STOP Mothering Your Man | (#1 Relationship & Attraction KILLER)
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- Опубликовано: 30 июл 2024
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Today, we are going to talk about the difference between mothering and nurturing your man/relationship. We are going to also talk about why it happens and how you can stop it. Let me know what you think in the comments below!
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TIMELINE👇
[00:00] Intro
[00:50] What Is Mothering?
[03:40] What Is Nurturing?
[04:19] Get The Best Laundry Detergent
[06:18] Why Women Mother Their Men
[08:09] Our Men Are Their Own People
[08:52] What You Should Do To Stop Mothering
[10:09] Outro
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I've been with my boyfriend for more than 7 months now. This is solid advice. I think my knee-jerk reaction to things is to want to control everything, but after witnessing the way my SIL treats my brother (very mothering), I want to make sure that my man feels supported and like an equal part in our relationship. One of the areas where i've learned to apply this recently is to be patient with texting (if it isn't urgent). If I need an immediate response, I'll call him (and I get to hear his voice 🙂). but if it's not urgent, don't nag him about a response and trust that he'll reply when he can.
Another principle that I've had in our relationship is to remind myself not to give husband roles to my boyfriend. I think the difference between marriage and dating can't be stated enough. there needs to be some boundaries to protect your heart, especially as it applies to both physical and emotional intimacy. For that reason, there are some traumas in my life that I won't share with him unless we are engaged, because if we were to decide to break up, I think that could be very hard for me.
That's also true for even certain family traditions. I recently asked my dad if we should include him in our sibling Christmas gift drawing, but my dad said that my BF needs to make a big commitment to me beforehand (i.e a proposal). It makes total sense because AGAIN, if we were to breakup, that would be hard removing him from this part of my life and could sour the tradition.
But long comment aside - another great video Rebecca! If my BF and I do get married, the last thing I ever want to be to him is a quarrelsome wife - the kind of wife Proverbs warns men against.
I love this comment so much! Thank you for your transparency 🙏
I’m going to adopt some of your decisions especially about family traditions. ❤ 🎉 thank you for sharing.
As a man, I agree with this video. I want a woman to be respectful, affectionate, supportive, appreciative. I want to be treated like an adult, like an equal, like a partner, like a teammate. I want a woman that is trusting and trustworthy.
Omg, this was my last relationship. Her last relationship was like that. I set boundaries on her mothering me. It fell apart when I felt insecurity as a man and she lost trust in me. Now she says I'm the narcissist smh 🤦🏽♂️
Dang I’m sorry CP! Oh ya that’s the default response for many women 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly. Trust that he can do it it may be not YOUR way but it gets it done. It’s hard to relinquish control but it’ll be better in the long run. The thing that bothers me is that when I ask him to please do whatever task it is. Is the lack of a sense of urgency lol.
Girl, I hear you! I can attest that many men don’t have the sense of urgency we have lol
Yeah, it really gets grating after a while.
speaking about my actual mother she seems to have waves of urgency, urgency like "its the end of the world if not done now".
doing that actually makes me lose trust and interest and also makes me numb to whatever the inane thing needed to do now was next time, ie rebel, moving the thing that needed to be done further down the list, ie not that urgent
I can only speak for myself.. the reason maybe is that if we both panic then things get worse.. it looks lack of sense of urgency but in reality we are trying to find a solution
This screams if you want something done right do it yourself.
When you just simply just have to submit to the fact that, your way isnt the only way.
If you gold the clothes and its not perfect but it works, then leave it alone. Dont remove agency from your partner.
Hi Rebecca,
I've tuned into your video aftwr a long time of not listening to you. I have to say I often found your tone quite harsh and overwhelming before. But this video was great. It was constructive compassionate and helpful. God bless x
Thanks Rebecca
Keep in mind also that your husband/SO will do things his own way. It may not be the way you want it done and that's ok. Keep in mind that your husband will prioritize things differently. At work Things have to be done right the first time every time. If our performance is poor their can be serious consequences. That stress does/should not exist with most chores.
An example from my marriage is for a time I was working a part-time job in addition to my full time job. My wife was not working. Instead of wanting to spend time with me with the occasional non-work time i had she insisted that i do my "fair share" of the housework. I was working an extra job to pay off her student loans. You'd think she'd be grateful of the sacrifices I was making for her. To this day keep in mind that spending quality time with each other is not a priority for her.
Your voice is so soothing. Praise God for the work He is doing in you.
They lose trust and respect when their husbands stop doing what they are supposed to do. Then she has to do both jobs.
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I usually don't mind being corrected about what I'm wearing, to something more appropriate. She has better taste in clothes.
Rebecca I have a question and would like some advice , if you are willing. I am naturally a loud, outgoing, opinionated woman. I know that these traits are repelling to some men, but I don’t know how I should go about changing these traits. What should I do?
Learn humility and realize your opinions mostly don't matter. These traits are repelling to *most* men, and frankly, to most human beings in general. Very few people like loud, opinionated people. Nobody wants to listen to them, and nobody cares about their opinions. In short: change your personality and stop being like that because it is generally toxic to your social well being, especially where men are concerned.
Be loud in your agreement with your man, be outgoing in promoting his purpose and potential, be opinionated yet humbly seek to know how you may serve his needs and grow together. Proverbs 31, Ephesians 5, and 1 Corinthians 7 are wonderful resources for reference.
Very good advice thank you! ❤️
You're welcome.@@Charlie.Belle.
Find a man that can handle it. 😉
👏Rebecca👏
I don't encourage women supporting deadbeat partners, but I feel like so many times a woman will latch on to a weakness her man has, and instead of trying to augment it in the relationship with person contributions, or helping him improve things, they instead decide to laser focus on it over and over. What's worse is most long time couples knew what weaknesses thief partner had early on in the relationship. If your man fixes everything that breaks in the house, deals with the gross and dangerous things without complaint, and contributes financially and has a job, perhaps cut him some slack when he doesn't like to make phone calls, or decades to take a Saturday off and just play games or watches RUclips.
Would you ever shave your head again just to do it