My husband married into my crazy family. Took about 6 months before we started low contact, went full no contact 5 years ago and man life is great without drama llamas galore
Between a wedding and a vacation. A wedding is a once in a life time experience to some. So asking him to postpone it is like the biggest failure as a parent
Op really needs therapy. His parents are gaslighting the hell out of him and continue to blame him for everything. Based on his behavior? You mean YOUR behavior, Mom and Pop.
Exactly! Her saying to him he failed AS A CHILD 🤬 I’d have punched her if I was his wife! They’d be thrown out and disowned! Unbelievable! Yes OP needs therapy to understand none of this was his fault
So they wanted OP to believe his only brother was getting married and they didn't tell him? Bro I have and bridge in the hill s of new York city to sell you. Do not apologize as close as he is to your brother? You have a family of your choice live life and be happy with out them everything will always be your fault act like an adult and go on. NOTHING IS YOUR FAULT
You're NTAH. They always treated your brother better. If they tried to accuse you of being a trouble maker ( maybe you were somewhat) it's just because he was getting all the attention and you deserved some also. Parents shouldn't show favoritism. It can hurt a child for life.
The parents knew when the wedding was they couldve told their other son no we are going to your brother's wedding. They just favored the older child and they know it they just dont want to admit their part.
The fact they felt it was 'ok' to walk in his back door after being told to leave them alone suggests they infact do need cameras as desperate people do stupid things.
"Wow, it's shocking how your parents prioritize your brother's plans over such an important event in your life. A wedding date is a major milestone, and it's unfair to expect you to change it for someone else's convenience. Stay strong and stand your ground-your special day should be about you and your partner, not anyone else's schedule. Wishing you all the best!
Do not apologize. You know the consequences of what you will do so just accept the outcome. Time heals all wounds they say. If it happens good, if not so be it. That is life. Shit happens.
NTA although you should have been upfront. They, however, are huge AHs for even asking you to postpone it. Doesn't matter how small it was. And if they had any insight or ability to truly reflect on themselves then they would have noticed you acted out when you were younger because you were the "bad one" in any situation with your bro before that. Also, they need to learn what respecting boundaries means. Trying to force a conversation and act like you are disrespectful when you say you need time is the equivalent of flipping your boundaries the bird. Those folks need a long look at themselves. SMH
The parents made a bad decision after bad decision, and then try to play the victim. They knew about both, and made a choice. They are crying about the consequences of their decisions and the brother just confirmed it. They would betray their own children. The mother is a master manipulator, crying crocodile tears on cue.
Let me. Get this right, you are supposed to postpone your wedding inconvenient. Your girlfriend's family all the guests that you have everything because they wanted to go on vacation. Check what's wrong with this picture. Their needs are more important than that of everybody else's.. What about your girlfriend's needs and her family's needs? Wow, talk about Is a entitled man Your parents are the king and queen of that.
regarding super toxic family: there's no point trying to drink out of the same bottle of poison all the time expecting it to be reasoned with to not poison you this time please.
Why do people think oh hey postpone your wedding for a few weeks. Venues are booked months or years in advance and cost a fortune. So yeah let’s postpone and pay out the rear for cancellation fees etc. parents knew 8 months in advance I’m sure they told golden child as well so yeah I still think gc did it on purpose. Parents are delusional. Don’t feel guilty op.
The wildest part of these fake AI stories is they are all treated so horribly by their families but keep answering the phone and opening doors when they show up😂. So you keep inviting chaos into your life but can’t BELIEVE that the same issues keep occurring 😂😂😂
OP is the “IP” or identified patient. I hope OP will get some therapy to work through the anger he has at his parents rather than take it out on his new wife..
OP shares responsibility for his family problems with his parents missing his wedding. He lied when his parents asked if he could postpone the wedding date and he said he would. The parents asked because they wanted to both attend the wedding and take the vacation too. OP will never know if his parents would have declined the vacation and attended the wedding like they said they would have because OP never gave the parents the chance to make that decision. OP sounds like a big cry baby, boo hoo.
the parents are pretty stupid.. whether or not evil brother knew he was getting married, evil brother should have checked WITH THEM before scheduling the vaykay. The vacation rather than the wedding is what should have been rescheduled
The parents backpedaled because they would never have turned down a trip to Australia had the younger brother said I'm not going to postpone my wedding. They would say well I think you should because we're going on the trip to Australia anyway with your brother. So this is on you. They're just saying that because now they flipped the script once again to favor the golden child brother. If you can't see through that then you're is blind as Ray Charles was.
I would not have agreed to postpone the wedding, but I wouldn’t have lied about it either. I think the OP was playing the same games he did when he was a kid and expecting a different result. A small informal wedding without invitations being sent out yet at a place that could be flexible - the parents just asked if he could postpone it. If he really couldn’t, then he could just have said so. He was playing a viscious game in from the beginning and then he didn’t expect it to leave bruises. That was stupid.
He should’ve just told them no and that he’s gonna continue the wedding besides lying about it and making it seem as tho they chose a vacation over a wedding
Exactly. Regardless of the truth of the situation, now they can plausibly claim that he deliberately held the wedding when he did to make them look bad.
@ I understand that I’m not defending ending them like asking ur son to postpone ur wedding is crazy, I’m talking bout he’s acting like he did not lie bout it
The fact they asked him to postpone is red flag on it own. They wanted him to postpone a wedding for vacation? That’s selfish
I just can't understand people allowing "family" to abuse them like this. ;-)
His poor new wife. Imagine being married into this family of exhausting drama lamas.
My husband married into my crazy family. Took about 6 months before we started low contact, went full no contact 5 years ago and man life is great without drama llamas galore
You can’t postpone a wedding you have everything planned!
Between a wedding and a vacation. A wedding is a once in a life time experience to some. So asking him to postpone it is like the biggest failure as a parent
When they ignore you, they’re just teaching you to live without them.
The people in the comments show me they have never experienced a manipulative person in their life.
There is a famous online saying for such parents. it goes like ' Do it for Dan'.
Op really needs therapy. His parents are gaslighting the hell out of him and continue to blame him for everything. Based on his behavior? You mean YOUR behavior, Mom and Pop.
Exactly! Her saying to him he failed AS A CHILD 🤬 I’d have punched her if I was his wife! They’d be thrown out and disowned! Unbelievable! Yes OP needs therapy to understand none of this was his fault
Good for you for standing your ground and choosing your happiness 🎉
So they wanted OP to believe his only brother was getting married and they didn't tell him? Bro I have and bridge in the hill s of new York city to sell you. Do not apologize as close as he is to your brother? You have a family of your choice live life and be happy with out them everything will always be your fault act like an adult and go on. NOTHING IS YOUR FAULT
You're NTAH. They always treated your brother better. If they tried to accuse you of being a trouble maker ( maybe you were somewhat) it's just because he was getting all the attention and you deserved some also. Parents shouldn't show favoritism. It can hurt a child for life.
The parents knew when the wedding was they couldve told their other son no we are going to your brother's wedding. They just favored the older child and they know it they just dont want to admit their part.
Tbh brother didnt know but parents did they just had to say you brothers getting married so we cant go😂
Gaslighting my parents Olympics masters
I would have told them in the beginning that I wasn’t going to postpone my wedding.
The fact they felt it was 'ok' to walk in his back door after being told to leave them alone suggests they infact do need cameras as desperate people do stupid things.
"Wow, it's shocking how your parents prioritize your brother's plans over such an important event in your life. A wedding date is a major milestone, and it's unfair to expect you to change it for someone else's convenience. Stay strong and stand your ground-your special day should be about you and your partner, not anyone else's schedule. Wishing you all the best!
The gaslighting and manipulation. 😒
Do not apologize. You know the consequences of what you will do so just accept the outcome. Time heals all wounds they say. If it happens good, if not so be it. That is life. Shit happens.
op should go no contact with his family brother they can destroy his marriage
Parents and brother knew, of course they did. Time to go NC.
OP did wait. For one second. Then he said "Eff it" with an evil grin.
NTA although you should have been upfront. They, however, are huge AHs for even asking you to postpone it. Doesn't matter how small it was. And if they had any insight or ability to truly reflect on themselves then they would have noticed you acted out when you were younger because you were the "bad one" in any situation with your bro before that. Also, they need to learn what respecting boundaries means. Trying to force a conversation and act like you are disrespectful when you say you need time is the equivalent of flipping your boundaries the bird. Those folks need a long look at themselves. SMH
Trust your intuition. They have the audacity to even ask for you to change your wedding? WTF?
They are not admitting anything they are saying "maybe we did that". They are manipulative.
The parents made a bad decision after bad decision, and then try to play the victim. They knew about both, and made a choice. They are crying about the consequences of their decisions and the brother just confirmed it. They would betray their own children. The mother is a master manipulator, crying crocodile tears on cue.
Let me.
Get this right, you are supposed to postpone your wedding inconvenient. Your girlfriend's family all the guests that you have everything because they wanted to go on vacation. Check what's wrong with this picture. Their needs are more important than that of everybody else's.. What about your girlfriend's needs and her family's needs? Wow, talk about Is a entitled man Your parents are the king and queen of that.
regarding super toxic family: there's no point trying to drink out of the same bottle of poison all the time expecting it to be reasoned with to not poison you this time please.
Your parents are guilt tripping you. Your brother is always thinking that he's better than you.
Why do people think oh hey postpone your wedding for a few weeks. Venues are booked months or years in advance and cost a fortune. So yeah let’s postpone and pay out the rear for cancellation fees etc. parents knew 8 months in advance I’m sure they told golden child as well so yeah I still think gc did it on purpose. Parents are delusional. Don’t feel guilty op.
Let everyone know WHY parents weren't at your wedding.
The wildest part of these fake AI stories is they are all treated so horribly by their families but keep answering the phone and opening doors when they show up😂. So you keep inviting chaos into your life but can’t BELIEVE that the same issues keep occurring 😂😂😂
Oh No, they keep doing that thing they always do, how could they?? Why does this keep happening to me 😂😂😂
OP is the “IP” or identified patient. I hope OP will get some therapy to work through the anger he has at his parents rather than take it out on his new wife..
OP shares responsibility for his family problems with his parents missing his wedding. He lied when his parents asked if he could postpone the wedding date and he said he would. The parents asked because they wanted to both attend the wedding and take the vacation too. OP will never know if his parents would have declined the vacation and attended the wedding like they said they would have because OP never gave the parents the chance to make that decision. OP sounds like a big cry baby, boo hoo.
This is a hot mess.
the parents are pretty stupid.. whether or not evil brother knew he was getting married, evil brother should have checked WITH THEM before scheduling the vaykay. The vacation rather than the wedding is what should have been rescheduled
oh, I got a little further in and the vaykay timing was explained
The parents backpedaled because they would never have turned down a trip to Australia had the younger brother said I'm not going to postpone my wedding. They would say well I think you should because we're going on the trip to Australia anyway with your brother. So this is on you. They're just saying that because now they flipped the script once again to favor the golden child brother. If you can't see through that then you're is blind as Ray Charles was.
Should have been upfront with them and told them he was not postponing, rather than lie and say he was going to wait.
I understand him. He's probably tired of their drama. It happens. You're so angry, you just let things go.
All he had to do was tell them NO to postponing the wedding instead of lying. They’re all a-holes.
I would not have agreed to postpone the wedding, but I wouldn’t have lied about it either. I think the OP was playing the same games he did when he was a kid and expecting a different result.
A small informal wedding without invitations being sent out yet at a place that could be flexible - the parents just asked if he could postpone it. If he really couldn’t, then he could just have said so. He was playing a viscious game in from the beginning and then he didn’t expect it to leave bruises. That was stupid.
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He should’ve just told them no and that he’s gonna continue the wedding besides lying about it and making it seem as tho they chose a vacation over a wedding
Exactly. Regardless of the truth of the situation, now they can plausibly claim that he deliberately held the wedding when he did to make them look bad.
They did tho. They had the audacity to ask him to move it. Even the brother said that they knew and they still chose the vacation.
@@ashleyt6840I agree. Who asks someone to postpone a wedding for a vacation? The audacity.
@ I understand that I’m not defending ending them like asking ur son to postpone ur wedding is crazy, I’m talking bout he’s acting like he did not lie bout it
The way they gaslight and manipulate OP that would not have ended well.