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I am so glad you put a voice to this and even explain the intentions behind the crazy making. The technique of adding “ha” they also will ridicule you and say “oh, you can’t take a joke?” And they will try to get others on board to make fun of you denying they said something mean and offensive.
This is very touching because you are describing my mother and it’s so frustrating because she knows what she is doing and she would laugh in your face saying you are crazy. I’ve lived this my entire life. My father died from Covid on 2021 and she’s pretty much been my responsibility since then. She does not drive and I have to deal with her controlling personality. When we fight I feel so much hate towards her and then I feel so bad for being a horrible daughter and with my cultural beliefs always feel guilt for saying things or thinking bad things about her. I love her. She is my mother but I would be so much better with her living somewhere else. “ once again I felt horrible for saying that” 😢
So spot on with what I have been experiencing for 19 years in my current marriage with a covert narcissistic spouse. Thank you for this valuable information!
Oh boy, I just broke up with someone a few weeks ago, I feel like they might have been a narcissist. I felt like something was off with how he treated me. He would often make me question my own memory, my own sanity about things we discussed. I honestly didn't even think he was a narcissist but at least half this list fits him. Anytime I would get upset and call him out, All of a sudden he would be like "I was going to. But now you're upset like this so I can't." A big one that hit me was... he would often say things like "Everyone I know does this.." or "This is how it is for everyone around me." When it was not a common thing. Like this past Christmas, he did not get me a gift (8 yrs we've known each other, 2 yrs dating, yes I always got him gifts, I was really just hoping for a small token of affection to show his love, like a stuffed animal even.) I told him that it bothered me and that it made me feel like he didn't care to even get me a card or something small. He told me that everyone in his community doesn't give Christmas gifts. 😅 That I was being materialistic and it "bothered" him. So he turned it on me to make me feel like the crazy one and the bad one. I'm just glad I got out of that relationship.
I am struggling with this with my mother. Literally EVERY SINGLE thing on this list.. is her. Especially 19 and 20.. isolating me, blaming me. My life is finally going in a good direction and she is the biggest stress in my life. I haven't spoken to her months, and I am struggling with the decision of cutting her off completely or not. Thank you for the video, it was informational!
I cut.my mother off finally.two.years ago after she assaulted me for the 10000th time, I must say my life is a million times better, she still tries meddling behind the scenes but not having to live in constant fear is quite invigorating x
My younger sister gaslit me for years. I finally broke away from her and now that I’m learning about narcissists I’m sure she was one. And now I find myself married to a covert narcissist for 22 years. I had no idea what I was dealing with. The crazy making. He has been chipping away at me for years and I could never understand why or what he was doing. And now I know. It’s just amazing to hear you perfectly describe the person I’m married to.
I'm slowly but surely understanding these concepts. Number nine has been my thing lately. She says I always try to talk too much in the morning so I've been avoiding her for mornings and afternoons and hopefully evenings and nights soon
It's not okay!! Thank you! I've been gaslighted for years but had no idea that when he'd use these phrases and techniques on me I was actually being gaslighted. Fortunately I am finally getting some help and recognizing what my ex used on me to trap me in his venomous, emotional, spiritual, mental, and psychological abuse. Bless You Rebecca Zung!
My husband does this all the time... I just roll my eyes at him because I know I'm not crazy and it's him who has the issue.. He does more of them than I would have thought.. His mom does a bunch of them also..
Thank you Rebecca….just to say you are appreciated. It is such a sad situation having to give up on another person. And also caring about someone that is hurting you.
My husband's first wife was a narcissist. When their first baby was to be baptized, she told him that the service would start at 1:30. My husband told his father and brother that. The service was really at 1:00 so when his family showed up the service was over. She told them she gave the right time, but Joe was so stupid he never got anything right. They believed her for many years.
@@RebeccaZungEsq I probably have a personal experience anecdote to every point you make in every video. I'm 66 years old and have spent a lot of time dealing with narcissists.
I really appreciate your videos on this topic. Both of my biological parents are narcissists and dealing with them has been the biggest burden and trauma in my life. I can’t thank you enough. Please, share the name of the movie you referenced. Thank you, again. Blessings.🌸
@@RebeccaZungEsq I’m sorry I just saw this response and I rewatched the video to reference some key points you made in this video that resonated with me. On my iPhone, in my email, I have to type ‘RUclips replies’ in the search to see any responses to a question I asked, otherwise, I don’t see replies. Thank you for responding. Also, I watch you whenever I am on RUclips. I typed too much and RUclips sent me an error code, so I have to break up my response.
@@RebeccaZungEsq I really appreciate the way you broke down gaslighting as the person making you question your own reality, and the examples you gave of how they basically make you question everything, if you saw what you saw, heard what you heard, and invalidate your feelings. My mother did that thing where she would tell people we knew that I’m the problem and crazy as in ‘turning the village’ against me in the event that I ever got the courage to expose her, she also would go so far as to ridicule my faith.
lol the number of times I hear #6 from my mom. The recurring “go to bed, we can talk about it in the morning” to my little siblings. The unfortunate thing is my little brother does get really anxious and overthink things, so the “you’re being dramatic” treatment is really easy for my parents to use and use frequently.
Tj the ex a covert narcissist uses every single phrase. He tried to make me think I’m the crazy one. Thankfully he didn’t win that one. He still this moment tries to get ppl to think I’m crazy. 1. He always said “I never said that” or “you never told me this or that”. I’m always in my right mind he never is! 2. He said I never listened oh but I did. Poor victim tj. 3. Always calls me delusional 4. Denies his own words repeatedly then says see you are crazy and never listen. Always says I made up proof he says things. He’s the only one making up fake evidence that’s even been kicked out by judges as falsely fabricated by him. 5. He lies about all his communications with others and again I’m crazy. SMH he was caught red handed then got violent. 6. Always says my imagination is taking over and he’s innocent. 7. He makes out everything as a joke. Like his memes degrading women. He thinks it’s funny it’s not. 8. He projects and deflects. Tells ppl I’m the narc! Oh no not me only him. 9. It’s only me per him 10. We started again and again over 10 yrs. I forgave etc only for him to be more violent 11. He’s dangerous. Judge saw through him granted an injunction against him…. Yet tells ppl not true that’s why I was with him so long. 12. He gets foolish ppl to rage against me. 13. Says it’s only a joke 14. 15. 16. He’s always the victim ONLY! Says I’m insecure 17. Oh the I’m sorry you feel that way. He’s incapable of apologizing 18. Guilt apologies to get his way 19. Oooo oh yes tells everyone the lie I’m the horrible person 20. Said exactly that no one would ever love me. That no man would want me. WRONG! 21. That one too! Omg! Says everyone agrees with him. ITS NOT OKAY! He needs deep psychiatric care. NAMAslay!!!
Mine always tells me to go plant that thought seed and let it grow in you're make believe fairytale like any of this even closely resembles a dagum fairytale 🤔
Took me three or so times to realise that I was being gaslighted by the same individual unfortunately. As soon as I realised, they were outta my life. Get stuff in writing (text, email etc) so that you have proof if you can.
They use gaslighting wrapped in gaslighting. Like when recent covert gf said out of the blue, "I've been passive aggressive toward you." Then didn't add anything else to that statement. In fact, she only spoke in one sentence statements.
Isn’t that amazing how these worthless men like William J Weston blame the other person instead of looking in mirror 🪞 and take responsibility for their own actions and lack of actions! Too bad for them because I am going to start shaming these narcissistic men who want to tear down a woman! Something that I have always told Bill that if I wasn’t afraid of my father what would make you think that I would ever be afraid of him! Bill has pulled all of the sadistic stunts that you mentioned! Thank you 🙏
Yes I would! Regarding making you question yourself! As soon as Bill retired he started drinking alcohol every day so his behavior was totally different then before he retired! Before he retired he would always announced himself “I’m home” and then after he retired he started being extremely sneaky! Now he wasn’t announcing himself and would be extremely quiet when coming into the apartment! I would just hear a click I would look at the door to see if the locks had been opened or not! And the door is only feet away from the kitchen! I have acute hearing and I don’t miss a sound! So I go back into the kitchen and continue doing what I was doing and then I felt a presence and it was Bill just standing right behind me not saying a word! I asked him why didn’t he announced himself and why was he so quiet coming in? And he just stood there with this dumb founded look in his face! Looking at me as if I had 10 horns on my head! I told him that I heard the lock turning why did you make me want to think that I was mistaken with what I heard! Within 4 days of Bill retiring (and drinking alcohol every day) January 31,2021 at Cvs pharmacy parking lot he went into this rage unprovoked and walked away from me while I didn’t even have my cane and I was extremely wobbly with my legs (because I didn’t walk for over 4 years because Bill was the direct cause of me sustaining a fractured lumbar spine and fractured left hip causing my femur bone to die! I didn’t have my wallet, phone or any money on me because we were on our way to run some errands. So he just left me in the parking lot and I slowly made my way to the pharmacy to get some help in getting back home! Bill didn’t receive a phone call from me asking him to come at get me! So when he had realized that I wasn’t home he went back to Cvs where he left me there for no reason at all. I was talking to the pharmacist and then Bill showed up! I turned to him and asked him “what are you doing here I didn’t call you”? And because I didn’t want to make a scene inside the pharmacy I went with him because I just wanted to get back home! When I got into the truck I was being quite just trying to wrap my head around what the F..k he had just pulled. And just because I was being quite Bill asked me “if I was wallowing”? I was like what is wallowing? And Bill said “feeling sorry for myself” I turned to him and said: No what you just pulled on me didn’t make me feel sorry for myself! It woke up the sleeping Giant”! And I went back to being quite, and then he goes “well it’s not like I dumped you off in Mastic (not a desirable area) I said to Bill: “you don’t dump me off anywhere do you understand me? And from that moment on his unprovoked sadistic stunts became a every day occurrence and I kept pushing back on his sadistic disrespectful ways! I come from a culture that respect is demanded and it’s not tolerated! I am a very peaceful person But do not show me disrespect otherwise I am going to chew you up and spit you out! I wear my heart at my sleeve but do not disrespect! As you can see these incidents that I described to you was exactly what you were talking about. Like I said I am now verbalizing in bits and pieces but when I am done it will make your skin crawl! But I survived it! Thank you and Amen 🙏
Number 4. All the rest as well, but especially number 4. Not even aware enough to see when their absurd behaviour has reduced you to the point where all you feel is disgust and vague pity. The biggest penny drop (for me) has been - if you want to exit a relationship with a narcissist with your sense of justice intact, you will never exit at all. You have to accept that they will spin whatever happened and was said into a fantasy where they are the victim and you are the monster. If you hang around trying to correct this you're doomed. (And don't tell them you're going to leave. That's not a threat to a narcissist, it's a challenge and one they will happily accept.)
@@RebeccaZungEsq Yes I am, thank you. The person she used to abuse doesn't even exist anymore. He died and got replaced. The new me sees the behaviour for what it is, can predict it in advance, am able to side step or shrug off about 95% of it, and is walking away much sooner over the other 5%. It's on ongoing thing, but I'm on my feet and moving under my own impetus. Heading for the light. If you don't realise what's happening you don't understand how bad things have become. It's only when you begin to wake up that you see just what a twisted, self doubting wretch they have made you into. I didn't know who I was. I didn't like anything anymore because anything I liked she sneered at. Anything I did she sneered at. Anyway - all out in the light now, thanks to this channel and one or two others, all on the same topic. It's a hell of a discovery - when you realise, hang on, I'm actually a nice person, I just got tangled up with a covert narcissist who projected all their insecurities and self loathing onto me and because I loved them I started to believe it. But it's not true. None of it was true.
My husband will make a comment about my hair or my clothes or my weight and when I say that's rude he will say "oh I was just joking or that was not rude your wrong I did not mean it the way your taking it.
Tina tell your husband to look at himself before commenting on how you hair is or your clothes! That is so typical of someone that is miserable! You are better than that and always stand up for your self respect! No matter who! Misery loves company don’t ever forget that! And start bringing up his flaws! And shut him up ! I will pray to God to give you the strength to stand up for who you are!
@RebeccaZungEsq I now know what he is doing is intentional. This video has helped me realize that this relationship I am in is unhealthy for me. Knowledge is power. Thank you for what you do
*thank you Rebecca you are spot on! As you would read them off I would say OK so what do you say to that when they say well I'm just a bad person what's the best come back to stop it and shut it down The only thing I overthink of saying is oh you have to make it about you we have to make it about you again right. But I'm sure there must be a better comeback for each one of these.
I got several neighbours, who stick together and belittle me. Call me the 'W' word out in public. One of these neighbours call me 'sad'. I've had harassment off these neighbours. They then deny that they have done anything wrong. From the brief descriptive above Do you think I am being sensitive? I would really appreciate someone points of view with the above. My mental health has massively gone down hill. ** Please Folks Some Advice **
The sad thing Rebecca is that I found your channel because my narcissist thinks that I am the narcissist. Can you do a video on this. cheater, text show it, dont want to talk to me, says I'm crazy, won't talk about our future, will not admit a suspicious secret relationship with another woman.
@rebeccazung I am really struggling with all the narcs in my family. It's been years. The icing on the cake is my daughter is being mean to us now bc we don't believe their lies.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Been in the relationship for 8 years now it's literally making me physically sick at this point 👉 I'm told daily I'm weird cause I ask certain things told im to sensitive when im being called ungodly names the way dress my driving it's beyond me at this point I need help
So when this guy makes up stories about me and narrates my life with out of no where made up crap. “You left the house at 7:11 on and got home at 5am with that guy” etc. describes the vehicles and gets really detailed.and angry! If someone watched this they’d totally side with him and think I was out screwing around and he’s pissed. Does he expect me to question myself and wonder if it happened or catch me thinking he knows already so just come out with the details?? Or he’s nuts lol He tells me he has proof. Video. Pics. Is this gaslighting
Im hearing all this but lets start over , she cheated and like a fool took her back🤔plus shes bi polar which makes it even harder to figurer her out. I never heard her aplogize. Not even after she cheated ! She blamed the other guy, lol said she was kidnapped, (yeah right)
Could every video stop explaining what gaslighting is. It's extremely repetitive. Just link a video that explains it to the one person alive that still does know what this is
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I'll see you all there!
Can we get entries that aren't the exact same point worded only slightly differently?
@@RebeccaZungEsq 😢😮😮I I 77
So what if you don't have a support system?
I am so glad you put a voice to this and even explain the intentions behind the crazy making. The technique of adding “ha” they also will ridicule you and say “oh, you can’t take a joke?” And they will try to get others on board to make fun of you denying they said something mean and offensive.
Can someone tell me?…..why does a narc write “ha” in msgs.
Thanks in advance!
The world revolves my perceptions and judgements of it. " I am definitive.. I am the eschaton" !
It's like they all read the same book. Thank you
This is very touching because you are describing my mother and it’s so frustrating because she knows what she is doing and she would laugh in your face saying you are crazy. I’ve lived this my entire life. My father died from Covid on 2021 and she’s pretty much been my responsibility since then. She does not drive and I have to deal with her controlling personality. When we fight I feel so much hate towards her and then I feel so bad for being a horrible daughter and with my cultural beliefs always feel guilt for saying things or thinking bad things about her. I love her. She is my mother but I would be so much better with her living somewhere else. “ once again I felt horrible for saying that” 😢
Yes I think they do !!!
They wrote it😢
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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So spot on with what I have been experiencing for 19 years in my current marriage with a covert narcissistic spouse. Thank you for this valuable information!
Oh boy, I just broke up with someone a few weeks ago, I feel like they might have been a narcissist. I felt like something was off with how he treated me. He would often make me question my own memory, my own sanity about things we discussed. I honestly didn't even think he was a narcissist but at least half this list fits him. Anytime I would get upset and call him out, All of a sudden he would be like "I was going to. But now you're upset like this so I can't." A big one that hit me was... he would often say things like "Everyone I know does this.." or "This is how it is for everyone around me." When it was not a common thing. Like this past Christmas, he did not get me a gift (8 yrs we've known each other, 2 yrs dating, yes I always got him gifts, I was really just hoping for a small token of affection to show his love, like a stuffed animal even.) I told him that it bothered me and that it made me feel like he didn't care to even get me a card or something small. He told me that everyone in his community doesn't give Christmas gifts. 😅 That I was being materialistic and it "bothered" him. So he turned it on me to make me feel like the crazy one and the bad one. I'm just glad I got out of that relationship.
I am struggling with this with my mother. Literally EVERY SINGLE thing on this list.. is her. Especially 19 and 20.. isolating me, blaming me. My life is finally going in a good direction and she is the biggest stress in my life. I haven't spoken to her months, and I am struggling with the decision of cutting her off completely or not.
Thank you for the video, it was informational!
I cut.my mother off finally.two.years ago after she assaulted me for the 10000th time, I must say my life is a million times better, she still tries meddling behind the scenes but not having to live in constant fear is quite invigorating x
I’m in exactly the same predicament 😢
I’m so sorry you are dealing with this in your life, because I know it’s so tough xx
My younger sister gaslit me for years. I finally broke away from her and now that I’m learning about narcissists I’m sure she was one. And now I find myself married to a covert narcissist for 22 years. I had no idea what I was dealing with. The crazy making. He has been chipping away at me for years and I could never understand why or what he was doing. And now I know. It’s just amazing to hear you perfectly describe the person I’m married to.
I'm slowly but surely understanding these concepts. Number nine has been my thing lately. She says I always try to talk too much in the morning so I've been avoiding her for mornings and afternoons and hopefully evenings and nights soon
Hardly anything is worse from a psychological point of view than gas lighting an individual. Thanks you Rebecca Zung
You got this Vince! Stay strong out there! ❤
@@RebeccaZungEsq thank you ❤️
It's not okay!! Thank you! I've been gaslighted for years but had no idea that when he'd use these phrases and techniques on me I was actually being gaslighted. Fortunately I am finally getting some help and recognizing what my ex used on me to trap me in his venomous, emotional, spiritual, mental, and psychological abuse. Bless You Rebecca Zung!
My husband does this all the time... I just roll my eyes at him because I know I'm not crazy and it's him who has the issue.. He does more of them than I would have thought.. His mom does a bunch of them also..
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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Thank you Rebecca….just to say you are appreciated. It is such a sad situation having to give up on another person. And also caring about someone that is hurting you.
Thank you Kim. Glad I can help!
My husband's first wife was a narcissist. When their first baby was to be baptized, she told him that the service would start at 1:30. My husband told his father and brother that. The service was really at 1:00 so when his family showed up the service was over. She told them she gave the right time, but Joe was so stupid he never got anything right. They believed her for many years.
Care to share what points you like most from my video? ❤
@@RebeccaZungEsq I probably have a personal experience anecdote to every point you make in every video. I'm 66 years old and have spent a lot of time dealing with narcissists.
I really appreciate your videos on this topic. Both of my biological parents are narcissists and dealing with them has been the biggest burden and trauma in my life. I can’t thank you enough. Please, share the name of the movie you referenced. Thank you, again. Blessings.🌸
Hi Geneiva! Care to share what points you like most from my video? ❤
This is my mom 😢
Wow! Same here, both of my biological parents are narcissists. It's been horrible and they just get worse... 😢
@@RebeccaZungEsq I’m sorry I just saw this response and I rewatched the video to reference some key points you made in this video that resonated with me. On my iPhone, in my email, I have to type ‘RUclips replies’ in the search to see any responses to a question I asked, otherwise, I don’t see replies. Thank you for responding. Also, I watch you whenever I am on RUclips. I typed too much and RUclips sent me an error code, so I have to break up my response.
@@RebeccaZungEsq I really appreciate the way you broke down gaslighting as the person making you question your own reality, and the examples you gave of how they basically make you question everything, if you saw what you saw, heard what you heard, and invalidate your feelings. My mother did that thing where she would tell people we knew that I’m the problem and crazy as in ‘turning the village’ against me in the event that I ever got the courage to expose her, she also would go so far as to ridicule my faith.
lol the number of times I hear #6 from my mom. The recurring “go to bed, we can talk about it in the morning” to my little siblings. The unfortunate thing is my little brother does get really anxious and overthink things, so the “you’re being dramatic” treatment is really easy for my parents to use and use frequently.
Thank you for your wisdom and knowledge!! My narc even controls the thermostat by remote. This isn’t because of $, it’s to make me think I’m crazy.
He said these and then when I accused him of being narcissist, he said narcissist talk is "trendy" right now...it's not okay!!!
My husband says the same thing.
Stay strong! ❤
The world revolves my perceptions and judgements of it.
OMG, I have heard so many of these from my narc husband. I cannot wait to be away from him. #countdown #wontbeavictim #strongerthanthenarc
Tj the ex a covert narcissist uses every single phrase. He tried to make me think I’m the crazy one. Thankfully he didn’t win that one. He still this moment tries to get ppl to think I’m crazy.
1. He always said “I never said that” or “you never told me this or that”. I’m always in my right mind he never is!
2. He said I never listened oh but I did. Poor victim tj.
3. Always calls me delusional
4. Denies his own words repeatedly then says see you are crazy and never listen.
Always says I made up proof he says things. He’s the only one making up fake evidence that’s even been kicked out by judges as falsely fabricated by him.
5. He lies about all his communications with others and again I’m crazy. SMH he was caught red handed then got violent.
6. Always says my imagination is taking over and he’s innocent.
7. He makes out everything as a joke. Like his memes degrading women. He thinks it’s funny it’s not.
8. He projects and deflects. Tells ppl I’m the narc! Oh no not me only him.
9. It’s only me per him
10. We started again and again over 10 yrs. I forgave etc only for him to be more violent
11. He’s dangerous. Judge saw through him granted an injunction against him…. Yet tells ppl not true that’s why I was with him so long.
12. He gets foolish ppl to rage against me.
13. Says it’s only a joke
14. 15. 16. He’s always the victim ONLY! Says I’m insecure 17. Oh the I’m sorry you feel that way. He’s incapable of apologizing
18. Guilt apologies to get his way
19. Oooo oh yes tells everyone the lie I’m the horrible person
20. Said exactly that no one would ever love me. That no man would want me. WRONG!
21. That one too! Omg! Says everyone agrees with him.
ITS NOT OKAY!
He needs deep psychiatric care.
NAMAslay!!!
Mine always tells me to go plant that thought seed and let it grow in you're make believe fairytale like any of this even closely resembles a dagum fairytale 🤔
Or that I make things up or it's me being weird
Took me three or so times to realise that I was being gaslighted by the same individual unfortunately. As soon as I realised, they were outta my life.
Get stuff in writing (text, email etc) so that you have proof if you can.
For me, he would put words in my mouth. When I say I never said such a thing, his answer is simply oh, you do not remember...you did say so....
Stay strong! ❤
Well I can see some of these responses on many people when their is a argument with children and parents and coworkers also
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They use gaslighting wrapped in gaslighting. Like when recent covert gf said out of the blue, "I've been passive aggressive toward you." Then didn't add anything else to that statement. In fact, she only spoke in one sentence statements.
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Isn’t that amazing how these worthless men like William J Weston blame the other person instead of looking in mirror 🪞 and take responsibility for their own actions and lack of actions! Too bad for them because I am going to start shaming these narcissistic men who want to tear down a woman! Something that I have always told Bill that if I wasn’t afraid of my father what would make you think that I would ever be afraid of him! Bill has pulled all of the sadistic stunts that you mentioned! Thank you 🙏
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Yes I would! Regarding making you question yourself! As soon as Bill retired he started drinking alcohol every day so his behavior was totally different then before he retired! Before he retired he would always announced himself “I’m home” and then after he retired he started being extremely sneaky! Now he wasn’t announcing himself and would be extremely quiet when coming into the apartment! I would just hear a click I would look at the door to see if the locks had been opened or not! And the door is only feet away from the kitchen! I have acute hearing and I don’t miss a sound! So I go back into the kitchen and continue doing what I was doing and then I felt a presence and it was Bill just standing right behind me not saying a word! I asked him why didn’t he announced himself and why was he so quiet coming in? And he just stood there with this dumb founded look in his face! Looking at me as if I had 10 horns on my head! I told him that I heard the lock turning why did you make me want to think that I was mistaken with what I heard! Within 4 days of Bill retiring (and drinking alcohol every day) January 31,2021 at Cvs pharmacy parking lot he went into this rage unprovoked and walked away from me while I didn’t even have my cane and I was extremely wobbly with my legs (because I didn’t walk for over 4 years because Bill was the direct cause of me sustaining a fractured lumbar spine and fractured left hip causing my femur bone to die! I didn’t have my wallet, phone or any money on me because we were on our way to run some errands. So he just left me in the parking lot and I slowly made my way to the pharmacy to get some help in getting back home! Bill didn’t receive a phone call from me asking him to come at get me! So when he had realized that I wasn’t home he went back to Cvs where he left me there for no reason at all. I was talking to the pharmacist and then Bill showed up! I turned to him and asked him “what are you doing here I didn’t call you”? And because I didn’t want to make a scene inside the pharmacy I went with him because I just wanted to get back home! When I got into the truck I was being quite just trying to wrap my head around what the F..k he had just pulled. And just because I was being quite Bill asked me “if I was wallowing”? I was like what is wallowing? And Bill said “feeling sorry for myself” I turned to him and said: No what you just pulled on me didn’t make me feel sorry for myself! It woke up the sleeping Giant”! And I went back to being quite, and then he goes “well it’s not like I dumped you off in Mastic (not a desirable area) I said to Bill: “you don’t dump me off anywhere do you understand me? And from that moment on his unprovoked sadistic stunts became a every day occurrence and I kept pushing back on his sadistic disrespectful ways! I come from a culture that respect is demanded and it’s not tolerated! I am a very peaceful person But do not show me disrespect otherwise I am going to chew you up and spit you out! I wear my heart at my sleeve but do not disrespect! As you can see these incidents that I described to you was exactly what you were talking about. Like I said I am now verbalizing in bits and pieces but when I am done it will make your skin crawl! But I survived it! Thank you and Amen 🙏
Wow hedrank alcohol everyday for 4 days........what a hell!
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One of my personal favorites in the business setting was, "I thought we were friends..."
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Number 4.
All the rest as well, but especially number 4.
Not even aware enough to see when their absurd behaviour has reduced you to the point where all you feel is disgust and vague pity.
The biggest penny drop (for me) has been - if you want to exit a relationship with a narcissist with your sense of justice intact, you will never exit at all. You have to accept that they will spin whatever happened and was said into a fantasy where they are the victim and you are the monster. If you hang around trying to correct this you're doomed.
(And don't tell them you're going to leave. That's not a threat to a narcissist, it's a challenge and one they will happily accept.)
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@@RebeccaZungEsq Yes I am, thank you.
The person she used to abuse doesn't even exist anymore. He died and got replaced. The new me sees the behaviour for what it is, can predict it in advance, am able to side step or shrug off about 95% of it, and is walking away much sooner over the other 5%.
It's on ongoing thing, but I'm on my feet and moving under my own impetus. Heading for the light. If you don't realise what's happening you don't understand how bad things have become. It's only when you begin to wake up that you see just what a twisted, self doubting wretch they have made you into. I didn't know who I was. I didn't like anything anymore because anything I liked she sneered at. Anything I did she sneered at.
Anyway - all out in the light now, thanks to this channel and one or two others, all on the same topic.
It's a hell of a discovery - when you realise, hang on, I'm actually a nice person, I just got tangled up with a covert narcissist who projected all their insecurities and self loathing onto me and because I loved them I started to believe it. But it's not true. None of it was true.
My husband will make a comment about my hair or my clothes or my weight and when I say that's rude he will say "oh I was just joking or that was not rude your wrong I did not mean it the way your taking it.
Stay strong out there Tina! Care to share what points you like most from my video? ❤
Tina tell your husband to look at himself before commenting on how you hair is or your clothes! That is so typical of someone that is miserable! You are better than that and always stand up for your self respect! No matter who! Misery loves company don’t ever forget that! And start bringing up his flaws! And shut him up ! I will pray to God to give you the strength to stand up for who you are!
@RebeccaZungEsq I now know what he is doing is intentional.
This video has helped me realize that this relationship I am in is unhealthy for me.
Knowledge is power.
Thank you for what you do
No gas lighting is Real👍👍👍👍👍
Thanks👍👍👍👍👍
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*thank you Rebecca you are spot on! As you would read them off I would say OK so what do you say to that when they say well I'm just a bad person what's the best come back to stop it and shut it down The only thing I overthink of saying is oh you have to make it about you we have to make it about you again right. But I'm sure there must be a better comeback for each one of these.
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Go threw this every day it's so draining.......
Sad to hear that. I hope you take yourself back💪
Not OK! Getting a very clear picture of this, thanks Rebecca.
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@@RebeccaZungEsq The ending where you explain the baby-steps to take back power & control.💚
You are 💯 correct ........I'm wondering if there is a book they are studying 🙄🙄
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AMAZING thanks super useful for future conversations thanks Rebecca
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💯 Agree.. lived it
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You nail everything! Thank you!
Thank you! ❤
Recently discovered we have at least 4 narcs in our immediate family and it is horrible.
So sorry about that. Stay strong out there! ❤
I got several neighbours, who stick together and belittle me. Call me the 'W' word out in public. One of these neighbours call me 'sad'. I've had harassment off these neighbours. They then deny that they have done anything wrong. From the brief descriptive above Do you think I am being sensitive? I would really appreciate someone points of view with the above. My mental health has massively gone down hill.
** Please Folks Some Advice **
So sorry you have to go through this. No it’s not okay!
@@jonifavorite1732 thank you🙏
If it’s not true, then yes it’s gaslighting for sure
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She is mad cool. And kinda funny making this funny😆😆😆
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The sad thing Rebecca is that I found your channel because my narcissist thinks that I am the narcissist. Can you do a video on this. cheater, text show it, dont want to talk to me, says I'm crazy, won't talk about our future, will not admit a suspicious secret relationship with another woman.
It's not ok. Not any more!
Louder Sheryll! You got this!
The story of my life 😅
Stay strong. 🙏🏽
Stay strong! ❤
@rebeccazung I am really struggling with all the narcs in my family. It's been years. The icing on the cake is my daughter is being mean to us now bc we don't believe their lies.😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Sorry, you have to deal with all of that! Stay strong! ❤
Been in the relationship for 8 years now it's literally making me physically sick at this point 👉 I'm told daily I'm weird cause I ask certain things told im to sensitive when im being called ungodly names the way dress my driving it's beyond me at this point I need help
If you can. Leave
My narcissistic friend gaslighted me to marry his younger sister when I was begging for his friendship.
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#10 😳
So when this guy makes up stories about me and narrates my life with out of no where made up crap. “You left the house at 7:11 on and got home at 5am with that guy” etc. describes the vehicles and gets really detailed.and angry! If someone watched this they’d totally side with him and think I was out screwing around and he’s pissed.
Does he expect me to question myself and wonder if it happened
or catch me thinking he knows already so just come out with the details??
Or he’s nuts lol
He tells me he has proof. Video. Pics.
Is this gaslighting
I reckon its #gaslighting, keep watching Rebecca Zung ❤
It's not okay
Agree! So what is something you're struggling with?
Or they text you something then say later I didn't say that ....
NOT OK!
Do you have a good support system in place?
Not ok!
One phrase people with a victim complex use.
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NOT OK
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not okay
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Im hearing all this but lets start over , she cheated and like a fool took her back🤔plus shes bi polar which makes it even harder to figurer her out. I never heard her aplogize. Not even after she cheated ! She blamed the other guy, lol said she was kidnapped, (yeah right)
Not OK!!!
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Haters with the right stolen info. : sadistic narcissists
Not OK
Definitely! 💯 What is something you're struggling with?
Judgers
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I know that I have been in a long term relationship with my love and they are doing great job and the things that they are doing l know that Bull shi
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They are total crazy liars
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😢 sighhhh
Not ok!!!!
Do you have a good support system in place?
Not ok
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No Thanks
What the heck is a narcissist negotiation expert?
SMDH
Could every video stop explaining what gaslighting is. It's extremely repetitive. Just link a video that explains it to the one person alive that still does know what this is
*No.*
In my experience, gaslighting is mis-explained by so many supposed experts, and it's really important to understand it properly.
All those comments you mentioned , were used by an extremely arrogant queer person I worked with years ago.