I am well past menopause at 73 years old. Like you, I am an introvert. The twenty years after menopause were the most liberating and exhilarating of my life. I was able to dedicate time and energy to causes that I cared deeply about. I developed a powerful and respected voice. Now, at 73, and since the pandemic, I have been drawn more inward. I took up painting during the lock downs (which is how I found you) and I have since grown in my art practice and become more skillful. I look forward to each vlog that you post.
wow, were they really, that's so inspiring to hear! I'm so happy to hear your story, thanks for shairng xxxxx thanks so much for watching and keeping us all company xx
First of all, love your videos they make me feel very relaxed and at peace! Really relate to your comments about changing as we get older. I find myself feeling more comfortable at home these days. I'm in my late 60s and I'm okay with that!😊
How wonderful to hear that there is light at the end of the tunnel. As someone in perimenopause, the fluctuations in energy levels and moods are challenging. One doesnt often hear the inspiring stories such as yours. Thank you
Some people say introvert like its a bad thing...I am growing into my introverted-self at this time in my life. For so many years I didn't like me, but now, slowly I am getting to know the real me and I'm quite happy with who I am...thanks for sharing
I'm nearly 62 and never thought of introverted nor extroverted was I. Today, I'm exceptionally introverted. I'm grateful to the women in the channels I've come to have found and are my go to. I enjoy the comments and the creators alike that help gift wisdom where my great gran and grand and my mom are all gone along with aunts. I've lost my senior guidance but they are all still very much here with me😊💛. Thank you all for the kindness and sharing and caring that goes along in these channels. Most a appreciative from here in my little corner or rural America.
aww thankyou for sharing and keeping me company too. Love the fact your senior guides are still with you, I feel the same! xxx Much loves and thankyou for commenting! xx
Funny how we get so much more appreciative of our own company as we get older. I think the inner world gets so much more interesting as you accumulate experience and understanding. I find I have endless pottering I want to do whenever I have spare time.
I am 62. I retired early, a year and a half ago, to take care of my mom who has Alzheimers. Menopause coupled with hypothyroidism was a perfect storm of chronic illness, insomnia, weight gain and unbeknownst to me, mini strokes. After five years of sleeping fitfully with ice packs I tried hormones again. I addressed each ailment one by one until I had my life back. I read for hours every night. I sew, quilt, knit, spin and I garden to my heart’s delight. The pace of my life now matches my insides. This is the right rhythm for my health and well being. I’m so grateful for this time.
Hi Wendy! Glad you could go see your daughter! I totally am the same when it comes to being more reclusive and introverted! I am 51, menopaused and I can spend days at home not talking to anyone but my love and be totally fine with it! Whereas before I could not stay home an entire day! Time does changes us ... Which I think is good. I love getting older, more than I could have ever imagined!
You are going into a butterfly stage. You are in the transition state before you come out as a butterfly. All the feelings you are feeling is all real. Even after menopause, you still go inside and do more transitioning, before you come out as a butterfly. I remember a naturopath Doctor told me that when we go through menopause it is our body, mind and spirit is saying that it is time to go find peace with yourself and let it take you to your next level of who you are. To except this loving part of you and to let go that guilt, expectations what role we are seen in this life. This is your time to be free in your womanhood that you feel peace within yourself.
Hi Wendy. Sorry to hear about the car situation - I hope it is resolved quickly. I am 46 and really struggling with perimenopause, and have become really introverted. I was never the life of the party, but now I just want to be by myself as being around people totally drains me. Hopefully I'll overcome this as I do feel lonely at times😢. Thanks for addressing topics like this in the supportive manner that you do ❤
May I recommend taking a high strength Vit B complex, including B12 and folic acid, plus fish oil, Magnesium glysonate (at bed time) and Vit D3+K2 (in the morning). You will become happier, healthier, stronger and less susceptible to illnesses and dementia. It is a long term commitment, but worth it for a healthy post menopause life. It has worked for me! Good luck! ❤
@@heather333thank you for the suggestions. I already take most of the things you have suggested, but will include the ones I don't, and I'll try taking them at the time of day you have suggested 🤎
Look into your medical options as well as the more “natural” ideas recommended. Hormone therapy is really helping me, and at 53 I don’t know why I waited so long! Doctors don’t seem to bring it up so we have to be our own advocates. There are some great doctors in RUclips talking about menopause, Mary Claire Haver being a top one.
@@WellEditedCojust beware of Premarin in hrp's, it is the urine from mares who are kept pregnant for its production, then their babies are taken away so they can start the process all over again 😢
In the last eight years I moved to the seaside. At 58 i discovered that riding on the bus was an easier option to driving. I always attract lovely people to talk to on the bus. Otherwise I am at home doing anything I want having taken early retirement. Through the menopause because I live near Norfolk Lavender, where you can sit amongst swathes of lavender bushes, I drank lavender liqueur with lemonade and ate lavender ice cream. Reading this now makes me realise how I made my menopause so much easier.
ahhhh! wow! yes! that's wonderful!! glad you living your best life too sounds fab xxxx I grew up in Norwich and love Norfolk it's v close to my heart! Bit envious of you living by the seaside!!!! xxx
I didn’t even know I was going thru menopause when it was happening. All I knew, for many years, was extreme depression. I finally consented to another antidepressant. To my amazement, it worked and I finally felt comfortable with where I was, in life. After that, life got really good and slightly wild with the best man I have ever known. We are living in Mexico for now, enjoying life as best we can.
Hi Wendy. I’m 62 and through the menopause, although I do still get a few hot flushes. Nothing like I used to get though. Some people can find something positive to say about the menopausal journey, but I can’t. It was horrendous! I feel so much better now - like all the little pieces of me have been put back together - like a jigsaw puzzle. X
Hello beautiful friend. I’m 76 and I had a hysterectomy in my 30th but I feel like the female body never forgets and went through a long period of menopausal symptoms, sleepless nights, anxiety, depression, body issues, fibromyalgia which I still experience, chronic pain and head in the clouds of that makes sense… hard to explain, emotional times, but over the yrs I learned more about how to help myself plus a single mum who had to take care of everything and no family support just me and my son. At work I always had to be on point, worked harder st my job as I didn’t feel confident within my own self and yet everyone seemed to think highly of my work and knowledge. When I retired it seemed like the first three weeks my head/brain took its time calming down so to speak. Plus I did not have to put on a happy face and it took a year for me to fully yo did not have to please anyone but me, and if nothing got done it was ok! That was a big one to accept. I too have become more introverted and like my own company, the peace of my home, and being around a lot of people does get to be after awhile and I find a reason to escape earlier as the noise of loud voices starts to get to me. Traveling prep I start putting stuff out two weeks ahead to plan on what I need, talk away and add until it’s done then pack a week before but the last thing is my toiletry bag but always on the counter and any meds I may need. I do have to have a clean fresh bed to come home to and a tidy house. Unpacking is the harder part and I procrastinate on this… when I get home it’s like a big sigh of relief that I’m home. Gardening in my pots is peace, filling my fountains for birds to get water is so important to me. I feel guilty if I have to stop the fountains which must sound a bit crazy. Art, poetry, needle work, journaling are my go too’s like many here. Sometimes it’s hard to do any of them when I’m in a mental fog. Depends on my pain issues. But I’ve managed to lose about 30lbs and trying to get more off me which is slowly working. A life of almost 30 yrs sitting at a desk working all those yrs has not been kind to my body, my fault as I never had enough hrs in a day to get a massive work load done so worked many times through lunch and breaks when I should have stepped way and walked. When my son left home for his tour in the US Army I spiraled into depression as he was my whole life my responsibility no partner, no family support and I would not have changed anything, today he is a well established almost 50 father and husband, a good man with a huge heart. If I never did anything else but raise a good man and excel in my almost 30 yrs work life then I’ve done ok. At this present time I’m living my life to the best I can, most of the time alone and around folks as I please. Covid changed life a lot for many of us and we became comfortable being more alone but not lonely. Wendy you are an amazing, honest, upfront lady sharing your journey that has helped so many women sound this community of likeminded women. Thank you does not seem to say enough… I for one appreciate all that you share in arts, thoughts, suggestions, experiences and you just being you. Much love and light. Softest hugs. 🥰 ❤❤
thankyou too for sharing your experiences, we appreciate you so much. Soft hugs when you need them and just keep shining and doing your best. big loves xxx
As a 52 year old woman who is on this journey, I appreciate all of your wisdom. It helps to know that I’m not alone and that there are natural remedies to address some of the “gifts” that menopause can bring. Thank you ladies !!!💕💕
I am 82 years old, and never had to go through menopause because I had a partial hysterectomy. Although my ovaries were left so that I would not have to take hormones, I never went through menopause. I have been an introvert most of my life but not as bad as now. When my husband was alive, he was in the Navy for 20 years, so that right there called for a lot of socialization. Then he became a manager with AT&T for the next 20 years again socialization. Then we moved into a motorhome and travel theUnited States and Canada for 14 years. At that point I was done with socialization, but we did on a small scale, but he was never much on socializing when we got to that point. When he passed away, I moved back to Savannah Georgia to be near my daughter and bought a townhome. I am not happy in the town home because I like a standalone home where I can have more privacy and only socialize if I want to whereas in the townhome if I go outside, somebody’s always around and with everything that goes on in these places that are under an HOA there is always drama. So I tend to only go out when I have to take the dog out and try to avoid the drama. I am starting to learn Zentangle, which a friend of mine has tried to get me interested in for years. She lives in Missouri so she’s not close enough to help me with it but I have found a lot of RUclipsrs that teach it and it is very calming but I found that they talk too much and I’m not concentrating on what I should be concentrating on which is calmness. So now I turn the volume off put music on and just follow the picture. I’ve tried watercolor but I am not an artist and I’m having a hard time with it and I’m definitely not able to draw anything because stick figures look like mishmash to me. So you say I am definitely not an artist. But I love watching your channel because I love your voice, and your wisdom. And I love looking at your drawings. I do follow some groups on Facebook, but there are other things thrown in when I’m scanning through Facebook and I’m getting disgusted so I think I’m going to get off of Facebook. I don’t watch the news anymore at all. I also do a little bit of calligraphy and punch needle. And then there are days when all I wanna do is sit and read a book and that is exactly what I do. I love your channel and will continue to watch.
Thank you for sharing all these lifestyle helpers. I’m 76 and really like to stay home. I’m house bound due to oxygen but even so, I love doing my own thing at home. I went through early menopause but now experience anxiety. So, now I take CBD which calms me. Love your You Tube.
Oh my Darling! I liked it so much that you talked about the goddess mother and son! I'm from Portugal and I usually visit Glastonbury. I follow your videos! You are inspiring!!
I just turned 67 (weird for me to say that), I usually don't think about age, and don't really make a fuss for myself about birthdays. I'm just grateful for each year. I too am more and more introverted each year. I wasn't a social person, but I find myself needing to recharge more, life these days drain me faster, I suppose. I have a small bedroom (my studio if you will) and I love to make jewelry, and wire wrapped moons, and well anything that speaks of fairies and magical glittery items. A bit of a magpie, anything that shines, it catches my attention!! LOL Menopause, really is still sorta with me, it does trigger my emotions,and a good cry does really help purge the drearies out. But I do enjoy my company as well. You are not alone, I feel a lot of us have the same ups and downs, and prefer solitude more often. And that helps me create more and of course just "play" which is good for the soul. I wish you much joy and peace, and thank you Wendy for your lovely insightful videos, they are so calming and good for my soul!!:)) Blessings to you and James, and warm hugs from across the pond in Ohio!!:))😊❤❤
I don't feel well after I've had alcohol either. I also used to enjoy it almost daily as you describe. Now, I can maybe have one drink, without a headache, but it all affects my sleep. I feel so much better the next morning when I have no alcohol. So, I drink homemade seltzer water with fruit flavors as a treat for myself in the evening.
I get completely exhausted by being around people (including family)! Going to try the lavender as I have started the Perimenopause! Love being a home-body and it annoys me when people don't understand. Love you videos and your sharing.
"According to data collected by Myers-Briggs, around 56 percent of the US population prefers introversion, with just 44 percent-fewer than half-having an extraverted approach to life. That might be because introversion is often misunderstood: it's not about being shy or socially inept, but rather about energy and focus"
I am 45 and am 1.5 years into perimenopause. THANK YOU SO MUCH for speaking on the big MP so often!! Other than channels dedicated to it specifically, no one usually talks about it. Over 50% of the planet experiences it and yet it's taboo to mention it in day to day life. I too am becoming more and more comfortable my own company versus other people. I prefer to be at home all the time. I also quit drinking 2 years ago. I just so appreciate your openness and honesty.
I'll also mention that not only never having children, (but in fact failing to do so 4 times) adds an entire layer to the whole thing as well. Well, many layers actually.
I totally agree with you about wanting more solitude. I'm 64 in a couple of months and thought I was starting to have social anxiety after talking to my 30 year old daughter who thinks this about me. I don't really know the difference, I just felt and continue to feel that I enjoy my own space and company. Is it because I'm getting older? I don't know. I think it might be because like you I find people draining. So glad I can watch your videos, they make a lot of sense to me and I really appreciate your honesty.
Oh wow! I feel exactly the same. I feel like I am ready for a new chapter of life, time to be alone (happily) , quiet, more introverted etc. Time to just be a wife and enjoy my husband and yes, my own company! (I am 54:)
Wendy, I am 56 yrs young and I so appreciate you and your honest discourse regarding a womens' journey through life, menopause and all! My journey into menopause began very young, younger than most and it is so important for women to have a platform for free and open sharing about what goes on with oneself, physically, mentally and emotionally during this time, because we are so very vulnerable! Support is everything! Knowledge and understanding is everything! And for me, art is everything! My creative expression is an outlet for all of this energy that sometimes has nowhere to go. I make art because I must. Just as I grow older and change, so too must my art and my thinking. I so appreciate you!
Thank you for another lovely video, Wendy. I am now in my late fifties and quite like my own company. It is nice to meet up with people occasionally but afterwards I often feel emotionally drained. Like you, I have been with my partner for many years, so we are very lucky indeed. Have a fabulous evening ♥
I'm 62. The thing that has helped me a lot to not think much about aging is realizing that we age one day, every day. We don't get a year older on our birthdays. We just change the number we say for our age. I don't know if that will help anyone else, but it helps me.
Thank you dear Wendy, for an enjoyable video. Having recently come through the ebbs & flows of menopause too, its good to hear your experiences, & read those in the comments too. Having been a wild-child & pary animal, this new quieter, solitary me has taken me by suprise. I love time alone to potter, reflect, write, garden, draw.... For me this slower life is rich & exciting 🙏
Hello Wendy, I enjoy your videos very much also watching your sketching, I'm 73, I had an early menapause after having my 4th child at the age of 40, it was quite plain sailing really, I remember speaking to my Mother mid 40' s menapause was the topic and she said " I'm 73 and still having hot flushes" I'm at the stage in my life and fortunately for me left all thought of menapause behind me 20 years ago. I do like to have time to myself I live alone, but never lonely, my life is just how I like it. Woodland walks gardening holidays, I'm fit and healthyI do enjoy meeting people and have an interest in many things, especially involved in Body mind and Spirit groups, being a spiritual person from an early age there is always more to discover. Last year I had my first book published. Short stories poetry, with more to come. It's not something I had time for with children and working. Love and live life to the full whatever age, I think along the way people feel too much pressure and forget to " Just Be" Hugs and Blessings to all.🙏🌹
Hi Wendy! Right now I'm sick at home with Covid. It's hard to settle down and relax with these symptoms of nausea and aching all over. But I can put on your video and, as I watch, feel some measure of peace of mind and stillness of body sink in. Thank you for being an inspiration!
I feel like I'm starting to cross the tunnel This past year, from one summer to the next, I felt so many changes and transformations. In April I became very ill, I had profound physical and psychological exhaustion.My body works completely differently I needed to stop everything, leave the world and delve inside to see from another perspective.Lavender is part of my essentials for everything kit.It's been great to hear you talk about menopause so clearly. Very grateful for the shares.❤❤
I am early on my menopause journey and it started earlyier due to a childhood illness and treatment for that. Its lonely because the people I know are not going through it and my life feels uncertain at this point. My journey in HRT has began just recently too. I love watching your videos with your wise advice and your art is beautiful
I reaLLy needed this video .... I'm 51 & my mind is playing over & over the phrase "I want to be alone" , feeling suffocated, irritable, but then guilt too at feeling that.
I too have found I have become more reclusive with age and really enjoy my own company. Menopause seems a very long time ago for me and was a stretched out process because I had a hysterectomy at 27 and an ovary removed at 20. This was due to polycystic ovary syndrome. I'm 75 and am very content , more content than I have ever been. My creative thing at the moment is recycling clothing, turning the garments into shabby chic fashions embellished with my slow stitching and embroidered pieces. I still journal and draw and paint but mostly small paintings because of a shoulder injury. I have good and bad days, physically because of fibro and osteoarthritis arthritis. On good days, like today, I walk or garden. Today, I walked 2 km after dropping my car off at the auto shop for a warrant. I was very pleased with myself. I don't strive to be better or improve myself like I used to, and I am very laid back now. There is no push me pull me going on inside myself. It really is like an out breathing. Lots of love to you, Wendy. Every little thing gonna be alright.❤❤❤
Wendy I am Catholic but have no problems with other persons spirituality. I do oppose taking away any art that is historical. We can’t delete mistakes to become better persons. My menopause was a breeze. I am always warm before and after menopause. I do agree that the inner self changes though. Solice would be nice. How I would give a day without the hubby and our 22 year old special needs son tv be gone for a day or more. I squeak a couple of hours here and there for my art.
I'm an extroverted introvert. I have a handful of very good friends, like sisters, and I love to spend time with them. We've had a lot of wonderful adventures and I appreciate being able to be wild and crazy and myself around them. But the other side of that is that I find myself becoming overwhelmed and overstimulated on longer excursions and I become moody because of it. I love my time to myself, solitude. I'm very comfortable with my own company and easy with quiet. Art. Books. Daydreaming. I always enjoy your insights and your art that keeps us company.
Wendy, thank you so much for your channel. It’s been like a warm hug. I am going through some transitions both physically and mentally. It helped me so much to feel encouraged by you to start anew. I signed up for a drawing class last week and I haven’t felt this good about life in such a long time. You are such a beautiful soul and I am so glad to have found you on here.
I can relate to what you say about being in solitude and just enjoying my own company. Also that you can feel alone when around the wrong people that just don't get you. Love hearing you talk about your own personal journey and the products that help calm you.
There are wonderful changes that come with aging. I am on the other side of menopause, no more hot flashes. As long as a person can stay healthy this is the most wonderful time of life. I have also became more introverted, loving my home, and more adamant with what I want to do with my time. Soak it all up, my sweet friend because, like you said, it is a gift.
yes, staying healthy if we can is soo important xxx I am like you in that I am much more adamant, I even have non-negoitables now! You too xx soak soak soak!! xxx
I am always filled up when I watch your videos. I am an introvert and always felt I needed to be more outgoing. But that's not really who I am, thought sometimes in my life I have needed to be that way. i have a grown daughter with Down Syndrome and she needed an advocate. That pushed me out a bit. But I like who I am. I like that I have learned to be outgoing and connect with people and I like that I enjoy my own quiet company. I am 62. I love this stage of my life. It is very good.
What a magnificent tree friend you have! I enjoyed this message as I’m pre menopause and looking for natural ways to cope with hormone imbalances. I love that you said getting older is a gift. I find myself being more introverted too to the more older I become. Books and trees are good friends for me.
I still remember " my trees" from my childhood.I miss them because I spent a lot of time in them We had a grove of forsythia shrubs that we called the cave.We played underneath them and had several " rooms" in there.Your tree is really beautiful and looks very old.
I agree that as I have gotten older I have a need to have My stuff for comfort and like home more. I am a bit more of an introvert now. I want my creams, aromatherapy/lavender, favorite coffee mug, my comfy pillow, etc comfort, homey items when I travel. I do feel a bit anxious when we are getting ready for travel. Once I arrive I seem to be great and enjoy the experience. It's simply another stage of life we traverse.
Good stuff in your rescue kit. For in the moment mood lifter I like lemon. My hormones went unbalanced in my late 30ties. Daughter went off to college & I missed her sunshine spirit🌞 As an Army wife & good introvert art always saved me. My meditation is about wanting to be moveable (I’m 62).In the US weather or other events can take a home & we are aware. As for statues, if we can believe that the mother & child bond is the way to heal the world that focus is great. 💕📚🗺️🦋🌼
Hi, Wendy, lovely, interesting video as always. Spot on describing myself and how I love my own company! I’m 73 next Saturday. I have a lovely partner who knows I need my own space, I’m very happy when in my art space drawing, painting and listening to audiobooks. I have a friend who has to see people everyday, joins clubs and tries to get me to go along with her. I sometimes feel she pities me as I ‘don’t do anything’ - but I never stop creating! I too was a teacher and now I have the time to do exactly what I want to do, every day. It’s wonderful! Keep up with the great videos Wendy xxx
Happy Birthday next Saturday!🎂Your friend needs to understand that you both have different ways of regaining your energy. Extroverts like your friend gains her energy by being around people where you (and myself) get drained by too much socialization and need alone time to recharge.And it goes on a spectrum as well, those in the middle who aren't as extreme.I hope your friend can understand and accept this while dropping the unnecessary pity. Best wishes! 🤗
Solitude is so Peaceful... and after Menopause I found I am most comfortable on my own. My husband and I have been together for over 40 years and we just grow to appreciate each other more and more. We have found that intimacy is morphing beyond sexuality and becoming something much deeper and soul comforting. I never hear much about that in society is always about what a woman goes through with the focus being on moodiness (HERS) and Hot flashes. Not much is talked about Intimacy changes and the desire changing as well or going away. I am thankful we are still as close as we are... He and I have a special relationship that seems to survive all the storms of life thus far.
My husband always said that if anything happened to him, I would become a recluse! He passed away in April 2023, and he was absolutely right! He was a big, affable man, very outgoing, and ready to get involved in everything. I am the total opposite, but we somehow made it work, even though sometimes it felt very uncomfortable to socialise. I have never found it difficult to be alone, I am an only child so it goes with the territory, I suppose, learning to get on with things on my own because actually there was no other option. I am an introvert with occasionally surprising extrovert tendencies I think because I do like to go out and do the odd thing from time to time, but it is all very much on my terms. I am happy with my choices and at 66 I have finally unleashed the real me free to do what I want when I want. Its been liberating! I love watching your channel Wendy. Blessings to you and James X
Some great advice there, Wendy. May I add that I do a short Reiki meditation with affirmations every morning before I get out of bed. This has been so beneficial especially lately while I have been facing extremely hard life happenings!
I'm in my late 50s. And a lot more introverted than I used to be. Menopause was a struggle, but as you say, it's starting to get better. I tried HRT, but it was so bad I stopped after three months. Turned me into a wreck. Love your videos, I feel like I'm spending time with a dear friend
Great video. Thank you for sharing. I'm ten years into menopause and still learning so much about me. The good and bad. It's our gift as women to be able to hopefully afford ourselves this time. Yes we learn in the good times but when the challenges come I think I learn the most. Learning to put me first was the hardest lesson. Maybe just learning it now, and how important it is. I wish someone had of shared that with me ten years ago. To give ourselves love, time and compassion is everything❤ Blessings all you beautiful souls🥰
Hi. Wendy. I am well past menopause. But for about 5 years now I take Ashwagandha daily. I find it very calming. When I went through menopause I found lavender perfume stick on my pulse points very cooling. I used to keep it in fridge overnight. Since being a widow, I've been quite reclusive and my journey of self reflection and meditation has helped me find my true Empath self. I'm now feeling calm, centred, confident! I've stopped drinking any alcohol too ( was never really into it) and feel more healthy. I like sparkling grape juice. I,m into Astrology too! Please don't become afraid to go on new travel adventures. Change of scene is refreshing! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for sharing Wendy. I've always been an introvert but I could manage people in my younger years, now it takes me days to recover from being around others. My husband and I built our lives around each others company, that's all we need to be happy. I embrace my wrinkles, my grey hair, it took me 55 years to get them! I always enjoy watching your video's, it's my Monday morning routine when my husband goes to work. Not everyone wants to talk about menopause and getting older but it's a fact of life, growing old is such an amazing thing, you see life differently, you enjoy simple things. Art is a great way to express all of that. Sending positive energy your way and can't wait for your other video in a few weeks!
I love your videos. You’re my favorite influencer! I’m 62 and post menopause. It was challenging going through it but it got easier as I went along and now it’s great! I love this season of my life. Feeling less pressure to have others approval and really enjoying creating every day☺️. Thank you for inspiring me!!
Your videos become more and more tuned in to subjects that provide good feelings and support so relatable to me and it sounds like to others. Grateful to have discovered you and your artistry and wisdom. I always feel more hopeful afterward. Lost my husband 5 years ago to cancer and have been discovering myself outside my kids lives as they get launched. It's been an interesting journey. Now postmenopausal have decided to take good care of myself and enjoy each passing year. Thanks for all you do.
I am now well near rhe so called end of the menopause tunnel,and as tou say its an intense and very interesting journey,I am so greatful I have lived through it and am still alive, and am feeling amazed and intrigued as to what next, I do know that I appreciate so many things so much more and thats amazing for me.Thankyou Wendy for your generosity of spirit so happy I found you.bless you each day .
Sometimes the feeling builds up in me and its time for me to head off on my own somewhere. Just to reflect, think read or whatever. I have always enjoyed my own company, i do luke socialising too though. I have booked to do a couple of print workshops Wendy so really excited. Lots of love Lisa x
I have passed through and I enjoy being alone when I was younger I liked being around people and had a difficult time when my girls all left home , today though I enjoy my time alone and being creative when ever I want to and spending time in meditation and Talking with the Angels as well it is so different now so things do change after menopause for me they did and also many years of working on self and healing from Trauma in my early years of life . I am so happy and at peace now. thanks for Sharing dear love to you and James 💖
I have only in the last 5 years or so started experiencing anxiety with the thought of driving long distance. It occurs a day or 2 before the trip. I don't ever feel like I completely relax and experience down time on trips away. My brain just doesn't slow down.
I can' t go away. Wish I could, but I find it hard enough just walking out of my rural front door with Madge, my rescue greyhound, to take her for a walk. But when I used to go on holiday, I was like you, I had to make sure I had everything I needed to take with me. I never used to iron, but when my ex husband and I went on holiday, another life time ago, we used to spend hours ironing our clothes, which was so lovely to have when we were on holiday. I have not ironed now for about 7 years, as I hang my clothes up after washing them, so they do not need to be ironed. I never had any help through my menopause, and never saw a doctor, and in fact, at the age of 67 now, because I still get a few hot flushes, the doctor thinks I may still be going through the menopause! I had a terrible time with periods all my life, and they did not start until I had left school, and was about 18! No one talked about these things when I was growing up in the late 60s/70s and my parents never spoke of any of these things, we just had to get on with it in silence it seemed. xxx
Thank you for sharing your menopause kit; always good to have options. And I am so grateful for the views of summer and sunset - I am struggling with winter blues right now, and seeing blooming flowers and lush grass and trees just transported me. I'm so glad you are feeling good, and positive, and preparing for coming through "the tunnel". It reminds me of a butterfly emerging, transformed, from its cocoon. I just wonder what your wings will look like when fully opened.😉 Sending soft, gentle hugs, as well as love and light 🧡❤️💜💙✨✨✨✨
Thank you, Wendy, for sharing your thoughts and feelings here in this safe space you have created. I often feel that you are speaking directly to me, for me. I am very close in age to you and feel very similar to what you speak of . I have always been introverted, and as I travel through menopause I often feel more so. It helps to hear your stories and know that in this crazy world, there are like-minded people who feel like friends, although we have never met. I love your channel and am very grateful for your honesty and wisdom! ❤
Love you to bits. Glad you had a mini vacation. I am 53 and am most comfortable at home. A little bit of a recluse. I also enjoy getting out in nature. Much love from Florida.
Lovely to see you again. I am the same as you about isolation. I have no friends or family only my partner of 19 years and my art. That's. All I need. Thank you ...see you again soon. 🌸
I found your utube recently and for the first time ever I found someone who explains how I feel. Im 62 and have always enjoyed my own company even though Im married with 2 adult children and beautiful grandchildren. Loving your channel, thank you Wendy.
So agree with your thoughts and self care practices. I was an only child, so being in my own company is something I've always been used to. As I age, early 70's now, I find that more and more I actually require and cherish space and time to myself. Years ago found a quote on a desk calendar - "Quiet times bring me closer to myself". So very spot on. Thanks for the info on the grounding mats - plan to look into those!! So look forward to your vids, and appreciate you!!
We all need a bit of alone time just to think. Since the menopause I feel I have my confidence back. I love nature and being out in nature is just so peaceful to me. Love the tree . I have a similar one near me which I hug whenever I can. Hope the car situation resolved itself quickly.❤
I'd love to give the gorgeous tree a lovely long hug, Wendy. Your walks remind of stories my Mum would share with me about walking through the fields of flowers and riding around the heath.❤💐⚘️🌼🦋🐝🌸🏵🌞
I love my own company, and I'm in the throws of menopause. It's amazing how it pulls you all over the place and you do truly go within and readjust your thoughts and feelings. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for the post Wendy. I really enjoyed it. Hope you get your car sorted. Bit of a pain. And thanks for the reminder about lavender. One of my faves, but have neglected smelling some! Take care. Xxxxx
I resonate with much of what you said about menopause. And I feel very fortunate that I like my own company. Also recently discovered I am autistic. The spectrum is wide and truly every little thing Ive been giving myself a hard tie about for my entire life is an autistic trait. I think we are doing aging rather differently than many of our forebarers may have been allowed.
Wendy I can relate to you so much it’s uncanny really. I feel very much the same as you do and appreciate how you are able to express your thoughts so well. I’m sorry you had a car mishap. That’s a pain having to deal with that. Good luck with the situation and hopefully it will turn out okay.🤞I look forward as always to your next video…..Lisa 🤗🙏💓
Thanks for talking about menopause in a sensitive understanding way. Oh gawd YES its v hard to goon a holiday cos I need so many natural supps to get through the day. I LOOK LIKE A NUTTER WITH IT ALL. Shout out to all the introverts- well not shout out of course but bless u all. HI from Australia
I have been an herbalist for many years now and I take a Wild Yam supplement to help ward off the hot/cold back and forth. I find it works very well. There was a good cream available through the local health food stores but then it disappeared unfortunately. Valerian is really good for sleeping and I take it every night. It has been 17 years since I first went through menopause and it is hard to say how much of what I experience is that or the Fibromyalgia I've had for 37 years now. I, like you, have lately been feeling quite fatigued and keep hoping that my energy level will come up. The hot weather definitely doesn't help with that. I admire that you can visit a place with so many people. I just can't do it. I started drawing and painting a year or so ago and really appreciate how much your channel has figured in to me really pursuing it. Thank you.
thanks for sharing your experiences which are very helpful and appreciated xx I know my grounding and earthing definitely brought me less pain and more energy. Not 100% back yet but significant improvements. Glad to hear you are arting, that definitely helps too xxx
Love your videos and all the great advice and your feelings! I think we all go through different phases or stages in our life. I guess we all learn to embrace them differently. I guess it’s a learning process. I too feel differently about traveling-so glad we traveled in our younger years. Hugs to you Wendy…. Jill
Always look forward to your Sunday chats Wendy, it’s nice to “hear from”someone I can relate to so well in many ways🤗 Your words give comfort and understanding to so many, we’re blessed to know you 🥰🤗
hello xx great video xx i am 51 and have been in menopause a couple years now,more perimenopause,and i definately think i am more irritable,less tolerant and more of a hermit than ever i was before.i love my own company and doing my own thing and i crave it so much so most of what you say 'i get' much love to you xxx
Thank you for another beautiful video dear Wendy! My places of creative retreat vary with the seasons and my mood. Knitting, designing, a solo camping trip with my pups, even just cozying up with a good read can bring forth creative influence. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and inspiration!
Good Morning Wendy, I'm so glad to hear that someone else in the world feels the same about going away, the before during, and after. I was a military wife before, and going away was not such a big deal. Since I have gotten older I too stress before I am to go. Once I'm on the road I'm okay. While I am there I am mostly ok, coming back is a bit stressful, but I know that I'm going home, so that's ok...Thank you for sharing. Sincerely, KCP
Hi Wendy. How interesting to see that your topic of becoming more introvert has prompted so many comments. I definitely spend much more time on my own now. I find huge solace in my precious art journal which you inspired me to start in January 2023! Only 2 pages left now. The really big thing i miss is a good hug but your wonderful videos and community here help so much with the loneliness. I am SO glad you are feeling awesome.... I was worried for you a while back. Thank goodness for that 🔆 at the end of the tunnel. 🤗
While dealing with menopause I, too, used 10 % Wild Yam cream. Worked wonders. Didn't need anything else. My sister-in-law also used Wild Yam. Excellent stuff.
Thank you Wendy! I love your vulnerability. Recently I’ve felt really off however listening to you and reading all the wonderful comments I feel a bit better. The lavender oil is a great idea. I appreciate you encouraging these conversations with ourselves and with others.❤
Im TOTALLY similiar, which is why I watch your videos. Im also more introverted since I hit 60 and the menopause, but ive returned to my art in my isolation. X
I am well past menopause at 73 years old. Like you, I am an introvert. The twenty years after menopause were the most liberating and exhilarating of my life. I was able to dedicate time and energy to causes that I cared deeply about. I developed a powerful and respected voice. Now, at 73, and since the pandemic, I have been drawn more inward. I took up painting during the lock downs (which is how I found you) and I have since grown in my art practice and become more skillful. I look forward to each vlog that you post.
wow, were they really, that's so inspiring to hear! I'm so happy to hear your story, thanks for shairng xxxxx thanks so much for watching and keeping us all company xx
First of all, love your videos they make me feel very relaxed and at peace! Really relate to your comments about changing as we get older. I find myself feeling more comfortable at home these days. I'm in my late 60s and I'm okay with that!😊
@@debsg66 oh glad to hear that xxx thankyou so much for keeping me company. xxx happy home days! x
How wonderful to hear that there is light at the end of the tunnel. As someone in perimenopause, the fluctuations in energy levels and moods are challenging. One doesnt often hear the inspiring stories such as yours. Thank you
Some people say introvert like its a bad thing...I am growing into my introverted-self at this time in my life. For so many years I didn't like me, but now, slowly I am getting to know the real me and I'm quite happy with who I am...thanks for sharing
Online-company feels for me sometines like safe-company while being alone. Thank you for sharing Wendy 💕
yes, I know what you mean, that's honestly true as it's much easier not to let online things intrude with our peace ... x
@@theunexpectedgypsy 💕🌸✨️🙏🏻
So agree.
I think so
I'm nearly 62 and never thought of introverted nor extroverted was I. Today, I'm exceptionally introverted. I'm grateful to the women in the channels I've come to have found and are my go to. I enjoy the comments and the creators alike that help gift wisdom where my great gran and grand and my mom are all gone along with aunts. I've lost my senior guidance but they are all still very much here with me😊💛. Thank you all for the kindness and sharing and caring that goes along in these channels.
Most a appreciative from here in my little corner or rural America.
Agreed!! Hello from California. ☺️
aww thankyou for sharing and keeping me company too. Love the fact your senior guides are still with you, I feel the same! xxx Much loves and thankyou for commenting! xx
@@theunexpectedgypsy xx
Same here, from SYD, AUSTRALIA 🇦🇺 ❤
I love being alone and just staying home with my dog.
I’m now approaching 80. I moved thru all the changes and am so grateful to be my new self. I’m still myself, but better, if that makes sense.
Funny how we get so much more appreciative of our own company as we get older. I think the inner world gets so much more interesting as you accumulate experience and understanding. I find I have endless pottering I want to do whenever I have spare time.
oh i so agree and hear you, pottering has to be the best thing ever! xxx
Me too. I love love love my own company especially as it is difficult to find any privacy at home . I love pootling when I do get time to myself 😊xx
@@Rufus835 yes!! the best thing in the world is tinkering, pootling and pottering!!! xxxxx
Yes...I love my OWN company so much. Pottering is the BEST, made me so happy to hear it said. Love to All Fellow Potterers!!! 🌟
I am 62. I retired early, a year and a half ago, to take care of my mom who has Alzheimers. Menopause coupled with hypothyroidism was a perfect storm of chronic illness, insomnia, weight gain and unbeknownst to me, mini strokes. After five years of sleeping fitfully with ice packs I tried hormones again. I addressed each ailment one by one until I had my life back. I read for hours every night. I sew, quilt, knit, spin and I garden to my heart’s delight. The pace of my life now matches my insides. This is the right rhythm for my health and well being. I’m so grateful for this time.
Hi Wendy! Glad you could go see your daughter! I totally am the same when it comes to being more reclusive and introverted! I am 51, menopaused and I can spend days at home not talking to anyone but my love and be totally fine with it! Whereas before I could not stay home an entire day! Time does changes us ... Which I think is good. I love getting older, more than I could have ever imagined!
yes, I agree!!! I used to not be able to be alone without feeling so lost and lonely... x now it's my luxury!!!
You are going into a butterfly stage. You are in the transition state before you come out as a butterfly. All the feelings you are feeling is all real. Even after menopause, you still go inside and do more transitioning, before you come out as a butterfly. I remember a naturopath Doctor told me that when we go through menopause it is our body, mind and spirit is saying that it is time to go find peace with yourself and let it take you to your next level of who you are. To except this loving part of you and to let go that guilt, expectations what role we are seen in this life. This is your time to be free in your womanhood that you feel peace within yourself.
Hi Wendy. Sorry to hear about the car situation - I hope it is resolved quickly. I am 46 and really struggling with perimenopause, and have become really introverted. I was never the life of the party, but now I just want to be by myself as being around people totally drains me. Hopefully I'll overcome this as I do feel lonely at times😢. Thanks for addressing topics like this in the supportive manner that you do ❤
May I recommend taking a high strength Vit B complex, including B12 and folic acid, plus fish oil, Magnesium glysonate (at bed time) and Vit D3+K2 (in the morning). You will become happier, healthier, stronger and less susceptible to illnesses and dementia. It is a long term commitment, but worth it for a healthy post menopause life. It has worked for me! Good luck! ❤
@@heather333thank you for the suggestions. I already take most of the things you have suggested, but will include the ones I don't, and I'll try taking them at the time of day you have suggested 🤎
Motherwort tincture is my favorite. For sweats, rapid heart..and all the emotional stuff. It's in bloom right now in the northern hemisphere!
Look into your medical options as well as the more “natural” ideas recommended. Hormone therapy is really helping me, and at 53 I don’t know why I waited so long! Doctors don’t seem to bring it up so we have to be our own advocates. There are some great doctors in RUclips talking about menopause, Mary Claire Haver being a top one.
@@WellEditedCojust beware of Premarin in hrp's, it is the urine from mares who are kept pregnant for its production, then their babies are taken away so they can start the process all over again 😢
In the last eight years I moved to the seaside. At 58 i discovered that riding on the bus was an easier option to driving. I always attract lovely people to talk to on the bus. Otherwise I am at home doing anything I want having taken early retirement. Through the menopause because I live near Norfolk Lavender, where you can sit amongst swathes of lavender bushes, I drank lavender liqueur with lemonade and ate lavender ice cream. Reading this now makes me realise how I made my menopause so much easier.
ahhhh! wow! yes! that's wonderful!! glad you living your best life too sounds fab xxxx I grew up in Norwich and love Norfolk it's v close to my heart! Bit envious of you living by the seaside!!!! xxx
I didn’t even know I was going thru menopause when it was happening. All I knew, for many years, was extreme depression. I finally consented to another antidepressant. To my amazement, it worked and I finally felt comfortable with where I was, in life. After that, life got really good and slightly wild with the best man I have ever known. We are living in Mexico for now, enjoying life as best we can.
I too battle with depression. I don't know why but wanted to tell you I am so glad you found a nice partner and are living your best life now.
Hi Wendy. I’m 62 and through the menopause, although I do still get a few hot flushes. Nothing like I used to get though. Some people can find something positive to say about the menopausal journey, but I can’t. It was horrendous! I feel so much better now - like all the little pieces of me have been put back together - like a jigsaw puzzle. X
Hello beautiful friend. I’m 76 and I had a hysterectomy in my 30th but I feel like the female body never forgets and went through a long period of menopausal symptoms, sleepless nights, anxiety, depression, body issues, fibromyalgia which I still experience, chronic pain and head in the clouds of that makes sense… hard to explain, emotional times, but over the yrs I learned more about how to help myself plus a single mum who had to take care of everything and no family support just me and my son.
At work I always had to be on point, worked harder st my job as I didn’t feel confident within my own self and yet everyone seemed to think highly of my work and knowledge. When I retired it seemed like the first three weeks my head/brain took its time calming down so to speak. Plus I did not have to put on a happy face and it took a year for me to fully yo did not have to please anyone but me, and if nothing got done it was ok! That was a big one to accept.
I too have become more introverted and like my own company, the peace of my home, and being around a lot of people does get to be after awhile and I find a reason to escape earlier as the noise of loud voices starts to get to me.
Traveling prep I start putting stuff out two weeks ahead to plan on what I need, talk away and add until it’s done then pack a week before but the last thing is my toiletry bag but always on the counter and any meds I may need. I do have to have a clean fresh bed to come home to and a tidy house. Unpacking is the harder part and I procrastinate on this… when I get home it’s like a big sigh of relief that I’m home.
Gardening in my pots is peace, filling my fountains for birds to get water is so important to me. I feel guilty if I have to stop the fountains which must sound a bit crazy.
Art, poetry, needle work, journaling are my go too’s like many here. Sometimes it’s hard to do any of them when I’m in a mental fog. Depends on my pain issues. But I’ve managed to lose about 30lbs and trying to get more off me which is slowly working. A life of almost 30 yrs sitting at a desk working all those yrs has not been kind to my body, my fault as I never had enough hrs in a day to get a massive work load done so worked many times through lunch and breaks when I should have stepped way and walked.
When my son left home for his tour in the US Army I spiraled into depression as he was my whole life my responsibility no partner, no family support and I would not have changed anything, today he is a well established almost 50 father and husband, a good man with a huge heart. If I never did anything else but raise a good man and excel in my almost 30 yrs work life then I’ve done ok.
At this present time I’m living my life to the best I can, most of the time alone and around folks as I please. Covid changed life a lot for many of us and we became comfortable being more alone but not lonely.
Wendy you are an amazing, honest, upfront lady sharing your journey that has helped so many women sound this community of likeminded women. Thank you does not seem to say enough… I for one appreciate all that you share in arts, thoughts, suggestions, experiences and you just being you.
Much love and light. Softest hugs. 🥰 ❤❤
thankyou too for sharing your experiences, we appreciate you so much. Soft hugs when you need them and just keep shining and doing your best. big loves xxx
As a 52 year old woman who is on this journey, I appreciate all of your wisdom. It helps to know that I’m not alone and that there are natural remedies to address some of the “gifts” that menopause can bring. Thank you ladies !!!💕💕
Hello
Thanks for sharing. I've had a similar background.
I am 82 years old, and never had to go through menopause because I had a partial hysterectomy. Although my ovaries were left so that I would not have to take hormones, I never went through menopause. I have been an introvert most of my life but not as bad as now. When my husband was alive, he was in the Navy for 20 years, so that right there called for a lot of socialization. Then he became a manager with AT&T for the next 20 years again socialization. Then we moved into a motorhome and travel theUnited States and Canada for 14 years. At that point I was done with socialization, but we did on a small scale, but he was never much on socializing when we got to that point. When he passed away, I moved back to Savannah Georgia to be near my daughter and bought a townhome. I am not happy in the town home because I like a standalone home where I can have more privacy and only socialize if I want to whereas in the townhome if I go outside, somebody’s always around and with everything that goes on in these places that are under an HOA there is always drama. So I tend to only go out when I have to take the dog out and try to avoid the drama. I am starting to learn Zentangle, which a friend of mine has tried to get me interested in for years. She lives in Missouri so she’s not close enough to help me with it but I have found a lot of RUclipsrs that teach it and it is very calming but I found that they talk too much and I’m not concentrating on what I should be concentrating on which is calmness. So now I turn the volume off put music on and just follow the picture. I’ve tried watercolor but I am not an artist and I’m having a hard time with it and I’m definitely not able to draw anything because stick figures look like mishmash to me. So you say I am definitely not an artist. But I love watching your channel because I love your voice, and your wisdom. And I love looking at your drawings. I do follow some groups on Facebook, but there are other things thrown in when I’m scanning through Facebook and I’m getting disgusted so I think I’m going to get off of Facebook. I don’t watch the news anymore at all. I also do a little bit of calligraphy and punch needle. And then there are days when all I wanna do is sit and read a book and that is exactly what I do. I love your channel and will continue to watch.
Thank you for sharing all these lifestyle helpers. I’m 76 and really like to stay home. I’m house bound due to oxygen but even so, I love doing my own thing at home. I went through early menopause but now experience anxiety. So, now I take CBD which calms me. Love your You Tube.
Oh my Darling! I liked it so much that you talked about the goddess mother and son! I'm from Portugal and I usually visit Glastonbury. I follow your videos! You are inspiring!!
I just turned 67 (weird for me to say that), I usually don't think about age, and don't really make a fuss for myself about birthdays. I'm just grateful for each year. I too am more and more introverted each year. I wasn't a social person, but I find myself needing to recharge more, life these days drain me faster, I suppose. I have a small bedroom (my studio if you will) and I love to make jewelry, and wire wrapped moons, and well anything that speaks of fairies and magical glittery items. A bit of a magpie, anything that shines, it catches my attention!! LOL Menopause, really is still sorta with me, it does trigger my emotions,and a good cry does really help purge the drearies out. But I do enjoy my company as well. You are not alone, I feel a lot of us have the same ups and downs, and prefer solitude more often. And that helps me create more and of course just "play" which is good for the soul. I wish you much joy and peace, and thank you Wendy for your lovely insightful videos, they are so calming and good for my soul!!:)) Blessings to you and James, and warm hugs from across the pond in Ohio!!:))😊❤❤
Hiiii from southern ohio ❤
Wait until you are 77!!
much loves to you too Barbara xxx in ten years you will remember how young you felt now!!!! xx keep playing and shining dear soul xxx
@@theunexpectedgypsy Thank you Wendy for your kind words, they touched my heart!! I hope you know how much you are loved by so many!!:))🙂🥰
I don't feel well after I've had alcohol either. I also used to enjoy it almost daily as you describe. Now, I can maybe have one drink, without a headache, but it all affects my sleep. I feel so much better the next morning when I have no alcohol. So, I drink homemade seltzer water with fruit flavors as a treat for myself in the evening.
I get completely exhausted by being around people (including family)! Going to try the lavender as I have started the Perimenopause! Love being a home-body and it annoys me when people don't understand. Love you videos and your sharing.
"According to data collected by Myers-Briggs, around 56 percent of the US population prefers introversion, with just 44 percent-fewer than half-having an extraverted approach to life. That might be because introversion is often misunderstood: it's not about being shy or socially inept, but rather about energy and focus"
I am 45 and am 1.5 years into perimenopause. THANK YOU SO MUCH for speaking on the big MP so often!! Other than channels dedicated to it specifically, no one usually talks about it. Over 50% of the planet experiences it and yet it's taboo to mention it in day to day life. I too am becoming more and more comfortable my own company versus other people. I prefer to be at home all the time. I also quit drinking 2 years ago. I just so appreciate your openness and honesty.
I'll also mention that not only never having children, (but in fact failing to do so 4 times) adds an entire layer to the whole thing as well. Well, many layers actually.
I totally agree with you about wanting more solitude. I'm 64 in a couple of months and thought I was starting to have social anxiety after talking to my 30 year old daughter who thinks this about me. I don't really know the difference, I just felt and continue to feel that I enjoy my own space and company. Is it because I'm getting older? I don't know. I think it might be because like you I find people draining. So glad I can watch your videos, they make a lot of sense to me and I really appreciate your honesty.
Oh wow! I feel exactly the same. I feel like I am ready for a new chapter of life, time to be alone (happily) , quiet, more introverted etc. Time to just be a wife and enjoy my husband and yes, my own company! (I am 54:)
Wendy, I am 56 yrs young and I so appreciate you and your honest discourse regarding a womens' journey through life, menopause and all! My journey into menopause began very young, younger than most and it is so important for women to have a platform for free and open sharing about what goes on with oneself, physically, mentally and emotionally during this time, because we are so very vulnerable! Support is everything! Knowledge and understanding is everything! And for me, art is everything! My creative expression is an outlet for all of this energy that sometimes has nowhere to go. I make art because I must. Just as I grow older and change, so too must my art and my thinking. I so appreciate you!
Thank you for another lovely video, Wendy. I am now in my late fifties and quite like my own company. It is nice to meet up with people occasionally but afterwards I often feel emotionally drained. Like you, I have been with my partner for many years, so we are very lucky indeed. Have a fabulous evening ♥
Blessings to you, Wendy. Your voice brings me comfort in all ways. Your own personal magic gets me through. ✨🕯️
awww, big blessings to you too, xxx
I'm 62. The thing that has helped me a lot to not think much about aging is realizing that we age one day, every day. We don't get a year older on our birthdays. We just change the number we say for our age. I don't know if that will help anyone else, but it helps me.
Thank you dear Wendy, for an enjoyable video. Having recently come through the ebbs & flows of menopause too, its good to hear your experiences, & read those in the comments too.
Having been a wild-child & pary animal, this new quieter, solitary me has taken me by suprise. I love time alone to potter, reflect, write, garden, draw....
For me this slower life is rich & exciting 🙏
Hello Wendy, I enjoy your videos very much also watching your sketching, I'm 73, I had an early menapause after having my 4th child at the age of 40, it was quite plain sailing really, I remember speaking to my Mother mid 40' s menapause was the topic and she said " I'm 73 and still having hot flushes" I'm at the stage in my life and fortunately for me left all thought of menapause behind me 20 years ago. I do like to have time to myself I live alone, but never lonely, my life is just how I like it. Woodland walks gardening holidays, I'm fit and healthyI do enjoy meeting people and have an interest in many things, especially involved in Body mind and Spirit groups, being a spiritual person from an early age there is always more to discover. Last year I had my first book published. Short stories poetry, with more to come. It's not something I had time for with children and working. Love and live life to the full whatever age, I think along the way people feel too much pressure and forget to " Just Be"
Hugs and Blessings to all.🙏🌹
Hi Wendy! Right now I'm sick at home with Covid. It's hard to settle down and relax with these symptoms of nausea and aching all over. But I can put on your video and, as I watch, feel some measure of peace of mind and stillness of body sink in. Thank you for being an inspiration!
love your open hearted vulnerability and authenticity you are one of the rare special ones in this crazy world, hugs xxx
I feel like I'm starting to cross the tunnel This past year, from one summer to the next, I felt so many changes and transformations. In April I became very ill, I had profound physical and psychological exhaustion.My body works completely differently I needed to stop everything, leave the world and delve inside to see from another perspective.Lavender is part of my essentials for everything kit.It's been great to hear you talk about menopause so clearly. Very grateful for the shares.❤❤
I am early on my menopause journey and it started earlyier due to a childhood illness and treatment for that. Its lonely because the people I know are not going through it and my life feels uncertain at this point. My journey in HRT has began just recently too. I love watching your videos with your wise advice and your art is beautiful
I reaLLy needed this video .... I'm 51 & my mind is playing over & over the phrase "I want to be alone" , feeling suffocated, irritable, but then guilt too at feeling that.
I too have found I have become more reclusive with age and really enjoy my own company. Menopause seems a very long time ago for me and was a stretched out process because I had a hysterectomy at 27 and an ovary removed at 20. This was due to polycystic ovary syndrome. I'm 75 and am very content , more content than I have ever been. My creative thing at the moment is recycling clothing, turning the garments into shabby chic fashions embellished with my slow stitching and embroidered pieces. I still journal and draw and paint but mostly small paintings because of a shoulder injury. I have good and bad days, physically because of fibro and osteoarthritis arthritis. On good days, like today, I walk or garden. Today, I walked 2 km after dropping my car off at the auto shop for a warrant. I was very pleased with myself. I don't strive to be better or improve myself like I used to, and I am very laid back now. There is no push me pull me going on inside myself. It really is like an out breathing. Lots of love to you, Wendy. Every little thing gonna be alright.❤❤❤
Wendy I am Catholic but have no problems with other persons spirituality. I do oppose taking away any art that is historical. We can’t delete mistakes to become better persons.
My menopause was a breeze. I am always warm before and after menopause. I do agree that the inner self changes though.
Solice would be nice. How I would give a day without the hubby and our 22 year old special needs son tv be gone for a day or more. I squeak a couple of hours here and there for my art.
I'm an extroverted introvert. I have a handful of very good friends, like sisters, and I love to spend time with them. We've had a lot of wonderful adventures and I appreciate being able to be wild and crazy and myself around them. But the other side of that is that I find myself becoming overwhelmed and overstimulated on longer excursions and I become moody because of it. I love my time to myself, solitude. I'm very comfortable with my own company and easy with quiet. Art. Books. Daydreaming. I always enjoy your insights and your art that keeps us company.
Wendy, thank you so much for your channel. It’s been like a warm hug. I am going through some transitions both physically and mentally. It helped me so much to feel encouraged by you to start anew. I signed up for a drawing class last week and I haven’t felt this good about life in such a long time. You are such a beautiful soul and I am so glad to have found you on here.
I can relate to what you say about being in solitude and just enjoying my own company. Also that you can feel alone when around the wrong people that just don't get you.
Love hearing you talk about your own personal journey and the products that help calm you.
There are wonderful changes that come with aging. I am on the other side of menopause, no more hot flashes. As long as a person can stay healthy this is the most wonderful time of life. I have also became more introverted, loving my home, and more adamant with what I want to do with my time. Soak it all up, my sweet friend because, like you said, it is a gift.
yes, staying healthy if we can is soo important xxx I am like you in that I am much more adamant, I even have non-negoitables now! You too xx soak soak soak!! xxx
I am always filled up when I watch your videos. I am an introvert and always felt I needed to be more outgoing. But that's not really who I am, thought sometimes in my life I have needed to be that way. i have a grown daughter with Down Syndrome and she needed an advocate. That pushed me out a bit. But I like who I am. I like that I have learned to be outgoing and connect with people and I like that I enjoy my own quiet company. I am 62. I love this stage of my life. It is very good.
What a magnificent tree friend you have! I enjoyed this message as I’m pre menopause and looking for natural ways to cope with hormone imbalances. I love that you said getting older is a gift. I find myself being more introverted too to the more older I become. Books and trees are good friends for me.
I still remember " my trees" from my childhood.I miss them because I spent a lot of time in them
We had a grove of forsythia shrubs that we called the cave.We played underneath them and had several " rooms" in there.Your tree is really beautiful and looks very old.
old tree friends, yes... me too, I have one's I miss too.
@@theunexpectedgypsyyeap,they live in us.Beautiful ancient trees,we used to touch,admire,talk to.. Think of them daily.❤
Delightful Kristin.
I agree that as I have gotten older I have a need to have My stuff for comfort and like home more. I am a bit more of an introvert now. I want my creams, aromatherapy/lavender, favorite coffee mug, my comfy pillow, etc comfort, homey items when I travel. I do feel a bit anxious when we are getting ready for travel. Once I arrive I seem to be great and enjoy the experience. It's simply another stage of life we traverse.
Good stuff in your rescue kit. For in the moment mood lifter I like lemon.
My hormones went unbalanced in my late 30ties. Daughter went off to college & I missed her sunshine spirit🌞
As an Army wife & good introvert art always saved me.
My meditation is about wanting to be moveable (I’m 62).In the US weather or other events can take a home & we are aware.
As for statues, if we can believe that the mother & child bond is the way to heal the world that focus is great. 💕📚🗺️🦋🌼
thanks so much for sharing... x I love lemon too and totally understand how you felt when your daughter flew the nest.... I felt exactly the same...
I live in my RV so that I can travel and still have everything I need. I really hate sleeping in odd beds, and my night time tea most especially 🙂
Hi, Wendy, lovely, interesting video as always. Spot on describing myself and how I love my own company! I’m 73 next Saturday. I have a lovely partner who knows I need my own space, I’m very happy when in my art space drawing, painting and listening to audiobooks. I have a friend who has to see people everyday, joins clubs and tries to get me to go along with her. I sometimes feel she pities me as I ‘don’t do anything’ - but I never stop creating! I too was a teacher and now I have the time to do exactly what I want to do, every day. It’s wonderful! Keep up with the great videos Wendy xxx
@jeanbailey1045 Happy Birthday for next Saturday. I hope you have a fabulous day 🎉
Happy Birthday next Saturday!🎂Your friend needs to understand that you both have different ways of regaining your energy. Extroverts like your friend gains her energy by being around people where you (and myself) get drained by too much socialization and need alone time to recharge.And it goes on a spectrum as well, those in the middle who aren't as extreme.I hope your friend can understand and accept this while dropping the unnecessary pity. Best wishes! 🤗
Solitude is so Peaceful... and after Menopause I found I am most comfortable on my own. My husband and I have been together for over 40 years and we just grow to appreciate each other more and more. We have found that intimacy is morphing beyond sexuality and becoming something much deeper and soul comforting. I never hear much about that in society is always about what a woman goes through with the focus being on moodiness (HERS) and Hot flashes. Not much is talked about Intimacy changes and the desire changing as well or going away. I am thankful we are still as close as we are... He and I have a special relationship that seems to survive all the storms of life thus far.
My husband always said that if anything happened to him, I would become a recluse! He passed away in April 2023, and he was absolutely right! He was a big, affable man, very outgoing, and ready to get involved in everything. I am the total opposite, but we somehow made it work, even though sometimes it felt very uncomfortable to socialise. I have never found it difficult to be alone, I am an only child so it goes with the territory, I suppose, learning to get on with things on my own because actually there was no other option. I am an introvert with occasionally surprising extrovert tendencies I think because I do like to go out and do the odd thing from time to time, but it is all very much on my terms. I am happy with my choices and at 66 I have finally unleashed the real me free to do what I want when I want. Its been liberating! I love watching your channel Wendy. Blessings to you and James X
Some great advice there, Wendy. May I add that I do a short Reiki meditation with affirmations every morning before I get out of bed. This has been so beneficial especially lately while I have been facing extremely hard life happenings!
Love using the wild yam cream…it’s a great option along with lavender always😊
I'm in my late 50s. And a lot more introverted than I used to be. Menopause was a struggle, but as you say, it's starting to get better. I tried HRT, but it was so bad I stopped after three months. Turned me into a wreck. Love your videos, I feel like I'm spending time with a dear friend
Great video. Thank you for sharing. I'm ten years into menopause and still learning so much about me. The good and bad. It's our gift as women to be able to hopefully afford ourselves this time. Yes we learn in the good times but when the challenges come I think I learn the most. Learning to put me first was the hardest lesson. Maybe just learning it now, and how important
it is. I wish someone had of shared that with me ten years ago.
To give ourselves love, time and compassion is everything❤
Blessings all you beautiful souls🥰
so true, thankyou for sharing xx self acceptance and compassion are soo vital ! Big blessings to you too and thanks for commenting! xx
Hi. Wendy. I am well past menopause. But for about 5 years now I take Ashwagandha daily. I find it very calming. When I went through menopause I found lavender perfume stick on my pulse points very cooling. I used to keep it in fridge overnight. Since being a widow, I've been quite reclusive and my journey of self reflection and meditation has helped me find my true Empath self. I'm now feeling calm, centred, confident! I've stopped drinking any alcohol too ( was never really into it) and feel more healthy. I like sparkling grape juice. I,m into Astrology too! Please don't become afraid to go on new travel adventures. Change of scene is refreshing! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for sharing Wendy. I've always been an introvert but I could manage people in my younger years, now it takes me days to recover from being around others. My husband and I built our lives around each others company, that's all we need to be happy. I embrace my wrinkles, my grey hair, it took me 55 years to get them! I always enjoy watching your video's, it's my Monday morning routine when my husband goes to work. Not everyone wants to talk about menopause and getting older but it's a fact of life, growing old is such an amazing thing, you see life differently, you enjoy simple things. Art is a great way to express all of that. Sending positive energy your way and can't wait for your other video in a few weeks!
Nice talk, thanks. Keep your light shining bright💫💗✨
oh you too flower xxxxx
I love your videos. You’re my favorite influencer! I’m 62 and post menopause. It was challenging going through it but it got easier as I went along and now it’s great! I love this season of my life. Feeling less pressure to have others approval and really enjoying creating every day☺️. Thank you for inspiring me!!
Your videos become more and more tuned in to subjects that provide good feelings and support so relatable to me and it sounds like to others. Grateful to have discovered you and your artistry and wisdom. I always feel more hopeful afterward. Lost my husband 5 years ago to cancer and have been discovering myself outside my kids lives as they get launched. It's been an interesting journey. Now postmenopausal have decided to take good care of myself and enjoy each passing year. Thanks for all you do.
Red clover is a plant estrogen....balanced my highs and lows through menopause 😊
I’m just heading into the perimenopause and so much of what you said resonates! Thank you xxx
I am now well near rhe so called end of the menopause tunnel,and as tou say its an intense and very interesting journey,I am so greatful I have lived through it and am still alive, and am feeling amazed and intrigued as to what next, I do know that I appreciate so many things so much more and thats amazing for me.Thankyou Wendy for your generosity of spirit so happy I found you.bless you each day .
i feel the same so it's lovely to hear your comment. bless you too! xx
Sometimes the feeling builds up in me and its time for me to head off on my own somewhere. Just to reflect, think read or whatever. I have always enjoyed my own company, i do luke socialising too though.
I have booked to do a couple of print workshops Wendy so really excited.
Lots of love Lisa x
As always, thank you Wendy for a video filled with honesty, love and education.
I have passed through and I enjoy being alone when I was younger I liked being around people and had a difficult time when my girls all left home , today though I enjoy my time alone and being creative when ever I want to and spending time in meditation and Talking with the Angels as well it is so different now so things do change after menopause for me they did and also many years of working on self and healing from Trauma in my early years of life . I am so happy and at peace now. thanks for Sharing dear love to you and James 💖
I have only in the last 5 years or so started experiencing anxiety with the thought of driving long distance. It occurs a day or 2 before the trip. I don't ever feel like I completely relax and experience down time on trips away. My brain just doesn't slow down.
This was exactly what I needed. Thank you! ❤
Such an uplifting, thoughtful video Wendy!
I can' t go away. Wish I could, but I find it hard enough just walking out of my rural front door with Madge, my rescue greyhound, to take her for a walk. But when I used to go on holiday, I was like you, I had to make sure I had everything I needed to take with me. I never used to iron, but when my ex husband and I went on holiday, another life time ago, we used to spend hours ironing our clothes, which was so lovely to have when we were on holiday. I have not ironed now for about 7 years, as I hang my clothes up after washing them, so they do not need to be ironed. I never had any help through my menopause, and never saw a doctor, and in fact, at the age of 67 now, because I still get a few hot flushes, the doctor thinks I may still be going through the menopause! I had a terrible time with periods all my life, and they did not start until I had left school, and was about 18! No one talked about these things when I was growing up in the late 60s/70s and my parents never spoke of any of these things, we just had to get on with it in silence it seemed. xxx
Thank you for sharing your menopause kit; always good to have options. And I am so grateful for the views of summer and sunset - I am struggling with winter blues right now, and seeing blooming flowers and lush grass and trees just transported me.
I'm so glad you are feeling good, and positive, and preparing for coming through "the tunnel". It reminds me of a butterfly emerging, transformed, from its cocoon. I just wonder what your wings will look like when fully opened.😉
Sending soft, gentle hugs, as well as love and light 🧡❤️💜💙✨✨✨✨
Love you to pieces Wendy. You’ve been brightening my days since you started you channel.
Thank you, Wendy, for sharing your thoughts and feelings here in this safe space you have created. I often feel that you are speaking directly to me, for me. I am very close in age to you and feel very similar to what you speak of . I have always been introverted, and as I travel through menopause I often feel more so. It helps to hear your stories and know that in this crazy world, there are like-minded people who feel like friends, although we have never met. I love your channel and am very grateful for your honesty and wisdom! ❤
Love you to bits. Glad you had a mini vacation. I am 53 and am most comfortable at home. A little bit of a recluse. I also enjoy getting out in nature. Much love from Florida.
Lovely to see you again. I am the same as you about isolation. I have no friends or family only my partner of 19 years and my art. That's. All I need.
Thank you ...see you again soon. 🌸
Thank you for your gentle wisdom Wendy. So appreciate you ❤
Yup resonate with all you say ! Really appreciate your sharing the more of us who do the more we help each other realise there is nothing wrong.
I found your utube recently and for the first time ever I found someone who explains how I feel. Im 62 and have always enjoyed my own company even though Im married with 2 adult children and beautiful grandchildren. Loving your channel, thank you Wendy.
So agree with your thoughts and self care practices. I was an only child, so being in my own company is something I've always been used to. As I age, early 70's now, I find that more and more I actually require and cherish space and time to myself. Years ago found a quote on a desk calendar - "Quiet times bring me closer to myself". So very spot on. Thanks for the info on the grounding mats - plan to look into those!! So look forward to your vids, and appreciate you!!
I’m growing the herb St John’s wort in my container garden
We all need a bit of alone time just to think. Since the menopause I feel I have my confidence back. I love nature and being out in nature is just so peaceful to me. Love the tree . I have a similar one near me which I hug whenever I can. Hope the car situation resolved itself quickly.❤
I'd love to give the gorgeous tree a lovely long hug, Wendy. Your walks remind of stories my Mum would share with me about walking through the fields of flowers and riding around the heath.❤💐⚘️🌼🦋🐝🌸🏵🌞
I have been there since the beginning Wendy. Under another name. I still love what you are doing and how you’ve evolved! ❤️🌿
I love my own company, and I'm in the throws of menopause. It's amazing how it pulls you all over the place and you do truly go within and readjust your thoughts and feelings. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for the post Wendy. I really enjoyed it. Hope you get your car sorted. Bit of a pain. And thanks for the reminder about lavender. One of my faves, but have neglected smelling some! Take care. Xxxxx
I resonate with much of what you said about menopause. And I feel very fortunate that I like my own company. Also recently discovered I am autistic. The spectrum is wide and truly every little thing Ive been giving myself a hard tie about for my entire life is an autistic trait. I think we are doing aging rather differently than many of our forebarers may have been allowed.
Wendy I can relate to you so much it’s uncanny really. I feel very much the same as you do and appreciate how you are able to express your thoughts so well. I’m sorry you had a car mishap. That’s a pain having to deal with that. Good luck with the situation and hopefully it will turn out okay.🤞I look forward as always to your next video…..Lisa 🤗🙏💓
Thanks for talking about menopause in a sensitive understanding way. Oh gawd YES its v hard to goon a holiday cos I need so many natural supps to get through the day. I LOOK LIKE A NUTTER WITH IT ALL. Shout out to all the introverts- well not shout out of course but bless u all. HI from Australia
I have been an herbalist for many years now and I take a Wild Yam supplement to help ward off the hot/cold back and forth. I find it works very well. There was a good cream available through the local health food stores but then it disappeared unfortunately. Valerian is really good for sleeping and I take it every night. It has been 17 years since I first went through menopause and it is hard to say how much of what I experience is that or the Fibromyalgia I've had for 37 years now. I, like you, have lately been feeling quite fatigued and keep hoping that my energy level will come up. The hot weather definitely doesn't help with that. I admire that you can visit a place with so many people. I just can't do it. I started drawing and painting a year or so ago and really appreciate how much your channel has figured in to me really pursuing it. Thank you.
thanks for sharing your experiences which are very helpful and appreciated xx I know my grounding and earthing definitely brought me less pain and more energy. Not 100% back yet but significant improvements. Glad to hear you are arting, that definitely helps too xxx
@@theunexpectedgypsy I'll have to try the grounding and earthing, xxx
I love visiting your channel. When I listen to you talk, I feel affirmed, that my thoughts, feelings and experiences are valid. Thank you.
Love your videos and all the great advice and your feelings! I think we all go through different phases or stages in our life. I guess we all learn to embrace them differently. I guess it’s a learning process. I too feel differently about traveling-so glad we traveled in our younger years. Hugs to you Wendy…. Jill
Yes can relate to hassle of getting ready to go away and enjoying solitude.lovely drawings ….love still life.
haha yes! and thankyou xx
Always look forward to your Sunday chats Wendy, it’s nice to “hear from”someone I can relate to so well in many ways🤗
Your words give comfort and understanding to so many, we’re blessed to know you 🥰🤗
hello xx great video xx i am 51 and have been in menopause a couple years now,more perimenopause,and i definately think i am more irritable,less tolerant and more of a hermit than ever i was before.i love my own company and doing my own thing and i crave it so much so most of what you say 'i get' much love to you xxx
Thank you for another beautiful video dear Wendy! My places of creative retreat vary with the seasons and my mood. Knitting, designing, a solo camping trip with my pups, even just cozying up with a good read can bring forth creative influence. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and inspiration!
That's really interesting about alcohol. I feel the same since menopause I've stopped drinking and it's really helped
Good Morning Wendy, I'm so glad to hear that someone else in the world feels the same about going away, the before during, and after. I was a military wife before, and going away was not such a big deal. Since I have gotten older I too stress before I am to go. Once I'm on the road I'm okay. While I am there I am mostly ok, coming back is a bit stressful, but I know that I'm going home, so that's ok...Thank you for sharing. Sincerely, KCP
Hi Wendy. How interesting to see that your topic of becoming more introvert has prompted so many comments. I definitely spend much more time on my own now. I find huge solace in my precious art journal which you inspired me to start in January 2023! Only 2 pages left now. The really big thing i miss is a good hug but your wonderful videos and community here help so much with the loneliness.
I am SO glad you are feeling awesome.... I was worried for you a while back. Thank goodness for that 🔆 at the end of the tunnel. 🤗
While dealing with menopause I, too, used 10 % Wild Yam cream. Worked wonders. Didn't need anything else. My sister-in-law also used Wild Yam. Excellent stuff.
Thank you Wendy! I love your vulnerability. Recently I’ve felt really off however listening to you and reading all the wonderful comments I feel a bit better. The lavender oil is a great idea.
I appreciate you encouraging these conversations with ourselves and with others.❤
Im TOTALLY similiar, which is why I watch your videos. Im also more introverted since I hit 60 and the menopause, but ive returned to my art in my isolation. X