Andre, Im a russian from UK, I know how our culture is with drinking and domestic violence - there is a lot of generational trauma unfortunately. Please dont feel you have to identify with the story about suicide running in your family. you can break that pattern and get some help. Stay strong Andre!
Beautiful words. yes Russians have many amazing qualities. It seems Andre has been failed by many people throughout his life. I hope he loves himself & finds his way to have a happy life that he deserves.
I'm a Belarussky in Canada--- He looks like a Chuvash --his strength comes from deep inside. Too bad he can't go back home. There's a big community of resent Russian immigrants in Portland Oregon--
@@lisanevins3605 I know right. Not many of us are looking to go back to Eastern Europe from the US. I think he'd be better off coming to the east coast like NYC where we have many large established communities of people like him
Andre, if you see this, there is a large Russian Population in Chicago, Illinois AND more importantly they have NO 3 strike rule!!! Mark knows people there, there are a lot of outreach programs which could help you get your education, find a home and a job. It is only a bus ride away and Mark could help you. Best of luck. You deserve it!
Yes, Chicago would be better than LA.... and a fresh start. It seems that if he got clean, and went somewhere else where he had a job, friends and a purpose things could be different.
Helpful comment…35 likes….hateful comment 34K likes. This is a great suggestion, and hopefully Andre can enjoy the rising sun like the rest of us. I wish him the best.
He’s telling his story, but he barely looks up, so you know it hurts. You’re not alone Andre. You can recover from meth, I’ve done it, you can get your education, you’re young enough. Believe in yourself and you can do it, there’s help out there.
I feel like if Andre just had a period of time when he was truly loved, supported and encouraged he could do so much and turn all of this around. What a tough life to try and navigate on your own. Sending lots of love his way. ❤️❤️✨
Agreed I don't think it will take much to turn him around... Love, support, companionship, encouragement, he's a real sweetie. I hope he finds someone out there that will see him for who he is
I don’t know how one person manages to be so strong. The fact that this young man is still living and breathing after everything he has been through is a show of pure resilience. His story is one of strength and it’s truly inspiring. This channel constantly highlights the products of generational abuse. I watch this channel religiously and everyday it teaches me to be less judgmental, to be more empathetic and to work harder everyday to break those generational curses that have been bestowed upon us. Thank you, Mark.
Very well said. It also reminds other survivors of how hard we have worked to overcome so many obstacles. And yes, drugs and mental illness does not discriminate. From the 1% to below poverty. Abuse comes in all forms.
@@sandife4nandes365 Exactly. A daily gentle reminder of how far we have come is solid motivation to keep pushing in the right direction. Keep pushing, my sister. You’ve got this 💪🏽
This man had so much to say. He probably hasn't ever had anyone truly listen to what he has to say. Thank you for listening Mark. This was an amazing interview.
I agree, Jenny Smith. I was thinking earlier about these beautiful people telling their life experiences and stories and how for some of them it may be the first time someone is actually listening to them. And many of us are! Even in the hardest stories, many many people have that moment they share some wisdom or grace that shows that the flame in them refuses to go out. Andre is one of them and I wish him the very best.
Man this is such a tiny part of his story he has so much more to tell. It's hard to condense your life into an hour or two & cover everything. This man has been through he11 & back. I really hope he finds help, I feel like this telling his story is a last ditch cry for help & I'm really hoping Mark was able to point him in the right direction (not Marks responsibility I know)
This is one of the hardest interviews I’ve watched on this channel. My heart breaks for him. He is so resilient. I hope he can find a path forward and learn to love himself.
An alcoholic goes to Russia to take a child that’s been through trauma back to abuse and neglect him further. I call that person a monster. I can totally see how he went down the path he did. I’d anyone deserves compassion - it’s him. He’s still got a beautiful soul and I hope the second part of his life is better than the first.
@@nukillerfridaymusic911 that alcoholic wasn’t his actual family. And I didn’t mention the word adoption. He himself said she was horrible and he had no affection for her. Read and listen more carefully.
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Every single blog blows me away !!! A lot people need to hear these people and their stories !!!!!! I hated being adopted for my years but now o realize I was lucky. Very lucky 🍀 😔🤷♀️😡
@@leanneadams2549 yup. thats the bad part of being young, you just cant really see whats right in front of you and whats real. And sometimes that pure ignorance of being young can eff you over before you even have a chamce to really learn, and it fucks up your life. I always say, just being young in general, specifically a teen/young adult, is or can be one of the most dangerous things in life. I swear i dont even see how as many of us make it thru as we do, must just be a miracle of life
@@nunyabizwacks6711 I disagree that it's ignorance alone, as you seem to think, because that would imply that everyone older is superior. Age doesn't always equate to wisdom, and young people suffer unimaginably while in the "protection" of adults, so maybe the word you're thinking of is trauma. Trauma is damage to one's development, and therefore what appears to be ignorance ( to people like yourself) is really just an adaptive perspective on life that serves the purpose of keeping young people from succumbing to a painful life experience they should never have experienced in the first place. Here we are in 2022 and what improvements have we made to fix a society that can't comprehend Why hurt people keep hurting people in the first place? What failed systems have been reformed for the sake of those it continues failing? Has the prison system and government agencies changed for the better? I'd say no. I'd say this country has ignorantly failed to correct its bad habits, and in return fails its most vulnerable populations willingly and knowingly. What really blows my mind is the insanity of the general population who expect different results from systems that do not change.
Gripping, raw, and heart wrenching. A 6 year old boy still trying to make sense of the world that has continued to mess him over. These videos constrict my chest with pain. Mark, you are giving respect and honor to broken people and their stories. Thank you.
What about his mom committing suicide in front of him and then not even one of his many relatives (that he mentions in the video) having the decency to take him in and at least give him some degree of comfort? Horrifying selfishness of mammoth proportions.
Please give us an update on Andre. He has survived so much. Witnessing his mother's suicide at the age of 6. Sent to a foreign country and learning a new language. The abuse. Prison. He has so much potential.
Mark you help a lot of people can you please put Andre on your to do list. This is the saddest story i've heard on your channel please do an update on him. My heart goes out to you Andre don't lose faith I realize you are still getting over the heartbreak it's understandable but don't give up hope theirs more fish in the sea this girl just wasn't deserving of your love. Think about it you found her you will find another many blessings your way....God Bless💗✨💗✨
I thought he sounded Mexican when I first heard him speak so he must have picked the accent up from his Mexican gang associates. He doesn't sound Russian at all.
Andre if you read this I think with some therapy from all of the past trauma you will live a beautiful life. You’re an amazing and very resilient man. I wish nothing but the best for you and peace ❤️❤️
I was worrying lately if I would become de-sensitised from watching all these people’s plight, but I know listening to Andrei that I need not have been concerned. This story probably broke my heart more than any other. All I can see is this beautiful little boy at the bridge watching his Mum fall to her death, smiling on command going round the Christmas tree, sitting on the plane that was taking him away from all he knew and then in the back of a car in a strange scary lonely place. It just breaks my heart. Such trauma. Such lack of love in his most formative years. Andrei -I’m in Ireland but I’m sending you a great big hug from across the miles and every positive vibe I can muster that your life improves. Look at all you have dealt with in your 28 short years and you’re still here! Think about all you the positive things you can achieve in the next 28 with that strength of character. I hope Mark can direct you on the right path and I would gladly donate to help in any way with that. Gods speed x
U've taken the words out of my mouth literally! I was wondering the same thing then I come across this episode and I've to pause the video not even 10 minutes in. My tears just wouldn't stop flowing for him and his story and it's only the start of the video. I truly hope Mark helped him in any way he could and all of us viewers from around the world just want to give him virtual hugs, words of comfort and love! His story is so touching and I really hope he's doing better now and that he's healing and finds some semblance of peace!
I love that..sending a big hug from across the miles..he certainly needs it. Guess I do too maybe. because by the time I got done reading your comment I had tears too
When he first started speaking I thought, "He speaks with a Mexican accent. Interesting." Learning that he's from Russia was very interesting. Sounds like he learned English from Mexican American locals.
I’m a preschool teacher at a private school in Orange County. Every time I watch these videos and hear these HORRIFIC childhood stories, I always want to work with children like Andre instead. One day I will. It’s just not fair that children have to grow up like this and others are born with every opportunity. It breaks my heart.💔 I want to reach the children that never started life with a chance.
Are you absolutely certain that you aren't working with children like him? I'd be willing to bet there are at least 2 or 3 kids going through something you have no idea about. Unfortunately drugs and hard times, misery, etc does not discriminate
@@haleyoneil9172 I’m a mandated reporter. I’ve been working in Early Childhood Development for 15 years. I know what the signs are. I’m not saying it can’t happen in such a wealthy area, BUT I have not seen any red flags so far, and I’d bet that 95% of the children are living healthy, safe, and well adjusted lives. I’d like to work with the other end of the spectrum.
@@dp6970 You’re right. Abuse/neglect isn’t a common occurrence in that part of the social class. The money on the other side is awful so if you truly want to do it then be aware that you are doing it for no reward.
@@roninkraut6873 I understand and it’s definitely something MAJOR to consider if I’m going to make the leap one day. It’s not right that the pay is crap. People in the profession work there asses off for the good of disadvantaged children. That’s hard work, emotionally draining, and it’s a thankless job. They should be paid 6 figs.
What a horrific & sad story about his mother. I can not imagine how traumatizing that was. I wish this guy all the best & hope he finds the love he deserves.
@@alyssag.5758 Suicide. He was 5 and she threatened if he didn't put a note into his grandmother's hand, she would jump off a bridge. She did right in front of him.
Andre if you read these comments. Just know that you are loved by many of us SWU family members. You are worthy and deserving of so much more than what’s going on right now . Sending you love. So much love. And big BIG hugs my friend
Dear Andre, You are worthy. You are important. You are smart. You have a place on this earth. I’m so sorry for everything that has happened to you. Nothing will ever take away or erase the past, but you can make it out on the other side. This world needs people like you. Someone who can inspire others with their story and change for the better. I hope you find your path. Thank you for sharing your story. Good luck, friend. ♥️
This man is as resilient as a man in Special Forces. He has been through everything someone in a POW camp, wars, trauma, ptsd, psychological warfare, etc., have gone through and survived, in his own right. This man is unlike many humans- he is still with us in the world, choosing to live however hellish it must be for him. He wakes up and does life on its terms, one of the most difficult things to do on earth. He is so special and rare. If he could receive the help he has so deserved since so young, his achievements could be off the Richter scale. Stay with us, ljubavi moja Andrzej ♡♡♡
I agree. My heart is breaking for him. Here’s a person who truly deserves a break and a hand up. He’s so smart and honest. I would love to contribute to him.
I’m angry at his mother for doing what she did in front of her little boy , i’d be messed up too . 🙏 He is a smart young man , i hope he can get some assistance to go back to electronic school . 🥲
Andre, I believe in you. You have a deep capacity to love and are so self aware, despite all you’ve been through. Head high my friend. Your spirit is remarkably strong. Keep going. Hope comes back. I promise.
Andre, you are a very resilient person. You will make it through this heartbreak just as you have made it through others. Make good choices and keep moving forward - the love and peace you deserve is waiting for you.
I can definitely relate to some of his story. Being around constant fighting as a kid, moving all the time, living with no lights water, barely any food. I was kicked out when I was 16, my mom tired to put me in jail a few times. I've been homeless many times. I finally found someone and spent almost 6 years with him helping him with his health problems he passed away in late 2018, I had back surgery in early 2019, I lost our home a few months later lived in hotels for almost 6 months. Through all of that I never really had a chance to grieve almost completely gave up hope. Finally after all of that I've bought my own home and have been financially stable for almost a year.
She wasn't a true mother, she was just a female that was able to reproduce, a REAL mother would put her children first. His grandmother and aunt also failed this poor guy!! Losin his mother, watchin her jump off a dadgum bridge, the thing they should've done was do what family should've and would've done, was take him in, and raise him, lovin him, and givin him a lovin home.... it's absolutely RIDICULOUS they left him in that home, and never picked him up. He was set up to fail....he was a six year old little boy, who needed love...😭😭
He mentioned that suicide was a "generational curse" in his family so his Mom could have been suffering from a mental breakdown made worse by the alcohol.. so sad 😢
His mother was very clearly mentally ill, which drinking no doubt exacerbated. She was not in a healthy, logical state of mind. Her illness and subsequent suicide was devastating to both of them. ❤️
😔Whenever I am tempted to complain about my childhood I watch one of these and think… my experience wasn’t that bad. I know everyone perceives their experiences as being bad but these videos can really put things into perspective. I thank Andre for sharing his story. I hope the universe reaches out to help and protect him.
This poor guy. He has so much potential. He really makes my mothering instincts come out - I just want to adopt him and help him get on the right track so he can be safe and happy.
This interview really got to me, I type this with tears in my eyes because I watched my mom die and the pain is unmatched. Andre- you can get clean, you can ask mark for a rehab he might know of to help. One small step at a time, a rehab in the right place could open up doors to support and connections. It’s never too late
Andre is in pain over his traumatic loss of his mom and his sad childhood. From what he described, it appeared that he is abandoned and unloved. Unsurprisingly that he turned to drugs to cope with pain and loss in life. He escaped death twice, and he is still young. The road ahead is still long. I hope he will appreciate himself, get clean, and continue his education. He is worth than what his ex-girlfriend think of him. Your past don't define you. Your choices about your future does, Andrei.
I've watched this channel for years.This is first time I've literally felt heart broken for this guy.Bro. I know you probably won't see this but if you ever come to Louisiana I've got a job for you.
This guys story tugged my heart. How could a mother do this to her son? It's not a generational curse it's substance abuse. Your kindness is in your voice. Good luck to you I hope to see many more videos of you.
Andre-you are an intelligent, thoughtful and insightful person. You have been through hell but are still standing. Please don’t give up, the world needs you 🤞🏼
I don't find myself having alot of empathy for most people on this series. I do some. But most I don't. But Andre is very special. He has a pure heart. I can tell just by listening to him describe his turbulent life that he is what I call,...REAL. If he just had someone or people to love him and give him an outlet of some sort?? He could be a real success story. Help him Mark. Go the extra mile for Andre. He is worth the effort. God Bless you Andre. Best of luck to you brother.
This man could have a movie made of him… so interesting but heartbreaking. He seems to have a gentle soul, and he is very handsome. He deserves a better life. He has seen so much.
Man, I hope that this guy reads some of these comments because there are so many good hearted people who are supportive & uplifting here.. It makes sense to me why Andre joined a gang, he's just looking for a family.. hope he realizes that he is deserving of love & that the first step is loving yourself & working hard good things always follow that. ❤
That early trauma is the deepest and most difficult to help. As a teacher I've had a few students who had similar experiences and they seem to be reenacting their traumas in small ways in order to cope. I just show them I care and support their talent, yet I know each one needs an individual approach and finding that is always the challenge.
Wow, really great comments, Kelly Merill and Vonder Loo. Very insightful. It def. made me think about my own life. And the changes that have to be made.
To have parents that love and support you from the day you are born is the most important thing for any human. These are such emotional and heartbreaking stories, my heart goes out to these people 😞
Andre, as much as you need and want to push forward, find a trauma informed therapist to help you process all that you've been through. It's an investment you can make in yourself that can bring you peace of mind, and a solid foundation to build your future on. For real. Stay well, brother.
lol... i mean seriously? he's a meth addict on the streets... where the fuck does he come up with 1000$/month for multiple weekly therapy sessions? some people live in a different world...
@@Dpurple28 No, you don't know apparently. A simple google search reveals abundant psych and social services available in that area. The hard part isn't finding a therapist (for free), it's being willing to ask for, or accept, help. As Mark (and Monika) have frequently offered to locate appropriate services.
He’s hurting and needs someone to show him a path. He doesn’t know which way to go because he has been shown every wrong direction. I would love to help him.
Precious Andre, please don't let anyone tell you, or treat you in a way. that makes you feel hurt or worthless. I could hear your heart in every word. Please try to stay strong. I know that's hard Andre. I really do. I hope any future updates will tell us you have been able to lift yourself a little higher, you're loving yourself a little deeper and you've found people who really care about you in all the best ways. Much love to you.
@@katealigaard1483I also. I wish him so much that he finds people who love him, that's what he's missing.I wish you all the best, you are a person with a heart.Love from germany 🤗
@@katealigaard1483 Yes that's right. He's a broken soul.That's why he needs people who show him love.He's still a young man. He shouldn't be alone.And you, you are a person with a big heart.Unfortunately, not all people are.I wish you all the best.Greets from germany 🤗
Andre, I just turned 30 this morning. This story is the first thing I am fortunate enough to see because you had shared it. I left San Diego, and moved to Oregon. You ever want to move somewhere new, I'll pay for your bus ticket and a hotel for a week. Consider it's going to be cold weather soon and so you'd have to really be on the ball, go to work and find your way. If you ever choose to and need some help, hit me up.
Your awesome! I’ve been reading and hoping someone would offer help. I feel he can get over the drugs, work & be very productive with rehab, counseling & a good friend. Maybe that’s you. Bless you Brian!
Andre I hope you’re reading & feeling all the love in these messages. Brian Bennett even offered you a way to move to Oregon! I hope u realize the fact your suicide attempts and attacks in jail didnt work means you’re meant to LIVE. Get help to detox, go to school (someone mentioned CA offers free CDL training) & get counseling to deal with your past and you will live an awesome life. Realize your obsession with that girl is part of your addiction and abandonment issues. Life is tough but your tougher! You have your whole life ahead of you & you will be a help to others down the road. Stay strong & never give up! Blessings & luck to you
Mark, as a Sociology major, I appreciate your compassion with the people you interview. For most of these people, this is the first time they have ever felt comfortable enough to tell their stories. I am learning SO much from your channel!
This guy's story is so intense; I'm on the edge of my seat listening to every word and I think it's because he appears to be telling the truth. It's heart breaking what adults will do to children and then we throw them in jail once they're an adult. It's disgusting and totally preventable. Kids need love. Love and a warm meal and a decent school. Those things shouldn't be so difficult to give. It isn't rocket science and yet we can send rockets to Mars but cannot figure out how to raise decent human beings. Also, you can get your life in order and getting off meth, while be the hardest thing to do, it will be the one thing that will help you the most. Also, take time to see how women are in the world because being in prison has effected the way you perceive people. It's the non-verbal communication that gets super heightened in prison and so when you get out you are seeing things that people that haven't been locked up have no clue about. Also, they make it so hard to follow the rules for parole and so do not beat yourself up. This prison industrial complex in our country is incredibly powerful and they make really hard to stay out of prison. AND real life is also REALLY hard. Rents are now too high for most people. I pray that you are able to take what opportunities are going to come your way after this video and I see a positive role for you in our society.
He is an honest young man even with all that trauma he has had he is still very humble and lovable. God bless you Andre. Don't give up on life your blessings are coming.
5:37am here. One of my favorite podcasters this is monsters when releases his videos at 3:00 a.m. as well, which is only fitting for his contents. But my friend Amber over at true Crime and chill was saying the other day how slow for RUclips was uploading as did Jada Kennedy, another yt content creator at Urban Extractions. So that begs the question what happens to scheduled release dates and times if RUclips for whatever reason is lagging or just overall running slow? 🤔🤔🤔
I would love to give him big warm hug and the 6 year old boy too + endless love. Can't understand how his mother could do this to him at this age. No matter how miserable you feel. Your little baby.
Andre, stay strong my brother you are a survivor of a traumatic childhood! I can feel ur pain and sadness, but just know that it’s not ur fault that ur mom decided to take her life. I am sorry all these things happened to you, but U were just a child and u did the best u could from the knowledge that u had at such a young age. Please don’t carry that burden on ur shoulders! Realize that ur a brave person that came a long way from a chaotic childhood. U are a wonderful person stay safe love!
This guy has really struggled with many traumas. His ways of speaking is interesting. He has an accent thats similar to a hispanic accent. Might of picked it up from the gang & all those years locked up
I’ve never commented before and I almost overlooked this video cause the title didn’t grab me but I’m so glad I clicked on it. This is one of the craziest stories I’ve ever heard and trust me my life hasen’t been a walk in the park. Andrei, you deserve all the help in the world. For all you’ve been through and to seemingly not hate the world, wow. I wish I had your strength.
I wish i was in a position to help this fella, iv heard what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. But what ppl leave off the end is, in time. Or eventually. I hope this fella finds happiness.
This interview touch me a lot! Andrei, I am happy to help you. I am psychotherapist and speaking Russian fluently. I am so sorry that your life journey is so challenging. But you are here, alive and should make the best of this experience.
Oh, so kind of you! I hope Andrei will write you. This is a fantastic help that you are offering. A therapy. This is exactly what he needs. A therapy would be life-savior. It saved me from trauma 25 years ago (PTSD-dissociation). It’s long, but it’s worth it: it works.
Andre has been literally fighting his way through life ever since he was a toddler... Like most interviews, it really shows you the layers people have in their lives...
Dang Mark you’ve been active I love all this new content thank you ❤️ ..my sister left me with her 4 kids this channel helps me understand her and her illness not just hate her all the time understanding life is hard
I wish my family would watch these videos. I've been clean for 2 years. I sure put them through hell, but my immediate family won't speak to me still. Complete radio silence. I've pretty much given up and moved on. But there's still an inkling of hope.
Of all the 100’s of interviews I have seen in your work, this is the first i have cried and I felt moved to comment. I will pray for you Andre, that you see how resilient you are, may your path be lit and may you find joy, may your heart be blessed with true love. You deserve a good life.❤
Hi Mark! What a start in life, an excruciating tragedy in real terms. Your experiences have been harrowing, a lesser person would have given up, you Andre did not ! Throw down that shitty hand you were dealt, switch it up while you have time, you owe it to yourself.
This channel has changed my life. I want to thank you, Mark Latia for opening my eyes to the depth of the power of the human mind and it's ability to protect and restore or it's DISability to protect and restore. Thank you for giving folks the opportunity to release the trauma that has been stored in them for years. Each time I listen to an interview I can't imagine a human experiencing things so horrific- and then the very next interview there is a person that has been through even worse situations. I can't tell you how much I appreciate Soft White Underbelly.
I've watched so many of your videos, Mark, so many. I care about all but some people really hit me hard in the heart and this is one of them. 💔 As a Mother, I want to hug Andre so tightly that he'll pull away because he's had enough and is healed from the love. I know it's not possible but I wish it could be that easy. Andre, if you're reading this, please promise me you'll stay around and not follow your family "curse", please! I see great things in your future; I don't know what, but I feel it's there, son, please don't leave, please try to move forward in a positive way and get help. I'll be watching to see if Mark posts an update. 💕
What a STRONG person...I wish Andre knew. He deserves UNCONDITIONAL love. Hes much more than what material gain can give you and it kills me when women do this to some of the most incredible men..Or at all. To me this is a case of someone who deserves proper mental health treatment as well by dedicated professionals. Along with support daily around him. I hope we get an update. I truly hope he breaks away from choosing the permanent decision over temporary things. I know its easy to say, harder to live with. Please stay, Andre.. Beautiful soul. Keep pushing forward Andre ♥️
Mark, how can we help Andre? He’s been dealt a hard hand and I feel so deeply for him. I believe so strongly that he will heal from this and find happiness. He has a pure, but broken heart.
I was wondering why he sounded like he was Hispanic until he mentioned the Mexican gang. Poor man was looking for am identity. Not easy coming to America without a strong sense of family and culture. You're bound to loose yourself in someone else's, then get even more lost once you find out that it's not you anyway. May you find yourself
Think it was less about finding an identity and more about trying to survive. He didn't wanna continue getting bullied by other races as a minority in his area so he chose to join a gang for protection. That's what it sounds like to me, at least.
It breaks my heart how many babies are born, perfect humans who we can mold into amazing people with love and so many never feel that. Its such a tragedy, ill never understand. I do hope Andre finds his worth because he has it. May he find that grit and determination to rise above all those that have done him wrong with his middle finger in the air.
With some help and support this man would be a totally different person. It’s so hard to hear his struggle and to hear him fight alone. I wandered through all the comments trying to figure out how I can help!
He’s such a loving person man I pray that he fight those demons !! He’s still young and can still have/do so much with his life.. he deserves better ….and the system is so messed up it’s time for a change .. can we have a part 2 on him !?
Andre, know you have purpose! You're real and your story will have a profound effect on many. Please keep going to school, no matter how hard it gets. Stay away from meth, it will destroy you. Read Jeremiah 29:11. You will be lifted up in my prayers. God keep you, He already has! Much love and respect from Colorado.
My (adopted, alcoholic) mother committed suicide too and the love of my life, (also duplicitous - screwed up attachment guarantees you are attracted to the wrong people), also told me, "You should commit suicide like your mother," as Andre's girlfriend told him. Words you will never forget until the day you die. It's not even the original childhood trauma that brings you down on a daily basis - you can't change the past - but people and incidents who sometimes willfully aggravate those feelings it in your adult life. This guy is resilient as hell and deserves to have the shit loved out him by someone. You can tell he's got a good heart, is not inherently criminally-minded, nor strung out (laying the reality bare: when you are truly poor, you can't afford a habit, if you aren't willing to do it by hook or by crook.) Not to mention, he is smart enough to realize his first priority is to stay out of jail.
Andre, my heart hurts for what you've had to endure. You're truly such a handsome, intelligent young man despite how cruel the world has been to you. You are deserving of love. You are a special man.... & I hope you can find a place of serenity in your life. I'd love to be your friend & hug you to tell you you're not alone. You're a survivor!
I have few words. I have been totally dismantled and broken by my girlfriend /fiancé of 6yrs. Driven crazy & now lost by her leaving me. I understand his confusion & pain. I could not imagine being doomed by not 1 but 2 curses. I needed to hear this as is sounds just like me talking in this interview. As far as his youth.... no words can express how he must have felt as a child. The blame he must have laid on his shoulders as a young man, thinking this was his fault. Shame on his mother for making him feel he was at fault at such a young age.Not all (please do not take this personally) but some women, and people in general, can be so cruel.
I would like to help this guy mark If u could help me with that it would be awesome His story really hit me and he seems like a solid dude not everyone can do time in a Cali pen and live to be free and talk about it I can hear the pain In his voice I’m baffled at how crazy his story is and everything he has been through I legit wanna help the guy
Andre, if you see this. You are worthy of happiness, love, and joy! The gun didn’t work because you need to be here. Your voice your story matters. You are loved even by unknown humans❤️❤️
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Andre, Im a russian from UK, I know how our culture is with drinking and domestic violence - there is a lot of generational trauma unfortunately. Please dont feel you have to identify with the story about suicide running in your family. you can break that pattern and get some help. Stay strong Andre!
Beautiful words. yes Russians have many amazing qualities. It seems Andre has been failed by many people throughout his life. I hope he loves himself & finds his way to have a happy life that he deserves.
I'm a Belarussky in Canada--- He looks like a Chuvash --his strength comes from deep inside. Too bad he can't go back home. There's a big community of resent Russian immigrants in Portland Oregon--
@@anneillerbrun7909 go home to Russia? No , he has more where he is.
@@lisanevins3605 I know right. Not many of us are looking to go back to Eastern Europe from the US. I think he'd be better off coming to the east coast like NYC where we have many large established communities of people like him
@@anneillerbrun7909 I live in Portland and yes there’s pocket communities of Russians and they stick together mostly
Andre, if you see this, there is a large Russian Population in Chicago, Illinois AND more importantly they have NO 3 strike rule!!! Mark knows people there, there are a lot of outreach programs which could help you get your education, find a home and a job. It is only a bus ride away and Mark could help you. Best of luck. You deserve it!
Great suggestion Annie.
Yes, Chicago would be better than LA.... and a fresh start. It seems that if he got clean, and went somewhere else where he had a job, friends and a purpose things could be different.
Helpful comment…35 likes….hateful comment 34K likes.
This is a great suggestion, and hopefully Andre can enjoy the rising sun like the rest of us. I wish him the best.
Chicago? Yeah, jump out the pot of Hell and into the fire.
@@krisblunt6293 don't be jealous
He’s telling his story, but he barely looks up, so you know it hurts. You’re not alone Andre. You can recover from meth, I’ve done it, you can get your education, you’re young enough. Believe in yourself and you can do it, there’s help out there.
Yes, his body language is so telling. He seems ashamed and defeated. He just needs something to be proud of…
Education costs a lot of money. I think becoming sober and getting a job are more realistic goals.
Kudos Stephanie!
ive never met so many body language experts in one place in my life as i have on this channel
@@damienholland8103 💯
This is one of the most heartbreaking stories I heard on SWU. I'm feeling a strange mix of empathy, sadness, and hope
Excellent comment
i agree 😭
Agreed! I would contribute to a gofundme for him and I have never given to a stranger before . Came to the comments to look for one
me too
I feel like if Andre just had a period of time when he was truly loved, supported and encouraged he could do so much and turn all of this around. What a tough life to try and navigate on your own. Sending lots of love his way. ❤️❤️✨
so well said!
Absolutely
So true. It's so hearbreaking. I just want to put my arms around him & tell him how sorry I am that he was treated so badly his whole life.
1 Cor 13
Agreed I don't think it will take much to turn him around... Love, support, companionship, encouragement, he's a real sweetie. I hope he finds someone out there that will see him for who he is
I don’t know how one person manages to be so strong. The fact that this young man is still living and breathing after everything he has been through is a show of pure resilience. His story is one of strength and it’s truly inspiring. This channel constantly highlights the products of generational abuse. I watch this channel religiously and everyday it teaches me to be less judgmental, to be more empathetic and to work harder everyday to break those generational curses that have been bestowed upon us. Thank you, Mark.
Very well said. It also reminds other survivors of how hard we have worked to overcome so many obstacles. And yes, drugs and mental illness does not discriminate. From the 1% to below poverty. Abuse comes in all forms.
@@sandife4nandes365 Exactly. A daily gentle reminder of how far we have come is solid motivation to keep pushing in the right direction. Keep pushing, my sister. You’ve got this 💪🏽
Fuck resilience RESISTENCE!!!
This man had so much to say. He probably hasn't ever had anyone truly listen to what he has to say. Thank you for listening Mark. This was an amazing interview.
I agree, Jenny Smith. I was thinking earlier about these beautiful people telling their life experiences and stories and how for some of them it may be the first time someone is actually listening to them. And many of us are! Even in the hardest stories, many many people have that moment they share some wisdom or grace that shows that the flame in them refuses to go out. Andre is one of them and I wish him the very best.
I think Mark is an empath!!
@@hnybee113 I agree, Laura💜💜
Your so right..😥
@@hnybee113 we need empaths sometimes..😉
This beautiful boy needs a hug for an entire year.
Oh yes! Hearing how he tried to take his life after his girlfriend broke up with him was heart wrenching! 😢💔
until the end of time.
A lifetime of hugs and pure love.
Man this is such a tiny part of his story he has so much more to tell. It's hard to condense your life into an hour or two & cover everything. This man has been through he11 & back. I really hope he finds help, I feel like this telling his story is a last ditch cry for help & I'm really hoping Mark was able to point him in the right direction (not Marks responsibility I know)
💔The whole world needs a hug for an entire year
The hardest part is you can sense his kindness.
Jesus Christ. How can this man be ok?
I hope he can.
You called it, Jesus Christ is the way out.
I’m sure there are other ways too but this is certainly a strong option.
@@thornmatthew8395 I am older now and believe me my life has been very difficult.. But God has been with me and helped along the way.
@@YourInASoulTrap Why is that ? Because you say so ?
@@YourInASoulTrap What do you believe that you think is the Truth ?
This is one of the hardest interviews I’ve watched on this channel. My heart breaks for him. He is so resilient. I hope he can find a path forward and learn to love himself.
An alcoholic goes to Russia to take a child that’s been through trauma back to abuse and neglect him further. I call that person a monster. I can totally see how he went down the path he did. I’d anyone deserves compassion - it’s him.
He’s still got a beautiful soul and I hope the second part of his life is better than the first.
That alcoholic being his actual family. Parse his words carefully. It is clear he wasn't adopted.
@@nukillerfridaymusic911 that alcoholic wasn’t his actual family. And I didn’t mention the word adoption. He himself said she was horrible and he had no affection for her. Read and listen more carefully.
This dude is a damn warrior considering all the shit he endured
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Damn Mark you're coming with the hitters lately. This is a special one. Andre had a really hard life. I hope he can figure it out.
Oh a Blue Jay for your thumbnail....I love them!!
Every single blog blows me away !!! A lot people need to hear these people and their stories !!!!!! I hated being adopted for my years but now o realize I was lucky. Very lucky 🍀 😔🤷♀️😡
@@leanneadams2549 yup. thats the bad part of being young, you just cant really see whats right in front of you and whats real. And sometimes that pure ignorance of being young can eff you over before you even have a chamce to really learn, and it fucks up your life. I always say, just being young in general, specifically a teen/young adult, is or can be one of the most dangerous things in life. I swear i dont even see how as many of us make it thru as we do, must just be a miracle of life
@@nunyabizwacks6711 I disagree that it's ignorance alone, as you seem to think, because that would imply that everyone older is superior. Age doesn't always equate to wisdom, and young people suffer unimaginably while in the "protection" of adults, so maybe the word you're thinking of is trauma. Trauma is damage to one's development, and therefore what appears to be ignorance ( to people like yourself) is really just an adaptive perspective on life that serves the purpose of keeping young people from succumbing to a painful life experience they should never have experienced in the first place. Here we are in 2022 and what improvements have we made to fix a society that can't comprehend Why hurt people keep hurting people in the first place? What failed systems have been reformed for the sake of those it continues failing? Has the prison system and government agencies changed for the better? I'd say no. I'd say this country has ignorantly failed to correct its bad habits, and in return fails its most vulnerable populations willingly and knowingly. What really blows my mind is the insanity of the general population who expect different results from systems that do not change.
Gripping, raw, and heart wrenching. A 6 year old boy still trying to make sense of the world that has continued to mess him over. These videos constrict my chest with pain. Mark, you are giving respect and honor to broken people and their stories. Thank you.
FOR REAL...HEART-WRENCHINGLY SAD
He’s 28. I know what your trying to say but calling him 6 seems condescending
My heart hurts for him! Watching his mom commit suicide and no one helped him. It’s just heartbreaking.
Absolutely
Yea hard to see a man cry , poor guy
What about his mom committing suicide in front of him and then not even one of his many relatives (that he mentions in the video) having the decency to take him in and at least give him some degree of comfort? Horrifying selfishness of mammoth proportions.
Please give us an update on Andre. He has survived so much. Witnessing his mother's suicide at the age of 6. Sent to a foreign country and learning a new language. The abuse. Prison. He has so much potential.
Mark you help a lot of people can you please put Andre on your to do list. This is the saddest story i've heard on your channel please do an update on him. My heart goes out to you Andre don't lose faith I realize you are still getting over the heartbreak it's understandable but don't give up hope theirs more fish in the sea this girl just wasn't deserving of your love. Think about it you found her you will find another many blessings your way....God Bless💗✨💗✨
I thought he sounded Mexican when I first heard him speak so he must have picked the accent up from his Mexican gang associates. He doesn't sound Russian at all.
Andre if you read this I think with some therapy from all of the past trauma you will live a beautiful life.
You’re an amazing and very resilient man. I wish nothing but the best for you and peace ❤️❤️
I was worrying lately if I would become de-sensitised from watching all these people’s plight, but I know listening to Andrei that I need not have been concerned. This story probably broke my heart more than any other. All I can see is this beautiful little boy at the bridge watching his Mum fall to her death, smiling on command going round the Christmas tree, sitting on the plane that was taking him away from all he knew and then in the back of a car in a strange scary lonely place. It just breaks my heart. Such trauma. Such lack of love in his most formative years. Andrei -I’m in Ireland but I’m sending you a great big hug from across the miles and every positive vibe I can muster that your life improves. Look at all you have dealt with in your 28 short years and you’re still here! Think about all you the positive things you can achieve in the next 28 with that strength of character. I hope Mark can direct you on the right path and I would gladly donate to help in any way with that. Gods speed x
U've taken the words out of my mouth literally! I was wondering the same thing then I come across this episode and I've to pause the video not even 10 minutes in. My tears just wouldn't stop flowing for him and his story and it's only the start of the video. I truly hope Mark helped him in any way he could and all of us viewers from around the world just want to give him virtual hugs, words of comfort and love! His story is so touching and I really hope he's doing better now and that he's healing and finds some semblance of peace!
I love that..sending a big hug from across the miles..he certainly needs it. Guess I do too maybe. because by the time I got done reading your comment I had tears too
When he first started speaking I thought, "He speaks with a Mexican accent. Interesting." Learning that he's from Russia was very interesting. Sounds like he learned English from Mexican American locals.
Looks like jail tatts the white boy on his neck
He done time in Cali pens kicked it with the homies
Exactly what I thought.
I thought the same
I immediately noticed that “WB (Warner Brothers) White Boy” logo.
I thought he was a mixed Mexican “milkweed”. 😆
I’m a preschool teacher at a private school in Orange County. Every time I watch these videos and hear these HORRIFIC childhood stories, I always want to work with children like Andre instead. One day I will. It’s just not fair that children have to grow up like this and others are born with every opportunity. It breaks my heart.💔 I want to reach the children that never started life with a chance.
Are you absolutely certain that you aren't working with children like him? I'd be willing to bet there are at least 2 or 3 kids going through something you have no idea about. Unfortunately drugs and hard times, misery, etc does not discriminate
@@haleyoneil9172 I’m a mandated reporter. I’ve been working in Early Childhood Development for 15 years. I know what the signs are. I’m not saying it can’t happen in such a wealthy area, BUT I have not seen any red flags so far, and I’d bet that 95% of the children are living healthy, safe, and well adjusted lives. I’d like to work with the other end of the spectrum.
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You’re right. Abuse/neglect isn’t a common occurrence in that part of the social class. The money on the other side is awful so if you truly want to do it then be aware that you are doing it for no reward.
@@roninkraut6873 I understand and it’s definitely something MAJOR to consider if I’m going to make the leap one day. It’s not right that the pay is crap. People in the profession work there asses off for the good of disadvantaged children. That’s hard work, emotionally draining, and it’s a thankless job. They should be paid 6 figs.
I hope your dream comes true
Poor dude I really feel for him, hard life… everyone deserves a second chance and everyone deserves happiness…
Yessir
My heart hurts so so much for this man. How can someone radiate such kindness and warmth despite enduring such despair and sadness?
What a horrific & sad story about his mother. I can not imagine how traumatizing that was. I wish this guy all the best & hope he finds the love he deserves.
I wasn't able to follow it. How did his birth mother die?
@@alyssag.5758 Suicide. He was 5 and she threatened if he didn't put a note into his grandmother's hand, she would jump off a bridge. She did right in front of him.
@@marylougeorge9890 oh my goodness. So sad. Thanks for the explanation.
Andre if you read these comments. Just know that you are loved by many of us SWU family members. You are worthy and deserving of so much more than what’s going on right now . Sending you love.
So much love.
And big BIG hugs my friend
Dear Andre,
You are worthy. You are important. You are smart. You have a place on this earth. I’m so sorry for everything that has happened to you. Nothing will ever take away or erase the past, but you can make it out on the other side. This world needs people like you. Someone who can inspire others with their story and change for the better. I hope you find your path. Thank you for sharing your story. Good luck, friend. ♥️
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This man is as resilient as a man in Special Forces. He has been through everything someone in a POW camp, wars, trauma, ptsd, psychological warfare, etc., have gone through and survived, in his own right.
This man is unlike many humans- he is still with us in the world, choosing to live however hellish it must be for him. He wakes up and does life on its terms, one of the most difficult things to do on earth.
He is so special and rare. If he could receive the help he has so deserved since so young, his achievements could be off the Richter scale.
Stay with us, ljubavi moja Andrzej ♡♡♡
This is one of the best interviews in this channel
I agree. My heart is breaking for him. Here’s a person who truly deserves a break and a hand up. He’s so smart and honest. I would love to contribute to him.
The mother in me just wants to be his mom and hug him and love him. Gosh this breaks my heart
I’m angry at his mother for doing what she did in front of her little boy , i’d be messed up too . 🙏 He is a smart young man , i hope he can get some assistance to go back to electronic school . 🥲
Andre shows character, insight, resilience.
This was one of the best interviews of this channel. I wish you Andre a better life, where you find your peace. Don't give up!
Andre, I believe in you. You have a deep capacity to love and are so self aware, despite all you’ve been through. Head high my friend. Your spirit is remarkably strong. Keep going. Hope comes back. I promise.
Andre, you are a very resilient person. You will make it through this heartbreak just as you have made it through others. Make good choices and keep moving forward - the love and peace you deserve is waiting for you.
I can definitely relate to some of his story. Being around constant fighting as a kid, moving all the time, living with no lights water, barely any food. I was kicked out when I was 16, my mom tired to put me in jail a few times. I've been homeless many times. I finally found someone and spent almost 6 years with him helping him with his health problems he passed away in late 2018, I had back surgery in early 2019, I lost our home a few months later lived in hotels for almost 6 months. Through all of that I never really had a chance to grieve almost completely gave up hope. Finally after all of that I've bought my own home and have been financially stable for almost a year.
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You’re strong. Bravo!!!
How could a mother do that to her poor sweet baby boy. She set his life up, right at that moment. You deserve so much more.
He is so beautiful.
She also let him get beat up by her boyfriend
He is very beautiful. He has so much potential to make something out of himself. He has the personality to get a good job and everything.
She wasn't a true mother, she was just a female that was able to reproduce, a REAL mother would put her children first. His grandmother and aunt also failed this poor guy!! Losin his mother, watchin her jump off a dadgum bridge, the thing they should've done was do what family should've and would've done, was take him in, and raise him, lovin him, and givin him a lovin home.... it's absolutely RIDICULOUS they left him in that home, and never picked him up. He was set up to fail....he was a six year old little boy, who needed love...😭😭
He mentioned that suicide was a "generational curse" in his family so his Mom could have been suffering from a mental breakdown made worse by the alcohol.. so sad 😢
His mother was very clearly mentally ill, which drinking no doubt exacerbated. She was not in a healthy, logical state of mind. Her illness and subsequent suicide was devastating to both of them. ❤️
Where is Andre now? This is 1 of my favorite interviews. I really am hoping and praying he makes it through his struggle! Please update us Mark.
😔Whenever I am tempted to complain about my childhood I watch one of these and think… my experience wasn’t that bad. I know everyone perceives their experiences as being bad but these videos can really put things into perspective. I thank Andre for sharing his story. I hope the universe reaches out to help and protect him.
Rob, you are so right. Sending you hugs.
Amen 🙏🏾
@@ItsSauIGoodman true... everyone processes trauma differently... depending on where you are in your life perceptions may change in the moment...
Very well said!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This poor guy. He has so much potential. He really makes my mothering instincts come out - I just want to adopt him and help him get on the right track so he can be safe and happy.
With some help from therapy he could be an amazing advocate for adopted and fostered children. He is so self aware and knowledgeable.
This interview really got to me, I type this with tears in my eyes because I watched my mom die and the pain is unmatched. Andre- you can get clean, you can ask mark for a rehab he might know of to help. One small step at a time, a rehab in the right place could open up doors to support and connections. It’s never too late
Andre is in pain over his traumatic loss of his mom and his sad childhood. From what he described, it appeared that he is abandoned and unloved. Unsurprisingly that he turned to drugs to cope with pain and loss in life.
He escaped death twice, and he is still young. The road ahead is still long. I hope he will appreciate himself, get clean, and continue his education. He is worth than what his ex-girlfriend think of him.
Your past don't define you. Your choices about your future does, Andrei.
I've watched this channel for years.This is first time I've literally felt heart broken for this guy.Bro. I know you probably won't see this but if you ever come to Louisiana I've got a job for you.
Wait seriously? Maybe we are not watching the same vids.
@@YvonneChavez Opportunities are hope. We all need hope.
@@MrJennifur1 What are you talking about that pertains to what I typed?
Manners, lady.
This guys story tugged my heart. How could a mother do this to her son? It's not a generational curse it's substance abuse. Your kindness is in your voice. Good luck to you I hope to see many more videos of you.
So unbelievably sad that he had TWO women fail him as a mother. Breaks my heart.
@@caitchri2426 men are constantly portrayed as the toxic abusers, reality is mothers and women do just as much damage if not more
Andre-you are an intelligent, thoughtful and insightful person. You have been through hell but are still standing. Please don’t give up, the world needs you 🤞🏼
I don't find myself having alot of empathy for most people on this series. I do some. But most I don't. But Andre is very special. He has a pure heart. I can tell just by listening to him describe his turbulent life that he is what I call,...REAL. If he just had someone or people to love him and give him an outlet of some sort?? He could be a real success story. Help him Mark. Go the extra mile for Andre. He is worth the effort. God Bless you Andre. Best of luck to you brother.
This man could have a movie made of him… so interesting but heartbreaking. He seems to have a gentle soul, and he is very handsome. He deserves a better life. He has seen so much.
Man, I hope that this guy reads some of these comments because there are so many good hearted people who are supportive & uplifting here.. It makes sense to me why Andre joined a gang, he's just looking for a family.. hope he realizes that he is deserving of love & that the first step is loving yourself & working hard good things always follow that. ❤
Shocking to hear , please God he gets the help he deserves to have a better future, this shouldn't happen to a human being , heartbreaking.
Bless his heart. He is a sweet boy. He reminds me of my son. My son is a meth addict in rehab now.
I wish your son well X
Yes, rehab is a real solution. It would be great for Andre to go on rehab and follow a program. He deserves it, like your son.
That early trauma is the deepest and most difficult to help. As a teacher I've had a few students who had similar experiences and they seem to be reenacting their traumas in small ways in order to cope. I just show them I care and support their talent, yet I know each one needs an individual approach and finding that is always the challenge.
The critical self, super ego takes on the abusers role and continues the destruction of self unless its stopped. Active positive thoughts, CBTs.
Wow, really great comments, Kelly Merill and Vonder Loo. Very insightful. It def. made me think about my own life. And the changes that have to be made.
To have parents that love and support you from the day you are born is the most important thing for any human.
These are such emotional and heartbreaking stories, my heart goes out to these people 😞
Andre, as much as you need and want to push forward, find a trauma informed therapist to help you process all that you've been through. It's an investment you can make in yourself that can bring you peace of mind, and a solid foundation to build your future on. For real. Stay well, brother.
lol...
i mean seriously?
he's a meth addict on the streets...
where the fuck does he come up with 1000$/month for multiple weekly therapy sessions?
some people live in a different world...
@@Brothersfamilyfarm IKR one of my family members live in a huge protective bubble.
@@Dpurple28 No, you don't know apparently. A simple google search reveals abundant psych and social services available in that area. The hard part isn't finding a therapist (for free), it's being willing to ask for, or accept, help. As Mark (and Monika) have frequently offered to locate appropriate services.
@@dlesliejones lol 😂 you are a caricature
211 will provide referrals for free counseling when he is ready.
He’s hurting and needs someone to show him a path. He doesn’t know which way to go because he has been shown every wrong direction. I would love to help him.
Precious Andre, please don't let anyone tell you, or treat you in a way. that makes you feel hurt or worthless. I could hear your heart in every word. Please try to stay strong. I know that's hard Andre. I really do. I hope any future updates will tell us you have been able to lift yourself a little higher, you're loving yourself a little deeper and you've found people who really care about you in all the best ways. Much love to you.
A wonderful comment
@@Mohjoe62 Thank you so much. I really feel for this precious soul.
@@katealigaard1483I also. I wish him so much that he finds people who love him, that's what he's missing.I wish you all the best, you are a person with a heart.Love from germany 🤗
@@Mohjoe62 I am a very ordinary person who is moved when I see people who need nurturing and unconditional love. Andre is one of those broken souls.
@@katealigaard1483 Yes that's right. He's a broken soul.That's why he needs people who show him love.He's still a young man. He shouldn't be alone.And you, you are a person with a big heart.Unfortunately, not all people are.I wish you all the best.Greets from germany 🤗
Andre, I just turned 30 this morning. This story is the first thing I am fortunate enough to see because you had shared it. I left San Diego, and moved to Oregon. You ever want to move somewhere new, I'll pay for your bus ticket and a hotel for a week. Consider it's going to be cold weather soon and so you'd have to really be on the ball, go to work and find your way. If you ever choose to and need some help, hit me up.
Your awesome! I’ve been reading and hoping someone would offer help. I feel he can get over the drugs, work & be very productive with rehab, counseling & a good friend. Maybe that’s you. Bless you Brian!
Andre I hope you’re reading & feeling all the love in these messages. Brian Bennett even offered you a way to move to Oregon! I hope u realize the fact your suicide attempts and attacks in jail didnt work means you’re meant to LIVE. Get help to detox, go to school (someone mentioned CA offers free CDL training) & get counseling to deal with your past and you will live an awesome life. Realize your obsession with that girl is part of your addiction and abandonment issues. Life is tough but your tougher! You have your whole life ahead of you & you will be a help to others down the road. Stay strong & never give up! Blessings & luck to you
Excellent post Liz. Insightful!
Perfect post! I feel the exact same way. I just said a prayer for him.
Andre-“ if you ain’t real. what’s the point?” My man. Stay up brother.
Mark, as a Sociology major, I appreciate your compassion with the people you interview. For most of these people, this is the first time they have ever felt comfortable enough to tell their stories. I am learning SO much from your channel!
This guy's story is so intense; I'm on the edge of my seat listening to every word and I think it's because he appears to be telling the truth. It's heart breaking what adults will do to children and then we throw them in jail once they're an adult. It's disgusting and totally preventable. Kids need love. Love and a warm meal and a decent school. Those things shouldn't be so difficult to give. It isn't rocket science and yet we can send rockets to Mars but cannot figure out how to raise decent human beings. Also, you can get your life in order and getting off meth, while be the hardest thing to do, it will be the one thing that will help you the most. Also, take time to see how women are in the world because being in prison has effected the way you perceive people. It's the non-verbal communication that gets super heightened in prison and so when you get out you are seeing things that people that haven't been locked up have no clue about. Also, they make it so hard to follow the rules for parole and so do not beat yourself up. This prison industrial complex in our country is incredibly powerful and they make really hard to stay out of prison. AND real life is also REALLY hard. Rents are now too high for most people. I pray that you are able to take what opportunities are going to come your way after this video and I see a positive role for you in our society.
Amen
He is an honest young man even with all that trauma he has had he is still very humble and lovable. God bless you Andre. Don't give up on life your blessings are coming.
One of the few things I can count on in this world is Mark uploading another amazing video at exactly 3:00AM every day. Its very comforting.
Thank you Mark.
7 a.m. here but I wonder if he stays up real late or is an early bird who uploads first thing in the morning.
@@a.wanderer5006 I think he has a set upload time
@@a.wanderer5006 these things can be set to release at a set time, so the creator doesn’t necessarily have to be there at the time it goes public 👍
5:37am here. One of my favorite podcasters this is monsters when releases his videos at 3:00 a.m. as well, which is only fitting for his contents. But my friend Amber over at true Crime and chill was saying the other day how slow for RUclips was uploading as did Jada Kennedy, another yt content creator at Urban Extractions. So that begs the question what happens to scheduled release dates and times if RUclips for whatever reason is lagging or just overall running slow? 🤔🤔🤔
I would love to give him big warm hug and the 6 year old boy too + endless love. Can't understand how his mother could do this to him at this age. No matter how miserable you feel. Your little baby.
Andre, stay strong my brother you are a survivor of a traumatic childhood! I can feel ur pain and sadness, but just know that it’s not ur fault that ur mom decided to take her life. I am sorry all these things happened to you, but U were just a child and u did the best u could from the knowledge that u had at such a young age. Please don’t carry that burden on ur shoulders! Realize that ur a brave person that came a long way from a chaotic childhood. U are a wonderful person stay safe love!
Wow, what an interview. I’m not even sure what else to say. So raw and real.
This guy has really struggled with many traumas. His ways of speaking is interesting. He has an accent thats similar to a hispanic accent. Might of picked it up from the gang & all those years locked up
He's from Russia and Kazakhstan.
@@Luna7-v1p Yes, and he has zero russian accent, which is interesting.
@@Luna7-v1p I am not saying it's not possible or that there's something wrong, i just noticed he has no russian accent at all.
For sure he did. Sounds like an LA gangster. I noticed that right away too
I noticed that too. I only realized he's Russian when he said his aunt's name is Люба. It's short for Любовь, which means love in Russian.
I’ve never commented before and I almost overlooked this video cause the title didn’t grab me but I’m so glad I clicked on it. This is one of the craziest stories I’ve ever heard and trust me my life hasen’t been a walk in the park. Andrei, you deserve all the help in the world. For all you’ve been through and to seemingly not hate the world, wow. I wish I had your strength.
I wish i was in a position to help this fella, iv heard what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. But what ppl leave off the end is, in time. Or eventually. I hope this fella finds happiness.
So true.
This interview touch me a lot! Andrei, I am happy to help you. I am psychotherapist and speaking Russian fluently. I am so sorry that your life journey is so challenging. But you are here, alive and should make the best of this experience.
I hope you are able to help him. This interview has weighed in my heart.
Oh, so kind of you! I hope Andrei will write you. This is a fantastic help that you are offering. A therapy. This is exactly what he needs. A therapy would be life-savior.
It saved me from trauma 25 years ago (PTSD-dissociation). It’s long, but it’s worth it: it works.
From my heart to your……I love you son… and wish you nothing but the absolute best……
Andre has been literally fighting his way through life ever since he was a toddler... Like most interviews, it really shows you the layers people have in their lives...
Dang Mark you’ve been active I love all this new content thank you ❤️ ..my sister left me with her 4 kids this channel helps me understand her and her illness not just hate her all the time understanding life is hard
I wish my family would watch these videos. I've been clean for 2 years. I sure put them through hell, but my immediate family won't speak to me still. Complete radio silence. I've pretty much given up and moved on. But there's still an inkling of hope.
Of all the 100’s of interviews I have seen in your work, this is the first i have cried and I felt moved to comment. I will pray for you Andre, that you see how resilient you are, may your path be lit and may you find joy, may your heart be blessed with true love. You deserve a good life.❤
Hi Mark!
What a start in life, an excruciating tragedy in real terms. Your experiences have been harrowing, a lesser person would have given up, you Andre did not ! Throw down that shitty hand you were dealt, switch it up while you have time, you owe it to yourself.
This channel has changed my life. I want to thank you, Mark Latia for opening my eyes to the depth of the power of the human mind and it's ability to protect and restore or it's DISability to protect and restore. Thank you for giving folks the opportunity to release the trauma that has been stored in them for years. Each time I listen to an interview I can't imagine a human experiencing things so horrific- and then the very next interview there is a person that has been through even worse situations. I can't tell you how much I appreciate Soft White Underbelly.
I've watched so many of your videos, Mark, so many. I care about all but some people really hit me hard in the heart and this is one of them. 💔 As a Mother, I want to hug Andre so tightly that he'll pull away because he's had enough and is healed from the love. I know it's not possible but I wish it could be that easy. Andre, if you're reading this, please promise me you'll stay around and not follow your family "curse", please! I see great things in your future; I don't know what, but I feel it's there, son, please don't leave, please try to move forward in a positive way and get help. I'll be watching to see if Mark posts an update. 💕
What a STRONG person...I wish Andre knew. He deserves UNCONDITIONAL love. Hes much more than what material gain can give you and it kills me when women do this to some of the most incredible men..Or at all. To me this is a case of someone who deserves proper mental health treatment as well by dedicated professionals. Along with support daily around him. I hope we get an update. I truly hope he breaks away from choosing the permanent decision over temporary things. I know its easy to say, harder to live with. Please stay, Andre..
Beautiful soul. Keep pushing forward Andre ♥️
One of the best of swu 😢😭. Hope he makes it ❤
Mark, how can we help Andre? He’s been dealt a hard hand and I feel so deeply for him. I believe so strongly that he will heal from this and find happiness. He has a pure, but broken heart.
I agree, how can we help Andre Mark?
Is he getting help?
Donate to charities that help the poor and actually to good work. Stop believing these junkie narratives. They are always part fiction.
I agree @Sona 😢😢😢 ❤️
Pray for him, that will most definitely help him
I'm praying for you Andre. All the close calls is proof You're needed here. Hearing your story really put everything in perspective. Thank you 🙏🏾
I was wondering why he sounded like he was Hispanic until he mentioned the Mexican gang. Poor man was looking for am identity. Not easy coming to America without a strong sense of family and culture. You're bound to loose yourself in someone else's, then get even more lost once you find out that it's not you anyway. May you find yourself
Think it was less about finding an identity and more about trying to survive. He didn't wanna continue getting bullied by other races as a minority in his area so he chose to join a gang for protection. That's what it sounds like to me, at least.
It breaks my heart how many babies are born, perfect humans who we can mold into amazing people with love and so many never feel that. Its such a tragedy, ill never understand. I do hope Andre finds his worth because he has it. May he find that grit and determination to rise above all those that have done him wrong with his middle finger in the air.
Hurts my heart to hear him tell his story and barely make any eye contact. No child deserves to grow up without someone to love and protect them.
With some help and support this man would be a totally different person. It’s so hard to hear his struggle and to hear him fight alone. I wandered through all the comments trying to figure out how I can help!
The trauma this guy has gone through is heartbreaking. Unfathomable. I feel for you Andre. Keep moving fwd. You have a lot of life to live.
Such a tragic story. My heart hurts for him 😢 He just wants to love and be loved.
He’s such a loving person man I pray that he fight those demons !! He’s still young and can still have/do so much with his life.. he deserves better ….and the system is so messed up it’s time for a change .. can we have a part 2 on him !?
I'm totally rooting for him! If he was 10 years older I'd help him forget about his girl too!
Andre, know you have purpose! You're real and your story will have a profound effect on many. Please keep going to school, no matter how hard it gets. Stay away from meth, it will destroy you. Read Jeremiah 29:11. You will be lifted up in my prayers. God keep you, He already has! Much love and respect from Colorado.
My (adopted, alcoholic) mother committed suicide too and the love of my life, (also duplicitous - screwed up attachment guarantees you are attracted to the wrong people), also told me, "You should commit suicide like your mother," as Andre's girlfriend told him.
Words you will never forget until the day you die. It's not even the original childhood trauma that brings you down on a daily basis - you can't change the past - but people and incidents who sometimes willfully aggravate those feelings it in your adult life.
This guy is resilient as hell and deserves to have the shit loved out him by someone. You can tell he's got a good heart, is not inherently criminally-minded, nor strung out (laying the reality bare: when you are truly poor, you can't afford a habit, if you aren't willing to do it by hook or by crook.) Not to mention, he is smart enough to realize his first priority is to stay out of jail.
@Gadzooks 🙄 ok edge lord🙄🤮
Andre, my heart hurts for what you've had to endure. You're truly such a handsome, intelligent young man despite how cruel the world has been to you. You are deserving of love. You are a special man.... & I hope you can find a place of serenity in your life. I'd love to be your friend & hug you to tell you you're not alone. You're a survivor!
Andre don’t give up man, you will find people who love you. I have faith in that. ✌️💚🙏
Poor fella makes me tear 😢 up watching this video Lord watch over him and give him strength and protection Amen
I have few words. I have been totally dismantled and broken by my girlfriend /fiancé of 6yrs. Driven crazy & now lost by her leaving me. I understand his confusion & pain. I could not imagine being doomed by not 1 but 2 curses. I needed to hear this as is sounds just like me talking in this interview. As far as his youth.... no words can express how he must have felt as a child. The blame he must have laid on his shoulders as a young man, thinking this was his fault. Shame on his mother for making him feel he was at fault at such a young age.Not all (please do not take this personally) but some women, and people in general, can be so cruel.
Ты никогда не пересечешь океан, если боишься потерять из виду берег.
Может, тогда ты обретёшь покой, брат. ❤️
6 is a letter?
@@Cindyd-k3e Cyrillic alphabet
@@mashakooli interesting. I'll have to study up on that. Thanks!
Very true.
wellsaid
I would like to help this guy mark
If u could help me with that it would be awesome
His story really hit me and he seems like a solid dude not everyone can do time in a Cali pen and live to be free and talk about it I can hear the pain In his voice I’m baffled at how crazy his story is and everything he has been through I legit wanna help the guy
Hell yea im from LA and commented something similar lets get this guy on track shit crazy out here
Sending love from Here ! LA
I’d also like to help. SFV, CA here.
Keep us updated if you happen to find him
As someone from a troubled childhood, I didn’t even have an answer to “what do you want to be when you grow up” other than Normal
And normal isn't easy anymore
I love your red hair Andre! I hope you know your self-worth and what happened in your childhood is not your fault.
Many blessings to you Andre! Love & Light!❤🌱
This isn’t his first time having his heart broken, women have been hurting him his whole life. 😢
women are societys silent abusers, yet all we hear about is the toxic patriachy
Hopefully he learns from it
Andre, if you see this. You are worthy of happiness, love, and joy! The gun didn’t work because you need to be here. Your voice your story matters. You are loved even by unknown humans❤️❤️
Please don't give up, Andrey! You are so strong and intelligent. You deserve love and better life and one day this will happen ❤