I very much appreciate your videos, my sister, 29, passed away in her sleep. I lost my best friend, but her son lost his mother, and my dad lost his daughter. I am struggling with moving forward, and your videos help me feel like what I feel is normal.
It's really important to know that it's the self-blame, guilt and self-loathing that need be addressed in order to heal from the grief. Thank you for sharing.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy my girlfriend "s mum killed herself tonight she didnt apcet Megan has died how i be for her husband he lost wife tonight and Megan 3 mouths ago how be there for my mum lost her best friend ????.
I've had clinical depression my whole life, as well as other serious health issues too. Then my partner & caregiver (he'd only just turned 30) died suddenly, alone on my bed - and my mum found him the next day like that. It's been 20 months now since his death, and I'm still finding it extremely difficult to motivate myself to do anything at all really. I'm on medication, but it doesn't seem to be doing anything. Before he died, at least we/I could listen to music, now I find myself not even able to do that. He was a music producer and music was 'our thing', now I don't even enjoy that, and if I hear one of our favourite songs, it triggers me and I become very angry. I'm yet to be able to find a very good counsellor over here in Australia - one that absolutely understands grief. It's useless talking to somebody that doesn't get it. Thank you so much for this ❤
@Serenityonlinetherapy I had so many typos in what I originally wrote - I'm so sorry about that, I didn't realise. So I just fixed them 😉 Thank you so much for replying to me. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your daughter also! 😢 In my opinion, no human being should die young, ever 😞 How are you doing now - if you don't mind me asking? How do you honour your daughter - do you do something special for anniversaries for example - in her honour/memory? Louise ❤️
@Serenityonlinetherapy I'm so glad you're doing well now. Where can I find the online memorial site for your daughter? I'd love to have a look at it ❤️
I am so thankful that I found your channel. We just lost our 4th son, age 42 suddenly on November 25, 2020. He had depression and health issues but he was feeling a bit better and went on a camping trip. On the way back he pulled over at a service station, reclined his seat back and passed away. The waiting on the autopsy results is so difficult as it could be mid March before we know. My husband and I are in a very bad state of mind. What you explained in the video was helpful though. I subscribed! Thank you !
I am so sorry for the tragic death of your beloved son. I've glad you found my video helpful. I have other videos in my Grief Playlist, including one on losing a child. Here is the link: ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G
Thank you, Counselor Carl. I lost my mother this summer, and woke up in unstoppable tears this morning, 2 months after her death. Thank you for normalizing the chaotic process of grief. It helps me feel more comforted.
On June 8th of this year my 48 year old daughter was killed by her fiance in a domestic violence incident. She lived in a city 1200 miles from me. I cannot travel there to deal with things nor could I afford a prolonged stay. The DA has not yet evaluated the case for prosecution and it could be many more months before that happens. None of that is what is particularly troubling me. My daughter was with this man for 12 years and I have come to realize that they were having problems she never discussed with me. She always wanted me to think he was a terrific guy. I was handling life pretty well for awhile. I did plenty of crying and grieving, but I was functioning. Then her birthday came on September 23rd, the first one since she died. My birthday was one week later on the 30th. I had a complete meltdown that day. My husband had planned to take me out to dinner, but I was so anguished that I couldn't even get dressed. Today is October 4th and I've done practically nothing for over 10 days. I can't seem to snap out of this. I'm going to a peer-to-peer group therapy once a month and private therapy as well. I had an appointment today, but I canceled it. I don't really like my therapist or find her suggestions very helpful. It's a chore to explain things to her and she wastes my time talking about herself. She has never lost a child and she doesn't seem to get that it is a very specific grief distinct from other types of grief. I'm 75 now and I feel like there's nothing to look forward to. I'm a Christian and I'm trusting God about everything, but I still have to push myself to do the simplest tasks like bathing or making the bed. I don't know how to accept my grief but continue to live. I know my daughter would want me to take care of myself and try to be happy. I will see her again someday. But for now, I have NO energy. 😥
Hi, Angelia. I am so sorry for the tragic death of your daughter. Thank you for sharing. What you have described is the unpredictable nature of grieving - just when you think you've figured it out, it can take you down again. I hope you find support in my videos on grief. Here is my playlist of all my videos on grief: ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G
Thank you. Sorry for your loss 🎉 I'm suffering daily.. , I also lost my career job, ... i should have kept, but was so stressed out, I couldn't see the path to stay @ the time. Now, even more so... I suffer. I am in depression, anxiety, insomnia and guilt. I hear everyone.. but it doesn't help. I just don't enjoy anything anymore, and self loafing is becoming more prevalent. All this wasn't supposed to happen!! I could have changed something earlier to have prevented this, I coulda shouda wouldas, is always ruminating! ... I know,... I have to keep going. 🙏
I'm sorry for your losses . Most communities have grief support groups, especially through hospice assuming that one of your losses involves a death. But with the symptoms you describe, at the very least, you should talk to your doctor about them to see what kind of support he might be able to provide for you or find for you. I wish you the best.
Thank you. I am trying to help my mother with losing her mother and my partner with losing his two best friends. To be able to use your daughters death to help others is outstanding. I applaud and appreciate you. In her death you've managed to bring some light to others. Bless you xxxx
Hi, Lee. Thank you for your kind words. About three years after my daughter's death, it became my mission to help others navigate the difficult waters of grieving traumatic losses. I'm glad you found my video helpful.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy this video really helped me because I lost both of my grandmothers one in 2020 and one this year and I’ve been grieving so much and I’m a teen and so I’m just wondering if I should be grieving this long or if it will take a while? I’m just trying to figure out my life in general and it’s just been really unfortunate stuff in my life and to be a grandkid of both grandmothers is just really hard and it’s hard to let go
@@AmandaMcAbee21 Hi, Amanda. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved grandmothers. Grief doesn't have a time table. Each person and situation is different. Allowing yourself to grieve is important, but it is also important to give yourself permission to get back to life as well. In other words, you don't want to obsess on the losses for any longer than necessary. Here is a video that helps you assess your progress in grieving: ruclips.net/video/JhBROtSOEoA/видео.html. And here is another link to my Playlist on Grief, which might help as well: ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G
I lost my 26 year old son,then my sister.new years eve I lost my only remaining sister.. I lost both parents in their 50s.. I'm now the only remaining member in my immediate family. I'm only 54. I'm at such a loss.
Hi, Liz. I am so sorry for your losses. We call this grief overload when so many losses occur that the person has no time or energy to even begin to grieve. I highly recommend that you find a grief counselor and grief support group to help you cope with such tragedies.
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Rest in peace. Ive had two ndes and can honestly say tje afterlife is extremely peaceful snd ultra real. Please do speak or write to your loved ones who have passed. It can be heard
Your videos have helped me understand a lot of things. Clinical depression is an interesting matter and if you can shed more light on it, it would be very helpful.
Hi, Anastasia. I'm glad my videos have been helpful. Here is a play list of videos about anxiety and depression that may also be helpful. ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkusfI4ymczkY4GEb3BBpwr7p. Best wishes!
What no tells you or wants to talk about is all the other crap you have to deal with after the death of a partner like the bank, the lawyers, utility companies, trying to pay bills, etc. Dealing with them while grieving just compounds the pain and depression.
I’m sorry for your loss my Nan died a week ago I think that everyone is more important than me because people are way better than me I was bullied in primary school and I’m useless
I'm sorry for the loss of your Nan. I see you suffer from the trance of worthlessness, which is the mistaken belief that you are worthless. If you want to be happy, you must learn to see your own value.
My beloved Grandfather have passed away from Kindey Failure at the age of 95 year old I miss him very much He was my best Relative that I ever had what can I do after losing my Grandfather?
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Hi, Thank you for your support My beloved Grandfather's Kindey was not working the Doctor give him two days to live and with in next half hour He suddenly passed away
I just lost a really close friend... my heart is broken, I feel responsible... like I should of seen the signs. He crashed a motorbike into a lamppost, I feel he was intoxicated and I could of helped him with rehab. I feel guilty for not replying to a message he sent the week before asking if I was okay, how do I get over this? I need someone’s help :(
Hi, Ad. Guilt is often a frequent and painful emotion when grieving. We think we should have done more or known what was going to happen, but most of the time we ultimately have to accept that what happened was beyond our control.
Counselor Carl, multiple people have asked me about seeing someone from my local medical practice, but i have always told them a doctor cant help that and i dont like resorting to drugs to make people feel better so i wont
Hi Matthew, if you are struggling with grief, I would suggest seeing a grief counselor or joining a grief group first to see if that helps. Best wishes!
its true that i am but people always seem to think a doctor is the way to stop being depressed or suicidal like i know i would have already shot myself if i was american cause they all have guns at home and it worries people to hear but you are right to say a more natural solution is better to manage my emotions
I think the important thing is to reach out for help if your grief feels overwhelming to someone you trust or believe might be able to help you, such as a grief counselor or grief group.
How can someone ever enjoy life again if almost everything went wrong that could go wrong? A dead father, a murdered nephew, no healthcare, no job or income, basically no future... For some people, life is suffering... always when i tried to build up something or help someone, it just got worse. If it wouldn't be for my mother, i would've killed myself a while ago.
Hi, Finn. I am so sorry for your losses and misfortune. Finding meaning and purpose in the face of such tragedies is difficult. Understanding grief and learning how to grieve offer pathways forward. Finding supports, like a grief group, can help as well.
my mother died and now I can't sleep and have depression and anxiety......I have to take klonopin to sleep and I can't leave the house and drive by myself....all of my self-confidence is gone......should I take.....medication?m HELP!
Im confused by my grief. I’ve been grieving for 7 months. I lost a long distant friend who I only met in person ONE time. We were close and talked everyday and I thought I was In love with him but I only knew him through a computer or phone. You’d think this would be getting easier for me to accept but I’m so miserable still. He camps in my head, this can’t be normal. I think my grieving is Unhealthy. How can I be grieving so badly for this long over someone I knew online?
HI, Shawna. I am sorry for the loss of your friend. The intensity of grieving is after related to how central the person was in your life. So, even though it was a long-distanced relationship, a person you'd only met once, it seems like he became a very important person in your life, which is why you miss him so much.
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Thankyou for this I think I have perhaps tried too hard to recover 18 months now from 50 years of marriage Lockdowns with virus not helped So thankyou for this
Hi, Abby. Well, this video should help you differentiate the grief of depression from clinical depression. As far as what a "prolonged" period of time is that might indicate one needs help in grieving, there is no set time frame. However, if you've viewed my videos on the stages of grief and you still feel stuck or frustrated with the pace of your grieving, then you should talk with a grief counselor to help you figure out what is going on. It could be that you are stuck, or that maybe you have unrealistic expectations as to how grieving should progress. I hope this helps.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy I'm actually more curious for a friend of mine. She lost her husband and many already told her to "get over it" by 3 months...and I encouraged her to take as long as she needed. She has been in a grief group, but I'm not sure what it's like. Because now we are going on to 3 years and she is still miserable, still has not removed any of his things and still plays the "no one helps the poor widow" card. Even I am getting tired of it now and am not sure how to help her?
@@abbykoop5363 Hi, Abby. It is important that you accept that you can not fix your friend. It is her journey through grief. You can listen and you can offer support, but you can't do it for her. And you should not take responsibility (in your own mind) for healing her. I am glad she is getting support from a grief group. I know from working with many clients grieving traumatic losses (unexpected, tragic, or going against the natural way of things such as the loss of a child) that it can take 3 years or longer to completely find one's way back to life in the here and now. If you friends says she feels stuck, then maybe you could suggest that she see an individual grief counselor.
Loss of a child is something others do not recognize & are unsympathetic ,go through grief stages & move on! Do not like Psycho-Analysts who put a label on this grief that will pass with negative Drugs like Risperdahl which can cause Impotence ,driving away spouse!
Hi, Daniel. I am so sorry for the loss of your child. I hope you are seeking support from a grief counselor or grief support group, and if possible, one for parents who have lost a child. Grieving the loss of a child is complicated. There are no easy answers. You will need solid supports. I wishl you the best!
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I very much appreciate your videos, my sister, 29, passed away in her sleep. I lost my best friend, but her son lost his mother, and my dad lost his daughter. I am struggling with moving forward, and your videos help me feel like what I feel is normal.
I am so sorry for your loss 😞 Sending you love & hugs ❤️ xo
It's really important to know that it's the self-blame, guilt and self-loathing that need be addressed in order to heal from the grief.
Thank you for sharing.
I agree. Thank you for sharing.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy my girlfriend "s mum killed herself tonight she didnt apcet Megan has died how i be for her husband he lost wife tonight and Megan 3 mouths ago how be there for my mum lost her best friend ????.
I agree with you too - thank you for that. I really need to work on this. God bless you ❤
I've had clinical depression my whole life, as well as other serious health issues too. Then my partner & caregiver (he'd only just turned 30) died suddenly, alone on my bed - and my mum found him the next day like that. It's been 20 months now since his death, and I'm still finding it extremely difficult to motivate myself to do anything at all really. I'm on medication, but it doesn't seem to be doing anything. Before he died, at least we/I could listen to music, now I find myself not even able to do that. He was a music producer and music was 'our thing', now I don't even enjoy that, and if I hear one of our favourite songs, it triggers me and I become very angry. I'm yet to be able to find a very good counsellor over here in Australia - one that absolutely understands grief. It's useless talking to somebody that doesn't get it.
Thank you so much for this ❤
I'm very sorry for the loss of your partner. I'm glad you found some support from my video. I wish you the best.
@Serenityonlinetherapy I had so many typos in what I originally wrote - I'm so sorry about that, I didn't realise. So I just fixed them 😉
Thank you so much for replying to me. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your daughter also! 😢 In my opinion, no human being should die young, ever 😞
How are you doing now - if you don't mind me asking? How do you honour your daughter - do you do something special for anniversaries for example - in her honour/memory?
Louise ❤️
@@143LoveConquersAll Thank you. I made an online memorial site for my daughter. I'm doing well.
@Serenityonlinetherapy I'm so glad you're doing well now. Where can I find the online memorial site for your daughter? I'd love to have a look at it ❤️
@@143LoveConquersAll Here is the link: www.virtual-memorials.com/main.php?action=view&mem_id=17909&page_no=1
I am so thankful that I found your channel. We just lost our 4th son, age 42 suddenly on November 25, 2020. He had depression and health issues but he was feeling a bit better and went on a camping trip. On the way back he pulled over at a service station, reclined his seat back and passed away. The waiting on the autopsy results is so difficult as it could be mid March before we know. My husband and I are in a very bad state of mind. What you explained in the video was helpful though. I subscribed! Thank you !
I am so sorry for the tragic death of your beloved son. I've glad you found my video helpful. I have other videos in my Grief Playlist, including one on losing a child. Here is the link: ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G
I feel a lot of grief and sadness due to childhood emotional neglect which has impact multiple life areas where I see long lasting damage.
Thank you, Counselor Carl.
I lost my mother this summer, and woke up in unstoppable tears this morning, 2 months after her death. Thank you for normalizing the chaotic process of grief. It helps me feel more comforted.
You're welcome, and I'm sorry for the loss of your mom.
On June 8th of this year my 48 year old daughter was killed by her fiance in a domestic violence incident. She lived in a city 1200 miles from me. I cannot travel there to deal with things nor could I afford a prolonged stay. The DA has not yet evaluated the case for prosecution and it could be many more months before that happens. None of that is what is particularly troubling me. My daughter was with this man for 12 years and I have come to realize that they were having problems she never discussed with me. She always wanted me to think he was a terrific guy. I was handling life pretty well for awhile. I did plenty of crying and grieving, but I was functioning. Then her birthday came on September 23rd, the first one since she died. My birthday was one week later on the 30th. I had a complete meltdown that day. My husband had planned to take me out to dinner, but I was so anguished that I couldn't even get dressed. Today is October 4th and I've done practically nothing for over 10 days. I can't seem to snap out of this. I'm going to a peer-to-peer group therapy once a month and private therapy as well. I had an appointment today, but I canceled it. I don't really like my therapist or find her suggestions very helpful. It's a chore to explain things to her and she wastes my time talking about herself. She has never lost a child and she doesn't seem to get that it is a very specific grief distinct from other types of grief. I'm 75 now and I feel like there's nothing to look forward to. I'm a Christian and I'm trusting God about everything, but I still have to push myself to do the simplest tasks like bathing or making the bed. I don't know how to accept my grief but continue to live. I know my daughter would want me to take care of myself and try to be happy. I will see her again someday. But for now, I have NO energy. 😥
Hi, Angelia. I am so sorry for the tragic death of your daughter. Thank you for sharing. What you have described is the unpredictable nature of grieving - just when you think you've figured it out, it can take you down again. I hope you find support in my videos on grief. Here is my playlist of all my videos on grief: ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G
Thank you. Sorry for your loss 🎉 I'm suffering daily.. , I also lost my career job, ... i should have kept, but was so stressed out, I couldn't see the path to stay @ the time. Now, even more so... I suffer. I am in depression, anxiety, insomnia and guilt. I hear everyone.. but it doesn't help. I just don't enjoy anything anymore, and self loafing is becoming more prevalent. All this wasn't supposed to happen!! I could have changed something earlier to have prevented this, I coulda shouda wouldas, is always ruminating! ... I know,... I have to keep going. 🙏
I'm sorry for your losses . Most communities have grief support groups, especially through hospice assuming that one of your losses involves a death. But with the symptoms you describe, at the very least, you should talk to your doctor about them to see what kind of support he might be able to provide for you or find for you. I wish you the best.
Thanks for this Carl. Your videos are so clear and easy to understand. The self-blame and loathing now makes more sense.
I'm glad you found this video helpful. Best wishes!
Thank you. I am trying to help my mother with losing her mother and my partner with losing his two best friends. To be able to use your daughters death to help others is outstanding. I applaud and appreciate you. In her death you've managed to bring some light to others. Bless you xxxx
Hi, Lee. Thank you for your kind words. About three years after my daughter's death, it became my mission to help others navigate the difficult waters of grieving traumatic losses. I'm glad you found my video helpful.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy this video really helped me because I lost both of my grandmothers one in 2020 and one this year and I’ve been grieving so much and I’m a teen and so I’m just wondering if I should be grieving this long or if it will take a while? I’m just trying to figure out my life in general and it’s just been really unfortunate stuff in my life and to be a grandkid of both grandmothers is just really hard and it’s hard to let go
@@AmandaMcAbee21 Hi, Amanda. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved grandmothers. Grief doesn't have a time table. Each person and situation is different. Allowing yourself to grieve is important, but it is also important to give yourself permission to get back to life as well. In other words, you don't want to obsess on the losses for any longer than necessary. Here is a video that helps you assess your progress in grieving: ruclips.net/video/JhBROtSOEoA/видео.html. And here is another link to my Playlist on Grief, which might help as well: ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G
I lost my father in 2021.ive never felt such pain in my life.its worse when someone sympathises with you
Hi, Matina. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved father.
I lost my 26 year old son,then my sister.new years eve I lost my only remaining sister..
I lost both parents in their 50s.. I'm now the only remaining member in my immediate family. I'm only 54.
I'm at such a loss.
Hi, Liz. I am so sorry for your losses. We call this grief overload when so many losses occur that the person has no time or energy to even begin to grieve. I highly recommend that you find a grief counselor and grief support group to help you cope with such tragedies.
I'm sorry I just read that.
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Rest in peace. Ive had two ndes and can honestly say tje afterlife is extremely peaceful snd ultra real. Please do speak or write to your loved ones who have passed. It can be heard
Good guy. A pleasure hearing you.
Thank you!
Your videos have helped me understand a lot of things. Clinical depression is an interesting matter and if you can shed more light on it, it would be very helpful.
Hi, Anastasia. I'm glad my videos have been helpful. Here is a play list of videos about anxiety and depression that may also be helpful. ruclips.net/p/PL_wjG-62KkusfI4ymczkY4GEb3BBpwr7p. Best wishes!
This is beautiful
Thank you, Jadys! Best wishes!
What no tells you or wants to talk about is all the other crap you have to deal with after the death of a partner like the bank, the lawyers, utility companies, trying to pay bills, etc. Dealing with them while grieving just compounds the pain and depression.
Yes, Steve, you are so right. I am sorry for your loss.
Excellent video Carl!
Thank you, Stephanie!
Thankyou so much for this video Carl, you have been a great help to me.
You're welcome. Best wishes!
Take tranquilizers and antidepressants from the start.
Thank you, so much...
You're welcome!
I’m sorry for your loss my Nan died a week ago I think that everyone is more important than me because people are way better than me I was bullied in primary school and I’m useless
I'm sorry for the loss of your Nan. I see you suffer from the trance of worthlessness, which is the mistaken belief that you are worthless. If you want to be happy, you must learn to see your own value.
You are accepted, in Jesus!
My son just passed at the age of 35 his twin brother passed at the age of 9 so I have lost 2 sons and I am very scared I will never get over it .
I am so sorry for the tragic loss of two sons.
You are just amazing
My beloved Grandfather have passed away from Kindey Failure at the age of 95 year old I miss him very much He was my best Relative that I ever had what can I do after losing my Grandfather?
HI, May. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Grandfather. Here is the link to my Playlist of videos on coping with grief and loss.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy
Hi,
Thank you for your support My beloved Grandfather's Kindey was not working the Doctor give him two days to live and with in next half hour He suddenly passed away
@@maychang3478 You're welcome. I wish you the best!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy
I am trying to stay Strong but losing my grandfather to Kindey Failure is very hard for me
I just lost a really close friend... my heart is broken, I feel responsible... like I should of seen the signs. He crashed a motorbike into a lamppost, I feel he was intoxicated and I could of helped him with rehab. I feel guilty for not replying to a message he sent the week before asking if I was okay, how do I get over this? I need someone’s help :(
Hi, Ad. Guilt is often a frequent and painful emotion when grieving. We think we should have done more or known what was going to happen, but most of the time we ultimately have to accept that what happened was beyond our control.
Counselor Carl, multiple people have asked me about seeing someone from my local medical practice, but i have always told them a doctor cant help that and i dont like resorting to drugs to make people feel better so i wont
Hi Matthew, if you are struggling with grief, I would suggest seeing a grief counselor or joining a grief group first to see if that helps. Best wishes!
its true that i am but people always seem to think a doctor is the way to stop being depressed or suicidal like i know i would have already shot myself if i was american cause they all have guns at home and it worries people to hear but you are right to say a more natural solution is better to manage my emotions
I think the important thing is to reach out for help if your grief feels overwhelming to someone you trust or believe might be able to help you, such as a grief counselor or grief group.
How can someone ever enjoy life again if almost everything went wrong that could go wrong?
A dead father, a murdered nephew, no healthcare, no job or income, basically no future...
For some people, life is suffering... always when i tried to build up something or help someone, it just got worse.
If it wouldn't be for my mother, i would've killed myself a while ago.
Hi, Finn. I am so sorry for your losses and misfortune. Finding meaning and purpose in the face of such tragedies is difficult. Understanding grief and learning how to grieve offer pathways forward. Finding supports, like a grief group, can help as well.
Yes
My farther died in 2015 and after that i am not me anymore .. All this years im still in pain ..
John, I am so sorry for the loss of your father.
No medications.
my mother died and now I can't sleep and have depression and anxiety......I have to take klonopin to sleep and I can't leave the house and drive by myself....all of my self-confidence is gone......should I take.....medication?m HELP!
Hi Diane. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. Medication is an option. Talk with your doctor.
Im confused by my grief. I’ve been grieving for 7 months. I lost a long distant friend who I only met in person ONE time. We were close and talked everyday and I thought I was In love with him but I only knew him through a computer or phone. You’d think this would be getting easier for me to accept but I’m so miserable still. He camps in my head, this can’t be normal. I think my grieving is Unhealthy. How can I be grieving so badly for this long over someone I knew online?
HI, Shawna. I am sorry for the loss of your friend. The intensity of grieving is after related to how central the person was in your life. So, even though it was a long-distanced relationship, a person you'd only met once, it seems like he became a very important person in your life, which is why you miss him so much.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy okay thank you Counselor Carol. I do miss him. I thought we had all the time in the world. Thank you.
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Thankyou for this
I think I have perhaps tried too hard to recover
18 months now from 50 years of marriage
Lockdowns with virus not helped
So thankyou for this
You're very welcome, Pauline!
What do you consider "prolonged" grief or depression?
Hi, Abby. Well, this video should help you differentiate the grief of depression from clinical depression. As far as what a "prolonged" period of time is that might indicate one needs help in grieving, there is no set time frame. However, if you've viewed my videos on the stages of grief and you still feel stuck or frustrated with the pace of your grieving, then you should talk with a grief counselor to help you figure out what is going on. It could be that you are stuck, or that maybe you have unrealistic expectations as to how grieving should progress. I hope this helps.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy I'm actually more curious for a friend of mine. She lost her husband and many already told her to "get over it" by 3 months...and I encouraged her to take as long as she needed. She has been in a grief group, but I'm not sure what it's like. Because now we are going on to 3 years and she is still miserable, still has not removed any of his things and still plays the "no one helps the poor widow" card. Even I am getting tired of it now and am not sure how to help her?
@@abbykoop5363 Hi, Abby. It is important that you accept that you can not fix your friend. It is her journey through grief. You can listen and you can offer support, but you can't do it for her. And you should not take responsibility (in your own mind) for healing her. I am glad she is getting support from a grief group. I know from working with many clients grieving traumatic losses (unexpected, tragic, or going against the natural way of things such as the loss of a child) that it can take 3 years or longer to completely find one's way back to life in the here and now. If you friends says she feels stuck, then maybe you could suggest that she see an individual grief counselor.
Loss of a child is something others do not recognize & are unsympathetic ,go through grief stages & move on! Do not like Psycho-Analysts who put a label on this grief that will pass with negative Drugs like Risperdahl which can cause Impotence ,driving away spouse!
Hi, Daniel. I am so sorry for the loss of your child. I hope you are seeking support from a grief counselor or grief support group, and if possible, one for parents who have lost a child. Grieving the loss of a child is complicated. There are no easy answers. You will need solid supports. I wishl you the best!
Quote My Raven A Little More? Thank You For Empathy ,It is a rare quality ,Today!
@@danieldreher6780 You're welcome, Daniel!
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Is. The cost $100 for 50 minutes
Hi, Nancy. Here is the link to my services and fees: serenityonlinetherapy.com/servicesfees.htm
Do you accept Maine care or Generations Advantage.
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