I can totally relate. Sadly I'm a victim of this, I had to take the bold step to leave and live, it was initially so hard, but I survived and I'll survive with my 3kids. I endured 6 years of physical and mental abuse, constantly being hospitalized due to brutality 😢 I'm glad I survived, I'm glad I left.
For myself and for whoever sees this comment... I pray for a patner who will love u genuinely,who will be ur greatest cheerleader and backbone,who wouldn't make u feel unworthy or less of urself,who isn't afraid to announce u to the world or flaunt ur beauty,whose atmosphere exudes peace and tranquility,who is ur safe space and ur biggest cushion,who will love u so dearly u forget ur memories of being unloved,who will not make u feel crazy for following ur dream or for believing in God.🫶🏾🙇🏾♀️
Thank God I also survived an abusive relationship. I was always forgetting things that I did or said sometimes because I was always lost in thoughts. For 23yrs, I didn't have the courage to leave. I gave myself a timeline. I said when I am 50 years old, I will leave. I continued to pray that he should initiate it. Gracefully, he did, and I left. I am with my 4 children and doing great. I just thank God.
This movie is spot on and the actors played the roles perfectly ( if you have lived a minute with a narcissist you’ll know there’s no exaggeration here)
For anyone watching and is scared, this is a reminder that not everyone out there is like this. And if God is for you, no one can be against you. Plus, there are signs that will exhibited by a narcissist, so don’t ignore them. And pray as hard as you can before going into a life commitment. Beautiful movie ❤.
As a good story teller I am... that art work ebi spoke about on their first date was a symbol a sign to for her to know she was about to deal with a mad man ... a traumatised and unloved man .. girls let's be guided
Please do. Many women are going through a lot of indescribable things. And choose to stay because of children or society. She has lost self confidence, now sees herself as a failure, never do well.
If you’ve never stayed with a narcissist you can never understand . The best you can do to yourself is just leave while you’re still alive ,or else your people will collect your copse . . They never change ! They do one mental game you can never understand …they will keep hurting you till the end . Just leave if you still can
Hi bby gal , have just seen your comment ,how are you doing...how are you coping , l pray it doesn't affect your mental health and sanity....love you ....
I’m not married and this movie was so triggering . Such tragic things people experience . But I blame the woman for tapping out . How can you second guess yourself the man was a narcissistic. The fact I’m commenting means the actors did an amazing job !
Speak into existence how you want your future to be,no pity party....red flags are always there..the framed work of art said a lot even when dude didn't say jack during the dating period.Say woke peeps marriage ain't child's play.Don't let marriage push you into depression, if it's not working, LEAVE WHILE YOU'RE STILL ALIVE.
Mostly ,abusers want d abused to think d abused is d problem!!!! Even dat family and friends see dem as d victim NOT abused.See ur self as worthy of luv,value!! Don’t allow someone else control,manipulate ur existence!!! Don’t go for someone who is not healed!! Ain’t worth it 😮
Marriage should bring the best in you not to destroy you. Why are some men like this? You are supposed to make each other’s life better not worse. The best version of yourself is the goal in marriage but sadly in some marriages it’s not 😢.
Its important to know yourself as a woman before going into marriage. . There are always signs of abuse way before marriage. Flee immediately you ser the signs. Your life is more important than any relationship.
This was me for the past 5 years of my life I met him during my finals in uni. I served right after, his first move was when I finished my service………..He asked me to move to Ekiti from Abuja or he was going to end the relationship. I moved, two years later, he moved out of Ekiti to Lagos and left me there. I started to see exactly every single thing that happened in this movie. I am asthmatic and I have sinus. He once looked at me during my discomfort and said “If you travel out you will just D!E. That day I cried. He made me feel ugly for 5 years. No kidding, I was almost an influencer when I met him, had some amount of audience online. Everything just slowly died down. He made me stop my business………He cheated on me so many times, I lost count
The craziest part about this is that….. it’s not about being smart because I am a smart woman. You just can’t see what is happening when you’re in there. I am someone like this woman, I would search for my phone 5 times daily and I can be so clumsy. One time, I forgot to close the lid of something. He started opening the lid and using it to verbally abuse me literally everyday until I had to double-triple check to see if I closed it. Then one day I saw him intentionally opening the lid and few minutes later he started insulting me as usual, similar to the way this man speaks in this movie. Guess what? I was still with him for another two years after all these incidents
He’s in the past now But if you ever have anyone around you who is going through this What they need is grace You lose yourself You start to doubt yourself You lose people You lose opportunities You lose time You even lose brain cells If you ever meet a guy like this. RUN!!!!!!
You shouldn’t be darling the fact that it’s like this for some marriages doesn’t mean yours will be same.I could have said pray, but most of us prayed and still end up with such men (anyways still pray cause God it’s the giver of life).
@@michellenten99 you don't want to know.😂😂😂😂 I can't leave now as I'm not financially capable,I don't have supportive relatives so I'm stock here taking in every trash while I'm building myself.. it's hard but worth it.
Just join live classes of how to outsmart ruin and treat a nassist, learn frkm.different scholls of thought by psychologist he will flee from you, fear you. Treat them as if they do not exist and move on. Just know how to handle and trwat an abuser and know that an abuser will never change thill they doe thas the Nassisist.
Women in toxic relationships often refuse help thinking that the man will change with time. Most women prefer being in relationships no matter how badly treated instead of being single and healthy all the way until the right person comes calling.
Marriage ruined her She married wrong He destroyed everything about her and made her feel he was perfect and she was the problem,I once dated someone like that,God he made me feel like a queen at first and boom,he started making it feel like am nothing without him,he chased out my friend, and always make it feel like I won a jackpot by being with him,and wants me to see him as a God but whenever I want to leave he begs and begs me,it took me a while to be free
This is classic narcissism. He just loved bombed her at 1st and that's how he sucked her in. But the 1st red flag was how he tried to immediately change her on first date; ex when she stated that she did not drink alcohol, and just disregarded her statement and poured it anyhow. And the gaslighting, placing her phone in another spot than where she left it, then trying to make her doubt her own reality.
As a therapist, i get to meet alot of people like Ebiye. Sadly, emotional abuse is that aspect of abuse that is rarely talked about. I like as Fred highlighted in simple terms the typical behaviour of an abuser. N.B. Many wives are emotionally abusive to their husbands, especially when they feel they did the man a favour by marrying him. Great movie👍 and great acting from Ebiye and Fred..
You can't understand until you find yourself in the situation, those in it do not know they are being abused because it's like a programming, the abuser knows what to do to make her believe she's loved even while being abused and it's called manipulation
This happened to my sister everyone things she is mad until she finally leaves the marriage my sister is finally ok May God not allow us to marry evil man
Story of my life. I tried to leave but each time i try, i come ruuning back cos he promised to change plus i'm not always myself whenever i do. How do i get to be free totally without any sense of guilt or wanting to run back? God help me!
My father is a big narcissist, after 20years of coping she left because it was hell upon hell. Babes I assure leave now for your own sake, they’d never change I assure you. It’s not easy tho, leave now and when you’re thinking about him or the good side of him, think of how he hurts you, verbally abuse you but trust me you’d be fine. Lastly PRAY, GOD LISTENS.
I have dated a narcissist, my dear dats what dey do , in my case he cheats and makes me feel like i made him do it , i started doubting my own self thank God i didn't accept marriage to him😢
Well i was in this Type of marriage few years ago then one day i told my husband that i dreamt where he kill me and he change instantly....he stop beating me and became more loving 😂
@otokitiblessing8093 he will my dear...you need yo make him stop ...and talk less when his shouting..just be say saying sorry men like mumu women. .but with that you can get all you want from him ..best of luck
There is no manual to marriage. We just hope that we make the right decision in choosing the right partner. Do you want a happy home? You and your partner should be willing to put in the work in love towards a happy home.
What a narcissist! Why anyone can allow someone else manipulate them to a point of suicide beats me. I can relate to this story. But God removed the manipulator from my life. And am all better now.
I can totally relate. Sadly I'm a victim of this, I had to take the bold step to leave and live, it was initially so hard, but I survived and I'll survive with my 3kids. I endured 6 years of physical and mental abuse, constantly being hospitalized due to brutality 😢 I'm glad I survived, I'm glad I left.
Hugs dear🫂
You’re a strong woman…
Inside you, you know she's not,why would you open your two eyes and take fire into your life and afterwards run out??@@rosemarybassey5712
The sisterhood is proud of you❤❤❤
Huge❤❤
For myself and for whoever sees this comment...
I pray for a patner who will love u genuinely,who will be ur greatest cheerleader and backbone,who wouldn't make u feel unworthy or less of urself,who isn't afraid to announce u to the world or flaunt ur beauty,whose atmosphere exudes peace and tranquility,who is ur safe space and ur biggest cushion,who will love u so dearly u forget ur memories of being unloved,who will not make u feel crazy for following ur dream or for believing in God.🫶🏾🙇🏾♀️
Amen
Thank you so much ❤
Amen
Thank God I also survived an abusive relationship. I was always forgetting things that I did or said sometimes because I was always lost in thoughts. For 23yrs, I didn't have the courage to leave. I gave myself a timeline. I said when I am 50 years old, I will leave. I continued to pray that he should initiate it. Gracefully, he did, and I left. I am with my 4 children and doing great. I just thank God.
This movie is spot on and the actors played the roles perfectly ( if you have lived a minute with a narcissist you’ll know there’s no exaggeration here)
For anyone watching and is scared, this is a reminder that not everyone out there is like this. And if God is for you, no one can be against you. Plus, there are signs that will exhibited by a narcissist, so don’t ignore them. And pray as hard as you can before going into a life commitment.
Beautiful movie ❤.
Brilliant work, guys!!! Narcissists are a scourge and can destroy you totally. I applaud all the good work that contributed to creating this movie. 👏
Narcissistic abuse is one such dark hole! It's hard to believe a victim since the abuser is usually very soft in public. The movie is spot on!
Its always painful when your family and friends don't believe you are being abused..Everyone deserves to be happy. I deserve to be happy
As a good story teller I am... that art work ebi spoke about on their first date was a symbol a sign to for her to know she was about to deal with a mad man ... a traumatised and unloved man .. girls let's be guided
I agree that art was too awkward for her to ignore like that
I agree, I just started watching the movie and I'm just at that first date scene, the art is troubling!!
My advice to every victim out there is to stand out and heal and fight for your self
I love this movie the story line I can definitely relate because I know a lot of women going through this
I am going to be an advocate in promoting this movie
Please do. Many women are going through a lot of indescribable things. And choose to stay because of children or society. She has lost self confidence, now sees herself as a failure, never do well.
Thank you to the cast and the crew. Just wow
This movie has really opened my eyes to toxic relationships n marriages … y not walk away for the sake of your peace of mind..😢 gosh
Sometimes it is not easy to walk away sometimes it is even dangerous peace and safety for any woman dealing with a narcissist
If you’ve never stayed with a narcissist you can never understand . The best you can do to yourself is just leave while you’re still alive ,or else your people will collect your copse . .
They never change ! They do one mental game you can never understand …they will keep hurting you till the end . Just leave if you still can
This movie deserves an award..
Damn!This movie triggered a lot of emotions 😢
My sister is currently living this lot for the past 15 years. I just hope she walks out soon.
Woww I haven’t finished this movie but my eyes have opened wide! May I never marry my enemy IJN. God bless you for this masterpiece👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🥺
When Narcissism jam Hot temper is the worst. That's my present experience. It's so terrible
Hi bby gal , have just seen your comment ,how are you doing...how are you coping , l pray it doesn't affect your mental health and sanity....love you ....
This young man looks like Jr Pope Very Much 😢😮❤
Omo, God abeg 😢,scared to get married at this point because this storyline is so real 😢. Better to be single than marry wrong 😢.
I’m not married and this movie was so triggering . Such tragic things people experience . But I blame the woman for tapping out . How can you second guess yourself the man was a narcissistic. The fact I’m commenting means the actors did an amazing job !
Walking away in marriage is not easy, may we never experience it
Big AMENNNNN
This is exactly my aunt life story .
So I can relate to the movie very well
Speak into existence how you want your future to be,no pity party....red flags are always there..the framed work of art said a lot even when dude didn't say jack during the dating period.Say woke peeps marriage ain't child's play.Don't let marriage push you into depression, if it's not working, LEAVE WHILE YOU'RE STILL ALIVE.
Mostly ,abusers want d abused to think d abused is d problem!!!! Even dat family and friends see dem as d victim NOT abused.See ur self as worthy of luv,value!! Don’t allow someone else control,manipulate ur existence!!! Don’t go for someone who is not healed!! Ain’t worth it 😮
Marriage should bring the best in you not to destroy you. Why are some men like this? You are supposed to make each other’s life better not worse. The best version of yourself is the goal in marriage but sadly in some marriages it’s not 😢.
Kehinde is the best ❤
This is the BEST Movie. Do Part Two
Its important to know yourself as a woman before going into marriage.
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There are always signs of abuse way before marriage. Flee immediately you ser the signs. Your life is more important than any relationship.
Gaslighting her to believing she’s mad😢
Because water choke me in my childhood so make I no drink water again?....................this is an intentional calculated behavior
This was me for the past 5 years of my life
I met him during my finals in uni. I served right after, his first move was when I finished my service………..He asked me to move to Ekiti from Abuja or he was going to end the relationship. I moved, two years later, he moved out of Ekiti to Lagos and left me there.
I started to see exactly every single thing that happened in this movie. I am asthmatic and I have sinus. He once looked at me during my discomfort and said “If you travel out you will just D!E. That day I cried. He made me feel ugly for 5 years. No kidding, I was almost an influencer when I met him, had some amount of audience online. Everything just slowly died down. He made me stop my business………He cheated on me so many times, I lost count
The craziest part about this is that….. it’s not about being smart because I am a smart woman. You just can’t see what is happening when you’re in there. I am someone like this woman, I would search for my phone 5 times daily and I can be so clumsy. One time, I forgot to close the lid of something. He started opening the lid and using it to verbally abuse me literally everyday until I had to double-triple check to see if I closed it. Then one day I saw him intentionally opening the lid and few minutes later he started insulting me as usual, similar to the way this man speaks in this movie. Guess what? I was still with him for another two years after all these incidents
He’s in the past now
But if you ever have anyone around you who is going through this
What they need is grace
You lose yourself
You start to doubt yourself
You lose people
You lose opportunities
You lose time
You even lose brain cells
If you ever meet a guy like this. RUN!!!!!!
Hugs... glad you're fine now
@@WunmibillionsI hope you’re good now,wishing you all the best and I hope you find someone better
Hope you have left..
This was literally like watching my exes😢 I’m so scared of my future husband
Glad it's not your present, it's actually my present situation... 😂😂
fear is a trap. be positive n declare wot u wnt.
@@eremaha23 are you coping?😂
You shouldn’t be darling the fact that it’s like this for some marriages doesn’t mean yours will be same.I could have said pray, but most of us prayed and still end up with such men (anyways still pray cause God it’s the giver of life).
@@michellenten99 you don't want to know.😂😂😂😂 I can't leave now as I'm not financially capable,I don't have supportive relatives so I'm stock here taking in every trash while I'm building myself.. it's hard but worth it.
Just join live classes of how to outsmart ruin and treat a nassist, learn frkm.different scholls of thought by psychologist he will flee from you, fear you. Treat them as if they do not exist and move on. Just know how to handle and trwat an abuser and know that an abuser will never change thill they doe thas the Nassisist.
Which class please
So many women are suffering in silence without any support from anyone
If gaslighting was a person 😩😩😩
He is aware of all his actions...................making the wife believe she is crazy
But why
This movie was really important
Women in toxic relationships often refuse help thinking that the man will change with time. Most women prefer being in relationships no matter how badly treated instead of being single and healthy all the way until the right person comes calling.
I endured this for 8 yrs. I because a dead beat to myself. After my death attempt , i had to leave in order to live
Nice movie....different experiences with their colourations
sad reality of many
Marriage ruined her
She married wrong
He destroyed everything about her and made her feel he was perfect and she was the problem,I once dated someone like that,God he made me feel like a queen at first and boom,he started making it feel like am nothing without him,he chased out my friend, and always make it feel like I won a jackpot by being with him,and wants me to see him as a God but whenever I want to leave he begs and begs me,it took me a while to be free
He was a narcissist
That's a narcissist. They will make you question your sanity at some point. Thank God you are able to escape. Congratulations.
Thank God you were free from that bondage
Thank God you were free from that bondage
Thank God you were free from that bondage
This is classic narcissism. He just loved bombed her at 1st and that's how he sucked her in. But the 1st red flag was how he tried to immediately change her on first date; ex when she stated that she did not drink alcohol, and just disregarded her statement and poured it anyhow. And the gaslighting, placing her phone in another spot than where she left it, then trying to make her doubt her own reality.
You deal with some married individuals
You wonder how they are married .
So many women are suffering in silence without any support and pastors and family will be telling them that God hates divorce.
He’s not just a narcissist he’s also a manipulative sociopath making think she’s going crazy just to keep her under his control and dependent.
As a therapist, i get to meet alot of people like Ebiye. Sadly, emotional abuse is that aspect of abuse that is rarely talked about. I like as Fred highlighted in simple terms the typical behaviour of an abuser.
N.B. Many wives are emotionally abusive to their husbands, especially when they feel they did the man a favour by marrying him.
Great movie👍 and great acting from Ebiye and Fred..
Nice, educational movie..
I don't understand how women stay with crazy partner i swear if a man shout am out not to talk of this madness
You can't understand until you find yourself in the situation, those in it do not know they are being abused because it's like a programming, the abuser knows what to do to make her believe she's loved even while being abused and it's called manipulation
I can relate. He has rendered Ebiye a complete wr3ck.
This happened to my sister everyone things she is mad until she finally leaves the marriage my sister is finally ok May God not allow us to marry evil man
Wow
Her first mistake waa allowing him to make decisions about her work. Even change manager n where to go or not
Godforbid such
My aunt refused to fight
She is depressed and an alcoholic and so much more
😢🙏🏾🙏🏾
Story of my life. I tried to leave but each time i try, i come ruuning back cos he promised to change plus i'm not always myself whenever i do. How do i get to be free totally without any sense of guilt or wanting to run back? God help me!
Just leave
Take that bold step and quit
My father is a big narcissist, after 20years of coping she left because it was hell upon hell. Babes I assure leave now for your own sake, they’d never change I assure you. It’s not easy tho, leave now and when you’re thinking about him or the good side of him, think of how he hurts you, verbally abuse you but trust me you’d be fine. Lastly PRAY, GOD LISTENS.
You better leave now you are still alive when is not too late my dear
Better leave now, you will be good
Nice movie but it shouldn't always be people with trauma, this is a calculated behavior
What other kind of people then?
This movie dey trigger me 😢😢😢
The husband narcissist is on another level hmmm how can you force someone to accept what she did not do and make her doubt herself
I have dated a narcissist, my dear dats what dey do , in my case he cheats and makes me feel like i made him do it , i started doubting my own self thank God i didn't accept marriage to him😢
@@blessing-lg3bi Tnk God you leave when you do for the sake of ur mental health
Well i was in this
Type of marriage few years ago then one day i told my husband that i dreamt where he kill me and he change instantly....he stop beating me and became more loving 😂
Wow really happy for you I pray mine too change too
@otokitiblessing8093 he will my dear...you need yo make him stop ...and talk less when his shouting..just be say saying sorry men like mumu women. .but with that you can get all you want from him ..best of luck
This guy was super wicked
Please I want to ask is this really how marriages is ? Cuz am really scared of getting into it
There is no manual to marriage. We just hope that we make the right decision in choosing the right partner.
Do you want a happy home?
You and your partner should be willing to put in the work in love towards a happy home.
No just don't lose yourself in marriage
This is in both gender oo and can be so Manipulation....in families, siblings too
Jealousy husband 😢sorry my sister he is a Jealousy husband 😢😢😢
Thank God i left that narcissist
Thank God you left.
This movie is so painful to watch
Some men are just evil
She should have sent the messages to her phone
Wahooo men like dis are sick in de head great story line
🎉
What a narcissist! Why anyone can allow someone else manipulate them to a point of suicide beats me.
I can relate to this story. But God removed the manipulator from my life. And am all better now.
Marriage ruined her
She married wrong
Some men are just not well
😢😢😢
He is a sociopath
*Psychopath*
Seriously he is