Episode 025 - Paying it forward in marriage

Focusing on the problems in the relationship distracts us from our contribution towards those problems. Thus, we repeat the mistakes of those who may have raised us.
A relationship is the outcome of the two individuals in it. If there is something that either person doesn’t like about the relationship, they need to understand how their combined contribution, especially their own, is enabling or sustaining the problem that they would like to resolve.
Only then do we have a chance to effectively work through the problem without creating new problems in the process.
Understanding what you’re paying forward from your past experiences will give you an awareness that can truly transform the quality of your relationships with your significant others.