I know it's not much, and I know I can't help everyone in the world, but I feel like I should help her. If there's a way to donate to her I will give her 200 USD a month for a year.
I do agree all Fathers should take some responsibility for costs of the child. Philippines really needs to begin that with their own people first ,, how many single mum Filipinas do you see or know that get even 1 peso from the Filipino fathers? Just going after foreigners is straight up racism.
Paternity test it's his women like this don't play around, Sure there's plenty that do but your not really familiar with a lady like this with strict parents this guy convinced her to sleep with him and his intentions were real but made no effort to protect her. If you just want to screw around make sure the woman is the type that's aware and ready for you to say goodbye. You hear crazy stories about the Philippine women but unless your in a bar or certain areas most women are searching for a life long commitment and many are virgins Don't make it so foreigners are hated here please
I hate when people say this. Yes, on the most technical level, she theoretically could get child support IF the father actually acknowledged paternity and is on the birth certificate, and IF she had the money to afford an attorney in the Philippines AND she had the money to pay an attorney in the U.S. to domesticate the Philippines judgment at the appropriate local court in the U.S. It is NOT easy or even realistic for 99% of people to get an enforceable child support judgment if the father lives in another country. It takes considerable money to make this all happen.
Since they are not married it's on her to prove that he is the father. You can do it by him signing the birth sertificate or by paternity test. A test that he needs to agree to. So most likely no, it's not gonna happen.
@@ST-TV ... she can get an unofficial Dna test by testing his old tooth bush, water bottle, or anything that has his dna on it. Or she can use a Dna genealogist to research his family and compare it to her baby And then I would tell his expanded family to see if they would sponsor us to Canada..
I agree with you! As a Filipina I want to see the face of this man so other filipina specially one's living in Cebu would be aware to avoid this guy or this type of man! He deserves to put his face on! Filipina deserves a better man!
Shout out to all the Old Dog New Tricks Dog Pound dogs. Let's each of us do something special for Nicole and donate for any amount, large or small, in the spirit of the season. Starting with me! Good luck to you, Nicole, and Happy Holidaze, all you OLD DOGs, starting with PAUL!! - Baby name suggestion Estrella
I wish this young lady every blessing for her and her baby for the future. On behalf of Canada, we apologize for that one shameful and rotten apple which lacks moral fibre to conduct himself appropriately ... karma will catch up with him.
I think I've been blocked from commenting here. Anyway, you may want to get the Canadian's side of the story before you apologize on behalf of your entire nation. There is a chance that said Canadian is a fine upstanding representation of Canada. Can't say the same for Trudeau...
@@PulverizerA Nope, not interested in hearing his side of the story; where as his actions speak volumes as to the lack of character he possesses. So, my comment stands. Yes, I agree the Turd is another scum PS: Obviously, you are not blocked
Paul / I met a girl that was in the same situation . Except he told her to get abortion or never see him again . They dated for two months only. She said no I will not kill my baby. I met her when the little boy was 6 months old. Now he is 71/2 years old and the love of my life !!! I adopted him and he is in private school and very sweet and smart. Best decision I ever made !!! I also support her two sisters and help the family. If you marry a philippine girl you marry the whole family.!! Adoption in the philippines takes a year or more and is not easy. You have to provide many. Many documents and phsyciologist test for you and the boy.
She is better off without him after what he has done to her. And I feel sure that one day in the future she will meet a good man who will love and cherish both her and the daughter.
Well, I would tend to agree with that assessment for the most part and I can also totally understand why people would be so outraged at this guy's shameful behavior. I think the only reason I am not more outraged about it myself is because I have just become a bit desensitized from hearing hundreds of similar stories from girls in Thailand, the Philippines and other Southeast Asian countries over the past 35 years. Of course, 98% of the time these stories involved local guys abandoning the woman when she got pregnant and not a Westerner. That being said however I always tend to take it more personally in cases in which the deadbeat dad turns out to be a Westerner because I just hold us to a higher standard, I guess. Anyway, since this guy is living in the Philippines, he should know full well by now that if a Filipina gets pregnant there is pretty much a zero percent chance that she will opt not to have the baby despite her less than ideal circumstances and so he should be mentally prepared to take responsibility for this eventuality whenever he has sex with a woman there. Either that or he should move someplace like Japan where there is better than a 95% chance that the girl will opt not to have the baby in such situations. I have actually been responsible for a few unwanted pregnancies myself, but I was always ready to take full responsibility should the woman decide that she wanted to have the child. And now that I am 65 and have no children, I sometimes secretly wish that these women had made a different decision back then.
Foreigner's behaving badly. It's sad when you see things like this. I really have a hard time understanding how a man can just walk away from a baby they helped create. Knowing I had a child that I would just abandon and never see again would haunt me for the rest of my life. Don't play with people's lives like this, think about the consequences of your actions. Being responsible for your actions is really the core of what it means to be a man. I wish Nicole the best.
Paul, you are right regarding ethics. You didn't cover what you think when thousands of Filipinas get pregnant by Filipino guys who then run away and don't give them any monthly support (that has been going on for a 100 years). It takes two to "tango", so 50/50 responsibility. Name the baby Chance, or Bingo. (She would have known she would get pregnant during the fertile days of the month.) (Some girls would hope to snare the guy by getting pregnant).
I remember Nicole. How an easily treatable condition when she was young, wasn't and resulted in the hearing impairment. And how you were kind and generous to help with the hearing aid. I remember being worried that this sort of thing might happen. Some people just prey on the vulnerable, It's upsetting. I hope that at some point in the future, he grows a conscience and does more to help Nicole and her daughter. However, I'm not holding my breath. I will leave the naming to the other excellent suggestions.
Angel is my Name choice. Im so sorry for Nicole, a beautiful young lady taken advantage of. I know there are better men out there that respect women.. God Bless
@@Jimmyjackfunk433 Was she married to the guy or brought to the USA on a Visa? The reason I ask is because the USA and the Philippines do not have a reciprocal child support enforcement agreement. I am curious how it happened without her presence in a USA court. There was obviously DNA testing done. Did he also sign the birth certificate.
I was happy to hear at the end that you were going to filter the comments! I think that was a kind decision. Nicole doesn't need to see the idiocrasy, that is on display at times, especially with all she is already dealing with.
Wow that is so sad. At 52 you would think he is mature enough to take some responsibility. Poor girl, I hope he helps out more than what he is doing now and help raise this baby. Wishing her the best.
Age, unfortunately, does not equate to maturity. Many people never really mature morally...they just get older. We know right from wrong at a very young age. It looks like this 52 year old man is just one of the many that simply got older :(
Apparently, her brother suggested that if the baby is born a girl, she should name her Denise. But if it's born a boy, then she should name him De-nephew. 🥁Boom tish! 🙂
Yes Paul, Nicole is still very beautiful. I have always wondered about her and how she was doing ever since you first posted her story. Maybe Hope would be a good name for her baby.
I’m a Canadian and you don’t have to be a foreigner to be a jerk , that’s putting it lightly, in Canada pensions work CPP at 60 at the earliest, old age 65 , now the only other way to have income, would be retirine early with full company pension which is totally possible. I feel for this poor woman, this man took total advantage of her, in Canada if you don’t pay up for your children it would be a prison sentence also on average per child at least 2000 dollars a month based on financial income. Hope the best for women, and you your wife. Merry Christmas
I remember that interview sweet young woman I'm glad you were able to help with hearing aids. What a scumbag. Here in the UK a Government agency handle things like this. They contact the alleged Father csn force him to take a DNA test then via a court order make him contribute to support the child. Paul I'd like to make a contribution can you advise me of the best way to do this? Thanks and best wishes you you, make and Nicole😊
It's easy to throw around blame but she consented too, remember that. The sole blame I believe falls on the outdated abortion laws in Philippines. It limits their options and forces them to birth all pregnancies. Low sex education further fuels high unplanned pregnancy rate. Vasectomies are still not a safe option for men with the high chronic pain rate (1 in 20) so contraceptive pills and abortions are the only valid options.
@@user-wz4db1zn3r Nonsense, if he did not want her to get pregnant he should have used a condom although not a 100% protection, still better than the alternative
@@user-wz4db1zn3rnot a good argument for a 52 yr old from a 1st world wealthy country messing with a 21 yr old deaf girl from a 3rd world poor country.
It's an opinion. A responsible person doesn't have unprotected sex with someone they aren't certain they are on birth control unless they accept responsibility for the consequences. There's no doubt the lady bears equal responsibility but look objectively at the chain of events. They make contact He he continues to talk they meet get intimate she gets pregnant tells him he decides to up sticks and moves to Cebu. I give him some credit for offering 4,000 pesos but that's dependant on his actually paying her. He should take responsibility 1. Take a DNA test 2. Sign the Birth Certificate 3. Offer what financial support that he can. 4. Offer the child the chance of Canadian Citizenship. Irrespective of any age there might be there's clear evidence he took advantage of a less than worldly wise young woman with at a significant disadvantage. I don't disagree about the legislation regarding abortion there but it's widely known and does not, I my view mitigate anyone's actions here.
I’m absolutely certain that this is a common occurrence… and such a challenging story to listen to. I, along with others here in the comments would like to contribute in assisting for her care.
Totally unacceptable behavior for any man to treat Nicole (or any woman) like that!! And then he runs away to cebu! If he doesn't take on some more responsibility ,he's got balls of a squirrel. Paul I like and support the idea of a contest to name the baby girl but let's attach a small donation to every name submitted! It's the least we can do.
She chose a dirtbag to have a child with. Nobody forced her to choose the dirtbag over a responsible and decent man. She has her careless behavior to blame for this outcome. Women see all of the red flags in a man when dating and living together, she chose to ignore them and now she gets to FAFO.
I am deaf (severe to profound hearing loss) and while I feel a real affinity to another deaf person, I also highly rely on the hearing people in my life to help me. I dated an asian lady who was very patient and helped me a lot. Its not the worst thing to have to live with, but it is a real issue, and presents cognitive problems - when you cannot understand that is being said, its as if youre not too smart. Good luck and gods blessings to this young woman - from another Canadian man.
He not responsible for her. She grown and though Jack pot foreigner. The average Filipina child support is 2,000 monthly (guy earning 20k). Her father only earned 10k. He only responsible for half of child support. Real talk. People are using dollars to feel sorry. 😢 Why pay more than Filipinos? It's nice but not necessarily have to.
@@b.coxemba6799 Agree. It is almost becoming a social security scam ,, Filipina running around trying to get pregnant to foreigner in order to collect dollars. And equally enforced payment from Filipino fathers needs to be in place first
that would only work if they had the kid in Canada ..like , if i had a kid in Canada and moved country,, i still owe child support ,, now if i had a kid in the Philippines and went back to canada,,, i dont have to pay a cent.. thats the reality of the situation . they do have child support laws in the Philippines,, But the mother most likely cant afford to take the Pinay father to court and also if he can actually afford to pay..
Not only did the Canadian scumbag , "boyfriend" , FAIL to use protection, but the young lady is also responsible for her actions too. She should have been more astute in her behavior . Yes, the Philippine and Canadian Government should be notified of this guy living in Cebu and a court of law mandate that he pays up for her and baby's financial support.
@@ST-TV If he did use a condom, more than likely, she wouldn't get pregnant. Anyway, whether he did or not, he left her like an irresponsible coward and coughed up a few dollars for her support, so far. Maybe you'd like to be the baby's step dad and take over the financial and emotional responsibilities since you seem so concerned.
I doubt Canada Immigration would do something, she is not in Canada. If anything should be reported to Foreign Affairs, yet I still doubt they could do anything
It's amazing and rather sad that a little friction can cause a whole bunch of lifetime friction. Abandoning a part of yourself, let alone another trusting person is irresponsible and just wrong for all.
I've never heard so many assumptions from Paul in a video. We do not know paternity and are hearing one side of the story. Per the young lady, the man is paying 2K per month for prenatal care ever since she found out that she was pregnant, not a sign that he will not support the child if it is in fact his. That should cover vitamins and doctors appointments which are not expensive there. If it is his child, then of course he should support the child. If I was him a DNA test would be in order before signing the birth certificate. At that point who knows what will transpire? It does not sound like they were even in a committed relationship.
Hi guys Paula would be a good name for the baby , I’d love the authorities to be able to intervene in these cases , carry out paternity tests and enforce child support , regards to Nicole and good luck in her future Davy 🏴🇹🇭
Pretty much the same thing happened to a lady I met in Cebu. She had a 2 year old by a Canadian after a 7-8 weeks relationship. He left her, moved back to Canada. Does occasionally send 25-30 dollars a month to her. She found out he still returns to Philippines every 3-4 months for basically sex trips, but never stops to see his child.
How could he just do that! My Filipina ex dumped me when I became disabled 25 yrs ago. My kids were the best thing I got out of that marriage. And I had a daughter and son. Never left them. My best memories are of being a father to my kids. Today they are grown up my daughter is happy with her husband and two kids. When we talk her face lights up when ever we talk about her childhood. I also get those vibes from her younger brother. .
I helped a girl in Luzon find her Australian bf who left....fortunately she knew the date he left the country, but not his full legal name or any way to contact him. Through a law clinic in Manila they got immigration to pull up pictures from that day at the airport and identified him as an Australian citizen. Their laws are similar to USA..... with PH authorities and the Aussie courts confirmed paternity and docked his pay all the way back to the date of birth, sent her a check for those 10 months and now his pay is docked P23K each month for child support and will continue that to age 18. USA laws are similar and the courts very swift....it's all the girls that get pregnant by Korean's or Japanese where those countries laugh at the girls and deny all responsibility along with the perpetrator. If I was a Filipina I would only date men from those cooperating countries. I would think Canada would be right in line with the others. Those guys are POS.....and deserve paying even more than that.
being profoundly hearing impaired myself, Nicole should be learning some basic SIGN language, it helps me immensely, I also read lips which helps, but even with hearing aids , we dont hear everything, maybe 50%, I wish Nicole the best and to prepare for life without this guy, he's probably not even gonna show up later after the baby is born., an his support will wane
She looks so sweet. The baby name: Faith, my heart hurts for her. She is adorable and probably thought she found a good man to love and cherish. The baby is a blessing from God, I hope she doesn't put on the baby the sins of the father. He is an idiot! In my prayers always. BTW.. My finance was married to a drunk and abusive Philippine, left him and met a guy while on a work visa. He promised to love her until she got pregnant. He isn't giving anything to the little boy. I'm 61 but I am ADOPTING him when I marry her. I am SO blessed to have a good job and I support them until I retire to the Philippine's in about 8 years. Let her know good men exist, with big hearts and God will connect her when she least expects it. It happened to me so I know can happen for her.
Well..... This guy needs to be forced to take a DNA paternity test. If it's NOT his kid, then he doesn't owe her anything. If hes the father, then he's a scumbag for abandoning her. In a country like that.
Love the way people choose words that remove responsibility ,, "She became pregnant " instead of facts ,, she removed her panties , she stuck her legs up in the air , used no protection , was not in a long term relationship and gave no thought to the consequences". I have no dislike etc to this lady but facts are facts
That is so wrong. I will pray for her and her family. I live in the us I have been thinking of visiting the Philippines. If you need any help please let me know. And a good name could be Amy
Young pregnant moms with no father in the picture is becoming the norm in the Philippines. When I was a young man if you got a girl pregnant you marry them. But that is no longer the culture. He should of offered more or if he didn't believe the money would go for supporting the child he could of setup a trust of some sort. Keep in mind the average wage in the Philippines is 250 us dollars. About 65 dollars a week. I hope things will work out for her. And hopefully she learns from this.
I’m enraged by this story, specifically the lack of support he’s providing. He needs to triple or quadruple that. Count me among those who want to find this guy
There are 2 ways to get lessons in life. Learn from your mistakes, or learn from others mistakes. Seems like they like to do it the hard way out there. Best of luck to this young lady, and her baby.
I remember in an earlier video, she specifically said that she would only date a white man. Unfortunately, this is what can happen when you only judge someone by the color of their skin instead of the content of their character.
We don't know the whole story but it doesn't look very good on the guys side. Very irresponsible, and disrespectful. Nichole seems like a very nice person and deserves the best in life for her and her baby girl. Paul, you and Mae are such wonderful people in trying to better people's lives around you. Perhaps "Jennifer" for the name of Nichole's baby girl. Take care my friends and God bless.
Filipinas should really put a guard up for guys sometimes. Not because he is a foreigner we girls should give our all. Have a bounderies onset of dating to prevent us being in a bad situation😢 I feel sorry for how he treated her. Yet its also her own responsibility not to get pregnant 😢 I suggest to go to DSWD for woman and child care, They will help her from pregnancy til after she give birth and she could also file a claim to sort her problem with this western man. She could ask for a better child support if its proven that it is his child. Godbless you all 🙏
Hi Paul. If you were to guess how much it would cost to support Nicole and her baby for the first 2 years of her little ones life? I know this isn't the reason you make these videos but thought I'd ask to see if there was a way to help her out because she has some real challenges ahead.
Wow, massive jerk action. Deplorable. Here's an idea, Run a little lottery... Participants send $10 to a go fund me along with their name suggestion. When Nicole gives birth and picks a name, anyone who submitted that name goes in a draw and Paul does an interview with the winner of the draw for a "consulting session" to help out a would be or new expat and Nicole keeps all the $10 donations.
c'mon paul you are assuming alot here. their relationship may have been transactional. this may or may not be this canadian guy's kid. Nicole may have a roster of guys that she maybe "dating". plus there is no indication that Paul even invited this canadian guy to give his side of the story. jeez.
Paul, what can I do to offer her some money and help her with something? I hate to see an expat do this because it makes the rest of us look very bad. I would like to donate something to her. Thank you kindly
I’d be keeping my generosity in check. Handouts only lead to expectations of more handouts. In the end, there’s no appreciation. Just resentment when you come to your senses, and stop giving.
32 years ago I named my own daughter Melissa. In Greek language it means "sweet like honey". Last week she got married. I don't know if names really have any influence on people... but in fact my daughter has always been kind and sweet like honey ! 👍
Baby name- Pandora, out of Greek legend- Pandora gave hope to the world. It doesn’t hurt that Dory is a cute diminutive. To Nicole- this may have been hard, but better you find out early on the mettle of someone’s character than to find out much later. Someday she will find someone who won’t fold at the first sign of hardship.
Yes I agree this is so cruel of this Canadian foreigner to abandon NICOLE a beautiful Filipina young lady and he is being even more cruel to her by not giving her enough money to her to support this daughter soon to be born and Nicole is a disabled mother to be caring and loving 🎉❤this baby girl soon to be born in 3 months Nicole is also was born Deaf and she’s now learning how to communicate with the help of Paul and his wife Baby Mae and we are all very Grateful to Paul and baby Mae for being so kind to Nicole But I will say a prayer for Nicole that God Will Protect Her From Any Danger Seen And Unseen And finally I am thinking of a name for her baby girl which is also my Sister’s name and the name is ESTHER So it’s up to Nicole to decide the name for her daughter when she gives birth to her daughter Nicole please stay strong and positive for yourself and your baby girl soon to born Thank You Nicole for sharing your story with all of us God Bless You Nicole Always and don’t worry Nicole I know without a doubt that good things is coming soon for you and your baby Bye For Now We keep checking with you for a Good Positive UPDATE
Very sad indeed, hopefully people can help her get through this if there is a way. In Canada there are circumstances where someone could retire in their 50's, for example Firemen, Police, etc. (if they get in 30 years service, we call it 30 and out).
Maybe make the name a raffle. 5$ to enter a name and the money goes to her and the winner gets a round of applause and a big thank you from all of us watching. Basically lets get the girl some cash so she can be helped out.
What a dead beat. Unfortunate that the government will do nothing. I would still attempt to report him and attempt to get the bum deported and black listed. I wish Nicole the best. God bless.
I’d say name Nicole’ baby Hannah, which means grace in the bible. Nicole, in her predicament, still radiates grace. God has something special for her and her baby Hannah. In Nicole’s silence, Hannah will learn life.😊👍🙏
Yes, behaving badly is not even close to being the right way to label this, but ladies, please, condoms. Children are a blessing, good luck to her, the baby and her family who will help her.
I married my wife who is a filipina with 4 kids. we have one of our own, dont regret it one bit. The bigger the family the better. If i may suggest a name, i would suggest Angel
Geez, that's low of that Canadian. No responsibility prior to, not really any afterwards. Doesn't sound like there are any consequences? That's just despicable. "Hope" would be a good name for the baby.
I know it's not much, and I know I can't help everyone in the world, but I feel like I should help her. If there's a way to donate to her I will give her 200 USD a month for a year.
Very generous of you! God bless.
Wow 💪 suck a amazing gesture 🙏
@marks2517 Of course there is. There are several ways to do it. Paul can let you know what is for her the best way.
That's very generous.
What goes around, comes around.
Super nice and thoughtful of you. Always heartwarming to see there are good people in the world.
Paternity test first. Then if so, this guy needs to be held accountable.
I do agree all Fathers should take some responsibility for costs of the child. Philippines really needs to begin that with their own people first ,, how many single mum Filipinas do you see or know that get even 1 peso from the Filipino fathers? Just going after foreigners is straight up racism.
A lot of girls want to have a foreigner's baby, because that baby will be her ticket out of the Philippines's
There is no family court in the Philippines.
Paternity test it's his women like this don't play around, Sure there's plenty that do but your not really familiar with a lady like this with strict parents this guy convinced her to sleep with him and his intentions were real but made no effort to protect her.
If you just want to screw around make sure the woman is the type that's aware and ready for you to say goodbye. You hear crazy stories about the Philippine women but unless your in a bar or certain areas most women are searching for a life long commitment and many are virgins
Don't make it so foreigners are hated here please
@@aboveitall9600yes and they could go after him times are changing
She seems so sweet. So beautiful. I wish her the best.
Oh and if Your friend takes the guy to court, the Philippines has child support laws now and its enforceable in Canada by international agreement.
I hate when people say this. Yes, on the most technical level, she theoretically could get child support IF the father actually acknowledged paternity and is on the birth certificate, and IF she had the money to afford an attorney in the Philippines AND she had the money to pay an attorney in the U.S. to domesticate the Philippines judgment at the appropriate local court in the U.S.
It is NOT easy or even realistic for 99% of people to get an enforceable child support judgment if the father lives in another country. It takes considerable money to make this all happen.
Since they are not married it's on her to prove that he is the father. You can do it by him signing the birth sertificate or by paternity test. A test that he needs to agree to. So most likely no, it's not gonna happen.
@@ST-TV ... she can get an unofficial Dna test by testing his old tooth bush, water bottle, or anything that has his dna on it.
Or she can use a Dna genealogist to research his family and compare it to her baby
And then I would tell his expanded family to see if they would sponsor us to Canada..
@@marcusrex77 None of those things will hold up in court.
Ditto Australia.
Hey Paul, post a picture of this 52 yr old Canadian. 😉
and what are you going to do about it? if you want to help open your wallet and help this lady instead of making tough guy comments
Can you really believe him when he says he's from Canada?
@@koogle Relax Cupcake.
I agree with you! As a Filipina I want to see the face of this man so other filipina specially one's living in Cebu would be aware to avoid this guy or this type of man! He deserves to put his face on! Filipina deserves a better man!
I would love this girl and her baby forever ❤ what a complete angel. Thank you Paul and Baby Mae for helping. Im so thankful for you both
@@briannorris2052 be careful what you wish for. She has messed up 3 lives already hers , babies and the guy's🇺🇸🗽
Have at it.
Superman!!
@@ShaninSafariwhat about the man's responsibility in this situation - maybe 50%?
Shout out to all the Old Dog New Tricks Dog Pound dogs. Let's each of us do something special for Nicole and donate for any amount, large or small, in the spirit of the season. Starting with me! Good luck to you, Nicole, and Happy Holidaze, all you OLD DOGs, starting with PAUL!! - Baby name suggestion Estrella
Yes - a fund raiser of sorts
Estrella is a beautiful name for a girl. There's a young Chapina by the name Estrella Bitzma, who's just getting started as a singing artist.
Instead of donating money, we should donate condoms. But that would be pointless because they will refuse to let them be used.
Cool.
Someone please donate a box of condoms to her, hahaha.
I wish this young lady every blessing for her and her baby for the future.
On behalf of Canada, we apologize for that one shameful and rotten apple which lacks moral fibre to conduct himself appropriately ... karma will catch up with him.
I think I've been blocked from commenting here.
Anyway, you may want to get the Canadian's side of the story before you apologize on behalf of your entire nation. There is a chance that said Canadian is a fine upstanding representation of Canada. Can't say the same for Trudeau...
@@PulverizerA Nope, not interested in hearing his side of the story; where as his actions speak volumes as to the lack of character he possesses. So, my comment stands.
Yes, I agree the Turd is another scum
PS: Obviously, you are not blocked
I apologize on behalf of AidaJof for being such an ignorant and crazed idiot
Paul / I met a girl that was in the same situation . Except he told her to get abortion or never see him again . They dated for two months only. She said no I will not kill my baby. I met her when the little boy was 6 months old. Now he is 71/2 years old and the love of my life !!! I adopted him and he is in private school and very sweet and smart. Best decision I ever made !!! I also support her two sisters and help the family. If you marry a philippine girl you marry the whole family.!! Adoption in the philippines takes a year or more and is not easy. You have to provide many. Many documents and phsyciologist test for you and the boy.
She is better off without him after what he has done to her.
And I feel sure that one day in the future she will meet a good man who will love and cherish both her and the daughter.
she was part of it too. closed legs and a good background means a lot
This guy should be reported to Bureau of Immigration and have black listed and deported if he doesn't support his child she should call the baby Angel
100%
How about the opposite? Don't let him leave and make him pay.
Well, I would tend to agree with that assessment for the most part and I can also totally understand why people would be so outraged at this guy's shameful behavior. I think the only reason I am not more outraged about it myself is because I have just become a bit desensitized from hearing hundreds of similar stories from girls in Thailand, the Philippines and other Southeast Asian countries over the past 35 years. Of course, 98% of the time these stories involved local guys abandoning the woman when she got pregnant and not a Westerner. That being said however I always tend to take it more personally in cases in which the deadbeat dad turns out to be a Westerner because I just hold us to a higher standard, I guess.
Anyway, since this guy is living in the Philippines, he should know full well by now that if a Filipina gets pregnant there is pretty much a zero percent chance that she will opt not to have the baby despite her less than ideal circumstances and so he should be mentally prepared to take responsibility for this eventuality whenever he has sex with a woman there. Either that or he should move someplace like Japan where there is better than a 95% chance that the girl will opt not to have the baby in such situations. I have actually been responsible for a few unwanted pregnancies myself, but I was always ready to take full responsibility should the woman decide that she wanted to have the child. And now that I am 65 and have no children, I sometimes secretly wish that these women had made a different decision back then.
You beat me to it, Angel was my suggestion too
Foreigner's behaving badly. It's sad when you see things like this. I really have a hard time understanding how a man can just walk away from a baby they helped create. Knowing I had a child that I would just abandon and never see again would haunt me for the rest of my life. Don't play with people's lives like this, think about the consequences of your actions. Being responsible for your actions is really the core of what it means to be a man. I wish Nicole the best.
Paul, you are right regarding ethics. You didn't cover what you think when thousands of Filipinas get pregnant by Filipino guys who then run away and don't give them any monthly support (that has been going on for a 100 years).
It takes two to "tango", so 50/50 responsibility. Name the baby Chance, or Bingo. (She would have known she would get pregnant during the fertile days of the month.) (Some girls would hope to snare the guy by getting pregnant).
I remember Nicole. How an easily treatable condition when she was young, wasn't and resulted in the hearing impairment.
And how you were kind and generous to help with the hearing aid.
I remember being worried that this sort of thing might happen. Some people just prey on the vulnerable, It's upsetting. I hope that at some point in the future, he grows a conscience and does more to help Nicole and her daughter. However, I'm not holding my breath.
I will leave the naming to the other excellent suggestions.
Angel is my Name choice. Im so sorry for Nicole, a beautiful young lady taken advantage of. I know there are better men out there that respect women.. God Bless
How was she taken advantage of?
@jameswelch1054 Taken advantage from a man that knew what could happen and ran away paying only $40 month. Sad
This happened to a filipino family member of ours. She was able to use the courts in Texas to obtain legal child support for a set of twins.
@@Jimmyjackfunk433 Was she married to the guy or brought to the USA on a Visa? The reason I ask is because the USA and the Philippines do not have a reciprocal child support enforcement agreement. I am curious how it happened without her presence in a USA court. There was obviously DNA testing done. Did he also sign the birth certificate.
@@RCFSULAW that only works in western courts . she would have been in the usa ..
It’s quite a sobering video. Merry Christmas to you Nicole & Baby Mae & Paul. Cheers from Australia 🇦🇺
I was happy to hear at the end that you were going to filter the comments! I think that was a kind decision. Nicole doesn't need to see the idiocrasy, that is on display at times, especially with all she is already dealing with.
Wow that is so sad. At 52 you would think he is mature enough to take some responsibility. Poor girl, I hope he helps out more than what he is doing now and help raise this baby. Wishing her the best.
Age, unfortunately, does not equate to maturity. Many people never really mature morally...they just get older. We know right from wrong at a very young age. It looks like this 52 year old man is just one of the many that simply got older :(
How do we know that he is the father?
Age does not account for the lack of moral fibre, he will be a scum back no matter how old he gets
@@ST-TV🤡
Maybe he's married
Or not the father.
@ST-TV Most don't know whom the real father is, but there's always a neighbour that knows all the secrets 😅😅
By the way. I would gladly help this woman.
Perhaps Paul could be the conduit to flow some money from you to her.
I’m sickened by the behavior of that man! The perfect name for the baby “Precious” God bless this beautiful woman!! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾❤️
Wow. That's pretty F'd up. Happens more than we know but this particular case is damn near cruelty.
She’s so strong .. I applaud her for that…. beautiful future mama!!! Hope you the best!
Hope is a beautiful name for a girl, and especially appropriate for this situation.
Apparently, her brother suggested that if the baby is born a girl, she should name her Denise. But if it's born a boy, then she should name him De-nephew.
🥁Boom tish! 🙂
Yes Paul, Nicole is still very beautiful. I have always wondered about her and how she was doing ever since you first posted her story. Maybe Hope would be a good name for her baby.
I’m a Canadian and you don’t have to be a foreigner to be a jerk , that’s putting it lightly, in Canada pensions work CPP at 60 at the earliest, old age 65 , now the only other way to have income, would be retirine early with full company pension which is totally possible. I feel for this poor woman, this man took total advantage of her, in Canada if you don’t pay up for your children it would be a prison sentence also on average per child at least 2000 dollars a month based on financial income. Hope the best for women, and you your wife. Merry Christmas
Can you really believe him when he says he's from Canada?
I remember that interview sweet young woman I'm glad you were able to help with hearing aids.
What a scumbag. Here in the UK a Government agency handle things like this. They contact the alleged Father csn force him to take a DNA test then via a court order make him contribute to support the child.
Paul I'd like to make a contribution can you advise me of the best way to do this?
Thanks and best wishes you you, make and Nicole😊
It's easy to throw around blame but she consented too, remember that. The sole blame I believe falls on the outdated abortion laws in Philippines. It limits their options and forces them to birth all pregnancies. Low sex education further fuels high unplanned pregnancy rate. Vasectomies are still not a safe option for men with the high chronic pain rate (1 in 20) so contraceptive pills and abortions are the only valid options.
@@user-wz4db1zn3r Nonsense, if he did not want her to get pregnant he should have used a condom although not a 100% protection, still better than the alternative
How to contribute to the misery and poor of the Philippines, knock up a young girl ..the douche knows he can skip ..2000 peso what a 22 carat c**t.
@@user-wz4db1zn3rnot a good argument for a 52 yr old from a 1st world wealthy country messing with a 21 yr old deaf girl from a 3rd world poor country.
It's an opinion.
A responsible person doesn't have unprotected sex with someone they aren't certain they are on birth control unless they accept responsibility for the consequences. There's no doubt the lady bears equal responsibility but look objectively at the chain of events.
They make contact
He he continues to talk they meet get intimate she gets pregnant tells him he decides to up sticks and moves to Cebu.
I give him some credit for offering 4,000 pesos but that's dependant on his actually paying her.
He should take responsibility
1. Take a DNA test
2. Sign the Birth Certificate
3. Offer what financial support that he can.
4. Offer the child the chance of Canadian Citizenship.
Irrespective of any age there might be there's clear evidence he took advantage of a less than worldly wise young woman with at a significant disadvantage.
I don't disagree about the legislation regarding abortion there but it's widely known and does not, I my view mitigate anyone's actions here.
She is a very beautiful young lady 💝
I’m absolutely certain that this is a common occurrence… and such a challenging story to listen to. I, along with others here in the comments would like to contribute in assisting for her care.
Totally unacceptable behavior for any man to treat Nicole (or any woman) like that!! And then he runs away to cebu! If he doesn't take on some more responsibility ,he's got balls of a squirrel.
Paul I like and support the idea of a contest to name the baby girl but let's attach a small donation to every name submitted! It's the least we can do.
She chose a dirtbag to have a child with. Nobody forced her to choose the dirtbag over a responsible and decent man. She has her careless behavior to blame for this outcome. Women see all of the red flags in a man when dating and living together, she chose to ignore them and now she gets to FAFO.
Would the problem exist if she didn't throw her legs open to a man she didn't have a long term relationship with or married to?
I am deaf (severe to profound hearing loss) and while I feel a real affinity to another deaf person, I also highly rely on the hearing people in my life to help me. I dated an asian lady who was very patient and helped me a lot. Its not the worst thing to have to live with, but it is a real issue, and presents cognitive problems - when you cannot understand that is being said, its as if youre not too smart. Good luck and gods blessings to this young woman - from another Canadian man.
I would not marry her. But it is the responsible thing to take care of her and your child. Whoever this guy is, something needs to be done.
He not responsible for her. She grown and though Jack pot foreigner. The average Filipina child support is 2,000 monthly (guy earning 20k). Her father only earned 10k. He only responsible for half of child support. Real talk. People are using dollars to feel sorry. 😢 Why pay more than Filipinos? It's nice but not necessarily have to.
@@b.coxemba6799 Agree. It is almost becoming a social security scam ,, Filipina running around trying to get pregnant to foreigner in order to collect dollars. And equally enforced payment from Filipino fathers needs to be in place first
So sad! If I was her, I would get a paternity test and get in touch with the father and possibly the Canadian government and go from there.
LMAO ,, a paternity test without fathers DNA ,,, what a genius you are
that would only work if they had the kid in Canada ..like , if i had a kid in Canada and moved country,, i still owe child support ,, now if i had a kid in the Philippines and went back to canada,,, i dont have to pay a cent.. thats the reality of the situation .
they do have child support laws in the Philippines,, But the mother most likely cant afford to take the Pinay father to court and also if he can actually afford to pay..
My submission for her baby's name is, Violet.
She is Very beautiful.
All women are
It's ashamed that 52 year old man would take advantage of 21 women and not use protection so she didn't get pregnant he should of known better
Not only did the Canadian scumbag , "boyfriend" , FAIL to use protection, but the young lady is also responsible for her actions too. She should have been more astute in her behavior . Yes, the Philippine and Canadian Government should be notified of this guy living in Cebu and a court of law mandate that he pays up for her and baby's financial support.
A dick has no conscious
How do you know he didn't? Were you there?
@@ST-TV If he did use a condom, more than likely, she wouldn't get pregnant. Anyway, whether he did or not, he left her like an irresponsible coward and coughed up a few dollars for her support, so far. Maybe you'd like to be the baby's step dad and take over the financial and emotional responsibilities since you seem so concerned.
@@jessedylan6162 And you beleave her because?
He should be giving atleast 15000P/month, and be grateful a he's not paying child support in the home country.
Get the full name of the man and report him to Canada immigration. They will surely do something for the baby at least.
Why would they? It's not their problem.
I doubt Canada Immigration would do something, she is not in Canada. If anything should be reported to Foreign Affairs, yet I still doubt they could do anything
@@ST-TV that is really sad
Need a paternity test for proof.
I wish her the best. Beautiful young lady😊
The man is irresponsible and should not have left her in the condition he did.
It's amazing and rather sad that a little friction can cause a whole bunch of lifetime friction. Abandoning a part of yourself, let alone another trusting person is irresponsible and just wrong for all.
I've never heard so many assumptions from Paul in a video.
We do not know paternity and are hearing one side of the story. Per the young lady, the man is paying 2K per month for prenatal care ever since she found out that she was pregnant, not a sign that he will not support the child if it is in fact his. That should cover vitamins and doctors appointments which are not expensive there. If it is his child, then of course he should support the child. If I was him a DNA test would be in order before signing the birth certificate. At that point who knows what will transpire?
It does not sound like they were even in a committed relationship.
Good luck to her.
Name (Hope) ,hope she will have a successful life and be born healthy.
Hi guys
Paula would be a good name for the baby , I’d love the authorities to be able to intervene in these cases , carry out paternity tests and enforce child support , regards to Nicole and good luck in her future
Davy 🏴🇹🇭
Pretty much the same thing happened to a lady I met in Cebu. She had a 2 year old by a Canadian after a 7-8 weeks relationship. He left her, moved back to Canada. Does occasionally send 25-30 dollars a month to her. She found out he still returns to Philippines every 3-4 months for basically sex trips, but never stops to see his child.
How could he just do that! My Filipina ex dumped me when I became disabled 25 yrs ago. My kids were the best thing I got out of that marriage. And I had a daughter and son. Never left them. My best memories are of being a father to my kids. Today they are grown up my daughter is happy with her husband and two kids. When we talk her face lights up when ever we talk about her childhood. I also get those vibes from her younger brother. .
Wow, that’s really low! This man took advantage over her beauty and impairment. Anyway I have two names for her baby girl: Jasmine or Pearl! ❤🙏🏻🌺
I helped a girl in Luzon find her Australian bf who left....fortunately she knew the date he left the country, but not his full legal name or any way to contact him. Through a law clinic in Manila they got immigration to pull up pictures from that day at the airport and identified him as an Australian citizen. Their laws are similar to USA..... with PH authorities and the Aussie courts confirmed paternity and docked his pay all the way back to the date of birth, sent her a check for those 10 months and now his pay is docked P23K each month for child support and will continue that to age 18. USA laws are similar and the courts very swift....it's all the girls that get pregnant by Korean's or Japanese where those countries laugh at the girls and deny all responsibility along with the perpetrator. If I was a Filipina I would only date men from those cooperating countries. I would think Canada would be right in line with the others. Those guys are POS.....and deserve paying even more than that.
And how much are Filipino men paying ? Zero ,, so you are openly encouraging racism.
This video was so overwhelming that I have no words.
being profoundly hearing impaired myself, Nicole should be learning some basic SIGN language, it helps me immensely, I also read lips which helps, but even with hearing aids , we dont hear everything, maybe 50%, I wish Nicole the best and to prepare for life without this guy, he's probably not even gonna show up later after the baby is born., an his support will wane
She looks so sweet. The baby name: Faith, my heart hurts for her. She is adorable and probably thought she found a good man to love and cherish. The baby is a blessing from God, I hope she doesn't put on the baby the sins of the father. He is an idiot! In my prayers always. BTW.. My finance was married to a drunk and abusive Philippine, left him and met a guy while on a work visa. He promised to love her until she got pregnant. He isn't giving anything to the little boy. I'm 61 but I am ADOPTING him when I marry her. I am SO blessed to have a good job and I support them until I retire to the Philippine's in about 8 years.
Let her know good men exist, with big hearts and God will connect her when she least expects it. It happened to me so I know can happen for her.
Well.....
This guy needs to be forced to take a DNA paternity test. If it's NOT his kid, then he doesn't owe her anything. If hes the father, then he's a scumbag for abandoning her. In a country like that.
Love the way people choose words that remove responsibility ,, "She became pregnant " instead of facts ,, she removed her panties , she stuck her legs up in the air , used no protection , was not in a long term relationship and gave no thought to the consequences". I have no dislike etc to this lady but facts are facts
Yes I'm sure this was torture for the man too. In my book a man that does not support his children are the lowest of the low.
That is so wrong. I will pray for her and her family. I live in the us I have been thinking of visiting the Philippines. If you need any help please let me know. And a good name could be Amy
Young pregnant moms with no father in the picture is becoming the norm in the Philippines. When I was a young man if you got a girl pregnant you marry them. But that is no longer the culture. He should of offered more or if he didn't believe the money would go for supporting the child he could of setup a trust of some sort. Keep in mind the average wage in the Philippines is 250 us dollars. About 65 dollars a week. I hope things will work out for her. And hopefully she learns from this.
Too late now
I’m enraged by this story, specifically the lack of support he’s providing. He needs to triple or quadruple that. Count me among those who want to find this guy
Ace bachelor cool on record he said several times he pays $200 a month to support his 11 year old daughter in the Philippines. What do you think?
@@hcel5075 the pill would’ve been cheaper
Wow a couple of tuff old grandpa's think they are white knights
@@MisterDigDug so you think $55 - 65 a month would be appropriate? That's 3-4x of 2000 pesos
@@hcel50754 times 2,000 Pesos is closer to US$137.
There are 2 ways to get lessons in life. Learn from your mistakes, or learn from others mistakes. Seems like they like to do it the hard way out there. Best of luck to this young lady, and her baby.
I remember in an earlier video, she specifically said that she would only date a white man.
Unfortunately, this is what can happen when you only judge someone by the color of their skin instead of the content of their character.
My vote is for the name Hope. It has been mentioned several times. It's a beautiful name. Best wishes.
We don't know the whole story but it doesn't look very good on the guys side. Very irresponsible, and disrespectful. Nichole seems like a very nice person and deserves the best in life for her and her baby girl. Paul, you and Mae are such wonderful people in trying to better people's lives around you. Perhaps "Jennifer" for the name of Nichole's baby girl. Take care my friends and God bless.
Filipinas should really put a guard up for guys sometimes. Not because he is a foreigner we girls should give our all. Have a bounderies onset of dating to prevent us being in a bad situation😢 I feel sorry for how he treated her. Yet its also her own responsibility not to get pregnant 😢
I suggest to go to DSWD for woman and child care, They will help her from pregnancy til after she give birth and she could also file a claim to sort her problem with this western man. She could ask for a better child support if its proven that it is his child.
Godbless you all 🙏
God bless her. Sorry to hear of her struggles.
Hi Paul. If you were to guess how much it would cost to support Nicole and her baby for the first 2 years of her little ones life? I know this isn't the reason you make these videos but thought I'd ask to see if there was a way to help her out because she has some real challenges ahead.
Wow, massive jerk action. Deplorable.
Here's an idea,
Run a little lottery...
Participants send $10 to a go fund me along with their name suggestion. When Nicole gives birth and picks a name, anyone who submitted that name goes in a draw and Paul does an interview with the winner of the draw for a "consulting session" to help out a would be or new expat and Nicole keeps all the $10 donations.
c'mon paul you are assuming alot here. their relationship may have been transactional. this may or may not be this canadian guy's kid. Nicole may have a roster of guys that she maybe "dating". plus there is no indication that Paul even invited this canadian guy to give his side of the story. jeez.
This comment is a low blow. Dispicable
@douglasmichel1000 you sound bitter and twisted
Paul, what can I do to offer her some money and help her with something? I hate to see an expat do this because it makes the rest of us look very bad. I would like to donate something to her. Thank you kindly
Canadian Pension starts at 60 years if you claim, supplemented by Old age security pension starting at 65. I hope he man's up and provides support.
I think a good name for the baby would be Milagros ,which means Miracle
Is there a way we can contribute and help her financially Paul?
I’d be keeping my generosity in check. Handouts only lead to expectations of more handouts. In the end, there’s no appreciation. Just resentment when you come to your senses, and stop giving.
Paul to me Melissa is a very beautiful name 😊
God bless that beautiful young lady and her baby girl my best wishes for both of them 🙏🏾
32 years ago I named my own daughter Melissa. In Greek language it means "sweet like honey". Last week she got married.
I don't know if names really have any influence on people... but in fact my daughter has always been kind and sweet like honey ! 👍
Her half Canadian daughter hit the jackpot. She can eventually get a passport and she can go to Canada.
Baby name- Pandora, out of Greek legend- Pandora gave hope to the world. It doesn’t hurt that Dory is a cute diminutive. To Nicole- this may have been hard, but better you find out early on the mettle of someone’s character than to find out much later. Someday she will find someone who won’t fold at the first sign of hardship.
Name the baby Hope. Hope for a bright future. Hope for a better world. Hope for a daddy.
Yes I agree this is so cruel of this Canadian foreigner to abandon NICOLE a beautiful Filipina young lady and he is being even more cruel to her by not giving her enough money to her to support this daughter soon to be born and Nicole is a disabled mother to be caring and loving 🎉❤this baby girl soon to be born in 3 months Nicole is also was born Deaf and she’s now learning how to communicate with the help of Paul and his wife Baby Mae and we are all very Grateful to Paul and baby Mae for being so kind to Nicole But I will say a prayer for Nicole that God Will Protect Her From Any Danger Seen And Unseen And finally I am thinking of a name for her baby girl which is also my Sister’s name and the name is ESTHER So it’s up to Nicole to decide the name for her daughter when she gives birth to her daughter Nicole please stay strong and positive for yourself and your baby girl soon to born Thank You Nicole
for sharing your story with all of us God Bless You Nicole Always and don’t worry Nicole I know without a doubt that good things is coming soon for you and your baby Bye For Now We keep checking with you for a Good Positive UPDATE
Its very low what he did no excuses.
The guy should have owned up to it. No excuses.
People can bid for the name. 🙂 Big win for Nicole and baby👍
Kharma - something will happen to give this child a chance in life.
Very sad indeed, hopefully people can help her get through this if there is a way.
In Canada there are circumstances where someone could retire in their 50's, for example Firemen, Police, etc. (if they get in 30 years service, we call it 30 and out).
Maybe make the name a raffle. 5$ to enter a name and the money goes to her and the winner gets a round of applause and a big thank you from all of us watching. Basically lets get the girl some cash so she can be helped out.
Precious
What a dead beat. Unfortunate that the government will do nothing. I would still attempt to report him and attempt to get the bum deported and black listed. I wish Nicole the best. God bless.
How do we know that he is the father?
Omg I remember this young lady
Theres 10,000 views, if everyone sent something; she would be grateful.
Her name should be precious😍
I hope she will be ok, I really feel for her 😥🌷🌷🌷
He should do the right thing look after his child . and take care her....
I’d say name Nicole’ baby Hannah, which means grace in the bible. Nicole, in her predicament, still radiates grace. God has something special for her and her baby Hannah. In Nicole’s silence, Hannah will learn life.😊👍🙏
Yes, behaving badly is not even close to being the right way to label this, but ladies, please, condoms. Children are a blessing, good luck to her, the baby and her family who will help her.
If only she was willing to live in the US. I'm a long way off from retiring. No kids yet, but wish I did.
What a wander full girl. It’s an absolute sin to not take responsibility for his child and her. I truly believe in karma. Hope is a beautiful name
Precious!
Sad story she is beautiful if you give me her full name I will look her up on messenger and send her some money to help her thank you for sharing Paul
Thats terrible, i can't believe the guy did that, i wish her well, hoping to have a family one day as well.
She’s a beautiful lady. Somebody deserving of her will snap her up. I’ve always loved the name Annabelle for girls❤
I married my wife who is a filipina with 4 kids. we have one of our own, dont regret it one bit. The bigger the family the better. If i may suggest a name, i would suggest Angel
My Harley motorcycle group is coming to DUMA soon, thank you, Paul. Your videos make a difference.
Geez, that's low of that Canadian. No responsibility prior to, not really any afterwards. Doesn't sound like there are any consequences? That's just despicable. "Hope" would be a good name for the baby.