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I LOVE YOU TRENIUS YOU ARE MORE FAMILY TO ME THAN MY OWN BLOOD WHEN I FEEL DOWN OR LIKE THINGS ARE OVERWHELMING IN MY LIFE I LISTEN TO YOU MY DAILY INSPIRATION IS GOD AND YOU WITH ALL OF YOUR POSITIVE VIBES I LOVE YOU TRENIUS!!!!💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
I’m 42..... learned these type of family lessons a couple of years ago... it can be painful when there’s the realization of these things. But I think that maybe it’s for our own good.... maybe God, the Universe.... wants us to also extend our love and support outside of blood.... 🙏💙🦋.
We are going through the exact same thing lol it's so awesome. Psalms 37:11 This what I hope for. Zephaniah 2:3 Isiah 61:1 (Awesome as in, my God is awesome and I know there are better days ahead.)
@@quickdepositz4809 Don't know if this question is directed to me but I randomly called a cousin this morning, just to see how she was doing in this crisis. Hadn't spoken with her in 2-3 years. Still prayed in faith!
Yep it's called jealousy especially when you rise from the dirt and they expected you to fail in life but you're doing better than them and their children and you started with less and now you have more.
Just because you share the same blood as the next person doesn't mean you're family that just makes you related. With FAMILY comes LOYALTY & With RELATIVES comes BLOOD.
Ya' Know Tha' terminology "Blood's thicker than Water" This happens wit' me. On my "Bio-Father's side of the Fam' No Respect, No Love, No Nuthin' But Fake Love.
Man I’m even thinking of leaving home because I feel like their energy is affecting my bag bro. Every time they speak negative on me I lose track of my self worth. And these people be my mama, my brother, my sister . People that I thought I could trust in and rely on. But they don’t support me at all, they ain’t never said congratulations but quick to tell me how broke I am, that I ain’t gon succeed. Man it hurts but I know the truth now.
YES, they are getting ready to toss you out.... What happened to me😢... Family is great source of PAIN😢... I love them all for ever 😢, but they threw me away left me for Dead....😢 Have new family now... They celebrate Me 🤗🌻🐶🌈🏃♀️🐕🦺
I resonate with that. I think it's important to remove yourself for now why you get stronger. Ween out the one of 2 that care and the rest get left behind because the choices and true colors they show. It hurts to leave people but you will grow stronger from it. Half of them will come back to you and you can review them with caution. ❤ make sure later future you Congratulate yourself and feel proud of yourself. I'm happy for you brother and glad that you are doing great things for yourself❤ Amen. God has you
@@tinapearl674 be strong and surround yourself with them that celebrate you. Life is too precious to be wasting it with those that don’t appreciate our presence. Stay blessed ❤️❤️
Family members are definitely sleep! They’re not filled with the spirit of God! And therefore they do not understand the things of God! WORD! #Sleep #NotAwake
If the family you have doesn't feel like family...create your own. You frustrated because you're expecting people to give you what they don't have. But the good news is someone cares for you...receive them. If they don't reach out...you reach out to those 6 cousins and 2 aunts...except those who except you. God loves you and so do I❤. Let them sleep, it's their choice.🙏🏾❤
My family underminded me and I cut some of them loose. I am cordial when I see them, but hang with them, not anymore. Sometimes your family can be your worst enemy. I learned to develop a tough skin and knock the dust off my feet and keep on steppin'. 4-8-2020(Wed.)
I feel you. I’ll call people first all the time. I always text everyone and I tell them I love them. I just stopped eating meat and my family likes to make jokes. I don’t get sad about it anymore because It’s like I’m eating better for my health. Sometimes I feel alone around my family
I used to be the one reaching out to family members to sincerely see how they were doing. They ignore all my calls and text messages. But they be on Facebook Instagram uploading pictures. I gave up being the bigger person.
Sometimes the gossip and secrets want allow family to come together. The elders/older individuals suppose to lead the way but they end up acting like younger people sometimes.
As the older sister with a narcissistic mother I was the one always holding the family togeter putting all the gatherings together the one supporting all the nieces and nephews but all everyone wanted to do was drink get crazy focus on the negative and alot of anger they always told me oh you think your better then us not the case but the energy vampires wiped me out took a toll on my emotional physical and mental so I had to go and recharge myself and when I left not one member hit me up to ask why Im not around or how am I doing so Peace gotta live my best life and my life is so good now
@@JessE-mr4yu my mother and I went through the same constantly reaching out and caring with no reciprocation or gratitude. They'll drain and deplete you so severely that you'll learn you have to walk away for your self preservation. Toxic family isn't worth your peace, mental health, or happiness.
I'm 63yr old. My generation didn't have internet. People like you have open my eyes. It all make sense now. My family sucks . Thank you. Your Awesome 👌
Straight facts!!!! This how I feel... no support what so ever! Just judging and critizing! Right as soon as u want better for ur self they want to call u stuck up!
My family only call when they’re in need. Everyone wants help but, don’t want to get out of that slave mentality. I’ve exhausted myself trying to be hero. To people that don’t want to be helped. Held me down from being able to move forward. Can’t help anyone until you’re able to help yourself. True story
I totally relate ! I learned to be happy alone. I found friends that are more family then my own . Once they show me they don’t care if I’m alone or not I CUT! I love myself too much to stress . Life is what you make it no time for sadness and can’t change anyone but we can change ourselves.
They pulled away when I found out I was suffering from a condition. I will Always love but when others don’t take time to truly care and connect they’ll Never understand you
I JUST WANT TO CRY LISTENING TO THIS BECAUSE ITS TRUE I CANT REMEMBER THE LAST TIME I SPOKE TO MY SIBLINGS OR MY MOM MY DAD WAS MY BEST FRIEND BUT HE PASSED IN 2017 ITS SAD IT REALLY IS PRAYERS UP!!!!!!😪😪😪😪😪😪💜🎆💜
I know what you mean. My mom passed in 2015. She was my biggest supporter. And we were the best of friends. We shared a special relationship. I haven't heard from my siblings since 2015 and 2016. God has shown me. I send love and Light to my family.
*Family is haters they always wanna tell u what to do or what u shouldn't do they don't wanna see u doing better than them but also I ain't see family in 2years them people weird and shady tbh*
If someone isn't making an effort to be involved with you, you shouldn't be losing sleep over them. Real family will be around no matter if you're rich, poor, black, white, red or blue.... Pray to God for a family.❤️❤️❤️
Dawg real talk as a youngin I used to always check up on my cousins and family....Never reciprocated. Shoutout to the ones that did but family should be closer frfr 💯
Growing up I’ve always heard that blood is thicker than water. I quickly recognized that was not the case! You are the first person I’ve seen who’s actually discussing it. Thank you for this video🙏🏾
so relatable... it’s so sad to be in this time and still haven’t heard from them, i posted a video on RUclips and shared it on my instagram, i was so happy that i finally did something that im passionate abt and i know that some of my family members saw it and still nothing, no support...
Fatuxa No matter what you're doing right in life. it is YOUR LIFE! i'm proud of you to take that step forward in your life with doing what your passionate about. Greetings from germany🙏🙏🙏
iTzMervan thank you so much!! im here for a reason just like all of us and we have to make life count! still raising my vibration and spreading peace ✨
Hi Tren I happen to come across your page. You are so inspiring I did comment on two of your pages. I wasn't going to say much about family but the more you spoke on the subject it's the truth. I am 64 yrs old. I have family members that have passed away and were not close at all. It's a Generational Curse. I use to cry all the time when I come home to my house from being around my family. It's was off and not loving are kind at all. One day I was crying because I wanted this close life with my family. My Husband looked at me and said to me stop crying I love you more than anything. That day I got on my knees and prayed to God to take this pain and hurt from me. And God did just that. Today I am so grateful that God heard my Cry. And you know what things with family are still the same now I have nieces and nephews that don't even know me. But my young men know their aunts and some of their cousins know them my young men are 43 yes and 46yrs and have great job in the medical field. It so sad I've gotten older I think when I do leave this world they want know what to say about me accept that I'm their sister. And was never around because they have lived their unspoken truth . I pray for my Family everyday may God continue to Bless them all in good health and strength. Thanks Tren Henderson for sharing this page and your story. I know this is long. But I wanted to share part of my feelings of my life today. I wish I found your page years ago. Thank you so much I've read some of the stories on your pages and they sad. A lot of us are hurt because our Parents didn't stop this and talk to us when we were growing up to love one another and stay close. It is so miserable to grow up and feel this way. But I have my own family now that love me to the moon and back. I teach my kids to stay close and love and support each other. Don't ever turn your backs on each other. And they are close . To God Be The Glory Amen
My family never truly supported me, even when thy did support me. Our family has been broken for more than 100 years. At this point there is no help, no redemption for them. God told me to leave them alone, to save yourself. I don't want their funky energy in my sacred space at this point in my life. I have tried for more than 30 years to mend fences. I'm almost 40 and the LORD said fall back. I'm not trying to repair something that was broken from the very beginning.
ENVY AND JEALOUSY PLAYS A BIG ROLE, I know because I am going through that experience and that’s how they killed my mother a year ago, they only call you when they are in need of something, they was never real to me nor my mother, I forgive them but I keep my distance! God bless!
I think about this all the time.Like u said they don't even pick up the dam phone to see how u are doing.I have tried to bridge the gap on certain occasion.U may only hear from other family members if someone dies or someone is sick within the family.This is a serious epidemic .
Fellow lightworkers go out and help strangers that need you. Support others and others that you don't even know will pop up when you least expect it. Your so right about this entire video. We get so used to it though it is sad BUT Gods got us!
Family isn't worth the spit in your mouth... Your presence may only be relevant when they are in lack... We must accept the notion that family has become strangers/outsiders, and this is why it is imperative to create your own family structure, if possible. You cannot infringe on individuals who go out of there way to show you they don't want to be bothered. But always remember, it's their loss and someone else's gain.
I recently opened a business. I asked an aunt who has money and has helped other family members in tough times. However, when I asked her to invest anything in my business she got furious with me. Her energy was legit scary. But the ones they aren’t going anywhere, and who she feels are beneath her, she helps them. Literally, you cannot reach out to anyone nowadays. Everyone is about self.
I lossed my mom in November and I have walked a journey of hell . since her death my family have turned into salvage dogs. They have lied and tried to destroy me. I am standing alone against cruel pathetic people. Seems I the only one standing for what's right and what's fair. I having to close my moms estate and when it done those folks will be dead to me. God has shown me they aren't a part of my journey forward. They been so bad I haven't even been able to grieve my mom yet. I never experience such disrespect in my life. I just hope my moms place sells so I can get toxic people out of my life for good. Thanks for the video
If the family you have does not feel like family, then create your own. I will be a example of what should be like. I call and text family members all the time. Half of them wont answer their phones or text messages. However I still love them though. I do not get sad about it anymore, I just let them sleep, its is their own choice. I am greatness and will continue to move forward with my life successfully and happily. Thank you Trenius for this video this is so true. Love you Trenius and you are my family and coach. This video is right on point. Peace and love.
Family will live in a house with empty rooms but will never allow you to live with them even if you pay them a good amount of rent but they’ll have other people over all the time or they’ll give you attitude when you visit. Not always. I know we all have our issues, problems, responsibilities, etc. but in my opinion family should be celebrated cause you never know if that’ll be the last time you see that person. I really don’t hang out anymore. I protect my energy and will now begin a new chapter in my life and I won’t hang out with the ones that didn’t invite me over, or never called or texted, never gave a damn about me. All good 👍🏼 my next chapter will catapult me to limitless possibilities. Some cultures help and support each other, such as the Asian community, Italians, Russians, South Africans, middle eastern people. Is Latinos have the my shit is mine and I’m sorry for ya bud, I’ll buy you a round at the bar or some but not gonna sponsor or help more meaningfully. Imagine if we all made sure we all came up.
Aww man I was meditating on a similar situation to the title and picked up my phone to a notification 1 minute old 😭🙏🏾. Update: I just asked God for financial help regarding the situation, got it right away and the person turned around and refused it. Never got mad, still feeling happy about getting my gift 🎁😄
This is a great video! This is why I took my husband's last name and let go of my maiden name because I became one with him! We made our own family! My husband's family face time each other all the time! They live in different countries, some thing about Ghanaian people it's all about family! I have a few, but the ones who should really support don't! Praying for them!
I agree nothing more beautiful than family support your dream. Some black families has been conditioned to hate on each other, and bring each other down....some elders in my family has always had this competition going on since I was young. I seen it go on in the church we went to then in my own family nonstop
I feel this. My family is very supportive of their own. Helping them getting a license and a car so they can get places. Meanwhile with me they expect me to do it all myself even though they know I'm broke.
I feel this so much. But I don't think it is my calling in life to show my family the right way to be a family. The way I see things... I didn't choose them, they didn't choose me. I don't have to show them anything. Great video!
5:00 is so real !!! Omg makes so much sense when you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, busy tryna create harmony, people pleasing no genuine affection from people around you it’s so hard starting off !!
My family is exactly how you are describing ,for example I called my aunt like 3 weeks ago just to see how she was doing stayed on the phone with her for a few because we do not talk as much , so when I finally got off the phone with her you know what she did called my mother and complained,and said I was on the phone with her for 3 hours which was a lie , but I was like damn really I have to be timed to talk with my own aunt / family ??? The way I found out was the next day my mother mentioned it when she called Me and said my aunt told her that and I was like WTF? She told my mother I called her ? I was like WTF kind of aunt is that ? Is it a problem to talk with you? I didn't meant any harm , I just wanted to connect because no one barely talks to each other in the family . Honestly when I heard that from my mother you know that instantly broke my heart ,it even made me cry , because no one talks in my family , and when you do talk with them they make a big deal over it .😞 that's why I just stick to myself .
Bruh, I usually don’t comment on bigger RUclipsrs videos because they be feeling themselves( and never respond back ) . But you are speaking facts . I wanted to give up on my family and just focus on myself because Like you I have been reaching out and trying but I am tired of the selfishness and the pettiness. Great video. Thanks for recording this .
Tren big bro having no family support just makes you stronger ave been like this for meny years am on a lonely journey to success thank you tren big bro for making this video a thought l was the only one going through this keep up the great work tren peace
It’s the truth. Some people weasel themselves into a family so they can use them and they never meant to care. It was always nothing but psychological abuse. And they refuse to change. They don’t care and they never did and that’s that.
It seems like when my grandparents died, the family bond died. My Grandfather passed away in 2018. After he died we stopped spending time together. I miss my Grandfather. 4-8-2020(Wed.)
I started my Dark Night Of The Soul when I turned 30,was homeless for over 5 yrs with my son,he has schzephrenia now,my Daughter My Mom My Brother have disowned us,lost all of them one at a time,my twin flame died in my arms in 2020 of a stroke,I've heard nothing from these people for yrs and live in the same town,I feel u Brother, Love And Light to You💋
I stepped up and called my siblings when my mom passed in 2015. I was even calling before that. I always show love to them. And want the best for them. Yes, Trenius you are right . They are self centered. But no one wanted to come together. Living in the pass and they don't want to forgive or come together. I decided to pray and send my family out in love and Light ❤️❤️
My friends have been there for me more than family (this does not include my mom dad and sister, they have been great to me). I have been threatened to be kicked out, hurt, given things out of the kindness of their hearts and not our anything back only to owe them money back for what was meant to be just a gift and that they were thinking of me when in reality they were only thinking about dollar signs and to charge me more for what they bought the gift for. I want so badly to drop my family from existence, I want so badly to leave and never look back, but you are right, I never want to be how they are being. I will however be there for my friends and give more of my time and energy to my friends than my family not out of spite, but out of the fact that they deserve my energy and support back for what my friends do for me.
That's what I'm going through right now. No support from family. They say that they're going to come see me but it never happens. I feel like the black sheep.
My husband and I go through this and its not pleasant. We are kind helpful people but get are faces slapped in return. We stopped helping family years ago because they took from us and laughed at us behind our backs. I have had family members try to kill me and then last year contacted me looking for $3,000 for braces for their kid and to have a get together. I said no and no! I told them that they cannot abuse my husband and I and then expect us to act like nothing has happened. Yes I have forgiven but do I really want to be around people who were jealous of my new car and put nails in my tires which blew them out while I was driving and I almost hit a huge rock of wall in the gorge. I never prayed so hard in my life as my car was careening towards the wall! These are people that I was kind to and helped them get into a home and gave them money to pay bills. Last year when I said no to them I was told that I had never helped them and was not a good person. I dont know what is going on with people but I am not the only person who goes through this. Do not help people who have no time for you and cannot pick up the phone. Do not give them money or your time. Please find positive things to do and find good people to hang with even though they are few and far between.
I was raised in a family that I carry on the positive things about them and I am also healing and unlearning mimicked behaviors. Family is everything, blood is all you have and at the end of the day whatever differences we have we stick together. So whenever we get together it feels good. I said family aint shit, and if they were my friend I wouldn't be friends with some of them... But I believe I was the scapegoat, the black sheep, and bullied and I've been seeking help in therapy for years and got the education. My whole thing is if family aint your real family anymore I don't want to attend a funeral and think I could've been more graceful or showed more love despite my suffering...cause once someone goes they are gone :(. Do you have another perspective?
nothing but truth!!! dude!!! it's like every video I watch from you, I have gone through the same sh*t...like it's like you have been watching my life dawg! Wow! Am so happy I found this channel...I know am not alone going through this BS alone. Truth Bombs...
You said that you have six cousins and two aunts that you could call right now....I don't even have that. Lol It's really sad how some individuals value "family" these days. Years ago "all" family members helped out with babysitting, rides to doctor's appointments, or even if a family member needed a place to stay. It wasn't left to one individual to handle it all...everyone did their part. Today...Like you said, your lucky if you get a phone call from anyone. It seems like once great grandparents and grandparents pass away ( the glue of the family) the dynamics change. If the suppose "elder " or "elders" of the family do not take the rest by the horns and be the "example" by following traditions, the family dynamics start to fall apart. It's depressing. 😞
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I LOVE YOU TRENIUS YOU ARE MORE FAMILY TO ME THAN MY OWN BLOOD WHEN I FEEL DOWN OR LIKE THINGS ARE OVERWHELMING IN MY LIFE I LISTEN TO YOU MY DAILY INSPIRATION IS GOD AND YOU WITH ALL OF YOUR POSITIVE VIBES I LOVE YOU TRENIUS!!!!💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
I’m 42..... learned these type of family lessons a couple of years ago... it can be painful when there’s the realization of these things. But I think that maybe it’s for our own good.... maybe God, the Universe.... wants us to also extend our love and support outside of blood.... 🙏💙🦋.
We are going through the exact same thing lol it's so awesome.
Psalms 37:11 This what I hope for. Zephaniah 2:3
Isiah 61:1
(Awesome as in, my God is awesome and I know there are better days ahead.)
Nooo, I dont think I'm better than you becuase I eat gummy vitaminsss.😀 YES LORD!
@Tren Genius I would like to book a session with you.
It's called JEALOUSY. All you can do is step back and pray in faith.
When’s the last time you called a family member? Randomly
SomethingToThinkAbout Always right. I refuse to deal with toxic energy the rest of my life. “Family” needs to come up to my level.
@@quickdepositz4809
Don't know if this question is directed to me but I
randomly called a cousin this morning, just to see how she was doing in this crisis. Hadn't spoken with her in 2-3 years. Still prayed in faith!
Yep it's called jealousy especially when you rise from the dirt and they expected you to fail in life but you're doing better than them and their children and you started with less and now you have more.
So true indeed.
Just because you share the same blood as the next person doesn't mean you're family that just makes you related. With FAMILY comes LOYALTY & With RELATIVES comes BLOOD.
Exactly. I say this all the time!
@@keshawn888 man I don't play about loyalty if you say you're family show me and I give people the same amount of attention that they give me.
Ya' Know Tha' terminology
"Blood's thicker than Water"
This happens wit' me.
On my "Bio-Father's side of the Fam'
No Respect, No Love, No Nuthin'
But Fake Love.
@@paulgreene6899 as I say, "Blood is thicker than water but if water shows more loyalty than blood then blood don't mean shit"
@@one-mancrew7630 Well Said.🤔 Even though they're
Some Will cause a Big Clot in Tha' Family...Ya' Feel Meh'?😎
Man I’m even thinking of leaving home because I feel like their energy is affecting my bag bro. Every time they speak negative on me I lose track of my self worth. And these people be my mama, my brother, my sister . People that I thought I could trust in and rely on. But they don’t support me at all, they ain’t never said congratulations but quick to tell me how broke I am, that I ain’t gon succeed. Man it hurts but I know the truth now.
Boss up on they ass
YES, they are getting ready to toss you out.... What happened to me😢... Family is great source of PAIN😢... I love them all for ever 😢, but they threw me away left me for Dead....😢 Have new family now... They celebrate Me 🤗🌻🐶🌈🏃♀️🐕🦺
I resonate with that. I think it's important to remove yourself for now why you get stronger. Ween out the one of 2 that care and the rest get left behind because the choices and true colors they show. It hurts to leave people but you will grow stronger from it. Half of them will come back to you and you can review them with caution. ❤ make sure later future you Congratulate yourself and feel proud of yourself. I'm happy for you brother and glad that you are doing great things for yourself❤ Amen. God has you
@@abbasownblackman2762 man it’s been 2YEARS and I definitely bossed up. Stay blessed 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@tinapearl674 be strong and surround yourself with them that celebrate you. Life is too precious to be wasting it with those that don’t appreciate our presence. Stay blessed ❤️❤️
Family members are definitely sleep! They’re not filled with the spirit of God! And therefore they do not understand the things of God! WORD! #Sleep #NotAwake
I learned that in life strangers become more of a better friend than people in your family.
I saw the title and literally never clicked something so fast
I needed this right now!! Thanks❣️❣️
LOL
If the family you have doesn't feel like family...create your own. You frustrated because you're expecting people to give you what they don't have. But the good news is someone cares for you...receive them. If they don't reach out...you reach out to those 6 cousins and 2 aunts...except those who except you.
God loves you and so do I❤. Let them sleep, it's their choice.🙏🏾❤
Adorn Scott Yes Lord had to do this very thing in my life concerting my family
@@estifanosberta-samuel2570 Me too...that's why I can relate😄 Be blessed❤
Adorn Scott Amen, blessings to you 👊🏽❤️
Estifanos Berta-Samuel 👊🏾🙏🏽❤️
My family underminded me and I cut some of them loose. I am cordial when I see them, but hang with them, not anymore. Sometimes your family can be your worst enemy. I learned to develop a tough skin and knock the dust off my feet and keep on steppin'. 4-8-2020(Wed.)
Stacy-- Me too .I had hellish times with my family since I was 8 but I am still standing and I and 50 now . I have toxic family members all of them.
Yesss!!! I have a very trifling so call mother and sibling
@@j.m9189 💯💯💯
@@wisesavedone2721 My mother isn't really nice towards me. It took me a while to realise what kind of a person she was.
I feel you. I’ll call people first all the time. I always text everyone and I tell them I love them. I just stopped eating meat and my family likes to make jokes. I don’t get sad about it anymore because It’s like I’m eating better for my health. Sometimes I feel alone around my family
Trust me I know what you mean
That's the kind of person I am. I call and see how they are.
Me too i feel very lonely.
I used to be the one reaching out to family members to sincerely see how they were doing. They ignore all my calls and text messages. But they be on Facebook Instagram uploading pictures. I gave up being the bigger person.
Don’t even bother with family because they’re too controlling and dominating.
Sometimes the gossip and secrets want allow family to come together. The elders/older individuals suppose to lead the way but they end up acting like younger people sometimes.
Facts it's so bad in my family even my mom and dad act childish or act like narcissist
Or even worse than the young people!
Your not lying
Instead of supporting us people get jealous and do the opposite when they see us tryna be successful. The success journey ain't easy
As the older sister with a narcissistic mother I was the one always holding the family togeter putting all the gatherings together the one supporting all the nieces and nephews but all everyone wanted to do was drink get crazy focus on the negative and alot of anger they always told me oh you think your better then us not the case but the energy vampires wiped me out took a toll on my emotional physical and mental so I had to go and recharge myself and when I left not one member hit me up to ask why Im not around or how am I doing so Peace gotta live my best life and my life is so good now
Wow
I'm the oldest also, and going thru the exact same thing. Be strong.
@@jbee2637 likewise beautiful soul sending love and positive energy
Hunny, never look back; they never change.
@@JessE-mr4yu my mother and I went through the same constantly reaching out and caring with no reciprocation or gratitude. They'll drain and deplete you so severely that you'll learn you have to walk away for your self preservation. Toxic family isn't worth your peace, mental health, or happiness.
I'm 63yr old. My generation didn't have internet. People like you have open my eyes.
It all make sense now.
My family sucks .
Thank you. Your Awesome 👌
That's how they treated jesus.
Straight facts!!!! This how I feel... no support what so ever! Just judging and critizing! Right as soon as u want better for ur self they want to call u stuck up!
Truth
My family only call when they’re in need. Everyone wants help but, don’t want to get out of that slave mentality. I’ve exhausted myself trying to be hero. To people that don’t want to be helped. Held me down from being able to move forward. Can’t help anyone until you’re able to help yourself. True story
When my dad died after the funeral everyone scattered it sad
Me too . Thank you for this i thought I was by myself. When my dad died everything changed to being very toxic and no chatting.
Sometimes people are really just waiting for a reason to part ways... They never cared in the first place
When you know your worth, you don't need their love and you don't need them. You don't need love anymore and you need nobody. You just your own self!
I totally relate ! I learned to be happy alone. I found friends that are more family then my own . Once they show me they don’t care if I’m alone or not I CUT! I love myself too much to stress . Life is what you make it no time for sadness and can’t change anyone but we can change ourselves.
They pulled away when I found out I was suffering from a condition. I will Always love but when others don’t take time to truly care and connect they’ll Never understand you
I JUST WANT TO CRY LISTENING TO THIS BECAUSE ITS TRUE I CANT REMEMBER THE LAST TIME I SPOKE TO MY SIBLINGS OR MY MOM MY DAD WAS MY BEST FRIEND BUT HE PASSED IN 2017 ITS SAD IT REALLY IS PRAYERS UP!!!!!!😪😪😪😪😪😪💜🎆💜
I know what you mean. My mom passed in 2015. She was my biggest supporter. And we were the best of friends. We shared a special relationship. I haven't heard from my siblings since 2015 and 2016. God has shown me. I send love and Light to my family.
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Sorry for you loss love.
*Family is haters they always wanna tell u what to do or what u shouldn't do they don't wanna see u doing better than them but also I ain't see family in 2years them people weird and shady tbh*
If someone isn't making an effort to be involved with you, you shouldn't be losing sleep over them. Real family will be around no matter if you're rich, poor, black, white, red or blue.... Pray to God for a family.❤️❤️❤️
Some of my family members are in darkness and they need my prayers and God's grace for their Salvation.
Dawg real talk as a youngin I used to always check up on my cousins and family....Never reciprocated. Shoutout to the ones that did but family should be closer frfr 💯
Realest video of the year!! The problem is now a days family competes with eachother. Nothing more. But the few good ones are loyal.
They be your friend when you make it.
Yup 💯
Growing up I’ve always heard that blood is thicker than water. I quickly recognized that was not the case! You are the first person I’ve seen who’s actually discussing it. Thank you for this video🙏🏾
so relatable... it’s so sad to be in this time and still haven’t heard from them, i posted a video on RUclips and shared it on my instagram, i was so happy that i finally did something that im passionate abt and i know that some of my family members saw it and still nothing, no support...
Fatuxa No matter what you're doing right in life. it is YOUR LIFE! i'm proud of you to take that step forward in your life with doing what your passionate about. Greetings from germany🙏🙏🙏
iTzMervan thank you so much!! im here for a reason just like all of us and we have to make life count! still raising my vibration and spreading peace ✨
You have to love some people from a distance, and the Bible speaks about it.
Hi Tren I happen to come across your page. You are so inspiring I did comment on two of your pages. I wasn't going to say much about family but the more you spoke on the subject it's the truth. I am 64 yrs old. I have family members that have passed away and were not close at all. It's a Generational Curse. I use to cry all the time when I come home to my house from being around my family. It's was off and not loving are kind at all. One day I was crying because I wanted this close life with my family. My Husband looked at me and said to me stop crying I love you more than anything. That day I got on my knees and prayed to God to take this pain and hurt from me. And God did just that. Today I am so grateful that God heard my Cry. And you know what things with family are still the same now I have nieces and nephews that don't even know me. But my young men know their aunts and some of their cousins know them my young men are 43 yes and 46yrs and have great job in the medical field. It so sad I've gotten older I think when I do leave this world they want know what to say about me accept that I'm their sister. And was never around because they have lived their unspoken truth . I pray for my Family everyday may God continue to Bless them all in good health and strength. Thanks Tren Henderson for sharing this page and your story. I know this is long. But I wanted to share part of my feelings of my life today. I wish I found your page years ago. Thank you so much I've read some of the stories on your pages and they sad. A lot of us are hurt because our Parents didn't stop this and talk to us when we were growing up to love one another and stay close. It is so miserable to grow up and feel this way. But I have my own family now that love me to the moon and back. I teach my kids to stay close and love and support each other. Don't ever turn your backs on each other. And they are close . To God Be The Glory Amen
My family never truly supported me, even when thy did support me. Our family has been broken for more than 100 years. At this point there is no help, no redemption for them. God told me to leave them alone, to save yourself. I don't want their funky energy in my sacred space at this point in my life. I have tried for more than 30 years to mend fences. I'm almost 40 and the LORD said fall back. I'm not trying to repair something that was broken from the very beginning.
ENVY AND JEALOUSY PLAYS A BIG ROLE, I know because I am going through that experience and that’s how they killed my mother a year ago, they only call you when they are in need of something, they was never real to me nor my mother, I forgive them but I keep my distance! God bless!
I think about this all the time.Like u said they don't even pick up the dam phone to see how u are doing.I have tried to bridge the gap on certain occasion.U may only hear from other family members if someone dies or someone is sick within the family.This is a serious epidemic .
Yes thats the true pandemic is the breakdown of the family unit, narcissism, lack of fathers in the household, and lack of human connection.
Wow!!! I thought it was just me, but I see others having family drama, but it's ok we're still getting where we need to go in life.
Fellow lightworkers go out and help strangers that need you. Support others and others that you don't even know will pop up when you least expect it. Your so right about this entire video. We get so used to it though it is sad BUT Gods got us!
Family isn't worth the spit in your mouth... Your presence may only be relevant when they are in lack... We must accept the notion that family has become strangers/outsiders, and this is why it is imperative to create your own family structure, if possible. You cannot infringe on individuals who go out of there way to show you they don't want to be bothered. But always remember, it's their loss and someone else's gain.
I am definitely related to you because I know exactly what you’re saying.
It's really tough to wake people up specially family members.
I recently opened a business. I asked an aunt who has money and has helped other family members in tough times. However, when I asked her to invest anything in my business she got furious with me. Her energy was legit scary. But the ones they aren’t going anywhere, and who she feels are beneath her, she helps them. Literally, you cannot reach out to anyone nowadays. Everyone is about self.
This sounds so familiar. Very demonic behavior
@@KOLAkola It really is. It’s hurtful. People don’t even realize how some people pick up on everything. Family isn’t family nowadays.
Sometimes you have to do unto people as they do unto you. If someone doesn't reciprocate my actions, I don't bother them. 4-8-2020(Wed.)
I’m tired of doing this, I refuse to chase people. I’m living my own life, minding my own business.
I’ve felt this for so long.
same
PERFECT timing honestly - awesome how the universe works.
I lossed my mom in November and I have walked a journey of hell . since her death my family have turned into salvage dogs. They have lied and tried to destroy me. I am standing alone against cruel pathetic people. Seems I the only one standing for what's right and what's fair. I having to close my moms estate and when it done those folks will be dead to me. God has shown me they aren't a part of my journey forward. They been so bad I haven't even been able to grieve my mom yet. I never experience such disrespect in my life. I just hope my moms place sells so I can get toxic people out of my life for good. Thanks for the video
If the family you have does not feel like family, then create your own. I will be a example of what should be like. I call and text family members all the time. Half of them wont answer their phones or text messages. However I still love them though. I do not get sad about it anymore, I just let them sleep, its is their own choice. I am greatness and will continue to move forward with my life successfully and happily. Thank you Trenius for this video this is so true. Love you Trenius and you are my family and coach. This video is right on point. Peace and love.
I love this attitude. At least you tried.
Family will live in a house with empty rooms but will never allow you to live with them even if you pay them a good amount of rent but they’ll have other people over all the time or they’ll give you attitude when you visit. Not always. I know we all have our issues, problems, responsibilities, etc. but in my opinion family should be celebrated cause you never know if that’ll be the last time you see that person. I really don’t hang out anymore. I protect my energy and will now begin a new chapter in my life and I won’t hang out with the ones that didn’t invite me over, or never called or texted, never gave a damn about me. All good 👍🏼 my next chapter will catapult me to limitless possibilities. Some cultures help and support each other, such as the Asian community, Italians, Russians, South Africans, middle eastern people. Is Latinos have the my shit is mine and I’m sorry for ya bud, I’ll buy you a round at the bar or some but not gonna sponsor or help more meaningfully. Imagine if we all made sure we all came up.
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Me too Tren, I woke up about 4:30 this morning Playing spirituals and thanking God for everything he has done for me feeling so grateful
Aww man I was meditating on a similar situation to the title and picked up my phone to a notification 1 minute old 😭🙏🏾.
Update: I just asked God for financial help regarding the situation, got it right away and the person turned around and refused it. Never got mad, still feeling happy about getting my gift 🎁😄
Trenius you dig deep...WOW.
This just made me really sad 😢 I guess it hit home. I really been suppressing these feelings but I went through all this I give up with family 🤷🏽♀️
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What you have articulated is a sad truth.. I found myself reaching out and not getting the love in return. Made me feel unwanted
This is a great video! This is why I took my husband's last name and let go of my maiden name because I became one with him! We made our own family! My husband's family face time each other all the time! They live in different countries, some thing about Ghanaian people it's all about family! I have a few, but the ones who should really support don't! Praying for them!
They don't practice RespecT..
I agree nothing more beautiful than family support your dream. Some black families has been conditioned to hate on each other, and bring each other down....some elders in my family has always had this competition going on since I was young. I seen it go on in the church we went to then in my own family nonstop
I feel this. My family is very supportive of their own. Helping them getting a license and a car so they can get places. Meanwhile with me they expect me to do it all myself even though they know I'm broke.
Same
Yup Same
God is Marvelous and Magnificent
Amen he is and he saved my life and humbled me. I’m grateful 🙏🏾
My family only call when they’re in need. Sad but, true.
And never pay u back
I feel this so much. But I don't think it is my calling in life to show my family the right way to be a family.
The way I see things... I didn't choose them, they didn't choose me. I don't have to show them anything.
Great video!
5:00 is so real !!! Omg makes so much sense when you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, busy tryna create harmony, people pleasing no genuine affection from people around you it’s so hard starting off !!
I say the competition everyday.
My family is exactly how you are describing ,for example I called my aunt like 3 weeks ago just to see how she was doing stayed on the phone with her for a few because we do not talk as much , so when I finally got off the phone with her you know what she did called my mother and complained,and said I was on the phone with her for 3 hours which was a lie , but I was like damn really I have to be timed to talk with my own aunt / family ??? The way I found out was the next day my mother mentioned it when she called Me and said my aunt told her that and I was like WTF? She told my mother I called her ? I was like WTF kind of aunt is that ? Is it a problem to talk with you? I didn't meant any harm , I just wanted to connect because no one barely talks to each other in the family . Honestly when I heard that from my mother you know that instantly broke my heart ,it even made me cry , because no one talks in my family , and when you do talk with them they make a big deal over it .😞 that's why I just stick to myself .
Bruh, I usually don’t comment on bigger RUclipsrs videos because they be feeling themselves( and never respond back ) . But you are speaking facts . I wanted to give up on my family and just focus on myself because Like you I have been reaching out and trying but I am tired of the selfishness and the pettiness. Great video. Thanks for recording this .
Such a important topic, Tren. Thank you for bringing it to the people 💗💗💗
WoW!!! Facts.
Right on time message Trenius. Thank you for sharing.
They wouldn't listen to me. Family are people whom I haven't yet me. I got no family, its just me and God. That's my family.
Sorry for. This message sad..wow...thank u Coach
I See you,and I feel you!family members hating too much! I miss it!😘
Tren big bro having no family support just makes you stronger ave been like this for meny years am on a lonely journey to success thank you tren big bro for making this video a thought l was the only one going through this keep up the great work tren peace
IM HERE FOR IT!
It’s the truth. Some people weasel themselves into a family so they can use them and they never meant to care. It was always nothing but psychological abuse. And they refuse to change. They don’t care and they never did and that’s that.
I am focusing on my children to be better individuals to create in society and love family.
I feel you, family might not support a family member with a music talent , but they will give encouragement. 💯
It seems like when my grandparents died, the family bond died. My Grandfather passed away in 2018. After he died we stopped spending time together. I miss my Grandfather. 4-8-2020(Wed.)
I know how you feel. That’s how it was for me, Tren. I can sympathise with you. No doubt.
U a great teacher Trenius Henderson 💯🙏🏾 inspiration motivation 🙏🏾
I started my Dark Night Of The Soul when I turned 30,was homeless for over 5 yrs with my son,he has schzephrenia now,my Daughter My Mom My Brother have disowned us,lost all of them one at a time,my twin flame died in my arms in 2020 of a stroke,I've heard nothing from these people for yrs and live in the same town,I feel u Brother, Love And Light to You💋
They are not family but relatives.
That's real talk Tren!
I stepped up and called my siblings when my mom passed in 2015. I was even calling before that. I always show love to them. And want the best for them. Yes, Trenius you are right . They are self centered. But no one wanted to come together. Living in the pass and they don't want to forgive or come together. I decided to pray and send my family out in love and Light ❤️❤️
My friends have been there for me more than family (this does not include my mom dad and sister, they have been great to me). I have been threatened to be kicked out, hurt, given things out of the kindness of their hearts and not our anything back only to owe them money back for what was meant to be just a gift and that they were thinking of me when in reality they were only thinking about dollar signs and to charge me more for what they bought the gift for. I want so badly to drop my family from existence, I want so badly to leave and never look back, but you are right, I never want to be how they are being. I will however be there for my friends and give more of my time and energy to my friends than my family not out of spite, but out of the fact that they deserve my energy and support back for what my friends do for me.
This resonated heavy 🤙🏽❤️🔥
That's what I'm going through right now. No support from family. They say that they're going to come see me but it never happens. I feel like the black sheep.
My husband and I go through this and its not pleasant. We are kind helpful people but get are faces slapped in return. We stopped helping family years ago because they took from us and laughed at us behind our backs. I have had family members try to kill me and then last year contacted me looking for $3,000 for braces for their kid and to have a get together. I said no and no! I told them that they cannot abuse my husband and I and then expect us to act like nothing has happened. Yes I have forgiven but do I really want to be around people who were jealous of my new car and put nails in my tires which blew them out while I was driving and I almost hit a huge rock of wall in the gorge. I never prayed so hard in my life as my car was careening towards the wall! These are people that I was kind to and helped them get into a home and gave them money to pay bills. Last year when I said no to them I was told that I had never helped them and was not a good person. I dont know what is going on with people but I am not the only person who goes through this. Do not help people who have no time for you and cannot pick up the phone. Do not give them money or your time. Please find positive things to do and find good people to hang with even though they are few and far between.
My bro got that 2020 vision🙏🏾🙌
Exactly Trenius, Family First💯
I was raised in a family that I carry on the positive things about them and I am also healing and unlearning mimicked behaviors. Family is everything, blood is all you have and at the end of the day whatever differences we have we stick together. So whenever we get together it feels good. I said family aint shit, and if they were my friend I wouldn't be friends with some of them... But I believe I was the scapegoat, the black sheep, and bullied and I've been seeking help in therapy for years and got the education. My whole thing is if family aint your real family anymore I don't want to attend a funeral and think I could've been more graceful or showed more love despite my suffering...cause once someone goes they are gone :(. Do you have another perspective?
The best you can do is oversee & love from a distance
nothing but truth!!! dude!!! it's like every video I watch from you, I have gone through the same sh*t...like it's like you have been watching my life dawg! Wow! Am so happy I found this channel...I know am not alone going through this BS alone. Truth Bombs...
Don’t ever stop being a good guy.🙏🏽
Preach Tren,I miss the old days of love!😘
That's my life right therrrr....true facts!
My Mother passed away in 2010. Since then My whole family has lost there minds. We are no longer close.
Salute ya keep ya head up people change that's just apart of life
Thanks for the message caring is sharing information for the betterment
Big brother trend You are the One You are that One Chosen One God called!!! Let me tell you it is so so hard work to Do!!
You said that you have six cousins and two aunts that you could call right now....I don't even have that. Lol
It's really sad how some individuals value "family" these days. Years ago "all" family members helped out with babysitting, rides to doctor's appointments, or even if a family member needed a place to stay. It wasn't left to one individual to handle it all...everyone did their part. Today...Like you said, your lucky if you get a phone call from anyone. It seems like once great grandparents and grandparents pass away ( the glue of the family) the dynamics change. If the suppose "elder " or "elders" of the family do not take the rest by the horns and be the "example" by following traditions, the family dynamics start to fall apart. It's depressing. 😞
Stay healthy and safe God's guidance always