HANGOUT VLOG - Social Anxiety
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Yeah I do have quite similar social anxiety to yours Annie, I just get uncomfortable around strangers and can't deal/respond normally, *Begin to stutter, feel hot in face, tightening up, heart pounding, etc. I hate any form/kind of drawing attention to myself, I like to be invisible if I can help it too ha. I'd feel like I'm bothering people, so I'm just not myself and feel awful if the environment is one I'm not used to. In highschool I would never get up to do presentation, or whatever have you, for the life of me. Just refused to do it. If I can help it, I definitely try to avoid situations where I'll get anxiety and I know my boundaries/limits too, similar to how you said. Heck, even with relatives I flip and don't feel right/comfortable if they're relatives of mine that live far away and/or we've never hung out, etc. It's not extreme though, I've never had a true panic attack, *not that I can say definitively or recall at least. I keep to myself for the most part, not the biggest talker or outgoing in any way. *I'm not rude or anything with folks or just don't talk, but I gotta really know you well to be/get comfortable around you first. But yep you're definitely not the only one when it comes to this. It's all good though, thanks for sharing a bit about yourself on this topic.
I realized recently that most of my social anxiety is due to the fact that I am a sensitive/empath. Some people's energy is too much for me.
I know exactly how you felt in school. I actually nearly failed geometry my freshmen year because I would have my papers completed, but I would rather get a zero and hate myself for my grade than have to stand up in the middle of a silent classroom and turn in my papers. Things like sharpening my pencil and whatnot were so difficult. And do. Not. Get me started. On church. Just don't lol. My mental health changed a lot through the years, and my social anxiety went fairly dormant, but over the past few months has flared up again, and now it still can be social, but it's more often just leaving the house and constantly feeling on guard and in danger. I have a lot of anxiety about food too, but that's a bit different. I'm so glad you know what's going on now though, and I'm super proud of you for working on it. I'd love to hear you talk more about this stuff personally, and I think every experience is valuable. But only if it makes you feel good
JudasAdorus Same. If i didnt find my work on time to pass it up to the front then i wouldnt turn it in at all. Or ill wait until the end of class to turn it in, because everyone would have left already.
I have social anxiety too. I get anxious in grocery stores, resturants and when I eat in public places. I hate eating among people I don't know well/don't know at all. My anxiety is related to food. I'm working on it though... I also get anxious around "popular" teens/kids (jocks). Parties and social gatherings are hard too. Whenever I meet people I haven't met in a while, I get super stessed and nervous. I just can't stop worrying about what other people think of me. I overanalyze a lot! It got better when I moved to a bigger city last year, but now I've moved back to my tiny hometown and it is very challenging. Travelling, being in elevators and small rooms are not a problem for me. I've only had a panic attack once, and I hope I never get to experience it again :-)
I had SEVERE, DEBILITATING, PARALYZING so bad my physical symptoms impossible for others to ignore: shaking SEVERELY, hyperventilating, my face LITERALLY turning tomato red, panicking, becoming terrified, etc.
I got social anxiety because I was severely abused by three so-called caretakers and was being SEVERELY bullied and beat up in school because I was the unkempt, poor, and abused kid - life sucked.
eventually with baby steps, exposing myself to life and the outside world I won the battle over it.
if you search for "Jonathan Knight on Oprah" you can just how bad mine was (and that is a clip of the star after his anxiety had calmed down - mine was just as severe if not worst)
I've been suffering from anxiety since I was 13, so I completely understand. Before I used to be a social butterfly and was the life of the party, but after eighth grade, it just changed me. I switched to online school for ninth grade and currently am trying to get myself into half-online, half-public school in order to help myself progress. I tend to run away from most anxious situations, which to me are your day-to-day activities. Being the center of attention is probably the worst thing in my eyes. I'm currently in therapy for it, which is helping because I've discovered things about myself I never knew. It's weird because I love people, I think they're beautiful and I think the world is too. But I'm afraid of everything. I have awful phobia's that manage to ruin my days if I come in contact with what I'm fearful of, I isolate myself in my bedroom during the summer, I avoid meeting new people or going to places where I know there will be strangers. I can't walk anywhere alone, and always have to be accompanied by a close friend or family member when going into stores or the mall or anywhere outdoors. For the most part it's basically ruined my life. But, I like to look on the bright side. My anxiety (which lies everywhere, it isn't just social, sadly) has made me a better person. Before I was diagnosed, I used to be super obnoxious, selfish, and thought that everything revolved around me. Now I can proudly say that I'm truly a good person. My anxiety makes me think twice about any interactions I have with people. I'm always nice to others, kind, generous, compassionate, open-minded etc. I think for the most part I rarely ever focus on myself, and tend to make sure everyone else is happy. But I can say that as of now, I wish I didn't have anxiety. I'm glad that it's made me a better person, but if I were to overcome it soon, I'd still be a good person and then I'd finally be able to do all the things I wish to do. I have such high hopes and amazing dreams for myself, but keeping that in mind, I'm petrified that it won't occur the way I want it to, or that I will fail or something will get in the way of me fulfilling my fullest potential. I always dislike finding people who suffer from any type of anxiety, because it makes me sad knowing that others struggle with this awful mental disorder. In all honesty, I would take on all the anxiety in the world if that meant that everyone else didn't have to experience it.
*virtual hugs* Anxiety sucks! Just about everyone in my family has some form of anxiety and seeing how hard it is for my sister (who has social anxiety), it's just terrible! Hope you feel better. :)
I have social anxiety too and it's nice to hear that I am not alone. I've experienced the same emotional distress and it is very isolating. I just push through and stay away from situations that I know will trigger my anxiety. I love your channel, your stories are awesome!
I thought I was just being lazy but I realize now that I have social anxiety. I have quit going to family functions because I KNOW for a fact that I will be discussed and chopped to pieces as soon as I leave. I only go to work and shopping. I don't like being judged so I don't hang out with humans at ALL and that's fine with me LOL. And then I make You Tube videos because being judged by strangers does not bother me, so I SORT of have human interactions 👍
Yes. Talk about you more. Yes we are all still watching. We support you! And your honesty.
I go through this exact same thing ALL the time. And it doesn't matter what setting it is- even in places I go to all the time, where there's a ton of people there, I spiral into this horrible place where my whole body overheats, and I get dizzy, and I have to try to remember the right way to breathe, and I can't stand it because it's the most debilitating thing I've ever felt. The first day of school is always hell for me, because going back from a summer where I'm around my parents and maybe a friend or two the whole time, to having to walk through the hallways, teeming with people, practically sends me over the edge. Last year, I had an anxiety attack on the first day of school and without even having been there for a half hour, I was practically in tears. Trying to find a summer job sucks because the only places I can find that are available are all crowded with people and the very thought of that makes me really unbelievably uncomfortable. But I just wanted to thank you for putting this video up because, after I watched it I felt like I wasn't a total freak, or that I was alone, and I've always felt that way about having to deal with my anxiety (I only have one other friend who knows how bad it gets cause she has anxiety problems too).
I suffer from social anxiety, but the exact opposite. It's with acquaintances I USED to know from high school. If I go to one of my friends parties and there's a bunch of people I knew from high school there I get very VERY anxious. I am a recovering drug addict and people used to talk a lot of shit. And even though, I don't give a shit what they think about me and they have no idea what I've been through, I still feel very anxious and have even had an anxiety attack before and had to leave. Now, I only feel comfortable in those settings if and only my boyfriend comes. He's the only one that truly understands me. I love meeting new people though, I think it's refreshing to get out of my little town bubble and learn about NEW people.
Wow the similarities with our personalities is insane! Keep up the awesome video Ladylockslife.
I am so sorry that happened to you! Been there!
I'm so glad you posted a video about this also. I was unaware I had anxiety until I had two attacks while in boot camp, I was separated (per my choice). It's hard to coupe with, especially when so many people still don't understand it.
Yay! Long videos. I really enjoy hearing about you and your stories. I'm from Gresham Oregon and it is really nice to jave someone close to home who does RUclips, especially someone so relatable. I have anxiety as well and found healing stones really help me. As well as Raiki.
I relate to everything you're saying, especially the classroom part
I use to think I was just dumb for stressing over the smallest things that would normally fly over peoples heads. Just recently I went to the movies with someone from school, and I was stressing out the entire week. But the second I sat in the car, I felt so much better.
But after watching this, and experiencing different situations, I feel I can manage much eaiser and realize that 'hey, its not really such a big deal'. (and no worries, i enjoy watching your videos, even after 30 min!)
I'm in high school right now and I literally cannot go to the cafeteria. Like how you said when everyone turns to look at someone just walking in because it's just human nature (I even do it so idk why I just cant get over it). I literally spent the last year just not eating lunch at all and walking around campus for my entire lunch period because the initial walking in and being stared at by about 50 or so people at once is just too much. We have a big cafeteria and a smaller one connected because my school is so big, too, and when I used to be able to eat in my freshman year it'd always be in the smaller one and I would always, absolutely NEED someone to walk with me and sit with me until everyone was back from the lunchline because sitting by myself was sooo much worse than just walking in. Even the walks to each of my classes are like debilitating and i had to walk around with eyes glued to my phone and not at everyone that was walking past me since my school has around 2,000-3,000 students or so and the hallways/quad are always jampacked with people.
With that being said though, I think meeting new people is always a good way to combat it and really like trying to push your limits. Usually I can't even order things for myself and have other people do it as well and lately i've been trying to be the one to order for everyone else and really go one step at a time.
It really just helps to know that it isn't your fault whatsoever and that there are definitely ways to try and work through it- you're most certainly not alone, either, so if you wanted to vent about it and talk, people can relate. Testing those limits can really help you to control your anxiety and make certain more environments and interactions more comfortable and maybe help you to extend your limits way past what you ever thought you could, too. ♥
Hi! Came across your vlog about social anxiety in my own research, and I just wanna say thank you for sharing it!
First of all you look amazing, I love what you have done with your dreads! Second I have Social Anxiety as well. It is really hard for me to meet new people especially in a big group setting. I told one of my recently reacquainted good friends that I have never been to a big party. I wasn't able to tell her that it's because of my fear of people I don't know. I am very much a one on one type of person that is how I wish to get to know an individual. Even when I have had a big birthday party for myself it was hard for me to deal with all the people who were there for me. As you pointed out it is nothing against the people nor a person in general. Social Anxiety is nothing to sneeze at! I myself can be highly effected. I hope this isn't writing too much I just understand and agree that when it coming to new people and places where you do have to interact with others it can be very difficult situation to handle appropriately if you don't have much experience in doing so. On a lighter note, I think you talking about it on RUclips is great! I do wish to hear more on not only the subject but about you as well. Before this I already found you to be a very interesting, awesome person! I love the scary stories, paranormal vlogs you post and I find myself doing search to know more about some of your subjects. I first started watching your post because I was looking for dreadlock how to's, and started watching your videos from there. So keep the awesome up can't wait to see more! :)
I get anxiety attacks when people ask me to many questions at once and when people are talking loudly when I am trying to work. I just walk away. Sometimes take a nap depending on if the little one I babysit is asleep. (I work from home).
I've always been really shy and every time I had to go through something that gave me anxiety I would just blame it on me being shy but I've been researching social anxiety and I could definitely relate with what you said
Social Anxiety is really no fun at all. I had it since I was a child but I only know that for a few years. It gets better but I still have days where just the thought of leaving the house and facing strangers in the bus makes me cry.
It´s all around people that I don´t know. If it is people on the bus, at a public place, the university or a party. For me it´s hard work whenever I know I have to go somewhere alone. Even simple things like having a sleepover at a friends house makes me cry cause I´m just afraid of it. Luckily most friends of mine understand that but there are still people that think going out to a party is the best thing in the world and they won´t stop nagging at me to join them to the point where I just get depressed over it.
GreenRabbit inTheWoods I know exactly what you are talking about. I have Social anxiety that borders on Agoraphobia, so I actually rarely leave my house. Seriously. I even work from home. I do not go anywhere, or see anyone. I socialize maybe once every few months.
Dory's Stories I totally get you. It´s not so bad with my but I can understand how you must feel. +hug+ But I think the most important thing is to accept yourself as how you are. Just because we don´t like to socialize doesn´t mean we are strange. We are just different.
I would like more vlogs like this! where you talk more about you, also some 'day in the life' videos would be nice :)
I was the same exact way in high school. I never brought extra school supplies but I would never get out of my seat because I was too scared. The only time I would get up would be to leave the class. It got so bad that I ended up failing a lot of classes & had to switch to Alternative school.
I have social anxiety as well and it can be a life ruiner at times. I'm literally the least social person I know but of course I don't know many people because I'm not very social, lol. Yes more videos like these please.
that makes so much sense when i was in school i had a fear of attention too really bad too..!!
I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety as well. Although I've never had a panic attack I still get anxious when I'm in some sort of group setting. Even when its a party of mostly people I know. I always think I'm going to say something dumb or awkward. I only feel truly comfortable to be myself around certain people. I'm afraid everyone else will find me weird. If I haven't seen a person in a long time I feel anxious before we actually hang out and even sometimes for the first like 10-20 mins I see them. People who don't really know me call me "shy" because I'm quiet and don't talk much. But what's weird is, I've always been fine on stage and acting. I'm not camera shy. Probably because I'm portraying a character. If I do or say something awkward on stage, it would be recognized as the character and not me.
I have it but I don't really talk about it since it's embarrassing. For me shame is the worst possible feeling and I avoid it at all costs. I avoid any kind of awkwardness too. I think my social anxiety is more pronounced since having a child. I was kind of meh about other people before, not going out of my way to seek them out but definitely not avoiding them as much as I do now. People DO intensify my hermit behavior. I basically never leave my house except for errands and to take my daughter for brief walks. I freak out when I see other people out on our walks because my spouse isn't there to help me deal with them by speaking first. I also tend to waffle a lot and talk too much out of pure nerves. I don't like it and it makes me sound like a fool but I can't stop myself! It's so SO frustrating. I've also had some very negative interactions with people in the town I'm currently in so that has not helped in the slightest. I'm moving soon and most of the people where we are going are family or close family friends so it might bring me out of my shell a bit.
I recently realized that my social anxiety is reflecting in how I interact with my family too. I apologized to my husband last night because I realized this and I felt truly awful for treating him and possibly my daughter that way.
My biggest method of handling it is clothing. I know that probably sounds super weird, but clothing and makeup really feel like armor to me. I wear a very alternative style, even among alternative styles, and I feel like that keeps people at a distance to some extent. It does attract attention but if I scowl at someone hard enough and long enough they usually go away. LOL The only downside is when old ladies want to ask me about my clothes and touch them. That makes me super uncomfortable.
I don't even know where I am trying to go with this but I haven't found the best way to handle myself with any of it yet, I suppose. I have this app called Pacifica that I downloaded free for my phone that's designed to deal with anxiety, but it bugging me every day to input how I'm feeling actually stresses me out too (irony). I really hope at some point to just get some medical assistance because the whole thing has ratcheted up significantly since having my child. I'm more leery of people in general because they always want to touch her for some reason (I know she's cute but wth, that is never ok!) and in western culture it's sort of normal for women to be physically touchy. I'm not a touchy woman so that freaks me out. I need to do something about it though. It's awful, I hate it, and it makes me do things that make people not like me because I get stressed out and impatient with people so they think I'm being rude when really I just am too overwhelmed to coherently explain to them why I can't deal with them right that second. Makes it hard to make/keep friends.
I have social anxiety as well. I mean, working at in n out, a place where you kinda have to talk to strangers everyday, has helped out a little bit, but I definitely still have it. I can't even go into Lush without getting anxiety, because the workers come straight up to you once you step in and they talk and talk and talk. I just can't handle that. D;
i used to have really bad anxiety like yours. but i started taking medication and it's literally gone. of course, i do get the occasional attack or little fits of anxiety, but thats just normal. for the most part though, my anxiety has disappeared. i've also grown up. so that helped too.
Great video you got my respect for sharing your story.
I loved this thank you so much for uploading! I have social anxiety. And I manage its not so bad but. It an be sometimes specially if I'm at a friends gathering I have to step outside for couple of minutes or even use their bathroom lol😔
I agree with "The Mad Lolita" in that my anxiety has become worse since having a child. I'm sure it has to do with hormones. ugh.
Hey Annie, so I typed this huge long response yesterday after I watched your video and then my phone messed up and everything was gone and I pretty much just said screw it because typing long things on a phone is just a pain in the ass and I don't have a computer but I've really been thinking about it and I just feel like I need to retype it. So here I am.
I've had social anxiety since I think 6th grade. I'm not totally sure on that because I didn't know what anxiety was until I was either 18 ot 19 (I'm now 22). But once I learned what it was it all kind of made sense. I hated school, I always wore dark baggy sweatshirts to try and be invisible. I didnt have many friends just a few close ones. I was very insecure which didnt help with the anxiety I'm sure. I always remember having really sweaty hands all the time and I was always so afraid of someone touching them and being grossed out that they were sweaty. School was the absolute worst for me. Even when I stopped caring what other people thought of me and the names people would call me. I still had anxiety everyday when I went to school. I also missed a lot of school because I was always "sick" in reality I think I just really didnt want to be there.
Fast forward to when I found out about anxiety and depression and I came to the realization that hey, I'm not weird or crazy. I'm feeling this things for a valid reason. I started seeing a therapist for about 6 months which helped some. but i really should of continued seeing her. My anxiety became more than just social anxiety. I mean yeah I get anxiety whenever I go out in public, especially if I'm alone. But I also get anxiety when I'm in the car, more so when other people are driving. (I've been in 2 car accidents and nearly died one time with a friend when we were driving up in the mountains). Hosptials give me anxiety, and elevators. Having to call places or make appointments for myself.
Having anxiety and depression just kind of make life hell. You want to go out and do all these fun things that your friends are doing. Or even just be able to go out and do something by yourself and have a nice time. But you cant. It is one of the worst feelings and it sucks because some of my friends don't understand. I had this friend who is in a band and for years he tried to get me to come to one of his gigs and thankfully for awhile i had a valid excuse as to why i couldnt go. They were playing at bars and I wasnt 21 yet. But once I turned 21 i didnt have that excuse anymore and he always made me feel guilty for not going. Well back in February he was playing a gig and I made the decision to go, it was free for 21+. I knew I didnt want to go alone so I asked a friend to go and she yes. Well the day of she texted me saying she had to work late and would have to meet me there. And then 2hrs before the show started to texted me saying she wasnt going to be able to make it. Instant anxiety. There was no way I was going alone. I didnt know anyone who was going to be there aside from my friend and one of his band mates. But my friends gf was also going to be there and she had a problem with me for some reason. I tried to see if anyone else wanted to go but got no takers. For the next two hours I kept talking myself out of it. But I did eventually get in my car and go. Showed up right before they were about to go on (2 bands played before them) I sat in my car for 20mins in the parking lot just trying to breathe and calm down before going in. I saw my friend right away when I walked in talked to him for maybe 5mins before his gf walked up and I didnt talk to him the rest of the night. I stayed to watch the last band play and then I got out there. without saying bye to my friend or anything. I mean, I'm glad I went. When the music was playing I was okay and my friend finally couldnt give me shit anymore for not seeing his band play. but I was so exhausted the next couple days.
I really hate having anxiety and depression. Because half of me wants to go out and do things and make fun memories. And the other half, the anxiety and depression half, tell me to stay home alone and just watch netflix and youtube. I don't have very many friends anymore because of it. And it really sucks.
I do have to say though, I bought a smokey quartz crystal from you a month or so ago and it has helped a lot with my anxiety. Especially when driving. Usually when I'm driving in the city (i live in a smaller town) I'm just a constant ball of anxietyn but with the crystal I'm calmer, able to focus better and dont freak out when people drive like morons.
I just wanted to say thanks for sharing this with us. so many people have different forms of anxiety and i know for many of us, it helps when people who we watch on youtube and admire or are just like, man this person is cool I could so totally see myself being friends with them and hanging out with them if we lived in the same town, also struggle with things we struggle with. Sorry this was so long. My brain just kind of took off.
I have social anxiety, too. It is really strange how many vloggers have it!!
I was actually planning on making a video about it, soon. HAHA. Crazy. I actually made one already about depression, and I am posting one about eating disorders and weight, tomorrow... But anxiety is coming soon.
But I have a lot of the same fears as you. :-) You are not alone.I would have been overwhelmed in that murder mystery game, too. I do the same things.. get mad and embarrassed and stutter..
Like.. I am allergic to smoke and cigarettes.. but I don't like to make people feel guilty about smoking, so I won't say anything about it.. I am scared to death people are going to think I am making a big deal out of nothing, or making it up because I don't approve of smoking, or something... So I will try to subtly avoid the smoke... but if i start to have an allergic reaction, the person always makes a HUGE deal out of it, and it embarrasses me and I cry and hyperventilate and have attacks.. because I don't want the attention.. even though I need it, because I might be dying. lol.. I am weird. But it is all related to social anxiety
Thanks for this video I really wanted this video to happen thanks a million p.s love yah 😊
"Party Games" are evil. I don't understand how they are fun for people. I see it... I see people enjoy them! All I can think is How is it that their buttholes aren't on fine from the clinching terror of social interaction.... no idea. Relaxing and enjoying things is hard work. Some people are just really lucky to never feel that way.
I think I have this. I know I started hyperventilating and crying when I was a bar celebrating my friend's birthday. It was so embarrassing T-T thankfully I have long bangs. And I always get told to just get over it. As if I want to be scared >~
I have social anxiety as well
I am a luseach
idk if its me or not but with headphones I heard a faint piano in the background? do you have a piano was someone home? I'm just wandering? I'm not going crazy am I
Natalie Womack at what time did you hear the piano?.
I do quiet a lot. I mostly have them at school because of the reason that you said. I also have them during partys and such. I also have panic attacks to where i cant breathe, my vision gets blurry, shaking, and wanting to cry.
Im going to do what you did. Where you brought your own stuff instead of getting up to get it in the classroom. I'm in 12th grade now, so at least i wont have to worry about that for much longer.