I know a nonbinary musician who called themselves a hemi-demi-semi-boy, and no joke will ever top that. (A sixty-fourth note is also called a hemi-demi-semi-quaver) 😂
Came out as a trans man when I was 14 but my gender has always been a bit wobbly. I know I'm definitely not female but demiboy is an identity I've considered multiple times. Still unsure but this is helpful.
GOD this video helped out a TON. I've always identified as non-binary but I've always been like "but boy stuff good too." PROUD to FINALLY be comfortable and sure of my identity
When I was younger (AMAB), I always felt that I didn't fit the stereotypical definition of masculinity, but as I grew up in evangelical Christianity I didn't think anything else of it. Fast forward several years later (and having left the church), and I started to have feelings that maybe I wasn't 100% male. When I first started searching into whether I was non-binary or not, I came across the term demiboy and it felt like it fit me so much. I changed my pronouns online to he/they, and felt so euphoric that I was finally coming to terms with who I was. I'm still not out to friends and family (for a number of reasons), but hopefully the day will come where I feel comfortable being public with who I truly am.
Omg, thank you so much for this video! Honestly I'm not fully sure if I'm nonbinary, a demi-boy, or just like in between those two or something. I really appreciate that you make this kind of content, and I overall wish you got more recognition for your videos as I and many others enjoy them. Thank you again and I wish you a good day/night :)
social dysphoria(misgendering, using Deadname, or other social related situations in relation to one's gender identity) is a type of dysphoria is not talked about very much and it is something that needs to be. When I realized I was bigender, my male identity took me a while to figure out as I was almost like a yo-yo. Finding out about Demiboy/Non Binary male, I realized it rang with me along with the still accepting of my AGAB. Feeling attached to the world of masculinity in presenting masculine or just feeling partially as a man is something I have had for sometime time but never realized it or had a name for it until a few years ago along with the Bigender label. The social dysphoria hit me hard at a festival recently when someone in the area I helped out with would not use the pronoun I would use based on the gender I was feeling that day and would the singular they/them pronouns for most people. Also because I have a bit of a thyroid issue that causes me to grow facial hair occasionally even though I am AFAB, there have been times that I may have a light stubble and people thought I was a Trans woman and I had to correct them. Bad cases of Social Dysphoria. I never had physical dysphoria.
you made me realize that I'm a demi boy sort of. I'm also non-binary, aromantic, and asexual. I love ur vids, and I love how you make your content enjoyable, and educational
Thank you for this video! This helped a lot. I'm AMAB, and started questioning my gender recently. I've never really resonated with "cis male," and started to look at the different terms under the trans umbrella, like genderqueer. Then a good friend of mine introduced me to the term "demiboy," and that lead me to your video.
For me, the first thing that made me wonder if I wasn't cis after all was the moment I realized that he/they was an option, and the fact that I really liked the idea of using both sets of pronouns. Though at first I didn't think I could be a demiboy because I thought I had too strong a connection to masculinity (spoiler alert: I don't) and that I didn't think I had an idea of what being nonbinary must feel like. After a month of soul searching and educating myself on what androgyny is and how gender works, I finally circled back around to the one label that I always had a strong connection to. And that's how I realized I'm a demiboy. Thanks for making this video, Lynn! Will always love you for what you do and who you are!
I think demiboy describes very well my gender. For my entire childhood I always felt kinda identified with being male (mostly because most people around me were AFAB), but I never felt a connection to masculinity itself as I was very different from the other boys. I remember I thought I was like "in between the two genders", because I felt so different from both men and women. Then I found out about non-binary people, but for some reason I felt like I still didn't belong there. Then I tried some microlabels to try to find my true gender but then gave up and decided I didn't want a gender, so I settled with agender. However, I recently realized I do kinda feel masculine, but I still don't want to be a man, like I want to be non-binary but I can't because this feeling gets in the way. So now I realized that I'm a demiboy instead, in between man and non-binary/agender.
That’s called being human. No human subscribes 100% to male or female stereotypes. I’m a woman, not because I “feel like one” or because I wear pink dresses and high heels but because I’m an adult human female.
Thank you so much for this video, Lynn! 😊🤩 I definitely feel demiboy explains my experience for me. I use non binary in my everyday but demiboy in certain spaces. I really resonated with what you said about the fluidity and that is so me especially being neurodivergent! I definitely know I have another gender alongside being demiboy (most likely autigender)
Thank you so much for doing this! There is hardly anything out there on the demiboy identity so this topic being tackled by one of my favorite RUclipsrs was a real treat! For the most part, communicating that I am a "guy" is usually enough for daily interactions, but there is something very validating in finding a term that encompasses my own experience.
I relate to some of this. Recently discovered that they/them pronouns feel like a warm comfy hug to my brain. Tho I also relate to your points about agender identity too. 🤔
Thank you for making this video! I have been struggling with my gender identity for the past 16 years and not felt fully male but not fully non binary either and this just allowed everything to make so much sense.
At first I thought I was just trans, I heard it and was like, 'that sounds about right.' I've always wondered randomly though about going by They/Them but I loved going by He/Him, before I heard of Demiboy but I didn't fully understand what it meant. So I started thinking I could be a Demiboy but looked up the definition just incase, after I read the definition everything sort of clicked. I felt a kind of connection that I didn't fully get with trans, I still consider myself under trans but I'm a Demiboy, calling myself this really helped me understand myself more, all I need to do is tell my friends about it!
Today I had a random realization that being a trans man didn't fully resonate with me. I've been wondering why.. And then I remembered I once identified as non-binary for a while. That got me curious and I did some searching... And now I'm here. I think I've FINALLY found the right label and this video helped me get some clarity to that! Love to everyone reading this, hope you're having a nice day🫶
Hearing the word brought me more joy than I know how to say and then your explanation cemented it for me. I've known I'm non-binary for a couple of years but something still felt suboptimal and this is the piece I was missing.
I fluctuate a lot between agender and demiboy, not sure if I can say I am boyflux, genderfaun or agenderflux tho. So for next time, 5 signs you might be agender 🙂
I don't think there'll be a next time. Mainly because commenters like yourself come out with bizarre insane nonsense, the channel is tanking. Down from a half million views a few years ago to a couple of thousand now. Nobody with any sense is interested.
2:50 I’m a demiboy, and I personally have dysphoria whenever my dad says “you’re the man”. I used to think it was just a hatred of patriarchy, but later realized it was mostly that I quite literally was not the man. Still hate patriarchy though.
What made me realize I was demi boy was that- I had originally thought I felt gender fluid but it just didn't click. I realized over time that my cis gender was not who I was. Growing up no one told me it was wrong- but it just got a bad wrap in general if you weren't cis. I became so focused on what my birth certificate said I never thought to question my gender. Eventually I saw the signs. Growing up I always related with male characters more. Even watching a romance where the MC was a girl- I just thought she was cute and liked the story. I almost always related with the love interests instead. I never noticed that until I would read bl and then the difference between finding the female MC cute to straight up being immersed and relating with a male MC. I noticed more and more. I even was made fun of as a kid because I always acted like more of a dude and kinda dressed like one too. I hated make up because it just felt too feminine for me. I hated dresses because of the expectations it leaves and when looking in the mirror it always just felt- off and gross... I could never explain why. Ect ect. I had a long time trans friend explain to me what their realization was like- and just as a hypothetical I wondered if I may have been. Over time I realized I preferred the more cute or low key men when relating to myself and eventually I dropped my female pronouns all together outside of family and work. Using he/him and they/them just worked.. But at the same time I sometimes felt more stereotypically masculine than other times. Which is why I thought I was still gender fluid because I didn't know of anything else that would fit. Explained to someone how I felt and the how's and why's behind my gender and how it would affect or how I wanted it to affect my physical appearance and he mentioned I may be demi boy... Saw one description and it clicked. I had never heard of it before- but it felt so right. I'm still struggling to disconnect my female pronouns from myself from how hard wired I have been. But I genuinely felt more happy and at ease when it was androgynous(gender neutral) or male. It was basically just a massive step for me and I still need time for myself to fully adjust to that lol. Trust growing up like I did basically made me think it was a death wish to not be my cis so I genuinely was too sure to even realize I wasn't before XD
I didnt necessarily relate to all the points in the video, but for a long time ive been questioning if im a demiboy. I currently identify as non-binary (AFAB) and ive been using they/them pronouns for awhile. Im only out to my friends and a few trusted adults, none of my family though. Ive been trying to do things that make me seem or act less fem and im slowly getting there. Ive gotten good at concealing my chest, and a majority of my hobbies and interests align with masc or nuetral things. Like i love kids, animals, writing, reading, and skating. People of any gender can do those things. Ive had a hard time with my gender for the longest time because for awhile i identified as a lesbian and tried only finding interest in girls. But i found interest in my genderfluid, nonbinary, and transmale friends instead. All having a more masculine vibe. In romantic partners i look for a brain type, not an appareance, style, gender, etc. And i wouldnt have had so much trouble with gender if i knew my oarents were accepting. Theyre horribly transphobic (even tho im not trans) and dont belive in pronouns. I use my friends' pronouns even when around my parents and they always question "whos they? Arent we talking about one person?". So ive had difficulty with it because i know i cant come out. On top of that i look naturally fem. I had long hair to the middle of my back for as long as i can remember. I recently got it cut and its now barely below my ears in most parts, a significantly more masc/neutral haircut. I personally love it, and ive gotten lots of comoliments on it. My parents actually happen to be the only people to say anything negative about it. They started reffering to me as "Alen" or "Steve" (my birth name starts with an H and is very obviously a female name, i prefer the name Cam), not willing to come out i just ignored it, eventually i was like, "can you *please* stop calling me that? Thats not my name" and theyve only used it a few times since. Ever since ive been non-binary ive been aware of the fact that i take interest in more masc things, i get along rlly well w most ppl AMAB, and i genuinely dont mind/ kinda like being referred to as a 'he' or a 'sir', but ive always looked really fem so ive never been mistaken as one. Im trying to alter my style and appearance to bring out the masculinity, but part of me still wants to be non-binary instead of trans. I dont feel fully like a man, and i dont necessarily want to be a male, i just relate to the feelings of masculinity fairly strongly. No part of me wishes i was born a boy, no part of me wishes i had other part's, but i still wish to look like a boy, i wish to be mistaken as one, and i wish to be referred to as male aligned pronouns. But i think the thing stopping me from identifiying as a demiboy is that im scared. What would that mean? How would ppl think of me? Wouldnt that be so far from what i used to be? Would i have to change my pronouns? What kind of disrespect would i endure? How many times would i have to explain it? So many questions stopping me from using the label i feel a connection to, all bc im too scared. This video mostly reassured that im probably right with my suspicions, im gonna continue with my research before i decide to accept the inevitable result tho 🫡🤞
Thanks for the explanation :D you just made me a less disastrous disaster-pansexual/demiboy lol my sexuality + gender identity can only be described as "Gender: Windows 7 Compatibility Mode" at this point, so at least I can describe myself with less words now
so i had one of my friends tell me to look into my gender bc i identify w they/them as well as he/him. ive always seen it as not fully nonbinary but not fully a boy. sometimes i dont even perceive myself as a boy as much as i do just myself. when i found out what the term demi boy meant it really just felt familiar tho ive never even heard of it and im very certain this is how i identify now. thank you :3
So happy for everyone who's finding what label describes them the best :) Just a tiny reminder that even when someone identify as cis, they may still feel disconnected with gender norms. Labels are meant to help us to find who we really are, but the subjectiveness that come along with labels might cause unwanted misunderstanding. Assuming cis people automatically fits into the norm diminish their own gender experiences. Yes, gender can be defined as the set of social expectations/norms, but it's also a deep sense of being/self that is strictly subjective and personal.
I was born as cisgender but over time I saw I really didn't fit into the "masculine" label, I always liked more gender-neutral things or femenine things... Since I was a kid I really wondered a lot of things about my identity... I also get along with men and like masculine things but sometimes I just say like "No thanks". I also tought I was non-binary at some point, until I realized I identified as a demiboy! :3
I feel like how we conceptualize guys. Feel like a boy, but then I also a lot of the time feel more like a masculine gendervoid/no “gender label” (but not an agender person) person who is skirting the line between boy and it, just really masculine and a mix, much more often than feeling like the boy (like my boy is often always a little quirky), and then I also feel like a middle ground/light not so masc person, as if I’m nonbinary/agender but also that can and often is mixed with still feeling like the gendervoid masc, so ig it’s like a light version of it. Then I got my girly non-binary/agender/gendervoid girl. Like yeah sure you could call me a girl or I’m comfortable with/wanna come off as one even tho I mentally feel the same as all the stuff I classified as gender. Nonbinary/gendervoid/agender but fem presenting ig? And then also a version that actually feels like I don’t feel very different from what I’m wearing and presenting myself as, and therefore it’s like half fem/girl or actually a girl. Cuz I don’t feel different than my girly clothes. ??? 🫠
This video was what I needed to understand what being demiboy was. I've been on the fence about being demiboy for several years, but that label really does resonate with me. The only thing I'm not sure about is if I can be a lesbian and a demiboy. I'm not sure if it would be considered weird to the community to use he/she pronouns.
Honestly, I tried a soft cute/hot mask look and I have never had that level of gender euphoria before. It's sort of a "I'm boy, but not boy, boy." Sort of feeling. Makes sense when you consider that I felt like a man who reincarnated in a female body and it was fine at the time because I got to do all the boy things I wanted but still enjoy dressing up.
hey Lynn, could you do a 5 signs for GNC maybe? i've been struggling to identify my gender, whether i'm a GNC cis man or a demiboy. i'd like to compare the differences
No label is the answer - truly. You don't need a label to connect with being human. Feeling masculine and/or feminine at times is normal. All of these 5 signs I have felt or experienced and I am a regular woman, born in 1972, and still working on being comfortable. The more 'labels' you box yourself into, the harder it gets and the smaller life becomes. If anyone wants a safe place to talk I would be happy to help and be there for any of you. With love and respect, Jen
It's true that labels aren't for everyone, but some people (myself included) like having the vocabulary to articulate themselves and relate to others 🙂
This is how I’m interpreting my feelings. How does one describe.. demiboy.. but the other part of the gender is gendervoid which is both masculine and middle ground masculine.. but another part of the demiboy gender is non-binary/agender.. which is kinda masculine but neutral, or is just neutral/light, and the other part being a middle ground feeling where I really don’t feel off of being a girl, it’s just “yeah that’s fine sure I’m a girl”, while not feeling like a girl but also not feeling super opposed to it. Like feeling like the non-binary feeling I feel when I interpret myself can still be slapped on with the label girl, but still feels different than the feeling itself actually being girl… and then… another one that is maybe actually girl, lightly and openly. (?) Even if I was going with demiboy because it encompasses 1 or multiple other genders being involved, it doesn’t feel like it factors in the girl part. Maybe it doesn’t have to, it just means strong connection to boy, even if u got some girl part in there. ??? You think you find the answer with gendervoid shadow figure mf and instead you find there’s multiple different ways you interpret yourself that you feel like you can’t just not clarify
How about pangender? Or, if that works for you, just don't label yourself. Or, here's what I do, I use non-binary because it can be used as an umbrella term. I'm not 100% female and not 100% male, therefore I am non binary.
Thanks now i know I'm a demyboy i guess I mean like i use feminine words but most likely masculine unless wanna sound cute like femin type i guess my social anxiety made me learn from different genders so thank you so much your content was realy helpfull #: i wish i get a like from you it will mean a lot to me and once again thank you ❤❤❤❤
I think im between demiboy and agender. I feel like im agender but i also feel a slight connection to manhood. When i saw your video i could relate but not entirely because the term demiboy doesnt feel right for me but agender does
I'm a little conflicted now because I'm not sure if this is the correct term for me, so I hope someone can help me: I am a biological woman. I have all female organs, born and raised it's in my blood. I am a woman. But I have always felt more attuned to masculinity that goes beyond just being a tomboy. I don't feel comfortable being referred to as female in a social construct or outing if it's around friends (with family it's fine because..they're my family, I have no problem with them at all lol). I know I'm not trans because, while it's not a 100% trait to have, I do not experience dysphoria or the need to transition. I love my body as is and have no plans to transition ever. I love that I am a bio woman and will never change that. But my mind is elsewhere when the typical depictions of what a woman is and what femininity is, if that makes sense? I 100% prefer male pronounse, I have a male name, I ''think'' more..masculine-y? On an INCREDIBLY RARE occasion I will be like ''heck yeah I'ma put on a dress and make-up.'' and *present* more feminine or like an average woman. I am also Pansexual if that means anything in this context. Also suffer from PCOS which I was bullied for but I feel the facial hair that I grow has helped me accept this path of life more. So yeah. I'm not sure if this is still the term for me. TLDR- Biological woman, feels and appears more masculine, more comfortable with masculinity and identifies as male but does NOT express dysphoria and is NOT trans.
@@jordanquantz6856 No need to be condescending. My journey into this is still ongoing. For a community that's supposed to be all about ''support'' that sure aint it. Still, I wish you the best and you have a good day.
What do I call myself if I’m afab and identify as a girl but also identify as a boy partially? Am I bigender girl and demiboy or am I just confused (I say “just confused” because I am very much confused abt my gender identity)
I have a vary important question, if someone assigned female at birth identifys as a Demiboy can they take testosterone like a trans male whud if they close to?
My doctor says I am gender dysphoria, man to female. ,,,,,my mom gave me female hormones in her body by medicine she took , I love being a woman..❤ I eating sesam seeds that , raised my female hormones,,food
I've been trying to find my ID officially. DemiBoy is the closest I've come. I bounce between masculine and feminine, but not really in between. As far as attraction to others, I don't see gender. My emotional connections define my attraction to other people (IDing as a man, I'm often drawn to other men more so than women). Sexuality is like #70 on my lively priority list, it's not something I seek on the regular. I guess my question is, would that make me a DemiBoy? or Asexual? I'm new to all of this. I'm freshly out and old
This is old and you probably already know but, well You can be both at the same time, being demiboy is more towards who you are and asexual is more of who you like For example, I'm a Demiboy (gender) but I'm also Omnisexual (sexuality) Hope it helps a little bit, you can also identify with more genders or other sexualities, it's you who decides what fits the most and what feels the most comfortable really For what I understand from your comment, do you know the terms "bigender" or "genderfluid" and "demisexual" by any chance? If not maybe you can find yourself better there (it's just a suggestion though and best of luck, hope you can find your true self and if you already did that's great!)
Well, I ressonate with EVERYTHING in this video, but reason 1 bothers me, bc it's like you saying that the only way to be a man is to be comfortable and feel nice about a lot of hard and toxic expectations society bring upon males, and if one does not identify with this, so this person is not really a man, they are a demiboy. I am already trying to desconstruct this bad opinion and bigotry against masculinity and understanding that being a man is not THIS, all that unhealthy stereotypes, and you tell me exactly the contrary, that yes this is being a man so if someone is not like this, they're NOT a man. In this, you are wrong. Not identifying with traditional masculine expectations doesn't make someone less man, it makes him/they a sane and healthy person.
At first i thought i was Genderfluid or demigirl or even non-binary.. and i was even thinking that i transmasc because at times i feel less boyish and at times i feel more masculine like now.. But, now i realized that im DEMI-BOY! 🩵 This literally describes me PERFECTLY.
I know a nonbinary musician who called themselves a hemi-demi-semi-boy, and no joke will ever top that. (A sixty-fourth note is also called a hemi-demi-semi-quaver) 😂
Omg where can I stream they’re music?
Came out as a trans man when I was 14 but my gender has always been a bit wobbly. I know I'm definitely not female but demiboy is an identity I've considered multiple times. Still unsure but this is helpful.
GOD this video helped out a TON. I've always identified as non-binary but I've always been like "but boy stuff good too." PROUD to FINALLY be comfortable and sure of my identity
EXACTLY
When I was younger (AMAB), I always felt that I didn't fit the stereotypical definition of masculinity, but as I grew up in evangelical Christianity I didn't think anything else of it. Fast forward several years later (and having left the church), and I started to have feelings that maybe I wasn't 100% male. When I first started searching into whether I was non-binary or not, I came across the term demiboy and it felt like it fit me so much. I changed my pronouns online to he/they, and felt so euphoric that I was finally coming to terms with who I was. I'm still not out to friends and family (for a number of reasons), but hopefully the day will come where I feel comfortable being public with who I truly am.
Thank you so much for sharing! I resonate with a lot of what you said! 😊 I grew up with very similar experiences
Me too
If you have a cock, balls, and prostate, you’re 100% male.
If your pronouns are 'he/they' I can't see the reason for your gender anguish. You're a man presenting as a man.
@@barryledgister4496 would it have hurt you to just not do that?
Omg, thank you so much for this video! Honestly I'm not fully sure if I'm nonbinary, a demi-boy, or just like in between those two or something. I really appreciate that you make this kind of content, and I overall wish you got more recognition for your videos as I and many others enjoy them. Thank you again and I wish you a good day/night :)
same, lol.
5/5. Yesterday was my first official "They Day"
Good for you :)
A few months away from the one year mark! Congratulations hope you get a They Day cake :)
social dysphoria(misgendering, using Deadname, or other social related situations in relation to one's gender identity) is a type of dysphoria is not talked about very much and it is something that needs to be. When I realized I was bigender, my male identity took me a while to figure out as I was almost like a yo-yo. Finding out about Demiboy/Non Binary male, I realized it rang with me along with the still accepting of my AGAB. Feeling attached to the world of masculinity in presenting masculine or just feeling partially as a man is something I have had for sometime time but never realized it or had a name for it until a few years ago along with the Bigender label.
The social dysphoria hit me hard at a festival recently when someone in the area I helped out with would not use the pronoun I would use based on the gender I was feeling that day and would the singular they/them pronouns for most people.
Also because I have a bit of a thyroid issue that causes me to grow facial hair occasionally even though I am AFAB, there have been times that I may have a light stubble and people thought I was a Trans woman and I had to correct them. Bad cases of Social Dysphoria.
I never had physical dysphoria.
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i kinda feel that type of dysphoria more then feeling uncomftrable in my body, and that feels very confusing
you made me realize that I'm a demi boy sort of. I'm also non-binary, aromantic, and asexual. I love ur vids, and I love how you make your content enjoyable, and educational
Twins !! I'm also aroace and non binary ( somewhere between everything, agender and demiboy lol)
Thank you for this video! This helped a lot. I'm AMAB, and started questioning my gender recently. I've never really resonated with "cis male," and started to look at the different terms under the trans umbrella, like genderqueer. Then a good friend of mine introduced me to the term "demiboy," and that lead me to your video.
For me, the first thing that made me wonder if I wasn't cis after all was the moment I realized that he/they was an option, and the fact that I really liked the idea of using both sets of pronouns. Though at first I didn't think I could be a demiboy because I thought I had too strong a connection to masculinity (spoiler alert: I don't) and that I didn't think I had an idea of what being nonbinary must feel like. After a month of soul searching and educating myself on what androgyny is and how gender works, I finally circled back around to the one label that I always had a strong connection to. And that's how I realized I'm a demiboy.
Thanks for making this video, Lynn! Will always love you for what you do and who you are!
How about just…not labeling yourself?
@@transwomenaremale how about just... letting people do that if they want?
I think demiboy describes very well my gender. For my entire childhood I always felt kinda identified with being male (mostly because most people around me were AFAB), but I never felt a connection to masculinity itself as I was very different from the other boys. I remember I thought I was like "in between the two genders", because I felt so different from both men and women. Then I found out about non-binary people, but for some reason I felt like I still didn't belong there. Then I tried some microlabels to try to find my true gender but then gave up and decided I didn't want a gender, so I settled with agender. However, I recently realized I do kinda feel masculine, but I still don't want to be a man, like I want to be non-binary but I can't because this feeling gets in the way. So now I realized that I'm a demiboy instead, in between man and non-binary/agender.
That’s called being human. No human subscribes 100% to male or female stereotypes. I’m a woman, not because I “feel like one” or because I wear pink dresses and high heels but because I’m an adult human female.
holy crap dude same
same exact story for me
so glad we found ourselves
@@transwomenaremale please stop typing out those little symbols meant to represent the sounds you would utter. Nobody asked you.
@@transwomenaremaleyikes. I feel bad for you.
@@jacobmckenna2468 Please explain. What about my comment evokes sympathy?
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Thank you! Im aroace and questioning if im a demi boy :)
Me too
Thank you so much for this video, Lynn! 😊🤩 I definitely feel demiboy explains my experience for me. I use non binary in my everyday but demiboy in certain spaces. I really resonated with what you said about the fluidity and that is so me especially being neurodivergent! I definitely know I have another gender alongside being demiboy (most likely autigender)
Thank you so much for doing this! There is hardly anything out there on the demiboy identity so this topic being tackled by one of my favorite RUclipsrs was a real treat!
For the most part, communicating that I am a "guy" is usually enough for daily interactions, but there is something very validating in finding a term that encompasses my own experience.
I relate to some of this. Recently discovered that they/them pronouns feel like a warm comfy hug to my brain. Tho I also relate to your points about agender identity too. 🤔
Thank you for making this video! I have been struggling with my gender identity for the past 16 years and not felt fully male but not fully non binary either and this just allowed everything to make so much sense.
At first I thought I was just trans, I heard it and was like, 'that sounds about right.' I've always wondered randomly though about going by They/Them but I loved going by He/Him, before I heard of Demiboy but I didn't fully understand what it meant. So I started thinking I could be a Demiboy but looked up the definition just incase, after I read the definition everything sort of clicked. I felt a kind of connection that I didn't fully get with trans, I still consider myself under trans but I'm a Demiboy, calling myself this really helped me understand myself more, all I need to do is tell my friends about it!
All of these are actually so true, I like doing Masculine stuff but at the same time I like doing feminine stuff like nail painting and all that
Wow, I think this might be me. Thank you so much for all you do! ❤
Today I had a random realization that being a trans man didn't fully resonate with me. I've been wondering why.. And then I remembered I once identified as non-binary for a while. That got me curious and I did some searching... And now I'm here. I think I've FINALLY found the right label and this video helped me get some clarity to that!
Love to everyone reading this, hope you're having a nice day🫶
This is extremly relatable.
Hearing the word brought me more joy than I know how to say and then your explanation cemented it for me. I've known I'm non-binary for a couple of years but something still felt suboptimal and this is the piece I was missing.
I already found out I am a Demiboy before this, and, in my opinion, this is a pretty good video for signs of being one
I fluctuate a lot between agender and demiboy, not sure if I can say I am boyflux, genderfaun or agenderflux tho. So for next time, 5 signs you might be agender 🙂
Would also love that
I don't think there'll be a next time.
Mainly because commenters like yourself come out with bizarre insane nonsense, the channel is tanking. Down from a half million views a few years ago to a couple of thousand now. Nobody with any sense is interested.
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i feel the same!!!
2:50 I’m a demiboy, and I personally have dysphoria whenever my dad says “you’re the man”. I used to think it was just a hatred of patriarchy, but later realized it was mostly that I quite literally was not the man. Still hate patriarchy though.
What made me realize I was demi boy was that- I had originally thought I felt gender fluid but it just didn't click.
I realized over time that my cis gender was not who I was. Growing up no one told me it was wrong- but it just got a bad wrap in general if you weren't cis. I became so focused on what my birth certificate said I never thought to question my gender.
Eventually I saw the signs. Growing up I always related with male characters more. Even watching a romance where the MC was a girl- I just thought she was cute and liked the story. I almost always related with the love interests instead. I never noticed that until I would read bl and then the difference between finding the female MC cute to straight up being immersed and relating with a male MC.
I noticed more and more. I even was made fun of as a kid because I always acted like more of a dude and kinda dressed like one too. I hated make up because it just felt too feminine for me. I hated dresses because of the expectations it leaves and when looking in the mirror it always just felt- off and gross... I could never explain why.
Ect ect.
I had a long time trans friend explain to me what their realization was like- and just as a hypothetical I wondered if I may have been.
Over time I realized I preferred the more cute or low key men when relating to myself and eventually I dropped my female pronouns all together outside of family and work.
Using he/him and they/them just worked.. But at the same time I sometimes felt more stereotypically masculine than other times. Which is why I thought I was still gender fluid because I didn't know of anything else that would fit.
Explained to someone how I felt and the how's and why's behind my gender and how it would affect or how I wanted it to affect my physical appearance and he mentioned I may be demi boy... Saw one description and it clicked.
I had never heard of it before- but it felt so right. I'm still struggling to disconnect my female pronouns from myself from how hard wired I have been. But I genuinely felt more happy and at ease when it was androgynous(gender neutral) or male.
It was basically just a massive step for me and I still need time for myself to fully adjust to that lol.
Trust growing up like I did basically made me think it was a death wish to not be my cis so I genuinely was too sure to even realize I wasn't before XD
Love your videos lynntou are a beautiful human being love you're open minded channel you awesome proud of you lynn
I didnt necessarily relate to all the points in the video, but for a long time ive been questioning if im a demiboy. I currently identify as non-binary (AFAB) and ive been using they/them pronouns for awhile. Im only out to my friends and a few trusted adults, none of my family though. Ive been trying to do things that make me seem or act less fem and im slowly getting there. Ive gotten good at concealing my chest, and a majority of my hobbies and interests align with masc or nuetral things. Like i love kids, animals, writing, reading, and skating. People of any gender can do those things. Ive had a hard time with my gender for the longest time because for awhile i identified as a lesbian and tried only finding interest in girls. But i found interest in my genderfluid, nonbinary, and transmale friends instead. All having a more masculine vibe. In romantic partners i look for a brain type, not an appareance, style, gender, etc. And i wouldnt have had so much trouble with gender if i knew my oarents were accepting. Theyre horribly transphobic (even tho im not trans) and dont belive in pronouns. I use my friends' pronouns even when around my parents and they always question "whos they? Arent we talking about one person?". So ive had difficulty with it because i know i cant come out. On top of that i look naturally fem. I had long hair to the middle of my back for as long as i can remember. I recently got it cut and its now barely below my ears in most parts, a significantly more masc/neutral haircut. I personally love it, and ive gotten lots of comoliments on it. My parents actually happen to be the only people to say anything negative about it. They started reffering to me as "Alen" or "Steve" (my birth name starts with an H and is very obviously a female name, i prefer the name Cam), not willing to come out i just ignored it, eventually i was like, "can you *please* stop calling me that? Thats not my name" and theyve only used it a few times since. Ever since ive been non-binary ive been aware of the fact that i take interest in more masc things, i get along rlly well w most ppl AMAB, and i genuinely dont mind/ kinda like being referred to as a 'he' or a 'sir', but ive always looked really fem so ive never been mistaken as one. Im trying to alter my style and appearance to bring out the masculinity, but part of me still wants to be non-binary instead of trans. I dont feel fully like a man, and i dont necessarily want to be a male, i just relate to the feelings of masculinity fairly strongly. No part of me wishes i was born a boy, no part of me wishes i had other part's, but i still wish to look like a boy, i wish to be mistaken as one, and i wish to be referred to as male aligned pronouns. But i think the thing stopping me from identifiying as a demiboy is that im scared. What would that mean? How would ppl think of me? Wouldnt that be so far from what i used to be? Would i have to change my pronouns? What kind of disrespect would i endure? How many times would i have to explain it? So many questions stopping me from using the label i feel a connection to, all bc im too scared. This video mostly reassured that im probably right with my suspicions, im gonna continue with my research before i decide to accept the inevitable result tho 🫡🤞
that you so much for this video, I think I finally found a label that represents me!
THANK YOU SO MUCH I THINK THIS IS ME‼️‼️
Thanks for the explanation :D you just made me a less disastrous disaster-pansexual/demiboy lol
my sexuality + gender identity can only be described as "Gender: Windows 7 Compatibility Mode" at this point, so at least I can describe myself with less words now
This video hits too hard in a good way
There’s been many times where I feel like a man then dysphoria kicks in and I suddenly wanna cover myself up and look like a different gender.
so i had one of my friends tell me to look into my gender bc i identify w they/them as well as he/him. ive always seen it as not fully nonbinary but not fully a boy. sometimes i dont even perceive myself as a boy as much as i do just myself. when i found out what the term demi boy meant it really just felt familiar tho ive never even heard of it and im very certain this is how i identify now. thank you :3
So happy for everyone who's finding what label describes them the best :)
Just a tiny reminder that even when someone identify as cis, they may still feel disconnected with gender norms.
Labels are meant to help us to find who we really are, but the subjectiveness that come along with labels might cause unwanted misunderstanding. Assuming cis people automatically fits into the norm diminish their own gender experiences. Yes, gender can be defined as the set of social expectations/norms, but it's also a deep sense of being/self that is strictly subjective and personal.
I’m a demiboy demiromantic and I saw this video and wanted to see if I still resonate with the term and I honestly really do.
**slowly coughs** well **the song its coming out fades in**
This video changed my whole life lol😂
Yay it’s demiboy this time 😄😄
I was born as cisgender but over time I saw I really didn't fit into the "masculine" label, I always liked more gender-neutral things or femenine things... Since I was a kid I really wondered a lot of things about my identity... I also get along with men and like masculine things but sometimes I just say like "No thanks". I also tought I was non-binary at some point, until I realized I identified as a demiboy! :3
I feel like how we conceptualize guys. Feel like a boy, but then I also a lot of the time feel more like a masculine gendervoid/no “gender label” (but not an agender person) person who is skirting the line between boy and it, just really masculine and a mix, much more often than feeling like the boy (like my boy is often always a little quirky), and then I also feel like a middle ground/light not so masc person, as if I’m nonbinary/agender but also that can and often is mixed with still feeling like the gendervoid masc, so ig it’s like a light version of it. Then I got my girly non-binary/agender/gendervoid girl. Like yeah sure you could call me a girl or I’m comfortable with/wanna come off as one even tho I mentally feel the same as all the stuff I classified as gender. Nonbinary/gendervoid/agender but fem presenting ig? And then also a version that actually feels like I don’t feel very different from what I’m wearing and presenting myself as, and therefore it’s like half fem/girl or actually a girl. Cuz I don’t feel different than my girly clothes. ??? 🫠
Thank you for another interesting video!
I'm probably a demiboy but I still have fluidity to my gender.
yay, i have a word for it now :3
This video was what I needed to understand what being demiboy was.
I've been on the fence about being demiboy for several years, but that label really does resonate with me. The only thing I'm not sure about is if I can be a lesbian and a demiboy. I'm not sure if it would be considered weird to the community to use he/she pronouns.
Honestly, I tried a soft cute/hot mask look and I have never had that level of gender euphoria before. It's sort of a "I'm boy, but not boy, boy." Sort of feeling.
Makes sense when you consider that I felt like a man who reincarnated in a female body and it was fine at the time because I got to do all the boy things I wanted but still enjoy dressing up.
hey Lynn, could you do a 5 signs for GNC maybe? i've been struggling to identify my gender, whether i'm a GNC cis man or a demiboy. i'd like to compare the differences
No label is the answer - truly. You don't need a label to connect with being human. Feeling masculine and/or feminine at times is normal. All of these 5 signs I have felt or experienced and I am a regular woman, born in 1972, and still working on being comfortable. The more 'labels' you box yourself into, the harder it gets and the smaller life becomes. If anyone wants a safe place to talk I would be happy to help and be there for any of you. With love and respect, Jen
It's true that labels aren't for everyone, but some people (myself included) like having the vocabulary to articulate themselves and relate to others 🙂
now because I identify transgender I call myself a demiboy. and I really wanna cut my hair, and it's like..well let me live.
This is how I’m interpreting my feelings. How does one describe.. demiboy.. but the other part of the gender is gendervoid which is both masculine and middle ground masculine.. but another part of the demiboy gender is non-binary/agender.. which is kinda masculine but neutral, or is just neutral/light, and the other part being a middle ground feeling where I really don’t feel off of being a girl, it’s just “yeah that’s fine sure I’m a girl”, while not feeling like a girl but also not feeling super opposed to it. Like feeling like the non-binary feeling I feel when I interpret myself can still be slapped on with the label girl, but still feels different than the feeling itself actually being girl… and then… another one that is maybe actually girl, lightly and openly. (?)
Even if I was going with demiboy because it encompasses 1 or multiple other genders being involved, it doesn’t feel like it factors in the girl part. Maybe it doesn’t have to, it just means strong connection to boy, even if u got some girl part in there.
??? You think you find the answer with gendervoid shadow figure mf and instead you find there’s multiple different ways you interpret yourself that you feel like you can’t just not clarify
Thank you so much 🥰
i feel like every time you do one of those "5 signs you might be..." i relate to all of them (someone help me pls
How about pangender?
Or, if that works for you, just don't label yourself. Or, here's what I do, I use non-binary because it can be used as an umbrella term. I'm not 100% female and not 100% male, therefore I am non binary.
@@acc45460Intersex is pretty rare. Chances are you’re either fully male or fully female
So can I be a Demi boy as someone who was born female? I feel like a boy, but not entirely
Yes! Of course, I was born a biological female and I feel the same way. So yes you can! ❤
Yes, you can!
💙🩵🤍🩶
Say, looks like I'm a demiboy! Cool
Thanks now i know I'm a demyboy i guess
I mean like i use feminine words but most likely masculine unless wanna sound cute like femin type i guess my social anxiety made me learn from different genders so thank you so much your content was realy helpfull
#: i wish i get a like from you it will mean a lot to me and once again thank you ❤❤❤❤
I think im between demiboy and agender. I feel like im agender but i also feel a slight connection to manhood. When i saw your video i could relate but not entirely because the term demiboy doesnt feel right for me but agender does
I'm a little conflicted now because I'm not sure if this is the correct term for me, so I hope someone can help me:
I am a biological woman. I have all female organs, born and raised it's in my blood. I am a woman. But I have always felt more attuned to masculinity that goes beyond just being a tomboy. I don't feel comfortable being referred to as female in a social construct or outing if it's around friends (with family it's fine because..they're my family, I have no problem with them at all lol).
I know I'm not trans because, while it's not a 100% trait to have, I do not experience dysphoria or the need to transition. I love my body as is and have no plans to transition ever. I love that I am a bio woman and will never change that.
But my mind is elsewhere when the typical depictions of what a woman is and what femininity is, if that makes sense? I 100% prefer male pronounse, I have a male name, I ''think'' more..masculine-y? On an INCREDIBLY RARE occasion I will be like ''heck yeah I'ma put on a dress and make-up.'' and *present* more feminine or like an average woman. I am also Pansexual if that means anything in this context. Also suffer from PCOS which I was bullied for but I feel the facial hair that I grow has helped me accept this path of life more.
So yeah. I'm not sure if this is still the term for me.
TLDR- Biological woman, feels and appears more masculine, more comfortable with masculinity and identifies as male but does NOT express dysphoria and is NOT trans.
@@jordanquantz6856 No, it didn't. But thanks I guess.
@@jordanquantz6856 Which I have been actually, I only came here to gather some opinions and hear from other people.
@@jordanquantz6856 No need to be condescending. My journey into this is still ongoing. For a community that's supposed to be all about ''support'' that sure aint it.
Still, I wish you the best and you have a good day.
I've been stuck between androgynous trans man and masculine non-binary for a while and i think demi boy might work for that feeling?
I originally thought I was a trans man but I realized I don’t feel wholly masculine genders
I was born a female. Can I still be a demiboy. Btw I’m trans
Yes
@@JesusChrist-pg5oxI was wondering the same thing I don’t think I am trans. I was born a girl but feel like a Demi boy fits me
@@pokemoon7367 if you think it's right then you're probably right. It's your identity mate 💙
Demiboy sounds right for you go for it. 🥺
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What do I call myself if I’m afab and identify as a girl but also identify as a boy partially? Am I bigender girl and demiboy or am I just confused (I say “just confused” because I am very much confused abt my gender identity)
Bisexual > Polysexual > Demiboy ❤
I have a vary important question, if someone assigned female at birth identifys as a Demiboy can they take testosterone like a trans male whud if they close to?
ofc
My doctor says I am gender dysphoria, man to female. ,,,,,my mom gave me female hormones in her body by medicine she took , I love being a woman..❤ I eating sesam seeds that , raised my female hormones,,food
Am I a demiboy am don't feel like a girl but i feel little boy and not a boy I don't know anymore
Can a look like a girl who is nonbinary can be a demiboy?
I think I may be a Demi girl
@@transwomenaremale you need to check definitions
I've been trying to find my ID officially. DemiBoy is the closest I've come. I bounce between masculine and feminine, but not really in between. As far as attraction to others, I don't see gender. My emotional connections define my attraction to other people (IDing as a man, I'm often drawn to other men more so than women). Sexuality is like #70 on my lively priority list, it's not something I seek on the regular. I guess my question is, would that make me a DemiBoy? or Asexual? I'm new to all of this. I'm freshly out and old
Here’s an idea - maybe instead of trying to label yourself you just be…yourself?
This is old and you probably already know but, well
You can be both at the same time, being demiboy is more towards who you are and asexual is more of who you like
For example, I'm a Demiboy (gender) but I'm also Omnisexual (sexuality)
Hope it helps a little bit, you can also identify with more genders or other sexualities, it's you who decides what fits the most and what feels the most comfortable really
For what I understand from your comment, do you know the terms "bigender" or "genderfluid" and "demisexual" by any chance? If not maybe you can find yourself better there (it's just a suggestion though and best of luck, hope you can find your true self and if you already did that's great!)
Well, I ressonate with EVERYTHING in this video, but reason 1 bothers me, bc it's like you saying that the only way to be a man is to be comfortable and feel nice about a lot of hard and toxic expectations society bring upon males, and if one does not identify with this, so this person is not really a man, they are a demiboy. I am already trying to desconstruct this bad opinion and bigotry against masculinity and understanding that being a man is not THIS, all that unhealthy stereotypes, and you tell me exactly the contrary, that yes this is being a man so if someone is not like this, they're NOT a man.
In this, you are wrong. Not identifying with traditional masculine expectations doesn't make someone less man, it makes him/they a sane and healthy person.
5/5. yikes. scary territory.
i am pretty sure i am demiboy i sometimes feel like i'm male but theres always that not really aspect to that
can you be a girl AND a demi boy?
I referred as they/them
I think i feel uncomfortable being referred as a man due to my anger problems
And i am demiboy
hum...what does the algorithm wants to tell me this time🤔
3/5, is this a sign?
It it possible to be demiboy and demigirl
I study the flags bit none fit qwq
At first i thought i was Genderfluid or demigirl or even non-binary.. and i was even thinking that i transmasc because at times i feel less boyish and at times i feel more masculine like now.. But, now i realized that im DEMI-BOY! 🩵 This literally describes me PERFECTLY.
Can anyone help me figure out what i am??? I wanna be a girl and stay a girl but be very boyish sometimes? and sometimes super girlie- helpp plss
tnk u
I’m new and scared to come out any suggestions?
yes but im also transmasc but that would make me a crossdresser so am i also a femboy orrrrr-
Can girls be demi-boys?
I'm a demon boy
Demon 😭
so easy(soy ese)
what have we become
Meet the demoman:
Damn..
Honestly I wanna be a dude with another dude but also not a dude but a dude. Why is gender like this??? 😭😭
Can girl be a demiboy
No
Only demiboy can be demiboy
It's not demiboy but demigirl if you're as a female
this is what fatherless people go through ahaahah
People with no brain cells
Wtf?
Theyre all attention seekers wanting people to be part of their cult
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Stop treating gender like its an mbti
5 Signs you might need to see a doctor.
This
They helped me and im gonna get top surgery thanks to them
I think we need to not make it so complex....
i am a demiboy i also have another acc called "demiboy_maxmax_
This video hits too hard in a good way