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A bad person doesn't worry about not being a good person :) this simple advice was given to me so I wouldn't worry as much
I think about that a lot, it's my biggest insecurity at the moment, but remembering that caring about being a good person is all that matters. Also not having huge, unrealistic expectations on yourself regarding what being "a good person" actually means. Also being surrounded by good people/friends is a pretty good indicator for me personally that I can't possibly be _that_ bad.
You are so right, I needed to hear that today and every day 💚🙌
I'm a silent subscriber. It's 3am here. I really needed to hear all this. Thank you. ❤️
One of my wonderful profs once taught us in a lecture to practice "self meh". Self love is unpredictable and hard to maintain, so if you approach the mirror and see something you hate, just think "meh" and continue on. The zit isn't going to end you, the double chin is just extra skin, the size of your thighs just is. Meh. And then love the hell out of everything you love.
This is great! Definitely not at self love yet so that self MEH is spot on how i feel about myself. Acceptance and not stressing over self love.
would love a rant video on botox and stuff like that 💕 love your videos
ooh I would love to!
Always relate to your RUclipsr-thoughts. Your videos have always been the videos I’ve compared myself to and thought mine are shitty and yours are amazing hahah. And it just goes to show that even though we might be looking at others as better, people might be looking at us as better as well, when we’re all just different.
omg Katrin but I’ve felt that about your videos! haha but exactly, we’re just different no better no worse than anyone else and that’s a beautiful thing honestly!
Thank you for being a genuine and caring human, this is the type of content we need, specially in this day and age, where mental illness is a major struggle for all of us. Thank you ❤️🌈❤️
Fantastic and fresh perspective on self esteem. I'm sure I'm not the only one who is exhausted from hearing "just love yourself!" Like it's that easy... reminding myself of how small I am in the universe is humbling and a relief
Speaking of space...How awesome was that black hole photo? I like the idea that rather than letting the vast endlessness of space make you feel insignificant, you use it as a way to feel fortunate to exist at all.
That is so beautiful. Thank you. What a time to be alive .... for many many reasons
We're the same with the space thing!!!
I went through a massive depressive episode at 19 and it was Carl Sagan and his series the Cosmos that pulled me out of it!
Space and science give me so much solace 🙏
I’m an astronomy major (hopefully future astronomer PhD!!) and the insignificance of our existence brings me so much comfort too!! For me I understand a lot of the math and physics behind it and that too brings me so much comfort in understanding really how unlikely and ridiculous it is! I also totally understand imposter syndrome. As an astronomy student I don’t have the best gpa and I don’t always do the best in my classes but I’ve been trying really hard, and sometimes I feel like I don’t belong and like I’m not smart enough to do it. Especially since all my friends/boyfriend in the same major do so much better. It’s really hard not to compare when I’m in that situation, but I have to remind myself that I was far behind them before college and now I’m actually catching up to them just by my shear will and effort! Thanks for alll your videos, you always make my day better!
I just want to say that you are good enough. You deserve every subscriber ❤
You are my favourite youtuber. I've been subscribed to you for years and years now and I just love seeing you grow as a person. I literally watch every video, just because I love you and love hearing your opinions and perspectives and ideas.
You are the only person in all those years on RUclips that I've been subscribed to for so long and still watch religiously.
I don't know, I just want to throw my love and support out there, as a silent and invisible subscriber.
omg thank you so much ❤️
You are literally the cutest human being I've had the experience to know the existence of. You're very wise and have great views of the world and it makes you even more beautiful 🧡
I don't really keep up with youtubers but you really talk about great things and sometimes i feel like your videos come in the right time for me. I hope u remember you are enough, you are great and you're loved ❤️
As someone in their early 20's, thank you. This reality check is so needed every now and then. To space 🎉
Could you believe that in Brazil lives someone that admires you and your work? You are so special!
Ela é uma fofura, super positiva e lúcida. Eu amo demais.
So there are two of us! I was just thinking about for how long I've known Sarah, and how much I admire and care about her. Greetings and love from Brazil.
All the stuff you said about us being so small and insignificant is actually how I've been helping myself too!! I think that way of thinking can be problematic for some people, but I tend to take everything way too seriously so it has helped me take a step back and be like it's okay. Another thing that really helps me is to try putting myself on the same level that I put everyone else from their point of view. Like you know how you'll interact w ppl in class or at work and think how beautiful they are or how smart they are? Flipping it around and telling myself that it's entirely possible that people around me are thinking the same things about me. It's hard but it's been helping
everything you said about space is exactly how I feel... our insignificance in the universe is oddly comforting
This really helped me, thank you so mucho for sharing.
Right on! I love this. And im glad you mentioned the thing about space because that's one of two things I try to remember to keep things in perspective when there's something I'm stressed about, how tiny and insignificant we are in the universe. The other one is how short life is so will I care about or even remember this on my death bed? Almost certainly the hell not!
YES! I am diagnosed with anxiety disorder, and when I feel anxious about little stupid things I ALWAYS remind myself of how small we are in this universe. Like mindblowing small! Our lives and everything happening around us is just literally nothing. For me it really helped me getting better from my anxiety. I am and will ALWAYS be in love with astronomy. Btw: I am also very happy to be alive at this time because of everything we as humans are discovering lately. We are and keep writing history and even though we are nothing, it is a lot.
watching this video was like watching myself speak my thoughts out loud in the mirror. thank you for making this. needed to hear this in another voice. 💚
Watching your videos make me feel more comfortable in my own mind and body somehow. I feel this sense of calm and peace. That is very rare for me. I appreciate your compassionate and caring nature, you are wise beyond your years.
The reason why u have this many subscribers is because of ur down to earth personality and the fact that u actually share ur insecurities - u being normal makes u something special and unique in the world of social media ;)
You're so lovely...
And The way you think is like the way I think....
All the love from syria 💙
Honestly whenever I watch your videos I feel like I'm doing selfcare
what I've learned growing up is that I always try to see the best in people. Some of my friends are better at different things and I like to learn from them, and what their incite can offer me. Vice versa, I have my strengths and weaknesses as well and by talking with them I give them my perspectives on things as well. When I was younger I thought not conforming to other people was good but now I just don't care. I just do things for myself and if my family or friends think it's cool then they can join me.
i’ve watched you since i was 12 years old, so like 6 years now?? and i don’t usually comment but i just wanted to let you know that you have honestly inspired me in terms of fashion and ideas, etc. you still continue to inspire me and give out great insight. thank you
seriously sooooo good, Im currently coming to terms about my mental health regarding my self esteem and I've always ran away from it, but I'm trying to really work through it! ❤️
yesss you can do it! it’s amazing what happens when you’re just yourself and embrace exactly how you are ❤️
This video helped me tremendously. You deserve all the subscribers you have, Sarah. I can't tell you the amount of time I felt like who I was or how I felt wasn't valid and that YOU were the one who helped me and convinced me that I was okay, that I deserved my place in the world like everyone else. You should be extremely proud of your body of work. You help me in a way I could never repay and for that, I am forever grateful.
When having doubts about myself I basically repeat in my head everything you just said and it works sometimes. But I never thought about how vain it is !! This really opened my eyes ! I think it'll help me a lot actually.
Every time I feel like I need to change something to my body, getting breast implants, getting lip fillers,... I tell myself "would you ever really care if you were all alone on an island ?" And then I realise I don't even want to change anything to myself.
Thank you for the advices. Loved this video! ❤
It‘s lovely how you care about others so much that you want to help them find their own selfworth. This video describes many thing I feel as well. And many thoughts which actually comfort me as well (like the insignificant thing, it really helps me)
I really hope I can some day be confident with who I am and be myself more often. I‘m quite optimistic..because if I look back 5 years to when I was 18 holy was that another time for me. I‘ve come so far so I‘m confident I‘ll get even further.
Anyways, your content is great and lovely and you deserve each and every subscriber.
you are REAL, that is a rare thing...i know you have the aging thing, but seriously I am darn near 50 and the 40's is when it starts to get better...
I love your perspective on our uniqueness.
Sarah, you’re a breath of fresh air in this society focused on vanity And superficiality. You’re one of my favorite RUclipsrs and your content really makes a difference in my life (and I’m sure in lots of others’ lives as well). I’m very grateful to have found your channel a few years back and I appreciate what you do so very much 💜
You're a beautiful person inside and out. You should never have issues with low self esteem. Just be your beautiful self. You first have to happy with yourself and and like who you are. Just the fact that you're wearing glasses more often tells me that you're self confident about your looks now. I went back and looked at videos where you weren't wearing glasses and of course your beautiful without glasses but honestly you're every bit as attractive wearing glasses.
I totally agree with the whole fillers & surgery thing. I'm all for people doing what they want, and it's great that society is becoming more accepting of people making their own choices, but I do feel like we should work on loving ourselves before altering our appearances. Because if you don't love yourself already, sometimes those fillers or that surgery won't make a difference to your self esteem. But there ain't nothing wrong with loving the way you look already and just wanting to add a little something. As long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone, you do you 😊
Such great video Sarah, I can relate to you so much! I feel the same way and also found a lot of peace through meditation :)
I totally understand the fear of being bad person. I struggled with that a lot these past couple of months. Something that really helps me is letting those thoughts come and not fighting them. Before, I used to fight with those thoughts and try to prove to myself I was a good person. The funny thing about my anxiety is that trying to out smart it always made it worse. Now I just let my thoughts come and go and try to be in the moment. I have been writing poetry and that helps too. As long as you are patient with yourself anything is possible. I know that no one cares about what I have to say lol sorry but I guess I just wanted to share my story, in case it helps someone else.
And I can totally relate to the science behind the human body and the vast universe we are inhabiting being comforting. It makes life and the human experience this incredible adventure of discovery and learning. Despite how painful and full of suffering it often is. Every day is a new opportunity to grow and retain knowledge. It’s quite a beautiful thought, and it evokes feelings of excitement and anticipation in me. Rant over, haha.
I've struggled with confidence and self esteem my entire life. Although this video obviously doesn't solve my problems lol it comforts me SO fucking much. I come back to it often.
Thank you, Sarah 🖤
Loving for videos for over 6 years now ☺️👏🏼 Love from Germany!
Awhile ago I remember you said it makes you feel comforted when you thought of how small you were against the planet and the universe and I didn’t get it but I do now. Sometimes our problems feel so big and our feelings feel overwhelming. I think about these things too! The Our Planet documentary on Netflix helps me
Regarding self-esteem there is one thing that has worked for me, but it could maybe be seen as vain. For me, it's skincare. To do my skincare routine every night feels so refreshing and I always feel really good about myself. Instead of covering myself up with hiding beneath stuff and fixing things, I rather give myself and my body the proper care it deserves. I have also always been very good at listening to my body and do exactly what I feel it needs at that given time. If it's staying at home doing the things I love most, I'll do that. If it's putting on a face of makeup and go outside to be social, I'll do that. It has helped my self-confidence immensely with just daring to be who I am, because my body will usually tell me what I need the most and that's the thing I will listen to. Not everyone else.
I needed this so bad. I been having a bad week with self esteem. Thank you Sarah, thats why i love your channel and you!!!
I found this so strangely comforting. I think about my appearance all the time and almost dread going on instagram and seeing perfect models.How easily accessible it is to go online and on apps and constantly be bombarded with unrealistic standards of beauty makes us lose sight that there is so many more important things to value besides our appearance and how many likes we'll get on a picture.
As someone with an appearance not of the norm- I've always struggled with this growing up. Just being accepting without judgement, is an ongoing practice. But it is hard when it feels like parts of the society rejects you because of your looks, and that it's totally OK for them to do that. In those cases it is very easy to fall into helplessness and hopelessness.
I generally don't care if people like me or not. I'm a good person and all of my hobbies are positive and don't effect anyone else negatively. So if people think I'm an idiot or an asshole, then that's a them problem not a me problem.
People who don't know me in real life love to cast shade based on some of the most ridiculous and shallowest things. They love to presume a whole tonne of false bullshit. I've learned to just pursue what makes me happy (people who don't like it be damned).
Most are usually jealous of the spotlight you're getting and/or the things you're achieving and have to talk shit because of it. They live meaningless arbitrary lives so they feel the need to tear you down a peg in order to feel better about themselves. You do you girl.
I’ve been having a rough couple of months and I know that a big reason for my depression is my low self esteem. Specifically in a social and professional way. I think that by having an analytical/logical way of thinking makes it a little worse because I over-analyze every little thing that happens and I give myself credible reasonings for things that are probably not even true. Thank you for posting this video, Sarah. Although I don’t like to see you struggling, in a way it is comforting to be reminded that you’re not the only one.
I’ve been following you for soo many years and it fills me with happiness to see you grow. More than 380k people think that you and your content are worthy!
I've watched you for a while but never left a comment. This time a feel like i have to. I just love this video, the way you explain yourself and the way to come across even. I got that warm fuzzy feeling in my belly. Might sound weird. I just love the way you explained everything. You are so beautiful, in and out.
I have been watching your videos for YEARS, and i can honestly say this is my favorite video you've ever made. it was really humbling watching this, and it is comforting hearing this from someone on youtube, sometimes people forget that to remind others how important and yet so insignificant they are in this world, (hopefully that makes sense, it was supposed to be empowering.) I really needed this video and it feels like a virtual hug :)
I’m really glad that you said it isn’t just about physical appearance because I find it much more difficult to cope with the things I’ve achieved/ haven’t achieved and things I’ve created or how I come across to others, regarding my personality and actions. I really appreciate how open you are about things!
what a great video Sarah ! Through the years your content has been a great help to me learning to be self conscious and nice to myself! I didn’t find any other content like yours anywhere else so just know your uniqueness is very much appreciated xx
This video was really helpful just about the right time i needed it. Self esteem is something i struggle a lot and thinking how small i am in reality is very comforting. I would love to see a video of your thoughts on how you view relationships of any kind, it would really help me and many others i believe ❤
Thinking about the universe and space also makes me put things into perspective. We are SO INSIGNIFICANT. There's so much more than the size of my thighs to be worried about. It's a very freeing kind of thought, indeed. Thank you, Sarah! :)
Love this video so much! I love how you talk about how the concept of space & the Universe is comforting to you. I feel exactly the same way and I've never met or spoken to or come across anyone who feels the same. The fact that we exist and how small we are in comparison to what is out there is the reason I came out of a long-term depression. It was after my last overdose, and I woke up the next day and was just wondering what life even is, like why are we all so worried if we are worth anything to the universe or to the world? We can be worth so much to certain people/animals and be good people, but in the whole spectrum of things, sometimes realising insignificance is a thing to embrace feels so freeing compared to fearing if we are worthless and if life is pointless. I saw a quote that said "The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.”
You are awesome in that you are so into self exploration. It's of supreme importance. Radical self-acceptance is the beginning of it all. You hit the nail on the head, Sarah. For me that means acknowledging my anger (which is more central to depression than sadness is) - so I just use Rachmaninov etudes as an emotional punching bag. Keep on being awesome.....
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I always love watching your videos and I look forward to seeing if you’ve uploaded everyday.
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You are the first person that I meet that feels exactly the same way about space that I do. I have body dysmorphia and suffer with desordered eating and the ONLY thing that has truly worked for me it’s space, researching and knowing we are nothing compared to the actual scale of the universe. I have the solar system as a tattoo on my hip to remind myself constantly of that same thing xx ♥️
One of my biggest insecurities is the fact that everyone expresses how much they love how blonde my hair is but then makes fun of the fact that my "eyebrows are invisible" or that I "don't have any eyebrows". You're one of the first people to help me come to terms with my blonde eyebrows and the redness in my skin because of the things you have talked about in your videos~
I loved this video and I am thankful for all the things that you said in it💙
I love you so much ❤️ you’re so inspiring and such a strong advocate for mental health and self-care. Your videos are so insightful and are surely a blessing to everyone subscribed to you. Keep up the amazing work.
Emerald Furlong I agree! I feel like she needs to write a book💖
She is so cute tho! I love your hair girl❤
My physical appearance still feels like an important part of my life because I know me being fat is the reason why I’m still single and have never been in a relationship.
So proud and happy for you Sarah!
I feel like you'd really be interested in learning about eastern philosophy (esp ideas in Buddhism). Love this video and how real you are, no matter how weird it seems it helps others :)
your videos genuinely bring me such a peaceful feeling, i love your personality and how real you are. you are one of the best youtubers ive ever watched. thank you for making such unique and honest content.
It honestly makes my day everytime you upload
wtf this made me cry, just hit me like a train once you started talking about the chances of one existing
thank u
I've been watching you for so long and WOW I love you and your growth
Would you be willing to do a video focused on meditation itself? I would be interested to know how you personally go about it and more on the benefits you get from it.
Thank you for taking the time to make this, and thank you for being so honest. I don't think I've ever heard advice on self esteem that cut through the way this did for me.
I love this video🙌 such a different perspective than other videos on this topic
Have you seen they just photographed a black hole for the first time? 🤔
Throwback to te main concerns of 2019, how great those times were...💫 :')
after dealing with self esteem issues for many years as a kid, I feel kinda "woke" about how I perceive my body at the age of 23. hearing people in their 30s still struggling to not care about wrinkles or other stuff sounds a bit weird because I feel like I managed to do that at 23 and I'm not that good in general. I reasoned with myself and I am coming to the conclusion that I achieved some things that older people cannot, and I feel a bit stronger and more mature, empowered.
Thank you for making this video, Sarah. I’m in my mid twenties, and I have been feeling so bad for years for growing older and still not “getting over” my self esteem issues (I thought once I was in my 20’s I’d suddenly be collected and self assured).
Also maybe this is strange but I think you’d make an amazing teacher.
this video needs to go viral in a BIG way. So well said! Such great perspective! love love love!
I wanted to type a whole long 'thank you' message, but I can't right now.
Needed this today, I really do.
Thank you so much
That's an interesting perspective and I find vastness comforting too, I usually fall asleep while dreaming of floating into space.
You are a beautiful girl, make up or not, and you seem like a nice person too.
Unfortunately being "ugly" is not subjective, or unimportant or whatever, nor is something you can overcome as easy. When people stare and giggle, is not something you can really ignore. What's even worse, is that sometimes you create (mostly unintentionally) bad coping mechanisms, which are not helping you become a better person either.
I'm not ungrateful for the rest of what I've been given, but I can't stop thinking that I don't deserve it and most of all, that I am a waste of energy and that I'm taking up someone else's "spot" and that's a feeling I can't shake.
I hope you'll overcome your fears and insecurities, have a great day.
This was absolutely fantastic thank you for the video
Beautiful as always.
wow that is so coinsidental i feel the exact same way ... i was so so anxious all the time and then i came across space videos and made me feel much better. I Also love to meditate and iam a whole different person now xx
I usually don't write comments, but I just wanted to say, that I really loved it (I love all your videos though). I loved your thoughts on self-esteem since I struggle with that too. I needed to hear that. Your thoughts really made me think. Thank you for making good content videos:)
I love your videos on this channel and Possessedbyhorror! You basically have all of my interests in your videos, it's great.
Thank you for being so real!! Even though obviously everyone’s different you make all of this really relatable in a way and it was really helpful💕
Space is so fascinating! I feel you 💫🌙✨
I really needed all of this today. Your videos will always be my favorite, Sarah. Thank you for your content and time.🖤
This video made me feel so much better thank you 💖 your perspective on self-esteem was a lot easier to relate to
Sarah I love you!! I’ve been watching you for years and this video came at the perfect time! I’ve been having problems with some of what you mentioned in this video and your perspective definitely helps me on my own self esteem journey wish you nothing but the best❣️
I don’t even know how this vid could get a thumbs down. But this was honestly really eye opening for me and I think I’ll walk away from this video thinking in a very different way. 💞
you look so good in this video
Btw, you are Carrie Dayton are like variations of the same person. Like the same actor playing different characters in AHS. I mean this as a compliment 💗
This was a great listen, thanks!
you and I are so mentally similar, i mean every time I watch your videos you say or mention something that I think or do and thought that no one else did and it so amazing
wow this was inspirational. tnx it helped me today
there is so much truth in this video! thank you :)
I totally agree it does have to do with age. It took me into my 30’s to finally be ok with who I am/what I look like. Now at almost 38 I’m really ok with me!
this rlly make me feel better. thank u
Gee, thanks, Saraah...........................................could have used this about 1 year ago............................You know how they say better late than ever......well, they're wrong timing is important
I loved this video- really needed to hear what you said 🌸
Iv'e been watching you since July 2018 and haven't missed a video since then. I really like your vibe. your relaxing to watch. Great content!
This was really thoughtful and well said. I needed to hear this today, thank you!! ♥️