Kid is doing his best in a tough situation. He just doesn't know what he doesn't know... and he called an economic advisor for help. Pretty wise for a 17 year old.
I do agree he is very mature trying to help someone else. If he's 17 & better off financially with parents who helped him get a car & allowed him to stay home & yet he's still willing to help her get the things in life that nobody has ever given her (a car, stable home/safety, love) so his heart is definitely in the right place. There is nothing wrong with him wanting a future with her & with such a traditional upbringing (he's doing what man used to do all the time when they go married right out of high school and take care of their family, it wasn't weird for people that age to want to support and build a future ) now we just call them "kids " and tell them not to do it and "go find themselves" first. Maybe we shouldn't blow off the kids goal and tell him how unlikely this relationship is to work out in long run because ANY relationship these days has the same odds of failing. Maybe his won't because he's already started off on a good foot he's doing all the right things and putting others needs above himself maybe this girl will value that. Think they should use public transport (public busing or maybe an Uber, a friend or someone to help her get places until they can afford a car). If they aren't living with his parents (he didn't say specifically) and they're just starting off with their very 1st apartment then it's a good thing that he is trying to work out money right now. Everything should be 50/50 all the bills, rent, groceries and everything. And no matter what they should never take out money or go into debt for anything they want, but " can" work around
It's one sided beta male love. I'd be willing to bet his GF is toxic and is using him because of the situation she is in and because he is the only chump willing to do this for her. She is going to end up hating him if she doesn't already. She comes from a toxic household, chance are slim that she is an emotionally health young female.
@@Patricia-pp3mras if every kid in high school doesn’t want to get close to a girl. Dave is acting like this will destroy his life. He definitely shouldn’t buy the girl a car because he needs his own money but you’re acting like adults don’t support other adults all the time. Sometimes people need help. It’s up to you whether you wanna take the time to help them. It’s a really good thing his family took her in because the family situation is likely toxic with drugs or abuse involved.
No need to make absolutist statements. If you can afford it easily in cash and are close enough with the person, go ahead. If my best friend was gonna be on the streets because his car exploded and he had no cash I would find a $3000 car to gift him and get him back on his feet
@@Lucinda_Jackson or maybe she lives in a household with abusive parents and he doesn't want to reveal that without her approval. A baby could be the reason why, but theres a million other reasons why
What are you talking about, her parents failed not his, they raised him with a big enough hart to want to help his girlfriend but also smart enough to seek advice and not just jump into it
@@jeanmccallum5034 The caller said the girl was in a toxic/not safe environment. Sounds like the caller's parents invited her there. I still take what he said with a grain of salt though. May be a lot more to what actually happened.
Terrifies me how "in love" teenagers think they are. My 17 year old sister probably would do something similar for her BF if she didn't have loving brothers and loving parents that are there to tell her absolutely not.
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Good point! His parents are warning him this is a mistake and part of him knows they are right while another part of him wants them to be wrong. These are the situations that heartbreak is made of.
@iHeartAmySue Exactly! She might be working very hard, treating him wonderfully, and be an amazing person. I do think that this young man is a really kind person. He's trying his best to help her. However, imo, he should NOT buy her a car. They are so young.
I wouldn’t do it. He’d ruin his credit, she’d break up with him, and he’s left paying off the car. If she wants a car, then she should pay for the car herself and buy a used car that she can afford.
What credit does a 17 year old have. I couldn’t even get a cell phone carrier to pick me up bc I didn’t have good enough credit till I was almost 22 and that was in 2011.
On the contrary buying the car and putting it in their name leaves you completely empty handed. Mind you I am 36 but we put everything in my late fiancés name. Because he died before we got married I have to prove I helped pay for everything to get titles switched to my name which is hard when you use cash and we shared bank accounts. Luckily I have his families support. Do not do this as a teenager. Ever.
@@CherryBerryFashion Actually I did understand what John said. I was responding to the op of this comment who said that putting it in his name would make him liable for anything that happens to or with the vehicle. I was pointing out that if you put the car in the other person's name it can also cause issues. Just saying either way carries some risk when you are not married to your partner and each option should be thought out.
I'm a Texan living in Oklahoma. My 12-year-old was listening to this call with me, equally horrified. As soon as Dave said, "The great state of Oklahoma," my son and I both said, "Ooohhh." People here shack up and/or get married SUPER young and immediately start having babies. I can't tell you how many people I know who are younger than me and have grandkids around my son's age. It's the culture here, and it explains why this state is so poverty-stricken. But as it's normal here, I don't see this kid getting himself away from this mess. It's nice that his parents are willing to take her in, but it's created an unhealthy dynamic. I don't see this ending well. I just hope this kid listens to Dave, stops trying to play hero, and sees this situation with new eyes.
I also live in Oklahoma and agree with your assessment. My wife and I are not rich, but definitely live comfortable and have finally advanced our careers where we can start putting away for retirement and pay off our house. We're not exceptional people and have pretty normal jobs, but we did the "correct life order" thing that Dave mentioned and I can see how it has helped us get to where we are not living at the poverty level (plus living below our means, but doing things in the right order set you up to do that if you have the discipline). Really interesting statistic shared in that call.
Come on. I was born in Texas and lived here almost my entire life. Don't act like we don't have the same exact thing happening here. :D (although I agree that Oklahoma is the worst just on principle)
I agree with you in theory, but if my son comes home and tells me his girlfriend, best friend, or the kid down the street got thrown out, or cannot go home and be safe in their own home, you are damn straight that kid has a roof over their head in my home while we figure everything out. It doesn't mean there are no rules around it.
He CAN'T buy a car at 17. He is a minor. His question about whether to finance the car is funny. There is no place that will give a car loan to a junior in High School who doesn't even have a job.
Why do I have this gut feeling that these two kids and yes, they are kids in my book, will have a baby in the next year. And we'll be looking at another cycle of poverty and only they are to blame for it!!! I know the economy is tough and people who make good choices are struggling BUT that is NOT this call. These are two immature children playing house and potentially making BAD life alterting decisions!
Really? Think about this for a moment. Here you have a young person (although misled) seeking financial counsel from Dave Ramsey. If only more young people would seek wisdom in this manner.
They’re not just kids in your book, they’re kids in anyone’s book. People who think magically tuning 18 makes one an adult in any other way but legal, are delusional. Especially in the economic situation we live in today, there is no such thing anymore as “moving out at 18”. The only people who leave home at 18 are college students who are dorming on THEIR PARENTS’ dime, which is no different than living under their roof.
@@cococock2418Wrong on one point. There are still a % who leave home at 18 because they volunteer to serve the country in the military. It may be a small %, but don't forget them and their contribution.
Absolutely not. She can buy her own car, or a relative can buy it for her. At 17, he should be focused on taking smart steps to increase his chances of success in the future. Buying his girlfriend a car does absolutely nothing to help his future interests (or his interests now). The fact that she would ask him to do this is a massive red flag. If she cared about him, she would not ask him to do this.
As a former teenager who was once this kid, no one can talk you out of it. “Maybe she’ll date me, said she was going to break up with her boyfriend, she swears!” A lot of us fall for this trap. The best case scenario is that he limits the damage and doesn’t do it twice.
It's better if she doesn't live with him,because he cannot provide for her. If he goes ahead and buys a car-this might happen. He might see those car finance ads. He will purchase a car,since he doesn't have enough money to buy a new,new car,anyway,he will suffer in interest. His life will be destroyed.But God forgives. He can start a business. This is my mantra:"Be like water-formless, straight, pure in justice; self-preservation, reconciliation. Discern truth from falsehood.Unparalleled posterity,unwavering conviction,upon faith, indomitable will---decisiveness,action. Achieve goals-poised, exscind hindrances, enkindle light-trusting in God's boundless mercy. Transcend normal limitations of this world.Stay vigilant; for heaven awaits-by any means necessary."
Nobody needs a roof to do it! Not the point. He is not responsible for raising her. Dave's advice is good for this promoting the advantage of having a lifelong friend. May not become a wife, but could remain a really good friend.
If she can't save a few thousand dollars to buy a used car, she won't be able to pay the insurance and gas either. Saving up and then owning a car will offer a perspective she needs to experience in order to be a successful adult in the future. She is going to fail and bring you down with her if she can't do that. Focus on yourself and be a successful individual and then try to bring her up with you instead of having her drag you down. If she can't do that, you have to cut ties because at that point she would just be using you and preventing you from reaching your potential. A lot of red flags are flying here. Hurt people hurt people. even if she has trouble at home, and you want to help. She might just be viewing this as a survival opportunity and will take advantage of your good intentions. If she was really grateful for staying with your family, she wouldn't be asking for you to buy anything for her. Something tells me her at home life isn't that bad, she is just being a spoiled brat that thinks everything should go her way. People with real problems, are grateful for what they are given and don't ask for more. People with real problems, work hard to get out of problems instead of trying to take money from people because they don't want to work hard, earn, and spend their own money.
His girlfriend may well get pregnant intentionally to lock him down if she senses he is starting to detach from her. He is teetering on a dangerous precipice right now, making bad choices that will likely ruin the trajectory of his life.
She is gonna cry. He is gonna buy it and work 24 / 7. She will get pregnant and never work again. He hates his life. This will happen. He didnt appreciate this call
@@PungeonMon that will likely happen,the kids will get adopted,he will get kicked out by the girl,he is going to be homeless. He can start again,but now he hates his life-he will start accusing credit card debt. All of this interest will surround him, he couldn't use it for good? So now he is enslaved by interest! The kid really has to think for himself first,what god has given him, he should use,then when he is financially sufficient,no constraints,he could start the relationship with this girl! Problem solved! His credit score will be 800+ he secures flights to tourist destinations. He finally gets to enjoy his life.
@@kaylynreynolds6551 Given what else we know of the situation (no transportation, bad home life, living with her 17 y.o. boyfriend...) it doesn't look good.
Adults need to step in and separate them and this puppy love. That's what it is. Boy said about his parents- "They're in no hurry to buy her a car" they SHOULD be in a hurry to get that girl out of their house! Not for a sleepover not for a movie. They need to corral their MINOR son and get him moving forward without looking back. Or at girls. Get your life going dude
They’ve still got another 6 or 7 years until the rational part of their brains are fully developed. The wisest thing they can do for now is pay heed to older advisors who care about them and have the benefit of many more years of life experience.
I made the mistake of buying a girlfriend a car when I was 22 and she was 20. I did it so she could get a job and start helping me with bills. It took about two months before I found out she was cheating on me with someone she met from that same job. It was a rough lesson of my own stupidity. That’s what happens when you are young
Just reading the title alone, all I have to say is son “Don’t be out here simping and tricking your pockets on women” Jody will be driving in the car you paid for
@@reese85They live at his parents house, my guy. And they’re still in high school. I’m sorry, but as a parent, I would not allow this to happen. My kids won’t be moving their love interests into my house.
@BlueDauntless I’m like 5-6 inches taller than both my parents. Once I started making my own money at 14 and out grew them both, there was nothing none of could say or make me do that I didn’t wanna do. Y’all really think just because your parents and I’m one as well. That you have control over your kids once they hit a certain age, cuz you don’t
Parents who let their high school daughter move out probably aren't concerned with teaching her responsibility. The caller said her home was unsafe. We don't know anything beyond that, so your assumption is odd...
Most of the calls on the Dave Ramsey show are textbook cases of what I call, "The Cycle of Poverty" and this call qualifies. I have all the sympathy in the world for those who work hard, make good choices but for one reason or another struggle especially since it is a tough economy! But that is NOT most of the callers on this program. Most are struggling and in poverty because of bad behavior, and they make one bad decision after another and never learn!! I have no sympathy for them!! We all make mistakes but you must learn and do better. For those that don't, you earned a life of struggle and poverty!
Personally, I feel sad for this young man. He is seeing the situation through the eyes of “first love” which as those of us who are older know is not going to end well. His parents should be guiding him to make the right decisions in this situation. If he is left to his own decisions, he’ll likely buy her the vehicle, have a baby with her, marry her in the next year or 2. Then when they are in their 20s they’ll likely grow apart. Dude will be paying child support and alimony for decades. By the time he is in his 30s and 40s he’ll have nothing saved and will be living pay check to pay check and burdened by debt. He’s setting himself for a high probability of a horrible quality of life, but no one is getting it through to him in his personal life. This is a horrible way to start your life.
Holy crap, NO!!! She'll be gone within a year and then you'll have to pay for a car you don't even own or a car payment in your name that you don't need to have! The sad part is that he's not mature enough to understand the ramifications of his actions or how short-lived these young relationships typically last.
I cam from a crazy house and wound up causing a lot of trouble in other people's lives. Chances are that this girl is in survival mode and will driving through a lot of people who help her.
There are always two sides to the story. We don’t know what really happened in her home with her parents. I’ve heard some pretty big exaggerated whoppers out of teenagers mouths . It could be something as stupid as they expect her to follow their rules and actually help around the house. Then, they tell their friends and their friends parents that they are being abused, when it may or may not be the case. Many teenagers at this phase of their lives, could be drama majors! I think before parents decide to swoop in and rescue someone else’s child, they might just try getting to know the parents of the other child and try to understand what their family dynamic is. She might just be one of those manipulative teenage girls too.
Ramsey’s advice is correct and excellent. The young boy is not responsible for the young girl. Her parents are. Finish high school. Go to college. Get yourself educated before you immerse yourself in living together, marriage, and supporting someone who is NOT your responsibility. If you want to help each other, both of you should get educated. Otherwise, as Ramsey accurately stated, you will be poor the rest of your life. Listen to the adults. We have been there.
Yeah, but I just hope he listens to Dave and i don’t understand why she can’t take like Uber or Lyft or get a ride from a friend when he can’t take her to work or school. He should save his money and start an emergency fund
He does sound like a very sweet guy who is willing to do that for his girlfriend. He definitely shouldn’t do it but he does seem to be a very nice young man.
This situation is just sad. The saddest part is she probably left home bc her parents didnt want her dating this guy. They're both crippling their own potential and setting themselves up for a lifetime of struggles.
@calebmallen exactly! She sounds like a future self-entitled narcissist in the making I went through something similar like this when I was in my early twenties and on active duty while stationed in Florida. It didn't involve a vehicle, but it involved other expenses that I wound up taking off because I didn't set boundaries, and I was a total simp at the time. I make sure younger Generations understand not to make stupid mistakes
Dear Caller-PLEASE listen to Dave. This will be a disaster if you follow through with your original plan. DON'T DO IT! And be very sure to use really good birth control. Please.
I had a little cousin do this - decided at 17 and 18 to move in with his girlfriend. Realized pretty quick that rent was a little expensive on grocery store shelf stocker wages, they both picked up more hours to make ends meet so dropped out of community college…we were like dude your could have lived with your mama for only 2 more years and kept dating this girl and had an associates degree (that mama would have paid for) at the end and set yourself up for something more than poverty. But there they are…checking all the boxes to be stuck for the rest of their lives, and 10 years later…not even together anymore. sad to see, but you can’t save somebody from themselves.
I’m really glad Dave kept it real and said it like it is without involving emotions. Hopefully this will be advice this kid will take with him way into the future. Good questions, Rachel.
There’s nothing a parent can do in this situation if the kids are making their own money! They can only offer advice and it’s up to the kids to take it or leave it
@alrbredwall yeah I had to correct the living on their own part but they’re still making their own money and making their own decisions and there’s nothing a parent can do once a kid has enter that phase in life, trust I kno. The moment I turned 14 and started making my own money and I out grew both my parents! They had no say over what I did, with my life.
These people commenting are so far out of touch with the reality that the other half of the us lives in. This is normal for the poor kids in my poor rural community. Parents are absent the teens are on their own. If this kid is reading this, please know some of us understand. You’re doing the best you can and I am proud of you.
Yep, they'll buy the car, his parents will have to cosign it, and when her next best option comes along, she'll be gone, and they'll have to fight her to get that car back 🤦🏻♂️
I had to think a moment about this (I admit I'm a bit dense). Are you saying this is going to be a trainwreck for the boy that will cause him to hate his current girlfriend and then lead to just hating women? That would be tragic as the boy is trying to act with kindness and compassion.
This is what happens when you have boys under fathered and over mothered. Even that dad's who are in children's lives grew up in single parent homes or with overbearing mothers. Two generations without real fathers in the homes and worse and worse mothers, is it any surprise the youth are in the state they're in?
She can buy her own car. Edited: After listening to… She’s living with you while you’re living with your parents???? And you’re still in high school? WTF!!! No. All the nopes! What the hell are your parents thinking??? And for the love of all that is good, do not get her pregnant!
@@drfunkinstein1 I was thinking the same thing. "Oops, I don't know why my birth control didn't work last month" . Then he will do the "right thing" and marry her.
@alberttang6955 This makes my stomach turn because it is totally plausible! 🤢 Parents need to sit these two down and have a come to Jesus convo. This living arrangement isn't working and you two need a brighter future than what you ate going to have if this continues. Each of them should not rely on the other for anything.
@@jwlsngold5026 I see it way too often and it's a sad situation. Then the parents end up working 2 jobs to support their kid, the kids girlfriend/boyfriend, and the grandkids when they should be preparing themselves for retirement. They never really have a reason for why they do this but they just feel responsible in some way and feel bad for their grandkids.
I’m 20 and been taking the bus to college and work since 17. I can ride 3 buses for a total of $3.25 in 1 day. She can figure it out. I literally see highschoolers on the bus taking themselves to work or school. I also hitch rides from friends or family when I have to and offer to pay them back if I have to. I’ve actually been thinking about getting a bike or scooter to get around also. Use what’s at your disposal it’s there to help you
I loaned my girlfriend some money to help her get a car. I immediately regretted it and a week later i asked for the money back. Needless to say she was a little upset. But 13 years later still happily married 😆
And with his parents' connivance. I would venture a guess that back when the parents were in high school they had a big case of "nobody's gonna tell us what to do" that they never fully came away from, and after their own son got to high school it painted them into a corner. So you get a situation like this.
And government schooling sets people up for this by clinically isolating and suffocating the values that actually build family and society... all because those same values are threatening to school.
Two Seniors in High School should not be living together, having any cars or jobs. They should be studying, in After School Activities, Boy Scouts and things like that. The girls problem is too much for the boy and his family to take on. The first call should be to the Police and not the Auto Used Car Lot.
That’s harsh. His parents should be putting their foot down. He is a minor and underage children have parents for a reason. They shouldn’t have let her move in in the first place. Look at the larger picture, notice that no one else in her entire extended family has taken her in. That should have been the FIRST place she should have reached out too!
Nah, it’s more to do with HIM being extremely young, he’s a child and he simply doesn’t know what he doesn’t know, same goes for her. Now if he was 25+ I’d agree that he’s thinking with the wrong head.
Where are both sets of parents? I'm really tired of people having kids they don't take care of or can't afford. If this boy had a mom and dad, he wouldn't be calling Dave Ramsay asking stupid questions. I guarantee his girlfriend ends up pregnant too.
OMG teenagers should not be living together and he definitely shouldn't be buying a car for his girlfriend. Don't do it, Aaron! You will end up regretting it and resenting it.
lol... I remember one of my "female 2nd Cousin's" Wedding Reception. I was sitting at the table with her Mother my Cousin. I/We all knew and were thinking the same thing, when she and her New Husband took to "The First Dance." My cousin her mom leaned over to me and whispered,... "I give it a year." I STARTED LAUGHING!!! LOL... It broke the tension, we started drinking, laughing, dancing and had a great night!!! It lasted exactly a year. lol... Moral of the story, young people are GONNA make stupid decisions. Once you as a Parent, older sibling, friend have done what you could in trying to rear them properly, let them make their own mistakes and wins. Be there to love them IF they deserve it and live your life. Let them FALL HARD! It's the best lesson they can learn. They will either sink or float or swim, as we all had to learn.
TAKE THE BUS. I can't stand when people who live in cities say they must own a car despite it costing them half their life to pay for. One of the perks of cities is public services that reduces your cost of living. Transit is one of those things. Tulsa has buses. You literally walk outside and get on it. So many people give up any chance of a comfortable retirement for a car that they almost never actually need. And the 8 times per year you do need one, you can rent one.
This is a TERRIBLE idea! ONLY thing youre doing (probable) is paying for a car and gifting it to her. Also, IF she has an accident- YOURE legally responsible for the damages. If she gets involved in a pile up and someone is paralyzed- YOU are legally responsible: they will sue YOU
@@ralegade7710 that's actually dependant on which STATE you are in. In my state, we were hit by my oldest baby daddy- the vehicle was his Mom's but he didn't have a license and we had to sue them (we actually had the same insurance as she had) bcuz she ALLOWED him to drive KNOWING he didn't have a license- plz do the world a favor and keep your pie hole closed unless you make the statement "IN MY STATE"
@@shannonobrien9922 His insurance should be paying out. If he has none, he’ll have to be on the hook for payment. If he can’t afford it, he belongs in jail. He already committed a crime by driving impaired and by not having insurance. If he’s a minor, you can go after his parents. If he’s of age of majority, you’re unfortunately just going to have to eat the cost while he spends time in jail. It’s messed up, but that’s the reality.
@@shannonobrien9922 Wow, this one was difficult to understand-your writing is poor. In every state, you can go after a person for willingly and knowingly allowing an unlicensed person to use their vehicle. They’re basically an accessory to crime. This is the equivalent to making a straw purchase for someone that legally cannot own a firearm and then that person harms someone with the firearm they supplied. Based on the information we currently have regarding the young man and his girlfriend, we have no evidence to suggest she would be illegally driving the car. It would just be a case of her borrowing her boyfriend’s car. If she gets into an accident, that’s on her. If I rent a car from hertz and get into an accident, the third party can’t sue hertz for the damages to their vehicle.
Kid is doing his best in a tough situation. He just doesn't know what he doesn't know... and he called an economic advisor for help. Pretty wise for a 17 year old.
I do agree he is very mature trying to help someone else. If he's 17 & better off financially with parents who helped him get a car & allowed him to stay home & yet he's still willing to help her get the things in life that nobody has ever given her (a car, stable home/safety, love) so his heart is definitely in the right place. There is nothing wrong with him wanting a future with her & with such a traditional upbringing (he's doing what man used to do all the time when they go married right out of high school and take care of their family, it wasn't weird for people that age to want to support and build a future ) now we just call them "kids " and tell them not to do it and "go find themselves" first. Maybe we shouldn't blow off the kids goal and tell him how unlikely this relationship is to work out in long run because ANY relationship these days has the same odds of failing. Maybe his won't because he's already started off on a good foot he's doing all the right things and putting others needs above himself maybe this girl will value that. Think they should use public transport (public busing or maybe an Uber, a friend or someone to help her get places until they can afford a car). If they aren't living with his parents (he didn't say specifically) and they're just starting off with their very 1st apartment then it's a good thing that he is trying to work out money right now. Everything should be 50/50 all the bills, rent, groceries and everything. And no matter what they should never take out money or go into debt for anything they want, but " can" work around
@Hungryhobbitringmaster a lot of wisdom in this comment. Well written.
@@Hungryhobbitringmaster I think he said they're living with his parents.
@@Hungryhobbitringmasterain't nobody reading that. Get a job
That is extremely wise, as was their answer. 🙏
Pupply love is brutal.
lust or love ? most dont know the difference
@@clarifyingquestionsIt’s not love or lust, it’s infatuation.
It's one sided beta male love. I'd be willing to bet his GF is toxic and is using him because of the situation she is in and because he is the only chump willing to do this for her. She is going to end up hating him if she doesn't already. She comes from a toxic household, chance are slim that she is an emotionally health young female.
@@billmcnealofwnyxnewyork It s lust, Hon.
It’s not love.
The poor kid is too wrapped up in playing the hero to see what is in front of him.
Oh he is whipped young love and wrong head making decisions.
@@Patricia-pp3mras if every kid in high school doesn’t want to get close to a girl.
Dave is acting like this will destroy his life. He definitely shouldn’t buy the girl a car because he needs his own money but you’re acting like adults don’t support other adults all the time. Sometimes people need help. It’s up to you whether you wanna take the time to help them.
It’s a really good thing his family took her in because the family situation is likely toxic with drugs or abuse involved.
Sorry the girl can buy her own car. She probably working the angles. All about her.
@@S0L12D3this could ruin his life. What if he knocks her up dawg. Life ruined fr
Absolutely not. Do not buy anyone a car.
Unless someone wants to buy me a car. In that case, it's okay 😊
Unless its a gift for your wife and bought cash
No need to make absolutist statements. If you can afford it easily in cash and are close enough with the person, go ahead.
If my best friend was gonna be on the streets because his car exploded and he had no cash I would find a $3000 car to gift him and get him back on his feet
Unless you are led by the Lord with cash to bless someone
well if you can afford and It's not a problem, they I think it is ok, but put it in their name.
When Rachel asked what’s coming up, I think she was scared they were gonna have a baby 😆
I caught that too
I wouldn't be surprised if she gets pregnant, intentionally or accidentally, not long after they graduate.
@@alberttang6955 Maybe she is already pregnant. Maybe that’s why her home situation is bad. They didn’t ask, and he didn’t volunteer it.
@@genxx2724
This is what I was thinking. He was being very careful with his words and information.
@@Lucinda_Jackson or maybe she lives in a household with abusive parents and he doesn't want to reveal that without her approval. A baby could be the reason why, but theres a million other reasons why
Dave is in shock. Normally I’d make a silly comment, but 17 and 18 year olds don’t deserve that. These kids are sadly lost. Parents failed them both.
sadly.
Completely right, it's not this young mans fault. His parents have, just like you said... completely failed him. Both of them.
What are you talking about, her parents failed not his, they raised him with a big enough hart to want to help his girlfriend but also smart enough to seek advice and not just jump into it
@@coty7.3*heart
@@Themoomabides yeah I thought that looked weird. So how do you think his parents failed?
It's like watching a train, knowing it will derail.
Everyone loves a train wreck!
*cough* east palestine*cough cough*@kagnewcobra5228
And no sleep over too. Next thing she's pregnant and you wish all you had to worry about is a car.
more like being the conductor
This call gets weirder and weirder as it progresses
How can they live together when they're in high school? What in the world is wrong with the parents?
@@jeanmccallum5034love ❤
Of course. It’s a high school kid. What’s to be expected..
@@gm12551 I was in high school at one point. I couldn't tell you of weird story like this.
@@jeanmccallum5034 The caller said the girl was in a toxic/not safe environment. Sounds like the caller's parents invited her there. I still take what he said with a grain of salt though. May be a lot more to what actually happened.
Terrifies me how "in love" teenagers think they are. My 17 year old sister probably would do something similar for her BF if she didn't have loving brothers and loving parents that are there to tell her absolutely not.
I have seen this happen.
He sounds like a really nice kid with good intentions. Y’all gave him really sound advice. I hope he was listening
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I love that he had the wisdom to call and ask for advice. I pray that he keeps the little bit he has and gets away from her and her dysfunction.
Yes! I I agree!
Good point! His parents are warning him this is a mistake and part of him knows they are right while another part of him wants them to be wrong. These are the situations that heartbreak is made of.
Why dysfunction? U have no idea about this girl🤔
@@katharina5159I agree. People are so judge mental.
@iHeartAmySue
Exactly! She might be working very hard, treating him wonderfully, and be an amazing person. I do think that this young man is a really kind person. He's trying his best to help her. However, imo, he should NOT buy her a car. They are so young.
I wouldn’t do it. He’d ruin his credit, she’d break up with him, and he’s left paying off the car. If she wants a car, then she should pay for the car herself and buy a used car that she can afford.
What credit does a 17 year old have. I couldn’t even get a cell phone carrier to pick me up bc I didn’t have good enough credit till I was almost 22 and that was in 2011.
He can't legally sign.
Car loans are stupid for different reasons though, always buy used cars outright.
18 or 88, you don't make major purchases for anyone you are not married to.
Not even your son or daughter? 🤔
@@HOLDXSTEELCorrect. There are always exceptions guy.
I disagree but I wouldn’t do it at 17
At 88 I don’t think it matters. Doing good deeds is good for the soul and encouraged by the good Lord himself.
Im 89yo and i got multiple free car offers from 4 women. Is it okay?😅
Buying a car for someone else and keeping in your name! Makes you liable for everything! Car payments, tickets, tows, insurance!
On the contrary buying the car and putting it in their name leaves you completely empty handed.
Mind you I am 36 but we put everything in my late fiancés name. Because he died before we got married I have to prove I helped pay for everything to get titles switched to my name which is hard when you use cash and we shared bank accounts. Luckily I have his families support.
Do not do this as a teenager. Ever.
@@KristinHall0918 You did not understand this person. John said to keep the car in HIS name so that it actually belongs to him not the girlfriend.
@@CherryBerryFashion Actually I did understand what John said. I was responding to the op of this comment who said that putting it in his name would make him liable for anything that happens to or with the vehicle. I was pointing out that if you put the car in the other person's name it can also cause issues. Just saying either way carries some risk when you are not married to your partner and each option should be thought out.
I'm a Texan living in Oklahoma. My 12-year-old was listening to this call with me, equally horrified. As soon as Dave said, "The great state of Oklahoma," my son and I both said, "Ooohhh." People here shack up and/or get married SUPER young and immediately start having babies. I can't tell you how many people I know who are younger than me and have grandkids around my son's age. It's the culture here, and it explains why this state is so poverty-stricken. But as it's normal here, I don't see this kid getting himself away from this mess. It's nice that his parents are willing to take her in, but it's created an unhealthy dynamic. I don't see this ending well.
I just hope this kid listens to Dave, stops trying to play hero, and sees this situation with new eyes.
I also live in Oklahoma and agree with your assessment. My wife and I are not rich, but definitely live comfortable and have finally advanced our careers where we can start putting away for retirement and pay off our house. We're not exceptional people and have pretty normal jobs, but we did the "correct life order" thing that Dave mentioned and I can see how it has helped us get to where we are not living at the poverty level (plus living below our means, but doing things in the right order set you up to do that if you have the discipline). Really interesting statistic shared in that call.
Come on. I was born in Texas and lived here almost my entire life. Don't act like we don't have the same exact thing happening here. :D
(although I agree that Oklahoma is the worst just on principle)
Teenagers should not be living together. Period.
My co workers do Thst they are 18 year
@@tommysmith2719clearly neglected by their parents
@@tommysmith2719are they still in high school?
I agree with you in theory, but if my son comes home and tells me his girlfriend, best friend, or the kid down the street got thrown out, or cannot go home and be safe in their own home, you are damn straight that kid has a roof over their head in my home while we figure everything out. It doesn't mean there are no rules around it.
No one should live together unless they are married.
“WE? Why do we need a car ?”😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Dave got to the core. His family is offering emotional support for the family. Everything else needs healthy boundaries.
She’s cussing out the Ramsey show. But he’s still going buy the car. It’s rough they are still babies.
Yeah, he'll buy it. Then they'll shack up and have a baby, and then split up after 6 months and he'll have more than car payments for 18 years.
He CAN'T buy a car at 17. He is a minor.
His question about whether to finance the car is funny. There is no place that will give a car loan to a junior in High School who doesn't even have a job.
He will buy it as soon as he turns 18 😂😂😂.@@Fred2-123
Yeah he will buy it, pitty, guy thinks thats what a man should do. In finances use your head not your heart
@@darkkaitouYou don't even know him clown don't make assumptions
Why do I have this gut feeling that these two kids and yes, they are kids in my book, will have a baby in the next year. And we'll be looking at another cycle of poverty and only they are to blame for it!!!
I know the economy is tough and people who make good choices are struggling BUT that is NOT this call. These are two immature children playing house and potentially making BAD life alterting decisions!
@@GAFB1122 2006 and 2007… that’s when they were born. Think about how little they’ve actually seen and lived through.
Really? Think about this for a moment. Here you have a young person (although misled) seeking financial counsel from Dave Ramsey. If only more young people would seek wisdom in this manner.
The parents are very irresponsible
They’re not just kids in your book, they’re kids in anyone’s book. People who think magically tuning 18 makes one an adult in any other way but legal, are delusional. Especially in the economic situation we live in today, there is no such thing anymore as “moving out at 18”. The only people who leave home at 18 are college students who are dorming on THEIR PARENTS’ dime, which is no different than living under their roof.
@@cococock2418Wrong on one point. There are still a % who leave home at 18 because they volunteer to serve the country in the military. It may be a small %, but don't forget them and their contribution.
Do not buy someone else a car that you are not legally responsible. This is why you don't SHACK UP!
Absolutely not. She can buy her own car, or a relative can buy it for her. At 17, he should be focused on taking smart steps to increase his chances of success in the future. Buying his girlfriend a car does absolutely nothing to help his future interests (or his interests now). The fact that she would ask him to do this is a massive red flag. If she cared about him, she would not ask him to do this.
As a former teenager who was once this kid, no one can talk you out of it. “Maybe she’ll date me, said she was going to break up with her boyfriend, she swears!” A lot of us fall for this trap. The best case scenario is that he limits the damage and doesn’t do it twice.
He’ll pay for the car that some other dude smashes her in.
On the plus side he legally can't buy the car yet
It's better if she doesn't live with him,because he cannot provide for her. If he goes ahead and buys a car-this might happen. He might see those car finance ads. He will purchase a car,since he doesn't have enough money to buy a new,new car,anyway,he will suffer in interest. His life will be destroyed.But God forgives. He can start a business. This is my mantra:"Be like water-formless, straight, pure in justice; self-preservation, reconciliation. Discern truth from falsehood.Unparalleled posterity,unwavering conviction,upon faith, indomitable will---decisiveness,action. Achieve goals-poised, exscind hindrances, enkindle light-trusting in God's boundless mercy. Transcend normal limitations of this world.Stay vigilant; for heaven awaits-by any means necessary."
i cant with these parents who let their children cohabitate under their roof. And we all know what they are doing under HIS parent's roof
Oh, they def smashing 😂
We do? What? LOL
White people 🤷🏽♀️
Nobody needs a roof to do it! Not the point.
He is not responsible for raising her.
Dave's advice is good for this promoting the advantage of having a lifelong friend. May not become a wife, but could remain a really good friend.
Clearly they are being neglected.
If she can't save a few thousand dollars to buy a used car, she won't be able to pay the insurance and gas either. Saving up and then owning a car will offer a perspective she needs to experience in order to be a successful adult in the future. She is going to fail and bring you down with her if she can't do that. Focus on yourself and be a successful individual and then try to bring her up with you instead of having her drag you down. If she can't do that, you have to cut ties because at that point she would just be using you and preventing you from reaching your potential. A lot of red flags are flying here. Hurt people hurt people. even if she has trouble at home, and you want to help. She might just be viewing this as a survival opportunity and will take advantage of your good intentions. If she was really grateful for staying with your family, she wouldn't be asking for you to buy anything for her. Something tells me her at home life isn't that bad, she is just being a spoiled brat that thinks everything should go her way. People with real problems, are grateful for what they are given and don't ask for more. People with real problems, work hard to get out of problems instead of trying to take money from people because they don't want to work hard, earn, and spend their own money.
His girlfriend may well get pregnant intentionally to lock him down if she senses he is starting to detach from her. He is teetering on a dangerous precipice right now, making bad choices that will likely ruin the trajectory of his life.
Spot on!! 👍
This simp will unfortunately learn the hard way when this situation turns to sh-t.
This is an inevitable trainwreck 🤦🏻♂️
She sounds like a User.
I hope he does. Some never learn, each heartbreak makes them weaker
No need to call him a simp. There are other channels and reddit forums where this language and attitude are welcome.
You don't know what the word simp even means.
This is the silliest call ever but also one of the most impactful this “kid” will have
She is gonna cry.
He is gonna buy it and work 24 / 7.
She will get pregnant and never work again.
He hates his life.
This will happen. He didnt appreciate this call
@@PungeonMon that will likely happen,the kids will get adopted,he will get kicked out by the girl,he is going to be homeless. He can start again,but now he hates his life-he will start accusing credit card debt. All of this interest will surround him, he couldn't use it for good? So now he is enslaved by interest! The kid really has to think for himself first,what god has given him, he should use,then when he is financially sufficient,no constraints,he could start the relationship with this girl! Problem solved! His credit score will be 800+ he secures flights to tourist destinations. He finally gets to enjoy his life.
DO NOT DO IT
Even as an adult if not married u shouldn't do it
This is hard to watch. Clearly this guy isn’t really sure and didn’t think about why she needs a car.
Guy hung up and the phone and went looking for a car for the girl who can't graduate high school. 18 year old junior.
They’re going into their senior year. She may have a late birthday.
@@kaylynreynolds6551 Given what else we know of the situation (no transportation, bad home life, living with her 17 y.o. boyfriend...) it doesn't look good.
Shes going to leave him regardless.
Adults need to step in and separate them and this puppy love. That's what it is. Boy said about his parents- "They're in no hurry to buy her a car" they SHOULD be in a hurry to get that girl out of their house! Not for a sleepover not for a movie. They need to corral their MINOR son and get him moving forward without looking back. Or at girls. Get your life going dude
Just break up and have a fun senior year. You don’t need that drama
Good advice
lol right! This guy should be enjoying his senior year, not worrying about buying a high school girlfriend a car. Simping at a young age I see smh
Solid advice.
They are Juniors
They’ve still got another 6 or 7 years until the rational part of their brains are fully developed. The wisest thing they can do for now is pay heed to older advisors who care about them and have the benefit of many more years of life experience.
I made the mistake of buying a girlfriend a car when I was 22 and she was 20. I did it so she could get a job and start helping me with bills. It took about two months before I found out she was cheating on me with someone she met from that same job. It was a rough lesson of my own stupidity. That’s what happens when you are young
This caller really needed Dave on the call here I'm glad he found him....hope he listens 😢
The one and only good thing here is he called Dave to ask, other than that nope!!
Just reading the title alone, all I have to say is son “Don’t be out here simping and tricking your pockets on women”
Jody will be driving in the car you paid for
With her next boyfriend.
Rachel is a nice person but not ready to take over for Dave yet. This guy needs brutal honesty.
Jade is ready.
@@linuxsurfer2002Jade tells it right!
@@linuxsurfer2002 Jade is still lacking in wisdom.
Dave is probably gonna be doing this for another 20 years or until he dies.
@@John3.36 Examples?
Where are their parents, what has this world turned into.
She’s not yours young sir just your turn.
Oh I think we can tell there are deep issues
Y’all really think parents have control over kids once they turn a certain age and start making their own money?
@@reese85They live at his parents house, my guy. And they’re still in high school. I’m sorry, but as a parent, I would not allow this to happen. My kids won’t be moving their love interests into my house.
@BlueDauntless I’m like 5-6 inches taller than both my parents. Once I started making my own money at 14 and out grew them both, there was nothing none of could say or make me do that I didn’t wanna do. Y’all really think just because your parents and I’m one as well. That you have control over your kids once they hit a certain age, cuz you don’t
@BlueDauntless you really think you can stop your 17-18 old kid from moving out your house with their love interest, hell no!
I have hope for him. He called the show, so that’s a good start. I wish him the best.
Is there something unsaid here? Is the girl pregnant? Is that why he feels obligated?
You just need to ask yourself, what happens when she finds something better and leaves (she will). Take care of yourself kings and stop simpin'!
Keep your wallet and legs close until marriage and you be doing better than most people in the WORLD.
No. No need to watch the video. Question answered.
You should have watched the video. Dave actually recommended he take out a loan at 18% interest and nothing down to buy it for her
@@rsafree1139 yer so bad :-)
sounds like parents told her time to grow up take responability and she on the hunt for another atm
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Parents who let their high school daughter move out probably aren't concerned with teaching her responsibility. The caller said her home was unsafe. We don't know anything beyond that, so your assumption is odd...
@@russellpetrie119 she is about to be a senior in HS, their job is not done, and that is a crappy parent who thinks it is.
Most of the calls on the Dave Ramsey show are textbook cases of what I call, "The Cycle of Poverty" and this call qualifies.
I have all the sympathy in the world for those who work hard, make good choices but for one reason or another struggle especially since it is a tough economy!
But that is NOT most of the callers on this program. Most are struggling and in poverty because of bad behavior, and they make one bad decision after another and never learn!! I have no sympathy for them!!
We all make mistakes but you must learn and do better. For those that don't, you earned a life of struggle and poverty!
The cycle is real. You know what makes it worse? When they end up adding a baby to this mix.
Spent 6 years with someone like the girlfriend. Had enough of doing everything for her and she did nothing for me. This guy needs to run
If she's working and staying with her boyfriend, she should be able to afford a 2k beater in a few months.
I knew a few guys that bought vehicles for their girlfriends, it didn't end well for them. Insurance for an 18 year old male is extremely high.
Personally, I feel sad for this young man. He is seeing the situation through the eyes of “first love” which as those of us who are older know is not going to end well. His parents should be guiding him to make the right decisions in this situation.
If he is left to his own decisions, he’ll likely buy her the vehicle, have a baby with her, marry her in the next year or 2. Then when they are in their 20s they’ll likely grow apart. Dude will be paying child support and alimony for decades. By the time he is in his 30s and 40s he’ll have nothing saved and will be living pay check to pay check and burdened by debt.
He’s setting himself for a high probability of a horrible quality of life, but no one is getting it through to him in his personal life. This is a horrible way to start your life.
Holy crap, NO!!! She'll be gone within a year and then you'll have to pay for a car you don't even own or a car payment in your name that you don't need to have! The sad part is that he's not mature enough to understand the ramifications of his actions or how short-lived these young relationships typically last.
I cam from a crazy house and wound up causing a lot of trouble in other people's lives.
Chances are that this girl is in survival mode and will driving through a lot of people who help her.
There are always two sides to the story. We don’t know what really happened in her home with her parents. I’ve heard some pretty big exaggerated whoppers out of teenagers mouths . It could be something as stupid as they expect her to follow their rules and actually help around the house. Then, they tell their friends and their friends parents that they are being abused, when it may or may not be the case. Many teenagers at this phase of their lives, could be drama majors! I think before parents decide to swoop in and rescue someone else’s child, they might just try getting to know the parents of the other child and try to understand what their family dynamic is. She might just be one of those manipulative teenage girls too.
I had this thought too.
Dave: “That was pretty vague”
Rachel: “Was there safety issues involved?”
Rachel’s empathy for the win, we needed her in this call desperately 👏🏻
Ramsey’s advice is correct and excellent.
The young boy is not responsible for the young girl. Her parents are.
Finish high school. Go to college. Get yourself educated before you immerse yourself in living together, marriage, and supporting someone who is NOT your responsibility.
If you want to help each other, both of you should get educated. Otherwise, as Ramsey accurately stated, you will be poor the rest of your life.
Listen to the adults. We have been there.
Thank God. He called Dave
Except he propably won't listen to the advice. All those statistics Dave was throwing out there?...this kid doesn't think they apply to him.
Yeah, but I just hope he listens to Dave and i don’t understand why she can’t take like Uber or Lyft or get a ride from a friend when he can’t take her to work or school. He should save his money and start an emergency fund
He does sound like a very sweet guy who is willing to do that for his girlfriend. He definitely shouldn’t do it but he does seem to be a very nice young man.
I agree. He has a kind heart. Just too young to understand the future implications.
This situation is just sad. The saddest part is she probably left home bc her parents didnt want her dating this guy.
They're both crippling their own potential and setting themselves up for a lifetime of struggles.
So, she can’t afford a car by the time they need it. Guess what dude? You can’t either. She’s a total moocher!🤦♀️
She's just looking for her next ATM; the way he gets her is the way he'll lose her to the next guy on her ladder 🤦🏻♂️
@calebmallen exactly! She sounds like a future self-entitled narcissist in the making I went through something similar like this when I was in my early twenties and on active duty while stationed in Florida. It didn't involve a vehicle, but it involved other expenses that I wound up taking off because I didn't set boundaries, and I was a total simp at the time. I make sure younger Generations understand not to make stupid mistakes
Once again, Dave is right.
This guy is already whipped lol.
Dear Caller-PLEASE listen to Dave. This will be a disaster if you follow through with your original plan. DON'T DO IT! And be very sure to use really good birth control. Please.
I had a little cousin do this - decided at 17 and 18 to move in with his girlfriend. Realized pretty quick that rent was a little expensive on grocery store shelf stocker wages, they both picked up more hours to make ends meet so dropped out of community college…we were like dude your could have lived with your mama for only 2 more years and kept dating this girl and had an associates degree (that mama would have paid for) at the end and set yourself up for something more than poverty. But there they are…checking all the boxes to be stuck for the rest of their lives, and 10 years later…not even together anymore. sad to see, but you can’t save somebody from themselves.
I’m really glad Dave kept it real and said it like it is without involving emotions. Hopefully this will be advice this kid will take with him way into the future.
Good questions, Rachel.
Thank you for being SO CLEAR with him
I love when Dave and Rachel are on together. 😂
This is what happens when there is not a strong father in the home.
There’s nothing a parent can do in this situation if the kids are making their own money! They can only offer advice and it’s up to the kids to take it or leave it
@reese85 they are not living on their own. They are living with the boys parents. A loving father doesn't let his son simply like this.
@@alrbredwall the father literally does not want his son to buy the car for her it’s not always on the parents
@alrbredwall yeah I had to correct the living on their own part but they’re still making their own money and making their own decisions and there’s nothing a parent can do once a kid has enter that phase in life, trust I kno. The moment I turned 14 and started making my own money and I out grew both my parents! They had no say over what I did, with my life.
You people will blame any and everything on "strong fathers" without knowing anything about a man.
These people commenting are so far out of touch with the reality that the other half of the us lives in. This is normal for the poor kids in my poor rural community. Parents are absent the teens are on their own.
If this kid is reading this, please know some of us understand. You’re doing the best you can and I am proud of you.
Dave at the end is hilarious. “QUIT THAT” 😂
That girl has got him wrapped around her finger bros gonna buy the car
Yep, they'll buy the car, his parents will have to cosign it, and when her next best option comes along, she'll be gone, and they'll have to fight her to get that car back 🤦🏻♂️
@calebmallen if they're lucky it will still have tires and windows
And people wonder how Andrew Tate came to prominence.
Isn’t he the guy that cried when Greta Thunberg made fun of him? How would that help this situation?
@@kathrynstemler6331lol that was trolling
I had to think a moment about this (I admit I'm a bit dense). Are you saying this is going to be a trainwreck for the boy that will cause him to hate his current girlfriend and then lead to just hating women? That would be tragic as the boy is trying to act with kindness and compassion.
Yep…he will be listening to Tate once him and this girl breakup. lol
This is what happens when you have boys under fathered and over mothered. Even that dad's who are in children's lives grew up in single parent homes or with overbearing mothers. Two generations without real fathers in the homes and worse and worse mothers, is it any surprise the youth are in the state they're in?
She can buy her own car.
Edited: After listening to… She’s living with you while you’re living with your parents???? And you’re still in high school?
WTF!!!
No. All the nopes! What the hell are your parents thinking???
And for the love of all that is good, do not get her pregnant!
She's going to get pregnant right after he tells her Dave Ramsey said not to buy her a car until they're married.
@@drfunkinstein1🤦♀️ You’re probably right.
@@drfunkinstein1 I was thinking the same thing. "Oops, I don't know why my birth control didn't work last month" . Then he will do the "right thing" and marry her.
@alberttang6955 This makes my stomach turn because it is totally plausible! 🤢
Parents need to sit these two down and have a come to Jesus convo.
This living arrangement isn't working and you two need a brighter future than what you ate going to have if this continues.
Each of them should not rely on the other for anything.
@@jwlsngold5026 I see it way too often and it's a sad situation. Then the parents end up working 2 jobs to support their kid, the kids girlfriend/boyfriend, and the grandkids when they should be preparing themselves for retirement. They never really have a reason for why they do this but they just feel responsible in some way and feel bad for their grandkids.
I’m 20 and been taking the bus to college and work since 17. I can ride 3 buses for a total of $3.25 in 1 day. She can figure it out. I literally see highschoolers on the bus taking themselves to work or school. I also hitch rides from friends or family when I have to and offer to pay them back if I have to. I’ve actually been thinking about getting a bike or scooter to get around also. Use what’s at your disposal it’s there to help you
“Well that was pretty vague “😂😂😂Dave man
I loaned my girlfriend some money to help her get a car. I immediately regretted it and a week later i asked for the money back. Needless to say she was a little upset. But 13 years later still happily married 😆
I was madly in love at 17. It's amazing how it effects our brain especially when it's not fully developed yet.
What an absolute mess. Two kids playing house.
In the 17 year old parents' house, there is so much wrong going on here!!
And with his parents' connivance. I would venture a guess that back when the parents were in high school they had a big case of "nobody's gonna tell us what to do" that they never fully came away from, and after their own son got to high school it painted them into a corner. So you get a situation like this.
And government schooling sets people up for this by clinically isolating and suffocating the values that actually build family and society... all because those same values are threatening to school.
Despite all his generosity she will still leave him
Two Seniors in High School should not be living together, having any cars or jobs. They should be studying, in After School Activities, Boy Scouts and things like that. The girls problem is too much for the boy and his family to take on. The first call should be to the Police and not the Auto Used Car Lot.
He's thinking with the wrong head. Wake the F up young man!
That’s harsh. His parents should be putting their foot down. He is a minor and underage children have parents for a reason. They shouldn’t have let her move in in the first place. Look at the larger picture, notice that no one else in her entire extended family has taken her in. That should have been the FIRST place she should have reached out too!
@@robinbond7878 You don't know the whole situation and whether or not she has extended family.
Nah, it’s more to do with HIM being extremely young, he’s a child and he simply doesn’t know what he doesn’t know, same goes for her. Now if he was 25+ I’d agree that he’s thinking with the wrong head.
High schoolers don’t NEED cars. I didn’t get my first car until I was an adult. I walked to school.
The only people that can gift cars are the ones in the Lexus commercials.
Finance the car in his name too? That’s insane💀
NOOOOO!
He’s going to buy her that car!
How? He is 17 years old and can’t finance it and has $800 to his name.
Where are both sets of parents? I'm really tired of people having kids they don't take care of or can't afford. If this boy had a mom and dad, he wouldn't be calling Dave Ramsay asking stupid questions. I guarantee his girlfriend ends up pregnant too.
@@macneoh7418 he said he talked to them about it and they advised against it. Her parents sound like they are out of the picture
OMG teenagers should not be living together and he definitely shouldn't be buying a car for his girlfriend. Don't do it, Aaron! You will end up regretting it and resenting it.
If you want to gift someone some money towards a car give them a little cash call it dine. Don't put it in your name
Man... the young mindset at 17/18. I'm glad he's learning from the Ramsey show. I hope he took it in
If girlfriend t-bones someone in a car in his name, he's screwed.
lol... I remember one of my "female 2nd Cousin's" Wedding Reception. I was sitting at the table with her Mother my Cousin. I/We all knew and were thinking the same thing, when she and her New Husband took to "The First Dance." My cousin her mom leaned over to me and whispered,... "I give it a year." I STARTED LAUGHING!!! LOL... It broke the tension, we started drinking, laughing, dancing and had a great night!!! It lasted exactly a year. lol... Moral of the story, young people are GONNA make stupid decisions. Once you as a Parent, older sibling, friend have done what you could in trying to rear them properly, let them make their own mistakes and wins. Be there to love them IF they deserve it and live your life. Let them FALL HARD! It's the best lesson they can learn. They will either sink or float or swim, as we all had to learn.
"Dave, one small thing: When you bring me out, can you introduce me as "Simp"?
hahahahhahaha
TAKE THE BUS. I can't stand when people who live in cities say they must own a car despite it costing them half their life to pay for. One of the perks of cities is public services that reduces your cost of living. Transit is one of those things. Tulsa has buses. You literally walk outside and get on it. So many people give up any chance of a comfortable retirement for a car that they almost never actually need. And the 8 times per year you do need one, you can rent one.
I swear if he calls back in 6 months saying his girlfriend is now pregnant I’m gonna scream
Scream now......................
Annnnd...she is pregnant
@@GoKU-xx2vgWhat's the video title then?
Hate comes in many forms... So... Yes... It will make you hate something within the relationship, typically.
Please don’t!!!!
Yep, as Dave said, it is NOT his responsibility as a boyfriend to buy her a car. Her parents or her other family should be.
Simping at 17 year old already 😂😂
When someone is about to spend a bunch of money on a car or they have just been robbed at the dealership it's never for a car, it's for a "vehicle" 😅
This is a TERRIBLE idea! ONLY thing youre doing (probable) is paying for a car and gifting it to her. Also, IF she has an accident- YOURE legally responsible for the damages. If she gets involved in a pile up and someone is paralyzed- YOU are legally responsible: they will sue YOU
That’s actually untrue. Liability falls on drivers, not cars.
@@ralegade7710 that's actually dependant on which STATE you are in. In my state, we were hit by my oldest baby daddy- the vehicle was his Mom's but he didn't have a license and we had to sue them (we actually had the same insurance as she had) bcuz she ALLOWED him to drive KNOWING he didn't have a license- plz do the world a favor and keep your pie hole closed unless you make the statement "IN MY STATE"
@@ralegade7710 the kid that hit us is a meth head- how in the hell is HE going to pay for damages????????
@@shannonobrien9922 His insurance should be paying out. If he has none, he’ll have to be on the hook for payment. If he can’t afford it, he belongs in jail. He already committed a crime by driving impaired and by not having insurance. If he’s a minor, you can go after his parents. If he’s of age of majority, you’re unfortunately just going to have to eat the cost while he spends time in jail.
It’s messed up, but that’s the reality.
@@shannonobrien9922 Wow, this one was difficult to understand-your writing is poor. In every state, you can go after a person for willingly and knowingly allowing an unlicensed person to use their vehicle. They’re basically an accessory to crime. This is the equivalent to making a straw purchase for someone that legally cannot own a firearm and then that person harms someone with the firearm they supplied.
Based on the information we currently have regarding the young man and his girlfriend, we have no evidence to suggest she would be illegally driving the car. It would just be a case of her borrowing her boyfriend’s car. If she gets into an accident, that’s on her. If I rent a car from hertz and get into an accident, the third party can’t sue hertz for the damages to their vehicle.
As a girl who would have been tempted by this sort of behaviour as a teen, absolutely DO NOT DO IT!