Hey Everyone, hope you are having a wonderful start to 2022. This video answers a question that many christian singles ask (i know i did!). I hope you found it helpful. Let me know in the comments if there are any questions i didn't answer. Don't forget to subscribe if you're not already a subscriber. As always, thank you for watching & for the support. God Bless ❤
How I love how you put things in perspective. I have always believed that God has someone, for each person because how can He be so involved in every tiny detail of my life and now go AWOL when it comes to an issue as important as marriage? Not possible.
Thanks for watching! I know It isn't always easy to trust God when things don't seem to be going the way they should. But we need to trust in God's love for us, His almighty power and the fact that he is fully in control no matter how things look. Prayer is also important asking God for wisdom & guidance AND also praying for our future spouse. God has said He is responsible for guiding us in life so He won't stand by and watch while the person he has chosen for us goes off to marry someone else. I hope this helps. thanks again. God bless
I love the examples you used Adam, Eve, Joseph, and Mary. This is a great topic to discuss. You’re very knowledgeable about the topic. I enjoyed your insight. I loved it when you mentioned allowing God to direct you, surrender to Him, trust Him. Thank you for sharing this.
This was sooo good. 💕 My issue has been meeting Christian guys who love God but they aren’t my type physically or they want different things/a different lifestyle that doesn’t fit me…so I feel like I haven’t met the one yet and I don’t want to settle….so sometimes I’m not sure if I’m just being picky or when God brings my true husband, I’ll know.
Hi Canela, thanks for watching and for your wonderful comment and question. It's natural to wonder if you're being too picky or if you just haven't met the one God has for you. I know i felt this way when i was single. The best thing is to pray about it and ask God to reveal any expectations or requirements you have that are not of him. If there is something God will reveal it to you in one way or another and he will help you make any changes. God is faithful and He won't leave you going down the wrong path. You are too important to him! God bless ❤️
It may be pickiness. I don’t say that as an insult. It could be that your requirements are unrealistic in terms understanding that people are just people. No one can be every single thing. God could do that but the thing is people have free will and unique life experiences that shape who they are. The big question would be could you live that man not only for his perfections but his imperfections?
With that, can you accept and own your own perfections & imperfections? Can you be merciful to yourself in this regard? I ask because this is very imperative in determining how you’ll deal with others (in this case that mate you desire).
Hi Adesuwa, thank you for your comment. I appreciate it! I was in banking for many years and now i'm doing work in the education sector. I think it's the fact that i am talking about God in the videos and it always gives me a lot of joy. Thanks again. God bless
Thank you for all your videos, Funke! Your channel has been instrumental in bringing me on the journey back to God. I am 30 years old and single, and I am always afraid that the person God has chosen for me has already married someone else. How do I dispel this fear? Thank you!
Thanks for watching! This is a great question! I ceratinly felt this way as a single. Te solution was/is trusting God & prayer. It isn't always easy to trust God when things don't seem to be going the way they should. But we need to trust in God's love for us, His almighty power and the fact that he is fully in control no matter how things look. Prayer is also important asking God for wisdom & guidance AND also praying for our future spouse. God has said He is responsible for guiding us in life so He won't stand by and watch while the person he has chosen for us goes off to marry someone else. On our part we have to submit to God's guidance. I hope this helps. thanks again. God bless
God doesn't pick your spouse. Pick up the phone and call someone of interest and say, "random hello." Then, see where it goes. (See my other comments.) I would encourage printing out my comments, and taking them to your pastor. See if he agrees. Sure, Funke Christian is sweet, married, and 4 kids. I am very glad for her, and I am sure that I could find many ways to respect and admire her. But sad to say..... ah... take my comments to your pastor.
Hi there, thanks for watching and for your question. I know it can be hard when we are in pain and God seems so distant. The truth is that God is ALWAYS with us, even when we don't feel His prescense. God promises us in Hebrews 13:5 that He will never leave us or forsake us. God always keeps His promise. Here is an IG post i did that has some scriptures that you will find helpful instagram.com/p/CRRcx6UL3qZ/?. Go over them again & again. It will help to build your faith. Don't be discouraged. God bless
I was born again at 20 years old and have been in the church since. I have always served at whatever church I found myself at when I moved to a new city. Never been in a relationship. Virgin. Dated Christian men that believed in pre-marital sex, or not really walking with Jesus, so I always cut it off early. Recently met a Christian man that had all attributes that I had prayed for, except for one or two. He even matched me in ways that I did not pray for, but that would make everyday life better when doing life with someone who is your best friend, kindness, similar lifestyle and mutual respect. He noted that I checked off his list too. He was pursuing me aggressively. I prayed for confirmation and received three consecutive signs, so felt safe to proceed. The “signs” were very specific desires of my heart that only myself and God knew (the Word says that no one can know a man’s thoughts except for that man). The guy and I were talking future family life, traveling together etc. At the one month mark, he brings up conversation to define the relationship, saying it’s time to do so. I was excited that he was going to ask me to be his partner/girlfriend. Instead, he said that he “wasn’t sure.” Things were touch and go from there, then we reconnected and talked about staying open and vulnerable, which he agreed to. We were talking about upcoming travel plans. Then Valentines Day comes and he made no plans, no card, no flowers. He told me that he didn’t forget those things (he just didn’t want to do them I guess). Never heard from him again. Disappeared. What was that? It’s taken a month to recover and regain my focus at my very demanding job. I am 35 and recently moved to the least religious state in the U.S. with church populations that are mostly families and single women. No single Christian men. I was content in my singleness before this guy came into my life, hopeful that it would happen in the right time, but now I am shaken and disoriented. I’ve pretty much given up hope that God has someone suitable for me or that I can trust Christian men to pursue me seriously and not stir up chaos in my life. I’ve fasted and prayed and all of that. I am just keeping to myself now to have peace of mind.
Hi there, thanks for your comment. I was really touched by what you wrote and i know it must have been difficult to go through this. I went through very similar situations when i was single. I cannot say why this happened but what is for sure is that God is still faithful, He sees you, he sees your pain, your commitment etc. Don't give up, because God's promises concerning you have not changed no matter how it may look. This is the time now to press in and seek a deeper and intimate relationship with God. If you have not watched them i wold like to recommend these videos : dealing with tough times ruclips.net/video/fiDfJ6hlVXg/видео.html and intimacy with God ruclips.net/video/TPQOQPblNPo/видео.html. I also did an IG post on the God that sees us: instagram.com/p/CQgtmkLr1gS/?. It is well. God bless
I am happy to report that I met my soon to be husband two months later and will be married in a few weeks, exactly a year to the date that I posted this reply. He courted me and pursued me with intention and brought up waiting for marriage before I had the chance, lol. He is everything that I prayed for and more. God’s timing was the best timing. Thank you for your encouragement during the long wait.
I love the exposition @funkechristian. I have 2 questions: Why are a lot of christian marriages failing, some of these are among high profile ministers of the gospel? They even justify the divorces and remarriage. Secondly, what happens to marriages before being christian? Has God had a hand in them?
The big thing is not to believe everything you see and hear as the human eye and ear are often deceived. I was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. People choose marriage for many reasons. It could be for monetary stability, maybe a baby came into the mix and it was like a shotgun wedding, it could be that their cultural expectations demand marriage by a specific period of ones lifetime, and so on. A lot of people devote love with their lips but their heart says otherwise. Truthfully, many people are subscribe to how they’ve been socialized in this regard.
Hi Dudley, Thank you for watching and for your encouraging comment and question. ...regarding your first question about ministers of the gospel and divorce; marriage takes a lot of work and commitment and many people including ministers do experience extreme challenges in their marriages. What i have learned is that pastors are not perfect and God is still doing a work in them just as he is doing with all of us. Still, that does not change the fact that God hates divorce as the Bible says. On the second question of marriage before one becomes a christian. The Bible tells us that nothing is too hard for God. As mentioned in the video God honours marriage because he created it. So for those who marry and then become christians God helps them in their marriages and every area of their life, so that they can have abundant life which is what Jesus died for us to have. I hope this answers the questions. Thanks agian. God bless
Will God ask you to marry someone you are not attracted to? I had a dream about a female i am not attracted to at all and it had to do with someone confusing us to be married in the dream...now I'm starting to see like i am getting many confirmations that this true may be right.
Hi there, thanks for watching and for the great question. Many scriptures in the bible make it clear that God knows the end from the beginning (Revelation 22:13, Matthew 24:36, Ecclesiastes 3:11). They also tell us that God’s way is perfect and he can do no wrong. From the beginning of time God had a full plan and purpose for you and he knew everything that would happen. He has already made provision for everything. If a situation occurs where you don’t end up marrying the person he chose for you, God already knew about it and provision has been made. So…continue to trust in God. Don’t be anxious about anything regarding your future spouse and marrying the right person. God is in control and he wants you married to the right person more than you do. ✨Your part is to TRUST God with ALL your heart and ALL your mind so he can guide you✨. Finally, if you feel that someone is the one God has for you but they don’t act like it or show interest, then it’s likely that they are not the one God has for you. The bible tells us that God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33). I hope this helps. God bless
Then that may not have been the person. God is pretty simple and congruent with things. God is not One to contradict Himself as we humans often do. Assuming this is a personal question, how did you know this person was the one?
I’m turning 28 in less than 3 months and haven’t met my future husband yet. I’m starting to panic. I don’t want to be a leftover woman 5-10 years from now.
Well, I'm turning 46 next month and I certainly don't feel like a "leftover" woman. Wow. I certainly hope that's not how you feel about yourself if you remain single for awhile longer. There are pros and cons to both singleness and marriage. I have more to give to all my nieces & nephews, for example. Choose to embrace the season you are in - go on adventures! Make the most of it. ❤️
@@AmberDennis001 I encourage you to find better voices to listen to. Use your single time to better yourself, get out of debt, be healthy, find peace & wholeness, make good friends, etc. Marriage isn't the only good thing there is. We can still live abundant lives while praying for it. And p.s., marriage lasts a lifetime, so be wary of any creep that considers you washed up at 30. Sounds like the kind of guy who would want to trade his wife in for a younger model later on. Gross.
"Darius M from RUclips says that single woman after 30 are leftover. After I listen to him I got anxious about the future" I don't mean to come across as too firm, but when I read this line, for a second, I thought you were a young teenager, but remembered you're almost 30. Ma'am, this unacceptable for you to ALLOW yourself to be influenced by somebody else. I was afraid things like this would happen and it looks like it's already working. There are very many RUclips channels designed to tear men and women down and make her feel worthless, but by whose standard? God's or Man? There is obviously a gender war going on from both sides. The trick is to NOT be apart of it. How can anyone get on RUclips and say that women at a certain age are leftovers? How can anyone say that, knowing thousands of people are going to come across their video and see that and have their hearts and self esteem attacked? That's so disheartening. Who does God say you are? There are many verses of what God thinks of you, Amber. Think of all the flawed people God used, and I believe God did that to prove a point. Think of all the wombs God restored several times. Is there anything too hard for God? No. None of us will ever be perfect, and there is no so-called Dating Coach or Love Guru on RUclips that will ever be highly qualified to place standards and judge somebody else. And they likely say certain things like that to flatter their own subscribers and bank profit off humiliating others and off their pain. PLUS, many of them do not have successful relationships or marriages themselves. You need to guard your heart, Amber, and stop easily accepting anything somebody says. No one can tell you who you are, how much you are worth, or what is or isn't going to happen for you in the future.
God does not choose Salvation on people. We choose or ignore Salvation. God give us options and we decide. God created Eve and presented her to Adam...then Adam Choose her as a Spouse. God told Solomon in 1 Kings 11:1-4 not to marry certain women because they would turn his heart away from God....and Solomon married them anyway. At the end of the day what we choose is what we choose, God does not force. God does want what is best but our choice is still a choice. Where in the Bible does it says their is just one person for us? If their is just one person for us and that person die before we meet them then does that mean any person we choose to marry is the wrong one? Is their only One suitable help meet for per man?
Sorry no there isn't only one. Then how would you explain widows/widowers getting remarried. God isn't like that. If something doesn't work with on person he will not damn you to singleness. It is important to know the heart and character of God. He is not wicked and will not punish you for the errors of man.
I don't understand. If God picked your spouse, then why date for 2 years? Why not get married immediately? If God picks your spouse, then there is no need to date. I don't understand. Perhaps God doesn't pick people's spouse. I am very glad you got married, and you appear happy. And 4 kids... awesome... God wants "godly offspring" from marriage. (Malachi 2:15).
"But if they find they have not the gift of self-control in such matters, by all means let them get married. I think it is far better for them to be married than to be tortured by unsatisfied desire." I Cor. 7:9 J.B. Phillips, [Translated directly from the Greek.] "Tortured by unsatisfied desire"? I take this as God created natural desires for the opposite sex. This so God gets what he wants..... "godly offspring" through marriage. Malachi 2:15. At the same time, God can't pick people's spouses... to do so, he would violate your volition. In doing so, God would violate himself. (And it is not a sin to "break-off" an engagement (I Cor. 7:36-38). If God picked your spouse, and you broke-up an engagement, it would be sin. Yet, the Apostle Paul states that it is not a sin to break-off an engagement.) Thus, God created "attraction." And attraction gets people together. Pick up that phone, and call someone of interest, and say, "random hello." Then, see where it goes. This sure beats "waiting, waiting, waiting on God", then after a long time, a "non-virgin's" sensual desires overtake them, and they have sex (again) outside of marriage. Like a rubber band that is stretched and breaks! (The Apostle Paul used the word, "sensual" in I Timothy 5:11.) Pick up that phone. Paul wrote in I Cor. 7 to non-virgins, basically if you can't control yourself get married. Paul didn't say, "pray, pray, pray, pray.... fast... fast... fast away" your desire for a mate. (Fasting is good), Paul said there was no rules, or procedures of man that will stop "sensual indulgence" Colossians 2:23. His only answer for those that cannot control themselves is to get married. Pick up that phone!!!! :) Fall into grace... see forgiveness, grasp it, give it... pick up that phone and get into a relationship that leads to engagement. Also... note the distinction in I Corinthians 7:25. "Now as for virgins, I have no command from the Lord." In other words, the first 24 verses were for whom? For new Christians that were non-virgins, and the married. To them in verses 1-24, Paul is telling the new Christian that were "non-virgins" to get married if they can't control themselves. Sad, but some Christians that are non-virgins put upon themselves the "I'm devoting myself to God", from verses AFTER I Corinthians 25. The verses after v. 25 apply to virgins. If you have had sex, you don't have the "gift of singleness." How then to keep a marriage strong? Not by picking or being the perfect person... but Paul again comes through.... by a young married couple meeting with an older married couple. (Titus 2). Pick up that phone! Have fun.... best to keep it pure.... Did I mention, "pick up that phone"?
So... in college, my fiance's best friend Michelle... broke us up. This because I was Michelle's "God's chosen spouse." Then Diamond Girl, (I call her that because I bought my fiance' a diamond ring), lost hope that her and I would get together. Later, Diamond Girl realized, "we were not meant to be." Then she noticed her real "God's chosen husband" was getting away, as he (Chris) was engaged. So, Diamond Girl seduced Chris to break-up that engagement. Diamond Girl destroyed her testimony, and many around her lost respect for her. Then, she got kicked out of the church for her immorality. But all these "games" are justified when someone believes another is their "God's chosen spouse." James 4 prohibits us from predicting the future. (Ie... stating that he/she is my "God's chosen spouse, is forbidden.) And James 3 has a "fruit test" regarding the wisdom of man or the wisdom of Heaven. And many other painful stories based on "God picks your spouse" fail the "Fruit Test" of James 3. Mrs. Funke Christian, I know you want to help people... and you are probably very sweet, and I hope your marriage and family thrives...... but... ah... please study the Scriptures. I left a few other comments for consideration.
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Hey Everyone, hope you are having a wonderful start to 2022. This video answers a question that many christian singles ask (i know i did!). I hope you found it helpful. Let me know in the comments if there are any questions i didn't answer. Don't forget to subscribe if you're not already a subscriber. As always, thank you for watching & for the support. God Bless ❤
How I love how you put things in perspective. I have always believed that God has someone, for each person because how can He be so involved in every tiny detail of my life and now go AWOL when it comes to an issue as important as marriage? Not possible.
Thanks for your wonderful comment. You're right, marriage is too important to God for him leave it to chance. Thanks for watching! God bless
Thanks you so much for your channel. Last night I was crying to God for a sign for my kingdom spouse. Trusting God's timing is rough.
Thanks for watching! I know It isn't always easy to trust God when things don't seem to be going the way they should. But we need to trust in God's love for us, His almighty power and the fact that he is fully in control no matter how things look. Prayer is also important asking God for wisdom & guidance AND also praying for our future spouse. God has said He is responsible for guiding us in life so He won't stand by and watch while the person he has chosen for us goes off to marry someone else. I hope this helps. thanks again. God bless
I love the examples you used Adam, Eve, Joseph, and Mary.
This is a great topic to discuss. You’re very knowledgeable about the topic. I enjoyed your insight. I loved it when you mentioned allowing God to direct you, surrender to Him, trust Him.
Thank you for sharing this.
Hi there, Thanks for watching & for your comment. I'm glad you found it helpful. God bless
This was sooo good. 💕 My issue has been meeting Christian guys who love God but they aren’t my type physically or they want different things/a different lifestyle that doesn’t fit me…so I feel like I haven’t met the one yet and I don’t want to settle….so sometimes I’m not sure if I’m just being picky or when God brings my true husband, I’ll know.
Hi Canela, thanks for watching and for your wonderful comment and question. It's natural to wonder if you're being too picky or if you just haven't met the one God has for you. I know i felt this way when i was single. The best thing is to pray about it and ask God to reveal any expectations or requirements you have that are not of him. If there is something God will reveal it to you in one way or another and he will help you make any changes. God is faithful and He won't leave you going down the wrong path. You are too important to him! God bless ❤️
It may be pickiness. I don’t say that as an insult. It could be that your requirements are unrealistic in terms understanding that people are just people. No one can be every single thing. God could do that but the thing is people have free will and unique life experiences that shape who they are. The big question would be could you live that man not only for his perfections but his imperfections?
*love
With that, can you accept and own your own perfections & imperfections? Can you be merciful to yourself in this regard? I ask because this is very imperative in determining how you’ll deal with others (in this case that mate you desire).
Amen👏
You’re back 👏🏻please don’t leave us again 😂
😊 No, I'm definitely not going anywhere. Thanks for watching! God bless ❤️
Thank you for this wonderful preaching.May our Lord Jesus bless you
Straight forward teaching. No theatrics. Thank you. In Jesus name amen. God bless you and your family. Pamela in Detroit
Thank you for your lovely comment and your prayers Pamela. God bless
Yes always best straightforward and productive use of data
Thank you I'm believing God for my kingdom spouse
Thanks for watching. God is faithful and you can trust him to bring the right person at the right time. God bless & take care
I love how you speak and are very composed. Please what do you do? (A lawyer? Lecturer?) you are such an inspiration! GOd bless you Ma
Hi Adesuwa, thank you for your comment. I appreciate it! I was in banking for many years and now i'm doing work in the education sector. I think it's the fact that i am talking about God in the videos and it always gives me a lot of joy. Thanks again. God bless
Thank you for all your videos, Funke! Your channel has been instrumental in bringing me on the journey back to God. I am 30 years old and single, and I am always afraid that the person God has chosen for me has already married someone else. How do I dispel this fear? Thank you!
Thanks for watching! This is a great question! I ceratinly felt this way as a single. Te solution was/is trusting God & prayer. It isn't always easy to trust God when things don't seem to be going the way they should. But we need to trust in God's love for us, His almighty power and the fact that he is fully in control no matter how things look. Prayer is also important asking God for wisdom & guidance AND also praying for our future spouse. God has said He is responsible for guiding us in life so He won't stand by and watch while the person he has chosen for us goes off to marry someone else. On our part we have to submit to God's guidance. I hope this helps. thanks again. God bless
@@funkechristian203 Thank you, Funke! That is great advice (as always)! I will take that on. God bless you and your loved ones!
God doesn't pick your spouse. Pick up the phone and call someone of interest and say, "random hello." Then, see where it goes. (See my other comments.) I would encourage printing out my comments, and taking them to your pastor. See if he agrees. Sure, Funke Christian is sweet, married, and 4 kids. I am very glad for her, and I am sure that I could find many ways to respect and admire her. But sad to say..... ah... take my comments to your pastor.
Apart from a great content , you look stunning and way younger for your age!!
This is such an important topic. Many people are single because they seek these answers. Thank you for this video.
Thank you Dee! I appreciate it. God bless
Happy you are back ❤️
Thanks for your lovely comment & for watching. God bless ❤️
What do we do when the pain and need are almost unbearable but he's still silent?
Hi there, thanks for watching and for your question. I know it can be hard when we are in pain and God seems so distant. The truth is that God is ALWAYS with us, even when we don't feel His prescense. God promises us in Hebrews 13:5 that He will never leave us or forsake us. God always keeps His promise. Here is an IG post i did that has some scriptures that you will find helpful instagram.com/p/CRRcx6UL3qZ/?. Go over them again & again. It will help to build your faith. Don't be discouraged. God bless
I was born again at 20 years old and have been in the church since. I have always served at whatever church I found myself at when I moved to a new city. Never been in a relationship. Virgin. Dated Christian men that believed in pre-marital sex, or not really walking with Jesus, so I always cut it off early. Recently met a Christian man that had all attributes that I had prayed for, except for one or two. He even matched me in ways that I did not pray for, but that would make everyday life better when doing life with someone who is your best friend, kindness, similar lifestyle and mutual respect. He noted that I checked off his list too. He was pursuing me aggressively. I prayed for confirmation and received three consecutive signs, so felt safe to proceed. The “signs” were very specific desires of my heart that only myself and God knew (the Word says that no one can know a man’s thoughts except for that man). The guy and I were talking future family life, traveling together etc.
At the one month mark, he brings up conversation to define the relationship, saying it’s time to do so. I was excited that he was going to ask me to be his partner/girlfriend. Instead, he said that he “wasn’t sure.” Things were touch and go from there, then we reconnected and talked about staying open and vulnerable, which he agreed to. We were talking about upcoming travel plans. Then Valentines Day comes and he made no plans, no card, no flowers. He told me that he didn’t forget those things (he just didn’t want to do them I guess). Never heard from him again. Disappeared. What was that?
It’s taken a month to recover and regain my focus at my very demanding job. I am 35 and recently moved to the least religious state in the U.S. with church populations that are mostly families and single women. No single Christian men. I was content in my singleness before this guy came into my life, hopeful that it would happen in the right time, but now I am shaken and disoriented. I’ve pretty much given up hope that God has someone suitable for me or that I can trust Christian men to pursue me seriously and not stir up chaos in my life. I’ve fasted and prayed and all of that. I am just keeping to myself now to have peace of mind.
Hi there, thanks for your comment. I was really touched by what you wrote and i know it must have been difficult to go through this. I went through very similar situations when i was single. I cannot say why this happened but what is for sure is that God is still faithful, He sees you, he sees your pain, your commitment etc. Don't give up, because God's promises concerning you have not changed no matter how it may look. This is the time now to press in and seek a deeper and intimate relationship with God. If you have not watched them i wold like to recommend these videos : dealing with tough times ruclips.net/video/fiDfJ6hlVXg/видео.html and intimacy with God ruclips.net/video/TPQOQPblNPo/видео.html. I also did an IG post on the God that sees us: instagram.com/p/CQgtmkLr1gS/?.
It is well. God bless
@@funkechristian203 Thank you very much. I will watch those videos.
Pick up the phone and call that person of interest. Perhaps say, "Random hello." Then see where it goes. See also my other comments.
I am happy to report that I met my soon to be husband two months later and will be married in a few weeks, exactly a year to the date that I posted this reply. He courted me and pursued me with intention and brought up waiting for marriage before I had the chance, lol. He is everything that I prayed for and more. God’s timing was the best timing. Thank you for your encouragement during the long wait.
@@minimalassembly7893 omg congrats!! I’m so happy for you ❤️❤️
Yay funke has the best videos!! :)
Thanks Marie! I appreciate it! God bless & take care
I Thank God for this video...🥰🥰
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you found it helpful. God bless & take care 💖
@@funkechristian203 thank you sister in Christ God bless you too🥰
I love the exposition @funkechristian. I have 2 questions:
Why are a lot of christian marriages failing, some of these are among high profile ministers of the gospel? They even justify the divorces and remarriage. Secondly, what happens to marriages before being christian? Has God had a hand in them?
The big thing is not to believe everything you see and hear as the human eye and ear are often deceived. I was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. People choose marriage for many reasons. It could be for monetary stability, maybe a baby came into the mix and it was like a shotgun wedding, it could be that their cultural expectations demand marriage by a specific period of ones lifetime, and so on. A lot of people devote love with their lips but their heart says otherwise. Truthfully, many people are subscribe to how they’ve been socialized in this regard.
Hi Dudley, Thank you for watching and for your encouraging comment and question. ...regarding your first question about ministers of the gospel and divorce; marriage takes a lot of work and commitment and many people including ministers do experience extreme challenges in their marriages. What i have learned is that pastors are not perfect and God is still doing a work in them just as he is doing with all of us. Still, that does not change the fact that God hates divorce as the Bible says.
On the second question of marriage before one becomes a christian. The Bible tells us that nothing is too hard for God. As mentioned in the video God honours marriage because he created it. So for those who marry and then become christians God helps them in their marriages and every area of their life, so that they can have abundant life which is what Jesus died for us to have. I hope this answers the questions. Thanks agian. God bless
Thanks for this, it was inspiring
Beautiful! Thank you for your effort
Thanks for watching & for your lovely comment. God bless
Great video, Funke! Thank you 💗
Thank you! Glad you found it useful. God bless.
Thank you so much.
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
God bless you for this.
Will God ask you to marry someone you are not attracted to? I had a dream about a female i am not attracted to at all and it had to do with someone confusing us to be married in the dream...now I'm starting to see like i am getting many confirmations that this true may be right.
God is not the author of confusion.
In your dream you were confused and got married?
May I ask how exactly God spoke to you 🙏❤️❤️
What if the person you’re suppose to marry doesn’t want to marry you? What do you do? Will God send another person?
Hi there, thanks for watching and for the great question. Many scriptures in the bible make it clear that God knows the end from the beginning (Revelation 22:13, Matthew 24:36, Ecclesiastes 3:11). They also tell us that God’s way is perfect and he can do no wrong. From the beginning of time God had a full plan and purpose for you and he knew everything that would happen. He has already made provision for everything. If a situation occurs where you don’t end up marrying the person he chose for you, God already knew about it and provision has been made. So…continue to trust in God. Don’t be anxious about anything regarding your future spouse and marrying the right person. God is in control and he wants you married to the right person more than you do. ✨Your part is to TRUST God with ALL your heart and ALL your mind so he can guide you✨. Finally, if you feel that someone is the one God has for you but they don’t act like it or show interest, then it’s likely that they are not the one God has for you. The bible tells us that God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33). I hope this helps. God bless
Then that may not have been the person. God is pretty simple and congruent with things. God is not One to contradict Himself as we humans often do. Assuming this is a personal question, how did you know this person was the one?
What if God has no one for me?
Amen ❤️
I’m turning 28 in less than 3 months and haven’t met my future husband yet. I’m starting to panic. I don’t want to be a leftover woman 5-10 years from now.
Well, I'm turning 46 next month and I certainly don't feel like a "leftover" woman. Wow. I certainly hope that's not how you feel about yourself if you remain single for awhile longer. There are pros and cons to both singleness and marriage. I have more to give to all my nieces & nephews, for example. Choose to embrace the season you are in - go on adventures! Make the most of it. ❤️
@@amandabowers9396 Darius M from RUclips says that single woman after 30 are leftover. After I listen to him I got anxious about the future
@@AmberDennis001 I encourage you to find better voices to listen to. Use your single time to better yourself, get out of debt, be healthy, find peace & wholeness, make good friends, etc. Marriage isn't the only good thing there is. We can still live abundant lives while praying for it. And p.s., marriage lasts a lifetime, so be wary of any creep that considers you washed up at 30. Sounds like the kind of guy who would want to trade his wife in for a younger model later on. Gross.
"Darius M from RUclips says that single woman after 30 are leftover. After I listen to him I got anxious about the future"
I don't mean to come across as too firm, but when I read this line, for a second, I thought you were a young teenager, but remembered you're almost 30. Ma'am, this unacceptable for you to ALLOW yourself to be influenced by somebody else. I was afraid things like this would happen and it looks like it's already working. There are very many RUclips channels designed to tear men and women down and make her feel worthless, but by whose standard? God's or Man? There is obviously a gender war going on from both sides. The trick is to NOT be apart of it. How can anyone get on RUclips and say that women at a certain age are leftovers? How can anyone say that, knowing thousands of people are going to come across their video and see that and have their hearts and self esteem attacked? That's so disheartening. Who does God say you are? There are many verses of what God thinks of you, Amber.
Think of all the flawed people God used, and I believe God did that to prove a point. Think of all the wombs God restored several times. Is there anything too hard for God? No. None of us will ever be perfect, and there is no so-called Dating Coach or Love Guru on RUclips that will ever be highly qualified to place standards and judge somebody else. And they likely say certain things like that to flatter their own subscribers and bank profit off humiliating others and off their pain. PLUS, many of them do not have successful relationships or marriages themselves.
You need to guard your heart, Amber, and stop easily accepting anything somebody says. No one can tell you who you are, how much you are worth, or what is or isn't going to happen for you in the future.
God does not choose Salvation on people. We choose or ignore Salvation. God give us options and we decide. God created Eve and presented her to Adam...then Adam Choose her as a Spouse. God told Solomon in 1 Kings 11:1-4 not to marry certain women because they would turn his heart away from God....and Solomon married them anyway. At the end of the day what we choose is what we choose, God does not force. God does want what is best but our choice is still a choice. Where in the Bible does it says their is just one person for us? If their is just one person for us and that person die before we meet them then does that mean any person we choose to marry is the wrong one? Is their only One suitable help meet for per man?
Question: I thought God gives us free will on who to marry. There’s 7 billion people in the world and you’re saying he only has 1 for me?
Well he's not forcing you.
You have the free will to say no, but should bear the consequences.
Sorry no there isn't only one. Then how would you explain widows/widowers getting remarried. God isn't like that. If something doesn't work with on person he will not damn you to singleness. It is important to know the heart and character of God. He is not wicked and will not punish you for the errors of man.
I aint marrying Mr blobby...next
I don't understand. If God picked your spouse, then why date for 2 years? Why not get married immediately? If God picks your spouse, then there is no need to date. I don't understand. Perhaps God doesn't pick people's spouse. I am very glad you got married, and you appear happy. And 4 kids... awesome... God wants "godly offspring" from marriage. (Malachi 2:15).
"But if they find they have not the gift of self-control in such matters, by all means let them get married. I think it is far better for them to be married than to be tortured by unsatisfied desire." I Cor. 7:9 J.B. Phillips, [Translated directly from the Greek.] "Tortured by unsatisfied desire"? I take this as God created natural desires for the opposite sex. This so God gets what he wants..... "godly offspring" through marriage. Malachi 2:15. At the same time, God can't pick people's spouses... to do so, he would violate your volition. In doing so, God would violate himself. (And it is not a sin to "break-off" an engagement (I Cor. 7:36-38). If God picked your spouse, and you broke-up an engagement, it would be sin. Yet, the Apostle Paul states that it is not a sin to break-off an engagement.) Thus, God created "attraction." And attraction gets people together. Pick up that phone, and call someone of interest, and say, "random hello." Then, see where it goes. This sure beats "waiting, waiting, waiting on God", then after a long time, a "non-virgin's" sensual desires overtake them, and they have sex (again) outside of marriage. Like a rubber band that is stretched and breaks! (The Apostle Paul used the word, "sensual" in I Timothy 5:11.) Pick up that phone. Paul wrote in I Cor. 7 to non-virgins, basically if you can't control yourself get married. Paul didn't say, "pray, pray, pray, pray.... fast... fast... fast away" your desire for a mate. (Fasting is good), Paul said there was no rules, or procedures of man that will stop "sensual indulgence" Colossians 2:23. His only answer for those that cannot control themselves is to get married. Pick up that phone!!!! :) Fall into grace... see forgiveness, grasp it, give it... pick up that phone and get into a relationship that leads to engagement. Also... note the distinction in I Corinthians 7:25. "Now as for virgins, I have no command from the Lord." In other words, the first 24 verses were for whom? For new Christians that were non-virgins, and the married. To them in verses 1-24, Paul is telling the new Christian that were "non-virgins" to get married if they can't control themselves. Sad, but some Christians that are non-virgins put upon themselves the "I'm devoting myself to God", from verses AFTER I Corinthians 25. The verses after v. 25 apply to virgins. If you have had sex, you don't have the "gift of singleness." How then to keep a marriage strong? Not by picking or being the perfect person... but Paul again comes through.... by a young married couple meeting with an older married couple. (Titus 2). Pick up that phone! Have fun.... best to keep it pure.... Did I mention, "pick up that phone"?
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So... in college, my fiance's best friend Michelle... broke us up. This because I was Michelle's "God's chosen spouse." Then Diamond Girl, (I call her that because I bought my fiance' a diamond ring), lost hope that her and I would get together. Later, Diamond Girl realized, "we were not meant to be." Then she noticed her real "God's chosen husband" was getting away, as he (Chris) was engaged. So, Diamond Girl seduced Chris to break-up that engagement. Diamond Girl destroyed her testimony, and many around her lost respect for her. Then, she got kicked out of the church for her immorality. But all these "games" are justified when someone believes another is their "God's chosen spouse." James 4 prohibits us from predicting the future. (Ie... stating that he/she is my "God's chosen spouse, is forbidden.) And James 3 has a "fruit test" regarding the wisdom of man or the wisdom of Heaven. And many other painful stories based on "God picks your spouse" fail the "Fruit Test" of James 3. Mrs. Funke Christian, I know you want to help people... and you are probably very sweet, and I hope your marriage and family thrives...... but... ah... please study the Scriptures. I left a few other comments for consideration.