Thank you very much for the nice lecture. Nowadays if you are only religious you have no chance. The sisters want a man who is 1.9m, earns 100,000k, is a virgin, is famous and does everything she says instead of the other way around. Many people are also unhappy in their marriage because they are not perceived as a man at all. May Allah free us from feminism.
I don’t think it is fair to generalise and say that, I know many sisters that are far from superficial when it comes to requirements in a suitor. I think many brothers are simply looking in the wrong direction. Allah knows best.
@@samiira24 Women have high standards, everyone knows that but no one wants to talk about it. And then when we men have achieved something and built a life, we are expected to take women who have not taken advantage of their opportunity. That's not how it works. Sorry someone has to say it.
@@MrOsmanuyeah that is very much true. As a woman I agree with you brother. What the sister above said was true as well. I pray you find a non superficial woman who is realistic and has patience
Your negative mindset give you this conclusion. A righteous women doesn't care for wealth at all, some men are more superficial and judgemental. And also shouldn't you envy other brothers, it is RIZQ show shukr for everything you have. Alhamdullilahi rabbil Aalamin. Make Duaa and keep your heart pure, do not think bad about your sisters in deen. Do not follow the red pill Kufr, pure women are for pure men. Alhamdullilah. There are good and bad in both genders, and in islam there isn't anything like genderwar, Audhubillah.
@@wata8096 Everyone should be content with their Rizq. Most brothers are content and are also easily satisfied, in contrast to the "sisters" who always want more. I know many Muslim couples. Every man I know has major problems with his wife and her dissatisfaction; many are now divorced, and they are practicing Muslims. And it's always the same issue. She didn't know he was like this, that it would be so hard, etc. Ignoring a huge problem doesn't solve it, and if everyone has the problem, something has to change.
There’s nothing wrong with women wanting to work. Other religious communities make it mandatory for married women not to work but this is not Islam. The women in these religious situations end up in very bad situations when their husbands leave them. Islam allows women to work, there are numerous examples of women working both in Quran and Hadith. Furthermore women should especially be encouraged to pursue certain careers such as medicine so when Muslim women are in need of reproductive healthcare especially when pregnant, they can be comfortable and have female doctors. Islam is perfect the way it is and does not prohibit women from working. I would caution against making what is halal haram as this goes against our deen.
I have to disagree with the statement there are examples of women working in Quran and Hadith no where in Quran do you see women working and Allah says “And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance” [Al-Ahzab 33:33]. Although this is addressed to the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), it also applies to the believing women. It is only addressed to the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) because of their honour and status with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and because they are leading examples for the believing women. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Woman is `awrah (i.e, she should not display herself in front of men), and if she goes out, the devil raises his hopes (of misguiding her). She is never closer to Allah than when she stays in her house.” (Narrated by Ibn Hibban and Ibn Khuzaymah; classed as authentic by Al-Albani in As-Silsilah As-Shahihah, no. 2688) I understand the point of a situation where a women can be left alone but you shouldn’t go into a marriage with this mindset and this is a very situational thing if the women doesn’t have brothers or a father to take care of her and she absolutely needs to work there is different rulings for this but the general rule is It is permissible for a woman to go out of her house for work, provided she fulfils certain conditions, such as : That she needs to work in order to acquire the money she needs, as in your case. The job should be suited to the nature of women , such as medicine, nursing , teaching, sewing, and so on. Her work should not lead to her travelling without a Mahram (her husband or any man whom she is never permitted to marry). The job should be in a place that is only for women, and there should be no mixing with non-Mahram men . Whilst at work, she should observe complete Shar`i Hijab. Her going out to work should not involve committing any prohibited action, such as being alone with the driver, or wearing perfume where non-Mahrams can smell it. The job should not lead to her neglecting things that are more essential, such as looking after her house, husband and children
May Allah continues to bless you and your family Shiekh
Amin Ya Rabbi
The most important step is also to seek guidance of Allah by praying Salatul Istikhara..
May Allah bless you sheikh ❤❤And May Allah protect us from Haram and bless us with a righteous spouse ❤❤
MashaAllah Barakallah
Maashaaa’Allaaahh❤️❤️❤️❤️
Baarakallahu fik sheikh. Beautiful message
Baaraka allah❤❤❤❤
beautiful lecture, May Allah grant us all a righteous spouse
آمين
Ma shaa Allah walahi this is a best lecturer ❤❤❤
Jazakalla khair
Masha Allah may Allah bless you for this wonderful lecture ❤❤
Ameen ya Rabbi ❤❤
Ma sha Allah
Is to get peace
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24:32 How to find the right one?
49:41 steps to take
50:19
Excellent. MashaAllah. Allahumma baarak feekum. Is it okay if I share a clip of this?
Yes no problem InshaAllah. Go ahead.
JazakAllahu khairan
Thank you very much for the nice lecture. Nowadays if you are only religious you have no chance. The sisters want a man who is 1.9m, earns 100,000k, is a virgin, is famous and does everything she says instead of the other way around. Many people are also unhappy in their marriage because they are not perceived as a man at all. May Allah free us from feminism.
I don’t think it is fair to generalise and say that, I know many sisters that are far from superficial when it comes to requirements in a suitor. I think many brothers are simply looking in the wrong direction. Allah knows best.
@@samiira24 Women have high standards, everyone knows that but no one wants to talk about it. And then when we men have achieved something and built a life, we are expected to take women who have not taken advantage of their opportunity. That's not how it works. Sorry someone has to say it.
@@MrOsmanuyeah that is very much true. As a woman I agree with you brother. What the sister above said was true as well. I pray you find a non superficial woman who is realistic and has patience
Your negative mindset give you this conclusion. A righteous women doesn't care for wealth at all, some men are more superficial and judgemental. And also shouldn't you envy other brothers, it is RIZQ show shukr for everything you have. Alhamdullilahi rabbil Aalamin. Make Duaa and keep your heart pure, do not think bad about your sisters in deen. Do not follow the red pill Kufr, pure women are for pure men. Alhamdullilah. There are good and bad in both genders, and in islam there isn't anything like genderwar, Audhubillah.
@@wata8096 Everyone should be content with their Rizq. Most brothers are content and are also easily satisfied, in contrast to the "sisters" who always want more. I know many Muslim couples. Every man I know has major problems with his wife and her dissatisfaction; many are now divorced, and they are practicing Muslims. And it's always the same issue. She didn't know he was like this, that it would be so hard, etc. Ignoring a huge problem doesn't solve it, and if everyone has the problem, something has to change.
There’s nothing wrong with women wanting to work. Other religious communities make it mandatory for married women not to work but this is not Islam. The women in these religious situations end up in very bad situations when their husbands leave them. Islam allows women to work, there are numerous examples of women working both in Quran and Hadith. Furthermore women should especially be encouraged to pursue certain careers such as medicine so when Muslim women are in need of reproductive healthcare especially when pregnant, they can be comfortable and have female doctors. Islam is perfect the way it is and does not prohibit women from working. I would caution against making what is halal haram as this goes against our deen.
I have to disagree with the statement there are examples of women working in Quran and Hadith no where in Quran do you see women working and Allah says “And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance” [Al-Ahzab 33:33]. Although this is addressed to the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), it also applies to the believing women. It is only addressed to the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) because of their honour and status with the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), and because they are leading examples for the believing women.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Woman is `awrah (i.e, she should not display herself in front of men), and if she goes out, the devil raises his hopes (of misguiding her). She is never closer to Allah than when she stays in her house.” (Narrated by Ibn Hibban and Ibn Khuzaymah; classed as authentic by Al-Albani in As-Silsilah As-Shahihah, no. 2688)
I understand the point of a situation where a women can be left alone but you shouldn’t go into a marriage with this mindset and this is a very situational thing if the women doesn’t have brothers or a father to take care of her and she absolutely needs to work there is different rulings for this but the general rule is It is permissible for a woman to go out of her house for work, provided she fulfils certain conditions, such as :
That she needs to work in order to acquire the money she needs, as in your case.
The job should be suited to the nature of women , such as medicine, nursing , teaching, sewing, and so on.
Her work should not lead to her travelling without a Mahram (her husband or any man whom she is never permitted to marry).
The job should be in a place that is only for women, and there should be no mixing with non-Mahram men .
Whilst at work, she should observe complete Shar`i Hijab.
Her going out to work should not involve committing any prohibited action, such as being alone with the driver, or wearing perfume where non-Mahrams can smell it.
The job should not lead to her neglecting things that are more essential, such as looking after her house, husband and children
Man said it’s not in a women’s nature to look lmaoo, like a husband is going to come to me in thin air 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
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