through that. Thank goodness for palliative sedation. 💜 Sending big love to you, thank you for your appreciation, it means so much to us. 😘
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you for the lovely reply. All the thanks goes to you. The part of how his body was handled after he died had me left not knowing, he didn’t have any embalming or anything, just natural stuff for a viewing from me in the funeral home. I’m grateful for caring funeral homes such as yours. When dad died, I informed the funeral home, but asked if I could call back once we had all spent time with him, which they agreed to. I was able to lie next to Dad, I even fell asleep for a while hugging him because the previous 48 hours was hell and I was quite sleep deprived (we opened the window to keep him cool etc). About 3 hours later, I suggested to my family that we call the funeral home, we all agreed it was time. I was calm, until they got there. As I realized that they were taking him away from his own home, his own bed, I panicked. They did not speak to me other than to give me their business card, and the two men pulled dad out of bed and flopped him onto the stretcher next to the bed on the floor. I wish they would have told me they were going to move him, as I didn’t want to see him so lifeless like that. They didn’t check on us at all, they put him into the vehicle and left. I realize I certain amount of “this has to be done” attitude is needed when people panic, but I just wish they would have told me they were about to pull him out of bed and flop him onto the floor like a rag doll. Sure, he was dead, but he was still my dad, and I still respected the vessel that carried his life for 61 years. Prior to them coming, I shaved his face, as he always always was clean shaven except for his mustache. It was almost like a last ritual of love from me to him. Sadly, when I went to visit him at the chapel of rest, they had shaven his mustache off without asking anyone or without thinking, meaning he looked quite unrecognizable. It was upsetting, he had a mustache since he was 19. I’m telling you this because, those little extra things you do for family, goes such a long way, and although I’m sad that dad wasn’t treated very well after death, I hope that by spreading how it affected me, we can change the death industry somewhat. A brief phone call to check if he kept his mustache or not is so easy to do. Asking if I wanted to stay to see him transferred to the stretcher takes seconds. Talking me through the process, what happens next. When I saw that you offer viewings in a bed, it was such a wonderful thought, so natural. Dad was in a coffin with a cheap frilly baby blue lace covering the sides and his feet, it didn’t suit his personality at all, a blanket would have been so much nicer. Anything. Anyway, I digress, I just wanted to thank you for all the little extra things you offer that make such a difference to families. I hope more people follow in your gentle and kind footsteps. Love from the UK 🇬🇧
Oh JoJo 😢 this just made me cry I want to rush over to the UK and hug you. I am so very sorry to hear this, no way would any of our staff treat a family like that during a transfer and preparation of the body. The first thing we ask a family when we arrive at their home before stepping into the home is 'are you ready for us to come in ? If not we are happy to wait outside till you invite us in' the reason we do this is because one even though the family know we are on our way it's always a shock when we arrive because this is finial you know this is were you have to give your most precious thing in life your loved one who as just died that day to a complete stranger, it's so bloody heartbreaking hard to do. And you know most of the time the family say yes can you please give us 5mins or even an hour and the answer is always yes we can. Once we are invited in we leave the stretcher in the van go to the room the deceased person is in so we can checkout the layout of the room and what kind of access we have to move the stretcher in. It's at this point we ask would you and your family like to help in the transfer from say bed to stretcher some family do others say no we want to leave the room until you are finished. We never drop the body onto the stretcher, the stretcher will adjust to different heights. So we will adjust accordingly once wrapped in a sheet we glide the body over in one move no dropping at all. After the transfer one of us will stay with the body while say I would go out to the family and again ask are you ready for us to close the cover on the stretcher before we leave or do you want to say one last goodbye before we do that, some say yes some say no close the bag and go. We even ask if the family what to push the stretcher out to the vehicle and help load. It's not rocket science it's all common sense with the utmost care and dignity to the deceased person and to the family. Gosh I am so sorry to go on but it does upset me when I hear stories like yours. And as for shaving of his moustache 🤦♀️ far out that's an absolute no no until you contact the family to confirm this is to happen, I won't even shave a lady if she has lots of facial hair without asking family first, just makes me mad. Sorry I will shut up now, didn't mean to go on. Your dad will be with you always JoJo and what you did in his final hours and after he died is so very special and that's the most important thing to hold on to, he would know you took care of him 💚💚🌹 big hugs 🤗
@@Areyoudyingtoknow you guys are truly amazing, genuinely so. Your channel is a wonderful way to spread factual information to people like myself who just need to know straight up facts, but you are also clearly respectful and caring with everything you do. I think that it’s the type of businesses such as yours that will eventually be leading the way in the death and funeral industry, especially as we have an ageing population. I mean, let’s face it, death is something that is always going to keep happening, and we need people to help us families out when those times come. But what strikes me the most is that despite dealing with the deceased, day after day (we all have good days at work and rubbish days too, days when we just want to stay in our cosy bed lol), even though you do this all the time, you have maintained that respect and humility for the nature of your job which is worth it’s weight in gold. I do realise that, do a degree, you have to mentally step back sometimes, otherwise you would be sad all the time and ruining your own personal life, you deserve to be able to leave your troubles from the day at the door and to pick them back up on the way into work the next day. However, the things you mentioned that you do, such as moving the stretcher up so there are no flopping of lifeless bodies onto the floor, inviting families to take part in so many things, understanding that even though we have called you and we are ready for you to collect, we panic when you actually arrive, and you give us time and love. Those things make such a monumental difference, and I would have loved to help push the stretcher to the car …. I told dad when he was diagnosed 3 months prior, that I would care for him to the end, and I stayed outside on the cold to watch the car go up the road and out of sight, so I could try to truly care until the end. But, the point I’m trying to make is that those things you consider, and the options you provide, they are common sense, they don’t take up huge extra chunks of your time (to allow a family member help to move their deceased loved one onto a stretcher levelled to the bed etc), it doesn’t cost you guys any extra money, but it makes such a difference, it’s common sense and just remaining in touch with your respect and love for other human beings, both the deceased and the family. The families you have provided for will go away with incredibly meaningful experiences, and they will remember your kindness forever. I can’t change anything about how dad was treated after death now, they were not nice, and came into our home like they owned the place. But I can change the future, and advocate for places such as yours, and tell people why these little things make such a difference. So, I just want to thank you once again for your incredible kindness, and my takeaway and silver linings are these: I had a bad experience with dads funeral directors and mortuary however I can know that ever moment he was poorly and I nursed him, I gave him everything I had within me, I gave him my all, and that’s something nobody can take from us. The other silver lining is that I now know to look around for a funeral home with compassion and care, much like your own, instead of just going for the closest one in proximity…. unfortunately my mother won’t be around much longer now either. You guys rock, and watching your videos helps more than you could ever know, from understanding the eye caps (Dads top eyelids were stretched all the way down, it looked super weird, now I understand from your videos the bottom lid should have been up a bit also), closing of the mouth (Dads mouth looked crazy weird due to no moustache, but also his lips were glued together too much meaning hardly any lip was on show, and it just didn’t look like him), and so on. If we all advocate for funeral homes such as yours, we might be able to find change on a bigger scale to a more caring and compassionate system, and this all starts with people like yourselves who set the pathway for others to follow. I’m about to binge some more of your videos, thank you so much once again, and sending oodles of love from us in the UK (ps my husband is a Geordie and he recognised the accent immediately, though we live in the south west of England). Enjoy the sunshine and beauty of your wonderful country, coming to Australia is high on my bucket list. Tatty bye 👋 💜
Wow such beautiful caring words 🙏 and you are so positive even with your dad's experience. You are so very true your dad would have know you would keep your promise to the end amazing caring family that beautiful. From all you have told me dad's eyes not set correctly, gluing the lips (that's a no no) the transfer, the attitude of the funeral people, it all sounds like old school funeral homes. People been there to long, old fashioned the kind of funeral directors (or some still like to call themselves undertakers, very old school) that say 'oh no you don't need to know any of that' when you ask questions and mortuary work! This is partly why we started the channel to get people to talk and challenge their funeral directors for true answer to your questions, you ask the question then is clear you want to know the truth. Look for a modern funeral home a one you can engage with the staff and go with your gut feeling to, we all have that first impression stick with it 😊 We hope your mum is ok and doing well 🌹 Thank you again, let's bring modern into the the funeral industry we need to celebrate our loved ones life with tears and laughter, care, respect and dignity 💚 Woo hoo hubby from the NE of England 🤩 we are not a bad breed from there 😜 😂 You take good care sending hugs to you all. If you ever visit beautiful Brisbane Australia let us know 😘💚💚
Wishing you ladies the all the very best for 2023 from Northern Ireland, in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧. Thank you for your informative, entertaining, sometimes sad, mostly lighthearted uploads during 2022. Looking forward to more of the same during 2023, and thank you both, in advance. Wishing you both, and your family and friends a very Happy New Year! ❤❤❤❤🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
Hi, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏 It's not a job for everyone, I find it very rewarding and it helps me travel through my own personal grieve journey. Take good care 💚💚
So much work for something you won’t even see!😮 Would the family really want to know about the grisly way their loved one died,say a traffic accident or car crash,and if they were missing a limb? I wouldn’t want to know if they’d lost a limb. Them dying in a car crash would be trauma enough..
Hi Robertabray thank you for your comments. But yes many many family ask and want to know the extent of the injuries some don't but lots do. It's with the utmost respect and care that I take care of someone loved one with our without a traumatic death. The reason I do this job is because I know personally how traumatic these kind of deaths are 🥺 having lost my own mum to a horrific death and unable to see her and have closure. I too needed to know the extent of her injuries and why the family were unable to have a viewing. People need closure it's very important for the healing process of a sudden death 😔
I NEED HELP! Tracey, you are so calm, balanced and centered to be able to deal with these things. This might sound silly, but I’m hoping you can help me. My husband has had a skin cancer lesion removed on his upper back. He had the stitches removed, then that night his wound BLEW OUT! I had to put a big band-aid over it for him, and I almost couldn’t. This wound is a long, vertical gash, and it’s wide open and you can see deep into his back! He went back to the doc today and they said they couldn’t re-stitch it - it’ll have to be packed with gauze and changed twice a day. By me! 😳 I’m almost crying just thinking about it. Thank God hubby went away for the weekend, but Tuesday I have to go to the doc with him and learn how to clean it out! I CAN’T I can’t stick my fingers in that hole! I can’t even look at it! What am I going to do? How can I calm down about this before Tuesday? I’m terrified and horrified! *HELP ME!*
Oh sweetheart, we hope you managed ok. This isnt fun and you shouldnt have had to do this.. surely there was a nurse at your drs surgery that could have helped. Sorry we are so late to comment. Hope you got on ok. Xc
My Grandpa had his leg blown off in the war. We were hoping he could be cremated with his leg but they said he couldn't. We felt sad as Grandpa wouldn't be whole. Our lovely undertaker made him a leg from cotton for us. We were touched by his care and attention x
We wonder why he couldn't be? But expect maybe his leg wasn't retrieved. Very sad. Most morticians will go that extra bit to give the family some comfort and closure so we were happy to hear your grandpa was well looked after xx
You guys are so class!! Been following for a wee while. I so wanted to be an embalmer in the UK but the price was prohibitive. £3500 for the course.. When at the time, funeral directors sent their own guys on the course and payed them 50p an hour more. ☹️
Thank you for your kind words 🙏🙂 Yes it's very expensive the Embalming course here in Australia are around the $10,000/$12,000 mark give or take. My employer put me through the course that happens a lot here. Wow that's disappointing that the pay does not reflect the qualification in the UK 😞 maybe try and find out if some funeral homes would put you through the course? You never know. Take care and good luck 💚💚
i ve heard that some people bury their leg or arm. when they have it amputated. have you dealt with that? and how would you go about that? would they need a whole plot? or would they need a smaller one?
Hi, I have never dealt with that at all. Maybe the person contact the cemetery themselves to organise a small bural plot, but not sure. Sorry I couldn't help in answering your questions. Take care 😊💚
WHY are they saying they want to bury an amputated limb but the person is still alive??? In the US I’m guessing limbs & parts are treated like medical waste. US hospitals used to give things like an appendix to the patient. But they don’t do that any more I believe there are laws that prohibit it now. So giving someone a limb seems unlikely.
Hi Thai, The family would know that they was limb, so we would just fold the clothes over were the missing limb would be. Just to let you know that this weekend video released 21st January is the question you asked before Christmas about the bump on the head. 😁💚💚
Hi ladies! I was curious regarding the amputation question, how would you proceed if you’re embalming? I would assume you would just use the large needle?
You are correct. If I was to embalm the body (in the video I just talked about a natural prep no Embalming at all) I would embalm the arm separately of course before I reattached as this would give me greater access to the internal limb as well as external using the hypodermic needle injecting embalming chemicals throughout the whole limb. Then reattach to the embalmed body. Thanks for pointing this out 😊 take care 💚💚
Hi Hilton, I forgot to mention that in the video I was talking about a natural prep, so no Embalming at all. If I was to embalm the body ( if needed because I don't embalm all my bodies) I would embalm the body and the limb would be done separately of course. I would embalm the limb before I reattached as this gives me great access to the internal limb for extensive hypodermic injection of embalming chemicals. Thank you for your question take good care 😘💚💚
I heard of case where an hobby angler's head was cleanly sliced off by fishing string, head fell into the sea. In such case, how do you take care of the dead body. Thanks.
Wow, that's an awful story! We have talked about this in previous videos, maybe the second part of this video might answer your question. 💚 ruclips.net/video/HThQmJxaPxs/видео.html
Hi, yes either soft cotton cover in moisturising cream, or injecting into the eye lids or eye balls with filler. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Hi, not too sure but would hazard a guess because the body is not protected as it is in a car, and the ankles and feet are smaller parts of our body that can sustain damage easier especially if not enclosed in proper motorcycle boots. Thank you for your question take care ❤️❤️
Hi ladies how are you both ? I dont know why but this question just popped into my head so thought id ask it, what would happen if somone had lost an ear in an accident leading to their death and the ear was sent with them to the mortuary, would you sew it back on ? I dont know where that came from, never had that situation myself but could be an interesting topic i suppose. Hope your both well, take care 💙🩵
Hi Lucy, we are both very well thank you 🥰 hope you are too. I would reattach the ear like I would with arms, Hans, feet, legs etc. If I have the missing part what ever it is I would try and reattach if possible. Take good care lovley 💚💚
One thing that Tracy did not mention was how the limb is separately embalmed from the rest of the body before it is reattached to the rest of the body.. .
Hi, yes I forgot to mention on this video that I was talking about a natural prep no Embalming at all, (as here in Australia we don't embalm all our deceased only when required and request by family) if I was to embalm the body then I would of course embalm the limb separately with a lot of hypodermic work needed internally and externally. Thank you for pointing that out ☺️ take care 💚
Hi Tracy & Trish how are you both I am just asking with respect when Tracey is working are you allowed music on while doing your work or is respect for the deceased? Xx
Hi, we are both well thank you so much for asking 😊 I often have music on in the background usually just the local radio station or a podcast. It's never played loud and sometimes I just prefer the silence. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚💚
Hi, a question I have never been asked. I would imagine family members of the deceased person who was murdered would most likely not allow that to happen. And the person that committed the murder would probably be locked away. Thanks for your question take care 😊💚
Hi Bob, yes if surgical removed I won't have a look b to reattach. It only happens if the limb as been severed in the accident or incident that killed the person. Thank you for your comments. Take care 😊💚
Hi Cyndy, if it's a limb that's been gone for many years and no artificial limbs are given to me by the family then I leave the clothing empty. If it was during the death of the person then I would pad out the sleeves and trousers legs with rolls of large cotton. It looks less traumatic at a viewing. Good question thank you 💚💚
Were you originally a bit nervous or scared when you started? How did you overcome it if you did? Just by getting to work everyday or something else? I’m planning on going to college to get a funeral director certificate and also learn under one of our local funeral homes and I’m a bit nervous myself, but I do want to continue with this.
Hi, that's is very exciting. It is a very rewarding job. You will know within the first few days to weeks if this is the job for you. Yes I was a bit nervous but I was more excited to get on learning the job, just because I wanted to help families going through they darkest days to ease the grieving pain. Try and have an open mind and remember you can talk through your worries and concerns with other staff members to help you on the difficult days. It's not a scary as you think, you will feel really good knowing you have help others in your role. Good luck and let's us know how you get on. Take care 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you so much!! I also went looking around your channel for other videos and I was able to find ones that helped ease me. Thank you for your work not only as a mortician but also running this channel and helping people out!!
Hi Natalie, not so much a shark attack but I have taken care of bodies that have been in waters were sharks are found and bits have been taken out of the bodies. We have done videos on this before. I would just make sure I clean and treat the bite wound and cover it up with bandages when I prepared the deceased before dressing. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚💚
Always appreciate your videos and the learning process they provide. But more than anything, the love and care you give everyone after they have passed is so special.
My grandfather lost three of his fingers as a child, so all we every knew was Pappa with his two very useful fingers. He could do anything with just those two fingers on that one hand. At his funeral, the funeral home had that hand hidden under the full fingered hand and of course some of us grandkids had to get that changed. We actually moved his two fingered hand and placed it on top of his full hand. One of the funeral home workers walked by and put it back and just looked very puzzled as to how it could have gotten that way. Finally one of us told him about it and why it was important that it be front and center. We told him that those two fingers held every single one of our hands when we were all little and we were lucky enough to get to hold them one last time. I will never forget that day.
Oh memeruss, what a beautiful story 💜 you were so luck to have him. We are sorry he had to go but you obviously made beautiful memories together . Xx take care 🙂
I have such admiration for Tracey & her compassion & professionalism. I feel I’ve missed my calling ❤
Oh Cyndy you are just so kind 🙏🥰 thank you. You are never to old to learn new skills 😉 take good care 💚💚
I’m usually a quiet subscriber, too shy to comment. But I wanted to thank you both for helping me to transverse through the grief of loosing my dear Dad, he was 61 when he passed last year. It was traumatic, I was with him as his thyroid tumor on his neck literally suffocated him. The sheer panic and fear in his face prior to him being given palliative sedation (I cared for him round the clock at home, as he wanted to die at home) is something I’m struggling to shake, it was just under a year ago. Being able to understand more about how his body may have been handled via many of your videos, and understanding that he was still respected by others in death, gives me great healing. I am the type of person who needs facts …. If someone says “I’m afraid we lost him”, I will usually wonder where they have gone. Rather, I need someone to say “your father has died”, for example. Your kind yet factual videos is helping me on this journey, thank you both.
Hi Jojo, thank you so much for trusting us enough to share your story. We are so sorry that your dad (and you and your family) had to go through that. Thank goodness for palliative sedation. 💜 Sending big love to you, thank you for your appreciation, it means so much to us. 😘
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you for the lovely reply. All the thanks goes to you. The part of how his body was handled after he died had me left not knowing, he didn’t have any embalming or anything, just natural stuff for a viewing from me in the funeral home. I’m grateful for caring funeral homes such as yours. When dad died, I informed the funeral home, but asked if I could call back once we had all spent time with him, which they agreed to. I was able to lie next to Dad, I even fell asleep for a while hugging him because the previous 48 hours was hell and I was quite sleep deprived (we opened the window to keep him cool etc). About 3 hours later, I suggested to my family that we call the funeral home, we all agreed it was time. I was calm, until they got there. As I realized that they were taking him away from his own home, his own bed, I panicked. They did not speak to me other than to give me their business card, and the two men pulled dad out of bed and flopped him onto the stretcher next to the bed on the floor. I wish they would have told me they were going to move him, as I didn’t want to see him so lifeless like that. They didn’t check on us at all, they put him into the vehicle and left. I realize I certain amount of “this has to be done” attitude is needed when people panic, but I just wish they would have told me they were about to pull him out of bed and flop him onto the floor like a rag doll. Sure, he was dead, but he was still my dad, and I still respected the vessel that carried his life for 61 years.
Prior to them coming, I shaved his face, as he always always was clean shaven except for his mustache. It was almost like a last ritual of love from me to him. Sadly, when I went to visit him at the chapel of rest, they had shaven his mustache off without asking anyone or without thinking, meaning he looked quite unrecognizable. It was upsetting, he had a mustache since he was 19. I’m telling you this because, those little extra things you do for family, goes such a long way, and although I’m sad that dad wasn’t treated very well after death, I hope that by spreading how it affected me, we can change the death industry somewhat. A brief phone call to check if he kept his mustache or not is so easy to do. Asking if I wanted to stay to see him transferred to the stretcher takes seconds. Talking me through the process, what happens next. When I saw that you offer viewings in a bed, it was such a wonderful thought, so natural. Dad was in a coffin with a cheap frilly baby blue lace covering the sides and his feet, it didn’t suit his personality at all, a blanket would have been so much nicer. Anything. Anyway, I digress, I just wanted to thank you for all the little extra things you offer that make such a difference to families. I hope more people follow in your gentle and kind footsteps. Love from the UK 🇬🇧
Oh JoJo 😢 this just made me cry I want to rush over to the UK and hug you. I am so very sorry to hear this, no way would any of our staff treat a family like that during a transfer and preparation of the body. The first thing we ask a family when we arrive at their home before stepping into the home is 'are you ready for us to come in ? If not we are happy to wait outside till you invite us in' the reason we do this is because one even though the family know we are on our way it's always a shock when we arrive because this is finial you know this is were you have to give your most precious thing in life your loved one who as just died that day to a complete stranger, it's so bloody heartbreaking hard to do. And you know most of the time the family say yes can you please give us 5mins or even an hour and the answer is always yes we can. Once we are invited in we leave the stretcher in the van go to the room the deceased person is in so we can checkout the layout of the room and what kind of access we have to move the stretcher in. It's at this point we ask would you and your family like to help in the transfer from say bed to stretcher some family do others say no we want to leave the room until you are finished. We never drop the body onto the stretcher, the stretcher will adjust to different heights. So we will adjust accordingly once wrapped in a sheet we glide the body over in one move no dropping at all. After the transfer one of us will stay with the body while say I would go out to the family and again ask are you ready for us to close the cover on the stretcher before we leave or do you want to say one last goodbye before we do that, some say yes some say no close the bag and go. We even ask if the family what to push the stretcher out to the vehicle and help load. It's not rocket science it's all common sense with the utmost care and dignity to the deceased person and to the family. Gosh I am so sorry to go on but it does upset me when I hear stories like yours. And as for shaving of his moustache 🤦♀️ far out that's an absolute no no until you contact the family to confirm this is to happen, I won't even shave a lady if she has lots of facial hair without asking family first, just makes me mad.
Sorry I will shut up now, didn't mean to go on.
Your dad will be with you always JoJo and what you did in his final hours and after he died is so very special and that's the most important thing to hold on to, he would know you took care of him 💚💚🌹 big hugs 🤗
@@Areyoudyingtoknow you guys are truly amazing, genuinely so. Your channel is a wonderful way to spread factual information to people like myself who just need to know straight up facts, but you are also clearly respectful and caring with everything you do. I think that it’s the type of businesses such as yours that will eventually be leading the way in the death and funeral industry, especially as we have an ageing population. I mean, let’s face it, death is something that is always going to keep happening, and we need people to help us families out when those times come. But what strikes me the most is that despite dealing with the deceased, day after day (we all have good days at work and rubbish days too, days when we just want to stay in our cosy bed lol), even though you do this all the time, you have maintained that respect and humility for the nature of your job which is worth it’s weight in gold. I do realise that, do a degree, you have to mentally step back sometimes, otherwise you would be sad all the time and ruining your own personal life, you deserve to be able to leave your troubles from the day at the door and to pick them back up on the way into work the next day. However, the things you mentioned that you do, such as moving the stretcher up so there are no flopping of lifeless bodies onto the floor, inviting families to take part in so many things, understanding that even though we have called you and we are ready for you to collect, we panic when you actually arrive, and you give us time and love. Those things make such a monumental difference, and I would have loved to help push the stretcher to the car …. I told dad when he was diagnosed 3 months prior, that I would care for him to the end, and I stayed outside on the cold to watch the car go up the road and out of sight, so I could try to truly care until the end.
But, the point I’m trying to make is that those things you consider, and the options you provide, they are common sense, they don’t take up huge extra chunks of your time (to allow a family member help to move their deceased loved one onto a stretcher levelled to the bed etc), it doesn’t cost you guys any extra money, but it makes such a difference, it’s common sense and just remaining in touch with your respect and love for other human beings, both the deceased and the family. The families you have provided for will go away with incredibly meaningful experiences, and they will remember your kindness forever. I can’t change anything about how dad was treated after death now, they were not nice, and came into our home like they owned the place. But I can change the future, and advocate for places such as yours, and tell people why these little things make such a difference. So, I just want to thank you once again for your incredible kindness, and my takeaway and silver linings are these: I had a bad experience with dads funeral directors and mortuary however I can know that ever moment he was poorly and I nursed him, I gave him everything I had within me, I gave him my all, and that’s something nobody can take from us. The other silver lining is that I now know to look around for a funeral home with compassion and care, much like your own, instead of just going for the closest one in proximity…. unfortunately my mother won’t be around much longer now either. You guys rock, and watching your videos helps more than you could ever know, from understanding the eye caps (Dads top eyelids were stretched all the way down, it looked super weird, now I understand from your videos the bottom lid should have been up a bit also), closing of the mouth (Dads mouth looked crazy weird due to no moustache, but also his lips were glued together too much meaning hardly any lip was on show, and it just didn’t look like him), and so on. If we all advocate for funeral homes such as yours, we might be able to find change on a bigger scale to a more caring and compassionate system, and this all starts with people like yourselves who set the pathway for others to follow. I’m about to binge some more of your videos, thank you so much once again, and sending oodles of love from us in the UK (ps my husband is a Geordie and he recognised the accent immediately, though we live in the south west of England). Enjoy the sunshine and beauty of your wonderful country, coming to Australia is high on my bucket list. Tatty bye 👋 💜
Wow such beautiful caring words 🙏 and you are so positive even with your dad's experience. You are so very true your dad would have know you would keep your promise to the end amazing caring family that beautiful.
From all you have told me dad's eyes not set correctly, gluing the lips (that's a no no) the transfer, the attitude of the funeral people, it all sounds like old school funeral homes. People been there to long, old fashioned the kind of funeral directors (or some still like to call themselves undertakers, very old school) that say 'oh no you don't need to know any of that' when you ask questions and mortuary work! This is partly why we started the channel to get people to talk and challenge their funeral directors for true answer to your questions, you ask the question then is clear you want to know the truth. Look for a modern funeral home a one you can engage with the staff and go with your gut feeling to, we all have that first impression stick with it 😊
We hope your mum is ok and doing well 🌹
Thank you again, let's bring modern into the the funeral industry we need to celebrate our loved ones life with tears and laughter, care, respect and dignity 💚
Woo hoo hubby from the NE of England 🤩 we are not a bad breed from there 😜 😂
You take good care sending hugs to you all. If you ever visit beautiful Brisbane Australia let us know 😘💚💚
Thank you for another great video ladies.
Thank you Neil ☺️💚☺️
Again fantastic so informative and sensitively explained x
Thank you so much and for all your kind words and on going support 🙂💚💚
I wish I followed my passion and went that route. I love the honesty of your experiences and explanations.
I appreciate that! Thank you so much 🤗💚💚
Happy new year to you too. Here's to a happy and healthy one for 2023. Loving the videos as ever.
And to you too Amanda. Thank you for your kind words and on going support 🙏💚💚
Wishing you ladies the all the very best for 2023 from Northern Ireland, in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧. Thank you for your informative, entertaining, sometimes sad, mostly lighthearted uploads during 2022. Looking forward to more of the same during 2023, and thank you both, in advance. Wishing you both, and your family and friends a very Happy New Year! ❤❤❤❤🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
Our pleasure! And the same to you and your family 🥳🎉 and thank you for all your kind words and on going support Gaggy 🙏
Enjoy 2023 🥰💚💚
Your videos are so educational; I love them! I don't think I could be a mortician, but I'm so interested in the process.
Hi, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
It's not a job for everyone, I find it very rewarding and it helps me travel through my own personal grieve journey.
Take good care 💚💚
So much work for something you won’t even see!😮
Would the family really want to know about the grisly way their loved one died,say a traffic accident or car crash,and if they were missing a limb?
I wouldn’t want to know if they’d lost a limb. Them dying in a car crash would be trauma enough..
Hi Robertabray thank you for your comments. But yes many many family ask and want to know the extent of the injuries some don't but lots do. It's with the utmost respect and care that I take care of someone loved one with our without a traumatic death.
The reason I do this job is because I know personally how traumatic these kind of deaths are 🥺 having lost my own mum to a horrific death and unable to see her and have closure. I too needed to know the extent of her injuries and why the family were unable to have a viewing. People need closure it's very important for the healing process of a sudden death 😔
Best Wishes for 2023 T&T!!! ♥️ Thanks for this one!
Same to you! 🥰 Thank you so much for all your kind words and on going support 🙏💚💚
I NEED HELP! Tracey, you are so calm, balanced and centered to be able to deal with these things. This might sound silly, but I’m hoping you can help me. My husband has had a skin cancer lesion removed on his upper back. He had the stitches removed, then that night his wound BLEW OUT! I had to put a big band-aid over it for him, and I almost couldn’t. This wound is a long, vertical gash, and it’s wide open and you can see deep into his back! He went back to the doc today and they said they couldn’t re-stitch it - it’ll have to be packed with gauze and changed twice a day. By me! 😳 I’m almost crying just thinking about it. Thank God hubby went away for the weekend, but Tuesday I have to go to the doc with him and learn how to clean it out! I CAN’T I can’t stick my fingers in that hole! I can’t even look at it! What am I going to do? How can I calm down about this before Tuesday? I’m terrified and horrified! *HELP ME!*
Oh sweetheart, we hope you managed ok. This isnt fun and you shouldnt have had to do this.. surely there was a nurse at your drs surgery that could have helped. Sorry we are so late to comment. Hope you got on ok. Xc
So great to see you lovely ladies back today! Hope you had a wonderful festive season and Happy New Year!
Thank you! You too! 🥰 We had a lovely break 😊💚💚
Thanks to you ladies, good vlog
Our pleasure! 🤗❤️❤️
1630 your program is awesome answered so many questions❤
🙏thank you xx
My Grandpa had his leg blown off in the war. We were hoping he could be cremated with his leg but they said he couldn't. We felt sad as Grandpa wouldn't be whole. Our lovely undertaker made him a leg from cotton for us. We were touched by his care and attention x
We wonder why he couldn't be? But expect maybe his leg wasn't retrieved. Very sad. Most morticians will go that extra bit to give the family some comfort and closure so we were happy to hear your grandpa was well looked after xx
You guys are so class!! Been following for a wee while. I so wanted to be an embalmer in the UK but the price was prohibitive. £3500 for the course.. When at the time, funeral directors sent their own guys on the course and payed them 50p an hour more. ☹️
Thank you for your kind words 🙏🙂
Yes it's very expensive the Embalming course here in Australia are around the $10,000/$12,000 mark give or take. My employer put me through the course that happens a lot here. Wow that's disappointing that the pay does not reflect the qualification in the UK 😞 maybe try and find out if some funeral homes would put you through the course? You never know. Take care and good luck 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you guys for the advice. I will give it a go 👍❤️
Definitely worth it 😊💚
i ve heard that some people bury their leg or arm. when they have it amputated. have you dealt with that? and how would you go about that? would they need a whole plot? or would they need a smaller one?
Hi, I have never dealt with that at all. Maybe the person contact the cemetery themselves to organise a small bural plot, but not sure. Sorry I couldn't help in answering your questions. Take care 😊💚
WHY are they saying they want to bury an amputated limb but the person is still alive??? In the US I’m guessing limbs & parts are treated like medical waste. US hospitals used to give things like an appendix to the patient. But they don’t do that any more I believe there are laws that prohibit it now. So giving someone a limb seems unlikely.
I may have missed it but if you have the amputated limb do you embalm the limb separately and then attach?
Yes I would do that 💚💚
What if a arm or leg was amputated in there's no armor leg to be replaced by it what do you do
Hi Thai, The family would know that they was limb, so we would just fold the clothes over were the missing limb would be.
Just to let you know that this weekend video released 21st January is the question you asked before Christmas about the bump on the head. 😁💚💚
Happy new year beautiful lady’s
Thank you 🥰 happy New Year to you too 🥂🎉💚💚
How do you handle someone who was in a accident, and the lower part of the body has been mangled? Do you put the mangled parts in the coffin?
Hi there, we have many videos on this - I will wash and clean the area, treat it and bandage so the person can be dressed wherever possible.
Happy New Year ladies.
Same to you! 🎉🥳💚💚
Happy new year to you both x
Happy new year!! 💚💚
Hi ladies! I was curious regarding the amputation question, how would you proceed if you’re embalming? I would assume you would just use the large needle?
You are correct. If I was to embalm the body (in the video I just talked about a natural prep no Embalming at all) I would embalm the arm separately of course before I reattached as this would give me greater access to the internal limb as well as external using the hypodermic needle injecting embalming chemicals throughout the whole limb. Then reattach to the embalmed body. Thanks for pointing this out 😊 take care 💚💚
Great video! Happy New Year ladies! xo
Thank you 🥰
Happy New Year to you too 🥂🍾🎉💚💚
Hello girlies , happy new year. I'm looking forward to a new year of videos. Ya'll are looking pretty. 💖💖
Thank you! And you too 🎉🥳
And thank you for your kind words 😘💚💚
When would you inject embalming fluid into a severed limb? Before or after re-attachment?
Hi Hilton, I forgot to mention that in the video I was talking about a natural prep, so no Embalming at all. If I was to embalm the body ( if needed because I don't embalm all my bodies) I would embalm the body and the limb would be done separately of course. I would embalm the limb before I reattached as this gives me great access to the internal limb for extensive hypodermic injection of embalming chemicals. Thank you for your question take good care 😘💚💚
Happy New Year ladies ! 🎉 🥳 ❤ 🚑 🇬🇧
Right back at you 🥂🥳🎉💚💚
Happy new my lovely’s!!
You too!! 🎉🥳🥰💚💚
Love your videos.
Glad you like them! Thank you so much 🥰💚💚
I heard of case where an hobby angler's head was cleanly sliced off by fishing string, head fell into the sea. In such case, how do you take care of the dead body. Thanks.
Wow, that's an awful story! We have talked about this in previous videos, maybe the second part of this video might answer your question. 💚 ruclips.net/video/HThQmJxaPxs/видео.html
Are there alternatives for people who don't want eye caps?
Hi, yes either soft cotton cover in moisturising cream, or injecting into the eye lids or eye balls with filler. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚
Please could you just briefly explain why motorcyclists lose predominantly their feet in a road traffic accident? So sorry for my ignorance x
Hi, not too sure but would hazard a guess because the body is not protected as it is in a car, and the ankles and feet are smaller parts of our body that can sustain damage easier especially if not enclosed in proper motorcycle boots. Thank you for your question take care ❤️❤️
Watching in Alabama
Woo hoo, all the way from Alabama that's so cool 👍🥰💚💚
Hi ladies how are you both ? I dont know why but this question just popped into my head so thought id ask it, what would happen if somone had lost an ear in an accident leading to their death and the ear was sent with them to the mortuary, would you sew it back on ? I dont know where that came from, never had that situation myself but could be an interesting topic i suppose.
Hope your both well, take care 💙🩵
Hi Lucy, we are both very well thank you 🥰 hope you are too.
I would reattach the ear like I would with arms, Hans, feet, legs etc. If I have the missing part what ever it is I would try and reattach if possible.
Take good care lovley 💚💚
One thing that Tracy did not mention was how the limb is separately embalmed from the rest of the body before it is reattached to the rest of the body.. .
Hi, yes I forgot to mention on this video that I was talking about a natural prep no Embalming at all, (as here in Australia we don't embalm all our deceased only when required and request by family) if I was to embalm the body then I would of course embalm the limb separately with a lot of hypodermic work needed internally and externally. Thank you for pointing that out ☺️ take care 💚
Hi Tracy & Trish how are you both I am just asking with respect when Tracey is working are you allowed music on while doing your work or is respect for the deceased? Xx
Hi, we are both well thank you so much for asking 😊
I often have music on in the background usually just the local radio station or a podcast. It's never played loud and sometimes I just prefer the silence. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you for the answer
Ha ha they bled out and now there on the table. No wonder you're a vegetarian... Happy new year gorgeous ladies and ole mate. Luv ya work x
Thank you looking forward to the coming year too.
Happy new year! 🥰💚💚
what does happens to ab amputated limb ladies and happy new year
Happy New Year 🥳🎉 like we said in the video I will clean them up and reattach the limb by sewing them back on. Take care 😊💚💚
Happy New Year guys 😃
Right back at you 🥂🥳🎉💚💚
Do you have any laws who can view ,,, etc Murdered victim the person who murdered the deceased can come and view
Hi, a question I have never been asked. I would imagine family members of the deceased person who was murdered would most likely not allow that to happen. And the person that committed the murder would probably be locked away.
Thanks for your question take care 😊💚
Happy New Year,,sweeties.
And to you too! 🎉🥳🥰💚
Hi ladies!
Hi ☺️😍💚💚
Happy new year
Right back at you 🥂🥳💚💚
Did you have funerals on Christmas Eve Christmas day new years eve and new years day
Hi Thai yes we had funerals on Christmas Eve and New year Eve. We were closed for services on Christmas Day and New Year's Day. X💚💚
I am sure if it's a limb removed from cancer that limb has been already been disposed of.
Hi Bob, yes if surgical removed I won't have a look b to reattach. It only happens if the limb as been severed in the accident or incident that killed the person. Thank you for your comments. Take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thank you.
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Living *without an amputated limb.
Although there is a guy on RUclips that does videos with the bones of his leg and foot .
Oh thank you for sharing ❤️
When the missing limb doesn’t come with the body do you just have a shirt or pant with an empty sleeve at the viewing?
Hi Cyndy, if it's a limb that's been gone for many years and no artificial limbs are given to me by the family then I leave the clothing empty. If it was during the death of the person then I would pad out the sleeves and trousers legs with rolls of large cotton. It looks less traumatic at a viewing. Good question thank you 💚💚
Were you originally a bit nervous or scared when you started? How did you overcome it if you did? Just by getting to work everyday or something else? I’m planning on going to college to get a funeral director certificate and also learn under one of our local funeral homes and I’m a bit nervous myself, but I do want to continue with this.
Hi, that's is very exciting. It is a very rewarding job. You will know within the first few days to weeks if this is the job for you. Yes I was a bit nervous but I was more excited to get on learning the job, just because I wanted to help families going through they darkest days to ease the grieving pain. Try and have an open mind and remember you can talk through your worries and concerns with other staff members to help you on the difficult days. It's not a scary as you think, you will feel really good knowing you have help others in your role. Good luck and let's us know how you get on. Take care 💚💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you so much!! I also went looking around your channel for other videos and I was able to find ones that helped ease me. Thank you for your work not only as a mortician but also running this channel and helping people out!!
Thank you for your kind words 🙏, all the best and take care 😊💚💚
Have you ever had a shark attack victim?
Hi Natalie, not so much a shark attack but I have taken care of bodies that have been in waters were sharks are found and bits have been taken out of the bodies. We have done videos on this before. I would just make sure I clean and treat the bite wound and cover it up with bandages when I prepared the deceased before dressing. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚💚
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