If you have health insurance, every woman should getting tested at least twice per year. Once at your primacy PCP annual physical and once at your annual OB/GYN wellness visit. I have them schedule 6 months apart. Ask them to do a full STD panel and ask what tests are included. I got them done even when I hadn't had sex in almost 2.5 years, it should be routine. Then if there's a travel clinic/community clinic you can pay to be tested for each new partner and I think the recommendation is every 3 months thereafter. If your partner gets upset when you ask for testing results you can discuss it if it's a fear, but if it's pride or secrecy, break up. Your life is too important.
I either printed a copy of my test or show the guys my patient portal to show i was clean. I felt so proud of myself 😅 But the guys I've been were scared or didn't go to the doctors at all. (No even the dentist 🦷) After getting to know them better i took the decision to still sleep with them. Luckily nothing happened. But now that I'm older, and even though I'm not looking, i will never do that again. Ill go to the appointment with you if you are that scared, Ill give you my gyno info so you go, Whatever, ill help you. But i will not sleep with you.
Honestly, this hits home for me because young women are not taught how do deal with STDs, UTIs or transferable bacteria that your boyfriend or partner can give you. We have to be honest and clear with our partners and its might not be sexy to ask for STD results but you have to protect yourself. My heart goes out to Catriona, she felt like she couldn't live on. Also, if you feel like your partner keeos giving you something, you have to leave. They dont care about you or themselves.
When I say I’ll only have sex with a man who has been tested recently and I’ve known them for a while people act like I’m being so unreasonable. I’m celibate currently and personally only want sex in a relationship but stories like this are why I’m saying idc how much I love my partner and trust them: I need you to pull up that mychart. Not a screenshot but the actual source. And you have to get tested regularly. The amount of women I’ve heard found out their husband or bf was cheating bc they caught an STI/STD is too many. Listen ladies it is not awkward or “too much” to ask for testing proof! If he complains or doesn’t want to have sex with you bc of it, girl you’ve dodged a bullet. We as women have to normalize requiring it for our health. And pls use a condom unless you’re married trying to get pregnant! I feel for all these women deeply.
Yes! I hope more ladies will do the same. ❤️ I'm glad you keep strong boundaries and prioritize your health over what people think. The only person you can fully trust to keep yourself safe is you! ❤️
You condoms All the time with men you are NOT married to. Never let a male come inside your precious womb. You are not his s*erm dumping ground. Stop being dirty men's rag dolls, ladies!
Same sis. Even no-good dudes I regret dating complied and got tested without a fuss. I’m lucky I’ve been so careful because my parents and older sister gave me ZERO guidance! None! Videos like these should be mandated. Our health is precious, we have to treat it that way.
i am so glad my parents made sure to teach me about these things. in middle school a classmate wanted to make out and when i asked him if he had herpes he got furious and called me names. turns out he gave 4 girls oral herpes. thank god everyone believed them and he was shamed and the girls learned to avoid him. when it comes to men i think they genuinely don't tell not out of shame but out of hatred... but maybe i'm giving them too much credit
He told her family that he was going to pay for her funeral, so maybe that's why they let him. But her Mom said he went back on his word and never actually paid. 😭
@@ChokoladkaLLComg what a putrid excuse for a human he is. And he goes around pretending to be deep and spiritual smh. Thank you for shedding light on her tragic story. Interesting he managed to keep it so under wraps
That Gucci 3rd leg situation was disgusting because he’s a SW, said he had 3000 bodies, and then laughed at the situation with his Halloween costume being a biohazard. He should be in pr!son for using his dirty peen on so many people knowing he was burning.
and ppl saying it's common, a lot of people have it now and that may be true but hsv and herpes can be significantly worse if you have a low immune system or are chronically ill. so that means you would get more outbreaks than usual, more intense symptoms etc.
11:01 So sad to hear that this young lady was younger than me (I’m currently 41) and she was dating a man who is now currently 62!! This is why I think Carey’s whole ~spiritual~ persona is a fake cover up. Bc what kind of truly spiritual person preys on younger people like that!
Gena didn't tell the whole true story. Drugs played a role and she chose to stay in denial until it was too hard to stay in denial. She is doing great now and hope she continues to thrive
Such a great, informative & insightful video, sis 😊 The stories are so heartbreaking ☹ I never heard of Gena’s story before, but it my heart 💔 I remember when Quantasia & Lisa Bloom held a press conference & people were shaming her in so many ways, it was sad. There are so many people serving (life sentences) for things they don’t even remember. Super Congratulations, on your amazing content & beautiful growth, superstar⭐💜
Hey sis 🌸💓! Thank you so much! 🥰 Omg, a life sentence is such a real way to describe it 😭 I hope the ladies who are still here have found a way to live peacefully.
I love your essays. They bring me a peaceful mindset and help me to maintain an air of confidence in life and relationships as a woman. I would listen to even longer videos, streams, or Q&As. Thanks for your content! 💜
Great question! Some people are really good at forging documents, so you can never fully trust a screenshot or piece of paper. If they consent, the best thing to do is watch them log into their online patient portal and pull up the results in front of you. Or if they went to a private lab, like Quest, watch them log into that account. 👩🏽💻💜
Hey, @Chokoladka, I absolutely love your storytelling. i noticed you mention a lot about spirituality in your videos. Well, there's no better spiritual experience than the one you get with your Creator- God. I truly believe that your search for that "higher power" (God) is truly coming to an end. He sees your heart and hears your silent prayers. I know this because i have a personal relationship with Him. God in the person of Jesus Christ wants a relationship with you and He wants to reveal Himself to you, you need only ask. God bless you always and cheers to more inspiring storytelling !
So far, she's only given out samples to influencers. I hope she doesn't actually release it to the public 😭 And thank you! 🥰 I appreciate your support! ❤️
A lot of people decide to treat stis and stds privately out of embarrassment, but everyone should always go to a doctor, if Usher had been on anti viral medicine, his chances of spreading it would have been lower
The wages of sin is death. Although it may not seem like death in the beginning, the Bible says that when sin is full grown, it gives birth to death. This is a generation that has cast off all restraints. One of the beautiful things about trusting and relying on God is that you learn to honor your body in the process, when we wait on the Lord, and he truly sends a God-fearing man, not a lying man, pretending to be something that he’s not, that person will have the fear of God in them. I’m not saying that men are not capable of slipping up, but there’s a different standard when a person fears God, there’s a lifestyle that the devil cannot reduce such a person too. If we trust in the Lord, he will keep us. If at any time, anyone of you need help just ask God for help he will. You can simply say Lord Jesus, please help me. Thank you for making this video
With all due respect, I wish "You can simply say Lord Jesus, please help me." was true, but it is not. if someone never has gotten any of these values, principles, skills growing up, and thus chose the wrong path .. a path of destruction.. when one realizes, it is extremely difficult to reverse. What I am saying is, it takes a lot more than asking. I have tried. Without hard work and suffering, nothing will change, no one will help me. edit: I am blessed with never gotten any STDS.. but my mind, body and spirit is tainted
@Nadja-MH I gave my life to Yahweh and Yeshua Hamachiach/Jesus in 2020, and he turned my life around completely, he delivered me from sickness, pain and torment. The Most High Yahweh can turn anyone's life around if they're willing.
Sorry but I know a lot of supposedly god fearing men who have cheated on their wives with men and women. Women who prayed deeply for a god fearing man and thought they got it. I think the church has put a huge stigma on AIDS/HIV and is a huge reason people don’t want to get tested. Evangelicals are the reason we don’t have comprehensive sex Ed which we know raises the age ppl start being sexually active and leads to safer sex life with less partners. I respect Christianity and still consider myself one but some of the most heinous cases of betrayal I’ve seen are from supposed God fearing men who exploit how sexually unaware their wives are due to purity culture. People used to believe in God more in earlier times and men still gave their wives syphilis and gonorrhea & both would die from it. Men have always been men and will continue to be men regardless of how religious you are.
Have him log into his patient portal online and pull up his results directly from the hospital or lab, in front of you. Can't trust a screenshot or a paper he printed himself!
I'm grateful to have come across you doc oromi on youtube channel , I'm now free after I used the medicine you sent me, having Herpes almost ruined my life but I'm happy today after I used your treatment🔻
This is really sad. And disgusting that usher knows he has an STD, but not using protection. But also, why would you sleep with a celebrity w/o protection?
If you have health insurance, every woman should getting tested at least twice per year. Once at your primacy PCP annual physical and once at your annual OB/GYN wellness visit. I have them schedule 6 months apart. Ask them to do a full STD panel and ask what tests are included. I got them done even when I hadn't had sex in almost 2.5 years, it should be routine. Then if there's a travel clinic/community clinic you can pay to be tested for each new partner and I think the recommendation is every 3 months thereafter. If your partner gets upset when you ask for testing results you can discuss it if it's a fear, but if it's pride or secrecy, break up. Your life is too important.
That is excellent advice!! Thank you for sharing this! 🌟
I either printed a copy of my test or show the guys my patient portal to show i was clean.
I felt so proud of myself 😅
But the guys I've been were scared or didn't go to the doctors at all.
(No even the dentist 🦷)
After getting to know them better i took the decision to still sleep with them. Luckily nothing happened.
But now that I'm older, and even though I'm not looking, i will never do that again.
Ill go to the appointment with you if you are that scared,
Ill give you my gyno info so you go,
Whatever, ill help you. But i will not sleep with you.
Honestly, this hits home for me because young women are not taught how do deal with STDs, UTIs or transferable bacteria that your boyfriend or partner can give you. We have to be honest and clear with our partners and its might not be sexy to ask for STD results but you have to protect yourself. My heart goes out to Catriona, she felt like she couldn't live on. Also, if you feel like your partner keeos giving you something, you have to leave. They dont care about you or themselves.
💔 Oh yes, there are so many risks out there. Protecting ourselves is vital! It is very sad that Catriona felt her life was ruined 😢
When I say I’ll only have sex with a man who has been tested recently and I’ve known them for a while people act like I’m being so unreasonable. I’m celibate currently and personally only want sex in a relationship but stories like this are why I’m saying idc how much I love my partner and trust them: I need you to pull up that mychart. Not a screenshot but the actual source. And you have to get tested regularly. The amount of women I’ve heard found out their husband or bf was cheating bc they caught an STI/STD is too many. Listen ladies it is not awkward or “too much” to ask for testing proof! If he complains or doesn’t want to have sex with you bc of it, girl you’ve dodged a bullet. We as women have to normalize requiring it for our health. And pls use a condom unless you’re married trying to get pregnant! I feel for all these women deeply.
Yes! I hope more ladies will do the same. ❤️ I'm glad you keep strong boundaries and prioritize your health over what people think. The only person you can fully trust to keep yourself safe is you! ❤️
You condoms All the time with men you are NOT married to. Never let a male come inside your precious womb. You are not his s*erm dumping ground. Stop being dirty men's rag dolls, ladies!
Same sis. Even no-good dudes I regret dating complied and got tested without a fuss. I’m lucky I’ve been so careful because my parents and older sister gave me ZERO guidance! None! Videos like these should be mandated. Our health is precious, we have to treat it that way.
i am so glad my parents made sure to teach me about these things. in middle school a classmate wanted to make out and when i asked him if he had herpes he got furious and called me names. turns out he gave 4 girls oral herpes. thank god everyone believed them and he was shamed and the girls learned to avoid him. when it comes to men i think they genuinely don't tell not out of shame but out of hatred... but maybe i'm giving them too much credit
Omg I'm so glad you dodged that! Some ppl do spread things on purpose. Your parents sound awesome for teaching you to be safe! ❤️
Wow that’s a lot of
Thank you. This is all so important. Also syphilis rates are very high right now as well. I am celibate now.
❤️ Celibacy is so powerful!
12:49 why did her family allow Jim to carry her casket and play the tragic widow?!
He told her family that he was going to pay for her funeral, so maybe that's why they let him. But her Mom said he went back on his word and never actually paid. 😭
“Secret Society” rules apply.
I couldn’t stomach allowing him who is partly responsible for her demise to take any part of her funeral.
@@ChokoladkaLLComg what a putrid excuse for a human he is. And he goes around pretending to be deep and spiritual smh. Thank you for shedding light on her tragic story. Interesting he managed to keep it so under wraps
@@ChokoladkaLLCyet he had the nerve to judge will smith Oscar incident
My virgin self thought this was going to be about being tested by God. 😂
😂😂😂
I’ve basically binged three of your videos in one sitting. Glad I found you !💖
Aww that makes me smile 🥰❤️ Thank you for your support!!
Me right now! These videos are top tier and life saving
When i saw that young only fans model crying bc her partner gave her herpes. 😢
😢
That Gucci 3rd leg situation was disgusting because he’s a SW, said he had 3000 bodies, and then laughed at the situation with his Halloween costume being a biohazard. He should be in pr!son for using his dirty peen on so many people knowing he was burning.
and ppl saying it's common, a lot of people have it now and that may be true but hsv and herpes can be significantly worse if you have a low immune system or are chronically ill. so that means you would get more outbreaks than usual, more intense symptoms etc.
11:01 So sad to hear that this young lady was younger than me (I’m currently 41) and she was dating a man who is now currently 62!!
This is why I think Carey’s whole ~spiritual~ persona is a fake cover up. Bc what kind of truly spiritual person preys on younger people like that!
Omg yes! She was 25 and he was 50 when they started dating 😭
Yup I just commented that. His face had looked shriveled and scary and he seems truly dissatisfied with life even when he’s flaunting his lifestyle
Yet he tried to judge will smith
I love this channel. Though this was hard to watch and my heart goes out to the women mentioned - i appreciate the time n effort to spread the word
Thank you! ❤️
1:34 this is so traumatizing - like what? 😭😭 can’t believe that was a show! Never heard of it before!
They were so harsh 😭. "What Not to Wear" was better.
Yeah it sounds like liscenced bullying! Such a sad reflection of the culture
Gena didn't tell the whole true story. Drugs played a role and she chose to stay in denial until it was too hard to stay in denial. She is doing great now and hope she continues to thrive
16:34 - I did not know Hydeia died! Oh my gosh…
Also this is why I’m abstinent.
Omg I didn't know either. That's so sad. I use to watch her lives.
Thank you. Informative and very necessary in today's world.
❤️❤️❤️
Such a great, informative & insightful video, sis 😊
The stories are so heartbreaking ☹ I never heard of Gena’s story before, but it my heart 💔
I remember when Quantasia & Lisa Bloom held a press conference & people were shaming her in so many ways, it was sad.
There are so many people serving (life sentences) for things they don’t even remember.
Super Congratulations, on your amazing content & beautiful growth, superstar⭐💜
Hey sis 🌸💓! Thank you so much! 🥰
Omg, a life sentence is such a real way to describe it 😭 I hope the ladies who are still here have found a way to live peacefully.
I love this channel. Thanks for the reaffirmation and reminding me of what's right. This channel is a safe space for women❤❤
Thank you so much for your support! I'm glad you are here ❤️❤️
This channel is gold. No lie detected here
I love your essays. They bring me a peaceful mindset and help me to maintain an air of confidence in life and relationships as a woman. I would listen to even longer videos, streams, or Q&As. Thanks for your content! 💜
YAAAAAYYYYY 10k subs can’t wait to see you get 100k soon love 💗 keep it going !!! I hope you don’t forget me then ❤️💗
Thank you 🥰❤️❤️!! I could never forget! I can't wait for your channel to blow up! 🤩❤️✨️
Thank you for this important video.
Thank you for your support! :)
This is fantastic and so are you
Thank you so much! ❤️
Scary stuff
How can you know when someone has false test results? (I want to know what to look out for)
Great question! Some people are really good at forging documents, so you can never fully trust a screenshot or piece of paper. If they consent, the best thing to do is watch them log into their online patient portal and pull up the results in front of you. Or if they went to a private lab, like Quest, watch them log into that account. 👩🏽💻💜
@@ChokoladkaLLCthank you so much❤️
if you google lab test results, you can find the fake ones and compare
Hey, @Chokoladka, I absolutely love your storytelling. i noticed you mention a lot about spirituality in your videos. Well, there's no better spiritual experience than the one you get with your Creator- God. I truly believe that your search for that "higher power" (God) is truly coming to an end. He sees your heart and hears your silent prayers. I know this because i have a personal relationship with Him. God in the person of Jesus Christ wants a relationship with you and He wants to reveal Himself to you, you need only ask. God bless you always and cheers to more inspiring storytelling !
She posted❤❤❤
🥰❤️❤️❤️
Great video and messages 💯
Thank you!❤
10:00 why sleep with your friends exhusband?
Bc some ppl have no morals and are not real friends. So awful.
Wow I didn’t know all this about her
Her story is so 💔. What's done can't be undone, but hopefully, people can learn from it.
16:34 - I did not know Hydeia died! Oh my gosh…
The lipgloss thing can’t be real?😨 uff the black community needs to wake tf up! I‘m tired 😪! Important & great video as always!
So far, she's only given out samples to influencers. I hope she doesn't actually release it to the public 😭
And thank you! 🥰 I appreciate your support! ❤️
#bringbackshaming *not the same as BULLYING
None of them had it or they were treating it secretly?
Good point! It sucks, but they would have had nothing to gain by telling her it came from them at that point.
@@ChokoladkaLLCI should have added a question mark. So I edited it. I believe one of them might have it and are treating it secretly
A lot of people decide to treat stis and stds privately out of embarrassment, but everyone should always go to a doctor, if Usher had been on anti viral medicine, his chances of spreading it would have been lower
The wages of sin is death. Although it may not seem like death in the beginning, the Bible says that when sin is full grown, it gives birth to death. This is a generation that has cast off all restraints. One of the beautiful things about trusting and relying on God is that you learn to honor your body in the process, when we wait on the Lord, and he truly sends a God-fearing man, not a lying man, pretending to be something that he’s not, that person will have the fear of God in them. I’m not saying that men are not capable of slipping up, but there’s a different standard when a person fears God, there’s a lifestyle that the devil cannot reduce such a person too. If we trust in the Lord, he will keep us. If at any time, anyone of you need help just ask God for help he will. You can simply say Lord Jesus, please help me.
Thank you for making this video
With all due respect, I wish "You can simply say Lord Jesus, please help me." was true, but it is not.
if someone never has gotten any of these values, principles, skills growing up, and thus chose the wrong path .. a path of destruction.. when one realizes, it is extremely difficult to reverse. What I am saying is, it takes a lot more than asking. I have tried. Without hard work and suffering, nothing will change, no one will help me. edit: I am blessed with never gotten any STDS.. but my mind, body and spirit is tainted
@Nadja-MH I gave my life to Yahweh and Yeshua Hamachiach/Jesus in 2020, and he turned my life around completely, he delivered me from sickness, pain and torment. The Most High Yahweh can turn anyone's life around if they're willing.
Sorry but I know a lot of supposedly god fearing men who have cheated on their wives with men and women. Women who prayed deeply for a god fearing man and thought they got it. I think the church has put a huge stigma on AIDS/HIV and is a huge reason people don’t want to get tested. Evangelicals are the reason we don’t have comprehensive sex Ed which we know raises the age ppl start being sexually active and leads to safer sex life with less partners. I respect Christianity and still consider myself one but some of the most heinous cases of betrayal I’ve seen are from supposed God fearing men who exploit how sexually unaware their wives are due to purity culture. People used to believe in God more in earlier times and men still gave their wives syphilis and gonorrhea & both would die from it. Men have always been men and will continue to be men regardless of how religious you are.
What if he fakes the results for the testing? 😭
Have him log into his patient portal online and pull up his results directly from the hospital or lab, in front of you. Can't trust a screenshot or a paper he printed himself!
Or go get tested together
I'm grateful to have come across you doc oromi on youtube channel , I'm now free after I used the medicine you sent me, having Herpes almost ruined my life but I'm happy today after I used your treatment🔻
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2nd video in and im already loving this channel. I love your insight and how unjudgemental you are!
Aww thank you so much for your support! 🥰❤️
This is really sad. And disgusting that usher knows he has an STD, but not using protection. But also, why would you sleep with a celebrity w/o protection?
And not "Jose Lopez" lmfao. Why are some ppl so nuts? And why was Jim so dirty 😖 and it seems like a lot of Hollywood has herpes 😬