In our family, if we get into an argument or disagree on something we always either have a movie night as a family or go out to eat as a way of spending time together to remember that we are family and we love each other. We have a really busy household and my mum works nights and my dad works during the day with all 3 of us kids in school or college. So we don’t spend an awful lot of time together. Movie nights or eating out are definitely some of the things that happen in our family to help show that we love each other no matter what! ❤️
Wow that sounds amazing! In my family if we have an argument we all go to our rooms and don't talk to eachother until the next day and if it is really bad, maybe for a couple of days...
I'm a student teacher so I'm going to adapt this for keeping the unity in my classroom. Having a calming, love for learning environment to allow children to express themselves freely. Leading by example so that the children feel mutually respected and empowered to be free-thinkers and thought-provokers ! I'd love to use this prize in my classroom and encorporate peacemaker prizes.
My family is quit small with my husband and our two boys, Mavryck-Kash(5) and Oakland-Rey(6 months), but we’re already try to get into the habit of working together,such as, cleaning the family room, bedrooms, laundry, and taking care of the pets. We hope that setting a weekly family goal, for example, helping an other family or donating, will help our oldest son become more christ like and be an example to our youngest as he grows and as our family grows. I come from a large family of 6 sisters and 3 brother. There was fighting all the time, but my mum did a great job helping us work through it with singing primary songs. To this day my mum does this with all her grandchildren; I now find myself doing this with my sons. I normally don’t comment on videos but you and your family are such great examples to me. Keep staying true to yourself!
To create unity in my family I became mindful of my moods. Any time my mood isn’t the best I will take a step back and either go to my room to decompress and once I realized how much I’m missing out on I settle down and then go back to spend time with my family. It has helped our my family tremendously.
After church on every Sunday, out of my four family members, each of us switch off and taking turns for choosing a different restaurant each time. Even if one of us chooses something that someone else in our family doesn’t like, we still have to remember to take turns and be appreciative that we are together and can spend time talking a restaurant all together.
I love this!! I’m single with no kids, but I will say that because of the masters program I’m in (forensic psychology) and the persons counseling I’ve been doing, there’s a lot I’ve been working on with myself and my family. One of the biggest things is I’m trying to reverse the effects of intergenerational trauma in my family, so I’ve started having conversations about mental health more, how trauma has affected all of us, how we don’t talk about trauma and almost deny it, and just trying to start to have those conversations, while teaching how to set healthy boundaries. I’ve started to see a huge difference already, and I’m grateful that they’ve been so supportive.
Something our family struggles a lot on is kindness to each other and one way I think we can fix that is by being kind to each other and spending more time as family rather than being at each other’s throats and yelling at each other. Something good we like to do is spend time with the gospel and so going to church helps us calm down a lot. I love you guys so much you’re such a big influence on her family!
I teach dance classes at my local community center and we start each class with a question-of-the-day or check-in. Even the littlest ones who are 3 years old learn to be fully present and listen to what their peers have to say without interrupting. Although it takes up some of our class time, I've found it to be a great way to encourage them to respectfully listen just for the sake of listening and connecting. It definitely helps my quieter ones to feel seen and heard when they have their own uninterrupted time to speak. For my older girls, it's become a time for them to share anything that may be stressing them out and to seek support from their friends in a non-judgmental atmosphere. I love my job and every single one of the kiddos I meet!
In our family we have a chart and when we reach a certain amount of stars we get a prize. We also have constant family meetings, discussing our thoughts and how much we appreciate being a part of our family.
I absolutely love this idea! Im a teacher too and think this is brilliant!!! In our classroom we have the 'jar of peace ' its so much fun the kids love it! So all week long the learners in the class are adding people they think are really good peacemakers all week long. Theyre told to really think about who they want to choose. Its now evolved and little thank you messages to other learners are added. At the end of the week I bake a surprise cake or doughnuts or bring something special and who evers name gets called out the most gets to take home the treat or chooses to eat it with their classmates at school. It has really worked for my class and im finding that its made everyone more aware of how words can hurt others. The children also love hearing me read out the little thank yous. Sometimes we forget to say thank you and mean it so little notes do the trick
In our family when we fight we don’t go do something to make everyone happy we just genuinely and rawly tell each we’re sorry and we love each other I feel that that really is the best way to make up with someone and even make there day :) also I say this on a lot of your videos but can we agree everyone in this family is absolutely stunning on the surface and in the heart! To any one reading God loves you no matter what!
One thing I've been doing recently is having conversations and keeping up to date with everyone's life and problems. Being open and taking is a huge factor and being aware is essential. I love your videos and family, thanks for sharing!!
I love being an aunt, it’s my favourite thing and I adore spending time with them all! I’ve been teaching my newest niece recently about kindness, she’s just recently learned bless you and has been wishing people a good day in shops, I believe a little kindness goes a long way. This gifts would go to her so I could spend more time with her and show her how loved she is. Also to reward her for her continued kindness❤️ Your family is beautiful by the way and I think your continued showing of kindness and respect that you all spread throughout your days is incredible, thank you for always putting a smile on our faces❤️x
There are 8 of us in my family so arguing is a daily occurrence. Some of us are homeschooled which has kept us closer but we still have arguments. Something that helps us work together and stay unified is cleaning together. We have “cleaning parties” where we all spend 5 mins in each room cleaning and then we move on to the next room until the main house is done. This gives each of us an opportunity to use our own skills to pull together and keep a tidy home. My sisters and I also enjoy cooking together and cleaning our brothers room when he’s at school because it can be hard coming home to a messy room after a long day. Just remember, little gestures matter and can make one’s day. Btw I really enjoy watching y’all especially your deep cleaning and grwm videos!😁💓
In my family at dinner we all say the highs and lows for our day. We really express how we feel, and at that time if we realize that somebody has had a really bad day, we will all work through it together. My mom also gives out mental health days. So how that works is that each kid in our family gets one day per semester to stay home and do what they want and need to do, and to let out their feelings. We are only allowed to use this day if we really need it, so I try my hardest not to just use it right away! I hope this helps! Bye 👋
for my family, there are 7 strong-willed, last word, extremely difficult kids. Though there are only four, soon to be 3, kids left, they still somehow find a way to make it the most difficult possible. However, for our family, the best way to keep unity is to take a break and remind yourself that not everything is offensive and against you. It's also important to keep thoughts to yourself if they or negative or could even remotely be taken in the wrong direction. The oldest two used to fight like cats and dogs in a bag left in a downpour in an alleyway. But now they're best friends, by just simply minding what they say and apologizing. That is how WE keep unity.
Love this idea. I am actually doing your new "mom" chore plan and it seems to be working pretty good. We are a foster/adoptive family as well. What we have found is modeling (reminding) the good behaviors has worked the best. Caught being good worked really good for awhile too.
U all very lucky do have a nice big family always happy 😊my mom just hit me plus my sister and I’m crying but I’m happy a little now because I hav em all being so happy!😭always be happy never let anyone down that believes in u🥳😔
I think spending time together as a family helps with keeping the unity. And that everyone listens to each other and respect different opinions even though you don’t agree.
i really wanna start a family youtube channel like you guys i love your video's and i subscribed with the bell on LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
we do a family activity every week where we all sit together on the couch (even with our puppy hahah) and talk about anything that bothered us or made us sad this week and express our feelings. It helped us understand each other more and connect on an emotional level. it doesn't seem like much but it really helps us unite as a family, especially during the hard time our country is passing by :/
My family always stayed on our phones for way too long. So we discussed some fun things we can do every night whether it’s playing a game or just talking to each other. It has made our family a fun and loving environment.
In our family, We are going to sit down every day and communicate with each other express our feelings and chose one activity each day to do with our family. Btw I love you not enough Nelson’s you are so entertaining and fun to watch. 💕💕💕
I really want to try this with my second graders. We already have a compliment chain that they have to work together for, but we’ve reached the time of the school year when everyone is tired of each other and kids start fighting and tattling. This is a great incentive for them!
What an amazing way to unite your family!! I also have a big family. I would like to incorporate this activity in our family. I did think of 3 to 4 ways but the one i love the most is taking out some time and spending it with your family everyday, telling each other about their day, and if someone is going through a hard dime helping them out. I would also like to do something on sundays that is a fun activity which eevyone will enjoy and calm them down like painting or board games. Spending quality time is the key to uniting your family. I would also love to win this giveaway kit as it will help us make our activities more fun. I really love watching your videos. Hopefully i win this!! Lots of love!!
In our family! If we get in a fight or a disagree we normally go and snuggle on the sofa and and talk about everything! After that we watch the TV -like a movie,TV show really anything the peace maker prize would light up our faces even more 🎉goodluck to anyone who wins it❤🎉😊
We do a combination of your No Fit Friday, and @JordanPage’s ticket system. We have 8 adoptive/foster kids (I’m 28 and my husband is 26). We realized that every Friday was too often for our kiddos, so they get tickets for different things each week (positivity, remembering Bible verses, being helpful, etc) and we let them “shop” from the reward cabinet ever few months.
@@naleablack232 I know plenty of single foster moms 😉. If you go to Jordan Page’s channel and look at her recent videos you’ll find her video on their family store. She explains their ticket system. We do a hybrid version of that, and what the Nelson’s do because we have a variety of behaviors/challenges we address through these systems. We started with No Fit Friday because our sibling group of 6 came to us with an abundance of trauma. And they would have incredible meltdowns. So we used that as a tool to dwindle those down and it worked! But it became too easy for them so we switched it up a little and added more goals in.
I grew up with a large family. I have 11 siblings. And I can honestly say that my siblings are my best friends! My Mom and Dad always taught me growing up, that for better for worse your siblings are your siblings for the rest of your lives and you need to stand up for them and respect them. I think also realizing that your sibling is not your enemy. It's very easy to get caught up in who's right and wrong but to simply just remember you're all on the same team. Just to clarify when I was growing up it wasn't perfect we had our times but I love my siblings.
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In my family there is 5 people so I feel that building trust with each other is a great start. since the kids have a lot of after school activities and us parents are not always home because of work, we tend to have a nice dinner as a family on a Sunday night where we share what we are greatful for and we can discuss some of the really fun things that have happened in the past week or that are going to happen. I truly believe that bringing unity to your family can make an incredible difference and this seems to be a great thing that you guys are doing.
I think having family meetings and open talks about your day would be a great way to keep track of things and keep calm! Also having a family group chat could help a lot! I really hope I get the prize! 🥰🥰🥰
At the beginning of each day with my five kids I want to make it a habit/routine of getting up blasting some praise music and dance around and worship the lord together before our say starts so we start off on the right foot :)
What my Family does is that we take a kid that was really good and respectful that week out of school at lunch time and they get to go out a eat with their mom or dad and get something from like target that they get to pick out. Your ideas are amazing too. I will defiantly have to start my own no fit Friday box.
My husband and myself currently have 7 grandchildren. When they come to stay with us we have what we call no electronic hour after dinner. Instead we spend quality time together weather it be coloring drawing playing with play dough and they're interacting with each other. I'm glad we've had this implemented in our home, our grandchildren are making meaningful memories with their grandfather who is losing his battle with angiosarcoma stage 4 cancer. I grew up in a home of 12 children including myself and my parents never did anything like this.
What I like to do as a family, is spend one on one time. I have noticed that if I strengthen the individual relationship, then it has a profound impact on the family unit as a whole. Celebrating the individual by going on a fun shopping date or out for brunch is what we love to do - and then coming together at the end of the day. Also just listening and inviting all thoughts to the table has proven to strengthen the bond as well. Great video, keep going 💗💗💗✨
I also love your videos they always brighten my days and I love how your family gets together in the mornings and spends time with the Lord and would really love to start doing that with my family. Thank y’all so much y’all are the best!
We make sure we have one family activity together each day even if that is a quick 5 minute game. We also encourage another child to help when someone is needing help instead of just mom or dad doing it. I love this no fit Friday idea and think it will really help with some things we are trying to work on with our kids!
My family has an unwritten law that we all have to eat dinner together every night. I’m away in college now so I have less of a chance to do that and really miss it- so any time that I’m home, I savour the time with my family so much more 💖💖
Our family loves to go on holidays and walks to increase our unity in my family. I have always wanted to win a prize on RUclips and my chance is now you guys are the best!
I have 3 under 3 so I’m currently trying to instill this mentality into my toddlers! We like to take time to teach our 3 and 1.5 year old how to help each other with “chores” (picking up clothes, picking up toys, throwing away diapers). We find that when they’re helpful to each other they learn to express their big feelings better.
I love u guys so much, I will probably have a conversation with my parents about this idea, you guys come up with best ideas, in my family we get in a circle and get a soft ball and we either say something u like about someone or something to say sorry and then throw it to them :) ♥️
With my 5 children we do what we call "praises" at the end of each day. As the parents we choose something from the day that each child did that stand out as praise worthy, then we say it to everyone at bed time and everyone claps or cheers for that person. 👍🏼😆💕
In my family, doing things together always makes us feel more together. When everyone gets home from school we all go to our activities and never have the chance to talk or hang out together. I think we should make time every week or every few days to have special time together and get to do something fun as a family. Thank you guys! I love your channel and your content is so fun and I learn so much!! I especially love your teen girl videos!
I think it's always nice when siblings acknowledge each other's positive attributes. Every week you could pair them with another sibling (so it would be 5 pairs of siblings) and they have to share 3 positive attributes of each other and also share something good or nice the other sibling did that week. Every week change the pair of sibling so after 5 weeks they all have had a different siblings tell them their positive traits or attributes and share a nice story about them. I'm sorry for my english 🤦🏼♀️. I hope I was able to translate in my mind what I wanted to say and hopefully i was able to say what I wanted 🤭😄
Emma Grace (7) wants me to put that we want to start “yoga-ing” but we have nothing to do it with. 😂 Seriously, though, we currently have 10 kids between 2 and 15 in our home, so conflict abounds! We’re learning to 1) Slow down and breathe before reacting, 2) Give others the grace that we want them to give us, and 3) Understand that everyone is learning and growing. But it’s hard! I love the Peacemaker reward idea!!!
In my family we have a lot of kids. Most of them are in the age of 12-18 so they don't get along very well. We decided to start a family game night where we all lock up our phones and electronics and play board games or any family activities. This has worked out really well for the past few months and I hope that is continues to spread positive joy around our family and other families.
A big problem in our family was the usage of phones, tablets, TVs, game counsels, ext.. so once a week, we put our electronics in a basket and we spend the day as a family. Going on walks, watching a family movie, playing some board games. It helped all of us value the family more and it helps give everybody a little break from social media and online things going on. ❤️
I love this idea!! I don't have any kids of my own, but I am always watching my nieces and nephew. My nephew has a hard time listening to what I ask him to do or stop doing because it is not nice. I think a Peacemaker or No Fit treat box would be a good reward/reminder for him to behave and listen to me when I'm babysitting. I'm hoping with a peacemaker treat box he will behave better and listen to me when I ask him to stop or pick up his toys. I love watching your videos and all your kids grow up!
We like to spend time together. It can be playing games, snuggling watching a movie, going for a walk, baking cookies, reading and anything as long as we are together. We make it a point to spend time together ❤
Something we do as a family is have family study every week we’re we analyze different things from the Bible and try to practice this every day wherever we are. It is awesome that you as parents try so hard to keep the unity and peace in such a big family and don’t just give up. BEAUTIFUL FAM!
In our family, when my parents feel as though we are not all trying or doing our best to stay united, they temporarily take away our electronics and they allow us to take the car (I can drive, 18) and go out for an afternoon and do whatever we want as long as it’s within budget (varies depending on how good we’ve been) and then we have a sleepover in the basement together and have a movie night! And it’s been working very well for us and this has been going on for about 2 years now.
Hello Nelson’s, you guys are amazing people. You help so many people in this world feel happy, I hope you always know that. You are all beautiful, kind, and special in your own way. I hope you see this, and never forget this message. Thank you for everything that your videos have done for me.
Personally my family and I have talked a lot about doing more yoga and fitness as a family to keep our mental health ok and boost our mind set in order to have better positive days! I really appreciate this idea of no fit Friday as it finalised our idea to start being the best person we can be xx Thank you so much Biggest fan Sophia xxx
One thing my family has been trying recently is having a conversation every night to just check in on how we are doing that day. Also in the morning we write down a goal for yourself and if we complete it we don't get anything because we want to show that when you help someone out or do a nice thing, that is a reward enough. But for my younger siblings that is a hard concept to grasp so i think the box would be really helpful for them because they are reward motivated.
To enter giveaway- I think something in my family that could def help would be to put out daily reminders as verses of something that were struggling with or doing good at and relate it back to a verse. So that Jesus/God can be the anchor of everything we’re doing to help spread peace within our family. I love you guys so much! I talk abt your channel so much and your fam was the very first fam I ever subbed to! Love you guys have a blessed day! 🥰✝️😘😘
I love the being a peacemaker idea! I dislike conflict so I really struggle when my kids are fighting! I'm going to use the peacemaking idea with my older child! I think she can understand it. My littlest guy (age 2) is still learning, but it's good to start now! I try to encourage my oldest (age 7) to be a teacher for her younger brother and to help him to learn to be a good person. We also always pray as a family together before bed. We thank God for each other and for his love and we apologize for any wrong choices we made 🙏. We always say I love you at night before bed too!
In our family, if something is going wrong we try to take a break from the situation. Instead of continuing the argument, simply removing yourself and then revisiting in 24 hours if you’re still bothered is always a great strategy. This is referred to as the 24 hour rule. Most of the time after 24 hours you won’t care anymore.
In our family we have to hug it out. If we have all been good then we get a Starbucks at the end of the week. This makes us work together to not argue so this shows us how to be peacemakers and how to work together. *I also wanted to tell you that I have ADHD and I have gotten into many more arguments with my siblings. I am sure you already know this but as Beckham gets older you might start to see him get into more arguments with people. This was super hard for me because my parents just thought I was a “trouble maker” when in reality it was much harder for me to control then other people. Just keep that in mind as Beckham gets older.
Have a positive affirmation jar. When they get home from school each child picks out a slip of paper and has to watch for someone to do something good. Write down what they did. Share them at the dinner table the next day. That way they are looking for positives in each other. Gives paper to mom when done.....also teach learning to disagree respectfully. There are on line classes, age appropriate
With my family if we get into an arrangement or disagreement we love to go on a long walk and talk about what happend in our day that made us feel bad . And something I would like to start doing is have a movie night or go out to dinner if we all get along for a long period of time . I love you guys so much your amazing as a RUclipsr and teach me so much everyday x
I think that a game night can really help, some arguments start because people are stressed and get irritated easily, so a game night can really calm everyone and to have fun together ❣️
In our family, if we get in a fight or argument we watch a family movie or play a game together. It really brings our family together and after the movie or the game we talk about the fight and sort it all out.a (Sometimes) all the negative energy is gone! Love your videos! ❤️
Maybe by having a positive wall or a positive book so everyone writes some think positive if they don’t fell like writing they can make a painting or a drawing so when ever someone down they go to the wall/book and feel a whole lot better in my room I got a wall with all my painting and drawings so when I am having a bad day I look at that wall which makes me feel a whole lot better I love your channel hope your no fit friday works ❤️
A great way to make peace is to say stuff you love about each other! It would be a great idea when u get in fights to remember to love one another! Also say what you admire, appreciate and love about each other! I hope u like this idea your videos are so uplifting and make me happy!
I want with our family a better bond. We usually get in to fight everyday which we want to improve,so when we get into a fight we put all of our electronics into a box,and we go sit down and talk if there is any problem or is there anything we can do to make our life or our relationships better usually it takes us for 1 or 2 hours to get comfortable to talk and get into it but we try and explain after the talk we give each other's a big family hug and go out we dress up nice and go out for dinner and the next day we have learned our lesson,as you said we have to make peace and dont be determined to win a conversation,a fight or other thing I have definitely have been into many fight with my family but we do this ritual to keep us attached together,and last thing I also have a big family 10 people alltogether I love your content it pure wonderful.
Don’t know if I can still participate but i don’t lose anything commenting! And it helps your channel :> so in my family we are passing in some rough times so we sometimes see a movie and have some take out dinner so we can pass time with each other! : D
Every time a child fights or makes a mean remark to another child they have to think and say 5 nice things about each other! It makes them really think about the good times and fun they have had together! Love your Channel and Family!!
Love your vid and your the best youtubers, we sit and we talk about how our day was and ask what sad happend and just help to improve our family strenght and just tell each other everthing and we have some alone time just to relax en breath we also say sorry and we try not to say someting mean because if you don't have something nice to say don't say something we also try to be nice and say (your hair looks beautiful ) even when your mad and even if you did'nt star the fight just say sorry sometimes something maybe happen at school and then you say someting not to be mean and they think you were mean but you did'nt mean it , I think what you did was amazing and ń good idea love your vid sooooooooooo much and can't wait for your next vid
In our family when we have arguments or disagreements, we usually have a family day of fun and that gives us all time to regroup and come together!! ❤️
Great question! Were learning unity and I will create unity by having fair time, keeping everyone calm. Creating unity would be hard and i will work hard to create unity between my family and classmates, well ive learned that to be united then i would also comfort everyone whose feeling down, even if we have had our differences. I know some prizes are for youngers so i would be glad to donate them to charity! Have a good day y'all
In my family we make sure that we always eat our evening meal together round the table and as a family we talk about our day or what we have coming up the next day. At the weekend we also have certain special tv shows we always watch together and we’ll all sit around the sofas together and watch the shows and have a laugh to spread joy and happiness to each other 🥰🥰
In my family if we get into fights and another bad stuff at the end of the day we sit down and talk about what we can do to make it better and prey to our lord to keep us together and for the next day to be better than the past💝💝😇
You are such a great parent and I strive to be like you and your family someday, hoping for a full recovery for me so I’ll be able to have kids soon❤️ you have such great ideas/tips and tricks☺️
Hello Nelsons! I love my family but me and my brother is argue a lot!!!! I would love to stop that! To do that I would love to spend more time to him and have fun with him so see can bring a stronger relationship! I love your videos and you have inspired me to do this with my brother! Thank you!
One way to hold peace in my family, is by realizing what having peace in your home can do. A peaceful home is a home that you can look forward to coming home to, a peaceful home is a place full of love, full of the people who most care about you. One you really understand that, your home will grow more peaceful.
I think the best way we create family unity is by praying together. Another one that we like to do is to all cook a meal together and then eat it together. I have a toddler so this is a fun activity for all of us!
In my family, fighting between the kids was a daily problem. And now, to help them come down when they are aggressive and not in a good mood, we have a rowing machine, so that every time they are not balanced throughout the day they can sit on the machine for some time and just let all bad mood out. And another positive side effect ist that they do sports😉 love you nen fam😘
We have family movie and family game night on Fridays😊! I feel like it's a great way to start the weekend ! 😊 My older brother and sister are adopted but, my parents treated us all the same ! They were always so supportive,So I try to do the same for my kids! 😊
In our family, if we get into an argument or disagree on something we always either have a movie night as a family or go out to eat as a way of spending time together to remember that we are family and we love each other. We have a really busy household and my mum works nights and my dad works during the day with all 3 of us kids in school or college. So we don’t spend an awful lot of time together. Movie nights or eating out are definitely some of the things that happen in our family to help show that we love each other no matter what! ❤️
This sounds amazing
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That’s super amazing!
Wow that sounds amazing! In my family if we have an argument we all go to our rooms and don't talk to eachother until the next day and if it is really bad, maybe for a couple of days...
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I'm a student teacher so I'm going to adapt this for keeping the unity in my classroom. Having a calming, love for learning environment to allow children to express themselves freely. Leading by example so that the children feel mutually respected and empowered to be free-thinkers and thought-provokers ! I'd love to use this prize in my classroom and encorporate peacemaker prizes.
Love that!
I love this
Do a family game night with out fighting
Love this .i believe teachers are a huge part of kids lives growing up so i truly love when teachers do as much as they can in their classroom ❤️
I love these type of connection. You have a good point!
My family is quit small with my husband and our two boys, Mavryck-Kash(5) and Oakland-Rey(6 months), but we’re already try to get into the habit of working together,such as, cleaning the family room, bedrooms, laundry, and taking care of the pets. We hope that setting a weekly family goal, for example, helping an other family or donating, will help our oldest son become more christ like and be an example to our youngest as he grows and as our family grows. I come from a large family of 6 sisters and 3 brother. There was fighting all the time, but my mum did a great job helping us work through it with singing primary songs. To this day my mum does this with all her grandchildren; I now find myself doing this with my sons.
I normally don’t comment on videos but you and your family are such great examples to me. Keep staying true to yourself!
To create unity in my family I became mindful of my moods. Any time my mood isn’t the best I will take a step back and either go to my room to decompress and once I realized how much I’m missing out on I settle down and then go back to spend time with my family. It has helped our my family tremendously.
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After church on every Sunday, out of my four family members, each of us switch off and taking turns for choosing a different restaurant each time. Even if one of us chooses something that someone else in our family doesn’t like, we still have to remember to take turns and be appreciative that we are together and can spend time talking a restaurant all together.
I love this!! I’m single with no kids, but I will say that because of the masters program I’m in (forensic psychology) and the persons counseling I’ve been doing, there’s a lot I’ve been working on with myself and my family. One of the biggest things is I’m trying to reverse the effects of intergenerational trauma in my family, so I’ve started having conversations about mental health more, how trauma has affected all of us, how we don’t talk about trauma and almost deny it, and just trying to start to have those conversations, while teaching how to set healthy boundaries. I’ve started to see a huge difference already, and I’m grateful that they’ve been so supportive.
you and benji are such amazing parents! you have raised wonderful children!
Thank you so much!
Something our family struggles a lot on is kindness to each other and one way I think we can fix that is by being kind to each other and spending more time as family rather than being at each other’s throats and yelling at each other. Something good we like to do is spend time with the gospel and so going to church helps us calm down a lot. I love you guys so much you’re such a big influence on her family!
I teach dance classes at my local community center and we start each class with a question-of-the-day or check-in. Even the littlest ones who are 3 years old learn to be fully present and listen to what their peers have to say without interrupting. Although it takes up some of our class time, I've found it to be a great way to encourage them to respectfully listen just for the sake of listening and connecting. It definitely helps my quieter ones to feel seen and heard when they have their own uninterrupted time to speak. For my older girls, it's become a time for them to share anything that may be stressing them out and to seek support from their friends in a non-judgmental atmosphere. I love my job and every single one of the kiddos I meet!
In our family we have a chart and when we reach a certain amount of stars we get a prize. We also have constant family meetings, discussing our thoughts and how much we appreciate being a part of our family.
I absolutely love this idea! Im a teacher too and think this is brilliant!!! In our classroom we have the 'jar of peace ' its so much fun the kids love it! So all week long the learners in the class are adding people they think are really good peacemakers all week long. Theyre told to really think about who they want to choose. Its now evolved and little thank you messages to other learners are added.
At the end of the week I bake a surprise cake or doughnuts or bring something special and who evers name gets called out the most gets to take home the treat or chooses to eat it with their classmates at school. It has really worked for my class and im finding that its made everyone more aware of how words can hurt others. The children also love hearing me read out the little thank yous. Sometimes we forget to say thank you and mean it so little notes do the trick
At the beginning Nayee and leadger look so cute together 😂❤❤❤
In our family when we fight we don’t go do something to make everyone happy we just genuinely and rawly tell each we’re sorry and we love each other I feel that that really is the best way to make up with someone and even make there day :) also I say this on a lot of your videos but can we agree everyone in this family is absolutely stunning on the surface and in the heart! To any one reading God loves you no matter what!
Amen
Whenever we fight we go to fiesta fun or Applebee’s
One thing I've been doing recently is having conversations and keeping up to date with everyone's life and problems. Being open and taking is a huge factor and being aware is essential. I love your videos and family, thanks for sharing!!
I love being an aunt, it’s my favourite thing and I adore spending time with them all! I’ve been teaching my newest niece recently about kindness, she’s just recently learned bless you and has been wishing people a good day in shops, I believe a little kindness goes a long way. This gifts would go to her so I could spend more time with her and show her how loved she is. Also to reward her for her continued kindness❤️ Your family is beautiful by the way and I think your continued showing of kindness and respect that you all spread throughout your days is incredible, thank you for always putting a smile on our faces❤️x
Can we just take a moment to appreciate how much Tiffany spends not just money but time on this video.
Can't imagine having 16 kids!🙁
I love your family and I love how organized you are with 10 kids you make my day ❤️
There are 8 of us in my family so arguing is a daily occurrence. Some of us are homeschooled which has kept us closer but we still have arguments. Something that helps us work together and stay unified is cleaning together. We have “cleaning parties” where we all spend 5 mins in each room cleaning and then we move on to the next room until the main house is done. This gives each of us an opportunity to use our own skills to pull together and keep a tidy home. My sisters and I also enjoy cooking together and cleaning our brothers room when he’s at school because it can be hard coming home to a messy room after a long day. Just remember, little gestures matter and can make one’s day. Btw I really enjoy watching y’all especially your deep cleaning and grwm videos!😁💓
In my family at dinner we all say the highs and lows for our day. We really express how we feel, and at that time if we realize that somebody has had a really bad day, we will all work through it together. My mom also gives out mental health days. So how that works is that each kid in our family gets one day per semester to stay home and do what they want and need to do, and to let out their feelings. We are only allowed to use this day if we really need it, so I try my hardest not to just use it right away! I hope this helps! Bye 👋
Same!!!
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for my family, there are 7 strong-willed, last word, extremely difficult kids. Though there are only four, soon to be 3, kids left, they still somehow find a way to make it the most difficult possible. However, for our family, the best way to keep unity is to take a break and remind yourself that not everything is offensive and against you. It's also important to keep thoughts to yourself if they or negative or could even remotely be taken in the wrong direction. The oldest two used to fight like cats and dogs in a bag left in a downpour in an alleyway. But now they're best friends, by just simply minding what they say and apologizing. That is how WE keep unity.
Love this idea. I am actually doing your new "mom" chore plan and it seems to be working pretty good. We are a foster/adoptive family as well. What we have found is modeling (reminding) the good behaviors has worked the best. Caught being good worked really good for awhile too.
I love this idea! We've been having fighting issues between my 8 kids and I LOVE the idea of focusing on being the peacemaker!
I am doing our fhe lesson being a peacemaker tonight. Thanks for the idea!
U all very lucky do have a nice big family always happy 😊my mom just hit me plus my sister and I’m crying but I’m happy a little now because I hav em all being so happy!😭always be happy never let anyone down that believes in u🥳😔
I think spending time together as a family helps with keeping the unity. And that everyone listens to each other and respect different opinions even though you don’t agree.
your right but I never do that with my parents all ways go to school or to the mall and never go anywere so I like staying in and have to much stress
I would love to have a “family fun day” where your family does fun stuff all day! Like go swimming, go on a bike ride, or go get ice cream! 🥳🥳🥳
That sounds so much fun right now outside it’s way too cold where I live
i really wanna start a family youtube channel like you guys i love your video's and i subscribed with the bell on LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
we do a family activity every week where we all sit together on the couch (even with our puppy hahah) and talk about anything that bothered us or made us sad this week and express our feelings. It helped us understand each other more and connect on an emotional level. it doesn't seem like much but it really helps us unite as a family, especially during the hard time our country is passing by :/
My family always stayed on our phones for way too long. So we discussed some fun things we can do every night whether it’s playing a game or just talking to each other. It has made our family a fun and loving environment.
I grew up in the 1970s we didn't have electronics.I was happy when Atari finally came out lol.We were outside playing until.the street lights came on.
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We are going to sit down every day and communicate with each other express our feelings and chose one activity each day to do with our family. Btw I love you not enough Nelson’s you are so entertaining and fun to watch. 💕💕💕
I really want to try this with my second graders. We already have a compliment chain that they have to work together for, but we’ve reached the time of the school year when everyone is tired of each other and kids start fighting and tattling. This is a great incentive for them!
What an amazing way to unite your family!! I also have a big family. I would like to incorporate this activity in our family. I did think of 3 to 4 ways but the one i love the most is taking out some time and spending it with your family everyday, telling each other about their day, and if someone is going through a hard dime helping them out. I would also like to do something on sundays that is a fun activity which eevyone will enjoy and calm them down like painting or board games. Spending quality time is the key to uniting your family. I would also love to win this giveaway kit as it will help us make our activities more fun. I really love watching your videos. Hopefully i win this!! Lots of love!!
In our family! If we get in a fight or a disagree we normally go and snuggle on the sofa and and talk about everything! After that we watch the TV -like a movie,TV show really anything the peace maker prize would light up our faces even more 🎉goodluck to anyone who wins it❤🎉😊
We do a combination of your No Fit Friday, and @JordanPage’s ticket system. We have 8 adoptive/foster kids (I’m 28 and my husband is 26). We realized that every Friday was too often for our kiddos, so they get tickets for different things each week (positivity, remembering Bible verses, being helpful, etc) and we let them “shop” from the reward cabinet ever few months.
Why did you comment from 2 different pages?
@@kels0jade6 I didn’t. It looks like someone copied my comment. That comment was 30 minutes after mine.
What’s the ticket thing? How awesome of you to take in foster kids. That was one of our dreams but my hubby unexpectedly passed away 4 years ago.
@@naleablack232 I know plenty of single foster moms 😉.
If you go to Jordan Page’s channel and look at her recent videos you’ll find her video on their family store. She explains their ticket system. We do a hybrid version of that, and what the Nelson’s do because we have a variety of behaviors/challenges we address through these systems. We started with No Fit Friday because our sibling group of 6 came to us with an abundance of trauma. And they would have incredible meltdowns. So we used that as a tool to dwindle those down and it worked! But it became too easy for them so we switched it up a little and added more goals in.
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I grew up with a large family. I have 11 siblings. And I can honestly say that my siblings are my best friends! My Mom and Dad always taught me growing up, that for better for worse your siblings are your siblings for the rest of your lives and you need to stand up for them and respect them. I think also realizing that your sibling is not your enemy. It's very easy to get caught up in who's right and wrong but to simply just remember you're all on the same team. Just to clarify when I was growing up it wasn't perfect we had our times but I love my siblings.
Jeaaah exactly it’s alsome a part of being simblings fitting is normale but at the end and when jour a lil older jou wilrelly apriciaat jour siblingsngs
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Never ever stop making vid I love it and hope you see this comment and show it to every one and tell them that I send my love❤🍉
In my family there is 5 people so I feel that building trust with each other is a great start. since the kids have a lot of after school activities and us parents are not always home because of work, we tend to have a nice dinner as a family on a Sunday night where we share what we are greatful for and we can discuss some of the really fun things that have happened in the past week or that are going to happen. I truly believe that bringing unity to your family can make an incredible difference and this seems to be a great thing that you guys are doing.
I think having family meetings and open talks about your day would be a great way to keep track of things and keep calm! Also having a family group chat could help a lot! I really hope I get the prize! 🥰🥰🥰
At the beginning of each day with my five kids I want to make it a habit/routine of getting up blasting some praise music and dance around and worship the lord together before our say starts so we start off on the right foot :)
What my Family does is that we take a kid that was really good and respectful that week out of school at lunch time and they get to go out a eat with their mom or dad and get something from like target that they get to pick out. Your ideas are amazing too. I will defiantly have to start my own no fit Friday box.
My husband and myself currently have 7 grandchildren. When they come to stay with us we have what we call no electronic hour after dinner. Instead we spend quality time together weather it be coloring drawing playing with play dough and they're interacting with each other. I'm glad we've had this implemented in our home, our grandchildren are making meaningful memories with their grandfather who is losing his battle with angiosarcoma stage 4 cancer. I grew up in a home of 12 children including myself and my parents never did anything like this.
I'm so sorry for your husband I hope he can make the most of his last days
I wish you the best I will pray for your husband
Your family is so generous😊🐾🐈
I think one thing you could do is all give compliments to each other to create unity. Love your channel!
What I like to do as a family, is spend one on one time. I have noticed that if I strengthen the individual relationship, then it has a profound impact on the family unit as a whole. Celebrating the individual by going on a fun shopping date or out for brunch is what we love to do - and then coming together at the end of the day. Also just listening and inviting all thoughts to the table has proven to strengthen the bond as well. Great video, keep going 💗💗💗✨
I also love your videos they always brighten my days and I love how your family gets together in the mornings and spends time with the Lord and would really love to start doing that with my family. Thank y’all so much y’all are the best!
We make sure we have one family activity together each day even if that is a quick 5 minute game. We also encourage another child to help when someone is needing help instead of just mom or dad doing it. I love this no fit Friday idea and think it will really help with some things we are trying to work on with our kids!
My family has an unwritten law that we all have to eat dinner together every night. I’m away in college now so I have less of a chance to do that and really miss it- so any time that I’m home, I savour the time with my family so much more 💖💖
Our family loves to go on holidays and walks to increase our unity in my family. I have always wanted to win a prize on RUclips and my chance is now you guys are the best!
I have 3 under 3 so I’m currently trying to instill this mentality into my toddlers! We like to take time to teach our 3 and 1.5 year old how to help each other with “chores” (picking up clothes, picking up toys, throwing away diapers). We find that when they’re helpful to each other they learn to express their big feelings better.
Best idea ever!! we’re a large foster family out in Cali! This is going to save our summer 😀. Love your family videos.
I love u guys so much, I will probably have a conversation with my parents about this idea, you guys come up with best ideas, in my family we get in a circle and get a soft ball and we either say something u like about someone or something to say sorry and then throw it to them :) ♥️
With my 5 children we do what we call "praises" at the end of each day. As the parents we choose something from the day that each child did that stand out as praise worthy, then we say it to everyone at bed time and everyone claps or cheers for that person. 👍🏼😆💕
In my family, doing things together always makes us feel more together. When everyone gets home from school we all go to our activities and never have the chance to talk or hang out together. I think we should make time every week or every few days to have special time together and get to do something fun as a family. Thank you guys! I love your channel and your content is so fun and I learn so much!! I especially love your teen girl videos!
I think it's always nice when siblings acknowledge each other's positive attributes. Every week you could pair them with another sibling (so it would be 5 pairs of siblings) and they have to share 3 positive attributes of each other and also share something good or nice the other sibling did that week. Every week change the pair of sibling so after 5 weeks they all have had a different siblings tell them their positive traits or attributes and share a nice story about them. I'm sorry for my english 🤦🏼♀️. I hope I was able to translate in my mind what I wanted to say and hopefully i was able to say what I wanted 🤭😄
Emma Grace (7) wants me to put that we want to start “yoga-ing” but we have nothing to do it with. 😂 Seriously, though, we currently have 10 kids between 2 and 15 in our home, so conflict abounds! We’re learning to 1) Slow down and breathe before reacting, 2) Give others the grace that we want them to give us, and 3) Understand that everyone is learning and growing. But it’s hard! I love the Peacemaker reward idea!!!
In my family we have a lot of kids. Most of them are in the age of 12-18 so they don't get along very well. We decided to start a family game night where we all lock up our phones and electronics and play board games or any family activities. This has worked out really well for the past few months and I hope that is continues to spread positive joy around our family and other families.
I really like this, I wish my family was a bit bigger so playing board games wasnt as fast or as slow as they can be
A big problem in our family was the usage of phones, tablets, TVs, game counsels, ext.. so once a week, we put our electronics in a basket and we spend the day as a family. Going on walks, watching a family movie, playing some board games. It helped all of us value the family more and it helps give everybody a little break from social media and online things going on. ❤️
I would love to have a “family nature day” where we can go explore different trails and go hike and ride bikes and play outside
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That would be so fun!
I would love to have a family food day where we eat any kind of food
@@hafsasiraj omg yes-
I love this idea!! I don't have any kids of my own, but I am always watching my nieces and nephew. My nephew has a hard time listening to what I ask him to do or stop doing because it is not nice. I think a Peacemaker or No Fit treat box would be a good reward/reminder for him to behave and listen to me when I'm babysitting. I'm hoping with a peacemaker treat box he will behave better and listen to me when I ask him to stop or pick up his toys. I love watching your videos and all your kids grow up!
We like to spend time together. It can be playing games, snuggling watching a movie, going for a walk, baking cookies, reading and anything as long as we are together. We make it a point to spend time together ❤
Something we do as a family is have family study every week we’re we analyze different things from the Bible and try to practice this every day wherever we are.
It is awesome that you as parents try so hard to keep the unity and peace in such a big family and don’t just give up. BEAUTIFUL FAM!
In our family, when my parents feel as though we are not all trying or doing our best to stay united, they temporarily take away our electronics and they allow us to take the car (I can drive, 18) and go out for an afternoon and do whatever we want as long as it’s within budget (varies depending on how good we’ve been) and then we have a sleepover in the basement together and have a movie night! And it’s been working very well for us and this has been going on for about 2 years now.
Hello Nelson’s, you guys are amazing people. You help so many people in this world feel happy, I hope you always know that. You are all beautiful, kind, and special in your own way. I hope you see this, and never forget this message. Thank you for everything that your videos have done for me.
Personally my family and I have talked a lot about doing more yoga and fitness as a family to keep our mental health ok and boost our mind set in order to have better positive days! I really appreciate this idea of no fit Friday as it finalised our idea to start being the best person we can be xx
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One thing my family has been trying recently is having a conversation every night to just check in on how we are doing that day. Also in the morning we write down a goal for yourself and if we complete it we don't get anything because we want to show that when you help someone out or do a nice thing, that is a reward enough. But for my younger siblings that is a hard concept to grasp so i think the box would be really helpful for them because they are reward motivated.
I love your pfp
To enter giveaway- I think something in my family that could def help would be to put out daily reminders as verses of something that were struggling with or doing good at and relate it back to a verse. So that Jesus/God can be the anchor of everything we’re doing to help spread peace within our family.
I love you guys so much! I talk abt your channel so much and your fam was the very first fam I ever subbed to! Love you guys have a blessed day! 🥰✝️😘😘
I love the being a peacemaker idea! I dislike conflict so I really struggle when my kids are fighting! I'm going to use the peacemaking idea with my older child! I think she can understand it. My littlest guy (age 2) is still learning, but it's good to start now! I try to encourage my oldest (age 7) to be a teacher for her younger brother and to help him to learn to be a good person. We also always pray as a family together before bed. We thank God for each other and for his love and we apologize for any wrong choices we made 🙏. We always say I love you at night before bed too!
In our family, if something is going wrong we try to take a break from the situation. Instead of continuing the argument, simply removing yourself and then revisiting in 24 hours if you’re still bothered is always a great strategy. This is referred to as the 24 hour rule. Most of the time after 24 hours you won’t care anymore.
My family and I always have a family day once a week and we limit our time on our phones so we can spend time with each other and bond more. 😊
In our family we have to hug it out. If we have all been good then we get a Starbucks at the end of the week. This makes us work together to not argue so this shows us how to be peacemakers and how to work together.
*I also wanted to tell you that I have ADHD and I have gotten into many more arguments with my siblings. I am sure you already know this but as Beckham gets older you might start to see him get into more arguments with people. This was super hard for me because my parents just thought I was a “trouble maker” when in reality it was much harder for me to control then other people. Just keep that in mind as Beckham gets older.
Have a positive affirmation jar. When they get home from school each child picks out a slip of paper and has to watch for someone to do something good. Write down what they did. Share them at the dinner table the next day. That way they are looking for positives in each other. Gives paper to mom when done.....also teach learning to disagree respectfully. There are on line classes, age appropriate
Wow family goals right here
With my family if we get into an arrangement or disagreement we love to go on a long walk and talk about what happend in our day that made us feel bad . And something I would like to start doing is have a movie night or go out to dinner if we all get along for a long period of time . I love you guys so much your amazing as a RUclipsr and teach me so much everyday x
I think that a game night can really help, some arguments start because people are stressed and get irritated easily, so a game night can really calm everyone and to have fun together ❣️
great idea mommy nelson i love their large family peace and love not enough nelsons family you guys rock love your channel and your videos
In our family, if we get in a fight or argument we watch a family movie or play a game together. It really brings our family together and after the movie or the game we talk about the fight and sort it all out.a (Sometimes) all the negative energy is gone! Love your videos! ❤️
i love this cannel so much yall put a smile on my face
We will do things like swimming or baking it always helps! I love my family
In my family we all argue a lot but we all have to say something nice about them and help them with whatever they need help with
Maybe by having a positive wall or a positive book so everyone writes some think positive if they don’t fell like writing they can make a painting or a drawing so when ever someone down they go to the wall/book and feel a whole lot better in my room I got a wall with all my painting and drawings so when I am having a bad day I look at that wall which makes me feel a whole lot better
I love your channel hope your no fit friday works ❤️
A great way to make peace is to say stuff you love about each other! It would be a great idea when u get in fights to remember to love one another! Also say what you admire, appreciate and love about each other! I hope u like this idea your videos are so uplifting and make me happy!
I want with our family a better bond. We usually get in to fight everyday which we want to improve,so when we get into a fight we put all of our electronics into a box,and we go sit down and talk if there is any problem or is there anything we can do to make our life or our relationships better usually it takes us for 1 or 2 hours to get comfortable to talk and get into it but we try and explain after the talk we give each other's a big family hug and go out we dress up nice and go out for dinner and the next day we have learned our lesson,as you said we have to make peace and dont be determined to win a conversation,a fight or other thing I have definitely have been into many fight with my family but we do this ritual to keep us attached together,and last thing I also have a big family 10 people alltogether I love your content it pure wonderful.
Don’t know if I can still participate but i don’t lose anything commenting! And it helps your channel :> so in my family we are passing in some rough times so we sometimes see a movie and have some take out dinner so we can pass time with each other! : D
I love this idea and the thought behind it ❤️❤️❤️
Kindness day it’s on Monday where we go to the store and buy something for the person you draw❤
Every time a child fights or makes a mean remark to another child they have to think and say 5 nice things about each other! It makes them really think about the good times and fun they have had together! Love your Channel and Family!!
Love your vid and your the best youtubers, we sit and we talk about how our day was and ask what sad happend and just help to improve our family strenght and just tell each other everthing and we have some alone time just to relax en breath we also say sorry and we try not to say someting mean because if you don't have something nice to say don't say something we also try to be nice and say (your hair looks beautiful ) even when your mad and even if you did'nt star the fight just say sorry sometimes something maybe happen at school and then you say someting not to be mean and they think you were mean but you did'nt mean it , I think what you did was amazing and ń good idea love your vid sooooooooooo much and can't wait for your next vid
In our family when we have arguments or disagreements, we usually have a family day of fun and that gives us all time to regroup and come together!! ❤️
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Great question! Were learning unity and I will create unity by having fair time, keeping everyone calm. Creating unity would be hard and i will work hard to create unity between my family and classmates, well ive learned that to be united then i would also comfort everyone whose feeling down, even if we have had our differences. I know some prizes are for youngers so i would be glad to donate them to charity! Have a good day y'all
In today's. world your families videos really put smiles on peoples faces.
In my family we make sure that we always eat our evening meal together round the table and as a family we talk about our day or what we have coming up the next day. At the weekend we also have certain special tv shows we always watch together and we’ll all sit around the sofas together and watch the shows and have a laugh to spread joy and happiness to each other 🥰🥰
In my family if we get into fights and another bad stuff at the end of the day we sit down and talk about what we can do to make it better and prey to our lord to keep us together and for the next day to be better than the past💝💝😇
I think it’s so cute and funny how they all have their own styles and they are so different ❤️❤️
You are such a great parent and I strive to be like you and your family someday, hoping for a full recovery for me so I’ll be able to have kids soon❤️ you have such great ideas/tips and tricks☺️
Hello Nelsons! I love my family but me and my brother is argue a lot!!!! I would love to stop that! To do that I would love to spend more time to him and have fun with him so see can bring a stronger relationship! I love your videos and you have inspired me to do this with my brother! Thank you!
We love going skiing so much and it’s just so fun and we all enjoy it!!
One way to hold peace in my family, is by realizing what having peace in your home can do. A peaceful home is a home that you can look forward to coming home to, a peaceful home is a place full of love, full of the people who most care about you. One you really understand that, your home will grow more peaceful.
I think the best way we create family unity is by praying together. Another one that we like to do is to all cook a meal together and then eat it together. I have a toddler so this is a fun activity for all of us!
In my family, fighting between the kids was a daily problem. And now, to help them come down when they are aggressive and not in a good mood, we have a rowing machine, so that every time they are not balanced throughout the day they can sit on the machine for some time and just let all bad mood out. And another positive side effect ist that they do sports😉 love you nen fam😘
I love your channel, i think it’s so pretty and i love following your morning routines and just watching in general!
We have family movie and family game night on Fridays😊! I feel like it's a great way to start the weekend ! 😊 My older brother and sister are adopted but, my parents treated us all the same ! They were always so supportive,So I try to do the same for my kids! 😊