Being broke is not a permanent state, it's just a phase that will fade off if you keep working on yourself as a guy. The issue is most women don't see the future with the guy they see broke, they just want to have everything on the now. Mind you, those one called rich today were once broke
She might accept to date you or even love you BUT sooner or later you will feel the impact of having a girl/woman in your life when your source of income is below par. It's not just about love, there will be moments when money will be more of value than love in that relationship. TIP: be financially stable before you decide to jump into a relationship.
@@thabangmagana869 Love isn't enough to keep a relationship running. Even the truest of love requires money to work. Like I said, there will be moments when love alone won't be sufficient. Modern relationships require going out on a date, getting her something special on her birthday, making plans for your anniversary and all these require money to be successful.
10 things to quit for all Strong Men: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it) 7. Chasing meaningless relationships 8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩 9. Wasting time by scrolling social media 10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.
There are broke men a woman should stay away from and then there are broke men who in spite of their circumstances are gems. The thing is to have the discernment and wisdom to know which one you dealing with.
The woman I fell for definitely saw me not being financially independent (no job, depressed, no ambitions, staying at home a lot) as an issue. Couldn’t blame her either, cause I see it as a big issue myself.
Yeah but like she said that you were/are broke and not poor🤷🏿♂️ I think you are better off without her. You deserve better than someone that’s gonna walk away just because you aren’t financially fit
@@thabangmagana869 Well, I was/am not even broke. I just don’t have a job or any aspirations. And it’s not the main reason it didn’t work out between the two of us. I messed up in a major way and although we did talk a couple of weeks ago (we hadn’t talked in a while), I don’t think it’s something we can overcome to even be friends again. And her heart is with someone else now and I don’t think I can handle being “just” friends, while I also find it very difficult to let her go (I still miss her every day), so… It’s all kinds of messed up.
What about if we reverse both your situations. If you truly loved her , you wouldn't have given up on her. Thats the difference between a man's love and a so called woman love... That's why men need to never put a woman as their priority. A man must know that from the beginning, he is just filling a woman's needs and playing a specific role.. thats ok if he is still accomplishing his own predetermined goals , but if he dedicates his entire life to please a woman , he will definitely regret it later
@@obscurelight I don’t think we’re there just to fulfill their needs. I believe things are a lot more complex than that. Having said that, I’d never give up on her. There are things about her that aren’t ideal, but I can look past them and I’d support her and help her in whatever way I can if she’d wanna work on these things. But I believe she’d do the same for me if I hadn’t messed up our… relationship (in the broad sense of the word).
@@ZenoGoreng that's my main point! Why couldn't she go past that incident or whatever you argued with her while you could do the same for her flaws and imperfections. Its because men love the person regardless of society standards , not like women, they love your position in the society, love your financial providing ability, your status... Etc. I do believe that once we get regulations on sperm buy/sell market, not a single financially stable woman would marry a guy anymore. Mark my words...
Interesting video, on a personal level I wouldn’t date a broke woman. It’s ok if she makes less than me. However, I am not going to date a female that isn’t going to try to take care of herself. At the end of the day I need a partner. Not somebody that’s going to use me. Together we can make each other better.
Maybe that's why women wouldn't date a broke man either, they don't want him using her as a resource either. I think the other reasons shown in the video are bs
This particular video is like was made for me. I have had money, real money. And women and even men would literally worship my every word. I lost mone and very few women ever wanted to be anywhere near me. Similarly to men. Even the men who used to cheer me up started talking bad about me. My experience makes me very suspicious about everyone around me. Nonetheless, even at my worst point, I have never wanted to date a broke woman. I have never depended on a woman and will never depend on one but I will never date a broke woman no matter what. I have helped women make money, much more money than I even had but I will never date a broke woman. I will always go for the successful woman and make her even more successful or one with potential and make her realize her potential. I just feel happy knowing that I helped someone move from Point 1 to Point 2.
Jessica is indeed a goddess with all this knowledge, wisdom and empathy. You will make a good mother. I saw a movie recently "First Love" and I couldn't help but notice how the wife of a man who lost his job kept saying "we would figure it out" and all that comes to mind is you. When you put out content, these are not just mere words but life and energy and understanding which is usually reflective of the speaker. More grace Jess and cheers to more women like you in this world 🥂
Money is the driving force behind EVERYTHING on this planet ...If you dont have oxygen to breath , you'll die ...If you don't have money , you'll die too ( albeit first mentally ) .. There are many relationships that has perished on the battlefield of " no money " ...even a lot of marriages had ended up in the divorce court ...not because the couples didnt love one another ...but because of a lack of money .. Paul says in the bible , " the love of money is the root of all evil " ( that might have been the case in his day ) BUT .... I have my own modern day interpretation and it is this ; " the LACK of money is the root of all evil " ..The voice of money shouts louder than anything man can imagine .. I'd say a woman can date a guy that is 'broke' , as long as that ' broke ' guy has a inner confidence , and a passionate dream that he is willing to persue with all his heart ( with her support ....) Any man that does not have the above characteristics , will be able to take a woman somewhere , but that somewhere will be NOwhere ....He should have a vision of what he wants to be , do , and have for himself and his partner , or family ... When i met my wife , she was financially way better of than me ( due to her profession ) , but i had a big dream , and i was willing to persue it with everything in me ...She saw it ...Somehow it turned her on ( maybe because she was looking for a man that could have inspired her ...a man with a passion and a drive to go after his dream ) It paid off big time ...Today i'm rolling in the cash , and she loves me even more ...And i love her even more for believing in me at a time that i was flat broke.....
I like the way you presented the facts with sound, practical advice for men who are financially handicapped and have girlfriends or wives. Also, I like the way you emphasized on the conduct a broke and a poor man should manifest. A man may despise the handicap, but he should not despise the hand that is "feeding" him. Perhaps, this could be a time for a change.
Cheers Jessica! Topic requires extensive search and questioning! Like your approach. Looks pretty straight forward, acceptable and understandable. I feel that we're just kind of hitting the tip of the iceberg! I would expect and appreciate if you could come back for more on an extensive quest on this topic. Keep up the good work
People can be born poor, but during the life process staying poor remains every man's responsibility. Broke moments are periods in life that will frequently or not happen, but the challenge is to overcome the situation by taking solid and durable solutions to preserve a consistency in providing resources. These are the points women shall focus on
Jessica im going through a heartbreak right now and i feel angry because i gave all my time attention and love and she gave it back but all of sudden she started talking to someone else, but your videos gave me the courage to move on even if its difficult ‼️
I’m dating a man who’s broke that I took care for 2 years and all he does is play with his friends and now I’m at the verge of breaking up with him because I see no future with him anymore. It’s fcking sad. I feel so resentful and bitter towards him. I hope to never meet another man like this again. Seriously broke men traumatized me especially if he ain’t willing to get his life together. Wasted time wasted money paying for everything to get nothing back in return
It saddens me to read this. Have you at least tried to talk with your partner about this and how you are feeling at the moment? Don't be afraid to be honest with him and how you are on the verge of ending things with him. Maybe by you providing this information with give him a jolt to his system and it could be a wakeup call before things end.
once dated a lady many years ago, she left me cos I was broke...before she left, I told her to give me small time that I will make it big.. well, few years later, she got married to a rich guy and guess what happened afterwards.... she is still rich, the man is also rich and I am still broke..😮💨..
Without even having seen the video (yet) I can answer with: yes, for sure. BUT it can get difficult when or if you want to build a life that involves owning a house and having children and the woman isn't earning above average. Money will be an issue in those kind of situations. It's also important WHY you're broke: I have been broke often but I've always had plans, ambitions, personality, I can hold a conversation and with enough booze (in the woman, that is) I have been known to make a woman laugh. But if you're broke cos you rather stay up til 3 at night and then get up round noon and 'like dunno whatchu gonn do next', that's an entire different story alltogether. I've been broke, i've had good positions and during the different financial stages in my life i've always attracted and dated the same kind of women. Kinda bizarre now that I think of it.
Love could be found in the 70's and 80's. Everyone was struggling. Still finding a way. Now.... If your broke.. women won't even look at you. A different world folks. The days of Flo and James are over. Now women want a Jay Z, Rick Ross, Lil Wayne, etc. They won't even look at a normal guy working a 9 to 5. That's considered below average.
I have seen relationships break because of this issue, and most of the ladies quoted being called top controlling because of their money as the real cause
I'm so glad that women in this country have come out into their own about men!!! Whatever it is, I'm so glad that women have come out into their own about men!!!!
The world we lived in why do women believe they entitled to a man money fella invest in yourself first then you becomes marketable and you never have to chase a broke women
Yep...not surprising men also want the same things while dating women...yet many women are either not aware of men's expectations or choose to ignore those expectations just because...
While I can appreciate the genuine need of security for her future family, from a woman's perspective, I can also see the other thing, which is actually the issue - modern women distrust men. It's not because of financial situation, it is because of modern ideology, feminism, these kind of things. Women have been indoctrinated not to trust men. This makes forming a family a very hard task nowadays. I know people just one generation back (our fathers and mothers) - who didn't have money, then got married and it didn't bother any of them. They have long marriage, they overcame their hardships and life is nice. A lot such people exist. So, what's different now? People of today choose to serve their fears, than their hearts. This distances themselves away from love. And with no love - nothing will come to them. Sad.
Public comment. The ambiance of love and compassion and love and care is what matters. Self realization and self control and discipline allows you to achieve success.
It's always about what women want... it is a topic when a man is Broke and whether women shpuld accept him or not, But nobody ever talks about whether men should stay with a broke woman.. the man and woman went through the same phase of Life..(born into the world, passed through the same educational or labour systems, equal opportunity post studies for paid employment or self entrepreneurship....)... yet it is only the man that is questioned for being broke.... or we not going to talk about equality anymore?
I don't know for other countries but in Nigeria, is all about the money It's rare to a woman who would date or love you when you are broke and even if you see one, just get ready for the insults and frustration because you will definitely get it 👌
I'm a poor man and I stay out of women because I think they deserve better. A woman is better off with man with money regardless if they gonna be happy with him or not. As for me poor men with low self esteem it goes down to the multitude of women who always talking about successful men who can provide.
they can .. we see it all the time .. but for that to happen, certain things need to be present .. the guy has to be very good looking, charming, and have an elite stroke game .. that last part is key .. if the sex is insanely good, she will gladly tolerate a lot of things including your brokeness and even support your ass sometimes lol but if you're just a 'regular' guy, no way any woman puts up with being a broke ass ... but even knowing all this, what real man with any sense of dignity is ok with himself being broke and especially being broke with a woman by his side .. that would eat at me constantly .. couldn't do it
Most girls always say they are looking for a man that has goals and ambitions but thats cap. You go up to a girl and say you are broke at the moment, but you've got ambitions and targets they wont hear it from you unless you are already rich
They can't love the way men love. The true unconditional love, the kind of love that isn't based on how much you bring to the table... Women love out of hypergamy, which is a conditional love. A man doesn't. Once you lose your job or get a life threatening illness or whatever made you a valide option to her(mostly financial security), just watch the change of behavior, the look in the eyes...
4:32 Is exactly one of the reasons why this one woman might be doing more county jail time or possibly prison time. Lol. She chose the supposedly easier path with another guy, in which whom also got her into all these legal issues, etc. Lol. On top of it I’ve done for her while she’s in there at this present moment and that same guy has been missing in action. Lol. My financial situation has gotten better since she left me/cut off all communication. Lol. But now she’s back, and I can now serve as a determining factor of whether she does prison or jail time or probationary house arrest, etc. Lol. Hmm what should I do…. I might really look out for me at this moment, cease all support and choose the lesser of hassles and “easier paths of resistance, it what it is, fair enough”. Lol. Thank God!
Well...what is the definition of broke is what should be asked first because if a woman who is secure with knowing she can uplift her guy/man that she feel isn't financially equal with plenty of money wouldn't be worried about her man's pockets but to give that support to where he can take his place in the home as he should...women who complain about they don't want a broke man is already a red flag in my eyes...it means she's selfish, self-centered and independent...the best partners in life is one who you can build with...not with everything in the world already...💯
being BROKE should be a temporary financial state.... Broke is a matter of opinion.... whatever one person consider is enough may not be the same for the next.... FINANCIAL COMPATIBILITY.... MATTERS!.... having a broke work ethic and decision making is really the factors that should be considered when holding onto or letting go of a potential partner...
Then again why men Should be at center when it comes to money. Why not women too? Why Women can’t provide all of what you said? Isn’t she a human too? Isn’t that what equality is all about? Don’t take me wrong i never let a girl pay for my food, i don’t need their help. Its just the word is going in the wrong direction. Why women has to be the prize when man is the one who has to pay?
You did not list that men want a submissive woman. Many men give women all these things listed, but still get divorced by 80% women; only because most times there is no submission from the woman. Here in lies the crux of the issue. The sad reality is that it goes against a woman's nature to submit to many men unless she knows God. Your list testifies to this. He who finds a good wife, is God saying good luck finding that good wife. Good video.
In reality in fact... if u broke...a most of women will not stay with a broken man... a man will gain a lot to focus on himself.. and try to enjoy to being lonely and improve himself...
Jess I would really appreciate if you would do a video on ," why women decide to get pregnant for a certain type of guy" but will never for another... and it's not because of money the guy can be a regular guy....What would influence their decision...
Why do men care less when their wives do not bring any income to the home ? When a man does not bring income into his matrimonial home the marriage comes to an end. Are men KINDER or more compassionate than WOMEN?
I think men need to learn from women in this area, I know we love women for the sake of loving, I even know several men that took in broke women that had several children from other men. If only us men could stop loving unconditionally and demand that women bring more to the table than just simply being a woman. Hold people to their own standards, in other words men should avoid broke women too.
Thank you Ms. Jessica for tackling such a sensitive subject. But unfortunately this problem just might be Gaining to much MOMENTUM for the Male population 😔. But thanks for your view..
What is broke guy like myself i am business owner i don't have money ready to give to women when they want favour,do i fall under the category of broke guys🇿🇦
broke men may have low self esteem but money doesn't automatically make you have high self esteem .. that shit comes from within .. I see guys driving boring looking used cars who have the highest confidence talking to women and people in general .. I guess you can say they have a dgaf attitude .. that's the best way to be really .. money gives you confidence but sometimes it's false confidence solely based on the money
Women need to know that it is not a problem if it can be fixed with money. Anything problem that you can resolve with money is not a problem. The more broke you are the more problems you tend to have. Now, problems that can't be fixed with money are serious problems.
very interesting world views. Most of the time, I would be considered eternally broke. I hate money. Big fan of hard work and trade, but in this modern world of neoclassical economics/capitalism, virtually all financial growth is based on exploiting another. I work hard and earn well, but then deliberately give most away to my activism groups and political party. Spent the last decade just sleeping in a tent owning nothing but a bike and what I can carry. I have had more problems finding compatibility due to my very strong climate activism views than the amount of this made up thing we call money has. However the types of women I am interested in generally have the same level of disdain for this system and they understand non fiscal wealth much better. But then to be fair, your list of 'what women want' sits quite well with me. My whole life is geared to being resourceful and doing what it takes, I am passionate and consistent with what drives me and I mindfully participate in social justice to make sure that I matter. when climate change or ecological disaster strikes your area, who do you want to be with... The pretty boy in the shiney car who is good at extracting wealth from those below, or the man who can build you an underground hurricane proof and climate controlled earthship, with an underground food farm powered by the warmth the soil has absorbed from the sun.. ;)
How about this.....Just leave the women alone. I've been through that when I was fresh out of college. I didn't know much about dating in church or dating period. Didn't have time to date in college. When I went back to the church that I hadn't been to since I had transferred to the university the woman there a little bit more egregious. They were looking for someone to marry immediately. I dated this chick who was pressuring me and I didn't know what was going on because I was never school on dating in church or dating outside of church. Now mind you I did take a few ladies out when I was in college to eat and do some functions on campus but I never had a long lasting relationship when I was in college. Fast forward to me being in church after graduating it was totally new to me and some of the Elders of the church in the singles Ministry didn't understand where I was coming from when I asked them can I date other people while I'm in church. The elder lady must have went off on me for even asking the question. I didn't know that dating in church meant that you were dating that person to marry them. She didn't make any leeway for me thinking that maybe I just didn't know how to date in church. On the outside world you can date multiple people and it's not a big deal. That's why a lot of these Church going women tend to be a little bit more aggressive when it comes to dating. After my experience I'm never doing that again. There was no sexual intercourse but because women in church tend to function as a unit and tend to think that every man is a player if he doesn't do as they say and put a ring on her finger when they want it and how they want it the guy always gets the s*** end of the stick because the majority of women in church are the ones who are keeping the church running because they give the most money. The pastor ain't going to argue with him when they come to him with grievances about a male. A lot of times the male pastor stand with the women because the women are paying the bills. The pastors never bothered to ask me anything they just heard the woman inside of the story. Long story short the women harass me for years and mistreated me for years because my relationship with person that I was seeing at the church didn't go their way didn't go her way didn't go "the way." I didn't have much money then and I don't have much money now because I was spending all my money to take care of my dad who had health problems. A lot of times women don't understand s*** and they only hear what they want to hear. It would have been better for me to have lied. But I was honest about everything. I told that chick I wasn't ready for a relationship but she kept on asking "why why?" Then when I told her I wasn't ready for a relationship she ran back to the women in the singles Ministry and complained to them. What did they do they ganged up on me and set out to get me. Made my life a living hell for nothing.
I just think it’s not always certain. My gf who we have been dating for two years was reported cheating and she told the truth when I asked. She agreed she was cheating. Our first year in the relationship was lite and we were all we ever wanted. Things changed and it was kind of hard to get things and that has been when our relationship has been the other way round which I thought I was the problem. Cos I was trying to fix but it wasn’t changing no matter how I talk to her to let’s get better again. She’s cheating with a guy who does fraud and now the guy got her an iPhone and paid for her makeup training. She told me she wants to choose me again but she’s yet to figure out how she is going to tell the guy she was In a relationship. She said she didn’t want to let the guy see her as the bad one and now the guy keeps doing more that I notice she doesn’t know what to do presently. It seriously affected me a lot but now I’m getting Over it. We are still in the relationship but not growing and she’s yet to let go of the guy. Note: I was always buying her gifts and I payed for a lot of stuff, including her exam fee at a time.
Being broke is not a permanent state, it's just a phase that will fade off if you keep working on yourself as a guy. The issue is most women don't see the future with the guy they see broke, they just want to have everything on the now. Mind you, those one called rich today were once broke
Yep..the Ex sent me broke but now I'm heading way over the income I was making when with her..😁😁😎😎
Facts
Honesty
You might be the right package at the wrong address
Real talk 💯👌🏿
She might accept to date you or even love you BUT sooner or later you will feel the impact of having a girl/woman in your life when your source of income is below par. It's not just about love, there will be moments when money will be more of value than love in that relationship.
TIP: be financially stable before you decide to jump into a relationship.
That’s a shitty tip though, how will you know she’s really into you when you doing great financially?
What made you come up with the non logic or reality 🤔
@@thabangmagana869 Love isn't enough to keep a relationship running. Even the truest of love requires money to work. Like I said, there will be moments when love alone won't be sufficient. Modern relationships require going out on a date, getting her something special on her birthday, making plans for your anniversary and all these require money to be successful.
@@NofCakGod Both logic and reality (experience)......
I'm finding that out..🙁
10 things to quit for all Strong Men:
1. Caring about what others think
2. Not believing in yourself
3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business)
4. Not prioritizing your health
5. Wasting your precious time
6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it)
7. Chasing meaningless relationships
8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩
9. Wasting time by scrolling social media
10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!)
Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.
you're funny 🤣
Those are all true I got 8 out of 10 lol the 2 I don't well lol
I'm guilty of all these but working on them. Ive gone from nail-biting to nail picking. It's progress.
There are broke men a woman should stay away from and then there are broke men who in spite of their circumstances are gems. The thing is to have the discernment and wisdom to know which one you dealing with.
women dont care about your struggles as a man, they only care about results and winners
Yes your Correct..modern women HAVE BECOME SO HEARTLESS!!!
The woman I fell for definitely saw me not being financially independent (no job, depressed, no ambitions, staying at home a lot) as an issue. Couldn’t blame her either, cause I see it as a big issue myself.
Yeah but like she said that you were/are broke and not poor🤷🏿♂️ I think you are better off without her. You deserve better than someone that’s gonna walk away just because you aren’t financially fit
@@thabangmagana869 Well, I was/am not even broke. I just don’t have a job or any aspirations. And it’s not the main reason it didn’t work out between the two of us.
I messed up in a major way and although we did talk a couple of weeks ago (we hadn’t talked in a while), I don’t think it’s something we can overcome to even be friends again.
And her heart is with someone else now and I don’t think I can handle being “just” friends, while I also find it very difficult to let her go (I still miss her every day), so… It’s all kinds of messed up.
What about if we reverse both your situations. If you truly loved her , you wouldn't have given up on her. Thats the difference between a man's love and a so called woman love... That's why men need to never put a woman as their priority. A man must know that from the beginning, he is just filling a woman's needs and playing a specific role.. thats ok if he is still accomplishing his own predetermined goals , but if he dedicates his entire life to please a woman , he will definitely regret it later
@@obscurelight I don’t think we’re there just to fulfill their needs. I believe things are a lot more complex than that.
Having said that, I’d never give up on her. There are things about her that aren’t ideal, but I can look past them and I’d support her and help her in whatever way I can if she’d wanna work on these things. But I believe she’d do the same for me if I hadn’t messed up our… relationship (in the broad sense of the word).
@@ZenoGoreng that's my main point! Why couldn't she go past that incident or whatever you argued with her while you could do the same for her flaws and imperfections. Its because men love the person regardless of society standards , not like women, they love your position in the society, love your financial providing ability, your status... Etc. I do believe that once we get regulations on sperm buy/sell market, not a single financially stable woman would marry a guy anymore. Mark my words...
Interesting video, on a personal level I wouldn’t date a broke woman. It’s ok if she makes less than me. However, I am not going to date a female that isn’t going to try to take care of herself. At the end of the day I need a partner. Not somebody that’s going to use me. Together we can make each other better.
Appreciated hearing your insights.
Maybe that's why women wouldn't date a broke man either, they don't want him using her as a resource either. I think the other reasons shown in the video are bs
Jessica will be the second ghanaian youtuber to hit 1million subs
This particular video is like was made for me. I have had money, real money. And women and even men would literally worship my every word. I lost mone and very few women ever wanted to be anywhere near me. Similarly to men. Even the men who used to cheer me up started talking bad about me. My experience makes me very suspicious about everyone around me. Nonetheless, even at my worst point, I have never wanted to date a broke woman. I have never depended on a woman and will never depend on one but I will never date a broke woman no matter what. I have helped women make money, much more money than I even had but I will never date a broke woman. I will always go for the successful woman and make her even more successful or one with potential and make her realize her potential. I just feel happy knowing that I helped someone move from Point 1 to Point 2.
So You do the same to them that was done to You
Jessica is indeed a goddess with all this knowledge, wisdom and empathy. You will make a good mother.
I saw a movie recently "First Love" and I couldn't help but notice how the wife of a man who lost his job kept saying "we would figure it out" and all that comes to mind is you.
When you put out content, these are not just mere words but life and energy and understanding which is usually reflective of the speaker. More grace Jess and cheers to more women like you in this world 🥂
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Money is the driving force behind EVERYTHING on this planet ...If you dont have oxygen to breath , you'll die ...If you don't have money , you'll die too ( albeit first mentally ) ..
There are many relationships that has perished on the battlefield of " no money " ...even a lot of marriages had ended up in the divorce court ...not because the couples didnt love one another ...but because of a lack of money ..
Paul says in the bible , " the love of money is the root of all evil " ( that might have been the case in his day ) BUT .... I have my own modern day interpretation and it is this ; " the LACK of money is the root of all evil " ..The voice of money shouts louder than anything man can imagine ..
I'd say a woman can date a guy that is 'broke' , as long as that ' broke ' guy has a inner confidence , and a passionate dream that he is willing to persue with all his heart ( with her support ....)
Any man that does not have the above characteristics , will be able to take a woman somewhere , but that somewhere will be NOwhere ....He should have a vision of what he wants to be , do , and have for himself and his partner , or family ...
When i met my wife , she was financially way better of than me ( due to her profession ) , but i had a big dream , and i was willing to persue it with everything in me ...She saw it ...Somehow it turned her on ( maybe because she was looking for a man that could have inspired her ...a man with a passion and a drive to go after his dream )
It paid off big time ...Today i'm rolling in the cash , and she loves me even more ...And i love her even more for believing in me at a time that i was flat broke.....
And the funny thing is dat lack of money is all about men ahahah so man can't break up wit his girl too bcos she's broke ahaha
Always hitting the point Jessy 🙌🏽
My super heroine 👸❤️
I like the way you presented the facts with sound, practical advice for men who are financially handicapped and have girlfriends or wives. Also, I like the way you emphasized on the conduct a broke and a poor man should manifest. A man may despise the handicap, but he should not despise the hand that is "feeding" him. Perhaps, this could be a time for a change.
I'm a woman and totally agree with everything in this video!
“Especially when there’s no effort on his side to improve things” why must it always be the guy to “improve” things though?
I wondered this too, like why wouldn't women want to improve themselves too?
Dat shit gets me soo angry n I regret y I was born a man
Cheers Jessica!
Topic requires extensive search and questioning! Like your approach.
Looks pretty straight forward, acceptable and understandable. I feel that we're just kind of hitting the tip of the iceberg!
I would expect and appreciate if you could come back for more on an extensive quest on this topic.
Keep up the good work
People can be born poor, but during the life process staying poor remains every man's responsibility. Broke moments are periods in life that will frequently or not happen, but the challenge is to overcome the situation by taking solid and durable solutions to preserve a consistency in providing resources. These are the points women shall focus on
Jessica im going through a heartbreak right now and i feel angry because i gave all my time attention and love and she gave it back but all of sudden she started talking to someone else, but your videos gave me the courage to move on even if its difficult ‼️
Same here. I’m just trying to move on totally
Sometimes those type of women are hard to find nowadays, the ones I've met were gold diggers and they wanted things from me
I’m dating a man who’s broke that I took care for 2 years and all he does is play with his friends and now I’m at the verge of breaking up with him because I see no future with him anymore. It’s fcking sad. I feel so resentful and bitter towards him. I hope to never meet another man like this again. Seriously broke men traumatized me especially if he ain’t willing to get his life together. Wasted time wasted money paying for everything to get nothing back in return
It saddens me to read this. Have you at least tried to talk with your partner about this and how you are feeling at the moment? Don't be afraid to be honest with him and how you are on the verge of ending things with him. Maybe by you providing this information with give him a jolt to his system and it could be a wakeup call before things end.
2 years 😱😱😱😱😱😱..... How could you !!!
once dated a lady many years ago, she left me cos I was broke...before she left, I told her to give me small time that I will make it big.. well, few years later, she got married to a rich guy and guess what happened afterwards.... she is still rich, the man is also rich and I am still broke..😮💨..
Without even having seen the video (yet) I can answer with: yes, for sure.
BUT it can get difficult when or if you want to build a life that involves owning a house and having children and the woman isn't earning above average.
Money will be an issue in those kind of situations.
It's also important WHY you're broke:
I have been broke often but I've always had plans, ambitions, personality, I can hold a conversation and with enough booze (in the woman, that is) I have been known to make a woman laugh.
But if you're broke cos you rather stay up til 3 at night and then get up round noon and 'like dunno whatchu gonn do next', that's an entire different story alltogether.
I've been broke, i've had good positions and during the different financial stages in my life i've always attracted and dated the same kind of women.
Kinda bizarre now that I think of it.
Listening to Jess knowledge is like a breath of fresh air.. Lady your a gift ❤️
Love could be found in the 70's and 80's. Everyone was struggling. Still finding a way.
Now.... If your broke.. women won't even look at you. A different world folks.
The days of Flo and James are over.
Now women want a Jay Z, Rick Ross, Lil Wayne, etc.
They won't even look at a normal guy working a 9 to 5. That's considered below average.
I have seen relationships break because of this issue, and most of the ladies quoted being called top controlling because of their money as the real cause
Refreshing to hear a different perspective. Great work as always
What women want:
1. A man that is resource
2. A man with ambition
3. A man that understands commitment
You do know how to Bring the right topic to discuss at the Convient time , Kudos to Jess From Nigeria
I'm so glad that women in this country have come out into their own about men!!! Whatever it is, I'm so glad that women have come out into their own about men!!!!
Liked from the USA. Thanks for sharing. Hope you're doing well, enjoying 2022, and staying safe.
No romance without finance. Gwen Guthrie sang this very well (Song: Gwen Guthrie-Ain't nothing going on but the rent)
I love the way you take your time to analyze things. Great video
The world we lived in why do women believe they entitled to a man money fella invest in yourself first then you becomes marketable and you never have to chase a broke women
Yep...not surprising men also want the same things while dating women...yet many women are either not aware of men's expectations or choose to ignore those expectations just because...
No need defending. It's a fact. A woman offers absolutely no money but expects you to not be broke. No money no lovr
YES,YES THEY CAN AND YES THEY DO! Why is this a question,most of us are broke...Men and women.
5:31……..
Great video as always Jessica ❤️👏
Like this one. Thanks for making
While I can appreciate the genuine need of security for her future family, from a woman's perspective, I can also see the other thing, which is actually the issue - modern women distrust men. It's not because of financial situation, it is because of modern ideology, feminism, these kind of things. Women have been indoctrinated not to trust men. This makes forming a family a very hard task nowadays.
I know people just one generation back (our fathers and mothers) - who didn't have money, then got married and it didn't bother any of them. They have long marriage, they overcame their hardships and life is nice. A lot such people exist.
So, what's different now? People of today choose to serve their fears, than their hearts. This distances themselves away from love. And with no love - nothing will come to them. Sad.
The dawn of a new world order thanks to the internet. On an even keel, there should be no complaints...
Public comment. The ambiance of love and compassion and love and care is what matters. Self realization and self control and discipline allows you to achieve success.
It's always about what women want... it is a topic when a man is Broke and whether women shpuld accept him or not, But nobody ever talks about whether men should stay with a broke woman.. the man and woman went through the same phase of Life..(born into the world, passed through the same educational or labour systems, equal opportunity post studies for paid employment or self entrepreneurship....)... yet it is only the man that is questioned for being broke.... or we not going to talk about equality anymore?
I don't know for other countries but in Nigeria, is all about the money
It's rare to a woman who would date or love you when you are broke and even if you see one, just get ready for the insults and frustration because you will definitely get it 👌
Thank you Jessica.
It's possible for the first three months. The rest is history.
I'm a poor man and I stay out of women because I think they deserve better. A woman is better off with man with money regardless if they gonna be happy with him or not. As for me poor men with low self esteem it goes down to the multitude of women who always talking about successful men who can provide.
Blessings on your day☀️🙏🏽🇧🇧
Am first to watch
U didnt watch the whole video😁
The question is why should a broke guy think about dating instead of getting his shits together.
You hit the nail right in the head
they can .. we see it all the time .. but for that to happen, certain things need to be present .. the guy has to be very good looking, charming, and have an elite stroke game .. that last part is key .. if the sex is insanely good, she will gladly tolerate a lot of things including your brokeness and even support your ass sometimes lol but if you're just a 'regular' guy, no way any woman puts up with being a broke ass ... but even knowing all this, what real man with any sense of dignity is ok with himself being broke and especially being broke with a woman by his side .. that would eat at me constantly .. couldn't do it
Most girls always say they are looking for a man that has goals and ambitions but thats cap. You go up to a girl and say you are broke at the moment, but you've got ambitions and targets they wont hear it from you unless you are already rich
🙏 hands up if were here when it all started ✅ Waiting to hit 1million ✅ Bigups Jess for working so hard, u deserve it
They can't love the way men love. The true unconditional love, the kind of love that isn't based on how much you bring to the table... Women love out of hypergamy, which is a conditional love. A man doesn't. Once you lose your job or get a life threatening illness or whatever made you a valide option to her(mostly financial security), just watch the change of behavior, the look in the eyes...
This video so practical and enlightening, Jessica. Thank u
4:32 Is exactly one of the reasons why this one woman might be doing more county jail time or possibly prison time. Lol. She chose the supposedly easier path with another guy, in which whom also got her into all these legal issues, etc. Lol. On top of it I’ve done for her while she’s in there at this present moment and that same guy has been missing in action. Lol. My financial situation has gotten better since she left me/cut off all communication. Lol. But now she’s back, and I can now serve as a determining factor of whether she does prison or jail time or probationary house arrest, etc. Lol. Hmm what should I do…. I might really look out for me at this moment, cease all support and choose the lesser of hassles and “easier paths of resistance, it what it is, fair enough”. Lol. Thank God!
Jessica keep up the good we…thanks for the Tips….!!
What about broke woman 👩 too, men to deserve better success woman 👩
No money no honey. Is that simple. Women love comfort so if you think she will marry you or be with you because you are broke dream on.
Women don't just understand things.
Cos a matter of fact he's just broke not poor 🙏
Well...what is the definition of broke is what should be asked first because if a woman who is secure with knowing she can uplift her guy/man that she feel isn't financially equal with plenty of money wouldn't be worried about her man's pockets but to give that support to where he can take his place in the home as he should...women who complain about they don't want a broke man is already a red flag in my eyes...it means she's selfish, self-centered and independent...the best partners in life is one who you can build with...not with everything in the world already...💯
No all women is about money if you're broke, she ain't going to want you 😂😂
being BROKE should be a temporary financial state.... Broke is a matter of opinion.... whatever one person consider is enough may not be the same for the next.... FINANCIAL COMPATIBILITY.... MATTERS!.... having a broke work ethic and decision making is really the factors that should be considered when holding onto or letting go of a potential partner...
Then again why men Should be at center when it comes to money. Why not women too? Why Women can’t provide all of what you said? Isn’t she a human too? Isn’t that what equality is all about? Don’t take me wrong i never let a girl pay for my food, i don’t need their help. Its just the word is going in the wrong direction. Why women has to be the prize when man is the one who has to pay?
Interesting insights, thanks for this video. Especially appreciated the insights on types of women who date broke men.
Thank you for this video we are learning and growing
You did not list that men want a submissive woman. Many men give women all these things listed, but still get divorced by 80% women; only because most times there is no submission from the woman. Here in lies the crux of the issue. The sad reality is that it goes against a woman's nature to submit to many men unless she knows God. Your list testifies to this. He who finds a good wife, is God saying good luck finding that good wife.
Good video.
In reality in fact... if u broke...a most of women will not stay with a broken man... a man will gain a lot to focus on himself.. and try to enjoy to being lonely and improve himself...
Second to watch🎉
So it’s better for a man to stay out of brokenness before attempting a serious relationship
Jessica is mad attractive 😭✨
I love you Jessica ♥️, you speak so well I feel like traveling in this imaginary heavenly voyage to my haven 💞
Jess I would really appreciate if you would do a video on ," why women decide to get pregnant for a certain type of guy" but will never for another... and it's not because of money the guy can be a regular guy....What would influence their decision...
Very helpful information.
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Wabongo Mko faster
GOOD CHARACTERISTIC OF WHAT WOMEN WANT
Most women are interested in what a man does for her. What do they do for men should be the question.
Yes, very very true...
Thank you for this.🙏🙏
The quality of your video has improved i hope I observed well😊
good one jessy...
I love almost everything in your video.
1- Break = Make way to make money
2- Broke = No money
3- Broken = Broken heart
Why do men care less when their wives do not bring any income to the home ?
When a man does not bring income into his matrimonial home the marriage comes to an end.
Are men KINDER or more compassionate than WOMEN?
Itz just how nature is..provider, head read your Bible
Most likely she does not love a guy with money either. All she loves is the guy's money.
I think men need to learn from women in this area, I know we love women for the sake of loving, I even know several men that took in broke women that had several children from other men. If only us men could stop loving unconditionally and demand that women bring more to the table than just simply being a woman. Hold people to their own standards, in other words men should avoid broke women too.
Thank you Ms. Jessica for tackling such a sensitive subject. But unfortunately this problem just might be Gaining to much MOMENTUM for the Male population 😔. But thanks for your view..
What is broke guy like myself i am business owner i don't have money ready to give to women when they want favour,do i fall under the category of broke guys🇿🇦
Yes!
broke men may have low self esteem but money doesn't automatically make you have high self esteem .. that shit comes from within .. I see guys driving boring looking used cars who have the highest confidence talking to women and people in general .. I guess you can say they have a dgaf attitude .. that's the best way to be really .. money gives you confidence but sometimes it's false confidence solely based on the money
I really enjoy your videos cause I get to learn alot from them, I ain't perfect so I learn to work on myself and relationships to come
Women need to know that it is not a problem if it can be fixed with money. Anything problem that you can resolve with money is not a problem. The more broke you are the more problems you tend to have. Now, problems that can't be fixed with money are serious problems.
Congratulations in advance for hitting 800k Subscribers 🥰🥳🥳💃💃 hope to see you one day 🥰🌚
very interesting world views.
Most of the time, I would be considered eternally broke. I hate money. Big fan of hard work and trade, but in this modern world of neoclassical economics/capitalism, virtually all financial growth is based on exploiting another.
I work hard and earn well, but then deliberately give most away to my activism groups and political party. Spent the last decade just sleeping in a tent owning nothing but a bike and what I can carry.
I have had more problems finding compatibility due to my very strong climate activism views than the amount of this made up thing we call money has.
However the types of women I am interested in generally have the same level of disdain for this system and they understand non fiscal wealth much better.
But then to be fair, your list of 'what women want' sits quite well with me. My whole life is geared to being resourceful and doing what it takes, I am passionate and consistent with what drives me and I mindfully participate in social justice to make sure that I matter.
when climate change or ecological disaster strikes your area, who do you want to be with... The pretty boy in the shiney car who is good at extracting wealth from those below, or the man who can build you an underground hurricane proof and climate controlled earthship, with an underground food farm powered by the warmth the soil has absorbed from the sun.. ;)
No money no love for Africa women especially Nigerian women...
And Ghanaian women lol 😂
@@oneblaccck Ghanain women learn from Nigerian women. trust me
How about this.....Just leave the women alone. I've been through that when I was fresh out of college. I didn't know much about dating in church or dating period. Didn't have time to date in college. When I went back to the church that I hadn't been to since I had transferred to the university the woman there a little bit more egregious. They were looking for someone to marry immediately. I dated this chick who was pressuring me and I didn't know what was going on because I was never school on dating in church or dating outside of church. Now mind you I did take a few ladies out when I was in college to eat and do some functions on campus but I never had a long lasting relationship when I was in college. Fast forward to me being in church after graduating it was totally new to me and some of the Elders of the church in the singles Ministry didn't understand where I was coming from when I asked them can I date other people while I'm in church. The elder lady must have went off on me for even asking the question. I didn't know that dating in church meant that you were dating that person to marry them. She didn't make any leeway for me thinking that maybe I just didn't know how to date in church. On the outside world you can date multiple people and it's not a big deal. That's why a lot of these Church going women tend to be a little bit more aggressive when it comes to dating. After my experience I'm never doing that again. There was no sexual intercourse but because women in church tend to function as a unit and tend to think that every man is a player if he doesn't do as they say and put a ring on her finger when they want it and how they want it the guy always gets the s*** end of the stick because the majority of women in church are the ones who are keeping the church running because they give the most money. The pastor ain't going to argue with him when they come to him with grievances about a male. A lot of times the male pastor stand with the women because the women are paying the bills. The pastors never bothered to ask me anything they just heard the woman inside of the story. Long story short the women harass me for years and mistreated me for years because my relationship with person that I was seeing at the church didn't go their way didn't go her way didn't go "the way." I didn't have much money then and I don't have much money now because I was spending all my money to take care of my dad who had health problems. A lot of times women don't understand s*** and they only hear what they want to hear. It would have been better for me to have lied. But I was honest about everything. I told that chick I wasn't ready for a relationship but she kept on asking "why why?" Then when I told her I wasn't ready for a relationship she ran back to the women in the singles Ministry and complained to them. What did they do they ganged up on me and set out to get me. Made my life a living hell for nothing.
I just think it’s not always certain. My gf who we have been dating for two years was reported cheating and she told the truth when I asked.
She agreed she was cheating.
Our first year in the relationship was lite and we were all we ever wanted.
Things changed and it was kind of hard to get things and that has been when our relationship has been the other way round which I thought I was the problem. Cos I was trying to fix but it wasn’t changing no matter how I talk to her to let’s get better again.
She’s cheating with a guy who does fraud and now the guy got her an iPhone and paid for her makeup training. She told me she wants to choose me again but she’s yet to figure out how she is going to tell the guy she was In a relationship. She said she didn’t want to let the guy see her as the bad one and now the guy keeps doing more that I notice she doesn’t know what to do presently.
It seriously affected me a lot but now I’m getting Over it. We are still in the relationship but not growing and she’s yet to let go of the guy.
Note: I was always buying her gifts and I payed for a lot of stuff, including her exam fee at a time.
Why are you still with her?
Quit tricking on that broad my guy. She wants you around for your money
This is wonderful ❤️
Hey Jessica I love your videos❤
Women don't know how hard it is coming up as a black man not all of us are lazy this where the argument start
Well said.
I love highly educated people, who love to leak info
i like your makeup