I'm glad you shared this! You can tell your dad has a very different perspective from parts of the Deaf community, but I think that sharing that is a good thing. Other perspectives can always add to the conversation! Your dad obviously cares very much and wants you and others to have more access to conversation and sharing ♥️
I would like to commend you for tackling a rather sensitive subject. I really appreciated it when you said that "Parents' involvement in the deaf child's life is really important" and how you feel that it is important "to reach hearing people through the internet and social media", especially hearing parents of deaf children. I work in education, and I can't tell you how many deaf and hard-of-hearing children start school without any language at all, sign language or otherwise. Communication is so important and impacts us all in such a large way and is something we can't ignore, especially within our families. So I appreciate that you two set such a good example for what parents and children can do to make that communication happen, and it's clear your relationship with each other has benefited greatly from that.
I’m hearing but I understand this topic is difficult. Your dad comes from the perspective of a parent who has learned to sign and I think he would do anything for you and your family. For deaf och hard of hearing who come from families were parents and siblings do not themself put in effort to learn the others language it may be offending to ask or ’put’ a child in speech therapy expecting them to put in all the effort. I don’t know. It’s difficult but I appriciate the way you two can talk and disagree with love. 💖
My ASL instructor is deaf, her parents and siblings are hearing. Her family did not bother to learn sign and she has told us how difficult that was for her growing up, she preferred the company of other deaf and hard of hearing persons over her own family.
I'm an educational audiologist and this video is so interesting and really touches on a lot of issues in Deaf education. The communication mode and educational setting that parents select for their children can be so different from family to family. I loved how you navigated your father's opinion with respect even though it is a controversial opinion to have! Thank you for sharing this video. It really shows the "complicated" nature of this topic!
@@pabloescobargarlic2974 The oralist movement in deaf education was the push for Deaf students to learn to lip read and speak, and students were not permitted to use sign language in schools from the 18-19th century. It is considered a dark history of deaf education, and is routed in discrimination towards the Deaf community and Deaf culture. Here is an exerpt from the Wikipedia article about oralism in deaf education: "Leaders of the manualist movement, including Edward M. Gallaudet, argued against the teaching of oralism because it restricted the ability of deaf students to communicate in what was considered their native language.[2] Moreover, "attempts to eliminate sign language were tantamount to stripping them of their identity, their community, and their culture."[2]" en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oralism
Ashley, I had the exact same face and thoughts that you expressed in the description about your dad's encouragement of Deaf people learning to use their voices. I'm currently a student of ASL II and Intro to Deaf Culture at my community college, and we talk so much about topics like this
And I love these off the cuff videos so much! Your dad is so kind and I enjoy his encouragement to parents who have a deaf child to work on communication at a young age! I can’t imagine not being able to speak to my family! Love to you both! ♥️
Loved these videos. My opinion as a hearing person is that I think it's important for parents and family to learn the local sign language because that's the most equal, accessible way to communicate. It's up to the Deaf person if they want to learn to talk or not, and that needs to be up to them. There's no wrong or right way, using a paper and pen can be just as valid, and easy way to communicate with us hearing people. Ideally schools would teach basic signs as well
Ashley you are so beautiful and you inspire me so much. I am a mom of three and my daughters love to watch your videos too. Thank you for teaching us sign language. May God bless you every single day of your life!
Sweet! I understand, because this is father and daughter conversations. You would not feel the same way when another guy (not related) doing the same way you Dad is doing. I do think this video will be priceless in the future, trust me. I am severely hard of hearing and speak well, never had this kind of father (or mother) conversation like yours did here. You are very fortunate having a father like him. 💚
Your dad is so supportive and energetic! I'm not deaf but have health issues and that look on your face when he was going off on a tangent is so familiar. When a parent starts talking about their child overcoming society's limitations there's no way to stop them XD
I really love the both of them. Her father is doing the best he can for his daughter as any parent would to communicate with their child and she is doing her best trying to understand where her dad is trying coming from and saying. Relationship goals at its best right there 🙂 I'm trying to learn sign, so wish me luck everyone.
Love your videos, if I'm being honest(as a deaf person) I don't like using my voice, but I realized that it helps with friends and my family(but one friend I have knows ASL) I started speech in kindergarten and I hated it, I also grew up with spoken language and ASL both, and I truly appreciate that my mom has learned a few signs but at times I wish she knew more, but I can't force her and for being a single mom, I love her SO much, she tries so hard ~ I know she won't see this but I love you mom ❤
So excited to see you upload! Haha I knew there must have been more to your guys’ conversation haha. I love his enthusiasm and spirit to raise awareness! Thanks for posting these behind the scenes!
It’s very hard to know what to do as a parent. And I think it’s wonderful your parents supported you. And learned. And your sisters learned. Back then there wasn’t enough knowledge to know what or where to start. Our parents do the best they can with resources they were given. As far as speaking. Coming from the deaf to hearing back to deaf side. I find I don’t speak a lot or as much anymore due to not being able to say the words right. Especially when I get tired. And because I can still speak. A lot of the hearing think I’m lying about being deaf. We get a double edge sword don’t we. Keep pressing on. You got This girl.
after i watched 5:47 all of suddendly i bursed out of tear... you have no idea how much your father loved you and how much he does care about you. Because my Dad just passed away. Growing up i kept telling my parents to learn ASL but they never have the time...always working busy!!! I grew up oralism ASL was forbidden..it tooks me 20 years to accept myself as Deaf and now i speak ASL fluently. I loved being myself Deaf and I loved myself as I am born again Christian. I finally did the ASL dedicated a song for my Dad at the funeral. No one in my hearing siblings and my mom, my relatives...they have NEVER seen my ASL spoken language front of everyone i did the ASL song. I am so thankful for My Jesus. Holy Spirit is the only ONE who leads me that song. Without HIM i am nothing! You have no idea..you two are SO BLESSING! YES! BE BLESSING! MUCH LOVE & LIGHT (-:
He really loves you honey. Ashley your dad makes really good points as I lost my hearing after two bone marrow aspirations 11yrs ago unexpectedly after being misdiagnosed with pre leukaemia and people constantly change topics and you have to be ready for it.
I am a hearing wife of a husband who is severely hard of hearing from the age of 3 and his mother never learned any sign outside of super basics (>5 signs).. I must be honest, I enjoyed watching your Dad sign. It is not often you see those of his generation so fluent and I was able to keep up fully and learn a sign or 2 along the way As a new viewer I would love to see videos of him signing and speaking at the same time. His speed was perfect for a person who semi-fluent in ASL 😍
I love watching you and your Dad together. I have been learning ASL for just a year. I am encouraged that I can understand most of what your Dad is signing! He's fast, but I feel like I know most of the signs he uses :D Thanks for uploading this extra footage. Blessings to you and your family!
Ashley, your dad loves you soo much. I think he has the best intentions even though it is really hard for deaf people this topic and we all hearing people don't completely understand what you deaf people go through. Your dad wants the best for you and he cares!!! Thank you for sharing. ❤
Ashley! Whether I agree or disagree about anything in your videos, your videos provide unique perspectives for general audience. I teach ASL at a high school for more than 20 yrs. I am deaf myself and none in my family knows sign language. I applaud you for your work! I don't necessarily agree with your dad but coming from similar background, I understand his views. You are fortunate having all your family members that can sign. Keep up with your good work!
Finally had a chance to sit and watch you - both of you are very adorable!!! Look forward to seeing you again and also meet your dad! He seems to be a very fun person to be around. Keep it up!
You two are the greatest and this video reflects that. Impromptu off-the-cuff is the best was to really get insight into you relationship. I had a deaf aunt and her parents never learned sign. She learned to lip read well. I took sign classes to better communicate with her and I enjoyed that and also allowed me to communicate with her deaf friends. Than you for this video.
Thank you so much for this. I'm terrible at languages. Mastered english, and then learned I was terrible at Sign. I shed some tears over this vid, only because I think I recognized my shortcomings and a need to grow. Ashley is awesome! And so is her dad. We could all only hope to have so much love in our life.
I love that he’s trying to encourage everyone to meet the other half way. I know it’s scary for a lot of deaf people to use their voices they don’t want to be made fun of but I wish it was more normalized
I love watching the sense of purpose and pride your dad exudes when communicating with you. I am also attempting to teach myself to sign by watching various ASL instructional videos, but unfortunately practice and application are where one truly progresses in a language. I work closely with patients in hospitals for short durations each time, and one of my recent patients was deaf. I thoroughly embarrassed myself when attempting to communicate with him by doing what appeared to be a pathetic attempt at charades. That embarrassment has stayed in my mind ever since because I have never felt so helpless when it comes to communicating with another human being. As a result, I have done my best to learn enough signs to have the other individual understand the basic ideas I'm trying to convey. It's difficult, but it brings me comfort to see the joy it can bring a deaf individual who primarily uses sign to communicate. No one deserves to feel isolated and I believe my learning of sign could help me bridge people together. Your relationship inspires me greatly.
I love it when you give small tweaks to your family's signing. I noticed many times the proper sign is so much simpler them the fingersign, its just that they don't know it yet. So awesome!!!
Ashley...I stumbled across your videos and I'm glad I did as it has renewed my interest in signing. I grew up in Mississippi but moved to Rochester, NY to go to school when I was 18 and lived on campus of Rochester Institute of Technology. I got an evening job working at a popular restaurant in town and because Rochester has not only the state school for the deaf but also the National Technical School for the Deaf, the restaurant had us do one week of ASL training before we could wait tables. I loved it...and then of course I learned so many new signs while dealing with customers. Just like any language if you don't practice you lose it. Thanks again!
You're an amazing person and I can see where you got that from. You might have been a little frustrated that he went 'off topic' but I believe that to be the best way to get someone's thoughts from the heart. He meant extremely well and wants people to grow up with the element of practicing their voice, as hard as it may be. Your father is an amazing person. I also very much appreciate what you are doing with this channel to spread the word. But yes, please do see it from your father's point of view. I am glad you put this up
i live in a place with a huge deaf community! im so grateful that i have your videos to help me communicate with so many people and make their day! youre awesome and please keep creating content!!
i am a non - deaf person who has a longtime friend who is deaf. it is easy to communicate through facebook and phone texting , i appreciate your videos Ashley they are very informative serious and humorous and i think you have an amazing father . please keep doing your videos i am learning things from you. Thank You David p.s. you are also a very beautiful young lady
Every school or education should make it a mandatory lesson for students to help and understand about those who cannot hear help them to develop the skill of language that could be sign language or vocal communication. I only learned a bit from education I know my consonants and my vowels with my hands. I wish I learned a bit more I did have deaf students but yeah some could hear my voice with this pen mic where I could speak and they could understand. But yeah unfortunately not many get the support so for the dad on this channel he is a model for understanding and teaching us how to approach a situation and the advantages and disadvantages so well done sir.
I love you guys. Even with no problem speaking, when I change topics people have trouble following me! I also think it's good for all people to develop their voices. Many hearing people don't even know what their voices can do. Not just for communication with others, but to just... well, it's like using your hands. It's good to experiment and see what the different parts of our physical selves can do.
I think your father is wonderful. He just wants the best for his daughter! He wants her to be able to go anywhere, and have an easy time communicating. I really think the last thing he wants is to insult anyone. I bet he has seen a lot of people treat his daughter as different and wants to avoid that for her sake. Ashley I think you both are just wonderful!
Are you goingi to do more links to the next 25 Basic SIgns (26-50?) and all the way up to 100? Would love to keep learning from you! This is the best on the net! THANK YOU again!!
Not deaf or hoh, but I appreciate your dad’s insight on this topic! I would hate to miss out on developing relationships with deaf or hoh people because I don’t know sign, and I think if/when I meet someone who communicates mostly with sign it would be very helpful for me to hear their voice, as imperfect (and wonderful) as it is, to help me learn to sign with them! It’s not easy, but your dad shows how it can help a hearing person learn sign, and just as using your voice can help us understand you, I think it works the other way too, so voicing and signing will help hearing people catch on to signing and just better communication in both directions! Love both of your inputs and I’m glad you decided to post this video!!
Oh, and I really liked it when you dad said that he hopes this inspires people "to take action for your family and for your child". That is what it really comes down to ... taking action. It is not something that can be outsourced, the responsibility to communicate with their own children is theirs alone. Hopefully more parents are inspired by this interview to take that action themselves.
So I am late to this conversation... I appreciate both perspectives. I believe if the effort is made honestly it isn't much different than speaking with a person using another language. My time in service in several countries where I knew a few words to read but no grasp of the local language was always a wonderful opportunity to bond with someone. I still share conversations with people from many years ago - online now - and we still look forward to our small conversations where we can catch up and share in each other's joys and pains. The human voice is beautiful - no matter what language or sounds are conveyed. In fact some sounds are universal and I would think that if those were shared more freely we would recognize that we will always have more in common than not. Thank you for addressing this- it does help me to expand my understanding and reconsider my expectations:)
yall are awesome. i wish i had of had a daddy like you sir. i am hoh and started asl as young girl its a long story and sad but needless to say, I was made to stop asl and not supported amongst cruel things. i really admire yalls relationship. had I had a daddy like you, my life gone way different for the better . God bless you xxx thank yall for sharing btw I'm 60 and only in last 5 years able get the help I need and learning language and culture n I'm proud of it
These videos have been wonderful. Love you and your dad and family helping us learn more signs and trying to help us learn that we don't have to be perfect but just to start and to try
I learned to talk when I was in 3rd grade. Even my mom was telling me to depend on using my voice so when I go on my own. I can bring able to communicate with hearing people. So I am thankful for speech therapists who taught me to talk clearly as possible.
The video was great! I am just starting to learn sign. my coworker is deaf and I am surprised at how much I do understand him without me knowing any sign. he does speak words and does help me but I want to communicate with him better. watching your videos will help me to learn the language. thank you for putting yourself out to help people like me.
Ashley I am glad you made this video because it helps people to understand you better maybe 🙂 I'm just the exact opposite. I've learned not to speak as a result of Traumatic Mutism, (but it's sometimes called Selective Mutism) I wish I had learned sign language at A much earlier age because I need it Now. That's Why Your Videos Are So Helpful Ashley! 🥰🌷🌈💖🌻👍🍎
After looking at your channel I am going to start on my off time at work. Going to learn so I can help any hearing impaired or deaf customers. I work in retail so its not often but I have had a few deaf customers and I struggle to help because it’s hard for me to understand
I love love these videos. You are getting more comfortable in front of the camera and it shows. 👍🏼 Seems like your dad is a camera guy. 😁 I would love to know how you got your name sign, maybe a video? 👍🏼
I love your videos, you are so beautiful, and you are so cute, I’m a Mexican boy and your videos really help me on my English classes, I see your videos in 3 day and now I love you, thank you for your sign language videos❤️
حبيبتي أشلي أتمنى لك حظ سعيد في حياتك و الله يحفظلك ابوك .انت قوية وأنا ارى انك أفضل من كثير ناس بيحكو ويسمعوا dear Ashly I wish you a good luck 🍀 in your life ,may Allah bless your father.you are strong girl and a lot better than any other person who can hear and speak normal .we love ❤️ you .you are so nice,sweet and polite.
In one video, Ashley tells the story of being in a store trying to tell the cashier what she wanted. But when the cashier couldn't understand her, she was crushed and became embarrassed. In a world where we have so much, esp. so many THINGS that some people become callous and withdrawn. Ashley doesn't have the one thing so many of us take for granted but she is trying to get there. Ashley's trying to speak is a beautiful testament to human nature, a testament so innocent, it's heart breaking.
Enjoy watching your videos! I know ASL my Mom taught me since she used to teach for the school for the deaf, like I said in the last video I am good at reading lips. I did Speech Therapy when I was little and I am doing some now again since I am learning to hear again with my right sided cochlear implant.
I read your description but i don't think anybody should be offended with this vid as there's no harm in using voice and it helps u and ur family so it's absolutely ok👍🏻☺️ You've got such caring parents 😇 Actually hearing people think it's cool to learn ASL so don't worry much. *TAKE CARE*
I never learned sign as a child (well not enough of it) and I hated the years and years of work in the speech lab. (Til 9th grade). Now my hearing has gotten so much worse and need another way of communicating with the world around me and cant. I, in my 40's am learning sing. On my own because I don't have a school near me that can teach me.
I am profound deaf. What was my deaf environment at school in England was like. I started school age 5. It was mainstream school. (Mixed with normal and deaf student). This school has separate class for the deaf in reading, writing, math while join hearing class for P.E., art, gymnastics, etc. In the deaf classroom, the teacher wear microphone while we put the headphone. (I love it because you can hear words). We didn't learn sign language. I had a speech therapy started in elementary school. I attended speech therapy three times a week. Plus my mom spends attention with me in speech. I am very thankful to mom. 😊 Big help from the speech therapy and mom. Speech therapy that I had was one-on-one include headphones and microphone. Speech therapy wrote many sentence also I tell her idea for example: (wrote down in the book to take home and practice) Using the term "while" , "but" etc. For example: "my child was sleeping, while mom is cooking. That way to develop to speak. I didn't realize what Ashley say using my voice. Voice or pronunciation words? Speech therapy help both. I am thinking it's depends on how much deaf child's hearing loss. Deaf child's voice is not normal and doesn't change. I understand each individual are different. But help child to develop how to say and speak correctly. My personal experience that I learned to speak first before I came to U.S.A. I learned American sign language. I learned ASL and love it. Speak and American sign language absolutely great help for me. Speech therapy here is boring for me at high school. No microphone/headphones that I missed. Voice and sound need to go to my ears. Whenever I go and able to hear other person speak. After that never attend speech therapy. Sometimes I pronounce words wrong.🥴 Ashley's Dad is right, be patient to deaf child, they will get progress. Thank Dad. ☺️
❤️Hi from Germany❤️ your video is really interesting. In Germany, at schools for the deaf/hard of hearing, they used to (and still sometimes do) forbid the students to use sign language. Years ago, that meant that students had to sign secretly outside classrooms. They constantly tried to 'improve' talking and 'oral education' with the deaf students - so now, as a result, the elderly deaf people have such poor singing skills, that they have many misunderstandings during communication with one another plus poor 'talking skills'. Really sad. To me, sign language is really important to be used at schools, to communicate knowledge. So it's kind of the opposite, here. 'Dad', I really think it's great that you sign! Here, they used to discourage parents to sign. Parents were supposed to talk to their children. Nowadays, things are changing, more sign language is being used. Speech therapy is covered in our health insurance. It's really different. But so important that your 'family language' is sign language. I love it. My partner's parents don't sign and family gatherings are really sad, when someone is left out like that. Love your video.
As a hearing person my perspective may be off, but having autism the feeling of being patronized as though stupid or slow merely for struggling with an unimaginative or indifferent school system is part of my experience. That being said, to be able to speak opens up more chances of communication, what if you have a hearing friend that is blind or autistic? Meeting in the middle is the graceful thing ot seems? What if it saves a life? What if speaking saves your life? The few deaf students in my high school Never were anytbing but understanding with me....truly compassionate classmates. I miss Jeff
i think i understand your voice too, since maybe i am 10 years old i use to talk with a deaf friends and now iam 24 still talking to him same time. in my country we don't have a special school for deaf people. But the way my deaf friend understand as talking is by reading the lips and also i have to act out what i mean.
(first thing first, i realised what I'm going to write sound like I'm attacking your dad, I perfectly understand if you did delete this comment as it is your personal RUclips channel). I felt very uncomfortable when your dad said that he wished the education system offer speech therapy, and that deaf people should feel encourage to learn speech therapy. I was born Profoundly Deaf, and nearly my entire childhood was dominated by speech therapy, for nearly two decades it was a massive struggle to just about be able to speak clearly, and it almost rob me of my childhood, after school, I go to speech therapy like clockwork, every days except for the weekend. When it come to education, if given the choice between education and speech therapy, I will always choose the former, because education is extremely important as a child and teenager, and I don't want my education to be compromise by learning to speak. I went to a Deaf boarding school, was the only one who speak and listen, within two weeks, I was able to pick up sign language, within a couple months, I was able to communicate fully in sign language without skipping a beat (abet in Sign Support English). Even now (I'm 34), I may speak very well but I still struggle to listen and lipsread, it wasn't two way, it was enough for hearing people to understand me, but not for me to understand hearing people, moreso they talk as if I am a hearing person when speak clearly (which is every single days). It almost sound like your dad somehow see the process of learning sign language and speech therapy is the same, which is completely the opposite, it take little to no time learning sign languages (my girlfriend already getting the hang of it after a couple of weeks), whether for a deaf child to learn speech therapy can take their entire childhood. Thinking back, I wish I was taught sign language at birth than recieving speech therapy, as I definitely would have developed a lots quicker and better than a language that work for hearing people, moreso, learning sign languages will actually contributed to learning speech if the person choose so.
I'm an interpreter (Norwegian sign language) and I agree with you. I think her father comes from a perspective of "just want the best for people" but doesn't really understand how it feels for deaf people to be forced to speak when they can't hear and really all they need is their own language. In my country the elderly deaf people were forced to sit on their hands in school, and the school only focused on speech and not education like you said (this was thankfully changed in the 80's). I don't feel like you are attacking her dad. You had to go to therapy alot, while Ashley didn't. She sees speaking as cool, while for you it is something you really dislike. From her dads pov it's as well something his daughter sees as cool. I agree with you though, I don't think teaching deaf to speak is a solution. I am glad your girlfriend is picking up sign easily 👏🏼😌 ASL is very different from Norwegian sign language, so I try, but it's not as easy as learning your "own" language 🙈
I think she agrees too. She has that relationship with her dad where she doesn't push it and accepts he is stuck in his views. If my child was deaf who could he not learn sign? They more more focuses on praying for a miracle and hoping she would be able to lipread and have enough speech therapy for it not to be a problem. Her mom is lile night and day. Her mom at least knows sign. Her dad is and old boomer and just doesn't get it.
Aw I love your dad. My favorite part was just watching your reactions to your dad 😂
Your face was so real. Haha. Gotta love Dads! Thanks for sharing!
I'm glad you shared this! You can tell your dad has a very different perspective from parts of the Deaf community, but I think that sharing that is a good thing. Other perspectives can always add to the conversation! Your dad obviously cares very much and wants you and others to have more access to conversation and sharing ♥️
I would like to commend you for tackling a rather sensitive subject. I really appreciated it when you said that "Parents' involvement in the deaf child's life is really important" and how you feel that it is important "to reach hearing people through the internet and social media", especially hearing parents of deaf children. I work in education, and I can't tell you how many deaf and hard-of-hearing children start school without any language at all, sign language or otherwise. Communication is so important and impacts us all in such a large way and is something we can't ignore, especially within our families. So I appreciate that you two set such a good example for what parents and children can do to make that communication happen, and it's clear your relationship with each other has benefited greatly from that.
I’m hearing but I understand this topic is difficult. Your dad comes from the perspective of a parent who has learned to sign and I think he would do anything for you and your family. For deaf och hard of hearing who come from families were parents and siblings do not themself put in effort to learn the others language it may be offending to ask or ’put’ a child in speech therapy expecting them to put in all the effort. I don’t know. It’s difficult but I appriciate the way you two can talk and disagree with love. 💖
My ASL instructor is deaf, her parents and siblings are hearing. Her family did not bother to learn sign and she has told us how difficult that was for her growing up, she preferred the company of other deaf and hard of hearing persons over her own family.
I'm an educational audiologist and this video is so interesting and really touches on a lot of issues in Deaf education. The communication mode and educational setting that parents select for their children can be so different from family to family. I loved how you navigated your father's opinion with respect even though it is a controversial opinion to have! Thank you for sharing this video. It really shows the "complicated" nature of this topic!
How is wanting your child to have the possibility of being able to communicate to the general public controversial?
@@pabloescobargarlic2974 The oralist movement in deaf education was the push for Deaf students to learn to lip read and speak, and students were not permitted to use sign language in schools from the 18-19th century. It is considered a dark history of deaf education, and is routed in discrimination towards the Deaf community and Deaf culture. Here is an exerpt from the Wikipedia article about oralism in deaf education:
"Leaders of the manualist movement, including Edward M. Gallaudet, argued against the teaching of oralism because it restricted the ability of deaf students to communicate in what was considered their native language.[2] Moreover, "attempts to eliminate sign language were tantamount to stripping them of their identity, their community, and their culture."[2]"
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oralism
Aww! your dad is so nice!
Ashley, I had the exact same face and thoughts that you expressed in the description about your dad's encouragement of Deaf people learning to use their voices. I'm currently a student of ASL II and Intro to Deaf Culture at my community college, and we talk so much about topics like this
It doesn’t have to be perfect! Thanks for sharing this part of the video, Ashley! ♥️
And I love these off the cuff videos so much! Your dad is so kind and I enjoy his encouragement to parents who have a deaf child to work on communication at a young age! I can’t imagine not being able to speak to my family! Love to you both! ♥️
Perfect is scary.
Loved these videos. My opinion as a hearing person is that I think it's important for parents and family to learn the local sign language because that's the most equal, accessible way to communicate. It's up to the Deaf person if they want to learn to talk or not, and that needs to be up to them. There's no wrong or right way, using a paper and pen can be just as valid, and easy way to communicate with us hearing people. Ideally schools would teach basic signs as well
Ashley you are so beautiful and you inspire me so much. I am a mom of three and my daughters love to watch your videos too. Thank you for teaching us sign language. May God bless you every single day of your life!
Your videos have a way of making me smile, thank you.
Moon Rising yesss! Same here!
Your father is so sweet! He looks like a fun person to know.
Sweet! I understand, because this is father and daughter conversations. You would not feel the same way when another guy (not related) doing the same way you Dad is doing. I do think this video will be priceless in the future, trust me. I am severely hard of hearing and speak well, never had this kind of father (or mother) conversation like yours did here. You are very fortunate having a father like him. 💚
Your dad is so supportive and energetic!
I'm not deaf but have health issues and that look on your face when he was going off on a tangent is so familiar. When a parent starts talking about their child overcoming society's limitations there's no way to stop them XD
Love your videos. Currently learning ASL and absolutely love the Deaf community ✌️
I really love the both of them. Her father is doing the best he can for his daughter as any parent would to communicate with their child and she is doing her best trying to understand where her dad is trying coming from and saying. Relationship goals at its best right there 🙂 I'm trying to learn sign, so wish me luck everyone.
Love your videos, if I'm being honest(as a deaf person) I don't like using my voice, but I realized that it helps with friends and my family(but one friend I have knows ASL) I started speech in kindergarten and I hated it, I also grew up with spoken language and ASL both, and I truly appreciate that my mom has learned a few signs but at times I wish she knew more, but I can't force her and for being a single mom, I love her SO much, she tries so hard
~ I know she won't see this but I love you mom ❤
So excited to see you upload! Haha I knew there must have been more to your guys’ conversation haha. I love his enthusiasm and spirit to raise awareness! Thanks for posting these behind the scenes!
love you guys! glad you shared this!
It’s very hard to know what to do as a parent. And I think it’s wonderful your parents supported you. And learned. And your sisters learned. Back then there wasn’t enough knowledge to know what or where to start. Our parents do the best they can with resources they were given.
As far as speaking. Coming from the deaf to hearing back to deaf side. I find I don’t speak a lot or as much anymore due to not being able to say the words right. Especially when I get tired. And because I can still speak. A lot of the hearing think I’m lying about being deaf. We get a double edge sword don’t we.
Keep pressing on. You got
This girl.
I noticed that your dad is in a lot of your videos. He’s an amazing dad. 😊👍🏻
after i watched 5:47 all of suddendly i bursed out of tear... you have no idea how much your father loved you and how much he does care about you. Because my Dad just passed away. Growing up i kept telling my parents to learn ASL but they never have the time...always working busy!!! I grew up oralism ASL was forbidden..it tooks me 20 years to accept myself as Deaf and now i speak ASL fluently. I loved being myself Deaf and I loved myself as I am born again Christian. I finally did the ASL dedicated a song for my Dad at the funeral. No one in my hearing siblings and my mom, my relatives...they have NEVER seen my ASL spoken language front of everyone i did the ASL song. I am so thankful for My Jesus. Holy Spirit is the only ONE who leads me that song. Without HIM i am nothing! You have no idea..you two are SO BLESSING! YES! BE BLESSING! MUCH LOVE & LIGHT (-:
He really loves you honey. Ashley your dad makes really good points as I lost my hearing after two bone marrow aspirations 11yrs ago unexpectedly after being misdiagnosed with pre leukaemia and people constantly change topics and you have to be ready for it.
I am a hearing wife of a husband who is severely hard of hearing from the age of 3 and his mother never learned any sign outside of super basics (>5 signs).. I must be honest, I enjoyed watching your Dad sign. It is not often you see those of his generation so fluent and I was able to keep up fully and learn a sign or 2 along the way
As a new viewer I would love to see videos of him signing and speaking at the same time. His speed was perfect for a person who semi-fluent in ASL 😍
I love watching you and your Dad together. I have been learning ASL for just a year. I am encouraged that I can understand most of what your Dad is signing! He's fast, but I feel like I know most of the signs he uses :D Thanks for uploading this extra footage. Blessings to you and your family!
Be carefull with yourself. Respect who you are and you will go far. I say this too everyone I meet.
Ashley, your dad loves you soo much. I think he has the best intentions even though it is really hard for deaf people this topic and we all hearing people don't completely understand what you deaf people go through. Your dad wants the best for you and he cares!!! Thank you for sharing. ❤
Ashley! Whether I agree or disagree about anything in your videos, your videos provide unique perspectives for general audience. I teach ASL at a high school for more than 20 yrs. I am deaf myself and none in my family knows sign language. I applaud you for your work! I don't necessarily agree with your dad but coming from similar background, I understand his views. You are fortunate having all your family members that can sign. Keep up with your good work!
You don't appreciate her father on what topic exactly?
You don't think they should try teach vocalization at an early age alongside signing?
Your dad is very kind and supportive, I just hope that he and other people understand that it is the person’s choice to use their voice.
As a mom of a child born with “hearing loss” who is still very young, it’s really nice seeing these videos of you and your dad! Very sweet.
Finally had a chance to sit and watch you - both of you are very adorable!!! Look forward to seeing you again and also meet your dad! He seems to be a very fun person to be around. Keep it up!
You two are the greatest and this video reflects that. Impromptu off-the-cuff is the best was to really get insight into you relationship. I had a deaf aunt and her parents never learned sign. She learned to lip read well. I took sign classes to better communicate with her and I enjoyed that and also allowed me to communicate with her deaf friends. Than you for this video.
Thank you so much for this. I'm terrible at languages. Mastered english, and then learned I was terrible at Sign. I shed some tears over this vid, only because I think I recognized my shortcomings and a need to grow. Ashley is awesome! And so is her dad. We could all only hope to have so much love in our life.
I love that he’s trying to encourage everyone to meet the other half way. I know it’s scary for a lot of deaf people to use their voices they don’t want to be made fun of but I wish it was more normalized
I love watching the sense of purpose and pride your dad exudes when communicating with you.
I am also attempting to teach myself to sign by watching various ASL instructional videos, but unfortunately practice and application are where one truly progresses in a language. I work closely with patients in hospitals for short durations each time, and one of my recent patients was deaf. I thoroughly embarrassed myself when attempting to communicate with him by doing what appeared to be a pathetic attempt at charades. That embarrassment has stayed in my mind ever since because I have never felt so helpless when it comes to communicating with another human being. As a result, I have done my best to learn enough signs to have the other individual understand the basic ideas I'm trying to convey. It's difficult, but it brings me comfort to see the joy it can bring a deaf individual who primarily uses sign to communicate. No one deserves to feel isolated and I believe my learning of sign could help me bridge people together. Your relationship inspires me greatly.
I love it when you give small tweaks to your family's signing. I noticed many times the proper sign is so much simpler them the fingersign, its just that they don't know it yet. So awesome!!!
I've just started learning about asl and I love what you do. Keep it up Ashley, thank you!!
Ashley...I stumbled across your videos and I'm glad I did as it has renewed my interest in signing. I grew up in Mississippi but moved to Rochester, NY to go to school when I was 18 and lived on campus of Rochester Institute of Technology. I got an evening job working at a popular restaurant in town and because Rochester has not only the state school for the deaf but also the National Technical School for the Deaf, the restaurant had us do one week of ASL training before we could wait tables. I loved it...and then of course I learned so many new signs while dealing with customers. Just like any language if you don't practice you lose it. Thanks again!
Wonderful! Love it when you involve your family members in some of your videos. Fantastic!
I had my headphones off and I could understand your lip speaking, very clear and excellent.
You're an amazing person and I can see where you got that from.
You might have been a little frustrated that he went 'off topic' but I believe that to be the best way to get someone's thoughts from the heart. He meant extremely well and wants people to grow up with the element of practicing their voice, as hard as it may be.
Your father is an amazing person. I also very much appreciate what you are doing with this channel to spread the word. But yes, please do see it from your father's point of view. I am glad you put this up
i live in a place with a huge deaf community! im so grateful that i have your videos to help me communicate with so many people and make their day! youre awesome and please keep creating content!!
I like this video, I am learning ASL atm.
i am a non - deaf person who has a longtime friend who is deaf. it is easy to communicate through facebook and phone texting , i appreciate your videos Ashley they are very informative serious and humorous and i think you have an amazing father . please keep doing your videos i am learning things from you. Thank You David p.s. you are also a very beautiful young lady
Every school or education should make it a mandatory lesson for students to help and understand about those who cannot hear help them to develop the skill of language that could be sign language or vocal communication. I only learned a bit from education I know my consonants and my vowels with my hands. I wish I learned a bit more I did have deaf students but yeah some could hear my voice with this pen mic where I could speak and they could understand. But yeah unfortunately not many get the support so for the dad on this channel he is a model for understanding and teaching us how to approach a situation and the advantages and disadvantages so well done sir.
I love you guys. Even with no problem speaking, when I change topics people have trouble following me! I also think it's good for all people to develop their voices. Many hearing people don't even know what their voices can do. Not just for communication with others, but to just... well, it's like using your hands. It's good to experiment and see what the different parts of our physical selves can do.
Judith Montel iam totally agree with your comment
You move your hands very fast, I am learning but then I get lost because you move so fast, slowly, please, a great job, you are an inspiration
Great father and daughter relationship. Love it. Keep it up more like this.
Loved this...I get so much more out of your videos when you use your voice. I realize I miss it when you don’t speak. Keep it up!
Thank you for sharing Ashley, I didn't know you taught on Instagram too. Just subscribed to that. Keep the videos coming, have a blessed day.
I think your father is wonderful. He just wants the best for his daughter! He wants her to be able to go anywhere, and have an easy time communicating. I really think the last thing he wants is to insult anyone. I bet he has seen a lot of people treat his daughter as different and wants to avoid that for her sake. Ashley I think you both are just wonderful!
Wow! So awsome..... I'm still learning sign -so I've really enjoyed this lesson "thank you😁"
MY TWO FAVORITE PEOPLE. love you ash & proud of you for putting this out there!!!! you all are the BEST!
Are you goingi to do more links to the next 25 Basic SIgns (26-50?) and all the way up to 100? Would love to keep learning from you! This is the best on the net! THANK YOU again!!
Not deaf or hoh, but I appreciate your dad’s insight on this topic! I would hate to miss out on developing relationships with deaf or hoh people because I don’t know sign, and I think if/when I meet someone who communicates mostly with sign it would be very helpful for me to hear their voice, as imperfect (and wonderful) as it is, to help me learn to sign with them! It’s not easy, but your dad shows how it can help a hearing person learn sign, and just as using your voice can help us understand you, I think it works the other way too, so voicing and signing will help hearing people catch on to signing and just better communication in both directions! Love both of your inputs and I’m glad you decided to post this video!!
Oh, and I really liked it when you dad said that he hopes this inspires people "to take action for your family and for your child". That is what it really comes down to ... taking action. It is not something that can be outsourced, the responsibility to communicate with their own children is theirs alone. Hopefully more parents are inspired by this interview to take that action themselves.
So I am late to this conversation... I appreciate both perspectives. I believe if the effort is made honestly it isn't much different than speaking with a person using another language. My time in service in several countries where I knew a few words to read but no grasp of the local language was always a wonderful opportunity to bond with someone. I still share conversations with people from many years ago - online now - and we still look forward to our small conversations where we can catch up and share in each other's joys and pains.
The human voice is beautiful - no matter what language or sounds are conveyed. In fact some sounds are universal and I would think that if those were shared more freely we would recognize that we will always have more in common than not.
Thank you for addressing this- it does help me to expand my understanding and reconsider my expectations:)
Alshey's sight Is so beautiful!!
I enjoyed your video and I was encouraged by you two! Blessings!
You are both blessed to have each other 🤟
3:33 🤣 you guys are amazing, i have no words🙏🏻
Awwww. Your daddy loves you so much ❤
yall are awesome. i wish i had of had a daddy like you sir. i am hoh and started asl as young girl its a long story and sad but needless to say, I was made to stop asl and not supported amongst cruel things. i really admire yalls relationship. had I had a daddy like you, my life gone way different for the better . God bless you xxx thank yall for sharing btw I'm 60 and only in last 5 years able get the help I need and learning language and culture n I'm proud of it
These videos have been wonderful. Love you and your dad and family helping us learn more signs and trying to help us learn that we don't have to be perfect but just to start and to try
I learned to talk when I was in 3rd grade. Even my mom was telling me to depend on using my voice so when I go on my own. I can bring able to communicate with hearing people. So I am thankful for speech therapists who taught me to talk clearly as possible.
The video was great! I am just starting to learn sign. my coworker is deaf and I am surprised at how much I do understand him without me knowing any sign. he does speak words and does help me but I want to communicate with him better. watching your videos will help me to learn the language. thank you for putting yourself out to help people like me.
Ashley I am glad you made this video because it helps people to understand you better maybe 🙂 I'm just the exact opposite. I've learned not to speak as
a result of Traumatic Mutism, (but it's sometimes called Selective Mutism)
I wish I had learned sign language at
A much earlier age because I need it
Now. That's Why Your Videos Are So Helpful Ashley! 🥰🌷🌈💖🌻👍🍎
After looking at your channel I am going to start on my off time at work. Going to learn so I can help any hearing impaired or deaf customers. I work in retail so its not often but I have had a few deaf customers and I struggle to help because it’s hard for me to understand
I love your dad! ❤😁
Merry Christms Ashlie - Love
I love your voice. Thank you.
Most dads are this bold when thinking of their children.
Your voice is 👍🏻 great 👍🏻 and your dad shows a lot of love threw his signing
i have been following you for so long and there’s so much improvement in your voice i love hearing it
I love love these videos. You are getting more comfortable in front of the camera and it shows. 👍🏼 Seems like your dad is a camera guy. 😁 I would love to know how you got your name sign, maybe a video? 👍🏼
I second this, I'd love to know how your name sign was decided too!
I love your videos, you are so beautiful, and you are so cute, I’m a Mexican boy and your videos really help me on my English classes, I see your videos in 3 day and now I love you, thank you for your sign language videos❤️
حبيبتي أشلي أتمنى لك حظ سعيد في حياتك و الله يحفظلك ابوك .انت قوية وأنا ارى انك أفضل من كثير ناس بيحكو ويسمعوا dear Ashly I wish you a good luck 🍀 in your life ,may Allah bless your father.you are strong girl and a lot better than any other person who can hear and speak normal .we love ❤️ you .you are so nice,sweet and polite.
Great video, thanks for posting it :)
Haha 😂🤣 love your expressions face!!! You could more video!!!
In one video, Ashley tells the story of being in a store trying to tell the cashier what she wanted. But when the cashier couldn't understand her, she was crushed and became embarrassed.
In a world where we have so much, esp. so many THINGS that some people become callous and withdrawn. Ashley doesn't have the one thing so many of us take for granted but she is trying to get there. Ashley's trying to speak is a beautiful testament to human nature, a testament so innocent, it's heart breaking.
I can understand alot of what you are saying. It's very good I have been learning asl on and off since I was young
Enjoy watching your videos! I know ASL my Mom taught me since she used to teach for the school for the deaf, like I said in the last video I am good at reading lips. I did Speech Therapy when I was little and I am doing some now again since I am learning to hear again with my right sided cochlear implant.
I read your description but i don't think anybody should be offended with this vid as there's no harm in using voice and it helps u and ur family so it's absolutely ok👍🏻☺️
You've got such caring parents 😇
Actually hearing people think it's cool to learn ASL so don't worry much.
*TAKE CARE*
Ashley is like a little baby and she's funny just like her dad😄😊
Wonderful video💖💕
I never learned sign as a child (well not enough of it) and I hated the years and years of work in the speech lab. (Til 9th grade). Now my hearing has gotten so much worse and need another way of communicating with the world around me and cant. I, in my 40's am learning sing. On my own because I don't have a school near me that can teach me.
🥰🙋🏻♀️I love this video, you two are great, fun to watch and listen to, I laughed ..😀☺️🙏🕊
Love your videos!
Your dad is a cool guy.
I know what it feels like to be deaf and I've been deaf for a long with expensive hearing aids
I am profound deaf. What was my deaf environment at school in England was like.
I started school age 5. It was mainstream school. (Mixed with normal and deaf student). This school has separate class for the deaf in reading, writing, math while join hearing class for P.E., art, gymnastics, etc.
In the deaf classroom, the teacher wear microphone while we put the headphone. (I love it because you can hear words). We didn't learn sign language.
I had a speech therapy started in elementary school. I attended speech therapy three times a week. Plus my mom spends attention with me in speech. I am very thankful to mom. 😊 Big help from the speech therapy and mom.
Speech therapy that I had was one-on-one include headphones and microphone. Speech therapy wrote many sentence also I tell her idea for example: (wrote down in the book to take home and practice) Using the term "while" , "but" etc. For example:
"my child was sleeping, while mom is cooking. That way to develop to speak.
I didn't realize what Ashley say using my voice. Voice or pronunciation words? Speech therapy help both. I am thinking it's depends on how much deaf child's hearing loss. Deaf child's voice is not normal and doesn't change. I understand each individual are different. But help child to develop how to say and speak correctly.
My personal experience that I learned to speak first before I came to U.S.A. I learned American sign language. I learned ASL and love it. Speak and American sign language absolutely great help for me. Speech therapy here is boring for me at high school. No microphone/headphones that I missed. Voice and sound need to go to my ears. Whenever I go and able to hear other person speak. After that never attend speech therapy. Sometimes I pronounce words wrong.🥴
Ashley's Dad is right, be patient to deaf child, they will get progress. Thank Dad. ☺️
Plesse do more videos, I like seeing you!
❤️Hi from Germany❤️ your video is really interesting. In Germany, at schools for the deaf/hard of hearing, they used to (and still sometimes do) forbid the students to use sign language. Years ago, that meant that students had to sign secretly outside classrooms. They constantly tried to 'improve' talking and 'oral education' with the deaf students - so now, as a result, the elderly deaf people have such poor singing skills, that they have many misunderstandings during communication with one another plus poor 'talking skills'. Really sad. To me, sign language is really important to be used at schools, to communicate knowledge.
So it's kind of the opposite, here. 'Dad', I really think it's great that you sign! Here, they used to discourage parents to sign. Parents were supposed to talk to their children. Nowadays, things are changing, more sign language is being used.
Speech therapy is covered in our health insurance. It's really different.
But so important that your 'family language' is sign language. I love it.
My partner's parents don't sign and family gatherings are really sad, when someone is left out like that.
Love your video.
As a hearing person my perspective may be off, but having autism the feeling of being patronized as though stupid or slow merely for struggling with an unimaginative or indifferent school system is part of my experience. That being said, to be able to speak opens up more chances of communication, what if you have a hearing friend that is blind or autistic? Meeting in the middle is the graceful thing ot seems? What if it saves a life? What if speaking saves your life?
The few deaf students in my high school
Never were anytbing but understanding with me....truly compassionate classmates.
I miss Jeff
i think i understand your voice too, since maybe i am 10 years old i use to talk with a deaf friends and now iam 24 still talking to him same time. in my country we don't have a special school for deaf people. But the way my deaf friend understand as talking is by reading the lips and also i have to act out what i mean.
Dad is a good signer. I'm a signer myself. I'm fluent in ASL. I have family and friends who are deaf including my handsome boyfriend Joel
(first thing first, i realised what I'm going to write sound like I'm attacking your dad, I perfectly understand if you did delete this comment as it is your personal RUclips channel).
I felt very uncomfortable when your dad said that he wished the education system offer speech therapy, and that deaf people should feel encourage to learn speech therapy.
I was born Profoundly Deaf, and nearly my entire childhood was dominated by speech therapy, for nearly two decades it was a massive struggle to just about be able to speak clearly, and it almost rob me of my childhood, after school, I go to speech therapy like clockwork, every days except for the weekend.
When it come to education, if given the choice between education and speech therapy, I will always choose the former, because education is extremely important as a child and teenager, and I don't want my education to be compromise by learning to speak.
I went to a Deaf boarding school, was the only one who speak and listen, within two weeks, I was able to pick up sign language, within a couple months, I was able to communicate fully in sign language without skipping a beat (abet in Sign Support English).
Even now (I'm 34), I may speak very well but I still struggle to listen and lipsread, it wasn't two way, it was enough for hearing people to understand me, but not for me to understand hearing people, moreso they talk as if I am a hearing person when speak clearly (which is every single days).
It almost sound like your dad somehow see the process of learning sign language and speech therapy is the same, which is completely the opposite, it take little to no time learning sign languages (my girlfriend already getting the hang of it after a couple of weeks), whether for a deaf child to learn speech therapy can take their entire childhood.
Thinking back, I wish I was taught sign language at birth than recieving speech therapy, as I definitely would have developed a lots quicker and better than a language that work for hearing people, moreso, learning sign languages will actually contributed to learning speech if the person choose so.
I completely agree with you. I told my parent about that phase and they apologized and realize the limitations our own body can bring.
I'm an interpreter (Norwegian sign language) and I agree with you. I think her father comes from a perspective of "just want the best for people" but doesn't really understand how it feels for deaf people to be forced to speak when they can't hear and really all they need is their own language. In my country the elderly deaf people were forced to sit on their hands in school, and the school only focused on speech and not education like you said (this was thankfully changed in the 80's).
I don't feel like you are attacking her dad. You had to go to therapy alot, while Ashley didn't. She sees speaking as cool, while for you it is something you really dislike. From her dads pov it's as well something his daughter sees as cool. I agree with you though, I don't think teaching deaf to speak is a solution.
I am glad your girlfriend is picking up sign easily 👏🏼😌 ASL is very different from Norwegian sign language, so I try, but it's not as easy as learning your "own" language 🙈
I think she agrees too. She has that relationship with her dad where she doesn't push it and accepts he is stuck in his views.
If my child was deaf who could he not learn sign? They more more focuses on praying for a miracle and hoping she would be able to lipread and have enough speech therapy for it not to be a problem. Her mom is lile night and day. Her mom at least knows sign. Her dad is and old boomer and just doesn't get it.
applaud