Let women chase you. I found out in my early 30s that I needed to take care of, ME. So I did. I did what I needed to do, worked hard, enjoyed hobbies, met people who enjoyed the same hobbies, bought a house as a single person. I have no bills, no debt, frugal, in no way shape or form am I rich, but I'm comfortable. I'm now 38, best shape of my life, yeah I work 70-80 hours a week, but women are chasing me left and right. Take care of YOU first, then let everything fall into place.
I’m 44, jog 30 miles a week, had one almost literally hit me w/her car as I was going across a crosswalk. She did that just to get my attention. How am I not sure you’ll do the same if you get mad when we’re dating. I go for a jog to blow off steam and your insecure a!s think I’ll meet sm1 the same way I met you and you follow me🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️. 3 others did the same but not like her.
thats really great but women in their 30s are different that women in their 20s, women in their 20s have dudes lining up for them so they aren't gonna chase you
I recently went on a date with an attractive woman. I really liked her but the feeling wasn’t mutual and so she tried to friend zone me. I said no thanks. If she doesn’t like you on date, she’s not going to like you as a friend. Simple as that.
I agree. No reason to torture yourself trying to get someone to like you. Just move on. There is someone that wants you "out there". It sounds like you have a good grasp of what is going on. Best of luck to you sincerely.
So true. Took me years to learn that. It saves so much frustration when you put this into practice and move on. Also found that the woman you like will be keen to drag the friendship thing on as it provides affirmation for them (but does nothing for you).
Is a natural phenomenon of Demand and supply in economics .....when ever u demand too much attention from a girl ....u raise her price .....and sometimes u can't pay .......just reverse it and u will be fine
Women are just a biological need, to marry and be a relationship is a social demand, but to focus on yourself it is your spiritual need which will bring true happiness not a woman.
Most of us are completely quiting dating because they don't care about fitness or kids now and just want "someone to pay for me". When asked if they want a "good man" with average income or a "rich cheater", they pick the cheater every time. They don't want someone reliable, they want someone they can con or trap into child support and marriage for the money. That's why almost none of us are getting married now. Stay far away, wear a bodycam. Not worth it.
Not true. Not having the opportunity to perpetuate your genes, for males, takes a huge toll on your emotional and overall well being. I agree that you got to focus and try to love yourself first, to the best of your abilities and human limitations; but once you've done that, or keep improving it, and yet, the harsh reality of things negate you the possibility of reproduction and finding human love (a spouse), it is barely impossible to be sincerely happy in this existence experience. Your comment applies very well for monks and priests, but that's about it; not for the average Joe with basic human needs as Maslow takls about in his pyramid.
@@you_dont_wanna_know1969 You have to read the research in this matter. On the one hand, it is stated that much of the happiness that you feel towards your spouse is bound to how sexually active you are with them, hence the biological need and urge to copulate and impregnate are factors in your so called happiness and well-being. Look at how rampant are divorces and affairs after marriage, after having children, especially in the West. Sexless marriages are bound to fail. Happiest couples also report the frequency of orgasms and factors that drive a woman to "love" you such as wealth, penile length and girth, fertility, strength, all of which are symbols of power. The social, cultural demands to get married and have a spouse are also based on religion and economics. Research also reports how marriage has led to economic problems which lead to health, psychological problems for couples and their families.
@@jacqueslee2592 Clearly, you have to read more about this matter, deeply. I don't see how your last words clash against my 1st comment, since they're not mutually excluded. My 1st comment still withstands against your 1st comment. Your 2nd comment it's a (true) red herring on the conversation, but does not improve your 1st position. Not a good try.
"Walk AWAY! Don't Chase Women..." isn't in there even once. JP says tons of interesting things, so why not use something he said instead of putting words in his mouth that he doesn't say in this lecture?
@@jimmyd6111 Never seen any evidence of that. He champions marriage. He has a good marriage himself and always speaks well of his wife. Also, he frequently refers to the maturing opportunities that marriage offers to those who are willing to see it through. I would say the caption mischaracterizes him completely.
@stellareeber2753 I have listened to a lot of his content, yes he does love his wife and yes he is good it appears with his marriage. But he has also said that the generation today is missing the point of marriage and gender roles as a whole
Didn't even have to watch this video to know that he didn't say it. Anyone who's actually listened to his stances on life and relationships knows that he would never say this.
I was in relationships for 25 years, had three kids, raised them on my own as single dad when their mother left. I've been single for seven years now, and I have little desire to be in another relationship other than for casual sex. I barely socialise outside of work or family but I am no longer unhappy.
one of the men in these discussions say... I really appreciate a woman or women for their good heart, humility nice smile, creativity and a the same time I really appreciate the parents who took care of them and gave them all the love, and empathy and taught them values. People have become so materialistic talking about material things and short-term pleasure that they never say. You know what I really appreciate a family with great values that raised this woman to have charisma, a good heart and great values. I would like to spend family dinners with them because they like humor. One day will give all my love to my son and daughter as these parents gave to this woman that I would like to marry. And want to be appreciated for how I will raise my daughter and son. Relationships are mutual. Love is energy. Love isnt about logic.
for all that unhappy you're takling about....all i see is a very lonely person trying to justify being alone and not hurt again. meanwhile , your children grow up without a mother, you end up a recluse, barely socializing, yet you claim you're not unhappy. yeah sure. keep telling yourself until you believe it, but i sure don't
I was 20, decided to go to the gym and University. My girlfriend dumped me when I told her this, and within a few weeks she was dating a guy in his late 20s who had a job and money. When I turned 30 I enjoyed telling that same girl where to go when she called me to “give it one more go”. I had money, great home in a great location and was fitter than ever, but most of all I was happy. I met a great traditional woman, married her and now have two kids to her. I’m 50 now, and my original girl is single, alone, in a small apartment with no kids, and whilst at 20 she was stunning, her beauty is now well and truly gone from her life, as am I. Stay focused brothers, work on yourself in your 20s and in 10 years you’ll be immense!
To be honest, your ex is better off in her small apartment, than your wife who is married to a man who gloats over the lack of success of another who hurt him 30 years ago. Forgive and move on already.
@@acs2735I think my wife would disagree, in fact I know she would, as would my ex. Not gloating, just giving young boys hope that things get better when you improve yourself. I moved on long ago, you should take my advice.
@@itsagoal182 I should move on? From what? I am not the one talking about my ex 😂. You are🫵🏻🙄. Buy your wife some flowers. Have a good day, friend. I am sure your intentions were mainly good 😁.
@@acs2735you’re talking about my ex, perhaps you don’t have one of your own? I’d bet you struggle with self improvement and find others who succeed difficult to cope with. If I want to talk about my ex to help emphasise self improvement I will, that’s the beauty of free speech. I hope you manage to find time to work on yourself like I have, you’ll be better for it I’m sure. Enjoy.
Never make women the top priority in life. Make your health, career, hobbies, friends, relatives etc the top priority. Learn to live with or without women. Focus on yourself, work hard, make lot of money, have lot of fun. Life is too short to spare time for women's emotional drama.
A good woman will positively affect all the aspects of life you are mentioning. And having a relationship is part of being healthy.. learning how to have a good relationship is part of the whole, but you do you I guess
But what if lying to ourselves gets boring. It might be better to openly enjoy doing the above in context of delivering for women, rather than being covert about it and pretending it's unrelated. Don't worry, you will get old, and then the importance of women will decline fast.
I dated a girl, it was like for a two months, she's keep telling me that her previuos relationship was toxic and she will never come back to her ex, and she telling me this twice in a month or so, even if I didn't even start this conversation about previuos relationships and etc... I knew that if a girl start to talk about her ex and says "never" she is really missing him or so... So i immediatly felt cold on my side, and after that I couldn't even date with her and talk about future plans.. Idk why, but I felt that naturally. After we aggree to take a break and go our own ways, after one week, I saw on her ex instagram that she went on a trip with him, they looked happy. I also felt happy, because I knew that this will come, and I don't want to waste my time with her. No hard feelings, but it sucks, when women's try to fill their emptyness with just a random guy's, while we the man's doing this by being alone and try to take shit out of ourselfs by our own.
I passed a relationship when she is always pending on me, because i was sick and in depression. But now I am happy with myself, and I have improved my self-esteem, I have improved my health. But now she doesn't want to stay with me. Many women just know to love when someone need her, that's why they choose men with problems, illness, mental problems, problems with the law.
bin in one of those relationships, you did the right thing. and that's right. These girls be trying to fill empty gaps, that's life. Spoil yourself with everything you work for in life and be happy with yourself. if you cant become your own best friend nobody else will. Something learned to live with, high expectations of society and girls even though women may be the gatekeepers of nature there will always be younger girls to that will take there places in a better situation. Dont forget guys women clocks tell a different time that ours they dont have much time to bring that life forward into the world we do. And don't take it the wrong way folks im not tring to say one is better than the other men and women both need each other.
"Seek ye first the Kingdom of Heaven, and HIS righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you". Its not about focusing on others, its not about focusing on yourself, its about focusing on God, and your life will fall into place
i focused on santa claus and i never got that red bicycle. . . . the same applies with your KINGDOM of HEAVEN and HIS BS Brainwashed relgious drivel. no one who didn't get this stuff crammed into their head at age 5 believes any of that crap
end stage capitalism is not pretty and it will only get worse...now more than ever men need this wisdom at a younger and younger age...teach them well!
@@TheOceanMan-xc7qpI’ve met some men who say their dad never taught him anything about being a man or doing manly things. Including my own Dad. Everything manly he learned is because he decided he wanted to learn those things. My dad has worked on lots of cars, built things, installed doors, painting, maintenance work, house diy projects, fixed computers, always helped people in the community etc.. so did some of my uncles & and my grandfather on my moms side. It became rare to see guys my age not doing any of these things. It’s like they were never given the tools, advice, space and guidance from Other men on how to be a man. A man that women want to marry & build a family with. Both men & women need skills, values, responsibility in order to build a relationship & family. Most of them chose drinking alcohol, partying, smoking weed, hanging out.. kind of hard to be motivated to be a wife when he’s not making himself attractive by behaving like a teenager. Also didn’t help that our parents coddled us thinking it would make our lives less harder than theirs were. Not realizing it stunted us, emotionally & mentally. Maybe we need more teachers in the world, and for them to actually put more faith in the youth that they CAN handle being more responsible & stop treating them like helpless babies who will have to learn on their own once they move out because they don’t want to prepare them for adulthood for some reason
More men should be asking, "Is this woman worthy to be the mother of my children?" She will be forced to stand or fall on the basis of character as men have always done.
Most men are lucky if one woman is even considering them as potential father of their children. You don't get to be as choosy as you might like. Same goes for most women. Only top 10% of men and top10% of women get to choose, maybe and not always.
I was literally in this position two days ago, she said she wasnt ready for a relationship after telling me she had never met anyone like me, then proceeded to tell me she wanted to still get to know me.... i cut ties there and then, wished her all the best in what ever she did ect and havr made no contact since, its bloody hard and my brain is trying to trick me that i have i done the wrong thing, it sure isnt easy.
I’m about to cut ties with a woman in a similar fashion -Telling her that I value my own time/needs too highly to accept being “an option” to her moving forward, and that I am moving on with my search for the right partner to build a lasting relationship with & wishing her the best of luck. It definitely sucks because I’m actually into her, the sex was insane, & I thought we wanted similar things long-term, but allowing her to string me along emotionally while she’s off dating other men & potentially being intimate with them is a far worse place to be IMO 🤷♂️
I did the reproduction thing after much rejection. After 3 years of marriage my wife became a monster threatening me with accusations of sexual abuse of my kids if I ever got out of line. Once my kids were old enough to not go along with her schemes I left her. Now I am 8 years going without a single relationship and I am quite happy. the biological need is much smaller so women hold little power over me. The funny thing is that they still think I think the same as when I was 20. Very entitled.
They say women mature before men when we are young. But in my observation, men continue to mature while women get stuck in their 20s mindset all their life, not all, but many to make it a general statement.
I was thinking this the other night. It’s all bs. Women are not more mature than men. In fact at age 27, I’m usually the more mature one in a relationship. Also the fact that they cannot out smart me, bothers them. So they walk away. I see right through them@@Straightastheycome
I meet a women who told me she had 3 kids with 3 different fathers and she got upset with me because I don’t date women who have kids because of my own beliefs. She went marbles when I said I don’t date women with kids so I told her out of your 3 mistakes you yet realize your mistakes and you expect me who has no kids to father in for them 😅you are mental and that’s not my problem 😂 especially if the kids fathers remarried and had kids with another women . Im not picking up where he left off 😂. Single men with no kids has some morales and find a women with no kids is your best gamble
bro, I also have that attitude. I don't date single mom girls. there are a lot of them. I am in early 30s,so now I have the best choice to choose. but, no single mom's!
Generally I agree with you - however not all women with kids are a problem. Each case has its own story and we must not judge. You might meet a fantastic women who has a child or even two children and she doesn’t necessarily need you to look after them because her ex is doing a good job of that. Not all ex-husbands are bad. Many continue to be excellent fathers and these women are just looking for a new partner, not a father for their children. What’s most important is how compatible you are as a couple, do you have desire for one another, are you a good fit for each other etc. Don’t immediately judge or rule people out unless of course you absolutely cannot stand any woman in the world who may have a child before she met you. A childless woman is no guarantee of happiness either. Focus on overall compatibility, values and attraction. That’s where you will find greater success. Good luck
@@KaitraderI lived w/a woman for 2 years that had 2 teenagers and a toddler. It was dope af. I have kids so I knew how to relate to them. But I can totally understand a single man w/no kids finding it difficult taking on sm1 else’s kids. That’s no joke.
What men need to understand to attract women and what to do towards them to have them go absolutely ape shit over them, is this... absolutely nothing. Instead of doing amything towards them, focus on your self, respect yourself, love, accept and build yourself fully and I promise you, women will chase you more and more, at an exponential rate.
@@mama1bear65 ladies pick and choose and subconsciously or not make themselves available to the men they want. It is the man's job to make the move but he shouldn't be chasing women.
"High Value" is totally misunderstood and misrepresented today. A high value man or woman, is a person that has the ability to resist temporary temptation, rather than give in to it. When you cannot resist, you are sending a message that you are weak, and have little control over yourself, and this can translate into weakness and little control over so many other things in your life. That is not a high value quality.
"high value" is totally personal. I am a hermit. I have a very high IQ. Does this make me "high value to women?" I also have NO DEBT and a insane high credit score. Does this make me "high value to women?" If you said "no" to the first question, but YES to the second one.....then you are probably female.
A high value man or woman, is a person that has the ability to resist temporary temptation, rather than give in to it...... BS....lmpulsive behaviour has been around since dawn of time sending a message u are weak? to whom? your mom? lol
2:06 - Women select men which already selected them. Woman can select all day long, but if a man doesn't select her and approach, her “selection” becomes meaningless.
100% - many men would take anything just for even a possibility of companionship, even if short lived because they know if they don't they could be waiting years for that chance again - if at all.@KevinStClair-ln5ir
Married nearly 23 years. It is so frustrating to married to a woman who tells me to lead but she gives the directions. She always wants first then decides if it is worth reciprocating. I am only in her sights as a servant to her needs. She truly sees her needs first and I am that fruit salad that if forgotten in the back of the freezer.
This issue he starts so logically and wise and then in the middle he goes in all directions, which makes the speech totally stupid FOR ONE VIDEO. This should not be taken out of a long speech, out of context.
Idk dude for me it felt like he just went all over the place with whatever came to his mind. Kind of like listening to two AIs beeing arranged in a loop and just babbeling about. There was no red line, no proper direction, no higher topic that envelopes all of what he said. Just a shotgun of (mostly) nice sounding calender sentences shooting in all directions.
@@TheJimbo1791it's because he's presenting in front of a class, which makes sense why he tend to go in different directions. But then you have people converting it into a video with sappy music in the background, and then it becomes difficult to follow
Hi. I gazed on a rose and beheld its beauty and fragrance. I grasped for it thinking to make it mine, but it stung me and left tears in my eyes. The rose's treacherous beauty too often describes love: long after the petals have fallen the thorns remain. Cheers, P.R.
@@kantraxoikol6914 Hi kantrax. Oh dear, my attempt at poetic profundity has flopped in your case. If you'd kindly inform me what kind of drivel you like, I'll try to knock you up something. How about this? A KNICKER A KNACKER THE LASS IS A CRACKER, OR THAT'S WHAT SHE SEEMED TO ME. AND ALTHOUGH SHE WAS SWEET I SOON GOT COLD FEET, WHEN SHE TALKED ABOUT MATRI-MO-NY. I hope that is lowbrow enough for you, I definitely wouldn't (not ever) descend to writing dirty limericks. 😄 Cheers, P.R.
High quality women also don't chase men. For both genders chasing is not right. But if you are successful and you find a woman who you feel is worth it pursue her. Chasing and pursuing are two different things. There are many guys who are rich and successful but damn lonely. Ppl all need someone who deeply care for them, someone to trust and love. The girls who chase successful men are mostly gold diggers. They are the flies around the cake
That is in Female dominant cultures. Asian and most of Latin American cultures are totally different. The man dominates and relationships are better in my opinion.
All my life, all I have ever focused on is myself. My health, my career, my hobbies, my physical shape, my education, everything. And by the “knowledge” videos such as these possess, I should be attracting women left and right, but I am not. I should not be pressured or concerned about finding a soulmate, but I am. It may be true when people say you don’t “need” women to feel fulfilled, or happy. But after only hearing the words “I love you” out of one person’s mouth in my entire life, I feel like there are at least a few who would understand how much I am yearning for that level of connection again. And I also hope that I am not alone in the fact that I am stricken with a horrible anger whenever I hear things such as “focus on yourself, you don’t need a woman”. Who are you, to tell me what I need? Who are you to tell me what I want? “Let women chase you”, I wish they would. I am not a monk. I am not a priest. I am not an unshakable being of stoicism. I am a man. A human man. And I desire love, affection, care, empathy and compassion from a woman whom I could love. And if THAT is a hard ask, then I believe I am wasting my time on this earth, living.
You desire the wrong thing. Accept that as your problem bc it is. You've already only focused on yourself and "there you have it!". Seek God and the rest will be added.
@@zellerized”Seek God” is just about the worst advice I keep hearing. I was raised Christian and have been questioning my faith for a *very* long time. Sure, let me just replace my longing for a physical, human connection for an imaginary being.
@@Veil_ofthevoid Let me answer this is two ways from the same perspective. I long for affection and appreciation, as most men do. It isn't asking for much yet I find modern women care more about what they want than seeing that pleasing their men would grant them many wishes and love. Yet, my marriage has been takken over by cell phone and social media. Our sex life and time together has literally disappeared. My wife sees her wants and needs first and I am on the backburner. I know God doesn't turn me down when I want to spend time with Him. It's the only time I feel wanted and I am at peace with this time. It's much better than being turned down and laying next to a woman who rather be on Facebook than five minutes with me. Even if I remained single, I still would seek God in times of solitude.
@@n9wff You sound like an amazing husband. Truly. God sees you in your pain. I wish healing for your wife. Many women marry for the wrong reasons. Maybe couples’ therapy would help?
@ryangrey95 He never says that in this video, he lost the plot here and people are commenting like if he did say it..unbelievable..I lost a few minutes of my life listening to this :)
Steve Dahl said it best on one of his radio shows "If you had a job making $100 thousand a year you wouldn't have to look for women, women would be looking for you "
Men select women based on looks and socioeconomic viability. Most men that I know who are not considered (by their fellow male counterparts) as “ Alpha “ , actually need to look for a women who can help them economically. It typically takes two to finance a household. The problem hits when a male doesn’t understand that those women are still expected to carry on a full second shift at home. Unfortunately, the man needs to help out with childcare and domestic work around the house. Most men have not been conditioned nor raised to think that this is part of their role in a committed relationship. A few Years ago, I heard a male psychologist at a medical conference say this: “ If a women has to help a man in what is traditionally his role as the prime financial provider of the family unit, then the man has to also step up and help the female in her domestic duties “. Actually makes sense, otherwise no one has any time to invest into the relationship with their children, extended family or other human relationships which enrich our lives
That was the intent behind doubling the work force - cutting the value of labor in half, forcing women to also get income to make up for the financial deficit so that parenting would be outsourced and the possibility of bigger families would be diminished.
@@thebarbelllifestyle1478 maybe, but the gap of power in previous relationships lead to a lot of abuse towards women, as power corrupts and that happens in the family unit too. So women used this to close that gap somewhat.
Always to seek to conquer myself rather Than . Gold - fortune. - Seneca My energy just wanderderd In to this galaxy I have had some fun along the way Its been great
Anger is often triggered by the anger of another being directed at you, or by feelings of frustration and discontentment. Of course, irritation also plays a part from time to time.
@@kantraxoikol6914 You can be irritated without it rising to the level of anger. A neighbor playing loud music might irritate you, but not get you angry. Of course, there is a fine line between the two, and we are really just debating semantics... So, whatever.
I love Jordon Peterson. He's a GENIUS. He's a Great Man. Geat Men are the ones to listen to and follow because listening tp Great / Highly intelligent men will help guide a good Man to a Great Life. 🙂
This video is impressive! For once Jordan Peterson talks candidly, although covertly, about his own actual position in the challenging game of masculine life. This is encouraging! It is the potential beginning of transformation!
one of the men in these discussions say... I really appreciate a woman or women for their good heart, humility nice smile, creativity and a the same time I really appreciate the parents who took care of them and gave them all the love, and empathy and taught them values. People have become so materialistic talking about material things and short-term pleasure that they never say. You know what I really appreciate a family with great values that raised this woman to have charisma, a good heart and great values. I would like to spend family dinners with them because they like humor. One day will give all my love to my son and daughter as these parents gave to this woman that I would like to marry. And want to be appreciated for how I will raise my daughter and son. Relationships are mutual. Love is energy. Love isnt about logic.
Being a man I feel invisible in todays world having to show respect yet receiving very little of it. I wish I could attain this high value that others seem to have
So disinterested in being used as a wallet, to the point to where if I did accidentally make some cash, I’m looking forward to that stash ending up in the fireplace rather than giving it to a society that hates me.
Ok, I’ve realized. These guidance videos of male attraction don’t help. There’s something with the youtube algorithm that recommends these types of videos. I got my wisdom but videos like these are only a reminder of what I don’t have. No matter how powerful the message may be, it drives more anxiety and thought to my mind about this subject. I’m much happier when I don’t think about finding love. Getting away from it and forgetting actually puts me in random situations with women that I interact with naturally. I’m amazed, but when I’m constantly boggled by lustful and emotional distress which these videos assist on, overthinking and weakness ensues. These types of videos don’t help me anymore and I hope this comment helps someone.
Andrew Tate: "Modern women are picky, shallow, and entitled. They are willing to share the same successful man with 30 other women to keep what that successful man can provide for them. Yet there can be 30 single men who aren't as successful or even successful that never stand a chance with any of those women. Social media has changed the global dating landscape so much that the vast majority of men realize they don't measure up and they refuse to date."
@cowman1970 As a woman I can give you feedback just to make a point that women are far from shallow. I just watched your video where you talk about getting nearly done for shop lifting. I'm very sorry to tell you this, you do come across as creepy and shallow. You show no emotion in your face. The story you told was completely unfocussed: what was the message you were trying to convey? If we were at a date, I wouldn't know what to think about that story if you had told me. Women are humans just like you. And if we truly wanted to generalise, men are mostly uninterested in anything cerebral when they interact with women. Now before you hastily draw any conclusions, I'm married and not embittered and in the dating scene. But being married or unmarried wouldn't make any difference in my assessment of the world. If something isn't working out for you maybe something is off. You would be wise to seek to find out why. The world can't be wrong as a whole. Be well.
There are actually lots of women who are not able to attract male sexual partners. Some of these women become lesbians, and others just remain celibate all their lives.
There is absolutely NO women that can't get sex, none. They may not be able to get sex with who they want (ie she is obese and he is a hot six figure earner) but no woman struggles in that department for the simple reason that nearly all men will literally f*** any women they can get except for again, maybe a hot. six figure earner.
After my wife passed away last year. I knew I would remain single. Being in my 50s I saw the writting on the wall. Modern women are incapeable of fostering meaningful and productive relationships. It's best to remain single. It's best to avoid the drama and headache they bring.😂
I've been asked out a couple of times this year for coffee. I always say no. I let them chase me. i'm still single, but i I have faith it's the best strategy and i'm sticking with it. ty 4 vid
You are afraid to approach them so you took the coward way out. Trust me we are all afraid but you need family and kids. If you don’t have kids then you failed as a human being. Nature just want you to reproduce. Work on your confidence and you will get there
The only factor of irritation from other people is from the observer. You are observing somebody else and you are the one that is becoming irritated by that observation you can become irritated by your own self, simply observing yourself and becoming irritated by your own behavior. This is the first step to selfimprovement and real actualization of personal positive change. Especially in cultivation of unconditional joy, which is essentially not allowing conditions to be set on your own personal joy you’re not going to put trivial things as a condition for your joy you’re not going to put anything as a condition for your joy because joy is different than happiness happiness is physical joy is more spiritual, irrelevant of outside conditions is something that you cultivate within and that nobody else can phase that nobody else can because you don’t set conditions for them to do that or for you to do it yourself you don’t even set conditions for yourself to stifle your own joy and that is similar to unconditional love but in that joy is different than love. Unconditional joy is more of a love for yourself. We love unconditional love is typically love for another of yourself. And it has a lot to do with self faith as well with unconditional joy comes a lot more faith in yourself a lot more confidence in not just your abilities, but in how your defined in this world because you find yourself in this world and other people through their actions and their words they only find themselves, and if you set their actions or words as a condition of your joy, then you’re you’re giving it away essentially, you’re giving your joy away to somebody in return for a bad attitude no, not gonna happen because unconditional joy also cultivates a clarity that is unshakable clarity that dissolves stress through meditation can dissolve pain or or emotional. There is a lot to gain from unconditional. Joy and meditation can help prayer can help but really what it is. Is your ego turning into more of a joyful state of self sustainability so that that joy is always unconditional is no condition because ideally when you leave this world, you would want to be in a joyful state in a peaceful state at least a joyful state even in the midst of the most terrible trauma you can find joy and you can be at peace and you can have a clear mind. It’s simple thought of living and dying with a clear mind and a mind that’s free from stress. I’ve done some bit of research into happiness and people who are consider their self happy after failed relationships, and people who have not had any relationships and whether or not they consider themselves happy later on in the life. There’s also some studies that correlate health and cardiovascular health to emotional health in that if somebody has lost their spouse or gone through a divorce in their lifetime Physiologically it’s almost the same as having a heart attack the damage that happens to the cardiac muscles and the cardiovascular system long-term emotional damage can occur to people who have been in marriages for 20 or 30 years maybe less maybe more and then went through a divorce and there later life And there are many people who take their own lives after divorce because they can’t live with themselves and I believe the solution of that is cultivation of unconditional joy so regardless, what happens in this life in this world nothing can phase that nothing nobody can phase your personal outlook, your personal level of joy and nobody can bring your spirit down if you cold that because it’s notconsideration, it doesn’t have to do with the mind or the body joy is cultivated more in the spirit and that is why it can be unconditional “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances" is a Bible verse from 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
When we think of Sun masculine and Moon feminine this is not always the case. I am Latvian and in the pre-Christian Latvian religion it was the inverse. The Sun, Saule, wss feminine deity, and Saule had daughters, Saules meitas. The Moon, Mēness, was a masculine deity and Mēness had sons - Mēnessu dēli. Mēnessu Zīme, Moon sign, was put on the shields of warriors.
amazing the most whimsical creature is the arbiter of fitness using the simplest possible rule set but the cheat codes are money and music also very shallow devices wolfram should love this complexity from basic rule sets
Works for guys too as a gay guy I found theres no aphrodisiac like others knowing they have competion for your attention, expressing desperation is the worst it lowers sexual attraction to you. Similar competativness occurs if you are a high status leader of a group not just with women or individuals. Regardless of ethnic taboos
Indirectly or directly All about a feeling that leads people in a direction. Love songs trigger what people long for and often are short of. Whether she gets you to pout or blush it’s no rouge. As long as you’re not getting hung up on a long shot love is a sure thing. Make a move that doesn’t need truck to get you-where you want to go. Tell how you feel before resorting to hand work unless sign language is needed.
I have more important things to do right now then chase women. Everyone chases women and they never find the time to change the world. Of course to each his own. Different people have a different purpose to their life.
No. They just don't respect you. That's why you've never had a positive interaction with them. If you know how to handle them, they're one of the best things on Earth.
@@vecter It's not me, it 99.4 per cent of people that are not gettting married, only 6 per 1000 getting marred now per the US Census and the CDC numbers for some reason. But just write it off as one person. Or another survey that shows 63% of men COMPLETELY stopped dating because of this and "not worth it", "too high a risk", "they only care about MONEY. It's not worth it when they say they only care about money and "someone to pay for me", and say they will leave as soon as the man gets sick, cancer, loses a job, or doesn't give them something they "deserve" like "WORSHIP ME", or they found someone with more money because they have no loyaly, they aren't worth it. Their used to be this thing that said "for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, but vows and probmises mean little to nothing to most of them now. Just like how many plan the divorce before getting married, that's why they look for men with money, to stay with them and "CASH OUT" when they think they can get the most, and this is PROMOTED now as being something good, they are PROUD of only caring about money and having ZERO love or loyalty. It's not everyone but it's way way more common now. Look at any interview or ask someone, almost all will say the EXACT phase "I want someone to take care of me and pay for me", because they tell each other to do it.
@@vecter This is the result of whooo - maynism, look at all the single parent houses now and almost always ZERO accountability for their actions. Even they they do PERJURY they blame the men. And many are doing this now, I even had one for a parking spot and they had clearly done it MANY times by how they acted. I'm 6 feet, pretty large arms, and they weren't the least bit concened and were shocked when I spoke up to them and said, "call the poe - lease, I'll make you FAMOUS", and I pointed out all the cameras in the parking lot. And your right, they don't respect men, expect us to "worship me", "treat me like a queen", "I deserve to be given everything, look at me", that an EGO nobody should have.
@@vecterLook at what they do to boys and men in school and college. As one said, "I was never loved or accepted as a boy so"......he became his dee - mower - lysers, then was "loved" as a trophy by them they emotionally broke them! It has NOTHING to do with preference because he said that "because I was never loved or accepted as a boy", that's the lack or respect and even any humanity most have now, and most join in or say NOTHING, so they are responsible either way. If men do that we call out the behavior and stop it. Or we did, that's toxic now, so over half us will do NOTHING, just like they wanted. You shouldn't have to "handel" anyone, a relationship is supposed to be about love but I'm guessing your pretty young and haven't learned yet like most of us were. If you don't show respect for others, you aren't much of a human being.
I stopped chasing women 9 years ago. After being cheated on in 3/4 relationships and then dealt with a false accusation and ex parte PPO in college… 3 women have tried to get with me over the years and I rejected all 3 of them. Even though maybe 1/3 of them were somewhat attractive. But I’m having done so I felt more free and a sense of happiness I never felt while in a relationship with a woman.
Jordan, I'm single, been single for 20 years, am 68, very healthy, very happy, successful in business, strong in my faith in God. I've met a very together woman 30 years younger. A doctor, very smart, very healthy, and very interested in me...30 years different in age...what do you think about this?
You should be able to work out that answer for yourself. You are wealthy? Is this woman deep enough to care for you or just what you can provide? 30 years can be unbridgeable I'm afraid.
Fecund, not fecal. As a single female - no kids - I always figured men had the upper hand when it came to mating/picking partners. I had several relationships in my younger years, no proposals. Later, I got tired of running into guys who were scared to death of relaitonships, so I quit and just focused on myself.
The film, Crumb about a unlikely man with talent having grown up with undesirable faults or faulted by circumstance and using his talents and skills to I believe reorient himself in the world and achieving some good (I think that’s what it’s about. The film got good reviews.
Humans are meant to interact and to know each other but it stops there. Long-term relationships and marriage, that's a social construct. Part of the reason marriage was even invented was because centuries ago, there were no paternity tests. So, if you wanted to know what child belonged to what couple, it was the best solution. If it weren't for accidental pregnancies throughout the history of humanity, we'd be on the verge of extinction.
I grew up with just a brother. I went to an all boys school. When i went out in the big wide word i was terrified of taking to women. I just didn;t know how to be different in the way i spoke.
Let women chase you. I found out in my early 30s that I needed to take care of, ME. So I did. I did what I needed to do, worked hard, enjoyed hobbies, met people who enjoyed the same hobbies, bought a house as a single person. I have no bills, no debt, frugal, in no way shape or form am I rich, but I'm comfortable. I'm now 38, best shape of my life, yeah I work 70-80 hours a week, but women are chasing me left and right.
Take care of YOU first, then let everything fall into place.
It depends on how good looking you are, if you’re UGLY, NO vvoman will want you.
Well done. MGTOW!
I’m 44, jog 30 miles a week, had one almost literally hit me w/her car as I was going across a crosswalk. She did that just to get my attention. How am I not sure you’ll do the same if you get mad when we’re dating. I go for a jog to blow off steam and your insecure a!s think I’ll meet sm1 the same way I met you and you follow me🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️. 3 others did the same but not like her.
thats really great but women in their 30s are different that women in their 20s, women in their 20s have dudes lining up for them so they aren't gonna chase you
I needed this. Thankyou
I recently went on a date with an attractive woman. I really liked her but the feeling wasn’t mutual and so she tried to friend zone me. I said no thanks. If she doesn’t like you on date, she’s not going to like you as a friend. Simple as that.
I agree. No reason to torture yourself trying to get someone to like you. Just move on. There is someone that wants you "out there".
It sounds like you have a good grasp of what is going on. Best of luck to you sincerely.
@@kevinbautschj
me too , same thing
So true. Took me years to
learn that. It saves so much frustration when you put this into practice and move on.
Also found that the woman you like will be keen to drag the friendship thing on as it provides affirmation for them (but does nothing for you).
Is a natural phenomenon of Demand and supply in economics .....when ever u demand too much attention from a girl ....u raise her price .....and sometimes u can't pay .......just reverse it and u will be fine
Women are just a biological need, to marry and be a relationship is a social demand, but to focus on yourself it is your spiritual need which will bring true happiness not a woman.
Most of us are completely quiting dating because they don't care about fitness or kids now and just want "someone to pay for me". When asked if they want a "good man" with average income or a "rich cheater", they pick the cheater every time. They don't want someone reliable, they want someone they can con or trap into child support and marriage for the money. That's why almost none of us are getting married now. Stay far away, wear a bodycam. Not worth it.
Not true. Not having the opportunity to perpetuate your genes, for males, takes a huge toll on your emotional and overall well being. I agree that you got to focus and try to love yourself first, to the best of your abilities and human limitations; but once you've done that, or keep improving it, and yet, the harsh reality of things negate you the possibility of reproduction and finding human love (a spouse), it is barely impossible to be sincerely happy in this existence experience. Your comment applies very well for monks and priests, but that's about it; not for the average Joe with basic human needs as Maslow takls about in his pyramid.
@@you_dont_wanna_know1969 You have to read the research in this matter. On the one hand, it is stated that much of the happiness that you feel towards your spouse is bound to how sexually active you are with them, hence the biological need and urge to copulate and impregnate are factors in your so called happiness and well-being. Look at how rampant are divorces and affairs after marriage, after having children, especially in the West. Sexless marriages are bound to fail. Happiest couples also report the frequency of orgasms and factors that drive a woman to "love" you such as wealth, penile length and girth, fertility, strength, all of which are symbols of power. The social, cultural demands to get married and have a spouse are also based on religion and economics. Research also reports how marriage has led to economic problems which lead to health, psychological problems for couples and their families.
@@jacqueslee2592 Clearly, you have to read more about this matter, deeply. I don't see how your last words clash against my 1st comment, since they're not mutually excluded. My 1st comment still withstands against your 1st comment. Your 2nd comment it's a (true) red herring on the conversation, but does not improve your 1st position. Not a good try.
This is absolutely true!
Never sign a contract where the other party is rewarded for breaking it.
Wow...... 👌
Boom 🫱🏻🫲🏽💯💯
True.
Dang
Yep!!!
Focus on yourself and let go of chasing women. Strive for success and greatness. Patience is virtue and will reward you many times over later in life.
That's not always true.
"Walk AWAY! Don't Chase Women..." isn't in there even once. JP says tons of interesting things, so why not use something he said instead of putting words in his mouth that he doesn't say in this lecture?
He doesn't say the verbatim, but he speaks of that in action.
@@jimmyd6111 Never seen any evidence of that. He champions marriage. He has a good marriage himself and always speaks well of his wife. Also, he frequently refers to the maturing opportunities that marriage offers to those who are willing to see it through. I would say the caption mischaracterizes him completely.
@stellareeber2753 I have listened to a lot of his content, yes he does love his wife and yes he is good it appears with his marriage. But he has also said that the generation today is missing the point of marriage and gender roles as a whole
Thank you.
Didn't even have to watch this video to know that he didn't say it. Anyone who's actually listened to his stances on life and relationships knows that he would never say this.
I was in relationships for 25 years, had three kids, raised them on my own as single dad when their mother left. I've been single for seven years now, and I have little desire to be in another relationship other than for casual sex. I barely socialise outside of work or family but I am no longer unhappy.
Absolutely true! Stay strong!
In the best years of my life,
At least I haven’t got a wife.
@@malcolmnicoll1165 Be happy!
one of the men in these discussions say... I really appreciate a woman or women for their good heart, humility nice smile, creativity
and a the same time I really appreciate the parents who took care of them and gave them all the love, and empathy and taught them values.
People have become so materialistic talking about material things and short-term pleasure that they never say.
You know what I really appreciate a family with great values that raised this woman to have charisma, a good heart and great values.
I would like to spend family dinners with them because they like humor.
One day will give all my love to my son and daughter as these parents gave to this woman that I would like to marry. And want to be appreciated for how I will raise my daughter and son.
Relationships are mutual. Love is energy. Love isnt about logic.
for all that unhappy you're takling about....all i see is a very lonely person trying to justify being alone and not hurt again. meanwhile , your children grow up without a mother, you end up a recluse, barely socializing, yet you claim you're not unhappy. yeah sure. keep telling yourself until you believe it, but i sure don't
I was 20, decided to go to the gym and University.
My girlfriend dumped me when I told her this, and within a few weeks she was dating a guy in his late 20s who had a job and money.
When I turned 30 I enjoyed telling that same girl where to go when she called me to “give it one more go”.
I had money, great home in a great location and was fitter than ever, but most of all I was happy.
I met a great traditional woman, married her and now have two kids to her.
I’m 50 now, and my original girl is single, alone, in a small apartment with no kids, and whilst at 20 she was stunning, her beauty is now well and truly gone from her life, as am I.
Stay focused brothers, work on yourself in your 20s and in 10 years you’ll be immense!
To be honest, your ex is better off in her small apartment, than your wife who is married to a man who gloats over the lack of success of another who hurt him 30 years ago. Forgive and move on already.
@@acs2735I think my wife would disagree, in fact I know she would, as would my ex.
Not gloating, just giving young boys hope that things get better when you improve yourself.
I moved on long ago, you should take my advice.
@@itsagoal182 I should move on? From what?
I am not the one talking about my ex 😂. You are🫵🏻🙄.
Buy your wife some flowers.
Have a good day, friend. I am sure your intentions were mainly good 😁.
@@acs2735you’re talking about my ex, perhaps you don’t have one of your own? I’d bet you struggle with self improvement and find others who succeed difficult to cope with.
If I want to talk about my ex to help emphasise self improvement I will, that’s the beauty of free speech.
I hope you manage to find time to work on yourself like I have, you’ll be better for it I’m sure. Enjoy.
Amen
You would think women were the prize, saying men are miserable or low value.
It takes courage to be a man.
We don't get everything on a plate
I got your mom on a plate though. Was an interesting 3months of crazy crazy love.
Never make women the top priority in life. Make your health, career, hobbies, friends, relatives etc the top priority. Learn to live with or without women. Focus on yourself, work hard, make lot of money, have lot of fun. Life is too short to spare time for women's emotional drama.
De. you got the wrong woman then bro
good....then you won't procreate , and we don't have to worry that you spread that poison to your kids either.
A good woman will positively affect all the aspects of life you are mentioning. And having a relationship is part of being healthy.. learning how to have a good relationship is part of the whole, but you do you I guess
But what if lying to ourselves gets boring. It might be better to openly enjoy doing the above in context of delivering for women, rather than being covert about it and pretending it's unrelated.
Don't worry, you will get old, and then the importance of women will decline fast.
Amen brother❤
I dated a girl, it was like for a two months, she's keep telling me that her previuos relationship was toxic and she will never come back to her ex, and she telling me this twice in a month or so, even if I didn't even start this conversation about previuos relationships and etc... I knew that if a girl start to talk about her ex and says "never" she is really missing him or so... So i immediatly felt cold on my side, and after that I couldn't even date with her and talk about future plans.. Idk why, but I felt that naturally. After we aggree to take a break and go our own ways, after one week, I saw on her ex instagram that she went on a trip with him, they looked happy.
I also felt happy, because I knew that this will come, and I don't want to waste my time with her. No hard feelings, but it sucks, when women's try to fill their emptyness with just a random guy's, while we the man's doing this by being alone and try to take shit out of ourselfs by our own.
Focus on yourself.
Give love to yourself.
Buy a gift for you.
I passed a relationship when she is always pending on me, because i was sick and in depression.
But now I am happy with myself, and I have improved my self-esteem, I have improved my health.
But now she doesn't want to stay with me.
Many women just know to love when someone need her, that's why they choose men with problems, illness, mental problems, problems with the law.
bin in one of those relationships, you did the right thing. and that's right. These girls be trying to fill empty gaps, that's life. Spoil yourself with everything you work for in life and be happy with yourself. if you cant become your own best friend nobody else will. Something learned to live with, high expectations of society and girls even though women may be the gatekeepers of nature there will always be younger girls to that will take there places in a better situation. Dont forget guys women clocks tell a different time that ours they dont have much time to bring that life forward into the world we do. And don't take it the wrong way folks im not tring to say one is better than the other men and women both need each other.
This is a huge breakthrough...Your senses were trying to alert you and they were spot on....when this arises again, never doubt yourself
Careful of the rebounds. It seems like a thing women do to convince themselves they are valuable. You're just a tool of that for them.
"Seek ye first the Kingdom of Heaven, and HIS righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you". Its not about focusing on others, its not about focusing on yourself, its about focusing on God, and your life will fall into place
This is by far the best comment I’ve seen on here. 100%. Matthew 6:33 is the end all, be all. Excellent post Sir.
Biblical nonsense fantasy@@israelbenisrael5130
i focused on santa claus and i never got that red bicycle. . . . the same applies with your KINGDOM of HEAVEN and HIS BS Brainwashed relgious drivel. no one who didn't get this stuff crammed into their head at age 5 believes any of that crap
Thank you for the scripture
I just posted this. Amen ❤
also being in a relationship doesnt solve as many problems as you think
...it creates different ones
Depends on the nature of the problems
Men today have to work 10x harder than their grandfathers did for women who are 100x worse than their grandfathers were.
Tell dem guy
end stage capitalism is not pretty and it will only get worse...now more than ever men need this wisdom at a younger and younger age...teach them well!
Give the person who quoted it his just due. I believe it was Myron Fit
@@TheOceanMan-xc7qpI’ve met some men who say their dad never taught him anything about being a man or doing manly things. Including my own Dad. Everything manly he learned is because he decided he wanted to learn those things. My dad has worked on lots of cars, built things, installed doors, painting, maintenance work, house diy projects, fixed computers, always helped people in the community etc.. so did some of my uncles & and my grandfather on my moms side. It became rare to see guys my age not doing any of these things. It’s like they were never given the tools, advice, space and guidance from Other men on how to be a man. A man that women want to marry & build a family with. Both men & women need skills, values, responsibility in order to build a relationship & family. Most of them chose drinking alcohol, partying, smoking weed, hanging out.. kind of hard to be motivated to be a wife when he’s not making himself attractive by behaving like a teenager. Also didn’t help that our parents coddled us thinking it would make our lives less harder than theirs were. Not realizing it stunted us, emotionally & mentally. Maybe we need more teachers in the world, and for them to actually put more faith in the youth that they CAN handle being more responsible & stop treating them like helpless babies who will have to learn on their own once they move out because they don’t want to prepare them for adulthood for some reason
It's called degeneration
More men should be asking, "Is this woman worthy to be the mother of my children?" She will be forced to stand or fall on the basis of character as men have always done.
Exactly
Most men are lucky if one woman is even considering them as potential father of their children. You don't get to be as choosy as you might like. Same goes for most women.
Only top 10% of men and top10% of women get to choose, maybe and not always.
I was literally in this position two days ago, she said she wasnt ready for a relationship after telling me she had never met anyone like me, then proceeded to tell me she wanted to still get to know me.... i cut ties there and then, wished her all the best in what ever she did ect and havr made no contact since, its bloody hard and my brain is trying to trick me that i have i done the wrong thing, it sure isnt easy.
damn man same exactly bro
I’m about to cut ties with a woman in a similar fashion -Telling her that I value my own time/needs too highly to accept being “an option” to her moving forward, and that I am moving on with my search for the right partner to build a lasting relationship with & wishing her the best of luck.
It definitely sucks because I’m actually into her, the sex was insane, & I thought we wanted similar things long-term, but allowing her to string me along emotionally while she’s off dating other men & potentially being intimate with them is a far worse place to be IMO 🤷♂️
@@Flinn8be strong bro. I’m dealing with something similar and it’s heart wrenching but it’s what we must do.
You just saved yourself from a lifetime of hell...great work and resilience!
I hope you are thriving and happy!
I did the reproduction thing after much rejection. After 3 years of marriage my wife became a monster threatening me with accusations of sexual abuse of my kids if I ever got out of line. Once my kids were old enough to not go along with her schemes I left her. Now I am 8 years going without a single relationship and I am quite happy. the biological need is much smaller so women hold little power over me. The funny thing is that they still think I think the same as when I was 20. Very entitled.
They say women mature before men when we are young. But in my observation, men continue to mature while women get stuck in their 20s mindset all their life, not all, but many to make it a general statement.
I was thinking this the other night. It’s all bs. Women are not more mature than men. In fact at age 27, I’m usually the more mature one in a relationship. Also the fact that they cannot out smart me, bothers them. So they walk away. I see right through them@@Straightastheycome
I meet a women who told me she had 3 kids with 3 different fathers and she got upset with me because I don’t date women who have kids because of my own beliefs. She went marbles when I said I don’t date women with kids so I told her out of your 3 mistakes you yet realize your mistakes and you expect me who has no kids to father in for them 😅you are mental and that’s not my problem 😂 especially if the kids fathers remarried and had kids with another women . Im not picking up where he left off 😂. Single men with no kids has some morales and find a women with no kids is your best gamble
"I'm not your clean up man, madam"
bro, I also have that attitude. I don't date single mom girls. there are a lot of them. I am in early 30s,so now I have the best choice to choose. but, no single mom's!
Generally I agree with you - however not all women with kids are a problem. Each case has its own story and we must not judge. You might meet a fantastic women who has a child or even two children and she doesn’t necessarily need you to look after them because her ex is doing a good job of that. Not all ex-husbands are bad. Many continue to be excellent fathers and these women are just looking for a new partner, not a father for their children. What’s most important is how compatible you are as a couple, do you have desire for one another, are you a good fit for each other etc. Don’t immediately judge or rule people out unless of course you absolutely cannot stand any woman in the world who may have a child before she met you. A childless woman is no guarantee of happiness either. Focus on overall compatibility, values and attraction. That’s where you will find greater success. Good luck
Well done. You dodged a huge bullet.
@@KaitraderI lived w/a woman for 2 years that had 2 teenagers and a toddler. It was dope af. I have kids so I knew how to relate to them. But I can totally understand a single man w/no kids finding it difficult taking on sm1 else’s kids. That’s no joke.
What men need to understand to attract women and what to do towards them to have them go absolutely ape shit over them, is this... absolutely nothing. Instead of doing amything towards them, focus on your self, respect yourself, love, accept and build yourself fully and I promise you, women will chase you more and more, at an exponential rate.
But then you will have to make a social network page, otherwise they won't know you exist.
But we ladies are told not to chase or pursue. 😢
@@mama1bear65 ladies pick and choose and subconsciously or not make themselves available to the men they want. It is the man's job to make the move but he shouldn't be chasing women.
@@MarkLee1 do you live in a basement
@@MarkLee1 Go out and talk to people. Plain and simple
"High Value" is totally misunderstood and misrepresented today.
A high value man or woman, is a person that has the ability to resist temporary temptation, rather than give in to it. When you cannot resist, you are sending a message that you are weak, and have little control over yourself, and this can translate into weakness and little control over so many other things in your life. That is not a high value quality.
Aptly put. A high value man or woman has self-control.
precisely!👍
Well
"high value" is totally personal. I am a hermit. I have a very high IQ. Does this make me "high value to women?"
I also have NO DEBT and a insane high credit score. Does this make me "high value to women?"
If you said "no" to the first question, but YES to the second one.....then you are probably female.
A high value man or woman, is a person that has the ability to resist temporary temptation, rather than give in to it......
BS....lmpulsive behaviour has been around since dawn of time
sending a message u are weak? to whom? your mom? lol
2:06 - Women select men which already selected them. Woman can select all day long, but if a man doesn't select her and approach, her “selection” becomes meaningless.
Congratulation, you found the louphole, both sides are making a choice.
@@Alix-yu8rq if you say so
But if you're a Sub-5 and approach you'll have security called. Only-Chads are loved.
Exactly. Desperate people with low self-esteem take what they can get, maybe?
100% - many men would take anything just for even a possibility of companionship, even if short lived because they know if they don't they could be waiting years for that chance again - if at all.@KevinStClair-ln5ir
Married nearly 23 years. It is so frustrating to married to a woman who tells me to lead but she gives the directions. She always wants first then decides if it is worth reciprocating. I am only in her sights as a servant to her needs. She truly sees her needs first and I am that fruit salad that if forgotten in the back of the freezer.
Man I feel u
Leave while you can. If you get sick, she will make your life ten times worse because she won’t be able to handle it.
@@acs2735 if he leaves and gets sick, who's going to take care of him?
I don’t like the title “Don’t chase women” JP doesn’t say that
go ahead and chase
Investigate the reasons you do not have things you want. My theory is that the reason are only blocks and they are “bullshit”.
Investigate to become a better negotiator, and investigate to be strategic.
As a 70 year old man I think hes right. I wish I knew that years ago!
you did, but your testicles didn't hear that
@@kantraxoikol6914 🤣🤣🤣
The worst she'll say is no
JP: well I don't mind ur physical presence, but ur genes definitely shouldn't survive 😂😂
😂😂😅
Actually, the absolute worst is a false harassment/rape accusation. An HR situation / job loss. Slandering your reputation in your social circle.😅
This man speaks so much wisdom and fact....I truly wish I was the same
This issue he starts so logically and wise and then in the middle he goes in all directions, which makes the speech totally stupid FOR ONE VIDEO. This should not be taken out of a long speech, out of context.
Idk dude for me it felt like he just went all over the place with whatever came to his mind. Kind of like listening to two AIs beeing arranged in a loop and just babbeling about. There was no red line, no proper direction, no higher topic that envelopes all of what he said. Just a shotgun of (mostly) nice sounding calender sentences shooting in all directions.
@@TheJimbo1791it's because he's presenting in front of a class, which makes sense why he tend to go in different directions. But then you have people converting it into a video with sappy music in the background, and then it becomes difficult to follow
Hi. I gazed on a rose and beheld its beauty and fragrance. I grasped for it thinking to make it mine, but it stung me and left tears in my eyes. The rose's treacherous beauty too often describes love: long after the petals have fallen the thorns remain. Cheers, P.R.
stop grasping then. . . not sure whatever that drivel was, but it sure didn't make ME cry
@@kantraxoikol6914 Hi kantrax. Oh dear, my attempt at poetic profundity has flopped in your case. If you'd kindly inform me what kind of drivel you like, I'll try to knock you up something. How about this?
A KNICKER A KNACKER
THE LASS IS A CRACKER,
OR THAT'S WHAT SHE SEEMED TO ME.
AND ALTHOUGH SHE WAS SWEET
I SOON GOT COLD FEET,
WHEN SHE TALKED ABOUT MATRI-MO-NY.
I hope that is lowbrow enough for you, I definitely wouldn't (not ever) descend to writing dirty limericks. 😄 Cheers, P.R.
@@kantraxoikol6914 brooo😂😂😂😂😂
High quality women also don't chase men. For both genders chasing is not right. But if you are successful and you find a woman who you feel is worth it pursue her. Chasing and pursuing are two different things. There are many guys who are rich and successful but damn lonely. Ppl all need someone who deeply care for them, someone to trust and love. The girls who chase successful men are mostly gold diggers. They are the flies around the cake
If your chasing a man or woman it means he/she is running away from you instead of both of you running towards each other 😎
Facts. LOL flies around the cake good one.
SS. Chasing and pursuing are the same thing bro
I thoroughly liked that comment.
@@remnant6504Absolutely agree!!
Some of us just never learn....the world now has seemingly empowered women beyond anything realistic and decent men will suffer forever
That is in Female dominant cultures. Asian and most of Latin American cultures are totally different. The man dominates and relationships are better in my opinion.
All my life, all I have ever focused on is myself. My health, my career, my hobbies, my physical shape, my education, everything. And by the “knowledge” videos such as these possess, I should be attracting women left and right, but I am not. I should not be pressured or concerned about finding a soulmate, but I am.
It may be true when people say you don’t “need” women to feel fulfilled, or happy. But after only hearing the words “I love you” out of one person’s mouth in my entire life, I feel like there are at least a few who would understand how much I am yearning for that level of connection again.
And I also hope that I am not alone in the fact that I am stricken with a horrible anger whenever I hear things such as “focus on yourself, you don’t need a woman”. Who are you, to tell me what I need? Who are you to tell me what I want? “Let women chase you”, I wish they would.
I am not a monk. I am not a priest. I am not an unshakable being of stoicism. I am a man. A human man. And I desire love, affection, care, empathy and compassion from a woman whom I could love.
And if THAT is a hard ask, then I believe I am wasting my time on this earth, living.
You desire the wrong thing. Accept that as your problem bc it is. You've already only focused on yourself and "there you have it!".
Seek God and the rest will be added.
@@zellerized”Seek God” is just about the worst advice I keep hearing. I was raised Christian and have been questioning my faith for a *very* long time. Sure, let me just replace my longing for a physical, human connection for an imaginary being.
@@Veil_ofthevoid
Let me answer this is two ways from the same perspective.
I long for affection and appreciation, as most men do. It isn't asking for much yet I find modern women care more about what they want than seeing that pleasing their men would grant them many wishes and love.
Yet, my marriage has been takken over by cell phone and social media. Our sex life and time together has literally disappeared. My wife sees her wants and needs first and I am on the backburner.
I know God doesn't turn me down when I want to spend time with Him. It's the only time I feel wanted and I am at peace with this time. It's much better than being turned down and laying next to a woman who rather be on Facebook than five minutes with me. Even if I remained single, I still would seek God in times of solitude.
@@n9wff You sound like an amazing husband. Truly. God sees you in your pain. I wish healing for your wife. Many women marry for the wrong reasons. Maybe couples’ therapy would help?
I hope you find your true love 🙏🏻
If someone could put the time mark where Jordan Peterson says "Walk AWAY! Don't Chase Women..." that would be great :p
@ryangrey95 He never says that in this video, he lost the plot here and people are commenting like if he did say it..unbelievable..I lost a few minutes of my life listening to this :)
false name agree - download the transcript, it's nowhere in there - not his video, just someone remarketing his speech
Steve Dahl said it best on one of his radio shows "If you had a job making $100 thousand a year you wouldn't have to look for women, women would be looking for you "
Jordan Peterson may well be the greatest psychologist since R. D. Laing.
No he's not. He's got a following of a herd.
Men select women based on looks and socioeconomic viability. Most men that I know who are not considered (by their fellow male counterparts) as “ Alpha “ , actually need to look for a women who can help them economically. It typically takes two to finance a household.
The problem hits when a male doesn’t understand that those women are still expected to carry on a full second shift at home. Unfortunately, the man needs to help out with childcare and domestic work around the house.
Most men have not been conditioned nor raised to think that this is part of their role in a committed relationship.
A few Years ago, I heard a male psychologist at a medical conference say this: “ If a women has to help a man in what is traditionally his role as the prime financial provider of the family unit, then the man has to also step up and help the female in her domestic duties “.
Actually makes sense, otherwise no one has any time to invest into the relationship with their children, extended family or other human relationships which enrich our lives
That was the intent behind doubling the work force - cutting the value of labor in half, forcing women to also get income to make up for the financial deficit so that parenting would be outsourced and the possibility of bigger families would be diminished.
@@thebarbelllifestyle1478 maybe, but the gap of power in previous relationships lead to a lot of abuse towards women, as power corrupts and that happens in the family unit too. So women used this to close that gap somewhat.
I show interest.. if i don't receive reciprocation.. i'm done.. DONT EVER CHASE A WOMAN.. we aren't dogs my dudes!!!
Always to seek to conquer myself rather
Than .
Gold - fortune.
- Seneca
My energy just wanderderd
In to this galaxy
I have had some fun along the way
Its been great
Learn to find happiness as a single person. No one can make you genuinely happy if happiness is not your nature.
Note to writer of the captions: It was "fecund," not "fecal." There is a difference.
It’s us men who choose them and they just approve it
Anger is often triggered by the anger of another being directed at you, or by feelings of frustration and discontentment. Of course, irritation also plays a part from time to time.
irritation is just another word for anger.
@@kantraxoikol6914 You can be irritated without it rising to the level of anger. A neighbor playing loud music might irritate you, but not get you angry. Of course, there is a fine line between the two, and we are really just debating semantics... So, whatever.
I love Jordon Peterson. He's a GENIUS. He's a Great Man. Geat Men are the ones to listen to and follow because listening tp Great / Highly intelligent men will help guide a good Man to a Great Life. 🙂
This video is impressive! For once Jordan Peterson talks candidly, although covertly, about his own actual position in the challenging game of masculine life. This is encouraging! It is the potential beginning of transformation!
one of the men in these discussions say... I really appreciate a woman or women for their good heart, humility nice smile, creativity
and a the same time I really appreciate the parents who took care of them and gave them all the love, and empathy and taught them values.
People have become so materialistic talking about material things and short-term pleasure that they never say.
You know what I really appreciate a family with great values that raised this woman to have charisma, a good heart and great values.
I would like to spend family dinners with them because they like humor.
One day will give all my love to my son and daughter as these parents gave to this woman that I would like to marry. And want to be appreciated for how I will raise my daughter and son.
Relationships are mutual. Love is energy. Love isnt about logic.
Being a man I feel invisible in todays world having to show respect yet receiving very little of it. I wish I could attain this high value that others seem to have
don't give up, you'll get there
Fuck em. Be who you are. If they show disrespect, you show it
I'm a hermit....we don't have these issues.
Post Covid, I think many are. I have no interest in 'meeting people.' Socializing yes, but those days are over - everything is transient.
So disinterested in being used as a wallet, to the point to where if I did accidentally make some cash, I’m looking forward to that stash ending up in the fireplace rather than giving it to a society that hates me.
Spend it on yourself. Fuck society
It is a cool video, but actually the title is misleading, as he never said it..
The titles are always misleading on these things.
You’re very right.
Ok, I’ve realized. These guidance videos of male attraction don’t help. There’s something with the youtube algorithm that recommends these types of videos. I got my wisdom but videos like these are only a reminder of what I don’t have. No matter how powerful the message may be, it drives more anxiety and thought to my mind about this subject. I’m much happier when I don’t think about finding love. Getting away from it and forgetting actually puts me in random situations with women that I interact with naturally. I’m amazed, but when I’m constantly boggled by lustful and emotional distress which these videos assist on, overthinking and weakness ensues. These types of videos don’t help me anymore and I hope this comment helps someone.
Andrew Tate: "Modern women are picky, shallow, and entitled. They are willing to share the same successful man with 30 other women to keep what that successful man can provide for them. Yet there can be 30 single men who aren't as successful or even successful that never stand a chance with any of those women. Social media has changed the global dating landscape so much that the vast majority of men realize they don't measure up and they refuse to date."
Quoting a serial sexual predator. Nice.
@@IslandSimPilotfunny how none of that's ever been proven..
@@mattsmith3512 it’s not going to be funny for him when it is.
@@IslandSimPilot perhaps not. We'll need to wait and see
@cowman1970 As a woman I can give you feedback just to make a point that women are far from shallow. I just watched your video where you talk about getting nearly done for shop lifting. I'm very sorry to tell you this, you do come across as creepy and shallow. You show no emotion in your face. The story you told was completely unfocussed: what was the message you were trying to convey? If we were at a date, I wouldn't know what to think about that story if you had told me. Women are humans just like you. And if we truly wanted to generalise, men are mostly uninterested in anything cerebral when they interact with women. Now before you hastily draw any conclusions, I'm married and not embittered and in the dating scene. But being married or unmarried wouldn't make any difference in my assessment of the world. If something isn't working out for you maybe something is off. You would be wise to seek to find out why. The world can't be wrong as a whole. Be well.
There are actually lots of women who are not able to attract male sexual partners. Some of these women become lesbians, and others just remain celibate all their lives.
Particularly as they get older.
There is absolutely NO women that can't get sex, none. They may not be able to get sex with who they want (ie she is obese and he is a hot six figure earner) but no woman struggles in that department for the simple reason that nearly all men will literally f*** any women they can get except for again, maybe a hot. six figure earner.
No no no, RUN away from women. Walking they can catch up.
JP hits it right out of the park....glad he is all over media. Thanks.
After my wife passed away last year. I knew I would remain single. Being in my 50s I saw the writting on the wall. Modern women are incapeable of fostering meaningful and productive relationships. It's best to remain single. It's best to avoid the drama and headache they bring.😂
Man the way JP expresses himself with words is genius and very exceptional!
I told her:
You are beautiful
You are smart
You are sexy
But you’ll never be the mom of my kids.
I've been asked out a couple of times this year for coffee. I always say no. I let them chase me. i'm still single, but i I have faith it's the best strategy and i'm sticking with it. ty 4 vid
If you refuse to even go out for coffee, it’s more like you’re not letting them chase you than letting them.
You have to be firm with the chicks bruv
We do the walk... Do the walk of life. Yeah, we do the walk of life!
Chase money not women,women the won't pay you bills
The ones in your family are a drain but they don't represent every other woman on this Earth. 😂
Mr Peterson you speak at level… mental level only. There is high level of spiritual awareness and understanding,
LIVE SINGLE, LIVE HAPPY, WOMEN ARE A HEAD ACHE
In your family, I imagine this to be 100% true. 😂
You are afraid to approach them so you took the coward way out. Trust me we are all afraid but you need family and kids. If you don’t have kids then you failed as a human being. Nature just want you to reproduce. Work on your confidence and you will get there
Headache plus a pain in the ass!😂🤣🤣
People are a head ache, it doesnt matter the se x. If you constantly find others to be a head ache, you should look in the mirror.
😆😂😆😂
I never get what's wrong with just showing him during his great lectures instead of some absolutely irrelevant, distracting and lazy stock footage.
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The only factor of irritation from other people is from the observer. You are observing somebody else and you are the one that is becoming irritated by that observation you can become irritated by your own self, simply observing yourself and becoming irritated by your own behavior. This is the first step to selfimprovement and real actualization of personal positive change. Especially in cultivation of unconditional joy, which is essentially not allowing conditions to be set on your own personal joy you’re not going to put trivial things as a condition for your joy you’re not going to put anything as a condition for your joy because joy is different than happiness happiness is physical joy is more spiritual, irrelevant of outside conditions is something that you cultivate within and that nobody else can phase that nobody else can because you don’t set conditions for them to do that or for you to do it yourself you don’t even set conditions for yourself to stifle your own joy and that is similar to unconditional love but in that joy is different than love. Unconditional joy is more of a love for yourself. We love unconditional love is typically love for another of yourself. And it has a lot to do with self faith as well with unconditional joy comes a lot more faith in yourself a lot more confidence in not just your abilities, but in how your defined in this world because you find yourself in this world and other people through their actions and their words they only find themselves, and if you set their actions or words as a condition of your joy, then you’re you’re giving it away essentially, you’re giving your joy away to somebody in return for a bad attitude no, not gonna happen because unconditional joy also cultivates a clarity that is unshakable clarity that dissolves stress through meditation can dissolve pain or or emotional. There is a lot to gain from unconditional. Joy and meditation can help prayer can help but really what it is. Is your ego turning into more of a joyful state of self sustainability so that that joy is always unconditional is no condition because ideally when you leave this world, you would want to be in a joyful state in a peaceful state at least a joyful state even in the midst of the most terrible trauma you can find joy and you can be at peace and you can have a clear mind. It’s simple thought of living and dying with a clear mind and a mind that’s free from stress.
I’ve done some bit of research into happiness and people who are consider their self happy after failed relationships, and people who have not had any relationships and whether or not they consider themselves happy later on in the life. There’s also some studies that correlate health and cardiovascular health to emotional health in that if somebody has lost their spouse or gone through a divorce in their lifetime Physiologically it’s almost the same as having a heart attack the damage that happens to the cardiac muscles and the cardiovascular system long-term emotional damage can occur to people who have been in marriages for 20 or 30 years maybe less maybe more and then went through a divorce and there later life And there are many people who take their own lives after divorce because they can’t live with themselves and I believe the solution of that is cultivation of unconditional joy so regardless, what happens in this life in this world nothing can phase that nothing nobody can phase your personal outlook, your personal level of joy and nobody can bring your spirit down if you cold that because it’s notconsideration, it doesn’t have to do with the mind or the body joy is cultivated more in the spirit and that is why it can be unconditional
“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances" is a Bible verse from 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
I like the way Jordan Peterson digresses ( while trying not to )
Hallmark of a deep intelligent mind
More of a narcissistic mind. He values his own opinion too much to stay on track.
Make that a disorganized mind that makes it up as it goes along.
Walk Away - and Don't Look Back!
When we think of Sun masculine and Moon feminine this is not always the case. I am Latvian and in the pre-Christian Latvian religion it was the inverse. The Sun, Saule, wss feminine deity, and Saule had daughters, Saules meitas. The Moon, Mēness, was a masculine deity and Mēness had sons - Mēnessu dēli. Mēnessu Zīme, Moon sign, was put on the shields of warriors.
Wow! Now this makes for this an interesting conversation
Tolkien uses that system in Middle Earth as well, based on old European lore.
amazing the most whimsical creature is the arbiter of fitness using the simplest possible rule set but the cheat codes are money and music also very shallow devices
wolfram should love this complexity from basic rule sets
What a nightmare of confusion within these lies
I hope you get your head out of the sand someday
Thank you very much.
I'm not attracted to women who aren't attracted to me.
I am afraid of women and dogs. It’s amazing how many people are afraid of women and dogs.Hmmm
Works for guys too as a gay guy I found theres no aphrodisiac like others knowing they have competion for your attention, expressing desperation is the worst it lowers sexual attraction to you. Similar competativness occurs if you are a high status leader of a group not just with women or individuals. Regardless of ethnic taboos
Yes please walk away- it’s safer
Pathetic
I'm really good at walking away, too good.
Indirectly or directly All about a feeling that leads people in a direction.
Love songs trigger what people long for and often are short of.
Whether she gets you to pout or blush it’s no rouge.
As long as you’re not getting hung up on a long shot love is a sure thing.
Make a move that doesn’t need truck to get you-where you want to go.
Tell how you feel before resorting to hand work unless sign language is needed.
Your title does not describe what Jordan Peterson has to say, not in the least!
I have more important things to do right now then chase women.
Everyone chases women and they never find the time to change the world.
Of course to each his own.
Different people have a different purpose to their life.
Treat them INVISIBLE. They only care about money, so don't ever give them your time or money. They need to pay for themselves.
You exposed the fact 😂😂😂
No. They just don't respect you. That's why you've never had a positive interaction with them. If you know how to handle them, they're one of the best things on Earth.
@@vecter It's not me, it 99.4 per cent of people that are not gettting married, only 6 per 1000 getting marred now per the US Census and the CDC numbers for some reason. But just write it off as one person. Or another survey that shows 63% of men COMPLETELY stopped dating because of this and "not worth it", "too high a risk", "they only care about MONEY. It's not worth it when they say they only care about money and "someone to pay for me", and say they will leave as soon as the man gets sick, cancer, loses a job, or doesn't give them something they "deserve" like "WORSHIP ME", or they found someone with more money because they have no loyaly, they aren't worth it. Their used to be this thing that said "for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, but vows and probmises mean little to nothing to most of them now. Just like how many plan the divorce before getting married, that's why they look for men with money, to stay with them and "CASH OUT" when they think they can get the most, and this is PROMOTED now as being something good, they are PROUD of only caring about money and having ZERO love or loyalty. It's not everyone but it's way way more common now. Look at any interview or ask someone, almost all will say the EXACT phase "I want someone to take care of me and pay for me", because they tell each other to do it.
@@vecter This is the result of whooo - maynism, look at all the single parent houses now and almost always ZERO accountability for their actions. Even they they do PERJURY they blame the men. And many are doing this now, I even had one for a parking spot and they had clearly done it MANY times by how they acted. I'm 6 feet, pretty large arms, and they weren't the least bit concened and were shocked when I spoke up to them and said, "call the poe - lease, I'll make you FAMOUS", and I pointed out all the cameras in the parking lot. And your right, they don't respect men, expect us to "worship me", "treat me like a queen", "I deserve to be given everything, look at me", that an EGO nobody should have.
@@vecterLook at what they do to boys and men in school and college. As one said, "I was never loved or accepted as a boy so"......he became his dee - mower - lysers, then was "loved" as a trophy by them they emotionally broke them! It has NOTHING to do with preference because he said that "because I was never loved or accepted as a boy", that's the lack or respect and even any humanity most have now, and most join in or say NOTHING, so they are responsible either way. If men do that we call out the behavior and stop it. Or we did, that's toxic now, so over half us will do NOTHING, just like they wanted. You shouldn't have to "handel" anyone, a relationship is supposed to be about love but I'm guessing your pretty young and haven't learned yet like most of us were. If you don't show respect for others, you aren't much of a human being.
I stopped chasing women 9 years ago. After being cheated on in 3/4 relationships and then dealt with a false accusation and ex parte PPO in college… 3 women have tried to get with me over the years and I rejected all 3 of them. Even though maybe 1/3 of them were somewhat attractive. But I’m having done so I felt more free and a sense of happiness I never felt while in a relationship with a woman.
Did I miss the part where he actually says "walk away"?
Imagine being blessed enough to take a Jordan Peterson course in college. I would give everything I have to spend 6 months in one of his classes
Women select men but if they aren’t going to show they’re invested and put in the extra effort.. nothing will come of it.
Be civil, but don't simp. ^^
Said by men who have had girlfriend(s), had wife(s).
The main problem with women I have met they are too moody if you could find somebody what is not moody you will be lucky for a while
Jordan, I'm single, been single for 20 years, am 68, very healthy, very happy, successful in business, strong in my faith in God. I've met a very together woman 30 years younger. A doctor, very smart, very healthy, and very interested in me...30 years different in age...what do you think about this?
You should be able to work out that answer for yourself. You are wealthy? Is this woman deep enough to care for you or just what you can provide? 30 years can be unbridgeable I'm afraid.
Mark. Enjoy it while it lasts bro. Go wit da flow man.
Never , ever put woman on a pedestal! Go about your life gents, woman will come and go..
Fecund, not fecal.
As a single female - no kids - I always figured men had the upper hand when it came to mating/picking partners. I had several relationships in my younger years, no proposals. Later, I got tired of running into guys who were scared to death of relaitonships, so I quit and just focused on myself.
What do you mean focus on myself, casual sex?
Some fascinating reflections here, appended by non sequiturs, and not at all described by the title of this short video.
Which movie does he mention?
The film, Crumb about a unlikely man with talent having grown up with undesirable faults or faulted by circumstance and using his talents and skills to I believe reorient himself in the world and achieving some good (I think that’s what it’s about. The film got good reviews.
After seeing the truth. Even after having success I still wouldn't want them.
You only want me now because it's suddenly convenient.
Thanks you for making me feel worthless.
only you have the power to do that bro. No-one else does.
Maybe if you give less atention to 2d waifus and cosplayers, you can improve.
Humans are meant to interact and to know each other but it stops there. Long-term relationships and marriage, that's a social construct. Part of the reason marriage was even invented was because centuries ago, there were no paternity tests. So, if you wanted to know what child belonged to what couple, it was the best solution. If it weren't for accidental pregnancies throughout the history of humanity, we'd be on the verge of extinction.
Just looking at women hurts my ears and wallet!
Hi Antony. There's a saying, "if you've got to ask the price of a Rolls Royce, you can't afford one". Cheers, P.R.
Thank You 🙏
Normally I like Peterson, but when he gets in this area I think he is just confused.
Of course you do
Peterson has more of a grip on how it is than most people.
This is alot of different clips all put asif it's 1 speech
Great genius jordan peterson, grace of god, prophet.
Sometimes i think doc needs a couch or a bed to lay on.
I grew up with just a brother. I went to an all boys school. When i went out in the big wide word i was terrified of taking to women. I just didn;t know how to be different in the way i spoke.
I’m learning this as a 31 year old, soon to be divorced, dad…. I need to focus on myself
Man who has slept with one woman his entire life - who he met at school - giving advice on women. Ok thanks.
And he raised a daughter who is a single mom now.
@@MarkLee1 a single mum who got banged out by Andrew Tate
He appears to be terrified of things he doesn't understand.
Hi. If a guy can live all his life with one woman without turning her into an enemy, he's succeeded beyond your wildest dreams. Cheers, P.R.
Chasing women is like chasing butterflies, but make yourself extremely attractive, they will be rushing you.
JUST BE YOURSELF AND HAVE DIGNITY. IF YOU HAVE TO CHASE A WOMAN, IT'S NOT MEANT TO BE. A WOMAN WHO'S INTERESTED IN YOU WILL CHASE YOU.