This conversation reminded me that only black women are socialized to work hard and struggle. I’ve been proud to be one of the hardest, strongest, etc until in my 50s I realized no one else is even getting this message. Even the Bible (for those who are believers) learn that while wisdom is valued, and foolishness is not…. It’s not a message of we MUST struggle to be holy. We are enough. We (black women) have bought a distorted view of “purpose.” This channel and community is going to free a lot of BW one relationship time. ❤🙌🏾❤
There was a black female RUclipsr named Hashtag Black Woman and her channel suddenly disappeared. She, like Stephanie talked about black women living in comfort and being leisurely and many people bashed her and now she's gone🥺 Too many people are sicken to their stomach when they see black ladies resting, and doing nothing but what we choose to do. America has nothing to offer black women. ITS TIME TO LEAVE!✈🌏😌🚶🏾♀️
@@checksanto SP has flipped the script. If you’re a “struggling” type of BW you’re definitely going to realize it’s not a “want to….” 🤔 But now if you stick around, ☺️ you’ll wake up and want so much more (and doing far less to get there). ✈️ 🧳 🍹
Easy and Lazy are good words. We built this country and they still call us lazy. Blk ppl are the hardest working ppl in the world especially Blk women. Proof- HBP, diabetes, worst maternal health outcomes in thIS America why, we work until we die. Keep that Blk excellance and have to buy this and that. Thank you Steph, Roshida, Adalia, Blk Utopia etc for enlightening me.
After having struggled to do many things I life, I claim a life of ease. Our ancestors have struggled enough for ALL of us. I will do what makes me happy when it makes me happy. Doing things the hard way for the sake of struggle doesn't make sense to me.
My stepmother built a house in Jamaica and it was a 40 year nightmare. Unless you are flushed with cash, the money bleed in terms of repairs, utilities or even keeping it rented if you need the income can be incredibly stressful. And if you decide to sell, it could take years. Work smarter, not harder
I love that we are having this conversation. No one deserves to experience ease more than BW. We’ve been worked to death (literally) with no appreciation or reparation. Time we claim ease for ourselves without apology!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
It's over! THE DAYS OF STRUGGLE LOVE AND STRUGGLE LIFE IN AMERICA FOR BLACK WOMEN ARE OVER! For 500 years we black women are sick and tired of serving and struggle. Only when we leave and travel will we find true comfort leisure and peace with freedom😌🌼✈🌏
This is such an IMPORTANT MESSAGE for all Black women. I will never forget watching a broadway play about MLK in which Black women were characterized as “Mules of the World”.
My plan starting 2025 is to do things the way most of my extended family members do it. They primarily live between two countries say 2 months in US/Canada and 8 months in a Caribbean country and then they travel the rest of the world in between on their vacations. It doesn’t have to be one country or another, we can have it all ladies. Let’s all start to believe that. We’re no longer putting limits on ourselves 🤎🧡🖤💛
That is a great idea. My son is young so I need a home base for the school year and travel the rest of the time. Or I good do world schooling and just travel every 3-4 months.
@@chidenisee you and I are in the same boat. My only child is of elementary school age. If he had another sibling I would’ve tried homeschooling but I won’t with an only him. I told my husband that our son and I will be traveling whenever time he has 1 week or more school breaks. I’m not messing around. I need him to get out of this blood thirsty country called America. This place aims to harvest black people’s good energy in an effort to break our spirits. I need him to grow up knowing he has options elsewhere in this big big world.
I love this idea, but not sure US has to be one of the home bases 🤨 I’m so irritated with it right now. My children are young adults and I want a family home base somewhere near US. Thanks for sharing this new paradigm 🫶🏽
@@DrCrystalHarris my family members will come back to the US/Canada/UK for those 2 months for their annual medical exams, medications, any surgeries, to shop and ship barrels of the essentials back to the Caribbean and such. They’re not here meandering 😆
I agree. Being a tourist is not the same as being a resident. As a Dark-Skinned Black woman I would avoid North African/Arab countries, Eastern European countries and some Asian countries (Morocco, Tunisia, Egypt, Libya, Algeria, etc). We need ease and acceptance and joy.
Where would you recommend? I have spent time in Mexico, Costa Rica, and Panama and all places, Mexico being the most egregious, have been unwelcoming many times.
You've hit the nail on the head! North Africa, the Caribbean, Southeast Asia, even some Spanish-speaking countries: your experience in those countries depends A LOT on your complexion. Sad but true.
Years ago I received a spiritual reading from. A Chief Priestess and the first thing she Said to me was I had a hard life. I'd only lived 30 yrs at that point of my life. But since I wanted to be accepted by others I continued to put myself in circles of struggle ( organizations, groups, jobs etc) I'm done now.
@@celiameaux7880 For 500 years Struggle has been our middle name as black ladies. Enough is enough. Its time we take hold of all these new global opportunities and take the world by storm. Only we hold ourselves back.
I’ve always flowed with an easy life. If I’m struggling I feel I’m not doing what I’m supposed to be doing. Anytime things fall into place and life is easy going I feel I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing. I allow the Universe to conspire on my behalf! Please ladies let go of struggle living as it will shorten your life and show up as all kinds of health issues.
As an Emerging Senior, I have discovered I can enjoy doing nothing. I don't want to start a business or work anywhere that I have to report to everyday. I do want EASE in my last decades!
I remember coming across a a quote by Frederick Douglas stating " if there is no struggle, there is no progress" although that may be true in certain circumstances, I'm learning that does not apply to all circumstances, this is something I am unlearning.
I have a friend here in the suburbs of Philadelphia, that up and moved to Fez Morocco, after visiting it on a class trip. She comes back every 2 years, works a few months, then go's back. She is here now and is a great inspiration to me.
That is because Fez is a culturally nice place and the people are great. I had a boyfriend from there and his family and friends were very welcoming and awesome to be around. I fit in like a glove, but then again, I did not grow up in the US 🤷🏾♀️
45:52 I loooovvveeee this 😂 I have been called “lazy” all my adolescence and specifically the women in my family have been jealous of my ability to rest and take it easy and do what I have to do and cut it off to rest. My mother to this day has issues with guilt and rest as an empty nester. I refuse to do things a long a arduous way. That doesn’t mean I don’t have my moments with self sabotage but at the same time I’ve always been a person to find the quickest most pain free way to do something. That’s how my mind works
I am so glad that I found your channel. I am ready for a move. I want it to be easy. I want someone else to have paved the way and I want to enjoy my life. I have struggled enough and I’m ready to live.
This is a real conversation. Being "addicted to doing things the hardest way" as Stephanie put it is a naming for white supremacy and self hate. I am unpacking the guilt I feel about crossing certain African locales off my "2nd home" or "relocation option" list because they are in places with corruption, intermittent power access, maddeningly complex run around to do simple things like banking or securing housing, and/or are unwelcoming to my queer loved ones. My guilt doesn't serve anyone; totally unproductive.
*AWESOME* Stephanie Perry Your candid information can prevent many of us Black American Women from moving to a location that will be more toxic than the 🇺🇸
I am a Jamaican and I lived in Morocco for 6 months. I speak Arabic, so that helps, and I was military (i.e., I am adaptable and know how to read people and recognize danger VERY easily). Did the whole Moroccan boyfriend thing and got to know his family and friends. Very fun and genuinely nice people. As a Jamaican, I can live like anyone else. I assimilated in less than 45 days and it was like living in Jamaica for basic stuff: shopping, cooking food, traveling, etc. BUT, I could not live in Morocco. The people in general are not as warm as the Egyptians. I prefer Egypt but the economic situation is NOT okay right now. Inflation is tearing dat ass up over there and it is VERY difficult to get basic stuff done for the locals, much less us foreigners. Morocco is calmer but I didn't really care for it because the people are not warm. Moroccans remind me of French while Egyptians remind me of English. English are easier to warm to you. I hope my experience and opinion help a fellow Black woman. P.S. - I am back in the Caribbean, built a house for cheap, obtained residency, and I am within an hour flight back home to Jamaica. I agree you don't have to buy a house if you intend to remain mobile. Less worry about your material stuff when you choose to live out of a suitcase.
This is so interesting because Morocco was colonized by the French and Egypt was colonized by the British. And you noticed the personalities matched to their former colonizers.
Thankfully I have My residency in Central America, and remarried to a tall handsome man! Child FREE, age 70 physically fit speaking 3 🔥 foreign languages. I was the first one in MY family to get a USA Passport in the 1970s..... From the Ozarks soaking in the hot mineral springs water outside this morning
I always love listening to Stephanie. She is very delightful. I love her smile. I want her to hypnotize me into wanting ease. I have worked hard and I have gained alot. What some ppl consider working hard, I consider keeping busy. I do plan to go to Africa and possibly build because Africa is the future and there is money to be made there. I want my grands and great grands to have options. But, I love listening to Stephanie. She gives me an additional option.☺
Truth. I have struggled enough in my life. It definitely made me grow after a long while. I’m totally done with that kind of life. I want to live and enjoy my life.
This was excellent, Stephanie! I lived in three (3) African countries and it was a different experience in each place. I was there because of my job, so I didn't have to bother with the visa paperwork, finding housing and related tasks. Nevertheless, I would not return to Africa to live as an expat. NO CAN DO!!!
I’ve been following a young black American that has lived in Japan for several years. She has a business and just bought a traditional house. She’s Sundai Love. She has formed community and is doing well with whatever challenges arise.
Ghana group member here. Visited all throughout Ghana last year. I am one of the young ones still interested. There were points of ease there but I can see some of the struggles, especially if you're older. I plan to return and to some more scouting. However, I aint doing a bunch of building and work if I go.
I hope to do a scouting trip to 2 different countries in 2 years. I have a young son so I know I have to take that into account so I have to look at school systems as well. I am looking at Portugal and France right now. I plan on spending a summer in both and doing a 1-2 week trip to another country later on. I like Japan for the safety for sure but maybe not to live forever.
Having lived in Asia for over a decade, I found it incredibly safe and welcoming. However, I saw many foreign friends struggle with the resistance they experienced about getting their residency. If you are there with a company, it's easy, but it's not easy to move there or retire there - despite what HGTV House Hunters International would have you believe. Also, the reverse culture shock was real.
You have to be honest with yourself and know what it is you really want. Many times, it means experiencing things, trying things. Listening to chatter doesn’t always help (tho it could be useful information). I lived on an island for a year and a half and realized how bored I was after 6 months. It was definitely a life filled with ease but oh boy, I wanted out lol!
@@solinspired4428 Island fever might be the right term. Although I made friends, it was hard to connect bc it was very much small town mentality. Essentially, made me realize I’m a city girl. As much as I had an easy life on the island (transport, good food, nice housing, etc), I craved the dynamism of city life. But that’s obviously me and nothing to do with anyone else. I had to learn that on my own bc I always thought island life was ideal. Now I know I want a life of ease in a big city that is close to beautiful beaches.
@@bilenina I've thought myself about that. I'd love to live somewhere for a while but I'm not sure if I'd like to live on an island all my life. The Caribbean is beautiful and I'd like to go to heal my nervous system. To get out of fight or Flight from living in stressful US.
@@solinspired4428 great idea to try it (island life) and also to do some serious decompressing, if only for just a few months. I still think about the beauty and lovely times I had on the island, even though I knew it wasn’t a long term place for me. Wouldn’t trade that experience for anything.
Stephanie, thanks for your wisdom & brilliance! Between your calming voice, chill demeanor and solid advice, I always feel empowered at the end of your videos👏🏽. Looking forward to one day meeting you and all Exodus Summit women.
Japan can work for a life of ease for Black women but it honestly depends on what that means for you personally. I have family there and it took living there almost 2 decades but they're considered "locals" now by Japanese people. The downside would be dating/marriage. Finding a partner will likely be a struggle especially for a Black woman... but other aspects of life is good!
Yeah, give me ease and flow in a way that matters to me. We have indeed been made to feel guilty about not taking on struggle in the name of virtue. Hard pass on that.
No matter where you live it's not going to be perfect but I concur that I want to be appreciated and not tolerated. And there are essentials that I am not willing to relinquish. With certain Middle Eastern countries, I heard if you are a woman it's better to travel with a male companion or be married. Israel and Dubai are the only places in the M. E. I hope to visit one day. 😅 Tfs and traveling graces!
Its time for black ladies start experiencing THE LAPTOP LIFESTYLE. Traveling while making money online. We black women have the world open to us like never before. All you need is a Laptop, WiFi, a U.S. Passport, and the drive and will to do it. We black ladies are no longer beholding to the men of our race or America. If you have multiple streams of income you can travel and live better.😌🌼
58:41 Good advice on Living with Ease. I need to teach my 29 yo daughter how to create a life of ease. Maybe that’s creating a career or investment strategy to subsidize her rich life. Good information.
Watching the replay and I can say as a person has had a lot of struggle in life, ease and flow is our birthright. While I know that my pain has been a catalyst for great change and empowerment in my life, I have also witnessed many friends and family members succumb to the overwhelm of difficulties. In my opinion, we do not need to CHOOSE hard. As always, great conversation Stephanie
Entire generations of us have been conditioned to laud our hard work ethic as a badge of honor. We will not be martyred for our struggles! Let's focus on true love.
I love your defense of the word 'easy.' I like to think of it in terms of the poison seeds of slavery that we're still trying to completely uproot. One of them is this idea that hard work and suffering/struggle are virtues. No. They may be requirements for certain periods in our lives, but they were never meant to be a way of life. The teaching that they were virtuous was very convenient for slave masters and other exploiters, and for survival while controlled by those people, but time to free ourselves from that conditioning.
I agree that we should not have to struggle to enjoy life and the good things in life. 58 years old learning to live, love, and laugh. Life is amazing and not a struggle .
Great video, sad I missed the live. I definitely want to do a video about this because I'm definitely into moving with ease and I rent a nice place. Definitely doing a video on this about Jamaica
I'm still working on my 'easy, creative solutions,' but I just want to say thank you for this mini 'snatch up'. "Unlearn it!" is how I'm moving forward.
This seems to address ease from a specific place. What about people who don't have unlimited money? Building or renovating a house is definitely a pain in the butt. BUT if you have limited funds that won't let you rent as long as you want to be gone, building is great in countries where you have clear land rights.
Love your honesty, Stephanie. I NEED ease and welcoming people. ❗️Yet, I know I am addicted to struggle and your reminders are so life changing. Thank you!💗
i know i'm late to this video, and i'm new to this community, but it was FASCINATING, especially the discussion about struggle. I probably don't have anything to add that isn't already in the coments, but i just wanted to add how much i enjoyed it and i KNOW i will be coming back to this video many times in the future.
Adjusting to another country, somethings may appear to be a struggle because perhaps persons are not used to change. Beware of comparing EASY vs STRUGGLE when it is just plain ADJUSTMENT.
So much of what you're saying I wish I had known about when I lived in Bali. I'm glad I lived there. Was a pivotal year in my life. But I feel like I should have moved on to other countries instead of just anchoring there. Too many things were a little too hard. Might be different now though.
"We only grow thru struggle". It's the wildest thing. For sum blk woman think that's really how life supposed to be. All their life fighting and struggling. I've never thought abt expat-ing to Africa being put into this context equating to wrk. But everytime I've heard a conversation and it come up, or listening to blk american africa expats it never resonating with me bcuz it does seem like soo much wrk. When Africans say come bck to Africa they include putting in wrk. All the expat stories of all the work they had to do. And nobody likes to talk abt or admit the scamming cultural there aswell. Yes there is scamming everywhere, but mostly here, it comes dwn to not addressing common sense and not due diligently basis research, why are you sending ppl deposits you haven't verified. But I'm glad you mentioned 1 of many great examples of the scamming culture, with the selling of the hse they didn't own.
I'm glad that you ladies are enjoying Morocco. I was nervous because, having visited there several times myself, it can be hit or miss. It is an amazing place.
Gurl at 5:29 when you address it, even in Africa esp in tourist areas whites will still often be treated better- yes "anti-blackness" is real, we can't let it ruin our lives though. And that is a hard path to walk.
😂St. Louis!!! I’m from The Lou and you’re right. Folk from there are delusional about what a hell hole it is. I’m now in Orlando from Atlanta…and The Lou??? Far worse. All my family has transitioned and I’m grateful I have NO REASON to go back. My bestie comes and visits me in crazee azz Florida, but at least we have the beach🌹
This is so interesting. I was in Marrakech with my partner ( a white man), a week or so before the meet up, and we were treated well by the men. But I know much of that would be different if I traveled solo.
I believe you grow through struggle only when you seek ease. There's no growth if you accept the state of struggle. You grow as you seek ease. Please have enough faith and self-love to seek ease.
This conversation reminded me that only black women are socialized to work hard and struggle. I’ve been proud to be one of the hardest, strongest, etc until in my 50s I realized no one else is even getting this message. Even the Bible (for those who are believers) learn that while wisdom is valued, and foolishness is not…. It’s not a message of we MUST struggle to be holy. We are enough. We (black women) have bought a distorted view of “purpose.” This channel and community is going to free a lot of BW one relationship time. ❤🙌🏾❤
Agreed. Even Jesus says his yoke is easy and his burden is light. 😅 Hence the words "easy" and "light". "Work" to live not "Live" to work. 😊
There was a black female RUclipsr named Hashtag Black Woman and her channel suddenly disappeared. She, like Stephanie talked about black women living in comfort and being leisurely and many people bashed her and now she's gone🥺
Too many people are sicken to their stomach when they see black ladies resting, and doing nothing but what we choose to do. America has nothing to offer black women. ITS TIME TO LEAVE!✈🌏😌🚶🏾♀️
I'm confused why someone who Wants to struggle is watching Stephanie Perry 😅
@@checksanto SP has flipped the script. If you’re a “struggling” type of BW you’re definitely going to realize it’s not a “want to….” 🤔
But now if you stick around, ☺️ you’ll wake up and want so much more (and doing far less to get there). ✈️ 🧳 🍹
Easy and Lazy are good words. We built this country and they still call us lazy. Blk ppl are the hardest working ppl in the world especially Blk women. Proof- HBP, diabetes, worst maternal health outcomes in thIS America why, we work until we die. Keep that Blk excellance and have to buy this and that. Thank you Steph, Roshida, Adalia, Blk Utopia etc for enlightening me.
After having struggled to do many things I life, I claim a life of ease. Our ancestors have struggled enough for ALL of us. I will do what makes me happy when it makes me happy. Doing things the hard way for the sake of struggle doesn't make sense to me.
My stepmother built a house in Jamaica and it was a 40 year nightmare. Unless you are flushed with cash, the money bleed in terms of repairs, utilities or even keeping it rented if you need the income can be incredibly stressful. And if you decide to sell, it could take years. Work smarter, not harder
I love that we are having this conversation. No one deserves to experience ease more than BW. We’ve been worked to death (literally) with no appreciation or reparation. Time we claim ease for ourselves without apology!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
It's over! THE DAYS OF STRUGGLE LOVE AND STRUGGLE LIFE IN AMERICA FOR BLACK WOMEN ARE OVER!
For 500 years we black women are sick and tired of serving and struggle. Only when we leave and travel will we find true comfort leisure and peace with freedom😌🌼✈🌏
Yes, easy is okay for black women too! Unleash the trauma! ❤ you’re wonderful Stephanie, thank you for teaching us!!!!
This is such an IMPORTANT MESSAGE for all Black women.
I will never forget watching a broadway play about MLK in which Black women were characterized as “Mules of the World”.
What!?
@@solinspired4428 The play is entitled
“Mountaintop” by Katori Hall
That quote is from “Their eyes were watching God” by Zora Neale Hurston
My plan starting 2025 is to do things the way most of my extended family members do it. They primarily live between two countries say 2 months in US/Canada and 8 months in a Caribbean country and then they travel the rest of the world in between on their vacations. It doesn’t have to be one country or another, we can have it all ladies. Let’s all start to believe that. We’re no longer putting limits on ourselves 🤎🧡🖤💛
That is a great idea. My son is young so I need a home base for the school year and travel the rest of the time. Or I good do world schooling and just travel every 3-4 months.
@@chidenisee you and I are in the same boat. My only child is of elementary school age. If he had another sibling I would’ve tried homeschooling but I won’t with an only him. I told my husband that our son and I will be traveling whenever time he has 1 week or more school breaks. I’m not messing around. I need him to get out of this blood thirsty country called America. This place aims to harvest black people’s good energy in an effort to break our spirits. I need him to grow up knowing he has options elsewhere in this big big world.
I love this idea, but not sure US has to be one of the home bases 🤨 I’m so irritated with it right now. My children are young adults and I want a family home base somewhere near US. Thanks for sharing this new paradigm 🫶🏽
@kemi: See ... This is my vision of life, too.
@@DrCrystalHarris my family members will come back to the US/Canada/UK for those 2 months for their annual medical exams, medications, any surgeries, to shop and ship barrels of the essentials back to the Caribbean and such. They’re not here meandering 😆
I confirm: Building a house in Africa is a struggle: they'll sell you a piece of land knowing full well that the place has already been sold.
Preach, Stephanie! The struggle is a lie. The age of martyrdom is over.
Yes
I was looking at Amsterdam and the prices were giving San Francisco. I said, oh absolutely not!
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Check out The Hague, Rotterdam or Utrecht as alternatives to Amsterdam. Amsterdam is about 45 minutes to an hour train ride away from those cities.
I agree. Being a tourist is not the same as being a resident. As a Dark-Skinned Black woman I would avoid North African/Arab countries, Eastern European countries and some Asian countries (Morocco, Tunisia, Egypt, Libya, Algeria, etc). We need ease and acceptance and joy.
Eastern Europe also? Which countries in your opinion?
Where would you recommend? I have spent time in Mexico, Costa Rica, and Panama and all places, Mexico being the most egregious, have been unwelcoming many times.
You've hit the nail on the head! North Africa, the Caribbean, Southeast Asia, even some Spanish-speaking countries: your experience in those countries depends A LOT on your complexion. Sad but true.
Years ago I received a spiritual reading from. A Chief Priestess and the first thing she Said to me was I had a hard life. I'd only lived 30 yrs at that point of my life. But since I wanted to be accepted by others I continued to put myself in circles of struggle ( organizations, groups, jobs etc) I'm done now.
Good for you my friend struggling is ridiculous!!
I want so much more (doing less) for us and our daughters. 🫶🏽
@@celiameaux7880 For 500 years Struggle has been our middle name as black ladies. Enough is enough. Its time we take hold of all these new global opportunities and take the world by storm. Only we hold ourselves back.
I’ve always flowed with an easy life. If I’m struggling I feel I’m not doing what I’m supposed to be doing. Anytime things fall into place and life is easy going I feel I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing. I allow the Universe to conspire on my behalf! Please ladies let go of struggle living as it will shorten your life and show up as all kinds of health issues.
As an Emerging Senior, I have discovered I can enjoy doing nothing. I don't want to start a business or work anywhere that I have to report to everyday. I do want EASE in my last decades!
I remember coming across a a quote by Frederick Douglas stating " if there is no struggle, there is no progress" although that may be true in certain circumstances, I'm learning that does not apply to all circumstances, this is something I am unlearning.
I have a friend here in the suburbs of Philadelphia, that up and moved to Fez Morocco, after visiting it on a class trip. She comes back every 2 years, works a few months, then go's back. She is here now and is a great inspiration to me.
That is because Fez is a culturally nice place and the people are great. I had a boyfriend from there and his family and friends were very welcoming and awesome to be around. I fit in like a glove, but then again, I did not grow up in the US 🤷🏾♀️
45:52 I loooovvveeee this 😂 I have been called “lazy” all my adolescence and specifically the women in my family have been jealous of my ability to rest and take it easy and do what I have to do and cut it off to rest. My mother to this day has issues with guilt and rest as an empty nester. I refuse to do things a long a arduous way. That doesn’t mean I don’t have my moments with self sabotage but at the same time I’ve always been a person to find the quickest most pain free way to do something. That’s how my mind works
I am so glad that I found your channel. I am ready for a move. I want it to be easy. I want someone else to have paved the way and I want to enjoy my life. I have struggled enough and I’m ready to live.
Yes I have struggled all my life.I'm just thankful that I retired with benefits.
This is a real conversation. Being "addicted to doing things the hardest way" as Stephanie put it is a naming for white supremacy and self hate. I am unpacking the guilt I feel about crossing certain African locales off my "2nd home" or "relocation option" list because they are in places with corruption, intermittent power access, maddeningly complex run around to do simple things like banking or securing housing, and/or are unwelcoming to my queer loved ones. My guilt doesn't serve anyone; totally unproductive.
*AWESOME*
Stephanie Perry
Your candid information can prevent many of us Black American Women from moving to a location that will be more toxic than the 🇺🇸
The reality of what we have been taught. How being ok and happy with ease gets so tied to negativity with religion and self-worth!
I am a Jamaican and I lived in Morocco for 6 months. I speak Arabic, so that helps, and I was military (i.e., I am adaptable and know how to read people and recognize danger VERY easily). Did the whole Moroccan boyfriend thing and got to know his family and friends. Very fun and genuinely nice people. As a Jamaican, I can live like anyone else. I assimilated in less than 45 days and it was like living in Jamaica for basic stuff: shopping, cooking food, traveling, etc. BUT, I could not live in Morocco. The people in general are not as warm as the Egyptians. I prefer Egypt but the economic situation is NOT okay right now. Inflation is tearing dat ass up over there and it is VERY difficult to get basic stuff done for the locals, much less us foreigners. Morocco is calmer but I didn't really care for it because the people are not warm. Moroccans remind me of French while Egyptians remind me of English. English are easier to warm to you. I hope my experience and opinion help a fellow Black woman.
P.S. - I am back in the Caribbean, built a house for cheap, obtained residency, and I am within an hour flight back home to Jamaica. I agree you don't have to buy a house if you intend to remain mobile. Less worry about your material stuff when you choose to live out of a suitcase.
This was very helpful. I’m not as adaptable as I’d like to be. But hope to visit Egypt one day.
This is so interesting because Morocco was colonized by the French and Egypt was colonized by the British. And you noticed the personalities matched to their former colonizers.
Great observations and advice. Which island did you decide to call home?
Which island did you build the house? Tia
Easy is scary at first, because every time we relax, we are called lazy. And so our adrenaline is always pumping. We can't find rest in ourselves
Sistah, yes! Keep on encouraging us Black Women to live our one, single life - through ease and peace and pleasure. I've lived my life this way!
Thankfully I have My residency in Central America, and remarried to a tall handsome man! Child FREE, age 70 physically fit speaking 3 🔥 foreign languages. I was the first one in MY family to get a USA Passport in the 1970s..... From the Ozarks soaking in the hot mineral springs water outside this morning
They are SO afraid of easy. Y’all can have that
I always love listening to Stephanie. She is very delightful. I love her smile. I want her to hypnotize me into wanting ease. I have worked hard and I have gained alot. What some ppl consider working hard, I consider keeping busy. I do plan to go to Africa and possibly build because Africa is the future and there is money to be made there. I want my grands and great grands to have options. But, I love listening to Stephanie. She gives me an additional option.☺
No place is perfect, but know your deal-breakers and stick by them! Great stream and useful topic, as always Stephanie❤
Truth. I have struggled enough in my life. It definitely made me grow after a long while. I’m totally done with that kind of life. I want to live and enjoy my life.
This was excellent, Stephanie! I lived in three (3) African countries and it was a different experience in each place. I was there because of my job, so I didn't have to bother with the visa paperwork, finding housing and related tasks. Nevertheless, I would not return to Africa to live as an expat. NO CAN DO!!!
Wow I wish you had shared why?
I’ve been following a young black American that has lived in Japan for several years. She has a business and just bought a traditional house. She’s Sundai Love. She has formed community and is doing well with whatever challenges arise.
Lord the girl in the chat disrespecting Stephanie in light of upholding Japan?!?!? This is what she was talking about 🤣
I’d love to more about retiring in Panama. 🇵🇦
Japan: According to a number of vlogs online, that country is NOT welcoming to foreigners. Period. Not just Blacks or biracial people.
Once you've returned home, will you share the VRBO or Airbnb link for where you're staying? It looks beautiful!
Just want you to know as a black male - I have learned much from your shared experience and appreciate what you do.
Ghana group member here. Visited all throughout Ghana last year. I am one of the young ones still interested. There were points of ease there but I can see some of the struggles, especially if you're older. I plan to return and to some more scouting. However, I aint doing a bunch of building and work if I go.
I hope to do a scouting trip to 2 different countries in 2 years. I have a young son so I know I have to take that into account so I have to look at school systems as well. I am looking at Portugal and France right now. I plan on spending a summer in both and doing a 1-2 week trip to another country later on. I like Japan for the safety for sure but maybe not to live forever.
Having lived in Asia for over a decade, I found it incredibly safe and welcoming. However, I saw many foreign friends struggle with the resistance they experienced about getting their residency. If you are there with a company, it's easy, but it's not easy to move there or retire there - despite what HGTV House Hunters International would have you believe. Also, the reverse culture shock was real.
You have to be honest with yourself and know what it is you really want. Many times, it means experiencing things, trying things. Listening to chatter doesn’t always help (tho it could be useful information). I lived on an island for a year and a half and realized how bored I was after 6 months. It was definitely a life filled with ease but oh boy, I wanted out lol!
Do you mind explaining what made you bored of island life? Some said they got island fever and had to leave.
@@solinspired4428 Island fever might be the right term. Although I made friends, it was hard to connect bc it was very much small town mentality. Essentially, made me realize I’m a city girl. As much as I had an easy life on the island (transport, good food, nice housing, etc), I craved the dynamism of city life. But that’s obviously me and nothing to do with anyone else. I had to learn that on my own bc I always thought island life was ideal. Now I know I want a life of ease in a big city that is close to beautiful beaches.
@@bilenina I've thought myself about that. I'd love to live somewhere for a while but I'm not sure if I'd like to live on an island all my life. The Caribbean is beautiful and I'd like to go to heal my nervous system. To get out of fight or Flight from living in stressful US.
Got to find a balance my friend. That's the name of the game.
@@solinspired4428 great idea to try it (island life) and also to do some serious decompressing, if only for just a few months. I still think about the beauty and lovely times I had on the island, even though I knew it wasn’t a long term place for me. Wouldn’t trade that experience for anything.
Many, many people move to Ghana and end up LEAVING.
Stephanie, thanks for your wisdom & brilliance! Between your calming voice, chill demeanor and solid advice, I always feel empowered at the end of your videos👏🏽. Looking forward to one day meeting you and all Exodus Summit women.
Japan can work for a life of ease for Black women but it honestly depends on what that means for you personally. I have family there and it took living there almost 2 decades but they're considered "locals" now by Japanese people. The downside would be dating/marriage. Finding a partner will likely be a struggle especially for a Black woman... but other aspects of life is good!
Japan is very simplistic and natural. Yes, it could work. The food is fresh and so is the water.
Yeah, give me ease and flow in a way that matters to me. We have indeed been made to feel guilty about not taking on struggle in the name of virtue. Hard pass on that.
AMEN
Check out The Hague, Rotterdam or Utrecht as alternatives to Amsterdam. Amsterdam is about 45 minutes to an hour train ride away.
No matter where you live it's not going to be perfect but I concur that I want to be appreciated and not tolerated. And there are essentials that I am not willing to relinquish. With certain Middle Eastern countries, I heard if you are a woman it's better to travel with a male companion or be married. Israel and Dubai are the only places in the M. E. I hope to visit one day. 😅 Tfs and traveling graces!
Financial ease is my goal. I'm exhausted
Its time for black ladies start experiencing THE LAPTOP LIFESTYLE. Traveling while making money online. We black women have the world open to us like never before. All you need is a Laptop, WiFi, a U.S. Passport, and the drive and will to do it. We black ladies are no longer beholding to the men of our race or America. If you have multiple streams of income you can travel and live better.😌🌼
What are your multiple streams of income ?
@@SariahLoves
Publishing, social media and dividends😌🌼
58:41 Good advice on Living with Ease. I need to teach my 29 yo daughter how to create a life of ease. Maybe that’s creating a career or investment strategy to subsidize her rich life. Good information.
Watching the replay and I can say as a person has had a lot of struggle in life, ease and flow is our birthright. While I know that my pain has been a catalyst for great change and empowerment in my life, I have also witnessed many friends and family members succumb to the overwhelm of difficulties. In my opinion, we do not need to CHOOSE hard. As always, great conversation Stephanie
Entire generations of us have been conditioned to laud our hard work ethic as a badge of honor. We will not be martyred for our struggles! Let's focus on true love.
Ease is what I am passing on to anyone who will listen!!
I love your defense of the word 'easy.' I like to think of it in terms of the poison seeds of slavery that we're still trying to completely uproot. One of them is this idea that hard work and suffering/struggle are virtues. No. They may be requirements for certain periods in our lives, but they were never meant to be a way of life. The teaching that they were virtuous was very convenient for slave masters and other exploiters, and for survival while controlled by those people, but time to free ourselves from that conditioning.
AMEN
I agree that we should not have to struggle to enjoy life and the good things in life. 58 years old learning to live, love, and laugh. Life is amazing and not a struggle .
Great video, sad I missed the live. I definitely want to do a video about this because I'm definitely into moving with ease and I rent a nice place. Definitely doing a video on this about Jamaica
This is so helpful!
I'm still working on my 'easy, creative solutions,' but I just want to say thank you for this mini 'snatch up'. "Unlearn it!" is how I'm moving forward.
This seems to address ease from a specific place. What about people who don't have unlimited money? Building or renovating a house is definitely a pain in the butt. BUT if you have limited funds that won't let you rent as long as you want to be gone, building is great in countries where you have clear land rights.
You think building anywhere is cheaper than renting?! lolololol
"struggling" is a condition. You can get use to it. Break free from that.
Love your honesty, Stephanie. I NEED ease and welcoming people. ❗️Yet, I know I am addicted to struggle and your reminders are so life changing. Thank you!💗
i know i'm late to this video, and i'm new to this community, but it was FASCINATING, especially the discussion about struggle. I probably don't have anything to add that isn't already in the coments, but i just wanted to add how much i enjoyed it and i KNOW i will be coming back to this video many times in the future.
Adjusting to another country, somethings may appear to be a struggle because perhaps persons are not used to change. Beware of comparing EASY vs STRUGGLE when it is just plain ADJUSTMENT.
Great point!
So much of what you're saying I wish I had known about when I lived in Bali. I'm glad I lived there. Was a pivotal year in my life. But I feel like I should have moved on to other countries instead of just anchoring there. Too many things were a little too hard. Might be different now though.
Hello from Queretsro. Love your videos
"We only grow thru struggle". It's the wildest thing. For sum blk woman think that's really how life supposed to be. All their life fighting and struggling.
I've never thought abt expat-ing to Africa being put into this context equating to wrk. But everytime I've heard a conversation and it come up, or listening to blk american africa expats it never resonating with me bcuz it does seem like soo much wrk.
When Africans say come bck to Africa they include putting in wrk. All the expat stories of all the work they had to do.
And nobody likes to talk abt or admit the scamming cultural there aswell. Yes there is scamming everywhere, but mostly here, it comes dwn to not addressing common sense and not due diligently basis research, why are you sending ppl deposits you haven't verified.
But I'm glad you mentioned 1 of many great examples of the scamming culture, with the selling of the hse they didn't own.
THIS was EXTREMELY HELPFUL! Thank you!!!!
I'm glad that you ladies are enjoying Morocco. I was nervous because, having visited there several times myself, it can be hit or miss. It is an amazing place.
I don't think they did.................
I. Love. This. Conversation!
I'm watching the replay! Thank you for this topic! So many gems dropped.
Struggle is not and has never been a part of my story. Nope not interested. Get somebody else to do it.
Thank you Stephanie, always nice hearing from you. I can definitely have it!
Oh wow. I thought this would be a different conversation and I am so grateful I tuned in. This conversation about ease is right on time. Thank you.
Lol Stephanie is back…preach…unlearn it…
I’m watching the replay. I’m getting caught up
Beautiful house. Thanks for sharing. Gracious A Dios. Trying to learn Spanish. Adios😜
Im trying to live an extra soft life. If that term even exists 😂
Gurl at 5:29 when you address it, even in Africa esp in tourist areas whites will still often be treated better- yes "anti-blackness" is real, we can't let it ruin our lives though. And that is a hard path to walk.
LOL. How true! I listened to Mel Robbins for a short period. 😅
Excellent. Video
I live in Philly Lawd!
Peggy McIntosh "Invisible BackPack" says it all!
Sometimes you just want things to work
Thanks for this important info. I'm always tuning in. 🤣 yes about the alphabet. Thanks for your continued authenticity!!
😂St. Louis!!! I’m from The Lou and you’re right. Folk from there are delusional about what a hell hole it is. I’m now in Orlando from Atlanta…and The Lou??? Far worse. All my family has transitioned and I’m grateful I have NO REASON to go back. My bestie comes and visits me in crazee azz Florida, but at least we have the beach🌹
I would learn any techniques that is legal and would give me an easy life and stop the struggle.
Ethiopia: gorgeous country. If you are a single woman and not of Ethiopian descent, do not try to move there.
i’m thinking Belize
This is so interesting. I was in Marrakech with my partner ( a white man), a week or so before the meet up, and we were treated well by the men. But I know much of that would be different if I traveled solo.
Why y'all ain't tell us about those riads before we made our hotel reservations? 😏 If I EVER go to Morocco again I will be checking those out first 😄
any body know if stephanie has scheduled a meet up in Joshua Tree in May?
😄😄😄 I'm originally from St. Louis!
I believe you grow through struggle only when you seek ease. There's no growth if you accept the state of struggle. You grow as you seek ease. Please have enough faith and self-love to seek ease.
I love ease ☺️
What's your opinion on Fiji, curacao and or bonaire for residencies? Thanks.
Are they using the same alphabet ? Exactly
I heard South Korea is nice and takes care of us
What part of Mexico 🇲🇽 are you speaking on as far as thief?
What about Costa Rica? Do you feel integrate or you might be
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