Why was the Starbucks barista such a mood? I've been so busy and anxious lately and I never knew I needed this video as badly as I did. Have an amazing day Nicole :)
i legit breathe differently when i'm around men... i feel like i need to take up as little space as possible while also feeling this pressure to look desirable at every angle all the time. like god forbid some creep looks at my tits and they don't look good. it's so infuriating
I feel this on a cellular level and hate it so much but at the same time I’m so scared to stop acting this way because I don’t want to be looked down on.
Tbh for some reason I feel the other way. When I'm with women I feel like I need to look beautiful and all that because all other girls look pretty. When I'm with guys I feel like everything's ok, I an be me and don't have to look perfect. Any ideas why is that so? And my like 2 top friends are male and I feel like they are not faking being friends (I feel that with girls). Maybe bc I have 2 brothers I grew up? (They youger tho)
@@yves3118 it's probably because you've had good experiences with expressing yourself around men! I totally get your feelings with trying to fake it around fellow females because I did the same growing up (just general insecurities and worries around any gender).
I had never heard the term "the male gaze" to describe that before and I just thought I was like self centered and weird?? I've been trying to unlearn it by myself and it helps so much to know that that is actually a thing
The "male gaze" has nothing to do with being a peeping tom. It is the realization in the female mind that every thing you do and look like is under constant scrutiny by every male in the vicinity. Like walking down the street etc. Unfortunately this is the result of 2 million years of evolution. 50 years of woke feminism will not erase this trait. We are all still apes at heart-especially men. That is why they act as they do, and you act as you do, and why it is so incredibly hard to change. I would count on at least another 100 thousand years to breed those traits out, if ever! Only acceptance of these facts will help you as it has helped Nicole. You must not care.
In feminist theory, the male gaze is the act of depicting women and the world, in the visual arts and in literature, from a masculine, heterosexual perspective that presents and represents women as sexual objects for the pleasure of the heterosexual male viewer.
@@soylentlolmilk I agree with that view as long as it is understood that the pleasure angle is evolutionarily from a mating perspective not just prurient interest.
I find it interesting how the small chested and big chested girls are jealous of each other! it just shows how we are all sooo beautiful!! also I love this style of video, kinda feels like im FaceTiming you hehe
It's funny cause I have the opposite issue! I grew up in the country so I knew nobody could see in my window but now I live in the city and always forget I need to close the blinds or change in the bathroom 😂
@@chels10902 Oh nooooo I was like that when I was younger too growing up in a suburb with trees lining the property. As soon as I went to college in a big city I started to get so paraoid about closing my blinds as soon as the sun set!
I'm seventeen and literally last week I went to the ER with my first ovarian cyst. Tomorrow I'm talking to my doctor about birth control because it hurt so bad. The timing of that question being in the video you posted today is immaculate.
@@kenzieplantlady haha, I'm totally fine. I just thought it was really funny because this is like the first time I've ever heard anyone talk about ovarian cysts.
i could relate to her on a spiritual level when she said she feels like her life is being watched and she would always wonder if she's looking pretty when doing even the most normal thing ever. i do agree that cutting a few people (or men probably?) out of your life do helps. i had a crush on a guy in middle school and he would always pull me down saying i wasn't pretty enough for him and whenever i did anything he would always claim me wrong (when i never even asked). i realised that it was better cutting him out of my life and all i did was simply ask him to save his advices for his own self as i am mature enough to make my own decisions and i genuinely felt relieved lol.
Everyone’s first period story is like so varied and hilarious to me Like for me, when I first got my period, my mom was excited and she marked the day and time on when I got my first period on her calendar she always has in her bedroom 😭 I was so ashamed and embarrassed
I love that Tik tok makes drinks popular. I worked at a small café and this chia matcha was really popular among “the yoga people” I tried to convince my friends it was yummy, but they wouldn’t try it! Loved this video!
this is the pov i have been romanticizing for the last one year due to covid. Even though i couldn't do it with my actual bestie, Nichole you are just as good if not better so thank you. i hope my actual bestie doesn't read this because i got her addicted to your videos as well
@@NadyaOlivares @Nadya Olivares thank you so much for your kind words😭😭😭. This is my first time hanging out in the comments section of one of Nicole's videos (i think🤔) and y'all are so nice🥺🥺
Does anyone else bingebwatch her videos and enjoy every single one? It feels like she's my best friend a Even tho she doesn't know me but every time im sad or upset or in ANY mood her videos make me feel so much better. So Nicole if you're reading this, thank you so much genuinely thank you. And you're also my favorite star sign virgo ♍❤❤
i literally aspire to be like you every day nicole. the fact that you are so chill with your bf having a bunch of friends that are girls and that you're just so un-jealous in general is amazing. ty for inspiring me bae ily
Nikki Nasty. Sis, you just changed my life. I had NO idea phantom smells were a thing!!! I get frequent migraines due to hormones and jaw clenching and I’ve been getting random recurring smells literally three or four times a week for yearsss, and I get migraines just as often. I never made the connection!!! Thank you for talking about your migraines so openly!!
I think that the male gaze and internalized misogyny can possibly be ingrained in young women mainly by their mothers because I feel like I don't have it almost at all and my mom left me. Like I feel like its mostly moms teaching their daughters that they need to be "ladylike" at all times
Just wanted to say this is everything I needed right now. Being stuck at home (I live in Brazil, covid is out of control around here), I miss these little talks with my friends. Thanks :)
yesssss girl talk with nicole!!! i genuinely feel like i’m talking to the older sister i’ve always wanted when i watch your videos, so i’ve been soooo excited for this video!!!!
Well, I'm Russian and I can't imagine that I would have such cute conversation as she had at the beginning of the video. I mean, are you really so polite talking to strangers? Can't believe...
I loved this video! Nice change of scenery: love the 'talk in the car'- vibes, because cars are seriously one of the best places to have conversations with your friends and I love it! It's nice to hear somebody talk openly about these sort of things, especially the being afraid of men, because girllll , I feel you
as I was watching you have your convo with the employee, I literally went "aw I miss conversations" meanwhile I keep forgetting to text my friends back
I swear a menstrual cup was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life lol, they're so comfortable I have literally forgotten I was on my period. plus saving money and using less plastic! 10/10 very much recommend
yesss if we allow disrespect from men we allow disrespect from ourselves! It’s a hard pill to swallow but its true and its something I am working on not doing going forward. Stick up for yourself and respect yourself enough to not let others disrespect you.🧡
I don't know why you girl are currently my fav youtuber?? Like? You are so sweet and honest and relatable? You genuinely feel like an older sister to me??😃👌🤍
This video is pretty refreshing. I haven’t seen a girl talks video like this ever. Also maybe I feel this way bc you just casually talk about the things w/o “shame”. I related to a lot of it thank you bb.
this was so informative and i appreciated this sm!!! i quit shaving and converted to sugar waxing and that shit changed my LIFE!! your hair grows back so much slower and smoother YOUVE GOTTA CONVERT
i saw the two masks and got flashbacks of when my dog puked on my floor in my room and i wore like two masks for like an hour while i waited for my stepdad to clean it
these girl talks are always so nice to hear ! i do be needing the validation of a stranger on the internet to be confident enough to just talk abt these things :^)
I like to grow my armpit hair to make men mad, and also I don't feel like shaving razor irritations a bitch. anyway one time I bleached and dyed them pink to match my hair
watching/using this as background while doing my hw, really feel like you are my bestie and your voice is so calming, i really finished everything and didn't feel the time
me writing down nicole's drink so I can order it the starbucks employee: it sounds disgusting I DIEDDDD this video actually felt like I was talking to my bestie thanks for brightening my day nicole!!
absolutely love listening to you talk honestly 💖discovered and started watching your videos last December last year and you're currently one of my favourite RUclipsrs :)
Interactions with Starbucks employees are so fun sometimes??? My mom, niece, and I went to a Starbucks at like 1AM and asked if they're open 24/7 cause literally every other one in the area was closed and the employee was like "Oh yeah! We're open 24/7 so you could get a latte at 9AM, another at 12PM, and again at 3AM if you really need to" and that just made my night for some reason??? The happiness from his voice at 1AM??? Lovely
YES I remember being so worried about and grossed out by discharge and wearing a liner every single day for years but after college I was like im gonna try going without them and now years later I'm like why was I so bothered? Its nothing
just wanted to let u know i mentioned u in my yearbook (its about zodiac signs and how your my favorite virgo and ppl should check u out bc ur amazing)
Instead of being sad that you don’t have a large bra size , be happy that you don’t have to wear a bra at all. I have worn a bra 3 times in the last 6 months, and only for sexy times. I will wear sports ones when I go to the gym, but other than that I am small enough that I don’t need a bra, just a tank top to tone down the RTS
i love how the starbucks employee was just brutally honest about the drink-
honestly iconic
He was iconic and i want to be there friend
Such a vibe
that convo with the starbucks employee is everything
“ok cool cause it sounds disgusting ;))”
When we say all men, we do not mean that hilariously honest and wholesome Starbucks employee
fr
“once the majority of women stop having bad experiences with men then we’ll stop generalizing you” *period, queen*
You sure that’s gonna ever happen?? I mean the way you think about men is what’s going in your mind
“it sounds disgusting” i love you sir
i love your pfp 😋😋
nicole really balanced a matcha drink on her knee so we’d have something colorful to look at. nicole, we appreciate you
the colors needed to go together
Why was the Starbucks barista such a mood? I've been so busy and anxious lately and I never knew I needed this video as badly as I did. Have an amazing day Nicole :)
i legit breathe differently when i'm around men... i feel like i need to take up as little space as possible while also feeling this pressure to look desirable at every angle all the time. like god forbid some creep looks at my tits and they don't look good. it's so infuriating
I feel this on a cellular level and hate it so much but at the same time I’m so scared to stop acting this way because I don’t want to be looked down on.
i totally feel this, its just so much pressure and so uncomfy sometimes :(
i noticed how free i felt after stopping to have guy friends
Tbh for some reason I feel the other way. When I'm with women I feel like I need to look beautiful and all that because all other girls look pretty. When I'm with guys I feel like everything's ok, I an be me and don't have to look perfect. Any ideas why is that so? And my like 2 top friends are male and I feel like they are not faking being friends (I feel that with girls). Maybe bc I have 2 brothers I grew up? (They youger tho)
@@yves3118 it's probably because you've had good experiences with expressing yourself around men! I totally get your feelings with trying to fake it around fellow females because I did the same growing up (just general insecurities and worries around any gender).
Where do you think that stems from?
the matcha with chai tasted like pho to me
oh my
Omg my two favourite RUclipsrs , i literally love watching both your content :)
@@jasminepunia same :)
tempting......
omg wait yes i get it, i think bc of the cinnamon maybe???
“Who am I as a person, without the pill? I don’t really care to find out right now” lol me with my antidepressants
Lol me with my Ritalin
and here i thought it was my main character complex that made me feel like i was constantly being watched but the male gaze also makes sense
HAHAHA
That barista sounds like the effortlessly funny person of a friend group xD
not you being the best person ever and saving us from this monotonous world
I had never heard the term "the male gaze" to describe that before and I just thought I was like self centered and weird?? I've been trying to unlearn it by myself and it helps so much to know that that is actually a thing
giirll me tooo
The "male gaze" has nothing to do with being a peeping tom. It is the realization in the female mind that every thing you do and look like is under constant scrutiny by every male in the vicinity. Like walking down the street etc. Unfortunately this is the result of 2 million years of evolution. 50 years of woke feminism will not erase this trait. We are all still apes at heart-especially men. That is why they act as they do, and you act as you do, and why it is so incredibly hard to change. I would count on at least another 100 thousand years to breed those traits out, if ever! Only acceptance of these facts will help you as it has helped Nicole. You must not care.
In feminist theory, the male gaze is the act of depicting women and the world, in the visual arts and in literature, from a masculine, heterosexual perspective that presents and represents women as sexual objects for the pleasure of the heterosexual male viewer.
@@soylentlolmilk I agree with that view as long as it is understood that the pleasure angle is evolutionarily from a mating perspective not just prurient interest.
That’s my best friend, she’s a real bad b, drive her own car, she don’t need no Lyft 🙃
nicole: i'm not an influencer
*nicole gets starbucks drink*
me: i must also get that drink
HAHAHAHA
* Influenced *
no because i literally just wrote down the order in my notes
I find it interesting how the small chested and big chested girls are jealous of each other! it just shows how we are all sooo beautiful!!
also I love this style of video, kinda feels like im FaceTiming you hehe
*me, a guy and has a lot of assignments due this weekend*
also me: spill the tea sis
omg the thing about the male gaze: I literally cant apply lotion alone in my bedroom without feeling ~watched~.... wtf
It's funny cause I have the opposite issue! I grew up in the country so I knew nobody could see in my window but now I live in the city and always forget I need to close the blinds or change in the bathroom 😂
@@chels10902 Oh nooooo I was like that when I was younger too growing up in a suburb with trees lining the property. As soon as I went to college in a big city I started to get so paraoid about closing my blinds as soon as the sun set!
@@SpookyGhostHands I need to be more paranoid, who knows if anybody has gotten a free show 😅😂
I'm seventeen and literally last week I went to the ER with my first ovarian cyst. Tomorrow I'm talking to my doctor about birth control because it hurt so bad. The timing of that question being in the video you posted today is immaculate.
that sounds so scary! :( hope your body stops attacking you soon
@@kenzieplantlady haha, I'm totally fine. I just thought it was really funny because this is like the first time I've ever heard anyone talk about ovarian cysts.
“it sounds disgusting”
i could relate to her on a spiritual level when she said she feels like her life is being watched and she would always wonder if she's looking pretty when doing even the most normal thing ever.
i do agree that cutting a few people (or men probably?) out of your life do helps. i had a crush on a guy in middle school and he would always pull me down saying i wasn't pretty enough for him and whenever i did anything he would always claim me wrong (when i never even asked). i realised that it was better cutting him out of my life and all i did was simply ask him to save his advices for his own self as i am mature enough to make my own decisions and i genuinely felt relieved lol.
Fun fact: the german word for birthcontroll is ''antibabypillen'' and i think that's beautiful 😂😂
Oh my god 🤣🤣🤣
also, the double mask, appreciate it, along with the Starbucks dude, what a queen
nicole is really just raising my standards for my friends oml
We all need a friend like that Starbucks barista!!
Everyone’s first period story is like so varied and hilarious to me
Like for me, when I first got my period, my mom was excited and she marked the day and time on when I got my first period on her calendar she always has in her bedroom 😭
I was so ashamed and embarrassed
"talk about your boyfriend having girlfriends"
at first I thought they meant actual girlfriends like a poly relationship 💀
Me too 😂
I love that Tik tok makes drinks popular. I worked at a small café and this chia matcha was really popular among “the yoga people” I tried to convince my friends it was yummy, but they wouldn’t try it! Loved this video!
this is the pov i have been romanticizing for the last one year due to covid. Even though i couldn't do it with my actual bestie, Nichole you are just as good if not better so thank you. i hope my actual bestie doesn't read this because i got her addicted to your videos as well
I think I'm in love with her eyebrows lol dont want to sound creepy
Don't worry me too
it's okay I love her eyebrows too
Wow so happy I'm not the only one haha
Girl I agree, the less attention we give to men , the better our lives are oop- 👀
sad but true
I was talking to a guy friend and i felt so ugly when i would talk to him. I stopped and i dont feel so bad about myself anymore🤧
@@carolinas1465 girl thank god u dropped him. He sounds toxic and you deserve friends that lift you up!!! Keep rising girl!!
@@NadyaOlivares @Nadya Olivares thank you so much for your kind words😭😭😭. This is my first time hanging out in the comments section of one of Nicole's videos (i think🤔) and y'all are so nice🥺🥺
Does anyone else bingebwatch her videos and enjoy every single one? It feels like she's my best friend a
Even tho she doesn't know me but every time im sad or upset or in ANY mood her videos make me feel so much better. So Nicole if you're reading this, thank you so much genuinely thank you. And you're also my favorite star sign virgo ♍❤❤
ugh my heart!!!
i literally aspire to be like you every day nicole. the fact that you are so chill with your bf having a bunch of friends that are girls and that you're just so un-jealous in general is amazing. ty for inspiring me bae ily
Nikki Nasty. Sis, you just changed my life. I had NO idea phantom smells were a thing!!! I get frequent migraines due to hormones and jaw clenching and I’ve been getting random recurring smells literally three or four times a week for yearsss, and I get migraines just as often. I never made the connection!!! Thank you for talking about your migraines so openly!!
I think that the male gaze and internalized misogyny can possibly be ingrained in young women mainly by their mothers because I feel like I don't have it almost at all and my mom left me. Like I feel like its mostly moms teaching their daughters that they need to be "ladylike" at all times
Lmaooooo "you'll have to let me know because it sounds... disgusting" same. I'm a starbucks barista and I had the same thought tbh
i am LIVING for this little interaction at begining with the Starbucks employe
Just wanted to say this is everything I needed right now. Being stuck at home (I live in Brazil, covid is out of control around here), I miss these little talks with my friends. Thanks :)
with how the world is right now, Id love more girl talks. I miss my girls so much and this was very nice to sit and watch!!
yesssss girl talk with nicole!!!
i genuinely feel like i’m talking to the older sister i’ve always wanted when i watch your videos, so i’ve been soooo excited for this video!!!!
Well, I'm Russian and I can't imagine that I would have such cute conversation as she had at the beginning of the video. I mean, are you really so polite talking to strangers? Can't believe...
I loved this video! Nice change of scenery: love the 'talk in the car'- vibes, because cars are seriously one of the best places to have conversations with your friends and I love it! It's nice to hear somebody talk openly about these sort of things, especially the being afraid of men, because girllll , I feel you
as I was watching you have your convo with the employee, I literally went "aw I miss conversations" meanwhile I keep forgetting to text my friends back
it's okay i have the same problem
her face during piledriver waltz is me every time i listen to it
also during ode to the mets
Me, sobbing into my small dog bc aNxiETY and then I get a notification you posted. Thank you for making my day better. My wet dog thanks you too.
i hope your day gets better!!
I swear a menstrual cup was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life lol, they're so comfortable I have literally forgotten I was on my period. plus saving money and using less plastic! 10/10 very much recommend
you make me feel so comfortable and safe wow
me: stops editing my own vidoe to come and be a stan
the dedication 🥲
the being afraid of general straight men hit HOME lmao
oh my gosh finally discovered the word for that feeling-the male gaze! thank you for addressing it and love the girl talks
yesss if we allow disrespect from men we allow disrespect from ourselves! It’s a hard pill to swallow but its true and its something I am working on not doing going forward. Stick up for yourself and respect yourself enough to not let others disrespect you.🧡
omg I think this is the fastest I've ever seen one of your videos posted lol. Also the "does it taste like a space rock?" killed me
I CANT BELIEVE IM NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT FEELS LIKE SOMEONE IS WATCHING ME SO I ACT FOR THEM!!! 😱😱😱
that starbucks employee seemed like the sweetest person ever. btw ily nicole ur videos get me through the week!!
girl talk as a not girl really does hit differently
I don't know why you girl are currently my fav youtuber?? Like? You are so sweet and honest and relatable? You genuinely feel like an older sister to me??😃👌🤍
This video is pretty refreshing. I haven’t seen a girl talks video like this ever. Also maybe I feel this way bc you just casually talk about the things w/o “shame”. I related to a lot of it thank you bb.
this was so informative and i appreciated this sm!!! i quit shaving and converted to sugar waxing and that shit changed my LIFE!! your hair grows back so much slower and smoother YOUVE GOTTA CONVERT
Nicole is my absolute favorite!!! Also Starbucks workers give such good energy and I LIVE for it
This video genuinely felt like a good girl talk that I needed
I actually tried Curology because of you, and I’ve already noticed so much improvement in just two weeks!!
I love the star buck dude he was like “it sound DISGUSTING”
Also, I tend to get migraines, so I really appreciate you talking about your experiences and how botox has helped you
i saw the two masks and got flashbacks of when my dog puked on my floor in my room and i wore like two masks for like an hour while i waited for my stepdad to clean it
glad i had my notfis on, i ofc would never miss this bestie✋💖
~bestie vibes only~ lmao
@@kenzieplantlady besty😩
these girl talks honestly feel so safe omg :-))
me: feels lonely
nicole: let me change that 😚👈🏻
I don't usually comment, but I love watching ur videos! Honestly fav RUclipsr, it's so nice just listening to you chat about life
this is the content i need !! i miss car chats :,)
It’s SO clear that you feel better after your botox!! I am so happy for you!!! you are glowing!!
these girl talks are always so nice to hear ! i do be needing the validation of a stranger on the internet to be confident enough to just talk abt these things :^)
My hair mask is on, lipbalm on and a new Nicole video. This is an ideal evening lol
I like to grow my armpit hair to make men mad, and also I don't feel like shaving razor irritations a bitch. anyway one time I bleached and dyed them pink to match my hair
I WANNA DYE MY ARMPIT HAIR SO BAD SJSMJSSJ
@@elianasmith9657 do it there is no consequence it is winter and u can shave it off✌🏻
You sound really cool
watching/using this as background while doing my hw, really feel like you are my bestie and your voice is so calming, i really finished everything and didn't feel the time
I AM IN LUV W U, I CANT EVEN LIE AT THIS POINT 😩😩😩
Yasss another amazing video from our queen! And thank you for your last video too, it helped me understand a lot of things💗
i’ve literally been binge watching your videos all week. your vibe is immaculate✨💗
me writing down nicole's drink so I can order it
the starbucks employee: it sounds disgusting
I DIEDDDD
this video actually felt like I was talking to my bestie thanks for brightening my day nicole!!
also nicole pleasee post more of these girl talks in the future... the most comforting videos lyyy
absolutely love listening to you talk honestly 💖discovered and started watching your videos last December last year and you're currently one of my favourite RUclipsrs :)
Interactions with Starbucks employees are so fun sometimes??? My mom, niece, and I went to a Starbucks at like 1AM and asked if they're open 24/7 cause literally every other one in the area was closed and the employee was like "Oh yeah! We're open 24/7 so you could get a latte at 9AM, another at 12PM, and again at 3AM if you really need to" and that just made my night for some reason??? The happiness from his voice at 1AM??? Lovely
whenever you play the strokes it makes me so happy, thank u Nicole :)
hey nicole i commented last vid but just wanted to say that curology works wonders and thank you for promoting it :)
Yesss! Been waiting for a girl talk! Love this video!
YES I remember being so worried about and grossed out by discharge and wearing a liner every single day for years but after college I was like im gonna try going without them and now years later I'm like why was I so bothered? Its nothing
just wanted to let u know i mentioned u in my yearbook (its about zodiac signs and how your my favorite virgo and ppl should check u out bc ur amazing)
WHAT OMG i want to see this
Instead of being sad that you don’t have a large bra size , be happy that you don’t have to wear a bra at all. I have worn a bra 3 times in the last 6 months, and only for sexy times. I will wear sports ones when I go to the gym, but other than that I am small enough that I don’t need a bra, just a tank top to tone down the RTS
you are like the older sister that I never thought I needed
Manifesting "driving w my bestie listening the strokes" yeah I'm talking about Nicole ❤️
Okay laaadies, we called her the perfect big sis. Can we give a round of applause for the BESTIE WE ALL NEED! Perfection
this video came at the literal best time bc I cannot do this Stats homework physically, mentally, and emotionally I refuse
more of these videos pls i've been feeling v isolated this year and this gave me so much serotonin
why does she seem like the sweetest person ever omg
I'm so glad to hear the migraines are improving! You looked really pretty in this video too btw, ly Nicole
I want to be friends with starbucks employee so badly they seem so nice-
today sucked, so I’m SOO happy you posted Nicole! Thank you for always saving me without even knowing it ❤️
Since quarantine without a doubt you became my bestie FOR SURE
these videos always feel like we're on facetime and i love it
ur videos are simple but i literally have soooo much fun watchin them. love u 💕💕💕💕