A teacher/instructor who knows that a sociopath is hurting other students -and doesn't fix the problem -is either another fellow sociopath or "afraid" to confront the bully himself.
My coach knows who’s a bit out of control and let’s them do their thing as he knows it’s our responsibility first to try bring order to the situation, if it comes to one of us having to speak to our partner and ask for less abuse, he steps in and makes an example of them to the whole class. Best practise imo
Most aren't clinical psychopaths, but I have seen *many* use martial arts as an outlet for problems in their personal life. It's not at all uncommon for people to try to hurt others in some way. Even kicking the hell out of a bag I'm holding leaving bruises *through the bag*.
Thanks for making this video. You cover many aspects of being a martial artist, that often don’t get attention. I appreciate your work and outreach. Thank you!
In class everyone learns how to defend themselves prior to sparring. Sparring means utilising and mostly to execute what you have learned so far to defend yourself. You don't just sparr then learn to defend. That would be putting Ando's horse before the cart! Lol By the way , Ando you have a very intelligent horse I know he tells you all about self defense
We had this guy come in to my karate dojo a couple of times and try to beat up on the lower ranks. The instructors took all of the white and blue belts out during sparring and replaced them with the brown and black belts, who gave him a taste of his own medicine. Needless to say, he got tired of getting beaten up. We've got a pretty good club dynamic, and don't tolerate dickheads
An opportunity, absolutely. It's not just students who have to deal with this, but full time fighters as well. There was a story I heard on podcast about Carlos Condit (the UFC fighter) when he went with members of his team to train with the USMC. A couple of the marines were joking around about how cool they would be if they could KO him. One of Condits UFC buddies overheard this, & let him know. He wasn't worried, he decided to spar with them anyway. He warned the Marine " I'll give as much as I get". The Marine went for a hard KO, and Condit floored him with a high kick. The whole tent went quiet. (They were on the field). Condits' buddy made the comment; "oh shit, I thought, if this goes sideways people are going to die! " Condit helped the marine up, and they all ended up laughing it off.
Daimond video that should've been made thousands of years ago, from now on i will watch it every time before sparring in order to remind myself how to react in the best type of way
Hey Ando, wow good timing. Just this week I had to deal several times with aggressive sparing partners. In my Taekwondo class, sometimes we have to spar also against boxers or kick-boxers. These do not really understand light contact. But tip no 1 helps a lot in this case. In most cases, everything is easy then.
as a boxer (but also a gentile person) I'm always getting drilled by psychopaths who show up to sparring with something to prove. I have to take my hat off to you here and wish people had frank discussions about power percentage and safety more often pre-sparring. Only thing I disagree with is that most people are nice about it =P. that is to say, in my experience, unless your partner is dedicated to the sport, there is a good chance they will try and hurt you. I've had really big guys claim they "cant reign it in", truth is they absolutely can, and just don't want to because they do not have the control to be fast/good, and more importantly to them cant look good, without throwing hard strikes. Like you said it feels uncomfortable to criticize people publicly for both sides, but id also be using that to my advantage. embarrass them in the gym if you have to, make them look like a bully and make sure the trainer or coaches are constantly being reminded to do their jobs (which often they don't)
I had this before the man did not know how hard he was hitting me as I was only going for speed hits and we ended up have a 1min full fight then we looked at each other and had a hug he did not like being hit back hard lol
@Joe Blow I know man, I remember the dude was like "What if I do this?" "What if I do that?" when we were practicing the techniques. Once the sparring starts, he just went all out crazy at the get go with HARD PUNCHES! It pissed me off so quickly that I didn't even bother to calm him down by talking.
I almost lost a tooth because of a sparring partner with a higher level. Although I have told him many times that he is too fast for me, he never slowed down- the result was that I became more reluctant and tried to withdraw with a bad stance while trying to keep up- he never wants to listen that I need a slower pace to learn or practice.
It’s unfortunate but true that overcoming the fear of facing an out of control opponent will be one of the best things you can do for your development as a martial artist. Weeding out the weak and fearful was quite common in the Tae Kwon Do I studied starting in the early seventies. I’ve come to believe that a good balance of technique and toughness with attention to the safety of students is best for the modern schools. Bullies should be dealt with by the higher ranking students before students quit. My instructor would have me or other seniors put bullies in place quickly. A good technique to use against someone going too hard is to guide their more fragile bones , ie. Insteps or hands into compressed knees or elbows. The point of an elbow against the instep of an overzealous roundhouse kick will discourage heavy hitting most of the time. A philly shell defense with tight elbows turned into the opponents fist at the right time will do wonders for his attitude.
Hi Ando I'm in taekwondo and while sparring a woman half my size just pushes me into the walls but she much older so I dont want to push back and hurt her. What do I do lol I try to do a side kick to push her away but shes always trying to jam/run me over. Thanks for the videos
As a sparring partner, you’re doing her no favors by not teaching her to respect your weapons. You should be able to push her back without hurting her. Do that!
Great talk. I've had many sparring partners who were deliberate in hitting too hard, the usual justification being "this is martial arts, deal with it!". My feedback: it's not worth being injured. Follow this advise first. But if that doesn't work then give feedback to your instructor that you're not going to spar someone who deliberately injures you. I had a fellow student that had his arm broken during sparring after many injuries, which led him to quit. Try all other options, but at the end of the day, it's your money and your health. (When he tried the same with me, I had to gently axe kick his head a few times as he was not listening to me) There are 2 people I refuse to spar in my school because they get angry and hurt people. I was respectful yet direct with my master what was going on. It was fine, they didn't pair me with them anymore. This is tough though. If you're new it's hard to know what is acceptable and what is just to painful. If you talk with your instructor/master, I would approach it by asking them, "could you help me learn how to better defend myself when sparring? I'm getting injured every time." At least with that approach you are asking to learn, not just complain.
A fantastic comment, Keith! 👍🏼 Thanks for sharing your experience and advice. Asking your teacher to help you is still worth a shot the way you presented it. Happy training to you! 🙏🏻
As an instructor sometimes I will let a (supervised) mis-matched match continue as it provides a learning opportunity to both partners, one needs to learn control the other to step it up or speak out. A measured amount of adversity might be exactly what the person needs to grow.
I totally agree with this, it's a martial art after all. I get sometimes those who are a higher level than their partner might get frustrated, but coach them and encourage them and they'll improve and you'll have someone to spar who's giving you a harder time. What good sparrers can do when sparring someone they know they are more accomplished than is to work stuff thry don't do well. Work your weaker side, work your defence, try a kick or a combo you struggle after all sparring isn't about winning its about improving.
This is what i do. Step1: ask him (kindly)to slow his pace down. Step2: say i dont want to fight you. Step3: go beast mode and destroy him. If youre really new and are a punching bag use step2 or ask the guy to show you defence techniques.
Never dealt with one of those, but I am reminded of my one friend who, when sparring, would block my kicks with his elbows every now and then. Being elbowed in the shin hurts a ton and typically results in taking out that limb for the rest of the fight. In general, I was only allowed to use my full strength against my instructor, the one black belt who was 375 lbs and 6'5", and every now and then with a few of my friends were well versed enough to endure me (one trained at another place and the other trained with me but quit after becoming either a 2nd or 3rd degree black belt). Because of this, I'd train in the lower rank classes, since they are mostly conditioning which I needed, and it was a means of learning to hold back better (in high school, while I was really strong and in shape, I did not know how to pace myself and often had difficulty controlling my strength. While I am way weaker than I had been, back then I was able to kick hard enough that when training on one of the larger water-based heavy bags (or whatever their name is), I broke the threaded tip that screwed the top part into the lower water-filled base. With regard to training with the lower ranks, I essentially just blocked everything, and during the intermediate classes, I only would strike maybe 3-4 times, but even that occasionally drew out more strength than intended. I had to ask the opponent if I was using too much force quite a bit.
@@AndoMierzwa sort of limited in that regard. I was interested in trying to provide video lessons for TKD and/or my Fencing blend (focus on technique). Sadly, I don't have a good camera for that, as I am limited to my phone and am low on funds. I tried to film a means of how to speed up punching techniques (eliminate wasted movement, understand your own tell and how to eliminate it or use it to your advantage for feinting (most common one being the shoulder twitch, which provides more torque, but eats away at impact force), and focus a lot of recovering quickly so you can defend or continue punching faster). My phone can barely register a common speed punch, let alone an actual quick one, and the file size for it would be enormous.
Also, given my actual rank 1st Kup (despite holding that rank for 10 years while training) means I can't officially increase rank (I believe the kikkiwon requires 2nd degree black belt or higher for that authority), but I can teach technique. I have weird specializations though, such as fighting groups (a result of being assaulted by groups in recess when I was a kid), which I am not sure how to translate very well. I completely ignored my instructor's lessons on that and just went with instinct, while sparring 2-3 people ranking 2nd-4th degree without ever being hit once out of 12-15 matches. My instructor used a method that used movement to force the opponents to stand in a line, so only one could attack. My instinct was instead to stand still and wait, forcing them to converge at a specific point. People don't realize that as a group, they lose individual efficacy unless explicitly trained to fight as a unit (formation fighting was a thing for a reason after all). Nice thing about WTF is that it is highly standardized, so it is simple to produce a syllabus. Shame is it is hard to find people who want to learn, despite my offer to do so for free (they'd buy any pads for sparring if they got to high enough rank, which I believe is 8th Kup).
@@AndoMierzwa Well, there is one specific technique I use as an aid (not sure how combat effective it is, outside of surprising the opponent as an initiator), which demonstrates what I refer to as "force without distance." I refer to the technique either as "The Push" or the "Zero Inch Punch." It demonstrates mass-frame transfer, the effectiveness of sudden acceleration (it's a pop, not a push), and proper breathing to channel the force of breath as kinetic energy (sort of like a bellows). The easiest way to teach it is to use it on the person and then have them use it on you, and it super easy to learn, taking like a minute or less. The point of demonstrating it is that the principles it uses should be used with other techniques. Bruce Lee's one inch punch is a hard, external technique, where as mine is soft and internal. So, for a description of the technique (though not sure how well it will translate in text) is to softly rest your palm on the other person's sternum, feet can pretty much be in any position that grants at least a modicum of stability. Breathe in slowly, then with the abdomen and diaphragm, exhale sharply, but at an extended rate (you need to use the technique while exhaling this way). With the hand resting on the person, suddenly pop your hand forward about an inch or two into the person. Done correctly, it will knock the person back a good 5 to 10 feet. I also know how to defend against it (or rather reflect the force back upon the person, but that's a different story). You are free to try it. Fun little party trick. I've had it tested up to 375 lbs opponents, so they are 110 lbs heavier than me.
Sparring is about simulation of combat so you should go into it knowing you will get hurt. Complaining about contact in sparring is an excuse for people who arent doing so well to get a quick break in so they can retaliate. I've seen it many times
Sir , i have strong muscles but my heart start doing 'dhak dhak ' in very high speed and i am stuck in trying to control my heart and gone bitten please help me to get rid of this please sir 🙏
I’m not a doctor, so if you have a heart ailment, I can’t give you advice on that. But if you’re talking about feeling stressed, just keep breathing and keep trying. Experience leads to peace of mind. 🙏🏻
The first thing the student should do is to communicate with the teacher or the sensei and the teacher shoud solve the problem asap. No instructor should allow a sociopath to be involved taking and learning martial arts. I don't think it's a gift to have a sociopathic partner to learn how to handle street situations, I think the bully shouldn't stay in martial arts under any circumstances.
If talking to the person doesn't help don't be afraid to talk to your teacher there is a good chance that they know about the issue and are waiting to see how people react to it.
Ando Sensei it's different in a street than a dojo on street u fight with no rules and fight against normal guys who are not martial artist but in a dojo your opponent is a martial artist and street fighting is different from sparring
I'm kinda lanky so all the big guys at the gym bully me around in sparring and I usually resort to winging overhands 😅 I refuse too spar anyone too big nowadays that seems to work
Yesterday, I took my first sparring class, One of my sparring partners Daniella took things to far, I got knocked into the wall so hard the impact went through my helmet and I passed out... :c
Girls take it out hard on boys in sparring a lot of the time, kinda goes without saying… doesn’t excuse bad sparring etiquette, just something to consider. Fighting fire with fire here often works well if you get my drift..
what I read up 10 guys worth could you help me because you don't wanna really appreciate it so lightly I have been losing so far now I cannot control my body no more 😭 if you could help I'll do anything to respect
Thank u my wish will granted now On how to stop an out of control sparring thank u Ando And thank u for teaching us on how to take a heavy punch to wall Plzz teach me a Wing Chun Kung Fu!!!!!!
This kinda reminds me of when I was still a beginner. I sometimes encountered out of control sparring partners and even became one when I got skilled enough and I probably caused a beginner to quit which I regret doing.
From my experience, sociopaths, as the bullies they are, abuse lower level and weaker students -so hitting back hard, would make things worse. Telling the bully they are hitting hard is as useless as telling the teacher who already knows and does nothing. Just walk aside and refuse to spar with the sociopath. If teacher calls your attention, you respectfully say I come here to learn not to get abused -bully should spar with more advanced and stronger students -you'll see how all of a sudden the bully stops being aggressive with a stronger sparring partner,,,, if worse comes to worst look for another class or another school where the teacher is not a sociopath or a bully enabling wimp
In fairness, there’s a difference between going for the kill and actually hurting people in the process. I like a challenge, but not injuries! Roll wisely!
My Sparring Partner gets cocky after about 30mins: pushes me back, avoids my kicks, absorbs my punch. I just un-hook it from the tree and throw it back in the garage.
@@AndoMierzwa when not raised properly by parents, people are not socially aware and easily get sucked into the narcissistic abuse bullying psychopath emotional vortex. you nailed it in what comes to dealing with it in life in general as well
@@AndoMierzwa you know what, why don't you continue showing us about the aspects underlying our correct development in this area, how to chose a school, and the whole social aspect?
I had a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu partner elbow me so hard in the face yesterday while I was in his Closed Guard. I knew that sparring with this person was dangerous, but I didn't realize that this person would almost knock out all of my front teeth, I had to peel my bottom lip off of my teeth. My lip is cut REAL bad... When I tried to discuss what happened with him he very surprisingly claimed that it was all of my fault. I've been sparring for 10+ years. I know for a fact that he was 100% at fault which is what makes me sooo angry. I have many other sparring partners, I will not be working with this partner who hurt me anymore. My safety is top priority.
@@AndoMierzwa I actually corrected the situation by asking this training partner to be very careful around my face area. I explained that I didn't want any broken teeth or cuts on my face. The partner respected my request and we trained together without many problems. What I do now is I verbally tell all of my training partners to be extra careful around my face area. Do not break my teeth or cut my face. This is Jiu Jitsu there shouldn't be any violent contact with the face area. Thank you.
@@AndoMierzwa Yes and teeth cost $1,000s of dollars to fix. The training partner almost broke a few of my bottom teeth! He cut the hell out of my bottom lip. I had to peel my bottom lip off of my teeth. And I had skin from my bottom lip stuck in between my teeth. I explained to him that I can hurt him the same way but then we wouldn't be training anymore we'd be actually real fighting.... So before any more bodily damage happens and tempers flare I politely asked all of my dangerous training partners to be extra careful around my face. We made an agreement "Don't break my teeth and I won't break yours" LOL.
By the way, I really appreciate you leaving your script in the description. You always talk really clearly, but for someone with a hearing impairment it really helps to be able to read any words I may have missed or misheard.
I’m happy to hear that! It used to be easier to add closed captions, too, but the system changed. Until I figure it out, this is the best I can do. Thanks for the feedback! 🙏🏻
I have 3 degrees of questions.. 1- if someone hurts me- I ASK if they need help learning to control that movement. 2- ask if they are INTENTIONALLY doing it or accidentlally and 3- ask if they have good medical coverage.. ( I've had that in clase- and I tried the Andy Griffith approach.. didn't work- and the jerk (who WAS a jerk- a spoiled bully type) and why the instructor never said anything I don't know- but I gave him ONE last chance.. and he got rough again- so I put him down-- in a control technique and held him there. I asked ONE LAST TIME-- is this intentionall or what? IF it's intentioinal and you want to make it for REAL- i'll gladly oblige you. He says" I thought you were a blue belt?" (he was brown belt) and I said- IN THIS CLASS I AM a blue belt- but I already have a 5th degree in Kenpo, a 4th in hapkido- and am certified instructor in wing chun... so if you want to keep hurting me-- WE WILL settle this once and for all. he never did it again- to ANYONE in that class.
Just like in a real life self defense situation? Really? Imma just be like "you're hurting me... can you ease off"??! Obviously you've never been in a "Real Life" self defense situation. Do yourself a favor ppl... and skip to this part 7:54 After you've been attacked for "real" and literally shit your pants from the amount of force you have to use to actually defend yourself from an aggressive opponent.... then u can talk about "real life". Here's a tip... always fight with an empty colon.
Interesting. I have tackled such partners, but they were not evil, I talked to them and they were listening. It was done, because they were naive and inexperienced. Not everybody will know, who I am referring to, but nobody wants a Tong-Po in his dojo.
That's exactly it. When I came in as a white belt, I thought I was supposed to murder the bag holder. Master Honeycutt let me know it was "their turn" next. Oh, OK, I get it!
Thanks. Had a person who wouldn’t recognize the tap or hear it for what ever. So after I talked to him he still rolled harder. So I did what I needed to put the brakes on and stayed in mount. But he seemed uneffected. So after I talked to him I did let teach now since he was not in due to illness.
This is often worse when one person is defending and one attacking a common drill we do. So many people are going at it because they know they can't be hit back forgetting you get a turn next.. So our instructor started letting the defender counter punch so the attacker thinks about what they are doing and not leaving themselves open by being wild and undisciplined. The people I'll admit irritate me are those who try and take your head off then moan when you do a soft jab lol hit as hard as you want to be hit.
I let my sparring partner dictate the pace/contact level. Up to a certian point that works for me, but ive had people throw cheap shots 😂 I make them pay for that, so it becomes a learning experience for them..
I fight fire with fire first, if that doesn’t work which it usually does unless they have a weight advantage or something. After that I wait until the end and speak up to them directly.
hey what's up it's me again so you created your own Style the art of fighting without fighting that's a good one for sharing with me what is it about your style that's different God bless
therenis one guy who goes supern hard even if i tell him to calm down becouse i need to learn how to defend mysekf because i have a handicao but he keeps going harder and it is not fun anymore
Hey Ando There's this person in my Muay Thai class and he always hits me hard and injures me but I used your advice (walk away) and the teacher forced me to spar him What should I do?
I have a kid in my class who Is always trying to fight me and apperently he starts by just going in throwing crazy amount of punched and everyone wants me to fight him. I dont k ow how to fight so your helping me a lot thank you
@@AndoMierzwa ok well thank you however he has been pissing me off for so dam long (grade 8 gym class every day all of grade 9 part of grade 10 and now grade 11 however the quarter is almost over and my final class is this thursday, hes such an attention seeker but I've been trying to ignore him long as possible thank you for all these guides I know I'm not prepared it even knowing what to do has made me feel more prepared and I've been focusing on walking like a Martial artist as well I have many people who would back me up in the fight but again thank you
A teacher/instructor who knows that a sociopath is hurting other students -and doesn't fix the problem -is either another fellow sociopath or "afraid" to confront the bully himself.
Agree
My coach knows who’s a bit out of control and let’s them do their thing as he knows it’s our responsibility first to try bring order to the situation, if it comes to one of us having to speak to our partner and ask for less abuse, he steps in and makes an example of them to the whole class. Best practise imo
"Most people are not psychopaths."
True.
Thankfully!
Most are not - but there are more than you'd probably imagine, out there.
@@kenhoward3512 1 out of 20 persons in this world are psychopath
Most aren't clinical psychopaths, but I have seen *many* use martial arts as an outlet for problems in their personal life. It's not at all uncommon for people to try to hurt others in some way. Even kicking the hell out of a bag I'm holding leaving bruises *through the bag*.
I disagree
Thanks for making this video. You cover many aspects of being a martial artist, that often don’t get attention. I appreciate your work and outreach. Thank you!
Thank you! And I appreciate your support, Arlene. Keep fighting!
How to defend yourself when you’re in class learning how to defend yourself 😂😂😂😂😂 that statement got me lol
Crazy, but accurate! 😁
In class everyone learns how to defend themselves prior to sparring. Sparring means utilising and mostly to execute what you have learned so far to defend yourself. You don't just sparr then learn to defend. That would be putting Ando's horse before the cart! Lol
By the way , Ando you have a very intelligent horse I know he tells you all about self defense
We had this guy come in to my karate dojo a couple of times and try to beat up on the lower ranks. The instructors took all of the white and blue belts out during sparring and replaced them with the brown and black belts, who gave him a taste of his own medicine. Needless to say, he got tired of getting beaten up. We've got a pretty good club dynamic, and don't tolerate dickheads
@@praveensharma3456 You remember the horse! :D Awesome! HA!
@@TheRealApricat Looking out for each other... awesome!
This is such an important topic. Thank you Ando for bringing it up and being honest about it.
I’m always honored by your support, sir. Thank you!🙏🏻
"Talk to your partner. It may sound easy" - Well it is not easy with a mouthguard on! ;-)
That’s true! Then you end up spitting on him. 😄
LOL
An opportunity, absolutely. It's not just students who have to deal with this, but full time fighters as well. There was a story I heard on podcast about Carlos Condit (the UFC fighter) when he went with members of his team to train with the USMC. A couple of the marines were joking around about how cool they would be if they could KO him. One of Condits UFC buddies overheard this, & let him know. He wasn't worried, he decided to spar with them anyway. He warned the Marine " I'll give as much as I get". The Marine went for a hard KO, and Condit floored him with a high kick. The whole tent went quiet. (They were on the field). Condits' buddy made the comment; "oh shit, I thought, if this goes sideways people are going to die! " Condit helped the marine up, and they all ended up laughing it off.
Great story and completely on point. Thanks for sharing!
Exactly sociopaths only get more dangerous with martial arts knowledge
I dunno, the pipe in parking lot always works for me
Oh, it works! But I’m not doing time for anybody! 😄
@@AndoMierzwa Agreed
Or the good old tire rod fresh from the trunk
Lmao
Daimond video that should've been made thousands of years ago, from now on i will watch it every time before sparring in order to remind myself how to react in the best type of way
I hope it helped! Stay safe and keep fighting!
Well said and great advice! Use only as much force as the situation warrants.
Exactly right.👍🏼
I saved this video. Some of the best advices i have ever heard about sparring crazy guys. Thanks
Thanks, Danilo!
Hey Ando, wow good timing. Just this week I had to deal several times with aggressive sparing partners. In my Taekwondo class, sometimes we have to spar also against boxers or kick-boxers. These do not really understand light contact. But tip no 1 helps a lot in this case. In most cases, everything is easy then.
Yes! Most people are cool once you tell them what level you want to play on. No point in holding grudges. Happy training to you!
Thanks. Again good advice
Much appreciated, sir!
I missed howdy!! Great audio always!
Ha! HOWDY! 😄
Good morning , great talk for a beginner to listen to , Thanks .
Thanks very much, Bryan!🙏🏻
Great video, you come across very well, thank you
I appreciate that. Thank you! 🙏🏻
Best timing sensei
Hope it helps!
Funny, I only recall you telling me:
That’s OK...I get a turn too.”
This is a really good topic to have covered, both for students and for teachers.
I appreciate that. Thank you! 🙏🏻
Thank you for spreading the awareness. Great video.
Thank you for the kind comment! 🙏🏻
Thank you Sir!
My pleasure! 🙏🏻
as a boxer (but also a gentile person) I'm always getting drilled by psychopaths who show up to sparring with something to prove. I have to take my hat off to you here and wish people had frank discussions about power percentage and safety more often pre-sparring. Only thing I disagree with is that most people are nice about it =P. that is to say, in my experience, unless your partner is dedicated to the sport, there is a good chance they will try and hurt you. I've had really big guys claim they "cant reign it in", truth is they absolutely can, and just don't want to because they do not have the control to be fast/good, and more importantly to them cant look good, without throwing hard strikes. Like you said it feels uncomfortable to criticize people publicly for both sides, but id also be using that to my advantage. embarrass them in the gym if you have to, make them look like a bully and make sure the trainer or coaches are constantly being reminded to do their jobs (which often they don't)
I had this before the man did not know how hard he was hitting me as I was only going for speed hits and we ended up have a 1min full fight then we looked at each other and had a hug he did not like being hit back hard lol
Most bullies don’t like getting hit. True! 👍🏼
My sparring once turned into a real fight while teacher was watching. Ended up destroying him tho, honestly felt pretty good afterwards.
Kevin Zhou I felt the same way
@Joe Blow I know man, I remember the dude was like "What if I do this?" "What if I do that?" when we were practicing the techniques. Once the sparring starts, he just went all out crazy at the get go with HARD PUNCHES! It pissed me off so quickly that I didn't even bother to calm him down by talking.
Caution always, yes. Thanks for the comment!
Glad you made it out alive!
Sensei: If he's going too hard, just talk.
*Me after getting clocked in the Jaw with a full uppercut:* "Hey...what...what the fuck?"
HA! 😄
I almost lost a tooth because of a sparring partner with a higher level. Although I have told him many times that he is too fast for me, he never slowed down- the result was that I became more reluctant and tried to withdraw with a bad stance while trying to keep up- he never wants to listen that I need a slower pace to learn or practice.
Getting hurt is not cool. Stay away from him... improve your skills… then return!
It’s unfortunate but true that overcoming the fear of facing an out of control opponent will be one of the best things you can do for your development as a martial artist. Weeding out the weak and fearful was quite common in the Tae Kwon Do I studied starting in the early seventies. I’ve come to believe that a good balance of technique and toughness with attention to the safety of students is best for the modern schools. Bullies should be dealt with by the higher ranking students before students quit. My instructor would have me or other seniors put bullies in place quickly. A good technique to use against someone going too hard is to guide their more fragile bones , ie. Insteps or hands into compressed knees or elbows. The point of an elbow against the instep of an overzealous roundhouse kick will discourage heavy hitting most of the time. A philly shell defense with tight elbows turned into the opponents fist at the right time will do wonders for his attitude.
Sounds like you’ve been there done that! Thanks for sharing some wise words, sir.
Hi Ando I'm in taekwondo and while sparring a woman half my size just pushes me into the walls but she much older so I dont want to push back and hurt her. What do I do lol I try to do a side kick to push her away but shes always trying to jam/run me over. Thanks for the videos
As a sparring partner, you’re doing her no favors by not teaching her to respect your weapons. You should be able to push her back without hurting her. Do that!
Great talk. I've had many sparring partners who were deliberate in hitting too hard, the usual justification being "this is martial arts, deal with it!".
My feedback: it's not worth being injured. Follow this advise first. But if that doesn't work then give feedback to your instructor that you're not going to spar someone who deliberately injures you. I had a fellow student that had his arm broken during sparring after many injuries, which led him to quit. Try all other options, but at the end of the day, it's your money and your health. (When he tried the same with me, I had to gently axe kick his head a few times as he was not listening to me)
There are 2 people I refuse to spar in my school because they get angry and hurt people. I was respectful yet direct with my master what was going on. It was fine, they didn't pair me with them anymore.
This is tough though. If you're new it's hard to know what is acceptable and what is just to painful. If you talk with your instructor/master, I would approach it by asking them, "could you help me learn how to better defend myself when sparring? I'm getting injured every time." At least with that approach you are asking to learn, not just complain.
A fantastic comment, Keith! 👍🏼 Thanks for sharing your experience and advice. Asking your teacher to help you is still worth a shot the way you presented it. Happy training to you! 🙏🏻
Train hard, fight easy .
Wise words!
As an instructor sometimes I will let a (supervised) mis-matched match continue as it provides a learning opportunity to both partners, one needs to learn control the other to step it up or speak out. A measured amount of adversity might be exactly what the person needs to grow.
That’s why they’re called growing pains! 😄 Just need to find that sweet spot between challenge and injury.
inodoroguerrero I agree. I’ve played tennis since age 10 and you don’t improve if you don’t “play up”.
I totally agree with this, it's a martial art after all.
I get sometimes those who are a higher level than their partner might get frustrated, but coach them and encourage them and they'll improve and you'll have someone to spar who's giving you a harder time.
What good sparrers can do when sparring someone they know they are more accomplished than is to work stuff thry don't do well.
Work your weaker side, work your defence, try a kick or a combo you struggle after all sparring isn't about winning its about improving.
@@jamiephillips7813 Absolutely!
@@grayalun Yes, sir! All good advice!
Great vid!
Thank you very much!
This is what i do. Step1: ask him (kindly)to slow his pace down. Step2: say i dont want to fight you. Step3: go beast mode and destroy him. If youre really new and are a punching bag use step2 or ask the guy to show you defence techniques.
I like the idea of asking him for advice. That might take away some of the insecurity. Thanks for the comment!
Or yell in a rage until someone calls the cops. Lol
That could work!😄
5:13 who needs a shrink when there's this for free on youtube
HA! 😄 I’ll take that as a compliment! Thank you!
this helped me a lot
I hope so! 🙏🏻
Never dealt with one of those, but I am reminded of my one friend who, when sparring, would block my kicks with his elbows every now and then. Being elbowed in the shin hurts a ton and typically results in taking out that limb for the rest of the fight.
In general, I was only allowed to use my full strength against my instructor, the one black belt who was 375 lbs and 6'5", and every now and then with a few of my friends were well versed enough to endure me (one trained at another place and the other trained with me but quit after becoming either a 2nd or 3rd degree black belt). Because of this, I'd train in the lower rank classes, since they are mostly conditioning which I needed, and it was a means of learning to hold back better (in high school, while I was really strong and in shape, I did not know how to pace myself and often had difficulty controlling my strength. While I am way weaker than I had been, back then I was able to kick hard enough that when training on one of the larger water-based heavy bags (or whatever their name is), I broke the threaded tip that screwed the top part into the lower water-filled base.
With regard to training with the lower ranks, I essentially just blocked everything, and during the intermediate classes, I only would strike maybe 3-4 times, but even that occasionally drew out more strength than intended. I had to ask the opponent if I was using too much force quite a bit.
Luke! You always write such thorough comments... do you have a blog yet?
@@AndoMierzwa sort of limited in that regard. I was interested in trying to provide video lessons for TKD and/or my Fencing blend (focus on technique). Sadly, I don't have a good camera for that, as I am limited to my phone and am low on funds. I tried to film a means of how to speed up punching techniques (eliminate wasted movement, understand your own tell and how to eliminate it or use it to your advantage for feinting (most common one being the shoulder twitch, which provides more torque, but eats away at impact force), and focus a lot of recovering quickly so you can defend or continue punching faster). My phone can barely register a common speed punch, let alone an actual quick one, and the file size for it would be enormous.
Also, given my actual rank 1st Kup (despite holding that rank for 10 years while training) means I can't officially increase rank (I believe the kikkiwon requires 2nd degree black belt or higher for that authority), but I can teach technique. I have weird specializations though, such as fighting groups (a result of being assaulted by groups in recess when I was a kid), which I am not sure how to translate very well. I completely ignored my instructor's lessons on that and just went with instinct, while sparring 2-3 people ranking 2nd-4th degree without ever being hit once out of 12-15 matches. My instructor used a method that used movement to force the opponents to stand in a line, so only one could attack. My instinct was instead to stand still and wait, forcing them to converge at a specific point. People don't realize that as a group, they lose individual efficacy unless explicitly trained to fight as a unit (formation fighting was a thing for a reason after all).
Nice thing about WTF is that it is highly standardized, so it is simple to produce a syllabus. Shame is it is hard to find people who want to learn, despite my offer to do so for free (they'd buy any pads for sparring if they got to high enough rank, which I believe is 8th Kup).
@@Bansheexero Well, I hope the time will come when you feel ready to share your art!
@@AndoMierzwa Well, there is one specific technique I use as an aid (not sure how combat effective it is, outside of surprising the opponent as an initiator), which demonstrates what I refer to as "force without distance." I refer to the technique either as "The Push" or the "Zero Inch Punch." It demonstrates mass-frame transfer, the effectiveness of sudden acceleration (it's a pop, not a push), and proper breathing to channel the force of breath as kinetic energy (sort of like a bellows). The easiest way to teach it is to use it on the person and then have them use it on you, and it super easy to learn, taking like a minute or less. The point of demonstrating it is that the principles it uses should be used with other techniques. Bruce Lee's one inch punch is a hard, external technique, where as mine is soft and internal.
So, for a description of the technique (though not sure how well it will translate in text) is to softly rest your palm on the other person's sternum, feet can pretty much be in any position that grants at least a modicum of stability. Breathe in slowly, then with the abdomen and diaphragm, exhale sharply, but at an extended rate (you need to use the technique while exhaling this way). With the hand resting on the person, suddenly pop your hand forward about an inch or two into the person. Done correctly, it will knock the person back a good 5 to 10 feet. I also know how to defend against it (or rather reflect the force back upon the person, but that's a different story). You are free to try it. Fun little party trick. I've had it tested up to 375 lbs opponents, so they are 110 lbs heavier than me.
Sparring is about simulation of combat so you should go into it knowing you will get hurt. Complaining about contact in sparring is an excuse for people who arent doing so well to get a quick break in so they can retaliate. I've seen it many times
It definitely isn’t a game of tag!
5:13 thanks 😂
Welcome! 😁
Sir , i have strong muscles but my heart start doing 'dhak dhak ' in very high speed and i am stuck in trying to control my heart and gone bitten please help me to get rid of this please sir 🙏
I’m not a doctor, so if you have a heart ailment, I can’t give you advice on that. But if you’re talking about feeling stressed, just keep breathing and keep trying. Experience leads to peace of mind. 🙏🏻
@@AndoMierzwa are you suggesting about meditation sir
Sir what you feel when you fight with someone how your heart reacts 😫😫
swag king I think is better to ask a doctor just In case
@@Froge4291 i think you are right because it is started just a few months ago
The first thing the student should do is to communicate with the teacher or the sensei and the teacher shoud solve the problem asap. No instructor should allow a sociopath to be involved taking and learning martial arts. I don't think it's a gift to have a sociopathic partner to learn how to handle street situations, I think the bully shouldn't stay in martial arts under any circumstances.
I just hope the teacher feels the same way!
I got rocked today in a sparring from a guy way bigger than me and i feel really sad don't know why :(
As long as you learned something, that was valuable!
Ando were is your school?..kind regard
Marco
I’m in Los Angeles. Thanks for asking!
and that kind of sparring make others nervous at least beginners like me
Totally normal! 👍🏼
If talking to the person doesn't help don't be afraid to talk to your teacher there is a good chance that they know about the issue and are waiting to see how people react to it.
Hiii ..... How to fight against SOMEONE TALLER ???? Where to puch him ( he would be taller )
My height is 5.9 ....
Chop down the tree. Body shots to bring the head down!
Ando Sensei it's different in a street than a dojo on street u fight with no rules and fight against normal guys who are not martial artist but in a dojo your opponent is a martial artist and street fighting is different from sparring
Different, yet the same! Otherwise training would have no point.
I'm kinda lanky so all the big guys at the gym bully me around in sparring and I usually resort to winging overhands 😅 I refuse too spar anyone too big nowadays that seems to work
Finding your own way to stay challenged and keep learning… that’s what it’s all about.👍🏼
True Wisdom!!!! Thank you my friend.
My pleasure, DWD! 💪🏼🔥
Lol
Yesterday, I took my first sparring class, One of my sparring partners Daniella took things to far, I got knocked into the wall so hard the impact went through my helmet and I passed out... :c
Girls take it out hard on boys in sparring a lot of the time, kinda goes without saying… doesn’t excuse bad sparring etiquette, just something to consider. Fighting fire with fire here often works well if you get my drift..
Facing people rn who don't want to use 16oz in sparring 👌
Excuse: Oh we already bought those (12 oz) so why should we buy 16 oz
🤦♂️
HA! 😄 🥊
what I read up 10 guys worth could you help me because you don't wanna really appreciate it so lightly I have been losing so far now I cannot control my body no more 😭 if you could help I'll do anything to respect
I’m not sure what you’re dealing with, but the answer is always more practice. 🙏🏻
Hey do you know tai chi grappling?
I would say no, not formally. But working on similar concepts!
@@AndoMierzwa thx for reply, which martial arts you study? What type of kung fu? I might have some request videos
@@IbrahimKhalil-bt9yh Thanks for asking! Here's more info about me... www.senseiando.com/about-ando-mierzwa/
Thank u my wish will granted now
On how to stop an out of control sparring thank u Ando
And thank u for teaching us on how to take a heavy punch to wall
Plzz teach me a Wing Chun Kung Fu!!!!!!
Thanks for the kind words, Michael! Sorry I’m not a Wing Chun guy,.🙏🏻
just give up. Surrender. The other way, go beserk too. The Teacher allows it. Study the teacher. Be water.
A lot of advice there!
Unless chickens are smart and good looking : )
🐔😁👍🏼
This kinda reminds me of when I was still a beginner. I sometimes encountered out of control sparring partners and even became one when I got skilled enough and I probably caused a beginner to quit which I regret doing.
At least you’re aware of it!
@@AndoMierzwa yeah I guess so. Although thankfully I was able to myself out of that mentality.
The "Soft Science of Sparring" is as important a skill as everything else you learn.
Absolutely right! It’s a lot more than punches and kicks. Thank you for the comment, sir!
From my experience, sociopaths, as the bullies they are, abuse lower level and weaker students -so hitting back hard, would make things worse. Telling the bully they are hitting hard is as useless as telling the teacher who already knows and does nothing. Just walk aside and refuse to spar with the sociopath. If teacher calls your attention, you respectfully say I come here to learn not to get abused -bully should spar with more advanced and stronger students -you'll see how all of a sudden the bully stops being aggressive with a stronger sparring partner,,,, if worse comes to worst look for another class or another school where the teacher is not a sociopath or a bully enabling wimp
Thanks for sharing your experience! Above all else, protect yourself.👍🏼
I just started boxing and I love watching your tutorials!🙂
Thanks very much! Happy hitting! 🥊
I wonder if anyone bullied Ando or was he the bully?
I don’t anyone would mess with him
By the way Great video love the tips!
I definitely felt bullied more than once, but I was also a jerk more than once. Working on both! 😄
A great example of a friendly smiling person, yet not weak.
Ando Mierzwa don’t worry you definitely changed and thanks for taking the time to read and reply my comment! 🙂
Enjoyable and frank recommendations.
@@xfire6443 Of course! Keep fighting! :)
5:13 oooh youuuu 😊
HA! 😄
i do ju jitsu, blue belt, and there's another blue belt that goes in for the kill every time with everyone, don't know how he got a blue belt lol
In fairness, there’s a difference between going for the kill and actually hurting people in the process. I like a challenge, but not injuries! Roll wisely!
"Or, it could be a sociopath who knows EXACTLY what they're doing"
My Sparring Partner gets cocky after about 30mins: pushes me back, avoids my kicks, absorbs my punch.
I just un-hook it from the tree and throw it back in the garage.
HA! 😄👍🏼
Best partner
There is always someone who hits way too hard in sparring. I'll remember this video next time.
Awesome. Protect yourself!
So much truth in this video I had to watch it twice.
That means a lot to me! Thank you!🙏🏻
@@AndoMierzwa when not raised properly by parents, people are not socially aware and easily get sucked into the narcissistic abuse bullying psychopath emotional vortex. you nailed it in what comes to dealing with it in life in general as well
@@eveliinatistelgren172 It sounds like you've made it through some stormy weather. Keep fighting the good fight, Eveliina!
@@AndoMierzwa you know what, why don't you continue showing us about the aspects underlying our correct development in this area, how to chose a school, and the whole social aspect?
@@eveliinatistelgren172 Those are worthy topics for sure. I'll add them to my list. :)
Great advice.
Thank you very much! 🙏🏻
Give him a TEMPORARY "out of body" experience!!! ha. (kidding, of course)..
this is gold
I appreciate that. Thank you! 🙏🏻
Thats where a coach comes in.
But sometimes when things escalated you'd have to take them down too...
Exactly. Even a good coach can’t always see what’s going on. It’s always up to you first. 👍🏼
I had a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu partner elbow me so hard in the face yesterday while I was in his Closed Guard. I knew that sparring with this person was dangerous, but I didn't realize that this person would almost knock out all of my front teeth, I had to peel my bottom lip off of my teeth. My lip is cut REAL bad... When I tried to discuss what happened with him he very surprisingly claimed that it was all of my fault. I've been sparring for 10+ years. I know for a fact that he was 100% at fault which is what makes me sooo angry. I have many other sparring partners, I will not be working with this partner who hurt me anymore. My safety is top priority.
It sounds like you’ve got your priorities in the right order. 👍🏼👍🏼
@@AndoMierzwa I actually corrected the situation by asking this training partner to be very careful around my face area. I explained that I didn't want any broken teeth or cuts on my face. The partner respected my request and we trained together without many problems. What I do now is I verbally tell all of my training partners to be extra careful around my face area. Do not break my teeth or cut my face. This is Jiu Jitsu there shouldn't be any violent contact with the face area. Thank you.
@@alexanderdoorknocker Well done. Tell them you're a model and you've got to protect your moneymaker! :)
@@AndoMierzwa Yes and teeth cost $1,000s of dollars to fix. The training partner almost broke a few of my bottom teeth! He cut the hell out of my bottom lip. I had to peel my bottom lip off of my teeth. And I had skin from my bottom lip stuck in between my teeth. I explained to him that I can hurt him the same way but then we wouldn't be training anymore we'd be actually real fighting.... So before any more bodily damage happens and tempers flare I politely asked all of my dangerous training partners to be extra careful around my face. We made an agreement "Don't break my teeth and I won't break yours" LOL.
@@alexanderdoorknocker Well done! :D
By the way, I really appreciate you leaving your script in the description. You always talk really clearly, but for someone with a hearing impairment it really helps to be able to read any words I may have missed or misheard.
I’m happy to hear that! It used to be easier to add closed captions, too, but the system changed. Until I figure it out, this is the best I can do. Thanks for the feedback! 🙏🏻
Absolutely true sensei. Im an introvert for the most part. So i tend to follow the third tip most of the time! 😅.
Nothing wrong with that! Stay safe!👍🏼
I have 3 degrees of questions.. 1- if someone hurts me- I ASK if they need help learning to control that movement. 2- ask if they are INTENTIONALLY doing it or accidentlally and 3- ask if they have good medical coverage.. ( I've had that in clase- and I tried the Andy Griffith approach.. didn't work- and the jerk (who WAS a jerk- a spoiled bully type) and why the instructor never said anything I don't know- but I gave him ONE last chance.. and he got rough again- so I put him down-- in a control technique and held him there. I asked ONE LAST TIME-- is this intentionall or what? IF it's intentioinal and you want to make it for REAL- i'll gladly oblige you. He says" I thought you were a blue belt?" (he was brown belt) and I said- IN THIS CLASS I AM a blue belt- but I already have a 5th degree in Kenpo, a 4th in hapkido- and am certified instructor in wing chun... so if you want to keep hurting me-- WE WILL settle this once and for all.
he never did it again- to ANYONE in that class.
You are the bully buster!
talk to your sparring apponent
mouth guards "Am i a joke to you"
Thanks, Marilyn!
When sparring with my partner, he hurt me real bad,then I almost broke his two fingers with my blocks then I told my teacher about him
I would definitely set down some terms with that guy. Stay safe!
Just like in a real life self defense situation? Really? Imma just be like "you're hurting me... can you ease off"??! Obviously you've never been in a "Real Life" self defense situation. Do yourself a favor ppl... and skip to this part 7:54
After you've been attacked for "real" and literally shit your pants from the amount of force you have to use to actually defend yourself from an aggressive opponent.... then u can talk about "real life".
Here's a tip... always fight with an empty colon.
De-escalation is legit. But I agree about having an enema every time you leave the house. 😄
Interesting. I have tackled such partners, but they were not evil, I talked to them and they were listening. It was done, because they were naive and inexperienced. Not everybody will know, who I am referring to, but nobody wants a Tong-Po in his dojo.
We all need to be humbled. 😁
That's exactly it. When I came in as a white belt, I thought I was supposed to murder the bag holder. Master Honeycutt let me know it was "their turn" next. Oh, OK, I get it!
HA! 😄 Some lessons are harder than others!
Thanks. Had a person who wouldn’t recognize the tap or hear it for what ever. So after I talked to him he still rolled harder. So I did what I needed to put the brakes on and stayed in mount. But he seemed uneffected.
So after I talked to him I did let teach now since he was not in due to illness.
Thanks for being responsible. 👍🏼
This is often worse when one person is defending and one attacking a common drill we do.
So many people are going at it because they know they can't be hit back forgetting you get a turn next..
So our instructor started letting the defender counter punch so the attacker thinks about what they are doing and not leaving themselves open by being wild and undisciplined.
The people I'll admit irritate me are those who try and take your head off then moan when you do a soft jab lol hit as hard as you want to be hit.
You really learn a lot about a person when you give them the power to hit you! 😄
I let my sparring partner dictate the pace/contact level. Up to a certian point that works for me, but ive had people throw cheap shots 😂 I make them pay for that, so it becomes a learning experience for them..
Sparring… It’s a give-and-take situation! 😄
These tips only apply if you dont hear Giorno's theme playing somewhere in the backgrohnd
HA! 😄
I fight fire with fire first, if that doesn’t work which it usually does unless they have a weight advantage or something. After that I wait until the end and speak up to them directly.
Do what you gotta do!
3:37 If students are the ones who are responsible for their safety then what's the point of having a martial arts instructor?
We all have to take care of ourselves first. That’s life.
Rules should be set before you spare how hard and what is allowed . Once you break that it is open game within reason. Great video Ando
There’s always someone trying to take advantage. Thanks for the comment, sir!
0:00 Ando: Hey Superstar
Me: Hello 🤗
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Ando Mierzwa Wazzup m8, I love your videos, you’re awesomee
@@superstar7931 Thanks! You're awesome, too!
hey what's up it's me again so you created your own Style the art of fighting without fighting that's a good one for sharing with me what is it about your style that's different God bless
Everybody is their own style. Some people just own it more than others! Bless you, too!
therenis one guy who goes supern hard even if i tell him to calm down becouse i need to learn how to defend mysekf because i have a handicao but he keeps going harder and it is not fun anymore
Avoid that guy. Self-defense takes many forms!
The first tip was the best and can be used to fix so many problems before they get worst =Communication...
Yes, sir. Communication is a safe and inexpensive solution! 😁
I am the out of control sparring partner
HA! 😄
Fight smart, run away is a must because run could have time for react.
Always run... if you can.
Wing chun is a good style for self defense
It surely can be!
This vídeo is so awesome i have no words to say right now
You said enough. Thank you! 🙏🏻
Sensei Ando... you look a little bit like the ultimate warrior in that picture LOL
Hey Ando
There's this person in my Muay Thai class and he always hits me hard and injures me but I used your advice (walk away) and the teacher forced me to spar him
What should I do?
Tell your teacher what you just told me. If he doesn’t care about you getting hurt, find a different coach!
Thank you
Great advice and thank you for responding
@@Ismail-lh3bj My pleasure!
I have a kid in my class who Is always trying to fight me and apperently he starts by just going in throwing crazy amount of punched and everyone wants me to fight him. I dont k ow how to fight so your helping me a lot thank you
Avoid that guy if you can. Only fight back if there’s no choice. If you can’t talk or run, protect your head and focus on your own moves, not his! 🙏🏻
@@AndoMierzwa ok well thank you however he has been pissing me off for so dam long (grade 8 gym class every day all of grade 9 part of grade 10 and now grade 11 however the quarter is almost over and my final class is this thursday, hes such an attention seeker but I've been trying to ignore him long as possible thank you for all these guides I know I'm not prepared it even knowing what to do has made me feel more prepared and I've been focusing on walking like a Martial artist as well I have many people who would back me up in the fight but again thank you
@@bruce4139 It sounds like you're already winning without fighting. Stay safe!
@@AndoMierzwa lol thank you
I remember this next time I fight that psychopath!
A new era begins!🙌🏼
Great advices, as usual. Thank you Sensei! 🙏
My pleasure, Paulo! Thank you!