I agree with everything u say, trying to look for closure for someone that cant give it to you will just leave u with a never ending cycle, a cycle that you need to close by yourself, they aren't aware of the damage they made and sometimes they wont even try to see it, and its just part of living, we have to accept what we cant change(that includes other ppl and their behavior), thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge
First, I LOVE the headband!! Second, I needed this tbh. Sometimes I feel like I can’t move on because of multiple events in which I couldn’t get closure. Currently trying to have an internal locus of control.
hehe thank you!! ooh yes working on the internal locus of control is so important - i will make a note to mention in a future video, thank you for the reminder! its a practice that you work on not a destination xx
this is the most concise way I've ever seen this worded and it came at a perfect time too. thank you ❤ glad I clicked on this video. this need for closure has kept me almost unknowingly in a loop of constant anxiety and overthinking and waiting on hand and foot and I am tired of it. I'm gonna shut my gob and move on with my life and feel at complete peace with this decision because its for my happiness and I have the ability to self soothe and move forward, instead of constantly seeking validation for my emotional instability from someone else. I love it. this feels empowering.
yayy im so happy for you!!! sending love and slay your way bb - one day you'll look back on this period of your life with a sense of humour about how far youve come xxx
Yes 🙌 I had to be the one to decide when I had closure when my family discarded me a week after my grandfather died (I was caring for him at home when he was on hospice). The facts did not matter that I was being the good little eldest daughter of the eldest daughter who became parentified at 12. When they called a social worker over to claim I had been committing elder abuse and I was the 30-something who was taking advantage and living off my grandparents??? I took it as a gift. It showed that no matter how much I did it was never enough to change their opinion of me. I found a month to month room and got two jobs (I do not recommend going straight back into hospice care when you just cared for a loved one on hospice, but I needed a job). After a few years I moved in with a good friend and now Im his care provider (not hospice, thank goodness, he better outlive me 😂). How I carry myself and how I move in this world demonstrates my character. I have no desire to reach out to my family and show them that in fact I am a caring person and reliable and all of these things because their opinion of me holds no weight on how I feel about myself.
i love thissss. im so glad i found you thru tiktok. binging all your stuff. ty for the wisdom. and also the trip with the ex for closure. oh my shaylaaaa T_T
bless u angel ~ i have a podcast episode 32 - training for a breakup that might help!!! it would never have worked out with someone who thinks that behaviour is appropriate, so you have been saved having any more of your time and energy being invested into someone who you're ultimately not capable with xxxx
I agree with everything u say, trying to look for closure for someone that cant give it to you will just leave u with a never ending cycle, a cycle that you need to close by yourself, they aren't aware of the damage they made and sometimes they wont even try to see it, and its just part of living, we have to accept what we cant change(that includes other ppl and their behavior), thank you for sharing your thoughts and knowledge
so well said!! thank you for tuning in
i wish i saw your video when i was going through it a couple of months ago... thank you for this reminder you are 100% right !!
you made it out and through though!! proud of youuu xxx
First, I LOVE the headband!!
Second, I needed this tbh. Sometimes I feel like I can’t move on because of multiple events in which I couldn’t get closure. Currently trying to have an internal locus of control.
hehe thank you!! ooh yes working on the internal locus of control is so important - i will make a note to mention in a future video, thank you for the reminder! its a practice that you work on not a destination xx
this is the most concise way I've ever seen this worded and it came at a perfect time too. thank you ❤ glad I clicked on this video. this need for closure has kept me almost unknowingly in a loop of constant anxiety and overthinking and waiting on hand and foot and I am tired of it. I'm gonna shut my gob and move on with my life and feel at complete peace with this decision because its for my happiness and I have the ability to self soothe and move forward, instead of constantly seeking validation for my emotional instability from someone else. I love it. this feels empowering.
yayy im so happy for you!!! sending love and slay your way bb - one day you'll look back on this period of your life with a sense of humour about how far youve come xxx
Yes 🙌 I had to be the one to decide when I had closure when my family discarded me a week after my grandfather died (I was caring for him at home when he was on hospice). The facts did not matter that I was being the good little eldest daughter of the eldest daughter who became parentified at 12. When they called a social worker over to claim I had been committing elder abuse and I was the 30-something who was taking advantage and living off my grandparents??? I took it as a gift. It showed that no matter how much I did it was never enough to change their opinion of me.
I found a month to month room and got two jobs (I do not recommend going straight back into hospice care when you just cared for a loved one on hospice, but I needed a job). After a few years I moved in with a good friend and now Im his care provider (not hospice, thank goodness, he better outlive me 😂). How I carry myself and how I move in this world demonstrates my character. I have no desire to reach out to my family and show them that in fact I am a caring person and reliable and all of these things because their opinion of me holds no weight on how I feel about myself.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, but like you said - a testament to your character and your resilience! sending love and slay your wayyy xxxx
@ ❤️❤️ exactly the video I needed to watch today, so thank you for sharing your thoughts! Excited to see what else you post in the future 😊
You're so wise! Your videos always inspire me to journal and reflect. Thank you for sharing!
thank you for tuning in bbbb!! xx
Thank you for this Amber, very well explained, smart and very helpful
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no way the song "natural" was stuck in my head before this vid and then i checked ur playlists and it was right there??
which playlisttttt?
Very eye opening, thank you. I'm in the situation you described and you put light on things I wasn't aware of. Very useful.
Loved the diagram :)
yayy thank you for tuning in
i love thissss. im so glad i found you thru tiktok. binging all your stuff. ty for the wisdom. and also the trip with the ex for closure. oh my shaylaaaa T_T
HAHAHAHAHahah shayllaaa please !!! sending love and slay your way bb xx
YOU'RE SMART AFFF
hhh sending love and slay your way bb !! xx
Another video sooo happy you inspired me to start my own podcast started days ago and I love content creating sm it’s my new hobby 💖
Omg I’ve been thinking abt making content. So I love seeing others starting content creation!
I may make my first video after Christmas :3
omg yay!! share the name please!! xx
needed to hear this, thank u
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This helped so much, thank you! I got ghosted a few months ago and it still haunts me. I‘m trying to follow your advice and keep reminding myself❤
bless u angel ~ i have a podcast episode 32 - training for a breakup that might help!!! it would never have worked out with someone who thinks that behaviour is appropriate, so you have been saved having any more of your time and energy being invested into someone who you're ultimately not capable with xxxx
@ thank you, I will listen to it!
I loveeeee this.
What you run from chases you
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