She bitched that he didn't want to change. I dated a girl once it went well, then not well. She never said no. I tried to to keep it going. Then I just stopped. Guess What? She didn't like it, when I didn't pursue her anymore. She would see me and try to interact and I just walked away a couple of times and that ended that.
This is an example of "toxic femininity" and as a woman, I can't stand women like this young woman. Wtf does she expect him to do? Harass her? Beg for a second chance? Like my dad told my younger brother and I, "if they (boyfriend, girlfriend, or friend) gets mad at you for respecting their boundaries, you're better off not having them around because they're going to find anything to complain and get mad at you about." So, tbh, the man is better off without her in his life. Edit: Wow this comment took off. I got good opinions and a lot of different view points about my comment.
There have been enough videos circulating of girls calling out guys when they don't give up, no means no, etc Men learnt what they mean, men understood and respected their boundaries Now they complain?
This more sounds like she doesn’t want to hold herself accountable for her decisions so she wants a guy to “manipulate her” into thinking what she ACTUALLY wants to think. Yes that is female logic. That way, if she gets any flak for dating him she can say he manipulated her and she’s free to do whatever she wants about it.
There are people who are like that they'll beg for children because they think they're partner wants kids to keep them from leaving even if they hate kids.
It's more like you say to your partner you hate kids and don't want them but be mad at them because they simply said okay and not tell you the benefits of having children and you'll regret it when you can't have them bla bla
Reminds me of my ex. Guys kept hitting on her and everywhere so she broke up with me qnd told me i need to grow up which is code language for making more money. About a month later i had a new girlfriend, she heard about it and kept calling me every single day because she expected me to be miserable and she couldn't bear the idea that i wasn't. Now i'm married with two kids and she's single and pathetic and has slept with so many guys they all know her and keep their distance.
Same here. She didnt actually want me back. She was just pissed I was doing better than her after the breakup. After not being successfull seducing me she tried to ruin the new relationship with other tactics.
@@pingu6028 yeah that's exactky what happenned. She tried every possible way to ruin the relationship. She succeeded. But i got yet another GF after that and this time is cut her off completely:
@@Soldano999 Kinda the blueprint of certain girls...I hear it a lot. Most wouldnt go that far but the amount of exes that want their guy back (or at least want to know they could anytime) is shocking. Probs to my next girl that didnt buy any of her bs and didnt have the usual hive-mind behaviour (eventho the other one had kind of status in the "girl's hierarchy"). Unfortunatelly it didnt work out in the end but at least that wasnt the reason
@@pingu6028 one thing that is worth noticing: i had sex more with my EX the year after we broke up that in the previous 5 before that. She would call me to fix her sink or whatever crappy excuse etc. For them sex is a tool to get you. The minute you're hooked it's off the table.
she just unintentionally revealed that she's the type of woman who keeps men on the hook for her own selfish self gratification. she's so tonedeath that she didnt even realize it
she is also (I'll be nice and give her the benefit of doubt) inadvertently teaching guys to pursue and possibly harass or stalk women who are real and genuinely not interested in them. Like Pegasus said not everyone is normal or stable, they might think this behavior is okay. Her behavior is not okay for females. Pursuing someone who said no is not okay for males. She's totally fugged up.
@@nerdytom6881 You missed nothing, your comment works perfectly fine in the context of OP here. Fitzgerald here either happened to read the wrong comment or had one too many beers
She admitted to the guy being very nice and treating her well. He was a keeper. But the fact she threw it away for some ego boost or mind game is baffling.
Oh come on now. You know neither of those were her real reason. It’s because she saw someone she thought was hotter or richer and decided, “Yeah, I want that over the healthy, stable relationship I’m already in”
He was not her husband - she only looks for husband energy at the momemt (!) ... - did someone left the door open where the people live with the hug-me-i-love-myself-jacket?
I've seen this in other cultures, where it's literally expected to get rejected and chase to the point that would be considered turbo creep tier in the West... and that's apparently romantic. I don't get it. Why do things have to be so confusing?
@@moonasha I dont know if its about romance, I think her assessment of the guy's value changed when she saw how easy it was for him to move on. I think she was expecting a different reaction, and second guessed herself.
Exactly and it just leads to boundaries not being respected if you say “actually I meant something else”. Just say what you mean!! I hate this thing of so many women doing this “I said to leave me alone and he actually did” and then complaining about men saying that communication with women is exhausting. No one can read minds
@@GTA5Guru We find peace and good memori more important than dating I speak for me now Ralation now are a game If i want to play games I plan on ps4 not on dating
honestly, i think the reason why she's mad about this is because it's a hit to her ego... she wanted this dude to basically ask for a second chance, and boosting her ego (basically: i'm so good that he wants me back after i broke up with him). however, he did a normal-person response by saying that he also didn't see the relationship continuing, which did the opposite of what she wanted, (maybe to complain about her ex begging for a second chance online) and also hitting her pride because he told her that he didn't see them being together in a relationship. she has awful character, and as a girl myself, i'm glad this guy broke up with her.
@@fireinthenight9028 yeahhh it's really sad.... this poor dude wouldn't win either way regardless of what he chose to do. people like her need to have karma come their way
And also, I bet this girl want him to still go after her just so that she can flex with her friends Some people like to show how much they are worth by how others are treating them
"nice guy, good guy.. treated me well.. BUT!" I swear to god if I had a dollar everytime I have heard a woman utter those words I would have hundreds if not 1,000's of dollars
I have noticed something with 3 people I know. Not large enough of a group to be anything but anecdotal but here my observation goes. A man who mistreats his girl can receive lots of verbal abuse from her, she can fight him all the time. BUT when she looks back on the relationship as a whole and him ( for example when it’s over or they are apart for some time) she doesn’t remember anything wrong at all. In her eyes they were good and had a great time together. It’s hard to understand female logic but in my small group of friends it appears to me that women might not pay attention to all the times they were annoyed or disappointed in a partner. However the opposite can happen where he’s such a nice guy she has nothing but bad words to say about him.
the big takeaway is that women will date just for fun, sex, money and so on and then supposedly grow up and look for husband material instead of fuckboy material.... men should run from these women at all costs
@@GTA5Gurunot really because sugar daddy requires certain deeds done in order for the woman to receive money whereas with husband no bedroom stuff is required.
I think the real reason why she wanted him to chase her was because she wanted to complain about it online, either way it's a lose-lose situation for the dude
As a female, yep, pretty much how all women work. I'd like to have my hand go, "allow me to introduce myself" to her face. It's that "toxic femininity" mindset
Real translation: He treated her too nicely, so she got bored and dumped him, thinking she will break his heart, thus boosting her fragile female ego. Imagine her surprised when he was not the simp she thought he was. He was just a real man doing his best to make his woman happy. He was probably already aware of several previous red flags, but thought he might just keep on going, hoping he was wrong, and that she really was a keeper. When she just rejected him in a very disrespectful way, via text, he saw the last red flag, realized she was totally not worth his efforts, and was happy that he dodged that bullet in time. This text however confirmed all his fears, and he tapped out as fast as he could. He was still enough of a gentleman to try and not make her feel guilty for the ratchet way she treated him, so he sent her a nice text saying thank you and goodbye. That's because at that point he was just glad to have a smooth way out, where nobody could blame him for breaking up their relationship. This however shocked her, as it was not the usual simp reaction she was looking for. She realized he literally didn't care about her anymore, and this blew her brain cell. Now she's interested in him again, because he's not interested in her, and that is an intolerable female ego crushing situation to be in. But she knows he won't take her back, so she made this video, hoping he would see it, and think that she was only kidding, and are still interested in him, and want him to keep on trying to get her. Sadly she apparently was unaware that real men don't roll that way. Real men will treat you right, all the way up to the point where you prove you're just not worth the effort. After that you're just a bad taste in the mouth, that will be rinsed away by the first next beer he has. And that at the core is exactly what happened here. Men 1, Slags 0.
I don't think she would accept him back. She still wanted to reject him but also feed her ego. That's all. She would say 'look how great I am. I rejected this loser and he's still chasing me and begging to take him back'. And she would get upset about him moving on because he wouldn't feed her ego anymore.
This is what narcissists will do. They push you away, treat you like shite, then complain you didn't try to get them back. They train you to keep pursuing them, and then call you a psycho stalker.
I literally can relate about this. There was a girl i liked so much so i started to make some moves and started talking to her through chat and personally and then she started to tell me she wasnt ready and basically just wanted to be just friends (we're both in the same circle of friend group), so i accepted it and started to move on. About 2 weeks later, i found a girl that matched my vibe and started to hang out with her and all of a sudden the girl that i previously liked started to get mad saying how insensitive i am to move on just like that LMAO. I really dont understand women these days
She expected the guy to change but said nothing about herself perhaps needing to do the same; then, she states, "I can be manipulated." My first thought--as a woman who's been married to a good man for nearly 23 years--is, "No, you can be manipulative." I also wonder how/ why it is that she sees a "nice guy, good guy," who "treated [her] well," as someone who doesn't give off "husband energy." That... is... mental. Period.
@@kaml1369 I know a bit more, now, of what guys have to put up with presently.... Women definitely became more neurotic with the advent of social media (SM), I think. Heck, I think that's true of ALL people who use it (SM). Personally, I am so thankful that I met/ married my husband long enough ago that neither one of us need to deal with the mind games that we see people playing today. Everything seems amplified by 1000% from how things were before SM. 🤪 Just my $0.02.
Yes. I noticed she said "manipulated", not "persuaded" or "coaxed" or "convinced". She obviously doesn't know how to negotiate in any unselfish manner.
@@kaml1369 We know what guys have to put up with from some women, whom I'll call unworthy of good mens' attention. Not all women are like that. I guarantee that there even are quality--i.e., non-game-playing women--within the Millennial and Gen Z generations; they just aren't posting stupid things on social media. In short, every generation has had its "bad seeds;" it's just that, now, social media amplifies the current ones and, yes, spreads like a mind virus to anyone who doesn't have a more solid foundation.
I was that simp once, endured indignity after indignity only to get discarded, begged and my begging fell on deaf ears...and then after I'd cried my tears I looked back was overwhelmed with disgust at my own behavior. Since then focused on business, interests and building myself up. Better by myself than I ever was with her. Never beg men, if you want games, buy a switch
She wants men or this guy to feed her ego so she can reject him again? Women love to play games. If she doesn’t show any interest, do not put any effort.
True. If a person wants to be with you, they will Simple as that No need for chasing and betraying your values It's a bittersweet experience There are enough manipulative people who just don't need a partner,they need someone to be obsessed with them to feed their ego
It would. The thing that she wanted most and that would have made her happiest has been deemed a crime in out society. "The chase" used to be normal but now beautiful women have to settle for "the agreement" and they are confused and annoyed by that.
It wouldn't objectively be sexual harassment. But men have been led to believe that it is, so they won't do the traditional thing and court or pursue women.
there's no future with someone if anyone thinks like that, like in either case, both genders would end up alone, people have to stop doing it, even if it means losing a backup plan, if either gender did this, they are screwed.
if she wanted him to change its called COMMUNICATING not telling the guy to get lost and make a surprise pikachu face when he respects you enough to do what you ask
Sounds like she wanted him to chase her so she could "me too" him and tell everyone online about "what a creepy stalker" he is so she could earn attention in the form of likes and comments from her adoring fans from the power trip she got destroying his life online. He didn't play her game because he's likely seen this play out before, and she's upset that she doesn't get to play the victim about a "creepy guy who can't take no for an answer" "harassing" her. I'm glad men are wising up about this. I'll never know what it's like to be a man in today's world but I do understand what I see with my own two eyes is that a lot of men are mistreated by society and it should be no surprise why so many want to remain single. The more I see toxic femininity in action, the more I can't believe I used to call myself a feminist. I say high five to him for not being duped into playing the game to be used for her social media attention.
It is also a blow to her ego because this woman probably rates herself a 10. Which means she's perfect and this guy must be crazy for not chasing her. Because if she is perfect then every guy should chase her... right?
I once had a girl just break up with me out of the blue. So i said "okay", got my stuff and walked out the door. About 4 months later, she called me and asked me why I left. I told her it was because she broke up with me, and I assumed that meant she didn't want me around anymore. Then she asked me why I didn't pursue her and try to get her back. So I said "Do you want me back?" She said "No, but that's not the point." So i said "Play your little game on someone else. I've got better things to do than to stroke your fragile ego." Then I hung up.
she would've still shot him down if he did keep trying. only thing she wanted from him was reassurance and when she didn't get that she took it as rejection. pure narcissist.
She's just mad because she failed to friend zone him and keep him around for free meals and drinks while she looks for the guy with the "husband vibes" or whatever it was she said. It's not that she would actually give him a chance at all because he keeps trying. If anything she would see him as more pathetic and firmly cement him in the friend who pays for meals category.
You are absolutely right. I was friend zoned and I did the simp thing for a little while. It got so sickening being at a bar with her and she just drops out and immediately leave a conversation you're having with her just so she can go throw herself at some Chad over by the jukebox. I got so disgusted with her for doing that, but I was even more disgusted with myself for actually letting that happen.
She was literally mad because she couldn’t friendzone him. That’s all she wanted, was the title of friendzoning another guy just to seem like she’s more valuable smh. This happens all the time, this just freaking happened to me a little over a wee ago with another female that doesn’t work at my job but is associated with mine. She’s mad I no longer tried to go after her after she wasted my time foh.
@@mikewolverton7904I’ve done it dude. It makes you feel low and dirty. A very odd sensation that won’t kill you, but is so uncomfortable. Atleast you can acknowledge it and come to terms with what you felt you did wrong. You good bro, just don’t let it happen again. Trust me, the more you go through bs in life the easier and faster you start finding those 🚩🚩🚩
@@FZERO20 The worst thing about it was that she actually wound up marrying that slimeball Chad. Biggest red flag ever: if you're a bartender and you spend your time hanging out in other bars, chances are you're a scumbag. I'm not the most attractive man to have ever walked the earth, but let me tell you, that Bartender Chad was so freaking sleazy looking that even I felt I needed to take a shower just by looking at him. But yet there she went, off to live the life of abuse, turmoil and chaos. I carried a lot of pain over this because I really started having self doubts if I'm just a horrible person, and only recently I started releasing the pain by discussing it with others who share similar experiences. I've learned that it is NOT ME who was at fault. I didn't come from a broken home. She did. And once I understood that broken homes produce unfixable people, everything made perfect sense. Thank you for your response.
I just can't seem to wrap my head around people who get upset about getting what they asked for as if they wanted the opposite, in this case getting their boundaries respected.
Bro, this chick needs help. She basically wants a relationship built on gaslighting and manipulation and I'm sure she'll be participating in both those fronts along with her bf. She's insane.
@ApexSelva for everyone. Someone might let her work with children otherwise, and if that were to happen, teaching little girls her mindset would be the least bad outcome.
I had this happen to me once. If she had just been unsure, I'd have taken her back. But she was establishing a pattern of manipulation by constantly questioning my devotion and then threatening to leave. The game isn't a game at all, it's a pattern of behavior that some people won't ever grow out of. Why any man would subject themselves to that I'll never know.
What they want is called narcissistic supply. Just avoid them and care more for yourself. Doesn’t really detract from anybody. You don’t owe your self-respect to other people.
She felt rejected after he agreed to end things, and now her ego is bruised and she feels unwanted, she wanted him to chase her so that she felt like she "still got it".
Nah she wants to feel in control. Master manipulators. Pretend to let a man disrespect their boundaries by subtlety manipulating to have their boundaries disrespected. Idk about the other guys, but when a woman starts trying to put puppet strings on me, I'm out. It's a dumb test with dumb prizes. Basically saying she wants a man with low impulse control who will eventually cheat on her. These types thrive off drama. No thanks. I enjoy peace way more than drama.
Back in my times as teenager I remember when folks used to say that if woman says "no", than it's "no". And now when she says "no", she means "chase me" is really messed up.
The part that caught my ear was when she said he didn't try to "change" himself for her. Seriously? They were barely dating and she wonders why he isn't altering his personality for her benefit? Wouldn't he be much better off finding a woman who likes him for who he is already? I wonder what kind of parents she had that raised her to believe people around her should change themselves for her entertainment.
Men enter relationships wishing the women never change(and they aways does for worse), women enter relationships alredy wanting to change the guy(if he does change she lose respect and leave).
I suspect that her father was kicked out of the house, or divorced her mom because she had an affair, when this chickie was very young. Meaning that she was raised in a single-mom household, now the mom hates men, and the mom indoctrinated her baby girl into toxic beliefs about men in general.
The dichotomy of "Chase me even though I play hard to get so I can feel desired and wanted (which give me status)" and " Eww, he keeps chasing me/he is such a creep (to garner the power of victim hood)" is real.
"I can be manipulated, i will listen to you" Imagine if her friends or straight up bad people encouraged her to take bad descisions, she would pretty much go along with it. This is why you should avoid people like her, with a mind as perishable as hers she can rot her life and everything around her.
Im turning 40 and one of the few constant rule i always tell young guys is to never beg or chase women after they've rejected you the first time. All guys experience rejection..so when a girl doesn't want to date you: dont get angry, let that rejection roll off your back and move on to the next..chasing and begging is never a good look anyways because it makes you look pathetic and it shows a complete lack of self respect.
i actually think his reaction to her breaking up was not what she expected and it made her see him differently. Still bad on her for playing games and not having an adult conversation.
Back in the 1980s I knew a woman that constantly rejected me, and every time she'd go on and on and on, about how "She wished she could meet a guy like me", I'd again ask her out, and she'd once more tell me "No we can't because I don't want to lose you as a friend!"!! Finally after YEARS (yes I chased her for around four years), I simply gave up asking her out, THEN stopped talking to her completely even going as far as to avoid her even at social events!!!! AND THIS went on for another three years, until one night at a bar she cornered me and began to unload on me, while she was drunk! She then told me "I don't know what I did to make you stop coming around!"! And she had seemed to forgot all the times she had rejected me and my advances, as I attempted to show her I was seriously "interested in her"!! And finally when I point this out that I had asked her to consider me as "boyfriend material" and "date me" for nearly four years straight, she said to me "Sometimes "NO" means "YES"!"!! and her argument made absolutely ZERO SENSE!! After all she was also one of those women who always complained that "Men never seems to know what "NO" means!", and she never hid the fact to me when we were close about the guys she liked and the guys she didn't like!!! And in those four years I was chasing her, SHE DID have other boyfriends that constantly "came and went" in her life, who she claims treated her poorly, which made it even more strange that she'd say "I wish I was with a guy like you!" to a guy like me, only to reject me in the end constantly even after I professed my interests in her!!! THAT NIGHT in the bar I told her, that I no longer viewed her as a "potential mate" (in so many words, which I basically told her "Leave me alone!") and I have not seen or talked to her now in almost 40 years at this point!!!!
Her argument didn't make any sense, because it was a lie wrapped in a truth. It's true, that "no" sometimes means "yes", but it was a lie, that she would have relented to YOU. Women hate to be the villain, so she gaslighted you.
He gave her the utmost respect. She said she wanted to break up, and he fully agreed. They couldve stayed together if she didnt say anything, but she did. And the dude had chad levels of respect for her choice.
Nah he failed her test and she is hella mad about it. She wanted him to pass her test, because she liked him, but wanted to test him for resiliance first witch he failed. She wanted him to test her back on how hard a no it was. Its like her saying: "i want to make sure i made the right choice for my baby father so we don't all die in the future. " Don't give me wrong she has no idea she is doing this its just part of her dna to do this to survive.
The last serious relationship I had was 15 years ago. When she wanted to break things up, I only replied with one word: "Ok". And had moved out in less than 3 days later. We are still friends to this day, but it also still bugs her that I was so casual about it. And whenever she raises the subject (a couple of times a year) I give her the same answer: "I actually took you seriously in every respect. If you told me you were hungry, I suggested we eat. If you told me you were horny, I made a conscious effort to satisfy your needs. If you told me you needed comfort I provided it. So when you bluntly told me it was over, I accepted it, swallowed it, ingested it and moved on mentally - everything at once, in a split secound. No drama. No fuss. Nothing. She still cant understand my reaction, or lack thereof, but I dont care. her own lack of insight and understanding of how I function and tick as a complex human being, is just another tellsign that we were never meant to be
If a girl breaks up with me by text, you can be sure as hell I won't fight for her. And I really hate that mentality of "No means no, unless it means maybe, or even yes, depends on my mood, you'll just have to figure out." I guess her "husband energy" means "mentalist" because they are the only one able to figure out what going on in her head.
This dynamic is actually a perfect filter. If a woman says no and she means it, step away. If a woman says no and she doesn't mean it, she's crazy like this one and you don't want to be with her. Either way, stepping away is the right choice.
I’m a full Filipino so we call chasing her as “courting” and try and win her over but nowadays no one does that anymore because it’s risky. Especially if it’s an environment where everyone knows each other such as work, school , etc. The amount of false accusations can impact someone’s image even if they proved they are innocent. Because once that accusation is made that’s what they are labeled as no matter how much they prove their innocents.
@@steveduerr6367 it’s not bullshit it’s a Filipino thing that’s why I mentioned my ethnicity because “courting” in the Philippines means pursuing women while also following certain rules. But you see nowadays no boys does that anymore “Harana” is another term we use. We will gather our friends and head to your house and serenade to you for you to be impressed and like me
Every culture has courtship or the pursuit stage…that stage ends when the person being pursued says “this isn’t working out”, “no” etc. At that point it’s the friend zone even if interest still exists. That’s just respectful. He was respectful and she wanted to act out of character and break protocol which dangerous as a man.
@@MisterGreis that’s the point , nowadays there’s too much bullshit to pursue anyone that’s why no guys does it anymore (unless they really do find that special someone). I just brought it up because in the Philippines or as Filipinos it’s like basically tradition for us to court the girls and pursue with singing/ gifts, etc. but with how things are in modern dating. It’s pointless
I had this exact thing happen. Me: “I wanted to thank you for a really nice evening last night.” Her: “I don’t think we should see each other anymore.” Me: “I’m sorry but I don’t understand.” Her: “I just don’t.” Me: “okay.” At a party 8 months later accidentally bumping into each other, Her: “WHY HAVEN’T YOU CALLED ME?” The takeaway is No means No, except when it means Definitely, but if you misread No you get on a sexual offender list for life. It’s safer and less frustrating to just rent one from time to time.
Its as if she wants you to be the creep that society generalizes most men to be, due to enabling this sort of thing, you made a good choice saying "ok" there, dodge bullets at the speed of sound.
When I was young, I asked a girl out twice and was rejected twice. I ran into her many years later. She was married and had two kids. She asked me, "Why hasn't some woman hooked you yet?" I replied, "Why didn't you hook me?" She claimed that I wasn't persistent enough. I told her that there is a fine line between being persistent and being a pest. Being told "No" two times was enough. She actually became angry and started belittling me! I said, "Whatever" and walked away from her. I found out later she's unhappy in her marriage. I think the fact that I wasn't upset about her rejecting me ended up ticking her off. Glad she never gave me a chance. I might have ended up as miserable as her husband.
I would bet money that if he were to continue pursuing her like she says she wants in this video; we would have instead gotten a video of her complaining about a creep who doesn't understand "no".
*Especially* if she wants you too. Trust me, you'll dodge a bullet! Some women love that type of drama, being pursued, so they will torture you with "I love you, darling!" and "We need to break up..." for as long as they can.
Imagine an employer tells a potential candidate that he didn't get the job after his interview when in reality they were secretly hoping for the candidate to keep calling HR and begging for the job.
bruh ok so let me get it here, "I dont like you" "ok well, thats fine, ill leave you alone." "What! im canceling you online!" And also husband material is up to her, hows he sposed to know?
Nah, it is very bad, but not the worst era. You go into Antic Rome, you could get a spouse from another people by killing the husband and taking over. Meaning you could have a wonderful family life and some guy comes like "Imma take all that, thanks."
My ex literally complained 6 months after she broke up with me because I "never tried to win her back". Instead, even though I still had feelings for her at the time of the breakup, I respected her decision and moved on with my life and focused on myself. If you don't want to break up with someone, don't play some mind game that involves you breaking up with them. If "feeling pursued" is more important to you than a healthy relationship, don't be surprised when you can never hold on to the latter. Also, I don't think she understands what the word "win" means. Yes, we had some happy times together, but overall, my life has been much happier without her in it. Why would I want to "win back" something that caused my life to be so much less enjoyable?
Sometimes breaking up like this can also be a test 🤷🏻♀️ personally if i end up taking the descision to break up with my bf and he tells me " ok then" ... i would just tell myself that he didnt give a fuck about me lol , in the other hand if he try to hold me back that clearly prove that he cares for me , so yeah
Justify it however you want but if you even suggest breaking up with someone before having a talk, and yes it will be hard because of course it will (no shit, Sherlock), then maybe you’re not emotionally or mentally mature enough to be with someone. Get off goddamned tiktok, get to know real people, following influencers doesn’t count, and be better. Stop expecting life to be handed to you on a silver platter.
She wanted to feel like the more attractive one. She dumped him and this was to make her the one with the power because she rejected someone who wasn't worthy of her. She was expecting him to beg and be sad that he lost a good thing with her, but when he was like kthxbai, she felt like the less attractive one, cuz she couldn't succeed in rejecting him. Instead, she too felt rejected and therefore less attractive. This is the mark of a manipulative, immature person and, needless to say, a major red flag.
‘I don’t think I can make you happy.’ Pretty sure any guy can break it down for you there, lady. It means you’re needy, overbearing, and not worth the effort. Which is pretty much what he showed you by completely agreeing with you. So two adults come to a mutual decision and because her ego is bruised due to her finding out that she’s just a person like everyone else, she has to get on tik tok. Try keeping your private life private for a change and see how that works out for you. Most guys sure as hell won’t want to date you now if they come across this.
"The chase" is over once two people start dating. While dating each person should be figuring out if the other fits their life style. There is no "chasing" in dating. So once one of them says it's over the repectful thing to do is to move on and stop wasting both of their time. Which is exactly what that man did.
Most women do not understand this. They want chased and validated. Uh...no. Once a single date happens the chase is over, You move into comfortable zone and actually communicate. Isn't it hilarious how the gender that assumes they are the best communicators are always the worst ones to communicate?
Haha, my man said "I don't think I can make you happy". People are missing the genius of this subtle jab😂 He knew already she was too high maintenence.
What’s actually happening there is that she placed his frame as below her and became confused when he was unphased by losing her. She didn’t want him, she wanted him to validate that she can do better when she left. When he didn’t, it signaled that she may have left a man who’s frame is higher than she evaluated, and it caused anxiety for her that she made a poor choice - hence the video.
The sad part is that we also don't get to know how the man would've felt at being abruptly rejected. Even if he felt sad he had to control himself and quietly leave because otherwise it wouldn't end well for him.
@@mikonson4091Atleast that would NOT land him in jail or falsely accused of stalker. I will happily take going nowhere over being falsely accused or to play the games for her ego boost
It’s like this woman wants to be manipulated and harassed. My friend broke up with her ex a year ago in February 2023, and he did everything in his power to try to talk to her again, and she absolutely HATED it. She felt attacked and tried to get away from him as much as possible. People like this women here are actually nuts.
Imagine how stupid will it sound if you apply the same logic to a finding work. "We rejected you and hired someone else, but we're mad you didn't try harder and just accepted rejection".
Not really, you see don't give a shit it works out surprisingly often just be a good guy and don't play these games dont even acknowledge them someday other actually good women will get sick of these games and absolutely tear down these narcissistic assholes
I dont think hes damned at all......he seems like a guy who has confidence and has options. Like she said- it wasnt that serious of a relationship anyway.
She has outed herself on the internet. All her friends and co workers will know her true self and worth. I was warned off someone exactly like this by a friends wife who said you just don't need the trouble and baggage that comes with her.....saved by a real woman and friend.
"I'm open to manipulation."
Girl, you ARE the manipulation.
How can she even be manipulated if she wants to be manipulated. Isn't that just following orders
@@StopWhiningManguideCultists Sure sounds like it, I don't think she knows the meaning of the word.
Its a shit test.
She bitched that he didn't want to change.
I dated a girl once it went well, then not well. She never said no. I tried to to keep it going. Then I just stopped. Guess What? She didn't like it, when I didn't pursue her anymore. She would see me and try to interact and I just walked away a couple of times and that ended that.
FR
Imagine completely rejecting someone and getting upset when they move on and dont chase after you
She's needy, the man did a good job leaving
Imagine someone respecting your space and not obsessing about you.
This Woman: WhY dOeSn'T hE cHaSe Me?!?!
@seaworth3382No woman is worth of chasing.
I don’t have to imagine. I experienced it once or twice.
@seaworth3382"How dare you not chase women? If you do not chase women, you are gay."🤡
This is an example of "toxic femininity" and as a woman, I can't stand women like this young woman. Wtf does she expect him to do? Harass her? Beg for a second chance? Like my dad told my younger brother and I, "if they (boyfriend, girlfriend, or friend) gets mad at you for respecting their boundaries, you're better off not having them around because they're going to find anything to complain and get mad at you about." So, tbh, the man is better off without her in his life.
Edit: Wow this comment took off. I got good opinions and a lot of different view points about my comment.
Smart dad.
Both sexes need to be held accountable when they have toxic femininity/masculinity 🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@Nanomano2864 yep. He's pretty smart. So, take my dad's advice y'all
@@childeater319 yep. 100% agree. Both genders should be held accountable when they're toxic
Couldn't have said it better.
As men have been taught " NO MEANS NO " case closed. He wins and she loses.
*LOUDER PLEASE! We haven't evolved to the point where we can read their chaotic minds.*
Ouch 😂
Basic fucking mindset that many lack for some reason
@@GenkuroNO MEANS NO
There have been enough videos circulating of girls calling out guys when they don't give up, no means no, etc
Men learnt what they mean, men understood and respected their boundaries
Now they complain?
When you think you're playing hard to get, but you're actually playing hard to want.
Great one😂
😂😂😂
👏
Couldn't have said it better myself.
That’s actually how quite a good chunk of females in the US is right now
They are unwanted because they want to be a boss and be the man
she clearly has never been actually manipulated if she says "im open to being manipulated". Manipulation is not a flex neither is being manipulated💀
This more sounds like she doesn’t want to hold herself accountable for her decisions so she wants a guy to “manipulate her” into thinking what she ACTUALLY wants to think. Yes that is female logic.
That way, if she gets any flak for dating him she can say he manipulated her and she’s free to do whatever she wants about it.
Resisting Manipulation however, now that's a flex
like why would you want to be manipulated? 😨
@@01BASILmanipulation fetish.. I guess?
She obviously has a manipulation fetish!
The guy she rejected dodged a bullet. I can't imagine myself being with someone so full of immaturity and mind games.
Then you can't imagine yourself with a Woman.
@@YehovaFirst😂😂
Had he actually tried getting her back she would be making a video about how he's a stalker and refuses to get over her.
@YaBoyEditsYTlmfaoo
@@YehovaFirstyou mean crazy
I don't chase. I don't ask twice. I don't give second chances.
And you’re single.
@@waynebryant1857 Better to be happily single than in a relationship with someone who expects you to chase them.
@@5stargrim true,but this guy sounded like a douch.
@@waynebryant1857 he may be single but single is still higher than being an zero like you
*Sigma Male
That’s like saying you hate children but then BEG your partner for kids. Absolute hypocrites.
There are people who are like that they'll beg for children because they think they're partner wants kids to keep them from leaving even if they hate kids.
@@InstagramUser2 balls
It's more like you say to your partner you hate kids and don't want them but be mad at them because they simply said okay and not tell you the benefits of having children and you'll regret it when you can't have them bla bla
@@InstagramUser2bet done 😂
@@InstagramUser2really? I’m seeing your replies everywhere
Man: *respects someone’s boundaries*
Woman: No! Disrespect my boundaries!! >:(
@@InstagramUser2ok
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💀☕️
Oh definitely. Had he actually tried she would have made a video about how won't leave her alone and stalking her.
After all if he did what she wanted, her reply will be "how dare you! I told you no!".
Also woman: *MeN kEeP dIsReSpEcTInG mY bOuNDarIES!!!11!!11*
Reminds me of my ex. Guys kept hitting on her and everywhere so she broke up with me qnd told me i need to grow up which is code language for making more money.
About a month later i had a new girlfriend, she heard about it and kept calling me every single day because she expected me to be miserable and she couldn't bear the idea that i wasn't.
Now i'm married with two kids and she's single and pathetic and has slept with so many guys they all know her and keep their distance.
Same here. She didnt actually want me back. She was just pissed I was doing better than her after the breakup. After not being successfull seducing me she tried to ruin the new relationship with other tactics.
@@pingu6028 yeah that's exactky what happenned. She tried every possible way to ruin the relationship.
She succeeded.
But i got yet another GF after that and this time is cut her off completely:
@@Soldano999 Kinda the blueprint of certain girls...I hear it a lot. Most wouldnt go that far but the amount of exes that want their guy back (or at least want to know they could anytime) is shocking. Probs to my next girl that didnt buy any of her bs and didnt have the usual hive-mind behaviour (eventho the other one had kind of status in the "girl's hierarchy"). Unfortunatelly it didnt work out in the end but at least that wasnt the reason
@@pingu6028 one thing that is worth noticing: i had sex more with my EX the year after we broke up that in the previous 5 before that.
She would call me to fix her sink or whatever crappy excuse etc.
For them sex is a tool to get you.
The minute you're hooked it's off the table.
People with a high body count are usually red flags to me.
The irony is his response was "husband energy", I don't think she was looking for a husband after all.
Exactly
She was looking for Chad is why
@@gatorwarrior7557chad?
Lmao
@@gatorwarrior7557you called?
Yea she looks 20
30 seconds and we got "he's a good guy" and "I ended the relationship" case closed. Amber heard YOU are guilty
Looks like she… shit the bed… 😎
Just because someone is a good person, doesn't mean you're necessarily right for each other. But nah she crazy don't get me wrong 😂
@@BEAN.MACHINEshe belong to the streets
Amber Heard is also 7 million richer, the star of Aquaman 2 , the face of L'Oreal and an Ambassador for the UN
Get em judge judy!
she just unintentionally revealed that she's the type of woman who keeps men on the hook for her own selfish self gratification. she's so tonedeath that she didnt even realize it
The internet did though
she is also (I'll be nice and give her the benefit of doubt) inadvertently teaching guys to pursue and possibly harass or stalk women who are real and genuinely not interested in them. Like Pegasus said not everyone is normal or stable, they might think this behavior is okay. Her behavior is not okay for females. Pursuing someone who said no is not okay for males. She's totally fugged up.
*tone deaf
tone-deaf
@@Sans_The_Skeleton ye mb g
She just hates the fact that she’s lost one of her backups
Yup
😂
She needs a backup, she should get a computer.
Tho even that would crash on itself!
Amen to that
He didn't even try to put himself in a position to be accused of harassment.
How dare her.
If she can be lazy and impersonal enough to break up by text, and not care by the way. He cannot be criticised for not bothering.
@@nerdytom6881 Did you read the OP comment properly?
@@FitzgeraldStanburyWeissV What do you think I missed?
@@nerdytom6881 You missed nothing, your comment works perfectly fine in the context of OP here. Fitzgerald here either happened to read the wrong comment or had one too many beers
How dare SHE. Ugh.
She admitted to the guy being very nice and treating her well. He was a keeper. But the fact she threw it away for some ego boost or mind game is baffling.
The guy got off lucky, I hope he ran away fast and didn't answer anymore of her calls...........
Oh come on now. You know neither of those were her real reason. It’s because she saw someone she thought was hotter or richer and decided, “Yeah, I want that over the healthy, stable relationship I’m already in”
Not so surprising at all anymore these days
FR
He was not her husband - she only looks for husband energy at the momemt (!) ... - did someone left the door open where the people live with the hug-me-i-love-myself-jacket?
She rejects someone but still expects them to chase her?
Someone has a problem with their ego...
I've seen this in other cultures, where it's literally expected to get rejected and chase to the point that would be considered turbo creep tier in the West... and that's apparently romantic. I don't get it. Why do things have to be so confusing?
@@moonasha I dont know if its about romance, I think her assessment of the guy's value changed when she saw how easy it was for him to move on. I think she was expecting a different reaction, and second guessed herself.
Yeah I’m my culture my dad told me not to kiss ass literally and figuratively lol
I know a guy who kept on chasing. Then they recieved a restraining order. Now women don't want him at all.
Ladies let's not do this. This behavior will increase stalking
Exactly and it just leads to boundaries not being respected if you say “actually I meant something else”. Just say what you mean!! I hate this thing of so many women doing this “I said to leave me alone and he actually did” and then complaining about men saying that communication with women is exhausting. No one can read minds
Actually, th number of guys just walking away is what will increase.
Stalking
What about the hundrets of guys who are arested for "harassmed'
When they just look at a girl 3 seconds
That and more guys will simply give up on dating altogether.
@@GTA5Guru
We find peace and good memori more important than dating
I speak for me now
Ralation now are a game
If i want to play games I plan on ps4 not on dating
honestly, i think the reason why she's mad about this is because it's a hit to her ego... she wanted this dude to basically ask for a second chance, and boosting her ego (basically: i'm so good that he wants me back after i broke up with him). however, he did a normal-person response by saying that he also didn't see the relationship continuing, which did the opposite of what she wanted, (maybe to complain about her ex begging for a second chance online) and also hitting her pride because he told her that he didn't see them being together in a relationship. she has awful character, and as a girl myself, i'm glad this guy broke up with her.
this is 15 years old high-school mindset.
@@fireinthenight9028 yeahhh it's really sad.... this poor dude wouldn't win either way regardless of what he chose to do. people like her need to have karma come their way
And also, I bet this girl want him to still go after her just so that she can flex with her friends
Some people like to show how much they are worth by how others are treating them
@tinatseng7752 that's exactly what I thought too! but because she couldn't get that, she needed to complain online as compensation for that...
Oof, exposed.
"nice guy, good guy.. treated me well.. BUT!" I swear to god if I had a dollar everytime I have heard a woman utter those words I would have hundreds if not 1,000's of dollars
LMAO
well if you tally it up across the centuries, languages and cultures, you might be a multi millionaire. probably 9 figures. sadly, youre broke lmao
@@bigsalte blud didn't have to say the end part😂💀
I would have a happy meal by now!
I have noticed something with 3 people I know. Not large enough of a group to be anything but anecdotal but here my observation goes. A man who mistreats his girl can receive lots of verbal abuse from her, she can fight him all the time. BUT when she looks back on the relationship as a whole and him ( for example when it’s over or they are apart for some time) she doesn’t remember anything wrong at all. In her eyes they were good and had a great time together. It’s hard to understand female logic but in my small group of friends it appears to me that women might not pay attention to all the times they were annoyed or disappointed in a partner. However the opposite can happen where he’s such a nice guy she has nothing but bad words to say about him.
'Husband energy' = PAY FOR MY LIFESTYLE !!
That’s sugar daddy energy.
the big takeaway is that women will date just for fun, sex, money and so on and then supposedly grow up and look for husband material instead of fuckboy material.... men should run from these women at all costs
@@GTA5Gurunot really because sugar daddy requires certain deeds done in order for the woman to receive money whereas with husband no bedroom stuff is required.
You don’t need to worry about women anime pfp.
@@jaybee4288Good morning, simp
This woman wouldn’t know husband energy if she saw it.
I think the real reason why she wanted him to chase her was because she wanted to complain about it online, either way it's a lose-lose situation for the dude
As a female, yep, pretty much how all women work. I'd like to have my hand go, "allow me to introduce myself" to her face. It's that "toxic femininity" mindset
True and she still found a way to complain
I think its a w for the guy
Literally my thoughts
I was gonna comment this!
Real translation: He treated her too nicely, so she got bored and dumped him, thinking she will break his heart, thus boosting her fragile female ego. Imagine her surprised when he was not the simp she thought he was. He was just a real man doing his best to make his woman happy. He was probably already aware of several previous red flags, but thought he might just keep on going, hoping he was wrong, and that she really was a keeper. When she just rejected him in a very disrespectful way, via text, he saw the last red flag, realized she was totally not worth his efforts, and was happy that he dodged that bullet in time. This text however confirmed all his fears, and he tapped out as fast as he could. He was still enough of a gentleman to try and not make her feel guilty for the ratchet way she treated him, so he sent her a nice text saying thank you and goodbye. That's because at that point he was just glad to have a smooth way out, where nobody could blame him for breaking up their relationship.
This however shocked her, as it was not the usual simp reaction she was looking for. She realized he literally didn't care about her anymore, and this blew her brain cell. Now she's interested in him again, because he's not interested in her, and that is an intolerable female ego crushing situation to be in. But she knows he won't take her back, so she made this video, hoping he would see it, and think that she was only kidding, and are still interested in him, and want him to keep on trying to get her. Sadly she apparently was unaware that real men don't roll that way. Real men will treat you right, all the way up to the point where you prove you're just not worth the effort. After that you're just a bad taste in the mouth, that will be rinsed away by the first next beer he has.
And that at the core is exactly what happened here. Men 1, Slags 0.
I did misunderstood the situation at 6th grade when I had a crush on someone. When growing up, I understand the real world
I don't think she would accept him back. She still wanted to reject him but also feed her ego. That's all. She would say 'look how great I am. I rejected this loser and he's still chasing me and begging to take him back'. And she would get upset about him moving on because he wouldn't feed her ego anymore.
This is what narcissists will do. They push you away, treat you like shite, then complain you didn't try to get them back. They train you to keep pursuing them, and then call you a psycho stalker.
Your translation is 100% SPOT ON PERFECT. Shame really, did actually like her.
Did you really did a ESPN game review 😂
I literally can relate about this. There was a girl i liked so much so i started to make some moves and started talking to her through chat and personally and then she started to tell me she wasnt ready and basically just wanted to be just friends (we're both in the same circle of friend group), so i accepted it and started to move on. About 2 weeks later, i found a girl that matched my vibe and started to hang out with her and all of a sudden the girl that i previously liked started to get mad saying how insensitive i am to move on just like that LMAO. I really dont understand women these days
You dodged the her "fRiENd Z0nE" circles of backup. Salute my man 💪
I'm a woman and I don't understand it either. Must be my age showing...
Join the club
Damned if you do, & damned if you don't.
After enough cat ladies die alone, they'll get the message and become real women once again.
She expected the guy to change but said nothing about herself perhaps needing to do the same; then, she states, "I can be manipulated." My first thought--as a woman who's been married to a good man for nearly 23 years--is, "No, you can be manipulative."
I also wonder how/ why it is that she sees a "nice guy, good guy," who "treated [her] well," as someone who doesn't give off "husband energy." That... is... mental. Period.
So you now know what us guys have to put up with 😂😂😂
@@kaml1369 I know a bit more, now, of what guys have to put up with presently.... Women definitely became more neurotic with the advent of social media (SM), I think. Heck, I think that's true of ALL people who use it (SM).
Personally, I am so thankful that I met/ married my husband long enough ago that neither one of us need to deal with the mind games that we see people playing today. Everything seems amplified by 1000% from how things were before SM. 🤪 Just my $0.02.
Yes. I noticed she said "manipulated", not "persuaded" or "coaxed" or "convinced". She obviously doesn't know how to negotiate in any unselfish manner.
@@kaml1369 We know what guys have to put up with from some women, whom I'll call unworthy of good mens' attention. Not all women are like that. I guarantee that there even are quality--i.e., non-game-playing women--within the Millennial and Gen Z generations; they just aren't posting stupid things on social media.
In short, every generation has had its "bad seeds;" it's just that, now, social media amplifies the current ones and, yes, spreads like a mind virus to anyone who doesn't have a more solid foundation.
"No means no."
"Ok."
"What? How dare you take no as meaning no? I meant yes!"
". . ."
I was that simp once, endured indignity after indignity only to get discarded, begged and my begging fell on deaf ears...and then after I'd cried my tears I looked back was overwhelmed with disgust at my own behavior. Since then focused on business, interests and building myself up. Better by myself than I ever was with her. Never beg men, if you want games, buy a switch
Same here, except when I want to play games I go on steam.
Your business happen to be being a member of Offspring? 🙂
She wants men or this guy to feed her ego so she can reject him again? Women love to play games. If she doesn’t show any interest, do not put any effort.
I prefer Playstation actually, but i get what you mean.
True.
If a person wants to be with you, they will
Simple as that
No need for chasing and betraying your values
It's a bittersweet experience
There are enough manipulative people who just don't need a partner,they need someone to be obsessed with them to feed their ego
Imagine rejecting a guy then complaining when he moves on. Lady, I’m pretty sure if he tried harder and still chased you. That’d be sexual harassment.
EXACTLY MY KING! if he tries again she can now blackmail/ threaten him to do stuff. Man dodged the whole magazine
It would. The thing that she wanted most and that would have made her happiest has been deemed a crime in out society. "The chase" used to be normal but now beautiful women have to settle for "the agreement" and they are confused and annoyed by that.
Well no means yes. Yes means A N A L. 😂
It wouldn't objectively be sexual harassment. But men have been led to believe that it is, so they won't do the traditional thing and court or pursue women.
@@ItsJustKylie- oh yeah. No shit. Finally someone who gets it
"He didn't even try and say that he like say that he wanted to change."
I bet she believes that no woman should ever change for a man.
there's no future with someone if anyone thinks like that, like in either case, both genders would end up alone, people have to stop doing it, even if it means losing a backup plan, if either gender did this, they are screwed.
She sounded like she was upset the dude wouldn’t change for her. Stay strong out there and embrace yourself as you are.
if she wanted him to change its called COMMUNICATING not telling the guy to get lost and make a surprise pikachu face when he respects you enough to do what you ask
@@shelliblossom8953 Wanting someone to change fundamentally is terrible.
Get out of the relationship if you don't like who they are currently.
Sounds like she wanted him to chase her so she could "me too" him and tell everyone online about "what a creepy stalker" he is so she could earn attention in the form of likes and comments from her adoring fans from the power trip she got destroying his life online. He didn't play her game because he's likely seen this play out before, and she's upset that she doesn't get to play the victim about a "creepy guy who can't take no for an answer" "harassing" her. I'm glad men are wising up about this. I'll never know what it's like to be a man in today's world but I do understand what I see with my own two eyes is that a lot of men are mistreated by society and it should be no surprise why so many want to remain single. The more I see toxic femininity in action, the more I can't believe I used to call myself a feminist. I say high five to him for not being duped into playing the game to be used for her social media attention.
Lmao 😂 now that's a different story but I can see it happening.
You hit the nail right on the head. Are you sure you are not a guy, ? I think you must be a freaking unicorn for understanding us guys.
It is also a blow to her ego because this woman probably rates herself a 10. Which means she's perfect and this guy must be crazy for not chasing her. Because if she is perfect then every guy should chase her... right?
And the fact that he's probably seen this video and is saying oh hell no.
@@mikedoyle7300 I totally agree with her but I'm from the 60's era where this crap didn't go on like it does now. This girl is stalker material.
I once had a girl just break up with me out of the blue. So i said "okay", got my stuff and walked out the door. About 4 months later, she called me and asked me why I left. I told her it was because she broke up with me, and I assumed that meant she didn't want me around anymore. Then she asked me why I didn't pursue her and try to get her back. So I said "Do you want me back?" She said "No, but that's not the point." So i said "Play your little game on someone else. I've got better things to do than to stroke your fragile ego." Then I hung up.
Well done.
Blame it on romantic movies
@@BEYOND-EGOand the media
Then everyone clapped
@@tastybritches6644😂😂😂
she would've still shot him down if he did keep trying. only thing she wanted from him was reassurance and when she didn't get that she took it as rejection. pure narcissist.
That is exactly right. She wanted him to grovel to her so it can boost her narcissism.
Right
Im going to say It IM GONNA SAY IT BLONDE HAIR
She's just mad because she failed to friend zone him and keep him around for free meals and drinks while she looks for the guy with the "husband vibes" or whatever it was she said. It's not that she would actually give him a chance at all because he keeps trying. If anything she would see him as more pathetic and firmly cement him in the friend who pays for meals category.
You are absolutely right. I was friend zoned and I did the simp thing for a little while. It got so sickening being at a bar with her and she just drops out and immediately leave a conversation you're having with her just so she can go throw herself at some Chad over by the jukebox. I got so disgusted with her for doing that, but I was even more disgusted with myself for actually letting that happen.
She was literally mad because she couldn’t friendzone him. That’s all she wanted, was the title of friendzoning another guy just to seem like she’s more valuable smh. This happens all the time, this just freaking happened to me a little over a wee ago with another female that doesn’t work at my job but is associated with mine. She’s mad I no longer tried to go after her after she wasted my time foh.
@@mikewolverton7904I’ve done it dude. It makes you feel low and dirty. A very odd sensation that won’t kill you, but is so uncomfortable. Atleast you can acknowledge it and come to terms with what you felt you did wrong. You good bro, just don’t let it happen again. Trust me, the more you go through bs in life the easier and faster you start finding those 🚩🚩🚩
@@FZERO20 The worst thing about it was that she actually wound up marrying that slimeball Chad. Biggest red flag ever: if you're a bartender and you spend your time hanging out in other bars, chances are you're a scumbag. I'm not the most attractive man to have ever walked the earth, but let me tell you, that Bartender Chad was so freaking sleazy looking that even I felt I needed to take a shower just by looking at him. But yet there she went, off to live the life of abuse, turmoil and chaos. I carried a lot of pain over this because I really started having self doubts if I'm just a horrible person, and only recently I started releasing the pain by discussing it with others who share similar experiences. I've learned that it is NOT ME who was at fault. I didn't come from a broken home. She did. And once I understood that broken homes produce unfixable people, everything made perfect sense. Thank you for your response.
Oh, she knows he has husband's vibes, she wanted to keep him around as an orbiter. Men are aware now, in 2023
she's the manipulative one. The guy minimized her in his life, and now she is sad
I just can't seem to wrap my head around people who get upset about getting what they asked for as if they wanted the opposite, in this case getting their boundaries respected.
Bro, this chick needs help. She basically wants a relationship built on gaslighting and manipulation and I'm sure she'll be participating in both those fronts along with her bf. She's insane.
I think she just wants someone to gaslight and manipulate. She seems like the type
And to control
@ApexSelva for everyone. Someone might let her work with children otherwise, and if that were to happen, teaching little girls her mindset would be the least bad outcome.
@ApexSelva What we dont want its those kind of sub humans voting.
She wasn't open to be manipulated, she wanted to manipulate him and couldn't 😂
Exactly and don’t follow this bad example.
Ah, so a typical female then
She tried a first grade manipulation tactic on him and he called her bluff and left her 👈🤣
He didn't try, because you aren't worth trying for.
I had this happen to me once. If she had just been unsure, I'd have taken her back. But she was establishing a pattern of manipulation by constantly questioning my devotion and then threatening to leave. The game isn't a game at all, it's a pattern of behavior that some people won't ever grow out of. Why any man would subject themselves to that I'll never know.
What they want is called narcissistic supply. Just avoid them and care more for yourself. Doesn’t really detract from anybody. You don’t owe your self-respect to other people.
She felt rejected after he agreed to end things, and now her ego is bruised and she feels unwanted, she wanted him to chase her so that she felt like she "still got it".
nailed it
Nah she wants to feel in control. Master manipulators. Pretend to let a man disrespect their boundaries by subtlety manipulating to have their boundaries disrespected. Idk about the other guys, but when a woman starts trying to put puppet strings on me, I'm out. It's a dumb test with dumb prizes. Basically saying she wants a man with low impulse control who will eventually cheat on her. These types thrive off drama. No thanks. I enjoy peace way more than drama.
yess 👍
She is toxic you can tell.
Back in my times as teenager I remember when folks used to say that if woman says "no", than it's "no". And now when she says "no", she means "chase me" is really messed up.
The part that caught my ear was when she said he didn't try to "change" himself for her. Seriously? They were barely dating and she wonders why he isn't altering his personality for her benefit? Wouldn't he be much better off finding a woman who likes him for who he is already? I wonder what kind of parents she had that raised her to believe people around her should change themselves for her entertainment.
Men enter relationships wishing the women never change(and they aways does for worse), women enter relationships alredy wanting to change the guy(if he does change she lose respect and leave).
she looking for a tool, not a man.
That caught my ear too
I suspect that her father was kicked out of the house, or divorced her mom because she had an affair, when this chickie was very young. Meaning that she was raised in a single-mom household, now the mom hates men, and the mom indoctrinated her baby girl into toxic beliefs about men in general.
Fatherless behavior...
The dichotomy of "Chase me even though I play hard to get so I can feel desired and wanted (which give me status)" and " Eww, he keeps chasing me/he is such a creep (to garner the power of victim hood)" is real.
Upfront honesty and devotion is valuable...an ego is not. If a woman needs chased she has no value.
"I can be manipulated, i will listen to you"
Imagine if her friends or straight up bad people encouraged her to take bad descisions, she would pretty much go along with it. This is why you should avoid people like her, with a mind as perishable as hers she can rot her life and everything around her.
Its hard to avoid half the population!
which is why she also votes democrat
@@SoloRenegadegop members are the most brainwashed lol
Sadly her friend group are probably the same
She's the definition of "Stop ignoring me, ignoring you".
Im turning 40 and one of the few constant rule i always tell young guys is to never beg or chase women after they've rejected you the first time. All guys experience rejection..so when a girl doesn't want to date you: dont get angry, let that rejection roll off your back and move on to the next..chasing and begging is never a good look anyways because it makes you look pathetic and it shows a complete lack of self respect.
Knowing the word "next", is huge
We old guys have the wisdom. We understand that simpin' ain't easy. Keep educating.
definetly agree, the best skill when datint women is being able to take a no and move on
Such wise advice. I wish i'd known this back in 2009
Great advice! 👏👏
Classic narcissist. Thinks the world revolves around her.
Lemme guess, she would’ve called him clingy and/or a creep if he did keep chasing her
Yep. Lose lose for the guy
Possessive. Obsessive, you name it. This guy was smart
Yup happened to me
i actually think his reaction to her breaking up was not what she expected and it made her see him differently. Still bad on her for playing games and not having an adult conversation.
Yes. You have guessed correctly.
Such great cartoon illustrations and crisp dialogue. Nice work.
Back in the 1980s I knew a woman that constantly rejected me, and every time she'd go on and on and on, about how "She wished she could meet a guy like me", I'd again ask her out, and she'd once more tell me "No we can't because I don't want to lose you as a friend!"!! Finally after YEARS (yes I chased her for around four years), I simply gave up asking her out, THEN stopped talking to her completely even going as far as to avoid her even at social events!!!! AND THIS went on for another three years, until one night at a bar she cornered me and began to unload on me, while she was drunk!
She then told me "I don't know what I did to make you stop coming around!"! And she had seemed to forgot all the times she had rejected me and my advances, as I attempted to show her I was seriously "interested in her"!! And finally when I point this out that I had asked her to consider me as "boyfriend material" and "date me" for nearly four years straight, she said to me "Sometimes "NO" means "YES"!"!! and her argument made absolutely ZERO SENSE!!
After all she was also one of those women who always complained that "Men never seems to know what "NO" means!", and she never hid the fact to me when we were close about the guys she liked and the guys she didn't like!!! And in those four years I was chasing her, SHE DID have other boyfriends that constantly "came and went" in her life, who she claims treated her poorly, which made it even more strange that she'd say "I wish I was with a guy like you!" to a guy like me, only to reject me in the end constantly even after I professed my interests in her!!!
THAT NIGHT in the bar I told her, that I no longer viewed her as a "potential mate" (in so many words, which I basically told her "Leave me alone!") and I have not seen or talked to her now in almost 40 years at this point!!!!
Her argument didn't make any sense, because it was a lie wrapped in a truth. It's true, that "no" sometimes means "yes", but it was a lie, that she would have relented to YOU. Women hate to be the villain, so she gaslighted you.
Good call on that. Keep the yearly numbers counting up. Don't drop ur crown there
He gave her the utmost respect. She said she wanted to break up, and he fully agreed. They couldve stayed together if she didnt say anything, but she did. And the dude had chad levels of respect for her choice.
The saying "Careful what you wish for" has been lost on her.
Who the hell is chad and what is a chad level?
Nah he failed her test and she is hella mad about it. She wanted him to pass her test, because she liked him, but wanted to test him for resiliance first witch he failed. She wanted him to test her back on how hard a no it was. Its like her saying: "i want to make sure i made the right choice for my baby father so we don't all die in the future. " Don't give me wrong she has no idea she is doing this its just part of her dna to do this to survive.
Sorta sounds like she doesn't actually want a nice guy.
The last serious relationship I had was 15 years ago. When she wanted to break things up, I only replied with one word: "Ok". And had moved out in less than 3 days later. We are still friends to this day, but it also still bugs her that I was so casual about it. And whenever she raises the subject (a couple of times a year) I give her the same answer: "I actually took you seriously in every respect. If you told me you were hungry, I suggested we eat. If you told me you were horny, I made a conscious effort to satisfy your needs. If you told me you needed comfort I provided it. So when you bluntly told me it was over, I accepted it, swallowed it, ingested it and moved on mentally - everything at once, in a split secound. No drama. No fuss. Nothing. She still cant understand my reaction, or lack thereof, but I dont care. her own lack of insight and understanding of how I function and tick as a complex human being, is just another tellsign that we were never meant to be
If a girl breaks up with me by text, you can be sure as hell I won't fight for her.
And I really hate that mentality of "No means no, unless it means maybe, or even yes, depends on my mood, you'll just have to figure out."
I guess her "husband energy" means "mentalist" because they are the only one able to figure out what going on in her head.
If no doesn't always mean no, that means a yes doesn't always mean yes, which means a yes can turn to no later. That means run
And "...just have figure it out..." also means I can change my mind after the fact and still bring criminal charges against you
Respectable man, he knows no means no, and won't play games.
This dynamic is actually a perfect filter. If a woman says no and she means it, step away. If a woman says no and she doesn't mean it, she's crazy like this one and you don't want to be with her. Either way, stepping away is the right choice.
You said it perfectly, my guy. 👍
woman when a guy chasing her : this guy is a creep
woman when a guy didnt chasing her : this guy so weird
Showing Adam22's face when you said "husband energy" was absolutely savage.
But not inaccurate, at least the “husband energy” that some of these women seem to be implying they want. I just have a feeling about that.
hes a simp
She was not worth manipulating.
I’m a full Filipino so we call chasing her as “courting” and try and win her over but nowadays no one does that anymore because it’s risky. Especially if it’s an environment where everyone knows each other such as work, school , etc.
The amount of false accusations can impact someone’s image even if they proved they are innocent. Because once that accusation is made that’s what they are labeled as no matter how much they prove their innocents.
So much bullshit. Some guys are just not into all the female games anymore. Get used to it.....times are a changing and thank god for that.
@@steveduerr6367 it’s not bullshit it’s a Filipino thing that’s why I mentioned my ethnicity because “courting” in the Philippines means pursuing women while also following certain rules. But you see nowadays no boys does that anymore
“Harana” is another term we use. We will gather our friends and head to your house and serenade to you for you to be impressed and like me
Every culture has courtship or the pursuit stage…that stage ends when the person being pursued says “this isn’t working out”, “no” etc. At that point it’s the friend zone even if interest still exists. That’s just respectful. He was respectful and she wanted to act out of character and break protocol which dangerous as a man.
@@darsVlNah, he's saying there's too much bullshit so why pursue?
@@MisterGreis that’s the point , nowadays there’s too much bullshit to pursue anyone that’s why no guys does it anymore (unless they really do find that special someone).
I just brought it up because in the Philippines or as Filipinos it’s like basically tradition for us to court the girls and pursue with singing/ gifts, etc. but with how things are in modern dating. It’s pointless
I had this exact thing happen.
Me: “I wanted to thank you for a really nice evening last night.”
Her: “I don’t think we should see each other anymore.”
Me: “I’m sorry but I don’t understand.”
Her: “I just don’t.”
Me: “okay.”
At a party 8 months later accidentally bumping into each other,
Her: “WHY HAVEN’T YOU CALLED ME?”
The takeaway is No means No, except when it means Definitely, but if you misread No you get on a sexual offender list for life. It’s safer and less frustrating to just rent one from time to time.
Its as if she wants you to be the creep that society generalizes most men to be, due to enabling this sort of thing, you made a good choice saying "ok" there, dodge bullets at the speed of sound.
I would, but I don't want to get put in the clink.
@@joejones4172 whats the clink?
When I was young, I asked a girl out twice and was rejected twice. I ran into her many years later.
She was married and had two kids. She asked me, "Why hasn't some woman hooked you yet?"
I replied, "Why didn't you hook me?" She claimed that I wasn't persistent enough.
I told her that there is a fine line between being persistent and being a pest.
Being told "No" two times was enough. She actually became angry and started belittling me!
I said, "Whatever" and walked away from her. I found out later she's unhappy in her marriage.
I think the fact that I wasn't upset about her rejecting me ended up ticking her off.
Glad she never gave me a chance. I might have ended up as miserable as her husband.
Sometimes the worst thing a woman can say isn't no. Sometimes it's yes. You dodged a bullet there, pal.
Bruh, at least you dodged the bullet, poor bastard is the husband that hooked up with that weirdo xddd
Girls : "our signals are so obvious. Why guys can't get our signals?"
Their signals :
I would bet money that if he were to continue pursuing her like she says she wants in this video; we would have instead gotten a video of her complaining about a creep who doesn't understand "no".
No means no. If she rejects you don't pursue. Even if she wants you too
*Especially* if she wants you too. Trust me, you'll dodge a bullet!
Some women love that type of drama, being pursued, so they will torture you with "I love you, darling!" and "We need to break up..." for as long as they can.
As a woman in her 40’s trying to get back in the dating scene this makes me wonder what the hell is wrong with this woman!!!
✨️ narcissism ✨️
Good luck to you, ma'am.
Forget... or find a dude in his 60. Its a evil world here.
It’s not just her
All women
Imagine an employer tells a potential candidate that he didn't get the job after his interview when in reality they were secretly hoping for the candidate to keep calling HR and begging for the job.
I thought that the message of the last 20 years was "No means no."
And that message is absolutely correct.
If there is such thing as your body, your choice, then there should be no means no deal with it
And that message is correct. This person is just her own self
That guy
-Treats woman nicely
-Respects decision
-Leaves without further elaboration
💪😎
Absolute fucking gigachad
she was looking for a guy who had “husband energy” but she doesn’t give off wife energy. Ironic
she says no it is no and we walk, we not trying to catch a charge.
bruh ok so let me get it here, "I dont like you"
"ok well, thats fine, ill leave you alone."
"What! im canceling you online!"
And also husband material is up to her, hows he sposed to know?
"I will never change myself for a man" Then expects for a man to change to please and compliment her, or he's not worthy.
We are truly living in the worst era for the dating scene.
Nah, it is very bad, but not the worst era.
You go into Antic Rome, you could get a spouse from another people by killing the husband and taking over. Meaning you could have a wonderful family life and some guy comes like "Imma take all that, thanks."
The main reason why this era in general seems to be "worse" than others is because people openly show their ignorance
@@thibautisserant That is not dating.
This sentiment is actually common in women. A lifetime of this dynamic with a lady like this will be exhausting.
My ex literally complained 6 months after she broke up with me because I "never tried to win her back". Instead, even though I still had feelings for her at the time of the breakup, I respected her decision and moved on with my life and focused on myself. If you don't want to break up with someone, don't play some mind game that involves you breaking up with them. If "feeling pursued" is more important to you than a healthy relationship, don't be surprised when you can never hold on to the latter. Also, I don't think she understands what the word "win" means. Yes, we had some happy times together, but overall, my life has been much happier without her in it. Why would I want to "win back" something that caused my life to be so much less enjoyable?
Sometimes breaking up like this can also be a test 🤷🏻♀️ personally if i end up taking the descision to break up with my bf and he tells me " ok then" ... i would just tell myself that he didnt give a fuck about me lol , in the other hand if he try to hold me back that clearly prove that he cares for me , so yeah
@@shay1487
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
@@CommDante that doesnt make sense.
@@CommDante a relationship isnt a game lol
Justify it however you want but if you even suggest breaking up with someone before having a talk, and yes it will be hard because of course it will (no shit, Sherlock), then maybe you’re not emotionally or mentally mature enough to be with someone. Get off goddamned tiktok, get to know real people, following influencers doesn’t count, and be better. Stop expecting life to be handed to you on a silver platter.
She wanted to feel like the more attractive one. She dumped him and this was to make her the one with the power because she rejected someone who wasn't worthy of her. She was expecting him to beg and be sad that he lost a good thing with her, but when he was like kthxbai, she felt like the less attractive one, cuz she couldn't succeed in rejecting him. Instead, she too felt rejected and therefore less attractive. This is the mark of a manipulative, immature person and, needless to say, a major red flag.
this comment is what I thought not all the crap in the video.
‘I don’t think I can make you happy.’
Pretty sure any guy can break it down for you there, lady. It means you’re needy, overbearing, and not worth the effort. Which is pretty much what he showed you by completely agreeing with you.
So two adults come to a mutual decision and because her ego is bruised due to her finding out that she’s just a person like everyone else, she has to get on tik tok. Try keeping your private life private for a change and see how that works out for you.
Most guys sure as hell won’t want to date you now if they come across this.
This guy dodged a bullet... and didn't even try. ha!
It all makes perfect sense once you understand that she's a narcissist
"The chase" is over once two people start dating. While dating each person should be figuring out if the other fits their life style. There is no "chasing" in dating. So once one of them says it's over the repectful thing to do is to move on and stop wasting both of their time. Which is exactly what that man did.
Can't be better put. Thumbs up.
Most women do not understand this. They want chased and validated. Uh...no. Once a single date happens the chase is over, You move into comfortable zone and actually communicate.
Isn't it hilarious how the gender that assumes they are the best communicators are always the worst ones to communicate?
Imagine being mad at someone for respecting your boundaries and personal decisions.
she was hoping to land a simp who will give her everything she wants while she withholds intimacy if denied. That guy was lucky.
Haha, my man said "I don't think I can make you happy". People are missing the genius of this subtle jab😂 He knew already she was too high maintenence.
0:50 right off the bat, it gives
"I will never change for a man" to "Why won't a man change for me?"
What’s actually happening there is that she placed his frame as below her and became confused when he was unphased by losing her.
She didn’t want him, she wanted him to validate that she can do better when she left.
When he didn’t, it signaled that she may have left a man who’s frame is higher than she evaluated, and it caused anxiety for her that she made a poor choice - hence the video.
Genuine husband energy? She wanted a sugar daddy.
She wants “husband material” but yet she doesn’t want a man to respect her lol
you watch hentai
Or himself
“Only looking for husband energy at the moment”…..that’s all I needed to hear.
The sad part is that we also don't get to know how the man would've felt at being abruptly rejected. Even if he felt sad he had to control himself and quietly leave because otherwise it wouldn't end well for him.
Obsessing over what would've been will get you nowhere.
@@mikonson4091Atleast that would NOT land him in jail or falsely accused of stalker. I will happily take going nowhere over being falsely accused or to play the games for her ego boost
It’s like this woman wants to be manipulated and harassed. My friend broke up with her ex a year ago in February 2023, and he did everything in his power to try to talk to her again, and she absolutely HATED it. She felt attacked and tried to get away from him as much as possible.
People like this women here are actually nuts.
Female entitlement these days is sickening...
and it will get only worse..until they realize they fcked up everything and that it is too late to fix it..especially when AI starts taking over.
That's what happens when men give women "rights" that aren't even theirs, I'm gonna get canceled but this is the truth.
@@YehovaFirst What ""rights"" are you even talking about??? The right to vote got you so mad?
The rights to do whatever they want without the permission of a man. One day eventually you will understand kiddo.@@TomSawyersLeftNut
Yo who brought Andrew Tate here. 😂
So she wants him to be a creep?
And she thinks that’s husband material 💀
Women ☕️
dude was gonna lose either way. her only 'husband' is probably gonna be an anime boy. W for that dude tho at least he left someone like her.
its ok to be a creep when your attractive
She wants someone toxic but they care about her alot. Alot of woman do and it's dumb. What happened to heart
@@virginiansupremacy .....
Imagine how stupid will it sound if you apply the same logic to a finding work.
"We rejected you and hired someone else, but we're mad you didn't try harder and just accepted rejection".
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
She said NO and he left her? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
As he should.
No man wants to be a lapdog
Yeah no reason to chase after a 304 like her, she belongs to the streets.
The guy didn't dodge a bullet, but dodged a rocket
More like a thermo-nuclear warhead
More like a nuclear capable ICBM
He dodged a tsar bomba
@@imstilllandon2922 he didn't dodge one nuke he dodged enough to start Fallout in real life
He dodge the nuclear bomb from 1945
>She says no
>"He didn't even try" if you go away
>"Creep" if you persist
You're dammned either way.
Not really, you see don't give a shit it works out surprisingly often just be a good guy and don't play these games dont even acknowledge them someday other actually good women will get sick of these games and absolutely tear down these narcissistic assholes
I dont think hes damned at all......he seems like a guy who has confidence and has options. Like she said- it wasnt that serious of a relationship anyway.
She has outed herself on the internet. All her friends and co workers will know her true self and worth. I was warned off someone exactly like this by a friends wife who said you just don't need the trouble and baggage that comes with her.....saved by a real woman and friend.
If he had chased you ; you will call him a creep