Great discussion. As a 50 something man married to a man 16 years older than myself, I found the discussion to be very informative and necessary. Bravo to you all for having it. I think more discussion on topics like this are essential as we (older cats in the gayborhood) don't always have a forum or platform to discuss what aging in a "Peter Pan-esque" community is like. I've been with my husband (legally married since 2008) for 27 years (monogamously, I might add), with kids and GRANDkids in the mix. Our journey has been frought with many perils along the way - we often say if we wrote it down, many wouldn't believe it. However, we've always had each other for support. I have his back and he always has mine. Yet, the looming issue of age is becoming a dark cloud on the horizon as we each have had times when we lament that even with family, there is the possibility of one of us ending up alone. You can be in a sea of people and feel totally alone. This is a topic I'd like to see discussed. Bravo to you and your crew for putting this together. I am a happy subscriber of your work. Keep it up!
Thank you for sharing this. I'm only 31 but I totally feel out of place with guys under 30 often times. Peter pan syndrome indeed. I also have my fear of growing old alone without a partner too.
Man....this discussion is definitely what I needed. I turned 40 back in February, and to be honest, I have fallen into a depression of sorts. Derrick's perspective really hit home for me. My pseudo depression primarily stems from a feeling of running out of time - the train has left the station, so to speak. I, too, have aspirations as a creative entrepreneur - photography and cinematography - why didn't I take it more seriously in my 20s? Or hell, even in my early 30s? Also, seeing my parents' age, and realizing that they aren't too far away in age compared to my grandparents when they started passing away, is somewhat terrifying. Coming out as a young black gay kid to my parents wasn't easy, even in the slightest. I lost many years absent from my parent's life that I feel I'm running out of time connecting with them before losing them. And, this all is to say that the feeling I have of "running out of time" is exhausting. Eddie drove home another point for me when mentioning the feeling of losing out, so to speak, on experiencing youth as a gay man. After 19 years of being in a relationship with my Partner (10+ older than myself), we have gone adrift from each other and at the precipice of the end. Looking back on the last 19 years, I find myself thinking about the fun I supposedly missed out on and "running the streets"? For example, I recently came across a web series, The Real Hot Boys: Houston. In watching these cute young 20 somethings out running the streets and "tearing shit up," in a way, I feel like I missed out on something. Now, don't get me wrong, I certainly couldn't put up with the bullshit of young gay man drama, but you get the point. Another thing, I don't in many ways feel 40. I still do my thing and can compete with any 20s something. The same with watching and listening to the 4 of you; you all look good. I'm sure you feel good and don't feel like a 40+ man. I think Eric and Brian are on point in speaking on the generational element in the gay community. When I was 19, and in my 20s, I remember older gay men back then being more hidden, almost repressed. Today, I'm seeing more and more good-looking, sexy, and fine older gay men who are out there and running things, taking charge of their lives, and taking steps to be visible in the gay community. This is something that I don't recall seeing 20+ years ago in great number. There is this beautiful social evolution happening in the gay community that I've witnessed. There are still issues, and the community isn't perfect, but I feel it is evolving unlike ever. This is a discussion that could go on forever. I would love to see a TV series/ web series examining the lives of 40+ gay men......keep it coming, Derrick!
Wow, I’m so moved by your comment and to some degrees it has felt like a kick butt! We should have some more 40 plus representation. I loved that you could relate to me and my group of friends. So much of what you said reminds me of what I’m TRYING to do as of late, living in the moment. Thank you so much for your comments!!!!!
I can see how it seems easy to grow older when you have a partner who is older. I'm in my early fifties and finding anyone who is interested in someone my age is very very difficult.
As you get older, it becomes even more important to pay attention to your health and fitness. A man who stays fit and lean and takes care of his skin etc. can remain sexually attractive well into his sixties. Forty is a great time to start paying attention. Thirty is even better. The game isn't over just because you turn forty. A lot of men your age are still looking for a partner, or a new partner. Lots of young men are really turned on by Daddies. And don't discard friends with benefits. My friends with benefits and I, once we were over 50 formed a three person marriage. It has worked out wonderfully. Get your mind out of the hetero/norm mold of what a relationship or a family is.
In the context of dating and relationships, what makes being gay and over 35 so difficult is mainly two things: 1) Guys over 35/40 don't look as appealing as they did when they were younger, and 2) Knowing that most guys over 35/40 don't want you because they're too busy chasing guys under 35. When most gay men over 35/40 complain about aging, it's usually about how they will relate to men who are still in their 20s or 30s. I think this is why Eric doesn't have a problem with aging because he is entering the age group of men he's most attracted to. If he was only attracted to men in their 20s or 30s, then he would have a problem. If guys over 35 or 40 would learn to leave behind the 20-30-somethings, maybe that would be the first step in coming to terms with getting older. Yes, we all know that men and women look their best when they're under 35, but if you're no longer in that age group, it's time for you to grow up, lower your expectations a bit when it comes to looks, and play with guys closer to your age. Otherwise, you're going to be trapped in a spiral of asking "why don't the guys under 35 want me?" "why am I invisible to the 20-somethings." "woe is me."
Hey Derrick, I really enjoyed this video. I loved the easy conversational format with you and your friends! I felt like I was sitting there in the living room having a drink with all of you. The subject matter was spot on, with a perfect balance of comedy, vulnerability and self-awareness. Keep the great content coming!
I’m 52 and gave up trying to date or find a partner. It’s a futile and frustrating exercise in constant disappointment. I’m quite happy as a single and selfish man.
Never give up, I was suddenly widowed after a 14 year relationship at the age of 36, my partner was 53 when he died unexpectedly. I too almost gave up, but didn't. Afyer a 13 year search, I found my husband, 10 years already. I also thought I could do it alone, had myself talked into it. I though all the men I went out with were after my money. Along came a wonderful man . Glad I took the chance! I will never forget my first partner, in fact my parents will be buried next to him in a family plot. We bought new Graves to accommodate me & new husband next to them.
So cool to listen to a frank discussion...I am 60 and experienced some many of the feelings and emotions articulated here. Nice to be part of the conversation even from afar, helps to ground oneself in this journey we call life....Thanks D
Good discussion! Thanks so much for putting it together. Racism and ageism are alive and well in the gay community. That said, the community can also be loving and supportive. Looking at the group of friends shown here underscores the need to create a family of friends who love, support, and respect you. It's also important to get outside of our own selves and actually "be" a good friend. You really do attract what you put out there.
That's tough. I don't know your situation, would be difficult for me to give you advice. Do you live in the states? Foremost, I believe your safety should come first.
Wow! Good topic and very informative. I could relate to this conversation. I had met my handsome and very loveable partner in my mid 30's and we were together for almost 20 years until he had passed away from cancer a few years ago. We have 2 boys and 5 grand kids and I have not been able to move forward in life into a new relationship. His death has had such an impact on me that I just can't seem to take that next step after such a devastating loss. My boys are always trying to get me to date again and sometimes try to fix me up with their friends parents, LOL! But I guess when you get to a certain age, you start to mature into a different mindset. Meaning I feel like this conversation takes me back to thinking "been there done that" But good to hear that this generation is aware and having discussions at this age.
@@DerrickWoodford Thank you. And yes I, I mean David and I had built a nice family together. Now I am picking up the pieces and trying to move forward the best I can. I also have lots of help with my brother and sister. They somewhat pickup some of the pieces as well when I just don't have enough hands to carry it all. Thank you for your comments. Much appreciated. Hope you may experience the same.
I am 2 years into gay and 60. I've done the 40s and the 50s and now working on the 60s with a pandemic to boot. For me the big difference between the decades has been I am not going at it alone which can be a blessing for some and a punishment for others. From my perspective what I've seen is that many of my fellow gay buddies were far far too picky when they were young and semi-gorgeous and are not longer young and nor semi-gorgeous and now come with a lot of excess baggage so much so that the airlines charge them for baggage excess only with a carry on. We eat well, exercise (the other more than me) and talk about how times have changed since each of us started on our own gay path until they crossed almost 30 years ago.
I'm 61 years old I've been married twice I have a daughter I've been engaged and knew it since I was 12 years old because of my family my friends I knew how homophobic everyone was especially my family I have four brothers and they are typical men and they would never understand and I didn't feel that I had to let anyone know. Now that I am 61 my family has their own lives grandchildren and I don't see them anyway so it never mattered so I am divorced from two women and alone I have a beautiful daughter that got married and had a baby girl she's a nurse practitioner I'm very proud of her but she's also has her own life and I'm still alone.
Hey Robert, I am 60, never married and single. Sometimes I wish I was in a relationship, but it has not happened. I take alot of enjoyment in my single life and make the most of friendships that are precious. I think we think that we are supposed to live the white picket fence version of gay life, its not in the cards for everyone. larch.....
Guys in your 40s, it's very, very important to work hard on your body and keep it that way so that when you find yourself 50+ and single, you'll still be able to garner some attention. Guys 50+ are expected to still have the body they had in their 20s and 30s. Guys your own age will not be interested since they are looking for younger guys to validate their attractiveness and self-esteem. Alternatively, if you have a large bank account, you can buy some attention!
The fitness thing is biter sweet. I consider myself in decent shape and it’s definitely a privilege so to speak if you’re older and in shape. The big question I often ask myself, am I working out for health or vanity. I conclude it’s a combination of both!
I agree. Was a learning experience for me. I noted a lot of things from that shoot. Also a couple of the angles were from iPhones and I failed to lock in the exposure. Thanks for the advice.
This was a great insightful video.But here in the UK there is a lot of ageism in the gay community. if you are fifty or older you are seen as over the hill. On dating apps guys make themselves younger so they get hits on their profile. I came off dating sites/apps because being 53 I was getting a lot of abuse simply for being older. In the 80's and early 90's in the UK some gay clubs and bars started to refuse entry to gay guys over 40 or 50 and a couple of bars started for older guys they were known as the Elephant Graveyards by the younger gay community and magazines here in the UK like Gay Times and Attitude also fuelled the ageism in the community. Personally I love being older. There is a real lack of respect for older gay guys over 50 and it's really damaging to self esteem and self confidence. A lot of the abuse comes from guys 20 years or younger. I wish being older was celebrated in the gay community,but it isn't. For me an added issue I enconter is that I'm as well as being an older gay man I'm also an older gay trans man and Im also mixed race (and that has caused and causes problems too). And That is not accepted by other cis gay men,they don't accept that I am gay and Trans. I am comfortable in my skin on all levels (but this only fully clicked when I turned 50) but don't understand why that is an issue for other gay men who don't think I should be. I was once told at a pride event I was far too old to be there and called a freak when they found out I was trans as well. It's hard to be accepted as a trans man by the gay community but even more so as an older trans man. I have no desire to be a "Daddy" but it seems that once you are over 50 that's all you are fit for. I'm not attracted to younger guys and never have been, even when I was a twink I preffered older guys. I have been on my own for many years now it's so hard to meet guys who are open minded,who are okay with my age and my being mixed race and Trans as well. But ironically when people find out how old I am I get told I don't look my age, But telling other gay men how old I am you can see them instantly lose intrest,and add to that telling them I'm Trans too and they really switch off. In the community anyone over 50 can't possibly be attractive and we are made to feel that we aren't.I transitioned in my early teens and had my full reassigment surgery at the same time. It seems over there in the US older gay men are celebrated and seen in a positive light as this great video shows,sadly it's not like that here in the UK. I came off of social media because of the abuse I got for simply being an older gay trans man.Your friends insights and views on being older are really enlightening. Hope more people watch this video and see how genuinely amazing older guys are. Maybe consider doing a follow up video discussion with guys who are 50 or older because I think it's needed. (matt) P.s at the risk of sounding sentimental It would be great to meet a guy and settle down into a long term relationship to really fall in love,but after the age of 50 here in the UK it's virtually impossible and being gay and trans make's it that much harder.There is a very real issue of loneliness for older gay men too especiall guys my age or older it does feel like the community turns it's back on older gay guys.
Thank you for sharing your experience/perspective. I’m often bothered by the toxicity of the apps. They sorta do magnify the everyday problems in our communities. I like to think the treatment of older members and even our trans members are improving, but still a long road.
So 40 is where a kind of second puberty hits. Our bodies change in visible, real, often uncomfortable ways. On top of that, society really expects that you’re an established provider for supporting yourself and your family dependents. Then there’s the hemorrhoids. Yay.
I don't feel bad for older gay man who are alone because many are selfish and were buys running the streets rather than looking for a partner and adopting a kid who could look after yawl later in life. I'm a single dad of triplets and my boys stated when I enter my senior yrs will be there for me
I looooove older men. I’m 29 and my boyfriend is 44. Daddys are my weakness. I’ve always been attracted to older men. When I was 18 my first hookup was with someone who was 38.
Great discussion. As a 50 something man married to a man 16 years older than myself, I found the discussion to be very informative and necessary. Bravo to you all for having it. I think more discussion on topics like this are essential as we (older cats in the gayborhood) don't always have a forum or platform to discuss what aging in a "Peter Pan-esque" community is like. I've been with my husband (legally married since 2008) for 27 years (monogamously, I might add), with kids and GRANDkids in the mix. Our journey has been frought with many perils along the way - we often say if we wrote it down, many wouldn't believe it. However, we've always had each other for support. I have his back and he always has mine. Yet, the looming issue of age is becoming a dark cloud on the horizon as we each have had times when we lament that even with family, there is the possibility of one of us ending up alone. You can be in a sea of people and feel totally alone. This is a topic I'd like to see discussed. Bravo to you and your crew for putting this together. I am a happy subscriber of your work. Keep it up!
Thank you for sharing this. I'm only 31 but I totally feel out of place with guys under 30 often times. Peter pan syndrome indeed. I also have my fear of growing old alone without a partner too.
Man....this discussion is definitely what I needed. I turned 40 back in February, and to be honest, I have fallen into a depression of sorts. Derrick's perspective really hit home for me. My pseudo depression primarily stems from a feeling of running out of time - the train has left the station, so to speak. I, too, have aspirations as a creative entrepreneur - photography and cinematography - why didn't I take it more seriously in my 20s? Or hell, even in my early 30s?
Also, seeing my parents' age, and realizing that they aren't too far away in age compared to my grandparents when they started passing away, is somewhat terrifying. Coming out as a young black gay kid to my parents wasn't easy, even in the slightest. I lost many years absent from my parent's life that I feel I'm running out of time connecting with them before losing them. And, this all is to say that the feeling I have of "running out of time" is exhausting.
Eddie drove home another point for me when mentioning the feeling of losing out, so to speak, on experiencing youth as a gay man. After 19 years of being in a relationship with my Partner (10+ older than myself), we have gone adrift from each other and at the precipice of the end. Looking back on the last 19 years, I find myself thinking about the fun I supposedly missed out on and "running the streets"? For example, I recently came across a web series, The Real Hot Boys: Houston. In watching these cute young 20 somethings out running the streets and "tearing shit up," in a way, I feel like I missed out on something. Now, don't get me wrong, I certainly couldn't put up with the bullshit of young gay man drama, but you get the point.
Another thing, I don't in many ways feel 40. I still do my thing and can compete with any 20s something. The same with watching and listening to the 4 of you; you all look good. I'm sure you feel good and don't feel like a 40+ man. I think Eric and Brian are on point in speaking on the generational element in the gay community. When I was 19, and in my 20s, I remember older gay men back then being more hidden, almost repressed. Today, I'm seeing more and more good-looking, sexy, and fine older gay men who are out there and running things, taking charge of their lives, and taking steps to be visible in the gay community. This is something that I don't recall seeing 20+ years ago in great number. There is this beautiful social evolution happening in the gay community that I've witnessed. There are still issues, and the community isn't perfect, but I feel it is evolving unlike ever.
This is a discussion that could go on forever. I would love to see a TV series/ web series examining the lives of 40+ gay men......keep it coming, Derrick!
Wow, I’m so moved by your comment and to some degrees it has felt like a kick butt! We should have some more 40 plus representation. I loved that you could relate to me and my group of friends. So much of what you said reminds me of what I’m TRYING to do as of late, living in the moment. Thank you so much for your comments!!!!!
I can see how it seems easy to grow older when you have a partner who is older. I'm in my early fifties and finding anyone who is interested in someone my age is very very difficult.
yeah, i'm in my late 40's and dating isn't getting easier. I feel a sense of urgency to settle down because I am getting older.
As you get older, it becomes even more important to pay attention to your health and fitness. A man who stays fit and lean and takes care of his skin etc. can remain sexually attractive well into his sixties. Forty is a great time to start paying attention. Thirty is even better. The game isn't over just because you turn forty. A lot of men your age are still looking for a partner, or a new partner. Lots of young men are really turned on by Daddies. And don't discard friends with benefits. My friends with benefits and I, once we were over 50 formed a three person marriage. It has worked out wonderfully. Get your mind out of the hetero/norm mold of what a relationship or a family is.
In the context of dating and relationships, what makes being gay and over 35 so difficult is mainly two things: 1) Guys over 35/40 don't look as appealing as they did when they were younger, and 2) Knowing that most guys over 35/40 don't want you because they're too busy chasing guys under 35. When most gay men over 35/40 complain about aging, it's usually about how they will relate to men who are still in their 20s or 30s. I think this is why Eric doesn't have a problem with aging because he is entering the age group of men he's most attracted to. If he was only attracted to men in their 20s or 30s, then he would have a problem. If guys over 35 or 40 would learn to leave behind the 20-30-somethings, maybe that would be the first step in coming to terms with getting older. Yes, we all know that men and women look their best when they're under 35, but if you're no longer in that age group, it's time for you to grow up, lower your expectations a bit when it comes to looks, and play with guys closer to your age. Otherwise, you're going to be trapped in a spiral of asking "why don't the guys under 35 want me?" "why am I invisible to the 20-somethings." "woe is me."
Hey Derrick, I really enjoyed this video. I loved the easy conversational format with you and your friends! I felt like I was sitting there in the living room having a drink with all of you. The subject matter was spot on, with a perfect balance of comedy, vulnerability and self-awareness. Keep the great content coming!
Thanks so much! 🙏🏾 And trying to nail down scheduling with the guys for a video soon.
I’m 52 and gave up trying to date or find a partner. It’s a futile and frustrating exercise in constant disappointment. I’m quite happy as a single and selfish man.
I’m about ready to give up, but I know I will probably always be secretly holding to hope. 😆
Never give up, I was suddenly widowed after a 14 year relationship at the age of 36, my partner was 53 when he died unexpectedly. I too almost gave up, but didn't. Afyer a 13 year search, I found my husband, 10 years already. I also thought I could do it alone, had myself talked into it. I though all the men I went out with were after my money. Along came a wonderful man . Glad I took the chance! I will never forget my first partner, in fact my parents will be buried next to him in a family plot. We bought new Graves to accommodate me & new husband next to them.
@@markmulac954 love to hear, thanks for sharing that. 😊
@@DerrickWoodford sometimes life hands us a pile of crap, whether we choose to give up or keep going is up to us!
So cool to listen to a frank discussion...I am 60 and experienced some many of the feelings and emotions articulated here. Nice to be part of the conversation even from afar, helps to ground oneself in this journey we call life....Thanks D
Thank you so much for the comment. I appreciate it.
Good discussion! Thanks so much for putting it together. Racism and ageism are alive and well in the gay community. That said, the community can also be loving and supportive. Looking at the group of friends shown here underscores the need to create a family of friends who love, support, and respect you. It's also important to get outside of our own selves and actually "be" a good friend. You really do attract what you put out there.
I totally agree! Thank you for the comment.
I am gay from a Muslim religion and I suffer because of my homosexuality. No one from my family or friends knows this. What do you advise me
That's tough. I don't know your situation, would be difficult for me to give you advice. Do you live in the states? Foremost, I believe your safety should come first.
Wow! Good topic and very informative. I could relate to this conversation. I had met my handsome and very loveable partner in my mid 30's and we were together for almost 20 years until he had passed away from cancer a few years ago. We have 2 boys and 5 grand kids and I have not been able to move forward in life into a new relationship. His death has had such an impact on me that I just can't seem to take that next step after such a devastating loss. My boys are always trying to get me to date again and sometimes try to fix me up with their friends parents, LOL! But I guess when you get to a certain age, you start to mature into a different mindset. Meaning I feel like this conversation takes me back to thinking "been there done that" But good to hear that this generation is aware and having discussions at this age.
Oh wow, so sorry for your loss. And it’s amazing to hear you had the opportunity to build a family. Sounds like it was/is a wonderful experience.
@@DerrickWoodford Thank you. And yes I, I mean David and I had built a nice family together. Now I am picking up the pieces and trying to move forward the best I can. I also have lots of help with my brother and sister. They somewhat pickup some of the pieces as well when I just don't have enough hands to carry it all. Thank you for your comments. Much appreciated. Hope you may experience the same.
Just wait
Until you are 62.
I am 2 years into gay and 60. I've done the 40s and the 50s and now working on the 60s with a pandemic to boot. For me the big difference between the decades has been I am not going at it alone which can be a blessing for some and a punishment for others. From my perspective what I've seen is that many of my fellow gay buddies were far far too picky when they were young and semi-gorgeous and are not longer young and nor semi-gorgeous and now come with a lot of excess baggage so much so that the airlines charge them for baggage excess only with a carry on. We eat well, exercise (the other more than me) and talk about how times have changed since each of us started on our own gay path until they crossed almost 30 years ago.
I'm 61 years old I've been married twice I have a daughter I've been engaged and knew it since I was 12 years old because of my family my friends I knew how homophobic everyone was especially my family I have four brothers and they are typical men and they would never understand and I didn't feel that I had to let anyone know. Now that I am 61 my family has their own lives grandchildren and I don't see them anyway so it never mattered so I am divorced from two women and alone I have a beautiful daughter that got married and had a baby girl she's a nurse practitioner I'm very proud of her but she's also has her own life and I'm still alone.
May I ask how you feel about this chapter in your life?
Hey Robert, I am 60, never married and single. Sometimes I wish I was in a relationship, but it has not happened. I take alot of enjoyment in my single life and make the most of friendships that are precious. I think we think that we are supposed to live the white picket fence version of gay life, its not in the cards for everyone. larch.....
Love is still out there! I will never give up on trying to date. Im 42.
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Guys in your 40s, it's very, very important to work hard on your body and keep it that way so that when you find yourself 50+ and single, you'll still be able to garner some attention. Guys 50+ are expected to still have the body they had in their 20s and 30s. Guys your own age will not be interested since they are looking for younger guys to validate their attractiveness and self-esteem. Alternatively, if you have a large bank account, you can buy some attention!
The fitness thing is biter sweet. I consider myself in decent shape and it’s definitely a privilege so to speak if you’re older and in shape. The big question I often ask myself, am I working out for health or vanity. I conclude it’s a combination of both!
Very good discussion. Hit many points. I’m 42 single and gay. I live in Franklin. In Indianapolis all the time 😁
I’ve visited Indianapolis before. It was a fun time. I’m guessing Franklin isn’t quite the same.
@@DerrickWoodford not quite the same. More quiet and peaceful .
Good video. Visually, it would be much better if we didn't have to be looking into a window. Lighting should be in front not behind your friends.
I agree. Was a learning experience for me. I noted a lot of things from that shoot. Also a couple of the angles were from iPhones and I failed to lock in the exposure. Thanks for the advice.
This was a great insightful video.But here in the UK there is a lot of ageism in the gay community. if you are fifty or older you are seen as over the hill. On dating apps guys make themselves younger so they get hits on their profile. I came off dating sites/apps because being 53 I was getting a lot of abuse simply for being older. In the 80's and early 90's in the UK some gay clubs and bars started to refuse entry to gay guys over 40 or 50 and a couple of bars started for older guys they were known as the Elephant Graveyards by the younger gay community and magazines here in the UK like Gay Times and Attitude also fuelled the ageism in the community. Personally I love being older. There is a real lack of respect for older gay guys over 50 and it's really damaging to self esteem and self confidence. A lot of the abuse comes from guys 20 years or younger. I wish being older was celebrated in the gay community,but it isn't. For me an added issue I enconter is that I'm as well as being an older gay man I'm also an older gay trans man and Im also mixed race (and that has caused and causes problems too). And That is not accepted by other cis gay men,they don't accept that I am gay and Trans. I am comfortable in my skin on all levels (but this only fully clicked when I turned 50) but don't understand why that is an issue for other gay men who don't think I should be. I was once told at a pride event I was far too old to be there and called a freak when they found out I was trans as well. It's hard to be accepted as a trans man by the gay community but even more so as an older trans man. I have no desire to be a "Daddy" but it seems that once you are over 50 that's all you are fit for. I'm not attracted to younger guys and never have been, even when I was a twink I preffered older guys. I have been on my own for many years now it's so hard to meet guys who are open minded,who are okay with my age and my being mixed race and Trans as well. But ironically when people find out how old I am I get told I don't look my age, But telling other gay men how old I am you can see them instantly lose intrest,and add to that telling them I'm Trans too and they really switch off.
In the community anyone over 50 can't possibly be attractive and we are made to feel that we aren't.I transitioned in my early teens and had my full reassigment surgery at the same time. It seems over there in the US older gay men are celebrated and seen in a positive light as this great video shows,sadly it's not like that here in the UK. I came off of social media because of the abuse I got for simply being an older gay trans man.Your friends insights and views on being older are really enlightening. Hope more people watch this video and see how genuinely amazing older guys are. Maybe consider doing a follow up video discussion with guys who are 50 or older because I think it's needed. (matt)
P.s at the risk of sounding sentimental It would be great to meet a guy and settle down into a long term relationship to really fall in love,but after the age of 50 here in the UK it's virtually impossible and being gay and trans make's it that much harder.There is a very real issue of loneliness for older gay men too especiall guys my age or older it does feel like the community turns it's back on older gay guys.
Thank you for sharing your experience/perspective. I’m often bothered by the toxicity of the apps. They sorta do magnify the everyday problems in our communities. I like to think the treatment of older members and even our trans members are improving, but still a long road.
I’m almost 45 and I don’t look like any of theses people but I suppose I can relate…
So 40 is where a kind of second puberty hits. Our bodies change in visible, real, often uncomfortable ways. On top of that, society really expects that you’re an established provider for supporting yourself and your family dependents. Then there’s the hemorrhoids. Yay.
😆😆😆 and then there’s the joint pains.
Ugh....gay and 38 here.
I don't feel bad for older gay man who are alone because many are selfish and were buys running the streets rather than looking for a partner and adopting a kid who could look after yawl later in life. I'm a single dad of triplets and my boys stated when I enter my senior yrs will be there for me
You should do a video about gays with Klinefelter's Syndrome.
I think I have a segment on Klinefelter's Syndrome on 60 Minutes many years ago. I would have to find someone to interview.
This was good to watch great point of views🔥💕💕💕08-26-21
Thank you so much!
@@DerrickWoodford You're welcome 💕💕💕💕💕
Very cute guy
Thanks for the view!
I looooove older men. I’m 29 and my boyfriend is 44. Daddys are my weakness. I’ve always been attracted to older men. When I was 18 my first hookup was with someone who was 38.
I’m attracting lots of younger men, but no one wants to date. 😆 I’m trying to stick to 10 +- rule.
32 and yes older men for some reason are more attractive. The oldest I been with was 45.
I'm 71, It's not great, but it could be a lot worst
It can always be worse. I try to remember that.